Adrienne Shares When Her Ex Refused to Give Her a Key… Even Though They Lived Together!
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- Опубликовано: 28 ноя 2021
- Is giving your significant other a key to your place… key to a successful relationship? Adrienne shares the time she actually lived with her ex and he was apprehensive to hand over entry to his place. Plus, a psychologist claims PMS is just a myth… We weigh in with our own experiences.
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I've put the pieces together through these videos from A's last relationship/when she hints at it on topics in recent episodes and have decided that Lenny wasn't sh*t🥴
At all 💅🏻
Exactly
And then he proposed to manipulate her and she said yes. Thank god that ended
Amen!
Realised this years ago😭 Rob was the one that cheated on her, Lenny didn’t allow her to be herself and didn’t show her love properly
"I always felt like I was pushing for every step" damn that's deep
I'm happy for Adrienne for calling off her engagement to Lenny. She is mature and wise beyond her years, this along with love and support from her family and her faith in God led her to Israel.
And now seeing her happy marriage with Isreal, that all matters, everyone gets to be with someone values you and supports you.
This is why God calls living together before marriage sin. God made marriage, not us. He's smarter than all of us.
I completely understand how Adrienne felt. I was in a relationship where there was no key but I felt like I had the front door to my life open to him and he wasn't even willing to crack open the window. It's as if they have their life with you and their job/family/ friends separate.
Ewww yeah I was in this relationship for two years, it’s a shitty feeling.
Next time read the body language know where he stands beforehand
It's very hurtful and disrespectful! Makes you feel like you are not good enough/ worth it to have their keys!
Thank you Adrienne for being real. It's not easy to talk about because like you said, it gets embarrassing. But so many young women have been in situations like this, but we can see that TRUE love is on the other side, thanks to you.
Isn’t it weird that people find it ok to share their bodies and souls with a person but are reluctant to give their password to that same person?. People value the info on their phone morethan they value themselves?
I have seen this segment so many times I literally know it verbatim 😂 Loni not listening to the story, Jeannie’s ‘Me and America heard the story, where were you?’
Lmao same😂😂
yessss hahahahahahahha
I LITERALLY watched this like 4 days ago 😂! I thought I was bugging
Lol
Ik adrienne was talking about lenny on today's 'Why don't you like me' segment, he really did not like her smh
he was so lame
Same.
Major red flag and extremely petty. I think having a key should be a requirement before moving in.
Lol y’all have posted this 3 times. One of my favorite girl chats because what Adrienne said really opened my eyes but I promise we’ll be fine if you don’t keep posting it. Respectfully.
Your comment made me really laugh out loud. Your were so gracious, polite and respectful in your fedupness. 😂😂😂
I never get tired of this particular girl talk. I am amazes that Adrienne went thru this.
My first time seeing this
Lmaaooo I agree with you
Yes the second time
Adrienne was Young and Inexperience she's grown up now and know better.
A good lesson never give anyone your keys.
A so called friend of mine, cut keys to my home, which I gave her to look after my home when I was away on a long holiday 3/4 years ago. She later came to my home when I was out and Cleared me out of all my Clothes, Shoes, Bed linen, foodstuff etc.
NEVER TRUST anyone with your keys.
I am so sorry this happened to you. The same thing happened to me, except for my friend wasn’t coming over to help me with anything I was actually leaving my door open for her while I was gone. And when you come home and find everything you’ve worked so hard for is gone, it’s like being a Katrina victim or having been in a hurricane and you’ve lost everything except for you don’t have FEMA or the Red Cross or a bunch of People donating clothes and money to help you rebuild your life. It’s a terrible traumatic thing to happen to anyone
It’s because they referenced it on the show that’s why they reposted it
@@HH-gv8mx I leave her to God and Karma. She thought she was clever but all the neighbours know her and described her but don't want to come forward to make an official statement. Anyhow, she's on the wanted list. Imagine, for a few stolen items from a friend, you're now a wanted Criminal.
@Anne Day comments like this are so pick me. Who are you to say that? She knows now. Who cares that she was too grown to YOU to be learning?
