How Can We Get Married Without Flirting? - Tough Questions On Marriage With Omar Suleiman
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00:00 Intro
00:35 Is Omar Suleiman Married?
00:40 Do you think people can get married without flirting in the stay?
04:29 Isn't it a short time to know a person without flirting?
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00:00 Intro
00:35 Is Omar Suleiman Married?
00:40 Do you think people can get married without flirting in the stay?
04:29 Isn't it a short time to know a person without flirting?
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But nowadays people only look into your financial condition not in your practicing deen.I saw people who is righteous but there 1st priority a rich girl.
Ma sha Allah
May Allah bless and protect you and your beautiful family, and may ur knowledge of deen be the inspiring for you to be in great place Akhira and may we follow the good of you deen knowledge
Aameen Ya Rabbi
I didn’t date my husband. We met somewhere, he talked to my dad about his intention to marry me. We talked and get to know each other for 5 months before getting married. Never transgress the halal and ahamdulillah we’re happily married now and i never regret anything, alhamdulillah he is the right person and best husband that Allah has sent to me.
Machallh allhuma barik sister
@abdikhalikhussienosman1928 yes exactly. Knowing the boundaries and back to the intention. Barakallaahu fiikum, brother.
@zaidalikhan1444 wa’alaykumussalam warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Thanks for the question. First of all, of course i put the standard and qualification according to the syariat before knowing each other. Next, we just do our own things and updated sometimes. Never go out together alone. He several times came to my house where i have my parents or we went out with other family member if we want to talk and get to know each other. Mean while i can figure out his attitude and character. I also ask people from his family and circle what kind of person he is. Last but not least, i ask guidance from Allah. That’s what we did, brother. Barakallaahu fiikum.
SubhanAllah may your life be blessed dear sister and may Allah grant many blessings upon you ❤️
@@yen.a847 jazaakallaahu khayran.. may Allaah bless you in return.. barakallaahu fiikum..
Beautiful to hear a husband praise his wife for all the right reasons… ya Allah bless every muslim couple this kind of Love and blessings.
Ameen
Ameen.... INSHALLAH Ameen 🤲❤️
They praise u to stay at home and act like a dog
Amen
Amiiiyn
damn, that part about romance being risky before marriage, i've never heard that before, yet it makes the most sense.
Seriously lam amazed ❤
Same here, I look at romance in the western world completely different now. He had a really good point.
Notes. Talk to your potential partner : Deen, character , likes & dislikes, priorities, vision of a family, career. Prioritize religion and character. Make decisions with your proper thinking and use full senses. You can get married without flirting. Avoid being alone physically intimate, or speaking romantically.
Summerized the whole message
Excellent summary.
Mantep kak. Noted
I am Canadian revert and I am married my husband 2 week after meeting him we met only 3 or 4 time with someone beside and it was a blessing...
So glad to hear that! May Allah grant you long healthy life
😮 mashallah 😊❤
In my dream, I wish I can get married with taaruf way. So that why I never do some relationship before married. In sya allah, Allah will guide me to find my future husband. Aamiin
Amiiin
Did you get husband
Not yet
May allah show you a good boy and mercy on u amn
@@ikyamelia15 yes
I am really impressed by the way he explained this topic very logically and guided the viewers with very beautiful concept and teachings of islam.
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what a wonderful message.I'm actually not Muslim but i really agree with your point of view where ppl don't have to be wanted bc of their physical apperance and what actually matters when it comes to marrage
Islam is beauthiful my friend,i hope you become muslim my friend,have a good day/night and take care of you and your family,peace.
Become a muslim friend! :) god is only one 1⃣
@@randmh3643 so happy for you my brother/sister,i hope happinness and peace for you and your family
@@randmh3643 I'm a proud chrstian what i loved is his personal idea which is marriage not else and thank you for your advice
@@mekdelawittariku7211 Brother /sister I would like you to become Muslim how do you see?
I like what he says " Just because people don't post pictures of there marriage they are not haply married"
this is something private between the husband and wife. I don't have to please other people so they can think I'm happily married, may they don't like to share these photos.
Very true. If someone has a great blessing in their life (i.e. a happy blessed marriage), they'll most likely do everything they can to protect it from the evil eye and to enjoy it privately with all the benefits of Allah's blessings. True happiness is when you enjoy a thing privately and nobody else (that doesn't matter) knows about it. My most happiest times in life were because I kept things very private and limited to my close circle of loved ones. Social media makes it easy to acquire nazr
Alhumdulillah thank you for posting this! I've been frightened of marriage. Too much damage in my past...too much hurt. I don't want to go through all that again. But I know Allah (SWT) does not like us to remain single. I like the approach explained here. Find someone whose deen is in line with my own and whose iman is strong. JazakAllah to Omar Suleiyman, all his family, and to all my brothers and sisters in Islam!
