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A lot of people love blinkist. What most of them don't know: From what I heard, they take the content and simplify it, without the original author's involvement - or without the original author getting one cent for this use of their work. What is the problem with that? Well, for once it is kinda nice to be paid if somebody takes your work and uses it to make money from it. Plus sometimes the simplification can really distort the actual meaning. Which leads to awkward situations when people come to you like: What's that thing you're saying in your book? And you as the author are totally flabbergasted because you never said it. So I prefer to support authors rather than the people who take their ideas without asking or paying for it. 🤷🏼♀️ Having said this, I love your video. As always.
I am a pharmacist in the US (I am unhappy) and I am thinking of moving to Germany (or another European country). I am hoping that you read this comment and make a video or a series of videos on a "walkthrough" of how to move to Germany and establish a job and a home. Here are some ideas that I have been looking at and wanting to find some information on, but they are pretty scattered across the internet. 1. I have an American passport so, I can just go to Germany and visit (notwithstanding the new visiting/screening laws...?). I heard that there are german courses in different cities throughout Germany that can teach you pretty good German in a matter of 12 weeks (3 months) (30-40 hours a week), that cost from 1000 to 3000 euros. There are so many to pick from, with so little information that we don't know how to pick. well, that's my plan for the first three months. 2. during these three months, I can go to different universities or some german pharmacy board to try and get my pharmacy license based on my pharmacy degree in the US. 3. maybe I can try to land a job as a pharmacy technician which would have a lower barrier to entry. 4. in order to get my German pharmacy license, I am sure that I am going to need to take some german language test (as my degree is from a non-german country) and then take the actual pharmacy test or maybe some law test as well. I understand that Germany like most European countries have two different pharmacy degrees (retail vs inpatient), so I am going to have to make a decision on that. 5. I am assuming this is going to take a while, a year, maybe, if not more. Meanwhile, how difficult it is to find a job as an American with an American passport (after the first initial three months, hoping that I would know basic german by then), as a waiter for example until I am able to get a pharmacy technician license or eventually getting my pharmacy license. what steps are needed as far as a work visa? am I able to get a work visa while living in Germany or do I have to leave Germany and apply through a US embassy? 6. On a work visa, would I be able to go to university to study some other stuff, or would it be better to get a student visa and then work (part-time)? Basically, work visa vs a student visa. 7. I have a home here in the US. so let's say I am able to establish myself in Germany and I plan on selling my US home, you can talk to us about the nightmare of moving your money after selling a significant asset like a home from the US to Germany and buy a home in Germany without triggering all kinds of money laundering alarms. and what would be the most effective way to transfer funds. 8. American taxes. as an American living abroad you still have to file taxes. german banks make a point of telling the IRS about your funds if you open your german bank account using an American passport. I am not sure how that worked with your boyfriend/husband, as I assume he has a german passport, so maybe you had to circumvent that step, so for your "safety" you don't have to make a video about that if you don't want to. 9. how to get in touch with other expats in Germany? what cities are more welcoming and supportive of expats (germans supporting expats, and expats supporting expats)? Basically, give us a guide (a tree-like) of how a professional, a doctor, an engineer, a programmer, an artist, or anyone with some kind of degree would be able to make a transition from the US to Germany. A tree guide as in, you have an option a and an option b, under option a, you have options a1, a2, a3, a4 under option b you have options b1, b2, under options a1 you have a1.1 and a1.2, and so forth. make it as extensive as you would like. This may require some time or some planning with a script. which I understand if that's not of interest to you. But I think it may be a great help for people, to have a map, a blueprint, or a path to follow to migrate to Germany (including approx. costs and hurdles), rather than being overwhelmed by the idea of change and moving and giving up. Finally, this is special for me: I currently hold two passports, Americana and Egyptian. and I am sorta hoping to come to Germany and switch careers to medicine (med school) or maybe computer programming and take advantage of german (approx.) free education.
Good points, is it really that hard to say ' I have some German ancestry ' ?, I have some German ancestry but certainly don't think of myself as German, I have never lived there and that would be presumptuous.
You correcting the guy on german car manufacturers is probably the most german thing you could have done. I think you have fully arrived in german culture :)
My grandad is Nigerian, if I meet a person from Nigeria I tell them my grandad was Nigerian, it is a good jumping off point to start conversation, but I am 100% British
A thing I learned many years ago: Don't say yes because you don't want to say no! If people don't like you anymore because you say no, it is their problem!
My brother was sent to work in the US to work a few years ago. A man with Nazi symbols approached him and told him how German he was and how they had to be close as brothers. Well my brother told the guy to get lost and that Nazis have nothing to do with being German. That's a bit extreme, but I was very shocked when he told me the story.
Apparently the Germans feel like the confederate flag has everything to do with being American... I can't go anywhere in Nuernberg without seeing something offensive.
Am totally on your side on the "I am Germam" thing. It's annoying, at least to me. Go to Germany, search your roots, meet the culture, then decide. If these people would say "Wow, my ancestors are from Germany" it'll be totally OK. It's like me saying "I am italian" for having an Italian name and I am not even close to be Italian.
When an American says that he is German, I usually assume that he means that he only has German ancestors. At the latest when asked whether he understands or speaks German. America is pretty racially and ethnically fixated. Probably put a lot of emphasis on pedigree where they originally came from..
I've noticed how outraged the people that go "I'm xyz" are when you say "Really? When have you last been to xyz country." . They start ranting how they are xyz, because their grandfather/mother was from there and that makes them that. And I like to say "My grandmother visited her aunt in the US 70 years ago, dose that make me an American?" then they just loose it.
Oh, but they're not just xyz, but also abc, def, ghi, and at least 1/16th black and/or Sioux. It's like they want to craft an air of something special around them, this need to stick out of the homogenous corporate crafted masses. Well, at least it sells those bogus dna tests.
I think this in particular is an attempt to find an identity in country where white people have no cultural identity. If what I assume is the truth it's a topic that needs more exploration.
"They did not like this answer, even though I asked them if they really want to hear it" 😆 You are truly picking up on German habits, now. Tell them how it is! German honesty = truthful to the point of rudeness, in the eyes of other countries 🤣 👍👍
But I think it`s right that you say your opinion in a friendly and direct way, if you don`t like something about the person, instead of talking behind you back. That has nothing to do with impoliteness.
@@blondkatze3547 absolutely. my thinking is like: im actually being nice when letting em know their flaws, so they can improve. if i wanna be neutral i wont let em know the reasons, just tell them my decision. but i wont tell them what they wanna hear just so they feel good in that particular second, because its not nice to let people run against the wall at full speed, even if they ask for it.
I have iranian ancestors and my sisters look like picture perfect iranians... still we get an itch when people aren't punctual, throw their trash in the wrong bin, walk over red lights in the middle of the night and try to sugar coat things. That answers the question who we really are 😅
May I ask what picture perfect Iranians look like? I only know two adults, who grew up there, and if I had to describe them, I would describe her as „very pale with black hair“, while he looks more on the tanned side with really dark brown (nearly, but not quite black) hair. (Winter time, I don’t know about summer, haven’t really seen them at the time).
"I don't even like cars." 😅😅😅 You nailed it. 👏👍 As an American citizen living in Germany for almost 40 years I totally agree: Americans are recognized. Love your channel, Hayley.
When I travel, I love it when I've been in country long enough that I begin to recognize Americans as "other". It does take me a minute to acclimate to the local ways, though, so I, myself, am "other" for the first little bit.
Not just Americans stand out. I think most people in Europe can tell what part of Europe (Germany, France, UK, etc) someone's from just by looking at them (often just their face).
The other women would have paid 200 bucks out of the staff talking her into it... 👀. A German would never say yes and neither did Hayley... I'm proud of her!
I honestly was shocked when the other women were pressured to spend the money and I just looked with wide eyes... with my jaw dropped...I guess I need to start working a real job because apparently I am poor... or something.
@@HayleyAlexis you're not poor 😂! 200 are like burning "Geldscheine" and even if I had so much spare money... I would find better things to spend it for!
About your last Saying: I'm with you on that one. Being a decent human being is something normal, it doesn't make you special. It's what you should be by default
exactly. if a fellow german was expecting me to reassure em for doing the obvious (like stopping at a stop sign), THEN i would be rude. I would say something along the lines: "Bist du da allein drauf gekommen?" (Did you figure that out on your own?) or even "ja, das haste ganz toll gemacht" (well yes, you did soo good.) with a tone like speaking to a toddler.
This is an interesting topic! my grandmother came over from Germany in the 50s and loved her culture and would talk about it often. I have a feeling of warmth when she would talk about it and a familiarity with her stories but I never identified as being German. I may say I am German if someone asks me INSIDE the United States because people like to know your ancestors. But I would never say that outside the USA. I was raised American and whenever I've traveled outside the US it made me appreciate my culture more and it solidified that I truly am American.
My great grandparents came over about a century ago. Same here. I usually say that I'm of German descent, but I don't really say I'm German unless the topic of conversation is heritage and it's implied.
and this is a very important point that I think many people in the USA don't understand unless they leave. An appreciation for being "American", not necessarily pride- just an understanding of your USA culture.
@@HayleyAlexis If I remember the State Department's numbers correctly, only 38% of Americans currently have a passport, and only 67% ever have one in their entire lives. It gets worse knowing that many of those passports are only for local cruises and not "real" travel.
I'm so with you on what you say about people (especially Americans) identifying as something they are not. I'm not German, I'm Norwegian. And if someone told me they have Norwegian heritage, perfectly fine, I understand people appreciating their heritage, and love it when they want to genuinely learn about the country, culture, language, etc. But if that same person tells me they are Norwegian, and they haven't lived in Norway, don't really know the culture (eating lefse and krumkake doesn't really cut it), doesn't speak Norwegian, then basically I just get annoyed. And by saying that I don't even limit Norwegians to just people who were born or raised here, because people can assimilate into the Norwegian culture if that's their desire, they can become part of it, become a citizen and claim that identity, but in order to do so they need to have a genuine relationship with the country, the culture and the language. It's the same as me talking about my own heritage. I have ancestors who were Sami (the indigenous people in the north of Scandinavia), but just because they were Sami doesn't make me Sami (I tend to say I have a few drops of Sami blood in me, but that's as far as I'll go with it). I don't know the language, I have no cultural ties to the Sami, so to make that claim would be plain wrong.
