Serena couldn't get a doctor to believe her. If you ever need proof that black women bodies, minds, spirits do not exist, then go to a doctor's appointment with them or, if you have the stomach, the ER.
Hearing stories like this encourages me even more to continue my studies towards becoming a ob/gyn. As a young black woman we are not advocated or heard enough.
@@isiimam1562 Why did you feel the need to "all lives matter" someone saying that black women aren't advocated for or heard enough? By now, it's a well-established fact that black women are treated differently by medical professionals than other races of women. Heck. Congress has even taken an interest in the maternal mortality rate of African African women. Be part of thes solution and not the problem.
@@angeljohnson234 I agree that in general black women are pushed away in many instances, however i feel that in Lydia's case if she was white she still would've struggled in the same aspect
Tip for people who have dismissive doctors: ask your doctor to document their lack of treatment and/or testing. They will usually do a 180 real fast. And if your doctor is like that and they work under a practice that isn’t their own, complain to their higher ups. And always do a get to know you consultation before selecting them as a doctor. This is coming from a CNA (and nursing student) that works in women and infants services at a hospital.
Ask to speak to the clinical director. Getting HR and the doctor’s bosses involved will motivate some help. And get evidence of your appointment. The doctors are required by law to document your visit and complaint. It will already be implied they didn’t help but that last push of telling them to full on admit lack of care and treatment usually helps get things going. Hope that helps.
True. There are people that catch things looong before their doctors because they do that. How is someone who sees you for 10-15min a few times a year at most supposed to catch everything?? More people should be their own first line of defense instead of deferring to someone else. Don't be a hypochondriac, but it's your health your responsibility
@@naritruwireve1381 well it depends but I know you're "supposed" to see the dentist at least 2X annually and get a physical annually from your PCP and gynecologist(if it applies), but if you get sick or have a condition then yeah, it's not uncommon to go up to a few times a year. I personally wish I could still get away with 1ce every 5yrs lol
@@sandrallewellyn2632 I mean, I've got a bunch of stuff wrong with me (5 things I can list off the top of my head), but I'm not immediately dying, so my parents brush it off and I'm just like _ok then... 1 visit per 5 years it is_
@@Tom-wr6mq Did you not watch the video? And this happens to women (especially women of colour) all the time. Get off your high horse, please and try to be compassionate for a second.
I think the medical community doesn’t take young women seriously when it comes to our concerns especially when they think we are too young for some conditions. I was misdiagnosed and honestly dismissed with my kidney and liver disease because I am at a healthy weight and my age. I finally got help 4 years after the fact
I agree with this I've been dismissed so often by doctors. I had to navigate infertility practically on my own, probably caused by PCOS which my doctor agrees with but hasn't tested or done anything with. I had another doctor insist my daughter was in position and I was dismissed when I told her I didn't think she was. My fundus height was shrinking and I insisted on another ultrasound. Not only was she breech but she was failing to thrive because my blood flow from the placenta had started to decrease. I had to have an emergency c-section at 37weeks and she was only 4lbs. I'm so glad I advocated for us and insisted something wasn't right. I'm not black but I have dealt with dismissive doctors
@Becky Goodhair actually it has happened to A LOT of women. Where they are dismissed and not taken seriously by Doctors. Especially if you're black. There have been countless stories where women have died because doctors refused to take them seriously. And this is happening everyday
@Becky Goodhair I'm majoring in public health and there is statistical evidence that black women have lower health outcomes because of dismissal by health practitioners. Because of this, they also have the highest fatality rates and infant mortality rates during childbirth in comparison to other races.
Becky Goodhair from the second source: “pregnancy-related morbidity and mortality also disproportionately affect African American women. In 2013, CDC reported that the preterm rate for black infants was ~60% higher than for white infants (17% and 10.8% respectively).”
I think all medical professionals that see young women that say they’re going through weird things never want to do test because they think it’s all a lie. I’m 19 and started being on birth control at 15. I was having my period for 5 years by 15. After i started the birth control, I got weird discharge all the time. I never told my mom about it until nearly a year later. They did a test and it was a yeast infection. Then, a month or two later, another came back, and didn’t go away until I saw the doctors again. I was experiencing consist yeast infections that wouldn’t go away and stay away, even with medication. I just realized a couple months ago that I think it was because of my birth control after looking into the high estrogen levels and how the yeast infections only started occurring after I started on birth control. My doctor didn’t believe me and said she thought I have type 2 diabetes. I don’t have freaking type two diabetes. She made me get a blood test anyways, and of course it was negative for that. So I said again, I think it’s my birth control. Took her 6 months to believe me and she finally changed my birth control. This was in December. Now, I still have another yeast infection that’s been going on for about a month and a half, which I started my birth control in December. So it’ll take a few more months until it works properly and my body adjusts to the new hormones. LEMME TELL YOU- these medical professionals never listen to young women experiencing problems with “lady only” stuff like period problems and pregnancy. This is a common issue against women, even by female doctors because they don’t have the same experience and all female bodies are so drastically different
And it's not even with periods. One of my friends wants a breast reduction but none of the doctors she's been to will do it, or they say wait several years then come back (she's 21).
cowlufoo2 yeah! Anything with female stuff isn’t taken seriously. I had a friend who has severe back problems because of how massive her boobs are. And they won’t let her get a reduction either 😠
Oh my gosh, I think I’ve been experiencing the same thing, every single cycle I experience yeast infection type symptoms and it only started with my birth control. I wonder if switching birth control would help??
@@ts1331ts And my mom has endometriosis, fibromyalgia, and other health problems, but (female) doctors and gynecologists have told her that her pain isn't real.
Mine started with hot flashes and hair loss. I also hadn't gotten my period in a few months. The first two doctors I went to only did a thyroid test, insistent that it was my thyroid. Guess what? Thyroid is perfectly healthy. Finally, I went to my OB and DEMANDED a full hormone panel. Sure enough, my Follicle Stimulating Hormone (FSH) value was 115.3 mIU/mL. My diagnosis - Primary ovarian insufficiency (POI), also known as premature ovarian failure. I suppose the moral of my story is that Doctors are not Gods. You have got to advocate for yourself. Demand the kind of treatment you want and expect. Period. ✌🏼
I was diagnosed at 28 but my experience was much better than the woman in the video. My gyno was very kind and hugged me when I cried. I think she did a better job than when I went to Columbia University Medical center. All that doctor told me was they don't know what causes it and my Vitamin D levels are low. I was like of course it's winter time smh. The first doctor was awesome!
Anointiyae Beasley women’s pain is overwhelmingly dismissed by the medical community. It’s a horrible, systemic issue that we have to keep pressure on the medical community to take us seriously!!! Bless your Mom.
Luckily she doesn't want one. I think it is really unfortunate when women who don't want kids get pregnant and have to abort or those kids get into orphanages and Women who do want children have trouble getting pregnant. Things like that make the world seem unfair.
Right. I don't understand why it's so hard for people to believe that there are women who just don't want children. Like it's not a requirement smh. It's so annoying.
I love it too! Too bad this comment section is full of women saying that she is suppressing her "natural biological desires" to have kids. Maybe she just simply... doesn't want kids?
@@believeinhope1 People do it all the time though xp there are even some websites where ppl rank doctors and leave comments if they are happy with the visit or not. I hope she did at least that.
This, and I would tell her to find doctors of color, preferably also women, to remove some (if not ALL) of that bias. More likely to be heard that way.
That’s fine, unless you’re an American and have a significant co pay with every doctor visit. She shouldn’t have to take time off work and pay multiple fees just to find someone who believes her. More doctors should listen to patients and take their concerns seriously.
@@ourtubesocks Also true. But since we know white medical professionals won't do it anytime soon, that's why I suggested paring it down to medical professionals of color (preferably Black) who are women. I know that's not easy either, of course. But it's worth a shot for her health.
Diva380 I don’t think it’s right to say that “white medical professionals” won’t help her. Bad medical professionals won’t help her, regardless of race. Yes, many of those might be white, but there are also great white doctors and terrible doctors of color. I don’t think it has to do with your race so much as your skill and personality.
In the old days they'd just call it hysteria - it's built into the profession. Also many medical students when quizzed believe that black people have a higher pain threshold so they don't feel the need to take it into consideration. Fun group.
Because my periods where never on time during my teenage years, I also thought that that's just my body. Then at 20 I stopped getting monthly periods. They'd happen every few months. Then they stopped. It took two years for me to be diagnosed with a pituitary tumor. I'm now 28 and have had regular cycles because I'm taking medication to treat the tumor. But now I'm experiencing endometriosis and that's another struggle!
kellie At around 18, I was also diagnosed with have the pituitary tumor. It didn’t take long for me to be diagnosed after the symptoms started, simply because I had already been going to an endocrinologist because of other hormone problems. Have been taking the medication for five years now, and I’m probably on my last few months of it! The tumor has greatly reduced in size and everything seems to be in control. :)
kellie Did you ever try BC? Mine have always been extremely irregular but BC has really helped with them. I’m curious to see what would happen if I went off of it. It’s been about 3 years now.
One of the fact cards says "such as when both ovaries are removed in a hysterectomy" Please stop spreading this misconception! A hysterectomy has nothing to do with the ovaries. A hysterectomy refers to the removal of the uterus, in its entirety (total hysterectomy), or above the cervix (supracervical hysterectomy, partial hysterectomy) with or without surrounding connective tissues (radical hysterectomy) I've had a total hysterectomy with bilateral salpingectomy sans oophorectomy. I still have my ovaries but I have to explicitly tell people this because they hear "hysterectomy" and assume I have no ovaries. It's like confusing the vulva with the vagina. I understand why people say it, it's slang, but it can cause confusion and problems when you're trying to educate people. Having your ovaries removed is an oophorectomy. Having your fallopian tubes removed is a salpingectomy, and having part of the vaginal canal cut out is a partial vaginectomy. You can have a combination of these surgeries. For example, having your uterus and ovaries removed would be an oopho-hysterectomy.
