I dated an african guy for three months and he was sweet but the cultural differences were too much for me . I’m a southern creole girl right ? So there were a lot of similarities in-terms of moral norms and even some of the foods we eat, BUT GHULLL! wheeew let me just say this . As an african American southern creole woman, I felt like I had to constantly prove how black I was to his family and even to him sometimes . He grew up on the east coast and he is use to the AA Americans on that side, so when he came down south, he realized how connected we are as a people and that we have a very strong culture ... it was exhausting .. I was tired of being called acata or however it’s spelled , and I was tired of explaining that I’m not trying to dismiss my black roots just because I’m a proud Louisiana French girl . It was draining and I was tired . I need someone who is the same culture as me . His family wasn’t bad but it was the small things they would say about AA around me .... it was so offensive . Also his is an immigrant and I am a decedent if African slaves, that alone makes our world view in this country so different . AND HONAAYY THEM WOMEEENNN !! WHEEWWW CHILD ! The looks 👀👀 they would give me .. I didn’t know if I was being judged or admired . I threw the whole man away . I had to go .. It didn’t work for me because it came down to offensive words and cultural differences . African Americans do have a culture and I’m so damn tired of Africans making their culture the more superior one . 🙄 especially for us southern blacks !!? We have a huge culture and he couldn’t hang. It’s above me now
I just had the same issue.... Louisiana girl here too!! 😊 African men were raised to be superior over any woman...and that's the problem. They will never budge when it comes to their culture. Caribbean men too! All of em! 🤦🏿♀️
EBONY WRIGHT Okay so I’m not crazy . They really want their culture to be all or nothing . That will not work for me. I don’t want fufu all the time, especially when I’m raised on good ol creole food .. and their food is not good to me, I always have to doc it up 🙄.
Many african do believe a child is supposed to take care of they parents, when they are grown, it the culture in many places in Africa. You do not abandon your parents.
But parents need to understand the child has got their lives to led on. If you as a parent will control your child even when they grow up then you’re a miserable person.
I guess I got very blessed my parents (Congolese 🇨🇩) when I get them gifts they act like I'm not their kid like they're not deserving of SOOOOOOOO much more which they are if I could give them the whole world I would. They sacrificed so much for us yet they're so grateful and they bless us when we give them the smallest things 🥲 I would literally die for my parents
I date a Nigerian guy and I think it all depends on who the guy is and his family. I actually love my Nigerian boyfriends family and his family loves me to death. So I feel it all depends on who you are dating sis..... i here a lot of perspectives and opinions on the African man but I feel it all depends on who arms you land into.... it is a big cultural shock and it’s a difference but there are a lot of genuinely African men out here.... And sis the respect for me is something uncommon and great🥰.... he has been a very positive influence in my life... Remember all African men aren’t the same 😚
Just keep your eyes open sometimes African families can pretend to like you but will flip in a second. Don't ever believe a man's family truly loves you to death.
Greatest Of These is Love well I believe that no matter the race we are all humans and have our flaws ☺️ sometimes people are genuinely good. I only like positive energy so far so good. Some families are just brought up with decency and respect for other people ☺️. It’s been all love here and I rather not keep my eyes open because all the vibes are always the same I pray for positivity and look for the best in all🥰☺️ and that’s just how I role
I totally agree with you , the respect my Nigerian man gives me is phenomenal, he really adores and is honest with me. I pray daily that God would expose him if he has an ulterior motive and to show me His ❤. I am happy and he keeps a smile on my face...I just ❤ him and he truly loves me
I am African and I have dated Caribbean, AA, and African men. You were VERY right about the Jamaican men. AA men are not cultural enough for me, and they are not as direct (they try to get away with a lot but do very little). African men are direct and romantic, but they CHEAT like it is normal (like brushing their teeth everyday). They are serious womanizers. They do see your value based on how domesticated you are.
I've never dated an Africa man, they never seem to be interested in my hue however I dated a man while in college who was Lebanese and though he had all the riches in the world and I likely could have lived like a queen and he had manners of no telling and we only ate at upscale restaurants and we went on wonderful trips during our break, etc. However sitting at an American Lebanese restaurant with a couple he knew and I didn't want what they ordered so I ordered my own. Well, he gracefully took my arm and took me to a corner and said as stern as his nature took him "when we eat and especially when we eat out, you never, ever order food on your own. I am the man I order and you eat. Do you know how embarrassing that was in front of my friend and the waiter. I was so shocked, stunt. We went back to the seat, I sat for about 10 minutes in total quietness after people looked at me like I put me in my place, but I sat, than I stood, asked for the mink he brought for me, the waiter got it (everyone watching me now). I got the coat, kindly place it across his lap and said "no one tells me what I should eat, sleep and %&*^. Walked out and that was the end of my foreign experience. I just have too much pride.
Dang y'all want to be rich but you can't accept the consequences to be rich y'all need to become Your Own Boss what you thought was going to happen lol
ShreddyMan I don’t see anything wrong with him correcting her behavior, BUT there’s a way to do it. She probably felt so shameful and embarrassed afterwards😖
By being a Jamerican, for Jamaican men, you just have to let them know you don't play. But one thing I was taught me was no matter how good you are to a man, if he don't want you, he don't want. So, love yourself and no matter what man, he met for u, he be for you . But yes African and Caribbean men teachings varies from how they are taught and raised. But learn to watch out for a user and a narcissist. Stay happy, organic and you are beautiful
I dated an African man for a very short time. I have a male friend who is African and a friend who is Jamaican. This does NOT apply to all African or Jamaican men….. but from my experience many of these men struggle with committing to one woman. They love love love women & variety. From me studying their behaviors, it seemingly strokes their ego. I had to let go because some have narcissistic tendencies. My advice to any woman dealing with this…. NEVER lose yourself trying to keep a man. Love yourself 1st. You can never lose what’s meant for you. Blessings to all❣️
I have had THE BEST experiences with native brothers from different African countries!!!😍😍😍.... Responsibilities kept me away from marrying the Nigerian man I LOVED....He sent for me after his father died and he had to return but I couldn't go because of my mother's declining health....We are still friends and just talked yesterday ❤️....It is wrong to group an ENTIRE continent into personal experiences 🤷🏾♀️
My issue is that African men expect women to do 90% of the chores no matter what. While they go and laugh with friends and provide bread for the family and be gone early in next the morning. No thank you, we are equals I'm your wife not your maid so bye.
I tried not to box myself in opened up to dating outside regular African American men so I tried dating African and Caribbean men... Let me say this, I won't do it again. Honey, these men were creative liars, selfish, full of games, self-absorbed, misleading, hypocritical... hell any whack characteristic you could place on a man.... they were.... and it really upset me when they put down the regular African American meanwhile trying to make themselves look as an overall better catch... I decline. I learned my lesson. There is always a catch. At the end of the day, there is always another women... They never tell the truth.
I dated a Nigerian doctor who paid for everything and was very much a gentleman and we had fun on dates but ... I think he was down lo and/or personality disordered . He would just act weird every now and then and then he lashed out on me verbally and it was so out of nowhere - I knew then it was time to move on .
I dated a Russian man once. Um... don't want to do that again. He was about making as many professional connections as he could, and had a very traditional mind set. Which, is fine if you are a woman who is into that. But I'm not. And so, we clashed. Hard. I've later learned later that Russian men, culturally tend to be very traditional and misogynistic.
I think everyone struggles with boundaries. People try to downplay the importance of setting boundaries when you're in a committed relationship, but if you don't set boundaries before marriage, it will definitely be a problem.
My daughter's dad is African. And he is from Ghana and sometimes he is whew! He did a lot for his mom which is cool. But he was very selfish and he could be mean. Unfortunately for him, I could be, too. The cheating wasn't cheating to him. So we didn't last.
Sis, for me it was the fact that American women are raised not to be submissive, we are bread to be a boss, and take care of everything ourselves. The African man that I dated was a good man, husband material, owned his own business in Africa. But in the end not ready for a woman raised the way we are in America. I wish I could have been the one for him. The love was there for him but not for me and I didn't want to hinder him when he could be a dream for someone else who felt the same as him
In the Bible it says wives are supposed to submissive to their husbands. U don’t understand the meaning of submissive and control, they are two different things. Don’t believe what society says.
If I could be honest, I could've seen myself getting married to him. HE MET MY PARENTS, HE MET MY DAD!!!!! BUT HIS MOTHER..... 😧😧😭😭 WHAT YAWL THINK?! SPILL THE TEAAA, LET'S HELP EACH OTHER!!
I never gave in! After a while his mother accepted me....especially when she saw how accomplished I was on my own and how much love I had for her son. We are happily married.
I never comment on RUclips. But when I tell you everything you about to say is on point. ( I haven’t even listen yet). Saw myself getting married to this guy. Was around him and his family for 6 years. Hia Daugther was 9 months when I met him. Long story short. Haven’t never ever been so traumatize in life. Even to this day... had a whole Nother gf. In a different state. He purpose to her and they just got married in May. I had to leave nyc and come back home to Florida it was so much deception I had a nerve break down. Mann it was bad. Don’t you know his sister has the nerve to text me yesterday? Mind you I don’t talk yo no one from their family. Talking happy bday. When she know my bday is today 8/8 because his babymomma bday is the same as mines. When I tell the foolery these men do are our of this world. P.s I would assume he married her because she’s a lawyer but when I saw what I thought I was up against i went even more depressed 🤦🏽♀️
@@vu119 they are not even worth it at all! I got depressed to but came out of it thank God. They are NOTHING but manipulatieve users. He was cheating with some girl. I found out by her calling me, then he left her pregnant, was in a little shing dig with some other woman for a very short while, now he is with yet another one claiming he is in love all.of a sudden. Lol! Absoluty nothing but a narcisstic nightmare from hell!
