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A while back I was in a mentally abusive relationship where in some ways I was treated lesser than their dog. But if I brought it up I was being an asshole and selfish. I was crazy and was talking to inanimate objects, etc. Everything was my fault. I in turn wondered, "maybe it's true. Maybe I am the crazy one. Maybe I'm a narcissist intentionally hurting this person and lying to myself about it. So I started researching so I could try to fix myself. As I searched it looked worse. I related to narcissistic personality disorder. I related to anti social personality disorder, both the sociopathic and psychopathic traits. I really must be crazy then, there's no hope. RUclips started recommending me all kinds of stuff along those (these) lines. Then I watched a youtube video by a self defense instructor that had a masters in psychology named Richard Grannon. The video was titled "am I the narcissist?" I've read a million articles and watched a million videos and none of them could give a straight answer. Within the first couple of minutes he says (not exactly,) "if you are admitting that you may not be perfect and are looking this up, you are likely not the narcissist. In fact, you are probably in a relationship where someone is making you feel crazy, which is what a narcissist does." Since then I have learned and yes, we all do exhibit narcissistic, sociopathic, and psychopathic traits. Life is all about boundaries. These disorders exceed any normal boundary, but the traits exist well within any boundary too. Be aware of yourself and consciously think about your boundaries that you've never thought about. Where do you end and the other person begins? How much can you ask of them? Would you ask that of yourself? Just because you would ask it of yourself, does it mean that you should ask it of others? This applies to people that are hurting you too. The individual that made me feel that way, I'm certain now was a narcissistic personality disorder. That doesnt mean I get to narcissistically make them the bad guy. I could have easily been in their shoes. If you don't want to be the doormat, get off the floor. Set boundaries, and if they don't allow it, leave, and never look back. I hope this helps.
@@traudlgoring No, not what I meant, I mean people can have traits of sociopathy and still believe there is a god, I’m not talking about people who would slaughter a goat in worship.
And they say introverted for shy people as well. Like no you can be loud and an introvert it just means your social battery runs out quicker than the average person's does. And antisocial means acting against the social norms ffs. The term they should be using is asocial but society is dumb and engraves words into our brains linking to specific shit to the point where we all just think that it's right when it's not
You don’t have to have empathy to understand people, it’s hard to explain but I’ve learned this from watching several psychiatrists say the same. Their intelligence through observing their surroundings and people is enough to make them understand without the need feel empathy. Needless to say, some dark empaths are sociopaths.
@@boxergirl84 That is wrong. Sociopath have feelings, all feelings including affection! They don't have empathy. F.e. if a friend cries in front of them, they don't get automatically sad feelings too. They can understand what is going on ( they aren't autistic ) and they can have sympathy, f.e. this thing happened to me too, it felt like this, so this is probably what my crying friend is going through right now. But the feeling doesn't swap over to them. They can also have compassion, the want to help the crying friend. A lot get diagnosed late, because they don't know they don't have empathy. And they don't actually stick out that often. There is a spectrum. And personality plays a big role too. Imagine someone who is empathetic but a complete a**hole. Now take empathy away on top of it. Pretty bad. But if someone has a kind, calm and soft personality, but lacks empathy, probably not that much of a problem. Genetics play a role, but mostly it is caused by having cold parents that discourage their children from feeling from a young age, f.e. to "toughen them up". They often end up in therapy for depression and a feeling if deep emptiness inside of them, that nothing seems to fill up. And are then discovered to have Aspd. Some get violent due to that emotional pain. They can also have problems with dopamine, need new things otherwise they feel bored. Some can be pretty bad, but some are chill. So it really depends on the person. I hope this was understandable.
@@boxergirl84 It's kinda like "ohh wow, Did Michelle just fell flat face first in the stairway? Ehh, poor girl" instead of "What!!? Is Michelle ok? Is she injured? Does she need medical attention?" (This is just inside their mind so they're talking in a 3rd person's perspective)
Growing up, I've always struggled with maintaining relationships with my family and friends. It was a long journey trying to figure out why and realizing I was narcissistic, manipulative, insensitive, etc. It takes a lot to unpack and unlearn the childhood trauma and toxic behaviors you've been carrying your whole life. So thank you to all the angels who've been patient and tried to understand us, we never asked to be this way and more often than not, we don't know better. We just need help.
A Narcissist wouldn’t ever admit this. I also had trouble w Family and friends . But, it was because I was Scapegoated in a Narcissistic Family Dynamic. This Confession Above Sounds pretty Empathic … A True Narcissist would never Admit & say this Confession you have said.
@@Seraphim7 well, isn't that the beauty of the complexity of humans? We aren't confined to subcategories and life is a constant struggle to becoming better.
You're fine there's nothing wrong with you. Your probably just more intelligent than those you surround yourself with. If you did surround yourself with this with a higher intelligence then you'd say that they are narcissistic and sociopathic.
I thought it was funny that all the jobs the video specifically mentioned were only high profile, high paying jobs that affect the livelihoods of other people. No wonder so many people think politicians and lawyers have no soul lmao
A friend of mine is actually a sociopath. He's actually very chill. He can be very cold sometimes, but that's just him being him. The way he says it is that most sociopaths who manipulate others do so because they're bored and want entertainment; been friends with him for 6 years and he hasn't tried to hurt me yet, in fact, he's actually helped me with my depression on multiple occasions. Sociopaths can be extremely dangerous for sure, and a lot of what was said can be true, but not 100% of the time for all sociopaths; not all of them are out to manipulate you and ruin your life. A lot of the sociopaths that you don't hear about on the news are just trying to blend in because they know society will tear them to shreds by just being what they are. Also, this video really makes it sound like you think sociopaths are evil, they are not. They are just misunderstood. One thing that I heard from someone on Reddit is, "The sociopaths that are good people and don't try to go out of their way to harm individuals are usually sociopaths that don't ever tell you or show you that they are a sociopath." All in all, if you're being abused by a sociopath, by all means, get out of that relationship, but not all sociopaths want to hurt you.
@@denismuresan11 What are you quoting exactly? That sounds like something I’d say, but this comment seems somewhat out of the blue. If I said that could you point it out? I have a bad memory.
I unfortunately recognized all these signs way too late: mental and physical abuse, gaslighting, manipulation…. now with an unplanned pregnancy. I’ve never felt that “my life is over” feeling until that moment. Forever trapped with the most abusive and damaging woman I’ve ever dated is a feeling i wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.
God can help you through it. Be hopeful and trust God. we have all sinned, and broken God’s law (the Ten Commandments). When a person breaks the law, they are then considered a criminal, and to bring justice, the judge must sentence/judge them according to their wrongdoings. No matter how big or small the crime, a person who breaks the law is a criminal, and are not judged by their good deeds but by what they have done wrong. For example; a m**der cannot say “I donated millions of dollars to an orphanage, you should let me go, look at all the good I’ve done.” Criminals are only judged for their wrongdoing, to let them go because of the “good” that they’ve done would be unjust. So those who have broken God’s law will be judged for their lawlessness, not the good that they’ve done. Since we have all sinned, we must be punished so that justice may take place. But if someone pays the fine for the crime we have committed we can legally walk free. Jesus took the punishment of sin, being innocent, so that all who repent of their sins and put their faith in Him may be saved. He essentially took our punishment so that we could walk free, he paid our debt. But one can accept or deny for someone to pay their fine, in like manner one can accept or deny this gift from God. If you repent of your sin (turn from it) and put your faith in Jesus, you will be saved.
Please please try to get custody of the child, I know your young but the hell your child will go through can’t be measured. It will likely be best for your child to have minimal contact with the sociopath
I'm a polarizing person; most of the people I've come into contact with have either loved me or hated me deeply with enough time spent to a seemingly abnormal extent, I've also repeatedly been told that I'm a sociopath before but internet strangers of course don't get to diagnose me. I think it might be true to some extent, but I do feel varying levels of empathy.
The primary traits of a sociopath are an inability to actually honestly care for another human being, to feel another's pain, to feel sorry (deeply, truly sorry) for the pain he/she causes you (or others), to feel real love, to feel any real obligation to the well being of anyone but himself/herself, to have a conscience, period. Some say sociopaths tend to be “very charming”. I disagree with this characterization. I believe, rather, the sociopath mimics what he/she has observed as “charming” behavior tailored specifically to the individual upon whom he/she decides to prey. Sociopaths get off on “getting one over on you”, on interacting with you long enough to figure out what you like/care about (be that your kids, your pets, your family, your music, your hobbies, whatever), then tailoring their comments and conversations with you to those topics to “reel you in”, feigning similar interests or interest in general, playing you like a fiddle until you think they're so cool or so funny … then, once they've gained your trust, start testing you little by little in more sick ways to see if you'll do things to please them. To a sociopath, who is easily bored, it's all a game. You are a joke to them. They are getting pleasure at your expense, even though it may take you awhile to catch on. But you should have some early instinctive feelings that “something just doesn't feel right about this”. Trust your instincts IMMEDIATELY. The longer you stay involved with a sociopath, the more you will come to feel demoralized and broken and, quite possibly, suicidal. To the sociopath, you (and the countless others upon whom they are preying - because, make no mistake, they typically have multiple victims going at one time, “the others” - who they're keeping secret from you), you are a source of ego inflating supply. Everytime he/she can get you to come running when they say they want you, get you to believe them when they say “they're done with all that ” (referring to whatever bad behavior you've discovered and confronted them with, behavior that has deeply hurt you), whenever you react to the pain they cause you by crying /breaking down/ pleading/screaming/cursing/sobbing … they are LOVING it. It's like you're giving them the best drug, the best high they've ever had. And they know they've got you … and you become an even bigger joke to them than what you were to begin with. You're no longer a challenge, though, frankly, which makes you easily dismissed by them. Just when you think you wont hear from them again, though, you suddenly will, with a text that seems innocent enough … and you may be tricked into thinking, at that moment, “See, he/she does really care!” But again, watch and live it out, if you must, but you'll only find yourself right back at devastation and heart shattering pain. The sociopath cares about NO ONE, period. Sadly, deep inside, not even himself/herself. They are people who harbor a deep inner self-loathing, whose core is made of empty nothing and hateful insecurity. But NEVER make the mistake of thinking - if only you could show the socipath how committed YOU are to him/her, how much you love him/her, how YOU believe they are worthy of love, you can fix their inner wounded child …. Blah, blah, blah. Just stop yourself, for the love of all that is sane. I beg of you. Because your best efforts WILL NOT work to achieve this end. Your best efforts, your repeated coming back to them like this, in fact will only affirm the sociopath’s view of you as a pathetic pawn from whom he/she can continue to get “supply” (the ego feed they desparately need to survive). You mean NOTHING to him/her. You never did. You never will. A sociopath is not curable. There is no medicine, no anti-psychotic, no antidepressant, no therapy (the sociopath would never engage it anyway) that can ameliorate this condition. The only thing you must do is take steps toward SELF PRESERVATION. And you must, because a sociopath will kill you eventually. Truly. Psychologically damage you so profoundly, if you stay engaged in any relationship with him/her over a substantial period of time, that you may never recover. I know this. I allowed myself to stay committed to one for 22 years. And I'm intelligent. But my belief in my own self worth plummetted to the most dangerous lows a person's self-value could plummett. If you recognize these traits in whomever you've begun a relationship with, just RUN. and never, NEVER, look back. Block all contact. Don't fool yourself, as I did for years after I finally said, “Get out!”, into thinking, “Well, he sent me this text. I mean, I guess we could be friends.” It doesn't work! A sociopath doesn't have friends. A sociopath gathers people for “supply”, and any acts of reaching out to you is an attempt by the sociopath to see if they can still hook you, whether you will stil be an easy source of “supply” to them. It is ALL at your peril and expense and ALL designed for his/her benefit. Run, run, and run. And never, never, never look back. Trust me. I KNOW the truth of which I speak. Additionally, Catching a cheating spouse might be difficult, and knowing what local laws say you can and cannot do might be even more difficult. 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The traits you describe are much closer to a Narcissist Sociopath. As a more stable sociopath, I am confident and don't need ANY outside validation. I use socialization to get what I want. Nothing more. Also most sociopaths don't have self loathing. That's more a narcissist trait. Most sociopaths "love" themselves more than anything else. I put myself ahead of everyone. I have a deep loathing for humanity more than anything else.
@@FreedomsResNovae So, you hate people, in general. To you, humanity itself is a blight. (which is not far from the truth because of our brethren's destructive behaviour and greed.)
@@glimmyflimmy4554 its a sign of abuse/neglect i think. I think people who are domestic abused by people they trust get attached to them regardless on how they treat them. So you might be still attached to your family. Also Victims of abuse sometimes idolize their abusers so it would be even harder to let go of them. I hope you can recover and let go the toxic people in your life. peace out
When I was 8 I was hit by a car, had a terrible head injury and a broken femur. When I was 13 I was well on my way to being a complete sociopath. I did not understand why I acted the way I did until I came across a shrink that asked me if I ever had a brain injury. I said yes 5 years ago. He immediately switched gears with me after that. By the time I was 24 I was out of that hell. Thanks Doc.
I feel as though I was on my way to becoming a sociopath as well. My childhood was very traumatic and I started picking up violent behaviours and tried to constantly start fights and would do things that my teachers called me out for that was “bad” yet, I never even had a thought of it being a bad thing and would downright feel no remorse for anyone. I reckon if it weren’t for my dog 🐕 and for me researching these things I would’ve turned out really badly.
Can you tell me what are some things you do that represent sociopathic behavior? I think I might be a sociopath but I’m not sure. (I have manipulated people before, physically and mentally abused others, yet everyone sees me with great charm)
@@jeeniefl8022 it sounds like you definitely have qualifying elements. I was definitely a sociopath at one point. The thing that I haven’t seen anyone talk about on here: it wasn’t until I found Christ that I changed. Also, I changed almost immediately. I broke down crying and hyperventilating at all the sin I had done. It’s not too late. He will help you and anyone that humbled themselves and asks
I’ve struggled with empathy my whole life and at one point even looked into myself being a sociopath. But I worked on myself and developed feelings for people I care about. Now I’m ever more confused as seeing this video shows me that some do develop empathy but still have those antisocial traits. I’ve checked almost every box that is shown here so I guess I live on. Interesting to see the spectrum of this disorder and seeing how other people are has helped me also better understand how I work
All the best! I’m still working on feeling empathy but I think I’ve made progress since I’ve stopped having nightmare of stabbing my classmates and my father and my grandpa and myself..
I have no emotional empathy and can't get any if it. I guess I need to learn cognitive empathy then, if that's possible. People have a terrible opinion of me so I must be the trash they say I am. Hope to do better.
My brother is one. He manipulated and mentally abused my mother and I for years. He stole and minipulated money from our mother for years. All her retirement money. When we called the cops on him he would always get so mad and scream "what about me!?" when we would say we had to call them because we were scared of him and he was hurting us. The first time he went to prison I thought everything would be better but he manipulated mum into thinking he had changed. So I left. I couldn't take it anymore. Mum never understood how he treated me when she was at work, how he destroyed my confidence. But once I was gone he focused on her. All the gas lighting and cruelty I got shifted to her. The last time he went to prison, she cut ties with him finally. He is so sickeningly charming. The amount of times he sweet talked cops, mental health professionals and strangers into believing he was this great guy. I'm in therapy now for my cptsd after suffering years of his torment. I'm doing really well, working on my fear of people and learning to be proud of myself and love myself. He will never grasp nor care the damage he has done to us, ever and its taken therapy for me to accept that.
