I'm 19 & 32 weeks pregnant. I had a little different reaction, I'm married and have a home with my husband already. It's crazy how some people think a certain age makes you suddenly prepared for a child. Some people are never ready and responsible enough
here in ontario if you're 19 its so shunned upon lol , kinda stupid... and once you're 20 its like who cares... crazy how 1 year makes a humongous difference and gets different reactions
+Ash J and waat abt my love, whr it is... 😁😁 just kidding.. Hii Ash, ds video was really very nice, but watching ur video's since few few days back, and seriously you are doing very well... Thumbs up 👍👍Plz do some vlogs on toddler routine, Day Andy nyt tym. am really in need how to deal in day tym.. Thanks 😍😍😙😙 b'byee tc... Huggsss ❤💛
My husband and I met at 19, we decided we wanted a child together and 2 months after meeting I was pregnant. My mom was ecstatic and my dad was upset. I had my daughter 17 days after my 20th birthday. I had my son at 21....married my husband 6 years later and my kids are now 13 and 12. So, we have been together 14 years :) I love that I had my kids so early because we get to enjoy life/travel with them as adults and my husband and I will still be young! However, I think this is a very personal decision, some people are not ready to have kids so young and want to enjoy their 20's but it worked for me and my life. thanks for sharing your story!
moon rise don't be scared. It's a beautiful thing. Just be strong and focus on the positive and surround yourself with positive people. Don't let anyone judge you. It's your life. Lots of love!
Me and my boyfriend have been together a little over 3 months and are thinking about having a kid....we're both in college and we're pretty sure our parents would be pissed, but his mom had a talk about it recently with him and told him that yeah she'd be mad at first but would get over it and would be excited for us and I know my mom would be the same way. Any advice?
Ash I had my son at age 19.I was together with my boyfriend for two years now husband.When I found out I was pregnant.He is now my husband we got married and are together 7 years now.Our son is now 5.I have no regrets and feel so blessed.Being a "young" mother or "young wife".You will get judged by the world.But don't worry about that.Keep your head up and keep going.Its hard but it's the most satisfying job.If anyone wants to talk or ask advice.You can find me on social media and RUclips.❤
I had my daughter at 17 and I had lots of support aswell, I'm now 18, have my own house and my daughter is nearly 1 :) people put a bad name on young mums but everyone always tells me I'm a great mum x
How are u doing now? I hope ur doing well. I’m 17 and in the same boat as u. Very scared and upset as I am alone, haven’t told even my parents. i do not have a boyfriend or any trusted people I’m fully alone. 😭
This is just everything! Even before the baby you lived out together with your boyfriend and was already planning to save for a home which is the most amazing thing to do and even though you thought you weren't ready your mindset was already starting a family with first having a home and that is really amazing. You started off the video by saying "my boyfriend at the time" so I was afraid that you weren't with the father anymore, but I am beyond happy when you said that it bought both of you closer together, even when it's tough always stick through! This is inspirational
Am I the only one who thinks that having a baby at 19 isn't too early? At 19 you're a legal adult, have graduated high school, and are hopefully responsible and mature. Its not like you're 16, uneducated, and jobless.
Mature at 19? Don't think so :D But having a child most likely makes a person to mature faster since you have all that responsibility not just about you,but also another small human.
You can't even legally purchase alcohol, Rent a Car in the United States (in a lot of cases), Rent a beach house in majority of cases, and majority of hotels don't allow you to check in unless you're 21. It's still young in the US at least..
I'm 26 and can't even imagine having kids right now let alone at 19. I've been married for just over a year, but my husband and I have been together for over 10 years (we're high school sweethearts). We decided to really enjoy life and each other i.e. travel, purchase our first home etc before trying to start a family.
Damn everyone commenting about how they had a child young. I don't plan on having kids til I'm out of med school and done with residency. Power to those who got through it tho!
Bunny boo my pregnancy wasnt planed and my birth control failed and we guess the condom broke. i just started taking my classes for my RN and I have to juggle a baby and nursing school for a few years
FirstTime Mom She might be waiting for marriage or doesn't want to lose her virginity young or isn't in a serious relationship, either way, I think it's better to wait...you can see how financially stable you are and how mature the man in your life is. good job though for going to school with a kid ♡
I didn't realise being pregnant at 19 was a big deal, my partner and I where pregnant at 18 planned. I'll be turning 22 right after the birth of our second child in a few weeks
mandii janee people believe 18 and 19 are too young mainly because the teen in the word and they suspect people in that age range to Go to College and learn how to be an adult before having a child
Shay Tuan fair enough I guess, in Australia we have university, not college, most jobs you don't need a degree, just preferably some kind of certificate, which most people leave high school with at least 1-2. By 19 I owned my own business I started it when my son was 6 months old and my partner works full time while I stay home with our son and dog. I suppose it would be odd for some people to think as I've never really been into the whole partying young thing, we have been to New Zealand twice as a family and both already quite accomplished considering our ages, so I guess I don't see it as a big deal.
mandii janee yea, I guess that's the difference between cultures haha. Here in America, you are suspected to go to College (or university) and not even be thinking about marriage until you are at least 23 24 which is crazy. I personally believe having a kid in your early 20s or being 19 isn't bad at all, but it's fairly looked down here. Which is why I'm in a scary position where I think I might be pregnant. I'm not for sure, but this is my first 'serious' relationship. And he is my first, and we did it about four times and I've been feeling weird for over a week. It's it's really really looked down upon... ;-(
Shay Tuan just remember no matter what you can get through it with or without support, sure being a parent is hard but it's the most rewarding amazing thing in the whole world and no matter what you will be okay
Enjoyed your vlog but I found myself trying to listen over the music. Background music is OK but maybe a little quieter, a little distracting. Just a personal observation. You look stunning and will be subscribing to your channel despite the music volume being louder than needed lol 😋
My mum had me at 19, now when i am 21, she is my best friend and i appreciate her so much! Just wait until Heidi is older, having a young mum is the best!