I can relate to your comment about African men getting with us AA women for citizenship. I had a friend who married an African. She was over weight and lacked confidence in your beauty. Her African husband tried to sleep with me as soon as she left for business trip. I quickly rejected him but never told her. He clearly was not in relationships for love of her. Since them, I don’t trust them.
I feel like the family aspect when it comes to your relationship in general has to have boundaries because even sometimes when you and your partner are not on the best terms you shouldn’t always go to your family because once you guys are ok and your happy with each other then your family is still mad and upset with them. Boundaries is something that is a must when getting into a relationship.
I was married to a Ghanaian.. he was veryyy close to his mom, but not so much his Dad. Our cultures clashed. THIS American woman spoke her mind and was strong💪🏽 (like I was raised to be),and when u don't need a man financially, ur not going to submit and be in the background of his foreground..no more Africans for me😁. But we are still cool!
I think it's great you spoke your mind. But the truth is, the age at which a person is dating will influence their response to an intrusive parent/mother, among many other things. You ultimately "showed your strength," only to not end up with your partner. Some battles aren't worth excessive energy and not going toe to toe doesn't make someone less strong. But I really want women to get out of the mindset of telling other women not to depend on a man for money, just because the woman doesn't want to date a man making $60,000 a year (an arbitrary figure) or any salary she deems insufficient.
@@tastePINK I agree, everyone is different. U touched on the money issue, well his mom was back in Ghana and he would send money home...while I understand the circumstances of people coming to the US for better opportunities and they often send money home, u must also consider your financial obligations under ur own roof.. and don't get me wrong, you're suppose to help ur parents, but money is a serious factor in a marriage, especially if it affects your living expenses. Love alone does not pay bills.. pleasantly surprised to hear you've dated Africans/foreigners 😊
I am Ghanaian and with the way our culture is, we really do not play with our parents because hunny, the struggle is real. In conclusion, you need to understand the culture before you get into it.
Yessss I dated a African guy once....LET ME START BY SAYING I DONT BELIEVE EVERY AFRICAN MAN IS THIS WAY ! AND NOT ONLY AFRICAN MEN OR ISLAND MEN ACT THIS WAY. people parents raise them a different way, or some just fucked up in the head. OKKKK LETS START!!!! I didnt expect to experience this because his approach to me was so sweet and tender, yet arrogant. Plus he was American born so he didnt need papers from me, and came from a wealthy family growing up. However I grew up extremely comfy as well OK!!!!! first lets start by saying CONTROLLING ASF. OK omg we lived with each other for a period of time as well. OMG this man wouldn't let me leave the house low-key, without us going back and forth about it. Yet I never hindered him from doing anything he wanted....extreme narcissistic qualities. This man would want me to cook 3 x a day 7 days a week. He would wake me out my sleep to make me sandwiches. Im sick in bed; & this man has the nerves to ask me to make him tea. I literally asked him to make me tea the day before and he ignored me 🤣🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ WTF!.....he take off his clothing every day before and after work; leave them in the middle of the room to pile up for days. At first I would pick them up, after a while I said FUCK THAT IM NOT UR MAID. FURTHERMORE THEN MEN, MOMS NT PUTTING UP WITH THAT SHIT. SO DONT PLAY WITH ME LIKE THAT PERIODDTTTTT!!!! This man would piss on the toilet seat everyday LITERALLY. I have sensitive skin and he knew this; that is dirty asf. He wouldn't even lift the seat. just childish and lazy asf. I literally cleaned the bathroom everyday with bleach. soon as this man come home, PISS ON THE TOILET! OMG WTF! then he would blow up on me and yell at me; get real loud and shit. Telling me " do u think I want to come home from work and hear about piss on the toilet." FIRST OF ALLL.... CHILDISH BOY, you didnt MEET the bathroom dirty or pissy. THE LANGUAGE WAS ABUSIVE. BUT I WOULD ROCK HIS WORLD, IM NOT THAT FEMALE YOU CAN PLAY WITH. I believe this is why we argued everyday....YOU THINK YOU CRAZY,??? IM MF CRAZY TO. I took this man to and from work AND GYM everyday, not a day he put gas. Yo dont even get me started with his FAMILY....omgggggg bruhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh....Tried to tell me I needed to clean up after his brother, wen he had the kitchen dirty every time used. mad dished in the sink, which was not from us. I can continue to go on SIS, but I would be here for hours. JUST STAY WOKE LADIES, DONT LET THESE FOOLS MAKE U FEEL LIKE U TRIPPIN. YOU DESERVE A MAN TO LOVE AND CHERISH U IN EVERYWAY
You can't put all African men in one basket, because west africans are different than central africans than east africans etc. We're not all the same. For some, the parents approval is a must, others no. The only advice I could give you, is to make sure u take your time with them and evaluate how important is your culture and way of doing things to u and the other person because if yall r both from 2 different cultures, u will have to mesh them and find common grounds but if no party is willing to accept the other person's culture, it'll be a flop. The stereotype that they are all bad with multiple wives is completely false.
"I have a wig on, if this scarf wasnt on it woulda flew off" 😂😂😂😂 Im jamaican and i fully agree Jamaican men are a trip If i date any he has to be amercanized just a tad bit..
I had to comment. I am married to an African man but I am also originally African. My spouse though has never cheated .we have been married for 10 years going on 11..he's 10 years older than me and treats me like a queen.I literally have to beg him to work because he doesn't want me to .My only contribution to the marriage is to finish nursing school and have kids he says.Am blessed to have him but to be honest he was raised by his grandparents who were strong Christians so they instilled that in him.No one is perfect but he's pretty damn close to it.Not all African men are bad but 90 percent are a no go area😄😄
When my Ghanaian Husbae and I meet I was engaged to a guy who got caught up with heavy drug activity and with the money came the infidelity. I was devastated but couldn’t conjure up the strength to leave. Husbae at the time became a very good friend and literally a listening ear. He never rushed me to leave. He would just tell me that “By the grace of God”, I’d be his wife. A year later my ex my was literally caught with his pants down. He was having an affair and the girl he was in bed with set him up to get robbed. He ended up getting killed. My Ghanaian husband and I are now married 10+years 2 children together my son from that previous engagement is now 19 and in his 2nd year of college. We bought out first house 4 years into our marriage. And took our first family trip to Ghana and it was amazing. We have been there 3 times since His family was so welcoming. No secret marriages or children, thank goodness 😅 We are now finishing up on six family unit project in Ghana. Once we fill it up with tenants we plan to start building our dream home in there. Sorry for the long ass post. I sometimes still can’t believe how things turned out for me after the death of my ex.
I have an ig friend from Ghana. It made me open my eyes to whole new world, and it changed how I felt about African men. Black women, are not protected, adored, and supported by black men. Dont get me wrong, there are good black American men out here. But it's like a needle in the haystack. The man from Ghana maybe he didn't think he did anything, he was just being himself. His mannerism... his voice... 😍 his education. It was all bomb
@@tastePINK the father matters a whole lot but the mother can make or brake the whole relationship,and remember the mother has a way to her husbands heart.
That goes for Caribbean parents too! Im Jamaican and i feel sorry for my brother when he decides to marry bcuz my mom don't play that. The same for me when my son has to marry( when i have kids) 😂😂😂😂
Omg you're so silly lololol. I just said that. Look you needs to call me lol. Them Jamaican men ooooo my sis is married to one now😡😁. It's taking me everything not to kick his azz lol. I'll do it when she's not lookn😉
LMMFAOOOOO. As much as you may want to save your sister, it is her life. Allow her to live it. Be a source of encouragement and share your truth, in a non-offensive way. I hope all works out 😩 it's ROUGH out here.
I've heard a lot of African men are mama's boys.. Also, she may have loved you but being a Black American, its possible that in her eyes you were never gonna be good enough for him. She may have wanted him to marry a Ghanaian woman and pushed you away on purpose with her neediness.🤷🏽♀️
Nope,most Ghanaian men and families who go abroad want the wives of their sons to be a bit americanized.it's some sort of fetish...I'm Ghanaian,it's so annoying.
Nope,most Ghanaian men and families who go abroad want the wives of their sons to be a bit americanized.it's some sort of fetish...I'm Ghanaian,it's so annoying.
@@princessquarcoo8237 Wow, really!? I always heard West Africans will date Black Americans and Black Caribbeans but when its time to settle down you normally do so with someone from your tribe or at least from the same country. Mainly because of familial expectations..Learn something new every day..🤷🏽♀️
TastePINK well, to educate you a little bit,life in Africa is different from America. Africans are all about family. They don’t have the system where you put your parents/relatives in nursing homes to be taken care of. Parents go through a lot to bring up their children so nobody tells the children to do the same for their parents/family after witnessing the struggle,it’s like giving back. Unlike America where some stages of schooling is free until college, in Africa, parents pay for tuition from kindergarten to university from their pockets and it’s not only African men who takes care of their family, women also do the same. Now, the problem is how to find a balance between family responsibilities and love life/ relationships. Men in general are built in such a way that they focus on one thing at a time so if you find yourself with a man like that, I will suggest you teach/show him how to balance these two in a respectful way because that’s what men want and I can tell you that you will enjoy your relationship to the fullest. A man that respects/takes care of his mother is certainly a good man,of course all men are not same but there are good ones
Our men are not ALL the same. The whole thing is dependent on whom you date. I have dated an Asian man in the past and I am happy, we are not together. Overall,I would choose our men( African) over♥️ again ♥️
This is why our parents said "stay with your kind",I was like NO!!!WHAT A BACKWARD THING TO SAY!!!...but as I get older,I see where they were coming from,cultural differences start to matter more and more.