Love can make you do crazy things. I am so glad she let him go. That is so disrespectful to make her wait on him to get into their home. Red flags are given and sometimes we overlook them to make us feel like the situation is fine or okay. She knows her worth now.
People be mindful about these relationships. Don’t be so desperate to be with someone. Recognize the red flags. Love yourself first. I’ve been there. It’s not cute. This is for platonic and romantic relationships. People are scared to be alone but it’s worse being alone with a whole bunch of people around.
I totally agree with Loni & Jeannie about how some folks be stingy with their money. I remember my best friend at the time who was a quadriplegic (God rest his soul) was blessed with such a giving spirit. He had a lot of close friends and we all would hang out together, using his wheelchair accessible van. All his friends had jobs, however would NEVER offer to put money towards his gas tank. Like Loni, I would pay for the gas because my quadriplegic friend would give one of us his debit card to pay and it made me extremely upset. I would literally watch them spend their money on drinks, foods & other stuff….but would NEVER speak up when it’s time to stop at the gas station (and we hang out a lot back then). They genuinely loved him, but definitely took advantage of not having to spend their money. My friend was the type to insist on paying because he felt if it wasn’t for them he’d be stuck in the house. Although I understood how he felt, I still felt they were being selfish. Allowing us to use his van also saved gas & milage for all of us. I also paid for his meals and other things. I felt his life was pretty difficult being completely paralyzed, so to me it was the least I could do for him….
that shows your heart. God bless you and i'm sure you're friend really appreciated you and enjoyed having such a genuine and caring friend like you around dear.
We need more people like YOU onthisearth 💞
@@envya2774 your comment actually doesn’t bother me, your chosen name explains why u commented in such a disrespectful way…
You are so dope, even though he didn't say it
@@diariesofagrowingcaramelqu6665 if u mean my friend, he was very appreciative of our friendship. But if u meant that “envy a” person, he or she’s words are as important to me as dust. However thank you for your wonderful words
I reallllllyyyyy do miss Tam.
I miss the fun playful energy between Tam and Loni
I felt that way about a car. I was in a long term relationship and I’d let him drive my car all the time but I couldn’t drive his. Maybe it’s me but I thought that was immature if we were talking marriage.
It’s not you hon. It’s definitely not you.
Driving someone’s car is a liability if you’re not on their insurance. I don’t lend my vehicle to ANYONE.
@@yeyamusic Thank you.
@@thatbemefool In his case he wasn’t thinking about the insurance factor he was being funny about his car. Also, I would hope you’d put your wife/husband on your insurance. If you wouldn’t let your wife or husband drive your car that’s disgusting imo.
@@khandibaugh23 the thing is you weren’t his wife yet, and I’m quite traditional so some things are for marriage and not before, including splitting assets & liabilities. I don’t think I’d lend my car and take on that financial risk or give my keys to a partner until we’re married but that’s just me personally.
My bf lived with his parents, but gave me a key to his car lol I didn't know what that meant haha. 12 yrs later we're still together.
Hope he’s your husband now 💍
@@paidamagumbe4659 He is🤭 we now have two boys.
This is adorable,!!!!!!!!! Cracked me uppppp!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Aw so cute!
@@alos.h256 wow congratulations!
Oh this was Lenny! Girl I could see why she didn’t marry him.
Good for her! Glad she ended that forced engagement and met a man who is a true partner to her.
Who is lenny
@@cnope2444 yes please tell us more
@@cnope2444 her fiance. Well ex-fiance. He's very good friends with Jay Z. Same little click. Quite frequently on Kelly's IG.
Amen
Lenny is trifling AF for doing Adrienne like that.
Amen! LoL
The dinner conversation was interesting. When my friends and I go to dinner, the expectation is always that everyone will be paying for their own meals. I never thought that me asking people to go out was an indication that I was willing to pay, especially not on my birthday. I don’t think anyone should expect the person whose birthday it is to pay for their guests’ meals.
rich ppl do things differently
Actuallly its very common in Ghana… its my birthday and i wanted us to go out for a party so i pay for the ppl i invite… tbh … its cos i grew up in Germany i got used to the idea that when i invite ppl for my birthday the all pay themselves…
specifically, this happened because the birthday girl was a lot richer than her friends.
if they were all rich, and they went to an expensive place, then the birthday girl shouldnt pay which is what they said before.
if theyre all broke, then theyd probably go to cheap places and the birthday girl still doesnt pay, which is what theyve said before (and what me and my friends do personally).
its just when there are huge differences in income, like with actors who are dirt poor one day and millionares the next that this even matters.
