there's something about you that i find so comforting and like i can relate to. i just feel like i click so much with you and understand everything you talk about and it is so nice to feel that. i've been a "follower" most of my life. i'm quiet and passive, and i crave reassurance, so everything i do feels like it's for someone else. i'm a rather average person; i'm pretty enough, but i'm not the one in the friend group that makes everyone stop and stare. i got honor roll in school, but there were kids who had straight a's with no b's. i had a pretty big friend group in school, but wasn't one of Those popular girls. i've talked about this with my therapist quite a bit actually and i always describe myself as being on the outskirts of everything. like, i'm almost there, but not quite. and it was hard to grow up feeling like (what i deemed as) "success" or "right" was so close but i just couldn't grab onto it. i think experiences like that can shape you into being someone who just wants to please people and the realness and authenticity is slowly stripped from you. i always wanted to do what everyone else was telling me to do so i wouldn't be on the outskirts anymore. as i've gotten older, i've realized how much that has stunted and silenced my personality and my opinions and my desires and /me/. when the noise around you is constantly telling you who to be and what to do and how quickly you should be moving, it's hard to have the strength to interrupt that cycle and question it. i wish i had some advice, but i think, for a lot of people, this is just something that happens; this battle of trying to find who you are when no one is watching. all i can do is wish you luck on finding your voice and making peace with who you are (and remind you that this is not an uncommon thing to experience!!). you have a kind soul and that's the most important part of you, the rest is just a bonus. so take comfort in knowing that we're already enough, even if we haven't worked out the details quite yet. sending you hugs brooke! x
Thank you! This is everything. This is what I tell my daughter everyday!!! To embrace who she is. To not follow the paths others have laid out. To make her own. Be who you are. True happiness is found when you can be yourself. Thank you again - for being a leader!!! Our world needs this 💜
i love this! you made perfect sense and said exactly what i have been thinking and feeling lately. i 100% agree that i think this stuff has lead to more and more people being affected with mental health issues, myself included. i wish everyone would watch this video because this is such an important message! thank you for this, you are awesome and so wise and well spoken. i love all the content you make ❤️ edit: i don’t have any social media and haven’t for the last 6 years and it has made a big difference in my mental health. the only thing i do is watch youtube but i definitely need to spend more time not always listening to something and spend some time with myself instead. thank you for this
it’s so interesting how you point how we make empathetic connections with videos in comparison to other forms of media. it’s hard to not be influenced in the wrongish way by others opinions on social media.
The constant battle of doing what I want vs what others might think of my decisions is exhausting! I started breaking this self-destructive mindset by decorating my house the way I want. I have a family of grown kids, grandkids and my DH is on the road most of the time. I decided that since I'm the one in the house more than anyone else, what is MY idea of comfort when I get home from work every day? So I painted the walls and filled our house with color. There is no theme throughout. Each room is wildly different than the next and the living room is a hodgepodge of antique and modern furnishings surrounded by books, colorful decor and whimsical knick-knacks. As it turns out, I received zero pushback. Everyone feels comfortable and happy when they're here. I move forward in this process with confidence and humility because my family actually enjoys the results for which I am grateful. I no longer go to Pinterest for inspiration. I only use it to find what is in my head and save those pages as reminders. I am far from finished but this experience has reawakened my creative and spirited self. I somehow allowed social media to dictate what was "normal". It was a slow evolution. It was like being exposed to a gas I couldn't see or smell. But I have opened a window and now I am getting back to being myself again. I am still mindful of others but as it turns out, there was nothing "wrong" with me to begin with. I don't know why I ever thought there was.