Wa yaka!
Yes inshallah 👏
Love the last part of the advice. So logical yet heartwarming to hear. Makes total sense.
I'm 44 years old, man, and I'm afraid to die alone. The social isolation due to Corona virus affected me too much.... Before I was studying medicine (2018) and need to stop to care my father that was illness, thus I nowadays has my ears the social stereotypes and threatened limited life where when we die at 40 are considered young but if live are considered old. It's sadness, hurt . May Allah bless me and others that are at the same situation to find out a blessed wife. insha'Allah ❣️ From Brazil
Ameeen
Olá, irmão. Sou da Turquia e falo português. A gente tem que saber que o destino já é definido pra todos nós. Só que a gente tem que fazer algo pra encontrá-lo, fazer esforço para ser muçulmanos melhores. O medo de morrer sozinho é normal mas Allah nos vai ajudar inshaAllah. A gente tem que seguir rezando e ter esperança. Um abraço!
Man I feel bad for you. The covid 19 punishment wasn't meant for the Guys but the girls... :/
Find girls from Malaysia and Indonesia.
The other day I heard a story of a woman who got married in her 70s -i think- , to the love of her life mashaallah! Allah will give you whatever you ask him for.
It is risky to be romantic b4 marriage b/c u then u don't see the flaws in ur partner u want the to be perfect. This line hit my head. 100000% FACT
I’m a living example of this and I can say sheikh is so right. May Allah guide us right
Me also
Keeping things pravite about your relation is very good and you can save your happily married life from evil eyes
in your life u have to keep things privately there are evil eyes in this not everyone will be happy what u are blessed with
exactly
True
It's so beautiful 🥺 a husband is praising his wife MashaALLAH 🥺🤲🏻
May ALLAH grant me and all of us also these kind of happiness Alhamdulillah 🥺 Ameen Allahumma ameen 🥺❤️😭
Ameen
That should not be unexpected.
This is the most I ve seen him smile! Alhamdolillah
My husband is a muslim and I am a Christian.But we are doing very well.But this is an eye opening discussion about marriage.Again.Always love to listen the words of Dr Imam Omar Suleiman.
Awak kena masuk Islam juga kalau tidak perkahwinan kamu tidak sah disebabkan berbeza agama..this is important tidak bermain
@@loverfreind4273 muslim men are allowed to marry Christian and Jews
@@loverfreind4273 Not true. Muslim men can marry people of the book, Al Kitab, know your deen akhi.
Study Islam .. inshaallaah u shall accept it
@@1Loveneverendsno muslim men cant marry pls understand christians dont worship Allah so they are not believers they worship jesus so anyone who worships anyone other than Allah are not believers
I wished that many brothers and sisters would think and act the way our prophet (pbuh) told us to do.
Unfortunately, they dont...
write peace be upon him
@@sadqyyarasoolallah6300 they did. pbuh = peace be upon him
@@ShipMyPants ? who did
Sad truth
May Allah SWT strengthen our iman. Aamiin.
When I have a crush on someone, I became extremely shy, I can't look, I can't speak, I can't walk in the same direction, I can't think properly, need to calm down but I'm recovering from it and try to talk to myself "Astaghfirullah calm down, be shy but be normal" I'm just a cute cat who keeps running away, but now Alhamdulillah at least I can smile and then leave. Is just a crush but I wasn't sure about taking that person in my life because I want to feel peaceful and happy with my spouse, I'm putting my trust in Allah has a better plan for me because I don't feel about this person is the right for me even though I like this individual.
How old are you sis?
Where are you from?
Are married already to that guy?
MasaALLAH brothers. It is very heartwarming seeing how muslim brothers from different parts of the world and different nationalities are so well connected and working together to bring the dawah forward and trying to get the consent of ALLAH swt
That is sooo true!
I never never thought I was going to get married quickly
Until I decided to do it with good intentions for Allah and stop wasting time.
I don’t regret.
How dd u do? Wat dd u do?
