How to Teach your Husband Emotional Intelligence.

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  • Опубликовано: 23 авг 2024
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    Marriage is all about commitment and faithfulness and trust and connection and friendship and intimacy. Are you prioritizing those in your relationship? If not, there's really no point in even getting married. That is how we HAVE a great marriage. That is what LOVE requires of us. They aren't add on's. They are essential to a healthy marriage. You can stay together, but the presence of respect and emotional safety and closeness and playfulness is what makes a relationship thrive. And it's possible for you!

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  • @osdeseolomejor
    @osdeseolomejor Год назад +624

    I would add that women are soooo tired of being the only adult in the room when it comes to developing emotional intelligence. Many women get tired of doing all of the heavy lifting when it comes to maintaining the emotional connection in their marriage and then one day they realize that they are tired from doing all the work and have nothing left to give - so they decide to leave. I have seen your other videos so know that you are advocating for more emotional connection because it leads to better overall mental and physical health. Better/more frequent sex is merely a perk.

    • @JimmyonRelationships
      @JimmyonRelationships  Год назад +46

      Yes, you're spot on!

    • @janemarie3172
      @janemarie3172 Год назад +13

      Jimmy, I just found this page. I'm so entertained. Congrats and keep them coming.. love ya, Tink

    • @kristindittus7594
      @kristindittus7594 Год назад +24

      Yep - there comes a point where you accept how different you are - and you let go of that hope you once had about being such a great match.

    • @AbidingHopeMentalHealthCoach
      @AbidingHopeMentalHealthCoach Год назад +17

      But for some men, it’s the perk that motivates them to learn.

    • @justacoginthefkery
      @justacoginthefkery 11 месяцев назад +37

      I've been trying to tell guys this when they say "why is she not having sex with me?!"
      Emotional connection = man gets sex. Emotional distance & neglect = clam shuts down.

  • @tabbithafouse4622
    @tabbithafouse4622 Год назад +752

    How do I get my husband to understand this!!!??? I’ve been watching you on tik tok and you are so right about women and I think you do a great job trying to help people understand what it takes to make a marriage work. I’m at a loss, all my husband can say when I send him your videos is that he feels you are “weak and seem to be one of those anti masculine men” I COMPLETELY disagree with him! I wish he cared enough about my feelings to try and learn from you and save our marriage. I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate your work and I hope men wake up and realize that not having feelings or hiding them makes us disconnect.

    • @JimmyonRelationships
      @JimmyonRelationships  Год назад +181

      Tabbitha, this means so much to me. Thank you!!! I’m really hoping you guys move towards reconnection and closeness :) you deserve that

    • @jannys23100
      @jannys23100 Год назад +1

      Just remind your husband he’s getting more 🍑 than him 😂😂😂

    • @waiifii22
      @waiifii22 Год назад +170

      Sorry to say this, but you can't "get" him to understand this. You can lead a horse to water and all that. Ultimately each person chooses to learn from their mistakes or continues to perpetuate their own pain. One suggestion I might make is to stop focusing on how you can "teach" emotional intelligence to your husband to meet your needs, and how you can start showing your husband that their emotional needs and safety is also valid and important.
      Men are socialised into building a wall around their emotions and locking them away for fear of them being used against them, what you need to do is be willing to undo that conditioning for the sake of your husband's emotional safety first. So you have to consider if doing this extra emotional labour for the sake of your relationship with him is worth it for you. Because as a man who has gone through this journey, it was losing people I loved because of my emotional unavailability, and my desire to not perpetuate this with my current partner @melodykiersz that caused me to begin taking responsibility for my sh*t. Wishing you both good health 🙏

    • @erinhaas9557
      @erinhaas9557 Год назад +123

      I have an idea. It may or may not work but hear me out…. Send it to him and tell him to skip to 2:38…. That might get him to the part where all the men started listening… and maybe he will scroll back to watch the answer lol.

    • @jessicaadams6989
      @jessicaadams6989 Год назад +29

      I just play them on full blast

  • @millermiller44491
    @millermiller44491 Год назад +275

    Do more of these...I laughed so hard I cried at the burping and confused men looks. 😅

    • @Jodi7733
      @Jodi7733 7 месяцев назад +5

      AWESOME skit! (Hey when will we see you again 😅) In All Fairness to both the Men and Woman out there…Do we think that our Society plays a Huge role in All this - in my opinion of course, we expect people not to grow up until they are like 30 then people say why were they not grown up in their early twenties - Duh let’s Start appreciating each others differences Early on and Start Respecting each other. Our Society would be much Happier and Healthier if people did not think playing the field for years and then settling down and wondering why you cannot Value each other was the way it is supposed to go. Just Sayin’ 🎉