My uncle is a goddamn diagnosed psychopath and istg i feel so sorry for all his kids and ex-wives. He is also an extremely wealthy person and he runs a few businesses with my father (he had rarely beaten me in the past and now, so it's somewhat better) My uncle's first wife was literally hospitalized with a brain injury, because he did that to her. It happened a few times and then she ran away with her daughter (she was also beaten up by him at times). His second wife also ran away with her two sons. Idk what particularly he did to them, but when i sometimes meet them (my cousins) i can tell by their behavior that they are traumatized. Now has a third wife and a little son. He treats her like nothing as well, but she is still with him. Luckily, my father only abuses us (me, sis and mom) emotionally & mentally. And also tells us that he will throw us away from home at times. He is as wealthy as his brother, but we still live like average people and even worse at times. I know that if he cared he would do something. Trust me, he dealt with a loan of ~2-3 million dollars in span of a month. Damn, I sure hope to become rich one day to help my mom & sis...
My uncle is a sociopath. He used to beat me, sexually harass me when we were kids (he was 12 and I was 5). Now he is a drug addict p, stoles money and equipment from his mother (my grandmother)
I’m 28 and I have a sister who is 15 months younger than me. She is almost 27. She has been my best friend pretty much all of my life. Because of some recent events, I have come to realize she’s a text-book sociopath. Because of the chronic manipulation and deception, I’m not sure if I can have a relationship with her moving forward. This is heartbreaking for me and I feel like I am losing a part of me. But the way she treats me, our family, and those around her is unacceptable. I hope she can get the helps she needs to manage her disorder.
@@fishsticks5552 Fits rather for Moriarty. “He (Sherlock) wants that people think he’s a high-functioning sociopath,” says Moffat. “He’s not a sociopath, nor is he high-functioning. He’d really like to be a sociopath. But he’s so fucking not.” Sherlock isn't a so called "high functioning sociopath." It doesn't exist a thing like that. "High functioning" is a term which is usually used for people in the autistic spectrum who are intelligent enough to adapt to the society and environment. Sherlock used the remark "High functioning sociopath" as a mask to scare people off of seeing the truth. Autistic people often speak of themselves this way to set theirselfs apart from others. Btw, Sherlock Holmes was never described as "sociopath," and according to Moffat Sherlocks remark wasn't meant serious, just sarcastic. Noone can define himself.
Charms are subjective, Maybe your shyness are charming, charisma, awkwardness. You can't really tell if you're charming or not unless you ask, but of course we don't want to be seen as an arrogant narcissistic prick so if: You are a teacher's pet Someone had a crush on you on elementary, middle or high school You tend to be scrutinized more often than others since they view as a "role model" Some girls like to flirt with you You may be charming in a way, I don't know to be honest....
@@carlsonraywithers3368 Fair point. *Teachers pet*, kinda, I guess teacher's tended to like me when I was in school. *crush on me in school*, I mean, I had a gf in 5th grade but It quickly ended and I was kind of a hermit for most of my school life. Not to mention the fact that I was home-schooled in middle school and almost all of high school. *scrutiny*, yeah. More than others though? I'm not sure. *flirting*, If they have, I'm too dense to have noticed. edit: grammar
I'm scared, i match almost all the traits... And yes i have pretty hair and high cheekbones and pretty "black" eyes... Should i be concerned? I might've not been popular, BUT i was always liked by my teachers-
@@domco_i they actually do, only difference is that sociopaths feel true love and empathy towards very small amount of ppl and psychopaths don’t that’s it
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Wouldn't that just get them kicked out early in the game...? I thought the whole point would be framing people when you're it... Maybe they could get a thrill out of kicking people they know aren't it when they aren't even the imposter to where only they and 1-3 imposters are the only ones it as much as possible, setting themselves up for hard mode. :? I don't know, maybe I'm thinking too deeply about a game, but I don't see how your statement works. :p Come to think of it, canon or fanon, and whether or not their even a malicious character, this reminds me of some people from Danganronpa calling themselves the mastermind when their not. :p
My mother is a diagnosed sociopath, and while there are major problems that the disorder causes we still have a grat relationship. The main way her problems manifest is that she will shout and yell when perceiving adversity, unaware of how it affects those shes shouting at, which included me when I wasnt doing well in school. An important thing to note is that she at no point intended harm, it is simply a natural reaction that she learned was acceptable through her military service. Shes very receptive to being called out, and has worked on improving toxic behaviors when they're pointed out, but has a limited ability to self reflect on those actions and realize she was in the wrong. Admittedly, this is made worse by my general avoidance of conflict, which can make the situation worse as I have trouble bringing up the courage to point out the problems in the moment. Despite these problems, she still makes an active attempt to spend time with my brother and I and actively avoids any harmful behaviors. We still have a close connection, even if there are complications attached. Shes trying her best, and considering everything shes had to go through, shes doing a damn fine job of it.
garfield isn't very charming though. I don't see him winning the presidential election. Though he'd secure the vote of the "really hates Mondays" demographic. Or do you mean you literally say "garfield" to every street sign you encounter? Because that would be a symptom of being manic.
Out of interest I wish to ask. Where does this thought process come from? What I mean is-most comments I read state something similar to what you have posted. That anyone that has attempted to share their experience of an individual suffering with A.S.P.D, Sociopathy, or Psychopathy are all teenagers who are trying to be "edgy" or "edge-lords". It's caught my attention. Much like my diagnosis has interested me. Is it common for teenagers to pretend to be the "Hollywood" definition of a "psycho" to gain some sort of difference towards the general population? to scare their peers in an attempt to explain their social occupation as an outcast? Care to explain? Thanks.
@@nickmeyer238 Usually people act edgy thinking it makes them look cool and rock hard, when it reality it makes them look like an absolute plastic Butt Plug
i don't know if you guys get their whole perspective , it's difficult for them at that age to actually understand how this works . half of them can think that they identify with these not because this is cool but they have those traits. most of the people have many of these traits at some degree but they don't have a mental disorder. like you guys think most of the people don't feel envy , anger , frustration or aren't ignorant to other's remorse at times? i would've wondered if i'm one of these if i saw this video at that age but not because of thinking it's cool , and i'm just an introvert . getting some behaviours completely invalidated from the society due to the norms also affects kids at that age , like i got called antisocial when i didn't even understand what it actually meant rather than just a guess and was just wondering about my mental condition , about why i wanted very limited social interactions and had a lot of difficulty in feeling the opposite how most of the other people around me did. some good amount of experience is needed to connect the theoretical information with the correct practical representation of it , i don't think majority of them have that much experience and a good perception to distinguish themselves easily from people who have this disorder by just learning about them on a screen , the information is not detailed to the point people with very less knowledge about these can accurately understand. even when it's very detailed , it shouldn't be taken as absolute. but maybe you were just specifically talking about those who lie when they know they don't identify with this disorder , if that's the case then no problem. i commented this just in case if you were lumping all of them together who comment like that.
Sociopaths and psychopaths have one interest and one fear in common: Power over others, and they fear accountability for their actions, which is why you often see sociopaths/psychopaths in positions of power and continue climbing the social hierarchy until the law doesn't apply to them anymore, and they are free to hurt others without fear of having to own up to their actions.
That one! Or they'll work hard to gaslight the people they abuse so that the abused feel like it's their fault, or make them feel guilty for holding them accountable.
The reason why I don't like this comment necessarily is because not all sociopaths are the same. The media and a lot of misinformation has spread that all sociopaths are people who are so unbelievably toxic and should be avoided at all costs when that's not all the time true. I have a cousin who suffers from ASPD. A lot of people also tend to forget that Antisocial Personality Disorder is similar to Autism, it is a spectrum -- which is also why psychologists may label their patients as high-functioning sociopaths or low-functioning sociopaths. Every sociopath feels things differently, even if they don't feel anything at all. The cousin I have actually was clinically diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder around the age of 6 or 7, and he has never once done anything freakish like kill animals in his spare time, stab or attempt to kill anyone or anything. Sure, he is manipulative but, the only reason he says why he manipulates people is if it's for their own good; or if they're being incredibly ignorant about something important. Please, whoever is reading this, look up videos of sociopaths answering questions on Reddit. It's kind of sad since there are actually some ASPD individuals who actually wonder what it's like to have more functioning emotions and not have to put up a front for other people.
@@yung2905 Sociopaths and psychopaths have inactive or absent mirror neurons which is what gives one empathy and the ability to explore emotional variances(which naturally helps creativity). In materialistic societies, it's easy to socially suppress those empathetic qualities so there are those that don't even know they are capable of feeling empathy for others as long as they lack self-awareness and aren't honest with themselves through a healthy education. What adds to the confusion and uncertainty is that there are those diagnosed with ASPD and are on the spectrum - and yet have expressed TONS of empathy to animals and/or plants, and even feel their pain, just not or little of it to humans. In my psychology classes, I discerned those with these traits are usually from the offspring of both a sociopath and an empath. To make matters more depressing, having 'too much' empathy can be a thing and when unchecked, promotes naive thinking in a 'free spirit' sense.
I was friends with a sociopath in high school. There were many things I could relate to with him being that I'm autistic. I feel empathy strongly and am very sensitive, but at other times I simply do not understand others' emotions but for very different reasons a sociopath will tend to have difficulty or inability to understand others' emotions. He experienced a lot of existential crises throughout his life and never knew how to put his finger on it, he didn't know how to feel love in the same way others do, even for his own family, and this made him feel empty and alone, although he would feign a warm and sociable personality to get by in life. At certain points when he didn't have the energy or care to feign, he would express a lot of bitterness about the idea of love, that in his words, it is nothing but a chemical reaction and it does not actually exist. I believe he felt a kind of love, such as for some partners, friends, and pets, but he was so disassociated from his emotions that he could not feel emotional attachment in the same way most people do. He'd admit to being manipulative at times and give examples. At least most of the examples were actually the same stuff the average person does but would be in denial of being technically manipulative, such as complimenting someone and then saying something like, "Boy, I sure do want such and such," and they'd get it for him. He knew how to charm people as well. But he didn't do these things to hurt them, it was simply the only way he knew how to cope and survive, as sociopaths (as well as psychopaths) will often say, "Everything is transactional." I feel that sociopaths and psychopaths alike are in some ways simply faced with reality candidly; without the emotional attachments most people have, they are forced to see that we are technically all manipulating each other to some degree and everything in a way is transactional, regardless of the emotions felt during the "transaction" by us folks who don't have to live with this condition. For instance, when you tell people you need help, you are manipulating them to help you, which is of course not a bad thing whatsoever. Or when a therapist makes gentle suggestions to you that could help you, they are technically manipulating you to consciously or subconsciously take in the idea and act on it in some way. This is of course also not a bad thing. What matters is how and why we are manipulating each other and if boundaries are being respected. He also obviously had very limited empathy, and this would lead him to talk about himself more than he would listen to others at times and would not realize he was being rather narcissistic (which I feel is in some way probably a coping mechanism; he actually struggled a lot with hating himself). He started going to therapy consistently, shortly after high school to try to work on the things that he struggled with and take care of his mental health, especially since it began really declining around that time. Many times when I've seen him acting enthusiastic about something, I can see right through it and know deep down he doesn't enjoy it that much, that he probably still feels like a shell of a person and is partaking of said hobby to distract himself from how he really feels inside. Although I can relate to certain things he'd experience, I can only imagine what it must be like to have ASPD. Sociopaths are not necessarily bad people. They just need support, guidance and love like anyone else.
you're mixing up sociopathy and psychopathy (as did the video). sociopaths understand and disagree with them and the social game; which you as autistic wouldn't even grasp. But if he had mild psychopathy, then it would be easy for you both to orientate on each other since you'd be easy to control, and he wouldn't play silly social games with you that you wouldn't get.
@@temptempy1360 okay. You literally have no right to tell an autistic person how they experience their symptoms or how their friends aspd manifested itself. You are not their therapist or psychiatrist and you are only here to spread misinformation and get a reaction (here it is your welcome.) Maybe instead of trying to piss people off in the comments, you instead look inside yourself and figure out why it is you are being so bitter to others on the internet. Imagine having an actual sociopath (me) telling you you're being a jerk and to stop. Ugh..
Normally these people are very dangerous, so maybe lay off the sympathy somewhat. In order for a sociopath or psychopath to not be dangerous they need an enormous amount of self-awareness, which it seems your friend had.
@Nirvana it doesnt have a definition, its a mental disorder that has symptoms. The "definition " would be whatever traits or symptoms a patient has that qualifies them to have a diagnosis of the disorder.
I feel like a common misunderstanding about sociopath is that they can't feel or understand other emotion because they have too little empathy. Yet a lot of them can be manipulative and that implie to understand other person's emotion and way of thinking to get what they want. Thus they become good at understanding other's emotion and can blend in easily. Don't think of them as cold because most aren't like that in public and become harder to distinguish (Diagnosed sociopath here, sorry english isn't my first language)
@@dogfart6140 Sir I do agree but then again Its like telling a psychopathic serial killer they aren't when they try to warn others and then get surprised when they kill someone
y’all do people realise that being a sociopath isn’t... a good thing? like, some of the 11 year olds in the comments seem to think it’s cool or something lol.
As a diagnosed sociopath, it isn’t cool. I told one friend, one time, the truth. Didn’t hear a word from him after that. Despite not having normal emotions, it’s annoying that society demonizes us for things beyond our control. “Oop, sociopath, look out”.
@@omegazx7236 Sherlock is a " High Functioning Sociopath " in his own words from the series and He kinda do things like sociopath like he treats people like a tool for an objective rather than a emotional being
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I had a friend with this disorder and sadly.. I'm traumatized because of her and I have depression and SAD(social anxiety) Luckily I left her with the help of other people but I will never be able to forget her manipulative things.. it can be really scary in my opinion..
My ex girlfriend was like this. Now, I have trust issues and I can't tell who's being genuinely friendly and who's trying to get inside my head. Its extremely scary knowing you were so close to people who never cared and were happy to use and extract resources from you
I think I am becoming a person who is like your old friend. I am extremely concerned because I just nearly snitched on my friend's secret and I've been snitching a lot lately. I don't want to lose another friend to this, I just cannot stop snitching to the slightest question
Unfortunately your biggest victory is that you survived it. My situation had the Sociopath telling lies and false stories about me. Suddenly none of my old friends wanted to have anything to do with me and they didn't want to hear anything I had to say about it. It is hurtful, isolating, and extremely manipulative. You must find a way to leave it behind you. Good luck.
@@andrewbasile1847 Do push-us and pull-ups and stockpile guns and ammunition. The strong survive, and may the best man win. I shall endeavor to take my own advice as well. Go find new people, new places. I have Aspergers/Autism and I know how it is but the strong survive.
