30 Year Old Son Has NEVER Had a Job
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Stop asking "what he's been doing for the last 10 years". The answer is obvious, NOTHING, and for people who lost motivation, get anxious, depressed, that's the scariest question to answer. They can't answer because they know how shameful, degrading to self the answer. It's painful to answer.
I've been there, locked myself for two years in my room. Instead of asking obvious questions, help them how to escape from being disconnected, help them feel that they are still part of society.
Sure he will find a way, and can decide for himself. He need his motivation, confidence to come back.
Ur amazing
Best comment.
Yeah. As far as combatting depression it can be really hard, especially for someone who is intelligent or talented (even more so if they’re a perfectionist). At that point any failure or difficulty in moving forward feels like a personal indictment, like they aren’t good enough and that they can’t do it.
The only real way to break out of that sort of cycle (black and white thinking, ie. focusing only on results) is learning to trust in a process. The battle at first is getting back to the point where you understand that you control a lot in your life and that you can make changes to make things better. I know that sounds super obvious but when you’re stuck in that pit, it seems as absurd as flying.
Little steps to take control and make changes helps you build confidence that you can actually change your life and get from where you are to where you want to be.
In this kid’s case, I’d say he needs to go out and get a job, ANY job. The starting goal is to discover the dignity of work, learn about himself and learn about the world. Treat things like opportunities to learn and grow.
Maybe working in customer service (retail, etc) he may learn that he enjoys breaking things down and explaining things to people. That could lead him towards a future where he takes his knowledge of chemical engineering and gets a job teaching the subject to others.
Everything is a process, no one wakes up one day and is magically in the job they want. It takes time and work to get there and even in the frustrating jobs that we have to deal with along the way we can learn and grow.
I dislike my current job because it is faster paced (at times) than I’d prefer with too many different things happening at once (and too many customer orders coming in at once). As I pursue a job with a better environment that I can accomplish more in, I can still appreciate the fact that I’m getting better communicating with others and balancing my productivity in stressful (rush time) periods.
Life is growing bit by bit and moving one step at a time. We love instant results and fear can hold us back by life is a process and we don’t always know where we’re headed but it will be ok.
I want to hug you.
Best comment man!
My twin brother was the same way. He was diagnosed with anxiety and agoraphobia. He had a degree in computer science and mechanical engineering. He couldn’t be around people(family included), go outside, or talk to others without having a panic attack. He tried finding work, he told me he applied to over 900 places since he graduated and no one gave him a chance. He killed himself on our 31st birthday. I wish my family had more patience and knew he had a mental illness impacting his life instead of calling him lazy :/
Tough love is not always the best approach
sorry for your loss.
I can relate to him. (almost)
The disability system is pretty bad in the US. SSI pays $800/month, which is below the poverty line, and you can’t have more than $2000 in assets. SSDI pays more and has no asset cap, but requires work credits. Someone with agoraphobia won’t get work easily, so their only hope is to somehow afford CBT and hope it works along with psychiatric medication, or apply for disability which means living in poverty for the rest of their life after their parents die. I wish high schools identified people with social struggles much more aggressively, and put them in classes/give them resources to overcome their issues.
O my God, Im so sorry to hear that 💐
I had no job too. And im 32. I felt so sorry for your brother.
Im in the same boat at 32. Its horrible. I got into a psychatric ward because of suicidal ideations. The anxiety is unbearable and taking a step into society seems like its impossible due to depression and anxiety attacks. Im so scared to be homeless and tired of beeing lonely and isolated but feel too paralyzed and unable to change any of that
Me too i worry about futher on down the line alot when i shouldnt but i do
I relate to the words you wrote: anxiety, depression, homeless, lonely, and isolated. I'm trying to stay afloat at my minimum wage job but they are trying to get rid of me. I already have anxiety and depression and not having any hours to work is causing it to get worse. Plus, the job doesn't pay enough which you know homelessness. If I don't get to continue to work at my minimum wage job or find and be hired for a better paying job , everything is going to get even worse for me. Like you, I really don't want to happen to me too.
My story is just like you 31 years old 11 months 17 days old. College Graduated in 2014. Social anxiety and depression just assimilated my whole energy. It's not like i have never applied for any job as matter fact I did but never went for an interview. Whenever I received a call from interviewer I got scared so much i didn't have courage to tell him about my achievements and represent myself. From the school days I was very shy guy and this shyness ruined my life completely. I used to afraid to talk to unknown people and even my school teacher, college professor. I never tried to go out from my comfort zone cause I was introvert by nature.
These anxiety and depression decaying me from inside. I try to change my situation but decision making paralysising me. First I wanted to become sports man especially a gymnast and when I grow up a little my dream change to become a computer hacker and a it professional and last was to be a bodybuilders like Arnold Schwarzenegger. It's not i haven't tried but ruined my health completely. Mental and Physical, still suffering from anxiety and depression. Don't know how to get out this deep dark hole in which I'm sinking. I wish somebody come to save me ! But I know the truth no one comes to save you this is bitter truth of life.
In the same boat at 29
I'm 25 and i have never worked. It is really bad situation especially when you meet your friends who have job. I feel so alone and i think im not enough to perform my job.
Same
@@nay7885 it's a good thing to know that i'm not alone
That's how I feel
@@TheMysticAngel Don't worry, you are not alone that feeling is really bad i can understand you. I hope we overcome that...
Welcome to the club 😅😂
That used to be me. Suffered from social anxiety. Getting a job was terrifying for me until I told myself fuck it you 30 now, you still young so you can change your life, it's not too late but you first need a job ! Now I'm 31 and I have a pretty good job and I'm excited about building my life finally.
Can I ask what job did u get? I just turned 30 and I do realize I can't live like this any year longer. Its still very terrifying to me so I would like to know how other people who never worked till their 30 got a job now.
I'm so proud of you!
Where u all from guys? Am 31 right now)) unemployed
@@91markus same like me..but I have worked for 6 years..just recently unemployed for 1-2 months..
@@Nabila-dx8xf it's cool that you at least had worked, i never did 😅😅
I’m 33 years old, single, barely have a job, have a worthless degree (Business Administration), and still living with my parents. When I see all the comments similar to my situation I finally feel I’m not the only one. I feel the government need to help us failure to launch into adults and also help our families. I barely have a job and my parents are retiring so I have pressure to be financially independent but I haven’t reach the bar. I work a minimum wage job which I barely have hours to survive. I never was able to find stable employment with my degrees.
Yeah, @@jp3-cm6gz I wish it was that easy to find and be with a man.
You are not alone!
You are not alone. I am 30 and I barely went to college but let because I didn't find to accumulate debt in my late 20's. I hope you can find the motivation to find a better job and change for the better. We are in this fight together brother. 💪🏽
wow I’m 33 also. Born November 1990.
@@Handcuff_Collector I'll be shocked if you're unemployed, but you're not alone.
I was stuck in my room from 17 to 34 and it was only till my dad was about to pass away that i woke up did i finally attempt living but god those years were painful and i felt embarrassed just existing. I'm sorry i never gave life an honest chance to show you how much i loved you dad while you were around.
