'밥 먹었어? / Have you eaten rice/a meal?' in today's vernacular in South Korea basically means 'How are you?' It shouldn't necessarily be taken 100% literally every time. As I understand it, Korea was a much poorer country in the past compared to now and eating to the point of being full wasn't always a given. So, if you ate a good meal, that meant you had a good day. The sentiment applies today despite our living conditions being drastically different.
Also it's about 밥심! Like full-stomach power meaning, people in Korea think that when you have an empty stomach you don't have the energy to go on with the day. And it's like caring and also saying hi too.
This sort of sentiment isn’t limited to the Korean language. I guess it’s all about exposure and the culture you are exposed to as well. Also, it could be a translation issue at times - some phrases in Korean seem a bit too direct to me for a British English speaker. However, I am also Nigerian so I understand how direct one is sometimes a cultural thing.
if you want a serious relationship, maybe a dating app or even a blind date is not a good idea. Relationship starts with friendship, attraction and respect for each other.
Actually, a blind date in Korea is a really good option because you’re meeting people that your friends trust who are actually interested in a relationship. Blind dates are different in Korea from our perception in the west :)
I mean.. she literally said she thought she wasn’t feeling it to him and that’s what made the first guy start crying. There’s nothing wrong with dating around. But you mentioned attraction and she said she didn’t feel it. What’s the problem?
@@NsTheName then why do u go korea if you don't want to hook up they know you are not marriage material as they only will want experience with you because those guys are poor or middle class in korea.so you also have to work hard and rare the kids also.korean men who are rich or top uni ones are focused on career and don't want these type of gf who have high body counts already so girls reality after marriage is very different surviving in korea now a days is very hard if you are not doctor or top earner's wife.working while you have child of 1 yr is very hard and looks will fed away after 30 and you would get bored a marriage is 30 yrs atleast you may get attraction for 1 yr after that its all same nobody is saint you know.so focus on your career and move to western country where pay is good i am not talking to gold dig for yu but be careful towards a good heart and earning man otherwise your whole life would be miserable.Its all fun till you get 29 years of age never ever choose looks or certain ethencity always focus on where would you earn more or max money to have comfortable life where you can travel for twice a yr honestly if you lock yourself to certain type you would loose all good men.My friend is studying med in korea thats why i know this and he said to me those girls can only marry the low value ones because most career guys go to pub for experience.As a boy i can only give you this advice never fall for looks there will be thousand good looking man but 1 man good at heart.I could say you should go to these places if you really want to be safe in life sweden germany uk usa japan hong kong and singapore but if you want to be youtuber then go to korea india china usa these country give good views.Lastly don't make your life regrettable
appreciated the sentiment, but the first red flag is calling us females if you call yourself a man, then call us women and not females bc that term is for other expressions
I think the men just need to realize how women around the world work. Majority of us do not just sleep with people. We actually have to like a man for his personality.
@@nusratbhat825 think about who produces and consumes those movies… MEN. Women movie production companies depict western women differently. Also have you ever watched the hallmark channel? Or look up movies produced by Reese Witherspoon. You may find the truth in those films.
@@nusratbhat825bro it's not just american girls having those problems. look at the video, there's an Indian, spanish, italian, etc girls. Stop blaming the girls and start teaching the boys
@nusratbhat825 It's because of Hollywood. I’m from Europe and when I was younger, I thought Americans had sex easily, but when I grow up I realized that's not the case that most of them are conservatives. But there are still some differences like being "exclusive" in Europe at least where I'm from you can't flirt or get physical with several persons like it's normal before deciding to date only one, if people knows you will be called a jerk.
Girl at 2:00 . . . I had the same experience as a white guy dating in Korea. Was dating a nice girl but she clearly wanted a non-Korean long term BF/husband. It felt weird. When I met my (now) Korean wife, she didn't seem to care and had been engaged to a Korean guy previously, which was a good thing in my mind. I didn't want to be fetishized either.
@@ZeroPurpleRansom’cause it’s really fucking weird to only date people based on their race and not who they are as people, but honestly just in general, i would be freaked out if someone i was dating had all exes who looked just like me. frankly i think people who "have a type" are really weird.
@@sgtmianYou think it’s weird but you can’t change what other people likes. Caring and hating so much about other people’s preferences is weirder than people pursuing what they like.
🖤 Unfortunately this behavior is not only subject to South Korean men. The average guy has little to no understanding of how attraction works and typically comes off very needy, weak and insecure which causes them to chase and pursue their romantic interests to the point where they either get ignored, friendzoned or ghosted completely. The common complaints every single girl shared in the video mentioned were that the guys are too clingy, rushing things before she’s ready, too attentive and coming off as horny jerks only interested in sex. The right approach to dating is that guys should focus on taking a genuine interest getting to know her and what she’s all about. When going on dates their primary objective is to make her laugh, have fun and enjoy each other’s company. Fellas, our (sensible) lady friends don’t want a “nice guy” or a “badboy jerk”, they want a gentleman who they can trust, respect and admire so let’s do better and lead by example! 🖤
❤ very well said.. 🎉 I don’t think I could have said it better myself since it would have been coming from a females perspective so to actually read this message and see that a male has said all that.. well I am really impressed! Kudos to you 😊🎉❤ And kudos to who ever raised/influenced you to have grown with such an awesome perspective and personality 🎉😊 (Of course this is just my opinion an I hope this message is not offensive in anyway shape or form) 😊
@@eli7bracha Thanks so much for your kind words! I would like to pay respects and honor my father and mother who raised and instilled in me the morals and values i follow to this day Men & women should put more focus on trying to learn and understand one another that way we’ll be able to have more successful, healthy, long term relationships 👩🏼❤️💋👨🏻
@@eli7bracha then why do u go korea if you don't want to hook up they know you are not marriage material as they only will want experience with you because those guys are poor or middle class in korea.so you also have to work hard and rare the kids also.korean men who are rich or top uni ones are focused on career and don't want these type of gf who have high body counts already so girls reality after marriage is very different surviving in korea now a days is very hard if you are not doctor or top earner's wife.working while you have child of 1 yr is very hard and looks will fed away after 30 and you would get bored a marriage is 30 yrs atleast you may get attraction for 1 yr after that its all same nobody is saint you know.so focus on your career and move to western country where pay is good i am not talking to gold dig for yu but be careful towards a good heart and earning man otherwise your whole life would be miserable.Its all fun till you get 29 years of age never ever choose looks or certain ethencity always focus on where would you earn more or max money to have comfortable life where you can travel for twice a yr honestly if you lock yourself to certain type you would loose all good men.My friend is studying med in korea thats why i know this and he said to me those girls can only marry the low value ones because most career guys go to pub for experience.As a boy i can only give you this advice never fall for looks there will be thousand good looking man but 1 man good at heart.I could say you should go to these places if you really want to be safe in life sweden germany uk usa japan hong kong and singapore but if you want to be youtuber then go to korea india china usa these country give good views.Lastly don't make your life regrettable
I do think the clingy texting and “let’s be exclusive NOW” behaviour is pretty korean tbh. They have such intense dating culture. I never seen this thing in canada. I agree tho, it feels very insecure vibes, idk why it’s so much more common tho.
@@spook6394 The problem is that men and women have been propagandized by societal conditioning through tv, movies, music and various other forms of media into believing a false dysfunctional reality of how attraction works between sexes. Men are brainwashed to think that they need to chase more and that dating is some kind of mad dash to the finish line where they have to rush into locking a woman down into a commitment otherwise someone else might come along and take her away from them. Women on the other hand are taught to act more stoic and be in their masculine, essentially behaving in ways that are the complete opposite of their normal feminine nature. Ultimately the sexual polarities end up flipping in the wrong direction resulting in men acting more like women and women acting more like men. When people act and behave in ways outside of their core essence (masculinitity which is typical in most men and femininity which is typical in most women) it feels unnatural and causes a loss of attraction.
It is about the attitude, foreigners are not stupid and when someone act like you are easy to sleep it is so disappointing... They basically treat foreigners like prostitute and then if other part not act in their assumptions they surprise 😂 So as a woman when someone act like i am an object to admire i understand the situation and feel awkward... The crying guy is so cringe to me. Run girl run 😅. I am sometimes treated that way in my country bcs my mom is foreigner and some guys assume i am easy
Again TV's fault. Just like some western girl tend to think korean guys are like in romantic kdrama, some korean guy tend to think that western girl are all straight out of Euphoria or something.
