Dude you fuckin NAILED it with these. Ive made a point to give serveral compliments every day i leave my house. I gave my ex-bf a compliment about a shirt looking really nice on him, and he literally got all misty because nobody had given him a compliment in YEARS! The man was a fckin MARINE ffs, and one of the most beautiful, kind, thoughtful men I've ever know. Id have married him if his PTSD and never feeling good enough (because his mom and i were the only people who ever said nice things to him) hadnt lead him to a meth addiction. Seriously, y'all dont know the power of a compliment when it comes to men.
Does RUclips censor that now or was it said as a joke From my pov I don’t really care if people are LGBTQ+ but censoring it crazy, they’re people that happen to align some way but still people, and should be treated as equal cause they are, because they’re people
As the daughter to a single father, that is real. Worst yet is court of law. He couldn't have even partial custody of me and my brother, despite my mother being a known drug addict, until I testified against her in court. Thankfully he now has full custody, but without my say it never would have happened.
Not getting compliments is rough, I always go out of my way to give people compliments especially if they’re men because as a man I know how little we get compliments. Thanks to everyone that do compliment men, we all really appreciate it.
Yeah I dont have a ton of guy friends (weirdly enough a lot of my friends are nonbinary or gender fluid lol) but the guy friends I do have I try to make sure they feel worthy
As a man whose love language is physical touch, it truly gets lonely. I honestly get kind of jealous of the fact that women can just ask their friends for a hug at any time when they're feeling down or in need of support. I told a girl that I needed a hug, too, but if I asked for one, I just look like a creepy weirdo. Half joking half not. As sad as it sounds, one of the main reasons I wish I had a girlfriend was so I had someone to give me a hug for once.
Giving flowers I think is kind of silly, they're so expensive and just die, I geuss if you hand picked them it would be special though, but yeah that's sadly true
Honestly as a guy, those are some real problems we have to deal with and it's nice hearing those. My 10 things I'd hate if I was a woman would probably be: 1. Getting hit on often or even molested. 2. Being physical weaker 3. Not receiving enough respect/recognition in a career. 4. Not being able to grow a beard 5. Getting reduced to physical appearance 6. The whole period thing (it just sounds like a huge pain and really gross) 7. Not feeling safe walking alone at night 8. Backpain (assuming my boobs would be big) 9. Having to sit while peeing 10. Prices and quantity of hygiene/beauty products
Honestly I love when people point out the struggles of both genders instead of arguing who has it the worst. We are all people we all struggle there are pros and cons in life.
Yes exactly! Everyones taking a point to yell their struggles than looking at the others who are truely suffering in silence. We're all just on a floating rock anyway. The fuck does anyone expect from us? 😂❤@@junobrodin4243
Whats wrong with sitting peeing? It's more hygienic, you make less of a mess, its more comfortable, and you can get more out due to being less strained.
I remember reading “most men don’t get flowers until their funeral.” That hit hard. I got my dad orange roses and put them in the kitchen after that, just because he loves the color.
Being creep stuff really resonates with me for no reason other than every time I walk upstairs I feel like there’s a girl in front of me and I just have a friend right in front of them so I’m trying to talk to him but when I look up yeah
I remember I was walking behind a mom and her kids at a park and she turned around and saw me, she then took her kids hands pulled them to the side and waited for me to pass. I was just with my mom trying to get some steps in. It was brutal 😂, but it is what it is.
@@westhebest8395They mean that there is a stigma around men (In America) where they are to show no emotion, and always be tough and don’t let anything phase them. This is a contributor to the substantially higher suicide rate in men, as often they are shamed by family for their emotions, and told to “suck it up” or “toughen up.” While I agree we should toughen up we should definitely be open about how we feel and show emotion, just not hurting others or ourselves in the process
@@atlaslovesyou9765i agree with this but it’s still bullshit how we get mistreated whenever we are feeling emotionally down but for women they get literally a parade of people to care for them and as you said the rates go up for suicide from men BY 4X LIKE WHEN WE BOTTLE IT UP WE KILL OURSELVES BUT WHEN WE EXPRESS IT WE GET MADE FUN OF absolutely fucking insane
The problem is that being lonely as a man is not something that can really be solved by making more male friends. Many of us are constantly taught to never express anything to our guys and I personally just don't feel comfortable opening up to men in the same way I can to women
I can tell, as a woman with few online friends, my male friends open to our group only when there are few girls in the voice chat at that time, when for example there are mostly guys in vc (like 3 boys and me, 1 girl) they never share their emotions, even if they sound upset at that moment. as soon as few girls join, they start talking about it, how his mom is constantly drunk and can't support his family anymore, or how the other dude, who is a firefighter, is bummed out because his team couldn't arrive in time to save few people. they never talk about these things with each other
As a woman who transitioned when I was 16, I got to say that people treat boys exceptionally well. it’s literally just that a lot of boys grow up used to for better words, mediocrity, and aren’t socialized and educated on actual self improvement like young girls are.