You can have a type of hysterectomy where they remove your ovaries too. So they are not totally wrong. Of course they can also be removed alone without touching the uterus
@@ketnetty you're referring to an oopho-hysterectomy, it's not a hysterectomy, it's a word used to describe two surgical procedures, a hysterectomy and an oophorectomy performed at the same time. The word hysterectomy comes from the Greek, Hysta, meaning womb, and ectomy, meaning "to cut out". A hysterectomy doesn't involve the ovaries. If you have both the ovaries and uterus removed during a surgery, it's an "oophorectomy and hysterectomy", sometimes called oopho-hysterectomy for short. It's not a "type of hysterectomy" the same way "partial" and "total" are types of hysterectomy. An oopho-hysterectomy is the name given to TWO procedures, one being a hysterectomy. It's like if you get a tummy tuck and a breast augmentation done at the same time. You wouldn't say "some tummy tucks involve getting breast implants" it's two different procedures.
Went to an ob/gyn yesterday and the woman taking notes and asking questions never heard of a Salpingectomy...had to spell it for her, too. When i told her i also had a hysterosalpingogram done to view my pelvic ogans, that, too, she's never heard of nor could she spell it.
Same because I have irregular periods and the symptomes they showed for people at risk of having it. I always felt like there was something off about me in that domaine
Lydia is an absolute ray of sunshine! So much grace, poise, and eloquence. It breaks my heart when women are not taken seriously by the medical profession, particularly when they are young and Black. This just reaffirms my passion to one day become a Women's Health Nurse Practitioner so I can be of service to women who need vital access to quality healthcare. No one should ever be made to feel as if their voice isn't being heard by their healthcare provider!
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure at 30. I am African American. I stopped having a period at 16 and was put on birth control to "regulate my periods." This probably masked my menopause symptoms. I don't share it with anyone because it embarrasses me that I will never have children and don't know how to explain it. I struggle with dating because I don't know how or when to talk about something like this. Also, people don't really believe me. I get the "you dont really know that, could get pregnant one day" as though I would make something like this up. I was put on hormone replacement therapy and will be on it until I'm 50. Find a good doctor, this will help combat osteoporosis, your higher risk of breast cancer, and menopause symptoms. Again, thank you for sharing.
I'm 30, not wealthy and not lucky in love. I want kids, and I want a family, no one wants to be alone. But. I don't want to bring a child into this world by myself, especially if I can't support them. I work a job in customer service and I often see alot of mothers and younger teen mothers, it's hard. Because I feel like my door is closing, which is silly cause I'm pro-adoption. But my point is this: Just knowing that there's other women out there who are talking about this subject or dealing but successfully living full lives without kids, gives me so much hope. It makes me feel like I'm not being totally stupid for having concerns or for what I think my future most likely will lead. It makes me feel so much better, so thanks for sharing! Thankyou so much!
I began going through menopause at 21. I am not diagnosed but I KNOW this has to be what is happening! No one will help me. The wild part is that this is the only person I’ve ever heard have this issue! Every symptom she spoke on are symptoms I have experienced! Thank you for sharing this!
If you need some support, or just to feel like you're not alone, there's a Facebook group for people with premature menopause called Women Supporting Women: premature ovarian failure & insufficiency POF/POI
Cameron Georgette I took, "Superfoods by MRM Raw Organic Maca Root Powder" like a pinch or 2 to start in the mornings w lemonade everyday and this helped me w the hot flashes. Burdock root tea also helps with other symptoms. Not all powders, herbs are created equal and will not work if its not organic and of good quality. Blessings.
@@marciaosullivan3200 What exactly are you trying to say...? Of course there are doctors, how do you know if either of the other commentors are doctors?
@@marciaosullivan3200 There are exactly 2 other people on this thread. My question was how do you personally know whether either of them are doctors? I said nothing about likes.
@@marciaosullivan3200 Also, this is about being dismissive of patient concerns and real symptoms. I think almost everyone knows at least one person who was misdiagnosed or dismissed when a treatable medical condition was present. I have also been to dismissive doctors and doctors who do want to solve things. Do I trust a doctor's expertise? Yes, they are supposed to know things I do not. Can they lose that trust? Yes, just like any other professional.
Thank you so much! I’m 38 and have so many of the same symptoms! Even extra weight around my midsection not matter what I eat or do...docs won’t even listen to me at 38! So thank you for bringing awareness to this problem and what we need to do to help ourselves when the healthcare industry fails us. Thank you so much!!!!
Centrifugal Muse Raw Organic Maca Root helped me level out hormones and with hot flashes. Burdock root tea helped me with the other symptoms and I too couldn't loose weight no matter how much I exercised until I started drinking the tea. LOL Ppl thought I was working out. But in reality it was a combo of healthy eating, sleeping and the burdock root tea..a few times a month of exercising is not enough or consistent for me but they thought I was working out like Consistently. Good luck!
Centrifugal Muse Np. Yes, I also realized taking oneself out of a toxic environment and/or toxic individual(s) also prevents from our cells to renew and get us better. Now that I have that stress burden off my shoulders..I also feel better, less stressed out and, therefore, able to sleep better at nite.
I went through menopause at 15, I was so lucky to have an awesome dr who sent me for the tests I needed and discovered it straight away. I was diagnosed with osteoporosis by the time I was 20 and HRT has really helped me to feel more normal :)
natalie lara i was 15 at the time so it wasn’t really something I had considered. I thought maybe one day if it happened but that’s about it. I’m 26 now and I’ve obviously accepted that I can’t have children, but if my partner and I decide we want kids down the track we have discussed adoption:)
As one... i have been deeply affected by the stigma of being black. Doctors don’t say that but how they will treat you. Example. I should of been at a pain clinic three years ago for DDD. A disease that I didn’t know i suffered till i got to the pain clinic. I suffered a injury at work that pushed this into high gear. My workers COMPensation doctor and primary are woman from minority groups. Yet they didn’t do manual labor, their doctors. This Friday is my implantion for my back stimulator. I’ve been delayed once already...
Thank you for making this video. I started going through menopause at 17. I’ve been going through hormone replacement for about 2 years now. It’s really comforting to hear that this happens to other people too
She is so well spoken. She did research and looked into it herself. She should not have had to. Why do doctors not take people seriously when they are saying they are having issues. Its happened to me around 19/20 years old. I was having eye pain and not a single doctor believed me. Took so many tries and finally someone did the test and examined me and saw I had glaucoma. Not everyone with glaucoma can feel their pressure and I could. So those doctors before me just blew it off. So hard to find a doctor anymore that actually cares and wants to help.
I hope Lydia contacts Mama Doctor Jones so that she can help direct her to some reliable doctors, or at least that the offer makes its way to her so she knows it's on the table. Hearing how dismissive those doctors were is really disappointing and I hope she finds someone who will listen and help sooner rather than later
i started experiencing menopausal symptoms when i was 18. my period has always been erratic like this, and i never heard someone else describe the same thing. i don't feel alone anymore.
@@sksainc688 O really? www.americanbar.org/groups/crsj/publications/human_rights_magazine_home/the-state-of-healthcare-in-the-united-states/racial-disparities-in-health-care/
@@sksainc688 the CDC disagrees with you: "The PRMR (pregnancy related mortality ratio) for black and AI/AN women aged ≥30 years was approximately four to five times that for their white counterparts. PRMRs for black and AI/AN women with at least some college education were higher than those for all other racial/ethnic groups with less than a high school diploma. Among state PRMR tertiles, the PRMRs for black and AI/AN women were 2.8-3.3 and 1.7-3.3 times as high, respectively, as those for non-Hispanic white (white) women." www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/68/wr/mm6835a3.htm?s_cid=mm6835a3_w
You are telling my exact story. It's very scary but also comforting. I'm on an insane amount of medication because I was/am losing bone density too soon. I'm now 35 years old and am on my meds for 2 1/2 years now. The diffrerence in the way I feel physically and mentally is staggering. I've also never wanted to have my own children (I got 28 in my class, that's enough for me), so the "disasterrous" news all the doctors told me, were not that bad. My thyroid (the brain of our hormone system) is being destroced by my immune system and it causes my ovarian disfuntion - and it too started around the age of 28. Tip: Ask for bloodwork on Vit D3, Estrogen, Testosterone, Triiodthyronin (T3) and Thyroxin (Tetraiodthyronin, T4). The results schould be telling. Get an appointment at an endocrinologist and a OB/GYN and make them share the results with each other. Also, if your health provider does not listen to you, make them sign unter a statement that they were unwilling to treat you/investigate your problems. You'll be suprised by their change of motivation. Even here in Germany under universal healthcare, us weird cases have to be more active in the pursuit of proper health care.
Bean Sprouts saw you in notifs, went through same thing so ill answer as well, hair loss, sluggishness, wrinkles, boobs start sagging, NO PERIOD FOR A LONG TIME, voice gets a lil deeper, joints hurt, cant sing as well stuff like that
It’s so frustrating how so many medical professionals didn’t listen to you. Also that they wouldn’t even run a damn test. When I was curious about what was causing my joint pain, I asked my doctor if he could run a few blood tests. He stated it wasn’t necessary...so I asked that he put our conversation (including his unwillingness to run the tests) in his notes. He ran the tests. I only did that because I read that it worked for another woman, so just something to note in case you need your doctor to listen to you.
Yas! To no periods. I love her spirit. I’m so glad she didn’t let this break her and that she has found the bright side of a horrible situation. Thx for getting the word out about this. There needs to be more education on the female body even if it’s simply “this is what happened to me”.
My Chinese-Filipina aunt was lucky. She found a person to have children with...at 44. She already had three children with her first husband. She had twin boy and girl back in 2012 at the age of 49...
Thank you for sharing something we don't really hear or talk about. I think I'm going through this now. Years ago I told my doctor my symptoms and asked to be tested, but she pushed my concerns aside and told me I was just stressed. Now more symptoms are popping up, and though I said I didn't want kids in order to stop being pressured to have them, I knew that the final decision was mine. Now, it may not be and that scares me. Now I'm almost 29. I'm currently on my period, but recently experiencing terrible night sweats that never occurred when I was younger. This has been on my mind for days now, and waking up to this video feels like a cruel joke. Ugh. I need a drink.