@@khadujifuad9360
I loved someone a long time ~7 years and I realised he was bad and I didn’t want to marry him anymore. (He had a lot of excuses etc). I stopped praying for a while maybe one year and I used to have more and more sayi’at subhanallah… things I never thought would happen to me. I never felt good until I started to pray again and stop staying with girls that have no deen because they don’t even care about what’s right and what’s wrong. I focused on myself and I asked Allah sincerely to find a way to escape from people (even my very strict father) who make me feel bad but in the right way.
A few days later I met a revert man, I could notice he has fear of Allah, he was better than me. I told myself this is a sign. The second time I saw him was at home with my family even when I didn’t decide if I accept him or not. That was his will, to be completely honest in front of my father.
He came every day for one month with a new gift and he used to give me so much attention… I woke up one day and I made istikharah, I told myself he has deen and akhlaq and looks sure about his decision. What do I want more??
At this time honestly I didn’t care about feelings or love , all I know is that I felt at ease, with someone sincere, who’s ready to do everything for his wife (that’s akhlaq) and he made me feel special and we could speak about deen together, become better together. We spoke about all of it.
I woke up one month later I told my mum I want him to be my husband and she didn’t believe, one week later a sheikh married us, one month later we did it officially and That’s it.
If you are with someone who listens, who apologizes, and RESPECT you, has fear of Allah, it’ll be a good marriage my sister. Maybe the best thing to do is to prepare all the important questions, Allah will show you if he’s sincere or not.
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What is his nationality/ ethnicity?
@@alisonelaa6742 he’s from Chili and Iraq. He’s a revert. We’re both Swiss too.
@@tasnimqurashi1245 You talk only about yourself how you met him, like how he was kind to you , how he has akhlak, how he gave you a gift every time he visited you.
But what about you? What did you do? Did you benefit him too? Because you only talk about yourself how you benefited from him.
I love the way he answered this question
You shouldnt get married without talking but you can get married without flirting
Lets share rewards ✨
1. SubhanAllah
2. Alhamdulillah
3. La ilaha illaAllah
4. Allahu Akbar
5. Astagfirullah wa'atubu ilaihi
6. SubhanAllahi wabi Hamdihi
SubhanAllahil Adheem
it's only going to take a few seconds!
Please recite!
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May we all be blessed with a pious partner
Ameen
Amen
Aameen
Ameen
The way talks about his wife is so beautiful MashaAllah
I agree..Marriage is a risk.. But trust Allah and make the decision. In sha Allah He will make it easy. But do your homework before making the decision with complete trust in Allah.
AlhamdulliAllah i have complete trust in Allah but what is the homework i want to know
@@muskakhan3278education
Fabulous..i am widow and i must want to share my experience about searching for life partner for 2nd time. I am 100 percnt agreed with whatever Omar Suleiman said.... really people are so rough and nonsense while talking on phonecalls even i cant share what kind of conversations they do as they are hunting for proposals....i yet pray to ALMIGHTY to guide and help me finding the right spouse.. requesting dua whoever is here..
What do you mean people are rough on phonecalls?
May Allah he grant you a pious husband
This video came in perfect timing where I am just tasked to write my marriage CV. Masha Allah 😀✨
Best of luck 😅
Marriage CV? I’ve never heard of this how does it work? Where do you post it?
@@shariqusoof5649 it's common to prepare Marriage CV/biodata in Pak/Indian/Bangla Muslims.... you send it to the other party directly or indirectly... or you post on marriage related whatsapp/Facebook groups....
@@statetechguru4804 yikes, I'd feel uncomfortable doing that.
Its making marriage too formal and transactional
@@Emsyaz I think its the best thing.... when you talk and ask the Girl or a Guy stuff like what does your dad do ? or whats girl's height, age, qualifications, job ? family background ? most often they lie or give vague responses.... they try to cat fish if you dont make it formal... it has to be formal, it has to be written, factual information you would be accountable for so people will write the truth... I think you are in a LaLa Land, you would end marrying a person who is only pretty on the outside (sometimes even that is not the case with all the makeup, they would deceive you in broad day light)...
i got married without flirting and im not even religious. There's something called friendship. That's how you get to know someone...
Ofcoarse a man and a women can be friends. Female logic
@@jordanqueen5873 I am best friends with my wife. If you can't be jokes on you pal...
Exactly
@@csgaiao33 after marriage? Yes you should be best friends with your wife.
But before marriage? Nope. Thats ridiculous
Subhanallah Allah is the wisest I just reflected why Allah would want us not to flirt and get emotional before marriage because it will lead to not see any flaws of your partner and end up surprised at the d which is the leading cause of a lot of divorces nowadays mas sha Allah
May Allah grant you all good spouses, including my own children. And may Allah make you blessing for each other in this world and hereafter. Ameen
Ameen.
