If you’re single right now, you better thank God! Be happy you’re not in a toxic relationship or wishing you hadn’t said yes to the wrong partner laying next to you. There is a purpose and divine timing on your life. I’m enjoying my singleness. It’s a good season.
I enjoy my singleness also. It’s just that it sucks when someone comes into your life acting like their something they are not and you’re like okay God is this him. I’m always hoping and expecting for the best but then it’s another flop 😩it’s very annoying. I asked God to not send nobody my way unless they are it but I guess he wants me to experience these things.
When I was in horrible marriage, I prayed for God to release me. I tried everything I knew to do my part, but, he would not change. Finally when I saw that it’s was only going to get worse, I made up my mind to leave. I’m single now, and been single almost 9 years. I honestly would like to be in a godly relationship. But, there is so much games and lies out there. I’m content to be single as long as I need to be. Waiting on Father God.
What I've found is that far too many people focus on finding a partner instead of finding themselves. No one can make you happy, but you. No can love you like you can. The person you've been looking for is...YOU!
The secret to being single is having high standards. The moment u lower u standards u might not be single but u will be miserable. So you decide. Many half assed relationships are out there.
I love being single because once I am in a relationship, this time of being single is NEVER coming back. That being said : high standards (not settling for less) + living my best life while God is sending me my life partner at the right moment/time in my life 🥰 Life is good!
Transparent moment: I used to run from being single instead of doing the work to focus on myself and what I need to do. Now, I see the importance of learning who I am first and doing what I need to do while I am in this single season of my life instead of being hyper focused on being in a relationship. I start my Invisalign journey next Monday. Thankful to God. 🦷🙏🏾✨
Still working on myself. Grew up in a toxic family, with a narcissistic father and a codependent mum. I wasn't taught to negotiate and make concessions. I tend to people please instead of standing my ground. To be honest, you cannot engage in a relationship like that. Still have a lot to do. I am learning to love myself and to negotiate. I don't want to back down, when tough conversations are needed. Bought a couple of coats and 👗. I read, I meditate and journal. I 🚶♀️, I 🏊♂️ and attend my 💃 class. I am on my feminine journey too. I have to become softer. There is still a lot to do, and I am willing to do it. The Lord is watching over me. Thanks Tony!
I feel like the woman that are worried about being single needs to keep on being single until they don’t need a relationship; because with that energy the only men that will be attracted to you are the ones with bad intentions. The focus should be on what you need to do to feel secure in yourself. It could be loosing weight, fixing your teeth, earning more money, clearing your skin, growing your hair, healing childhood trauma that makes a person co dependent and seek other people approval. Once you love you enough to fix what makes you feel bad about yourself, that’s when you’ll attract the right man for you.
I disagree. Adam was single in the Garden of Eden. He was lonely. I am sure he had everything he needed and didn’t have to heal from childhood trauma. Wanting a mate is a natural desire. It only becomes a problem when you are willing to accept bad treatment so that you don’t have to be alone. No matter how many Achievements you accomplish in life, not having anyone to share your achievements with is not great feeling.
@@jacquelinerussaw6967 Actually Adam wasn't lonely, he was content with his life. GOD felt like it was good for him to have a mate so he created EVE. Adam wasn't focused on a woman, he was focused on his purpose. While serving GOD and his purpose, GOD blessed Adam with a help meet. Alot of women sole purpose is looking to find a man. I was referencing to those women. Wanting a man because you are lonely or unhappy with your single life is a horrible reason to want to be in a relationship. It's alot of people that are married and still feel lonely and are unhappy.
@Pet Care Tips I agree wholeheartedly. When GOD created a woman it was for a man, so GOD knew that the man NEEDS a woman. A woman doesn't need a man. That's how GOD designed it be. A man wasn't created for a woman.
its normal for humans to need a help mate. God designed us that way. people are over thinking it and saying they just need to accept being single. for a woman there is only so much time we have. i my self will not accept being single . its not a way of life i enjoy. i need companionship. some women dont want that, theyd rather be single. thats their thing. not for me.
I've been married....Im not now because I married for the wrong reason.....I do prefer the married life....but right now Im working on myself to attract BETTER....the last thing I need is....GROWN BOY.....single is looking amazing right now 👍😉
Yes exactly. I have no problems meeting men that want to date me but I have problems meeting men that I want to date because they are lacking good character 99% of the time.
@@charellesexii6555 sis I’m telling you when you lose the idea of “your type” the world opens … you’re on to something still single though 😂 but ur definitely speaking
The point is, Dress the way you want to be addressed. Presentation is paramount. You don't need to go into debt to put your best foot forward. If we aren't happy and healthy single, we'll be an unhealthy mate.
There’s also some women who don’t have likeable personalities, some friends I had were very superficial, judgmental very critical, cutting me off when I speak, very opinionated about me w.o trying to get to know me& had a stink attitude, poor conversation skills the list goes on .. so if I don’t want to be friends with her imagine a man dating her .. the crazy part is they don’t think they’re the problem. I’ve met men who really don’t care what she wears but he loves her energy and how she makes him feel. I think women suffering in dating might have to look in the personality department
@@AndreiFantastic yea that’s true but with men they get turned off very easily during the first date so she won’t even get a chance to show him how kind and loving she is, I noticed men get turned off very easily & leave but women give men the benefit of the doubt and chances … we really have to mindful and put our best foot forward because if she does these things at the first impression she’s lost the competition to other women that make him safe while she’s making him feel guarded
@@LA-wv7gf right and they’re getting advice on how to dress and fix their hair 🥴 it’s their attitude .. if she has a nice personality the guy won’t care how she dress or he’ll help her
@@MaishPosh This is Soo true!! I was at a conference and the keynote speaker gave her testimony how she was a single mom broke and living in a hotel and meet her husband who was very well off. He loved her and helped her and now she is a successful business owner today.
I recently looked into what makes a man marry a woman, & was surprised to see how little it had to do with looks. Yes looks is a factor, but at the end of the day men want to feel supported, championed & appreciated. They also want a nurturing woman that they can bring home to their parents, friends, work colleagues etc. Like one article said; your parents & people dgaf what she looks like because looks won’t benefit them. They just want to make sure you’re being treated well.
As I have matured security, safety, provider, protecting, stability, foundation, values, integrity IS EXTREMELY important to me. All the superficial aspects of a person is a turn off for me.
Tony is just so funny! “Did they fly in a new face foya”, they had Jesus come down and geeya a facial”!! He is right. We have to take care of ourselves not just to attract a man, but for our own benefit. It’s our bodies and we have them a long time. Treat them kindly.
