10 SECRETS for a Happy Marriage!

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  • Опубликовано: 26 мар 2023
  • Welcome friends!
    It's the long awaited wife talk! I'm definitely a little out of my comfort zone with some of this, but I believe they need to be talked about more in christian communities so here's 10 secrets for a happy marriage, and things that I've learned over the past 10+ years of marriage! I hope it encourages you 💗
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  • @angeloverturff7323
    @angeloverturff7323 Год назад +78

    One of the major issues I have seen in young marriages is when children arrive the wife puts them first ahead of her husband. And not just the newborn years, it continues on throughout the children's lives. The wife becomes so focused on being a great mom, she forgets that she is a wife first. Then when the children grow up and move on, there is nothing left of the marriage because the husband has been neglected for so long.

    • @doll.ov.poetrii4682
      @doll.ov.poetrii4682 Год назад +11

      I've been married for 3 years and we're about to start trying for a baby this year. Thank you for posting this; it's something I've never thought of!❤️

    • @pixxiestrength
      @pixxiestrength Год назад +3

      Valid point. Although I have seen this happen with spouses who became parents for the first time in their 40s too.

    • @BeeHappy968
      @BeeHappy968 Год назад +8

      I’ve always looked at it this way: Husband came into my life before our children. Without him I wouldn’t have our kids whom I love so much.
      It’s similar to man…How would God feel if a man started neglecting Him after his wife came into the picture?

    • @anjaliawate1734
      @anjaliawate1734 Год назад +4

      Husband 1st always n always

    • @anjaliawate1734
      @anjaliawate1734 Год назад +3

      As he is 1 St baby..

  • @thefehrs
    @thefehrs Год назад +41

    Beautiful video, we have been married for 34y my husband still opens the door for me and holds my hand, I think it's the sweetest thing.
    The more selfless you are the better the marriage but the most important thing is to keep God in the center above all❤

    • @thisgoldenhour
      @thisgoldenhour  Год назад +5

      That’s beautiful, Kathy ❤️ thanks for sharing!

  • @chelseafailla9887
    @chelseafailla9887 Год назад +60

    To anyone else who has a husband who doesn't fit the stereotype of "wanting sex all the time in all the places" - you're not broken. Maybe you as the wife are the one who would like to be intimate more often and times when your husband is tired of unavailable you feel like a failure because of the largely taught "women need to be ever available for their sexual husbands" - you're not a failure. Every marriage looks different - do your best to have open conversations about it and figure out what works best for the two of you ♥️

    • @tnctnc5972
      @tnctnc5972 Год назад +10

      I know what you're talking about here as in the beginning of our marriage my husband to was more like this we went through a very good counseling and I would strongly encourage this as our marriage change so much he was very locked up in his heart without even realizing this but our sex life is so different since ,please do know I realize everyone is different but if this could help someone then I want to share !!!

    • @annarocha3254
      @annarocha3254 Год назад +9

      Thank you so much! My husband is a wonderful man but he can become so focused on other things that he can genuinely forget intimacy. That doesn't make him less of a man and it doesn't make me less of a woman.

    • @chelseafailla9887
      @chelseafailla9887 Год назад +2

      @@annarocha3254 you're right

    • @dominiquejones1091
      @dominiquejones1091 Год назад

      And in this note hormone levels for men are often forgot. Womens hormones change and need attention, so do mens.

  • @janicegordon3705
    @janicegordon3705 Год назад +30

    This was a great video, Steph! I am 64 and my husband is 72. God has been so faithful to us. Marriage is a gift.

  • @MrNorthbees
    @MrNorthbees Год назад +7

    Loved this video. My favorite peice of advise we received was that the tide goes in and out. Sometimes we're in a phase of marriage that seems slow and boring and then another stage we're we're feeling connected and its fun to be spending time with each other. So if you're in a phase where the tide is out ( maybe you've just had a newborn and there's not much sleep and lots of tension and uncertainty about how to navigate everything) don't worry the tide will come in again where you get more sleep, laugh together over things your child is doing and all of a sudden you're feeling a great connection with your spouse again 😊

  • @prairieflowermercantile
    @prairieflowermercantile Год назад +14

    My partner and I got pregnant 6 months into dating so we have had to learn a lot along the way and with my daughter at 19 months I was finding it hard to fall in love with the process of homemaking, mothering, being a good wife, etc & I was really really overwhelmed and my partner starting becoming dissatisfied with the home so I knew I needed to change but your videos are really helpful and I think my struggle with these things was more an unknowing of how to do it rather than a dislike so day by day I'm getting better & learning to love at being a homekeeper and I'm really grateful because motherhood and marriage and taking care of a home are so precious. thank you and blessings.