I am sorry to hear that ❤🩹Can I ask how it is now? I mean, do you have a job now? I am scared of the day when my mom won't be "around" anymore...
@@DZ-jz8bj it's ok, if anything him being gone didn't give me an out of sorts so I forced myself to face my fears and its been liberating and bittersweet. I'm awkward as hell sometimes though didn't really get much social contact in those years.
Yes I am working but it's a relatively stress free job so not a bad way to wade into the working mindset
@@DZ-jz8bj same. me too. I lost my job. still can't find a job.
What games did you play?
This is a product of a few things. First, and most obvious, the man's not lazy. He doesn't have a reason to work, he's being enabled. If he had to find a job, he would. Shoulds need to become musts. Shoulds dont motivate people.
The second issue is the state of the economy following the 2008 crash. A man who got a degree in Chemical Engineering is probably very smart, but maybe not the most social or wheeler dealer type. A wheeler dealer doesnt major in Chemical Engineering. A smart, maybe introverted kid is interested in that. And prior to 2008, a degree was all you needed. You come out of school and corporations are crawling over each other to hire.
Post 2008? Forget it. You have to be a wheeler dealer now. You cant just have degrees. The pool of applicants are just that much more competitive and the jobs arent there like they used to be. So this is a foreign world to this man and many others. Add 10 years of unemployment, and his self esteem and self marketing skills are in the tank.
Not only does he have an old degree with no experience, he also was probably never great at being a salesman and selling himself to begin with, hence his choice of hard science. So navigating this intensely competitive job market is even worse. Enabling aside, that's a HUGE barrier to overcome. Even if his dad kicks him out, he'll spend many years at Starbucks making lattes. And his dad knows that. Which leads to more enabling.
This is a unspoken suffering of this generation that came out of college around 2009. By the time the job market picked up, if it did, it was a shell of what it was, ultra-competitive and you're now years behind. With a destroyed self esteem. And "being out of your own" is like working at Starbucks or Barnes and Noble. Is that "independence"? Its shitty. That's what it is. And the father knows that. It's not as easy as just "get a job." It is and it isnt. There are no real jobs
Thank you for understanding. I am facing the same problem and nobody is as understanding as you. People like you give me hope. Thank you
This comment you wrote is so on point.
As a member of the generation born around the beginning of the 90s i can understand so well what you're talking about. We were raised listening about the job market's rules of our parents, those who we call "boomers" today, but after college we found ourselves flinged in a world that is nothing like our parents told us.
It's like being completely on your own surrounded by sharks and it's awful.
This is exactly what I'm going through, graduated 2009 yet everything went down spiral since then, the worst thing is no one talks about it, everyone seems to avoid the fact they encouraged us to do things with hopes for situations that no longer exists and then blame us for choosing this path, it's crazy, but it's a relief to know that someone addressing the issue here, and it's a relief that I'm not alone in this
Samah Saeed “go to college and you will get a good job”. Smh....
It' not just the 2009 generation. It's the generation prior too especially if you are an introvert. We just want to get our degree, let the degree get us the job and do our job & not this wheeler dealer non-sense. This is so hard for us.
Social anxiety... its difficult the job market too is horrible it's hard to get jobs
True. 😢
But he hasn't had a job EVER.
@Oliver Smith yeah but I have ears so I could hear the conversation.
Why would one ever want to get a job in the first place. You only gotta live in the right country and let the folks work for u. U never supposed to base your entire life to "work". It's literally modern day slavery.
Social anxiety is terrible to have when looking for a job. Just going in for an interview is a HUGE struggle.
Never had a job im 33 been homeless got no education went out of school to early suffer from social anxiety.........
How do you afford Internet or an electronic device to access the Internet?
God Bless, hope things turn out for the best.
Many blessings your way dear sir 🙏
The absolute lack of empathy from this guy is incredible. It is obvious he has never been through long periods of unemployment himself.
he's basically saying that the son should be thrown into the streets. Unbelievable. Most unemployed people, myself included, found jobs they liked or at least tolerated, but were on fixed-term contracts.
You're misunderstanding his bluntness for lack of empathy. He's stating harsh truths and the reality of how to handle it. He needs to not be in a comfortable environment in order to recognize the need to work.
@@battousaicrescent You are assuming the son is just lazy and does not want to work which is 99% of the time not the case. Even if it was throwing someone onto the streets without even giving them a chance to explain themselves is more than a little harsh.
People in the son's situation often have underlying issues/reasons for being the way they are, being "blunt" about it just automatically assumes the worst case scenario that the son is just a bludger which is probably not the case.
Who's the guy
I’ve had those periods and only when I was in real need I started my own business. Minuscule yes. But it took off.
Not having a job for long periods = lack of action
It’s very hard when you prepared yourself to work in one field and nothing happens there. But you can always try something else.
sometimes it could be a mental problem where the person just fears the outside world. social anxiety can be detrimental
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i am 30 i never had a job also, I applied more than 1000 times but was never called for any interview . I have a certificate in Information Technology ,i think getting a job wasn't just mend for me i'm now used being un employed coz its the reallity im living...I hope god will hear my cry one day.
i just prayed for you brother , im the opposit , i can find a job but i dont want to work because of my anxiety , can you pray for me please .
@@jeanpierre8299 brother men i will surely pray for you and i hope you will overcome your anxiety soon may the lord be with you
@@MaestroStefanoPetrini that's disrespectful
I know recruitment these days have CV / resumes running through systems if you don't have the correct key words and structure it won't pick you up and no one will see your resume.. Also, the way you construct a cover letter could make or break it for you.. I would recommend watching Andrew LaCivita here on RUclips the best advise I have came accross for resumes and interview prep.
If you live in US, you can visit your local career link. They can help you find a job.
Im 33 and i never have a job. for those 15 years that i wasted for being lazy. i dont have a point of view in my futurelife it's so sad and self pity the 15 years that i cannot take back. But now i am ready to change my future now i'm looking for a job to chance my meserable life
I'm 26 and I also never had a job 😞 Good luck!! Your past doesn't matter. Your future matters and it can be a bright one!!
@@MsRosirosi sadly it does
@@aidanboring6667Yes, it matters to a certain extent. But we can't hold ourselves back because of our past, we can't do nothing about it. I am really bad at this but I need to keep going.
@@MsRosirosi I did master in Biotechnology in 2018. I have poor knowledge, and also communication problem so I never had a job. Now I'm 25 but for past 7 months I did a paidwork in portrait artwork then I quit this work of my passion. Art has no scope in India so I left art. Now I don't know what to do.. Life goes on but I'm suffering and struggling with myself still I don't have any plan with my life.. Each and Every day will be like hell.. Couldnt do anything peacefully. Depressive state
Yo you idiot you can make money elsewhere why do you need a job I'm 16 years old making 1k a month it's not a lot but it's a start
Im 30 graduated with a worthless degree in 2014 since then I worked in construction and call centers. Now I am unemployed living with my parents.
Just and work in senegal for a year
Learn how to code. Took me 8 month while I was working full time
@@michaelscarn7375 Are you working as a developer now?