It's a part of the East Asian culture. They used to be really poor back in the day and people would ask each other if had eaten/ had something to eat. If they did, it meant they were doing well. So basically it's equal to: "How's it going".
Exactly. When you break a 'hello' sentence down it literally means 'hi, how are you - have you eaten?'' But it is not being nosey, this is the way the polite greeting sentence has been for years and the person doesn't literally want to know what you've eaten - it's a thing called manners which seems to be disappearing around the world today.
If a guy at a club ever tells you that he's looking for a relationship, REGARDLESS OF WHERE IN THE WORLD YOU ARE, you should be pretty skeptical. Sure, there are some out there, but I think men lying about this in this kind of setting is quite common everywhere.
Jealousy is romanticized in k-dramas; it's like when you are jealous, *that's* when you know it's love. But for most of us, jealousy is something you have to deal with yourself. I of course want to be able to meet with friends without my date (now husband) gets angry. Likewise, I will just have to deal with my own feelings of insecurity when he meets with pretty girls who are his friends. (He used to have one friend in particular, that he met a lot. And they *were* just friends, but I just had to hold my breath and say that to myself). Only if the other one is actually unfaithful or acts so strange that it would make anyone uncomfortable (lying about where they are, for example, coming home from the city after having slept elsewhere, hiding whom they speak to on the phone) will it be okay to say that you want to change some things. because they are making you uncomfortable. While in k-dramas it's like "Don't ever be alone with other men" and "That looks good on you, - from now on, only wear it when you are alone with me," and "You smiled while you talked to him!"
such a great observation!! i think jealousy is also romanticized in YA romance films like Twilight and things like that, but outside of that genre and in more modern films especially, it’s considered to be a lot more of a personal issue that one has to grow as a person and deal with rather than something to aspire to/proof of love. probably some of that comes from recognizing that intense jealousy can lead to toxic relationships such as ones that forbid their partner from certain friendships and such then again, i see influencers asking their partners what they would do in [x] situation where if it’s an interaction with someone they could be romantically interested in they can’t even do things like hold doors or recognize they’re pretty/handsome, etc. if they allow that then they “fail the test.” i truly hope that’s mostly a social media thing, though (and it’s played for jokes, so idk how serious they are about it)
In my country,its heavily normalized. Its common case here women are abused or worse killed because their husbands are possessive. My mom's bestfriend has been kicked out of their house because her husband thought she's cheating. This trait is such a turn off
Have you eaten is basically a Korean way of saying are you doing well and taking care of yourself? It is showing that you care about someone's health and well being. I remember meeting a Korean guy years ago and we had a college class together and we only saw each other in class and I was polite and always said hello. He had a bit of a language barrier but was intelligible. He asked me to be his girlfriend without ever having chatted outside class or ever going out and then he offered me all his furniture and stuff when he left. I felt very bad I couldn't reciprocate anything but I was just in utter shock and really very little was known about Korean dating culture out west at the time.
@ArohaStill "I felt very bad I couldn't reciprocate anything..." Don't feel bad, just trust your woman's intuition. That guy you met - he misinterpreted your friendliness as romantic interest. This happens a lot with men who have no social skills, low self-esteem, or experience with women - i.e., a Beta male. Always ask yourself: would this guy ever behave like this with a Korean woman? 99% of the time the answer is "no."
then why do u go korea if you don't want to hook up they know you are not marriage material as they only will want experience with you because those guys are poor or middle class in korea.so you also have to work hard and rare the kids also.korean men who are rich or top uni ones are focused on career and don't want these type of gf who have high body counts already so girls reality after marriage is very different surviving in korea now a days is very hard if you are not doctor or top earner's wife.working while you have child of 1 yr is very hard and looks will fed away after 30 and you would get bored a marriage is 30 yrs atleast you may get attraction for 1 yr after that its all same nobody is saint you know.so focus on your career and move to western country where pay is good i am not talking to gold dig for yu but be careful towards a good heart and earning man otherwise your whole life would be miserable.Its all fun till you get 29 years of age never ever choose looks or certain ethencity always focus on where would you earn more or max money to have comfortable life where you can travel for twice a yr honestly if you lock yourself to certain type you would loose all good men.My friend is studying med in korea thats why i know this and he said to me those girls can only marry the low value ones because most career guys go to pub for experience.As a boy i can only give you this advice never fall for looks there will be thousand good looking man but 1 man good at heart.I could say you should go to these places if you really want to be safe in life sweden germany uk usa japan hong kong and singapore but if you want to be youtuber then go to korea india china usa these country give good views.Lastly don't make your life regrettable
thats a guy? Thot that was a girl. So hard to tell with asians if the men grow out their hair, they end up looking like 50% of their women. IN fact the silicon valley guy has a whole stand up about how he's more attractive than 70% of chinese girls with long hair.
I've watched so many episodes of "my neighbour, charles (?)" Of foreign women who married korean men living with nothing but regrets. It's sad to me. Most of the men were controlling and reduced their foreign wives to maids and nannies. The girl who described Hongdae men reminded me of what my korean friend who who told me that some korean men only date foreigners because they think they're easy (sexual), but don't actually date for marriage. I think they said the term was like "white horse" or something like that.
you guys talk to strangers in libraries? curious because to me it doesn't sound like the best place to meet new people as you aren't allowed to talk really (except for cafés that are inside when it's a huge library)
@@_CL From past experience, I feel like a guy would be recptive (but maybe confused) about being approached while studying in a library but if you make eye contact, a smile and a small wave can do wonders! 😉
I heard that the korean girls want to date foreign guys because they’re often taller, more muscular (though that’s more because of Western skeletal measurements being larger than Asian in general) and considered sexier? Most of the girls want to date them for the experience but not marry
I am a foreigner girl living in Seul since 2015 and i have ton of experiences with korean men.. I met few ex korean bfs on korean dating apps and we had a long term relationship. So it is possible but forget about tinder or other westerner dating apps. Just few lucky people found love there. Also if you wanna just have a ons go in clubs and bars but don t expect a relationship😅. These are hookup places.
I personally would love the cultural differences. Like asking "Have you eaten?" it's a custom, not really that if you have eaten! I'm down for everything they want to do, that is the purpose of dating in a DIFERENT culture for me. That is fun! The only thing that saddens me is the perception that we are just for fun or a one night stand. Specially when they are lying that they want something else.
Yes !! I hope he explained it to those two girls off camera. "Have you eaten?" for Koreans is like "Hi, how are are you?" mixed with "How have you been doing today?" The guy is showing that he really cares for a girl, it's actually very sweet when you know the meaning behind it. It's very common question to ask and I hope someone will explain it to them so they don't misunderstand when the next guy asks them the same question, because it will happen 😁💕🇰🇷
actually asking have you eaten is normal and actually shows that guy cares that you are taking care of and you feel safe coz for me these little things matter like yeah thats sweet but ofc its different for everyone but i dont find that weird
And as an American I’m shocked that girl said she’s never heard it. I’ve never dated a guy who wasn’t concerned about if I ate or what I ate 3 times a day and if they find out I hadn’t they try to send me Uber eats or something. It’s just part of being attentive maybe it’s in the type of men she’s choosing.
the fetishising is actually disgusting, a lot of Korean guys use phrases such as 'riding a white horse' and worse just to brag about sleeping with a white girl/foreigner. stay safe out there, girlies
You are overreacting. The same can be applied for Korean girls who strictly date American GI station in Korea. On the internet people like these seems to be the majority when it is not the case. Internet thus overdramatise things. Some few weird people behind computers making weird comments on internet doesn't meant it represents the majority.