SIS!!!!! I know bout them jamaicans. I was with him for 3 years before marriage. He had no kids when we met, but somehow there was a child almost a year old 3 months later. Girl I just walked away. Period
I really appreciate the views and stuff. But some people are just making it look like all African men are bad to date. I am pure African and our parents mean a lot to us. Whether male or female we like to take care of our parents over others. Its just us. We like to support our parents and there is never a limit to that. I know other Ghanaian and Nigerian people will understand. Its just our culture and economy and there is nothing wrong with it.
I'm 🇹🇹. Some African men have agendas. Also because of their culture they tend to want that upheld or certain things they must do. Never dated one just what I know. To me based on men of culture I tend to side eye is Jamaican Trini African Haitian men lol. Some American men are no better. It all boils down to actually family training & dynamics & a woman who can help him grow when culture is a factor.
My parents are Caribbean. I love my dad but honey I don't have good luck with Caribbean men! One wanted to cook for me but never wanted to take me out. I now date Africans but they are tricky lol
Well to be fair a lot of African households beat and abuse their kids and they grow up with temper problems and trauma so..... you made the right decision.
After reading some comments, I continue to understand WHY we are the most divided race, and why other race targets and divide us by turning us against each other, this lady talking about how some men behave and some women are talking down on other Black race, someone even said she likes talking Africans down, it a pity we think like this
No shade throwing,but I’ve dated African men before and MY experience with them wasn’t the best,they can be very controlling,and possessive.I’ve been stalked and threatened by them,so for ME I decided not to date them anymore.The women (African) tend to look down and frown upon Black women.There’s an arrogance that you feel from them.
I've had a few get angry when I wouldn't give my address! No sir. Also one wanted to fight me because he gave me gas money(to drive out to him) but wouldn't sleep with him. I had to call the police smh
so i dated a nigerian man for 3 years, and im congolese, he was very gentlemman like, he assimilated to american culture but was VERY attached to his family too so it hindered us progressing as well because he was never seeing himself leaving his home...and moving out and making his own life, so i had to let him go. but he was such a good guy! very loyal :) just needed to grow up a bit.
👀👀👀 !!! WOW! But shout out to your discernment and knowing that things were not progressing in a fashion that was conducive to the relationship dynamic you wanted. Walking away can be difficult, but it meant you didn’t compromise on important matters (and rightfully so).
First let me say that I absolutely love your channel. You are a lot younger than myself, so I understand your frustrations. However, instead of being frustrated about his commitment to his mom, you should have looked at how much he respects women and could have benefitted from that had you stuck around. Lastly, you guys were just young and dating. You really had no right to question his commitment to his family. If you were his wife, that would be a different story, but as a girlfriend I think it was a little out of pocket and if I were him I would have ended the relationship.
The mother plays an essential role in African culture. She's the one who carried you for 9 months and in the culture you owe your parents especially your mother, everything. The daughter in law comes in and helps her man with whatever is needed. And if he's the first son of the family even more is expected. I've been married to my Nigerian husband for 23 years and had to learn a lot. As for your wanting to be a housewife that doesn't do much an African man is not for you. In fact u might have trouble with a man period because sitting and looking pretty gets tired after a while.
I respect your contribution to the conversation. We can agree to disagree. However, you aren't in a position to speak for all men, you are just ONE person. There are men who wish to take care of women 100%, indeed. ☺
In regards to dating a African man & his value of him mom. He will not priority a girlfriend over his mother. He may consider some boundaries maybe when y’all married; it’s cultural.
Coming from a young woman, I completely understand that. I see it as; your mother is your GOD, your wife is your Queen and your daughter is your princess.❤️
Not to define my worth as a partner by how I move things around a house or how well I clean a house... because that ideology is rooted in patriarchy, which is designed to benefit MEN. You can be queen of a broom and pan, but I'm not a kitchenette cleaning enthusiast. The modern maid outfit isn't my preference, but to each their own. 😩☺ Thanks for tuning in.
@@tastePINK you know what is so sad about people like yourself. You swear you are open minded and can appreciate other people's views and opinions but the moment someone asks you to explain your view point, name call. I wasn't disrespectful with my question. I don't believe anything I asked nor said was disrespectful. Every family is different just like every relationship is different to say I want to be a house wife without house wife duties makes no absolute sense. Everyone contributes some way to the whole family. There is absolutely nothing wrong with anyone being a house wife and or working woman who contributes in some way to the family or house. Being a contributing member of a family has nothing to do with patriarchy. Clearly your to small minded for an adult conversation.
@@Hunterj005 I'm definitely very open, always will be, but you literally TRASHED African Americans in another comment you made. I don't know why you thought it was okay to stereotype African Americans and in this very divisive and rather elitist manner try to implicate only Africans understand "care of family." Black women and men have the ability to epitomize the care AND resilience of family. This is a textual response, which can give way to misinterpretation, but when I said "you can be queen of broom and pan," it wasn't to say you specifically, but I'm very aware how it can be read. There are plenty of women who are housewives, without the domestic duties and their contributions don't have to be extensive. There's nothing sad about myself, but what is sad is that you participate in prejudice that further divides African/Black Americans and Africans and on such a trivial and ignorant level at that. You are not better than me and I am not better than you. We both bleed red. And I have nothing else to say.
Bottom line. Some women aspire to be a housewife and nothing more, some women aspire to have a marriage that is a partnership and maintain some of her own identity/independence. Nothing wrong with either, so long as that is truly who you are and what you are comfortable. I, for one, am glad that we American Women are presented with options and freedoms that many other cultures are not allowed. We are raised to understand our worth as a human being, rather than calculating our worth by our ability to slave and submit to men who may not even be worthy of what they're expexting. We still have pick me women in America. But it's not the majority. We appreciate what little freedoms we have compared to other places
I know of a white woman who was married to an African guy for 20 years. One day, he told her that he wanted a divorce so that he could marry the woman who was waiting for him in Africa. They had grown children, too.
I would think that one could speak on their experiences. After all, they did experience it right? Maybe you meant to say one can't speak on all experiences.
My Nigerian boo isn’t showing any extreme signs, but I’ve caught him twice, so far, trying to “shh” me. Mind you I’m not a talkative person. Would you see this as a major issue or something he needs to adjust to?
Definitely,it's well noted that almost all Nigerian men cheat even into marriages but the they do take care of their women very well.If he is not trying in the least bit to hide his cheating let the whole man go away
I'm Kenyan and it's true, as African girls the main goal for us is always marriage which I think needs to stop because not every woman wants to get married and times have changed. I understand it can be such a culture shock for African American women when they date African men but I've noticed many people are mentioning West African men. Many of them are sticklers to their traditions and patriarchy. Trust me, I'm sorry but I can't date them I'm not trying to be biased. They can be too much. However, not all African men are like this especially for those who come from liberal families, they're are quite different and more open minded so it depends on his raising. But oh well, men will always be men.
I am a west African woman and I agree I would prefer not to get married to an African men at least not one who was raised in Africa. Because 90% of the men I have met are just no.
Brother: I don't want to get married Family: Oh that's OK? Me: I don't want to get married Family: Haha, wait you will change your mind when you get older. Children are a blessing and you will love them naturally. Me: 🙄
I get along well with Kenyan women but the Kenyan guys I've dated wanted to be the center of attention and sex too early. I was disappointed because I love the culture
The "Care of family" is very important in African culture. Only African Americans don't understand this. Everyone invest in the family and household. My father is African it's a very different dynamic
You've only dated men from 2 out of 54 countries in Africa. And you already have assumptions and conclusions about men from all 54 countries??? Girrllll really????
My cousin marry 1 & it was a big mistake& yes he put his mama before her as a wife. & the mama was mad he marry a AA women & help make her life unkind. She is still marry to him years later & he still treats her Like she his his footstool!. My family is in stun disbelieve because she is highly educate, pretty & could have done far BETTER. I have often wonder why they have such unkindnes TOWARD us!?. Grace to all. gh
I was in the same situation. He wasnt African but it was THE SAME EXACT situation to the point it was his brothers he was takin care of as well. Like literally other grown ass men.
I’m AA but first gen ( parents from Haiti). I’m married to a African man and dated men in the past who are African, white American, British, Mexican and black american. I would say all man have issues not just African men. However, I found my match with someone who shares family values and work ethics. At the end of the day as the Bible says find someone equally yolked. All my other sisters married someone who is equally yolked with them expect one sister who is now getting a divorce from an AA man who is an atheist and does not share her same work views. All the others sisters married outside their culture and race and are still are married.
One thing I think we need to also discuss is how insecure African men are. And too many lies and manipulation within their families. So sad because they could have so much more and a better life. Too much drama... stay away!
Very interesting conversation. Appreciated your honest refreshing approach. I’ve dated several African men through the years, and I only choose those who are well educated and at a similar level of career status. (So had papers long ago) However, I’ve learned that it depends on the family dynamic what the financial obligation will be. Now that I’m older I have more options because we are both stable. So can hire domestic help and be the domestic when I choose to be. (I enjoy cooking and some entertaining) However, I do have some residual trust issues that I’m working on. I am eager to if this time I can make it work for the both of us especially learning the culture and keeping eyes 👀 and heart ❤️ open. Thanks for sharing and wishing you the best. Great channel content.
Oh my goodness wow An African American here and was dating a Ghanaian and Central African The Ghanaian ignored me when mom called and talked in a whole different language very loud Was texting different women,was very controlling, I could not question him or anything The Central African would talk about his own wife like she was not better than his mom He wanted every girl to dress like his mom and he was not attracted to them unless they looked like his mom Many instances when I spent time with his mom and she would completely Ignore me to talk for an incredibly long time with her son. I used to be so so so mad. I mean yea confident but Damn when do the shit stop and the wife becomes priority? I guess mom don’t wanna get left but damn what about the husband? Oh he’s cheating but wow it’s a messed up cycle
I am so disappointed by these comments. SMH, you cannot make blanket statements against a whole continent based on experiences you have hard with a few.It is the same type of prejudice that applies and used to justify racism. The title itself is not helpful.