@@sensus494 have been for 1.5 years now
@@michaelscarn7375 can i do it if i am very bad at math, I have only been in secondary school, where did you learn or how? im 30 too
I am 30 and Have degree in civil engineering. I never had any job. I am diagnosed with social anxiety and depression. I am on antidepressants from the last 6 years. Now I feel I am too old to change my life. Everyday I die a little from inside.
You are not too old, just think about how many working years you have ahead.. I haven't been working for many years either. But if you think about it, you studied a few years and you weren't working for 6 (I assume).. That's really nothing compared to the 30-40 years you have left before retirement.. That's what I had to remind myself of...
It is hard, it's draining and just the thought of an interview is soul crushing..
but the best advise is to go do some volunteering work, it's less pressure, gives you something to do to get yourself out there, and to speak about in the interview.. And go for a lower level jobs and do the interviews there just to get your feet wet.. I don't know what advise to give you for the gap but maybe you did something in that time, learnt something new?
I'm 26, and dropped out of college at 22 after wasting my first 2 years not knowing what I wanted to do. I burnt out, and lost interest. I have no hobbies anymore and just waste away each day in the same room I've been in the last 8 years, and have also been on antidepressants, for 3 years though. I feel the same as you. I feel like I fucked up and it's too late, and not worth it anymore. I'd love to just pursue some kind of passion, but that's my problem, I have no passion anymore.
Please dont give up, im also struggling alot right now.. and im turning 24. I just thought that maybe we should try all kinds of jobs we got the skills for or even if we don't, but we're interested with the job. Let's try doing it. And one day' we'll be able to pursue our dream job and get a career.. atleast thats how i think.. even though im really sad right now also and feeling hopeless but please don't lose hope..
I’m 27, jobless, depressed, and livin with my parents
Dont give up,have a really nice day
No one noticed how he mentioned that the son moved to another of his properties? He still hasn't kicked his son out.
Frank Cordova-Wong that’s true. Now he has no supervision.
Stop alcohol
Do you think it's possible for the son to still become a self-made man?
In all honesty, it was the parent's decision to have the son in the first place. He obviously has some mental problems that he can't overcome on his own, and that is by no means a fault on his own. In fact, it's the parents' fault who think that this person can pick themselves up by their bootstraps and go to work like everyone else does. That's not true. Maybe the son sees a flaw in the system. If the parents keep pushing him to get a normal job like everyone else, that just isn't going to work. What if he gets himself fired after 1 week because he can't handle working there? That would be a waste of time for everyone including the son, the employer, and the parents. What they need to do is help him find some freelance/self-employed work. He'd probably thrive doing stuff like that, just like I did.
@@Alexandra-rb7ju how did you bevome a freelance?
I thank god my parents made me get a job at 15, it helped so much going into adulthood. Every parent should do this imo.
I did not get employed until I was 21. I was lazy, had social anxiety, and depression. My brother had got me a spot at his job. Still working there five years later. Blessed
I am proud of you
Im 20 I’m lazy and I suck at socializing with others, honestly It’s embarrassing being like this I don’t want to be like this anymore🤦🏽♂️
I was in the EXACT same situation as this guy at 33: a bachelor's degree AND a master's in business administration (ok, I had a masters, but whatever). I've had very little employment 5 years after getting my MBA, and 6 months before reaching 33 years old, a friend of mine who's a business owner offered to give me work certificates and references from his own company to cover the years of unemployment, and make me desirable, and I managed to get hired by a decent consulting firm and start my career this way. I was kind of ashamed, but 15 years down the road life is really good, so I'm glad I did it now. They'll tell you not to cheat, but really, it's foolish: it saved my future.
So no, it's not over at all, not even close, in this situation, but you gotta fake it 'til you make it.
Yeah, the work gap mindset these recruiters have is toxic. They think your a drug addict or were in prison. It keeps people in a downward spiral.
Inspiring story.
I’m in the same situation
Morally wrong but you can not survive fairly. Good for you👍🏼
Self Esteem is generated from within, not externally. That is why we start having our kids do chores and odd jobs, get summer jobs and work in college. How else will they know they can achieve anything at all?
"Let a man benefit from the fruits of his labor or let starvation pinch him if he doesn't" - Frederick Douglass
Sports and arts help too. However, I lost my self esteem in the last years due to abusive relationships, depression, and sharks in the workplace
I’m jobless too. Nearly 30 years now . ( congratulations to me! ) And the only esteem I know, far as I’m concerned is that ploom of white smoke that comes out of factories and old trains. HAHAJA !!😁
I might get rid of this society and job culture idk
The key is to take action, don't think too much, just do it.
I'm turning 30 soon. I've spent more time looking for jobs than actually working. I have studied at the University and speak 4 foreign languages. I have earnt less than 10.000 euros in ten years because I was never really given a chance. I have moved to many different countries across Europe to try my luck but all I could find were sketchy companies with a high turnover and get fired fast for not bringing enough money in. I have also done unpaid trainings for jobs that wouldn't hire me eventually.
I am not socially anxious. But I have become extremely insecure due to my everlasting joblessness. It's a vicious circle. I don't get hired because I don't have experience. And, now I'm almost 30 and supposed to start a family (I am a woman), I guess I am even less marketable. Had my dad not died 11 years ago and left me 75.000 euros, I guess I would have been sleeping under bridges. I've been living extremely frugally with this very money due to my lack of revenue for 11 years now. This involved having next to no privacy nor possessions.
He’s right - it’s a season no need to be ashamed. I have really bad anxiety and probably would have been like the son if I didn’t have to face it in my late teens and have a need to find work. I’m sure he wishes he was different - hope they work it out ❤
Hello , your son doesn't owe you anything , he didn't ask you to bring him to this horrible world ..and he's not forced to follow the same path ..live in same way !..
I didn't work a full time job until 28.
@The505Guys Before age 28, I worked part-time jobs & was a part-time college student (a big mistake). After that time frame, I worked in accounting for 4 years, then I went into the mortgage industry & continue to work in the industry. I could have been a millionaire by now if I would have worked a full-time job sooner & invested my money. I am naturally frugal.
22 and never had a job before (still searching and applying). Been struggling with anxiety, perfectionism, concentration issues, fatigue, and whatever symptom of a quarter-life crisis can be added. It's a vicious cycle especially when you feel judged by people who are supposed to be supportive of you as a person and should actually build your character. Not demolish it by writing them out. That's literally how lay-offs work. The home is not supposed to be a business where your parents and loved ones care heavily on your ROI, it's supposed to be a community that cares about what kind of person you could be and want to be.
