You better speak thats my motto " I forgive you over time but I wont forget what you did or said to me" as a reminder for me to stay away from you. and as for you to get the picture how your character can destroyed bond with yourself and others.💯
Naaah we genuinely do love everyone cause we can't help but see the good in them which exists everywhere. It's just that people are usually tempted to show their worse sides cause it's way easier.
Imo some of these are misconceptions because they're based on immature or unhealthy INFJs: such as tolerating liars - that's a codependent trait, and INFJs who grow up learn to call out liars instead of tolerating them. Also INFJs do take sides, especially when one side is a bully: we defend the weak. And with maturity comes better discernment, which translates that INFJs realize they cannot love everyone because not everyone can accept love. Peace.
Sense deception but tolerate it? Not true (at least for me). If I sense it I'm not going to tolerate it. Period. I can - and will - call you out on it.
I consider #3 to be wrong. It's more that we already put too much pressure on ourselves so we already criticize ourselves for something someone else criticizes us for. It becomes a lot to handle but we're not sensitive to criticizm per say. A good example is if someone makes us a criticizm we never thought about, we won't take it negatively. When we take it negatively it's because we've already thought about this same criticizm.
I guess the misunderstanding as extrovert cuz i try my best to fit in and it results that im loud people think im very talkative but i really want someone to share my feelings with but i think people just dont care so i keep my feelings to myself and always listen to others but still people make me feel left out even if im in a group
I feel the exact same way. I am very conscious of other’s feelings and behaviors and want to make them like me, so I adapt my personality to their liking.but this causes me to drain my energy and retreat into isolation. Btw I’m a stay too, would you like to be friends? 💕
If you’re one of the people in my group or class, I’ll try my best to never let you feel left out. It’s a horrible feeling and I don’t want people like you to feel that way. It’s very nice to you to just try to keep your feelings to yourself and not forcing yourself to dump on others, you’re a good person :)
No1. I will replace the word love with accepts or tolerates Love is very complex for an INFJ No3. INFJ are not affected by negative criticism, we accept the emotional limitations of others No7. We see deception in a person but more importantly we see the person, the question is why is this person deceptive
As an INFJ, I can tell you that I’m not necessarily materialistic, but I do care how others view me. So, when I dress, there’s a purpose, it’s not random. The artwork I hang on the wall reflects my personality. So, again, not necessarily materialistic, but kind of.
fr many, many people think they know me inside out but that's only the tip of the iceberg, i never show my true self to anybody :") i just adapt personalities based on the type of person i'm talking to and what they wanna hear
I can agree with number 8 the most! We don’t have to agree with the opinions of others all the time but we are so smart we understand why they believe it… or we can find a way to joke about it 😅
infj are not misunderstood for extrovert. they are very transparent to be introvert. infj aren't very sensitive to negative criticisms. they make negative or positive criticisms a joke. infj doesn't love everyone. they just don't care to some l.
INFJ's can be ambiverts depending on the circumstances and who they're around. Extraverted around those we are comfortable with and trust, but introverted around those who are unknown. This is due to how protective we are about our own issues and secrets. INFJ's are compassionate and caring towards others, but compassion and care for one's wellbeing is not the same as loving. Turning negative criticisms into a joke is often a defense mechanism. We can take criticism if levelled in a tactful manner, but it can cause harm and distrust if done so in a disrespectful or insulting way.
“Can sense deception but they tolerate it”. Yes, this is true. Not every lie needs to be called out if it doesn’t hurt you. Most people are just lying about silly things, like why they didn’t turn up to an event or something. “Mistaken for Extroverts” Yes! Often. “Love everyone”. Yes again.
Not very sensitive to negative criticism like others. I have noticed it many times. We take constructive criticism but if someone is purposely trying to put is down, I think we see right through them.