Being straight honest and direct Hayley you almost sound like a Dutch person well done LOL🤣🤣🤣 Also Hayley don't be ashamed i myself have trouble with saying certain words as well. Other than that a great video keep up the great work👍 And greetings from the Netherlands🇳🇱
@@Miristzuheiss What are you talking about Manuela German people are most welcome here in the Netherlands? Do you mean the German language? please explain i live in the northern part of the Netherlands but still German people are more than welcome over here and not just German people but people from all over the world😊 Germany is also a great country i have been there plenty of times myself and i love the German people.
For a people that makes such a huge fuss about its flags, pledging allegiance to it every morning in school, touting non-stop how the US are the best country ever, Americans sure have a weirdly strong psychological need to identify with their genetic ancestry. As for me, whenever an American tells me 'they're German too' I'll just switch to German with them... which more often than not effectively ends the conversation in an instant XD
Like you said Americans identifying themselves as German, Italian, Irish or whatever just because one of there ancestors came from those countries is weird and many times irritating to us. If it were your parents I could understand because they were brought up in that culture and probably brought a lot of that with them. After that, you are American with … roots. A lot of times Americans will say it’s because their country is such a melting pot, but why are they the only ones of the ‘new worlds’ who still do that? You don’t hear Canadians, Australians, New Zealanders do it. The only thing I can think of is that the US is a very individualistic society with a lack of social cohesion. To set yourself apart from others, ancestry is one of those things to do that with.
It also implies Europe isn't a melting pot, which just isn't true. I don't think there's a single person in Europe who doesn't have at least one ancestor from another country within the last 2 centuries. People have always moved all over the continent. The difference is that most Europeans don't really care about their ancestry all that much.
The characterization "Tall, Blonde hair, Blue eyes" could equally apply to a Scandinavian. Especially since his definition rather corresponds to the ideal of the Aryan-German and he probably also defines himself by it. Possibly the person could claim to have German ancestors, but that does not make him German.
Or people from Austria, or Switzerland, or Northern Italy oder South Africa, for that matter. Taking on the optics for determination of heritage nowadays is pure ignorance, imho.
Like I said... If the customer service was good I probably would have paid it because it was an amazing facility BUT because the service was lackluster- no thank you! I am still very American when it comes to service- if I receive good customer service I will spend money- easily. I have gotten better since living in Germany and am thankful for that
I know what you mean about the identity…my mom has a distinct ethnic name and people ask her what her nationality is she is and they look quizzical when she says she’s American. I mean as soon as she opens her mouth it’s obvious she grew up in a southern state but they still ask. I think a lot of people confuse ancestry with with identity.
The second chapter of the video immediately reminded me of my personal motto. "If you don't want a dispute at the table, don't talk about politics and/or religion at dinner."
11:00 I honestly can't even imagine that any German would actively disagree with your take on this matter. People claiming to be German even though their last living German ancestor died 150 years ago would drive me absolutely crazy if I ever came across them. I can't even begin to explain it. That'd be the same as all of us in the comment section claiming we were American simply because we know how to speak English, if that makes sense. It just doesn't add up. And you're 100% right, every German would be able to identify a 0.05% self-proclaimed German-American in less than a second. Honestly, kudos to you for having become so relaxed about this topic, I vividly remember your first video about that whole thing and it still makes my blood boil how poorly these people treated you back then, argh!
Hi. I like, how you formed your very own cultural identity by taking what seems the best for you from both countries. And of course i smiled about your car story. Nice how dry you contered that "Germami", twice. And i think the olive on top - if i stay in that Martini picture - is, that you behave more like a german than he can ever pretend to be or do, without ever having been there. Was fun to watch. Schönen Sonntag. Ciao
My dad and grandparents were from Germany. I have first cousins in Germany, grew up around my grandparents, my grandmother's cooking, the language, took German in high school, and as a kid was proud to have such a close connection to another culture. I identified as being at least half German. But never did I think of myself as "a German". I wasn't raised in the culture of Germany with all the societal differences from the U.S. I knew and recognized that from early on! US citizen all the way with my family roots in Germany and Ireland.
I think it`s right when you say what you think about it, if something bothers you. The important thing is, that you remain friendly. Better than talking others behind their backs. It`s funny , to read that you know more about car locations than the man.😅💞🙂
This was one of your most informative videos. I made Germany my home base while traveling to many parts of the world. I retirement 12 years ago. I’m now 74 and have to decide maybe I need to make the decision of a permanent home. I have my German residency along with dual citizenship from Scotland and the USA. I travel back to Scotland and the US as I have family there but I’m thinking the European lifestyle is more for me … maybe because of all my travels and being exposed to so many cultures. Most of my travels through volunteering in Sri Lanka, Haiti and Pakistan . Living on my social security means coach when flying and public transportation 😊… not complaining .
Oh! Freckles! Your face looks so refreshed and relaxed! No politics: Yeah, I avoid the heated discussions with some since they get loud quick here, in Germany, as well, and then it is not a discussion any more. But for the most discussing it isn't so bad. "Pretty sure Mercedes from Berlin"... "Audi from from Berlin" *lööööööööööööööööölllll* - You should have recorded that! As for the rest for the video: Nice!
Very good vid. Couldn't agree more with on everything. Living as German here in the USA I in particular appreciate when one of those so-called Germans tells me I don't know my own culture because 3xgreat grandfather told them diffetently. I might not be as uptodate after having lived here for almost 30 yrs but I still know German, German customs and food. Lol don't take my comment to seriously I like living here.
Isn't there some rule at American family gatherings that you don't talk about politics? Because I noticed that most German ones eventually turn into a politics discussion at some point. Or more accurately ranting about some current issue. It's just not such a personal thing because most people in the center don't identify their political positions so strongly with one party. And the political spectrum is a lot more diverse so people can switch around a bit.
You don't lose weight just by going to the gym. Or by doing any 'scheduled' sport. That is my experience. Go into the backcountry. Hike or climb a mountain or hill. Be somewhere, where you can't easily 'escape' and be there for at least several hours. The beach is ok. Soft sand and water have enough force resistance to be in par with gym weights. Don't chill, be active, have fun in the water and on the sand. Don't bring much food, only beverages. Be there all day. Try not to crave for a big meal in the evening afterwards. That would be my advice (also to myself - LOL 😆)
Or try the German saying „ein Sixpack wird on der Küche gemacht“. 😉 eat healthy and be active, then your body will change to something that feels strong (as in good for all these activities and maybe even „running from a predatory animal“ and healthy). No one needs a Sixpack, what we all need is a healthy body, that can actually do what it needs to do.
I personally lose weight by going to the gym because I am not the person that will cut calories or count what I eat. I am not the person that will go into a calorie deficit just by eating better... so I like to find a nice balance between eating "healthy" and being "active" but both of those things are very hard to do simultaneously in the USA..... so I try my best to focus on one that is easier which in my opinion is going to the gym (plus it is a lot cheaper).
@@HayleyAlexis I forgot about the food in the USA. I ate pretty much like in Germany, went „on a stroll“ on the treadmill (which hate, but it didn’t feel good to walk through the neighborhood without „Bürgersteige“, with cars driving way too fast and neighbors looking at me like a criminal, because I was walking near their property) pretty much every day and still gained one kilogram per week - it was all fat.
I would give anything to pay 200€ for Warmmiete!! You have an amazing deal! Yeah it was a "specialty" gym but I do know people that spend a little more a month on their gym membership (I also know plenty of people that spend $10 a month).
@@HayleyAlexis oh well we pay 250€ overall and split with my partner, but up to this year we always got money from heating back. It’s the normal price with all fees (waste, water etc pp.), except electricity of course 😁 and we actually pay a lot for heating because it’s an old building without insulation 🥲 Wow that’s crazy! I‘ve also been to some special gyms but even they didn’t take more than 60€/ month if you have a 2 year contract 🤯
I remember as a kid, like really young and having no idea about politics and what party meant what, I asked my dad during election time what he voted for. Because it was voting season and my parents went to go voting, and I came with them, waited outside. It was the first time I'd ever seen something like this and they had explained to me what voting meant, etc. So I asked him what he voted for. And I remember so vividly that he did not tell me. He said that what you vote for is a private thing. I have no idea what he did or does vote for to this day (and since I'm sure it's not some crazy extremist stuff due to how he lives his life and how he talks I also don't ask anymore). I just think in general, unless you're really strongly opinionated, you go vote and the rest of the time you never talk about it. I also don't know what my friends vote for. I know the spectrum (probably SPD or Grüne) because I couldn't be friends with them if we had drastically different views, but I don't reall know. We just don't wear it on pur sleeves as much I guess. I thought for a moment that Afd voters were different but tbh... we apparently have really a shocking lot of them and we'd probably be surprised by the amount. The vocal 0.2% is what we all see, but there are a ton of incognito Afd voters.
I think I have used this comparism before: Sandra Bullock and Bruce Willis. Both of german decent. Only Bullock can claim to be german. Why you ask? Both have one german parent, so shouldn't they both be able to say that about themselves? She was born in Virginia but moved here with her family as an infant and grew up in Germany and went to School here until she was 12. She speaks the language and has the direct cultural upbringing. She can even rightfully say she is more than just german, she is a Franconian. (I heard her speak german, there is no denying it where she grew up) He was born in Germany and moved away with his family as a toddler and grew up in the U.S. went to school there and does not speak the language and does not have the cultural upbringing. So he is not german.
I say meh to this. My daughter's are through and through Swiss and American. They have the mannerisms down to a T. They also have American mannerisms down to a T. Its funny watching them switch back and forth. One daughter was born in Germany, we lived there for 3 years, and then moved back to Switzerland. We left Switzerland when that daughter was 6. She remembers living in Switzerland and living in Germany. My other daughter was born in the US. They are 16 and 6. They speak their fathers dialect of Swiss German without an accent (they speak my American English without an accent also), they only went to International German school in Miami (student's have education of Germany and US. Teachers are German or Swiss teachers along with a degree to teach in the US), and my kids know their culture (this is easy to do with the Swiss Miami club. 90% of members lived their entire live lives in Switzerland. The other 10% are non-Swiss spouses and kids of Swiss) We don't get back to Switzerland very often, but when we do, Swiss people don't know they spent a good chunk or all of their lives in the US. Now I'm not saying Bruce Willis is like this. I'm just saying just because you don't grow up in a country doesn't mean they don't know the language, don't have the same education, and grew up with the culture).