I had my 1st at 19 also. I remember the absolute fear at telling everyone, It was so nerve racking, But even with my next 2 I felt the same way, My 3rd was born when I was 34 and I was still petrified at telling people lol
i was 21, gave birth two months after i turned 22 and was 7 months pregnant when i graduated college. i told my mom at around 4/5 months and she told me it was the worst news ever and that i should have gotten an abortion. my dad was so upset he didn't want me to have the baby. my baby is two months old now and they absolutely adore him. parents can be harsh [ sometimes way too harsh] but it's because they want to protect you. guess what i'm trying to say is no matter what their reaction is initially it comes from a good place and they will come around so try not to stress too much, all the best to you both :)
Thursday I found out I''m pregnant. I'm only 18 years old but I'm lucky that I am in a stable relationship. Yesterday my bf and i told my parents and in-laws. I'm the oldest child at home so it was quite a shock, my dad walked away and my mom almost passed out. My family is christian and quite conservative, so that made it even harder. Luckily I notice they get used to it, and they even get enthusiastic. I don't know your parents or you, but you have to know the rage or how you like to call it is temporary. If they really love you they'll support you. I want to say so much more but english isnt my native language and i have a hard time expressing myself. Good luck
alejandra rodriguez honestly do not be scared! I was 20 weeks pregnant when I told my mum.. she was mad but she got over it and got excited and started buying things! My son is now 2 in 2 week and my mum absolutely adores him!! It's scary as hell I know but honestly it's better to just get it out!!
Well, Alejandra, coming from a large extended family where practically all of my 30some cousins had children out of wedlock, the worst part is telling your parents. What's done is done and there's no going back. Of course my aunts and uncles got mad and all that, but what more could they do? They simply got over it, made them a quick shotgun wedding and basically helped them out, and unfortunately still have to do so because none are living the lives they wanted and can't keep up with their lives. But it takes a really strong person who wants to progress in life to be able to turn the negative situation into a positive one and be different. The only thing that matters now is that child you're carrying. The worst they can do is be disappointed in you and get extremely angry at you. But if you're in a relationship and your bf is willing to marry you and start a family with you, then talk to him first, get your acts straight and have a plan. A real plan. Jobs, a place to live, SAVE MONEY, and trust in God that He will help you get through it. Even if you have to do it alone. But prepare yourself. Blessings to you and your child.
Loved this Ash. I had my daughter shortly after I turned 18. She's 20 now and my best friend in the world. I also went on to have 4 more children, my youngest daughter is only one :) xo
My parents would act the same way! "Disappointed" (purposely added the quotation marks) but once it starts to hit reality and or the baby's here, they'd fall in LOVE and have over the top affection for you and the baby.
i’m getting married in a little over a year and we’re going to start a family once when’re financially stable enough to support a child. i’m so excited. i’ve always wanted to be a stay at home mom.
I am sooo happy I stumbled upon your channel. I'm currently 23 and 4 months pregnant (my first) and although you're now older with 2 more kids, I could relate soo much to the things you said. I really do pray that this baby brings me and my bf closer together as it did for you! i was soo scared at first when I found out, but I can't lie, I'm getting pretty excited.
I'm so glad things worked out for you :) my parents got married at 19/21 and had me at 20/22 (mum/dad). But then they broke up 5/6 years later (divorced after 9) :( my mums now married to my stepdad (2 years now) and my dads engaged to my stepmum (who are in a love/hate relationship. Most the time they argue but only stay together for my half sisters). I really hope it stays the way it is for you forever :)
I just have to say I have so much respect for you and your family. Sharing a story like this can often be hard to share in today's world. You seem to have shown great maturity through the situation. I can relate to being a young mom. Although for me I didn't face much criticism because for me it is very common where I live for people to get married young and start families young. I was married at the age of 18 just a week before my 19th birthday. Although I had not planned it, I got pregnant after 3 months of marriage. So because I was already married, and it's very culturally acceptable where I live, my pregnancy was met with great excitement from all my friends and family. If I could go back I probably would've liked to have waited a couple more years before starting a family, but I would never trade my son for anything. Going on 10 years of being married now and have two beautiful boys. It's just so rare to see young parents accept their responsibilities and to be so put together and I commend you for accepting responsibility and being so mature at such a young age. It's very inspiring!
Hi. I was 21 years old when I got pregnant and everything just turned out fine. Now she is 8 months and we are living in a small apartment and we can´t wait to start our lives in our own house, get married and have more kids. I often compare with family´s that has a baby in the same age as our daughter, with big houses and good jobs. But you made me realize something. We don´t have to rusch and worry, because one day we will be there. Not if, but when. We are still young and we are so happy. You made me want to live in the now and stop worrying about later. Thank you!
I have deep respect for you being a mum of three with 24!!! And also you've achieved to buy a home ...wow! Motivates me so much seeing people like you! just the best for you!!!
im 19 with two kids. kinda wanted to start a RUclips explaining my journey this far but I really don't have the confidence or motivation to do so because im constantly being judged which isn't surprising, but it's still a sensitive issue to talk about
Thank you for sharing, I also got pregnant at 19. I was not in a good place in life and it took me until I was 4.5 months pregnant before I had the courage to tell my parents. Now I have 3 kids and a wonderful husband. She's now almost 13 :)
This was honestly very inspirational for me. I am 19 yo and 27 weeks pregnant and this just gives me the motivation I need to continue doing all that I've set my mind to
Thanks so much gurl! I think as humans we're pretty resilient, so rolling with the punches is just part of life. Having said that, while children mean you have to grow up a lot faster and make sacrifices, they're such a beautiful blessing and looking back I definitely wouldn't change a thing
I fell pregnant when I was 18 and had my daughter when I'm 19, my daughter is now nearly 8 weeks old My pregnancy test came positive but I went to the doctors and got a blood test to double check haha yeah I was 100% pregnant.