I think social media and RUclips make people even less focused
Gonna be a challenge for you if you don’t adjust your attitude. You’ve listed every issue that you’ve decided makes it impossible for you to get a job. More challenging is that you’ve decided that everyone in your family can’t be realistic with you and need to coddle you. Your parents are the exact people who should be real with you and have the tough conversations that push you. The idea that you’re expected to be able to get a job like adults do is somehow being seen as an ROI is a concerning outlook to have. Everything in your post seems to refuse to accept any accountability, everything is something else’s fault, and you can’t handle a hard conversation. If that’s how you come across to an employer you’re going to have a hard time because that’s a huge red flag saying not to hire you. It says that if I were to hire you that you’ll always point to something as why you didn’t complete a task on time or up to standard. It’ll also say that you won’t be able to take feedback and won’t be coachable to get better in the job. The fact that your household doesn’t simply coddle you is a community that cares about what you can be because if you take the same attitude you’ve expressed here into the professional world you’re going to struggle a lot. I hope things have gotten better for you but you’re gonna have a tough time until you develop an ability to stop feeling bad for yourself and take some criticism and use it to get better.
@@Matt-cr4vv Thanks for your input. Yep, I listed all the things on my last comment. My parents have been and still are real with me. The only times they ever coddled me was when kid and stayed after-school. The ROI thing came from a heated argument last year between Dad and me. He recounted all the times he invested for my education - cram schools, tutors, the gas for commuting, etc. It was a whole itinerary of struggling finances and dashed hopes/expectations during my elementary and middle school years. Implicitly, he was telling me that I made him waste his money and I owe him back for everything. Then he complained why I couldn't have talked to him to shut down all the extra teaching. I was literally shocked because at the time, he wasn't very welcome to it. Even my mom understood that I was pressured with the knowledge that my dad was paying to help improve me. The lack of perspective from my father and the way he talked. Oh you should've heard him. Sounded like a loan shark straight through and through.
I take certain criticism badly. It just happens to be from my parents that I completely shut down. They are good people with some rough edges. And both made some life choices that still eat them up. I want to make them proud but the behavior and the words during that argument just about destroyed me. And I was just coming out of a period of apathy.
Good things eventually happen though. Once things settled down, I got better at communicating with my parents. Giving them updates here and there until I got a job around December. The routine helps me ignore my negative thoughts. My team is a pleasant band of teachers, analysts, and decision-makers who live in different parts of the US but make the MS Teams chat more approachable than my Facebook news feed. Now it's a matter of holding on to the job.
Remember, lack of perspective perpetuates lack of communication. And just because employers are looking for long-lasting organic machines, doesn't mean we forget the human context, right? It's going to be a gamble for both sides anyhow. But the employer-employee conversation is a good start at checking the odds.
EDIT: lack of perspective perpetuates FROM lack of communication. (whoops)
@@optimistic_cynic, maybe you should stop caring? I mean in a way that people will say things and it will still hurt BUT you will not increase the pain because you do not care that much, you need to remember only a couple of things of that kind of "feedback" or their judgements that can MAYBE positively influence you. I became a 20 year old recently and I have the same package of problems but I just had stopped arguing and began doing my thing. What is the point of wasting time?
Everyone acts like kicking their son/daughter out is the solution, but the problem also stems from societal and economic factors. There are millions of students every year who graduate, but never really get their opportunity to land that crucial first-step career role. Many with their degrees and youthful energy are forced to go into lower wage, labor or service-oriented jobs for several years just to make ends meet, and still never get their shot.
Most of my friends who are successful literally landed their first jobs at reputable companies and just stuck with it until they were in corporate management or what have you.
Very few people I know in their 30s got to a $100k+ job from starting out after college at a Starbucks or call center for example.
The guy is probably not motivated to find work because he knows that the only opportunities out there for him are shitty, low wage, labor or service jobs that don't require any education, and so he feels like his Chem E degree isn't being valued at all by anyone in society. Sometimes, all a man/woman needs is some acknowledgement of their talent/skills and an equivalent opportunity to meet it.
It's been so many years for him since he did Chem E stuff that he's probably also not feeling confident about his knowledge on the subject. All because no one offered him a job early-on when it counted, despite his hundreds of applications.
Alot of people fail at the 1st impression test at interviews.... So all that study didn't mean a damn thing 😅 let's face it, not everyone is born to "fit" in, and yes you can fake it till you make it but some people never "make it" and keep faking it , till it eats your soul 😂 it's brutal.
He graduated into the 2008 recession. Very few grads were able to land a job in 2009.
I’m like the son but I finally starting to get my shit together. It took my dad dying and a heart break from a fling to push me to stop being a coward. I want to make my dad proud and the next time I find a girl I don't want me being a loser being the reason I lose her. He has to find courage and just start moving forward. I still need to do a lot and if you met me you would think I was loser but at the very least I’m way better than I was a year ago and I know next year I’ll be better than I am now.
You got this brotha! Now you are self aware and it’s time to take action 💯
Yeah I’ve never had gf because of not having a good enough career.
I didn't care when my parents divorced and I was in my 20s. My own divorce at 38 destroyed me. Quit job since then. Living off savings.
Dave ramsey would have ripped these people a new one...
if my parents ever kicked me out I'd kill myself
@Tobias Daniel shut up
Never pity your children. Pity is emotionally crippling. I was (unintentionally) the victim of it from a mother who felt guilty about her lifestyle choices after my father died when I was a kid. Even if you feel bad about a divorce, or even if it's something that was just bad luck, always send the message that you have expectations of your kids. Give them the message that even though the circumstances might make things harder, they can still succeed in spite of it. Personally it took me a long time to pull myself, with the support of good people in my life, out of that mentality, but it can be done.
Never pity your children unless you did nothing to teach them in life. There are no bad students, only bad teachers.
I’m 20 and feel like I’m the in exact position I explained
Yeh I am 29 going back to college.
I worked 4 jobs 1-2 years a piece. I decided to go back to college and then had a routine check up and was hit with massive medical issues in my mid twenties. Now I’m going back to college at 29. During those 4 years I worked odd jobs around town (painting houses/hauling junk) or worked under the table for family friends. My dream job is to work at a gun store since my favorite hobbie is sport shooting(skeet/gssf)... However I’m half way through my IT program so I can get into remote work since My immune system ain’t the best. Just got to keep pushing forward day by day.
Well at least you worked.
My sister in law, 30 years old this year and is still in college. She only takes one subject a semester and never works, not even one simple part-time job. She can't drive or bother to learn how to drive. My mother in law 68 years old has to take her to school and feed her. Yet, she still doesn't bother to go work, even when I offer her a job from my own business. She said she is busy. All she does is taking one subject a semester and playing video games and watching TV all day, doesn't know how to cook either.
I admire people like you, you decide to go back to college, you probably know what you want to do, but People like her bother me a lot.
26 i had a job before as graphic artist in 2017, but that only lasted for 2 months. They fired me for not answering a phone call. Since that, i didn't have job. What worse is i live in a third world country and my family is not even rich. I always wanted to work, but fear always get into me. "What if get hired and i can't do my job properly, my boss will yell at me, and my co-worker will laugh at me," stuff like that always echoing in my head.
Even though i am replying late but assuming you will see this comment one day...
i also had job in construction (and i live in 3rd world country too), where i got 7000 INR per month, which means i got only 100$ per month, you won't believe me, but here Situation is like this only.
Peak pressure, one of the, no! THE worst work life balance ever, society pressure, nobody ready to give woman or no woman ready to marry me because of my salary., relatives laughing at me, depression, emotional dilemma.