B.Sam69 Organic Raw Maca Root by Superfoods by MSM a pinch or two in juice helped with my night sweats & burdock root tea helped with my other symptoms. Blessings.
I had 3 coworkers who were obviously going through menopause, but had no idea what was going on with them. One of these women was in her 60’s and two were about 50. One day I was talking about my PCOS, and all of them decided they must have suddenly come down with PCOS. I tried to explain it’s something they would have been dealing with their whole lives. I think they were so afraid of the social stigma around menopause that they just wouldn’t even humor the thought. I made the mistake of suggesting to one of them that it was menopause. I thought she was going to set me on fire. She flipped out almost cried and told me that she couldn’t be going through that because she was too young (50) and she had never taken birth control (what?) So never do what I did unless you know the person super well, and know you aren’t going to hurt their feelings.
I just found out that I’m premenopausal two months ago at the IVF clinic and I’m only 32. It hit me like a brick wall. The last month, I struggled with depression and I hated my body because I felt betrayed. Finally, I have been able to accept my diagnosis but still hurts when I see my friends pregnant. I have switched doctors and I’m hoping that she will be willing to do egg retrieval
This is infuriating. I went through something similar, and my doctor actually said the words “no one understands hormones”. Women’s health care is draconian. Doctors only care about treating pregnant women. The rest of the time we can just suffer. We should all be furious.
I’m so disgusted by the bias against Black women from the medical community. These doctors didn’t even attempt to analyze your claims and if you wanted to pursue options related to maintaining your fertility, this would be a simple request. Unfortunately Black women have had to live with pain because of the thought that we are built to handle such & we have had to for this reason! Makes me so upset!
At 36 I developed hot flashes, insomnia and anxiety out of nowhere. When I told my dr that I think I might be going through menopause. She said no and passed me off tha psychiatrist for meds. Several months later my psychiatrist had blood work done for me. That confirmed I was going through menopause. Please if your having any symptoms. Demand that your gynecologist do blood work that includes estrogen, fsh, progesterone and testosterone.
It's been 3 months since this video and I still think about Lydia's medical experience all the time. Did she ever get the help she needed? I hope she is ok. Sending love.
I'm just coming back to this video since filming it and I'm so, so shocked by all of the concerned, supportive comments. I'm STILL trying to get the proper care that I need, but I'm not giving up. I'm talking a little about my current health issues on my channel. I really, really appreciate your kind words, Erin!
Blessing My mom is 101 years young. She is full of Grace; She shares that Nature Power of the Earth is your Healing Spirit. She said keep your ovaries and rub your abdomen Daily with warm water packs, castor oil with cheesecloth.
Things like this are why we need more black doctors. Too many of us black women go to the doctor and are turned away or dismissed. We're 3x more likely to die during pregnancies and experience complications it's scary
@@LittleLaanekas with all due respect, this video wasn't about white women, and neither was my comment. Yes, women are often dismissed with issues because of medical and social biases that women are emotional and we're being overreactive. Even down to the social class. But add in being black,fat, and a woman, and for some that's a deadly trifecta. Look up black maternal mortality rates. Please stop trying to derail conversations that aren't about you and instead respect them. Black women already talked over and dismissed enough as it is, let us be heard.
Wow sis you’re strong! But I feel you when it comes to medical professionals dismissing you! Especially when you are young and black; for years ( I’m 19 now) I would complain about horrible joint and bone pain as well as fatigue and every doctor I would go to would just say I’m too young to feel like that, and write me off as a depressed teen! But finally I went to a rheumatologist and got diagnosed at 18 with fibromyalgia; so yes sis I feel you!!!
The fact that women are being denied medical help because OBGYNs or other doctors don't take their concerns seriously, is a huge issue. I got severe depression from my birth control. Severe to the point that I sought the help of a psychiatrist because I was afraid of myself. We went through some therapy sessions and after four or five sessions she told me that she was sure I had severe depression but that she couldn't pinpoint any psychological reasons for it. She advised me to get a load of blood work done to make sure my thyroid was alright and had me check other hormones and stuff like that. Everything came back normal so she told me to go to my OBGYN and discuss a change of my birth control. By that point I had done some research myself and came across studies that showed that combined birth control (a pill that has two kinds of hormones) can cause depression, anxiety, psychosis and other psychological issues. So I went into the appointment with my OBGYN, told her about my symptoms and what I had tried so far and that my psychiatrist had suggested a change of birth control. She very unhappily put me on another prescription that over the course of 4 months made things even worse. So, being sure that it had to be my birth control, I went back, told her about it and all I got from her was 'well what am I supposed to do now?' I gazed at her, completely baffled and left her office five minutes later, never to return again. Changed my OBGYN the same day, told the new doctor what I was going through, she changed my prescription to an estrogen free pill and I'm a million times better now. Listen to your body. And if you feel like your doctor is not taking you seriously, see another doctor.
What is the estrogen free pill? I suspect that the symptoms I’ve been dealing with for 2 months are coming from a fibroid/s and have a feeling the gynecologist will put me on birth control
@@higherlearning99 usually, the standard hormonal birth control has estrogen and progestin. Many women don't do well on estrogen. It affects the mood, weight, hair, skin, digestive system, emotions, everything. Some women can handle it better than others. An estrogen free pill only contains progestin. It's about as effective as the ones with both hormones, but doesn't give you the mean side-effects of estrogen. Estrogen also increases women's risk for heart attacks, strokes, thrombosis and different kinds of cancer. Progestin doesn't. So for me, it's the better option.
I feel so bad for her. My mom is currently experiencing some of the symptoms of menopause, but she’s nearing 50. This poor girl was so young. I’m happy that she did research what was happening to her since she was dismissed. I was dismissed as a young teen for severe joint pain and stiffness, underdevelopment, hair loss and severe stomach pain once in a while. I never went back to the doctors. Sorry.
She didnt want children so she doesnt have to worry about accidentally getting pregnant. Also no periods so no blood, no cramps, no spending money on products.
Being black and and having medical issues is a problem we are always being brushed off or dismissed. I was in pain for years from fibroids but it wasn't until I got pregnant they discovered them. Up until then I was told I had acid reflux.. Kept being sent to a gastro for 2 years
I have been brushed off by doctors, told I was making it up, and misdiagnosed since I was a child until I was finally diagnosed with a genetic condition at 18. I feel your pain my heart goes out to her.
Kinda freaked out about this. Just yesterday i was telling my friend that I think I'm going through this and today here is this video and she's the same age as me 😳 i need to go to the OBGYN asap!
Get your FSH levels checked, it's the hormone that's usually checked for menopause and it's what tipped my doctor off when I was having issues. (I went through menopause in my late 20s)
My story is very similar to yours. I've just got home from the hospital today and told I need to start HRT in 3 days. Its taken me almost 3 years and 5 different doctors to get to this point because nobody has taken me seriously. I was told in 2020 by a doctor I was probably going through the menopause and if I didn't want kids then don't worry about it. No advice, no further tests or referrals. 3 menopause tests later, I was finally referred. Had to wait almost a year for this appointment today and they're now saying I need to go for a bone scan because of the symptoms I've described. I'm so angry with my original doctor. If she had referred me 2 years ago I may not be in this position. Feeling quite overwhelmed at the moment with all the information. But totally agree... no periods is definitely the silver lining!!
Thanks for making this. I’m 33 and had to go on BHRT. I always been a athletic female and healthy lifestyle and then Bam! All the signs of something wrong with me hit me in my late 20s. It took so long to get real help. It is upsetting that so many doctors are horrible and don’t take young people seriously. Some doctors in my opinion need to get re-educated on something called Life.
I have been further disabled by doctors here in Portland & their feelings or misinformation about p.o.c. & African american women in general & also ignorance so I'm sorry she was ignored so long
I feel like doctors are more quick to dismiss women in general. At 16 I was having HUGE amounts of pain in my upper abdomen, it would wake me up out of a sound sleep and last for hours, I also had problems keeping food/liquid down and was losing a lot of weight. I went to the ER one afternoon because my mother (who is an RN) was thinking it could be issues with my gallbladder (even though I didn't really fit the "text book" criteria for it). I had a MALE pediatric doctor tell me that I was just emotionally distraught and I needed to calm down (mind you I'm sitting there with a basin because I'm super nauseous, and I've got an IV in my arm to replace all the fluids I lost from puking. This went on for an entire YEAR before my family doctor (who was wonderful throughout the whole thing) requested a test that finally revealed that it was my gallbladder. While all this was going on I also was dealing with a doctor who was treating me for some reproductive health issues, I went to her complaining of horrible cramps and extreme nausea/vomiting with my periods. She told me I just had "bad periods" (she didn't know what was wrong with me, but she didn't SAY she didn't know what was wrong) so she put me on birth control (at 16 years of age) that made me SUPER depressed. Years later I found out I had endometriosis. Moral of the story......unfortunately a lot of doctors won't give women the time of day when they come in with symptoms because they think we're "overreacting". So make sure you put effort into finding the right doctor who cares about their patients and won't discriminate against gender (or anything else).
same with the endo for me! Woke up in middle of night multipule time dry heaving/puking in extreme pain. Had 3 5 in cysts outside of ovaries i needed surgery for! Luckily I just flat out told my doctor to do a ultrasound or ct scan right now. was super lucky they caved. at first my doc said it was ibs.....um I think not test me now
Same for the endometriosis for me. Took me 10 years to find someone who actually wanted to help and see what was wrong. But it was so severe from not eating or drinking for 3 days to severe pain in curled up in a ball to being so nausea I ended up having my uterus removed. My last doctor before the one that helped me just said I was fat and to lose weight to help the pain and nausea. Almost 5 months since the surgery and it was the best decision I have made. I now can do normal activities again
Anna Meyers I honestly don’t think has anything to do with gender because there’s a lot of guys that have told me that they don’t get taken seriously either and that’s why many men don’t like to go to doctors because one of pride and not taken seriously doctors just want you to visit so they can get paid
That’s so disheartening that you went to three different doctors, knowing that you had a problem and none of them listened! As a black woman to hear that doesn’t give me much faith in the healthcare system. #sorrynotsorry
Me either, and I'm certain those were all white doctors. For this reason, I intentionally seek out doctors of color, preferably also female. I feel more comfortable with them and there is FAR less bias with them, if any.