I feel most of what was said here. I used to wonder why i only gravitate towards people who i feel NEEDS me. I always want to be there for them, for them to feel they can depend on me. But it gets exhausting because they get to depend on you but you don't depend on anyone. I bottle up my feelings and sort myself out. But like i said, it's very exhausting and before you know it, you slowly detach from that person emotionally and just end up being a "therapist" to them. It's a trait i want to unlearn though. Again, as someone who tries to avoid conflicts, taking sides in a discord will not be my initial reaction. I'll most probably try to bring peace. What i won't stand anyway is bullying. I would most definitely defend the weaker person like i would defend myself. I'm a human lie detector😂😂😂. The minute changes in your expression, i see them all. But i will never tolerate it. If i smell a lie, I'm calling you out on it immediately. And ohh, don't bother trying to say sh!t behind me thinking i won't call you out on it... especially if you are someone i considered a friend. Since i can't keep smile while being upset with you, you'll definitely hear from me(because if i don't talk to you about it, i'll overthink). The part about being misunderstood as extrovert is so real. Most people who know me would beat their chest and swear that i'm extroverted... I'm upbeat for some 30mins before looking for quiet somewhere to recharge. Since i'm slightly a perfectionist, i like doing things to my standard so i can feel good about it. So i don't shy away from responsibilities or taking the lead. I don't have issues with public speaking but i mostly need to think and organize my thoughts before i speak... I'm chatty about things that interest me and i love making everyone feel welcomed because i know how it feels to feel like no one sees you. So, most people mistake me for an extrovert... Till they get very close to me. Then, i'm highly, extremely private. Sometimes i hear unbelievable rumors about myself and it cracks me up like hell. As an INFJ, i don't love everyone. I'm mostly indifferent about or just tolerate people till i get to know them well. I don't hate anyone either... I'm mostly that amiable girl who's everyone's go to for answers, even when we're not that tight.
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@ZombehPanda It's difficult for me to imagine having the ability to actually love every person on Earth assuming you're not some kind of all-loving diety
I wish the people close to me knew this. I can understand that there is no right or wrong when they confront me because they're just expressing themselves and what they think about me because they need to but I wonder how different it'd be if they knew I was sensitive to everything they projected while looking into my eyes. I hope they knew how much their actions affect me. It's so hard to keep up every single day and tolerate everything and people don't seem to understand the sacrifices we make. But I also know that it isn't their fault that they don't get it and that's why I kinda love everyone in spite of it all....
The last one I just cannot… for some reason I felt the inability to love myself or anyone after leaving a narcissistic friend 😢I just don’t know what to do to get back that love 😔
Sensing deception but tolerating it... I definitely decide whether it is better to make it known that I know of the deception or whether it is more beneficial to keep it to myself. Sometimes it is better not to let on and then they get careless or think you are oblivious to it. Other times it is better to bring it out and deal with it openly. At other times it isn't significant enough to make an issue of it and it just gets filed away. It all depends on the circumstances and the level of deception or if it is a betrayal. If it is betrayal it can sometimes be better to wait to the opportune time to use it strategically or to learn how deep and wide the betrayal itself is. So this is definitely something I find true about myself. The others all fit too.
INFJs, sometimes seemingly stare at you lovingly, while trying to "decode" you. Don't fall for it, keep the emotion shield on. Once they succeed breaching in, they can make you fall for them easily. -INTP
As an INFJ, I disagree with #7 "INFJ's can sense deception but they tolerate it" isn't correct. Whenever we sense deceptions or anything else about others, we mentally make a note of it. It seems like we tolerate it bc we allow it to happen until they've either done it several times or the amt of disrespect increases each time: that's when we do the INFJ door slam bc we kept hoping the person would reciprocate our honesty & authenticity, but instead, observe them repeating said deceptions, etc until we've had enough...
Most males you notice are ESTP-ish. Red pill says that most men are invisible to women - as a result of evolutionary biology, they only tend to notice attractive, dominant men. This tends to favor ESTP’s.
Exactly! I give my love and respect to everyone, but people drain and misunderstand me so much that I end up hating them on the inside. I won’t show that though, because I want everyone to be loved.
Infjs love almost everyone we forgive but never forget how some people have treated us we let God or the universe you guys name it take care of it
That sounds like an empath who hasn't changed unto an infj yet.. Because I certainly do not love everyone lol
@@kaprinal492 we might like many people some INFJs are truly empaths
@katrinaz492 how exactly can you change into an INFJ? You're either born one or not
You better speak thats my motto " I forgive you over time but I wont forget what you did or said to me" as a reminder for me to stay away from you. and as for you to get the picture how your character can destroyed bond with yourself and others.💯
True it's impossible for them to truly hate someone cause they always hope it could have been different for them to have a better relationship.
We love everyone but we prefer to do that from a distance because we also love to be alone most of the time😂
No the INFJ doesn't need anyone to know anything 😂 nor do we really care what people think. It's a learned skill most wish they acquired
I would say it depends if what people think is relevant or not. If it's complete bias we just stop caring and listening.