    • @brandywilson7314
      @brandywilson7314 5 месяцев назад

      Same 😂😂😂

    • @BecomingSade
      @BecomingSade 3 месяца назад

      😂😂

  • @balkanyogi508
    @balkanyogi508 Год назад +237

    Watching this made me realise that my husband has the highest EQ and really communicates well about emotions while I’m sometimes being like these men only in the terms of always defending myself first and then listening. 🤦🏽‍♀️ Probably got it from my father and emotional distance while growing up and then hanging out with guys mostly that I just wasnt used to that type of communication. It’s so annoying to know all that but still catch yourself in these weird patterns of defensive or gaslighting attitude where my first instinct is just to totally demolish what’s being thrown at me. I don’t even have any bad intentions but I still do it sometimes. I do feel that being in touch with your emotions is a huge flex for both men and women but its a long learning and unlearning process. Thank you to all who hold space during that time. ❤

    • @JimmyonRelationships
      @JimmyonRelationships  Год назад +75

      I love this!! It’s so important that we can all talk about this stuff! And I love the praise you give your hubby for being in touch with his emotions. I think he would love it if you talked to him about that and apologized for that defensiveness or excuses, etc and talked with him about how that’s made him feel and creating a plan together on how to connect in those moments. I’m super proud of you though! It most likely stems from some shame. You were probably taught that you had to earn love, and that you’re not allowed to make mistakes. For a lot of people tapping into their emotions and sensitivity is really hard because growing up their parents were like you said emotionally distant! That makes everything so much harder but I promise it’s never too late to learn and you’ll be glad you did :) also check out avoidant attachment and see if that resonates with you :)

    • @balkanyogi508
      @balkanyogi508 Год назад +27

      Oh yes you are so on point. I’ve always had my heart on my sleeve and felt so so much but couldn’t talk about it or understand it for a long time. Ended up studying psychology and doing a deep introspective dive and that helped me a lot to understand myself. However, he was the first male who spoke openly about everything and encouraged me to shine light on all the dark sides of my mind and heart by assuring me that no matter what I say he won’t leave. I’m so so lucky to have met unconditional love so I managed to unlearn lots of unhealthy coping mechanisms that were there just so I could survive. We generally don’t have any big conflicts and if he notices just little something off in my tone or mood he won’t budge until he finds out what is bothering me and we talk it out. There are never any raised tones and that is so refreshing. I have an intention of overriding the gaslighting thing in me until there is nothing left as I don’t need it anymore and I know that every comment is just coming from love and intention of helping me be better always.
      p.s. I came just to watch all your content again on yt to help get monetised 🎉 good luck, great content and really nice style

    • @syzygy4365
      @syzygy4365 7 месяцев назад +3

      I got to a point in my relationship after ovcurances of abuse and mistreatment that I couldn't trust letting my guard down and to be vulnerable. The abuse stopped, but his efforts never matched his promises. It's our kids who have really suffer from all this. What's normal at this point? 😥💔

    • @mumlee0127
      @mumlee0127 6 месяцев назад

      ​@@syzygy4365I wish I could give you an educated answer myself but like a lot of us are here I'm trying to learn this stuff too. But I can wish you the best. Also sending you hope that you have support during what you're going through.

    • @DivinityinLove
      @DivinityinLove 5 месяцев назад

      My female partner also does this, also picked it up from her dad. Definitely can switch genders.

  • @dvdh4856
    @dvdh4856 Год назад +229

    Okay but the behind the scenes bit was both hilarious as well as adorable. The dedication! Not just with the drinking, but the wardrobe changes, the spitting beer everywhere! lol

    • @informedpantry6257
      @informedpantry6257 9 месяцев назад +9

      The belching 😂

    • @shecalledmetrash
      @shecalledmetrash 7 месяцев назад +1

      No way this dude has friends who invite him over for beers. No Fcuking way

    • @jssmith1608
      @jssmith1608 7 месяцев назад +10

      ​@@shecalledmetrashInteresting take away from the video.

    • @Blossom1140
      @Blossom1140 5 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@jssmith1608haha at least they watched it; that's a start.

  • @tourmaline_422
    @tourmaline_422 5 месяцев назад +36

    It’s absolutely true that feeling emotionally held is such a powerful aphrodisiac

    • @VongolaChouko
      @VongolaChouko 3 месяца назад +2

      I'm saving this phrase. I like it ✌️

  • @erichthedread4595
    @erichthedread4595 7 месяцев назад +81

    Bro I don’t even know what to say but thank you man. Sh¡t was real and by that I mean hard, really hard. But like some godsend I came across your channel and my brother it has made more of a difference than any channel or show I’ve ever known. Like a lot of times I’m watching and laughing while at the same time I have tears (good ones) in my eyes because you speak truth and I’ve listened to your truth and since the amount of frustration, loathing of one’s self, fights, and bad tears have systematically reduced by 100 fold and I just wish to give you the credit & gratitude you so rightly deserve. My friend, know this, you have changed a life, 2 of them really, and I suspect a great deal of others too. Man, from the bottom of my heart, I commend & thank you for helping save that which I love more than life itself. Thank you 🙏🏻 you deserve a medal, lots of ‘em.

    • @ry2yb
      @ry2yb 6 месяцев назад +8

      Glad to hear that these videos are transforming your life! Wish more men would watch content like this.