Then came the kidney stone operations, that too 3 times! and that entirely reciprocated my life. My life was in huge debt and i have to sell half of my property to overcome these difficulties.
Now i have studied java and having (atleast) a decent job. In civil engineering i had studied n number of subjects like Strength if materials, RCC, steel structures, irrigation and water resources, surveying, dynamics of building and much more. But a single tech java is the one that gives me decent job.
So the one thing i learned is that, there is no "living" in this earth when you idle yourself from this fast moving world with numerous tech. You can only just survive, with 100% probability that you will fail. But just learning one tech you can live and save your life. Choosing the right career is the most and very very VERY important.
@@MrBALAKUMARA well you never had depression and anxiety, I'm someone who has both, and learning new skills then clearing an interview is even tougher.
@@polaris1985 i had depression, more depression. But i never had anxiety, because there is one mantra, 'do your duty, just don't expect anything, whether its profit or loss', its the key to your success.
It is sad and scary to be in a society where top top top class designs the way you work, dress and think. No way. Too much adoration to JOBS AND WORK IN AMERICA.
Americans need to see how to enjoy life the right WAY
What about someone who is 30, only has a high school diploma, has never had a job, still lives with mom and other siblings, only has 1 brother who is trying to help him figure out his life but the rest of the family does the opposite which encourages him that it's OK to stay the way he is? 🤔 He doesn't ask for anything. He takes whatever you give him. If you don't take him clothes shopping, he'll never go on his own nor ask. He cleans around the house and babysits.
I think he could benefit from therapy.
My parents sent me to therapy when I was 21 because I was a bum. It was a slow process but in the end it did help. People often forget about the mental issues failure to launch people may have. Because I believe a person wants to have a purpose in life more than anything so its worrisome when they wouldn't go out and do something with their life. Be it education, work or hobbies. If he's 30 and never had a job before then my advice is to: just lie about the employment gap. Had to take care of a relative or had health issues.
My brother is similar to that. He may have dependent personality disorder so he feels happily reliant on other people, submissive to others, and that he is incompetent of taking care of himself. He probably needs psychotherapy and to ease into making more decisions for himself. If you don't push him, he will continue down that path.
@Maxey the thing is he is very kind, considerate, respectful, patient, and never disagrees with anyone. He does what everyone says and asks. Doesn't cause any trouble at all. He's like the most obedient person ever. 🤷♀️
@@chinkyfist6655 NGL, your bro sounds like me(around same age too). Very "normal" guy except just Jobless for years. Like someone else said, if he's too scared or worried about how employers, colleagues or just PEOPLE in general see him, tell him to LIE about his unemployment. Tell them he had his own business and quit or something. Its for his own benefit cause the brutal reality is people are garbage and judgmental AF. I wish your brother luck and strength. As for me too.
@@chinkyfist6655 so he’s an adult baby
All the judgemental people in this group. What about the people who have very controlling parents? Holding them back from certain opportunities.
At 30 parents shouldn't control you
@@nay7885 unfortunately not everyone is as blessed to have parents who give them freedom.
@@nay7885 they could and if not that doesnt mean there is no "trauma" for that
@@nay7885 ...i wish I wasnt born
@@worldcup6553 why?
I was 27 before I had steady income. Before that I mowed yards, painted houses, some roofing and lived in Honduras for 7 years with my family. I'm pretty sure he has something to show for his life even if it working for free. You always have to start at nothing and decide not to be lazy.
As someone who tried his hand at ChemE and couldn't cut it (got a CompSci degree with Math minor instead- easy peasy), it's true what they say about it being one of the most time-intensive and intellectually demanding STEM majors out there. Even if you graduate with a sub-3.0 GPA, you're SMART. I don't know what the job market is like for ChemE grads with sub-par grades though, and maybe that's where the son's barrier to employment was. Or maybe he has social anxiety or a paralyzing fear of failure that got in the way of him trying to land that first job. After 10 years of his degree collecting dust, I imagine it's going to be hard to find a job in the field now, but I'll be rooting for him. I think once he gets the landing of that first job out of the way, he'll be making 6 figures in no time.
Even if he can't get a job as a chemical engineer, he can get a job doing something, anything to support himself. He's just lazy and comfortable. A long summer break after college turned into a year, then 3 years, then 10 years.
It would be difficult to get a job if you didn't complete internships in college. However, its not so difficult that you couldn't find something unless your grades are terrible or you are really bad at interviewing. Even if you couldn't get an engineering job, you could get a job you are overqualified for like a lab tech.
Isnt CompSci just as hard as ChemE?
His degree is too old for him to be able to find something now. Employers hate work gaps and college is a reset button. Unless you look fairly old you can get away with having a spotty work history. Can’t really join the military now so if I were him I’d get a security job or something easy and go for a second degree in something else like a trade school after going to therapy and seeing a psychiatrist.
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I have a 28 year old nefew like this with no degree, on games all day, smokes, has a hard time going anywhere too far from home, never dated and the guy has the answers to everything. Amost all his freinds are now maried. To what i see, its been his moms fault since day one. She wants him to depend on her. Crazy lady.
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That's my ex, he is 26 and his bro is 29. His mom had her car repossessed, and they had to move in with her sisters. They now share a room. He does not feel guilt or remorse but spends money on games. Something is def wrong with them.
It's always the parents fault
@@mariejae what money? Xp
Stop comparing people to others. So what if all his friends are married? Why does that mean he should be married?
Why would the father of a son who holds a STEM degree, specifically in a field that's over most everyone's head, run to some radio host for his problems? This guy you are seeking advice from probably majored in communications, and found his success through social methods, yet your son is probably an intellectual introvert who probably can't deal with people. You just keep doing what you've been doing. You provide for him if he can't get a job.
That’s unsustainable. I’m sorry but you can’t be deadweight forever.
I don’t think providing for a grown man the rest of his life is the way to go tbh
Damn, When I saw the title I wasnt expecting the boy to have a degree in chemical engineering.
I’m 29 and had multiple jobs but those jobs were all entry levels. Very hard to move up in the ranks due to people in upper positions having a certain attitude towards promoting employees I see at every job I worked at . Either you have to kiss ass for months for just a few cents or get super lucky
Same here and im 31, i have tryed call center but have always been rejected, people only judge me, but some of them have born in families that have their own bussines, but my family dont have one, life its easer for the onés who like to judge, im in colombia, here there is not opportunities, i would clean bathrooms in Canadá or usa because i know It could help me to send money to my family, but here its not even posible. Please, someone tell me how to leave this country. As a woman with avoidant personality disorder it has been very hard living, i have just started studiying art in a public university but my anxiety is been very difficoult to deal, and the theory part of the art its being very painful to understand, i feel so stupid, why a poor person cant dream about becoming an artist, why people make me feel bad about that, i like drawing and painting and want to find a way to have a decent life learning deep about it.
Im 35 and female studied in humanities in 2 countries while working since 2012, I moved to Canada in 2019 and that's when I hit the wall of job market super hard ... I've been jobless since and back in school again trying to gain that Canadian experience every one kept mentioning to me here .... but I fear I'm just wasting my time ....
never worked in my life,and i'll never do it.The only thing i do are concerts but it's a pleasure
How are you living?