Basically ladies what he’s saying is you can’t be wearing Bum lace fronts & my braces were $277.78 a month, thank God I finally paid it off, and also eventually fix your credit! You’ll attract the right man. Amen
I agree with you Tony 💯. I've invested in my physical appearance, from braces to a vein procedure. It's about pouring into yourself. Not on a vain level, but that you value yourself.
Got my personal trainer. It's a sacrifice, a lot of money but worth it. Us black women need to focus in fitness 💪🏽 Also I'm on a meal plan that my trainer offers...
I hear you Sis, but I really want us to focus on our diets. You can't out exercise a bad diet. Weight loss is 90% your diet. What we put in our bodies matters the most.
@@frymesumchicken7928 I hear you. I feel like ppl out here doing the most in the gym not to be healthy, but to look good. Ask them what the main micro nutrients are for human health (& what foods produce them) they can’t tell you. That’s the sad part.
1:09 This is exactly what I said in the comment section on one of your previous videos!! You never responded to the comment and now there is a whole video about it. Nice to know you were able to take a look at it from a different set of lenses. Ladies: All men dont want you to be in the BEST shape BEFORE he commits to you!! You are who YOU attract! I am married, but I still enjoy watching TG I was Chunky when we met he was Stocky I was working towards entrepreneurship he already had a business established. I talk alot and have a very broad mind he is a walking encyclopedia. I have a smart mouth and he spits FLAMES!! I love managing the household children and business and he loves being the BOSS and making Leadership decisions in our relationship. We are a reflection of each other. Stop focusing on what you as a woman need to do to get a man! Focus on loving yourself and allow your journey with God and a man to unfold. TG can't tell you how to get a man, because your story was already written before you were born. He can only assist you on the MINDSET of a man.
I love this and it was articulated well!! This is similar to the comment I wanted to post today after watching this video. I love TG and have been binge watching for the last week or so. He’s definitely helped me reconcile some things within my own heart and life and I’m grateful. I agree that there should be a healthy balance concerning the physical, spiritual and mental. Unfortunately most feel the need to only focus on the exterior and it appears they are getting more attention from men. No ones paying attention to the longer term outcome. Most still settle or are single. I’ve had silver hair since my 20s. I’ve finally decided to stop coloring it and be authentic as this is something important to me across the board. I realized sometimes we pick things to “hide” behind… be it makeup, hair/wigs, clothes. It gives a false confidence, in my opinion. Many don’t present the same person without the treatments, the dye, the clothing or the makeup/lashes. I practice being happy and confident from within. If there’s anything 2020 taught us, it’s we are still who we are under all of those treatments and that life still has a way of exposing our weaknesses. A lot of people/celebrities changed dramatically without them. Their insecurity is to not be “average”. I’m saying all of this to say, that I simply didn’t want to allow my hair to be silver because I was worried about what other people thought, even to my detriment. My hair hates color and regardless of the professional taking care of it, it breaks.. same with my edges. I also realized I was hiding behind the color for compliments and validation. Interestingly enough, I didn’t feel the need to care for my true self as much because I had a certain look that people liked. Now I’m in a place of redefining myself, amongst the dating pool. I loved when you said we are mirrors of each other and we attract who we are. I absolutely believe that. Not who we dressed ourselves up to be, but who we truly are. This statement alone helped me during times of self reflection. If we become who and what we want and allow that person to appear.. not their representative or their potential, but see them as they are, we will be just fine. TG is a great resource, but even still, take some things with a grain of salt and pray, to make sure you understand the fullness of the message presented. I’m very happy you found your love and all of the traits you desire. It’s a beautiful thing. May you continue to be blessed.
@@candacewalton9456 I dont know you personally, but I can tell me and you would have "GREAT" conversation......lol This comment is a perfect example of "You attract who you are" You articulated your point, gave examples, presented a visual description of your prespective and sent love and light at the end of the comment. You are beyond blessed sister with your wisdom. Keep that love and light in your heart (The love of GOD), with some discerment and Integrity....chile please!! A good man CAN"T wait to find you!! I'm Screaming YAYYYYYYYYYYYY in my head, like "You go girl!! Smile............and Be Bless!
@@carisma8662 we absolutely would!! I’ve been searching for confluence.. researching, if you will, what the issues are that have led us to this place! I’m seeing dramatic changes happening before my eyes. I’m always on the quest to figure out whyyyyy 🤣. Tony is a great resource because his message and intent is grounded in love and faith. I would tell anyone to work on knowing who they are. Sure we can tweak some things, but make sure you only ask people to help you that you are absolutely sure don’t have an ulterior motive or any jealously towards you.. family or not. Everyone has an opinion of who and what you should be. Honest self reflection and introspection is profoundly important. Then, build from there. I would assume you to be a writer. I even like your comment style!! lol. Thank you for your considerate reply and meaningful compliments. Your words are appreciated. Your cheers and well wishes for me are received, with gratitude! I do believe it’s already done 💕
I had to upgrade my beauty routines as my parents just taught me basics. I never saw my mom go to the salon, get orthodontics, nothing. It has been so much fun learning how to master my skin care, hair, nails, etc. One area at a time. Recently leveled up my hair care and I feel so much more confident. People do notice; I get more compliments.
Same- i noticed a difference when i started learning how to wear makeup by watching tutorials on youtube- started getting compliments all the time on my appearance- just one thing can shift things for you
@Priscilla I don’t always feel confident in my bare face but that’s usually when my skin is acting up. So I really try to have a consistent face care routine, which helps. I also went most of my 20s wearing no makeup, so I was not self conscious about my bare face. I hope that you recognize the features that you love about yourself and focus on them!
@Priscilla I have some scars too but I’m not self conscious about them, they are really a talking point and way to share a story of how I almost died but lived! I guess I just had a lot of affirmations on my appearance as a kid so that was never an issue for me! Maybe you could talk to a counselor that specializes in physical confidence. Because as long as you are healthy and doing your best, I have found that guys will still be attracted to you despite being out of the cultural beauty norm. I would think that if you wore makeup but were honest at some point about the rosacea, a mature guy would understand. I’m sorry about the rosacea though; I have seen young girls with it and always felt bad for them.
Majority or my friends relationships, they shouldn’t be together. They are living lives of quiet desperation. My worst fear is loving someone who doesn’t love me back. That’s all I see in these relationships, they deserve better but full of excuses.
You can strengthen your core by doing Pilates exercises. I've lost weight from my belly and lower back. I have a six pack from that with regular exercising.
We have truly lost what being single is all about for both men and women. Being single is what you do when you choose happiness over being in a toxic or mediocre relationship. When you are not finding the things you need in someone or in a relationship, rather than settle you chose being single. Its really a good place to be and its even greater when you have the power to choose you when you need to. Being single is really about self love and self respect.