    • @juju1896
      @juju1896 6 месяцев назад +8

      When the student is ready the teacher appears. Congrats to you for being willing to look within and grow. Too many people, male and female, lack that courage. This world needs more REAL men like you. Blessings on your journey. ❤

    • @Christina_Bodmer
      @Christina_Bodmer 2 месяца назад

      That’s so good of you to make changes to better your relationship! I sent this to my husband and hope he learns from the video. He’s very stubborn and usually doesn’t watch or read anything by I send him from online…

  • @FairianEdw
    @FairianEdw Год назад +114

    Your wife really is a lucky one. Peace to you and thanks for what you do!

    • @JimmyonRelationships
      @JimmyonRelationships  Год назад +40

      You're so very kind. I'm the lucky one!

    • @FaultAndDakranon
      @FaultAndDakranon 7 месяцев назад +12

      ​@@JimmyonRelationships If I understand your other content, you're both lucky. Because it takes two to make it work?

    • @AttackHelicopter321
      @AttackHelicopter321 7 месяцев назад +13

      If I am not mistaken it wasn’t always like this. Jimmy made a choice. That is what every man needs to understand.

    • @olive4naito
      @olive4naito 5 месяцев назад +3

      They're both lucky since it benefits both people for a man to come to these realizations instead of always deflecting the blame to the woman.

  • @NatGKW
    @NatGKW 7 месяцев назад +85

    How about a Nobel prize for Jimmy?! I honestly believe this guy deserves a worldwide recognition for what he does to save relationships! Thank you so much from the ❤️

    • @ry2yb
      @ry2yb 6 месяцев назад +3

      Agreed!

    • @zenmagda
      @zenmagda 6 месяцев назад +3

      Yesss, I would say an Oscar!!! 😂😅😂

    • @danielastoica3354
      @danielastoica3354 4 месяца назад +1

      He is the sweetest

    • @MatrixxPhoenixx
      @MatrixxPhoenixx 4 месяца назад +1

      Yup and Like drink 🍻 🍺 🍻 just bc 😂

  • @jenniferdelillo691
    @jenniferdelillo691 7 месяцев назад +60

    Lol! If my husband wasn’t an alcoholic I’d have him watch this. So powerful to have a man state these things. Thanks for helping me realize I’m not crazy!

  • @lr4635
    @lr4635 Год назад +92

    Besides the fact that your content is spot on, you are absolutely hilarious - timing is 👌🏽😅

  • @ashboom2175
    @ashboom2175 7 месяцев назад +17

    "it's not the conflict that's bad, it's the way we handle the conflict." taking each time as an opportunity for growth and only better adapt to handling conflict in the future as a team together.

  • @shellygraham2194
    @shellygraham2194 Год назад +41

    This is so funny and sad at the same time!! Laughter is great medicine. Oh I love how they got completely interested once they heard sex was a by product!!

    • @SassySlater
      @SassySlater 6 месяцев назад

      But does it entice men to fake emotional intelligence to get sex? There’s a big difference between authentic emotional intelligence and fake emotional intelligence!
      I don’t want a transactional relationship where emotional intelligence is traded for sex either!

    • @Lacroix999
      @Lacroix999 3 месяца назад +1

      Yes, but it seemed kind of selfish, only wanting to meet their woman’s needs just so THEY could get something out of it that they wanted, which isn’t why they should. They should want to please their woman and meet her needs because it shows they legit care about her, not putting on a show.

    • @Unknownuserhtps
      @Unknownuserhtps 2 месяца назад

      Yeah but like the other comment hear said
      Some men can fake it which is just sad, then when they can’t put up with it anymore THEY could leave
      Get a God fearing man, praise Jesus

  • @gailfagan7579
    @gailfagan7579 7 месяцев назад +29

    I saw this the other day and LAUGHED MY HEAD OFF!!! I just sent it to my husband and HE LAUGHED HIS HEAD OFF!! We’ve been married 45 years and currently going through a rough patch so this was bang on. Thank you Jimmy!! ❤❤😂😂 I have to ask if you’ve been active in community theater or stand up comedy?? Your timing, expressions and ability to be another person (the wife) is really good…not something most can do without some kind of acting experience. Anyway, keep it up…it’s effective.

  • @luv2dancesalsa465
    @luv2dancesalsa465 7 месяцев назад +17

    On the bright side… that text he got? That was REAL.
    ;)

    • @MellowBellow1
      @MellowBellow1 6 месяцев назад +1

      💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼

  • @Lilmommabear4
    @Lilmommabear4 7 месяцев назад +14

    I'm going to need you to start over again!! 😂😂😂😂 just love the message and the humor Jimmy!!

  • @DI-yx4it
    @DI-yx4it 4 месяца назад +5

    Jimmy do you realize how many women out here adore you and your videos/advice? We need 4 billion more of you in this world! I will support my boys to be like you- I hope to meet a partner with your humor and emotional intelligence - your wife is insanely lucky thank you on every level! 😊💕 much love from Alejandra and Durga!

  • @cwill8294
    @cwill8294 7 месяцев назад +13

    OMG! The end segment!!! I’m cry laughing!! That caught me off guard🤣
    I don’t often comment on videos, but I do really enjoy watching yours, thank you!