having a child is a big responsibility and when you decide to do something that could result with one (whether you are still young or not), you have to be prepared wholeheartedly to put that child as your top priority. that means giving up your freedom to do whatever you want as you did before. it's all about that child now, not you. great sharing and well done for finishing school to ensure your child's future. :)
I lost my first baby in an ectopic pregnancy. It was a very hard for me and my husband adding to the fact that I nearly lost my life. I'm really thankful to God for giving me another life. I would have been 6 months pregnant this month. :( but I haven't lost hope. God is great
Do you have any videos talking about how you guys made it through money wise or any tips you have for teen parents? If not do you think you could make one?(:
Hi Ash, this is my first time watching any of your videos, and I have to say that your video really spoke to me because my mom found out she was pregnant with twins at 19! Not a lot of teenage pregnancies turn out to have a happy ending - but thankfully my family, as well as yours, has been incredibly fortunate when dealt a difficult hand. I am so happy to know of another family that has worked out so well. Congratulations on your wonderful family and I wish you all the best! :)
No ahah you're totally normal gurl! Everyone's journey is different and I don't think the vast majority of women are ready for a child at 19, I certainly wasn't but just made the best of the situation I was in and now wouldn't change it :)
Hi Demia, I'm not a virgin but right now I'm abstinent. The only birth control I use is condoms so I would recommend that you use condoms if you ever decide to have sex. If you can save yourself for marriage that's beautiful too but either way don't worry about being judged, it's just about being with the right guy and you'll know with time and your gut feeling if you can trust him. I would also say just be careful if you ever decide to get on birth control because there are a lot of side effects. I'm not on birth control because it made me feel very depressed and irritable it can really mess with your hormones. Definitely don't have meaningless sex. There is a lot of pressure in college and a lot of guys that can try to get aggressive and play games with your head so please protect yourself, don't just give in and have sex with any guy. But if you decide to, at the least use a condom or if you neglect that in the moment, just take a plan B the next morning.
I got pregnant January 2014 I was 17, (18 in march) so was 18 when I had my son! He's now 2 in 2 and half week, my mum was so upset at first... but now she absolutely adores my son!
You're so lucky to have that support. Also glad that you owned up to it instead of acting like a kid and neglecting that baby. I'm not planning on having kids until at least my mid twenties. I want to be young before I grow up, but if you want to be a mom that young then good for you
Just discovered your videos today. I also had my first child at 19, followed by marriage and a baby brother for my daughter. Its great to find another australian with a similar lifestyle to me.
I love this. For some, it's not a normal age to be pregnant for me and my area it isn't and I was pregnant at 18. Thank you for helping others and sharing your story, this is what I believe people our general ages need help with because not everyone is as brave sometimes or needs community help! Congratulations by the way and I wish you well
@Demia Me we are not smoking anything. Some of us are responsible enough. I'm 19, still studying for my degree and I'm engaged. Some of us are just way ahead of our years and I wouldn't have it any other way. We all live differently and so do you.
This has just made my day! This story is so happy! And I couldn't wish of a better moment than this one! I'm so happy for all you guys and hope you have a happy rest of your life!
Moms are just amazing 😩 my mom told my dad for me as well, since my dad can be intimidating. I was ok with that too 😝 but yea once my baby girl was born I feel like it brought all of us closer together 💕 God bless you're family! 😊
I found out too when I was 19!! She is now 12 (scary) I felt really ill and ended up going to the doctors, he told me you're not ill, you're pregnant!!! We knew we had to get our act together too, 9 months to grow up lol telling my mum and dad was the scariest thing I have ever had to do but they were really supportive. She ended up being the best surprise in my life xx
There are things, like supplements for example that can effect contraception. St Johns Wart for example can block it from working among many others. If you have stomach upsets it can also effect how efficient it is. If you want to be sure use two types, one being a condom, no contraception can promise is 100% protection. If anyone is not an adult and having sex think twice, better to wait.
MARIA BAUER they either want to lose it fast and be popular in school or aren't always careful and sometimes it doesn't work when using condoms or taking birth control
I had a client that told me of how she got pregnant with all 5 of her children while on the pill, she wasn't even joking, No pill worked for her, don't know what went wrong. Nothing is a sure thing which is why I don't agree with kids that are still in school having sex.
I know this is late haha but ash has said in another video that she was on the pill and taking it the right way but it failed, so don't be so quick to judge
Not only do you look amazing for having 3 kids!! But I'm also 19 and pregnant and have always had a maternal part to me and been a very broody person, I was scared telling my partner and his parents but I'm also close with my mum so she was thrilled, my partner was fine and we are both exited and really happy we both currently work full time but I plan on going to work for another year after my maternity leave before going to uni for my teaching degree pleased it worked out for you and I hope we have the same luck. Also drinking age is 18 in the U.K. so I totally understand x
Nasser El Sonbaty like I said you are a disgusting piece of work and I hope that every woman in your life realises who you are and leaves you. You have turned this nice post about a woman celebrating her pregnancy into a perverted and racist hate thread. You're a bloody disgrace
finally getting a chance to catch up on videos now that i have to fit and feeding a newborn into my schedule. Although you've touched on this before, it was nice hearing it in more detail. You are very lucky for supportive parents and James ❤❤
I got pregnant when I was 18 & had my son when I was 19. I turn 20 next month and my son turns one in December. Having him was the best choice I've ever made. He is the light of my life and I wouldn't change a thing.
Pregnancy is always a shock regardless of the situation. You could be planning to get pregnant and still get shocked when you find out you've conceived.
Lex ' I'm aware that isnt my point. wether you protect yourself or not i mean you have sex so whats so shocking to find out youre pregnant you do know contraceptives aren't 100% when you have sex you should know you have a risk of having a child
+Stephanie Bianca Your life is about to change forever. The life you knew will never be the same and you are making another human being. What is there not to be shocked about
I recently found your channel, and I'm already so addicted to your videos! Thank you for sharing for such a personal story, I'm off to binge watch the rest of your videos!
It's cute how your boyfriend was so supportive. Did you use any contraception before getting pregnant that failed to work or you didn't and you just got pregnant?
Hey girl I probably should have mentioned that in the video! So I had been on the pill for 3 years without an issue but I had been sick in the few weeks leading up to falling pregnant which can affect the pill
If she was vomiting then yeah, that would majorly affect the pill. You need at least 2 hrs after taking it for it to be absorbed, so if you were throwing up and whatnot, then it wouldn't be fully absorbed.