    • @nikkita1688
      @nikkita1688 7 месяцев назад +1

      Im 10 years into that scenario. Dont you ever quit. ❤

  • @vjowell
    @vjowell Год назад +6

    Just finished the book Heaven by Randy Alcorn. This was a comforting book and is thought provoking. Thank you for you Christian witness. I’ve been married for almost 38 years and it is a journey. Marriage gets better with age.

  • @kathyesargent9088
    @kathyesargent9088 Год назад +3

    40 years for me in July. A great marriage, wonderful husband. We are very blessed❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @cathywhitney5974
    @cathywhitney5974 11 месяцев назад +2

    For me and my hubby we may go to a little angry, we always I love you just give till morning to understand what you’re saying to me. Most mornings I usually understand what my hubby was trying to say to me or the other way around. After 43 years we have found what works for us as a couple. The last 2 days my wonderful husband got a yard of dirt and we are putting grass on bald spots on our yard. He has work so hard, yes I helped but he did all the heavy work. My husband is amazing guy. Sometimes we argue just so we can cuddle as our grown children think we are yucky for doing that! Because it’s always a stupid thing we are arguing about. You put your foot down to heavy! What ever! Is what I usually say. Well stomp your way over here your man needs a hug. Great men give you joy over just walking ❤

  • @micheleohmer4117
    @micheleohmer4117 Год назад +16

    I think the best way to be an encouragement to our children and other couples is to lead by example-model a Godly marriage. There are so many unrealistic and unhealthy social media and TV examples. Married since 1991. Great ideas, Steph 🌼

    • @thisgoldenhour
      @thisgoldenhour  Год назад +2

      So true, Michelle ❤ actions speak louder than words!

    • @alittleheavenonearth
      @alittleheavenonearth Год назад +1

      That’s a loooog time sister blessings ❤❤❤❤

  • @mrsj5890
    @mrsj5890 Год назад +13

    This was very encouraging to me. I have a new resolve to be a support to my husband and to keep the flame of love burning brightly. Thanks so much for taking the time to share with us. God bless you and your family!

    • @thisgoldenhour
      @thisgoldenhour  Год назад +4

      That’s wonderful! Thanks for being here 💗

  • @barbarapeterson8030
    @barbarapeterson8030 Год назад +6

    Hello Steph, married with two sons, 2 grandblessings. We have been married 35 yrs and together 40 yrs. TO GOD THE GLORY

  • @lisamcdonald7125
    @lisamcdonald7125 Год назад +10

    This was such a good video. You really covered some great topics. We really need to invest into our marriages. About a year ago I really started praying for my spouse and our marriage and us coming closer together and God has so answered my prayers. It takes an effort but its so worth it. God be abundant to you ❤

  • @jennifercarlton670
    @jennifercarlton670 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you ❤ Love this!! This has been encouraging and will help our marriage going forward.

  • @Nocturnal_Lorena
    @Nocturnal_Lorena Год назад +1

    Learnt so much. Thank you for sharing your wisdom! God bless you & your family! 🌸

  • @jenniferreisler3272
    @jenniferreisler3272 Год назад +1

    I love your perspective, and how open and honest you are. This is so helpful thank you so much ❤

  • @crystalm9733
    @crystalm9733 Год назад +9

    Wow I’m not even 8 minutes into this video yet and it’s already blessing my marriage! ❤️ Thank you!! 🤗

  • @courtneyycarterr
    @courtneyycarterr Год назад +3

    I love everything about this! ❤ so much wonderful advice and you covered everything so graciously. Well said! 🥰

  • @taylorwelleford8163
    @taylorwelleford8163 Год назад +1

    Absolutely love this!! Thank you!

  • @susanpunako8590
    @susanpunako8590 Год назад +4

    Hello Stephanie. This was a truly an informative conversation about marriage. Thanks for putting a lot in perspective for young and older and all seasons of life it’s all applicable.

  • @lindabrown545
    @lindabrown545 Год назад +2

    Hey Steph I really enjoyed your video on this subject it really made me think on how I need to do better as a wife...thank you for sharing... love your channel ♥️

  • @denisebrann8563
    @denisebrann8563 Год назад +3

    Thank you for taking on this subject. I am on the farther end of middle age and while watching this video I realized how I have taken my husband and marriage for granted. Thanks for the reminder to start (and keep) putting effort back into this area.

