Books mentioned in the video: 1. Die with zero 2. The minimalist entrepreneur 3. Happy sexy millionaire 4. The gap and the gain 5. How to not die alone 6. Keep going 7. The courage to be disliked Please consider leaving a like. Means the world to me :)
Lesson 20 is a big one for me. Unconditional love. I always feel like I have to accomplish extreme things in order to deserve validation and love. For me accepting that I am fine the way I am is still work in progress, but awareness is one step in the right direction.
1) Spend your money on experiences and relationships 2) Stay scrappy, don't be a perfectionist 3) Know when to quit 4) Focus on your progress, rather than how far away you are from the ideal 5) Applying the 37% rule might be useful (explore 37% of the options and then commit) 6) There was no 6 😂 7) Forget the noun and do the verb. what matters is what you do, not what you "are" 8) What do i actually want from life? orient your day-to-day to this thing. 9) Delegating is hard, but so worth it. 10) everyone has "career risk", don't worry too much about it. bonus from me: develop your skills and you'll always have work opportunities. 11) You have 112 waking hours in the week. Allocate them wisely. 12) Embrace the suck, it WILL be sticky and shitty, it's supposed to be that way. Do it anyway. 13) Stop ordering takeaway. You'll probably get fat and/or damage your health. 14) What are the infinite games that you want to play? Enjoy the journey, not just the "destination". There might not be a "destination". (E.g. getting lean. You can't get there and stop working out and eating healthily). 15) The things other people say/think about you are not your responsibility. 16) Be yourself when dating. 17) Make sure you always have a kindle with you if you are in the habit of reading. 18) Learning languages through audiobooks might be more effective than other methods. Try it! 19) Often magic happens when you put in more work than anybody else. 20) Be okay with loving yourself for who you are, rather than what you do. 21) Question assumptions! Apply critical thinking in your life. 22) (maybe this was supposed to be number 6? 😂) Embrace life long learning!
wow amazing work Flor, also you are on point with your observations. Thanks for the summary. First-person who helped is ALI And second is you. Do you have it for other videos too?
Subscribing to your RUclips channel is still one of the major highlight of my 2021.. you’re so full of wisdom. The one lesson I’ve gotten from you is not dwelling so much on perfection or what people will think, just sharing your craft & document your journey.
What Ali taught me in 2021: Even with great success in business or my career, the questions of who I am and how I want to live my life will still remain if I don't work on answering them.
You’re honestly such an inspiration. You spew out all this sensible and useful information all the time. I find myself telling my work colleagues or my ex-husband “well, Ali Abdaal says”. My ex is like “who is this Ali Abdaal” 😂😂 But my colleagues have looked at your videos after my recommendation and they have also been inspired by you. So keep it up 👍 👏🏽
Listening to Ali is itself Motivating-like honestly, Ali is from those Small Section of People who can kill off my Saturation and Burn Out within Seconds and Boost Me Up(Also, great work by the Editor for this great effect that he made here 2:41-this is not that much hard, but not all mind doing; and this just makes the Experience just BETTER)
About number 20: sometimes what you do and who you are are the same thing! Take generosity, for example: you "are" generous" because you act generously. Everything is an action. When you decide to hug someone after an argument to make things better and not leave the tension fester, you are "being" a kind person because you're acting kindly. Giving that hug is the thing that you're doing. So don't beat yourself up if you can't separate those two things. You are great because you do great things! It's just a matter of recognizing that small things are also great, like the hug example. It's not just about "big" things like winning an oscar or something like that.
FWIW, I don't think you are less cool because you are no longer a doctor. In fact, I find it admirable that you worked hard and explored life enough to find something else you enjoy doing and moved on. All of us have to decide who we want to be and what major we want to pursue at college in our late 10s without even knowing who we are and what the real world is like. Some people like what they chose, some people don't and choose to stay, and some explore something else and pivot. And pivoting is hard and takes courage, and you did it rather than staying as doctor you no longer felt passionate for. So kudos to you!