I'm 19 & 32 weeks pregnant. I had a little different reaction, I'm married and have a home with my husband already. It's crazy how some people think a certain age makes you suddenly prepared for a child. Some people are never ready and responsible enough
Right? I got pregnant with my son when I was 19. Never thought twice about my age. Totally normal for my area.
here in ontario if you're 19 its so shunned upon lol , kinda stupid... and once you're 20 its like who cares... crazy how 1 year makes a humongous difference and gets different reactions
I got married at 17 and became pregnant the day I turned 20. My son is our biggest Blessing
+kylie aaliyah I live in Ontario too and almost every girl gets pregnant around 16-19 it's very normal here
Those Two Girls where in ontario? haha
When I was 19 I found out I was pregnant, but at 8 weeks I miscarried. Now I'm 21 and still no babies. Makes me sad every day.
Hey need not to be sad.. 💜 be happy, enjoy ur journey with ur loved ones. U are just 21 one day you will be sweetest mommy 😍😍
+mommy of a princess aw thank you :) I hope so
+GuineaPlays ❤😍😙👍
I'm so sorry to hear lovely. I hope one day your time comes around and be sure to let me know when it does. Big love to you
+Ash J and waat abt my love, whr it is... 😁😁 just kidding.. Hii Ash, ds video was really very nice, but watching ur video's since few few days back, and seriously you are doing very well... Thumbs up 👍👍Plz do some vlogs on toddler routine, Day Andy nyt tym. am really in need how to deal in day tym.. Thanks 😍😍😙😙 b'byee tc... Huggsss ❤💛
My husband and I met at 19, we decided we wanted a child together and 2 months after meeting I was pregnant. My mom was ecstatic and my dad was upset. I had my daughter 17 days after my 20th birthday. I had my son at 21....married my husband 6 years later and my kids are now 13 and 12. So, we have been together 14 years :) I love that I had my kids so early because we get to enjoy life/travel with them as adults and my husband and I will still be young! However, I think this is a very personal decision, some people are not ready to have kids so young and want to enjoy their 20's but it worked for me and my life. thanks for sharing your story!
Nicoya_Beauty This is such a beautiful story ☺️
Cherry Annalise Thank you so much!
moon rise don't be scared. It's a beautiful thing. Just be strong and focus on the positive and surround yourself with positive people. Don't let anyone judge you. It's your life. Lots of love!
Me and my boyfriend have been together a little over 3 months and are thinking about having a kid....we're both in college and we're pretty sure our parents would be pissed, but his mom had a talk about it recently with him and told him that yeah she'd be mad at first but would get over it and would be excited for us and I know my mom would be the same way. Any advice?
Thank YOU for sharing yours, I'm glad you confirmed having kids real young and being totally happy with life is very much possible.
I really want to move the candle fully on the table
Jessie24311 damn why did you tell me
dang itt, why did you point it out :(
Jessie24311 seriously I cant concentrate anymore
what ?
Uhg. Your right
I had trouble ignoring the music. It's very loud and distracting :/
Same!
carissameer Same
carissameer
Saaaaame super same
married at 18 had my son at 19 and a few years later I'm still so happy ❤
Awww thanks for sharing your story lovely! So glad you're so happy
Ash
ImJustJessica I love that story! Congrats you're so lucky to have found love that early!!
ImJustJessica me too ! I am pregnant ATM 😁
and what about your studies?
Ash I had my son at age 19.I was together with my boyfriend for two years now husband.When I found out I was pregnant.He is now my husband we got married and are together 7 years now.Our son is now 5.I have no regrets and feel so blessed.Being a "young" mother or "young wife".You will get judged by the world.But don't worry about that.Keep your head up and keep going.Its hard but it's the most satisfying job.If anyone wants to talk or ask advice.You can find me on social media and RUclips.❤
I had my daughter at 17 and I had lots of support aswell, I'm now 18, have my own house and my daughter is nearly 1 :) people put a bad name on young mums but everyone always tells me I'm a great mum x
Shouldn't you focus on math instead of sex at 17
Zipporah Tefari unless you study further maths by 16 you are finished studying maths so I’d think before you speak 🙃
@@zipporahtefari4587 shouldn't u focus on maths instead of commenting??
how were you able to afford your own house?
I'm pregnant at 18 with 1 day old cheeseburgers and tater tots
How are u doing now? I hope ur doing well. I’m 17 and in the same boat as u. Very scared and upset as I am alone, haven’t told even my parents. i do not have a boyfriend or any trusted people I’m fully alone. 😭
BYUN BAEKHYUN she was joking.. she said she’s pregnant with food
I love the background music but it was a bit loud and distracting at times. I so enjoyed this video!
Yeah a little too loud for me too xD
Same it was very distracting from what she was saying :(
Natalie Lloyd I didn't even notice it lol! My volume is low though
Whats the song
I don't. it was so irritating ...
This is just everything! Even before the baby you lived out together with your boyfriend and was already planning to save for a home which is the most amazing thing to do and even though you thought you weren't ready your mindset was already starting a family with first having a home and that is really amazing. You started off the video by saying "my boyfriend at the time" so I was afraid that you weren't with the father anymore, but I am beyond happy when you said that it bought both of you closer together, even when it's tough always stick through! This is inspirational
Awww thank you so much beauty
Am I the only one who thinks that having a baby at 19 isn't too early? At 19 you're a legal adult, have graduated high school, and are hopefully responsible and mature. Its not like you're 16, uneducated, and jobless.
Mature at 19? Don't think so :D But having a child most likely makes a person to mature faster since you have all that responsibility not just about you,but also another small human.
You can't even legally purchase alcohol, Rent a Car in the United States (in a lot of cases), Rent a beach house in majority of cases, and majority of hotels don't allow you to check in unless you're 21. It's still young in the US at least..
It's different than say 25 because you don't have a secure job and all of your money is going into college.
Assuming they actually decide to go to college, some people don't just saying.