Remember folks... Love is perspectical. Time passes, things happened and then your love interest will change. Love isnt the necessary thing in marriage. Marriage is a contract to live together and making a family. Love can be grown later. And dont ever worry, youll have plenty of times to grow that love bud. Marriage will bound you for the rest of your life, longer than any relationship in your past. All you have to do is just keep it growing and create more bonds with your partner and tadaah, its love
Dating is not a guarantee that you'll marry a good partner. I don't date with my husband, only talks by phone to get to know his personality in one month. But Alhamdulillah, he is the best husband ❤❤❤
Let verything is in Allah's hands, if you have a good partner and good intention to built relationship,may it last forever
You are so lucky Masha Allah. May Allah keep both of you blessed
Tysm for sharing these videos. These are very very helpful in clearing our misconceptions. We really need to get educated on these topics. Love your channel. I've learned sm from ur videos. May Allah give you more amd more success
SUCH an important topic! Jazak Allahu khair for posting!
I am amazed by the way he explained this topic and all the praiser to his wife, MasAllah!
It is very nice to see Imam Omar Suleiman :)
MashaAllah may Allah reward you for your insights, yr knowledge and the clear and simple way that you explain everything so beautifully
I dont find religious geeks knowledgeable since most of them become ignorant of actual facts but I respect this person he has his facts straight, this is how people should learn religions.
I totally get what ur saying ! Too many ignorant so called religious people ! We need people who speak from Quran and uses logic
Perhaps you're talking about followers of false religions.
In Islam religiosity and sound reasoning goes hand in hand.
What a wonderful message from Shaikh Omar Sulaiman. May Allah bless you. You are doing a great job for the Ummah.
Few days ago I heard someone (non muslim ) saying that we should use our brain our heart when both considering marriage ,the dopamine and oxytocin effect will go but not your covictions and this goes along with the teachings of islam
Forget about the advice of the kiffar
@@Emsyaz
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Ok a guys family is going to come to see me in few days
And today this is in my recommendation
SubahAllah
One of my favorite scholars 😊
Unbeleivably pleasant to hear from such wise people, Masha'a Allah!
Such a wholesome video Mashallah!
The part of your judgement getting clouded is on point
True. May Allah help us in these critical matters.
Maa'sha'Allah 🌹 Allah bless u & ur abode as well all couples Ameen 🤲
1:37 honestly this is amazing,I hope to be like this one day in sha allah
I have applying this guildelines, but people find me weird. They keep questioning my behaviour, being sceptical, see me in a strange way whenever I avoid to hangout for movie, rejecting flirty words, etc. I do not care, I keep going with this guideline lol
But 1 thing that used to make me think twice, it is when my closet friend even worried about me.
You are not weird. you can hangout during the day, movies, lunch, art galleries during the day and not at night. You don’t need to justify your beliefs but don’t be harsh with people too. For close friends those that don’t understand you, that’s their life and you have yours. Don’t be discouraged, you’ll get the right person just for you by the grace of God.
@@niolab7 hangout to a nice place with nonmehram during the day? I know it is normal in society, but Idk why my heart keep rejecting that. Especially when I know that one who ask me for going out is the one who have a 'special' intention..
@@stwxrgi8195 to be comfortable always go with a family member and socialize in group functions. Forgive me for prying into your personal life , but would you consider an arranged marriage? In the sense that, get someone’s details, research their family and make sure all their values align with yours and is also looking for a wife. After screening from parents, meet the person physically in a group setting. If you’re interested, keep speaking to them on the phone and set up occasional dates (in groups) until the wedding.
@@niolab7 simple answer no
There is no such thing talking over the phone before marriage
You are not weird you are mindful, let them who doesn't have same mindset as you misunderstood you. They can understand when they want. May Allah guide us all ❤
It is the best to look for someone who have fear of Allah and have love for Allah. I hope we all can find that kind of people
Alhamdulillah
May Allah bless us with good spouse 🙌
It was so beautiful and gave me the motivation and revived my faith in Allah
❤❤❤
God bless you and all the mindful people of the right path of Islam
Beautifully explained. Such a realist approach MashAllah
Mashaa Allah thanks for sharing this powerful message May Allah reward you
Thanks for subtitles! Keep going!
Thank you soo much for posting this video. We liked it.