Actually they can show a great deal of empathy & remorse, they do apologize & communicate very well - but it’s all an act. That’s the thing, when dealing with a sociopath you most likely won’t know until many years after getting to know them very, very well. One sign is their words and actions won’t always line up. They apologize, but keep doing the same things over and over. But usually, that’s not how a person behaves in the earlier times of a relationship. They can butter you up for years. I think the quickest way to make note of a red flag is to find out about that person’s family history - from someone other than just them. If they were abused, neglected, had an alcoholic or drug addicted parent, etc, they are more likely to have this or some other serious condition. Only deal with someone who has spent time in counseling SERIOUSLY working on inner healing, if they haven’t, I wouldn’t deal with them at all. Suggest they get help & MOVE ON. You don’t want any type of relationship with somebody that has to be told they need help. Hurt ppl will hurt other ppl. Period. Connect yourself with ppl who are self-aware & always SELF-motivated to heal, grow & improve. Anyone who portrays themselves as just about perfect is probably the exact opposite! Most of all, connect yourself with people of faith because God is our greatest healer! Hope this helps someone. God bless 🦋
You get it! One big tell is "They can never be wrong" and attack the very idea they could ever be wrong about anything. It can be for something trivial like dropping a glass and blaming you for being across the room and not stopping it, somehow. "It's your fault" is a reaction, not an argument.
You have to be patient with them and help them get help. It’s a mental disability that they suffer from, they are reaching out for help and need to be loved.
@@justonemoriThe key is to tell them: "Im not against you as a person, im against this action". This prevents them from being able to guilt trip you after you try to speak up on something. Learned this the hard way after 2 years of abuse, sadly. But at least ive healed from it, and hopefully i was her last victim.
This isn’t the type of person you can help, they have to choose to get help for themselves and you should be far, far away from as they do it. Pray the best for all and let them go. If they’re family or someone you can’t cut ties with, remain as distant as possible. LET THEM GO. Let them go on and find what they need, it’s not you. Really, it’s Jesus. If they invite God in, HE will heal them in His way. Focus on your own well-being and love yourself enough to choose to surround yourself with healthy ppl who are on a journey towards greater and greater self-improvement. Blessings
I've personally known two sociopaths. One was more manipulative than the other. Both are aware that they're sociopaths because of their diagnosis. One of them understood that being sociopathic towards people isn't the way and he often tried to control himself from manipulating others. He wanted to fit in with others more. After awhile, he ended up isolating himself from everyone because socializing with others and trying to keep his ASPD inside fatigued his energy. The other one I still know, and he is slowly getting better. He was a lot more manipulative, lied all the time, and never apologized for any wrong doing he did. Right now, he is more chill, and seems to apologize at times if he feels like he needs to. Sociopaths are not all completely bad. In fact, many of them mentally improve overtime. It's important to give them space whenever they need it because they can become fatigued from too much socializing, and it's also good doing this so that you don't end up developing an unhealthy relationship with them.
This, I know how I am, so I try to isolate myself from everyone I can. No one should suffer my own problems. Sadly it leaks out from time to time, and even worse on the people I do care about on some level.
At the age of 59 I am just first learning and understanding why my sister loved hurting me over and over and over again. My first memory of being her target I was only 5 or six yrs old. I have alot to work through!Firstly being to stop being the victim and stay the he'll away from her.Unless you have experienced being one of the targets first hand you'll never beable to comprehend the depth of manipulation, abuse,and hatred that seethes from a sociopath.
Characters with sociopathic traits are really interesting, in most cases. And they allow for much character development, if during the plot said character slowly becomes less and less sociopathic.
@@outcast4087 It is not possible for someone to become 'less sociopathic' as it is a mental disorder. It is possible for them to learn how to act neurotical, and to learn to fake empathy, however it is an act. This does not make them a bad person, however. A lot of sociopaths are like that because of childhood trauma, and have less or no empathy as a coping mechanism. You can still be a good person without empathy.
@@OpossumEzzy Maybe it's not possible "IRL"... BUT many Sociopaths actually just have "low empathy" not "no empathy"... Important nuance about them. AND Tessa was talking about creating a Character, as in for a story or game... In some Games and Stories, the "world-setting" has or allows for magic, and with magic, anything is possible... not necessarily feasible or practical, but possible. It's Fiction... I'm a GM and Player in RPG's like D&D or GURPS, SO I frequent these vid's for some of the insights required to develop Characters (PC's as well as NPC's) with mental health issues... I hope to explore them and RP them better... AND/OR I hope to help other Players and GM's get their Role-Playing chops up to the next level, too. ;o)
IKR I was simping for him this whole video 😂😂 , and also i didn't know he was considered as a sociopath if you asked me I will thought he's a psychopath , bet I still don't know what exactly is the difference between them ;-;
“Oh shit, why does it sounds a bit like m-“ “They are dangerously charming” “Nvm, guess I’m perfectly normal.” Edit: No, please don't read my comment and argue that you think you're a sociopath. This is a joke comment, and as this vid says, if you need help, please go to therapy ASAP. No like, seriously, if you need help, please go to therapy. For you own's sake. If you're thinking that you might need help, please go seek for help ASAP. I will support you and wish for you to feel better if you're feeling really shitty rn.
Currently taking the steps for a diagnosis. I didn’t realise how I acted or felt until multiple people pointed it out and made me reflect. It’s hard coming to terms with it, but I hope to find an answer so I can help myself and others understand me and what they might have to deal with.
Wow this really describes a girl I really liked in my early 20s.She would act like she was interested in me when other people weren't around just enough to keep me interested and could make cruel remarks towards me around other people,it really hurt and I always got a sense she enjoyed hurting me.Why I let her is probably a disorder of my own because I always seem to be attracted to that type of person,I think what makes me attracted to somebody who can be cruel?I think it's my own insecurities and the need for validation,why I'm sharing this with people I don't know??I have no idea😂
Sometimes we want to express a thought. It doesn't matter who or where. We just want to express it somehow. It helps us clear our thoughts and feelings a little.
I do have a couple of signs of sociopath which I really, REALLY dislike in myself. Like having possesive love for someone. I... had at least couple episodes in my life when it really screwed me over and made me react very unwise. The other sign is that when I used to be a kid, I enjoyed seeing my little brother suffering. I also was very on edge all the time and was REALLY annoyed by him being (and I believe it was done at least partially on purpose)... well annoying in general. Also I'm kinda violent, but I mostly keep myself under control. To be fair, that one actually was useful in college where I was bullied when I was freshman. I used violence to fix problem of violence... well, only for myself, since I was incapable of helping other guy who was badly bullied until he went to other college.
I know a couple real diagnosed sociopaths through my work (mental health) The way I can tell is they are like sirens, the charisma is so off the charts it almost feels like you are getting sucked into their orbit as they talk to you. It literally is effortless for them like breathing non sociopaths even the most gifted conversationalist can never match it.
@@user-yj3py8bp9v I will start by saying it's something to be experienced but I will do my best to explain. When I talk with a sociopath or psychopath it's like talking to a person who I would be most likely to be best friends with and share all of my interests and humor. They have brains that give them the ability to figure out how to act perfectly without effort. When nurotypical people have conversation they have to work though hurdles of how to speak do to anxiety and nerves since sociopaths and psychopaths don't feel remorse they just go for it.
@@phathuevos697 My father AND my ex lol. Neither are charming once you’re out of the vortex, but holy crap with the amount of women both of them attract, I’m just like wtf??
I wonder how sociopaths and psychopaths “feel” knowing that their is no info on how to get better but only info on how dangerous and horrible they are. They are human too and deserve normal lives as well they were born this way
@@aubrey5577 i meant the trauma that causes it,, and by "suffer" i meant the stigma they face; also not all sociopaths / psychopaths are the same !! aspd is a spectrum,, meaning there are levels to it.
@@aubrey5577 this statement is simply not true, the brain isn't in a solid state. The brain has a factor of plasticity to it. Behaviour and habits can change due to different lifestyle changes, different upbringings ect. To say that someone is born a psychopath or a sociopath is not true. But the experiences that person experience or seen is what makes them that way, for example if someone had a abuse childhood and never got help, it's safe to say they will carry that trauma into adulthood and if that happens they may carry out psychological tenancies.
As a person who've been through trauma from my past jhs years, bullies, i slowly begin to know myself now that i'm healing, i've become a sociopath, and have recently, yesterday specifically, have met a psychopath
@@user-fo5zh3yz7j not all... most actually struggle to achieve their goals. But I'm not looking down on those with ASPD, that would be ableist. I am looking down on those who think having ASPD is desirable, when its literally a mental disorder
@@sarahkhandoker2540 being optimistic and desiring are too very different things; if you really cared about not being ableist surely you would be happy to clear up misconceptions rather than look down on those who have them.
@@user-fo5zh3yz7j no, i dont look down on people who actually have ASPD. I look down on undiagnosed 13 year old girls who claim to have ASPD because their favourite anime character has it. I'm optimistic and respectful to those who actually have it, diagnosed by a professional. I look down on those who pretend to have it because they think they're light yagami or sum main character
As someone who highly suspects of being a high-functioning sociopath, I've been through shit tons of abuse and passing of my father at 13, for which I find to be the "cause". Now, I can feel things, as per say, since I have felt them as a child, but now (still teen years), I have impulsive outbursts but can actually, with effort, "feel" things, or can lie about feeling them. But, I'm usually just bored and dead cold. As I said, I'm highly suspicious, though don't have a diagnosis because I don't want to get any kind of medical attention or treatment, aside from the therapist that I'm seeing and comfortable with, since I despise the idea of it. Also, not feeling anything, for some such as myself, is untrue. My best friend, for example, for him I'd flip the whole world upside down, and did once in high school. I ended up at the psychologist's office, but didn't really care. Since I understand emotions due to having them in the past, I developed a "switch" for them, so I can be either dead cold or actually kind of normal, even though everything still feels forced because I know that it in a way is. Yes, I dislike people because they're in general stupid, but I have no tendency for harm, and if I sometimes do, I just toss it aside and they go away. Hence why I say high-functioning sociopath, because I feel like I've developed it from trauma, but have immense amount of control over myself. Practically, I use it as a superpower, where I tend to exploit "affection" towards positive things, but am completely switched off towards anything negative.
Sadly know a lot of people with these traits. The best thing is to call them out on their crap and avoid them. AVOID! They always stalk u when they want something and are always toxic as #%&...Never good for your well being. Just take care of yourself and save this video for future ref.
Sometimes I don’t know if I am a sociopath or a narcissist, or if I am just numb. I used to cry all the time but now I don’t cry at all. I just lay there coldly when something terrible happens or when I am depressed. Whenever there’s a sad movie on and everyone is crying around me I just get a little teary or don’t cry at all. I feel lonely a lot and sometimes when I see that somebody my age is moving on with their life and getting married and having children, it’s hard for me to be happy for them, I wonder why not me too? It makes me feel like I am a narcissist maybe. Both of my grandmothers passed away within a year of each other, and the only time I really cried was at the funeral, but I don’t really cry about it now. I do think of them and get sad because I miss seeing them and miss spending time with them, but there are no tears. It doesn’t make me want to have friends because I’m scared that I will hurt them with my trauma and I don’t want to be toxic. I do want to heal and grow from my pain.
By experience, the only kind of sociopath or narcissist in general to be feared I know is the unaware one. Awareness makes the difference. True awareness I mean
I am happy that i am a sociopath to be honest and I do manipulate people to have what I want and I just feel like those people deserve that as we say in my country : the medicament of a greedy person is a person who lies
@Dave Kale Bale The thing is I lost a group of friends because of people who think like that, they thought this and that which wasnt true and it ended up with them discarding me. what you mean is the GENUINE, TRUE narcissists or sociopaths that are unaware. People need to be aware that even the tiniest of symptoms, or just being a normal person in a bad spot isnt them being a narcissist or sociopath.
Phew mostly just lack empathy with others mainly from a terrible childhood where emotions were weakness and put a huge target on your back for all sorts of physical and emotional abuse. But with all the work my partner and I have been doing I've been getting much better at it 👍
As with most human traits, empathy is on a spectrum, and we all fall somewhere on that spectrum. Children are born innocent, but also pretty selfish. It's part of their charm. I think you can lose empathy, to a degree, through trauma. "If no bones are broken and no blood is spilled, what the hell is he so upset about?" Depending on what you've been through, you can tend to be dismissive of minor hurts. It can seem like lack of empathy, but sometimes it just isn't something that would bother them if the shoe were on the other foot. I've been caught that way, myself. After the things I went through, there are quite a few things that are just piddly-ass to me, compared with something bigger that I'm MORE concerned about, but which cut more sheltered/fortunate people to the bone. I knew an Army Ranger who was "diagnosed sociopath" (to stick in some tie-straightener's craw). He was a good dude. He was pretty callous, but he didn't wear any masks. He was just elemental. He believed in having a code of honor and that made him a pretty reasonable guy. The Jesus archetype works for some. I think if you can sell 'em on the salvation deal, they'll do good things for the eternal-life prize at the end. If they believe some spirit is reading their minds and keeping score, they sometimes will control themselves. Of course, if they're really malignant, twisting God's Word is super-easy, barely an inconvenience. It's hard to imagine a sociopath recognizing they're a sociopath and training themselves out of it, with family support. But if it's learned, which some say is what separates sociopaths from psychopaths, then it can be unlearned, and there's hope for sociopaths. Going through a lot of abuse does change how your brain forms. I think they say it affects the emotional centers where empathy lives. I think a psychopath is just born with those parts of the brain misfiring, stunted, or absent. But anyway, I think the way they define things, now, sociopath sort of implies it's learned, and there's nothing organically wrong with the brain. Finding the/a right life partner and working at it with intention, sounds like a pretty cool thing.
Just to let you all know that I am open for criticism and even a debate. All I gotta tell you is dont let your girl weaken you any further. If you take her complaints about your strong personality seriously she will lose respect for you, she will view you as weak and she will either dump you or cheat on you. Females love people similar to the sociopaths/actual sociopaths because its a sing of a dominant person and you cannot get anymore dominant than a person that has ASPD. And its like that with every female, not just certain types. Stay strong. P.S: Females will also try to test you to see how much weak you are and they do it all the time even if you have been with her for decades. And its like that with every female, not just certain types.
@@MARK2000 I recommend a great video series called "love and respect" by Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs. Really great series, and has helped our relationship amazingly.
@@A-SocialHermit the only way a girl can get a guy's love and respect is if she is feminine and submissive. No guy likes a girl who is dominant and aggressive just like how no girl likes a guy that is a submissive push over. Btw did you even read what I have said? Im just trying to help you after all.
@@MARK2000 lol ya I did, the video actually talks about this kind of thing. It's a Christian based thing (I'm agnostic, although I firmly believe in Christian morals) it's about a cycle that couples get into. How men and women are different and how a woman's respect motivates a man's love and a man's love motivates a woman's respect and so on. And how those innate traits are needs that we each need. I don't disagree with you, I was agreeing and recommending an amazing video series that kind of goes with it, and how a lot of people can misinterpret the meaning of what those words actually say (especially when thinking biblically). It's very interesting and the husband is pretty hilarious.
Man, this helps a lot. I was recently forced to do a mental evaluation and they told me and my parents that they do see some early signs of ASPD, but since I am 16 they can not give a full diagnose. But this sheds alot of light on the whole think and helps me understand it a bit better.