Definitely vibe with lesson 20. I think a lot of people that were “traditional successful” at a young age can share this experience. Convincing myself of my own intrinsic self worth is something I try to think about and work towards as much as possible. As of now, it’s still more like a piece of knowledge that I know, rather than a concept that I understand experientially. Good luck with your own journey! Looking forward to hearing about it in a future video :)
Thank you Ali for inspiring me to make simple-form content without too much editing, with me just being myself. Your videos are awesome. Thank you for being you
Ali i can confirm that i have never watched any of your videos without gaining at least 1 very important and inspiring information ! please keep going and keep inspiring us we need more people like you
We die and leave *nothing* physical behind, the only thing we can hope to properly continue are the advancements we make to *technology* , *science* and better ways of *thinking* . Have a great day!
Reading was never my cup of tea but I really enjoy your book recommendations so much that I did buy some of those books and read. Overtime, I grow to like this cup of tea and spend more time sipping each one without feeling forced. Thank you for producing such great videos that have a positive impact on my life. HNY, Ali!
I love grabbing a tea for these videos. The amount of value you provide these days is crazy I genuinely aspire to make my videos as much like yours as possible
Favorites: Question assumptions, Forget the noun, and Infinite Games (I love Simon Sinek's book on this). Thanks for always sharing and introducing new ideas on your channel Ali.
Lesson No. 20 : Your natural humility shines through all these videos and even if you were not doing what you are doing, people would love you for that.
Ali talking about self love is so sweet. Listening to him self doubt, stuttering is the cutest. Reminds us that despite him looking and sounding all perfect in videos, he’s a real person. And he does go through highs and lows like us ❤️
Honestly Ali abdaal you have changed the way i think about life and how I do things, thank you for all you did for me since I started watching your channel and I have drastically improved thanks to you, hope to see more of what you do in 2022
I literally was having a crisis over lesson 20, yesterday. Kept on thinking Im not worthy for the friends I have and I should change myself to be more likeable but having you explain a better more healthy way through it made me realize that I might have beating myself up too much.
hi, I appreciate all of your efforts in making videos and I feel especially happy when I see there are people who are still venturing their life and is also sharing knowledge at the same time on this platform. kudos to you! keep uploading !!
Hey Ali I have just found your channel in the last few weeks and wanted to say it is certainly one of the better channels I've watched. Def don't come across many gems in these modern RUclips times but yours is one of them! You have a great mix of content and present the information very well.
People have no idea how precious these lessons are, i shall always be grateful i got exposed to ali's videos, they have changed me as a person, made my med school far more enjoyable, and improved my vision for life.
Ali dude you got me with number 20. First of all I enjoy your content and I really appreciate your courage to be vulnerable. I am raising a kid and I see how my approval of her (new) ability to read, or her jokes, or her style of clothing etc. makes this connection in her mind that she is good and important and lovable for those things. I try to balance it with showing love for no reason. But it’s hard to know what the long term impact of anything you do or say as a parent will be. I don’t even know why I’m saying this to you. I guess I’m trying to say that we learn that we’re valuable for what we do from the most well meaning people in our lives sometimes. The one thing I remind myself and what I often say to my kid is that we were most dearly loved and cared for before we could do things. It helps me to connect with my intrinsic value. Anyway bye.
Thanks for sharing all the lessons. I love the analogy of the chips whenever I feel like prostrating and low in motivation, I would spring up and start working and tell myself like what you did. "Where should I place that chip in my hour?". "Being more intentional with using my own time".
I think Sheen’s point of loving yourself for who you are than what you do is very true. It actually relates to the embrace the suck imo. If you don’t see your work as a reflection of yourself you won’t be so worried about how it looks at the start. You know it has nothing to do with your worth.
#20 & 21 - YES!!! All I know of you is what you share on RUclips AND you are intrinsically worthy of love, yours and from others, just because you are a breathing human being. I appreciate your shout-out to stoicism, AND much of what you share can be traced back to early Buddhist teachings.
I started this year with 3 things. A distinct idea that this has to be my last year working as a doctor. Taking a break and really thinking about my decision and… starting a website. Well.. baby website as I still learn what and where and how. And now i discovered your channel! Cool!