INFJs mostly want to be left the fuck alone 😂
You're spitting facts my brother
Hahahaha--so true!
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We do, but man soon as a friend really needs us we’ll be their for them no matter what
#1 I get but at the same time we don't love everyone.
Then you’re not an infj
I'm an infj but that's true I
respect people and see best in them ..at the same time I hate everyone
@@treyback123 Except I am an INFJ. As I said, I do love everyone and at the same time I don't. Even other comments below say the same thing as INFJ's
@@vynamoon1574 I love everyone as individuals but as a whole I hate people.
Naaah we genuinely do love everyone cause we can't help but see the good in them which exists everywhere. It's just that people are usually tempted to show their worse sides cause it's way easier.
Imo some of these are misconceptions because they're based on immature or unhealthy INFJs: such as tolerating liars - that's a codependent trait, and INFJs who grow up learn to call out liars instead of tolerating them. Also INFJs do take sides, especially when one side is a bully: we defend the weak. And with maturity comes better discernment, which translates that INFJs realize they cannot love everyone because not everyone can accept love. Peace.
Sense deception but tolerate it? Not true (at least for me). If I sense it I'm not going to tolerate it. Period. I can - and will - call you out on it.
Nah it depends bro
Same goes with me. I'm an infj-T and I can't even control my facial expression when I annoyed or angry. So tolerate to deception is very hard to me
I consider #3 to be wrong. It's more that we already put too much pressure on ourselves so we already criticize ourselves for something someone else criticizes us for. It becomes a lot to handle but we're not sensitive to criticizm per say. A good example is if someone makes us a criticizm we never thought about, we won't take it negatively. When we take it negatively it's because we've already thought about this same criticizm.
True
"It is far easier to whisper advice from cover than to risk its merit at the point of attack." Sir Cedric Willingham (INFJ).
I guess the misunderstanding as extrovert cuz i try my best to fit in and it results that im loud people think im very talkative but i really want someone to share my feelings with but i think people just dont care so i keep my feelings to myself and always listen to others but still people make me feel left out even if im in a group
I feel the exact same way. I am very conscious of other’s feelings and behaviors and want to make them like me, so I adapt my personality to their liking.but this causes me to drain my energy and retreat into isolation. Btw I’m a stay too, would you like to be friends? 💕
@@Muyuyu439 I'm glad that I'm not alone ofc let's be friends then
If you’re one of the people in my group or class, I’ll try my best to never let you feel left out. It’s a horrible feeling and I don’t want people like you to feel that way. It’s very nice to you to just try to keep your feelings to yourself and not forcing yourself to dump on others, you’re a good person :)
@@baeldaikokuten_yj6792 thank you but what kind of person are u?
No1. I will replace the word love with accepts or tolerates
Love is very complex for an INFJ
No3. INFJ are not affected by negative criticism, we accept the emotional limitations of others
No7. We see deception in a person but more importantly we see the person, the question is why is this person deceptive
As an INFJ, I can tell you that I’m not necessarily materialistic, but I do care how others view me. So, when I dress, there’s a purpose, it’s not random. The artwork I hang on the wall reflects my personality. So, again, not necessarily materialistic, but kind of.
4 is most impt.if someone does not respect your privacy they are out.
fr many, many people think they know me inside out but that's only the tip of the iceberg, i never show my true self to anybody :") i just adapt personalities based on the type of person i'm talking to and what they wanna hear
I can agree with number 8 the most! We don’t have to agree with the opinions of others all the time but we are so smart we understand why they believe it… or we can find a way to joke about it 😅
Fact no. 1 we care about others silently without showing 😢😢😢
Everything: ehh kinda true 😅
Last one: HECK NO NO NO NO
Just bc we are kind and see good in people doesn't mean we love EVERYONE 😶
All very true especially liking our privacy.
infj are not misunderstood for extrovert. they are very transparent to be introvert.
infj aren't very sensitive to negative criticisms. they make negative or positive criticisms a joke.
infj doesn't love everyone. they just don't care to some l.
Are you one?
I act as extrovert haha😅
I’m very often mistaken as an extravert but usually by people that aren’t around me on a regular basis! It’s based on my battery life at the time!
INFJ's can be ambiverts depending on the circumstances and who they're around. Extraverted around those we are comfortable with and trust, but introverted around those who are unknown. This is due to how protective we are about our own issues and secrets.