I would like to chime in on this topic of dating African men. I just don't do it. I don't and I don't want to date an African man Jamaican or Caribbean. After the stories that I've heard in my past about African Jamaican or Caribbean men I just was scared of dating them. I always heard that Africans will date you but have a thousand wives behind them or they just want to marry you to become a citizen. also the stories I've heard is that they are very pushy when they are interested in you you could tell them as nice we as you can that you are not interested but somehow they will keep showing up trying to convince you to date them. Honestly any man that I see that has the potential to mistreat or disrespect the woman that they're with no matter what race they are I'm not all that interested in dating them.
I agree with Shelby Steele comment don't worry about them they will marry and care for African women but sleep with you. Move on and forget them as far as husbands.
Re: Nigerian Yoruba (West African) Generally speaking the eldest son is responsible for decisions especially if the father is deceased. The social dynamics are such that you do marry the entire family and women do alot in the culture to assist the man (the males are a bit of narcistic) .
It's the type of men you attract. I have relatives who got involved with African Americans men and it's a nightmare. For one particular cousin She was abandon twice when she got pregnant. And with the papers situation they do that to all women.Even their own.Women need to stop searching and make things happen naturally.
I like that they obey their mothers 😋 I am a mum and want my son to listen to me also, but some of them are dumb,they don't know how to set boundaries. They cannot say No to certain trespasses 😀♥️
As a mother with 2 sons, I could not see expecting my sons to "obey" me in adulthood. I think thats wildly unhealthy and inappropriate. I am not God. Especially as a woman who strongly advocates for individuality and independence in my children. I have a whole husband. And while I eould love for my children (my daughters too) to value my opinion and trust in mu judgement, I understand that God's path for each person is different. All children should respect yheir parents. But it is sick to expect a grown man to let his mother into his bedroom. And it is disgusting for any mother to have that mich investment in her sons private romantic/sexual life. Borderline incestuous. I camt wait for my sons to have their own life so me and my husband can het back to worrying about our own damn sex life without these kids
Afro Jamaican aren't the only Jamaicans.Not all Jamaican men is like that.Remember people do what you allow.Most time they dont try their bull with American women.They always talk about how aggressive the women are.All Caribbean men know most African Americans women dont put up with certain foolish.
I really admire u and your videos however i keep watching over and over yet i can't for whatever reason vision myself using so much stuff on my face to get that look or anything close to that
I wish you knew me so I can talk to your friend lol. Upon marrying to help someone she should've considered it a business. Technically all that person needed was her status. He should've paid her. Sometimes that process can work out for the best. But if she really knew he was going to mess around during that process business wise it wouldn't have bothered her that much.
She was SO young. 18-20. Her family did well for themselves. It was honestly set up for the man to benefit in many aspects. 😭 Making it known that it is a business venture upfront can greatly help to resolve the personal aspect.
Judging from the comments y'all bitter. All other videos talk good about their men of various countries. Only to find out that there's videos talking bad about black and African men (lmao Shocking!). African men are good In every single aspect. The only weaknesses African men have is dumping their girlfriends when she cheats or she's done with the relationship. (In general they have difficulties in expressing their emotions). This is because African men are not close to their fathers and only have training on how to deal with women from their mothers (funny right). I'm African and luckily for me my parents were just different to what most of you described... So I can't relate with these comments. PS. If he approached you for citizenship do you need a manual to tell you he never loved you in the first place? Smh
My question would be why is the son helping to pay bills if his dad is in the home. And the part B to that question is....Why is the dad allowing that?
@@jojoco9840 lol 😂😂😂 coming from a African woman they love women no matter the country or continent or race once they find you attractive or flashy looking .. beauty is in the eyes of the beholder ladies... @ brownie when you meet the right one he will date you but African men are not obsessed over skin tones like Americans in my opinion if anything they like big booty big everything... if you dont have the front atleast have the back , if you have the full frame then you win now.😂😂😂😂
..... I don't know where in this video you concluded that I don't realize I'm the prize. But to whomever may need your advice, I pray it finds them. Thanks for sharing.
Im JUST LIKE YOU! thats what i want in a relationship, but i got one child so id have to play domestic work if i ever find a provider. I want to just be fabulous with a man funding my lifestyle.
So ur right about what we as parents do by putting all those extra responsibilities for them at a young age! They should be given responsibilities with time as time goes by! As their maturity develops to avoid overwhelming them! Don't set goals that aren't unobtainable! Once we figure that at things will work out just fine...
Yes girl I understand he was sending money to Africa when he had to give his family money all the time, he also let him tell him who he can be with, it's this women he has in Africa his family has pushed into his life she miles away and he was cheating on her with me, and I asked him to end it with her and tell his family about me but he would not so I'm done with him and all African Men put together. 😎
I dated an african guy for three months and he was sweet but the cultural differences were too much for me . I’m a southern creole girl right ? So there were a lot of similarities in-terms of moral norms and even some of the foods we eat, BUT GHULLL! wheeew let me just say this . As an african American southern creole woman, I felt like I had to constantly prove how black I was to his family and even to him sometimes . He grew up on the east coast and he is use to the AA Americans on that side, so when he came down south, he realized how connected we are as a people and that we have a very strong culture ... it was exhausting .. I was tired of being called acata or however it’s spelled , and I was tired of explaining that I’m not trying to dismiss my black roots just because I’m a proud Louisiana French girl . It was draining and I was tired . I need someone who is the same culture as me . His family wasn’t bad but it was the small things they would say about AA around me .... it was so offensive . Also his is an immigrant and I am a decedent if African slaves, that alone makes our world view in this country so different . AND HONAAYY THEM WOMEEENNN !! WHEEWWW CHILD ! The looks 👀👀 they would give me .. I didn’t know if I was being judged or admired . I threw the whole man away .
I had to go .. It didn’t work for me because it came down to offensive words and cultural differences . African Americans do have a culture and I’m so damn tired of Africans making their culture the more superior one . 🙄 especially for us southern blacks !!? We have a huge culture and he couldn’t hang. It’s above me now
Amber Rechellè Polk I loved your story 😂😂💖 and it’s absolutely right on
I just had the same issue.... Louisiana girl here too!! 😊 African men were raised to be superior over any woman...and that's the problem. They will never budge when it comes to their culture. Caribbean men too! All of em! 🤦🏿♀️
EBONY WRIGHT Okay so I’m not crazy . They really want their culture to be all or nothing . That will not work for me. I don’t want fufu all the time, especially when I’m raised on good ol creole food .. and their food is not good to me, I always have to doc it up 🙄.
This!
I've been learning so much from y'all lol I'm just trying to figure out is the vagina worth a trillion or kazillion LOL
Many african do believe a child is supposed to take care of they parents, when they are grown, it the culture in many places in Africa. You do not abandon your parents.
U're right ✅
But parents need to understand the child has got their lives to led on.
If you as a parent will control your child even when they grow up then you’re a miserable person.
I'm American and we do the same thing. My mom legit expects me to wipe her ass when she's older.
I guess I got very blessed my parents (Congolese 🇨🇩) when I get them gifts they act like I'm not their kid like they're not deserving of SOOOOOOOO much more which they are if I could give them the whole world I would. They sacrificed so much for us yet they're so grateful and they bless us when we give them the smallest things 🥲 I would literally die for my parents
I date a Nigerian guy and I think it all depends on who the guy is and his family. I actually love my Nigerian boyfriends family and his family loves me to death. So I feel it all depends on who you are dating sis..... i here a lot of perspectives and opinions on the African man but I feel it all depends on who arms you land into.... it is a big cultural shock and it’s a difference but there are a lot of genuinely African men out here.... And sis the respect for me is something uncommon and great🥰.... he has been a very positive influence in my life... Remember all African men aren’t the same 😚
👏🏾👏🏾👌🏾
My boyfriend is african and he is great
Just keep your eyes open sometimes African families can pretend to like you but will flip in a second. Don't ever believe a man's family truly loves you to death.
Greatest Of These is Love well I believe that no matter the race we are all humans and have our flaws ☺️ sometimes people are genuinely good. I only like positive energy so far so good. Some families are just brought up with decency and respect for other people ☺️. It’s been all love here and I rather not keep my eyes open because all the vibes are always the same I pray for positivity and look for the best in all🥰☺️ and that’s just how I role
I totally agree with you , the respect my Nigerian man gives me is phenomenal, he really adores and is honest with me. I pray daily that God would expose him if he has an ulterior motive and to show me His ❤. I am happy and he keeps a smile on my face...I just ❤ him and he truly loves me
I am African and I have dated Caribbean, AA, and African men. You were VERY right about the Jamaican men. AA men are not cultural enough for me, and they are not as direct (they try to get away with a lot but do very little). African men are direct and romantic, but they CHEAT like it is normal (like brushing their teeth everyday). They are serious womanizers. They do see your value based on how domesticated you are.
Not all Jamaican men are like that
Cocoa AlmondJoy “Not cultural enough” 🤔 Everyone has culture; ESPECIALLY Americans that most of the world bites ESPECIALLY Africans 🙄
Cocoa AlmondJoy this was a very distasteful comment “not cultural enough for me?!?”