@@Youyouhssssjjjnnhbb-xj7yl overreacting? i've seen/heard/experienced it myself, in person, not just over the internet. the Korean girls strictly dating American GI are also not any better....they only care about ethnicity and not who the person is. some Korean guys out there actually are that disgusting in person and talk about foreign women like they are objects for sexual desire and not humans
@@jhan5300well said dude It's so true They treat their partners like a trophy but when they have their fill it becomes a commodity for them . They are like chase you to your house to date you and confess to you But behind your back they treat you like those silicon sex dolls . May you find someone who will compliment your personality and who is loyal to you and you will be loyal to him/her( sorry I don't know who partner whether it's her or him😅😅😅 well who cares )
I’m not a crazy K-pop fan, but I have always been interested in Asian men, but I’ve been brushed off by Asian men or not thinking they like me because generally asian men tend to date or marry their own, or marry, white women, while with their female the counterparts it’s a different story
İ am watching you bcs of to improve my English and learn new cultures. You are adding English subtitles and it is really good. Keep going i enjoy your videos 😎👍
I have watched some interviews where korean men were asked if they'd marry a foreigner. Ofcourse some were there who talked about having serious relationship and marrying them but many of them were like they'd only keep it to dating and won't marry her. Korean men are mostly about having fun, use foreign girls and leave them. It's better to carefully analyse the man before getting into relationship with them (be it dating or making it official)
I hope we all know how to take of ourselves and learned to avoid red flags. If its clearly a red flag, then we shouldn't continue honestly. Yes, sometimes love doesn't work as the way it wants. But i guess wait for the the right person when the time is right. I watch kdrama too, honestly yje reason why I love it so much not because the romance raise up my standards, because it really shows about treating well with each other. The whole point of love basically. Same like any other entertainment. Who doesn't like romance novel when there are such perfect description poems about eternity love also loyalty. Sooo. Too all of us this is something i would like to remind to myself. Life is not a fantasy. Stay single for the rest of your life only until someone compliment to get along well, which to make u feel better and know is better to not be single. Or else it won't be worth it. Red flags especially from guys I'm afraid will come to u more if we just keep continuing and settled for less. I'm saying based on experience as well and I'm from Malaysia. We may thought that we just have to find the right person but at same time we also have to be the right person for someone.Thx Jin for making videos like this which can help to understand and keep the community listen well.
i live in the US and I've always had guys ask "have you eaten?" its not the norm in the US but its definitely become a standard. I've never had guys not ask. but its seen as more of a nice gesture then a normal question.
I’m Korean-American, and I feel like in the US it’s more of a small talk thing that is actually meant to be taken literally, whereas in Korea it actually means “how are you?” and no one responds to that with an answer of what they actually ate. Ppl in the US say it a lot too, but it’s not typically a stand in for a greeting, just like a topic for small talk. My mom literally asks me “have you eaten?” every time she calls me, never “how have you been?”
Yes, If they send you a message at a time close to a meal, many ask, even if it is out of curiosity if you have eaten. But I think "how are you?" "how's it going?" or similar questions are more complex and profond and address how the person is feeling internally or psychologically. In my opinion
In lots of culture, Asia, African and some Caribbean countries asking if you have eaten yet is a way of showing care . Also some don't out right ask the question but offer what they have for to enjoy.
I experience this online with Korean men. At first it was weird but as I got used to it and realized it was more cultural it doesn’t bother me as much.
I don’t see anything wrong ask a person “Have you eaten?”. If the answer is No he could invite you to eat together. Nothing wrong and nothing cultural. This is something that everyone ask. Also they may say, "What happened? “Don't skip mealtime." I've asked this many times. It's a sign that I'm interested in the other person's well-being, nothing bad. If they text or call too much, you have to let them know the appropriate hours to do it. For me it is also a sign that the guy is thinking about you all the time. RED FLAG is definitely asking about sex and also preventing you from going out with your friends from class or work from an early stage of the relationship .
It’s because Korean men will ask “would you like to get ramen/ramyun with me?” Which means sex here. A lot of foreign expat women have heard that phrase at least once in person or texting a Korean guy
@@newzinski6946I don’t think that’s what the girl in the video is implying tho. She said she felt weird because she’s normally used to a “how have you been?” greeting. In the US, asking someone “how have you been?” Is a signal that you care about them. I’m Korean-American, and though I can speak Korean pretty fluently, I don’t understand a lot of these types of cultural differences in sayings. I remember when I was younger, I would get a bit annoyed too, cuz every time my mom would call or see me after having not seen me for a while, she would always ask me “have you eaten?” and never how I have been. In the US, if someone you’re close to never asks how have you been, we might get offended, because it seems like they don’t care enough about our lives to bother checking up on us. But I learned afterwards my mom was asking me that because it’s a stand-in for “how have you been” for Koreans. So I think that’s what she was trying to say, not that she was worried the guy was trying to ask for a hookup, tho I definitely know what you’re talking about.
@@dathunderman4 but I live in Korea currently. No Korean here has asked me or my girl friends “have you eaten?” Unless it was obviously phishing for a date or a way to move the needle to convince a girl to go out with them or hookup. Otherwise, no Korean guy here ever asks that to women or men around. Esp since I’ve been here the last 5 years and never once heard it unless we’re in a group and we obviously haven’t eaten dinner yet. Living here you wouldn’t believe how Korean men behave here towards foreign women. It’s honestly not what you’re thinking or trying to explain. I’ve never seen some 20 year old Korean guy ask that to women unless it was at an angle for meeting women. Koreans here are extremely shy and rarely talk to foreigners. The ones that do 90% of the time are trying to get in their pants and 10% are prob trying to date or maybe be friends
@@dathunderman4 to be specific, “older Koreans, mostly female” have asked that phrase but these were co-workers same with the older men but they tend not to ask as much. And just similar to older grandparents and parents in the U.S. do it because it’s to show they want to know about our well-being etc. HOWEVER, it is NOT commonly used by young Koreans especially male here nowadays. So a lot of the time it’s NOW used with foreign women to direct the conversation to go out or maybe move the needle towards hooking up. Because: 1. Hooking up culture is becoming very normal here (tons of motels everywhere) 2. Koreans now are more modern and don’t care about sex before marriage etc 3. Foreign women are more abundant here 4. Quite a lot of Korean men view “sleeping” with foreign women as a “achievement” to brag to their friends 5. Korean men know that they’re usually desirable with foreigners because BTS and kpop has made Koreans more sexual now and it’s some of the reason why foreign women are here. This isn’t a 100% assessment and experience for EVERY guy but in all my years living here and going out drinking, clubbing, experiences my girl friends have told me about men here and my Korean friends this phrase is pretty outdated amongst young Koreans unless it’s to other Koreans. But the times they use it towards foreign women by men is usually asking for a date or getting in her pants
The 3 date rule isn’t just a Korean thing. It’s more like a dating app thing. Happens a lot here in the US too. This is why modern dating is stressful. Ppl just want to skip all the steps and just be the one when they barely know each other. It’s the hookup culture. For some ppl they don’t even wait till the 3rd date. Like that woman pointed out the guy wanna go to a motel with her on the 2nd date. Obvious what that’s about.
thanks i learned alot from this. some i knew from dramas but the pasta first date thing, and the 3 date conversation was new to me. but there is also alot of focus on dating and i dont think anyone can love someone from the first date they will be lying or just delulu what love is about. but to say i like you and want to get to know you more is totally fine.
The Chinese also say: "Have you eaten?" (Chile ma? 吃了吗?) By that they mean pretty much what the Americans mean by saying: "Wassup?" (What's up?) It's essentially "How are you?" In Romania we say: "Ce faci?" (what are you doing) It's not meant to be taken literally, but figuratively: How are you feeling or how are you? Otherwise, funny interview!
I think every country has a variety of people with individual preferences. That's why it's best to start out as friends and allow a relationship to develop naturally. Men are very visual. But some are looking for a close relationship and others just want to have fun. Women can be the same way, but you have to take the time to learn what each person wants.
What a healing for the eyes to see all the well and elegant dressed people passing by, in the background, especially the younger ones! Everything is quiet and clean and so relaxing. 💕 You don’t want to walk on streets in Germany anymore, in the night, nowadays! 😔South Korea is definitely a better place, in a lot ways! 🥹
It’s because of their culture shaming people who don’t dress their best. I heard you need to look decent everytime you go out, even to the supermarket. And girls are pressured to wear make up always. If they don’t want to wear make up for just leaving their house, then they put on at least a BB cream. Lots of young people wear clothes from designer brands because you apparently matter more if you wear expensive clothes
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Some k-men: "are you open minded?" RED FLAG🚩🚩🚩, I repeat RED FLAG🚩🚩🚩 For some reason many of them think this means "are you open to sexual experience(s)?" Which is NOT. Make sure to educate those asking this, especially if you are not looking for hook ups and one night stands. But once again, ladies, PLEASE, Korea ≠ Kdrama, k-men ≠ kdrama oppa.