Tony I just about fell over laughing when you put that book on your head pretending it's a wig on a single lady!! I love how you mix humor into your priceless God given lessons.
I had to accept I like what I like. I like men who smell good and take care of themselves inside and out. I do the same. I definitely have a skin and hair routine. I like when men take time to care for themselves because it's not about being superficial when you're doing it out of love for yourself. It took a long time to love me but dang it I do and aloneness has been the best time to become the best version of me before God sends me the love of my life. If you're not telling yourself "I love you" as you look in the mirror, it's time. Loving yourself makes you treat yourself better. Cause and effect.
This is a good topic! I talk to alot of women that are single and say if a man want them they have to take them for how they are. I agree 💯 with you! I always keep myself up. I was raised like that and I'm single. Blessings to you & your family.
working on myself! right now being single is for me! i’m learning,growing and healing! i’m happy to not be in a toxic marriage/ relationship! thank you so much tony for all you do! 😇😇😇🙏🙏🙏
Also with the major negative influences on men today, I believe that is causing a lot of problems too. All of these movements are telling men to not get married or be faithful.
This video taught me a lot, and I been single for 4yrs now and enjoying every bit of it. And so proud of myself for working hard and providing excellent for my daughter. I love life 😌 ❤️. But I'm sorry when he started to talk about wigs, I was in tears 🤣🤣🤣🤣. It's the face expression and they way Tony said it, I started dying.
Tony I just went to dinner with a guy & literally everything you are saying is everything I looked at. We have to love ourselves regardless, single or not.
Lol 😂😂😂 the wig part! GOT TO BE ON POINT!!! I honestly believe you are NOT TRULY going to be happy with anyone else until you get holy being by yourself! No one can fill the spaces that Yahweh and self-satisfaction bring! Godly contentment is a MUST have! I sadly regret, that many people in today’s society are VAIN! If it’s not chasing money, it’s trying to look like money! Can’t we all just be where we are at and love it! I love this joy and peace I have! I do not want ANY stressors trying to get what someone else has! My measuring stick, is to be more like Jesus daily! Jesus was just a regular carpenter, with an extraordinary gift (on the physical side)! In the SPIRIT, Jesus was EVERYTHING!!! I want to have EVERYTHING in the Spirit! Yet enjoy my fleshly life!
I'm single. My B's are accounted for and I will stay in preparation until my husband finds me. The desire of my heart is to experience healthy love in this lifetime. I pray God has someone for me💯🙏🏾💛✨️
You don’t need a BBL a you need G-Y-M a that’s is 100 pct correct the endorphins and confidence and pride you get from working out you can’t purchase! Women need to lift weights 5-20 lbs good in 3 reps of 10,12,15 whatever you can handle. 20 mins of cardio via bike or walking or whatever and eat smaller portions split meals. It’s not too hard! I lost and kept off 40 lbs for 4 years even through Lockdown/Covid
Tony, you are the epitome of to know me is to love me! You are so transparent & we need more like you. May the Lord Jesus continues to bless you and your family!!!
🤣🤣🤣 it’s Tony going in about that wig. Please get you a good quality wig🤣😂🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂 “Even Jesus ain’t be romantic with you, Jesus go lay hands on your mouth but he ain’t go be romantic with ya” 😩🤣🤣🤣
The thing about “rudeness” is that’s it’s very subjective. I’ve been called rude for simply stating the truth … I’m not an impolite person … sometimes people give you feedback based on their insecurities not yours. That’s been a challenge for me. Being able to accept accurate feedback that’s authentic and not based on projections or other’s insecurities Great video overall though! All very valid, and I set up an appointment for emsculpt 🤣🙌🏾
Yes! Tbh I think most people DO NOT like when the truth comes in a package they find unattractive or less appealing. The key is DISCERNMENT. We need the guidance of the Holy Spirit because without it, we may find ourselves with a person/people living a life God never intended us to have. Also, part of being a truth teller means you see through people. Unless you’re dealing with someone who is humble and can accept hearing the truth about themselves, there’s no “nice” way to tell it.
Tony this video was soooo good! As they all are!! But focusing on YOU as a single is important. In my season of singleness, I am doing just that, focusing on the 3 B’s; I am focused on my health, I am doing personal development daily, & I am completing my courses to start my coaching business. Right now that’s the season God has me in, working on me & building my brand. When it’s time for me to receive my King, it will be in God’s timing, not mine. Right now, loving me is key & that’s my focus, & my relationship with God.
Thank you for posting this and being transparent it helped changed my perspective on so many things I need to work on within myself as a single woman I pray God continues to use you
Let me add that I’m pretty sure I fall in the category of “Doing my work” and “On a mission” as to why I “choose” to be single. I am so excited about the day that my next partner meets me, but for now, I am truly content and grateful for everything I’ve learned how to be while being with ME. I have learned things alone that I’m positive I would’ve never learned with someone. I treat me how I would want someone else to, I love me how I would want someone else to… and to be quite honest, I have learned that I could never as allow someone to treat me less than I treat myself, I set the standard. I don’t even have a type anymore, because I have come to appreciate Good quality. I desire someone who makes me feel excited to let them join my party of 1 because I enjoy me!
Tony this video lifted my spirits. I was getting down on myself but I realized I just have work to do while I wait rather than sit around feeling sorry for myself. You talking about hemorrhoids made me laugh so hard. Booked my dermatologist appt, a gym class, and a massage. Thank you
“You ain’t got to do all that, gone head and get in the bed” HOLLERING 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I do that when I have my great nieces. Like “Girl, Auntie will wash you in the morning, I’m tired” 😩😩😩 Those kids wear me out sometime 😂😂😂
YES!!!! Thank you Tony!!! 10000% TRUTH! You have no idea what I deal with at this age. 98% of the men look like my father and they full of bitterness (jaded). UGH. They don't shave and have long beards, quad chins, no lips, full of demonic tattoos and HUGE GUTS. They expect to have a women look amazing and they don't. Lord have mercy.
😂😂😂 Hilarious and true Sis! But guess what? We aint gotta choose them! Loving my single season and finally choosing me and what I like.. blessings to you 🥰
I needed this. I am beautiful but I noticed I've been super lacking on my workouts and eating habits which eventually messes with my emotions. Rolling out the bed to get this workout in
Absolutely Loved this. And it made me do some self reflection..gotta find some friends that can give an honest assessment of me.... but that wig and them 8 brown teeth you joked about, I HOLLERED 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yes, be your best ladies, but please make sure to marry a man who loves you as Christ does. That's most important. I completely understand Ephesians 5:25. I can't tell you how many women get abandoned once the physical beauty leaves to the point where even treatments don't really bring it back. I know women whose husbands cheated on them while they were dying of cancer. God's love. God's love. God's love. Test the spirits real good, y'all (1 John 4).