One time I had a boyfriend who asked me for a key to my house. I told him you get a key where you pay rent. LOL
Amen
💯
I have been like Ad in previous relationships. You will blame yourself. And if you don’t love yourself you will accept anything. Literally. Happy she is with Is now.
My ex had a key and it wasn’t for him to stay… I never had the key to his place. He abused his privileges… I agree with Adrienne, I was in that position.. asking all the time regardless of what it was. He didn’t offer. He felt entitled to everything I had. He was using all my stuff. He knew I was just open and I didn’t hide anything.
If he doesn't do whatever is necesery to make you feel safe, then he is not your husband. Love heals, love doesn't hurt.
Hallelujah
Passwords? Thats too much. What if I have private conversations? Im loyal but my friends talk about stuff
Adrienne is very insightful, always.
I don't agree with sharing passwords. Particularly phone passwords. I have private conversations with friends and relatives. It should remain with us. It is fair to not disclose other people private conversations with your partner. I know I text things to my friends and family that I wouldn't want their boyfriend's having access to.
I agree. Some people think marriage also means a loss of all privacy. As long as there’s no dishonesty, one should be able to have private conversations.
@@larabraver 💯
I trust my fiance to not go through my belongings, but he has my passwords to anything he will ever need in case of an emergency. If you have been with someone for a long time you will know there will be many times where they need to answer/send an email/text/phone call for you.
Why would u even ask for a key? That's so low! You need to be offered a key!
I don’t agree with giving a boyfriend or girlfriend a phone password. It’s not a cheating thing or any other shady thing , I just want some level of privacy
I have very crazy pics/selfie so yes me too haha...
I also have screenshots of online products I wish to buy etc...Idk I also feel like hp is private 😅
I agree! That’s where trust comes in.
@UCeohNT1J3xjdd-4Aa29qtXg Preach
You need some level of privacy fr
It's not that deep. Just ask them not to go through your phone, but in an emergency situation you WILL want them to have access to your belongings.
Adrienne forced the relationship with a Lenny because she felt like because she was with him for years no point plus she was trying to safe face. Glad she is out that toxic relationship. She probably wanted kids and didn’t want start over too
Thank you for being honest and vulnerable, Adrienne! ❤️
She never names the people in question
@@stacyr4768why should she?
@@star16me It adds more validity to the story and can makes us the viewer connect better with the narrative.
You are darm right Andriene!!!
No keys for boyfriends or girlfriends.
Loni doesn’t listen. Adrienne clearly said she gave up her NY apartment to move to LA and would stay/live with him when she was back at home.
Lonnie looks good and I love her hair here.
Totally agreed with Adrienne! Well said! I am also with Loni . .ie. if u r not quite sure of wat u want from that person. And yes Jeannie...unless there's something broken in the relationship/something to hide passwords should not be a secret!
Lol remember when Lenny put carrots in a box
So cringe 😭😭😭😂😂😂
Carrots? What was that about? Think I vaguely recalled the story but can't remember the significance. Go on let the Lord use you n tell me bout it or better yet find the clip. Wait. Too much? Ok just tell me bout it then. 😂😂
Why?😩
He seemed to have put her through the ringer even based on today’s girl chat segment about people not liking you.
@@charmcharm2352 LMAO she told the story of her first proposal and how he put carrots in a box to make some point about how she wasn’t marrying him for money. Look up the video from when she first told them she was engaged
@@ceeare12345 Ohhh yeaahhh. Thx girl cuz Lord knows I was just too lazy to look it up myself.😂
Adrienne shouldn't have given him a key since he hadn't given her a key until she asked for a key.
Exactly!
A year into a relationship we need to be discussing a key to the home we are considering for marriage.
Lol hell no
Def yes
Yup!