Worrying constantly being seen as a creep is the main reason why i dont want to go into childcare Im a trans boy, hoping to medicaly transition one day soon Since i was like 8 or 9 i wanted to work with young kids, like 2-4 age range, but because i want to transtion ive basically given up on that dream completely and it hurts
Please dont give up on that dream. We need more people who care about the well-being of our kids to make it into the education and childcare system. If you can find a way to enter child care while keeping yourself safe. Please go for it.
Yeah man, this looks like what you specifically should do! As long as you honestly follow your passions you will always be on the right track. Thinking people will judge you often comes more from yourself than it would come from them. Your honest excitement will show!
I'm a swimming teacher and I work with young kids. I use to be alot more self conscious about this. While it's still at the back of my mind to make sure I don't come across as a creep, I'm very comfortable handling kids now.
The first flower anyone will give you. Will be at your funeral. You will be expected to be a bodyguard If you are going on a date. Your expected to be willing to die for the women you just meet, pay for everything, and be happy. Your problems are only your problems, do not talk about your problems women would be disgusted by you, and men will see you as weak. Telling a woman NO, you do not know the vindictive hate. Constantly being told how easy you have it. No matter how long or difficult something was.
It's fairly common for women (and some men) to cross the street so they don't have to walk past me on the sidewalk. Which hurts a little each time, not gonna lie.
This is so true, which is why when someone says it’s easier being a man, or it’s easier being a woman, I just tell them to shut up because one it depends on the person and their experiences and two men and women have different ups and downs and different ways of being treated. Just being human isn’t always easy, but that comes with life. This is also coming from a woman, I feel so much for guys, men deserve better
I never truly understood the thing about being seen creepy or scary until yesterday. I was walking the trails on my college campus between classes because I like nature, and i pass a woman by herself taking pictures of plants. Knowing I have an app that can do that which identifies lots of plants and tells you everything about them I asked her if she was doing so and that I have such an app she might be interested in. She stayed to see it, but she seemed terrified the entire time I was near her, and it made me feel like shit.
Problem is male friends don’t help at all most of the time lmao. The other problem like you said is women automatically assume you’re a creep or gross. 😊
Yk some of these weren’t just the obvious stuff. Everyone brings up either the compliment or flower thing, but being told from a young age that I am a pig because I’m… just standing somewhere. That shit hurts. A lot.
This video was a turning point for me. I was making fun of one of my guy friends earlier, just as a joke and we both knew it. But then he gets all serious and tells me to let him know if I ever actually think he’s being annoying to let him know, and this video really made me hope I didn’t actually hurt his feelings. I’m definitely going to be kinder to boys and men alike now 😢💙
It definitely sucks being a guy not hearing good things about myself or not complimented once everyday. Would definitely help motivate a man to hear good things about himself and what he's accomplished.
I'm not too worried about my hair. I still remember a girl in highschool pulling a sticky note off my back. Not really a compliment but was nice. I still remember a girl at Lowe's saying she liked my Sunglasses. My ex never let me learn how to be a Dad and im still in the process of fighting to get to to see them without her having to be there. I dont think ill ever feel like a good Dad. Performance anxiety is embarrassing and it happened with the same ex I have kids with our first time. She didnt judge me and she was supportive. I miss when she was that girl. I constantly feel like I'm making women uncomfortable by just being in public. Like if I have to stand around and wait for some reason. It sucks. I have nothing but good male friends, not a whole lot and mostly just online but I'm still lonely. I dont think gaming with them really helps with the type of lonely I am.
Feeling like a creep happens to me frequently. You can’t be nice, because everyone thinks you’re flirting with them, And I look like Hugo from lost so NOBODY wants that😅 Also I’m half black and I have white nieces and nephews, so when we were out together(when they were small) I got the most awful looks. I literally had people ask my little blonde niece if she was ok, right in front of me.. I get it, and in a way I’m glad they were looking out for her. But it hurt, A lot. Being a normal guy is hard enough, but being one thats also unattractive by most standards, is legit heartbreaking almost every day. Women don’t even want you to hold the door for them. I literally had one woman say “ew no” to my face. And all I did was hold a door. I hold the door for anyone close enough.
