He said “that’s just the way it is”.. 🙄 Why do women have to be so aware of all this and make these changes? Men need to stop being so difficult to please and driven by their own self interests. I just want to be me and don’t really care what men think. Guess I’ll just stay alone and happy 😊
The changes I suggest are NOT for men but for your own self expression, it just so happens that they also attract better men. And I hear you, there is a growing number of men who are conscious, aware and working to be their best selves also.
@@BernMendezmore men are becoming less masculine and less strong and confident due to the rising number of single moms/divorced parents. This is a trend in modern society. That’s why there’s so many single people now. Women are already making self improvement while more men are becoming less accountable. It is what it is. You can look up the statistics and literature.
I think I get you, and often think/feel similar, but please know, that we have to accept that the man is innately egoistic, (just as we are innately nurturing) if we are to get a happy relationship. Only when he gets really interested or in serious love, will that egoism be overcome. That is why Mr Mendez coaches us towards being our most attractive, valuable and good selves. At least I want to work for it. Despite a challenging, very challenging, starting-point.
One this is true: he will pursue you more or you will pursue him more. The utopia of both pursuing each other initially in euqual amounts is rarely the case. If he doesn't choose you and you really like him, you'll have to do the bulk of the pursuing... So the truth is both choose each other but if you want to not have to do the initiating, the asking on dates, the opening of doors, etc he will have to select you. Hope this makes sense.
@@BernMendezI think men are a bit delusional to think they choose the woman. Men choose the women AND THEN the women get to reject a man. Therefore, whoever has the reciprocated feeling is the one who chooses…and that would be the female. Men who don’t have the confidence to choose a woman should stay single anyway.
I fall into the Hot Summer Night Category. I can't change the mistake I made by sleeping with him early, but now I need to find a way to walk away as a high value woman 🤔 💔
But Bern, these are the same 5 categories that we single women view men in as well. It's all about a person who is aware of their full authentic self and not afraid to live it!
@@BernMendez It can have the opposite effect as well: the more authentic a person is, the harder it is to find the right partner, because you're not willing to give up your values just have just anyone at your side.
"The feeling that guys get with women who are more desperate in their approach is that there's not enough value in there to commit to that person for life."
@@BernMendezwhat is your point? If the man pulls back due to sensing a woman is disgusting?? If she is disgusting low value aka: drug addict or a hooker then the men will probably still pursue her so Im not sure your retort makes sense. But a man who likes flirting with numerous women is disgusting to many women. And therefore she pulls back. If a woman flirts with multiple men the man usually will compete to win her over…not pull back.
[Take My Free Quiz]: What's the #1 Reason You're Single: bit.ly/youresinglequiz
1. What's her name again?
2. Friendly Sister
3. Desperate One
4. Hot Summer Night
5. Inspired High Value (Magnet/Value & Boundaries)
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@@BernMendez thanks for your great advice!
He said “that’s just the way it is”.. 🙄 Why do women have to be so aware of all this and make these changes? Men need to stop being so difficult to please and driven by their own self interests. I just want to be me and don’t really care what men think. Guess I’ll just stay alone and happy 😊
The changes I suggest are NOT for men but for your own self expression, it just so happens that they also attract better men. And I hear you, there is a growing number of men who are conscious, aware and working to be their best selves also.
@@BernMendezmore men are becoming less masculine and less strong and confident due to the rising number of single moms/divorced parents. This is a trend in modern society. That’s why there’s so many single people now. Women are already making self improvement while more men are becoming less accountable. It is what it is. You can look up the statistics and literature.
I think I get you, and often think/feel similar, but please know, that we have to accept that the man is innately egoistic, (just as we are innately nurturing) if we are to get a happy relationship. Only when he gets really interested or in serious love, will that egoism be overcome.
That is why Mr Mendez coaches us towards being our most attractive, valuable and good selves. At least I want to work for it. Despite a challenging, very challenging, starting-point.
Sorry it’s not up to him if he chooses me. It’s if I choose him, but we can make him think the other thing 😂
One this is true: he will pursue you more or you will pursue him more. The utopia of both pursuing each other initially in euqual amounts is rarely the case. If he doesn't choose you and you really like him, you'll have to do the bulk of the pursuing... So the truth is both choose each other but if you want to not have to do the initiating, the asking on dates, the opening of doors, etc he will have to select you. Hope this makes sense.
@@BernMendezI think men are a bit delusional to think they choose the woman. Men choose the women AND THEN the women get to reject a man. Therefore, whoever has the reciprocated feeling is the one who chooses…and that would be the female. Men who don’t have the confidence to choose a woman should stay single anyway.
I fall into the Hot Summer Night Category. I can't change the mistake I made by sleeping with him early, but now I need to find a way to walk away as a high value woman 🤔 💔
Thank you!
Looking forward to reviewing your recent boundaries video!
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You forgot one that I was told I was in, the "good for now" category
But Bern, these are the same 5 categories that we single women view men in as well.
It's all about a person who is aware of their full authentic self and not afraid to live it!
Or a bit afraid to live it but still courageous enough to imperfectly go for it ; )
@@BernMendez It can have the opposite effect as well: the more authentic a person is, the harder it is to find the right partner, because you're not willing to give up your values just have just anyone at your side.
"The feeling that guys get with women who are more desperate in their approach is that there's not enough value in there to commit to that person for life."
Glad you found this useful.
Wow i’m updated😊
Thanks for watching.
Do you make a video for how to get out of the boxes??
Thanks for the suggestion, here's a video that talks about that even though the title isn't precisely that.ruclips.net/video/wzraNxhOoYo/видео.html
Do you know that the woman in question might have sense some disgusting things about the guy untold? So the woman pulls back.
Yes, this can go both ways...
@@BernMendezwhat is your point? If the man pulls back due to sensing a woman is disgusting?? If she is disgusting low value aka: drug addict or a hooker then the men will probably still pursue her so Im not sure your retort makes sense.
But a man who likes flirting with numerous women is disgusting to many women. And therefore she pulls back. If a woman flirts with multiple men the man usually will compete to win her over…not pull back.
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