I love this! Especially 24:20 onwards, thank you so much for sharing this! Helped me realize a lot and I'm sure it helped a large majority of those that watched too
Hey Ali, quick question. How does a generalist find their passion/drive? Some people are naturally drawn to things and others aren’t. How do those don’t gravitate to certain things find their passion? If you are a generalist you should make a video on it! Thanks and keep up the good content
😊Hey Ali! I’m Chinese 🇨🇳 and I watch all your videos! I’m so excited to know you are learning Chinese! You inspired me to take that final step to become a RUclipsr! By the way, When are you coming to Beijing? Haha I’m sure you will love it. Thanks for this video. It’s quite inspiring! ❤️
The fact that you recommend books that aren't mainstream is the reason I look forward to your videos on the subject. Not only do I find great book recommendations, but I also catch a break from 'The Psychology of Money' and 'Atomic Habits' recommendations. Thanks Ali!
Loved lesson 20! You exist on this earth along with everyone else. When I am feeling depressed and like I am always in the way just by existing, I have to remind myself that no, I'm allowed to take up space just like everyone else here on this earth. Love it.
Yeah there’s a difference between the people who love you because of what you did for them and people who actually love you for who you are, but mate, I can’t even thank you enough for just being existing . You’re one in a million . Salute to your mom and grandma that really did a great job for raising you and Taim 🥰
Always good to hear your reflections on what you have learned from the year. I particularly liked the keep things scrappy lesson, more entrepreneurial and learning on the journey. Being a bit of a perfectionist myself that is helpful to hear.
Hey therapist speaking here. Concerning lesson #20 (love yourself for who you simply are, not for what you do). It's not hippie or "woo-woo" at all. People say this when they talk about anything that's deep or connected to human experience. I love and admire the vulnerability for saying this in front of million of people, because this is exactly the type of conversation that you'd hear in a therapy office. That lesson you mentioned is something that I see in a lot of overachievers, very successful people. For anyone reading this, remember that you are human BEING, not a human DOING. -Sending you love from Montreal, Kanica.
Wow, I have been asking a ton of people in my life these questions, they say they dont know. I click on this video and am hit with so many things I have wanting to get a take on. Thank you so much.
Your explanation about lesson 20 made sense 🙂 not sure if this is your experience, but the observation for myself is that this feeling of "not being enough" has been reinforced by the school system and growing up in an Asian household. It shows up in our adult relationships because the way we've learned how to accept love and attention is through getting good grades or through transactions like gift giving. Once you take that all away, it becomes difficult to define your value as a friend if you aren't providing them any sort of "value," but in reality, your presence for them is enough. A bit of a ramble but the main point is, you're not weird for struggling with this (can tell it was a bit uncomfortable for you to share lol), and Sheen is a good friend for pointing it out to you 🙂
No I get lesson 20 so much, I realised I had this issue that I thought I wasn’t enough because I wasn’t doing enough. And I realised, my friends and family would often ask me when they saw me, “what did you do today?” Or “What have you been up to recently?” And I realised that my answers would always sound bad, like, “oh I read some more of my book, I don’t know, I had lunch” and maybe occasionally could say I went for a walk. There was this pressure that I was putting on myself from these questions and so I told people to stop asking me what I did today, but how I was and how I felt today instead. Game changing.
What a phenomenal video, there's more value and information here than I can even process. Your journey is pretty amazing. Gosh these videos feel like all these little men in my brain processing my thinking, just you've verbalized. Great video, keep it up
I have learned a lot of things since I started watching your videos, and I am still continue learning, thanks for sharing these informations with us 🙏🏻
I definitely agree with the Quitting part, that way we do not have so much on our table and we can focus on things which actually matters. Thank you Ali for another great video.