I am so sorry you have to go throught that and that you feel like you're not good enough. And that lady who said ew when you opened the door for her? So rude. I can't imagine. I personally would be so thankful if you held a door open for me. People can be so rude. And it's so awesome how you look out and care for your niece. It's so sweet and nice of you. I appreciate you :)
It’s true in fact, there’s not a single advantage to being a man. Women have an easier life collectively at least and there’s a reason why three out of every four homeless people are male. I love the blonde hair. You’re a beautiful blonde.
As a trans man I do go through this haha. Example 1. Was out with female friends we are all having a nice time and I’m giving her a piggy back while doing karaoke I go and get her a drink and get myself one too when a woman comes up to me “you seem to be get around that poor girl and her friends a lot *turns to friend* are you girls okay is this man bothering you “no he’s with us” *lady looks confused* “oh okay then..:have a nice night girls” Or 2. I was baby sitting my little cousin I was like 18?19? And he was 4 I take him to go get a toy he’s been begging for but his mum can’t fit it into the budget and I just get weird stares the whole time I’m there And the ass hair? What did I do to deserve that ? I don’t know what’s worse having painful bleeds cramps or never ending itch that I can’t scratch cuz it’s just weird to do so cuz of the odd placement of the scratch
Basically spot on, especially with the complement thing, I remember the 3 I've ever gotten that weren't from my family, I also think they weren't being serious-
My step dad raised his 3 kids alone before he and my mom met. He's been the absolute best dad to me and grandpa to my son. He's one of the best humans I've ever known and the reason I stopped believing in the sterotype...
Why just your guy friends? See a cool shirt passing by, tell them. Like those kicks standing infront of you in Walmart;tell them. Strangers giving compliments means 110000000000000000X more to a man than friends.
As a guy, this is fairly accurate, I think a lot of people miss some of the things that guys worry about because no one really talks about it And that goes for guys too, we never really talk about it ourselves
The reason why women live longer than men on average is cuz they don’t go to the doctor when they think something’s wrong because there’s this misconception that men have to be tough and strong and have like no weaknesses. Bro if you got stomach pain don’t walk it off, go get it checked out. Then at least your mind will be at easy if it’s nothing.
And yeah, can confirm, I do get compliments, but it's nearly always about things I choose to wear, or specific talents of mine. Not so much directed at me personally, and if it is something physical it's a backhanded complement about my age and how I don't look as old as I am. Never multiple though. Meanwhile, every girlfriend I've ever had, thought it was shocking to NOT GET complemented all day every day about how pretty they are. Definitely very very different.
The problem with the loneliness is that it seems to be perpetuated (mostly unknowingly) by fathers. See, the problem is that, whilst it's easy enough to make a male friend, most male friends lack intimacy simply from a lack of knowing of how to be intimate without being "creepy" or "gay".
The worrying about making women unconfortable is so real, I can be with female friends of years and still think some times "I hope I didn't say anything weird"
All sound about right, you forgot always being seen as a " loser" simply for not worshipping and adorning women with gifts, admiration, time, and funds...or homosexual relations may be similar too in this regard, but I don't think guys see other guys as " losers" in a high percentage. We kind of have more of a head nod agreement. The price of having a parasitic like micro species within that heavily forces your brain into sexual desire can get exhausting. Other guy friends are cool against loneliness but as you said it, since women are affection hoarders, it's like we're seen as beings that somehow don't need this for some reason ? We are affectionate touch starved and attention starved. We're supposed to be " tough " but even the toughest can be mentally gone or depressed from just being stereotyped as being non phased. Some guys like to play hard nonsense personas all day, which is just an act mostly, because when they go down, they go down, and just hibernate for days. We all have our problems and it's good to acknowledge realities, although cultures are different from men to women.
I'm not worried about any of these, as a man, you don't worry bout it too much It's just part of being a man If I were a woman and wouldn't get compliments, then I'd be worried 😂 It's the work for me that gets to me, its long and hard , we work from morning till night, I hate it , but the money is good so some of us dont have a choice, and no one cares bout what we do it seems , they couldn't care less, if they could they'd get us to work for free
Along with the parent thing, idk if other people do this, but my mom is always my main parent. No matter what I do, I ask my mom first. If she says to ask my dad, I’ll ask my dad. I always feel uncomfortable asking my dad first, but I would hate to be my dad and have to go through that
Towards the end. Male minds don’t work the same, so you would likely have a different experience understanding if you made someone uncomfortable. Many of the guys don’t realize how they are interpreted
As a man, men look at me and I can see the hate instantly flood their eyes. I try to get along with men, but it never works out. I get double crossed and burned by men at any given chance. I can't be friends with women either, as I'm insanely dangerous and a threat just because of what genitals I have. Instead of being lonely, I have plants. Sure the plants can't talk or run away, but Stockholm syndrome seems to sit well with all of us. It seems we have a mutual understanding that we're spending our lives together and make the most of it. I love my plants, if anyone threatens them, they may as well be threatening human life. I will show no remorse to those who harm my green family.