Yeah, thank God. Being single is really good especially in our crazy world right now you really can't trust anyone, I don't date so I can take care of my kids and not put them in dangerous situations.
Thanks so much for being transparent. That is very honorable of you. Yes, it's very important to keep up with appearance. I've always felt that was important since I was a child. Looks matter. Whoever tells you it doesn't is lying.
I feel what you are saying. I don't feel normal walking outside without looking decent. I feel like it's hard sometimes because when I go out where I am. Everyone just have a t-shirt and leggings. No hair, or just straight hair and it's not put together nicely and no kept nails and barely dressed appropriately for the weather. I used to try and blend in. From the ages 17-24. Cause I didn't like attention but I like to be kept together, always have my nails done and hair in a style. I even got smack for looking nice in my youth , such as people asking me why I always have my hair and nails done or wearing purse's.I was raised to do certain thing in comparison to others. It stuck with me. As I've gotten older,and matured I am learning to ignore my surroundings and just look amazing, and if I stand out it's okay. I developed bad habits from trying to blend with my surroundings though. I have also been wanting to wear my natural hair permanently as of recently. I just feel like wearing wigs are strange for me. I just woke up feeling that way and I just feel bad putting them on. I have been debating on how to maintain my natural hair and not looking "unkept" in a "eurosentric" environment. I've also noticed people will have their hair done but no nails, no nice clothing, nothing else but a nice body. So looking at everything I just find things to be strange. I feel more comfortable just being myself and creating my own style. I came to a realization that I will attract those who are ment for me.. hopefully However the advice given here has made me think about " worldly style" and what's appealing around me again. Is being clean/kept but in your own style more of a hindrance? Cause I honestly just Been feeling like as long as I feel confident, clean and joyful the real thing will come my way. I've been observing everyone lately and thinking hard but I noticed these things.
As you say being yourself but still kept and having your own style will attract the people who are meant for you. Do not be a follower! Trust yourself more and believe that God will guide you on what he wants you to do.
Thanks for sharing this Tony! Because of you I upgraded my wardrobe and took a closer look at my clothes. One thing I recommend single ladies STOP going outside in yoga/gym attire. Get dresses! I really looked at my wardrobe because even though 2015 was six years ago, some things even in that year can look outdated.
Tony ! your growth has been extremely inspirational 😊thank you for always having inspirational words , you’re always encouraging , you are a true role model,may God continue to bless your family ,may God continue to bless you always and please continue to help us grow thank you 😊 ! Belize 🇧🇿 in the house.
Love this video 🙌🏾 I’m not single and I don’t play about my self care, I go the extra miles and spend the extra coins; hair, nails, skincare, hair, everything groomed on schedule. My friends and family tease me about it but we have different outcomes.
As a single woman i have had many women over the years tell me how blessed i am to have never been married- also i have been told by both men and women over the years they regretted not staying pure before marriage- i have always had plenty tell me they regretted not waiting
I hear it too. It sucks they made the mistake, but it’s good enough drive to continue to stay off my back. No soul ties, hurt, and regret for me. Y’all sexually active non married people can have that!
Lol 😂 😂😂 I hollered when he described the wigs!!!! Lol... but as a stylist I totally agree, I was the wig slayer, made 6 figures from wigs alone but I stopped making them because women are breaking allll the rules and I don’t want no parts.
Botox is a game changer. I only go maybe once a year. My forehead used to crease my makeup so bad. Love it! ❤️ Great video and good advice. I agree 100% maintenance is necessary!
If you’re single right now, you better thank God! Be happy you’re not in a toxic relationship or wishing you hadn’t said yes to the wrong partner laying next to you. There is a purpose and divine timing on your life. I’m enjoying my singleness. It’s a good season.
I enjoy my singleness also. It’s just that it sucks when someone comes into your life acting like their something they are not and you’re like okay God is this him. I’m always hoping and expecting for the best but then it’s another flop 😩it’s very annoying. I asked God to not send nobody my way unless they are it but I guess he wants me to experience these things.
Amen to that! Nobody really talks about being married and in a relationship and STILL feeling alone.
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Amen ❤️🙏🏼
When I was in horrible marriage, I prayed for God to release me. I tried everything I knew to do my part, but, he would not change. Finally when I saw that it’s was only going to get worse, I made up my mind to leave. I’m single now, and been single almost 9 years. I honestly would like to be in a godly relationship. But, there is so much games and lies out there. I’m content to be single as long as I need to be. Waiting on Father God.
Being Single is better than being Unequally Yoked together. What a terrible experience it has been.
Amen virtual hi five
What I've found is that far too many people focus on finding a partner instead of finding themselves. No one can make you happy, but you. No can love you like you can. The person you've been looking for is...YOU!
I concur…took me a looong time to learn this..Now, trying to drill it in my friend girl’s heads. Much more difficult if it wasn’t taught.🙌🏾👏🏾
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This is so true!
I’ve seen this statement everywhere. While it’s true, what if you have found yourself and just want to share that with someone?
The secret to being single is having high standards. The moment u lower u standards u might not be single but u will be miserable. So you decide. Many half assed relationships are out there.
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Having standards can keep you single tho
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I love being single because once I am in a relationship, this time of being single is NEVER coming back. That being said : high standards (not settling for less) + living my best life while God is sending me my life partner at the right moment/time in my life 🥰 Life is good!
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Transparent moment: I used to run from being single instead of doing the work to focus on myself and what I need to do. Now, I see the importance of learning who I am first and doing what I need to do while I am in this single season of my life instead of being hyper focused on being in a relationship. I start my Invisalign journey next Monday. Thankful to God. 🦷🙏🏾✨
I totally agree
Love this & yes dental is a huge form of self care ... you deserve it & you are worth it !!! 💖
10000%!
My appointment is on 5/20/22 🙌🏽
In order to attract the best, you have to be at your best. That's with everything in life.
Facts!
Still working on myself. Grew up in a toxic family, with a narcissistic father and a codependent mum. I wasn't taught to negotiate and make concessions. I tend to people please instead of standing my ground. To be honest, you cannot engage in a relationship like that. Still have a lot to do. I am learning to love myself and to negotiate. I don't want to back down, when tough conversations are needed. Bought a couple of coats and 👗. I read, I meditate and journal. I 🚶♀️, I 🏊♂️ and attend my 💃 class. I am on my feminine journey too. I have to become softer. There is still a lot to do, and I am willing to do it. The Lord is watching over me. Thanks Tony!