I'm from Canada and my friends and I ask each other if they've eaten. Maybe it's a cultural thing since all of us are a form of person of color but we definitely don't find it offensive. Even my director at work is Italian and I ask her that and she happily shares with me as it's a welcoming topic of conversation as well
He pose a great question: When is it a Fetish vs Preference? If I am in love with look of Asian men, is that a fetish although I've dated other ethnicities?
Understand this: the culture of "pali-pali (빨리빨리)" - Korean trademark - applies to dating as well. For Koreans, everything is now or never, love at first sight or love at no sight. Within 10 seconds of meeting my wife, I knew she would be it. This is just cultural difference.
I'm realizing how blessed we are to born as a MUSLIM ALLHUMDULLILA. Our religion already protected us from all these things. May Allah Bless everyone with ISLAM so that they know what is the actual WAY OF LIFE ♥️
I am so happy that I am out of the dating game and is happily married. Once you find someone with integrity , honesty and transparency just marry them. Money will come later
This is good. You just gave me a nice tip!!! Instead of creating tension on first date, I can always ask the girl what her "red flags" are and I will be okay. May not get her on the 1st or 2nd date, but I can surely work my way in. Thank you😅
What? No, that’s manipulative bro 😂 Treat her like a normal person, don’t view her as something you have to “get” and “work your way in” like some kind of predator, yikes. 💀 Be genuinely interested in her and show respect, she’s just another human with feelings and a whole history. Would you want a woman who’s nice to you in the beginning until after she’s tricked you into a relationship, suddenly she becomes the complete opposite and treats you like sh*t and won’t give you peace? If she’s interested in you then you’ll notice it. If not, don’t waste your time, just move on because they are not a prey you must catch.
There is a reason why Korean men have an image of foreign women as being easy and that’s because some foreign women have given them that impression about all women who are not from that country. Not all women who are from other countries sleep around or like to have one night stands.
and of course it's not at all because korean are misogynists at all ? the guilt is the western girls of course. A no is a no whatever your own fantasy is, to not say your misunderstanding of women.
honestly it’s cause a majority of the foreigners that go to korea like kpop and kdramas…so the same way they fetishize koreans is the same way Koreans fetishize certain foreigners(those of Korean beauty standards)
Yeah I think having certain preferences based on physical appearances of any sort doesn't mean you also are not thinking about / wanting / valuing much deeper qualities as well. I think people are a bit to broad brush about that lumping everyone into the same category of creepy / shallow. I guess the shallow one night stand guys are the first ones to approach these foreign women. Also, there are a zillion men in the US who only are looking for sex too.
gente, engraçado o sotaque da gente né?a segunda garota eu fiquei me questionando se era brasileira pelo jeito que ela falou "dinner", achei o sotaque ingles parecido com o meu e depois ela disse que era latina
I felt so sorry for the interviewer. It was cultural shock in many cases, and the Korean traditions are equally valid. Some of the interviews brought that out, which was good.
These girls are bold to go date through dating apps in a new country whose culture is diametrically opposite to theirs.They are taking risks and wonder why it went so downhill.
why are you blaming them? we're all humans and we try to find company through connecting. Also, in other countries, dating apps are actually dating apps and not booty calls.
In Nigeria have you eaten is a very casual question? If someone is asking you, that person likes you normally, has interest in you or it's just part of his daily vocabulary or caring personality
I'm actually curious about this: Are WOCs not considered as "foreigners"? Also, I would go to Hongdae for the Buskers/Ciphers (not alone, though)...and I am NOTx3 looking for s3x... just for musicians and other Artists TO WORK WITH.
The exclusive preference for foreigners is so painfully real and annoyingly common. My last bf did that with me just because I'm not Korean (and not vaccinated). Also the sort of pressure they make to have a relationship asap and the way they say I love you after a couple days/weeks. Never again.
'밥 먹었어? / Have you eaten rice/a meal?' in today's vernacular in South Korea basically means 'How are you?' It shouldn't necessarily be taken 100% literally every time. As I understand it, Korea was a much poorer country in the past compared to now and eating to the point of being full wasn't always a given. So, if you ate a good meal, that meant you had a good day. The sentiment applies today despite our living conditions being drastically different.
Also it's about 밥심! Like full-stomach power meaning, people in Korea think that when you have an empty stomach you don't have the energy to go on with the day. And it's like caring and also saying hi too.
Exactly comment
어떻게 알았나요? 역사 공부 열심히 공부를 했나 보네요
Have a goooood day
@@호태왕-m7z I'm Korean lol
This sort of sentiment isn’t limited to the Korean language. I guess it’s all about exposure and the culture you are exposed to as well.
Also, it could be a translation issue at times - some phrases in Korean seem a bit too direct to me for a British English speaker. However, I am also Nigerian so I understand how direct one is sometimes a cultural thing.
if you want a serious relationship, maybe a dating app or even a blind date is not a good idea. Relationship starts with friendship, attraction and respect for each other.
Actually, a blind date in Korea is a really good option because you’re meeting people that your friends trust who are actually interested in a relationship. Blind dates are different in Korea from our perception in the west :)
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I mean.. she literally said she thought she wasn’t feeling it to him and that’s what made the first guy start crying. There’s nothing wrong with dating around. But you mentioned attraction and she said she didn’t feel it. What’s the problem?
@@NsTheName then why do u go korea if you don't want to hook up they know you are not marriage material as they only will want experience with you because those guys are poor or middle class in korea.so you also have to work hard and rare the kids also.korean men who are rich or top uni ones are focused on career and don't want these type of gf who have high body counts already so girls reality after marriage is very different surviving in korea now a days is very hard if you are not doctor or top earner's wife.working while you have child of 1 yr is very hard and looks will fed away after 30 and you would get bored a marriage is 30 yrs atleast you may get attraction for 1 yr after that its all same nobody is saint you know.so focus on your career and move to western country where pay is good i am not talking to gold dig for yu but be careful towards a good heart and earning man otherwise your whole life would be miserable.Its all fun till you get 29 years of age never ever choose looks or certain ethencity always focus on where would you earn more or max money to have comfortable life where you can travel for twice a yr honestly if you lock yourself to certain type you would loose all good men.My friend is studying med in korea thats why i know this and he said to me those girls can only marry the low value ones because most career guys go to pub for experience.As a boy i can only give you this advice never fall for looks there will be thousand good looking man but 1 man good at heart.I could say you should go to these places if you really want to be safe in life sweden germany uk usa japan hong kong and singapore but if you want to be youtuber then go to korea india china usa these country give good views.Lastly don't make your life regrettable
That’s not how it works in korea bro 😂😂 I agree, but there’s some culture difference
We need to respect women, no matter their race and nationality, As A Asian male I respect all female:)
appreciated the sentiment, but the first red flag is calling us females
if you call yourself a man, then call us women and not females bc that term is for other expressions
I respect females too ...
@@morphinehannah3274 really? sorry my native language is not English..........................
@@leoalexia1332 They get real bent out of shape if you call them females. But guys don't seem to care if you call them male.
@@chickenstrangler3826 okay I look up the word in dictionary
female:used to refer to a woman in a way that shows no respect
all right:)
The “ Have you eaten “ question is an Asian thing. Chinese will ask this question too. It’s a form of caring for your wellbeing and your day.
Thank you for explaining this. It is strange to me people go to Korea and after one year there they do not understand this.
Not limited to Asia - many African languages have a similar expression.
you r right
/have you eaten
whera are you
what r you doing now?/
we korean use it a lot with friend or familt for meaning of caring and concerning
ㅎㅎㅎ 그치 "你吃饭了吗?"
Yes, we use it in Nigeria too. It is a way of showing love and concern.
I think the men just need to realize how women around the world work. Majority of us do not just sleep with people. We actually have to like a man for his personality.
Ur movies had made bad image of western girls
@@nusratbhat825 think about who produces and consumes those movies… MEN. Women movie production companies depict western women differently. Also have you ever watched the hallmark channel? Or look up movies produced by Reese Witherspoon. You may find the truth in those films.
@@nusratbhat825bro it's not just american girls having those problems. look at the video, there's an Indian, spanish, italian, etc girls. Stop blaming the girls and start teaching the boys
@nusratbhat825 It's because of Hollywood. I’m from Europe and when I was younger, I thought Americans had sex easily, but when I grow up I realized that's not the case that most of them are conservatives. But there are still some differences like being "exclusive" in Europe at least where I'm from you can't flirt or get physical with several persons like it's normal before deciding to date only one, if people knows you will be called a jerk.