  • @grafxgrl8030
    @grafxgrl8030 6 месяцев назад +6

    This is one of the funniest things I’ve ever seen. I’ve got to share it everywhere.

  • @Back2basicethiek689
    @Back2basicethiek689 5 месяцев назад +7

    My puppy learns faster at dogschool then the people I liked being around in the past.

  • @autumnhawj666
    @autumnhawj666 Год назад +41

    I LOVE knowledge & humor
    Thank you to your wife!!❤️

  • @lauraferraro9753
    @lauraferraro9753 5 месяцев назад +4

    Hey Jimmy, I just wanted to say thank you for being so poignant and able to convey awareness. I have been watching tons of video about relationships but you are finally the one who is getting the point. All points. I really want the results of your work will go far and your enlightened message will be spread. You are very talented. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you!

  • @mollygrigg7005
    @mollygrigg7005 7 месяцев назад +17

    Love love love your videos. We are friends with some couples in shaky relationships and your videos are the bomb! Thankfully my husband is emotionally intelligent and connected-/ and you’re absolutely right in that his sensitivity makes him HOT. Wish men could get a clue that they will be a lot happier in the bedroom by taking the time to connect to their wives.

  • @annsanfordbjj
    @annsanfordbjj Год назад +33

    Hilarious and lots of wisdom. Glad you caught a buzz for all your hard work too!

  • @meechipeachi
    @meechipeachi 7 месяцев назад +9

    Jimmy, you are a Golden Angel for communication! Sharp and kind at same time.

  • @sandralee9849
    @sandralee9849 6 месяцев назад +8

    YOU ARE CHANGING THE CONVERSATION & SAVING THE WORLD WITH INSIGHT & COMEDY.... PERFECT:):)

    • @KNR6292
      @KNR6292 4 месяца назад

      Forreal "bunch a peach & eggplantz emojis....its about to get crazy "

  • @yvonnes7412
    @yvonnes7412 Год назад +30

    Thank you Jimmy, my husband just wants to do whatever he wants, abandon me when I need him, and totally be inconsiderate. If I even question him, then he says I’m the villain and he gets so angry and says I can’t do that. Oh and then he tells me what I’m thinking or feeling. Then he blames me for stopping calling him “baby” anymore and being distant. He says women are so complicated… but all I ask him to do is to live life with me, be considerate of me, and listen to me. Eh, I don’t know if things will change because he’s the kind that says he just gets to do whatever and I have to just do what he says and be submissive. Seriously …. Wish I was kidding… he tells me how the most attractive thing is when a woman is submissive and I bring all this masculine energy… like umm, so expressing my needs and feelings and asking for consideration is “masculine energy” and gross? Ugh barf 🤮

    • @artifundio1
      @artifundio1 8 месяцев назад +20

      I'm reading your comment 6 months later. I hope you are in a better emotional place now ❤
      I went through something similar and I couldn't save the marriage.
      I saved myself, though.

    • @AlexShiro
      @AlexShiro 7 месяцев назад +6

      Ofc submissive is attractive; he likes getting his needs n wants met without question or trouble or anything interfering.
      Hope you have found some ways to change this.

    • @ZLLi661
      @ZLLi661 7 месяцев назад +8

      He wants a housekeeper ‘yes’ person that doesn’t speak ‘his’ language which means he doesn’t have to have more than just a yes/no/ do it my way conversation, and he certainly has no interest in learning another one - yours. I’d say go live your life - like he does. Cut your losses. This will give you a chance for a future relationship with a real man - if you’re not completely turned off all guys by the spoilt man child you’re with who refuses to communicate with you because he does not respect you enough to do so. I hope you’re in a better place living your life now. 🙏

    • @saraliza3137
      @saraliza3137 7 месяцев назад +7

      This is massive abuse! And it's honestly mind-boggling how common it is. By any chance are you coming from a Christian or some sort of other religious background?
      The ways men have taken the Bible and twisted everything up to suit themselves and to abuse and subjugate women to themselves is horrific on levels I have no words for. That is not what God intended for us or for marriage or even for men.

    • @Ell-te7ix
      @Ell-te7ix 7 месяцев назад +1

      Are you both black?? This sounds like the crap I hear alot especially from black men and the black community. If he is saying that crap, he is unlikely to change. I would return the exact same energy and effort. Basically copy him. And then plan your exit if he doesn't understand through action what you are saying.

  • @yourconnection9303
    @yourconnection9303 7 месяцев назад +13

    Your videos are better than watching Saturday Night Live!!! And you get educated too!!!

  • @juliarussellkautt4748
    @juliarussellkautt4748 7 месяцев назад +9

    Such good content! I was a little distracted by how skilled you are, @jimmy on relationships, at burping on purpose while talking and not getting distracted and not laughing. Great acting. And once again, great content! Thank you so much for all you do.

  • @KatThePRPrac78
    @KatThePRPrac78 7 месяцев назад +7

    @Jimmy on Relationships, 😂😂😂 This was my favorite one, yet! I love how you got the guys' attention by speaking their language at the end, then had to go. 😂😂😂 Great job. Thank you for working on yourself and sharing you guys' story with the public. You're helping. Keep it up!