I feel like the woman that are worried about being single needs to keep on being single until they don’t need a relationship; because with that energy the only men that will be attracted to you are the ones with bad intentions. The focus should be on what you need to do to feel secure in yourself. It could be loosing weight, fixing your teeth, earning more money, clearing your skin, growing your hair, healing childhood trauma that makes a person co dependent and seek other people approval. Once you love you enough to fix what makes you feel bad about yourself, that’s when you’ll attract the right man for you.
Very true. Women yearning for relationships, attract those that only want to use. I’ve been there.
I disagree. Adam was single in the Garden of Eden. He was lonely. I am sure he had everything he needed and didn’t have to heal from childhood trauma. Wanting a mate is a natural desire. It only becomes a problem when you are willing to accept bad treatment so that you don’t have to be alone. No matter how many Achievements you accomplish in life, not having anyone to share your achievements with is not great feeling.
@@jacquelinerussaw6967 Actually Adam wasn't lonely, he was content with his life. GOD felt like it was good for him to have a mate so he created EVE. Adam wasn't focused on a woman, he was focused on his purpose. While serving GOD and his purpose, GOD blessed Adam with a help meet. Alot of women sole purpose is looking to find a man. I was referencing to those women. Wanting a man because you are lonely or unhappy with your single life is a horrible reason to want to be in a relationship. It's alot of people that are married and still feel lonely and are unhappy.
@Pet Care Tips I agree wholeheartedly. When GOD created a woman it was for a man, so GOD knew that the man NEEDS a woman. A woman doesn't need a man. That's how GOD designed it be. A man wasn't created for a woman.
its normal for humans to need a help mate. God designed us that way. people are over thinking it and saying they just need to accept being single. for a woman there is only so much time we have. i my self will not accept being single . its not a way of life i enjoy. i need companionship. some women dont want that, theyd rather be single. thats their thing. not for me.
😂😂😂 the convo on the wig took me out
IKR.....I sho see some crooked letter....crooked letter.....😂😂😂😂😂
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I’m working and listening and that had me screaming 😂😂🤣
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I've been married....Im not now because I married for the wrong reason.....I do prefer the married life....but right now Im working on myself to attract BETTER....the last thing I need is....GROWN BOY.....single is looking amazing right now 👍😉
For the most part it's not us it's the men unfortunately. Something is really going on out here today smh
Exactly. best to just focus on ourselves.
Yes exactly. I have no problems meeting men that want to date me but I have problems meeting men that I want to date because they are lacking good character 99% of the time.
Stop dating black men only
@@charellesexii6555 sis I’m telling you when you lose the idea of “your type” the world opens … you’re on to something still single though 😂 but ur definitely speaking
@@charellesexii6555 this ‼️‼️
Being single is giving you the time to work on yourself so you can attract the person you worked on becoming.
The point is, Dress the way you want to be addressed. Presentation is paramount. You don't need to go into debt to put your best foot forward. If we aren't happy and healthy single, we'll be an unhealthy mate.
AMEN
Tony is so funny. I hollered when he said “ hot tropic” 😂🤣
There’s also some women who don’t have likeable personalities, some friends I had were very superficial, judgmental very critical, cutting me off when I speak, very opinionated about me w.o trying to get to know me& had a stink attitude, poor conversation skills the list goes on .. so if I don’t want to be friends with her imagine a man dating her .. the crazy part is they don’t think they’re the problem. I’ve met men who really don’t care what she wears but he loves her energy and how she makes him feel. I think women suffering in dating might have to look in the personality department
@@AndreiFantastic yea that’s true but with men they get turned off very easily during the first date so she won’t even get a chance to show him how kind and loving she is, I noticed men get turned off very easily & leave but women give men the benefit of the doubt and chances … we really have to mindful and put our best foot forward because if she does these things at the first impression she’s lost the competition to other women that make him safe while she’s making him feel guarded
@@MaishPosh I can respect your theory. Thanks for being honest.
@@LA-wv7gf right and they’re getting advice on how to dress and fix their hair 🥴 it’s their attitude .. if she has a nice personality the guy won’t care how she dress or he’ll help her
@@MaishPosh This is Soo true!! I was at a conference and the keynote speaker gave her testimony how she was a single mom broke and living in a hotel and meet her husband who was very well off. He loved her and helped her and now she is a successful business owner today.
I recently looked into what makes a man marry a woman, & was surprised to see how little it had to do with looks.
Yes looks is a factor, but at the end of the day men want to feel supported, championed & appreciated. They also want a nurturing woman that they can bring home to their parents, friends, work colleagues etc.
Like one article said; your parents & people dgaf what she looks like because looks won’t benefit them. They just want to make sure you’re being treated well.
As I have matured security, safety, provider, protecting, stability, foundation, values, integrity IS EXTREMELY important to me. All the superficial aspects of a person is a turn off for me.
I don’t feel like I’m single by choice. People approach me here n there but it never goes anywhere
Tony is just so funny! “Did they fly in a new face foya”, they had Jesus come down and geeya a facial”!! He is right. We have to take care of ourselves not just to attract a man, but for our own benefit. It’s our bodies and we have them a long time. Treat them kindly.
Basically ladies what he’s saying is you can’t be wearing Bum lace fronts & my braces were $277.78 a month, thank God I finally paid it off, and also eventually fix your credit! You’ll attract the right man. Amen
I agree with you Tony 💯. I've invested in my physical appearance, from braces to a vein procedure. It's about pouring into yourself. Not on a vain level, but that you value yourself.
Got my personal trainer. It's a sacrifice, a lot of money but worth it. Us black women need to focus in fitness 💪🏽 Also I'm on a meal plan that my trainer offers...
I hear you Sis, but I really want us to focus on our diets. You can't out exercise a bad diet. Weight loss is 90% your diet. What we put in our bodies matters the most.
We are there, it’s rising.
@@frymesumchicken7928 yea meal plan also included my trainer doesn't play..
@@frymesumchicken7928 I hear you. I feel like ppl out here doing the most in the gym not to be healthy, but to look good. Ask them what the main micro nutrients are for human health (& what foods produce them) they can’t tell you. That’s the sad part.
@@yanikeonpurpose is it a bad thing to want to be in the gym to look good?
1:09 This is exactly what I said in the comment section on one of your previous videos!!
You never responded to the comment and now there is a whole video about it.
Nice to know you were able to take a look at it from a different set of lenses.
Ladies: All men dont want you to be in the BEST shape BEFORE he commits to you!!
You are who YOU attract!
I am married, but I still enjoy watching TG
I was Chunky when we met he was Stocky
I was working towards entrepreneurship he already had a business established.
I talk alot and have a very broad mind he is a walking encyclopedia.
I have a smart mouth and he spits FLAMES!!