Correction, we barely get back hair and butt hole hair, but get ball hair armpit hair and the reason why we get if we’re stressed It’s true us guys don’t get complemented
Dude im so scared of men and im always worried about complimenting men bc they might take it as flirting, If other girls have this same anxiety as i do then yeah i would hate being a guy in that aspect😭
As being lonely sometimes us guys mean no friends but sometimes also we can have a lot of guy friends and still be lonely because what we really want when we have friends is a romantic partner
I dunno why people are always so uncomfortable around gay people, people like who they like. Most of my female friends are gay or bi and I can’t imagine going around being weird around them or missing out on my best friends just cause i judged them before even knowing them
Whenever I see my friend in a new shirt, he’s male I’m always like oh so handsome or you look so good anytime I see any of my male teachers actually wearing something that I think it’s cool. I’m like oh I like your shirt. I like your jacket.
Some fathers aren't even allowed to be trusted around their own children alone, not because they are dangerous or a pedo or anything, but because society generally frowns at a man spending time with children, i have no kids, but this potential subjugation terrifies me
Dude you fuckin NAILED it with these. Ive made a point to give serveral compliments every day i leave my house. I gave my ex-bf a compliment about a shirt looking really nice on him, and he literally got all misty because nobody had given him a compliment in YEARS! The man was a fckin MARINE ffs, and one of the most beautiful, kind, thoughtful men I've ever know. Id have married him if his PTSD and never feeling good enough (because his mom and i were the only people who ever said nice things to him) hadnt lead him to a meth addiction. Seriously, y'all dont know the power of a compliment when it comes to men.
guys will remember you as the person that complimented them
"As a La-dollar-bean" 😂😮😅
Thank you! My audio processing issues were like 🤨?????
I thought she was straight. didn't she had a boyfriend?
@@perlavazquez8148what?
@@Violence_With_Lemons sorry I was saying that I thought you were straight and also I thought she had a boyfriend
Does RUclips censor that now or was it said as a joke
From my pov I don’t really care if people are LGBTQ+ but censoring it crazy, they’re people that happen to align some way but still people, and should be treated as equal cause they are, because they’re people
As the daughter to a single father, that is real. Worst yet is court of law. He couldn't have even partial custody of me and my brother, despite my mother being a known drug addict, until I testified against her in court. Thankfully he now has full custody, but without my say it never would have happened.
that is the worst, im so sorry.
also that is a loveley pfp
I'm so glad your with your dad I'm sure he's amazing
@@Sports4kLast-r8p He does his best amd that's all I can ask for! He became a father before he was ready, but he still loves us with all his heart.
La $ bean is perfect
Not getting compliments is rough, I always go out of my way to give people compliments especially if they’re men because as a man I know how little we get compliments. Thanks to everyone that do compliment men, we all really appreciate it.
Yeah I dont have a ton of guy friends (weirdly enough a lot of my friends are nonbinary or gender fluid lol) but the guy friends I do have I try to make sure they feel worthy
As a man whose love language is physical touch, it truly gets lonely. I honestly get kind of jealous of the fact that women can just ask their friends for a hug at any time when they're feeling down or in need of support. I told a girl that I needed a hug, too, but if I asked for one, I just look like a creepy weirdo. Half joking half not. As sad as it sounds, one of the main reasons I wish I had a girlfriend was so I had someone to give me a hug for once.
Same.
this is an incredible way to give some awareness to some of the sh!t men go through without dissing on anyone or making it weird
hearing that you give your guy friends compliments is so nice
You don’t give your guy friends compliments?
@@terrahwonneh guys want compliments from woman not other men
@@Mostillist a compliment is a compliment
@@visciousvulpesAgree
A La~Dallah~Bean is just ‘chefs kiss’
I had to rewind that and make sure I knew what I heard.
Same!
1st time most men get flowers is at their funeral...
Hell I want some flowers too, yall
Giving flowers I think is kind of silly, they're so expensive and just die, I geuss if you hand picked them it would be special though, but yeah that's sadly true
Dead people receive more flowers than living ones because regret is stronger than gratitude
- Anne Frank
Honestly as a guy, those are some real problems we have to deal with and it's nice hearing those.