Very straight to the point and clear 6/10
Asalamualaikum wallahumatullahi wabarakat.Waiting patiently for a Muslim righteous man.may Allah bless all of us. Inshaa Allah
This was very insightful. Thanks so much for sharing.
Masha Allah
That's a beautiful story
May Ya Allah protect and guide your family entirely and us all, Ameen
MashaAllah Jazakallahu Khairan this really helped me a lot thankyou
Alhamdulillah I am a proud Muslim 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
This is what I searching for, thank you
Thank you for your work! May Allah be pleased with you!
Thank you for this video. It helps me a lot ☺️
Such a beautiful advice❣️
Beautiful explanation, hope i’ll have chance to knowing someone with this kind of way
I am a 30-year-old single man who graduated from university
Pray for me to marry a good wife
May Allah grant you a pious wife bro
May Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) guide Dr. Omar Suleiman. Ameen!
Surprising to see a heartwarming comment from you regarding him. And Ameen to your duas
This guy is so chill
I reverted to Islam six years ago and have been introduced to many Sisters for marriage. I immediately discounted the ones that immediately showed they were primarily concerned with my career, house, car, assets...and had no concern about my Deen. But what shocked me most was the huge discrepancy in what was asked for Mahr. The Sister that asked me for the most precious gift was an Indonesian that wanted a Qur'an that contained the original Arabic but also Bahasa and English translations the one that wanted the most expensive gift was Turkish and requested eight gold bracelets. Keep in mind, all would be living in my house, and have everything provided for them and some have a child I'd also care for, so demanding thousands of dollars worth of gold seemed excessive.
Did you find your spouse??
Alhamdulillah ✨. ALLAH bless your your family. Also ALLAH bless us to grant us righteous spouse so that we can get closer to ALLAH. ALHAMDULILLAH ✨. ing shaa ALLAH
Such great advice I hope a lot of signals hear this before getting married ❤ In Sha Allah 🤲🏼
*Singles
May Allah bless our brothers and sisters of ummah with Jannah ❤
Aameen summa Aameen ❤
2:30 flirting or going romantic before marriage is risky like you want that only and perfect blindly
ماشاءالله
جزاکم الله خیرا و بارک الله فیکم🌹
Masha ALLAH
Alhamdulillah.
May Allah SWT bless your marriage
Maşallah, May Allah swt sent me a good a caring husband in the right time
Thank you very much for the video!
MashaAllah tabarakallah that is very very beautiful n helpful conversation. Very important things to keep remember before starting a relationship.
His explanations are everything said I needed to hear.
Macha alah
May Allah the Almighty grant the Shaykh goodness in this Dunya and the Akhira Ameen
We need a longer video with sheikh
Very beautifully explained video!❤
This is one of the most eye opening videos of all times, it sheds light on the thing that I feared the most, that without a romantic relationship, without being committed to a person without being married, is it even possible to find the right person to get married? I doubted this no dating rule in Islam, and now I know how Allah (swt) always sees the big picture, another proof that He knows the best and knows what we don’t . SubhanAllah.
May we all get righteous spouses. Insha Allah
My question is what do you achieve even after knowing the person during dating.
Once you get married, you see a completely different version of them.
True that marriage is a risk
Exactly it is a risk so true
Thank you brother Omar.. I admire you, you are wise and calm and humorous. I like listening to your good words. Allah give u success!”
Barokallohu fiikum from Indonesia 🇲🇨🇵🇸
May Allah bless your wife sheikh Omar and your family and enter them into the highest rank of paradise. May you enter with them to paradise from whichever door you choose. I love you all for sake of Allah. May Allah protect and strengthen your marriage and make your home always full of love, laughter and peace 🤲🏽🌸
I pray for everyone watching this video the same as well. Continue to work on bettering your marriage and do justice by your family and may Allah bring ease, peace and much happiness to you all in your home 🤲🏽🌸 Say Amiiin.
What a beautiful answer Mashallah
Jazakallah khair to the channel for bringing this topic up.....Allah has blessed Shaykh Omar Suleiman with such wisdom Ma shaa Allah. May Allah bless him more. Aameen.
I Hope that everyone gets to see this before getting married and eventually benefit from these wise words. In shaa Allah.
Am impressed the way he praise his wife maashallah 🎉😊may Allah bless all of us with good husband ❤
Ameen
very short but very useful you`re the best
Salaam FROM LONDON SUBHANALLAH MAY YOU ALLWAYS BE BLESSED AMEEN.
Mashaallah,,so nice Islamic rules 😊