Coming out as gay 5 years ago was super easy for me but trying to come out as a transwoman has been a nightmare! hopefully, with time and transition, things will get better and my life won't feel so chaotic.
A better take on allies and Pride is that allies shudnt be taking center stage and they shudnt take space or positions away from Queer ppl durin Pride. Those allies shud instd use their voices and their platforms to raise the voices and share the stories told by Queer ppl Like, that feels esp important to me bcuz the way most ppl become acceptin and eventually allies to Queer ppl is by first hearin the personal stories of Queer ppl, ideally someone close to them; but also when its someone close to them sharin the personal story of a Queer person they feel close to in some way Theres prty strong evidence to suggest that the major shift in the public attitude towards gay marriage between the early 00s and the mid 10s can be directly linked to the way that gay marriage was marketed towards the public The first attempts to fight for gay marriage were often marred by the fact that a large part of them was focused on the statistics of it and the science of it and the facts of the matter. These can and do, and did, change minds still, ofc, but a lot of the ppl with more entrenched biases were less likely to be swayed by such; bcuz they didnt need facts... They had feelings. I know that sounds silly, esp bcuz many of those same ppl wud say stuff like facts dont care about your feelings... But bigotry is 100% rooted in feelings, nvr facts. Which is why it is best fought with feelings. The bigot feels fear more than anythin at that which they dont understand; that is the root of any form of bigotry. They wont admit it, nor wud they think such, theyd even mock the term phobia bcuz they hate, not fear us. But where does hate originate, as yoda said decades ago; in fear. Fearmongerin is what turns them the most bigoted after all. They need to have their feelings answered with the feelings of others; their fear for their families needs to be mirrored by seein that we Queers are the same in that fear. Their love, their sadness, their grief, their pain, their emotions; when they see that in others, esp loved ones, who are unalike to them... Thats what changes the mind of the bigot Which is why allies are important, for bringing our emotions to the ears of ppl who wud nvr listen to us. Ive got a beard and tits; any bigot is gonna write my opinions off long before they can even get close enuf to hear me; and im gonna be feelin that gutwrenchin moment as my heart races and i just hope that person will keep walkin and not decide to have a problem with me... That moment when i more tightly clutch my cane, smth i dont rly need; but that i take on walks partly bcuz i know i can do some dmg with it if need be... And to a much lesser extent bcuz it usually means i deal with less back pain afterward Moments like that have only gotten worse in recent months, and actually cuz of one such recent moment of that with an armed one at a walmart... I took notice of a grocery store nearby that has a no guns sign on the front spec so im not gonna have to deal with that lvl of anxiety there trapped in a store with the person potentially able to block aisles. Its preposterous, but ive been attacked in broad daylight a few times and its made me generally far more wary of where i position myself when walkin, esp when i see others walkin who throw off a danger red flag warnin in my anxious mind... At least in the open ive been able to run from two of those cases (the third ran off bcuz i shouted at a cop nearby... Who did **nothing** and claimed she cudnt get to us bcuz "traffic". Notably, bystanders at the bus station did get up and shout at my assailant to at least intervene in their own ways, but not the cop
I came out because people were always asking.. but it clearly shows and people give ne always the look. I still dont feel comfortable but I'm not going back
Happy pride Sam! Thank you for being so helpful, your videos help people in ways you may never completely understand. I am proud to be one of those people. 🏳️⚧️🤍
Happy pride Sam! Even though I’m still mostly closeted due to safety reasons, your content has really helped me embrace my gender fluidity and it’s really helped me a lot seeing some nonbinary/ gender expansive representation. I really appreciate your positive spirit and your kind heart. 🫶🏿
Coming out as gay 5 years ago was super easy for me but trying to come out as a transwoman has been a nightmare!
hopefully, with time and transition, things will get better and my life won't feel so chaotic.
I'm 15 and came out in Feb and it was super hard but once I'd done it I felt so much better but it took like a good 4 months after I told my friend
Thank you Sam, Happy Pride to you too!
A better take on allies and Pride is that allies shudnt be taking center stage and they shudnt take space or positions away from Queer ppl durin Pride. Those allies shud instd use their voices and their platforms to raise the voices and share the stories told by Queer ppl
Like, that feels esp important to me bcuz the way most ppl become acceptin and eventually allies to Queer ppl is by first hearin the personal stories of Queer ppl, ideally someone close to them; but also when its someone close to them sharin the personal story of a Queer person they feel close to in some way
Theres prty strong evidence to suggest that the major shift in the public attitude towards gay marriage between the early 00s and the mid 10s can be directly linked to the way that gay marriage was marketed towards the public
The first attempts to fight for gay marriage were often marred by the fact that a large part of them was focused on the statistics of it and the science of it and the facts of the matter. These can and do, and did, change minds still, ofc, but a lot of the ppl with more entrenched biases were less likely to be swayed by such; bcuz they didnt need facts... They had feelings.
I know that sounds silly, esp bcuz many of those same ppl wud say stuff like facts dont care about your feelings... But bigotry is 100% rooted in feelings, nvr facts. Which is why it is best fought with feelings.
The bigot feels fear more than anythin at that which they dont understand; that is the root of any form of bigotry. They wont admit it, nor wud they think such, theyd even mock the term phobia bcuz they hate, not fear us. But where does hate originate, as yoda said decades ago; in fear. Fearmongerin is what turns them the most bigoted after all.
They need to have their feelings answered with the feelings of others; their fear for their families needs to be mirrored by seein that we Queers are the same in that fear. Their love, their sadness, their grief, their pain, their emotions; when they see that in others, esp loved ones, who are unalike to them... Thats what changes the mind of the bigot
Which is why allies are important, for bringing our emotions to the ears of ppl who wud nvr listen to us. Ive got a beard and tits; any bigot is gonna write my opinions off long before they can even get close enuf to hear me; and im gonna be feelin that gutwrenchin moment as my heart races and i just hope that person will keep walkin and not decide to have a problem with me...
That moment when i more tightly clutch my cane, smth i dont rly need; but that i take on walks partly bcuz i know i can do some dmg with it if need be... And to a much lesser extent bcuz it usually means i deal with less back pain afterward
Moments like that have only gotten worse in recent months, and actually cuz of one such recent moment of that with an armed one at a walmart... I took notice of a grocery store nearby that has a no guns sign on the front spec so im not gonna have to deal with that lvl of anxiety there trapped in a store with the person potentially able to block aisles.
Its preposterous, but ive been attacked in broad daylight a few times and its made me generally far more wary of where i position myself when walkin, esp when i see others walkin who throw off a danger red flag warnin in my anxious mind... At least in the open ive been able to run from two of those cases (the third ran off bcuz i shouted at a cop nearby... Who did **nothing** and claimed she cudnt get to us bcuz "traffic". Notably, bystanders at the bus station did get up and shout at my assailant to at least intervene in their own ways, but not the cop
I came out because people were always asking.. but it clearly shows and people give ne always the look. I still dont feel comfortable but I'm not going back
Happy Pride to you as well Sam 🏳️⚧️ it’s always good too see you post, it makes my day
Happy pride Sam! Thank you for being so helpful, your videos help people in ways you may never completely understand. I am proud to be one of those people. 🏳️⚧️🤍
I love you baby ❤
Happy pride Sam! Even though I’m still mostly closeted due to safety reasons, your content has really helped me embrace my gender fluidity and it’s really helped me a lot seeing some nonbinary/ gender expansive representation. I really appreciate your positive spirit and your kind heart. 🫶🏿