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Just as a heads up boys, nearly every woman poops on the delivery table. The nurses usually take care of it quickly and quietly and a lot of mother's have no idea. Husbands in the delivery room usually notice, but if you're a good one you won't mention it to her (unless you know she won't be embarrassed/upset). I've never heard of a baby ending up in the poop, though I'm sure it has happened.. Because of the way you have to push, it feels like taking a poop AND you have the baby's head compressing your colon like a tube of toothpaste squeezing that poop out. Gross, but that's the way giving birth is.
Also, I do work in Healthcare and am a nurse. That sister is an absolutely horrendous nurse who shouldny be working with ANY vulnerable populations. It's one thing to have thoughts and be frustrated, but she is literally verbally (and sometimes medically) abusing her patients who are in one of the most vulnerable situations of their lives. Refusing to get a blanket because "she acted like an adult so I'm gonna treat her like an adult" makes literally no sense. You should be getting your adult patients blankets too. Wtf?! I want to scream in that ladies face.
Everybody Poops
I’m currently in nursing school and that story horrified me. I’m so glad that the sister lost her job, she definitely shouldn’t be a nurse with vulnerable populations, especially if she’s going to treat her patients differently based on her own personal judgments/ bias. I hope the hospital does an investigation into any negligence she may have had regarding the teen patient who she gave meds to and then her baby passed away - that’s so tragic. I can’t believe she didn’t seem to feel any guilt with that patient. Something like that happening would probably mess me up even if I do everything possible as a nurse to help a patient
4 kids and never done that 😮
@@MadpaddyGaming that's possible I guess lol, never thought of it that way lol, have a good day. 😊
@@MadpaddyGaming thinking about it, it's not like a Woman in that kind of pain would realise if they had, to much going on to realise. I do know the first time I gave birth, they stiched me up without any pain relief injection, and because I was only 18 I didn't realise I shouldn't be feeling every single time they put the needle through, they knew they'd not given me pain relief imo and wanted to torture me and they did a good job.
Honestly for the drugged sister story… I would’ve gone to the cops right after the accusations and had the sisters friend arrested for sexual assault. Watch him cave so fast and tell the whole truth so fast.
Yes!, this. Nobody talks about him, but he also deserves some punishment. The "sister" is definitely a horrendous evil monster, but he knew what he was doing; that hopefully was just lying about having something with her knowing he was destroying her life and not actually doing something
That would have been the ideal action plan but honestly idk if I would've been able to think that clearly after having back to back trauma of being Dr*gged, SA'd, losing my family and fiance, losing all my belongings and becoming homeless in just two days.
Plus if she would go to cops they would make her run blood tests to see of the was drugged.
Exactly. An investigation could have involved surveillance footage from the place she was drugged. Maybe they could have figured out who drugged her.
she can still charge the guy and charge the sister for this stuff. if that was me I would be picking up the phone and hearing her confession, let her sit in jail a few years missing her loved ones, and the family should stay forgotten, they sound like dirt
Ben and the sister clearly have the means to pay any random person to be a surrogate, but no, they WANT Ben to sleep with sis.
These people are not right in the head.
Not justifying any of it but they probably want a child that would technically be biological theirs since they are sisters and share the same DNA. Still weird though, but just a thought.
@@TerribleSalmon cm get same results with a turkey baster.
@@girl6girl6Yes. Plus, natural? The child is natural.
@@TerribleSalmon I honestly doubt this, consider this, imo the husband pitched the idea to his wife that ivf is too expensive, and that he should get the sister pregnant. He drops the bomb that he wants to do it the "traditional way" to the wife. What woman would not be pissed that their husband wants to sleep with another woman, or their sister to boot! When clearly a turkey baster wood suit just fine. This woman knows the man wants to sleep with her sister. She knows. Women know these things.
Then they proceed to tell the little sister that they will give her ALL this money and set her up for life. That is just as expensive as IVF if not more...
I believe the wife is jealous and wants her sister to pay for what her husband has done. So she wants her to make the naive decision to go along with this plan so she can later emotionally abuse and most likely financially abuse the sister for life. They are clearly aware she is too young and not mature enough to make a clear headed decision about life and are co-ercing her to go with it when she brings up concerns. And just from the conversation they have with her I can see this. I don't think they would speak to a non related mature adult woman in this way. They are taking advantage of her naivety.
The husband is weird and the wife is cruel in my opinion. I doubt she would have seen more than 10 percent of the money they offered and I also doubt it would have been a smooth ride for the following 18 years. That couple is a time bomb and she and the baby would have experienced most of the fallout when it explodes.
Get Legal! If she reconsider at all. Get that shit in writing, witnessed, signed, dated, submitted.
Lawyer it up.
Do it the legal way.
And DEFINITELY involve doctors
NAh even the fiancé was mad at HER for potentially being assaulted while under the influence. Hard no. Everyone can stew in their faults while she lives her best life without them
Yeeesss omg I hate all of them for doing that to op
granted, he wasn't aware she was possibly assaulted because she didn't get the time to get her word in. I don't blame him for his initial reaction, i blame him for never wanting to hear her side after he calmed down, days later.