It’s so mading going to the doctor and tell him what is happening to you. They all are like that get a woman problem or it all in your head. That’s what all five cardiologist said to me, it was intell a drove two hours way from home I found the best cardiologist ever dr.Cuculich! He is so careing and listens figured out I have pots syndrome.
I feel awful that you've been dismissed by so many doctors. I am happy yours being proactive on research and teaching people on this platform. Thank you for standing up.
Thank you for sharing your story. I had an emergency, radical hysterectomy and double oophorectomy when I was 24 years old. I was bleeding to death from my menstrual cycle. I had bled for over 4 years straight due to fibroids, like you, I was misdiagnosed and not listened to by doctors. I was not fully informed of the medical consequences that I would endure for the rest of my life: slower metabolism, high risk of osteoporosis, skin changes, libido changes, and etc. I am nearly 50 years old. I went through a time of grieving because I wanted more children. I wish someone would have listened sooner! I hope your willingness to share your story will help others.
My first obgyn chalked my missing periods up to stress, which was understandable because I was (still am) going through an extremely stressful part of my life. But this year I hadn't had a period at all and I told a different doctor about it. After doing tests they concluded I'd reached menopause at age 38. They referred me to a specialist and I was able to get an appointment 3 months from now. Gotta love the healthcare system in the US.
I just got diagnosed with premature ovarian failure at 25. It’s was heartbreaking and still dealing with it now emotionally and all the medical visits.
It's a scary fact that doctors don't take their patients seriously sometimes. People are left undiagnosed and suffer because of this. To the doctors, people get sick that's why you have a use of your education. U r not God. U don't know everything. Your profession requires constant research and updates. Update yourself and be respectful. 😤
Omg! This is my experience. I was not 28 but 38 and I was ignored and disregarded. I experienced so much of this and am still looking for a doctor myself. Taking supplements and now working out. Trying to read and take care of myself. I have one child and I'm ok with that.
I’m going through the same at 38, all I can say is stay informed through the internet & always find a GREAT health food store that offers intelligent advice!
I am proud of you for figuring out what is going on with your body and beating back the doubt that may have surfaced due to the “professional” guidance you received. I can write about similar experiences of dismissal in the medical community as others attest to, but the lesson for me is to really work hard at knowing your own body. I am encouraged.
I've been told I'll start in a few years as well, and I'm 30. Thanks for sharing! I DO want children, so it was hard to hear while looking into fertility stuff that it was highly unlikely as I've got premature ovarian failure (very few eggs)..however BAM I am in fact pregnant haha it's like the women who have babies right as menopause is starting and their bodies give it one final go..got really lucky! I will still have choices to make in the coming years though, regarding hrt...also I'm not in good shape to start with so I'm worried about that!
I wasn’t taken seriously as a patient by white physicians. When you’re already in pain or anxious, being dismissed by these “doctors” make medical treatment torturous. I’m so sorry to hear about your experience.
Last year my husband and I were looking into getting pregnant. I went to the gynaecologist to get a pap test and just make sure everything was ok before we tried. I told the doctor that I hadn't had a period for a few months and she wanted to check a few things but told me not to worry. I came for a follow up appointment with the mindset that everything was OK but instead received the diagnosis of Premature Ovarian Failure (POF). I was told that I would never have biological children and we may never know the cause of why this happened. After handing me a pamphlet on egg donation, she said that I could still have kids for the small price of $75,000 and sent me on my way home. I was in utter shock and devastated. My dream of becoming a mother was shattered. Now 5 months later, I am looking into egg donation and slowly coming to terms that I will still have kids but not in a traditional way. Not many women under 30 are diagnosed with premature menopause which is why it's very hard to find others to talk with. This video couldn't have came a better time for me. It's great to hear someone else's experience and how they came to terms with it.
Idk if you're into this stuff, but theres books by "the gallery of magick" is Solomon magick. I mean, if you still have your uterus and stuff, its possible. Just thought I'd tell you that. Best of luck.
Why can't we just be left alone. Also I'm with her on the periods when you have been heavy bleeding since 10 you get over that bs kids or not. I don't want any. Who needs ovaries. You can have mine
There are a lot of things that can cause you to not have your period.... I didn't have mine for 3 years when I finally asked my gynecologist about that... also had very heavy and irregular periods when I was younger....I'm 29 now and let me tell you, when they gave me some meds to restart my hormones when I was 28 it came back two times but then it stopped again. I had and still have flashes of heat, insomnia and sometimes I'm sweaty during the night and wake up with my t-shirt all wet on my back and collar and still I don't have my menopause yet.... please consult with another doctor because if you are not diagnosed you can't be sure...
let me also add that I'm very irresponsible and refuse to take my meds because it caused very bad hormonal acne on my face and I somehow enjoy not having my period anymore... so yeah
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Ugh that's terrible. Medical professionals should never be dismissive. It sucks that so many people have this experience 😔
There are doctors
Marcia Osullivan ???
@@sicc9893 generally the doctor is right to dismiss people as they have been trained and you probably are overacting clearly not all the time.
Marcia Osullivan Doctors don’t know everything and frankly some are only in it for the $ so if you KNOW somethings wrong, press the issue.
Yeah mostly to black women
For goodness sake, can we get this woman a freaking doctor to diagnose her? Seriously this is unacceptable.
Serena couldn't get a doctor to believe her. If you ever need proof that black women bodies, minds, spirits do not exist, then go to a doctor's appointment with them or, if you have the stomach, the ER.
JF this is true. This is why I only see black doctors and so does my family... because we’re always brushed off or judged.
It happens, especially to black women. Sad but true
@@dianadagoddess3979 interesting
You know it's so crazy how dismissive doctors can be when something is wrong.
Hearing stories like this encourages me even more to continue my studies towards becoming a ob/gyn. As a young black woman we are not advocated or heard enough.
Yes please we need you
Very true! It’s a statistic! Never give up on your goal, we need more doctors like you who will listen to EVERYONE!
That’s true but it applies to all races, not only black
@@isiimam1562 Why did you feel the need to "all lives matter" someone saying that black women aren't advocated for or heard enough? By now, it's a well-established fact that black women are treated differently by medical professionals than other races of women. Heck. Congress has even taken an interest in the maternal mortality rate of African African women. Be part of thes solution and not the problem.
@@angeljohnson234 I agree that in general black women are pushed away in many instances, however i feel that in Lydia's case if she was white she still would've struggled in the same aspect
Tip for people who have dismissive doctors: ask your doctor to document their lack of treatment and/or testing. They will usually do a 180 real fast. And if your doctor is like that and they work under a practice that isn’t their own, complain to their higher ups. And always do a get to know you consultation before selecting them as a doctor. This is coming from a CNA (and nursing student) that works in women and infants services at a hospital.
What if they refuse to document it?
Ask to speak to the clinical director. Getting HR and the doctor’s bosses involved will motivate some help. And get evidence of your appointment. The doctors are required by law to document your visit and complaint. It will already be implied they didn’t help but that last push of telling them to full on admit lack of care and treatment usually helps get things going. Hope that helps.
Alex Larson thank you for letting us know this
What do you ask for? A letter stating what and why they are refusing a certain treatment?
Thank you
They say don't google your symptoms but very often I feel like that's what you need to do to help yourself.
True. There are people that catch things looong before their doctors because they do that. How is someone who sees you for 10-15min a few times a year at most supposed to catch everything?? More people should be their own first line of defense instead of deferring to someone else. Don't be a hypochondriac, but it's your health your responsibility
True. Google isn’t gospel but it’s a perfect place to start
@@sandrallewellyn2632 you're supposed to see a doctor a few times a year?? I see one like once every 5 years...
@@naritruwireve1381 well it depends but I know you're "supposed" to see the dentist at least 2X annually and get a physical annually from your PCP and gynecologist(if it applies), but if you get sick or have a condition then yeah, it's not uncommon to go up to a few times a year. I personally wish I could still get away with 1ce every 5yrs lol
@@sandrallewellyn2632 I mean, I've got a bunch of stuff wrong with me (5 things I can list off the top of my head), but I'm not immediately dying, so my parents brush it off and I'm just like _ok then... 1 visit per 5 years it is_
We women have to go thru so much! Also I hate when doctors don’t believe you or want to help you.
Tiffany I know! Why do vaginas have to make things so complicated? 😂
And she's having to deal with being Black on top of it, which complicates that further and creates more bias.
@@Diva380 jesus the victim complex is strong here
@@Diva380 Very true. It's heartwrenching...
@@Tom-wr6mq Did you not watch the video? And this happens to women (especially women of colour) all the time. Get off your high horse, please and try to be compassionate for a second.
I think the medical community doesn’t take young women seriously when it comes to our concerns especially when they think we are too young for some conditions. I was misdiagnosed and honestly dismissed with my kidney and liver disease because I am at a healthy weight and my age. I finally got help 4 years after the fact
I agree with this I've been dismissed so often by doctors. I had to navigate infertility practically on my own, probably caused by PCOS which my doctor agrees with but hasn't tested or done anything with.
I had another doctor insist my daughter was in position and I was dismissed when I told her I didn't think she was. My fundus height was shrinking and I insisted on another ultrasound. Not only was she breech but she was failing to thrive because my blood flow from the placenta had started to decrease. I had to have an emergency c-section at 37weeks and she was only 4lbs. I'm so glad I advocated for us and insisted something wasn't right.
I'm not black but I have dealt with dismissive doctors
@Becky Goodhair actually it has happened to A LOT of women. Where they are dismissed and not taken seriously by Doctors. Especially if you're black. There have been countless stories where women have died because doctors refused to take them seriously. And this is happening everyday
@Becky Goodhair I'm majoring in public health and there is statistical evidence that black women have lower health outcomes because of dismissal by health practitioners. Because of this, they also have the highest fatality rates and infant mortality rates during childbirth in comparison to other races.