I love managing the household children and business and he loves being the BOSS and making Leadership decisions in our relationship.
We are a reflection of each other.
Stop focusing on what you as a woman need to do to get a man! Focus on loving yourself and allow your journey with God and a man to unfold.
TG can't tell you how to get a man, because your story was already written before you were born. He can only assist you on the MINDSET of a man.
I love this and it was articulated well!! This is similar to the comment I wanted to post today after watching this video. I love TG and have been binge watching for the last week or so. He’s definitely helped me reconcile some things within my own heart and life and I’m grateful.
I agree that there should be a healthy balance concerning the physical, spiritual and mental. Unfortunately most feel the need to only focus on the exterior and it appears they are getting more attention from men. No ones paying attention to the longer term outcome. Most still settle or are single.
I’ve had silver hair since my 20s. I’ve finally decided to stop coloring it and be authentic as this is something important to me across the board. I realized sometimes we pick things to “hide” behind… be it makeup, hair/wigs, clothes. It gives a false confidence, in my opinion. Many don’t present the same person without the treatments, the dye, the clothing or the makeup/lashes. I practice being happy and confident from within. If there’s anything 2020 taught us, it’s we are still who we are under all of those treatments and that life still has a way of exposing our weaknesses. A lot of people/celebrities changed dramatically without them. Their insecurity is to not be “average”.
I’m saying all of this to say, that I simply didn’t want to allow my hair to be silver because I was worried about what other people thought, even to my detriment. My hair hates color and regardless of the professional taking care of it, it breaks.. same with my edges. I also realized I was hiding behind the color for compliments and validation. Interestingly enough, I didn’t feel the need to care for my true self as much because I had a certain look that people liked. Now I’m in a place of redefining myself, amongst the dating pool.
I loved when you said we are mirrors of each other and we attract who we are. I absolutely believe that. Not who we dressed ourselves up to be, but who we truly are. This statement alone helped me during times of self reflection. If we become who and what we want and allow that person to appear.. not their representative or their potential, but see them as they are, we will be just fine. TG is a great resource, but even still, take some things with a grain of salt and pray, to make sure you understand the fullness of the message presented.
I’m very happy you found your love and all of the traits you desire. It’s a beautiful thing. May you continue to be blessed.
@@candacewalton9456 I dont know you personally, but I can tell me and you would have "GREAT" conversation......lol
This comment is a perfect example of "You attract who you are"
You articulated your point, gave examples, presented a visual description of your prespective and sent love and light at the end of the comment.
You are beyond blessed sister with your wisdom. Keep that love and light in your heart (The love of GOD), with some discerment and Integrity....chile please!!
A good man CAN"T wait to find you!!
I'm Screaming YAYYYYYYYYYYYY in my head, like "You go girl!!
Smile............and Be Bless!
@@carisma8662 we absolutely would!! I’ve been searching for confluence.. researching, if you will, what the issues are that have led us to this place! I’m seeing dramatic changes happening before my eyes. I’m always on the quest to figure out whyyyyy 🤣.
Tony is a great resource because his message and intent is grounded in love and faith.
I would tell anyone to work on knowing who they are. Sure we can tweak some things, but make sure you only ask people to help you that you are absolutely sure don’t have an ulterior motive or any jealously towards you.. family or not. Everyone has an opinion of who and what you should be. Honest self reflection and introspection is profoundly important. Then, build from there.
I would assume you to be a writer. I even like your comment style!! lol. Thank you for your considerate reply and meaningful compliments. Your words are appreciated. Your cheers and well wishes for me are received, with gratitude! I do believe it’s already done 💕
I had to upgrade my beauty routines as my parents just taught me basics. I never saw my mom go to the salon, get orthodontics, nothing. It has been so much fun learning how to master my skin care, hair, nails, etc. One area at a time. Recently leveled up my hair care and I feel so much more confident. People do notice; I get more compliments.
Same- i noticed a difference when i started learning how to wear makeup by watching tutorials on youtube- started getting compliments all the time on my appearance- just one thing can shift things for you
@@overcomerbtboj exactly
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@Priscilla I don’t always feel confident in my bare face but that’s usually when my skin is acting up. So I really try to have a consistent face care routine, which helps. I also went most of my 20s wearing no makeup, so I was not self conscious about my bare face. I hope that you recognize the features that you love about yourself and focus on them!
@Priscilla I have some scars too but I’m not self conscious about them, they are really a talking point and way to share a story of how I almost died but lived! I guess I just had a lot of affirmations on my appearance as a kid so that was never an issue for me! Maybe you could talk to a counselor that specializes in physical confidence. Because as long as you are healthy and doing your best, I have found that guys will still be attracted to you despite being out of the cultural beauty norm. I would think that if you wore makeup but were honest at some point about the rosacea, a mature guy would understand. I’m sorry about the rosacea though; I have seen young girls with it and always felt bad for them.
Majority or my friends relationships, they shouldn’t be together. They are living lives of quiet desperation. My worst fear is loving someone who doesn’t love me back. That’s all I see in these relationships, they deserve better but full of excuses.
Sad just sad- this is why we can’t settle just for a relationship status i refuse to lower my standards just to get a ring on my finger
You can strengthen your core by doing Pilates exercises. I've lost weight from my belly and lower back. I have a six pack from that with regular exercising.
I don’t have any belly fat now but I used to. I get less migraines and less back pain without the belly fat. Over all I just feel so much better
Tony out here moving like a whole metro sexual 🤣. He aint about that serious exercising life. Bout machine to tighten the core & botox 🤣😂😅
Did Tony ever reach his 6 pack goal for his birthday? Idk if he ever addressed it
We have truly lost what being single is all about for both men and women. Being single is what you do when you choose happiness over being in a toxic or mediocre relationship. When you are not finding the things you need in someone or in a relationship, rather than settle you chose being single. Its really a good place to be and its even greater when you have the power to choose you when you need to. Being single is really about self love and self respect.
You said it! 💯
Tony I just about fell over laughing when you put that book on your head pretending it's a wig on a single lady!! I love how you mix humor into your priceless God given lessons.
I had to accept I like what I like. I like men who smell good and take care of themselves inside and out. I do the same. I definitely have a skin and hair routine. I like when men take time to care for themselves because it's not about being superficial when you're doing it out of love for yourself. It took a long time to love me but dang it I do and aloneness has been the best time to become the best version of me before God sends me the love of my life. If you're not telling yourself "I love you" as you look in the mirror, it's time. Loving yourself makes you treat yourself better. Cause and effect.
