1) A clear vision for the relationship 2) Commitment to his mental health 3) Communication compassion 4) Understanding of patriarchy 5) Desire for personal growth 6) Trigger awareness 7) Willingness to grow as a couple
M first..it's been more than months of no contact.. giving time to myself to move on...it's been very hard but with time every thing will be fine.. being optimistic 🙏
@@BernMendez And, at 67, I'm not even looking for marriage or partership! Still I'm learning so that, if I ever change my mind to manifest what I would call an enduring beloved companionship, I'll be ready 😉 And your advice does well for friendships and situationships too...just sayin'.
I dated a guy for a second time, he was still angry from his first marriage which lasted 2yrs & was over 20yrs ago, he only had 2 relationships in his 55 yrs both only 2yrs long. He at times mentioned both but at times running them down then the next time praising them 🤔. He just out of the blue said …you don’t use big words 🤷🏼♀️🤔… He started off really pursuing me at a decent pace but said I Love You when I didn’t feel ready to hear it… so tried to slow the pace down ..as I felt we were still getting to know each other. He then told me after about 5months he didn’t know what he wanted??? Left me completely baffled 😔
Where can I find a guy like this??? This world is so big, with so many man. How can I find him? Where do I put myself to find him? Does that guy you described in the video even exist? 😂😂😂😂 I know I'm being kinda dramatic, I'm just pissed off with relationships 😂😂😂 I want to find a man that wants the same as me and Is not basically in church, cause I'm not from any church or religion and I guess some good guys can be found in church, but I can't be with a guy and don't have the same beliefs as him, you know what I mean? Anyways.. I want to find a husband and it requires lots of patience and lots of NOs to man
Hi Ingrid, this guy I describe is naturally not the MAJORITY of men out there but there are men like I describe around. The steps to take if you're searching under rocks but not finding him are these: 1.- Stop Dating for a while, reconnect to what makes you feel most alive. 2.- Figure out from the seven traits I described how many of those you're currently great at and which ones (if you're really honest) you need some work in. Work on those. 3.- Develop a strategy for putting yourself out there again taking into account what has worked, what hasn't and your blindspots. (I have tons of free videos on these topics as well as a free quiz on all my video descriptions that show you your blindspots). Hope this helps!
@@BernMendez omg I didn't even expect you to answer me, I'm so happy right now! 🥰🤣✨❤️ Thank you so much for your advices. You really care for your audience of woman, and this is beautiful! You have a beautiful soul! Thank you for your help! I'll do (and I already do) what you pointed out here, ABSOLUTELY! Just with this simple answer I can already see my blind spots! 😂😂😂
Good intentions But warned out, already using the disclaimer “I don’t want to let you down” What ever that means is a disclaimer to if I mess up don’t get mad because I told you I will mess up. I Cushing not to place best foot forward.
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1) A clear vision for the relationship
2) Commitment to his mental health
3) Communication compassion
4) Understanding of patriarchy
5) Desire for personal growth
6) Trigger awareness
7) Willingness to grow as a couple
Thanks for watching!
M first..it's been more than months of no contact.. giving time to myself to move on...it's been very hard but with time every thing will be fine.. being optimistic 🙏
Thank you for sharing and watching!
So good! You keep knocking it out of the park, Bern. Real talk to help create real relationships.
Martha, I appreciate your kind words. Glad this video was helpful!
@@BernMendez And, at 67, I'm not even looking for marriage or partership! Still I'm learning so that, if I ever change my mind to manifest what I would call an enduring beloved companionship, I'll be ready 😉 And your advice does well for friendships and situationships too...just sayin'.
All these points need to be gently and confidently brought into discussion one day after next and future imagined and discussed together.
Yes and some of these are also observations that will not just come from conversation but from ACTIONS day in and day out : )
I dated a guy for a second time, he was still angry from his first marriage which lasted 2yrs & was over 20yrs ago, he only had 2 relationships in his 55 yrs both only 2yrs long. He at times mentioned both but at times running them down then the next time praising them 🤔. He just out of the blue said …you don’t use big words 🤷🏼♀️🤔…
He started off really pursuing me at a decent pace but said I Love You when I didn’t feel ready to hear it… so tried to slow the pace down ..as I felt we were still getting to know each other. He then told me after about 5months he didn’t know what he wanted???
Left me completely baffled 😔
The aspect of mental health is so important. For both parties involved.
YES! : )
This has been one of the best videos I've seen in a while. Nicely explained, Bern! Thank you and God Bless!
So glad it was helpful!
This is absolutely useful!!! Thanks so much for taking the time and effort to put this together!! ❤❤❤
You're so welcome, glad it was useful.
Thanks, Bern. These are really important to have if you want to create a successful long term relationship
Glad you found them useful.
I'm tired of it all. I've had enough of men to last me a lifetime. I'm done with them
You need to do whatever works best for you. Thanks for watching! : )
Understanding that the last 3 years I' ve been waiting for a commitment from a man that treat me like a FWB .
Sorry to hear this, on to brighter paths now! : )
Where can I find a guy like this??? This world is so big, with so many man. How can I find him? Where do I put myself to find him? Does that guy you described in the video even exist? 😂😂😂😂 I know I'm being kinda dramatic, I'm just pissed off with relationships 😂😂😂 I want to find a man that wants the same as me and Is not basically in church, cause I'm not from any church or religion and I guess some good guys can be found in church, but I can't be with a guy and don't have the same beliefs as him, you know what I mean? Anyways.. I want to find a husband and it requires lots of patience and lots of NOs to man
Hi Ingrid, this guy I describe is naturally not the MAJORITY of men out there but there are men like I describe around. The steps to take if you're searching under rocks but not finding him are these: 1.- Stop Dating for a while, reconnect to what makes you feel most alive. 2.- Figure out from the seven traits I described how many of those you're currently great at and which ones (if you're really honest) you need some work in. Work on those. 3.- Develop a strategy for putting yourself out there again taking into account what has worked, what hasn't and your blindspots. (I have tons of free videos on these topics as well as a free quiz on all my video descriptions that show you your blindspots). Hope this helps!
@@BernMendez omg I didn't even expect you to answer me, I'm so happy right now! 🥰🤣✨❤️ Thank you so much for your advices. You really care for your audience of woman, and this is beautiful! You have a beautiful soul! Thank you for your help! I'll do (and I already do) what you pointed out here, ABSOLUTELY! Just with this simple answer I can already see my blind spots! 😂😂😂
Good intentions But warned out, already using the disclaimer “I don’t want to let you down” What ever that means is a disclaimer to if I mess up don’t get mad because I told you I will mess up. I Cushing not to place best foot forward.
Thanks for watching.