What Narcissist Attributes to YOU
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- Опубликовано: 5 июн 2023
- Only the narcissist is the cause of his intimate partner's behaviors. No other causes are ever present during the idealization phase. When the narcissist withdraws (decathects and devalues), he ceases to exist as a cause and only other causes operate. This results in splitting and paranoia (other causes are all bad, narcissist all good).
The narcissist is omnipresent and always present because he interacts only with internal objects. So he is the cause of both the behavior - and its absence!
This dialectic is resolved by having to radically transform the traits and identity of the internal objects - or by denying reality (e.g., by reframing inaction as action).
Narcissists and even moreso psychopaths adhere to a rigid entity theory, cathect it (are proud of their rigidities), and convert it into an ideology, organizing and interpretative principles, and set of rules and values (axiology and deontology).
In cluster B PDs, the motives can be self-defeat, self-handicap, self-harm, self-trashing, and self-destruction. Rational self-love is inhibited. The mirror image of mental health.
Observing the behaviors of people with cluster B PDs leads to wrong inferences. They are compulsive, not free; chaotic not intentional (identity disturbance); always act abnormally and always in a way that brings opprobrium and worse (penalties).
Narcissist confuses external and internal objects and his cognition is distorted (grandiosity).
So, he is incapable of situational attribution, only of the dispositional kind with regards to the positive aspects of himself (grandiosity, hyperreflexivity) - and incapable of dispositional attribution only of the situational kind when it comes to the negative aspects of himself (alloplastic defenses).
He is incapable of any kind of attribution with regards to others. This is especially evident in the shared fantasy.
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Its fascinating how clearly it was explained why my boss always blames other people for mistakes and thinks that only he is doing any real work here
Professor, does a psychopathic narcissist ever stop abusing you without you doing anything to cause it? Do they randomly just say "Ill just discard her" and find a new victim?
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I am mad, bad and sad in my mother's eyes.
I didn't plead when she left. I was hoping she'd leave and move in with my replacement but my boyfriend was pissed because he was out money. I had witnessed a murder, was raped, was bullied in school and scapegoated at home. I could barely catch up! I checked out of life. It hurt too much. Also I triggered narcs to bully me because I was trying to get the trauma out. They can never not be the center of attention. They want you sick!!! I had just started taking therapy and mental health seriously and she slid in with her lies. Abuse was sometimes hourly with her. But in the rare instances I felt myself around her, it was fun because she's a child still. But the kind that isn't fun. The one that remembers peoples names from middle school you haven't thought of in 15 years. But they remember everything lol. Red flag with those people. But getting help got these warts off me. That's for sure
Thank you, Professor Vaknin God Bless You
Binary Emulators of the world unite
is it possible that a nacissist would try to convince himself that the cheating must have been rape? because there is just no way his wife would actually cheat on him.
Wow! Such a comprehensive and succinct description. Thanks prof, your work is by far the most full and robust explanation on the matter
This is a FANTASTIC explanation of narcissistic causes and behaviors!
My layperson theory/analogy of NPD.... being a slave to Alien Hand Syndrome.