INFJ's are compassionate and caring towards others, but compassion and care for one's wellbeing is not the same as loving.
Turning negative criticisms into a joke is often a defense mechanism. We can take criticism if levelled in a tactful manner, but it can cause harm and distrust if done so in a disrespectful or insulting way.
@@sapphirephoenix9809same
“Can sense deception but they tolerate it”. Yes, this is true. Not every lie needs to be called out if it doesn’t hurt you. Most people are just lying about silly things, like why they didn’t turn up to an event or something. “Mistaken for Extroverts” Yes! Often. “Love everyone”. Yes again.
Not very sensitive to negative criticism like others. I have noticed it many times. We take constructive criticism but if someone is purposely trying to put is down, I think we see right through them.
Not loving Everyone - keep remembering the door slams 😅
We don’t tolerate liars, we expect it and therefore don’t trust anyone.
I feel most of what was said here. I used to wonder why i only gravitate towards people who i feel NEEDS me. I always want to be there for them, for them to feel they can depend on me. But it gets exhausting because they get to depend on you but you don't depend on anyone. I bottle up my feelings and sort myself out. But like i said, it's very exhausting and before you know it, you slowly detach from that person emotionally and just end up being a "therapist" to them.
It's a trait i want to unlearn though.
Again, as someone who tries to avoid conflicts, taking sides in a discord will not be my initial reaction. I'll most probably try to bring peace. What i won't stand anyway is bullying. I would most definitely defend the weaker person like i would defend myself.
I'm a human lie detector😂😂😂. The minute changes in your expression, i see them all. But i will never tolerate it. If i smell a lie, I'm calling you out on it immediately. And ohh, don't bother trying to say sh!t behind me thinking i won't call you out on it... especially if you are someone i considered a friend. Since i can't keep smile while being upset with you, you'll definitely hear from me(because if i don't talk to you about it, i'll overthink).
The part about being misunderstood as extrovert is so real. Most people who know me would beat their chest and swear that i'm extroverted... I'm upbeat for some 30mins before looking for quiet somewhere to recharge. Since i'm slightly a perfectionist, i like doing things to my standard so i can feel good about it. So i don't shy away from responsibilities or taking the lead. I don't have issues with public speaking but i mostly need to think and organize my thoughts before i speak... I'm chatty about things that interest me and i love making everyone feel welcomed because i know how it feels to feel like no one sees you. So, most people mistake me for an extrovert... Till they get very close to me.
Then, i'm highly, extremely private. Sometimes i hear unbelievable rumors about myself and it cracks me up like hell.
As an INFJ, i don't love everyone. I'm mostly indifferent about or just tolerate people till i get to know them well. I don't hate anyone either... I'm mostly that amiable girl who's everyone's go to for answers, even when we're not that tight.
To know me is to take bite out of life. To Love me is to not chew thoroughly.
That was beautiful yo, very well said my brother/sister
Well put.!u get a piece not the whole.
love this quote!
Absolutely true !. If u get a piece you are lucky. Dont be greedy. You won't get the whole. Nobody does.!
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No 1 isn't true. You can't love everyone.
It's possible to love everyone. That doesn't mean you have to like everyone.
@ZombehPanda It's difficult for me to imagine having the ability to actually love every person on Earth assuming you're not some kind of all-loving diety
That means equality...😇 true INFJ will absolutely understand it...
As a INFJ. Yes you can. But that does not mean I like everyone. 👍✌ some people are just jerks. But I wish them we'll. far away from me.
@@marcintarnawski980 think outside the box.
Spot on....at least according to this 36 year old.
Same!
Yeahhhh we are always being misunderstood, especially that being very private hits really hard😂
Knowing with no action. What for..? I'm rather happy locked up for another century...!!!
Ye I don’t love everyone, But have emphathy for those who are faced with unfairness or unjustice ❤
As a INFJ. This is all true for the most part. And I do like my stuff. But I know its stuff.
And ummmm..... free hugs for all that need it. 🙂🎊🎉💪🏻✌👍
I wish the people close to me knew this. I can understand that there is no right or wrong when they confront me because they're just expressing themselves and what they think about me because they need to but I wonder how different it'd be if they knew I was sensitive to everything they projected while looking into my eyes. I hope they knew how much their actions affect me. It's so hard to keep up every single day and tolerate everything and people don't seem to understand the sacrifices we make. But I also know that it isn't their fault that they don't get it and that's why I kinda love everyone in spite of it all....