@Becky Goodhair Yup. Here's one: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3244674/ and here's another www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6167003/
Becky Goodhair from the second source: “pregnancy-related morbidity and mortality also disproportionately affect African American women. In 2013, CDC reported that the preterm rate for black infants was ~60% higher than for white infants (17% and 10.8% respectively).”
I feel bad for her that she didn’t get the care she needed.
This woman is an absolute goddess.
vicki may she truly is.
“but the plus side is I DONT HAVE A PERIOD NO MORE” i love that ending
I would absolutely love that
Me too.
Lol..I was like "Okay show off!" ...Just tried to count how many years I have left.
Depending on what medication you get given you may still have to have a period every so often in order to keep your womb healthy.
I think all medical professionals that see young women that say they’re going through weird things never want to do test because they think it’s all a lie. I’m 19 and started being on birth control at 15. I was having my period for 5 years by 15. After i started the birth control, I got weird discharge all the time. I never told my mom about it until nearly a year later. They did a test and it was a yeast infection. Then, a month or two later, another came back, and didn’t go away until I saw the doctors again. I was experiencing consist yeast infections that wouldn’t go away and stay away, even with medication. I just realized a couple months ago that I think it was because of my birth control after looking into the high estrogen levels and how the yeast infections only started occurring after I started on birth control. My doctor didn’t believe me and said she thought I have type 2 diabetes. I don’t have freaking type two diabetes. She made me get a blood test anyways, and of course it was negative for that. So I said again, I think it’s my birth control. Took her 6 months to believe me and she finally changed my birth control. This was in December. Now, I still have another yeast infection that’s been going on for about a month and a half, which I started my birth control in December. So it’ll take a few more months until it works properly and my body adjusts to the new hormones. LEMME TELL YOU- these medical professionals never listen to young women experiencing problems with “lady only” stuff like period problems and pregnancy. This is a common issue against women, even by female doctors because they don’t have the same experience and all female bodies are so drastically different
And it's not even with periods. One of my friends wants a breast reduction but none of the doctors she's been to will do it, or they say wait several years then come back (she's 21).
cowlufoo2 yeah! Anything with female stuff isn’t taken seriously. I had a friend who has severe back problems because of how massive her boobs are. And they won’t let her get a reduction either 😠
Oh my gosh, I think I’ve been experiencing the same thing, every single cycle I experience yeast infection type symptoms and it only started with my birth control. I wonder if switching birth control would help??
Pretty disgusting and ignorant that she tried to make it a race thing. All that's doing is hurting her own people. Tasteless.
@@ts1331ts And my mom has endometriosis, fibromyalgia, and other health problems, but (female) doctors and gynecologists have told her that her pain isn't real.
Mine started with hot flashes and hair loss. I also hadn't gotten my period in a few months. The first two doctors I went to only did a thyroid test, insistent that it was my thyroid. Guess what? Thyroid is perfectly healthy.
Finally, I went to my OB and DEMANDED a full hormone panel. Sure enough, my Follicle Stimulating Hormone (FSH) value was 115.3 mIU/mL. My diagnosis - Primary ovarian insufficiency (POI), also known as premature ovarian failure.
I suppose the moral of my story is that Doctors are not Gods. You have got to advocate for yourself. Demand the kind of treatment you want and expect. Period. ✌🏼
Electronica4Life oh gosh I forgot about the hair loss. That sure does happen too. I went through a time when my hair was shedding a lot 😟
@Rachel Forshee I was just diagnosed on 02/10/20, and I am 30. 😕
Omg I have this too! Diagnosed at around 28.
Electronica4Life I wish I’d had read your words years ago. Had to learn this the hard way.
I was diagnosed at 28 but my experience was much better than the woman in the video. My gyno was very kind and hugged me when I cried. I think she did a better job than when I went to Columbia University Medical center. All that doctor told me was they don't know what causes it and my Vitamin D levels are low. I was like of course it's winter time smh. The first doctor was awesome!
They didnt believe my moms pain either. For a year she was in pain until they figured out she had crohn's.
Blessings to your mother
I also have Crohn's disease
Sending love to my spoonie sister 🙏🏿👑💜
Anointiyae Beasley women’s pain is overwhelmingly dismissed by the medical community. It’s a horrible, systemic issue that we have to keep pressure on the medical community to take us seriously!!! Bless your Mom.
My mother has Crohn's disease too, I feel so sorry for anyone who has it and has to put up with it. Serious respect to those who have it, keep strong.
Same but for my mom she was later diagnosed with endometriosis. 😞
On a side note - it's so wonderful to hear another woman say she really, really doesn't want kids!
Luckily she doesn't want one. I think it is really unfortunate when women who don't want kids get pregnant and have to abort or those kids get into orphanages and Women who do want children have trouble getting pregnant. Things like that make the world seem unfair.
Completely agree, Charlotte!
Right. I don't understand why it's so hard for people to believe that there are women who just don't want children. Like it's not a requirement smh. It's so annoying.
I love it too! Too bad this comment section is full of women saying that she is suppressing her "natural biological desires" to have kids. Maybe she just simply... doesn't want kids?
We are out there! Lots of us don't want kids. :)
The treatment this woman received makes me so angry. But I completely believe it, as a woman, going to the Dr it can be so frustrating!
Drop the doctor's names so we know who not to go to
Not sure if she should do that for legal reasons 😅
@@believeinhope1 People do it all the time though xp there are even some websites where ppl rank doctors and leave comments if they are happy with the visit or not. I hope she did at least that.
Ive been to several doctors and this happens too often
believeinhope1 yeah rite I would drop the addy real quick
brea66 and their addresses. I just wanna talk
As a future health care provider I’m thankful for your story, it is infuriating that you were ignored by people that are trained to help you.
If your doctor doesn't believe you find a new keep finding new ones until someone does because your health is important
This, and I would tell her to find doctors of color, preferably also women, to remove some (if not ALL) of that bias. More likely to be heard that way.
@@Diva380 I was going to say that. I automatically look for a black woman to treat myself and my child.
That’s fine, unless you’re an American and have a significant co pay with every doctor visit. She shouldn’t have to take time off work and pay multiple fees just to find someone who believes her. More doctors should listen to patients and take their concerns seriously.
@@ourtubesocks Also true. But since we know white medical professionals won't do it anytime soon, that's why I suggested paring it down to medical professionals of color (preferably Black) who are women. I know that's not easy either, of course. But it's worth a shot for her health.
Diva380 I don’t think it’s right to say that “white medical professionals” won’t help her. Bad medical professionals won’t help her, regardless of race. Yes, many of those might be white, but there are also great white doctors and terrible doctors of color. I don’t think it has to do with your race so much as your skill and personality.
I've had my own issues with doctors not believing me, they should really be ashamed of themselves.
In the old days they'd just call it hysteria - it's built into the profession.
Also many medical students when quizzed believe that black people have a higher pain threshold so they don't feel the need to take it into consideration.
Fun group.
For me it was more not taking my choices seriously. I know how annoying it is
Mama Dr Jones needs to hear her story, my heart is broken. So hard, may you find peace and a helpful OB/GYN.
Slice of Joy, I love her!
Yes! I thought the same thing! Absolutely love her!
Because my periods where never on time during my teenage years, I also thought that that's just my body. Then at 20 I stopped getting monthly periods. They'd happen every few months. Then they stopped. It took two years for me to be diagnosed with a pituitary tumor. I'm now 28 and have had regular cycles because I'm taking medication to treat the tumor. But now I'm experiencing endometriosis and that's another struggle!
i’ll be praying for you and your health!! 🤍
i’ll be praying for you and your health!! 🤍
hope you get well soon
kellie At around 18, I was also diagnosed with have the pituitary tumor. It didn’t take long for me to be diagnosed after the symptoms started, simply because I had already been going to an endocrinologist because of other hormone problems. Have been taking the medication for five years now, and I’m probably on my last few months of it! The tumor has greatly reduced in size and everything seems to be in control. :)
kellie Did you ever try BC? Mine have always been extremely irregular but BC has really helped with them. I’m curious to see what would happen if I went off of it. It’s been about 3 years now.
One of the fact cards says "such as when both ovaries are removed in a hysterectomy"
Please stop spreading this misconception! A hysterectomy has nothing to do with the ovaries. A hysterectomy refers to the removal of the uterus, in its entirety (total hysterectomy), or above the cervix (supracervical hysterectomy, partial hysterectomy) with or without surrounding connective tissues (radical hysterectomy)
I've had a total hysterectomy with bilateral salpingectomy sans oophorectomy. I still have my ovaries but I have to explicitly tell people this because they hear "hysterectomy" and assume I have no ovaries.
It's like confusing the vulva with the vagina. I understand why people say it, it's slang, but it can cause confusion and problems when you're trying to educate people.
Having your ovaries removed is an oophorectomy. Having your fallopian tubes removed is a salpingectomy, and having part of the vaginal canal cut out is a partial vaginectomy.
You can have a combination of these surgeries. For example, having your uterus and ovaries removed would be an oopho-hysterectomy.
THIS 👏👏👏
Thank you !!
You can have a type of hysterectomy where they remove your ovaries too. So they are not totally wrong. Of course they can also be removed alone without touching the uterus
@@ketnetty you're referring to an oopho-hysterectomy, it's not a hysterectomy, it's a word used to describe two surgical procedures, a hysterectomy and an oophorectomy performed at the same time.
The word hysterectomy comes from the Greek, Hysta, meaning womb, and ectomy, meaning "to cut out". A hysterectomy doesn't involve the ovaries. If you have both the ovaries and uterus removed during a surgery, it's an "oophorectomy and hysterectomy", sometimes called oopho-hysterectomy for short. It's not a "type of hysterectomy" the same way "partial" and "total" are types of hysterectomy. An oopho-hysterectomy is the name given to TWO procedures, one being a hysterectomy.
It's like if you get a tummy tuck and a breast augmentation done at the same time. You wouldn't say "some tummy tucks involve getting breast implants" it's two different procedures.