Hey Haley, I'm a bit surprised when you said that in Germany people don't talk about politics. I can't compare it to the US - but I'd say politics is a common topic of conversation here? Maybe people notice that you don't want to talk about it and avoid the topic. Or bc the conversations aren't that...emotional...it just feels diffrent for you? Dunno. Just a thought. btw: It would be great if you'd clearly label ads/sponsoring as such. Peace! Kevin
Totally agree. Germans are much more willing to engage in discussing politics than for example Americans or British. I just feel that the discussions in countries with 2 party systems tends to be more dogmatic.
I think the big difference is between talk/discuss.... In Germany the topic does come up but it isn't usually what your whole discussion is based on... in the USA the topic comes up and it is usually what your whole discussion is based on. I shouldn't say for everyone but for a lot of people- and this is what I talk about in other videos regarding American identity and how we describe ourselves by political affiliation which isn't something Germans tend to do..... so the stage is easier set in the USA for the topic/discussion of politics to be brought up than in Germany.
@@HayleyAlexis I can have an opinion on e.g. "religion". Then I usually talk about this topic and not about "politics" in general. Of course, a position on religion is also a political issue, but i can differentiate between the themes. And my opinion on religion does not determine my opinion on labor rights. That probably won't work if have a the-winner-takes-all voting system xD We always end up with this problem when we talk about the US, dont we? xD
I am not sure it's a particularly german habbit but whenever someone tries to pressure me into buying something now I take another day to think about it or just walk away entirely.
From my personal and to narrow down in this case English perspective that is just a good policy, if you have an interest it may be worth reading about or listening to a lecture on the uses of psychology in sales to pressure you, "free gift" to guilt reciprocity, limited time, getting you to say yes a few times to other questions to habituate you or making you say no to something ridiculous to make you feel guilty etc. Really it will be almost always best to go away and think if you actually want the item or service and if there is a better place to get it, I have personally found saying no and escalating the hostility of the no by how long it takes them to get the picture to be effective, no doubt helped by the sense of people trying to manipulate me pissing me off.
@@cadeeja. True, it is definitely redundant language even when just used to make you more trusting to get something out of you. It is worse when it is the kind that comes with strings like "free gift with purchase" if I have to pay or do anything for it, it is neither free or a gift.
I try my best to walk away but it is very hard sometimes. I have saved a lot of money doing this though which is why I try my best to keep doing the behavior
“and I said well do you guys want the real honest answer …” That’s what she said. And they said “yes”, lol love it! That’s some disturbing German habit you’ve added to your interactions. Cheers from Karlsruhe, alongside the Rhine, east d'Alsace, westwards to find the hills of Black Forest. Thanks for your thoughts and have a bright day. (btw. as much as the mental state my mind is resonating with, the quality and the ingredients the diary is composed of, determine my weight. Since cycling is such an absurdly dangerous endeavor in the US, I whatsoever understand the necessity of a gym. Here I’m able to just everyday ride my bike fulfilling my transportation deeds whilst keeping my belly in check. Also: didn’t engage X-Ray view but you’re looking like a young, healthy, and perfectly bodied human being. Hope your “weight” isn’t derived off the distorted view on the body distributed in our media feeds every day. With some extra warping by a.i. nowadays.)
I think, one of the issues in how we (with we I don't mean the USA, but this collection of democratic countries, that are closely linked and which we usually call "the west", although there are some countries that do fit in this "we", but that sometimes aren't thought to be part of "the west") talk about politics, is that it's not just "hey, I have a legitimate political view, that is very much based on a partisan viewpoint, with which you can disagree, but that is still a very legitimate point to make". There are so many points made, that are no legitimate. This whole mentality of "the other side has created a lifestyle, that is unacceptable for me" and then politicising a way of life, either as "we have to ban this" or "we have to force our way of life on everybody". The differenciation between personal and political issues isn't made as much anymore, as it should, when your whole life depends on "your leader" being in charge of the country, when you have bills banning subjects from being taught in school. In Germany, the CSU for example likes to play this card a lot as well. Issues, that are personal are being politisized and issues that are political are being personalized. That is a toxic mix. You are not a bad person, if you live on the countryside and drive a car, because you need it and maybe you also drive a big one, because you have a big family, or maybe you need or want a big pick up truck for the kinds of activities that you are doing in your life. You are also not indoctrinating children, because you tell them that queer people exist. But also, climate change and LGBTQ issues are political issues, that need to be addressed in a political manner, not a personal one.
i know an german american, he is about 400 million dollars rich, he learned at airbus metachils then air design at tu harburg and he build the A 380 with other people
My dearest Hayley, I completely agree with you. I have also met a few German Americans and most of them were just normal US citizens without any cultural similarities or rights to call themselves German. Of course, being German has a little to do with one's Germanic ancestors, but basically one can safely neglect that once one considers the real ethnic mix of today's Germans. We Germans are a mixture of many different tribes such as Germanic Gauls Alemanni Suebi Slavs Vikings Franks Frisians Lombards or others. Therefore, I think that being German today can really only be defined by one's cultural connection to Germany. Therefore, dear Hayley, I think you can start to consider yourself at least half German. Mixed is so your thing anyway. 😘😅
Studies have shown that only 60 % of germans originate from germanic tribes, the rest stems from all over europe and since a few decades also from other continents.
Politics! YES 😅 Coming from a country where we take so much pride in speaking our minds, I had to learn that Americans don't appreciate talking about politics! Since I made some mistakes in the beginning, I uploaded a video about 10 things Germans should never do in the US to help others😁 and "don't talk about politics" is one of them!
I have no complaints if they want to be German bc of ancestry! What I don't understand is, why they want to be? As you said often they don't know anything about Germany! Why do they not inform themselves? We might have ancestors from checheslovaky and went there to inform ourselves and find them! Unfortunately we did not, but at least we learned a lot about how it was living there and what it meant to leave the home they knew!
I think this is just human nature. An American Asian person will say their great grandmother was Japanese or Chinese for example. Even though they're American they carry something of thaf culture or just identity in some distant way. It's like American Caucasians are not allowed to do this because they are viewed as being more American than other races.
@@Earthly_Being There is no German blood. And we’re not mean, we’re just not stupid. Germany as a country in similar borders as it is now, has just come into existence in 1871. Before that it was a conglomeration of small king- and dukedoms. With a population rooting in different tribes and cultures. In my area, for example, we have a much closer genetic relationship to the people in the Netherlands than to people in Bavaria or Saxonia. Same goes for languages and dialects. My dialect is from the ripuaric language family, deriving from the time of Charlemagne. That’s way different then what’s spoken for example in Munich or Dresden, all having their own vocabulary and grammatical structures. German is a sort of compromise so we can all understand each other.
hahaha nice video hayley and i realy have a lot of respect in how you portray us Germans because we are a bit cranky, strange and not very easy in every conceivable area. there are many good things that make up our society but at least if not more bad qualities that we have to work on. i had a really great sympathy for america back then because all the things i loved as a teenager came from america but unfortunately my view of the usa has become so negative over the years that i could never live there. it is really sad that i have to say that but it is what it is
Regarding identity: From my observation (pls correct me if I'm wrong) I am under the impression that during the last 10-15 years in particular, people have been defining their identity even stronger through their consumer behaviour. I.e. for some, the choice of brands you buy literally decides whether you're a good person or a bad person to them. On a societal level this is quite worrysome, also because it creates an enormous blind spot towards issues that cannot be influenced by altering one's spending behaviour. Ofc. this is only one facette of how people construct their identity, but it's a thing I noticed.
As a 5th Generation Italian American (also "from" Florida) living in Frankfurt, there is always an assumption because of my name that I come from Italy until I clarify. I also have German "blood" too, for whatever that means. Now I look at my Italian (and any ethnicity really) friends in the states and say, jein. My question is, and excuse me if I missed it, but why are you in Florida so long? We're coming back for 3 weeks for Frühjahrsferien und der Geburtstag meiner Mutter.
About the Car-Thing: In the summer of 92/93, I worked for a small touristic company on Ku'Damm (Berlin) and actually our job was only to guide the tourists to the respective guides or to give the "solo" tourists a few hints. One day a big guy stood in front of me, broad built, with USA shirt on and heavy US accent (it was a southern accent) and asked "Why do all US vehicles drive here in Germany? Do all your cars suck?" I looked around... BMW, Mercedes, VW, Opel, Audi.... I told him they were all German cars and ... that's when he laughed at me and said I was lying. They were all US cars, he said. I asked him where he got the idea. "My friends and colleagues all drive Mercedes, BMW and Audi. Why would they get cars from abroad. You are obviously a lying piece of shit". Unfortunately, there were no smartphones back then, so I couldn't convince him otherwise. And polish his face for the impudence with my fist I could not either, because I liked the job
Everytime I see a VW Bug it reminds me of home (America). Cuz they were pretty popular when I was younger and you don't see many of them in Germany, where I live. That warm feeling I get of reminiscence is always accompanied by the truth that they are in fact German cars.
Okay, that´s off topic now but it somehow really bothers me that there´s no nighstand beside the bed and no Leselampe 😂 Apart from that another great vid 🧡
You are not the only one.... I honestly have been putting off getting a nightstand for the room because I keep moving the bed from one side of the room to the other..... so until I find the perfect position- no nightstand!