My life. Didn't wanna marry me but wanted access to my stuff he gave me chump change . He have a key but his name isn't going on my house . I paid it off and repair it and paid for repairs while he just stood their like the narcissist he really is. I'm leaving him me and babies forever
U should been gone don't marry him either. Congrats on ur home.
In my opinion...Adrienne seems to be/IS just an OPEN honest person with a good 💖 that she wears on her SHOULDERS and people uses it to their advantage! I can totally relate to her... cause I am the same way. Ie.YOU GOT ... NOTHING...TO HIDE...THEN YOU... HIDE ... NOTHING!
WHY THE SECRECY?
So GLAD she's in a HAPPIER place today!!!
That password is a big stupid mistake to ask your man.
Thankfully God has blessed her with a husband after Gods heart she deserves to be happy love the Real such beautiful woman with great chemistry
I love Loni with glasses 🤓! She should do that look again
Love that Adrienne isn't too ashamed to speak on her last relationships. You definitely aren't alone and will wake someone else up to hopefully seeing their worth.
I'm also glad Tam is gone. The cluelessness of regular topics were 💤💤. Although she herself is admirable, it's like she didn't have much to bring to the table other than being a mom. (Not downplaying motherhood)
Why would Adrienne even accept that???
I don’t agree with sharing passwords. There’s private conversations that people have with relatives or even friends that your significant other doesn’t need to know about imo. And if you feel the need to have your partners password than that means you don’t trust them. Why be in a relationship with someone you don’t trust. Just my opinion.
It's funny that I actually come to the same conclusion for the opposite reason. If you feel your partner would snoop through your phone then that's a red flag and why be in a relationship with someone you can't trust. I don't think there should be some huge exchange of passwords but when in the comfort of a LTR at some point you casually share your password because it's a hassle not to. It's kind of weird to me that I would have to wait for my partner to unlock their phone for me to look up directions or call someone when we have been together for years. I'd probably forget their password anyways or they'd have to tell me again when I go to unlock it bc I wouldn't expect them to tell me every time they changed their password. Maybe it's just because I am not a snoopy person that I feel comfortable doing that.
@@rosalinaburton3061
That’s also very true.
Exactly. Asking for someone’s password is so high school. Expecting to have it is high school. GUILTING someone into giving it to you and saying “Well you have MINE! So why not give me YOURS?” is very high school.
Even at the university when a friend of mine came to visit me for about a week , I gave her a key the first day because there was a probability she was going to get back to the hostel before me or vice versa just in case I had to go to lectures and she had to go out.
Right on point!!
Tam be hitting with these Lil freak moments 👀😂❤️
Love the clips
Oh I hope my partner sees this!She’s hogging the bed all the time LOL I knew it!
I don’t agree with the phone password rule. My husband and I never had a need to share it for one to hold and remember. I trust him with his phone if I want to know who or what he is doing on his phone when we are having quality time I just ask, simple. He would also show me his phone 📱 anytime. As far as the Key dilemma we never had those issues since we moved in together so we each had a key. Now Adrienne’s situation was foul. If I was in her shoes I would’ve asked for my keys back and probably would’ve discussed my access to my partner’s place before “living” with him. Then make a decision up front as to whether or not I would stay over as much. He played her and she allowed it. Smh.
We know this is old but it’s a good throw back
I love that Adrienne has moved on and UP! Lenny was trash
Shacking up doesn’t work!!
I didn’t fully grasp it either Loni. X
Unpopular opinion. I think the common theme is expecting people to think the same without having the conversation about it. Adrienne should have had a conversation with the man before giving up her key, and expecting the same in return, and communicate about dinner plan pay. People cannot read our minds and some people feel differently about giving free access to all their assets and pay 🤷♀️
It's expecting adults to be adults. I would never accept someone's house key if I feel we weren't at that level of intimacy to reciprocate.