Went to an ob/gyn yesterday and the woman taking notes and asking questions never heard of a Salpingectomy...had to spell it for her, too. When i told her i also had a hysterosalpingogram done to view my pelvic ogans, that, too, she's never heard of nor could she spell it.
This scares me a lot as someone who wants to have kids in my late 20s.
Jessica Anne don’t worry , it’s pretty rare . When they said 5 per cent they didn’t mean at 28 . At 28 must be closer to 0,1 per cent .
Don’t borrow trouble that isn’t yours.
Same
Same because I have irregular periods and the symptomes they showed for people at risk of having it. I always felt like there was something off about me in that domaine
How do you control when you want to have children?! Do you have a partner already or are you going my route (Sperm Bank)?!
Lydia is an absolute ray of sunshine! So much grace, poise, and eloquence. It breaks my heart when women are not taken seriously by the medical profession, particularly when they are young and Black. This just reaffirms my passion to one day become a Women's Health Nurse Practitioner so I can be of service to women who need vital access to quality healthcare. No one should ever be made to feel as if their voice isn't being heard by their healthcare provider!
Find a good endocrinologist and have them run your needed blood tests. They deal with this sort of thing exclusively whereas an OB/GYN does not.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure at 30. I am African American. I stopped having a period at 16 and was put on birth control to "regulate my periods." This probably masked my menopause symptoms. I don't share it with anyone because it embarrasses me that I will never have children and don't know how to explain it. I struggle with dating because I don't know how or when to talk about something like this. Also, people don't really believe me. I get the "you dont really know that, could get pregnant one day" as though I would make something like this up.
I was put on hormone replacement therapy and will be on it until I'm 50. Find a good doctor, this will help combat osteoporosis, your higher risk of breast cancer, and menopause symptoms.
Again, thank you for sharing.
Doesn't HRT have high risk breast cancer?
Am in menopause and am so so scared of starting HRT
Wow
Your so strong, thank you for sharing ❤
I'm 30, not wealthy and not lucky in love. I want kids, and I want a family, no one wants to be alone. But. I don't want to bring a child into this world by myself, especially if I can't support them. I work a job in customer service and I often see alot of mothers and younger teen mothers, it's hard. Because I feel like my door is closing, which is silly cause I'm pro-adoption. But my point is this: Just knowing that there's other women out there who are talking about this subject or dealing but successfully living full lives without kids, gives me so much hope. It makes me feel like I'm not being totally stupid for having concerns or for what I think my future most likely will lead. It makes me feel so much better, so thanks for sharing! Thankyou so much!
I began going through menopause at 21.
I am not diagnosed but I KNOW this has to be what is happening!
No one will help me.
The wild part is that this is the only person I’ve ever heard have this issue! Every symptom she spoke on are symptoms I have experienced!
Thank you for sharing this!
If you need some support, or just to feel like you're not alone, there's a Facebook group for people with premature menopause called Women Supporting Women: premature ovarian failure & insufficiency POF/POI
Cameron Georgette I took, "Superfoods by MRM Raw Organic Maca Root Powder" like a pinch or 2 to start in the mornings w lemonade everyday and this helped me w the hot flashes. Burdock root tea also helps with other symptoms. Not all powders, herbs are created equal and will not work if its not organic and of good quality. Blessings.
Cameron Georgette sending you love
Doctors needs to stop being dismissive especially if the doctor is male and the patient is female! IT IS SO ANNOYING OMG! 😡🤦🏻♀️
There are doctors you are not
@@marciaosullivan3200 What exactly are you trying to say...? Of course there are doctors, how do you know if either of the other commentors are doctors?
@@lightningbug3189 I doubt everyone one liking a comment suggesting doctors don't know whats a big deal or not are doctors
@@marciaosullivan3200 There are exactly 2 other people on this thread. My question was how do you personally know whether either of them are doctors? I said nothing about likes.
@@marciaosullivan3200 Also, this is about being dismissive of patient concerns and real symptoms. I think almost everyone knows at least one person who was misdiagnosed or dismissed when a treatable medical condition was present. I have also been to dismissive doctors and doctors who do want to solve things. Do I trust a doctor's expertise? Yes, they are supposed to know things I do not. Can they lose that trust? Yes, just like any other professional.
Thank you so much! I’m 38 and have so many of the same symptoms! Even extra weight around my midsection not matter what I eat or do...docs won’t even listen to me at 38! So thank you for bringing awareness to this problem and what we need to do to help ourselves when the healthcare industry fails us. Thank you so much!!!!
Centrifugal Muse Raw Organic Maca Root helped me level out hormones and with hot flashes. Burdock root tea helped me with the other symptoms and I too couldn't loose weight no matter how much I exercised until I started drinking the tea. LOL Ppl thought I was working out. But in reality it was a combo of healthy eating, sleeping and the burdock root tea..a few times a month of exercising is not enough or consistent for me but they thought I was working out like Consistently. Good luck!
-- thank you so much! I’ve tried maca and dim with bioperenine. I’ve never heard of burdock root and I will definitely try it! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! 🤗
Centrifugal Muse Np. Yes, I also realized taking oneself out of a toxic environment and/or toxic individual(s) also prevents from our cells to renew and get us better. Now that I have that stress burden off my shoulders..I also feel better, less stressed out and, therefore, able to sleep better at nite.
I went through menopause at 15, I was so lucky to have an awesome dr who sent me for the tests I needed and discovered it straight away. I was diagnosed with osteoporosis by the time I was 20 and HRT has really helped me to feel more normal :)
Jacinta Sherlock when did you get your period? If you don’t mind me asking?
Brianna Peterson I got my first period when I was 13 and I don’t mind :)
Jacinta Sherlock did you want any children ?
natalie lara i was 15 at the time so it wasn’t really something I had considered. I thought maybe one day if it happened but that’s about it. I’m 26 now and I’ve obviously accepted that I can’t have children, but if my partner and I decide we want kids down the track we have discussed adoption:)
Shammy M I wish it wasnt
Can you guys do a video on the stigma of black women being treated in the medical field
ssaliormoon15 🙄🙄
As one... i have been deeply affected by the stigma of being black. Doctors don’t say that but how they will treat you. Example. I should of been at a pain clinic three years ago for DDD. A disease that I didn’t know i suffered till i got to the pain clinic. I suffered a injury at work that pushed this into high gear. My workers COMPensation doctor and primary are woman from minority groups. Yet they didn’t do manual labor, their doctors. This Friday is my implantion for my back stimulator. I’ve been delayed once already...
Yes!
You should read Medical Apartheid by Harriet A. Washington.
ruclips.net/video/TATSAHJKRd8/видео.html
In the meantime, this is a great video for that topic! :)
Keep searching until you find a doctor that listens. This is so important. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for making this video. I started going through menopause at 17. I’ve been going through hormone replacement for about 2 years now. It’s really comforting to hear that this happens to other people too
She is so well spoken. She did research and looked into it herself. She should not have had to. Why do doctors not take people seriously when they are saying they are having issues. Its happened to me around 19/20 years old. I was having eye pain and not a single doctor believed me. Took so many tries and finally someone did the test and examined me and saw I had glaucoma. Not everyone with glaucoma can feel their pressure and I could. So those doctors before me just blew it off. So hard to find a doctor anymore that actually cares and wants to help.
Well spoken....is she supposed to beat box?
I hope Lydia contacts Mama Doctor Jones so that she can help direct her to some reliable doctors, or at least that the offer makes its way to her so she knows it's on the table. Hearing how dismissive those doctors were is really disappointing and I hope she finds someone who will listen and help sooner rather than later
i started experiencing menopausal symptoms when i was 18. my period has always been erratic like this, and i never heard someone else describe the same thing. i don't feel alone anymore.
I was misdiagnosed for months. They really do overlook us...and my doctor was black.
Chuna G no it matters with them being black because most would help their own people
I really hope some medical professionals see this and make serious changes. The way black women are treated is unconscionable!
It's not a "black women" thing. So ignorant and tasteless to see black women trying to propel their "cause" any way they can. Lol what a joke.
SKSA Inc agreed.
@@sksainc688 O really? www.americanbar.org/groups/crsj/publications/human_rights_magazine_home/the-state-of-healthcare-in-the-united-states/racial-disparities-in-health-care/
@@sksainc688 the CDC disagrees with you: "The PRMR (pregnancy related mortality ratio) for black and AI/AN women aged ≥30 years was approximately four to five times that for their white counterparts. PRMRs for black and AI/AN women with at least some college education were higher than those for all other racial/ethnic groups with less than a high school diploma. Among state PRMR tertiles, the PRMRs for black and AI/AN women were 2.8-3.3 and 1.7-3.3 times as high, respectively, as those for non-Hispanic white (white) women."
www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/68/wr/mm6835a3.htm?s_cid=mm6835a3_w
SKSA Inc It didn't happen to you, therefore it's not real? Logic and empathy--you need them.
You are telling my exact story. It's very scary but also comforting. I'm on an insane amount of medication because I was/am losing bone density too soon. I'm now 35 years old and am on my meds for 2 1/2 years now. The diffrerence in the way I feel physically and mentally is staggering. I've also never wanted to have my own children (I got 28 in my class, that's enough for me), so the "disasterrous" news all the doctors told me, were not that bad. My thyroid (the brain of our hormone system) is being destroced by my immune system and it causes my ovarian disfuntion - and it too started around the age of 28. Tip: Ask for bloodwork on Vit D3, Estrogen, Testosterone, Triiodthyronin (T3) and Thyroxin (Tetraiodthyronin, T4). The results schould be telling. Get an appointment at an endocrinologist and a OB/GYN and make them share the results with each other.
Also, if your health provider does not listen to you, make them sign unter a statement that they were unwilling to treat you/investigate your problems. You'll be suprised by their change of motivation. Even here in Germany under universal healthcare, us weird cases have to be more active in the pursuit of proper health care.
I just found out I went through menopause at 18 :(
i went through it at 17, ur not alone!!
Girl you are so strong!My heart is breaking for you,I pray good things come your way after such bad news!
What are your symptoms?