I can't with the wig, I'm dead☠️😭
This is a good topic! I talk to alot of women that are single and say if a man want them they have to take them for how they are. I agree 💯 with you! I always keep myself up. I was raised like that and I'm single. Blessings to you & your family.
working on myself! right now being single is for me! i’m learning,growing and healing! i’m happy to not be in a toxic marriage/ relationship! thank you so much tony for all you do! 😇😇😇🙏🙏🙏
Singleness is also a grace from God!
Also with the major negative influences on men today, I believe that is causing a lot of problems too. All of these movements are telling men to not get married or be faithful.
@@LA-wv7gf I agree!
I love your videos! Truth and comedy at the same time!! Tony is a natural comedian!😅❤️
The wig comment and hot “tropics” got me! 😂😂
This video taught me a lot, and I been single for 4yrs now and enjoying every bit of it. And so proud of myself for working hard and providing excellent for my daughter. I love life 😌 ❤️. But I'm sorry when he started to talk about wigs, I was in tears 🤣🤣🤣🤣. It's the face expression and they way Tony said it, I started dying.
Lmao how does Tony copy us with a straight face. Great video! The wig part had me dying lolol
Tony I just went to dinner with a guy & literally everything you are saying is everything I looked at. We have to love ourselves regardless, single or not.
Thanks for this sir.I believe in God that one day i will meet a good mature guy not a narcissist .
IKR....right now Im focusing on me 👍
@@beefaye6861 ok nice.God is a miracle worker and deliver .
Now Tony! Listen here….The wig comment SENT me! 😂😂😂😂 We DID NOT need the demonstration. I’m so done 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Not did they fly in a new face for ya🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Tony is so funny to me
Lol 😂😂😂 the wig part! GOT TO BE ON POINT!!! I honestly believe you are NOT TRULY going to be happy with anyone else until you get holy being by yourself! No one can fill the spaces that Yahweh and self-satisfaction bring! Godly contentment is a MUST have! I sadly regret, that many people in today’s society are VAIN! If it’s not chasing money, it’s trying to look like money! Can’t we all just be where we are at and love it! I love this joy and peace I have! I do not want ANY stressors trying to get what someone else has!
My measuring stick, is to be more like Jesus daily! Jesus was just a regular carpenter, with an extraordinary gift (on the physical side)! In the SPIRIT, Jesus was EVERYTHING!!! I want to have EVERYTHING in the Spirit! Yet enjoy my fleshly life!
😂 we are not in the same place you can't eat Chick-fil-A with me. Boy I can't stand you😂😂😂I'm crying!! (With 2 exclaimation points)
😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣 Tony going off on the wig wearers lmbo😂😂😂 but it’s real
"IM ONLY MISSING 8 TEETH ON THE SIDE" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭 IM DEAD....TG A MESS 😂😂😂
I love Yoga, Fast Walking and Squats. Helps really keep me in shape and I feel so much better after exercising. Thanks Tony for the encouragement!
Take that book wig down Bro Tony!!!😂🤣🤣😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
Tony, your transparency and honesty is greatly appreciated.
The book wig though 😂😂😂😂.
It’s the straight face for me🤣
The book 📕 on his head as a wig … hilarious 🤣
If you shop at Hot Tropics🤣🤣🤣
I'm single. My B's are accounted for and I will stay in preparation until my husband finds me.
The desire of my heart is to experience healthy love in this lifetime. I pray God has someone for me💯🙏🏾💛✨️
Ditto sis.
So many women are trying to date someone that will validate them (rich, fly etc) and ignore the regular guy that has a beautiful heart
Not I send him my way lol
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 yes the wigs rotfl. And thank you for being transparent. I appreciate it as we all should be. And get off the high horse.
Don't need a BBL, You need a G Y M 😂😂😂 TG a true comedian. Great advice!
You don’t need a BBL a you need G-Y-M a that’s is 100 pct correct the endorphins and confidence and pride you get from working out you can’t purchase! Women need to lift weights 5-20 lbs good in 3 reps of 10,12,15 whatever you can handle. 20 mins of cardio via bike or walking or whatever
and eat smaller portions split meals. It’s not too hard! I lost and kept off 40 lbs for 4 years even through Lockdown/Covid
Tony, you are the epitome of to know me is to love me! You are so transparent & we need more like you. May the Lord Jesus continues to bless you and your family!!!
🤣🤣🤣 it’s Tony going in about that wig. Please get you a good quality wig🤣😂🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂
“Even Jesus ain’t be romantic with you, Jesus go lay hands on your mouth but he ain’t go be romantic with ya” 😩🤣🤣🤣
Everything 💯 and still hilarious
Joining the teeth ministry is a must!
Falling in love is easy but staying in love is not that easy , it takes God's Grace to find true love.
Sometimes I love being single, but most of the time I don’t.
The thing about “rudeness” is that’s it’s very subjective. I’ve been called rude for simply stating the truth … I’m not an impolite person … sometimes people give you feedback based on their insecurities not yours. That’s been a challenge for me. Being able to accept accurate feedback that’s authentic and not based on projections or other’s insecurities
Great video overall though! All very valid, and I set up an appointment for emsculpt 🤣🙌🏾
Yes! Tbh I think most people DO NOT like when the truth comes in a package they find unattractive or less appealing. The key is DISCERNMENT. We need the guidance of the Holy Spirit because without it, we may find ourselves with a person/people living a life God never intended us to have. Also, part of being a truth teller means you see through people. Unless you’re dealing with someone who is humble and can accept hearing the truth about themselves, there’s no “nice” way to tell it.
This ‼️‼️
Taking this as a sign to give into retail therapy more often 💅 Thank you Tony! 😂
😂🤣 relevant information but also funny delivery
Tony this video was soooo good! As they all are!! But focusing on YOU as a single is important. In my season of singleness, I am doing just that, focusing on the 3 B’s; I am focused on my health, I am doing personal development daily, & I am completing my courses to start my coaching business. Right now that’s the season God has me in, working on me & building my brand. When it’s time for me to receive my King, it will be in God’s timing, not mine. Right now, loving me is key & that’s my focus, & my relationship with God.
I just started with a personal trainer over spring break. I am feeling so much better. Worth investing in yourself and your health. ❤👏🙏💪🙌🏼🏋♂️
Thank you for posting this and being transparent it helped changed my perspective on so many things I need to work on within myself as a single woman I pray God continues to use you
Hey Tony! That wig be doing it’s own thang! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣CROOKED! 😳🫣🤔🤭😑🙄
the wig 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🪦🪦🪦🪦🪦💀💀💀💀💀💀
and the SKIN part about Jesus and the new face 😂😂😂
Let me add that I’m pretty sure I fall in the category of “Doing my work” and “On a mission” as to why I “choose” to be single. I am so excited about the day that my next partner meets me, but for now, I am truly content and grateful for everything I’ve learned how to be while being with ME. I have learned things alone that I’m positive I would’ve never learned with someone. I treat me how I would want someone else to, I love me how I would want someone else to… and to be quite honest, I have learned that I could never as allow someone to treat me less than I treat myself, I set the standard. I don’t even have a type anymore, because I have come to appreciate Good quality. I desire someone who makes me feel excited to let them join my party of 1 because I enjoy me!