I'm 26 and can't even imagine having kids right now let alone at 19. I've been married for just over a year, but my husband and I have been together for over 10 years (we're high school sweethearts). We decided to really enjoy life and each other i.e. travel, purchase our first home etc before trying to start a family.
Meanwhile I'm 26 and still a virgin..
if youre good with that then theres nothing to worry about it :)
I was going to type that, then saw your comment.
Ted Mosby better to make your first time special and with someone you love .. trust me
Don't worry, I've never even dated so I've stepped up your game.
Well, I'm going to be 20, but as far I see my life I guess I'll be a virgin by 26 still.
Damn everyone commenting about how they had a child young. I don't plan on having kids til I'm out of med school and done with residency. Power to those who got through it tho!
Bunny boo my pregnancy wasnt planed and my birth control failed and we guess the condom broke.
i just started taking my classes for my RN and I have to juggle a baby and nursing school for a few years
FirstTime Mom She might be waiting for marriage or doesn't want to lose her virginity young or isn't in a serious relationship, either way, I think it's better to wait...you can see how financially stable you are and how mature the man in your life is. good job though for going to school with a kid ♡
Bunny boo same
Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders! Good for you, keep your priorities in order :)
@Demia Me birth control is only affective 80%of the time, and condoms break. They are not 100%affective either
I didn't realise being pregnant at 19 was a big deal, my partner and I where pregnant at 18 planned. I'll be turning 22 right after the birth of our second child in a few weeks
mandii janee people believe 18 and 19 are too young mainly because the teen in the word and they suspect people in that age range to
Go to
College and learn how to be an adult before having a child
Shay Tuan fair enough I guess, in Australia we have university, not college, most jobs you don't need a degree, just preferably some kind of certificate, which most people leave high school with at least 1-2. By 19 I owned my own business I started it when my son was 6 months old and my partner works full time while I stay home with our son and dog. I suppose it would be odd for some people to think as I've never really been into the whole partying young thing, we have been to New Zealand twice as a family and both already quite accomplished considering our ages, so I guess I don't see it as a big deal.
mandii janee yea, I guess that's the difference between cultures haha. Here in America, you are suspected to go to
College (or university) and not even be thinking about marriage until you are at least 23 24 which is crazy. I personally believe having a kid in your early 20s or being 19 isn't bad at all, but it's fairly looked down here. Which is why I'm in a scary position where I think I might be pregnant. I'm not for sure, but this is my first 'serious' relationship. And he is my first, and we did it about four times and I've been feeling weird for over a week. It's it's really really looked down upon... ;-(
Shay Tuan just remember no matter what you can get through it with or without support, sure being a parent is hard but it's the most rewarding amazing thing in the whole world and no matter what you will be okay
mandii janee thanks so much for the kind words 💕💕
The amount of hate to teen moms is horrible. I am 19 and pregnant and it's not so bad. Granted I did move out with my bf before I fell pregnant.
Yeah it can be nasty can't it! In the end you just have to be confident that you are being the best parent you can be and prove them otherwise
Alexa Romero Teen moms don't get hate. however if you are a virgin at 20 then everyone hates you and finding the right guy will be hard.
Amber Dennis both teen moms and virgins get shade.
Enjoyed your vlog but I found myself trying to listen over the music. Background music is OK but maybe a little quieter, a little distracting. Just a personal observation. You look stunning and will be subscribing to your channel despite the music volume being louder than needed lol 😋
Haha thanks so much girl I totally didn't realise how loud it was until I uploaded!! Whoops!!
My mum had me at 19, now when i am 21, she is my best friend and i appreciate her so much! Just wait until Heidi is older, having a young mum is the best!
Awww thats lovely! Thanks for sharing lovely!
I had my 1st at 19 also. I remember the absolute fear at telling everyone, It was so nerve racking, But even with my next 2 I felt the same way, My 3rd was born when I was 34 and I was still petrified at telling people lol
Haha I'll know how to feel if we decide to have another later down the track then ;) Thanks for sharing love!
I'm 20 and 3 months pregnant. I haven't told my family yet... I'm really scared
i was 21, gave birth two months after i turned 22 and was 7 months pregnant when i graduated college. i told my mom at around 4/5 months and she told me it was the worst news ever and that i should have gotten an abortion. my dad was so upset he didn't want me to have the baby. my baby is two months old now and they absolutely adore him. parents can be harsh [ sometimes way too harsh] but it's because they want to protect you. guess what i'm trying to say is no matter what their reaction is initially it comes from a good place and they will come around so try not to stress too much, all the best to you both :)
Thursday I found out I''m pregnant. I'm only 18 years old but I'm lucky that I am in a stable relationship. Yesterday my bf and i told my parents and in-laws. I'm the oldest child at home so it was quite a shock, my dad walked away and my mom almost passed out. My family is christian and quite conservative, so that made it even harder. Luckily I notice they get used to it, and they even get enthusiastic. I don't know your parents or you, but you have to know the rage or how you like to call it is temporary. If they really love you they'll support you. I want to say so much more but english isnt my native language and i have a hard time expressing myself. Good luck
alejandra rodriguez honestly do not be scared! I was 20 weeks pregnant when I told my mum.. she was mad but she got over it and got excited and started buying things! My son is now 2 in 2 week and my mum absolutely adores him!! It's scary as hell I know but honestly it's better to just get it out!!
Well, Alejandra, coming from a large extended family where practically all of my 30some cousins had children out of wedlock, the worst part is telling your parents. What's done is done and there's no going back. Of course my aunts and uncles got mad and all that, but what more could they do? They simply got over it, made them a quick shotgun wedding and basically helped them out, and unfortunately still have to do so because none are living the lives they wanted and can't keep up with their lives. But it takes a really strong person who wants to progress in life to be able to turn the negative situation into a positive one and be different. The only thing that matters now is that child you're carrying. The worst they can do is be disappointed in you and get extremely angry at you. But if you're in a relationship and your bf is willing to marry you and start a family with you, then talk to him first, get your acts straight and have a plan. A real plan. Jobs, a place to live, SAVE MONEY, and trust in God that He will help you get through it. Even if you have to do it alone. But prepare yourself. Blessings to you and your child.