@@JazzyCrumbles she did tell but the sisters guy friend lied and said they did do stuff together so he didn’t believe her even though a dude admitted to assaulting his drunk fiancé. EVEN IF SHE DIDNT GET TO SAY IT. The guy friend told the fiancé he took advantage of her while drunk and fiancé was like “ yea must be all her fault” I wouldn’t want shit stain for a dude like that back in MY life. I absolutely blame him. He should’ve heard that guy friend and beat the fuck out of him for taking advantage of his drunk fiancé. Straight up. Dudes can’t even look at me in a way I don’t like and my man steps up. He’s a lame. He can stay single forever. He’s rather take the side of a man claiming to assault drunk women.
Also why was he at their Christmas vacation at all???? Sounds to me like he got entangled with the sister and everyone wants to play it off like nothing happened🤢🤮
@@apathetictiramisu Dude, YES! it’s so obvious. I hope she never goes back to any of them and finds true family of her own and keeps on leading a happy and peaceful life for herself.
I wonder if the "nurse dose", is the reason for the miscarriage/stillbirth. That poor child.
Has me wondering as well. OP's sister sounds like she's a character in a nurse horror show.
That’s exactly my thought too, she said she wanted to teach the girl a lesson, I think she willingly and knowingly killed that baby
Came looking for this like wait umm 👀
I think that's the exact reason why she didn't tell OP thr kid had died because she had already admitted to giving her a high dose, she should be in jail imo. It's one thing to bitch about and at your patients it's a whole other thing to medically over dose those patients because you think your on some moral high ground. Nah I hope they can prove she killed thst kid and gets put in jail, even though I doubt she'd ever change her mindset. She's a sad pathetic woman who suffers from so much self loathing she has to try and spread it around to any other woman, mainly pregnant women. It wouldn't surprise me if she has a personal reason like she can't get pregnant or her hubby or boyfriend has a pregnant fetish, or an ex had one. Because having that much anger toward pregnant women and picking a career to be surrounded by the people you hate is crazy.
@@krystinaxxlea Absofuckinglutely agree. Well said 🙌🙌👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️ Maybe you should be a prosecuting, family attorney. You already have the mindset, to bring justice to those families.
With the sister Nicky story - a hard NO there. OP needs a ton of therapy and include ex-fiancée with possible parents in on the therapy but I wouldn't take any of them back fully in my life. They didn't believe a possible assault victim and instead blamed OP. Yes the optics were bad bad bad but if the years of trust they had built before the incident weren't enough to make the family/ex-fiancée believe her before then they could possibly be tricked again. Nicky needs permanently left in the cold.
I literally thought this as I was watching the part like y’all literally left me to die out here while y’all get to enjoy Christmas thinking ah the cheating witch is gone and then y’all come crawling back because now you conscience is like you messed up big go fix it like no I’m living my best life and if all it takes is a lie told by my sister or someone else then no I can’t risk you hurting me this way again (sorry if this is so long this really got under my skin hope you all have a good day except for the sister to which I say karma coming for you and it has some good quality bad karma to give ya
Right? And the parents disowned the younger sister over something as small as that, but still kept Nikki around even after she admitted something that evil? Someone needs to let Nikki's new bf know what a psycho she is before she drugs him or boils his bunny.
They are the reason she would need therapy. I'd show his butt the door. The one time she truly needed his trust in their entire relationship, he immediately threw her to the dogs. She will never be able to trust that he will be there for her in the future. Her parents threw her out siding with her fiance...so no.
My college roommate literally s*xually assaulted me and they moved her out of my room but then called me into the office because my grades slipped a bit at the time of all this to tell me I need to try to “avoid drama in the future for the sake of my education”. Needless to say I transferred to a different college.
My roommate's boyfriend got drunk and tried to attack me while i was asleep over his dishes that i didn't wash. He was fucking pounding on my door so hard the door was bowing with each blow. And he did this at 2 in the fucking morning while i was asleep, violently ill. He and his girlfriend were laughing at me in the hallway. It took me calling them when she pushed me for trying to hide mine and my boyfriend's shit to get her out. She left and then came back after her shit was legally abandoned and stole a bunch of shit telling the cops i called that it was hers. I had thrown all the shit she had abandoned out.
She even stole my food. Special diet food she didn't like.
I would trash this college with the college rating sites. That is so messed up. I hope you are in better place and has a great college experience after moving!
I'm so sorry you went thru that
Whew… I’m so happy you said “needless to say” because leaving is hard to do for many people
Lol this reminds what my parents said after my 1st bf began SAing me on the reg, that I wanted it and was a slut. Some people are not actually humans, they're monsters wearing human disguises.
When I was 22 and in preterm labor with twins (I looked like I was 17, so people were extra judgey), a nurse made a rude comment insinuating not caring enough about my babies because I was practically begging for a C-section due to excruciating pain. Many staff didn’t believe me until they saw on the ultrasound that both babies were pushing my pelvic bones outward. That was ROUGH!