Bean Sprouts saw you in notifs, went through same thing so ill answer as well, hair loss, sluggishness, wrinkles, boobs start sagging, NO PERIOD FOR A LONG TIME, voice gets a lil deeper, joints hurt, cant sing as well stuff like that
🤗🤗🤗 I feel you girl
Someone tell this girl to contact Mama Doctor Jones to help find a doctor for her! Dear god.
It’s so frustrating how so many medical professionals didn’t listen to you. Also that they wouldn’t even run a damn test. When I was curious about what was causing my joint pain, I asked my doctor if he could run a few blood tests. He stated it wasn’t necessary...so I asked that he put our conversation (including his unwillingness to run the tests) in his notes. He ran the tests. I only did that because I read that it worked for another woman, so just something to note in case you need your doctor to listen to you.
Yas! To no periods. I love her spirit. I’m so glad she didn’t let this break her and that she has found the bright side of a horrible situation. Thx for getting the word out about this. There needs to be more education on the female body even if it’s simply “this is what happened to me”.
28! I’m 31 and just had a baby it’s weird to think about menopause at our age but this video really puts things in perspective.
My Chinese-Filipina aunt was lucky. She found a person to have children with...at 44. She already had three children with her first husband. She had twin boy and girl back in 2012 at the age of 49...
Thank you for sharing something we don't really hear or talk about. I think I'm going through this now. Years ago I told my doctor my symptoms and asked to be tested, but she pushed my concerns aside and told me I was just stressed. Now more symptoms are popping up, and though I said I didn't want kids in order to stop being pressured to have them, I knew that the final decision was mine. Now, it may not be and that scares me. Now I'm almost 29. I'm currently on my period, but recently experiencing terrible night sweats that never occurred when I was younger. This has been on my mind for days now, and waking up to this video feels like a cruel joke. Ugh. I need a drink.
B.Sam69 Organic Raw Maca Root by Superfoods by MSM a pinch or two in juice helped with my night sweats & burdock root tea helped with my other symptoms. Blessings.
I had 3 coworkers who were obviously going through menopause, but had no idea what was going on with them. One of these women was in her 60’s and two were about 50. One day I was talking about my PCOS, and all of them decided they must have suddenly come down with PCOS. I tried to explain it’s something they would have been dealing with their whole lives. I think they were so afraid of the social stigma around menopause that they just wouldn’t even humor the thought. I made the mistake of suggesting to one of them that it was menopause. I thought she was going to set me on fire. She flipped out almost cried and told me that she couldn’t be going through that because she was too young (50) and she had never taken birth control (what?) So never do what I did unless you know the person super well, and know you aren’t going to hurt their feelings.
Giving you a hug sweet heart. You're so brave. Keep going on🤗🤗 love you 😍😘
I just found out that I’m premenopausal two months ago at the IVF clinic and I’m only 32. It hit me like a brick wall. The last month, I struggled with depression and I hated my body because I felt betrayed. Finally, I have been able to accept my diagnosis but still hurts when I see my friends pregnant. I have switched doctors and I’m hoping that she will be willing to do egg retrieval
This is infuriating. I went through something similar, and my doctor actually said the words “no one understands hormones”. Women’s health care is draconian. Doctors only care about treating pregnant women. The rest of the time we can just suffer. We should all be furious.
I’m so disgusted by the bias against Black women from the medical community. These doctors didn’t even attempt to analyze your claims and if you wanted to pursue options related to maintaining your fertility, this would be a simple request. Unfortunately Black women have had to live with pain because of the thought that we are built to handle such & we have had to for this reason! Makes me so upset!
I think minorites in general have this problem, not just blacks! Heck, Filipinas, Maxicans, Asians, Persians, etc!
Trust me I am Latina and we suffer from this also.
At 36 I developed hot flashes, insomnia and anxiety out of nowhere. When I told my dr that I think I might be going through menopause. She said no and passed me off tha psychiatrist for meds. Several months later my psychiatrist had blood work done for me. That confirmed I was going through menopause. Please if your having any symptoms. Demand that your gynecologist do blood work that includes estrogen, fsh, progesterone and testosterone.
Gotta start asking them to document that they refused to test for certain things.
It's been 3 months since this video and I still think about Lydia's medical experience all the time. Did she ever get the help she needed? I hope she is ok. Sending love.
I'm just coming back to this video since filming it and I'm so, so shocked by all of the concerned, supportive comments. I'm STILL trying to get the proper care that I need, but I'm not giving up. I'm talking a little about my current health issues on my channel. I really, really appreciate your kind words, Erin!
@@lydiacaradineim in the same boat. please tell me how long does it take from periods getting very light to actual menopause?
I can't believe how Dr can treat you like this it the same for me with my anxiety and depression and autism
Blessing My mom is 101 years young. She is full of Grace; She shares that Nature Power of the Earth is your Healing Spirit. She said keep your ovaries and rub your abdomen Daily with warm water packs, castor oil with cheesecloth.
Things like this are why we need more black doctors. Too many of us black women go to the doctor and are turned away or dismissed. We're 3x more likely to die during pregnancies and experience complications it's scary
Jada C they lie to white women as well and don't usually believe what we're saying, especially when we're young women.
@@LittleLaanekas with all due respect, this video wasn't about white women, and neither was my comment. Yes, women are often dismissed with issues because of medical and social biases that women are emotional and we're being overreactive. Even down to the social class. But add in being black,fat, and a woman, and for some that's a deadly trifecta. Look up black maternal mortality rates. Please stop trying to derail conversations that aren't about you and instead respect them. Black women already talked over and dismissed enough as it is, let us be heard.
Wow sis you’re strong! But I feel you when it comes to medical professionals dismissing you! Especially when you are young and black; for years ( I’m 19 now) I would complain about horrible joint and bone pain as well as fatigue and every doctor I would go to would just say I’m too young to feel like that, and write me off as a depressed teen! But finally I went to a rheumatologist and got diagnosed at 18 with fibromyalgia; so yes sis I feel you!!!
The fact that women are being denied medical help because OBGYNs or other doctors don't take their concerns seriously, is a huge issue.
I got severe depression from my birth control. Severe to the point that I sought the help of a psychiatrist because I was afraid of myself. We went through some therapy sessions and after four or five sessions she told me that she was sure I had severe depression but that she couldn't pinpoint any psychological reasons for it. She advised me to get a load of blood work done to make sure my thyroid was alright and had me check other hormones and stuff like that. Everything came back normal so she told me to go to my OBGYN and discuss a change of my birth control. By that point I had done some research myself and came across studies that showed that combined birth control (a pill that has two kinds of hormones) can cause depression, anxiety, psychosis and other psychological issues. So I went into the appointment with my OBGYN, told her about my symptoms and what I had tried so far and that my psychiatrist had suggested a change of birth control.
She very unhappily put me on another prescription that over the course of 4 months made things even worse. So, being sure that it had to be my birth control, I went back, told her about it and all I got from her was 'well what am I supposed to do now?' I gazed at her, completely baffled and left her office five minutes later, never to return again. Changed my OBGYN the same day, told the new doctor what I was going through, she changed my prescription to an estrogen free pill and I'm a million times better now. Listen to your body. And if you feel like your doctor is not taking you seriously, see another doctor.
What is the estrogen free pill? I suspect that the symptoms I’ve been dealing with for 2 months are coming from a fibroid/s and have a feeling the gynecologist will put me on birth control
@@higherlearning99 usually, the standard hormonal birth control has estrogen and progestin. Many women don't do well on estrogen. It affects the mood, weight, hair, skin, digestive system, emotions, everything. Some women can handle it better than others. An estrogen free pill only contains progestin. It's about as effective as the ones with both hormones, but doesn't give you the mean side-effects of estrogen. Estrogen also increases women's risk for heart attacks, strokes, thrombosis and different kinds of cancer. Progestin doesn't. So for me, it's the better option.
I feel so bad for her. My mom is currently experiencing some of the symptoms of menopause, but she’s nearing 50. This poor girl was so young. I’m happy that she did research what was happening to her since she was dismissed. I was dismissed as a young teen for severe joint pain and stiffness, underdevelopment, hair loss and severe stomach pain once in a while. I never went back to the doctors. Sorry.
She is lucky and unlucky at the same time
How is she lucky?
kayla ayan she doesn’t have periods anymore
She didnt want children so she doesnt have to worry about accidentally getting pregnant. Also no periods so no blood, no cramps, no spending money on products.
JB Thomas wait she doesn’t want children? she’s kinda winning at life since she went thru menopause
@@aidenp.3636 yeah she said she has never ever wanted kids. But yeah menopause also has not so great symptoms like she mentioned
This is such a great communicator, and so brave and great!
Well done!
Being black and and having medical issues is a problem we are always being brushed off or dismissed. I was in pain for years from fibroids but it wasn't until I got pregnant they discovered them. Up until then I was told I had acid reflux.. Kept being sent to a gastro for 2 years
Felicia Excuse me but how is that related to your skin color? Almost every single person has experienced that, not being taken serious at the doc.
@@salem5953 if you aren't black you will never understand. It's something you have to experience for yourself.
@@salem5953 Here are the articles since you'd rather comment instead of researching what someone said. news.berkeley.edu/2019/01/18/invisiblevisits/
@@salem5953 nwlc.org/blog/racism-in-health-care-for-black-women-who-become-pregnant-its-a-matter-of-life-and-death/
@@salem5953 www.oprahmag.com/life/health/a23100351/racial-bias-in-healthcare-black-women/
I have a friend who went through menopause when she was barely 15. She had to get basically all of her reproductive organs removed.
I hope she finds Mama Dr. Jones's video!!
I have been brushed off by doctors, told I was making it up, and misdiagnosed since I was a child until I was finally diagnosed with a genetic condition at 18. I feel your pain my heart goes out to her.
Kinda freaked out about this. Just yesterday i was telling my friend that I think I'm going through this and today here is this video and she's the same age as me 😳 i need to go to the OBGYN asap!
Get your FSH levels checked, it's the hormone that's usually checked for menopause and it's what tipped my doctor off when I was having issues. (I went through menopause in my late 20s)
@@psycicflower thanks for the tip!