Thanks so much
I miss this, the Chemistry with this 4 ladies.. Epic
Welcome to the conversation
When they say “password to phone” I don’t think they mean you asking for the password to look through the phone but more like…after a certain amount of time at least for me there is a certain point where maybe my phones dead (because my phones never charged🙄) you could just be like hey babe what’s your password I need to look something up, and they’re comfortable enough to give it to you. I know my bfs password, I’ve maybe only actually had to use his phone a handful of times ever so it’s not like I’m using the code to snoop through text or pics but there’s an openness where he knows if I’m ever on his phone or need to use his password I’m just going to do whatever I need to do, make a call/look something up etc and then put the phone away. It just shows a level of trust and comfortability that I think is normal at a certain point in a relationship. If you’re afraid to give someone your password because you think they want to snoop or that they’re asking because they don’t trust you then you probably shouldn’t be with them 🤷🏽♀️
Im only 22. Im still learning and my mind can change on this in the future. Adrienne mentioned that she’s not going to marry someone if there isn’t already a certain level of openness there. I get that. I get that there are certain fundamentals you should have to prove before you get married. For example, if you have issues staying faithful, obviously I’m not going to get married to you. There is a fine line between that and giving married privileges to someone you’re not married to. I don’t believe in shacking up before marriage for MYSELF. So why would I give you a key? To me, a key says that you live there and that’s your space too. It’s easy to go down that rabbit hole of giving a man your not married to married privileges and I don’t recommend it. Just my biased opinion. But hey, do what works for y’all.
I love their energy in this clip! Vibes.
I 100% agree with Loni on this one. I am only giving my key to someone I am MARRIED to.
I met my boyfriend in february and he gave me a key in May, didn't have to ask for it.
Loni...is she talking about the girl in the Christmas Movie with Kelly...the one in the Tyler Perry movie? 👀👀
Nope no key until marriage. I CERTAINLY SAY NO KEY AFTER DIVORCE! THAT I REALLY DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT!
This looks old because Jeannie Mai is supposed to be on Maternity leave. Here Jeannie does not even appear pregnant!!!! Is this a fake segment or what what ?
It’s weird to see Lonnie take the helm on the relationship debacle with her being the single one in the group. It’s like the sober one telling the group of drunks what the champagne taste like. She should have played the supportive role in this conversation and took a step back. Adrian still looks heart broken over the key thing . That guy sounds like too much for anyone to deal with. I’m sure he’s still single.
One Of My Boo's Broke Up Because, "I Wouldn't Take Money Or The Key To His Home. I Told Him, "I Make My Own Money & Only Need 1 Key, And That's To My Home."
This is simple. It’s it not a big deal and it’s “*just* a key* then there shouldn’t be a problem comin’ up off it.
"Welcome to the conversation Loni" ⚰😆🤣
🤣🤣🤣
@@TheRealDaytime Loni was in her own head. So she could instantly judge instead of listening. She's doing better lately but she's always "ready, shoot, aim”.
This is the third time y'all have uploaded this thing
10:34 Since she said the friends aren’t as successful as the actress, how much was the dinner bill? Depending on the restaurant maybe they could only afford the tip 🤷🏻♀️
She addressed that, "contribute what you can" and many contribute nothing. If you going out you can at least afford to contribute $20.
@@rosalinaburton3061 She did not address how much the bill was. Hypothetically speaking, if you take a group of 7 friends to dinner and the bill comes out to 5k, why embarrass yourself by giving $100. Why, as the 2 rich people in the group, one being Loni, would you want to embarrass the ones who can’t afford it. If all they could give is $5 or $100 towards a 5k tab after they were told it was free, that can be embarrassing to some people. Knowing how much the tab cost gives better context to the situation. If I was the rich one in the group I wouldn’t mind paying for my good close friends to hang out on my birthday. Good friends are more important to me.
@@khandibaugh23 I don't think it's embarrassing. Your friends, true friends, know where you are financially and will appreciate what you can give. Especially if they got it like that anyway. If it was just any night out, sure, let your friend that got it pay bc they want to but on their birthday it's just stank not to try to cover yourself to some degree. In regards to the 5k bill, there is no way in hell Loni is paying 5K for someone else's birthday dinner. I can't see it. I ain't rich so maybe I just can't relate but I can eat (including drinks) very well for $150 and that's including tip.