My 10 things I'd hate if I was a woman would probably be:
1. Getting hit on often or even molested.
2. Being physical weaker
3. Not receiving enough respect/recognition in a career.
4. Not being able to grow a beard
5. Getting reduced to physical appearance
6. The whole period thing (it just sounds like a huge pain and really gross)
7. Not feeling safe walking alone at night
8. Backpain (assuming my boobs would be big)
9. Having to sit while peeing
10. Prices and quantity of hygiene/beauty products
Honestly I love when people point out the struggles of both genders instead of arguing who has it the worst. We are all people we all struggle there are pros and cons in life.
Yesyesyess!!!@@junobrodin4243
Yes exactly! Everyones taking a point to yell their struggles than looking at the others who are truely suffering in silence. We're all just on a floating rock anyway. The fuck does anyone expect from us? 😂❤@@junobrodin4243
And a bonus a lack of pockets on most clothing
Whats wrong with sitting peeing? It's more hygienic, you make less of a mess, its more comfortable, and you can get more out due to being less strained.
I remember reading “most men don’t get flowers until their funeral.” That hit hard. I got my dad orange roses and put them in the kitchen after that, just because he loves the color.
Being creep stuff really resonates with me for no reason other than every time I walk upstairs I feel like there’s a girl in front of me and I just have a friend right in front of them so I’m trying to talk to him but when I look up yeah
I remember I was walking behind a mom and her kids at a park and she turned around and saw me, she then took her kids hands pulled them to the side and waited for me to pass. I was just with my mom trying to get some steps in. It was brutal 😂, but it is what it is.
@@DivinesLegacy It’s like she said with the second rate parent stuff smh
I feel that way as a lesbain women too but I imagine if ur a guy it would be more frowned upon in public
WHY DIES IT SUCK PHYSICALLY (sore) TO BE A WOMAN BUT SUCK EMOTIONALLY TO BE A MAN (youre a man be tough)
What do you mean by “your a man be tough”?
@@westhebest8395They mean that there is a stigma around men (In America) where they are to show no emotion, and always be tough and don’t let anything phase them.
This is a contributor to the substantially higher suicide rate in men, as often they are shamed by family for their emotions, and told to “suck it up” or “toughen up.”
While I agree we should toughen up we should definitely be open about how we feel and show emotion, just not hurting others or ourselves in the process
@@atlaslovesyou9765i agree with this but it’s still bullshit how we get mistreated whenever we are feeling emotionally down but for women they get literally a parade of people to care for them and as you said the rates go up for suicide from men BY 4X LIKE WHEN WE BOTTLE IT UP WE KILL OURSELVES BUT WHEN WE EXPRESS IT WE GET MADE FUN OF absolutely fucking insane
@@westhebest8395 society telling men things like 'boys don't cry'
I feel like this isnt true it’s sucks both psychically and mentally to be both or none if your in-between
I love complimenting guys. They get so cute and happy
The problem is that being lonely as a man is not something that can really be solved by making more male friends. Many of us are constantly taught to never express anything to our guys and I personally just don't feel comfortable opening up to men in the same way I can to women
I can tell, as a woman with few online friends, my male friends open to our group only when there are few girls in the voice chat at that time, when for example there are mostly guys in vc (like 3 boys and me, 1 girl) they never share their emotions, even if they sound upset at that moment. as soon as few girls join, they start talking about it, how his mom is constantly drunk and can't support his family anymore, or how the other dude, who is a firefighter, is bummed out because his team couldn't arrive in time to save few people. they never talk about these things with each other
As a woman who transitioned when I was 16, I got to say that people treat boys exceptionally well. it’s literally just that a lot of boys grow up used to for better words, mediocrity, and aren’t socialized and educated on actual self improvement like young girls are.
Worrying constantly being seen as a creep is the main reason why i dont want to go into childcare
Im a trans boy, hoping to medicaly transition one day soon
Since i was like 8 or 9 i wanted to work with young kids, like 2-4 age range, but because i want to transtion ive basically given up on that dream completely and it hurts
Please dont give up on that dream. We need more people who care about the well-being of our kids to make it into the education and childcare system. If you can find a way to enter child care while keeping yourself safe. Please go for it.
Yeah man, this looks like what you specifically should do! As long as you honestly follow your passions you will always be on the right track. Thinking people will judge you often comes more from yourself than it would come from them. Your honest excitement will show!
I'm a swimming teacher and I work with young kids. I use to be alot more self conscious about this. While it's still at the back of my mind to make sure I don't come across as a creep, I'm very comfortable handling kids now.
The first flower anyone will give you. Will be at your funeral.