@@april_dawn very tru i dont no how they dont see it
@Jerseygirl8999 m And, 🗣 I SAID WHAT I SAID, so u get over it. And, shove ur essay up ur keister. ☺️
I've never dated an Africa man, they never seem to be interested in my hue however I dated a man while in college who was Lebanese and though he had all the riches in the world and I likely could have lived like a queen and he had manners of no telling and we only ate at upscale restaurants and we went on wonderful trips during our break, etc. However sitting at an American Lebanese restaurant with a couple he knew and I didn't want what they ordered so I ordered my own. Well, he gracefully took my arm and took me to a corner and said as stern as his nature took him "when we eat and especially when we eat out, you never, ever order food on your own. I am the man I order and you eat. Do you know how embarrassing that was in front of my friend and the waiter. I was so shocked, stunt. We went back to the seat, I sat for about 10 minutes in total quietness after people looked at me like I put me in my place, but I sat, than I stood, asked for the mink he brought for me, the waiter got it (everyone watching me now). I got the coat, kindly place it across his lap and said "no one tells me what I should eat, sleep and %&*^. Walked out and that was the end of my foreign experience. I just have too much pride.
Oh no he didn’t
Dang y'all want to be rich but you can't accept the consequences to be rich y'all need to become Your Own Boss what you thought was going to happen lol
Lmao it was rosy when he did things for you but not when he corrected you in reference to his culture?
ShreddyMan I don’t see anything wrong with him correcting her behavior, BUT there’s a way to do it. She probably felt so shameful and embarrassed afterwards😖
@@ShreddyMan 🤣🤣😂😂😂 so funny, I'm gonna pee
By being a Jamerican, for Jamaican men, you just have to let them know you don't play. But one thing I was taught me was no matter how good you are to a man, if he don't want you, he don't want. So, love yourself and no matter what man, he met for u, he be for you . But yes African and Caribbean men teachings varies from how they are taught and raised. But learn to watch out for a user and a narcissist. Stay happy, organic and you are beautiful
I dated an African man for a very short time. I have a male friend who is African and a friend who is Jamaican. This does NOT apply to all African or Jamaican men….. but from my experience many of these men struggle with committing to one woman. They love love love women & variety. From me studying their behaviors, it seemingly strokes their ego. I had to let go because some have narcissistic tendencies. My advice to any woman dealing with this…. NEVER lose yourself trying to keep a man. Love yourself 1st. You can never lose what’s meant for you. Blessings to all❣️
I have had THE BEST experiences with native brothers from different African countries!!!😍😍😍.... Responsibilities kept me away from marrying the Nigerian man I LOVED....He sent for me after his father died and he had to return but I couldn't go because of my mother's declining health....We are still friends and just talked yesterday ❤️....It is wrong to group an ENTIRE continent into personal experiences 🤷🏾♀️
So wrong.
These women don’t care. They have no loyalty to their people whatsoever.
Right cause this aint my experience, parents loved me
Most African men have very strong family values, but they can be very selfish.
EXTREMELY* selfish
My issue is that African men expect women to do 90% of the chores no matter what. While they go and laugh with friends and provide bread for the family and be gone early in next the morning. No thank you, we are equals I'm your wife not your maid so bye.
I tried not to box myself in opened up to dating outside regular African American men so I tried dating African and Caribbean men... Let me say this, I won't do it again. Honey, these men were creative liars, selfish, full of games, self-absorbed, misleading, hypocritical... hell any whack characteristic you could place on a man.... they were.... and it really upset me when they put down the regular African American meanwhile trying to make themselves look as an overall better catch... I decline. I learned my lesson. There is always a catch. At the end of the day, there is always another women... They never tell the truth.
Based on what you saying I know you have the experience with dealing with crappy African and Caribbean men... I feel you same here
I dated a Nigerian doctor who paid for everything and was very much a gentleman and we had fun on dates but ... I think he was down lo and/or personality disordered . He would just act weird every now and then and then he lashed out on me verbally and it was so out of nowhere - I knew then it was time to move on .
I dated one that seemed DL too. He drank alot and his apt was more feminine than mine! He seemed so off.
What made you think he was DL ? I’m interested to know
I dated a Russian man once. Um... don't want to do that again. He was about making as many professional connections as he could, and had a very traditional mind set. Which, is fine if you are a woman who is into that. But I'm not. And so, we clashed. Hard. I've later learned later that Russian men, culturally tend to be very traditional and misogynistic.
One of my FAAAVE youtubers. Enjoyed this vid . Thanks for your upload 🙌🏽
Thanks for tuning in !!!
Your saying a word about the boundary setting sis!! Its a problem in the black families period.
I think everyone struggles with boundaries. People try to downplay the importance of setting boundaries when you're in a committed relationship, but if you don't set boundaries before marriage, it will definitely be a problem.
Guuurrrrrl. That is a problem in MOST cultures. That unhealthy relationship btn mothers and sons. Some are worse than others. No boundaries
Girl boundaries
Hello
My daughter's dad is African. And he is from Ghana and sometimes he is whew! He did a lot for his mom which is cool. But he was very selfish and he could be mean. Unfortunately for him, I could be, too. The cheating wasn't cheating to him. So we didn't last.
Honestly,growing up in Ghana,I realized alottt of the men of means cheat,almost 90%
Heavy on the mean and cheating!
What kind of things did he do that wasn’t cheating to him? What are some examples?
Sis, for me it was the fact that American women are raised not to be submissive, we are bread to be a boss, and take care of everything ourselves. The African man that I dated was a good man, husband material, owned his own business in Africa. But in the end not ready for a woman raised the way we are in America. I wish I could have been the one for him. The love was there for him but not for me and I didn't want to hinder him when he could be a dream for someone else who felt the same as him
In the Bible it says wives are supposed to submissive to their husbands. U don’t understand the meaning of submissive and control, they are two different things. Don’t believe what society says.
You are wise could be said better about submitting.
Interesting so you had a good man, and let him go because you weren’t willing to give up control. 🤔 very interesting
Hello
@@JustBeYouTy A man that expects you to give up control over your own free will or decisions is not a “good man”.
If I could be honest, I could've seen myself getting married to him. HE MET MY PARENTS, HE MET MY DAD!!!!! BUT HIS MOTHER..... 😧😧😭😭 WHAT YAWL THINK?! SPILL THE TEAAA, LET'S HELP EACH OTHER!!
Great thing u didn't! Thosd things are a hot mess!! Run forest run!!
I never gave in! After a while his mother accepted me....especially when she saw how accomplished I was on my own and how much love I had for her son. We are happily married.
I never comment on RUclips. But when I tell you everything you about to say is on point. ( I haven’t even listen yet). Saw myself getting married to this guy. Was around him and his family for 6 years. Hia Daugther was 9 months when I met him. Long story short. Haven’t never ever been so traumatize in life. Even to this day... had a whole Nother gf. In a different state. He purpose to her and they just got married in May. I had to leave nyc and come back home to Florida it was so much deception I had a nerve break down. Mann it was bad. Don’t you know his sister has the nerve to text me yesterday? Mind you I don’t talk yo no one from their family. Talking happy bday. When she know my bday is today 8/8 because his babymomma bday is the same as mines. When I tell the foolery these men do are our of this world. P.s I would assume he married her because she’s a lawyer but when I saw what I thought I was up against i went even more depressed 🤦🏽♀️
@@vu119 they are not even worth it at all! I got depressed to but came out of it thank God. They are NOTHING but manipulatieve users. He was cheating with some girl. I found out by her calling me, then he left her pregnant, was in a little shing dig with some other woman for a very short while, now he is with yet another one claiming he is in love all.of a sudden. Lol! Absoluty nothing but a narcisstic nightmare from hell!
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Sony that happened to you. You deserve better and I hope you get someone ten times better then him.
I can relate to your comment about African men getting with us AA women for citizenship. I had a friend who married an African. She was over weight and lacked confidence in your beauty. Her African husband tried to sleep with me as soon as she left for business trip. I quickly rejected him but never told her. He clearly was not in relationships for love of her. Since them, I don’t trust them.
I feel like the family aspect when it comes to your relationship in general has to have boundaries because even sometimes when you and your partner are not on the best terms you shouldn’t always go to your family because once you guys are ok and your happy with each other then your family is still mad and upset with them. Boundaries is something that is a must when getting into a relationship.
I was married to a Ghanaian.. he was veryyy close to his mom, but not so much his Dad. Our cultures clashed. THIS American woman spoke her mind and was strong💪🏽 (like I was raised to be),and when u don't need a man financially, ur not going to submit and be in the background of his foreground..no more Africans for me😁. But we are still cool!
I think it's great you spoke your mind. But the truth is, the age at which a person is dating will influence their response to an intrusive parent/mother, among many other things. You ultimately "showed your strength," only to not end up with your partner. Some battles aren't worth excessive energy and not going toe to toe doesn't make someone less strong.
But I really want women to get out of the mindset of telling other women not to depend on a man for money, just because the woman doesn't want to date a man making $60,000 a year (an arbitrary figure) or any salary she deems insufficient.
@@tastePINK I agree, everyone is different. U touched on the money issue, well his mom was back in Ghana and he would send money home...while I understand the circumstances of people coming to the US for better opportunities and they often send money home, u must also consider your financial obligations under ur own roof.. and don't get me wrong, you're suppose to help ur parents, but money is a serious factor in a marriage, especially if it affects your living expenses. Love alone does not pay bills.. pleasantly surprised to hear you've dated Africans/foreigners 😊
I am Ghanaian and with the way our culture is, we really do not play with our parents because hunny, the struggle is real. In conclusion, you need to understand the culture before you get into it.
I’m proud of you.
Kayla As Desired
What are you saying? That she ought to have bowed down to the parents (husband)? BS!