Your parents are the best people you can share this with. Don't be scared. They will be mad probably, but they love you and they will help you.
Loved this Ash. I had my daughter shortly after I turned 18. She's 20 now and my best friend in the world. I also went on to have 4 more children, my youngest daughter is only one :) xo
ai had my first son at 16 hes twenty in 6 days then I have my 5 year old daughter and is the sweetest big brother ever
Bec M I haven't even been to 2nd base yet and I am 22. 😢 Most folks my age are getting engaged.
I had my first baby at 19 as well. now she is 10... & then my son (7) & daughter (4)
enjoy it , as it goes so fast .
Oh my gosh I feel like I'm going to blink and my littles will all be in that pre-teen stage. Its scary!!
I couldn't finish watching this cuz the music was so distracting 😩
I totally posted on the wrong comment so sorry if you saw that before I deleted it lol
Dee Angel same
Dee Angel agreedb
Why does youtube suggest this to me? I mean yes i'm 19, but i'm not planning on having a kid yet.... lol
emiliavioletta me too
I feel like 19 isn't even that bad, you're not in high school anymore so why is it seen as a oh my gosh thing?
I'm thinking the same thing
Yeah
Probably because you're still a teenager. Nineteen is just an awkward age, honestly.
Because at 19 you're still a teenager aka a KID.
It's hard being pregnant at nineteen you're still in college and don't even have your major you're still so young
Why the background music ...so distracting and annoying WHY ???
Same
the music in the back is so disturbing :/
I got pregnant at 17 and had my baby at 18... Honestly I wouldn't trade her for anything in this world !
I got pregnant at 16 and had my baby at 17 and I wouldn't trade him for the world either!
Ana Villasenor Madriz She's so cute in your picture !!! you are too omg ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡
thank you 😍
Birth control works
@@zipporahtefari4587 so would a diet for you😂
My parents would act the same way! "Disappointed" (purposely added the quotation marks) but once it starts to hit reality and or the baby's here, they'd fall in LOVE and have over the top affection for you and the baby.
i’m getting married in a little over a year and we’re going to start a family once when’re financially stable enough to support a child. i’m so excited. i’ve always wanted to be a stay at home mom.
I'm only 2 mins into this and I love how you explain things you're a great talker !!
I am sooo happy I stumbled upon your channel. I'm currently 23 and 4 months pregnant (my first) and although you're now older with 2 more kids, I could relate soo much to the things you said. I really do pray that this baby brings me and my bf closer together as it did for you! i was soo scared at first when I found out, but I can't lie, I'm getting pretty excited.
I clicked the video because i thought the title says "How i told my parents my boyfriend was pregnant."
I'm so glad things worked out for you :) my parents got married at 19/21 and had me at 20/22 (mum/dad). But then they broke up 5/6 years later (divorced after 9) :( my mums now married to my stepdad (2 years now) and my dads engaged to my stepmum (who are in a love/hate relationship. Most the time they argue but only stay together for my half sisters).
I really hope it stays the way it is for you forever :)
I just have to say I have so much respect for you and your family. Sharing a story like this can often be hard to share in today's world. You seem to have shown great maturity through the situation. I can relate to being a young mom. Although for me I didn't face much criticism because for me it is very common where I live for people to get married young and start families young. I was married at the age of 18 just a week before my 19th birthday. Although I had not planned it, I got pregnant after 3 months of marriage. So because I was already married, and it's very culturally acceptable where I live, my pregnancy was met with great excitement from all my friends and family. If I could go back I probably would've liked to have waited a couple more years before starting a family, but I would never trade my son for anything. Going on 10 years of being married now and have two beautiful boys. It's just so rare to see young parents accept their responsibilities and to be so put together and I commend you for accepting responsibility and being so mature at such a young age. It's very inspiring!
Hi.
I was 21 years old when I got pregnant and everything just turned out fine. Now she is 8 months and we are living in a small apartment and we can´t wait to start our lives in our own house, get married and have more kids.
I often compare with family´s that has a baby in the same age as our daughter, with big houses and good jobs. But you made me realize something. We don´t have to rusch and worry, because one day we will be there. Not if, but when. We are still young and we are so happy. You made me want to live in the now and stop worrying about later. Thank you!
And the only thing I'm scared about having a baby is the pain 😩
I have deep respect for you being a mum of three with 24!!! And also you've achieved to buy a home ...wow! Motivates me so much seeing people like you! just the best for you!!!
im 19 with two kids. kinda wanted to start a RUclips explaining my journey this far but I really don't have the confidence or motivation to do so because im constantly being judged which isn't surprising, but it's still a sensitive issue to talk about
Shianna Yazzie
Thank you for sharing, I also got pregnant at 19. I was not in a good place in life and it took me until I was 4.5 months pregnant before I had the courage to tell my parents. Now I have 3 kids and a wonderful husband. She's now almost 13 :)
I knew straight away by your voice your an Aussie!!! Im an Aussie too! Subscribing right now!
I'm Aussie too yeah boii 😂
Jade Maree Aussie as well 👌🏽
haha 😎 I'm in Victoria!
Jade Maree Wollongong NSW! 😉
Jade Maree sammmeeee😀❤️
Knowing that you are pregnant, & still your bf is with you, fully supportive.......I'm really happy about it.
I got pregnant at 15 I'm now 21 and expecting my second due in April love my kids to bit 😍 love your videos you so beautiful xxx
This was honestly very inspirational for me. I am 19 yo and 27 weeks pregnant and this just gives me the motivation I need to continue doing all that I've set my mind to
Hi Ash could you please do the "10 baby name I love but won't be using" and "top 10 baby girl and boy names"?
Yes!
Oooh I've been loving those videos lately! Yeah for sure!
I'm really glad you decided to have your baby and get married. You're doing a great job, and I bet you're a fantastic mother. :3
Im in the same position right now!! This is so much help💕💕
Your brave.