I often say that I'm glad that I grew up with no such thing as the internet existing. Even though I love the fact that it now exists and I've also worked in that field for many years. All the things you can do, find and learn thanks to it is beyond incredible. The entertainment that you get to choose as there's just so much of it at your fingertips! How easy it is to order things and find all the info about it and being able to compare prices to get the best deal. And the fact that you can easily get to know people all across the world. So many wonderful and fun things. But it also has a dark flip-side that can have a very negative impact. The overload can be very overwhelming. Lots of people don't know how to just be anymore. Just being alone, in silence and actually enjoying yourself without any videos etc playing. Then there's comparison. I wouldn't even think to use a beauty filter on photos I post or editing them, but so many young people do nothing else and see nothing else and it is detrimental to their body image, even though deep down they know what they're comparing themselves with isn't even real. Then there's cyber bullying. I grew up being bullied so badly, but at least when I got home they couldn't get to me anymore. With the internet, bullies can get to you 24/7. And man, internet trolls can also be awful. You need to grow thick skin or to fully grasp that it's a random stranger trying to hurt you and that their words literally hold no weight and therefor you should not let them get to you. But some people do let those comments really get to them and that can lead to depression or even suicide. Internet addiction is also a real thing. So is losing grip of reality. We sometimes see vloggers in a situation where they should've acted right away, but instead they're filming it and don't seem to grasp that it's a real thing happening anymore. Since I didn't grew up with it, I'm my own person and I'm not heavily influenced by whatever people online do or say. I get to still see the internet for what it is and it's not my whole world, like it seems to be for many younger people. And I think that's difficult for the generation that has been consuming so many online things from a very young age. To be able to unplug and simply be themselves. Enjoy being online, but make sure you put your phone away and you do plenty of other things that have nothing to do with the internet. There's so much more to life than being online and your worth is not defined by likes. Gosh, this turned out to be a long comment. Sorry about that! If you've read all of this: thanks. But now go do something else! 😉
Honestly, I thank you for this. I am what they would call a mini influencer. And it takes courage to share how you really feel. For me it is I am always afraid of people saying I lost it or saying I am doing it for attention or some even feeling good because I feel bad. It is hard to express yourself people don’t want to see that, they want to see the sugar coated, pink and sparkles version of you. Which is not real. And look, look how many views this beautiful video of yours got? Thank you for sharing this. Please keep going
oh yes, I completely understand that!! The comments can be a scary place, especially if those who want to spread hate find something to take out of context. It can be exhausting!
This inspired me to write a poem. I'm calling it "Triggers." Senses going off. Triggers turning on. Strangers making faces, It doesn't stop at my lawn. Fear showing up. Awkward feeling down. Family making laughter, It doesn't stop at the sound.
I recently started medication for my bipolar and the distracting noises in my head have quieted down. It has really helped me focus on my actual inner voice and it’s so refreshing to know what I’m actually thinking and believe in instead of all the distracting voices in my head telling me what’s right and wrong. That might sound crazy, I’m aware. But that’s what happens in my head. I’m glad you’ve started the conversation of believing what you believe in instead of what others tell you to believe on the internet. I love these streams of consciousness videos. Keep these up! Hope they help you as much as they help us!
your opinion is very clear and sound advice for others. i'm glad you've expressed the importance of self reliance and confidence despite external influences. keep on keeping on!
I had a therapist tell me once that I was a perfectionist procrastinator...that I would wait until the last minute to do things, complete a project, etc...that way if the results were not "perfect" in my eyes, I could blame it on the fact that I didn't have enough time to make it "perfect".
As a fresh graduate really really pining to figure it out, growing up with everyone making decisions for me or suggestions or comments, thank you for this. It's hard. It's. Hard. But I need to hear this enlightenment to recognize I must keep trying to listen to myself. Lol this is one suggestion that doesn't make me feel like every cell in my body is shaking from fear or pressure. Please ramble more.