Hi Ali. Phenomenal material you covered in this vid. Thanks bro! So, to touch on #20 on the subject of intrinsic value vs extrinsic value. Over time I've come to learn that majority of this self evaluation is learned from childhood from caretakers/parents/gaurdians majorly. It is also something my group of friends in Uni who were all foreigners from Asia, India and Africa struggled with. We came to the conclusion that non-western caregivers are way more likely to teach their own children that extrinsic values are what quality them for love, respect and affection. A few extrinsic beliefs we learn about are grades in school, obedience at home, being helpful around the house, and alot more. We also learn socially based on how the adults in our lives talk about others. When parents/caregivers talk smack about a child, we don't want the same reputation so we avoid that habit the said child is being criticised for. Sometimes, the trait being criticised is either: "So and so is just too quiet and seem pretty dumb" OR "So and so is so loud and talkative which is so annoying". Sometimes the quiet child is an introvert and the "loud" child just knows how to speak their mind against wrong being done. Ali... Point is, you are not alone. There are millions who struggle with the same struggle accepting that you are loved, valued and respected just because you exist. Sheen is awesome for walking that journey of unlearning with you. Thank you Ali for this awesome video
Books mentioned in the video:
1. Die with zero
2. The minimalist entrepreneur
3. Happy sexy millionaire
4. The gap and the gain
5. How to not die alone
6. Keep going
7. The courage to be disliked
Please consider leaving a like. Means the world to me :)
that’s what i was looking for
Seriously a like on RUclips means the world to you?
@@shyguy1845 Hahaha
Thanks pal!
you need to sort out your priorities my man
My book wish-list always doubles in size when watching an Ali Abdaal video! Thanks Ali, great video as always!! :))
You know the vibe!
Same here.. I love the books he reads.
Same here … I’m always adding all book to my Amazon cart while he shares them.
Hahahah same here 😀
Lol me too
Lesson 20 is a big one for me. Unconditional love. I always feel like I have to accomplish extreme things in order to deserve validation and love. For me accepting that I am fine the way I am is still work in progress, but awareness is one step in the right direction.
1) Spend your money on experiences and relationships
2) Stay scrappy, don't be a perfectionist
3) Know when to quit
4) Focus on your progress, rather than how far away you are from the ideal
5) Applying the 37% rule might be useful (explore 37% of the options and then commit)
6) There was no 6 😂
7) Forget the noun and do the verb. what matters is what you do, not what you "are"
8) What do i actually want from life? orient your day-to-day to this thing.
9) Delegating is hard, but so worth it.
10) everyone has "career risk", don't worry too much about it. bonus from me: develop your skills and you'll always have work opportunities.
11) You have 112 waking hours in the week. Allocate them wisely.
12) Embrace the suck, it WILL be sticky and shitty, it's supposed to be that way. Do it anyway.
13) Stop ordering takeaway. You'll probably get fat and/or damage your health.
14) What are the infinite games that you want to play? Enjoy the journey, not just the "destination". There might not be a "destination". (E.g. getting lean. You can't get there and stop working out and eating healthily).
15) The things other people say/think about you are not your responsibility.
16) Be yourself when dating.
17) Make sure you always have a kindle with you if you are in the habit of reading.
18) Learning languages through audiobooks might be more effective than other methods. Try it!
19) Often magic happens when you put in more work than anybody else.
20) Be okay with loving yourself for who you are, rather than what you do.
21) Question assumptions!
Apply critical thinking in your life.
22) (maybe this was supposed to be number 6? 😂)
Embrace life long learning!
Very well concised in a nutshell. I like your bonus lesson too.
And good catch about the Lesson#6 !
wow amazing work Flor, also you are on point with your observations.
Thanks for the summary.
First-person who helped is ALI
And second is you.
Do you have it for other videos too?
Subscribing to Ali channel is one of my best decision, Learned a lot from this video and I’m glad I already knew some of them.
Wth KEN RBLX what r u doing here
@@Sallyman5741 haha I’m a viewer / fan of Ali
Ikr! Almost every video is a home-run hehe
@@Sallyman5741
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Mine too✅💯
Subscribing to your RUclips channel is still one of the major highlight of my 2021.. you’re so full of wisdom. The one lesson I’ve gotten from you is not dwelling so much on perfection or what people will think, just sharing your craft & document your journey.