I'm 14 and i match with all the signs in this video and many others, my parents won't get me a doctor because they think these things can be fixed by 'not thinking of them' They think depression is over exaggerated sadness OCD only happens to ultra rich people I don't even want to tell them that I might have ASPD
when i was younger i really showed most if not all these traits, including violence, lack of empathy, etc... but something changed. idk. i can feel empathy now buuut i also continue (some of) these actions despite knowing they're wrong. i relate more to Borderline Personality Disorder now. in fact, its the definition of me doubt i ever had ASPD but it's weird that i used to relate to most of these. i even used to have an ego, i never apologised, i always thought of myself as 'superior', now im the absolute, complete opposite.
I’m not a sociopath, but I thought I was one. Everytime I did something bad, I didn’t feel sorry ( for example when I broke my little sister’s collarbone, I dom’t really remember if it was on purpose ) I wasn’t even able to say sorry. When my grandma died I couldn’t get a single tear out of my eye. When one of my friends broke her collorbone🥹 No it wasn’t me, I really didn’t care. But later I found out, that it is 0:37 just my narcissistic trait. I can love people really deep, but I can’t love anybody more than myself.
My sociopath apologised to me once, and silly old me thought they meant it! Then the requests began, could I be the go between for him and his “bit on the side”. Could I take in cards and letters from them for him. Could I tell lies for him. You get my drift!!! Beware, they can apologise, convincingly, but not mean a word of it! Xxxxxx
I’m a high-functioning one but even my therapist says I’m not manipulative idk it’s just not me. I was presenting narcissistic traits that I learned from my family and thankfully we put a stop to that😭. You were right about feeling love and empathy to a select few tho. I love love LOVE kids and people who are disabled and a few people who have gotten to get close to me but other than that😕. But my future husband is lucky because I believe in soulmates and it took me a while to get here but I love them already. So much growth. I’ll be working on my temper tho. It does get PRETTY extreme
Hey, good job on the work you're doing, hope it's going great :D About you not being manipulative: ASPD may be a bit of a spectrum, so it's not necessarily to be exactly good in manipulation Overall, best wishes
1. Sociopaths lack empathy 1:22 2. They are manipulative 2:09 3. They are dangerously charming 2:32 4. Sociopaths are ill-tempered & impulsive 2:56 5. They have strained relationships 3:33 6. They are narcissistic 4:00 7. They find enjoyment in other's suffering 4:27 I hope I could help! :)
I don’t believe I am a sociopath at the moment but as I look back, I think I did have some sociopathic tendencies when I was young. I remember thinking there was something wrong with me because I genuinely couldn’t see any difference between having friends and having toys, because I use both for the same purposes (to avoid feeling boredom). I also used to observe people for a while and generate a certain personality before approaching them(which I thought was a natural thing to do), etc. Maybe I just lacked empathy as a kid/teenager & developed emotional intelligence extremely slowly?? 🤔
"Don't mistake youthful selfishness for genuine malice. Nobody ISN'T kind of an a**hole in their early 20's. And if they actually weren't, they were probably sociopaths." - *Alucard 2018*
This video kind of spoke to me, I used to have some of these personality traits years ago. I'm glad I'm a slightly better person now, but I'm still not perfect and won't ever be. But I'm okay with that, I don't want to be perfect, I just want to be a good friend.
Same lol, I still struggle with maintaining relationships, specially cause I want them to be long lasting but people get tired after 6 months or 2 years umu. But I'm still trying
I also feel identified with this, because I have depression and anxiety and I became cynical over the years. I have friends, but I lacked any support from my family, so I had to struggle to keep up with college and work. I've also been insulted by neighbors and even teachers at college and months ago someone broke into my room and stole some of my videogames. I have a lot of trouble trusting other people and I feel like I always must be on the defensive.
I always thought my ex was a narcissist but these videos are pretty on point. Just watched 'interview with a sociopath' and that guy reminds me of him soo much. You definitely pick up on a lot of small things that are "off" during the relationship but they'll lie and beguile you to the point that you start to question yourself. It's all a game to them because they don't experience emotions, and looking back its like how did you not see it?! There is no reasoning with them.. they get off on you even trying to! Leave before you end up in jail, because they will take you there.
I've known about my sociopathic tendencies for a good portion of my life. While I indeed feel no empathy and do not feel any ACTUAL remorse for my actions, I have learned to fake it and learned to better use logic to control myself in order to better fit in with normal people.
You mean you read up and watch videos on the subject so you know the right things to say to seem like one instead of admitting you're just not a very nice person.
@@youneverseeanoldmaneatinga7416what? Read up? I have aspd I was diagnosed when I was 16 and lemme tell you I don’t “read up” I just know how to fake emotions even though inside I wouldn’t feel anything i would still try my best to be a better person just cuz people don’t have empathy doesn’t mean they are inherently “bad” Gosh this comment annoyed me
Personally (as a sociopath) I don't understand why people think it's bad or a struggle. At some time of course it bad but it helps overcome things easily and overall just make life easier
@@JakobSins I didn’t say it makes you a bad person. It’s the reason you don’t understand - thats due to the trait of being a sociopath. You don’t understand why it’s an issue to be a sociopath because a lack of empathy. Empathy is synonymous with understanding = you said you don’t understand. It wasn’t an insult. It’s in the textbooks.
I see these signs in my ex. She has no empathy, is narcissistic af, is extremely charming and manipulative, while also using others for personal gain. If you disagree with her on anything, she'll feel attacked and isn't going to listen to you Oh and she also thinks she can communicate with animals via soul contact, but i don't think thats related to the stuff i listed above
I felt depressed watching this because I only saw more and more of my ex in these signs, signs I didn’t see while being manipulated. He even went as far as killing animals as a child, couldn’t look at a video of a hamster when we were together because it would make him become angry with the desire to kill it. He had urges to kill me, but he was able to hold back because I was his “person”. He kept texting me to tell me how his life was, then the final time he said he moved on when I finally messaged him back to leave me alone and move on. I’m worried I’ll always be the person he thinks of 😓
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people who are sociopaths have APD (antisocial personality disorder), and tend to either be deceitful, aggressive, and/or lack empathy
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Could you do a video on PANS/PANDAS?
“Are you crazy?”
“Crazy people don’t know they are crazy and I know I am crazy. Therefore I am not crazy, isn’t that crazy??”
-Johnny Depp
Paradox lol
@@menopriezvisko94 lmAo
love the intelligenceé twt
That’s weird I think I don’t know what craziness is then. Because I thought I was crazy and could still be crazy at the same time.
My brain is too smoothbrained to comprehend what you just said.
1. Lack empathy
2. Manipulative
3. Charming
4. Ill tempered and impulsive
5. Strained relationships
6. Narcissistic
7. Find enjoyment in others suffering
Thanks
dang
I'm a social pathetic so is it good or bad? 🤔
i’m not trying to self diagnose or anything, but i have all these symptoms.
Jesus Christ god no its not me
"7 signs why you hate yourself."
"7 signs someone is a sociopath."
*RUclips's recommendations are concerning me.*
Agreed
youtube be playing with us to much
same :l
IKR
A while back I was in a mentally abusive relationship where in some ways I was treated lesser than their dog. But if I brought it up I was being an asshole and selfish. I was crazy and was talking to inanimate objects, etc. Everything was my fault. I in turn wondered, "maybe it's true. Maybe I am the crazy one. Maybe I'm a narcissist intentionally hurting this person and lying to myself about it. So I started researching so I could try to fix myself. As I searched it looked worse. I related to narcissistic personality disorder. I related to anti social personality disorder, both the sociopathic and psychopathic traits. I really must be crazy then, there's no hope. RUclips started recommending me all kinds of stuff along those (these) lines. Then I watched a youtube video by a self defense instructor that had a masters in psychology named Richard Grannon. The video was titled "am I the narcissist?" I've read a million articles and watched a million videos and none of them could give a straight answer. Within the first couple of minutes he says (not exactly,) "if you are admitting that you may not be perfect and are looking this up, you are likely not the narcissist. In fact, you are probably in a relationship where someone is making you feel crazy, which is what a narcissist does." Since then I have learned and yes, we all do exhibit narcissistic, sociopathic, and psychopathic traits. Life is all about boundaries. These disorders exceed any normal boundary, but the traits exist well within any boundary too. Be aware of yourself and consciously think about your boundaries that you've never thought about. Where do you end and the other person begins? How much can you ask of them? Would you ask that of yourself? Just because you would ask it of yourself, does it mean that you should ask it of others? This applies to people that are hurting you too. The individual that made me feel that way, I'm certain now was a narcissistic personality disorder. That doesnt mean I get to narcissistically make them the bad guy. I could have easily been in their shoes. If you don't want to be the doormat, get off the floor. Set boundaries, and if they don't allow it, leave, and never look back. I hope this helps.
I was diagnosed with being a sociopath by my therapist, and helped a lot. God rest his soul what he's done. He's playing in the stars now.
if u believe in soul and god, you are definitely not a sociopath
@@traudlgoring stfu who are you to say someone isn't a sociopath
@@traudlgoringsociopaths can still be religious, it’s just rarer due to their outlook on the world
@@Vailque nice perspective, there are some crazy religious fanatics, but I classify them as fanatics rather than sociopaths
@@traudlgoring No, not what I meant, I mean people can have traits of sociopathy and still believe there is a god, I’m not talking about people who would slaughter a goat in worship.
Video: "... Not meant to provide a diagnosis..."
Someone, probably: "I'm gonna pretend I didn't hear that."
I diagnose myself with dead
literally yes lol
gang gang
My classmate who says he's a sociopath even after I've told him what a sociopath is a thousand times: Yeahhh, thank goodness I don't know English.
@Türtlê_ Thats what I said, mentally ofc-
It drives me crazy when someone says "Antisocial" when describing someone who is introverted or just doesn't want to deal with anyone at that time.
And they say introverted for shy people as well. Like no you can be loud and an introvert it just means your social battery runs out quicker than the average person's does. And antisocial means acting against the social norms ffs. The term they should be using is asocial but society is dumb and engraves words into our brains linking to specific shit to the point where we all just think that it's right when it's not
I think the right term instead of antisocial is asocial
@@ChronicTonic facts
Me too, I’m not a sociopath for being drained from being around other people for too long, that’s just my personality type. I’m glad someone gets it
@@REDACTED_Kali yeah
They don't lack empathy because they don't understand other people. They understand people very well. They just feel no guilt or genuine affection.
You don’t have to have empathy to understand people, it’s hard to explain but I’ve learned this from watching several psychiatrists say the same. Their intelligence through observing their surroundings and people is enough to make them understand without the need feel empathy.
Needless to say, some dark empaths are sociopaths.
@Sazuka Tanaka How so?
If you don't have those feelings In the first place how could you possibly relate to it?
@@boxergirl84 you have to remember, sociopaths didn't choose to be like this.
Even in the video, they can feel empathy, but for only a select few.
@@boxergirl84 That is wrong. Sociopath have feelings, all feelings including affection! They don't have empathy. F.e. if a friend cries in front of them, they don't get automatically sad feelings too. They can understand what is going on ( they aren't autistic ) and they can have sympathy, f.e. this thing happened to me too, it felt like this, so this is probably what my crying friend is going through right now. But the feeling doesn't swap over to them. They can also have compassion, the want to help the crying friend. A lot get diagnosed late, because they don't know they don't have empathy. And they don't actually stick out that often. There is a spectrum. And personality plays a big role too.
Imagine someone who is empathetic but a complete a**hole. Now take empathy away on top of it. Pretty bad. But if someone has a kind, calm and soft personality, but lacks empathy, probably not that much of a problem.
Genetics play a role, but mostly it is caused by having cold parents that discourage their children from feeling from a young age, f.e. to "toughen them up". They often end up in therapy for depression and a feeling if deep emptiness inside of them, that nothing seems to fill up. And are then discovered to have Aspd. Some get violent due to that emotional pain. They can also have problems with dopamine, need new things otherwise they feel bored. Some can be pretty bad, but some are chill. So it really depends on the person.
I hope this was understandable.
@@boxergirl84 It's kinda like "ohh wow, Did Michelle just fell flat face first in the stairway? Ehh, poor girl" instead of "What!!? Is Michelle ok? Is she injured? Does she need medical attention?" (This is just inside their mind so they're talking in a 3rd person's perspective)
Growing up, I've always struggled with maintaining relationships with my family and friends. It was a long journey trying to figure out why and realizing I was narcissistic, manipulative, insensitive, etc. It takes a lot to unpack and unlearn the childhood trauma and toxic behaviors you've been carrying your whole life. So thank you to all the angels who've been patient and tried to understand us, we never asked to be this way and more often than not, we don't know better. We just need help.
A Narcissist wouldn’t ever admit this.
I also had trouble w Family and friends .
But, it was because I was Scapegoated in a Narcissistic Family Dynamic.
This Confession Above Sounds pretty Empathic …
A True Narcissist would never Admit & say this Confession you have said.
@@Seraphim7 well, isn't that the beauty of the complexity of humans? We aren't confined to subcategories and life is a constant struggle to becoming better.
I don't feel empathy but can pretend to when needed.
You're fine there's nothing wrong with you. Your probably just more intelligent than those you surround yourself with. If you did surround yourself with this with a higher intelligence then you'd say that they are narcissistic and sociopathic.
Wow, you truly showed me that you can be more that your diagnosis ❤️
Diagnosed Sociopath here. This video is so adorable. And she didn't tried to make us look like evil monsters. I do appreciate.
@Rachael Harcus it's cool for you to be loved and helped by your friends and family i hope the best for you just keep up if it's what you want ^^
"diagnosesd sociopath" sociopathy isn't diagnosed, ASPD is 😁
@@altx1 stfu kiddo
@@fireblaze9390 🤡
@@altx1 ASPD is diagnosed, do your research.
EDIT: Read further in the comments if you want context.
Or, 7 signs someone is a politician.
Or a CEO. They both get there by stepping on everyone they can.
I thought it was funny that all the jobs the video specifically mentioned were only high profile, high paying jobs that affect the livelihoods of other people. No wonder so many people think politicians and lawyers have no soul lmao
@@Randomd0g And why so many CEO's are uber rich while the people who do the work live in poverty.
@@tkmccoywv yep lmao
@@tkmccoywv
hehe press button make poor people unemployed
A friend of mine is actually a sociopath. He's actually very chill. He can be very cold sometimes, but that's just him being him. The way he says it is that most sociopaths who manipulate others do so because they're bored and want entertainment; been friends with him for 6 years and he hasn't tried to hurt me yet, in fact, he's actually helped me with my depression on multiple occasions. Sociopaths can be extremely dangerous for sure, and a lot of what was said can be true, but not 100% of the time for all sociopaths; not all of them are out to manipulate you and ruin your life. A lot of the sociopaths that you don't hear about on the news are just trying to blend in because they know society will tear them to shreds by just being what they are.
Also, this video really makes it sound like you think sociopaths are evil, they are not. They are just misunderstood.
One thing that I heard from someone on Reddit is, "The sociopaths that are good people and don't try to go out of their way to harm individuals are usually sociopaths that don't ever tell you or show you that they are a sociopath."