Yessss I dated a African guy once....LET ME START BY SAYING I DONT BELIEVE EVERY AFRICAN MAN IS THIS WAY ! AND NOT ONLY AFRICAN MEN OR ISLAND MEN ACT THIS WAY. people parents raise them a different way, or some just fucked up in the head. OKKKK LETS START!!!! I didnt expect to experience this because his approach to me was so sweet and tender, yet arrogant. Plus he was American born so he didnt need papers from me, and came from a wealthy family growing up. However I grew up extremely comfy as well OK!!!!! first lets start by saying CONTROLLING ASF. OK omg we lived with each other for a period of time as well. OMG this man wouldn't let me leave the house low-key, without us going back and forth about it. Yet I never hindered him from doing anything he wanted....extreme narcissistic qualities. This man would want me to cook 3 x a day 7 days a week. He would wake me out my sleep to make me sandwiches. Im sick in bed; & this man has the nerves to ask me to make him tea. I literally asked him to make me tea the day before and he ignored me 🤣🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ WTF!.....he take off his clothing every day before and after work; leave them in the middle of the room to pile up for days. At first I would pick them up, after a while I said FUCK THAT IM NOT UR MAID. FURTHERMORE THEN MEN, MOMS NT PUTTING UP WITH THAT SHIT. SO DONT PLAY WITH ME LIKE THAT PERIODDTTTTT!!!! This man would piss on the toilet seat everyday LITERALLY. I have sensitive skin and he knew this; that is dirty asf. He wouldn't even lift the seat. just childish and lazy asf. I literally cleaned the bathroom everyday with bleach. soon as this man come home, PISS ON THE TOILET! OMG WTF! then he would blow up on me and yell at me; get real loud and shit. Telling me " do u think I want to come home from work and hear about piss on the toilet." FIRST OF ALLL.... CHILDISH BOY, you didnt MEET the bathroom dirty or pissy. THE LANGUAGE WAS ABUSIVE. BUT I WOULD ROCK HIS WORLD, IM NOT THAT FEMALE YOU CAN PLAY WITH. I believe this is why we argued everyday....YOU THINK YOU CRAZY,??? IM MF CRAZY TO. I took this man to and from work AND GYM everyday, not a day he put gas. Yo dont even get me started with his FAMILY....omgggggg bruhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh....Tried to tell me I needed to clean up after his brother, wen he had the kitchen dirty every time used. mad dished in the sink, which was not from us. I can continue to go on SIS, but I would be here for hours. JUST STAY WOKE LADIES, DONT LET THESE FOOLS MAKE U FEEL LIKE U TRIPPIN. YOU DESERVE A MAN TO LOVE AND CHERISH U IN EVERYWAY
Girl... a Ghanaian mother and her son... u Berta hope she like u... and don’t get me started on naija men... woooooiiiiii
That most culture.Im Caribbean and Afro Caribbean some women dont they dont play when it comes on to their sons.
Makes you wonder does the mother want to marry the son? 🤮🤢🤢.
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You can't put all African men in one basket, because west africans are different than central africans than east africans etc. We're not all the same. For some, the parents approval is a must, others no. The only advice I could give you, is to make sure u take your time with them and evaluate how important is your culture and way of doing things to u and the other person because if yall r both from 2 different cultures, u will have to mesh them and find common grounds but if no party is willing to accept the other person's culture, it'll be a flop. The stereotype that they are all bad with multiple wives is completely false.
yall do it to AAs all the time so please.
isobel64 You can tell she’s a typical African woman.
@@God.sDaughter We are not the same Gangster. You see what I did there, stereotypes are disgusting.
@@isobel64 Um well AAs are American from one country. Country and continent are not the same
"I have a wig on, if this scarf wasnt on it woulda flew off" 😂😂😂😂 Im jamaican and i fully agree Jamaican men are a trip
If i date any he has to be amercanized just a tad bit..
Sis, I would be in prison. I'm trying to stay sane. I just can't!
Girl I am a Jamaica and I totally agree with you.
I had to comment. I am married to an African man but I am also originally African. My spouse though has never cheated .we have been married for 10 years going on 11..he's 10 years older than me and treats me like a queen.I literally have to beg him to work because he doesn't want me to .My only contribution to the marriage is to finish nursing school and have kids he says.Am blessed to have him but to be honest he was raised by his grandparents who were strong Christians so they instilled that in him.No one is perfect but he's pretty damn close to it.Not all African men are bad but 90 percent are a no go area😄😄
When my Ghanaian Husbae and I meet I was engaged to a guy who got caught up with heavy drug activity and with the money came the infidelity. I was devastated but couldn’t conjure up the strength to leave. Husbae at the time became a very good friend and literally a listening ear. He never rushed me to leave. He would just tell me that “By the grace of God”, I’d be his wife. A year later my ex my was literally caught with his pants down. He was having an affair and the girl he was in bed with set him up to get robbed. He ended up getting killed.
My Ghanaian husband and I are now married 10+years 2 children together my son from that previous engagement is now 19 and in his 2nd year of college. We bought out first house 4 years into our marriage. And took our first family trip to Ghana and it was amazing. We have been there 3 times since His family was so welcoming. No secret marriages or children, thank goodness 😅
We are now finishing up on six family unit project in Ghana. Once we fill it up with tenants we plan to start building our dream home in there.
Sorry for the long ass post. I sometimes still can’t believe how things turned out for me after the death of my ex.
I have an ig friend from Ghana. It made me open my eyes to whole new world, and it changed how I felt about African men. Black women, are not protected, adored, and supported by black men. Dont get me wrong, there are good black American men out here. But it's like a needle in the haystack. The man from Ghana maybe he didn't think he did anything, he was just being himself. His mannerism... his voice... 😍 his education. It was all bomb
@@amberhi874 true. African men have something more . It’s just in their dna. They are kind, wise and so so so so so so respectful!!
Yassss queen
@@marin8365
But we're only for african/black women 😐
@@blackblaze5271 we're for all beautiful women!
as an African woman,you've to get the approval of the mother
WOW!!!!! I'M DEAD. SO THE FATHER JUST DOESN'T MATTER LMAOOOO?!
@@tastePINK the father matters a whole lot but the mother can make or brake the whole relationship,and remember the mother has a way to her husbands heart.
That goes for Caribbean parents too! Im Jamaican and i feel sorry for my brother when he decides to marry bcuz my mom don't play that. The same for me when my son has to marry( when i have kids) 😂😂😂😂
Neme o That’s foolishness.
@@God.sDaughter its people's culture. So please lets be guided with our words
Omg you're so silly lololol. I just said that. Look you needs to call me lol. Them Jamaican men ooooo my sis is married to one now😡😁. It's taking me everything not to kick his azz lol. I'll do it when she's not lookn😉
LMMFAOOOOO. As much as you may want to save your sister, it is her life. Allow her to live it. Be a source of encouragement and share your truth, in a non-offensive way. I hope all works out 😩 it's ROUGH out here.
I've heard a lot of African men are mama's boys.. Also, she may have loved you but being a Black American, its possible that in her eyes you were never gonna be good enough for him. She may have wanted him to marry a Ghanaian woman and pushed you away on purpose with her neediness.🤷🏽♀️
Nope,most Ghanaian men and families who go abroad want the wives of their sons to be a bit americanized.it's some sort of fetish...I'm Ghanaian,it's so annoying.
Nope,most Ghanaian men and families who go abroad want the wives of their sons to be a bit americanized.it's some sort of fetish...I'm Ghanaian,it's so annoying.
@@princessquarcoo8237 Wow, really!? I always heard West Africans will date Black Americans and Black Caribbeans but when its time to settle down you normally do so with someone from your tribe or at least from the same country. Mainly because of familial expectations..Learn something new every day..🤷🏽♀️
TastePINK well, to educate you a little bit,life in Africa is different from America. Africans are all about family. They don’t have the system where you put your parents/relatives in nursing homes to be taken care of. Parents go through a lot to bring up their children so nobody tells the children to do the same for their parents/family after witnessing the struggle,it’s like giving back. Unlike America where some stages of schooling is free until college, in Africa, parents pay for tuition from kindergarten to university from their pockets and it’s not only African men who takes care of their family, women also do the same. Now, the problem is how to find a balance between family responsibilities and love life/ relationships. Men in general are built in such a way that they focus on one thing at a time so if you find yourself with a man like that, I will suggest you teach/show him how to balance these two in a respectful way because that’s what men want and I can tell you that you will enjoy your relationship to the fullest. A man that respects/takes care of his mother is certainly a good man,of course all men are not same but there are good ones
Yes ! Exactly! Holy words!!! I couldn’t explain it any better!
Our men are not ALL the same. The whole thing is dependent on whom you date. I have dated an Asian man in the past and I am happy, we are not together. Overall,I would choose our men( African) over♥️ again ♥️
Geez men are just scary.
The starting is like heaven and then comes the hell on earth after I'm good booboo do you!!!!
Lol
Roseline"😍
Girl...tell me about it 😒. I just got out an relationship and I think I was dating the devil
This is why our parents said "stay with your kind",I was like NO!!!WHAT A BACKWARD THING TO SAY!!!...but as I get older,I see where they were coming from,cultural differences start to matter more and more.
SIS!!!!! I know bout them jamaicans. I was with him for 3 years before marriage. He had no kids when we met, but somehow there was a child almost a year old 3 months later. Girl I just walked away. Period
I really appreciate the views and stuff. But some people are just making it look like all African men are bad to date. I am pure African and our parents mean a lot to us. Whether male or female we like to take care of our parents over others. Its just us. We like to support our parents and there is never a limit to that. I know other Ghanaian and Nigerian people will understand. Its just our culture and economy and there is nothing wrong with it.
I'm 🇹🇹. Some African men have agendas. Also because of their culture they tend to want that upheld or certain things they must do. Never dated one just what I know. To me based on men of culture I tend to side eye is Jamaican Trini African Haitian men lol. Some American men are no better. It all boils down to actually family training & dynamics & a woman who can help him grow when culture is a factor.