What Ali taught me in 2021: Even with great success in business or my career, the questions of who I am and how I want to live my life will still remain if I don't work on answering them.
it depends on the person i guess. I think he knows what he is but he wants to know whats the purpose of all this.
You’re honestly such an inspiration. You spew out all this sensible and useful information all the time. I find myself telling my work colleagues or my ex-husband “well, Ali Abdaal says”. My ex is like “who is this Ali Abdaal” 😂😂 But my colleagues have looked at your videos after my recommendation and they have also been inspired by you. So keep it up 👍 👏🏽
Listening to Ali is itself Motivating-like honestly, Ali is from those Small Section of People who can kill off my Saturation and Burn Out within Seconds and Boost Me Up(Also, great work by the Editor for this great effect that he made here 2:41-this is not that much hard, but not all mind doing; and this just makes the Experience just BETTER)
The 37% rule is also mentioned in "Algorithms to live by". Haven't read the book but seen a few blog posts and tweets about it. Nice book :)
love this man :) whats ur fav board game? Stone Age is so good haha
Ooh never tried that - my go-tos are Articulate and Avalon these days :)
I like Stone Age but you should try Terraforming Mars!
Catan and ticket to ride - highly recommend!
About number 20: sometimes what you do and who you are are the same thing!
Take generosity, for example: you "are" generous" because you act generously. Everything is an action.
When you decide to hug someone after an argument to make things better and not leave the tension fester, you are "being" a kind person because you're acting kindly. Giving that hug is the thing that you're doing.
So don't beat yourself up if you can't separate those two things. You are great because you do great things! It's just a matter of recognizing that small things are also great, like the hug example. It's not just about "big" things like winning an oscar or something like that.
FWIW, I don't think you are less cool because you are no longer a doctor. In fact, I find it admirable that you worked hard and explored life enough to find something else you enjoy doing and moved on. All of us have to decide who we want to be and what major we want to pursue at college in our late 10s without even knowing who we are and what the real world is like. Some people like what they chose, some people don't and choose to stay, and some explore something else and pivot. And pivoting is hard and takes courage, and you did it rather than staying as doctor you no longer felt passionate for. So kudos to you!
Definitely vibe with lesson 20. I think a lot of people that were “traditional successful” at a young age can share this experience. Convincing myself of my own intrinsic self worth is something I try to think about and work towards as much as possible. As of now, it’s still more like a piece of knowledge that I know, rather than a concept that I understand experientially. Good luck with your own journey! Looking forward to hearing about it in a future video :)
Always great to reflect back on what you have learned and then use that information to better yourself in the future. Great video my man!
0:20 thats why I gave away all my GP before I quit Runescape
Same
Thank you Ali for inspiring me to make simple-form content without too much editing, with me just being myself. Your videos are awesome. Thank you for being you
Mulțumim!
Ali i can confirm that i have never watched any of your videos without gaining at least 1 very important and inspiring information ! please keep going and keep inspiring us we need more people like you
We die and leave *nothing* physical behind, the only thing we can hope to properly continue are the advancements we make to *technology* , *science* and better ways of *thinking* . Have a great day!
True but sad right?
@@Abhinav-Bhat I don't think it's sad at all, do you?
@@Jubair194 Yes Sad because we leave nothing physical and Happy that Science and Technology is improving Humans so basically Not feeling sad overall
@@Abhinav-Bhat if we didn't die, there would be no point in living, just remember that. Have a great day.
@@Jubair194 Yeah And just to clear that I'm Just High School Boy Studying in India
All the Best from me
What do I want with my life? Is the most overpowered question that keep us evolving and maturing to no end
Ali，欢迎来北京. You are always welcome to Beijing! Can’t wait to show you around🥳
Lesson 20 is a huge one! Always loved to watch your videos, great stuff. Thank you for sharing positivity and your life experience. 😌
Reading was never my cup of tea but I really enjoy your book recommendations so much that I did buy some of those books and read. Overtime, I grow to like this cup of tea and spend more time sipping each one without feeling forced. Thank you for producing such great videos that have a positive impact on my life. HNY, Ali!