@@nusratbhat825 movies😂 those are ACTORS...wow
You picked up women who told great, variety of stories. Interesting. Thank you!
Girl at 2:00 . . . I had the same experience as a white guy dating in Korea. Was dating a nice girl but she clearly wanted a non-Korean long term BF/husband. It felt weird. When I met my (now) Korean wife, she didn't seem to care and had been engaged to a Korean guy previously, which was a good thing in my mind. I didn't want to be fetishized either.
Yet it seems like you fetishize Korean women...
Why is it a “fetishized” it can be just their type. Y’all claim big words just because saw it on the internet
@@ZeroPurpleRansom’cause it’s really fucking weird to only date people based on their race and not who they are as people, but honestly just in general, i would be freaked out if someone i was dating had all exes who looked just like me. frankly i think people who "have a type" are really weird.
@@sgtmianYou think it’s weird but you can’t change what other people likes. Caring and hating so much about other people’s preferences is weirder than people pursuing what they like.
@@ZeroPurpleRansom no, i can’t but i’ll keep pointing out how weird it is. because it’s weird.
🖤 Unfortunately this behavior is not only subject to South Korean men. The average guy has little to no understanding of how attraction works and typically comes off very needy, weak and insecure which causes them to chase and pursue their romantic interests to the point where they either get ignored, friendzoned or ghosted completely.
The common complaints every single girl shared in the video mentioned were that the guys are too clingy, rushing things before she’s ready, too attentive and coming off as horny jerks only interested in sex.
The right approach to dating is that guys should focus on taking a genuine interest getting to know her and what she’s all about. When going on dates their primary objective is to make her laugh, have fun and enjoy each other’s company.
Fellas, our (sensible) lady friends don’t want a “nice guy” or a “badboy jerk”, they want a gentleman who they can trust, respect and admire so let’s do better and lead by example! 🖤
❤ very well said.. 🎉 I don’t think I could have said it better myself since it would have been coming from a females perspective so to actually read this message and see that a male has said all that.. well I am really impressed!
Kudos to you 😊🎉❤
And kudos to who ever raised/influenced you to have grown with such an awesome perspective and personality 🎉😊
(Of course this is just my opinion an I hope this message is not offensive in anyway shape or form) 😊
@@eli7bracha Thanks so much for your kind words!
I would like to pay respects and honor my father and mother who raised and instilled in me the morals and values i follow to this day
Men & women should put more focus on trying to learn and understand one another that way we’ll be able to have more successful, healthy, long term relationships 👩🏼❤️💋👨🏻
@@eli7bracha then why do u go korea if you don't want to hook up they know you are not marriage material as they only will want experience with you because those guys are poor or middle class in korea.so you also have to work hard and rare the kids also.korean men who are rich or top uni ones are focused on career and don't want these type of gf who have high body counts already so girls reality after marriage is very different surviving in korea now a days is very hard if you are not doctor or top earner's wife.working while you have child of 1 yr is very hard and looks will fed away after 30 and you would get bored a marriage is 30 yrs atleast you may get attraction for 1 yr after that its all same nobody is saint you know.so focus on your career and move to western country where pay is good i am not talking to gold dig for yu but be careful towards a good heart and earning man otherwise your whole life would be miserable.Its all fun till you get 29 years of age never ever choose looks or certain ethencity always focus on where would you earn more or max money to have comfortable life where you can travel for twice a yr honestly if you lock yourself to certain type you would loose all good men.My friend is studying med in korea thats why i know this and he said to me those girls can only marry the low value ones because most career guys go to pub for experience.As a boy i can only give you this advice never fall for looks there will be thousand good looking man but 1 man good at heart.I could say you should go to these places if you really want to be safe in life sweden germany uk usa japan hong kong and singapore but if you want to be youtuber then go to korea india china usa these country give good views.Lastly don't make your life regrettable
I do think the clingy texting and “let’s be exclusive NOW” behaviour is pretty korean tbh. They have such intense dating culture. I never seen this thing in canada.
I agree tho, it feels very insecure vibes, idk why it’s so much more common tho.
@@spook6394 The problem is that men and women have been propagandized by societal conditioning through tv, movies, music and various other forms of media into believing a false dysfunctional reality of how attraction works between sexes.
Men are brainwashed to think that they need to chase more and that dating is some kind of mad dash to the finish line where they have to rush into locking a woman down into a commitment otherwise someone else might come along and take her away from them. Women on the other hand are taught to act more stoic and be in their masculine, essentially behaving in ways that are the complete opposite of their normal feminine nature.
Ultimately the sexual polarities end up flipping in the wrong direction resulting in men acting more like women and women acting more like men. When people act and behave in ways outside of their core essence (masculinitity which is typical in most men and femininity which is typical in most women) it feels unnatural and causes a loss of attraction.
It is about the attitude, foreigners are not stupid and when someone act like you are easy to sleep it is so disappointing... They basically treat foreigners like prostitute and then if other part not act in their assumptions they surprise 😂 So as a woman when someone act like i am an object to admire i understand the situation and feel awkward... The crying guy is so cringe to me. Run girl run 😅. I am sometimes treated that way in my country bcs my mom is foreigner and some guys assume i am easy
A crying guy is not only cringe, its a big red flag. Possibly a clumsy attempt at manipulation by a closet serial killer.
Exactly.
@@AsianBP U DEAD ME HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Again TV's fault. Just like some western girl tend to think korean guys are like in romantic kdrama, some korean guy tend to think that western girl are all straight out of Euphoria or something.
PSA: 99% of Asian cultures will ask you if you have eaten, it’s a welcoming and humble invitation and show of affection that they care about you.
and it is indeed a nice gesture.
It's a part of the East Asian culture. They used to be really poor back in the day and people would ask each other if had eaten/ had something to eat. If they did, it meant they were doing well. So basically it's equal to: "How's it going".
This proves that Japanese is not Asian.
Exactly. When you break a 'hello' sentence down it literally means 'hi, how are you - have you eaten?'' But it is not being nosey, this is the way the polite greeting sentence has been for years and the person doesn't literally want to know what you've eaten - it's a thing called manners which seems to be disappearing around the world today.
This is sweet. I love that!!
If a guy at a club ever tells you that he's looking for a relationship, REGARDLESS OF WHERE IN THE WORLD YOU ARE, you should be pretty skeptical. Sure, there are some out there, but I think men lying about this in this kind of setting is quite common everywhere.
in the club AND outside the club 😂
Jealousy is romanticized in k-dramas; it's like when you are jealous, *that's* when you know it's love.
But for most of us, jealousy is something you have to deal with yourself. I of course want to be able to meet with friends without my date (now husband) gets angry. Likewise, I will just have to deal with my own feelings of insecurity when he meets with pretty girls who are his friends. (He used to have one friend in particular, that he met a lot. And they *were* just friends, but I just had to hold my breath and say that to myself).
Only if the other one is actually unfaithful or acts so strange that it would make anyone uncomfortable (lying about where they are, for example, coming home from the city after having slept elsewhere, hiding whom they speak to on the phone) will it be okay to say that you want to change some things. because they are making you uncomfortable.
While in k-dramas it's like "Don't ever be alone with other men" and "That looks good on you, - from now on, only wear it when you are alone with me," and "You smiled while you talked to him!"
such a great observation!!
i think jealousy is also romanticized in YA romance films like Twilight and things like that, but outside of that genre and in more modern films especially, it’s considered to be a lot more of a personal issue that one has to grow as a person and deal with rather than something to aspire to/proof of love.
probably some of that comes from recognizing that intense jealousy can lead to toxic relationships such as ones that forbid their partner from certain friendships and such
then again, i see influencers asking their partners what they would do in [x] situation where if it’s an interaction with someone they could be romantically interested in they can’t even do things like hold doors or recognize they’re pretty/handsome, etc. if they allow that then they “fail the test.” i truly hope that’s mostly a social media thing, though (and it’s played for jokes, so idk how serious they are about it)
Right 👍
In my country,its heavily normalized. Its common case here women are abused or worse killed because their husbands are possessive. My mom's bestfriend has been kicked out of their house because her husband thought she's cheating. This trait is such a turn off
Have you eaten is basically a Korean way of saying are you doing well and taking care of yourself? It is showing that you care about someone's health and well being. I remember meeting a Korean guy years ago and we had a college class together and we only saw each other in class and I was polite and always said hello. He had a bit of a language barrier but was intelligible. He asked me to be his girlfriend without ever having chatted outside class or ever going out and then he offered me all his furniture and stuff when he left. I felt very bad I couldn't reciprocate anything but I was just in utter shock and really very little was known about Korean dating culture out west at the time.