  • @Christina_Bodmer
    @Christina_Bodmer 2 месяца назад +2

    Great skit! I just sent this to my husband. I hope he understands my perspective more from all I have communicated with him the past 10 years of our marriage. You are RIGHT ON with EVERYTHING you told your doppelgängers !! My husband is exactly like your doppelgängers. Are most men really like that? I go to therapy because of lack of emotional support and everything you talked about. He doesn’t have the emotional intelligence towards me or our children. It’s also so true that an emotional, sensitive, validating man is sexy!! He’s always in the mood… I’m not, and I tell him straight up, if we were emotionally connected I’d always be in the mood!!! Emotional intelligence is sexy!! Lack of emotional support is a HUGE turn off!

  • @ericataney
    @ericataney 7 месяцев назад +9

    😂 This one was hysterical! One of my favorites so far! Well done. Thanks SO much for your efforts to help others. God bless you & your family!❤

  • @audreysiegert
    @audreysiegert 7 месяцев назад +8

    What you do is very right and really helpful to the wider public who always tend to have these problems more or less in our lives. And no one ever really explains, role played it to see each stage of the emotional difficulties that we are facing. Also mentioning with the right words for each situation. And people don't have words enough to vocalize their inner struggles. We really need that. You must not doubt yourself for what you do.

  • @kicsms_science3729
    @kicsms_science3729 6 месяцев назад +3

    I'm impressed that a text was enough to get him to abandon the game! 😄

  • @ginak6775
    @ginak6775 7 месяцев назад +9

    ❤❤❤ I routinely share your stuff with friends and clients, and you are amazing. Thank you for the work you are doing!

  • @lindseymykel
    @lindseymykel Год назад +10

    Came from TikTok! I enjoy your content. Hopefully you're closer to getting paid. But also you've provided so much help we're actually in therapy now!

    • @JimmyonRelationships
      @JimmyonRelationships  Год назад +2

      Oh I'm so glad Lindsey!! I really hope you guys find it helpful! =)

  • @hollynixon9570
    @hollynixon9570 Месяц назад

    I love when he wears the ball cap. It’s so funny.

  • @jazzgal51
    @jazzgal51 11 дней назад +1

    Jimmy you are hilarious 😂 this is one of your best and funniest. And I don't drink!😂😂😂

  • @carolangeli1025
    @carolangeli1025 2 месяца назад +1

    Men need to be watching these you tubes before going on dating apps.
    From everyone taught to be emotionally repressed, I thank you.
    I’m learning too as dating hasn’t gone so well. I’m learning that I deserve a mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually strong relationship with myself and with the one who’s willing to learn also.
    I’m hanging in there for mutual adoration.

  • @natashamalenchak3859
    @natashamalenchak3859 7 месяцев назад +14

    If you actually did drink that beer, you have just gotten even more cooler in my books!! Not that I require alcohol for a person to be cool, but it just goes to show that you can be 'real' and have some balance in your life! I appreciate you soooo much!!

  • @ShainaWexler
    @ShainaWexler 20 дней назад

    The end BTS segment of this made me laugh out loud multiple times 😂!

  • @jenjohnson2204
    @jenjohnson2204 7 месяцев назад +2

    The burps and sensitive talk. LOVE IT!!

  • @kristindittus7594
    @kristindittus7594 Год назад +16

    I'm watching yet anther AMAZING video from Jimmy - and trying to find exactly the RIGHT one to start sharing with my partner of almost 2 years to help us (and lets be honest - HIM) be more open to discussing the apparently - very scary - topic of sharing emotions and finding strength in being aware of how caring for each other can build our bond. Thank you - this is the ONE!!

    • @ljones98391
      @ljones98391 7 месяцев назад

      ​@@excellence229 What? No put down there just realization of reality.

  • @barebottomsoap2538
    @barebottomsoap2538 Год назад +5

    Good one…. Including the beer burps! 😆 Hope the guys watch and get some helpful insight! Ty always on point.

  • @nicolewood4038
    @nicolewood4038 6 месяцев назад +2

    I tried telling my now ex-husband all of this over and over. We even did therapy for a bit. He clearly never grasped the concept. If you’re a guy watching this and reading the comments, listen to Jimmy. 100% accurate.