I love grabbing a tea for these videos. The amount of value you provide these days is crazy I genuinely aspire to make my videos as much like yours as possible
Favorites: Question assumptions, Forget the noun, and Infinite Games (I love Simon Sinek's book on this). Thanks for always sharing and introducing new ideas on your channel Ali.
I agree!
as usual you always go beyond my expectations!! Thank you!!!!
Wow such a helpful video. It’s amazing to see how much you’ve grown and evolved. Love the video ❤️🙏🏽
Lots of value as usual- thanks for this video!
Love these long, chatty style videos where you talk about life & growth
Lesson No. 20 : Your natural humility shines through all these videos and even if you were not doing what you are doing, people would love you for that.
Ali talking about self love is so sweet. Listening to him self doubt, stuttering is the cutest. Reminds us that despite him looking and sounding all perfect in videos, he’s a real person. And he does go through highs and lows like us ❤️
20s are for learning, 30s are for earning
Honestly Ali abdaal you have changed the way i think about life and how I do things, thank you for all you did for me since I started watching your channel and I have drastically improved thanks to you, hope to see more of what you do in 2022
You're not just what you do. You're extremely wise, and I've learned so much from you. Thank you, and please continue. Just be you 😊
I really miss these kind of videos. I wish they were more frequent!
I love life lesson videos. They're the best!
These life lessons type of videos are always so useful !!!!!
I was waiting for this 🤩 Thanks Ali
I'm really appreciating you sharing your journey of self-acceptance! Would love more videos on this (:
I literally was having a crisis over lesson 20, yesterday. Kept on thinking Im not worthy for the friends I have and I should change myself to be more likeable but having you explain a better more healthy way through it made me realize that I might have beating myself up too much.
Excellent video as always!
hi, I appreciate all of your efforts in making videos and I feel especially happy when I see there are people who are still venturing their life and is also sharing knowledge at the same time on this platform. kudos to you! keep uploading !!
Cool video 👍👍. Keep it up. I really love your content 😉!!!! And you can tell a little about the project Kyrrex. I heard a little about it 😨😨!
Hey Ali I have just found your channel in the last few weeks and wanted to say it is certainly one of the better channels I've watched. Def don't come across many gems in these modern RUclips times but yours is one of them! You have a great mix of content and present the information very well.
People have no idea how precious these lessons are, i shall always be grateful i got exposed to ali's videos, they have changed me as a person, made my med school far more enjoyable, and improved my vision for life.
Can totally relate to number 20. I hear you.
Ali dude you got me with number 20. First of all I enjoy your content and I really appreciate your courage to be vulnerable. I am raising a kid and I see how my approval of her (new) ability to read, or her jokes, or her style of clothing etc. makes this connection in her mind that she is good and important and lovable for those things. I try to balance it with showing love for no reason. But it’s hard to know what the long term impact of anything you do or say as a parent will be. I don’t even know why I’m saying this to you. I guess I’m trying to say that we learn that we’re valuable for what we do from the most well meaning people in our lives sometimes. The one thing I remind myself and what I often say to my kid is that we were most dearly loved and cared for before we could do things. It helps me to connect with my intrinsic value. Anyway bye.
Super interesting, thanks for sharing :) I’d recommend the book Unconditional Parenting which might give you some ideas
@@aliabdaal thanks for the rec. Added to this year's reading!
Probably my favourite videos of yours Ali… thoroughly enjoyed this 👍🏻
Thanks for sharing all the lessons. I love the analogy of the chips whenever I feel like prostrating and low in motivation, I would spring up and start working and tell myself like what you did. "Where should I place that chip in my hour?". "Being more intentional with using my own time".
I think Sheen’s point of loving yourself for who you are than what you do is very true. It actually relates to the embrace the suck imo. If you don’t see your work as a reflection of yourself you won’t be so worried about how it looks at the start. You know it has nothing to do with your worth.