Yes, it is. My mom asks me that all the time when she hasn’t talked to me in a while
@ArohaStill "I felt very bad I couldn't reciprocate anything..." Don't feel bad, just trust your woman's intuition. That guy you met - he misinterpreted your friendliness as romantic interest. This happens a lot with men who have no social skills, low self-esteem, or experience with women - i.e., a Beta male. Always ask yourself: would this guy ever behave like this with a Korean woman? 99% of the time the answer is "no."
then why do u go korea if you don't want to hook up they know you are not marriage material as they only will want experience with you because those guys are poor or middle class in korea.so you also have to work hard and rare the kids also.korean men who are rich or top uni ones are focused on career and don't want these type of gf who have high body counts already so girls reality after marriage is very different surviving in korea now a days is very hard if you are not doctor or top earner's wife.working while you have child of 1 yr is very hard and looks will fed away after 30 and you would get bored a marriage is 30 yrs atleast you may get attraction for 1 yr after that its all same nobody is saint you know.so focus on your career and move to western country where pay is good i am not talking to gold dig for yu but be careful towards a good heart and earning man otherwise your whole life would be miserable.Its all fun till you get 29 years of age never ever choose looks or certain ethencity always focus on where would you earn more or max money to have comfortable life where you can travel for twice a yr honestly if you lock yourself to certain type you would loose all good men.My friend is studying med in korea thats why i know this and he said to me those girls can only marry the low value ones because most career guys go to pub for experience.As a boy i can only give you this advice never fall for looks there will be thousand good looking man but 1 man good at heart.I could say you should go to these places if you really want to be safe in life sweden germany uk usa japan hong kong and singapore but if you want to be youtuber then go to korea india china usa these country give good views.Lastly don't make your life regrettable
"How are you?" invites a person to talk more about their state of being, emotionally and physically, especially if asked by someone close.
5:41 the guy dropping his laptop in the background 😭😂
OUCH
Why is he carrying it so openly 😅 should have carried it in a bag.
thats a guy? Thot that was a girl. So hard to tell with asians if the men grow out their hair, they end up looking like 50% of their women. IN fact the silicon valley guy has a whole stand up about how he's more attractive than 70% of chinese girls with long hair.
Thanks for that, I missed it 🤣🤣🤣
Lmao 😂
I've watched so many episodes of "my neighbour, charles (?)" Of foreign women who married korean men living with nothing but regrets. It's sad to me. Most of the men were controlling and reduced their foreign wives to maids and nannies.
The girl who described Hongdae men reminded me of what my korean friend who who told me that some korean men only date foreigners because they think they're easy (sexual), but don't actually date for marriage. I think they said the term was like "white horse" or something like that.
"White Horse" by Laid Back was a song from the 80's. Different context, but similar warning.
Riding the white horse, ”백마 타고 싶어” I believe. but i’ve only heard stories, idk any guy who would acutally say something so stupid 😂😂
@@AsianBP Korean men call it "riding the white horse"
@@spook6394 baby men say a lot of things behind closed doors that we don’t hear
@@sheluvssmokedupeyes1 They do but even with no women present, that would be a weird thing for another man to say lmao
4:50 She said it right. What do you expect from them if you met them at the club or dating app.
Most of normal Korean guys won't use Tinder to find long-term relationship. In fact, normal Korean guys would be in library, school, or at work.
and the majority of these don t give a F about foreigner girls. 😂 That is the problem. Koreans on apps and clubs do 🥴.
you guys talk to strangers in libraries? curious because to me it doesn't sound like the best place to meet new people as you aren't allowed to talk really (except for cafés that are inside when it's a huge library)
@@_CL🙄
@@jubernardi23 don't roll your eyes too much or they'll get stuck.
@@_CL From past experience, I feel like a guy would be recptive (but maybe confused) about being approached while studying in a library but if you make eye contact, a smile and a small wave can do wonders! 😉
Now, I want to see the perspective of foreign guys dating Korean girls.
The same
there is whole thread in reddit about this and it is not pretty or nice. it will talk about dating outside of their nationalities or while traveling.
I heard that the korean girls want to date foreign guys because they’re often taller, more muscular (though that’s more because of Western skeletal measurements being larger than Asian in general) and considered sexier? Most of the girls want to date them for the experience but not marry
@@udontevenwannaknowbruv It's not most but there are a lot.
You are a wonderful interviewer. I am curious about the other viewpoints.
Very interesting interview!! I've got a lot of knowledges about korean dating culture, thank you very much! Everyone was super nice! ❤
now i am curious have you ever asked any girl you interviewed on a date? interesting interviews...thanks for sharing
I am a foreigner girl living in Seul since 2015 and i have ton of experiences with korean men.. I met few ex korean bfs on korean dating apps and we had a long term relationship. So it is possible but forget about tinder or other westerner dating apps.
Just few lucky people found love there. Also if you wanna just have a ons go in clubs and bars but don t expect a relationship😅. These are hookup places.
My mom always told me never look for a relationship in a bar or a club
U should do RUclips videos
5:42 that guy on a scooter 🛴🤣
LOL
I personally would love the cultural differences. Like asking "Have you eaten?" it's a custom, not really that if you have eaten! I'm down for everything they want to do, that is the purpose of dating in a DIFERENT culture for me. That is fun! The only thing that saddens me is the perception that we are just for fun or a one night stand. Specially when they are lying that they want something else.
Yes !! I hope he explained it to those two girls off camera. "Have you eaten?" for Koreans is like "Hi, how are are you?" mixed with "How have you been doing today?" The guy is showing that he really cares for a girl, it's actually very sweet when you know the meaning behind it. It's very common question to ask and I hope someone will explain it to them so they don't misunderstand when the next guy asks them the same question, because it will happen 😁💕🇰🇷
actually asking have you eaten is normal and actually shows that guy cares that you are taking care of and you feel safe coz for me these little things matter like yeah thats sweet but ofc its different for everyone but i dont find that weird
And as an American I’m shocked that girl said she’s never heard it. I’ve never dated a guy who wasn’t concerned about if I ate or what I ate 3 times a day and if they find out I hadn’t they try to send me Uber eats or something. It’s just part of being attentive maybe it’s in the type of men she’s choosing.
The girl at 12:10 is damn beautiful.
the fetishising is actually disgusting, a lot of Korean guys use phrases such as 'riding a white horse' and worse just to brag about sleeping with a white girl/foreigner. stay safe out there, girlies
You are overreacting. The same can be applied for Korean girls who strictly date American GI station in Korea. On the internet people like these seems to be the majority when it is not the case. Internet thus overdramatise things. Some few weird people behind computers making weird comments on internet doesn't meant it represents the majority.
@@Youyouhssssjjjnnhbb-xj7yl overreacting? i've seen/heard/experienced it myself, in person, not just over the internet. the Korean girls strictly dating American GI are also not any better....they only care about ethnicity and not who the person is. some Korean guys out there actually are that disgusting in person and talk about foreign women like they are objects for sexual desire and not humans
and this is the same for nearly all girls that visit Korea lol they have Korean guy fantasy / fetish !
@@Youyouhssssjjjnnhbb-xj7yloverreacting my shhh haha🥴 . Yeah korean women maybe do the same but american men benefit from that so just stfu😂
@@jhan5300well said dude
It's so true
They treat their partners like a trophy but when they have their fill it becomes a commodity for them .
They are like chase you to your house to date you and confess to you
But behind your back they treat you like those silicon sex dolls .