  • @-living4jesus4ever-
    @-living4jesus4ever- Год назад +2

    This is SO GOOD!! Amen, Sister!! All great words! 🎉

  • @ozarkview928
    @ozarkview928 Год назад +7

    We just went through the Love an Respect series on dvd as a church. So enlightening even after 40 years for us . I love your advice on practicing saying how you feel and defusing it before you dump it on him . Very wise .

    • @thisgoldenhour
      @thisgoldenhour  Год назад +2

      That’s wonderful! I’d love to go through the series again 😊

  • @MadeInHome_
    @MadeInHome_ Год назад +1

    This was so refreshing thank you!

  • @citahostetler8737
    @citahostetler8737 Год назад +1

    Love videos like this!! Thank you for sharing❤️ Marriage is such a beautiful thing and it’s been the biggest blessing in my life🥰

  • @SamBebz
    @SamBebz Год назад +2

    I needed this. Thank you.

  • @kaitlynslice673
    @kaitlynslice673 Год назад

    Loved this video. So encouraging!! God bless

  • @lifenlunacy5833
    @lifenlunacy5833 Год назад +5

    Honestly this was just what I needed to hear. Thank you ❤

  • @mccreightville4925
    @mccreightville4925 Год назад

    Beautiful, tasteful video! Thank you for sharing a godly perspective!

  • @hannahwise304
    @hannahwise304 Год назад +3

    So so good and encouraging! Very tastefully done. Thank you

  • @nkanyisongosi6202
    @nkanyisongosi6202 3 дня назад

    Thanks a lot dear ,God bless you & your family❤🎉🎉

  • @autumnrosemusicofficial
    @autumnrosemusicofficial Год назад +1

    Thank you for your encouragement!

  • @momof3498
    @momof3498 4 месяца назад +1

    😂may all your ups and downs be between the sheets!!😂😂😂 that’s the best answer

  • @jjzook8033
    @jjzook8033 Год назад +6

    I so much agree with the farm lifestyle being an opportunity to spend more time together! I feel like some of our best conversations happen over milking time! I totally loved this video!

  • @rubycase6829
    @rubycase6829 Год назад +1

    Thank you for this video! Your so sweet! Love the content you put out. May God bless you and your family!

  • @joscelynpease6656
    @joscelynpease6656 2 месяца назад

    Thank you for speaking of and representing a Godly happy marriage. It is refreshing to hear positivity vs. the constant push in media to portray it as something so dreadful. I am fascinated in how you believe that some relationships will still be there in heaven but not the most important one with your husband? It seems to go counter to everything you are striving so hard to build. I believe our families can be together in that form and it will be one of the greatest blessings heaven can offer.

  • @maresadavis8135
    @maresadavis8135 Год назад +1

    You are such a beautiful, intelligent and Godly lady. I admire you so much. This is such a wonderful channel where you can reach so many and have such a positive impact on their lives. Keep up the good work. I am in my 37th year of marriage but it has truly been a difficult and rough journey. God has been faithful and gracious that's for sure. God bless you and your channel. I enjoy it so very much. Watching from NC.

  • @odulcina
    @odulcina Год назад +1

    I have find this video very helpful and true and I truly needed these reminders right now in my life/relation with my husband where we slowly started to be too selfish and judging and I don’t like!

  • @Countryheart22
    @Countryheart22 10 месяцев назад

    Very well said! ❤ good advice.

  • @RaquelWitmer
    @RaquelWitmer Год назад +4

    Such a good video, Steph.

  • @jennybeck2625
    @jennybeck2625 11 месяцев назад

    Love all of this!!

  • @SydneyMorganBeauty
    @SydneyMorganBeauty Год назад +1

    I needed this. Thank you so much 💕

  • @christinahelmuth1507
    @christinahelmuth1507 Год назад

    This is such a solid video!🥰

  • @jamiemichelle483
    @jamiemichelle483 Год назад +1

    Love love this video! Thank you so much for all of the helpful marriage tips! Love your channel!

  • @fabhairwithbritt980
    @fabhairwithbritt980 6 месяцев назад

    This is so good. Thank you!! I loved your advice for newly married couples “may all your ups and downs be in between the sheets” 😂

  • @jhamilton200328
    @jhamilton200328 Год назад +6

    Love the honesty in this video, so refreshing!!! Love your channel ❤

  • @tijo.mrs.fox1998
    @tijo.mrs.fox1998 Год назад +3

    I absolutely enjoyed this video! I have been married to my wonderful husband for over four years. We will be celebrating our 5th anniversary at the end of June. Thanks for sharing on this subject. I was very encouraged!

  • @sarahsheartshome
    @sarahsheartshome Год назад +3

    you did a great job tackling this subject!! Very good and very Biblical. Thanks!