My story is very similar to yours. I've just got home from the hospital today and told I need to start HRT in 3 days. Its taken me almost 3 years and 5 different doctors to get to this point because nobody has taken me seriously. I was told in 2020 by a doctor I was probably going through the menopause and if I didn't want kids then don't worry about it. No advice, no further tests or referrals. 3 menopause tests later, I was finally referred. Had to wait almost a year for this appointment today and they're now saying I need to go for a bone scan because of the symptoms I've described. I'm so angry with my original doctor. If she had referred me 2 years ago I may not be in this position. Feeling quite overwhelmed at the moment with all the information. But totally agree... no periods is definitely the silver lining!!
I really hope young men see this to understand what people with periods go through, and also people that have periods can get some insight from this.
Erm...some men do know what it's like to have a period, YIKES.
george green men don’t have periods. Double yikes.
@@sofiabravo1994 I was being sarcastic :)
Shammy M gender neutral because there are some non binary people that have periods. It costs nothing to respect people.
Shammy M only people with vaginas have periods***
Thanks for making this. I’m 33 and had to go on BHRT. I always been a athletic female and healthy lifestyle and then Bam! All the signs of something wrong with me hit me in my late 20s. It took so long to get real help. It is upsetting that so many doctors are horrible and don’t take young people seriously. Some doctors in my opinion need to get re-educated on something called Life.
I have been further disabled by doctors here in Portland & their feelings or misinformation about p.o.c. & African american women in general & also ignorance so I'm sorry she was ignored so long
I feel like doctors are more quick to dismiss women in general. At 16 I was having HUGE amounts of pain in my upper abdomen, it would wake me up out of a sound sleep and last for hours, I also had problems keeping food/liquid down and was losing a lot of weight. I went to the ER one afternoon because my mother (who is an RN) was thinking it could be issues with my gallbladder (even though I didn't really fit the "text book" criteria for it). I had a MALE pediatric doctor tell me that I was just emotionally distraught and I needed to calm down (mind you I'm sitting there with a basin because I'm super nauseous, and I've got an IV in my arm to replace all the fluids I lost from puking. This went on for an entire YEAR before my family doctor (who was wonderful throughout the whole thing) requested a test that finally revealed that it was my gallbladder.
While all this was going on I also was dealing with a doctor who was treating me for some reproductive health issues, I went to her complaining of horrible cramps and extreme nausea/vomiting with my periods. She told me I just had "bad periods" (she didn't know what was wrong with me, but she didn't SAY she didn't know what was wrong) so she put me on birth control (at 16 years of age) that made me SUPER depressed. Years later I found out I had endometriosis.
Moral of the story......unfortunately a lot of doctors won't give women the time of day when they come in with symptoms because they think we're "overreacting". So make sure you put effort into finding the right doctor who cares about their patients and won't discriminate against gender (or anything else).
same with the endo for me! Woke up in middle of night multipule time dry heaving/puking in extreme pain. Had 3 5 in cysts outside of ovaries i needed surgery for! Luckily I just flat out told my doctor to do a ultrasound or ct scan right now. was super lucky they caved. at first my doc said it was ibs.....um I think not test me now
Same for the endometriosis for me. Took me 10 years to find someone who actually wanted to help and see what was wrong. But it was so severe from not eating or drinking for 3 days to severe pain in curled up in a ball to being so nausea I ended up having my uterus removed. My last doctor before the one that helped me just said I was fat and to lose weight to help the pain and nausea. Almost 5 months since the surgery and it was the best decision I have made. I now can do normal activities again
Anna Meyers I honestly don’t think has anything to do with gender because there’s a lot of guys that have told me that they don’t get taken seriously either and that’s why many men don’t like to go to doctors because one of pride and not taken seriously doctors just want you to visit so they can get paid
That’s so disheartening that you went to three different doctors, knowing that you had a problem and none of them listened! As a black woman to hear that doesn’t give me much faith in the healthcare system. #sorrynotsorry
Me either, and I'm certain those were all white doctors. For this reason, I intentionally seek out doctors of color, preferably also female. I feel more comfortable with them and there is FAR less bias with them, if any.
It's a bias against women in general... I hate that we aren't taken seriously
Thanks for telling your story
Amazing woman. Grateful they shared their story.
It’s so mading going to the doctor and tell him what is happening to you. They all are like that get a woman problem or it all in your head. That’s what all five cardiologist said to me, it was intell a drove two hours way from home I found the best cardiologist ever dr.Cuculich! He is so careing and listens figured out I have pots syndrome.
I feel awful that you've been dismissed by so many doctors. I am happy yours being proactive on research and teaching people on this platform. Thank you for standing up.
i went through it at 17, nothing like hypopituitarism 🥰
Thank you for sharing your story. I had an emergency, radical hysterectomy and double oophorectomy when I was 24 years old. I was bleeding to death from my menstrual cycle. I had bled for over 4 years straight due to fibroids, like you, I was misdiagnosed and not listened to by doctors. I was not fully informed of the medical consequences that I would endure for the rest of my life: slower metabolism, high risk of osteoporosis, skin changes, libido changes, and etc. I am nearly 50 years old. I went through a time of grieving because I wanted more children. I wish someone would have listened sooner! I hope your willingness to share your story will help others.
Did you take hornome theraphy?
I like how she takes charge or responsibility for her health.
My first obgyn chalked my missing periods up to stress, which was understandable because I was (still am) going through an extremely stressful part of my life. But this year I hadn't had a period at all and I told a different doctor about it. After doing tests they concluded I'd reached menopause at age 38. They referred me to a specialist and I was able to get an appointment 3 months from now. Gotta love the healthcare system in the US.
I just got diagnosed with premature ovarian failure at 25. It’s was heartbreaking and still dealing with it now emotionally and all the medical visits.
Thanks for this video. I don’t feel alone now
Mama Doctor Jones here on youtube (certified OBGYN) just did a react to this! She wants to help Lydia and hopes she or Buzzfeed will reach out to her!
Yupp! Went through it at 38 due to high stress levels but started when young with some of the same symptoms that you mentioned. Thanks for sharing!
Can I have your messnger pls
It's a scary fact that doctors don't take their patients seriously sometimes. People are left undiagnosed and suffer because of this.
To the doctors, people get sick that's why you have a use of your education. U r not God. U don't know everything. Your profession requires constant research and updates. Update yourself and be respectful. 😤
Exactly,they also learn along the way ,sometimes arrogance of doctors is making me mad
Omg! This is my experience. I was not 28 but 38 and I was ignored and disregarded. I experienced so much of this and am still looking for a doctor myself. Taking supplements and now working out. Trying to read and take care of myself. I have one child and I'm ok with that.
Mamadoctorjones wants you to reach out to her
I’m going through the same at 38, all I can say is stay informed through the internet & always find a GREAT health food store that offers intelligent advice!
💗 Thank you for sharing your story. I hate dismissive medical professionals.
I am proud of you for figuring out what is going on with your body and beating back the doubt that may have surfaced due to the “professional” guidance you received. I can write about similar experiences of dismissal in the medical community as others attest to, but the lesson for me is to really work hard at knowing your own body. I am encouraged.
Thank you so much for sharing this!
I've been told I'll start in a few years as well, and I'm 30. Thanks for sharing! I DO want children, so it was hard to hear while looking into fertility stuff that it was highly unlikely as I've got premature ovarian failure (very few eggs)..however BAM I am in fact pregnant haha it's like the women who have babies right as menopause is starting and their bodies give it one final go..got really lucky! I will still have choices to make in the coming years though, regarding hrt...also I'm not in good shape to start with so I'm worried about that!
Congratulations!! Thank God, there's still hope!
0:24 hysterectomy is removal of uterus. Oophorectomy is removal of ovaries.
I wasn’t taken seriously as a patient by white physicians. When you’re already in pain or anxious, being dismissed by these “doctors” make medical treatment torturous. I’m so sorry to hear about your experience.
Last year my husband and I were looking into getting pregnant. I went to the gynaecologist to get a pap test and just make sure everything was ok before we tried. I told the doctor that I hadn't had a period for a few months and she wanted to check a few things but told me not to worry. I came for a follow up appointment with the mindset that everything was OK but instead received the diagnosis of Premature Ovarian Failure (POF). I was told that I would never have biological children and we may never know the cause of why this happened. After handing me a pamphlet on egg donation, she said that I could still have kids for the small price of $75,000 and sent me on my way home.
I was in utter shock and devastated. My dream of becoming a mother was shattered. Now 5 months later, I am looking into egg donation and slowly coming to terms that I will still have kids but not in a traditional way.
Not many women under 30 are diagnosed with premature menopause which is why it's very hard to find others to talk with. This video couldn't have came a better time for me. It's great to hear someone else's experience and how they came to terms with it.
Idk if you're into this stuff, but theres books by "the gallery of magick" is Solomon magick. I mean, if you still have your uterus and stuff, its possible. Just thought I'd tell you that. Best of luck.
Why can't we just be left alone. Also I'm with her on the periods when you have been heavy bleeding since 10 you get over that bs kids or not. I don't want any. Who needs ovaries. You can have mine
Thanks for giving her this voice despite not having an official diagnosis. Sometimes you just know and the facts are there.
I’ve been so confused about my menopause since it started when I was 15 and this video really gave me the reassurance and strength I needed.
There are a lot of things that can cause you to not have your period.... I didn't have mine for 3 years when I finally asked my gynecologist about that... also had very heavy and irregular periods when I was younger....I'm 29 now and let me tell you, when they gave me some meds to restart my hormones when I was 28 it came back two times but then it stopped again. I had and still have flashes of heat, insomnia and sometimes I'm sweaty during the night and wake up with my t-shirt all wet on my back and collar and still I don't have my menopause yet.... please consult with another doctor because if you are not diagnosed you can't be sure...
let me also add that I'm very irresponsible and refuse to take my meds because it caused very bad hormonal acne on my face and I somehow enjoy not having my period anymore... so yeah
OMG Im not alone in this!!! Ive been denying my menopause for years cuz of my age but its true!!