You're right. By third generation most people don't have any cultural links to their home country. The German language would probably be a more prominent thing in the US if they didn't temporarily ban it during WW1. There's like a pocket of Texas where there are still people that speak a dialect of German. Then there's the Amish, but that's really it's own thing. On paper the largest ethnic group in the US is Germans. But like you said, they're not really German. Their Grandparents were German. It's not the same thing. It really depends on where you live. Some rural people are super German in their mannerisms. They're more isolated from standard American culture. I look at pictures of my great grandparents and they were Super-Swedish. I'm a South-West dude though. Arizonan. I've been here since 1995. I used to live in Georgia, but I imagine Georgia is a totally different place now. And I imagine with the speed things change now, you're less of the place you left from than people were like 100 years ago. Before TV and Social media people could isolate in pockets. Side Note: The Northeast and Midwest are like foreign countries. I've never spent any time there. I can relate to California though, where I live is barely not California. What I see as America might not be the same as someone over there. Then you think about places like Minnesota, which was once French territory, but then a bunch of Swedes and Norwegians immigrated. Then they have that Minnesotan accent. It's kind of funny. That all being said, I think it's very American to talk about your long lost ethnicity. That's something an American would do. Though, I imagine in the EU that's becoming more of a thing because you got people moving all around like they never had before. If a couple moves from the Netherlands to Southern Italy things are going to get a little weird identity wise when they have kids.
well, theres no problem if American, or anyone else for that matter, calls himself/ herself German but theres 2 conditions- either they must have German citizenship or they must have at least some German ancestors and been also raised with minimal level German culture and traditions and have at least basic knowledge of German language. Just having German ancestry don't make you German or hyphenated American if you dont speak even just broken German, and dont know and follow single of German traditions.
I can't quite grasp what you mean with the Point "wanting paraise for doing the right Thing" what You're suposed to do, the bare Minimum. Can you give a specific example? I also tend to agree that ancectry is being Used quite loosely in the US but i wont get worked Up about IT. I enjoy your Videos and thoughts and Observations.
Basically wanting praise for being a normal human instead of an unrepentant a**. If you can't manage to do that without getting rewarded for it, then you don't really deserve the reward.
I may be genetically Slavic but I am nationally and culturally American. I have been to my genetic homelands, and I am definitely NOT like them. I too am fine with being an American.
and there we already start seeing the problems and why the US is considered race obsessed ;) Slav is a cultural&language based distinction, the "group" has no homogenous genepool (same with the "germanic and keltic etc). If you want a phaenotypical descriptive, you are caucasian. and thats already not really a valid category anymore and unscientific.
@@zhufortheimpaler4041 I used Slavic because it was shorter than saying Polish, Ukrainian, and Croatian. Also, when did I say that I considered Slavic a race? I didn't. I was simply saying that after visiting my genetic homelands, I still identify as and consider myself an American. Why are you trying to make more out of this?
@@jlpack62 because you did and thats a common problem with US Americans. You guys dont seem to understand that there are no races etc. Polish is not a race. Polish is a cultural and linguistic heritage. Thats it. Same with Ukrainian, Croatian, German, French etc
Hi there! Again a great video, and it shows how much "bad" influence our German ways of thinking have on you already - especially the 3rd part, which reminded me on our famous saying "Nicht gemeckert ist gelobt" (having no complaints should be praise enough).
Seems like our German behaviour of telling the truth about customer service rubbed of 😉 In my opinion, this is the easiest way to tell others how they can improve. But I also know that our behaviour is often seen as rude behavoiur. So I don't over-use it when it is clear that saying my opinion won't change a thing.
I think the guy got confused about the Mercedes Benz Werke/niederlassung and the actual Mercedes benz headquaters. Back then it was daimler-benz werke when I was a kid. Located in berlin/marienfelde. Now it's just the Mercedes Benz werke.
yeah... thats why I stopped telling americans where I am from, because once they find out, I always get the "hey, my second cousins slave was from xyz, that means we must be friends now!" Or at least the latter seems to be the expectation behind bringing that up? By that logic, would I be friends with literally everyone from my home country? though it always raises one question: so if you are german/xyz/whatever, what influence does that have on your life as an american? the answer is probably none at all.
Undeserved praise starts, imho, when children are praised for doing an average thing but not criticized when they fail or are below average. The end result, I've read, is a lot of depression among uni students who are confronted with their own failure for the first time in their lives.
You have 2 parents, 4 grandparents, thus 8 great grandparents, 16 great great grandparents and 32 great great great grandparents. That means youd be 96,875% not german. And even though I know logarithmic behavior, I am a little disappointed with how small your error was in the end. Please excuse my autistic german ass :)
I once had a discussion about race theory with an US-American saying that he's german on the internet.. I said that especially with that heritage he should think about what he is saying, but that he's american and not german, because being german has nothing to do with race but with having a german passport.. That guy was very hurt.. And I was shocked that he believed in race theory and thought he would be german without ever even visiting the country
the discussion comes up more often on tiktok. Most Americans cannot understand that many Europeans say that they are not Europeans. and then the americans count the percentages in their 23&me test. they just don't understand that it takes more than genes to be a member of a community
To understand the "praising" part I looked for the meaning in Collins dictionary and found "to commend the worth of; express approval or admiration of". Then the praising is it only kind of an empty phrase or do the people that are praising someones (proper) action really mean it?
Staying away from political or religious discussions is pure self-care. The last point about people who expect any kind of an reward for just doing the right thing : some people just don't get the inner sense of doing the right or good things. They expect that this will be payed back one day. Like business deal or a bargain with the universe. So they all running around with their little cameras filming themselves for example given money to a homeless. Because one day.......
6:00 Ich habe mal ein Buch gelesen, das mir sehr geholfen hat "Nein" zu sagen. Es ist sehr aufschlussreich: "Sag' Nein ohne Skrupel. Es ist keins dieser esotherisch angehauchten Werke, die ich als logisch denkender Mensch nicht so mag. Es kommt aus dem Amerikanischen von Manuel J. Smith: "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty" Ich kann das jedem empfehlen, der sich manipuliert fühlt "Ja" zu sagen.
This kind of reminds me of how if you return a wallet or lost money here in the United States, the expectation is that there will be some kind of financial payment to that person from the owner of cash, for returning it instead of keeping it for themselves (which actually is theft legally). I've even seen news stories run about when someone doesn't give any reward, like it's an injustice. I think it's ridiculous- I have returned a wallet myself and never expected anything in return- it's simply the moral and legally correct thing to do.
I m a politician from Germany and i think the way people think of politics is quit wrong. So u dont need to agree or disagree every time, but u need to respect other peoples opinion and i think their are some undercomplex thought If for example sience or historie is denied, but u still respect the person behind it, cause "we are one" [lionking] So if people talk about stuff its should be ok to get like an delayt answer as ** i dont know much about the topic yet but i will respond to u later** If you are working in a partie than u note always that u can't agree 💯% with every topic - so its the same as voting - when u agree to everything they say u might end up being more like a religion, but its pritty simular to one aswell. Cause u always need to question yourself, if your desition is social and sientificly wise. Cause every person is honorable enough to have at least as much freedom as every other person.
On the "I'm German because my great....grandparents..." thing, when I go to any country in Europe I try to slip into the demeanor, expression, timing and so on of the locals. I know I've achieved some measure of success when they stop trying to speak to me in English and speak to me in Spanish, German, French, Romanian, Czech, Slovak, Hungarian, etc. on the regular. I'm also the kind of guy who doesn't like to stand out, so that helps motivate me.
As weird as it seems as a german to hear "i am german" from an american, I agree with your conclusion. If it is this important to u. I am happy to be at peace with it. :)
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So I prefer to support authors rather than the people who take their ideas without asking or paying for it. 🤷🏼♀️
Having said this, I love your video. As always.
I am a pharmacist in the US (I am unhappy) and I am thinking of moving to Germany (or another European country).
I am hoping that you read this comment and make a video or a series of videos on a "walkthrough" of how to move to Germany and establish a job and a home.
Here are some ideas that I have been looking at and wanting to find some information on, but they are pretty scattered across the internet.
1. I have an American passport so, I can just go to Germany and visit (notwithstanding the new visiting/screening laws...?). I heard that there are german courses in different cities throughout Germany that can teach you pretty good German in a matter of 12 weeks (3 months) (30-40 hours a week), that cost from 1000 to 3000 euros. There are so many to pick from, with so little information that we don't know how to pick.
well, that's my plan for the first three months.
2. during these three months, I can go to different universities or some german pharmacy board to try and get my pharmacy license based on my pharmacy degree in the US.
3. maybe I can try to land a job as a pharmacy technician which would have a lower barrier to entry.
4. in order to get my German pharmacy license, I am sure that I am going to need to take some german language test (as my degree is from a non-german country) and then take the actual pharmacy test or maybe some law test as well. I understand that Germany like most European countries have two different pharmacy degrees (retail vs inpatient), so I am going to have to make a decision on that.
5. I am assuming this is going to take a while, a year, maybe, if not more. Meanwhile, how difficult it is to find a job as an American with an American passport (after the first initial three months, hoping that I would know basic german by then), as a waiter for example until I am able to get a pharmacy technician license or eventually getting my pharmacy license. what steps are needed as far as a work visa? am I able to get a work visa while living in Germany or do I have to leave Germany and apply through a US embassy?
6. On a work visa, would I be able to go to university to study some other stuff, or would it be better to get a student visa and then work (part-time)? Basically, work visa vs a student visa.
7. I have a home here in the US. so let's say I am able to establish myself in Germany and I plan on selling my US home, you can talk to us about the nightmare of moving your money after selling a significant asset like a home from the US to Germany and buy a home in Germany without triggering all kinds of money laundering alarms. and what would be the most effective way to transfer funds.
8. American taxes. as an American living abroad you still have to file taxes. german banks make a point of telling the IRS about your funds if you open your german bank account using an American passport. I am not sure how that worked with your boyfriend/husband, as I assume he has a german passport, so maybe you had to circumvent that step, so for your "safety" you don't have to make a video about that if you don't want to.
9. how to get in touch with other expats in Germany? what cities are more welcoming and supportive of expats (germans supporting expats, and expats supporting expats)? Basically, give us a guide (a tree-like) of how a professional, a doctor, an engineer, a programmer, an artist, or anyone with some kind of degree would be able to make a transition from the US to Germany. A tree guide as in, you have an option a and an option b, under option a, you have options a1, a2, a3, a4 under option b you have options b1, b2, under options a1 you have a1.1 and a1.2, and so forth. make it as extensive as you would like.
This may require some time or some planning with a script. which I understand if that's not of interest to you.
But I think it may be a great help for people, to have a map, a blueprint, or a path to follow to migrate to Germany (including approx. costs and hurdles), rather than being overwhelmed by the idea of change and moving and giving up.