You will be expected to be a bodyguard If you are going on a date. Your expected to be willing to die for the women you just meet, pay for everything, and be happy.
Your problems are only your problems, do not talk about your problems women would be disgusted by you, and men will see you as weak.
Telling a woman NO, you do not know the vindictive hate.
Constantly being told how easy you have it. No matter how long or difficult something was.
Plenty of hair on women's "back holes" in my experience.
But I do agree as a guy too much on my back.
Also I would hate being judged for shaving my legs like that would be so uncomfortable to have long leg hairs
Oh no, according to this, I'm like 65 % a man. Quick, please, someone give me a compliment, so it's at least 50/50.
Under 10 mins gang
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Nice profile pic
I like youre lack of 2016 toyota camarys with family bumper stickers?
I like your lack of orange toyotas with a bumper sticker with a daisy on it AND I like your lack of pink dolphins in a rainbow ocean :)
You play a mean game of Fortnite, have great taste in music! and have some pretty nice friends😁
I always hate the feeling of someone thinking im a weirdo, like im awkward and just tryna be friendly 😭
It's fairly common for women (and some men) to cross the street so they don't have to walk past me on the sidewalk. Which hurts a little each time, not gonna lie.
Every time we give a compliment to a guy they accuse me of liking them or call me weird
Appreciate you telling your guy friends nice things! That's a true friend!
This is so true, which is why when someone says it’s easier being a man, or it’s easier being a woman, I just tell them to shut up because one it depends on the person and their experiences and two men and women have different ups and downs and different ways of being treated. Just being human isn’t always easy, but that comes with life. This is also coming from a woman, I feel so much for guys, men deserve better
I never truly understood the thing about being seen creepy or scary until yesterday. I was walking the trails on my college campus between classes because I like nature, and i pass a woman by herself taking pictures of plants. Knowing I have an app that can do that which identifies lots of plants and tells you everything about them I asked her if she was doing so and that I have such an app she might be interested in. She stayed to see it, but she seemed terrified the entire time I was near her, and it made me feel like shit.
Problem is male friends don’t help at all most of the time lmao. The other problem like you said is women automatically assume you’re a creep or gross. 😊
The last one is about not blaming woman for not wanting to date men and instead finding friendship somewhere else
The more I try to film my own mirror TikTok’s the more I realize how f’in good you are at filming
Yk some of these weren’t just the obvious stuff. Everyone brings up either the compliment or flower thing, but being told from a young age that I am a pig because I’m… just standing somewhere. That shit hurts. A lot.
This video was a turning point for me. I was making fun of one of my guy friends earlier, just as a joke and we both knew it. But then he gets all serious and tells me to let him know if I ever actually think he’s being annoying to let him know, and this video really made me hope I didn’t actually hurt his feelings. I’m definitely going to be kinder to boys and men alike now 😢💙
Thank you I now feel like someone is relating to me at the same time as I am now hyper aware of all the little details that I should be worried about
It definitely sucks being a guy not hearing good things about myself or not complimented once everyday. Would definitely help motivate a man to hear good things about himself and what he's accomplished.
Don’t forget you can become infertile if you sleep the wrong way😀
😮 wat
A girl said, "I am handsome" I told all my male friends. Man we really are starved men.
I'm not too worried about my hair.
I still remember a girl in highschool pulling a sticky note off my back. Not really a compliment but was nice. I still remember a girl at Lowe's saying she liked my Sunglasses.
My ex never let me learn how to be a Dad and im still in the process of fighting to get to to see them without her having to be there. I dont think ill ever feel like a good Dad.
Performance anxiety is embarrassing and it happened with the same ex I have kids with our first time. She didnt judge me and she was supportive. I miss when she was that girl.
I constantly feel like I'm making women uncomfortable by just being in public. Like if I have to stand around and wait for some reason. It sucks.
I have nothing but good male friends, not a whole lot and mostly just online but I'm still lonely. I dont think gaming with them really helps with the type of lonely I am.
Feeling like a creep happens to me frequently. You can’t be nice, because everyone thinks you’re flirting with them, And I look like Hugo from lost so NOBODY wants that😅 Also I’m half black and I have white nieces and nephews, so when we were out together(when they were small) I got the most awful looks. I literally had people ask my little blonde niece if she was ok, right in front of me.. I get it, and in a way I’m glad they were looking out for her. But it hurt, A lot. Being a normal guy is hard enough, but being one thats also unattractive by most standards, is legit heartbreaking almost every day. Women don’t even want you to hold the door for them. I literally had one woman say “ew no” to my face. And all I did was hold a door. I hold the door for anyone close enough.