All in all, if you're being abused by a sociopath, by all means, get out of that relationship, but not all sociopaths want to hurt you.
" *most of them are not serial killers* "
@@denismuresan11 What are you quoting exactly? That sounds like something I’d say, but this comment seems somewhat out of the blue. If I said that could you point it out? I have a bad memory.
@@alexvee3952 Was said at the start of the Video
@@derwolf3006 ahhh, yeah I agree, most aren’t serial killers. I didn’t think I was saying that I thought different.
Even if someone have a dark personality that dosen't mean he is a criminal. They can do good things too
I unfortunately recognized all these signs way too late: mental and physical abuse, gaslighting, manipulation…. now with an unplanned pregnancy. I’ve never felt that “my life is over” feeling until that moment. Forever trapped with the most abusive and damaging woman I’ve ever dated is a feeling i wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.
Sorry for your situation. One comfort is when your child grows up they will have their own mind. ❤ wishing you a happy life despite this.
Fathers 4 Justice have got your back
God can help you through it. Be hopeful and trust God.
we have all sinned, and broken God’s law (the Ten Commandments). When a person breaks the law, they are then considered a criminal, and to bring justice, the judge must sentence/judge them according to their wrongdoings. No matter how big or small the crime, a person who breaks the law is a criminal, and are not judged by their good deeds but by what they have done wrong. For example; a m**der cannot say “I donated millions of dollars to an orphanage, you should let me go, look at all the good I’ve done.” Criminals are only judged for their wrongdoing, to let them go because of the “good” that they’ve done would be unjust. So those who have broken God’s law will be judged for their lawlessness, not the good that they’ve done. Since we have all sinned, we must be punished so that justice may take place. But if someone pays the fine for the crime we have committed we can legally walk free. Jesus took the punishment of sin, being innocent, so that all who repent of their sins and put their faith in Him may be saved. He essentially took our punishment so that we could walk free, he paid our debt. But one can accept or deny for someone to pay their fine, in like manner one can accept or deny this gift from God. If you repent of your sin (turn from it) and put your faith in Jesus, you will be saved.
Took me 27 years. An aneurysm unspeakable abuse to finally see him for who he was. Everyone tried to me, but I fell for all the gaslighting.
Please please try to get custody of the child, I know your young but the hell your child will go through can’t be measured. It will likely be best for your child to have minimal contact with the sociopath
"not meant to provide a diagnosis"
me trying to diagnose light from death note
OMG PLZ 😭✋
Psychopath
I was having the same thought as you.
@Leo Perkins god complex isn’t a mental disorder tho
Light doesn’t seem like a psychopath to me. Although he did have a god complex and was kinda shitty.
**Reads first 2 signs**
Oh shit I may be this
**Number 3: they're dangerously charming**
Phew, I'm safe
bro same
I'm a polarizing person; most of the people I've come into contact with have either loved me or hated me deeply with enough time spent to a seemingly abnormal extent, I've also repeatedly been told that I'm a sociopath before but internet strangers of course don't get to diagnose me. I think it might be true to some extent, but I do feel varying levels of empathy.
@@xryeau_1760 I would get diagnosed if I were you, might tell if you end up in jail or not.
Just kidding
This kinda scared me for a minute...
Same
Sounds like most politicians. That's not even a joke.
It doesn’t sound like most politicians. It is most politicians
Washington DC has the highest per capita of sociopaths in the US.
more like narcissists
Sounds like you didn't watch the video and are just shit posting.
*cough* joe biden *cough*
The primary traits of a sociopath are an inability to actually honestly care for another human being, to feel another's pain, to feel sorry (deeply, truly sorry) for the pain he/she causes you (or others), to feel real love, to feel any real obligation to the well being of anyone but himself/herself, to have a conscience, period. Some say sociopaths tend to be “very charming”. I disagree with this characterization. I believe, rather, the sociopath mimics what he/she has observed as “charming” behavior tailored specifically to the individual upon whom he/she decides to prey. Sociopaths get off on “getting one over on you”, on interacting with you long enough to figure out what you like/care about (be that your kids, your pets, your family, your music, your hobbies, whatever), then tailoring their comments and conversations with you to those topics to “reel you in”, feigning similar interests or interest in general, playing you like a fiddle until you think they're so cool or so funny … then, once they've gained your trust, start testing you little by little in more sick ways to see if you'll do things to please them. To a sociopath, who is easily bored, it's all a game. You are a joke to them. They are getting pleasure at your expense, even though it may take you awhile to catch on. But you should have some early instinctive feelings that “something just doesn't feel right about this”. Trust your instincts IMMEDIATELY. The longer you stay involved with a sociopath, the more you will come to feel demoralized and broken and, quite possibly, suicidal. To the sociopath, you (and the countless others upon whom they are preying - because, make no mistake, they typically have multiple victims going at one time, “the others” - who they're keeping secret from you), you are a source of ego inflating supply. Everytime he/she can get you to come running when they say they want you, get you to believe them when they say “they're done with all that ” (referring to whatever bad behavior you've discovered and confronted them with, behavior that has deeply hurt you), whenever you react to the pain they cause you by crying /breaking down/ pleading/screaming/cursing/sobbing … they are LOVING it. It's like you're giving them the best drug, the best high they've ever had. And they know they've got you … and you become an even bigger joke to them than what you were to begin with. You're no longer a challenge, though, frankly, which makes you easily dismissed by them. Just when you think you wont hear from them again, though, you suddenly will, with a text that seems innocent enough … and you may be tricked into thinking, at that moment, “See, he/she does really care!” But again, watch and live it out, if you must, but you'll only find yourself right back at devastation and heart shattering pain. The sociopath cares about NO ONE, period. Sadly, deep inside, not even himself/herself. They are people who harbor a deep inner self-loathing, whose core is made of empty nothing and hateful insecurity. But NEVER make the mistake of thinking - if only you could show the socipath how committed YOU are to him/her, how much you love him/her, how YOU believe they are worthy of love, you can fix their inner wounded child …. Blah, blah, blah. Just stop yourself, for the love of all that is sane. I beg of you. Because your best efforts WILL NOT work to achieve this end. Your best efforts, your repeated coming back to them like this, in fact will only affirm the sociopath’s view of you as a pathetic pawn from whom he/she can continue to get “supply” (the ego feed they desparately need to survive). You mean NOTHING to him/her. You never did. You never will. A sociopath is not curable. There is no medicine, no anti-psychotic, no antidepressant, no therapy (the sociopath would never engage it anyway) that can ameliorate this condition. The only thing you must do is take steps toward SELF PRESERVATION. And you must, because a sociopath will kill you eventually. Truly. Psychologically damage you so profoundly, if you stay engaged in any relationship with him/her over a substantial period of time, that you may never recover. I know this. I allowed myself to stay committed to one for 22 years. And I'm intelligent. But my belief in my own self worth plummetted to the most dangerous lows a person's self-value could plummett. If you recognize these traits in whomever you've begun a relationship with, just RUN. and never, NEVER, look back. Block all contact. Don't fool yourself, as I did for years after I finally said, “Get out!”, into thinking, “Well, he sent me this text. I mean, I guess we could be friends.” It doesn't work! A sociopath doesn't have friends. A sociopath gathers people for “supply”, and any acts of reaching out to you is an attempt by the sociopath to see if they can still hook you, whether you will stil be an easy source of “supply” to them. It is ALL at your peril and expense and ALL designed for his/her benefit. Run, run, and run. And never, never, never look back. Trust me. I KNOW the truth of which I speak. Additionally, Catching a cheating spouse might be difficult, and knowing what local laws say you can and cannot do might be even more difficult. 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Wow please send mi this text, I want to copy it and read it to understand this kind of disorder
Lol what a heap of bullcrap. You sound like the sociopath there lady
The traits you describe are much closer to a Narcissist Sociopath. As a more stable sociopath, I am confident and don't need ANY outside validation. I use socialization to get what I want. Nothing more. Also most sociopaths don't have self loathing. That's more a narcissist trait. Most sociopaths "love" themselves more than anything else. I put myself ahead of everyone. I have a deep loathing for humanity more than anything else.
@@FreedomsResNovae So, you hate people, in general. To you, humanity itself is a blight. (which is not far from the truth because of our brethren's destructive behaviour and greed.)
@@doodlesyoru2108 yes, humanity is a blight honestly. Mr. Smith put it best.
My mom has basically taught me not to trust anyone who's charming and nice.
@Mr RandomTV9000 You have a point
that's really sad
@@glimmyflimmy4554 its a sign of abuse/neglect i think.
I think people who are domestic abused by people they trust get attached to them regardless on how they treat them. So you might be still attached to your family.
Also Victims of abuse sometimes idolize their abusers so it would be even harder to let go of them.
I hope you can recover and let go the toxic people in your life. peace out
Great mother! High five her from me
@@glimmyflimmy4554 It is a natural thing meant to drive you to stay with the pack.
When I was 8 I was hit by a car, had a terrible head injury and a broken femur. When I was 13 I was well on my way to being a complete sociopath. I did not understand why I acted the way I did until I came across a shrink that asked me if I ever had a brain injury. I said yes 5 years ago. He immediately switched gears with me after that. By the time I was 24 I was out of that hell. Thanks Doc.
I feel as though I was on my way to becoming a sociopath as well. My childhood was very traumatic and I started picking up violent behaviours and tried to constantly start fights and would do things that my teachers called me out for that was “bad” yet, I never even had a thought of it being a bad thing and would downright feel no remorse for anyone. I reckon if it weren’t for my dog 🐕 and for me researching these things I would’ve turned out really badly.
Glad to hear that
Can you tell me what are some things you do that represent sociopathic behavior? I think I might be a sociopath but I’m not sure. (I have manipulated people before, physically and mentally abused others, yet everyone sees me with great charm)
@@jeeniefl8022 you might just be a bad person.
@@jeeniefl8022 it sounds like you definitely have qualifying elements. I was definitely a sociopath at one point. The thing that I haven’t seen anyone talk about on here: it wasn’t until I found Christ that I changed. Also, I changed almost immediately. I broke down crying and hyperventilating at all the sin I had done. It’s not too late. He will help you and anyone that humbled themselves and asks
Me: reads title
Also me: **flashbacks of diary of a wimpy kid**
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i literaly watched a diary of a wimpy kid iceberg video earlier today lmfao
HmMMmMm...
@@nerdemojireal DONT WATCH THE LONG HALL IT SUCKS
I’ve struggled with empathy my whole life and at one point even looked into myself being a sociopath. But I worked on myself and developed feelings for people I care about. Now I’m ever more confused as seeing this video shows me that some do develop empathy but still have those antisocial traits. I’ve checked almost every box that is shown here so I guess I live on. Interesting to see the spectrum of this disorder and seeing how other people are has helped me also better understand how I work
All the best! I’m still working on feeling empathy but I think I’ve made progress since I’ve stopped having nightmare of stabbing my classmates and my father and my grandpa and myself..
I am a diagnosed sociopath with depression I also struggle a lot with empathy
I have no emotional empathy and can't get any if it. I guess I need to learn cognitive empathy then, if that's possible. People have a terrible opinion of me so I must be the trash they say I am. Hope to do better.
but its good that you see it. i wish you allthe best
I feel you. Keep workin on yourself, only you can make the changes you need to be the you, that you want to be. You will figure it out
"they could be politicians."
He. He. He.
All politicians are saints.
*hunter biden spotted*
@@johnnyboy2065 IF HE BREATHES
*HE’S CORRUPT*
Sounds like the Prime Minister of Canada, Justin Trudeau.
I live in Argentina, and this is so accurate that it makes me want to get the hell outta here ASAP
My brother is one. He manipulated and mentally abused my mother and I for years.
He stole and minipulated money from our mother for years. All her retirement money.
When we called the cops on him he would always get so mad and scream "what about me!?" when we would say we had to call them because we were scared of him and he was hurting us.
The first time he went to prison I thought everything would be better but he manipulated mum into thinking he had changed. So I left. I couldn't take it anymore.
Mum never understood how he treated me when she was at work, how he destroyed my confidence. But once I was gone he focused on her. All the gas lighting and cruelty I got shifted to her.
The last time he went to prison, she cut ties with him finally.
He is so sickeningly charming. The amount of times he sweet talked cops, mental health professionals and strangers into believing he was this great guy.
I'm in therapy now for my cptsd after suffering years of his torment. I'm doing really well, working on my fear of people and learning to be proud of myself and love myself.
He will never grasp nor care the damage he has done to us, ever and its taken therapy for me to accept that.
You’re very strong❤️
My uncle is a goddamn diagnosed psychopath and istg i feel so sorry for all his kids and ex-wives.
He is also an extremely wealthy person and he runs a few businesses with my father (he had rarely beaten me in the past and now, so it's somewhat better)
My uncle's first wife was literally hospitalized with a brain injury, because he did that to her. It happened a few times and then she ran away with her daughter (she was also beaten up by him at times).
His second wife also ran away with her two sons. Idk what particularly he did to them, but when i sometimes meet them (my cousins) i can tell by their behavior that they are traumatized.
Now has a third wife and a little son. He treats her like nothing as well, but she is still with him.
Luckily, my father only abuses us (me, sis and mom) emotionally & mentally. And also tells us that he will throw us away from home at times. He is as wealthy as his brother, but we still live like average people and even worse at times. I know that if he cared he would do something. Trust me, he dealt with a loan of ~2-3 million dollars in span of a month.
Damn, I sure hope to become rich one day to help my mom & sis...
My uncle is a sociopath. He used to beat me, sexually harass me when we were kids (he was 12 and I was 5). Now he is a drug addict p, stoles money and equipment from his mother (my grandmother)
@@anastasiapurr7691 oh my god i am so sorry...
@@user-kx7wo6gv5h I'm so sorry. I hope things get better
*"Charm is part of the game."*
Well. That rules me right out.
My immediate thought, lmao
Ye we good boys
Fr lmfao my first thought when I heard it....
Well hitler is not that handsome but very charismatic
It’s not all the time, but it is usually a big part of it
I’m 28 and I have a sister who is 15 months younger than me. She is almost 27. She has been my best friend pretty much all of my life. Because of some recent events, I have come to realize she’s a text-book sociopath. Because of the chronic manipulation and deception, I’m not sure if I can have a relationship with her moving forward. This is heartbreaking for me and I feel like I am losing a part of me. But the way she treats me, our family, and those around her is unacceptable. I hope she can get the helps she needs to manage her disorder.
I hope your sister gets the help that she needs and I also need to on my anger and my empathy as well🙏🏼
Someone:
" I'm not psychopath, I'm a high functioning sociopath"
Sherlock holmes:
@@fishsticks5552 Fits rather for Moriarty.
“He (Sherlock) wants that people think he’s a high-functioning sociopath,” says Moffat. “He’s not a sociopath, nor is he high-functioning. He’d really like to be a sociopath. But he’s so fucking not.”
Sherlock isn't a so called "high functioning sociopath." It doesn't exist a thing like that. "High functioning" is a term which is usually used for people in the autistic spectrum who are intelligent enough to adapt to the society and environment. Sherlock used the remark "High functioning sociopath" as a mask to scare people off of seeing the truth. Autistic people often speak of themselves this way to set theirselfs apart from others.