Brilliant. This didn’t start with the internet. I’m 58 years old and I’ve only recently realized that I have my own opinions and it’s okay. Thank you for this.❤️
Everything you said is 100% right my friend. I feel the same way & tell my daughters the same thing, to let things come naturally & on God's time. Btw you look beautiful as usual. 😉🤗💓👍🌻 TY for every video you post. I'm so glad I subscribed to you. God bless 👑🙏🏼🕊💖💖💖
I want to start off by saying that I have been blessed with two important things: 1. Being comfortable flipping off the status quo, and 2. Being very comfortable with being alone with my thoughts. Here are some of my thoughts to what you're saying: - People forget that neutrality exists. Everything is either love or hate, when in fact, most things don't require us to have an opinion at all. I'm indifferent to a lot of things and save strong emotions for very important things. - I've learned that success looks different for everyone, and a lot of times it's sheer luck. You can do all the right things and get nowhere. This sucks, but it seems to be true. Either way, humans are not biologically or psychologically designed to GO GO GO constantly. - If you don't know something, go learn. Stop expecting others to teach you because they can only teach from their personal perception and PERCEPTION IS NOT REALITY. - I think there is a huge pressure to love yourself, be yourself, accept yourself, and etc, and those are all valid and true, but more important, I think, is to honor yourself and be accountable to yourself. Figure out what you believe in and what is important to you, and be accountable to those things, EVEN IF it means extra effort, or not engaging in some behaviors, or sacrificing other aspects of your life. This is how you live authentically, you honor yourself and your beliefs. This builds emotional strength, confidence, and dignity, and makes it easier to deal with insecurities, trauma, societal pressure, mental health, physical health, etc. Take care!
Thank you! I had to practice being alone being quiet I started with not turning on my tv when I first walked in. Sounds like a silly thing but I had to start somewhere
i wonder how often youtubers/influencers actually keep their “5am” schedule. do they just go it for the content or are they really getting up at 5am and doing everything they say their doing without having time to sit down for a break?
It’s important to regularly detox from social media and who we follow online. It’s good to do a self check in from time to time too; am I still on the path I want to be? Do I run away from my thoughts because of something I’m avoiding? How do I feel about who I am right now? The same way we treat our best friends we need to treat ourselves 💛
I so agree, stay true to who you are, look at what you are hearing a& learning,decide for yourself, I deleted everything 5 years ago, 👍🏻, I get that silence every day, 80% I like ,20% TV has to be on ,lol, I know who I am, I love me, but sounds / music just make my afternoon better, Great subject, keep it up ,😇I think we all love it,& you the original genuine gem✌🏻💕😻
Hello, lovely Brooke! I understand what you are saying and we all go through it. No exceptions! I do have good news, though...as you get older, your inner voice, your real voice gets louder and makes its way to the forefront. It's always evolving!
It's ok to change your view on stuff. It's your moral values you should stand by. Like religion, or to be truthful, help people that can't help themselves, ect. If everyone goes to workout at 5 AM. The clud will be over crowded. People say they work out at 5 AM. Ya right. I work out sometimes at 5 AM. No one's there. The older you or we get we get set in our ways. To me being successful is keep your moral values, have a open mind, be kind to others, have a plan on how to get to where you want to be. We all are the same and different. I think there's alot of reason for metal illness has alot to do with the quality of air, water etc. O ya mean people. YOUR ON YOUR WAY KEEP YOUR CHIN UP.
Influencers are of absolutely no interest to me, Lady Brooke; I think a problem caused by the Internet is that everyone nowadays suffers from Information Overload • I'm sure you sometimes suffer that from your time spent researching... If I were to change my name to Proctastinatese, I could claim to be the Roman god of getting sod all done... I'd claim to be the patron Saint of Lost Causes, but St. Jude's already got that covered... 🙄 Love you so much, dear Brookey Bear... x 🌹 x
there's something about you that i find so comforting and like i can relate to. i just feel like i click so much with you and understand everything you talk about and it is so nice to feel that. i've been a "follower" most of my life. i'm quiet and passive, and i crave reassurance, so everything i do feels like it's for someone else. i'm a rather average person; i'm pretty enough, but i'm not the one in the friend group that makes everyone stop and stare. i got honor roll in school, but there were kids who had straight a's with no b's. i had a pretty big friend group in school, but wasn't one of Those popular girls. i've talked about this with my therapist quite a bit actually and i always describe myself as being on the outskirts of everything. like, i'm almost there, but not quite. and it was hard to grow up feeling like (what i deemed as) "success" or "right" was so close but i just couldn't grab onto it. i think experiences like that can shape you into being someone who just wants to please people and the realness and authenticity is slowly stripped