    • @Lacroix999
      @Lacroix999 3 месяца назад

      Chances are he won’t with the next one either, so that’s on him 🤷‍♀️either way, you can’t expect people to meet your needs who are just unable to do so if they never had those things in the in the first place to give. While we are naturally empathetic from birth, we have those things squeezed out of us along the way as children from how we are raised. If those things are never continued or taught, they will be foreign to them. I’d be like someone moving into your home from the other side of the world and expecting them to meet you where you are without knowing what your customs and social norms are. Are you going to get mad at them for not understanding why you do things the way you do and want them done if they just cannot get it into their heads due to the way THEY were raised? No, more than likely, you’d be empathetic towards them and meet them where they are. We assume that men function like women and have the same need when they don’t. Most of our frustration is because of that and having over realistic expectations of them needing to meet us where we are when we don’t want to meet them where they are to get things worked on. You cannot make people care if they just don’t any more than you can expect them to just because it’s what you need especially when you’re not taking into consideration that these are things that you need from them in order to meet your needs when they just were never taught how to be that way. Most people also fail to see that it actually is NOT the responsibility of the other person to get those needs met for you. Your emotions and feelings and needs are your responsibility to deal with and have be met, as are theirs for them. And if you’re constantly putting your needs on them to have to meet, you WILL be frustrated especially when they are not on the same page as you are and have little capacity to be able to actually meet those needs. To add to that, if you are extending your needs out to them and you have past traumas or issues do your own from other relationships baggage or childhood traumas, which most of us do in some way and are not secure in ourselves and need to rely on others to fix us and make us feel whole, your partner is almost always going to fail at doing so because that is a huge load for them to bear that shouldn’t have ever been placed on them to fix for you in the first place!
      One way to have them see where you are coming from though, is to treat them how you want to be treated. If you want empathy, give it to them so they can see what that is. Don’t just act like they just need to give it to you without having an understanding of what that even is or why you ‘need’ it. I think it’s also important to mention that when someone is incapable of immediately meeting you where you are, bestowing empathy on them to get you to have them to ultimately empathize with you IS essential. You’d never expect a child to just come into this world and know and understand how it all works if they just don’t. They need to learn how it does. And because of that, you shouldn’t get mad or frustrated with them if they just don’t get it and need more support to do so. Just because a man is already grown, doesn’t mean they get it or ‘just should already’. They’ve spent a whole lifetime meeting their needs based on what they were raised and taught to be able to do so….for them, now they’d are expected to figure out how someone who functions the complete opposite of them does too. Cut them some slack here especially when their who entire sex was raised on generations before them passing down false notions as to how the opposite sex works…or not even that, just how only to get their own needs met. It’s no wonder how so many only see women as empty sex symbols to use just get their needs met and to serve the man and that’s pretty much it. I’m not disputing that that is toxic behavior and that it’s not acceptable, however, it’s not really any fault of their own. They need to be reeducated that we’re more than that….just as woman need to do and stop thinking men are just dumb and heartless people who are only there to provide for us. It goes both ways. But you cannot expect someone to meet your needs who’s just unable to do so especially if you’re not treating them the same to teach them how…broken down in ways that they can learn best.
      While you may say that they should want to learn to do so if they love you, you’re not wrong, however, you should also want them to do so because they actually want to as well, not because they just get more sex out of it, etc. you cannot make someone care who’s just incapable of doing so especially if you’re expecting them to do so on your terms over theirs.
      I think it’s also worth mentioning that since your needs are your own, placing that blame on them to not care about their needs over yours WILL cause problems.
      Example: you ask them to take out the trash and they say they will after they game because they’re busy and you get mad, who’s needs are you trying to meet there? Yours without considering his. If you need it done right then and there, then you should just do it yourself to meet your needs instead of offloading that on them. You need a shift in perspective and learn that your needs don’t triumph theirs just because you see them as not being valid because he appears to be doing nothing… when they are valid…to him because to him, he is doing g something of value. Your need to have the trash being taken out right now shouldn’t be above his need to relax just because you ’need’ it done now and if it does, then it’s your responsibility to meet your own need. If not, it can wait. Many times we need to reassess what our needs are and either lower our standards or just meet them ourselves.

  • @teresagarcia3495
    @teresagarcia3495 7 месяцев назад +1

    Lol ❤ “I think you should leave”

  • @summerclementine132
    @summerclementine132 7 месяцев назад +2

    How have I missed this one?! 😂 Has me laughing so hard! Your acting was awesome Jimmy!

  • @tashavanvuuren5590
    @tashavanvuuren5590 Год назад +6

    Men don't want to talk about intamacy to each other as well 🤣🤣. Till they hear it pumps up a woman! Then all sudden they interested. Great performance!!!

  • @vivifleur9528
    @vivifleur9528 Год назад +3

    Cant stop laughing . thats a masterpeace.
    Thank you so much Jimmy. XD

  • @brendarewan7441
    @brendarewan7441 7 месяцев назад +2

    I am cracking up laughing!! So talented and so right! Thanks. 😂❤👍🏾

  • @falishaperry-allen7685
    @falishaperry-allen7685 6 месяцев назад +1

    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
    When humor is present it makes almost everything more enjoyable. Thanks for making the video. The humor was awesome! I definitely enjoyed the laughter that came from it.

  • @lalineaa
    @lalineaa Год назад +12

    Hey Jimmy, I love your content. I found it first on TikTok and think you’re one of the best creatives to speak on this topic. Haven’t seen that you created a course and I’d love to be able to share this with my hubby and say “take this one course and everything will make so much more sense” 😅 or if you do retreats, it would be a game changer. Thank you for everything you do!!

    • @JimmyonRelationships
      @JimmyonRelationships  Год назад +6

      Thank you so much for this! My goal is to make a course this year!! :)

    • @lalineaa
      @lalineaa Год назад +1

      @@JimmyonRelationships amazing! Happy to volunteer help, I’ve designed many L&D programs. Super exciting!