Btw, Sherlock Holmes was never described as "sociopath," and according to Moffat Sherlocks remark wasn't meant serious, just sarcastic. Noone can define himself.
That guy from over watch
Yeah that’s what the theatre-and-Hunger-Games-obsessed girl in my class says about herself, and come to think about it, she IS pretty charming…
SHERLOCK
Me: *worried I might be a sociopath*
Video: "sociopaths are charming"
Me: ah alright, I'm in the clear XD
Charms are subjective, Maybe your shyness are charming, charisma, awkwardness. You can't really tell if you're charming or not unless you ask, but of course we don't want to be seen as an arrogant narcissistic prick so if:
You are a teacher's pet
Someone had a crush on you on elementary, middle or high school
You tend to be scrutinized more often than others since they view as a "role model"
Some girls like to flirt with you
You may be charming in a way, I don't know to be honest....
@@carlsonraywithers3368 Fair point.
*Teachers pet*, kinda, I guess teacher's tended to like me when I was in school.
*crush on me in school*, I mean, I had a gf in 5th grade but It quickly ended and I was kind of a hermit for most of my school life. Not to mention the fact that I was home-schooled in middle school and almost all of high school.
*scrutiny*, yeah. More than others though? I'm not sure.
*flirting*, If they have, I'm too dense to have noticed.
edit: grammar
I'm scared, i match almost all the traits... And yes i have pretty hair and high cheekbones and pretty "black" eyes... Should i be concerned? I might've not been popular, BUT i was always liked by my teachers-
Lol
you cant be worried if ur a socio
I think it’s worth noting that they can also fake empathy with lies and façade
Covert narcissists tend to.
Totally not what I am doing (◕ᴗ◕✿)
@@domco_i they actually do, only difference is that sociopaths feel true love and empathy towards very small amount of ppl and psychopaths don’t that’s it
remember there are some that do have some empathy towards specific people
Empathy doesn't equal compassion or morality and people with depression lack empathy too instagram.com/p/COZItyHJyfV/ instagram.com/p/COqcsLDjv2R/ instagram.com/p/CPGMTdMjZo2/ ruclips.net/video/UKwjDbkdyK0/видео.html instagram.com/p/CMZW6a4FHZ5/
A lot of this kind of applies to me. The first step to the healing process is recognizing that you have a problem
Sign 8: they say they are impostor in among us when they are not
Wouldn't that just get them kicked out early in the game...? I thought the whole point would be framing people when you're it...
Maybe they could get a thrill out of kicking people they know aren't it when they aren't even the imposter to where only they and 1-3 imposters are the only ones it as much as possible, setting themselves up for hard mode. :?
I don't know, maybe I'm thinking too deeply about a game, but I don't see how your statement works. :p
Come to think of it, canon or fanon, and whether or not their even a malicious character, this reminds me of some people from Danganronpa calling themselves the mastermind when their not. :p
among us, HAHA so funny i am dying of laughter, definitely not overused and being ruined by people like you HAHAHAHA ur hilarious!
Ohhh no
Oh yup I do that to annoy people. It really satisfies me
That means im a sociopath then 💀
Is not a coincidence that i've seen all these signs are in the *Diary of a Wimpy Kid* series is it...? 😒
There’s a whole video about greg being a sociopath, check it out
@@epicofgirlycub8145 are you by chance talking about the video solar sands made?
He treats his friends bads and acts like he's a good kid
He'll probably become a lawyer
I'm waiting for all the 11 years old to say: "Oh my god, I'm a sociopath"
@another person on the internet You think she's dumb? I want you to come meet everyone in my science class.
@@ikindajustexist520 LMFAO RIGHT???
You're gonna be waiting a while. Everyone else is talking about sociopaths they know.
@another person on the internet as my sensei said....
‘ the only reason that you're lonely is cause you're fat and gay ’
I’m glad none of my friends are like this (they’re turning 14)
My mother is a diagnosed sociopath, and while there are major problems that the disorder causes we still have a grat relationship. The main way her problems manifest is that she will shout and yell when perceiving adversity, unaware of how it affects those shes shouting at, which included me when I wasnt doing well in school.
An important thing to note is that she at no point intended harm, it is simply a natural reaction that she learned was acceptable through her military service. Shes very receptive to being called out, and has worked on improving toxic behaviors when they're pointed out, but has a limited ability to self reflect on those actions and realize she was in the wrong. Admittedly, this is made worse by my general avoidance of conflict, which can make the situation worse as I have trouble bringing up the courage to point out the problems in the moment.
Despite these problems, she still makes an active attempt to spend time with my brother and I and actively avoids any harmful behaviors. We still have a close connection, even if there are complications attached. Shes trying her best, and considering everything shes had to go through, shes doing a damn fine job of it.
Thank you for sharing that. What made her even seek a diagnosis?How old is your mother and is she married?
i am sorry but i believe they know what they are doing
I started saying “garfield” to every sign as a joke and it began to fit together and i became more and more terrified as my ‘joke’ became a reality
garfield isn't very charming though. I don't see him winning the presidential election. Though he'd secure the vote of the "really hates Mondays" demographic. Or do you mean you literally say "garfield" to every street sign you encounter? Because that would be a symptom of being manic.
Wat.
Wtf are you talking about my guy I wanna help
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SJREGIEGJIERSG STOP IM SORRY- what happened i wanna helpp
"Enjoy others suffering" It's official: Gamers are sociopaths
Well shit, you got me there.
there is a difference between real life and gaming, cuz i like destroying toxic kids and making them cry muahaha >:)
@@cat1800 Can't I have both?
@@walgekaaren1783 i do for sure
This reminds me of that meme with the guy slamming a character heads into a pole on a virtual reality game...
Edgy teens: _Write that down write that down!_
PLEASE- I HAD A THOUGHT I SHOULD ACT ON THESE TO SEE OTHERS REACTIONS- 😭😭😭
Lol
Out of interest I wish to ask. Where does this thought process come from? What I mean is-most comments I read state something similar to what you have posted.
That anyone that has attempted to share their experience of an individual suffering with A.S.P.D, Sociopathy, or Psychopathy are all teenagers who are trying to be "edgy" or "edge-lords". It's caught my attention. Much like my diagnosis has interested me. Is it common for teenagers to pretend to be the "Hollywood" definition of a "psycho" to gain some sort of difference towards the general population? to scare their peers in an attempt to explain their social occupation as an outcast? Care to explain?
Thanks.
@@nickmeyer238 Usually people act edgy thinking it makes them look cool and rock hard, when it reality it makes them look like an absolute plastic Butt Plug
@@cmcphotography1 couldn't have said it any better
I'm dealing with a sociopath. This video was very helpful
Imagine all the edgy 15 year olds watching this and sayong to themselves "That is legit me".
i don't know if you guys get their whole perspective , it's difficult for them at that age to actually understand how this works . half of them can think that they identify with these not because this is cool but they have those traits. most of the people have many of these traits at some degree but they don't have a mental disorder. like you guys think most of the people don't feel envy , anger , frustration or aren't ignorant to other's remorse at times?
i would've wondered if i'm one of these if i saw this video at that age but not because of thinking it's cool , and i'm just an introvert .
getting some behaviours completely invalidated from the society due to the norms also affects kids at that age , like i got called antisocial when i didn't even understand what it actually meant rather than just a guess and was just wondering about my mental condition , about why i wanted very limited social interactions and had a lot of difficulty in feeling the opposite how most of the other people around me did.
some good amount of experience is needed to connect the theoretical information with the correct practical representation of it , i don't think majority of them have that much experience and a good perception to distinguish themselves easily from people who have this disorder by just learning about them on a screen , the information is not detailed to the point people with very less knowledge about these can accurately understand.
even when it's very detailed , it shouldn't be taken as absolute.
but maybe you were just specifically talking about those who lie when they know they don't identify with this disorder , if that's the case then no problem.
i commented this just in case if you were lumping all of them together who comment like that.
@Autistic Dolphin54 stg being autistic is the best thing that ever happened to me
Your opinion fits that of an ageist narcissist
:/ some really do so shut it
That is legit me
Sociopaths and psychopaths have one interest and one fear in common: Power over others, and they fear accountability for their actions, which is why you often see sociopaths/psychopaths in positions of power and continue climbing the social hierarchy until the law doesn't apply to them anymore, and they are free to hurt others without fear of having to own up to their actions.
That one! Or they'll work hard to gaslight the people they abuse so that the abused feel like it's their fault, or make them feel guilty for holding them accountable.
Many of them are not smart enough to climb that high though. Many of them fall through the cracks of the society.
The reason why I don't like this comment necessarily is because not all sociopaths are the same. The media and a lot of misinformation has spread that all sociopaths are people who are so unbelievably toxic and should be avoided at all costs when that's not all the time true. I have a cousin who suffers from ASPD. A lot of people also tend to forget that Antisocial Personality Disorder is similar to Autism, it is a spectrum -- which is also why psychologists may label their patients as high-functioning sociopaths or low-functioning sociopaths. Every sociopath feels things differently, even if they don't feel anything at all. The cousin I have actually was clinically diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder around the age of 6 or 7, and he has never once done anything freakish like kill animals in his spare time, stab or attempt to kill anyone or anything. Sure, he is manipulative but, the only reason he says why he manipulates people is if it's for their own good; or if they're being incredibly ignorant about something important.
Please, whoever is reading this, look up videos of sociopaths answering questions on Reddit. It's kind of sad since there are actually some ASPD individuals who actually wonder what it's like to have more functioning emotions and not have to put up a front for other people.
@@yung2905 Sociopaths and psychopaths have inactive or absent mirror neurons which is what gives one empathy and the ability to explore emotional variances(which naturally helps creativity). In materialistic societies, it's easy to socially suppress those empathetic qualities so there are those that don't even know they are capable of feeling empathy for others as long as they lack self-awareness and aren't honest with themselves through a healthy education.
What adds to the confusion and uncertainty is that there are those diagnosed with ASPD and are on the spectrum - and yet have expressed TONS of empathy to animals and/or plants, and even feel their pain, just not or little of it to humans. In my psychology classes, I discerned those with these traits are usually from the offspring of both a sociopath and an empath. To make matters more depressing, having 'too much' empathy can be a thing and when unchecked, promotes naive thinking in a 'free spirit' sense.
This makes sense. I fear things coming back on me, but not the actions themselves
I was friends with a sociopath in high school. There were many things I could relate to with him being that I'm autistic. I feel empathy strongly and am very sensitive, but at other times I simply do not understand others' emotions but for very different reasons a sociopath will tend to have difficulty or inability to understand others' emotions. He experienced a lot of existential crises throughout his life and never knew how to put his finger on it, he didn't know how to feel love in the same way others do, even for his own family, and this made him feel empty and alone, although he would feign a warm and sociable personality to get by in life. At certain points when he didn't have the energy or care to feign, he would express a lot of bitterness about the idea of love, that in his words, it is nothing but a chemical reaction and it does not actually exist. I believe he felt a kind of love, such as for some partners, friends, and pets, but he was so disassociated from his emotions that he could not feel emotional attachment in the same way most people do. He'd admit to being manipulative at times and give examples. At least most of the examples were actually the same stuff the average person does but would be in denial of being technically manipulative, such as complimenting someone and then saying something like, "Boy, I sure do want such and such," and they'd get it for him. He knew how to charm people as well. But he didn't do these things to hurt them, it was simply the only way he knew how to cope and survive, as sociopaths (as well as psychopaths) will often say, "Everything is transactional." I feel that sociopaths and psychopaths alike are in some ways simply faced with reality candidly; without the emotional attachments most people have, they are forced to see that we are technically all manipulating each other to some degree and everything in a way is transactional, regardless of the emotions felt during the "transaction" by us folks who don't have to live with this condition. For instance, when you tell people you need help, you are manipulating them to help you, which is of course not a bad thing whatsoever. Or when a therapist makes gentle suggestions to you that could help you, they are technically manipulating you to consciously or subconsciously take in the idea and act on it in some way. This is of course also not a bad thing. What matters is how and why we are manipulating each other and if boundaries are being respected.
He also obviously had very limited empathy, and this would lead him to talk about himself more than he would listen to others at times and would not realize he was being rather narcissistic (which I feel is in some way probably a coping mechanism; he actually struggled a lot with hating himself). He started going to therapy consistently, shortly after high school to try to work on the things that he struggled with and take care of his mental health, especially since it began really declining around that time. Many times when I've seen him acting enthusiastic about something, I can see right through it and know deep down he doesn't enjoy it that much, that he probably still feels like a shell of a person and is partaking of said hobby to distract himself from how he really feels inside. Although I can relate to certain things he'd experience, I can only imagine what it must be like to have ASPD. Sociopaths are not necessarily bad people. They just need support, guidance and love like anyone else.
you're mixing up sociopathy and psychopathy (as did the video). sociopaths understand and disagree with them and the social game; which you as autistic wouldn't even grasp. But if he had mild psychopathy, then it would be easy for you both to orientate on each other since you'd be easy to control, and he wouldn't play silly social games with you that you wouldn't get.
@@temptempy1360 Can you rephrase this or elaborate? I'm confused about what you mean.
@@temptempy1360 okay. You literally have no right to tell an autistic person how they experience their symptoms or how their friends aspd manifested itself. You are not their therapist or psychiatrist and you are only here to spread misinformation and get a reaction (here it is your welcome.) Maybe instead of trying to piss people off in the comments, you instead look inside yourself and figure out why it is you are being so bitter to others on the internet. Imagine having an actual sociopath (me) telling you you're being a jerk and to stop. Ugh..
Normally these people are very dangerous, so maybe lay off the sympathy somewhat. In order for a sociopath or psychopath to not be dangerous they need an enormous amount of self-awareness, which it seems your friend had.
@Nirvana it doesnt have a definition, its a mental disorder that has symptoms. The "definition " would be whatever traits or symptoms a patient has that qualifies them to have a diagnosis of the disorder.
I feel like a common misunderstanding about sociopath is that they can't feel or understand other emotion because they have too little empathy.
Yet a lot of them can be manipulative and that implie to understand other person's emotion and way of thinking to get what they want.
Thus they become good at understanding other's emotion and can blend in easily. Don't think of them as cold because most aren't like that in public and become harder to distinguish
(Diagnosed sociopath here, sorry english isn't my first language)
Some edgy kids in here thinking they’re sociopaths
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@White Candy "white candy" - lofi pfp. You're edgier than dog fart
@@dogfart6140 Sir I do agree but then again Its like telling a psychopathic serial killer they aren't when they try to warn others and then get surprised when they kill someone
@@protogensvisiontimelost254 I'm a girl lmao
@@dogfart6140 when is my cancellation date
y’all do people realise that being a sociopath isn’t... a good thing? like, some of the 11 year olds in the comments seem to think it’s cool or something lol.
Exactly.