from you. i always wanted to do what everyone else was telling me to do so i wouldn't be on the outskirts anymore. as i've gotten older, i've realized how much that has stunted and silenced my personality and my opinions and my desires and /me/. when the noise around you is constantly telling you who to be and what to do and how quickly you should be moving, it's hard to have the strength to interrupt that cycle and question it. i wish i had some advice, but i think, for a lot of people, this is just something that happens; this battle of trying to find who you are when no one is watching. all i can do is wish you luck on finding your voice and making peace with who you are (and remind you that this is not an uncommon thing to experience!!). you have a kind soul and that's the most important part of you, the rest is just a bonus. so take comfort in knowing that we're already enough, even if we haven't worked out the details quite yet. sending you hugs brooke! x
Thank you! This is everything. This is what I tell my daughter everyday!!! To embrace who she is. To not follow the paths others have laid out. To make her own. Be who you are. True happiness is found when you can be yourself. Thank you again - for being a leader!!! Our world needs this 💜
i love this! you made perfect sense and said exactly
what i have been thinking and feeling lately. i 100% agree that i think this stuff has lead to more and more people being affected with mental health issues, myself included. i wish everyone would watch this video because this is such an important message! thank you for this, you are awesome and so wise and well spoken. i love all the content you make ❤️
edit: i don’t have any social media and haven’t for the last 6 years and it has made a big difference in my mental health. the only thing i do is watch youtube but i definitely need to spend more time not always listening to something and spend some time with myself instead.
thank you for this
oh that is so kind of you to say. I'm so glad it made sense to you
it’s so interesting how you point how we make empathetic connections with videos in comparison to other forms of media. it’s hard to not be influenced in the wrongish way by others opinions on social media.
RIGHT?! It can be scary!!
The constant battle of doing what I want vs what others might think of my decisions is exhausting! I started breaking this self-destructive mindset by decorating my house the way I want. I have a family of grown kids, grandkids and my DH is on the road most of the time. I decided that since I'm the one in the house more than anyone else, what is MY idea of comfort when I get home from work every day? So I painted the walls and filled our house with color. There is no theme throughout. Each room is wildly different than the next and the living room is a hodgepodge of antique and modern furnishings surrounded by books, colorful decor and whimsical knick-knacks. As it turns out, I received zero pushback. Everyone feels comfortable and happy when they're here. I move forward in this process with confidence and humility because my family actually enjoys the results for which I am grateful. I no longer go to Pinterest for inspiration. I only use it to find what is in my head and save those pages as reminders. I am far from finished but this experience has reawakened my creative and spirited self. I somehow allowed social media to dictate what was "normal". It was a slow evolution. It was like being exposed to a gas I couldn't see or smell. But I have opened a window and now I am getting back to being myself again. I am still mindful of others but as it turns out, there was nothing "wrong" with me to begin with. I don't know why I ever thought there was.
I often say that I'm glad that I grew up with no such thing as the internet existing. Even though I love the fact that it now exists and I've also worked in that field for many years. All the things you can do, find and learn thanks to it is beyond incredible. The entertainment that you get to choose as there's just so much of it at your fingertips! How easy it is to order things and find all the info about it and being able to compare prices to get the best deal. And the fact that you can easily get to know people all across the world. So many wonderful and fun things. But it also has a dark flip-side that can have a very negative impact. The overload can be very overwhelming. Lots of people don't know how to just be anymore. Just being alone, in silence and actually enjoying yourself without any videos etc playing. Then there's comparison. I wouldn't even think to use a beauty filter on photos I post or editing them, but so many young people do nothing else and see nothing else and it is detrimental to their body image, even though deep down they know what they're comparing themselves with isn't even real. Then there's cyber bullying. I grew up being bullied so badly, but at least when I got home they couldn't get to me anymore. With the internet, bullies can get to you 24/7. And man, internet trolls can also be awful. You need to grow thick skin or to fully grasp that it's a random stranger trying to hurt you and that their words literally hold no weight and therefor you should not let them get to you. But some people do let those comments really get to them and that can lead to depression or even suicide. Internet addiction is also a real thing. So is losing grip of reality. We sometimes see vloggers in a situation where they should've acted right away, but instead they're filming it and don't seem to grasp that it's a real thing happening anymore.