I am so sorry you have to go throught that and that you feel like you're not good enough. And that lady who said ew when you opened the door for her? So rude. I can't imagine. I personally would be so thankful if you held a door open for me. People can be so rude. And it's so awesome how you look out and care for your niece. It's so sweet and nice of you. I appreciate you :)
It’s true in fact, there’s not a single advantage to being a man. Women have an easier life collectively at least and there’s a reason why three out of every four homeless people are male. I love the blonde hair. You’re a beautiful blonde.
Life hack for guys: wear graphic tees you'll get like 50 comments a day
Thank god somebody FINALLY understands...
As a trans man I do go through this haha. Example 1. Was out with female friends we are all having a nice time and I’m giving her a piggy back while doing karaoke I go and get her a drink and get myself one too when a woman comes up to me “you seem to be get around that poor girl and her friends a lot *turns to friend* are you girls okay is this man bothering you “no he’s with us” *lady looks confused* “oh okay then..:have a nice night girls”
Or
2. I was baby sitting my little cousin I was like 18?19? And he was 4 I take him to go get a toy he’s been begging for but his mum can’t fit it into the budget and I just get weird stares the whole time I’m there
And the ass hair? What did I do to deserve that ? I don’t know what’s worse having painful bleeds cramps or never ending itch that I can’t scratch cuz it’s just weird to do so cuz of the odd placement of the scratch
Basically spot on, especially with the complement thing, I remember the 3 I've ever gotten that weren't from my family, I also think they weren't being serious-
My step dad raised his 3 kids alone before he and my mom met. He's been the absolute best dad to me and grandpa to my son. He's one of the best humans I've ever known and the reason I stopped believing in the sterotype...
La dalla bean💀💀💀💀
Le $ bean” best quote of 2024
Why just your guy friends? See a cool shirt passing by, tell them. Like those kicks standing infront of you in Walmart;tell them.
Strangers giving compliments means 110000000000000000X more to a man than friends.
La $ bean got me 💀💀💀 like, I know WHY but STILL 😂😂😂
As a guy, this is fairly accurate, I think a lot of people miss some of the things that guys worry about because no one really talks about it
And that goes for guys too, we never really talk about it ourselves
La-Dallah-Bean sounds like it should be a women's sports and clothing store down at the mall next to Old Navy and The Gap.
Having to censor lesbian is crazy
As a trans guy I can confirm there is a stark difference between the social treatment vs women
We need a video of you with a man face filter 😭😭😭
it is not tough to be a man. YOU have to be tough to be a man, that's all there is to it.
The reason why women live longer than men on average is cuz they don’t go to the doctor when they think something’s wrong because there’s this misconception that men have to be tough and strong and have like no weaknesses. Bro if you got stomach pain don’t walk it off, go get it checked out. Then at least your mind will be at easy if it’s nothing.
My hairy butt-whole😭
i have a 10 year no hug streak (im 15)
Well said! Not talked about enough!❤
And yeah, can confirm, I do get compliments, but it's nearly always about things I choose to wear, or specific talents of mine. Not so much directed at me personally, and if it is something physical it's a backhanded complement about my age and how I don't look as old as I am. Never multiple though. Meanwhile, every girlfriend I've ever had, thought it was shocking to NOT GET complemented all day every day about how pretty they are. Definitely very very different.
Top 5 best drinks NOT biased
1. Liquified anti matter
Honorable mention: MTN Dew Baja Blast
2. uranium 235 extract
3. Gasoline
4. Windex
5. Battery acid
How is Draino not on this list?
Where tf is dihydrogen monoxide?
We would love you either way!
The problem with the loneliness is that it seems to be perpetuated (mostly unknowingly) by fathers. See, the problem is that, whilst it's easy enough to make a male friend, most male friends lack intimacy simply from a lack of knowing of how to be intimate without being "creepy" or "gay".
The worrying about making women unconfortable is so real, I can be with female friends of years and still think some times "I hope I didn't say anything weird"
All sound about right, you forgot always being seen as a " loser" simply for not worshipping and adorning women with gifts, admiration, time, and funds...or homosexual relations may be similar too in this regard, but I don't think guys see other guys as " losers" in a high percentage. We kind of have more of a head nod agreement. The price of having a parasitic like micro species within that heavily forces your brain into sexual desire can get exhausting. Other guy friends are cool against loneliness but as you said it, since women are affection hoarders, it's like we're seen as beings that somehow don't need this for some reason ? We are affectionate touch starved and attention starved. We're supposed to be " tough " but even the toughest can be mentally gone or depressed from just being stereotyped as being non phased. Some guys like to play hard nonsense personas all day, which is just an act mostly, because when they go down, they go down, and just hibernate for days. We all have our problems and it's good to acknowledge realities, although cultures are different from men to women.