@@kirapoodle i do concerts
@@MaestroStefanoPetrini My bad I didn't read, that's cool.
you're not allowed to encourage a father to kick out his son even if he's more than 30. For example, in the Arab world, it's okay to live with your parents and of course when they get old you'll look after them.
when i finished college with my culinary degree there was very few option for me when COVID hit especial place where i live that relay on tourism which devastated the economy. Towards the end of the day my final option was work at home being a at home caregiver for my grandpa. so far I been doing this job for 2 years and will be doing my best to keep going.
Been without a job for 3 months now, and I've been working since I was 15.
did you get a job now
36+ on 2021.Suffering Paralysis(2000-2006).I am a Geoscience(Msc) Student.Still don't have job.2 of my family member(1is Lung Fibrosis and others is Car Accident)died recently.Also I have a divorcy sister with 2 girl child.😤L..I..F..E😖From..🇮🇳🙏
I'm 31 and jobless.... this hit me so hard...my problem is...I don't need to find a job for filling my stomach....my mom my sister my dad even my sister's hubby makes sure I have everything... even though they certainly want me to start working....my family loved me so much that now I'm a total looser....but I'll change...becoz I have started seeing hints of thier frustration.
What did you do to change
Have the same problem. My parents have done everything for me. I feel utterly incompetent and unprepared for the real world.
Same problem here. I have master’s degree in phys chem, 31y/o this year and have not landed any work related to my degree. Every single day i felt so stupid, incompetent and useless. Help
It's you frustration or their frustration ..choose 🙂
@@fabianatrindade56 never ever think about suicide, please 🙏, dear. Life is opportunity
Some people don't have jobs their entire lives and are way happier than most others, it also needs to be said. We're in an era where having a master's degree from a good university can very well lead you to super shitty jobs because of how competitive the market is.
The era where you could become successful by being "ok or good" is over, you need to be the top of the top of the crop now as an employee. The only other option is to launch a business or to be lucky.
It depends the thing is many jobs if you work in a environment dealing with many toxic workers for many hours it can end up giving you so much stress and depression but if a person never works. It’s stress free for some ppl there has been celebrities that never worked at a job but make a income off a side hustle that they enjoy doing.
It's true that some people don't have jobs their entire lives and are way happier than most others. We call them "trust fund kids". Thanks for pointing out that the filthy rich children of the filthy rich don't have real jobs.
honestly. we are at 8 billion people who are looking for jobs. there will always be someone that can do better than us but the fact is that it makes harder to hire just about anyone now.
you are spot on
I can relate I'm 30 women still live at home I left school at 15 but I never had a paid job before but also I have disabilities
@@Rose-hg8ls same
My sister in law, 30 years old this year and is still in college. She is NOT disabled at all. She only takes one subject a semester and never works, not even one simple part-time job. She can't drive or bother to learn how to drive. My mother in law 68 years old has to take her to school and feed her. Yet, she still doesn't bother to go work, even when I offer her a job from my own business. She said she is busy. All she does is taking one subject a semester and playing video games and watching TV all day, doesn't know how to cook either.
I can't understand how someone can live like that, when their mom get weaker and older everyday.
@@bichnuantibs How is your sister in law doing now? Has she graduated or found a job?
Same here man all my life I never had anyone really tell me what work and all that good stuff is about never really had anyone push me or believe in me always found it hard to believe in myself but here I am I have finally found my way on my own and I come to this now I’m Having trouble and don’t know what to do or the first place to look
He sounds like he has terrible social skills and was being enabled by his dad. The fact that his dad is calling about his grown son instead of him speaks volumes.
Do you think it's possible for the son to still become a self-made man?
@@ulyssescat2672 sure, but it’s highly unlikely. The dad has pampered this boy to death all of his life. If the dad suddenly dies, he’s screwed.
@@esonon5210 what if all dads money is inherited by the son?
@@arnoldthegreat4138 the dad can take him out of the will. i seriously doubt that will happen.
Why do you assume that he doesnt have something worse than "lazyness"
0:49 - 1:12 I'm sorry. I can respect the fact he said he doesn't know all the details but that was incredibly toxic how you instantly default to "He's lazy, he doesn't know hardship, you're too easy on him" instead of questioning FIRST why the father might think he's been unemployed and looking into the other possibilities... You are the type of person to have said the same about me, feeding to my parents to threaten to either kick me out or pressure me into some form of employment when the reality is I've been struggling in silence with my mental health and on the brink of wanting to take my own life... It's so harmful and dangerous to preach that someone is automatically lazy because they "Are intelligent, have a degree".. honestly If I was given pressures that you're suggesting I'd probably be dead today...
I guess my situation isn't exactly the same, I have a degree myself, I have worked a few jobs but I can't maintain my job because my mental health has lead me to lose said job, however I came at it all the time on "oh I didn't realise it was a temp but I'll find a new one" when in reality they let me go because I was always gloomy(not even a joke) or some false accusation would make me kick off so I'd walk out... Stop assuming the worst in people who might be struggling... that's how suicides happen.
I pray that guy took a different approach to the toxic one you suggested.. and if he didn't I pray his son is ok.. You're so incredibly harmful and should NEVER be giving advice... Your "help" just hurts.
Thanks, Ken! My takeaway is I need to engage in hardship.
WELCOME TO SOCIETY TRYING TO FIT YOU IN A BOX. “You made it too comfortable.” How about he could have no interest whatsoever in anything or there’s no purpose to be alive or get a job. Stupidest take ever.
Well what if they have tried finding a job? Why must we all be judged and put down for things we have tried in the past?
There's a lot of children out there suffering for a job and they never seem to get any
Why was the big elephant still not addressed with this caller? The man said that the son is not living with him anymore BUT HE ALSO CLEARLY STATED that the son is living in ANOTHER HOUSE THAT THE FATHER OWNS. So the son is still not living on his own. He is still being taken care of by the DAD.
I’m 17 and haven’t had a job yet. I know it’s somewhat silly because I’m still in high school but all my friends have jobs but I don’t have a drivers license quite yet (I have a permit)but still feel bad for not having a job.
I’m 29 and I have only had two short lived jobs. I have a degree as well.
Wow!
Tbh a lot of people only stay in one job
@@starrix4712 yeah but i havent worked for four years
29, had 3 jobs, an engineering degree from a top 5 university in my country, B school post grad from the number 1 b school in the country, and still have like 2 sabbaticals on my resume, I’m currently reeling through the second sabbatical that I took during covid outbreak. It’s about 9 months now and I almost feel bipolar everyday between wanting to be comfortable and wanting to go out there and search for a job. 😭😭
I just would like to know what he’s been doing for the past 10 years and who’s been paying for it.
Dad of course. Why should this 30 year old kid get off his lazy ass and work when other people are paying his way through life?
David Reynolds I guess that’s true. I just can’t imagine not doing anything, sitting around the house, and letting someone else pay my bills.
Plus I would be soooo bored. Gracious.
Fortunately, I’ve never had anyone to enable me to be quite so lazy. I actually like to work.