May you find someone who will compliment your personality and who is loyal to you and you will be loyal to him/her( sorry I don't know who partner whether it's her or him😅😅😅 well who cares )
Kpop crazy fans need to listen this
I think so
They look unsatisfied
I’m not a crazy K-pop fan, but I have always been interested in Asian men, but I’ve been brushed off by Asian men or not thinking they like me because generally asian men tend to date or marry their own, or marry, white women, while with their female the counterparts it’s a different story
May be
Indeed 😂
İ am watching you bcs of to improve my English and learn new cultures. You are adding English subtitles and it is really good. Keep going i enjoy your videos 😎👍
I really appreciate the girl in black puffer jacket. She is so honest and cute😘
I have watched some interviews where korean men were asked if they'd marry a foreigner. Ofcourse some were there who talked about having serious relationship and marrying them but many of them were like they'd only keep it to dating and won't marry her. Korean men are mostly about having fun, use foreign girls and leave them. It's better to carefully analyse the man before getting into relationship with them (be it dating or making it official)
They're not even attractive
White women do not like Koreans
@@AsianBPWow…
@@EH_888 I have had an easier time in life (genetic lottery), so I sympathize with others not so fortunate. Look up Chando Tuan - he is unbelievable!
Love hearing about dating in other countries. Your interview style is so sweet and considerate. Thanks for sharing 💜🌹
Ahh that open minded questions "Is like they call you to be a whore " which is sad .
Is that what “open minded” means in Korea?
Korean men have small sizes
@Steampunkkids If a Korean guy asks if you are open minded, he's asking if you want to do it with him, like a one night stand.
@@Steampunkkidsit’s the connotation not the denotation that they’re describing
I hope we all know how to take of ourselves and learned to avoid red flags. If its clearly a red flag, then we shouldn't continue honestly. Yes, sometimes love doesn't work as the way it wants. But i guess wait for the the right person when the time is right. I watch kdrama too, honestly yje reason why I love it so much not because the romance raise up my standards, because it really shows about treating well with each other. The whole point of love basically. Same like any other entertainment. Who doesn't like romance novel when there are such perfect description poems about eternity love also loyalty.
Sooo. Too all of us this is something i would like to remind to myself. Life is not a fantasy. Stay single for the rest of your life only until someone compliment to get along well, which to make u feel better and know is better to not be single. Or else it won't be worth it. Red flags especially from guys I'm afraid will come to u more if we just keep continuing and settled for less.
I'm saying based on experience as well and I'm from Malaysia. We may thought that we just have to find the right person but at same time we also have to be the right person for someone.Thx Jin for making videos like this which can help to understand and keep the community listen well.
10:19 the girl with the red ginger-ish hair her voice sounds so grand and elegant......like what
Jaja 2:33 valentina estuviste genial💜 ❤
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Venia solo por esto
i live in the US and I've always had guys ask "have you eaten?" its not the norm in the US but its definitely become a standard. I've never had guys not ask. but its seen as more of a nice gesture then a normal question.
I’m Korean-American, and I feel like in the US it’s more of a small talk thing that is actually meant to be taken literally, whereas in Korea it actually means “how are you?” and no one responds to that with an answer of what they actually ate. Ppl in the US say it a lot too, but it’s not typically a stand in for a greeting, just like a topic for small talk. My mom literally asks me “have you eaten?” every time she calls me, never “how have you been?”
Yes, If they send you a message at a time close to a meal, many ask, even if it is out of curiosity if you have eaten. But I think "how are you?" "how's it going?" or similar questions are more complex and profond and address how the person is feeling internally or psychologically. In my opinion
But then how are you supposed to respond to that? 😂
Interesting video. Good flow and i really enjoy to watch it
In lots of culture, Asia, African and some Caribbean countries asking if you have eaten yet is a way of showing care . Also some don't out right ask the question but offer what they have for to enjoy.
I experience this online with Korean men. At first it was weird but as I got used to it and realized it was more cultural it doesn’t bother me as much.
I don’t see anything wrong ask a person “Have you eaten?”. If the answer is No he could invite you to eat together. Nothing wrong and nothing cultural. This is something that everyone ask. Also they may say, "What happened? “Don't skip mealtime." I've asked this many times. It's a sign that I'm interested in the other person's well-being, nothing bad. If they text or call too much, you have to let them know the appropriate hours to do it. For me it is also a sign that the guy is thinking about you all the time. RED FLAG is definitely asking about sex and also preventing you from going out with your friends from class or work from an early stage of the relationship .
It’s because Korean men will ask “would you like to get ramen/ramyun with me?” Which means sex here. A lot of foreign expat women have heard that phrase at least once in person or texting a Korean guy
Totally agree with you
@@newzinski6946I don’t think that’s what the girl in the video is implying tho. She said she felt weird because she’s normally used to a “how have you been?” greeting. In the US, asking someone “how have you been?” Is a signal that you care about them. I’m Korean-American, and though I can speak Korean pretty fluently, I don’t understand a lot of these types of cultural differences in sayings. I remember when I was younger, I would get a bit annoyed too, cuz every time my mom would call or see me after having not seen me for a while, she would always ask me “have you eaten?” and never how I have been. In the US, if someone you’re close to never asks how have you been, we might get offended, because it seems like they don’t care enough about our lives to bother checking up on us. But I learned afterwards my mom was asking me that because it’s a stand-in for “how have you been” for Koreans. So I think that’s what she was trying to say, not that she was worried the guy was trying to ask for a hookup, tho I definitely know what you’re talking about.
@@dathunderman4 but I live in Korea currently. No Korean here has asked me or my girl friends “have you eaten?” Unless it was obviously phishing for a date or a way to move the needle to convince a girl to go out with them or hookup. Otherwise, no Korean guy here ever asks that to women or men around. Esp since I’ve been here the last 5 years and never once heard it unless we’re in a group and we obviously haven’t eaten dinner yet. Living here you wouldn’t believe how Korean men behave here towards foreign women. It’s honestly not what you’re thinking or trying to explain. I’ve never seen some 20 year old Korean guy ask that to women unless it was at an angle for meeting women. Koreans here are extremely shy and rarely talk to foreigners. The ones that do 90% of the time are trying to get in their pants and 10% are prob trying to date or maybe be friends
@@dathunderman4 to be specific, “older Koreans, mostly female” have asked that phrase but these were co-workers same with the older men but they tend not to ask as much. And just similar to older grandparents and parents in the U.S. do it because it’s to show they want to know about our well-being etc. HOWEVER, it is NOT commonly used by young Koreans especially male here nowadays. So a lot of the time it’s NOW used with foreign women to direct the conversation to go out or maybe move the needle towards hooking up. Because:
1. Hooking up culture is becoming very normal here (tons of motels everywhere)
2. Koreans now are more modern and don’t care about sex before marriage etc
3. Foreign women are more abundant here
4. Quite a lot of Korean men view “sleeping” with foreign women as a “achievement” to brag to their friends
5. Korean men know that they’re usually desirable with foreigners because BTS and kpop has made Koreans more sexual now and it’s some of the reason why foreign women are here.
This isn’t a 100% assessment and experience for EVERY guy but in all my years living here and going out drinking, clubbing, experiences my girl friends have told me about men here and my Korean friends this phrase is pretty outdated amongst young Koreans unless it’s to other Koreans. But the times they use it towards foreign women by men is usually asking for a date or getting in her pants
2:33 estuve esperando semanas para ver a la vale 💕 lo hizo increíble 🇨🇱
Sim, ela é muito lindinha e representou muito bem as latinas e o 🇨🇱 ❤
100% latinas ❤️
Abraços do 🇧🇷
quien es vale?
i love watching these videos they are so cool and give us an in sight into the asian mindset as far as dateing
The Indian girl is Sooooooooo pretty
Where ? All I saw were white chicks.
No
@@SylvesrerSamjealous
Yeah she could be a model! So pretty, beautiful voice and smile
The 3 date rule isn’t just a Korean thing. It’s more like a dating app thing. Happens a lot here in the US too. This is why modern dating is stressful. Ppl just want to skip all the steps and just be the one when they barely know each other. It’s the hookup culture. For some ppl they don’t even wait till the 3rd date. Like that woman pointed out the guy wanna go to a motel with her on the 2nd date. Obvious what that’s about.
I love ur channel, but my ADHD won't let me concentrate at 5:42 poor guy from the scooter behind, I don't think that laptop could resist that🤭
This was a great video! ❤
thanks i learned alot from this. some i knew from dramas but the pasta first date thing, and the 3 date conversation was new to me. but there is also alot of focus on dating and i dont think anyone can love someone from the first date they will be lying or just delulu what love is about. but to say i like you and want to get to know you more is totally fine.