Finally, this is special for me: I currently hold two passports, Americana and Egyptian. and I am sorta hoping to come to Germany and switch careers to medicine (med school) or maybe computer programming and take advantage of german (approx.) free education.
Good points, is it really that hard to say ' I have some German ancestry ' ?, I have some German ancestry but certainly don't think of myself as German, I have never lived there and that would be presumptuous.
You correcting the guy on german car manufacturers is probably the most german thing you could have done. I think you have fully arrived in german culture :)
especially Audi and Ingolstadt; I would not have been able to recall that off the bat, only in a multiple choice scenario
Was going to comment the same thing, I was like *GO HAYLEY* ! 🤣👏
I thought so, too, especially at the line "Audi from Ingolstadt" - a fact that, as a German, took me a few seconds to remember. WOW, Haley!
well, that and mettbrötchen for breakfast
@@evilmessiah81 God damn it! WHY?! now I'm hungry...
My grandad is Nigerian, if I meet a person from Nigeria I tell them my grandad was Nigerian, it is a good jumping off point to start conversation, but I am 100% British
A thing I learned many years ago: Don't say yes because you don't want to say no! If people don't like you anymore because you say no, it is their problem!
@ But you Hungarians say "hi hi" when you're saying goodbye. That always confuses me at first. 🙂
My brother was sent to work in the US to work a few years ago.
A man with Nazi symbols approached him and told him how German he was and how they had to be close as brothers.
Well my brother told the guy to get lost and that Nazis have nothing to do with being German.
That's a bit extreme, but I was very shocked when he told me the story.
I have seen Nazi symbols more often in the USA than I have in Germany....
@@HayleyAlexis maybe this observation would change if they werent illegal in Germany
@@HayleyAlexis Ist auch gut so, weil dann der Verfassungsschutz ganz schnell vor deiner Tür stehen würde.. 🙈
Yeah, the US currently has over a thousand organizations following Nazi ideologies. What a disgrace!
Apparently the Germans feel like the confederate flag has everything to do with being American... I can't go anywhere in Nuernberg without seeing something offensive.
"Do you want the direct answer?" - Yes, thats called being Germanized. You're Welcome!
Am totally on your side on the "I am Germam" thing. It's annoying, at least to me. Go to Germany, search your roots, meet the culture, then decide. If these people would say "Wow, my ancestors are from Germany" it'll be totally OK. It's like me saying "I am italian" for having an Italian name and I am not even close to be Italian.
But your Italian name says you're German!?
Who cares, schönen Sonntag, prost 🌲☀️🌲
When an American says that he is German, I usually assume that he means that he only has German ancestors. At the latest when asked whether he understands or speaks German.
America is pretty racially and ethnically fixated. Probably put a lot of emphasis on pedigree where they originally came from..
@@andeekaydot yes
@@andeekaydot then you know more than most people when they see my name
I've noticed how outraged the people that go "I'm xyz" are when you say "Really? When have you last been to xyz country." . They start ranting how they are xyz, because their grandfather/mother was from there and that makes them that. And I like to say "My grandmother visited her aunt in the US 70 years ago, dose that make me an American?" then they just loose it.
right, just because their grandfather was biten by a german shepard 100 years ago, that dosnt make them german.
Oh, but they're not just xyz, but also abc, def, ghi, and at least 1/16th black and/or Sioux. It's like they want to craft an air of something special around them, this need to stick out of the homogenous corporate crafted masses.
Well, at least it sells those bogus dna tests.
Americans love to say this because their own country has no real culture or history
I think this in particular is an attempt to find an identity in country where white people have no cultural identity.
If what I assume is the truth it's a topic that needs more exploration.
@@evilmessiah81 That makes them 1/64 Shepard and 1/128 Werewolf ;-)
"They did not like this answer, even though I asked them if they really want to hear it" 😆 You are truly picking up on German habits, now. Tell them how it is! German honesty = truthful to the point of rudeness, in the eyes of other countries 🤣 👍👍
But I think it`s right that you say your opinion in a friendly and direct way, if you don`t like something about the person, instead of talking behind you back. That has nothing to do with impoliteness.
@@blondkatze3547 absolutely. my thinking is like:
im actually being nice when letting em know their flaws, so they can improve.
if i wanna be neutral i wont let em know the reasons, just tell them my decision.
but i wont tell them what they wanna hear just so they feel good in that particular second, because its not nice to let people run against the wall at full speed, even if they ask for it.
I agree with you 👍@@Xerlash
I have iranian ancestors and my sisters look like picture perfect iranians... still we get an itch when people aren't punctual, throw their trash in the wrong bin, walk over red lights in the middle of the night and try to sugar coat things. That answers the question who we really are 😅
May I ask what picture perfect Iranians look like? I only know two adults, who grew up there, and if I had to describe them, I would describe her as „very pale with black hair“, while he looks more on the tanned side with really dark brown (nearly, but not quite black) hair.
(Winter time, I don’t know about summer, haven’t really seen them at the time).
Yeah, you're german now, embrace it. 😆
"I don't even like cars." 😅😅😅
You nailed it. 👏👍
As an American citizen living in Germany for almost 40 years I totally agree: Americans are recognized.
Love your channel, Hayley.
When I travel, I love it when I've been in country long enough that I begin to recognize Americans as "other". It does take me a minute to acclimate to the local ways, though, so I, myself, am "other" for the first little bit.
People (usa citizens) don't get that we stick out like a bright red flag anywhere else in the world
Not just Americans stand out. I think most people in Europe can tell what part of Europe (Germany, France, UK, etc) someone's from just by looking at them (often just their face).
Totally with you on the ancestry part. Having German ancestry gives you German ancestry but it doesn't make you German.
No idea why, but your behavior in the gym makes me proud. And it was funny. 😁
It was very German!
The other women would have paid 200 bucks out of the staff talking her into it... 👀. A German would never say yes and neither did Hayley... I'm proud of her!
I honestly was shocked when the other women were pressured to spend the money and I just looked with wide eyes... with my jaw dropped...I guess I need to start working a real job because apparently I am poor... or something.
@@HayleyAlexis No, I mean you told it funny. The circumstance itself is not funny at all. Such people should be fired.
@@HayleyAlexis you're not poor 😂! 200 are like burning "Geldscheine" and even if I had so much spare money... I would find better things to spend it for!
About your last Saying: I'm with you on that one. Being a decent human being is something normal, it doesn't make you special. It's what you should be by default
exactly. if a fellow german was expecting me to reassure em for doing the obvious (like stopping at a stop sign), THEN i would be rude.
I would say something along the lines: "Bist du da allein drauf gekommen?" (Did you figure that out on your own?) or even "ja, das haste ganz toll gemacht" (well yes, you did soo good.) with a tone like speaking to a toddler.
I'm a rocket scientist! Really? Well not literally, but my grandfather was one.
I just love your pronunciation of Audi, how you corrected that dude and he probably didn't even realize it 🤭😂
This is an interesting topic! my grandmother came over from Germany in the 50s and loved her culture and would talk about it often. I have a feeling of warmth when she would talk about it and a familiarity with her stories but I never identified as being German. I may say I am German if someone asks me INSIDE the United States because people like to know your ancestors. But I would never say that outside the USA. I was raised American and whenever I've traveled outside the US it made me appreciate my culture more and it solidified that I truly am American.
My great grandparents came over about a century ago. Same here. I usually say that I'm of German descent, but I don't really say I'm German unless the topic of conversation is heritage and it's implied.
and this is a very important point that I think many people in the USA don't understand unless they leave. An appreciation for being "American", not necessarily pride- just an understanding of your USA culture.
@@HayleyAlexis If I remember the State Department's numbers correctly, only 38% of Americans currently have a passport, and only 67% ever have one in their entire lives. It gets worse knowing that many of those passports are only for local cruises and not "real" travel.
Everyone needs a friend like you. I absolutely love your frankness and your overall personality.
I'm so with you on what you say about people (especially Americans) identifying as something they are not. I'm not German, I'm Norwegian. And if someone told me they have Norwegian heritage, perfectly fine, I understand people appreciating their heritage, and love it when they want to genuinely learn about the country, culture, language, etc. But if that same person tells me they are Norwegian, and they haven't lived in Norway, don't really know the culture (eating lefse and krumkake doesn't really cut it), doesn't speak Norwegian, then basically I just get annoyed. And by saying that I don't even limit Norwegians to just people who were born or raised here, because people can assimilate into the Norwegian culture if that's their desire, they can become part of it, become a citizen and claim that identity, but in order to do so they need to have a genuine relationship with the country, the culture and the language. It's the same as me talking about my own heritage. I have ancestors who were Sami (the indigenous people in the north of Scandinavia), but just because they were Sami doesn't make me Sami (I tend to say I have a few drops of Sami blood in me, but that's as far as I'll go with it). I don't know the language, I have no cultural ties to the Sami, so to make that claim would be plain wrong.
Being straight honest and direct Hayley you almost sound like a Dutch person well done LOL🤣🤣🤣
Also Hayley don't be ashamed i myself have trouble with saying certain words as well.
Other than that a great video keep up the great work👍
And greetings from the Netherlands🇳🇱
As a German. I Love the Netherlands. Not only the limburgse south, also the nothern side, where German is not sooo wellcome. 😘
@@Miristzuheiss What are you talking about Manuela German people are most welcome here in the Netherlands?
Do you mean the German language? please explain i live in the northern part of the Netherlands but still German people are more than welcome over here and not just German people but people from all over the world😊
Germany is also a great country i have been there plenty of times myself and i love the German people.
"I don't even like cars." 😂
For a people that makes such a huge fuss about its flags, pledging allegiance to it every morning in school, touting non-stop how the US are the best country ever, Americans sure have a weirdly strong psychological need to identify with their genetic ancestry.
As for me, whenever an American tells me 'they're German too' I'll just switch to German with them... which more often than not effectively ends the conversation in an instant XD
I never thought of that..... interesting
Like you said Americans identifying themselves as German, Italian, Irish or whatever just because one of there ancestors came from those countries is weird and many times irritating to us. If it were your parents I could understand because they were brought up in that culture and probably brought a lot of that with them. After that, you are American with … roots.