They want mommy to take them to a Psychiatrist and get them some drugs.
im 11-
theres people who think being a sociopath is cool-
I'm 20 and it's pretty based af
As a diagnosed sociopath, it isn’t cool. I told one friend, one time, the truth. Didn’t hear a word from him after that. Despite not having normal emotions, it’s annoying that society demonizes us for things beyond our control. “Oop, sociopath, look out”.
whenever I hear the terms sociopath-Psycopath two people comes to my mind Sherlock Holmes and Light "KIRA" Yagami
@Ultimate Detective 2.0 "Elementary my dear watson"
haha. ....yeaaaaah, about Sherlock......
Light yagami 😩💕
WHAT? Light kinda went insane after a point but Sherlock?
@@omegazx7236 Sherlock is a " High Functioning Sociopath " in his own words from the series and He kinda do things like sociopath like he treats people like a tool for an objective rather than a emotional being
Biggest emotional remorse breakdown was at the loss of our dog, our dog never insulted, disparaged or told us we were not good enough.
Shoutout to all my fellow time travelers.
To be a time traveler yourself go to their channel and click playlists go to last video added and click the first playlist scroll to the bottom where you will find an unlisted video and you can comment there before it is posted.
How do you do that?
Wait a minute
Wtf??!!
How the fuck he do dat
@@impcityangel3245 wtf dude
I had a friend with this disorder and sadly.. I'm traumatized because of her and I have depression and SAD(social anxiety)
Luckily I left her with the help of other people but I will never be able to forget her manipulative things.. it can be really scary in my opinion..
My ex girlfriend was like this. Now, I have trust issues and I can't tell who's being genuinely friendly and who's trying to get inside my head.
Its extremely scary knowing you were so close to people who never cared and were happy to use and extract resources from you
I think I am becoming a person who is like your old friend. I am extremely concerned because I just nearly snitched on my friend's secret and I've been snitching a lot lately. I don't want to lose another friend to this, I just cannot stop snitching to the slightest question
Edina Szekely, Me too! Exterminate them all! Not enough Capital Punishment!
Unfortunately your biggest victory is that you survived it. My situation had the Sociopath telling lies and false stories about me. Suddenly none of my old friends wanted to have anything to do with me and they didn't want to hear anything I had to say about it. It is hurtful, isolating, and extremely manipulative. You must find a way to leave it behind you. Good luck.
@@andrewbasile1847 Do push-us and pull-ups and stockpile guns and ammunition. The strong survive, and may the best man win. I shall endeavor to take my own advice as well. Go find new people, new places. I have Aspergers/Autism and I know how it is but the strong survive.
The woman who does these videos has an amazing voice.
Actually they can show a great deal of empathy & remorse, they do apologize & communicate very well - but it’s all an act. That’s the thing, when dealing with a sociopath you most likely won’t know until many years after getting to know them very, very well. One sign is their words and actions won’t always line up. They apologize, but keep doing the same things over and over. But usually, that’s not how a person behaves in the earlier times of a relationship. They can butter you up for years.
I think the quickest way to make note of a red flag is to find out about that person’s family history - from someone other than just them. If they were abused, neglected, had an alcoholic or drug addicted parent, etc, they are more likely to have this or some other serious condition.
Only deal with someone who has spent time in counseling SERIOUSLY working on inner healing, if they haven’t, I wouldn’t deal with them at all. Suggest they get help & MOVE ON. You don’t want any type of relationship with somebody that has to be told they need help. Hurt ppl will hurt other ppl. Period. Connect yourself with ppl who are self-aware & always SELF-motivated to heal, grow & improve. Anyone who portrays themselves as just about perfect is probably the exact opposite!
Most of all, connect yourself with people of faith because God is our greatest healer!
Hope this helps someone.
God bless 🦋
You get it! One big tell is "They can never be wrong" and attack the very idea they could ever be wrong about anything. It can be for something trivial like dropping a glass and blaming you for being across the room and not stopping it, somehow. "It's your fault" is a reaction, not an argument.
Being nice and helpful is all fake as that's part of their manipulation to get something from you. They feel no shame, guilt nor empathy
You have to be patient with them and help them get help. It’s a mental disability that they suffer from, they are reaching out for help and need to be loved.
@@justonemoriThe key is to tell them: "Im not against you as a person, im against this action". This prevents them from being able to guilt trip you after you try to speak up on something.
Learned this the hard way after 2 years of abuse, sadly. But at least ive healed from it, and hopefully i was her last victim.
This isn’t the type of person you can help, they have to choose to get help for themselves and you should be far, far away from as they do it. Pray the best for all and let them go. If they’re family or someone you can’t cut ties with, remain as distant as possible. LET THEM GO. Let them go on and find what they need, it’s not you. Really, it’s Jesus. If they invite God in, HE will heal them in His way.
Focus on your own well-being and love yourself enough to choose to surround yourself with healthy ppl who are on a journey towards greater and greater self-improvement.
Blessings
I've personally known two sociopaths. One was more manipulative than the other.
Both are aware that they're sociopaths because of their diagnosis. One of them understood that being sociopathic towards people isn't the way and he often tried to control himself from manipulating others. He wanted to fit in with others more. After awhile, he ended up isolating himself from everyone because socializing with others and trying to keep his ASPD inside fatigued his energy.
The other one I still know, and he is slowly getting better. He was a lot more manipulative, lied all the time, and never apologized for any wrong doing he did. Right now, he is more chill, and seems to apologize at times if he feels like he needs to.
Sociopaths are not all completely bad. In fact, many of them mentally improve overtime. It's important to give them space whenever they need it because they can become fatigued from too much socializing, and it's also good doing this so that you don't end up developing an unhealthy relationship with them.
How did he manipulate
This, I know how I am, so I try to isolate myself from everyone I can. No one should suffer my own problems. Sadly it leaks out from time to time, and even worse on the people I do care about on some level.
Tell me more about your imaginary friends.
Remember, sociopathy is not a "lifestyle" or personality, its a problem.
I think it’s cool and Unique
@@KESTRAL23 as some would say it's like looking at a glass half full.
It's not a problem . Every one elts is the one who can't controle there emotions.
@@m.3.3.w what does that mean
Empathy and morals are a weakness created by subjective thought
I saw Karma. I- whoever made this, they are a god.
I saw him too
btw your pfp (:
1:07
Same
YES!
Also your profile picture is great
@@MyxIsNotHome thanks ✌️
At the age of 59 I am just first learning and understanding why my sister loved hurting me over and over and over again. My first memory of being her target I was only 5 or six yrs old. I have alot to work through!Firstly being to stop being the victim and stay the he'll away from her.Unless you have experienced being one of the targets first hand you'll never beable to comprehend the depth of manipulation, abuse,and hatred that seethes from a sociopath.
Hmm... I'm thinking of making a character with some of these sociopathic tendencies and these videos really help!
Thanks Psych2Go! 💙💙💙
Characters with sociopathic traits are really interesting, in most cases. And they allow for much character development, if during the plot said character slowly becomes less and less sociopathic.
I think they're interesting to explore, especially the choices they make, but are kinda dull otherwise, especially when it comes to their inner world
@@outcast4087 It is not possible for someone to become 'less sociopathic' as it is a mental disorder. It is possible for them to learn how to act neurotical, and to learn to fake empathy, however it is an act.
This does not make them a bad person, however. A lot of sociopaths are like that because of childhood trauma, and have less or no empathy as a coping mechanism. You can still be a good person without empathy.
You can also look at Cozy Glow on My Little Pony Friendship is Magic. As I recall, she has most (if not all) of these qualities.
@@OpossumEzzy Maybe it's not possible "IRL"... BUT many Sociopaths actually just have "low empathy" not "no empathy"... Important nuance about them.
AND Tessa was talking about creating a Character, as in for a story or game... In some Games and Stories, the "world-setting" has or allows for magic, and with magic, anything is possible... not necessarily feasible or practical, but possible. It's Fiction...
I'm a GM and Player in RPG's like D&D or GURPS, SO I frequent these vid's for some of the insights required to develop Characters (PC's as well as NPC's) with mental health issues... I hope to explore them and RP them better... AND/OR I hope to help other Players and GM's get their Role-Playing chops up to the next level, too. ;o)
I love how you put Karma there!
Assasination clasroom?
@@Alex_Mercer_ yes
KARMA AKABANE?
IKR I was simping for him this whole video 😂😂 , and also i didn't know he was considered as a sociopath if you asked me I will thought he's a psychopath , bet I still don't know what exactly is the difference between them ;-;
“Oh shit, why does it sounds a bit like m-“
“They are dangerously charming”
“Nvm, guess I’m perfectly normal.”
Edit: No, please don't read my comment and argue that you think you're a sociopath. This is a joke comment, and as this vid says, if you need help, please go to therapy ASAP.
No like, seriously, if you need help, please go to therapy. For you own's sake. If you're thinking that you might need help, please go seek for help ASAP. I will support you and wish for you to feel better if you're feeling really shitty rn.
😂 this was me while watching the video
lol
@@BlazRa bro you sure replied to the right comment?
Same😂
Same
Currently taking the steps for a diagnosis. I didn’t realise how I acted or felt until multiple people pointed it out and made me reflect. It’s hard coming to terms with it, but I hope to find an answer so I can help myself and others understand me and what they might have to deal with.
When you try to compare these to someone you know but end up seeing these in yourself 👁👄👁
Wow this really describes a girl I really liked in my early 20s.She would act like she was interested in me when other people weren't around just enough to keep me interested and could make cruel remarks towards me around other people,it really hurt and I always got a sense she enjoyed hurting me.Why I let her is probably a disorder of my own because I always seem to be attracted to that type of person,I think what makes me attracted to somebody who can be cruel?I think it's my own insecurities and the need for validation,why I'm sharing this with people I don't know??I have no idea😂
Why did I feel this
Sometimes we want to express a thought. It doesn't matter who or where. We just want to express it somehow.
It helps us clear our thoughts and feelings a little.
It's called masochism.
Or maybe you're a masochist
@@philosophos_a1522 Big facts
“You’re a bloody psychopath!”
“A high functioning sociopath actually. With your number. 😐😀”
-Sherlock lmao
This is the comment I was waiting for
BEST EPISODE OF ALL
I love this quote
i did not know what that meant until i watched this video and read this comment
lmao
true lmao
I do have a couple of signs of sociopath which I really, REALLY dislike in myself. Like having possesive love for someone. I... had at least couple episodes in my life when it really screwed me over and made me react very unwise. The other sign is that when I used to be a kid, I enjoyed seeing my little brother suffering. I also was very on edge all the time and was REALLY annoyed by him being (and I believe it was done at least partially on purpose)... well annoying in general. Also I'm kinda violent, but I mostly keep myself under control. To be fair, that one actually was useful in college where I was bullied when I was freshman. I used violence to fix problem of violence... well, only for myself, since I was incapable of helping other guy who was badly bullied until he went to other college.
I know far too many people with these traits. I've essentially had to become a loner to protect myself.
I’m so sorry, no one deserve no friends. Only rapists & serial killers deserve no friends
Kinda cringe.
Same. I avoid people because of this.
@@gefehede7783 youd rather have a toxic relationship right?
I trust dogs more than people sometimes. . .
I know a couple real diagnosed sociopaths through my work (mental health) The way I can tell is they are like sirens, the charisma is so off the charts it almost feels like you are getting sucked into their orbit as they talk to you. It literally is effortless for them like breathing non sociopaths even the most gifted conversationalist can never match it.
Can u explain more? What do u mean by ( gifted conversation can never match it) ?
@@user-yj3py8bp9v I will start by saying it's something to be experienced but I will do my best to explain. When I talk with a sociopath or psychopath it's like talking to a person who I would be most likely to be best friends with and share all of my interests and humor. They have brains that give them the ability to figure out how to act perfectly without effort. When nurotypical people have conversation they have to work though hurdles of how to speak do to anxiety and nerves since sociopaths and psychopaths don't feel remorse they just go for it.
@@phathuevos697 My father AND my ex lol. Neither are charming once you’re out of the vortex, but holy crap with the amount of women both of them attract, I’m just like wtf??
I wonder how sociopaths and psychopaths “feel” knowing that their is no info on how to get better but only info on how dangerous and horrible they are. They are human too and deserve normal lives as well they were born this way
exactly like nobody is talking about the causes or the ways that "sociopaths" and "psychopaths" suffer.
@@aubrey5577 i meant the trauma that causes it,, and by "suffer" i meant the stigma they face; also not all sociopaths / psychopaths are the same !! aspd is a spectrum,, meaning there are levels to it.
@@aubrey5577 this statement is simply not true, the brain isn't in a solid state. The brain has a factor of plasticity to it. Behaviour and habits can change due to different lifestyle changes, different upbringings ect. To say that someone is born a psychopath or a sociopath is not true. But the experiences that person experience or seen is what makes them that way, for example if someone had a abuse childhood and never got help, it's safe to say they will carry that trauma into adulthood and if that happens they may carry out psychological tenancies.
Yeah and the sociopaths/psychopaths that are victims of abuse too :(
@@aubrey5577 That's not true. It's terrible to know that I never really loved anyone. I hate it.
As a person who've been through trauma from my past jhs years, bullies, i slowly begin to know myself now that i'm healing, i've become a sociopath, and have recently, yesterday specifically, have met a psychopath
Yeah I'm definitely not a sociopath I don't know why I needed to know this at 3 am in the morning
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well your not
All the ppl in the comments thinking sociopathy is "quirky"... just stop its really not
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I mean at least sociopaths achieve their goals tho right
@@user-fo5zh3yz7j not all... most actually struggle to achieve their goals. But I'm not looking down on those with ASPD, that would be ableist. I am looking down on those who think having ASPD is desirable, when its literally a mental disorder
@@sarahkhandoker2540 being optimistic and desiring are too very different things; if you really cared about not being ableist surely you would be happy to clear up misconceptions rather than look down on those who have them.
@@user-fo5zh3yz7j no, i dont look down on people who actually have ASPD. I look down on undiagnosed 13 year old girls who claim to have ASPD because their favourite anime character has it. I'm optimistic and respectful to those who actually have it, diagnosed by a professional. I look down on those who pretend to have it because they think they're light yagami or sum main character
The leaf person's smile somehow freaked me out at the end of the video.
How come?
@@Psych2go maybe cuz its eyes look kinda hollow..
I apprently hate myself, have mdd and a sociopath al though i just dont like having friendships.
and see myself as a loser and ugly. actually even my parents call me useless anoyying mute a blank and many others
@@strawberrycraked1372 :( go see a therapist, it could help a lot!
As someone who highly suspects of being a high-functioning sociopath, I've been through shit tons of abuse and passing of my father at 13, for which I find to be the "cause". Now, I can feel things, as per say, since I have felt them as a child, but now (still teen years), I have impulsive outbursts but can actually, with effort, "feel" things, or can lie about feeling them. But, I'm usually just bored and dead cold. As I said, I'm highly suspicious, though don't have a diagnosis because I don't want to get any kind of medical attention or treatment, aside from the therapist that I'm seeing and comfortable with, since I despise the idea of it. Also, not feeling anything, for some such as myself, is untrue. My best friend, for example, for him I'd flip the whole world upside down, and did once in high school. I ended up at the psychologist's office, but didn't really care. Since I understand emotions due to having them in the past, I developed a "switch" for them, so I can be either dead cold or actually kind of normal, even though everything still feels forced because I know that it in a way is. Yes, I dislike people because they're in general stupid, but I have no tendency for harm, and if I sometimes do, I just toss it aside and they go away. Hence why I say high-functioning sociopath, because I feel like I've developed it from trauma, but have immense amount of control over myself. Practically, I use it as a superpower, where I tend to exploit "affection" towards positive things, but am completely switched off towards anything negative.