23:10 the way i feel exactly the same way for years now and still do , makes me feel less broken
Your videos make me feel so much comfortable in life and your truly having an amazing impact social media and im extremely grateful
#20 & 21 - YES!!! All I know of you is what you share on RUclips AND you are intrinsically worthy of love, yours and from others, just because you are a breathing human being. I appreciate your shout-out to stoicism, AND much of what you share can be traced back to early Buddhist teachings.
I binge watch your videos and I love them. I am grateful I've come across your channel! So much good wisdom.
Finally another Abdaal video! We need a best books of 2021 video!
Saved to watch later
I wonder who is throwing you the books?😂
Up for hire if there's a vacancy
Hey Ali
Tomorrow is our exam
And trying to do my best by using active recall and spaced repetition
Love from India ❤
All the best mate !!!!
@Jannes Ebeling of course buddy
@@docthor3464 thank you
Ali your content is great and one of the best videography without any distraction keep the great work
I started this year with 3 things. A distinct idea that this has to be my last year working as a doctor. Taking a break and really thinking about my decision and… starting a website. Well.. baby website as I still learn what and where and how. And now i discovered your channel! Cool!
I love this! Especially 24:20 onwards, thank you so much for sharing this! Helped me realize a lot and I'm sure it helped a large majority of those that watched too
Hey Ali, quick question. How does a generalist find their passion/drive? Some people are naturally drawn to things and others aren’t. How do those don’t gravitate to certain things find their passion? If you are a generalist you should make a video on it! Thanks and keep up the good content
This really hits hard man! I can totally relate. 2022 is still gonna be a year of a lot of learnings and realizations.
I can totally vibe with you on being loved for who we are than what we do.
😊Hey Ali! I’m Chinese 🇨🇳 and I watch all your videos! I’m so excited to know you are learning Chinese! You inspired me to take that final step to become a RUclipsr!
By the way, When are you coming to Beijing? Haha I’m sure you will love it.
Thanks for this video. It’s quite inspiring! ❤️
Ali - This was much needed for me today.
YESS IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS VIDEO SINCE THE YEAR ENDED, LOVE THIS SERIES!!
Always love these sorts of videos from Ali where I come away with an abundance of useful info, as well as an ever growing book list! Thank you Ali.
Wah! I do vibe with everything you have said here!
Love this video so much! Will keep rewatching this again and again!!!!
Love your book recommendations Ali
It's so great to hear about your lessons, and see you progress especially in the emotional/existential realm! Seems to have made you a lot happier.
The fact that you recommend books that aren't mainstream is the reason I look forward to your videos on the subject. Not only do I find great book recommendations, but I also catch a break from 'The Psychology of Money' and 'Atomic Habits' recommendations. Thanks Ali!
Loved lesson 20! You exist on this earth along with everyone else. When I am feeling depressed and like I am always in the way just by existing, I have to remind myself that no, I'm allowed to take up space just like everyone else here on this earth. Love it.
Wish there were more youtube channels that had content like this. Almost every video provides valuable tips/lessons/motivations. Thank you 💜🙏
I relate so much on so many of them! Thank you, this is very inspiring!
Thx Ali, you are my favorite person on youtube from now on . You are pretty dame honest .
CAN WE PLEASE APPRECIATE THE BACKGROUND MUSICCC😭😭😭😭 it just flows so well!!!!
Yeah there’s a difference between the people who love you because of what you did for them and people who actually love you for who you are, but mate, I can’t even thank you enough for just being existing . You’re one in a million . Salute to your mom and grandma that really did a great job for raising you and Taim 🥰
Always good to hear your reflections on what you have learned from the year. I particularly liked the keep things scrappy lesson, more entrepreneurial and learning on the journey. Being a bit of a perfectionist myself that is helpful to hear.
