When ‘Being Nice’ Requires Betrayal: Carrie’s Choice Between Big and Aiden
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- Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025
- In this video, we use Carrie’s dilemma-inviting her ex Big to her current partner Aiden’s place-as a backdrop to explore the fine line between being a “good friend” and betraying your relationship. How do loyalty, guilt, and the need to help someone (even an ex) blind us to the damage we cause a current partner?
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Carrie: " I love you Aidan! Not so much that I would cut out Big,of course...and not your lifestyle, yuck...or your love language. Or,you know... your whole personality. But I love you!"
How has Carrie not clocked that Big not having any friends is a huuugggeee problem.
“You’re my man and I love you” she says and she chooses another man’s feelings over “her mans” feelings
Oh man I was in a very similar situation with my ex and her ex. I felt like I couldn’t say anything or much because she would paint me as a person who was insecure and such. Trying to accept it would slowly eat at me and took away a lot of my self confidence because of it. Similar to what you were saying it made me feel like she would choose his needs over mine and ultimately didn’t work out. She also messed around with him 2 or 3 weeks after we broke it off. Still wish her the best but I’m glad I’m out of that toxic cycle and have my confidence back again.
I'm glad you did too!!💪✨️
I'm OBSESSED with commentary covering SATC. I think it's a great series to learn from. Your analysis is the most balanced and fair I've seen. Please keep 'em coming! 🖤🖤🖤
Mr Big: "this is how I'm supposed to be treating the other person!"
Oh Lord. Carrie and Big have the emotional depth and maturity of middle schoolers. Why do the writers humiliate their characters this way? SATC = What NOT to Do in a Relationship. Unless you're preparing to be divorced. Over and over again.
I think that was the conceit of the show: they could have happy lives and happy endings, but the characters are often their own worst enemies.
Clearly Mr. Big was in a CASUAL relationship with Willow, and used her to (try to) make Carrie jealous.. so immature. 🙄
The Green Goblin 😄 I was waiting for this episode!
3 mins!?! On a Monday!? bisssshhhhh blessed be! 😂 I needed this 🖤🖤
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Big and Carrie have zero boundaries.
Carrie tries to move on but is still affected by Big’s manipulative ways, because she doesn’t wanna lose him, because she loves him. The only way to end that cycle is to set a strict no contact boundary.
You cannot just be friends with someone you still have those feelings for, especially if they hurt and triggered you so badly. It’s just way too messy of a dynamic that won’t allow you to move on. It’s a harsh reality she has to accept but isn’t ready to, which sucks for Aidan who doesn’t wanna lose Carrie and is unable to hold onto his boundaries.
To me it honestly felt like Big was just pretending to be obsessed with the actress, to get Carrie’s attention 🙉 at the very most he’s ego was hurt, but he was not really suffering
Edit: also taking advantage of the fact that he knows Carrie has a soft spot for him, and therefore interfering himself in her new relationship, to the point of coming to his property 🙄 so selfish and disrespectful
Absolutely his ego was hurt because to Willow..he was clearly just a casual hookup from another generation.
He is only ever obsessed with himself and never with someone else . He tried to make Carrie insecure by raving about the actress when they were dating , then tried to get pity points from Carrie and get her to sleep with him by being sad about getting dumped by the actress. No , what did he really think? That a young, famous actress with plenty of money and a line of men waiting to woo her would actually waste her time on this 40 something boring dude ?😐. Nah , he just wanted his back up to be back in his life .
Really disagree, he was WAY too selfish to be manipulative like that, he also knew he could get Carrie's attention in many other ways. The man breathes and Carrie would come running
@@FishareFriendsNotFood972 isn’t that exactly what i said? selfish people ARE manipulative. rubbing his new ”obsession” in carrie’s ways was just another one of those ways to get under her skin and focused on him.
@@J33SS No, you can be manipulative and not selfish (like Sherlock Holmes, he deceives all the time, but for the unselfish goal of finding the truth), and you can be selfish and not manipulative (like most babies). To be manipulative, you have to try to understand other people and how to influence them, to be selfish you only have to understand yourself.
I wish Aiden would have stood up for himself for once.
This reminds me of the time that my ex-husband showed up to my apt unannounced while a male friend of mine was on his way for a visit (texting hadn’t really caught on yet in 2005/2006). I was hoping for a hookup with my friend, but then my ex totally messed it up for us.. he wouldn’t leave until after my friend had left. The 3 of us went to a bar where we drank beer and played air hockey (how awkward). I REALLY wish I had never let my ex in. A couple of years later I had to cut him off completely. Friendship with an ex, in my opinion, just doesn’t work.
Noooo😅😅
This tracks with how Carrie didn’t take his calls in the last season as she was leaving for Paris. She could reach him but he could get a hold of her 😂 finally got a taste of his own medicine.
She should have left that relationship in the street when she said "I DON’T LIVE HERE ANYMORE!" (and then ran away).. one of the very few Carrie moments that I was genuinely proud of.