    • @jocelynems5
      @jocelynems5 Год назад

      @@JimmyonRelationships Wonderful! Please keep it simple... the guys need simplicity.

  • @brend3901
    @brend3901 2 месяца назад

    This had me rolling 😂Different Angle love that! Empowerment much more effective and powerful!

  • @JanGroh
    @JanGroh 4 месяца назад

    Those perfectly timed belches, lolol! Rock on...❤

  • @tessijohnson7832
    @tessijohnson7832 7 месяцев назад +2

    🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂I love your videos!! Your approach, intelligence, insights, & humor make my days. I also loved how you acted out the guys! Those were the men I knew while growing up & then dated those types of men later in life. We didn't communicate well enough, so the relationships failed. Yes-- I said, "we"! I reflected back on times when I didn't say what needed to be said as well. Thanks again!

  • @AnnyshkaButik
    @AnnyshkaButik 7 месяцев назад +3

    😂 you're the best on relationships❤

    • @IgnoreMeImWrong
      @IgnoreMeImWrong 7 месяцев назад

      Explains why he cheated on his wife.

    • @AnnyshkaButik
      @AnnyshkaButik 7 месяцев назад

      @@IgnoreMeImWrong 😂 people don't change or do they? mistakes are not lessons or are they? 🤔😉

    • @IgnoreMeImWrong
      @IgnoreMeImWrong 7 месяцев назад

      So, you're saying he made a mistake rather than a conscious decision? He lacks moral agency?@@AnnyshkaButik

  • @erinhaas9557
    @erinhaas9557 Год назад +4

    The efforts to get the interest of the guys is fantastic! I like when you start your videos with things like this. And especially the ones that say “do you want more seggs and less fights….” That will grab them every time. Haha

  • @theresistance3818
    @theresistance3818 5 месяцев назад +1

    ....This little scenario is something straight out of my wildest fantasies 😍

  • @thisfungrandma5893
    @thisfungrandma5893 Месяц назад +1

    This is FABULOUS! One of your best, if not the best!!!

  • @fawncaveney333
    @fawncaveney333 10 дней назад

    OMGoodness, this one is Great! Love the humor used to communicate important messages - thank you Jimmy 🙂

  • @Rosecarrot12
    @Rosecarrot12 9 месяцев назад +2

    I love it when you do skits. Sooo great.

  • @shelleyoconnor1609
    @shelleyoconnor1609 4 месяца назад

    Jimmy!! I love laughing and learning with you!! I love that all this real life stuff to make our relationships better can be done on the light side of life!! Bravo!! 🙏💙

  • @margauxtepartage
    @margauxtepartage 7 месяцев назад +1

    That was hilarious. You're doing an amazing job honestly props to you brother

  • @naowright9308
    @naowright9308 5 месяцев назад +6

    I just wanted to thank God that my husband, after 17 years has really started trying to be more supportive of me emotionally. I wanted him to watch these, but I knew he wouldn't if I showed him, so I took it to God in prayer and left it with Him. My husband has been really trying lately. No, it hasn't been perfect and life isn't sunshine and rainbows, but he has started being more appreciative of what I do as a wife and mother. He is more validating now than he ever was before.

  • @artmamalowe
    @artmamalowe 7 месяцев назад +2

    Great content delivered in a most amusing way! LMAO with the ending!

  • @Karlien68
    @Karlien68 8 месяцев назад +1

    Men really should be talking to each other about emotions. Thatnwould really help..

  • @victorsilverio2533
    @victorsilverio2533 4 месяца назад +1

    "come back here, bro! Help me make my wife be always in the mood!!!" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @TalklifewithChidi
    @TalklifewithChidi 7 месяцев назад +1

    Jimmy spot on❤

  • @VentureWithEleonore
    @VentureWithEleonore 5 месяцев назад

    I’m busting up!!! 😂😂😂 these shorts are so great! Your behind the scenes on this one busted me up … your content though is so right on !!! Thank you thank you for sharing this info!!! 💜💜💜

  • @MystyqueOne
    @MystyqueOne 5 месяцев назад

    I love this video so much! You spoke truth and gave us a glimpse of men hanging out. The outtake was great! Thank you so much!

  • @vickibazter3446
    @vickibazter3446 7 месяцев назад

    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤😂😂😂😂😂😂 I CANNOT EVEN STOP LAUGHING

  • @christinaheagy4602
    @christinaheagy4602 7 месяцев назад

    The burping 😂
    Great skit.

  • @perfectimperfectvegan7231
    @perfectimperfectvegan7231 7 месяцев назад +1

    😂 hilarious, and true at the same time. Bravo 👍

  • @jagibaba
    @jagibaba 6 месяцев назад

    😂😂😂😂😂 the behind the scenes ❤

  • @MimiMkenya
    @MimiMkenya 6 месяцев назад

    "I'm feeling something inside of me" 😂

  • @PositiveFrequenzee
    @PositiveFrequenzee 6 месяцев назад

    ❤😂❤
    I love the way you bring humor to your Clips.
    Well done!