A lot of times Americans will say it’s because their country is such a melting pot, but why are they the only ones of the ‘new worlds’ who still do that? You don’t hear Canadians, Australians, New Zealanders do it. The only thing I can think of is that the US is a very individualistic society with a lack of social cohesion. To set yourself apart from others, ancestry is one of those things to do that with.
It also implies Europe isn't a melting pot, which just isn't true. I don't think there's a single person in Europe who doesn't have at least one ancestor from another country within the last 2 centuries. People have always moved all over the continent.
The difference is that most Europeans don't really care about their ancestry all that much.
@@picobello99 Exactly! Thank you for the addition.
The characterization "Tall, Blonde hair, Blue eyes" could equally apply to a Scandinavian. Especially since his definition rather corresponds to the ideal of the Aryan-German and he probably also defines himself by it. Possibly the person could claim to have German ancestors, but that does not make him German.
Or people from Austria, or Switzerland, or Northern Italy oder South Africa, for that matter. Taking on the optics for determination of heritage nowadays is pure ignorance, imho.
That gym price you mentioned? Wow! That's way too expensive! You are smart to say no.
Like I said... If the customer service was good I probably would have paid it because it was an amazing facility BUT because the service was lackluster- no thank you!
I am still very American when it comes to service- if I receive good customer service I will spend money- easily. I have gotten better since living in Germany and am thankful for that
Toll, dass du so open minded bist und neue Verhaltensweisen annimmst. Horizonterweiterung ist was Gutes.
14:32 As we say in bavaria ,,Ned g'schimpft is g'lobt gnua,, 😉
Das ist Schwäbisch/Calvinistisch net boarisch.
@@hoWa3920 agree! I lived 43 years in Geneva.
Gute Redensart, gefällt mir! Grüße an den Tegernsee, lange nichts von dir gelesen! Grüße aus Hamburg😂
Loving your videos for years.. keep it up! Much love from North-Western Germany
It was a pleasure beeing a parci.. partivi ... watching your video. ☺️
The Mr.-German-Part was sooo funny. :D I love you.
I know what you mean about the identity…my mom has a distinct ethnic name and people ask her what her nationality is she is and they look quizzical when she says she’s American. I mean as soon as she opens her mouth it’s obvious she grew up in a southern state but they still ask. I think a lot of people confuse ancestry with with identity.
The second chapter of the video immediately reminded me of my personal motto.
"If you don't want a dispute at the table, don't talk about politics and/or religion at dinner."
11:00 I honestly can't even imagine that any German would actively disagree with your take on this matter. People claiming to be German even though their last living German ancestor died 150 years ago would drive me absolutely crazy if I ever came across them. I can't even begin to explain it. That'd be the same as all of us in the comment section claiming we were American simply because we know how to speak English, if that makes sense. It just doesn't add up. And you're 100% right, every German would be able to identify a 0.05% self-proclaimed German-American in less than a second. Honestly, kudos to you for having become so relaxed about this topic, I vividly remember your first video about that whole thing and it still makes my blood boil how poorly these people treated you back then, argh!
hi Hayley, your directness makes u a real German. 😄 ...and please stop hurting those (German)Americans. 🤣
Mein innerer Loriot kommt zum Ergebnis: Das Bild hängt schief!
Wird immer schief hängen....
Every time you post a video, I just think: “Yes. This.” (I’m an American who has been in Germany for 26 years.)
Hi.
I like, how you formed your very own cultural identity by taking what seems the best for you from both countries.
And of course i smiled about your car story. Nice how dry you contered that "Germami", twice. And i think the olive on top - if i stay in that Martini picture - is, that you behave more like a german than he can ever pretend to be or do, without ever having been there.
Was fun to watch. Schönen Sonntag. Ciao
(7:04) "They didn't like that answer!"
Like I always say: "If you don't wanna hear the answer - dont ask the question!"
My dad and grandparents were from Germany. I have first cousins in Germany, grew up around my grandparents, my grandmother's cooking, the language, took German in high school, and as a kid was proud to have such a close connection to another culture. I identified as being at least half German. But never did I think of myself as "a German". I wasn't raised in the culture of Germany with all the societal differences from the U.S. I knew and recognized that from early on! US citizen all the way with my family roots in Germany and Ireland.
you are such a good talker! I love to listen to you. thanks for all your interesting videos.
I think it`s right when you say what you think about it, if something bothers you. The important thing is, that you remain friendly. Better than talking others behind their backs. It`s funny , to read that you know more about car locations than the man.😅💞🙂
Another great Video!Thanx Haley!Keep on!Greetings from Dortmund/Germany!🌹
PS:This priceless expression on your face when you told that guy,that AUDI is from Ingolstadt!LUVIT💗
This was one of your most informative videos. I made Germany my home base while traveling to many parts of the world. I retirement 12 years ago. I’m now 74 and have to decide maybe I need to make the decision of a permanent home. I have my German residency along with dual citizenship from Scotland and the USA. I travel back to Scotland and the US as I have family there but I’m thinking the European lifestyle is more for me … maybe because of all my travels and being exposed to so many cultures. Most of my travels through volunteering in Sri Lanka, Haiti and Pakistan . Living on my social security means coach when flying and public transportation 😊… not complaining .
Oh! Freckles! Your face looks so refreshed and relaxed!
No politics: Yeah, I avoid the heated discussions with some since they get loud quick here, in Germany, as well, and then it is not a discussion any more. But for the most discussing it isn't so bad.
"Pretty sure Mercedes from Berlin"... "Audi from from Berlin" *lööööööööööööööööölllll* - You should have recorded that!
As for the rest for the video: Nice!
Ich bin groß, blond und hab blaue Augen, aber selbst ich als deutscher bin manchmal sowas von un-deutsch. Ich mag z.b. nur stilles Wasser 😁
Very good vid. Couldn't agree more with on everything. Living as German here in the USA I in particular appreciate when one of those so-called Germans tells me I don't know my own culture because 3xgreat grandfather told them diffetently. I might not be as uptodate after having lived here for almost 30 yrs but I still know German, German customs and food. Lol don't take my comment to seriously I like living here.
Die Mercedes- und Audi-Story war sehr geil! 😂👍🏼
You are quite right IMO. Greetings from Vienna.
Isn't there some rule at American family gatherings that you don't talk about politics? Because I noticed that most German ones eventually turn into a politics discussion at some point. Or more accurately ranting about some current issue. It's just not such a personal thing because most people in the center don't identify their political positions so strongly with one party. And the political spectrum is a lot more diverse so people can switch around a bit.
You don't lose weight just by going to the gym. Or by doing any 'scheduled' sport. That is my experience. Go into the backcountry. Hike or climb a mountain or hill. Be somewhere, where you can't easily 'escape' and be there for at least several hours. The beach is ok. Soft sand and water have enough force resistance to be in par with gym weights. Don't chill, be active, have fun in the water and on the sand. Don't bring much food, only beverages. Be there all day. Try not to crave for a big meal in the evening afterwards. That would be my advice (also to myself - LOL 😆)
Or try the German saying „ein Sixpack wird on der Küche gemacht“. 😉 eat healthy and be active, then your body will change to something that feels strong (as in good for all these activities and maybe even „running from a predatory animal“ and healthy).
No one needs a Sixpack, what we all need is a healthy body, that can actually do what it needs to do.
I personally lose weight by going to the gym because I am not the person that will cut calories or count what I eat. I am not the person that will go into a calorie deficit just by eating better... so I like to find a nice balance between eating "healthy" and being "active" but both of those things are very hard to do simultaneously in the USA..... so I try my best to focus on one that is easier which in my opinion is going to the gym (plus it is a lot cheaper).
@@HayleyAlexis I forgot about the food in the USA. I ate pretty much like in Germany, went „on a stroll“ on the treadmill (which hate, but it didn’t feel good to walk through the neighborhood without „Bürgersteige“, with cars driving way too fast and neighbors looking at me like a criminal, because I was walking near their property) pretty much every day and still gained one kilogram per week - it was all fat.
The look she gives you when you forget about Ingolstadt 😭
Wow I don’t even want to pay 40€/month for the gym 😂 the price you mentioned is more than my Warmmiete neeeeverrrrrrrr
I would give anything to pay 200€ for Warmmiete!! You have an amazing deal!
Yeah it was a "specialty" gym but I do know people that spend a little more a month on their gym membership (I also know plenty of people that spend $10 a month).
@@HayleyAlexis oh well we pay 250€ overall and split with my partner, but up to this year we always got money from heating back. It’s the normal price with all fees (waste, water etc pp.), except electricity of course 😁 and we actually pay a lot for heating because it’s an old building without insulation 🥲
Wow that’s crazy! I‘ve also been to some special gyms but even they didn’t take more than 60€/ month if you have a 2 year contract 🤯
I remember as a kid, like really young and having no idea about politics and what party meant what, I asked my dad during election time what he voted for. Because it was voting season and my parents went to go voting, and I came with them, waited outside. It was the first time I'd ever seen something like this and they had explained to me what voting meant, etc. So I asked him what he voted for. And I remember so vividly that he did not tell me. He said that what you vote for is a private thing. I have no idea what he did or does vote for to this day (and since I'm sure it's not some crazy extremist stuff due to how he lives his life and how he talks I also don't ask anymore). I just think in general, unless you're really strongly opinionated, you go vote and the rest of the time you never talk about it. I also don't know what my friends vote for. I know the spectrum (probably SPD or Grüne) because I couldn't be friends with them if we had drastically different views, but I don't reall know.
We just don't wear it on pur sleeves as much I guess. I thought for a moment that Afd voters were different but tbh... we apparently have really a shocking lot of them and we'd probably be surprised by the amount. The vocal 0.2% is what we all see, but there are a ton of incognito Afd voters.
I think I have used this comparism before:
Sandra Bullock and Bruce Willis.
Both of german decent.
Only Bullock can claim to be german.
Why you ask? Both have one german parent, so shouldn't they both be able to say that about themselves?
She was born in Virginia but moved here with her family as an infant and grew up in Germany and went to School here until she was 12. She speaks the language and has the direct cultural upbringing. She can even rightfully say she is more than just german, she is a Franconian. (I heard her speak german, there is no denying it where she grew up)
He was born in Germany and moved away with his family as a toddler and grew up in the U.S. went to school there and does not speak the language and does not have the cultural upbringing.