Since I didn't grew up with it, I'm my own person and I'm not heavily influenced by whatever people online do or say. I get to still see the internet for what it is and it's not my whole world, like it seems to be for many younger people. And I think that's difficult for the generation that has been consuming so many online things from a very young age. To be able to unplug and simply be themselves. Enjoy being online, but make sure you put your phone away and you do plenty of other things that have nothing to do with the internet. There's so much more to life than being online and your worth is not defined by likes. Gosh, this turned out to be a long comment. Sorry about that! If you've read all of this: thanks. But now go do something else! 😉
It’s so important to be completely honest with yourself. It’s not easy but it’s liberating.
you're so right!!
Honestly, I thank you for this. I am what they would call a mini influencer. And it takes courage to share how you really feel. For me it is I am always afraid of people saying I lost it or saying I am doing it for attention or some even feeling good because I feel bad. It is hard to express yourself people don’t want to see that, they want to see the sugar coated, pink and sparkles version of you. Which is not real. And look, look how many views this beautiful video of yours got? Thank you for sharing this. Please keep going
oh yes, I completely understand that!! The comments can be a scary place, especially if those who want to spread hate find something to take out of context. It can be exhausting!
This inspired me to write a poem. I'm calling it "Triggers."
Senses going off.
Triggers turning on.
Strangers making faces,
It doesn't stop at my lawn.
Fear showing up.
Awkward feeling down.
Family making laughter,
It doesn't stop at the sound.
Oh wow, that’s so cool Grey!!
I recently started medication for my bipolar and the distracting noises in my head have quieted down. It has really helped me focus on my actual inner voice and it’s so refreshing to know what I’m actually thinking and believe in instead of all the distracting voices in my head telling me what’s right and wrong. That might sound crazy, I’m aware. But that’s what happens in my head. I’m glad you’ve started the conversation of believing what you believe in instead of what others tell you to believe on the internet. I love these streams of consciousness videos. Keep these up! Hope they help you as much as they help us!
I’m so proud of you!! I know how hard it can be to get on medication that is right for you❤️ wishing you so much healing!!
your opinion is very clear and sound advice for others. i'm glad you've expressed the importance of self reliance and confidence despite external influences. keep on keeping on!
babe every single word of this made sense and i found a great deal of comfort listening to this on a hard morning
Love you Brooke, thank you for these types of videos as well as your awesome vlogs. I love your advice. Sending love from England 🇬🇧💟💗
Thank you so much!! Love YOU!!
To all the younger women out there. You’re Grown. Do what you want to do!!! Don’t worry about what others think as long as you’re kind.
So true!!
I had a therapist tell me once that I was a perfectionist procrastinator...that I would wait until the last minute to do things, complete a project, etc...that way if the results were not "perfect" in my eyes, I could blame it on the fact that I didn't have enough time to make it "perfect".
I can relate.
Thank you for your words miss Brooke! 🙂
Thank you for listening❤️
As a fresh graduate really really pining to figure it out, growing up with everyone making decisions for me or suggestions or comments, thank you for this. It's hard. It's. Hard. But I need to hear this enlightenment to recognize I must keep trying to listen to myself. Lol this is one suggestion that doesn't make me feel like every cell in my body is shaking from fear or pressure. Please ramble more.
Brilliant. This didn’t start with the internet. I’m 58 years old and I’ve only recently realized that I have my own opinions and it’s okay. Thank you for this.❤️
so true, love that!!!
This 61 year old agrees!
Everything you said is 100% right my friend. I feel the same way & tell my daughters the same thing, to let things come naturally & on God's time. Btw you look beautiful as usual. 😉🤗💓👍🌻
TY for every video you post. I'm so glad I subscribed to you.
God bless 👑🙏🏼🕊💖💖💖
thank you so so much Kelly, I appreciate you
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Love both of your channels so much! Can't wait for another vlog video. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is super important to remember!
Heck yeah ! Totally relate to a lot of what you said, love these videos!