I'm 26 and couldn't imagine that huge responsibility of a baby so that anyone who can younger or even older I have so much respect for
Thanks so much gurl! I think as humans we're pretty resilient, so rolling with the punches is just part of life. Having said that, while children mean you have to grow up a lot faster and make sacrifices, they're such a beautiful blessing and looking back I definitely wouldn't change a thing
I fell pregnant when I was 18 and had my daughter when I'm 19, my daughter is now nearly 8 weeks old
My pregnancy test came positive but I went to the doctors and got a blood test to double check haha yeah I was 100% pregnant.
Congratulations ♥
thank you :) Ms. Njeri
I became pregnant at 19. My daughter is 1 year old now.:)
Danielle Alder hope you and your baby the best of luck and health💜
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Thank you 😊 xx
having a child is a big responsibility and when you decide to do something that could result with one (whether you are still young or not), you have to be prepared wholeheartedly to put that child as your top priority. that means giving up your freedom to do whatever you want as you did before. it's all about that child now, not you. great sharing and well done for finishing school to ensure your child's future. :)
omg that candle is seriously about to fall off
I'm watching your video while walking out the door to go to work lol the struggle is real 😂😂GREAT VIDEO HUN
I thought I recognised your accent from somewhere! Go Australia!! I'm Australian too! Your so pretty. 🇦🇺😍😘❤️🇦🇺
OMG!! An Australian mummy!! You don't know how awesome this is!! And with an incredible story like this!! Love the video!! ❤😘
This is the first video of yours I'm watching and I already like you. I'm definitely subscribing
Awwww thanks so much! xo
Ash Jackson No problem :)
I lost my first baby in an ectopic pregnancy. It was a very hard for me and my husband adding to the fact that I nearly lost my life. I'm really thankful to God for giving me another life. I would have been 6 months pregnant this month. :( but I haven't lost hope. God is great
Do you have any videos talking about how you guys made it through money wise or any tips you have for teen parents? If not do you think you could make one?(:
Hi Ash, this is my first time watching any of your videos, and I have to say that your video really spoke to me because my mom found out she was pregnant with twins at 19! Not a lot of teenage pregnancies turn out to have a happy ending - but thankfully my family, as well as yours, has been incredibly fortunate when dealt a difficult hand. I am so happy to know of another family that has worked out so well. Congratulations on your wonderful family and I wish you all the best! :)
I'm 24 and couldn't imagine being a mother or getting married anytime soon and I have a bf that I love. I'm worried, is that normal? WTF.
No ahah you're totally normal gurl! Everyone's journey is different and I don't think the vast majority of women are ready for a child at 19, I certainly wasn't but just made the best of the situation I was in and now wouldn't change it :)
Ash Jackson Thanks! I hope to end up happy with whatever happens in life like you did!
im sure you will one day
I am 22 and I have a boyfriend but I hope I don't become pregnant soon.
Hi Demia, I'm not a virgin but right now I'm abstinent. The only birth control I use is condoms so I would recommend that you use condoms if you ever decide to have sex. If you can save yourself for marriage that's beautiful too but either way don't worry about being judged, it's just about being with the right guy and you'll know with time and your gut feeling if you can trust him. I would also say just be careful if you ever decide to get on birth control because there are a lot of side effects. I'm not on birth control because it made me feel very depressed and irritable it can really mess with your hormones. Definitely don't have meaningless sex. There is a lot of pressure in college and a lot of guys that can try to get aggressive and play games with your head so please protect yourself, don't just give in and have sex with any guy. But if you decide to, at the least use a condom or if you neglect that in the moment, just take a plan B the next morning.
I got pregnant January 2014 I was 17, (18 in march) so was 18 when I had my son! He's now 2 in 2 and half week, my mum was so upset at first... but now she absolutely adores my son!
The music is way TOO LOUD.
Oh man...he worked at Nando's?! That was my FAVORITE spot when I lived in the UK during college. Your pregnancy story was INCREDIBLE! LOVE!
im so happy to hear that you and your childrens father are still together! makes me feel happy :)
Awww thanks beauty! xo
You're so lucky to have that support. Also glad that you owned up to it instead of acting like a kid and neglecting that baby. I'm not planning on having kids until at least my mid twenties. I want to be young before I grow up, but if you want to be a mom that young then good for you
Thanks girl :)
I also got pregnant at the age of 19. I am now happily married and have a handsome son. :)
Just discovered your videos today. I also had my first child at 19, followed by marriage and a baby brother for my daughter. Its great to find another australian with a similar lifestyle to me.
I was pregnant at 19 aswel, his now 4 turning 5 in October. I now have 3 babies, two boys and one girl 😍
I know haha I have you on Facebook girl!
+Ash J haha Mumma brain. Dah Sam! Haha sorry lovely
I love this. For some, it's not a normal age to be pregnant for me and my area it isn't and I was pregnant at 18.
Thank you for helping others and sharing your story, this is what I believe people our general ages need help with because not everyone is as brave sometimes or needs community help!
Congratulations by the way and I wish you well
Love your videos but please turn down the background music next time!!
SO sorry about that!! I didn't play back the video before uploading it to check and usually I would have picked up on something like that!
Can i ask what song this is?
song is so beautiful, what song is it ? :3
Bellinda Co guys check out my channel!! It'd mean a lot💓
This is such a cute and real story. I love how honest and open you are :) I think you're parent reacted the exact same way that my parents would!
I see nothing wrong with someone bring pregnant at 19 kids out her getting pregnant at 12
I'm so glad I found your channel! I loved this video. My mom had my brother at 17 and i'm so thankful that she decided to keep him. XO
i was 19 also but my son was planned, still with my man 14yrs later and 3 kids :)
I was prengnant when i was 19 and my daughter is a little over a year old. she is my world!
no offense, but the music in the background is way too loud
So impressed by how mature you and your husband are!! Good for you, I'm really happy for you :)
I'm 20 and 20 weeks pregnant right now💙 I'm having a boy! I'll be 21 in January though.
congratulations! Hope everything goes well! xx
Rebecca Hall I'm 20 and 17 weeks pregnant and I'll be 21 in January as well aha, congrats on your baby🎉🎊🎈
Alexa Gallardo congrats to you too!!❤️❤️
Thanks so much for sharing your story!! It really hit home for me... I was 14, when I got pregnant!