So he is not german.
I say meh to this. My daughter's are through and through Swiss and American. They have the mannerisms down to a T. They also have American mannerisms down to a T. Its funny watching them switch back and forth. One daughter was born in Germany, we lived there for 3 years, and then moved back to Switzerland. We left Switzerland when that daughter was 6. She remembers living in Switzerland and living in Germany. My other daughter was born in the US. They are 16 and 6. They speak their fathers dialect of Swiss German without an accent (they speak my American English without an accent also), they only went to International German school in Miami (student's have education of Germany and US. Teachers are German or Swiss teachers along with a degree to teach in the US), and my kids know their culture (this is easy to do with the Swiss Miami club. 90% of members lived their entire live lives in Switzerland. The other 10% are non-Swiss spouses and kids of Swiss) We don't get back to Switzerland very often, but when we do, Swiss people don't know they spent a good chunk or all of their lives in the US.
Now I'm not saying Bruce Willis is like this. I'm just saying just because you don't grow up in a country doesn't mean they don't know the language, don't have the same education, and grew up with the culture).
Yeah, Borsig is from Berlin, did you know tHt ❤
.....Is that.....a......car?
@@HayleyAlexis well in the states you refer to „travel“ instead of „driving“ - sometimes. Borsig build travel „vehicles“ you can say 😁
But you could also refer to BMW -> Berliner Meister Werke, Motor cycles are build in Berlin you can travel on….
Hey Haley,
I'm a bit surprised when you said that in Germany people don't talk about politics. I can't compare it to the US - but I'd say politics is a common topic of conversation here? Maybe people notice that you don't want to talk about it and avoid the topic. Or bc the conversations aren't that...emotional...it just feels diffrent for you? Dunno. Just a thought. btw: It would be great if you'd clearly label ads/sponsoring as such. Peace! Kevin
Totally agree. Germans are much more willing to engage in discussing politics than for example Americans or British.
I just feel that the discussions in countries with 2 party systems tends to be more dogmatic.
I think the big difference is between talk/discuss.... In Germany the topic does come up but it isn't usually what your whole discussion is based on... in the USA the topic comes up and it is usually what your whole discussion is based on. I shouldn't say for everyone but for a lot of people- and this is what I talk about in other videos regarding American identity and how we describe ourselves by political affiliation which isn't something Germans tend to do..... so the stage is easier set in the USA for the topic/discussion of politics to be brought up than in Germany.
@@HayleyAlexis I can have an opinion on e.g. "religion". Then I usually talk about this topic and not about "politics" in general. Of course, a position on religion is also a political issue, but i can differentiate between the themes. And my opinion on religion does not determine my opinion on labor rights. That probably won't work if have a the-winner-takes-all voting system xD We always end up with this problem when we talk about the US, dont we? xD
"You can't handle the truth."...Hayley to the people at the gym.
I am not sure it's a particularly german habbit but whenever someone tries to pressure me into buying something now I take another day to think about it or just walk away entirely.
From my personal and to narrow down in this case English perspective that is just a good policy, if you have an interest it may be worth reading about or listening to a lecture on the uses of psychology in sales to pressure you, "free gift" to guilt reciprocity, limited time, getting you to say yes a few times to other questions to habituate you or making you say no to something ridiculous to make you feel guilty etc.
Really it will be almost always best to go away and think if you actually want the item or service and if there is a better place to get it, I have personally found saying no and escalating the hostility of the no by how long it takes them to get the picture to be effective, no doubt helped by the sense of people trying to manipulate me pissing me off.
@@KarlJeager To me "free gift" doesn't make any sense, it's like saying "small dwarf" :D
@@cadeeja. True, it is definitely redundant language even when just used to make you more trusting to get something out of you. It is worse when it is the kind that comes with strings like "free gift with purchase" if I have to pay or do anything for it, it is neither free or a gift.
I try my best to walk away but it is very hard sometimes. I have saved a lot of money doing this though which is why I try my best to keep doing the behavior
“and I said well do you guys want the real honest answer …”
That’s what she said. And they said “yes”, lol love it! That’s some disturbing German habit you’ve added to your interactions. Cheers from Karlsruhe, alongside the Rhine, east d'Alsace, westwards to find the hills of Black Forest. Thanks for your thoughts and have a bright day.
(btw. as much as the mental state my mind is resonating with, the quality and the ingredients the diary is composed of, determine my weight. Since cycling is such an absurdly dangerous endeavor in the US, I whatsoever understand the necessity of a gym. Here I’m able to just everyday ride my bike fulfilling my transportation deeds whilst keeping my belly in check.
Also: didn’t engage X-Ray view but you’re looking like a young, healthy, and perfectly bodied human being. Hope your “weight” isn’t derived off the distorted view on the body distributed in our media feeds every day. With some extra warping by a.i. nowadays.)
I think, one of the issues in how we (with we I don't mean the USA, but this collection of democratic countries, that are closely linked and which we usually call "the west", although there are some countries that do fit in this "we", but that sometimes aren't thought to be part of "the west") talk about politics, is that it's not just "hey, I have a legitimate political view, that is very much based on a partisan viewpoint, with which you can disagree, but that is still a very legitimate point to make". There are so many points made, that are no legitimate. This whole mentality of "the other side has created a lifestyle, that is unacceptable for me" and then politicising a way of life, either as "we have to ban this" or "we have to force our way of life on everybody". The differenciation between personal and political issues isn't made as much anymore, as it should, when your whole life depends on "your leader" being in charge of the country, when you have bills banning subjects from being taught in school. In Germany, the CSU for example likes to play this card a lot as well. Issues, that are personal are being politisized and issues that are political are being personalized. That is a toxic mix. You are not a bad person, if you live on the countryside and drive a car, because you need it and maybe you also drive a big one, because you have a big family, or maybe you need or want a big pick up truck for the kinds of activities that you are doing in your life. You are also not indoctrinating children, because you tell them that queer people exist. But also, climate change and LGBTQ issues are political issues, that need to be addressed in a political manner, not a personal one.
i know an german american, he is about 400 million dollars rich, he learned at airbus metachils then air design at tu harburg and he build the A 380 with other people
My dearest Hayley, I completely agree with you. I have also met a few German Americans and most of them were just normal US citizens without any cultural similarities or rights to call themselves German. Of course, being German has a little to do with one's Germanic ancestors, but basically one can safely neglect that once one considers the real ethnic mix of today's Germans. We Germans are a mixture of many different tribes such as Germanic Gauls Alemanni Suebi Slavs Vikings Franks Frisians Lombards or others. Therefore, I think that being German today can really only be defined by one's cultural connection to Germany. Therefore, dear Hayley, I think you can start to consider yourself at least half German. Mixed is so your thing anyway. 😘😅
Studies have shown that only 60 % of germans originate from germanic tribes, the rest stems from all over europe and since a few decades also from other continents.
Politics! YES 😅 Coming from a country where we take so much pride in speaking our minds, I had to learn that Americans don't appreciate talking about politics! Since I made some mistakes in the beginning, I uploaded a video about 10 things Germans should never do in the US to help others😁 and "don't talk about politics" is one of them!
Muahahaha rofl, your facial expressions (~12:00) made my day.
(Today is sunday=so i'm chilling on)
I have no complaints if they want to be German bc of ancestry! What I don't understand is, why they want to be? As you said often they don't know anything about Germany! Why do they not inform themselves? We might have ancestors from checheslovaky and went there to inform ourselves and find them! Unfortunately we did not, but at least we learned a lot about how it was living there and what it meant to leave the home they knew!
I think this is just human nature. An American Asian person will say their great grandmother was Japanese or Chinese for example. Even though they're American they carry something of thaf culture or just identity in some distant way. It's like American Caucasians are not allowed to do this because they are viewed as being more American than other races.
@@Earthly_Being But the German culture in the 19th century has nothing to do with today’s culture.
@Claudia Karl it doesn't matter. They have German blood. Yall are being mean.
@@Earthly_Being There is no German blood. And we’re not mean, we’re just not stupid. Germany as a country in similar borders as it is now, has just come into existence in 1871. Before that it was a conglomeration of small king- and dukedoms. With a population rooting in different tribes and cultures. In my area, for example, we have a much closer genetic relationship to the people in the Netherlands than to people in Bavaria or Saxonia. Same goes for languages and dialects. My dialect is from the ripuaric language family, deriving from the time of Charlemagne. That’s way different then what’s spoken for example in Munich or Dresden, all having their own vocabulary and grammatical structures. German is a sort of compromise so we can all understand each other.
Haha, ich musste ein wenig schmunzeln über Deine Antwort bez. des Trainings bzw. Mitgliedschaft. Hättest Du vor einigen Jahren ähnlich reagiert?
hahaha nice video hayley and i realy have a lot of respect in how you portray us Germans because we are a bit cranky, strange and not very easy in every conceivable area. there are many good things that make up our society but at least if not more bad qualities that we have to work on. i had a really great sympathy for america back then because all the things i loved as a teenager came from america but unfortunately my view of the usa has become so negative over the years that i could never live there. it is really sad that i have to say that but it is what it is
Regarding identity: From my observation (pls correct me if I'm wrong) I am under the impression that during the last 10-15 years in particular, people have been defining their identity even stronger through their consumer behaviour. I.e. for some, the choice of brands you buy literally decides whether you're a good person or a bad person to them. On a societal level this is quite worrysome, also because it creates an enormous blind spot towards issues that cannot be influenced by altering one's spending behaviour. Ofc. this is only one facette of how people construct their identity, but it's a thing I noticed.
I have to ask: at $200,-/month...are the instructors doing the exercises for you? 😂
I mean, for that amount of money, I would certainly expect that.
I wish they would SUCK THE FAT OUT FOR ME
As a 5th Generation Italian American (also "from" Florida) living in Frankfurt, there is always an assumption because of my name that I come from Italy until I clarify. I also have German "blood" too, for whatever that means.
Now I look at my Italian (and any ethnicity really) friends in the states and say, jein. My question is, and excuse me if I missed it, but why are you in Florida so long? We're coming back for 3 weeks for Frühjahrsferien und der Geburtstag meiner Mutter.