Video games
how is he any worse then a sugar baby or stay at home mum who never lifted a finger,. Least he has a degree,.
My ex is 26, just started going to JC last fall but doesn't work at least part time. He's obsessed with video games, nothing else. He was clever to act like he cared about my passions but I started to see his true colors after some time.
This is nothing, I know someone who is 43 and never had a job or any money at all, he graduated high school in 1995 and hasn’t done anything since then but stay home
Somone must be helping him out you sure he isnt making money from something.
@@cryptojonny6837 no money and never had a job, his mother supports him, now he's 44, not a bad guy, he's just lazy, he got too comfortable being like that, that's why he doesn't have that much, besides a roof over his head
Me too except I'm 37.
@@denellwest hes 46 now and still the same
@@midnightrocker7 👌🏾👍🏽
He graduated into the 2008 recession... Many 2009 grads struggled to find work after graduation. He probably tried for a few years and then gave up.
I'm 37
Semi retired
Landlord
Part time photographer and retailer
I worked my ARSE off
I worked on mines and mills and saved and invested
I dropped out of college
BEST decision I ever made
I have bipolar and was homeless living in my car for three weeks
Depressed, stinking and starving
I walked past a blockbuster video and saw an advert the 2000s movie Torche
The tag line was
"If you've got nothing left to lose, the only way to go is up"
Something snapped within me
I went to a GP and got diagnosed with Bipolar
I went through trial and error with medication and manned up
I trekked north to the mines
Lived in a tent
Lived in a car then van
I saved and invested
Now I'm rich
Man that kind of happened to me. Not entirely not having a job, but never having a real job until 33. I graduated in engineering, then did an specialization in HR. Best grad in high-school. At University didn't start well but finished strong. Lived with my parents the whole time.
To make story short, I couldn't find a real job for almost 6 years. When I got 30 I used my really small savings plus some cash mom and dad gave me and I bought a ticket to another country, married and well here I am lol Still alive, still married and I've been working since I left.
Now I have to be honest, I went from a shitty job to a better one and keep moving up but never properly as an engineer. Mostly using all my skills in jobs with different titles.
Now I'm struggling with taking that step from surviving into progress. I'm 36 now.
The lesson is that in real life nothing is granted and nothing is deserved. Life doesn't give a F. You just have to get up fight for yourself without blaming no one, not even yourself. Just get up and fight. You'll find happiness and sadness like every other person in this world.
Good advice. Im 32 and jobless too. Actually i have worked since i was 24 and stop working at 30 because i had to take care of my parents. 2 years im still searching for a job. Im single too and it make me so depressed sometimes. Felt useless all the time
@@nazmimohamad4079 just start something by yourself man, even as small your endeavor may be everything has a beginning . You never know the ending.
At a point in my life I started to sell little dog sculptures, somehow that took off and I sell those as a side job all around the world. That’s a very uncommon business lol and someone out there was willing to pay for it.
Just start anything and if it doesn’t work just start something else 🤷🏼♂️
Remember life can surprise you for the good and for the bad.
@@razeru3386 lol love that
@@Fluffy-777 😃
Wow their are a lot of people like his son out their.
The fact that no one wants to admit is we don't need everyone in society working. That scares people.
Been working since 16, now I'm 26 lost my job a month ago and I've sent out around 50 resumes. Well at least I have a work history so I have that going for me I guess.
Yeah this is me. I'm 29. I only ever did a few part times that I can't really make into a Coe and therefore virtually worthless. It's as if I haven't existed for the last ten years and finding a job is living hell. Knowing that barely anyone will give you the time of day to give you a shot at a job, that I'll be passed over by more younger or more experienced people no matter the job. I'm at the end of my rope to be honest.
@@fabianatrindade56 I pray that one day you can look back at this situation and it will all be a distant memory.. And life will turn around for you 🙏🏽
John 47. If you have savings move to another country.. Eg. Barcelona has loads of tech jobs but not enough qualified in that field to fill the roles.. There is a place for you
I'm 26 and in the same boat. I dropped out of college after wasting 4 years there, I had spent the first 2 jumping majors, and the last 2 on what I thought I was passionate about. I just sort of burnt out. Since then I have done nothing, 4 fucking years I've wasted after that, and now the years seem like they're disappearing faster and faster. I had a few jobs at 23, but not for even a year. I'm done with life, sooner or later I'll probably end up dead.
@@Fluffy-777 How can one find out information like that reliably? That seems super useful to know which nation/city has demand for what job/skill...
@@Akaki1999 probably the best place would be to check on the countries embassy Web pages, some of them have jobs posted there.. Otherwise linkedin or glassdoor I suppose. I'm no expert on finding jobs in other countries.. Maybe even go to a recruitment firm that looks for jobs all over Europe
Work is slavery
Indeed it is but temporarily working until u can get big enough loan and then just invest it and live off that is pretty smart move.
Life is slavery. The aborted are truly the lucky and blessed ones.
work is necessary and unavoidable till we can get the robots to do it for us lmao
That's right, some are successful with their biology and environment, but in the end we all experience ugly aging and dying. Biological life is waste.@@12012channel
I'm kinda in this position at 21. Slight social anxiety but I think the more I work and engage the more it will reduce. My main worry is applying to uni. I'm on my 4th gap year.
Update to your situation? I'm in college but still have feelings of uselessness and being dependent on others/burden
1.there no a lot job
2.pedimic
3.it's hard to get a job
4.still economy is bad
5.American dream is dead
ken coleman wake and understand
so then give up right?
The advice about having a talk definitely isn't bad, but the kicking out bit isn't just terrible, it's outright reckless endangerment. For all you know, someone might follow it, and since you know close to nothing about the *actual* situation, chances aren't that bad some of those cases end in tragedy. Not all people respond well to pressure or hardship, and if additional factors are in play, such as mental illness or neurological conditions, that kind of advice actually comes with a *high* chance for a catastrophic outcome. Yes, you brought up counseling - but the father didn't know his son's patient history, and counseling isn't always successful (especially when neurological conditions are involved, such as autism or ADHD and the counselor isn't specialized in it).
You probably don't care about some random opinion, but that kind of advice really is quite a ways beyond the line of what anyone should give a stranger, in a call lasting a few minutes, *about someone else that isn't even in the call* .
Kicking people out with mental illness just means they are going to be homeless.
Why should I, a White man, bother trying for anything in a world that hates me? I have gone through nothing but bullying in my childhood, so why go out into the world just to get even more bullying?
I'm in the same position except I didn't graduate math faculty and I'm trying to get a decent job and continue my education. But it seems like I'm not gonna make it...
I’m sorry all I hear is excuses. Parents that enable their children enable them to fail more and more. This starts early in life and progresses into a full neurotic state that gets harder to overcome. Tough love is still love
Suddenly I don’t feel so bad being 36 working in fast food
😂
Whatever does it for you....