I love everyone. I forgive them but I've never FORGET what they did to me.
I am an INFJ and although I hate people, I still want what’s best for humanity 😊
The last one I just cannot… for some reason I felt the inability to love myself or anyone after leaving a narcissistic friend 😢I just don’t know what to do to get back that love 😔
Time for the door slam for the narcissist. But open others to good people.
@@tarafox6618 yep :3 she doesn’t know I was door slamming her
@@ironeggsandham this is why I’m afraid of love :(
Spot on ❤❤❤
Cool. Not one off. Well done
All of these are accurate for me personally
False I dislike a lot of people. Mainly people who caused me trouble 💀 and they legit aren't stopping the drama!
I can't agree with the 8th point: we can take part in discords if there's an injustice from the other part.
i feel like this short make us seem like really good people when we're not... :P
Sensing deception but tolerating it... I definitely decide whether it is better to make it known that I know of the deception or whether it is more beneficial to keep it to myself. Sometimes it is better not to let on and then they get careless or think you are oblivious to it. Other times it is better to bring it out and deal with it openly. At other times it isn't significant enough to make an issue of it and it just gets filed away. It all depends on the circumstances and the level of deception or if it is a betrayal. If it is betrayal it can sometimes be better to wait to the opportune time to use it strategically or to learn how deep and wide the betrayal itself is. So this is definitely something I find true about myself. The others all fit too.
Gosh so accurate ❤
I don't love everyone lol
- INFJ
INFJs, sometimes seemingly stare at you lovingly, while trying to "decode" you.
Don't fall for it, keep the emotion shield on.
Once they succeed breaching in, they can make you fall for them easily.
-INTP
Oh, how true 💯
"I dis agree about no.7 i'm not tolerated ay deception i still stand for the truth !"
He get what he fricking does
Number 5! Yep.
no.5 is true for me 😅
@ontrack where did this speaker go?
Almost accurate... the love every one thing, I would absolutely have to disagree with. Bt I'm also an enneagram 8, s maybe I'm a tad bit different idk
#11 - Don't screw with us, or we will expose you for who you really are, and we will crush your soul.
I’m not sure about #1.. Could just be me but NOPE!.. Not really a people person, yeah if I get to know you & you’re cool then 👍🏼
As an INFJ, I disagree with #7 "INFJ's can sense deception but they tolerate it" isn't correct. Whenever we sense deceptions or anything else about others, we mentally make a note of it. It seems like we tolerate it bc we allow it to happen until they've either done it several times or the amt of disrespect increases each time: that's when we do the INFJ door slam bc we kept hoping the person would reciprocate our honesty & authenticity, but instead, observe them repeating said deceptions, etc until we've had enough...
Private no especially when it comes to my feelings and emotions and being played with and cheated on.
But there is a diffence between a healthy and an unhealthy INFJ.
Number one is wrong.
10/10 👌
Nope, i dont tolerate deceptions.
3 is false. Critism can't be dictated!
yeah
I am the INFJ one.
I'm INFJ and materialistic 😂😂😂
#10 is literally every single human.
Lol. I'm good, but I'm not that good.
Most males I knew are estpish.
Most males you notice are ESTP-ish. Red pill says that most men are invisible to women - as a result of evolutionary biology, they only tend to notice attractive, dominant men. This tends to favor ESTP’s.
No, they just wish they were one. 🦾🧠
That's meeeee.
I was INFJ until you said that they are more like extroverts
True
Checks out
true
We love and hate people at the same time, it’s complex if you know…you know #INFJ
Exactly! I give my love and respect to everyone, but people drain and misunderstand me so much that I end up hating them on the inside. I won’t show that though, because I want everyone to be loved.
No i dont love the girl i shared my dorm room with .
Number 1 and 2 are a no for me
So dont f with me cause i can get brutal when provoked
Most of issues, in my experence, are off.
#1
Infj can be materialists bruhh
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Number 11: INFJs are only ever women or
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I would disagree that infj loves everyone
Definitely don’t love everyone
Sounds like infp
Some of these are.....questionable
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
No fken way he is toxic
infj do not tolerate deception
As an INFJ, I have a Love-Hate relationship with all of the humans😂
We love all ... No one love us😢
INFJs are overrated😂
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