  • @anniedrosham7299
    @anniedrosham7299 Год назад

    I just found your channel and wow its been a blessing to me

  • @lovelifementoring5399
    @lovelifementoring5399 11 месяцев назад

    Loved this 😊😊😊

  • @lindasmith5190
    @lindasmith5190 Год назад

    Wonderful advice

  • @JennsRetro
    @JennsRetro Год назад

    Great advice ❤

  • @bettiegross1767
    @bettiegross1767 3 месяца назад +3

    Ron and I have been married for 53 years this February 12

    • @wendyouellette
      @wendyouellette 2 месяца назад +1

      Congratulations! My husband and I will be celebrating our 51st anniversary Easter Day!❤

  • @missapril2520
    @missapril2520 Год назад +1

    You are so lovely and your advice is so valuable.

  • @lifenlunacy5833
    @lifenlunacy5833 Год назад +1

    What even is a perfect spouse? You are awesome

  • @mommyditzandfam
    @mommyditzandfam 7 дней назад

    If you are a working it’s hard to do all this stuff for him, after working 8hrs. You will be an exhausted wife going home to your husband. I wish I am a housewife like you. But I appreciate all your advices it’s really inspiring and motivational

    • @gabyb4190
      @gabyb4190 7 дней назад

      Being a housewife is also exhausting and a very difficult thing to do because you’re never really clocked out 😉
      always so much to do to attend to husband, raise the children and hold up a house but beautiful thing to do nonetheless 🩷

  • @TheLightHouse7
    @TheLightHouse7 Год назад

    Just found your channel and subscribed! Loved the video!

  • @bettiegross1767
    @bettiegross1767 3 месяца назад

    I agree with this. I talk and say positive things about Ron.

  • @ladybugmom10
    @ladybugmom10 11 месяцев назад +1

    I agree with everything you said except for never going to bed angry. Sometimes you and/ or your husband need to sleep on the hard feelings. Just getting a good nights sleep can bring a different perspective to a disagreement and you’ll both be in a better mindset to actually have a productive conversation about the issues.

    • @herronr
      @herronr 9 месяцев назад +1

      As long as you verbalise that decision

  • @christisjoypinson5599
    @christisjoypinson5599 Год назад +7

    Oh YAY!!! I am SO excited for this video!!! I am not yet married (still waiting on the LORD 🤗) but I love learning all I can to succeed as a wife and am thrilled to hear your perspective. May you continue to grow in the sweet grace of Jesus in your marriage, your family, and your own soul! 🤗🙌🙏🏽💖💐

    • @thisgoldenhour
      @thisgoldenhour  Год назад +3

      Aww blessings as you wait, Christis ❤ that’s amazing you’re already learning ways to support and honor your husband.

    • @christisjoypinson5599
      @christisjoypinson5599 Год назад

      @@thisgoldenhour thank you so much! The LORD is soooo faithful! 🤗💖

  • @aminadjebili7771
    @aminadjebili7771 Год назад +2

    Love the tips! was curious to hear your thoughts about the whole basic mom look of leggings and oversized sweatshirt that you mentioned in a previous video!

  • @bettiegross1767
    @bettiegross1767 3 месяца назад

    Absolutely!

  • @4lliemac
    @4lliemac Год назад +1

    I love the boundaries you have created. I don't know what Josh does for work but what would you say about your husband having to work one on one with a woman sometimes. Or having to text and call this woman, but it being for work. Thank you!

  • @SarahsOctoberHome
    @SarahsOctoberHome Год назад +3

    Loved this vlog , Steph!🥰

  • @bettiegross1767
    @bettiegross1767 3 месяца назад

    We do the affection thing too

  • @gailfirenze4760
    @gailfirenze4760 Год назад

    Just Thankyou. 🙋🏼‍♀️🇦🇺

  • @zzzzipy12
    @zzzzipy12 Год назад

    Great advice!

  • @KatieB-qv5jl
    @KatieB-qv5jl Год назад

    Enjoyed the video!

  • @kelly-annegray2614
    @kelly-annegray2614 Год назад +2

    Dear Steph...
    Thank you for this beautiful video! My husband and I celebrate two years on April 3rd. We have a 14 month old who has been very challenging... It's made our marriage a bit trickier, but it is our top priority! I love the secrets you shared and feel both convicted and encouraged to bless my marriage more!!
    With love from South Africa, Kelly

    • @alittleheavenonearth
      @alittleheavenonearth Год назад +1

      The beginning is always like that especially with new born 🫣!! But it gets better sis ❤❤❤❤❤ trust me !!! Was actually in South Africa 3 months ago on a mission trip ❤❤❤ definitely a blessing

  • @Aztecadr
    @Aztecadr Год назад

    I love your videos and your advice..i agrer with that you say and I want to become a great wife. You're an inspiration.