@@rosalinaburton3061 Like you said, your true friends know where you are financially, hence the reason why the birthday girl offered to pay. That part. Also, in their world, which you admit to not being a part of, a “Birthday Bill” could very well be 5k especially in California and depending on the brand of wine/alcohol they are drinking. How do you know they didn’t buy her a gift instead? If the bill was 1k then yeah they probably could’ve chipped in, why wouldn’t you as a real friend. But like I said, knowing how much the bill was brings more understanding to the situation. I wouldn’t invite a friend who I knew didn’t have money like me to an expensive night out without paying, that’s rubbing salt in the wound imo. If you don’t want to pay just invite the friends who can afford it. Again, it depends on how much we’re talking. Or maybe she needs to reevaluate her friends 🤷🏻♀️
@@khandibaugh23 It is very hard to spend 5K on dinner unless it is an extremely exclusive place or involves some type of entertainment. In my experience people in her TAX bracket don't ball out like that. I see that the latter just comes down to principle which is based on upbringing so agree to disagree.
Sorry I don’t want any ones password my phone is private I have never felt the need to share no do I want someone one password.
Loni looks beautiful
Even on a free table, eat what you can afford.
This is hilarious and I didn’t watch it. The caption says it all
I was given the key 🔑 However when I was ready to use it and the chain was on the door!And he never came to answer… And this person still want me to think that he is so in love with me.💜
Lol damm
Did he ever use the chain when you were over there ??? 🤔 but if you still with him call when you're right outside and use the key. If the chain on and he falls back to sleep in the quickness 😴 ..idk
@@sunni9044Yes he would use the chain when we were in the house together. However, When he knew that I was not in the house he would leave it off. And you know our women’s intuition is what it is always.
Wtf had Loni being doing when A was talking, she definitely wasn't listening yet she was seated the closest to A.
Loni looks gooooood here.
Change the lock if he doesn't want to return it 🤷♀️
A always in these long 4 yr 10 yr ectt relationships 😅
I don’t agree with getting the person’s password . You should trust your partner or spouse. 🤷🏽♀️
I would stay busy til he got home... poor baby
I’m an air head so I wouldn’t have thought to offer a key to who ever I’m with. I agree it’s reasonable after several years and definitely if living together. That part was crazy. I don’t agree though just because one partner gives their key the other partner should give theirs. Especially if it wasn’t asked for. Doesn’t matter really how much time. If they don’t want to they shouldn’t. Understandably if that’s a dealbreaker for you than breakup. Don’t obligated anyone.
Loni you look so good.
I'm sorry...I'm married for 10 years and my husband is not interested in knowing my password and its vise versa... we're grown folks, the password thing is so immature to me
you'd just have to kill time until he got home to let you in?! what a jerk
Sounds like he was seeing other women. That would make sense why he wouldn't give her a key to the apartment.
Tamera brought a warmth to the panel that is FOREVER MISSING. They need to bring her back or this show fades into a dessert.
While you are in a relationship, I do NOT think people need each other's passwords to each other's phones; that is an insecurity thing, not comfortability. What legitimate reason do you need it? I am curious on this..it honestly isn't the other person's responsibility to stroke your ego in that regard. A person can and will cheat whether you have the code or not.
I know married couples who have trackers on each other's phones and cars.
It seems extreme to me and too much work.
Loni she was LIVING there
I am not giving no one the password to my phone. Why is that important, i don't get it!
I’m sorry, password to my phone ? Why you need it? Just shows insecurity because why you want to snoop. What you hiding? If you ask to see my phone then I automatically get turned off, because it shows you don’t trust me. (Never have I cheated in my life) some of us were raised that if we don’t want to be with that person cuz our attention started to wonder maybe it’s time to reflect or end relationships. 🙃 and it’s done.
Because there are people who cheat and lie, it’s not personal to you but how society is nowadays, if you don’t have anything to hide then it won’t bother you if the phone is checked
What's funny my husband now, I thought was the same way and wouldn't give me a key. Turns out he made one for me and put them on the key hook with my name. He thought I would be romantic and o would have a moment but instead I was in my head mad and didn't know he already made one. Lol I laugh now but I understand Adrienne feeling
No no, passwords are too much.
Adrienne should not of been living with her ex. And, I would've left him and got my own place.
why wanna have each others password? I would not do that ever ... but the key thing is a no go ... after 150 years of feminism women still not getting access to the house key? we should get over this.