My parents are Caribbean. I love my dad but honey I don't have good luck with Caribbean men! One wanted to cook for me but never wanted to take me out. I now date Africans but they are tricky lol
It’s all about the mother ...my mother in law loves me before I started dating her son
Well, aren't you just LUCKY!!! 😩😩😩😩
Why? The mother has her own life to lead. And the son has his. Why keep the son as the second husband?
That’s incest.
@@God.sDaughter get out the hood
Sis, you’re personally is A-1. Instant subscriber! #notnewtothisimtruetothis
I feel you girl. I never was interested in dating African men because I always thought they were short tempered.
Haha unless you've been to all 54 countries in Africa than I would side with you. Man are different in every part of the world
Rodrick Lamya nahh I’m good I’d rather marry someone who was born in the same continent as me (North America)
@@remichloegoyo Cool whatever floats your boat.
@@remichloegoyo Keep safe, Corona ain't playing
Well to be fair a lot of African households beat and abuse their kids and they grow up with temper problems and trauma so..... you made the right decision.
After reading some comments, I continue to understand WHY we are the most divided race, and why other race targets and divide us by turning us against each other, this lady talking about how some men behave and some women are talking down on other Black race, someone even said she likes talking Africans down, it a pity we think like this
The hypocrisy amazes me lol
I agree.
No shade throwing,but I’ve dated African men before and MY experience with them wasn’t the best,they can be very controlling,and possessive.I’ve been stalked and threatened by them,so for ME I decided not to date them anymore.The women (African) tend to look down and frown upon Black women.There’s an arrogance that you feel from them.
You seem to be someone with personal.issues . Talmbout stalking u etc
@@terrelmensa4373 some do stalk
@@tyshemalynnp1328 yea they learnt it from your parents
I've had a few get angry when I wouldn't give my address! No sir. Also one wanted to fight me because he gave me gas money(to drive out to him) but wouldn't sleep with him. I had to call the police smh
@Jerseygirl8999 m she probably meant they look down on black American women
Girllll where have you been it so comfy seeing you discuss this much needed topic I have so much to say Lady I could write two books lol tastepink
omg!! love this topic! Thank u for sharing! imma comment again as my thinking wheels turn!!
Lol
so i dated a nigerian man for 3 years, and im congolese, he was very gentlemman like, he assimilated to american culture but was VERY attached to his family too so it hindered us progressing as well because he was never seeing himself leaving his home...and moving out and making his own life, so i had to let him go. but he was such a good guy! very loyal :) just needed to grow up a bit.
👀👀👀 !!! WOW! But shout out to your discernment and knowing that things were not progressing in a fashion that was conducive to the relationship dynamic you wanted. Walking away can be difficult, but it meant you didn’t compromise on important matters (and rightfully so).
First let me say that I absolutely love your channel. You are a lot younger than myself, so I understand your frustrations. However, instead of being frustrated about his commitment to his mom, you should have looked at how much he respects women and could have benefitted from that had you stuck around. Lastly, you guys were just young and dating. You really had no right to question his commitment to his family. If you were his wife, that would be a different story, but as a girlfriend I think it was a little out of pocket and if I were him I would have ended the relationship.
The mother plays an essential role in African culture. She's the one who carried you for 9 months and in the culture you owe your parents especially your mother, everything. The daughter in law comes in and helps her man with whatever is needed. And if he's the first son of the family even more is expected. I've been married to my Nigerian husband for 23 years and had to learn a lot.
As for your wanting to be a housewife that doesn't do much an African man is not for you. In fact u might have trouble with a man period because sitting and looking pretty gets tired after a while.
I respect your contribution to the conversation. We can agree to disagree. However, you aren't in a position to speak for all men, you are just ONE person. There are men who wish to take care of women 100%, indeed. ☺
Wow lol
Marrying an African wasn't one of my better decisions in life, but thank God for my son that I was blessed with.
In regards to dating a African man & his value of him mom. He will not priority a girlfriend over his mother. He may consider some boundaries maybe when y’all married; it’s cultural.
Coming from a young woman, I completely understand that. I see it as; your mother is your GOD, your wife is your Queen and your daughter is your princess.❤️
Im confused so if you want to be a house wife without the house wife duties. What is your contribution?
Not to define my worth as a partner by how I move things around a house or how well I clean a house... because that ideology is rooted in patriarchy, which is designed to benefit MEN. You can be queen of a broom and pan, but I'm not a kitchenette cleaning enthusiast. The modern maid outfit isn't my preference, but to each their own. 😩☺ Thanks for tuning in.
@@tastePINK you know what is so sad about people like yourself. You swear you are open minded and can appreciate other people's views and opinions but the moment someone asks you to explain your view point, name call. I wasn't disrespectful with my question. I don't believe anything I asked nor said was disrespectful. Every family is different just like every relationship is different to say I want to be a house wife without house wife duties makes no absolute sense. Everyone contributes some way to the whole family. There is absolutely nothing wrong with anyone being a house wife and or working woman who contributes in some way to the family or house. Being a contributing member of a family has nothing to do with patriarchy. Clearly your to small minded for an adult conversation.
@@Hunterj005 I'm definitely very open, always will be, but you literally TRASHED African Americans in another comment you made. I don't know why you thought it was okay to stereotype African Americans and in this very divisive and rather elitist manner try to implicate only Africans understand "care of family." Black women and men have the ability to epitomize the care AND resilience of family. This is a textual response, which can give way to misinterpretation, but when I said "you can be queen of broom and pan," it wasn't to say you specifically, but I'm very aware how it can be read. There are plenty of women who are housewives, without the domestic duties and their contributions don't have to be extensive. There's nothing sad about myself, but what is sad is that you participate in prejudice that further divides African/Black Americans and Africans and on such a trivial and ignorant level at that. You are not better than me and I am not better than you. We both bleed red. And I have nothing else to say.
Bottom line. Some women aspire to be a housewife and nothing more, some women aspire to have a marriage that is a partnership and maintain some of her own identity/independence. Nothing wrong with either, so long as that is truly who you are and what you are comfortable. I, for one, am glad that we American Women are presented with options and freedoms that many other cultures are not allowed. We are raised to understand our worth as a human being, rather than calculating our worth by our ability to slave and submit to men who may not even be worthy of what they're expexting. We still have pick me women in America. But it's not the majority. We appreciate what little freedoms we have compared to other places
Her contribution would be spending his money.
I know of a white woman who was married to an African guy for 20 years. One day, he told her that he wanted a divorce so that he could marry the woman who was waiting for him in Africa. They had grown children, too.
Yep
Smh sad
Unless a person has dated ALL the African & Caribbean men in the world... they can’t really speak on experience... 🤷🏽♀️ Judge by personality.
yall do it to AAs all the time so please
I would think that one could speak on their experiences. After all, they did experience it right? Maybe you meant to say one can't speak on all experiences.
My Nigerian boo isn’t showing any extreme signs, but I’ve caught him twice, so far, trying to “shh” me. Mind you I’m not a talkative person. Would you see this as a major issue or something he needs to adjust to?
Definitely,it's well noted that almost all Nigerian men cheat even into marriages but the they do take care of their women very well.If he is not trying in the least bit to hide his cheating let the whole man go away
I'm Kenyan and it's true, as African girls the main goal for us is always marriage which I think needs to stop because not every woman wants to get married and times have changed. I understand it can be such a culture shock for African American women when they date African men but I've noticed many people are mentioning West African men. Many of them are sticklers to their traditions and patriarchy. Trust me, I'm sorry but I can't date them I'm not trying to be biased. They can be too much. However, not all African men are like this especially for those who come from liberal families, they're are quite different and more open minded so it depends on his raising. But oh well, men will always be men.
I am a west African woman and I agree I would prefer not to get married to an African men at least not one who was raised in Africa. Because 90% of the men I have met are just no.
Brother: I don't want to get married
Family: Oh that's OK?
Me: I don't want to get married
Family: Haha, wait you will change your mind when you get older. Children are a blessing and you will love them naturally.
Me: 🙄
I get along well with Kenyan women but the Kenyan guys I've dated wanted to be the center of attention and sex too early. I was disappointed because I love the culture
I dated only one African before🤷🏾♀️ he was extremely controlling.
Elena Willis mines is controlling I’m still with 🤭
It's all about being submissive not control.
@Ozzy Mandias southerners
Sanci Godwin
Why should a woman submit to a man? Are you god?
@@God.sDaughter because God the creator commands so and no am not God.
The "Care of family" is very important in African culture. Only African Americans don't understand this. Everyone invest in the family and household. My father is African it's a very different dynamic
How young are you?
I knew you were African when you wrote this and ya last post.
Im 33 tastePink.
LMAO
I feel a little fluffy, amen 😂. Girl, you and me both!
😂😂😂😂😂 I had to run back to the gym, ugh!!!! That fluffy feeling be the WORST!
You've only dated men from 2 out of 54 countries in Africa. And you already have assumptions and conclusions about men from all 54 countries??? Girrllll really????
My cousin marry 1 & it was a big mistake& yes he put his mama before her as a wife. & the mama was mad he marry a AA women & help make her life unkind. She is still marry to him years later & he still treats her Like she his his footstool!. My family is in stun disbelieve because she is highly educate, pretty & could have done far BETTER. I have often wonder why they have such unkindnes TOWARD us!?. Grace to all. gh
I was in the same situation. He wasnt African but it was THE SAME EXACT situation to the point it was his brothers he was takin care of as well. Like literally other grown ass men.