I've just embraced the receding hairline. It's inevitable.
Me realizing the lower life expectancy would be one of my positives….
I'm not worried about any of these, as a man, you don't worry bout it too much
It's just part of being a man
If I were a woman and wouldn't get compliments, then I'd be worried 😂
It's the work for me that gets to me, its long and hard , we work from morning till night, I hate it , but the money is good so some of us dont have a choice, and no one cares bout what we do it seems , they couldn't care less, if they could they'd get us to work for free
Along with the parent thing, idk if other people do this, but my mom is always my main parent. No matter what I do, I ask my mom first. If she says to ask my dad, I’ll ask my dad. I always feel uncomfortable asking my dad first, but I would hate to be my dad and have to go through that
Towards the end. Male minds don’t work the same, so you would likely have a different experience understanding if you made someone uncomfortable. Many of the guys don’t realize how they are interpreted
I still remember the time I was told I had pretty eyes 13 years ago. These are all spot on..
As a man, men look at me and I can see the hate instantly flood their eyes.
I try to get along with men, but it never works out. I get double crossed and burned by men at any given chance.
I can't be friends with women either, as I'm insanely dangerous and a threat just because of what genitals I have.
Instead of being lonely, I have plants. Sure the plants can't talk or run away, but Stockholm syndrome seems to sit well with all of us. It seems we have a mutual understanding that we're spending our lives together and make the most of it.
I love my plants, if anyone threatens them, they may as well be threatening human life. I will show no remorse to those who harm my green family.
Correction, we barely get back hair and butt hole hair, but get ball hair armpit hair and the reason why we get if we’re stressed
It’s true us guys don’t get complemented
I literally do NOT make any eye contact with the girls when in hallways at school cause I’m so scared of accusations or smth bad being said abt me😭
This is very perceptive, particularly about the compliments thing. But personally i don't tend to feel lonely.
Piesa “Jumătate” de la rareș seamănă mult cu “Rămâi cu bine “
Dude im so scared of men and im always worried about complimenting men bc they might take it as flirting, If other girls have this same anxiety as i do then yeah i would hate being a guy in that aspect😭
LA DOLLA BEAN!!
Yep...still love u
The last eight times I got a compliment, they were very sarcastic
The third one was always especially rough for my dad as a mixed kid who most people just assume is Hispanic or south asian
That's waayyyy too nuanced and generous for Jayus....
As being lonely sometimes us guys mean no friends but sometimes also we can have a lot of guy friends and still be lonely because what we really want when we have friends is a romantic partner
Finally a woman understands the struggles of men
100% relatable.
Most guys get flowers for the first time at their funeral
Can you tell some ways to start a conversation with a stranger (opposite gender) especially as an early teen? Would appreciate that!
Well. At least someone can see it. I appreciate that.
I remember the two compliments i got from a coworker 8 years ago. Never forgot it, havent gotten any since
As a dude I can confirm that this is very true
Jayus being either feminist or closeted trans* be like
As a young man with a lot of hair, balding is one of my worst fears
"Performance anxiety and potentially loosing a, aaaaa 🙁..."
This is every dudes worst fear honestly 💀
Please explain
@@luvvi_Bunni let's just say a guy loosing his 🌭 makes it very hard and painful going to the bathroom among other issues 😀
Gender isn't important as long as you remember to empty your mind😊
I dunno why people are always so uncomfortable around gay people, people like who they like. Most of my female friends are gay or bi and I can’t imagine going around being weird around them or missing out on my best friends just cause i judged them before even knowing them
Whenever I see my friend in a new shirt, he’s male I’m always like oh so handsome or you look so good anytime I see any of my male teachers actually wearing something that I think it’s cool. I’m like oh I like your shirt. I like your jacket.
I couldn’t live with male pattern baldness I love my hair sm now that I think about it 😭
I’m bi and I feel you
Some fathers aren't even allowed to be trusted around their own children alone, not because they are dangerous or a pedo or anything, but because society generally frowns at a man spending time with children, i have no kids, but this potential subjugation terrifies me
Thank you, people don't talk about it enough.
LOSE WHAT I CANT THINK OF ANYTHING A MAN CAN LOSE THAT NEEDED TO BE CRYPTIC BC THE VID MAY DEMONATISE, PLEASE SOMEONE TELL ME
Guys aren’t worried about other dudes bringing their kids in the restroom
I love this girl