  • @AsunkyRV
    @AsunkyRV 8 месяцев назад +5

    True dedication to your videos right there... we thank you for it 😂😂😝 also loved it and so true... very worried on how bad men are advised by friends... makes me truly sad.. 😢 if only the support was better and more empathetic and emotional... things could've been different. Only in movies or shows is there a friend telling the guy how bad hes treating his gf, for him to start realising...😢

  • @iwillrest4155
    @iwillrest4155 7 месяцев назад

    This dude is HILARIOUS!! At the same time as he's so spot on

  • @penniboo5818
    @penniboo5818 29 дней назад

    I love your ironic comeadic approach to these issues 😂😂😂😂
    100% Best ever motivational man guidance 👌❤
    💗✨️🙏

  • @YaniBanani
    @YaniBanani 7 месяцев назад +1

    That genuinely made me pee my pants laughing. You are hilarious AND wise...dang Emily not only has a dang fine human being but a funny one😅😅😅

  • @chickybiker
    @chickybiker 7 месяцев назад

    Jimmy, you're an absolute star. Next relationship I'm in I'll be using these to assess whether he's emotionally mature enough to talk about this stuff before it gets serious. And if not, byebye!! 😂

  • @lisastenzel5713
    @lisastenzel5713 6 месяцев назад

    Those are some burp skills my friend😂
    Edit: Ohhh what a turn! I love it!!!😂😂❤❤

  • @karateana7593
    @karateana7593 Месяц назад

    😂 lol that was hilarious, love it.

  • @starrainYT
    @starrainYT 5 месяцев назад

    Lol i loved the ending to that about the beer explanation

  • @brightpage1020
    @brightpage1020 Год назад

    "I don't think those are things" 😆 😂 😂 😂 😭

  • @Asooh7.
    @Asooh7. 7 месяцев назад

    😂😂 the two friends are hilarious! 😅.... Nd i love watching this guy talk, doesn't really matter what he's saying

  • @Retasha94
    @Retasha94 Месяц назад

    I thought the end would be after class recap and it was just Jim being confused about his body lol so informative so funny

  • @TorisGotAStory
    @TorisGotAStory 7 месяцев назад +2

    Omg. You kill me. I just drank 3 beers in 30 minutes and I’m feeling something and I don’t know if it’s good or bad. It’s a little of both. I loved the message and a great way to get men’s attention in my female opinion- but it made me laugh so hard! Needed that. You’ve set me up for some great standards and better ways to handle myself in my next relationship. With laughter along the way. Thank you.

  • @roki5337
    @roki5337 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you for these videos. I wish many more men understood this.

  • @juliedevlin6175
    @juliedevlin6175 Год назад +2

    I recently found you and LOVE your videos! Thank you for them and know you are making a big difference. Now I have to binge watch all your videos so I can catch up. I wish you could just be on my husband’s shoulder whispering in his ear constantly like a little elf. Men need to hear this.

    • @JimmyonRelationships
      @JimmyonRelationships  Год назад +1

      Haha thank you for these kind words! I wish I could be the whispering elf as well!

    • @juliedevlin6175
      @juliedevlin6175 Год назад

      @@JimmyonRelationships although I wouldn’t mind at all if you MUCH LOUDER than a whisper and unfortunately that’s what I’m afraid it would take 🫤

  • @victoriahewitt9938
    @victoriahewitt9938 6 месяцев назад

    I was most impressed with how many burps came out of you! 😂 Great work, love your stuff! Not married yet but I want to be prepared as much as possible.

    • @ry2yb
      @ry2yb 6 месяцев назад +1

      Yes, get prepared as much as possible. Preparation is the key.

  • @ry2yb
    @ry2yb 6 месяцев назад

    Excellent work Jimmy! We appreciate you!

  • @hottmama2069
    @hottmama2069 6 месяцев назад

    Effin hilarious. On point!!! ❤

  • @camillecellini2156
    @camillecellini2156 Год назад +2

    I’ve been following you on TikTok, Thank you so much for your creative humorous way of teaching ..you have hit the nail right on the head. Except for the part about the jags they’re learning..

  • @veritas1177
    @veritas1177 6 месяцев назад

    I don't even know how to contribute to this thread, but uh, this was an epic video 😂 Thank you! and thanks for taking 3 for the team. 😆
    It's so true, closeness and connection, brings passion ❤

  • @zadabeasley
    @zadabeasley 3 месяца назад

    This is so genius! I had to watch again. So awesome! Proud of you! 🤩😂🤩

  • @petra4237
    @petra4237 7 месяцев назад

    Hahaha Thanks for all your wonderful videos and teachings, Jimmy. You’re the best!

  • @MsNaeners
    @MsNaeners 7 месяцев назад

    Love the behind the scenes, well done, well said! 😊

  • @christyholt09
    @christyholt09 Год назад +1

    You are always on point!

  • @thewidowwindwalker
    @thewidowwindwalker 7 месяцев назад

    😂😂😂
    💖 That out take was adorable. Hopefully the hangover wasn't too bad 🙏🏻💖