I swear I love watching u sis keep up the good work lady
I’m AA but first gen ( parents from Haiti). I’m married to a African man and dated men in the past who are African, white American, British, Mexican and black american. I would say all man have issues not just African men. However, I found my match with someone who shares family values and work ethics. At the end of the day as the Bible says find someone equally yolked.
All my other sisters married someone who is equally yolked with them expect one sister who is now getting a divorce from an AA man who is an atheist and does not share her same work views. All the others sisters married outside their culture and race and are still are married.
Wish this video was available 4 1/2 years ago my life would be totally different
Sis!!! I used to deal with this Grenadian....Baybeeeeeeee
Are you well? Recovering? LMAO jk but WHEW!
My experience with an African man...lol...he literally snatched my wig OFF while I was driving AND 3 months pregnant with his first son.
Which country in Africa? You cannt put all us in one box.....
I'm literally obsessed with you and pissed that I just discovered your channel
One thing I think we need to also discuss is how insecure African men are. And too many lies and manipulation within their families. So sad because they could have so much more and a better life. Too much drama... stay away!
Hello
People in general are insecure, I’m sure you yourself have your insecurities
@@jojoco9840 that wasn’t my point 😞
Very interesting conversation. Appreciated your honest refreshing approach. I’ve dated several African men through the years, and I only choose those who are well educated and at a similar level of career status. (So had papers long ago) However, I’ve learned that it depends on the family dynamic what the financial obligation will be. Now that I’m older I have more options because we are both stable. So can hire domestic help and be the domestic when I choose to be. (I enjoy cooking and some entertaining) However, I do have some residual trust issues that I’m working on. I am eager to if this time I can make it work for the both of us especially learning the culture and keeping eyes 👀 and heart ❤️ open. Thanks for sharing and wishing you the best. Great channel content.
Oh my goodness wow
An African American here and was dating a Ghanaian and Central African
The Ghanaian ignored me when mom called and talked in a whole different language very loud
Was texting different women,was very controlling, I could not question him or anything
The Central African would talk about his own wife like she was not better than his mom
He wanted every girl to dress like his mom and he was not attracted to them unless they looked like his mom
Many instances when I spent time with his mom and she would completely Ignore me to talk for an incredibly long time with her son. I used to be so so so mad. I mean yea confident but Damn when do the shit stop and the wife becomes priority? I guess mom don’t wanna get left but damn what about the husband? Oh he’s cheating but wow it’s a messed up cycle
I am so disappointed by these comments. SMH, you cannot make blanket statements against a whole continent based on experiences you have hard with a few.It is the same type of prejudice that applies and used to justify racism. The title itself is not helpful.
Yes u can! They are raised differently so the men will act a certain way based on their culture
You SO hit it on the head with SO much you said!!!!!!
Yaaas girl know the game
I love the eyelashes
Find you a high end GOOD LOOKING MAN ANY RACE... you deserve that!!!!!
I would like to chime in on this topic of dating African men. I just don't do it. I don't and I don't want to date an African man Jamaican or Caribbean. After the stories that I've heard in my past about African Jamaican or Caribbean men I just was scared of dating them. I always heard that Africans will date you but have a thousand wives behind them or they just want to marry you to become a citizen. also the stories I've heard is that they are very pushy when they are interested in you you could tell them as nice we as you can that you are not interested but somehow they will keep showing up trying to convince you to date them. Honestly any man that I see that has the potential to mistreat or disrespect the woman that they're with no matter what race they are I'm not all that interested in dating them.
Not all African men behave the same way
The African men I’ve came across are extremely pushy and will promise you the world. That’s just scary to me
I agree with Shelby Steele comment don't worry about them they will marry and care for African women but sleep with you. Move on and forget them as far as husbands.
Re: Nigerian Yoruba (West African) Generally speaking the eldest son is responsible for decisions especially if the father is deceased. The social dynamics are such that you do marry the entire family and women do alot in the culture to assist the man (the males are a bit of narcistic) .
It's the type of men you attract. I have relatives who got involved with African Americans men and it's a nightmare. For one particular cousin She was abandon twice when she got pregnant. And with the papers situation they do that to all women.Even their own.Women need to stop searching and make things happen naturally.
I like that they obey their mothers 😋 I am a mum and want my son to listen to me also, but some of them are dumb,they don't know how to set boundaries. They cannot say No to certain trespasses 😀♥️
Grown men “obeying” their mothers. Yea, ok. 🤨
@@TheFancyCandy
Yes love😀👌
As a mother with 2 sons, I could not see expecting my sons to "obey" me in adulthood. I think thats wildly unhealthy and inappropriate. I am not God. Especially as a woman who strongly advocates for individuality and independence in my children. I have a whole husband. And while I eould love for my children (my daughters too) to value my opinion and trust in mu judgement, I understand that God's path for each person is different. All children should respect yheir parents. But it is sick to expect a grown man to let his mother into his bedroom. And it is disgusting for any mother to have that mich investment in her sons private romantic/sexual life. Borderline incestuous. I camt wait for my sons to have their own life so me and my husband can het back to worrying about our own damn sex life without these kids
@@TheFancyCandy Obeying mom is a bit extreme for a man.
Afro Jamaican aren't the only Jamaicans.Not all Jamaican men is like that.Remember people do what you allow.Most time they dont try their bull with American women.They always talk about how aggressive the women are.All Caribbean men know most African Americans women dont put up with certain foolish.
Lmfaoooooooooo I'm dating one now they are annoying
I really admire u and your videos however i keep watching over and over yet i can't for whatever reason vision myself using so much stuff on my face to get that look or anything close to that
Me either! I love the videos though.
Wow I said the same thing ME EITHER although imo I think you are beautiful without that stuff
I wish you knew me so I can talk to your friend lol. Upon marrying to help someone she should've considered it a business. Technically all that person needed was her status. He should've paid her. Sometimes that process can work out for the best. But if she really knew he was going to mess around during that process business wise it wouldn't have bothered her that much.
She was SO young. 18-20. Her family did well for themselves. It was honestly set up for the man to benefit in many aspects. 😭 Making it known that it is a business venture upfront can greatly help to resolve the personal aspect.
Beautiful makeup. How do you remove your makeup? Which products do you use such as eye makeup remover and makeup remover wipes, etc?
Judging from the comments y'all bitter. All other videos talk good about their men of various countries. Only to find out that there's videos talking bad about black and African men (lmao Shocking!).
African men are good In every single aspect. The only weaknesses African men have is dumping their girlfriends when she cheats or she's done with the relationship. (In general they have difficulties in expressing their emotions).
This is because African men are not close to their fathers and only have training on how to deal with women from their mothers (funny right).
I'm African and luckily for me my parents were just different to what most of you described... So I can't relate with these comments.
PS. If he approached you for citizenship do you need a manual to tell you he never loved you in the first place? Smh
I'm dating an African man who does things that is disrespectful but he complains I'm disrespectful seems one rule for me and one for him
My question would be why is the son helping to pay bills if his dad is in the home. And the part B to that question is....Why is the dad allowing that?
Sis, where you finding them. Bc in my area, don’t see those waaay above MY bracket. Plus they only like dark skin black women in my area. 🤷♀️🥺
Wow I was born and raised in Africa and I feel like they are obsessed with light skin. Well not all but the majority
@@mamanaissatoudiagne1389 lies!!! African men like attractive women regardless of skin tone. Maybe you’re just ugly that’s why they don’t want you
@@jojoco9840 lol 😂😂😂 coming from a African woman they love women no matter the country or continent or race once they find you attractive or flashy looking .. beauty is in the eyes of the beholder ladies... @ brownie when you meet the right one he will date you but African men are not obsessed over skin tones like Americans in my opinion if anything they like big booty big everything... if you dont have the front atleast have the back , if you have the full frame then you win now.😂😂😂😂
This was a fun topic....enjoyed the video
'blow yo damn lace front off'......lmbo...BUT ITS TRUE!!! Stay single and in contentment as long as possible...marriage is FOR REAL!
As a black woman...... I will never date an African man, Jamaican, Haitian,.... hell they’re all from the same boat... just different stops. 😤
Kimberly Woods I screamed !
Well then it’s slim pickings
MY JESUS! I WASN'T READY.
Lmfaoooooooooo they are tricky sis
Kat Ann go Asian 😩
I really enjoyed this 🇬🇭.
sis the only advice I have is, to love yourself and know that You are the price, not the other way round
..... I don't know where in this video you concluded that I don't realize I'm the prize. But to whomever may need your advice, I pray it finds them. Thanks for sharing.
Yes sis it was just extra advice... I got you girl, you already know you is a dime 😋😎😍
Lol. This is why i stick to white men... Dated a Nigerian briefly, he used me for money...
Hispanic-Haitian-Congolese woman.
I've never been to America but this video and the comments here are really interesting. Absolutely nothing I imagined...
Definitely Got to get there!
Im JUST LIKE YOU! thats what i want in a relationship, but i got one child so id have to play domestic work if i ever find a provider. I want to just be fabulous with a man funding my lifestyle.
@Mx tooreal AMEN
Lol
So ur right about what we as parents do by putting all those extra responsibilities for them at a young age! They should be given responsibilities with time as time goes by! As their maturity develops to avoid overwhelming them! Don't set goals that aren't unobtainable! Once we figure that at things will work out just fine...
Yes girl I understand he was sending money to Africa when he had to give his family money all the time, he also let him tell him who he can be with, it's this women he has in Africa his family has pushed into his life she miles away and he was cheating on her with me, and I asked him to end it with her and tell his family about me but he would not so I'm done with him and all African Men put together. 😎
A african man who is married already would never leave their wife for you lol i mean maybe some but its an illusion a lot of them are polygamists.
First comment, love the video btw.❤❤❤
The makeup has ur skin so smooth and beautiul.
This is A Real Tea talk!!! Thank you