This is funny
My dream is to be a psychologist and I love this channel! Keep up the good work ;)
You can do it
@@justanomorifan3059 ty :)
@@Itsjust_rubii fellow toh fan I see....
@@redd3797 heheh yes 😁✨
Tnx doc
Sadly know a lot of people with these traits. The best thing is to call them out on their crap and avoid them. AVOID! They always stalk u when they want something and are always toxic as #%&...Never good for your well being. Just take care of yourself and save this video for future ref.
Dont call them out tho just leave them nicely
@@CindyWarren2004 it needs to call them out because they will continue doing it in others. But the best is avoid them.
very true. They are good pretending to be a nice guy. And act like they have a good reason to stalk you.
@@trydrinkpineapplejuice5911 lmfao you really think calling them out will work? They know what they are doing calling them out will only hurt you
Not all sociopaths act like dicks and as she said not all sociopaths are narcssicts.
* When everything except the charming part suits you *
'Well shi-'
same bro/sis, same
same lol
Sometimes I don’t know if I am a sociopath or a narcissist, or if I am just numb. I used to cry all the time but now I don’t cry at all. I just lay there coldly when something terrible happens or when I am depressed. Whenever there’s a sad movie on and everyone is crying around me I just get a little teary or don’t cry at all. I feel lonely a lot and sometimes when I see that somebody my age is moving on with their life and getting married and having children, it’s hard for me to be happy for them, I wonder why not me too? It makes me feel like I am a narcissist maybe. Both of my grandmothers passed away within a year of each other, and the only time I really cried was at the funeral, but I don’t really cry about it now. I do think of them and get sad because I miss seeing them and miss spending time with them, but there are no tears. It doesn’t make me want to have friends because I’m scared that I will hurt them with my trauma and I don’t want to be toxic. I do want to heal and grow from my pain.
By experience, the only kind of sociopath or narcissist in general to be feared I know is the unaware one. Awareness makes the difference. True awareness I mean
True
haha impossible
I am happy that i am a sociopath to be honest and I do manipulate people to have what I want and I just feel like those people deserve that as we say in my country : the medicament of a greedy person is a person who lies
@Dave Kale Bale The thing is I lost a group of friends because of people who think like that, they thought this and that which wasnt true and it ended up with them discarding me. what you mean is the GENUINE, TRUE narcissists or sociopaths that are unaware. People need to be aware that even the tiniest of symptoms, or just being a normal person in a bad spot isnt them being a narcissist or sociopath.
@@awesward4454 what do you mean?
Phew mostly just lack empathy with others mainly from a terrible childhood where emotions were weakness and put a huge target on your back for all sorts of physical and emotional abuse. But with all the work my partner and I have been doing I've been getting much better at it 👍
As with most human traits, empathy is on a spectrum, and we all fall somewhere on that spectrum. Children are born innocent, but also pretty selfish. It's part of their charm.
I think you can lose empathy, to a degree, through trauma. "If no bones are broken and no blood is spilled, what the hell is he so upset about?" Depending on what you've been through, you can tend to be dismissive of minor hurts. It can seem like lack of empathy, but sometimes it just isn't something that would bother them if the shoe were on the other foot. I've been caught that way, myself. After the things I went through, there are quite a few things that are just piddly-ass to me, compared with something bigger that I'm MORE concerned about, but which cut more sheltered/fortunate people to the bone.
I knew an Army Ranger who was "diagnosed sociopath" (to stick in some tie-straightener's craw). He was a good dude. He was pretty callous, but he didn't wear any masks. He was just elemental. He believed in having a code of honor and that made him a pretty reasonable guy.
The Jesus archetype works for some. I think if you can sell 'em on the salvation deal, they'll do good things for the eternal-life prize at the end. If they believe some spirit is reading their minds and keeping score, they sometimes will control themselves. Of course, if they're really malignant, twisting God's Word is super-easy, barely an inconvenience.
It's hard to imagine a sociopath recognizing they're a sociopath and training themselves out of it, with family support. But if it's learned, which some say is what separates sociopaths from psychopaths, then it can be unlearned, and there's hope for sociopaths.
Going through a lot of abuse does change how your brain forms. I think they say it affects the emotional centers where empathy lives. I think a psychopath is just born with those parts of the brain misfiring, stunted, or absent.
But anyway, I think the way they define things, now, sociopath sort of implies it's learned, and there's nothing organically wrong with the brain. Finding the/a right life partner and working at it with intention, sounds like a pretty cool thing.
Just to let you all know that I am open for criticism and even a debate. All I gotta tell you is dont let your girl weaken you any further. If you take her complaints about your strong personality seriously she will lose respect for you, she will view you as weak and she will either dump you or cheat on you.
Females love people similar to the sociopaths/actual sociopaths because its a sing of a dominant person and you cannot get anymore dominant than a person that has ASPD. And its like that with every female, not just certain types.
Stay strong.
P.S: Females will also try to test you to see how much weak you are and they do it all the time even if you have been with her for decades. And its like that with every female, not just certain types.
@@MARK2000 I recommend a great video series called "love and respect" by Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs. Really great series, and has helped our relationship amazingly.
@@A-SocialHermit the only way a girl can get a guy's love and respect is if she is feminine and submissive. No guy likes a girl who is dominant and aggressive just like how no girl likes a guy that is a submissive push over. Btw did you even read what I have said? Im just trying to help you after all.
@@MARK2000 lol ya I did, the video actually talks about this kind of thing. It's a Christian based thing (I'm agnostic, although I firmly believe in Christian morals) it's about a cycle that couples get into. How men and women are different and how a woman's respect motivates a man's love and a man's love motivates a woman's respect and so on. And how those innate traits are needs that we each need. I don't disagree with you, I was agreeing and recommending an amazing video series that kind of goes with it, and how a lot of people can misinterpret the meaning of what those words actually say (especially when thinking biblically). It's very interesting and the husband is pretty hilarious.
"They are Dangerously Charming"
I know Sherlock Holmes.
Yup , I'm a diagnosed sociopath and I do all of these things and more .
*1:06** Is no one gonna talk about the fact that Karma was there? :3*
Thought I was the only one
Karma akabane? Lol
@@daisorralight5366 same
I thought I was the only one who saw him-
@LEADER OF THE AKAASHI FANCLUB hahaha yes, same😆
Its insane how easily people say “this type of person IS this way” and they dont really know how any one person is thinking
Man, this helps a lot. I was recently forced to do a mental evaluation and they told me and my parents that they do see some early signs of ASPD, but since I am 16 they can not give a full diagnose. But this sheds alot of light on the whole think and helps me understand it a bit better.
Same here it sucks
I'm 14 and i match with all the signs in this video and many others, my parents won't get me a doctor because they think these things can be fixed by 'not thinking of them'
They think depression is over exaggerated sadness
OCD only happens to ultra rich people
I don't even want to tell them that I might have ASPD
@@ScklinkIf you had aspd then it wouldn't "suck" you just wouldn't care
@@ConnorReynolds-h4l Yah have you ever have shit ruined bc of it
when i was younger i really showed most if not all these traits, including violence, lack of empathy, etc... but something changed. idk. i can feel empathy now buuut i also continue (some of) these actions despite knowing they're wrong. i relate more to Borderline Personality Disorder now. in fact, its the definition of me
doubt i ever had ASPD but it's weird that i used to relate to most of these. i even used to have an ego, i never apologised, i always thought of myself as 'superior', now im the absolute, complete opposite.
I’m not a sociopath, but I thought I was one. Everytime I did something bad, I didn’t feel sorry ( for example when I broke my little sister’s collarbone, I dom’t really remember if it was on purpose ) I wasn’t even able to say sorry. When my grandma died I couldn’t get a single tear out of my eye. When one of my friends broke her collorbone🥹 No it wasn’t me, I really didn’t care. But later I found out, that it is 0:37 just my narcissistic trait. I can love people really deep, but I can’t love anybody more than myself.
That sounds more like extreme Apathy than narcissism.
@@PrinceAliTheGreatest probably, I don’t really know. I think I just have lower emapthy or something like that.
Why does the blue charecter looks like/reminds me of Ray form tpn .-.
Was thinking the same thing
fr tho 👀
...Ray??? u talking about me???
(nah just kidding xD my name's juts Ray)
The sociopath depicted in this video looks like very edgy manga character...
1:06 they pulled up karma akabane from assassination classroom 💀
deadass, lmaoo; i was laughing so hard 😭😭
Yes, I'm a time traveller.
Wait.... WHAT?!
HOW
@@komaldalvi9394 they changed the time on their phone/computer
@@eggcat3292 Hehe OK
I m just dumb to notice that
I’m confused
Wtf
My sociopath apologised to me once, and silly old me thought they meant it! Then the requests began, could I be the go between for him and his “bit on the side”. Could I take in cards and letters from them for him. Could I tell lies for him. You get my drift!!! Beware, they can apologise, convincingly, but not mean a word of it! Xxxxxx
I’m a high-functioning one but even my therapist says I’m not manipulative idk it’s just not me. I was presenting narcissistic traits that I learned from my family and thankfully we put a stop to that😭. You were right about feeling love and empathy to a select few tho. I love love LOVE kids and people who are disabled and a few people who have gotten to get close to me but other than that😕. But my future husband is lucky because I believe in soulmates and it took me a while to get here but I love them already. So much growth. I’ll be working on my temper tho. It does get PRETTY extreme
Hey, good job on the work you're doing, hope it's going great :D
About you not being manipulative: ASPD may be a bit of a spectrum, so it's not necessarily to be exactly good in manipulation
Overall, best wishes
just because u arent manipulative doesent mean u aint a sociopath.
Step one manipulate therapist to seam i'm not manipulative. Never been to therapy because i've never seen any benefit.
1. Sociopaths lack empathy 1:22
2. They are manipulative 2:09
3. They are dangerously charming 2:32
4. Sociopaths are ill-tempered & impulsive 2:56
5. They have strained relationships 3:33
6. They are narcissistic 4:00
7. They find enjoyment in other's suffering 4:27
I hope I could help! :)
Hello, fellow time traveler 💜
@@hibasalam3978 helo another time traveler💖💖
I don’t believe I am a sociopath at the moment but as I look back, I think I did have some sociopathic tendencies when I was young. I remember thinking there was something wrong with me because I genuinely couldn’t see any difference between having friends and having toys, because I use both for the same purposes (to avoid feeling boredom). I also used to observe people for a while and generate a certain personality before approaching them(which I thought was a natural thing to do), etc. Maybe I just lacked empathy as a kid/teenager & developed emotional intelligence extremely slowly?? 🤔
I got diagnosed with ASPD and BPD and this was quite interesting to watch and reflect on it
"Don't mistake youthful selfishness for genuine malice. Nobody ISN'T kind of an a**hole in their early 20's.
And if they actually weren't, they were probably sociopaths."
- *Alucard 2018*
thank you now I know that
You're saying anyone over 24 who acts selfish is a sociopath? Sounds a bit extreme
This video kind of spoke to me, I used to have some of these personality traits years ago.
I'm glad I'm a slightly better person now, but I'm still not perfect and won't ever be.
But I'm okay with that, I don't want to be perfect, I just want to be a good friend.
i felt the same way. thanks for sharing .
Same lol, I still struggle with maintaining relationships, specially cause I want them to be long lasting but people get tired after 6 months or 2 years umu. But I'm still trying
I also feel identified with this, because I have depression and anxiety and I became cynical over the years. I have friends, but I lacked any support from my family, so I had to struggle to keep up with college and work. I've also been insulted by neighbors and even teachers at college and months ago someone broke into my room and stole some of my videogames. I have a lot of trouble trusting other people and I feel like I always must be on the defensive.
Edgy kid:😡I am a mysterious psychopath ❌
Is autistic✅
"Do any of these signs describe someone you know?"
Yeah, me.
My ex
same.
Ofc the emo otaku kid💀
I dont actual sciopaths would be bragging about this in youtube comments lmao
Don't diagnose yourself to feel special or different
I always thought my ex was a narcissist but these videos are pretty on point. Just watched 'interview with a sociopath' and that guy reminds me of him soo much. You definitely pick up on a lot of small things that are "off" during the relationship but they'll lie and beguile you to the point that you start to question yourself. It's all a game to them because they don't experience emotions, and looking back its like how did you not see it?! There is no reasoning with them.. they get off on you even trying to! Leave before you end up in jail, because they will take you there.
I've known about my sociopathic tendencies for a good portion of my life. While I indeed feel no empathy and do not feel any ACTUAL remorse for my actions, I have learned to fake it and learned to better use logic to control myself in order to better fit in with normal people.
You mean you read up and watch videos on the subject so you know the right things to say to seem like one instead of admitting you're just not a very nice person.
@@youneverseeanoldmaneatinga7416what? Read up? I have aspd I was diagnosed when I was 16 and lemme tell you I don’t “read up” I just know how to fake emotions even though inside I wouldn’t feel anything i would still try my best to be a better person
just cuz people don’t have empathy doesn’t mean they are inherently “bad”
Gosh this comment annoyed me
To be honest that's good. You're at least trying to make sure no one else gets hurt.
Personally (as a sociopath) I don't understand why people think it's bad or a struggle. At some time of course it bad but it helps overcome things easily and overall just make life easier
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That’s why you are a sociopath. You don’t care to see or don’t have the ability to see how it affects others or why it’s wrong lol.
@@GardengalAAA ur the wrong one lmao being a sociopath does not make you a bad person
@@JakobSins I didn’t say it makes you a bad person. It’s the reason you don’t understand - thats due to the trait of being a sociopath. You don’t understand why it’s an issue to be a sociopath because a lack of empathy. Empathy is synonymous with understanding = you said you don’t understand. It wasn’t an insult. It’s in the textbooks.
I see these signs in my ex. She has no empathy, is narcissistic af, is extremely charming and manipulative, while also using others for personal gain. If you disagree with her on anything, she'll feel attacked and isn't going to listen to you
Oh and she also thinks she can communicate with animals via soul contact, but i don't think thats related to the stuff i listed above
I felt depressed watching this because I only saw more and more of my ex in these signs, signs I didn’t see while being manipulated. He even went as far as killing animals as a child, couldn’t look at a video of a hamster when we were together because it would make him become angry with the desire to kill it. He had urges to kill me, but he was able to hold back because I was his “person”. He kept texting me to tell me how his life was, then the final time he said he moved on when I finally messaged him back to leave me alone and move on. I’m worried I’ll always be the person he thinks of 😓
Charming isn’t a sign of sociopathy, it’s psychopathy
@A M Yes but charming isn’t a specific trait tied to sociopaths
4:57
that dance those psyche's are doing is my entire mood and i live for it!
That’s so cute
Her: "Does this remind you of anyone?"
Me: "My ex"
I used to think I might be a sociopath, but I guess I'm just someone who's kind but lost all patience for people being assholes for no good reason.