Why you were the chosen SCAPEGOAT

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  • Опубликовано: 29 окт 2024

Комментарии • 55

  • @nicktaber2969
    @nicktaber2969 4 месяца назад +4

    "Their way of coping with their unhealed wounds is denial. Your natural way is speaking the truth." So true.

  • @nicktaber2969
    @nicktaber2969 4 месяца назад +2

    As I connect more with my childhood emotional experience, I realize that a lot of what I was doing was grieving my parents' traumas - of having to deny their true selves and never dealing with it.

  • @Etheric111Mystic
    @Etheric111Mystic Год назад +13

    Shoot I’m still the scapegoat til this day, in the workforce , at first it started in my family dynamic, now it’s been at every place I’ve worked for!

  • @dinobird64
    @dinobird64 8 месяцев назад +3

    God, I've spent 45 years drinking to escape my pain of family rejection, and also the pain of thinking "Something is (intrinsically) wrong with me". Nothing ever was wrong with me. I threatened the broken family system with my sensitivity and honesty. You have to be SO strong to be in this role. But the truth of who I am, and who we all are, is beyond what we were originally taught. Thank you Candace.

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  8 месяцев назад +1

      ABSOLUTELY!! Every word!!!! 💫🫶🏻

  • @PeterAcrat
    @PeterAcrat Год назад +7

    I can relate to your 'Validation' comment: "anyone who genuinely 'gets me' "... they'll get more of my time and attention because I can see they have empathy, are capable of deeper rapport/ connection, and are very likely willing to grow with self-awareness and be accountable (unlike the the narcissistic blaming and projecting types).

  • @catherineroberts9650
    @catherineroberts9650 9 месяцев назад +2

    I think my sister got mad at me. Because I suggested she needs to look at why she does not returning phone calls. She got mad. You are on point.😊😅😂😂😂😂😂😂.

  • @jenniferinfanteavila
    @jenniferinfanteavila 9 месяцев назад +2

    OMG! What a wonderful information! So precise and accurate… It’s like you were talking about my life… I’m stopping and repeating parts a lot of times, I need to digest them carefully!!! Thanks for your videos I’m having a lot of Eurekas by every 30 seconds ❤

  • @winniewinkles
    @winniewinkles Год назад +13

    Totally Candace, the uncertain identity and living in an existential crisis. Being born equipped to function at 5D or being awake. Not being able to function in the 3D optimally. Being ostracized by our birth tribe (toxic family). Thank you for your wonderful work Candace. I am same, I never doubted my take, I just didn’t get why with the being so different. Love this. We came to be the medicine.

  • @katherineparize5978
    @katherineparize5978 10 месяцев назад +1

    Ooooh thank you so much, for the way you explained this topic is so adequate to how I understand and feel things, and you made me have such an ha-ha moment with the phrase:"you've been given too much power too young..." Thank you very much for this enlightment!

  • @janicebeauchamp61
    @janicebeauchamp61 Год назад

    Thank you I appreciate the video 🙏❤️

  • @ErwinSFbay
    @ErwinSFbay 18 дней назад

    This 💯 me. Thank you for sharing this. My journey to spirituality in the pandemic. This has been my biggest wound. Thank you for sharing Candice 🙏

  • @annastone5624
    @annastone5624 Год назад +6

    In my view now.. the abuse is designed to position the victim as the listener, encourager, advisor - everyone wants that of course! The victim would like that too..
    But the person least able to escape or fight back - ends up stuck with the role of ‘giver’

  • @camarorules1
    @camarorules1 Год назад +1

    I'm STILL the scapegoat and I'm 64 yrs old 😮

  • @GuitarAtWork
    @GuitarAtWork Год назад +2

    Absolutely outstanding Candace. I’ll be watching this video to start my day for the foreseeable future - to remind me that I’ve been right all along - I couldn’t articulate it as a kid, or even as an adult until now. Appreciate you!
    Shane

  • @shannonrae7257
    @shannonrae7257 Год назад +7

    YES YES YES!!!! Wow. This brought so much clarity for me. Thank you so much beautiful sister and Congrats on your 10 Year YT!!!!
    🎉🙏💕⭐🌈

  • @michellebrown3412
    @michellebrown3412 Год назад +2

    Thank you. Congratulations on holding up a mirror to the unsaid emotions of those who have been drowned out due to sensitivities!

  • @Lisay788
    @Lisay788 11 месяцев назад +2

    Thanks for sharing!

  • @WeR1bodyNChrist
    @WeR1bodyNChrist 5 месяцев назад +1

    ❤Amen❤

  • @lydiarosebrita4901
    @lydiarosebrita4901 Год назад +1

    So true, I have been doing daily affirmations and I always use 'i am powerful'!!