I did master in Biotechnology in 2018. I have poor knowledge, and also communication problem so I never had a job. Now I'm 25 but for past 7 months I did a paidwork in portrait artwork then I quit this work of my passion. Art has no scope in India so I left art. Now I don't know what to do.. Life goes on but I'm suffering and struggling with myself still I don't have any plan with my life.. Each and Every day will be like hell.. Couldnt do anything peacefully. Depressive state
@@extraterrestrial546 WOW man aeronautical! So what job are you doing? Now. Better do short time course in ur core.
@@extraterrestrial546 oh startup, that's nice to hear. Good luck..preparing for exams and doing artworks.
@@extraterrestrial546 r u from?
I'm 21, a nursing student in college, and I never had a job.
Same, in college also and I’m 20. Not necessary, but I am looking for a part-time job now to feel like a useful member of society and experience lol.
You're still so much better off than me. I'm 26 and still trying to apply to nursing school. And haven't still haven't had a real full time job
We all should just stop working and see what happens.
10 YEARS??!! This man has been enabling his son and is the primary reason Imo that he is lazy and entitled living in one of Daddy's houses, rent free. How stupid can parents be?
My ex is 26 and his bro is 29. They have never really worked. Mom pays for everything to the point her car was repossessed, and had to move in with aunts. They share a room. My ex never thought about taking responsibility for himself. Tried to help him but finally saw that he did not have a problem with anything. There is something off with his mom and sadly he and his bro.
He's gonna have to evict his son if he refuses to leave even though his son doesn't pay rent to legally remove him. That will make it very hard for his son to get an apartment since they do background checks on evictions. He may be able to use a Hostel instead.
Just turned 23 and never had job so far for mainly same reason as that guy, feeling too comfortable in my room and not having any real passion, only thing I seem to be interested in are ways to just improve my lifestyle like getting more muscular, having good sleep, focus better, feel better and all those things but anything outside of "me" doesn't really interest me to the point of it being "passion"... but well have to find some lucrative career path since living sheltered and only focusing on me isn't very viable for long term...
Didn’t Eren give you a job?
@@footballfan283 Lmao. Since war ended no one needs soldiers anymore so now I'm homeless in Marley, after swimming there without any rest...
Several incidents caused no work for me, looking back. It is sad.
Please stop beating a man when he is down.Americans and their tough love approach .Tough love doesn't work all the time.
These americans kick their kids out and wonder why the turn out to be homeless druggies(not
generalizing)
This man needs support and not condemnation.He needs therapy and certification courses and learn new skills.And can look for jobs outside chemical engineering.
It’s sad actually, i might understand his situations a little. As in high school i got bullied and that one of the reason i feel frightened to go outside i feel scared when i met those asshole during working. I admit getting job is very crucial, btw i have work experience but not in my province. And i know all this scenarios are only overthinking, it hard you know, the feeling ‘you realize it necessary but, something holding you back’. Im sharing this just so you know you guys are not alone. I can’t say I’m better but As for today I still trying to accept the situations and still building my confidence so i can be like everybody else out there. I really wished for strength to get through this so i can have a job in my province without looking for a job on the outside my province
Yeah. Been bullied in school in past and now even by neighbors. I didn't go outside for prob 2 years. It's frightening as you said. I don't know how am I supposed to find a job. I am scared.
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Keep fighting and building confidence you can do it we can do it 🏴
If he doesn't have psychological problems or mental health diagnosis then military isn't a bad option if you invest as much military income as possible into an index fund. They don't like recruiting older people, though. Stay in it for as long as you can, and you can easily get a night time security job after until you save 500k. They have desk jobs for accounting and a lot of other stuff. Retiring in the US is expensive. Move to Thailand or a low cost of living country and you can retire real early (high speed internet beautiful views), but you need life skills to live somewhere like that. No need for low pay part-time retail job or high paying skilled job to retire.
I am 25 and got late off now I cant find a job, its time to start a business and podcast
I am 32 and never had a job as I am extremely lazy and carefree and do not know what the future holds.
I have a question as someone in your predicament but younger.
Sorry for this potentially coming of as rude but… do you not feel shame for being basically a useless member to society?
@@ericwilliams1832 Well, I am an individualist and self-centered person, so I do not care much about society. Still, I started to slowly regret the decision I made as I am broke and have few friends, spending most of my time in my home. I want to experience good things before I die such as traveling, meeting new people, etc. But to do that you need to earn money. I am so lazy that (because I have Asperger's and possibly ADHD) I cannot do remote work from home (such as translating, video editing, etc) as I am distracted easily and procrastinate often.
If you are a person like me but have the willpower to pull yourself out of this situation, I would highly recommend it, not for society but for your own well-being and future.
I am literally going through sum similar shit. I’ve applied to well over 900 jobs, in the past couple of weeks & still haven’t had much luck!!!
& every time the company decides to contact me for a possible interview. They either reschedule or give the position to someone else…very frustrating!!!
Well some people live with their parents even though your old. I’m 27 no job and I sell things online and life a good life with my parents my parents pay a lot of things for me but we are all happy I help out little bit! Some people don’t have good parents like my parents never kicked me out when I didn’t have money
Cool
What do you sell
Kids absorbe there parents.. stronger the parents stronger the kid... that's why a father must have quality of good leader...
And
Second most important question he asked.. why he never realised that he should have a job... what stopped him to realise this ...
May be he suffering mentality .. the agony he is feeling constantly that consumes his mind and not leave any space for other things.. and that stopping him to understand
im33 never had a job also cuz I’m slow i have No clue what can I do I have no learning skill ??? it ALL gravy i just stay home & smoke Netflix weed every Day’s
I was 35 before my first job
Tell me more!
I wanna know too
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I need your tips Bro. Hahah.
Sweet
I was something of a basement dweller/couch potato until I found my current job when I was hired at 25 years old.
@zeuperm Currently 27.
How did you find your first job, if you didn't have experience?
@@blimeygirl4357 I answered an ad through Craigslist in my area that was looking for people to promote an in store product at a retail store. They even offered training for people with or without experience. That is how I got the job.
@@FlavoredGenuine Thank you for answering. I'm in a similar position.😐
@@blimeygirl4357 You're welcome.
It's never too late to find jobs that are willing to train and hire people with no job experience, so I feel your pain.
As I mentioned earlier, use Craigslist and search for jobs that are willing to work with people like you.
I'm 24 this year and i always changing my job since after graduate, I think at about 6 types of job already i do in the past of 3 years. Sometimes i feel so stupid in my life
same here dude, I wonder what you are doing right now, I am exactly in the same situation
nadzeer harris Changing jobs is how a lot of us do things now a days. So many options and hard to stick with one. I’m kind of in a similar spot. You’re not stupid Nadzeer. Don’t beat yourself up. Jesus has a plan. Follow Him
@@khenbanta3634 Still changing the job. I don't know man i can't work with people
@@nadzeer77well goodluck to us just don't give up
As least u have jobs unlike this guy
I'm not going to work in my life due to inheritance and disability benefits. Chill people/
Just thinking of going to college.
How is being homeless gonna help him become employed
Even if he wakes up and tries to get a job, he probably won't be given a chance due to being homeless.
that is my thinking too.
give him 2-week notice
Exactly. Someone in this situation would probably rather kill themself than be homeless. After 10 years it's hard to see the way back to normalcy.