Same!! @@Stephanie_Ella
Carrie and Big are not only narcissistic and selfish but also seem to view their own problems or concerns through a middle-schooler lens. The more Aiden steps away from his own boundaries, the more childish he, too, becomes.
V: Green Goblin
Aiden: Green Hornet
Carrie: Green Lantern
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I know🤣🤣
I mean, maybe I'm a petty person, but my ego, like Carrie's, would also quietly enjoy watching an ex who rejected me getting rejected themselves. It's not a good look, but it's human.
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It's so unrealistic what they portrayed at the end of this episode. Are we supposed to believe that's how situations like this should turn out? Aiden needs to grow a spine and Big and Carrie have no shame lol it's insane
I always got the impression that Big invented his relationship with the actress to manipulate Carrie and have an excuse to call her. The actress is never actually seen with him, and he talks weird and acts sus about her.
He keeps saying “she can reach me, I can’t get her” with extra emphasis. I don’t think he was talking about an actress , he was saying he couldn’t “get” Carrie because she was with Aidan.
He finally got a taste of his own medicine and regretted what he COULD HAVE had with Carrie.
Willow was only using him for casual sex.. if it were not for the answering machine message I would’ve thought he had made the whole thing up for Carrie’s attention.
Carrie and Big weren’t an epic love story. They deserved each other so no other innocent person got hurt. They’re both horrible friends, (except Big had none), self-centered, attention-seeking narcissists.
I think the word 'pathetic' for Carrie is an understatement. She is the most horrible person on this show. Great videos, by the way, keep doing them. :)
The name Willow Summers is an intentional Buffy reference, right? It has to be.
Carrie wanted toxicity to feel alive really.. that's rooted deep in daddy issues.
I mean..would she be ok and trusting Aidan still talking to his ex? Or Big? She stalked all the other women ffs
I believe it was in season 4 where old dude at Vogue clocked her Daddy Issues and he’d apparently walked out on her when she was little. It explains a lot really.. she kept chasing a man (Big) who was always unavailable to her. She should’ve stayed in therapy.. I would’ve respected her more for it.
Great videos about SATC! this channel needs to be way more popular!
I've been rewatching SATC since I was a child and I STILL have such a hard time watching this episode, especially as I get older and learn more. This is Carrie at her most despicable and villainous. Her joker era, if you will
If Big wanted to be in a relationship with Carrie after his divorce, there would have been no round 2 with Aiden. She was always waiting for Big to change his mind. That’s why most of us keep people who broke our hearts as friends.
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I remember watching this as a teenager and it all making sense to me, because that's how my classmates were behaving as well. Not me, because this biss never cared enough about being in a relationship to put up with shenanigans of these proportions... But now, I think, these people are middle aged... WTF. I still love Aidan though, was my type then, is still my type now.
In love with your SATC commentaries. Even more obsessed with watching your dracena slowly pass way in the background 🫣😂
I decided to pretend it was never mine🫣🤭
I love your SATC series, I’ve watched it from the beginning. I really love your perspectiv so glad I came across your channel ❤
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▶️Carrie never loved Aiden.◀️
Agreed 💯
Not only that.. but one could argue that she used Aiden to make Big jealous.. this is why she never married Aiden, she could never take it THAT far.
I understand that Carrie and Big are narcissistic but I cannot help hating Aidan being so submissive to Carrie's mistreatment
haha @ "at least he's honest"
Is anyone else bothered that Aiden was talking about The Green Hornet & not The Green Goblin (who is a villain) or The Green Lantern? These are not only different characters, they’re all in different universes… no? Just me then 😅
Oops🤭🤭🤭
@@insightsbyv it’s okay. Not everyone is a superhero nerd 🤓 😂
I always felt that his whole obsession with the actress was fake, he enjoy pushing people's boundaries. I just find it so sad that Aidan also has none, at all!
The ex she cheated you with is her "friend" and she invites him over! ahh i wanna scream, it's just so ridiculous 🙄
The writers ultimately went the comical route where the two men sort of come together over the shared aggression during the basketball game and "get" each other, but even through that writing, it was a hard episode to watch, even when I was younger. It's not just Carrie's behavior but, like, doesn't Big have other friends he could talk to? Did he not have a giant social circle and women he would casually travel with, let alone sleep with left and right? It read like he's doing that to reaffirm that there is someone he can control and disrespect. And that someone is Carrie.
I honestly don’t agree with the people that paint carrie as a “real person” and that is why people don’t like her because they reflect on her. But I believe this is ALL wrong, yes carrie is a complex character but season through season we see how she commits the same mistakes with Big specifically and hurting people like Aidan as she does this. Carrie is just a bad person who doesn’t grow up, and I simply can’t relate to someone like that and she’s not “so real” she’s childish and selfish.
Narcissists often are attracted to other narcissists. Big got his comeuppance with his crush. Too bad he didn't learn from it.
I think that was a funny moment, and somehow not unfamiliar. Men like to play it cool. Some of them need to show how great they are, and not behave vulnerable.
5 min! Never this early
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