I had no idea you did this Jin! I see your English is still amazing. All the best
2:22 valentina soy tu fan viva chile ksks🫶🏼🇨🇱
The Chinese also say: "Have you eaten?" (Chile ma? 吃了吗?) By that they mean pretty much what the Americans mean by saying: "Wassup?" (What's up?) It's essentially "How are you?" In Romania we say: "Ce faci?" (what are you doing) It's not meant to be taken literally, but figuratively: How are you feeling or how are you? Otherwise, funny interview!
I think every country has a variety of people with individual preferences. That's why it's best to start out as friends and allow a relationship to develop naturally. Men are very visual. But some are looking for a close relationship and others just want to have fun. Women can be the same way, but you have to take the time to learn what each person wants.
5:40 That's a good breakdown for Preference VS Fetish.
What a healing for the eyes to see all the well and elegant dressed people passing by, in the background, especially the younger ones! Everything is quiet and clean and so relaxing. 💕
You don’t want to walk on streets in Germany anymore, in the night, nowadays! 😔South Korea is definitely a better place, in a lot ways! 🥹
It’s because of their culture shaming people who don’t dress their best. I heard you need to look decent everytime you go out, even to the supermarket. And girls are pressured to wear make up always. If they don’t want to wear make up for just leaving their house, then they put on at least a BB cream. Lots of young people wear clothes from designer brands because you apparently matter more if you wear expensive clothes
Thank you, so interesting!
viva chileee🇨🇱
The way how jin try to interview different people its really calmly and a good listeners too, his good 👍🇵🇭🇰🇷
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Some k-men: "are you open minded?"
RED FLAG🚩🚩🚩, I repeat RED FLAG🚩🚩🚩
For some reason many of them think this means "are you open to sexual experience(s)?"
Which is NOT.
Make sure to educate those asking this, especially if you are not looking for hook ups and one night stands.
But once again, ladies, PLEASE, Korea ≠ Kdrama, k-men ≠ kdrama oppa.
Are you a-sexual?
I'm from Canada and my friends and I ask each other if they've eaten. Maybe it's a cultural thing since all of us are a form of person of color but we definitely don't find it offensive. Even my director at work is Italian and I ask her that and she happily shares with me as it's a welcoming topic of conversation as well
5:40 Poor scooter guy in the background XD
ikr, i hope it wasn't a laptop...
Haces preguntas muy buenas sigue así me gustó mucho el video.
Actually you had a great chemistry with the Indian girl, not sure whether you noticed
Nope
8:30 the chasey game happening in the background made me laugh
I like that kind of video, I learn a lot of about corean’s behavior and I also improve my listening skills.
Enjoying your videos. Thanks
He pose a great question: When is it a Fetish vs Preference? If I am in love with look of Asian men, is that a fetish although I've dated other ethnicities?
I just discover you but I enjoy your videos. Good job 👍
Understand this: the culture of "pali-pali (빨리빨리)" - Korean trademark - applies to dating as well. For Koreans, everything is now or never, love at first sight or love at no sight. Within 10 seconds of meeting my wife, I knew she would be it. This is just cultural difference.
인터뷰어가 한국말 참 잘하네요~.
어쨋든, 한국에 와 있는 외국여성 분들은 제발 한국 남자들 조심해서 신중하게 좀 만나세요.
클럽, 앱, 길거리 헌팅 등을 통해서 만나게 되는 남자 치고 정상적인 사람은 거의 없다고 봐야 해요.
Interesting plus weird.....
thanks for your video...
I'm realizing how blessed we are to born as a MUSLIM ALLHUMDULLILA. Our religion already protected us from all these things. May Allah Bless everyone with ISLAM so that they know what is the actual WAY OF LIFE ♥️
The have you eaten thing sometimes happen in canada though, like btw its not just a korean thing
I am so happy that I am out of the dating game and is happily married. Once you find someone with integrity , honesty and transparency just marry them. Money will come later
You spoke the truth.
Very informative video for girls who are just inspired by k-dramas... Although not everyone is the same but the majority is ready to get benefits 😱😱😱😱
This is good. You just gave me a nice tip!!! Instead of creating tension on first date, I can always ask the girl what her "red flags" are and I will be okay. May not get her on the 1st or 2nd date, but I can surely work my way in. Thank you😅
Try to understand her culture and make sure she feels comfortable around you, nor scared
Lmao. You don’t even know how gross you sound 😂
What? No, that’s manipulative bro 😂 Treat her like a normal person, don’t view her as something you have to “get” and “work your way in” like some kind of predator, yikes. 💀 Be genuinely interested in her and show respect, she’s just another human with feelings and a whole history. Would you want a woman who’s nice to you in the beginning until after she’s tricked you into a relationship, suddenly she becomes the complete opposite and treats you like sh*t and won’t give you peace?
If she’s interested in you then you’ll notice it. If not, don’t waste your time, just move on because they are not a prey you must catch.
I'm aspiring to that level of Korean.. Like seriously, wow 😍😍
Slanted eyes
I don’t see anything wrong with making relationships official or clarifying that the person is single…and don’t expect much from a club.
Well, you had better know you are actually in a relationship before making things official, after all.
There is a reason why Korean men have an image of foreign women as being easy and that’s because some foreign women have given them that impression about all women who are not from that country. Not all women who are from other countries sleep around or like to have one night stands.
and of course it's not at all because korean are misogynists at all ? the guilt is the western girls of course. A no is a no whatever your own fantasy is, to not say your misunderstanding of women.
The foreign men also project that image as well.
Vale te amamos 🇨🇱
Interesting video mate
I would love to see this from the pov of foreign men as well!
honestly it’s cause a majority of the foreigners that go to korea like kpop and kdramas…so the same way they fetishize koreans is the same way Koreans fetishize certain foreigners(those of Korean beauty standards)
Lol no girl in this video shows any joy
Yeah I think having certain preferences based on physical appearances of any sort doesn't mean you also are not thinking about / wanting / valuing much deeper qualities as well. I think people are a bit to broad brush about that lumping everyone into the same category of creepy / shallow. I guess the shallow one night stand guys are the first ones to approach these foreign women. Also, there are a zillion men in the US who only are looking for sex too.
gente, engraçado o sotaque da gente né?a segunda garota eu fiquei me questionando se era brasileira pelo jeito que ela falou "dinner", achei o sotaque ingles parecido com o meu e depois ela disse que era latina
she’s from Chile
@@yeogimintAlmost our neighbor🤭
She is very cute Latina ❤
Hello Jin! I've noticed that you haven't posted in 7 months. Are you okay?
I think the Korean language is lovely.
Lots of red flags.....be strong....Great video ..keep rockin
If you travel solo to Seoul on vacation, what is the best way to make new friends?
Jin where are you, is everything alright?... 🦋 I hope you're ok, and we're missing your interviews 🦋
I felt so sorry for the interviewer. It was cultural shock in many cases, and the Korean traditions are equally valid. Some of the interviews brought that out, which was good.
Vine por la Vale y me encontré con comentarios muy extraños en la sección de comentarios 😬
And you, Jin, what is your goal with these street discussions ? Do you want to meet foreigner girls ?
To post on his channel, build an audience & monetize it?
These girls are bold to go date through dating apps in a new country whose culture is diametrically opposite to theirs.They are taking risks and wonder why it went so downhill.
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why are you blaming them? we're all humans and we try to find company through connecting. Also, in other countries, dating apps are actually dating apps and not booty calls.
I love fast relationships that doesn’t bother me and love matching outfits and pda
In Nigeria have you eaten is a very casual question? If someone is asking you, that person likes you normally, has interest in you or it's just part of his daily vocabulary or caring personality
I'm actually curious about this: Are WOCs not considered as "foreigners"?
Also, I would go to Hongdae for the Buskers/Ciphers (not alone, though)...and I am NOTx3 looking for s3x... just for musicians and other Artists TO WORK WITH.
In fact...Korean guys in K drama never meet a girl in Club or dating app.
The exclusive preference for foreigners is so painfully real and annoyingly common. My last bf did that with me just because I'm not Korean (and not vaccinated). Also the sort of pressure they make to have a relationship asap and the way they say I love you after a couple days/weeks. Never again.
The "have you eaten" gets me right in the feels❤
wow! interesting video thank you