  • @bettiegross1767
    @bettiegross1767 3 месяца назад

    You are right but I have failed in this area

  • @isabelt.3377
    @isabelt.3377 7 месяцев назад

    Hi, sister. What about when the husband does not want more children, but the wife would like to try for a last one? Time is running out, and I already regret not having had another before my last one, now 2, there is "too much space" between him and the previous two. It is not desperation, but it sure is sad, I am kind of mourning. We don't use anticonceptives nor other barriers, but the idea freaks him out, it is sad to me.

  • @cindyruss3405
    @cindyruss3405 Год назад +3

    Today is my 37 wedding anniversary. ❤

  • @TheImperfectReader
    @TheImperfectReader 9 месяцев назад

    I could not click those fast enough.

  • @loydaestherhernandezhernan227
    @loydaestherhernandezhernan227 Год назад

  • @bettiegross1767
    @bettiegross1767 3 месяца назад

    I don’t compare him with anyone else

  • @Leo_34409
    @Leo_34409 Год назад

    We can be married in Heaven ❤ no worries!

    • @herronr
      @herronr 9 месяцев назад +1

      Mark 12:25 and other gospels.
      Although it’s not talking about marriage in heaven because the Bible doesn’t say anywhere that we go to heaven when we die, rather the opposite, for example: No man has ascended up to heaven” (John 3:13).
      “David is not ascended into the heavens” (Acts 2:34).
      Jesus is returning to earth to set up Gods kingdom (mentioned so many times in the Bible and was part of the gospel preached by Jesus and the apostles) so we do not need to go to heaven if he’s coming to earth to raise the dead.
      The Bible says the dead have not yet been rewarded (so definitely not in heaven by most religions standards) “These all died in faith, not having received the promises, but having seen them afar off and were persuaded of them and embraced them” (Hebrews 11:13).

  • @catrice7126
    @catrice7126 Год назад +2

    One thing that happened to me was I had uterine cancer and had to have a complete hysterectomy
    I can't take hormones because they can make the cancer come back My husband is supportive but it is not the same You never think this can happen to you so
    get ck ups at least once a year

  • @akferren1
    @akferren1 3 месяца назад

    You’re very lucky.. I hate being married.. one of the biggest regrets in my life

  • @hilltophomestead1328
    @hilltophomestead1328 10 месяцев назад

    What about Matthew 18:18-20 though? "Whatever is bound on Earth is bound in heaven". Where do you find a verse about not being married in heaven? That makes me sad. Fantastic, encouraging conversation otherwise.

    • @herronr
      @herronr 9 месяцев назад

      Mark 12:25 and other gospels.
      Although it’s not talking about marriage in heaven because the Bible doesn’t say anywhere that we go to heaven when we die, rather the opposite, for example: No man has ascended up to heaven” (John 3:13).
      “David is not ascended into the heavens” (Acts 2:34).
      Jesus is returning to earth to set up Gods kingdom (mentioned so many times in the Bible and was part of the gospel preached by Jesus and the apostles) so we do not need to go to heaven if he’s coming to earth to raise the dead.
      The Bible says the dead have not yet been rewarded (so definitely not in heaven by most religions standards) “These all died in faith, not having received the promises, but having seen them afar off and were persuaded of them and embraced them” (Hebrews 11:13).

    • @herronr
      @herronr 9 месяцев назад

      Matthew 18:18-20 doesn’t have anything to do with marriage either. You need to read the context

  • @bryanquiroga3912
    @bryanquiroga3912 10 месяцев назад

    My problem is how undertand women .They changed their mind every second and somethimes they get mad for every small detail.

  • @rachelhutchinson8321
    @rachelhutchinson8321 Год назад +2

    These were great But it seems your husband has a problem or you baby him? I man should be able to browse a website of women in underwear while choosing an items for you! If he can’t do this without crazy thoughts then there is a Big problem!!!

    • @narrowpathfarm
      @narrowpathfarm 10 месяцев назад

      Trying to understand you’re question/comment. Could you add punctuation? :)

    • @user-bn7dg2km2d
      @user-bn7dg2km2d 9 месяцев назад +1

      Maybe he just prefers not to look at other women in lingerie except his wife? We live in a hyper sexualized society, so of course anyone going against the norm will be looked down upon or misunderstood. I find it refreshing.