  • @jerome6572
    @jerome6572 Год назад +1

    Candace what you said is so true!!!Scapegoat is me from my friends and family.Candace my biological father was a murderer-rapist so that's why am different and smart.Candace I love brains and beauty that's You.Jerome❤❤❤

  • @winniewinkles
    @winniewinkles Год назад +2

    CONGRATULATIONS for the 10 years!! Amazing!!🎉

  • @foivoskaterina
    @foivoskaterina Год назад

    I love you Candace!!! ❤ thank God I have met you in this life again!!!!

  • @cliffordjacobson9534
    @cliffordjacobson9534 Год назад

    Thank you Candace, it’s been a while since watching you. Now I really see your gift “emotions whisperer” you dgaf, very good and kudos

  • @denisebargas
    @denisebargas Год назад +1

    You go girl…10 years! So proud of you❣️

  • @Quis7919
    @Quis7919 9 месяцев назад

    We love you Candace. Alignment. Amen and love to Source :-)

  • @beatakosc7214
    @beatakosc7214 Год назад +1

    Happy 10 th anniversary! Congratulations and thank you for what you do. 10 years is a full circle!

  • @reesemecchi6913
    @reesemecchi6913 Год назад +1

    F YESSSSSS this is so encouraging and so right on. I feel like I’m just waking up and realizing the points you’ve made here. Grateful for your sharing ! Happy fall !

  • @deanmoulton8994
    @deanmoulton8994 Год назад +2

    Thank you, beautiful Candace for sharing your life journey, and congratulations on your 10 year anniversary with YT. Family is the "double edged sword". If things were different when we were young, we would not have made the universal connection. Love your videos and insight.

  • @camarorules1
    @camarorules1 Год назад +4

    Congrats on your 10 yr anniversary 🎉❤

  • @catherineroberts9650
    @catherineroberts9650 9 месяцев назад +1

    I am highly sensitive person. I found out when I went to DBT. In 2004.

  • @michaeljohns8817
    @michaeljohns8817 9 месяцев назад

    WOW !!!! CONGRATULATIONS ON 10 YRS !!!!!

  • @monicaespinoza1806
    @monicaespinoza1806 Год назад +1

    Thank you for all your so accurate and great videos, I am the scapegoat ❤

  • @BeautifullyBlissfulButterfly
    @BeautifullyBlissfulButterfly 4 месяца назад +1

    Binging your videos. Wowowowow Thank you. ❤

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  4 месяца назад +1

      So happy you found me ❤️❤️

  • @Nirosha101
    @Nirosha101 Год назад +1

    So true! Every word you spoke is so true! Thanks for owning your true self so you can help us own ours! Congrats on your 10 years of hard work on RUclips!🎉

  • @annastone5624
    @annastone5624 Год назад

    I love this comment on understanding ‘all the different dynamics’

  • @MsThe90
    @MsThe90 Год назад +1

    Omg candace, i can totally relate with you

  • @jojopoeticstyle1224
    @jojopoeticstyle1224 8 месяцев назад

    Being co dependent and feeling what other people are feeling intensely at times is overwhelming and sometimes unbearable. Sometimes I can’t distinguish if it’s me or them, the worst part is entertaining that idea only to find it wasn’t what I wanted. Just myself recognizing the plans/agenda someone may or may not have sought out for me. Even when Im not spot on I’m right about a particular subject( this may sound weird)

  • @shakayamcfarland4996
    @shakayamcfarland4996 Год назад

    Congratulations on your 10 year and thank you for your service and work ❤

  • @btlfilmmedia9514
    @btlfilmmedia9514 8 месяцев назад

    Thanks, this really explained what it's like to carry everyone's shit ...

  • @marimalk1
    @marimalk1 Год назад

    ❤Thank you forever❤

  • @Angell_Lee
    @Angell_Lee Год назад +1

    Happy youtube Anniversary Candace!! Do you have the option of giving a super chat? I don't seems to see it. Blessings xo

  • @camarorules1
    @camarorules1 Год назад +1

    Wow I ended up so sick 😢

  • @colettemarotta1859
    @colettemarotta1859 Год назад +1

    Omg!!!!!!yesssss

  • @N5555b
    @N5555b Год назад

    Hi Candace🙂
    Are your courses and Zoom meetings also suitable for Israeli time?
    How can I get more information?

  • @Wrench_my_Peyote
    @Wrench_my_Peyote Год назад

    You see you breed your hands (A 2)and i`m rich( A 1)

  • @kusumshadeja2385
    @kusumshadeja2385 Год назад

    👍🎉

  • @agent_exodus
    @agent_exodus Год назад

    Thank you for elucidating this, Candace. 🤍❤️