About the Car-Thing: In the summer of 92/93, I worked for a small touristic company on Ku'Damm (Berlin) and actually our job was only to guide the tourists to the respective guides or to give the "solo" tourists a few hints. One day a big guy stood in front of me, broad built, with USA shirt on and heavy US accent (it was a southern accent) and asked "Why do all US vehicles drive here in Germany? Do all your cars suck?" I looked around... BMW, Mercedes, VW, Opel, Audi.... I told him they were all German cars and ... that's when he laughed at me and said I was lying. They were all US cars, he said. I asked him where he got the idea. "My friends and colleagues all drive Mercedes, BMW and Audi. Why would they get cars from abroad. You are obviously a lying piece of shit". Unfortunately, there were no smartphones back then, so I couldn't convince him otherwise. And polish his face for the impudence with my fist I could not either, because I liked the job
Everytime I see a VW Bug it reminds me of home (America). Cuz they were pretty popular when I was younger and you don't see many of them in Germany, where I live. That warm feeling I get of reminiscence is always accompanied by the truth that they are in fact German cars.
Okay, that´s off topic now but it somehow really bothers me that there´s no nighstand beside the bed and no Leselampe 😂
Apart from that another great vid 🧡
You are not the only one.... I honestly have been putting off getting a nightstand for the room because I keep moving the bed from one side of the room to the other..... so until I find the perfect position- no nightstand!
You're right. By third generation most people don't have any cultural links to their home country. The German language would probably be a more prominent thing in the US if they didn't temporarily ban it during WW1. There's like a pocket of Texas where there are still people that speak a dialect of German. Then there's the Amish, but that's really it's own thing. On paper the largest ethnic group in the US is Germans.
But like you said, they're not really German. Their Grandparents were German. It's not the same thing.
It really depends on where you live. Some rural people are super German in their mannerisms. They're more isolated from standard American culture. I look at pictures of my great grandparents and they were Super-Swedish. I'm a South-West dude though. Arizonan. I've been here since 1995. I used to live in Georgia, but I imagine Georgia is a totally different place now. And I imagine with the speed things change now, you're less of the place you left from than people were like 100 years ago. Before TV and Social media people could isolate in pockets. Side Note: The Northeast and Midwest are like foreign countries. I've never spent any time there. I can relate to California though, where I live is barely not California. What I see as America might not be the same as someone over there.
Then you think about places like Minnesota, which was once French territory, but then a bunch of Swedes and Norwegians immigrated. Then they have that Minnesotan accent. It's kind of funny. That all being said, I think it's very American to talk about your long lost ethnicity. That's something an American would do. Though, I imagine in the EU that's becoming more of a thing because you got people moving all around like they never had before. If a couple moves from the Netherlands to Southern Italy things are going to get a little weird identity wise when they have kids.
well, theres no problem if American, or anyone else for that matter, calls himself/ herself German but theres 2 conditions- either they must have German citizenship or they must have at least some German ancestors and been also raised with minimal level German culture and traditions and have at least basic knowledge of German language.
Just having German ancestry don't make you German or hyphenated American if you dont speak even just broken German, and dont know and follow single of German traditions.
I can't quite grasp what you mean with the Point "wanting paraise for doing the right Thing" what You're suposed to do, the bare Minimum. Can you give a specific example?
I also tend to agree that ancectry is being Used quite loosely in the US but i wont get worked Up about IT.
I enjoy your Videos and thoughts and Observations.
Basically wanting praise for being a normal human instead of an unrepentant a**. If you can't manage to do that without getting rewarded for it, then you don't really deserve the reward.
lol I love it when you have to laugh about yourself. One should be able to do that ^^
I may be genetically Slavic but I am nationally and culturally American. I have been to my genetic homelands, and I am definitely NOT like them. I too am fine with being an American.
and there we already start seeing the problems and why the US is considered race obsessed ;)
Slav is a cultural&language based distinction, the "group" has no homogenous genepool (same with the "germanic and keltic etc).
If you want a phaenotypical descriptive, you are caucasian. and thats already not really a valid category anymore and unscientific.
@@zhufortheimpaler4041 I used Slavic because it was shorter than saying Polish, Ukrainian, and Croatian. Also, when did I say that I considered Slavic a race? I didn't. I was simply saying that after visiting my genetic homelands, I still identify as and consider myself an American. Why are you trying to make more out of this?
@@zhufortheimpaler4041 THIS! 🙌
@@jlpack62 because you did and thats a common problem with US Americans.
You guys dont seem to understand that there are no races etc.
Polish is not a race.
Polish is a cultural and linguistic heritage.
Thats it.
Same with Ukrainian, Croatian, German, French etc
"I don't even like cars" omg 😂👌
Hi there! Again a great video, and it shows how much "bad" influence our German ways of thinking have on you already - especially the 3rd part, which reminded me on our famous saying "Nicht gemeckert ist gelobt" (having no complaints should be praise enough).
Seems like our German behaviour of telling the truth about customer service rubbed of 😉
In my opinion, this is the easiest way to tell others how they can improve. But I also know that our behaviour is often seen as rude behavoiur. So I don't over-use it when it is clear that saying my opinion won't change a thing.
I think the guy got confused about the Mercedes Benz Werke/niederlassung and the actual Mercedes benz headquaters. Back then it was daimler-benz werke when I was a kid. Located in berlin/marienfelde. Now it's just the Mercedes Benz werke.
yeah... thats why I stopped telling americans where I am from, because once they find out, I always get the "hey, my second cousins slave was from xyz, that means we must be friends now!"
Or at least the latter seems to be the expectation behind bringing that up? By that logic, would I be friends with literally everyone from my home country?
though it always raises one question: so if you are german/xyz/whatever, what influence does that have on your life as an american? the answer is probably none at all.
Oh, I believe you about the 200 dollar monthly fee, it is Florida after all and you probably were in a rather safe area to try out the gym.
Yeah I don't think people understand how expensive things can be here :/ I was shocked at the pice but I gladly accepted my free training
Undeserved praise starts, imho, when children are praised for doing an average thing but not criticized when they fail or are below average.
The end result, I've read, is a lot of depression among uni students who are confronted with their own failure for the first time in their lives.
We all have 16 great great great grandparents, if 1 of them was German then you're 93.75% not German.
You have 2 parents, 4 grandparents, thus 8 great grandparents, 16 great great grandparents and 32 great great great grandparents. That means youd be 96,875% not german. And even though I know logarithmic behavior, I am a little disappointed with how small your error was in the end.
Please excuse my autistic german ass :)
"... its not the gelbe from the ei" Das du so eine Redewendung einstreust zeigt schon dass du echt gut in D angekommen bist. Herrlich 🤣
I once had a discussion about race theory with an US-American saying that he's german on the internet.. I said that especially with that heritage he should think about what he is saying, but that he's american and not german, because being german has nothing to do with race but with having a german passport.. That guy was very hurt.. And I was shocked that he believed in race theory and thought he would be german without ever even visiting the country
the discussion comes up more often on tiktok. Most Americans cannot understand that many Europeans say that they are not Europeans. and then the americans count the percentages in their 23&me test. they just don't understand that it takes more than genes to be a member of a community
This is soo funny. "Grantln" about Home.
To understand the "praising" part I looked for the meaning in Collins dictionary and found "to commend the worth of; express approval or admiration of".
Then the praising is it only kind of an empty phrase or do the people that are praising someones (proper) action really mean it?
Staying away from political or religious discussions is pure self-care. The last point about people who expect any kind of an reward for just doing the right thing : some people just don't get the inner sense of doing the right or good things. They expect that this will be payed back one day. Like business deal or a bargain with the universe. So they all running around with their little cameras filming themselves for example given money to a homeless. Because one day.......
fyi, I didnt find it long, or besser gesagt, too long or boring. I like listening to your Meckern :D
6:00 Ich habe mal ein Buch gelesen, das mir sehr geholfen hat "Nein" zu sagen. Es ist sehr aufschlussreich: "Sag' Nein ohne Skrupel. Es ist keins dieser esotherisch angehauchten Werke, die ich als logisch denkender Mensch nicht so mag. Es kommt aus dem Amerikanischen von Manuel J. Smith: "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty" Ich kann das jedem empfehlen, der sich manipuliert fühlt "Ja" zu sagen.
This kind of reminds me of how if you return a wallet or lost money here in the United States, the expectation is that there will be some kind of financial payment to that person from the owner of cash, for returning it instead of keeping it for themselves (which actually is theft legally). I've even seen news stories run about when someone doesn't give any reward, like it's an injustice. I think it's ridiculous- I have returned a wallet myself and never expected anything in return- it's simply the moral and legally correct thing to do.
Are you going back to Germany?
I m a politician from Germany and i think the way people think of politics is quit wrong. So u dont need to agree or disagree every time, but u need to respect other peoples opinion and i think their are some undercomplex thought If for example sience or historie is denied, but u still respect the person behind it, cause "we are one" [lionking]
So if people talk about stuff its should be ok to get like an delayt answer as ** i dont know much about the topic yet but i will respond to u later**
If you are working in a partie than u note always that u can't agree 💯% with every topic - so its the same as voting - when u agree to everything they say u might end up being more like a religion, but its pritty simular to one aswell.
Cause u always need to question yourself, if your desition is social and sientificly wise.
Cause every person is honorable enough to have at least as much freedom as every other person.
Hayley, are you more based in the US now these days ?
Greetings from Munich..
Great editorial this morning!
In fact, I've given this a thumbs up, soooo, please give me a pat on the back ;)
Cheers
On the "I'm German because my great....grandparents..." thing, when I go to any country in Europe I try to slip into the demeanor, expression, timing and so on of the locals. I know I've achieved some measure of success when they stop trying to speak to me in English and speak to me in Spanish, German, French, Romanian, Czech, Slovak, Hungarian, etc. on the regular. I'm also the kind of guy who doesn't like to stand out, so that helps motivate me.
As weird as it seems as a german to hear "i am german" from an american, I agree with your conclusion. If it is this important to u. I am happy to be at peace with it. :)
Yes..... At the end of the day- who cares? As long as you aren't spreading misinformation- I DO NOT CARE!