Glad you like them!!! :)
I want to start off by saying that I have been blessed with two important things: 1. Being comfortable flipping off the status quo, and 2. Being very comfortable with being alone with my thoughts. Here are some of my thoughts to what you're saying:
- People forget that neutrality exists. Everything is either love or hate, when in fact, most things don't require us to have an opinion at all. I'm indifferent to a lot of things and save strong emotions for very important things.
- I've learned that success looks different for everyone, and a lot of times it's sheer luck. You can do all the right things and get nowhere. This sucks, but it seems to be true. Either way, humans are not biologically or psychologically designed to GO GO GO constantly.
- If you don't know something, go learn. Stop expecting others to teach you because they can only teach from their personal perception and PERCEPTION IS NOT REALITY.
- I think there is a huge pressure to love yourself, be yourself, accept yourself, and etc, and those are all valid and true, but more important, I think, is to honor yourself and be accountable to yourself. Figure out what you believe in and what is important to you, and be accountable to those things, EVEN IF it means extra effort, or not engaging in some behaviors, or sacrificing other aspects of your life. This is how you live authentically, you honor yourself and your beliefs. This builds emotional strength, confidence, and dignity, and makes it easier to deal with insecurities, trauma, societal pressure, mental health, physical health, etc.
Take care!
You're truly amazing, that's what you are. Have an awesome day my friend 😽
and you are truly magnificent, my friend
Thank you!
I had to practice being alone being quiet
I started with not turning on my tv when I first walked in. Sounds like a silly thing but I had to start somewhere
Those types of little things are exactly what can change your life!!
i wonder how often youtubers/influencers actually keep their “5am” schedule. do they just go it for the content or are they really getting up at 5am and doing everything they say their doing without having time to sit down for a break?
It’s important to regularly detox from social media and who we follow online. It’s good to do a self check in from time to time too; am I still on the path I want to be? Do I run away from my thoughts because of something I’m avoiding? How do I feel about who I am right now? The same way we treat our best friends we need to treat ourselves 💛
yes, you understand
New subscriber today, I am going to try a silent time today. thank you for sharing... Have a blessed day. 💜💜💜😇 Rachel
Brooke your community loves you
Love you guys more!!
I so agree, stay true to who you are, look at what you are hearing a& learning,decide for yourself, I deleted everything 5 years ago, 👍🏻, I get that silence every day, 80% I like ,20% TV has to be on ,lol, I know who I am, I love me, but sounds / music just make my afternoon better, Great subject, keep it up ,😇I think we all love it,& you the original genuine gem✌🏻💕😻
oh that sounds wonderful! Yes, I totally think some noise is nice but not all the time haha
I definitely agree with u 💯
I absolutely loved this😢
awe thank you
Hello, lovely Brooke! I understand what you are saying and we all go through it. No exceptions! I do have good news, though...as you get older, your inner voice, your real voice gets louder and makes its way to the forefront. It's always evolving!
oh i hope so
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It makes sense to me 💛
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It's ok to change your view on stuff. It's your moral values you should stand by. Like religion, or to be truthful, help people that can't help themselves, ect. If everyone goes to workout at 5 AM. The clud will be over crowded. People say they work out at 5 AM. Ya right. I work out sometimes at 5 AM. No one's there. The older you or we get we get set in our ways. To me being successful is keep your moral values, have a open mind, be kind to others, have a plan on how to get to where you want to be. We all are the same and different. I think there's alot of reason for metal illness has alot to do with the quality of air, water etc. O ya mean people. YOUR ON YOUR WAY KEEP YOUR CHIN UP.
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Influencers are of absolutely no interest to me, Lady Brooke; I think a problem caused by the Internet is that everyone nowadays suffers from Information Overload • I'm sure you sometimes suffer that from your time spent researching...
If I were to change my name to Proctastinatese, I could claim to be the Roman god of getting sod all done...
I'd claim to be the patron Saint of Lost Causes, but St. Jude's already got that covered... 🙄
Love you so much, dear Brookey Bear...
x 🌹 x
ooh that's so so true!!! So much at such easy access is overwhelming!
You're so beautiful, gorgeous perfect dream woman. 💋🌹♥️😍🥰😘🤗 That's my opinion.
Wow, thank you :)