I'm 18 and I wouldn't imagine being pregnant at 19 oh my god no way
@Demia Me we are not smoking anything. Some of us are responsible enough. I'm 19, still studying for my degree and I'm engaged. Some of us are just way ahead of our years and I wouldn't have it any other way. We all live differently and so do you.
Exactly
Éll Gould that’s fine but people out here acting being pregnant at 19 is the same as being pregnant at 27 19 Is extremely young but you do you
Cameron Jones 27 is kinda old to have a kid, almost 30. I thinking having a kid at 19 isn’t too young, you’re literally an adult
This has just made my day! This story is so happy! And I couldn't wish of a better moment than this one! I'm so happy for all you guys and hope you have a happy rest of your life!
Thank you so much for your love and positivity girl
Hey, you are sooo likeable. Thank you for telling your story and good luck with everything!
Moms are just amazing 😩 my mom told my dad for me as well, since my dad can be intimidating. I was ok with that too 😝 but yea once my baby girl was born I feel like it brought all of us closer together 💕 God bless you're family! 😊
first video im watching of yours & i already love you!!
Sameee
same
Kayla Hike Me too
I found out too when I was 19!! She is now 12 (scary) I felt really ill and ended up going to the doctors, he told me you're not ill, you're pregnant!!! We knew we had to get our act together too, 9 months to grow up lol telling my mum and dad was the scariest thing I have ever had to do but they were really supportive. She ended up being the best surprise in my life xx
Awww thanks so much for sharing your story love! It makes all the difference when you have the love and support of your friends and family!
I really dont understand how people these days can become pregnant by accident? There is so many ways of protection these days..
There are things, like supplements for example that can effect contraception. St Johns Wart for example can block it from working among many others. If you have stomach upsets it can also effect how efficient it is. If you want to be sure use two types, one being a condom, no contraception can promise is 100% protection. If anyone is not an adult and having sex think twice, better to wait.
MARIA BAUER they either want to lose it fast and be popular in school or aren't always careful and sometimes it doesn't work when using condoms or taking birth control
Well I was on the pill, used protection which broke, avoided the fertile/ovulation week and still got pregnant. Protection isn't always 100%
I had a client that told me of how she got pregnant with all 5 of her children while on the pill, she wasn't even joking, No pill worked for her, don't know what went wrong. Nothing is a sure thing which is why I don't agree with kids that are still in school having sex.
I know this is late haha but ash has said in another video that she was on the pill and taking it the right way but it failed, so don't be so quick to judge
Not only do you look amazing for having 3 kids!! But I'm also 19 and pregnant and have always had a maternal part to me and been a very broody person, I was scared telling my partner and his parents but I'm also close with my mum so she was thrilled, my partner was fine and we are both exited and really happy we both currently work full time but I plan on going to work for another year after my maternity leave before going to uni for my teaching degree pleased it worked out for you and I hope we have the same luck. Also drinking age is 18 in the U.K. so I totally understand x
I'm pregnant at 19 too 👶🏽😄😄
Genesis Deras I hope you have a healthy pregnancy ☺️ btw you're really beautiful 💕
Genesis Deras same here very very nervous
Nasser El Sonbaty you are a disgusting excuse of a person. How dare you speak to a woman like that
Nasser El Sonbaty like I said you are a disgusting piece of work and I hope that every woman in your life realises who you are and leaves you. You have turned this nice post about a woman celebrating her pregnancy into a perverted and racist hate thread. You're a bloody disgrace
finally getting a chance to catch up on videos now that i have to fit and feeding a newborn into my schedule. Although you've touched on this before, it was nice hearing it in more detail. You are very lucky for supportive parents and James ❤❤
Died at the part where you said you both started cleaning the house
i fell pregnant at 16! still going strong! keep up the good work xx
whats the background music? :) great video btw my mom had me at 19 too and ill be 21 in a few months
This is so crazy! Glad everything worked out, your life seems great and you're super happy
3 children by 24?😱 How lucky. Young mothers. You actually get to see your children grow.
I got pregnant when I was 18 & had my son when I was 19. I turn 20 next month and my son turns one in December. Having him was the best choice I've ever made. He is the light of my life and I wouldn't change a thing.
Beautifully said Kassidy!! Congratulations on your little one
Your so gorgeous, I'm Australian too!!
Married at 18 military wife , now pregnant 11 weeks and will be having our bundle of joy December 25 ❤️
What's shocking about being pregnant when you know you had sex?
Pregnancy is always a shock regardless of the situation. You could be planning to get pregnant and still get shocked when you find out you've conceived.
Not everyone has sex with the intent of getting pregnant.
Lex ' I'm aware that isnt my point. wether you protect yourself or not i mean you have sex so whats so shocking to find out youre pregnant you do know contraceptives aren't 100% when you have sex you should know you have a risk of having a child
+Stephanie Bianca Your life is about to change forever. The life you knew will never be the same and you are making another human being. What is there not to be shocked about
you obviously never had sex Stephanie huh
I recently found your channel, and I'm already so addicted to your videos! Thank you for sharing for such a personal story, I'm off to binge watch the rest of your videos!
It's cute how your boyfriend was so supportive. Did you use any contraception before getting pregnant that failed to work or you didn't and you just got pregnant?
Hey girl I probably should have mentioned that in the video! So I had been on the pill for 3 years without an issue but I had been sick in the few weeks leading up to falling pregnant which can affect the pill
Sickness can affect the pill?! Didn't know that, or did it fail and you felt sick because you were pregnant?
If she was vomiting then yeah, that would majorly affect the pill. You need at least 2 hrs after taking it for it to be absorbed, so if you were throwing up and whatnot, then it wouldn't be fully absorbed.
you are so strong i would have freaked out my parents would've killed me but they would come around I'm so happy everything worked out for you😚💕💕💕