Completely vibe with your point about being happy with who you r!
i am so grateful to know your channel, your content was so amazing and inspirational, thank you so much
Thank you for all your honest in your videos sir! It is really comfortable and heartwarming to watch
Hey therapist speaking here. Concerning lesson #20 (love yourself for who you simply are, not for what you do). It's not hippie or "woo-woo" at all. People say this when they talk about anything that's deep or connected to human experience. I love and admire the vulnerability for saying this in front of million of people, because this is exactly the type of conversation that you'd hear in a therapy office. That lesson you mentioned is something that I see in a lot of overachievers, very successful people. For anyone reading this, remember that you are human BEING, not a human DOING. -Sending you love from Montreal, Kanica.
That's so true. Valuing ourselves by just being who we are rather than what we do is Soo important
Always learning amazing life lesson from you! Good luck to everyone trying to better themselves in 2022! ️
Wow, I have been asking a ton of people in my life these questions, they say they dont know. I click on this video and am hit with so many things I have wanting to get a take on. Thank you so much.
You’re such an inspiration ♥️♥️
Your explanation about lesson 20 made sense 🙂 not sure if this is your experience, but the observation for myself is that this feeling of "not being enough" has been reinforced by the school system and growing up in an Asian household. It shows up in our adult relationships because the way we've learned how to accept love and attention is through getting good grades or through transactions like gift giving. Once you take that all away, it becomes difficult to define your value as a friend if you aren't providing them any sort of "value," but in reality, your presence for them is enough. A bit of a ramble but the main point is, you're not weird for struggling with this (can tell it was a bit uncomfortable for you to share lol), and Sheen is a good friend for pointing it out to you 🙂
No I get lesson 20 so much, I realised I had this issue that I thought I wasn’t enough because I wasn’t doing enough. And I realised, my friends and family would often ask me when they saw me, “what did you do today?” Or “What have you been up to recently?” And I realised that my answers would always sound bad, like, “oh I read some more of my book, I don’t know, I had lunch” and maybe occasionally could say I went for a walk. There was this pressure that I was putting on myself from these questions and so I told people to stop asking me what I did today, but how I was and how I felt today instead. Game changing.
I love the background music. Coupled with the content in this video, I think its awesome. Keep up the good work Ali and the team.
Thank you for sharing your Self-Love challenges! They resonate very deeply with me. We’ll get there one day ❤️
Been watching your videos from when you were just starting this channel. It's been awesome being on this RUclips journey with you.
What a phenomenal video, there's more value and information here than I can even process. Your journey is pretty amazing. Gosh these videos feel like all these little men in my brain processing my thinking, just you've verbalized. Great video, keep it up
I have learned a lot of things since I started watching your videos, and I am still continue learning, thanks for sharing these informations with us 🙏🏻
This is by far one of the best videos I have EVER watched.
God bless you for this video, much love! ❤️
I definitely agree with the Quitting part, that way we do not have so much on our table and we can focus on things which actually matters. Thank you Ali for another great video.
Here’s to a great 2022 Ali, wishing you and the team all the best!
Love lesson 18 :) 继续加油 Ali!
Hi Ali.
Phenomenal material you covered in this vid. Thanks bro!
So, to touch on #20 on the subject of intrinsic value vs extrinsic value. Over time I've come to learn that majority of this self evaluation is learned from childhood from caretakers/parents/gaurdians majorly. It is also something my group of friends in Uni who were all foreigners from Asia, India and Africa struggled with. We came to the conclusion that non-western caregivers are way more likely to teach their own children that extrinsic values are what quality them for love, respect and affection.
A few extrinsic beliefs we learn about are grades in school, obedience at home, being helpful around the house, and alot more. We also learn socially based on how the adults in our lives talk about others. When parents/caregivers talk smack about a child, we don't want the same reputation so we avoid that habit the said child is being criticised for. Sometimes, the trait being criticised is either:
"So and so is just too quiet and seem pretty dumb"
OR
"So and so is so loud and talkative which is so annoying".
Sometimes the quiet child is an introvert and the "loud" child just knows how to speak their mind against wrong being done.
Ali... Point is, you are not alone. There are millions who struggle with the same struggle accepting that you are loved, valued and respected just because you exist.
Sheen is awesome for walking that journey of unlearning with you.
Thank you Ali for this awesome video