Well said!🔥
Well said, amen!!!!
Oh I been loving on myself for the past going on 4 years. Now I know and understand what I’ve been doing all wrong. How refreshing this video is !!
Yes girl right behind you
The wig moving lol
Tony this video lifted my spirits. I was getting down on myself but I realized I just have work to do while I wait rather than sit around feeling sorry for myself. You talking about hemorrhoids made me laugh so hard. Booked my dermatologist appt, a gym class, and a massage. Thank you
“You ain’t got to do all that, gone head and get in the bed” HOLLERING 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I do that when I have my great nieces. Like “Girl, Auntie will wash you in the morning, I’m tired” 😩😩😩 Those kids wear me out sometime 😂😂😂
Dead 😂😂😂😂😂
hahahha! The commentary about the wig... I'm dying!
YES!!!! Thank you Tony!!! 10000% TRUTH! You have no idea what I deal with at this age. 98% of the men look like my father and they full of bitterness (jaded). UGH. They don't shave and have long beards, quad chins, no lips, full of demonic tattoos and HUGE GUTS. They expect to have a women look amazing and they don't. Lord have mercy.
This is so true!!!
😂😂😂 Hilarious and true Sis! But guess what? We aint gotta choose them! Loving my single season and finally choosing me and what I like.. blessings to you 🥰
So true! And they have the audacity to say women age worse than men. Maybe the solution is to go younger?
Much respect for your transparency.
Yes, he is a very genuine person.
Thank you Tony for your ministries,
let him use you ❤🙏🏽❤🙏🏽
I needed this. I am beautiful but I noticed I've been super lacking on my workouts and eating habits which eventually messes with my emotions. Rolling out the bed to get this workout in
Absolutely Loved this. And it made me do some self reflection..gotta find some friends that can give an honest assessment of me.... but that wig and them 8 brown teeth you joked about, I HOLLERED 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
What about the "you are enough" video?
Yes, be your best ladies, but please make sure to marry a man who loves you as Christ does. That's most important. I completely understand Ephesians 5:25. I can't tell you how many women get abandoned once the physical beauty leaves to the point where even treatments don't really bring it back. I know women whose husbands cheated on them while they were dying of cancer. God's love. God's love. God's love. Test the spirits real good, y'all (1 John 4).
The way you love yourself is how others will show their love to you!
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Tony has me rolling every video😂
Yeah, thank God. Being single is really good especially in our crazy world right now you really can't trust anyone, I don't date so I can take care of my kids and not put them in dangerous situations.
Checking in. Hope you and your family had a blessed Resurrection Weekend.
I'm 21 and I have never been in a proper relationship. I just believe God wants me to be single
Thanks so much for being transparent. That is very honorable of you. Yes, it's very important to keep up with appearance. I've always felt that was important since I was a child. Looks matter. Whoever tells you it doesn't is lying.
Hope you can do more podcasts again Tony, so we can listen when going for walks!
I feel what you are saying.
I don't feel normal walking outside without looking decent. I feel like it's hard sometimes because when I go out where I am. Everyone just have a t-shirt and leggings. No hair, or just straight hair and it's not put together nicely and no kept nails and barely dressed appropriately for the weather. I used to try and blend in. From the ages 17-24. Cause I didn't like attention but I like to be kept together, always have my nails done and hair in a style. I even got smack for looking nice in my youth , such as people asking me why I always have my hair and nails done or wearing purse's.I was raised to do certain thing in comparison to others. It stuck with me. As I've gotten older,and matured I am learning to ignore my surroundings and just look amazing, and if I stand out it's okay. I developed bad habits from trying to blend with my surroundings though.
I have also been wanting to wear my natural hair permanently as of recently. I just feel like wearing wigs are strange for me. I just woke up feeling that way and I just feel bad putting them on. I have been debating on how to maintain my natural hair and not looking "unkept" in a "eurosentric" environment.
I've also noticed people will have their hair done but no nails, no nice clothing, nothing else but a nice body.
So looking at everything I just find things to be strange. I feel more comfortable just being myself and creating my own style. I came to a realization that I will attract those who are ment for me.. hopefully
However the advice given here has made me think about " worldly style" and what's appealing around me again.
Is being clean/kept but in your own style more of a hindrance? Cause I honestly just Been feeling like as long as I feel confident, clean and joyful the real thing will come my way.
I've been observing everyone lately and thinking hard but I noticed these things.
As you say being yourself but still kept and having your own style will attract the people who are meant for you. Do not be a follower! Trust yourself more and believe that God will guide you on what he wants you to do.
This video has me in tears looooooool. I'm crying
The wig analogy 😭
I don’t agree with the costly maintenance. We, as a people, put too much emphasis on spending money or making more money just to spend it even more!
Thanks for sharing this Tony! Because of you I upgraded my wardrobe and took a closer look at my clothes. One thing I recommend single ladies STOP going outside in yoga/gym attire. Get dresses! I really looked at my wardrobe because even though 2015 was six years ago, some things even in that year can look outdated.
Tony ! your growth has been extremely inspirational 😊thank you for always having inspirational words , you’re always encouraging , you are a true role model,may God continue to bless your family ,may God continue to bless you always and please continue to help us grow thank you 😊 ! Belize 🇧🇿 in the house.
Love this video 🙌🏾 I’m not single and I don’t play about my self care, I go the extra miles and spend the extra coins; hair, nails, skincare, hair, everything groomed on schedule. My friends and family tease me about it but we have different outcomes.
As a single woman i have had many women over the years tell me how blessed i am to have never been married- also i have been told by both men and women over the years they regretted not staying pure before marriage- i have always had plenty tell me they regretted not waiting
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I hear it too. It sucks they made the mistake, but it’s good enough drive to continue to stay off my back. No soul ties, hurt, and regret for me. Y’all sexually active non married people can have that!
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Lol 😂 😂😂 I hollered when he described the wigs!!!! Lol... but as a stylist I totally agree, I was the wig slayer, made 6 figures from wigs alone but I stopped making them because women are breaking allll the rules and I don’t want no parts.
Botox is a game changer. I only go maybe once a year. My forehead used to crease my makeup so bad. Love it! ❤️ Great video and good advice. I agree 100% maintenance is necessary!
I want some for my forehead too.