Mother’s need respect. We already are scared and in pain #geesh
It is outrageous how professionals in the medical field don’t listen to or don’t try to believe a patient who is in extreme amount of pain and discomfort when they should be doing their best to help and relieve the pain
@@ScrumptiousRump Agreed. Some of the nurses who took care of me that month got to know me and they did their best to help me. They were my saving grace at the hospital. My OB doc was out of town and would've definitely protected me. I'm still connected with some of them today.--My twins will be 18 in a couple of weeks ;)
@@ScrumptiousRumpa doctor turned a rectal exam super sexual cause he thought I was faking a spinal injury that I had had for years. Lol I wasn't at all and he seemed disappointed/horrified to realize I wasn't faking. Couple weeks later I began having uncontrollable seizures, I was taken the to the ER, same doc saw me, immediately left, said I was fine and refused to treat me. He left me with brain damage and PTSD from his sexual deviance. He still has his iob, the hospital wouldn't even take any conplaint.
@@RepubsWannaMarryKids What the hell- Can you sue him??
@@ScrumptiousRump I was not allowed to file a police report about either instance, and no lawyer would help me without that.
3rd story - hell no! Drop all of them, ex-fiancé & family. None of them believed OP when she was potentially the victim. They threw her out completely. Yes, the fiancé reacted as you'd expect at the time, but to come back after 2 years and think it will be OK is f××d up. OP would be an AH to herself if she accepted any of them back. All of them are toxic
Story 2: kick the fiancé to the curb too. Yeah he was hurt… but he believed the sister before his actual fiancé, you can’t build a marriage with someone who has so little trust in you.
To be fair, he believed the sister because she had a photograph of her sister leaving with another man's hand on her back. She knew he wouldn't believe her word alone. That's why she took the picture.
with you on that one, including the family. fuck I would even consider a civil lawsuit
@@flaggov6949 That's like saying if she showed a photo of OP hugging another man, it means she cheated. Someone simply having their hand on someone else's back while walking means nothing as that could easily be something someone does helping them out to get fresh air. To take anyone's word over that of someone you obviously loved enough and were with long enough to propose to, especially when they're acting nothing but genuinely, you failed.
Not to mention, why did nobody find it weird that she took a photo of this, instead of stopping something from drunkenly happening? That red flag was slapping them in the face.
@@DaraxXxDevious The photo alone wouldn't do it, but the photo + her being out all night + the guy saying they slept together is quite a bit.
Exactly 💯 💯 💯 💯
The Nicky story would’ve been my villain origin story if I was op. I would never EVER forgive my family because the first response should’ve been “holy fuck. She got r*ped.” That would’ve been my response if I was in that situation.
Ikr, horrible family
If she forgives them all, she has no honor and deserves everything. Her family is evil and her fiancé is not the man for her. It is clear he would believe any gossip said against her. I lost a boyfriend once because of a gossip created by one of his cousins. We broke up and it's been 20 years since I saw his face. If he ever show up or if I ever encounter him, I will say: "Sorry, I don't know you. You are talking to the wrong person" and I would go away. That's how you treat those who hurt you and treat you like garbage.
Exactly, the mother should convince her to go to the police and not slap her and throw away from home.
So she was drugged by her sister assaulted by another man and instead of hearing her out they assume she cheated based on a lie and instead of hearing. Her they abandoned her all of them no I would I would not forgive them. I'm sorry I would have just moved down to my life. No second chances for something like this. And it comes to something like this there are no 2nd chances.
Period story, i knew a girl at 11 yearold old who first period was so bad and painful she missed 1 week of school and she bled alnost 20 days straight (a normal period should only last 4-7 days) and she had to go to a doctor who prescribed her birth control to stop her from having periods bc they were so severe. another friend whos suffers from endometriosis also prescribed birth control bc periods were so severe, and shes planning on getting a hysterectomy to make them stop. Just goes to show that birth control isnt just to prevent pregnancy but also is a much needed medical treatment.
I have endo and PCOS and this happened to me. I took the pill but it didn’t regulate my cycle and didn’t help with the pain😅
I’m actually on birth control for that reason too lol. I’m not sexually active but they’re just so bad
Pregnancy reverses endometrosis. Usually. My first reversed mine. My periods came on the same day every month. Then, I had my second and the routine was thrown out. But over the years, through weight loss and then weight regain, things fluctuated. Some years, my periods were four or five days a month and some, they were longer. These days, I can bleed for weeks, sometimes
My mom knew another mom who had to place her 4 year old on BC as that is when she started her period.
@@jesuslovesus4002 To be fair, just to not spread dangerous misinformation: not "usually". And it doesn't reverse it. It can help improve the syntoms. But it can also aggravate the situation. If you are able to get pregnant in the first place, which is something that people with it struggle to begin with.
Omg the guy with the inheritance is the absolute worst. Your wife is providing a huge asset to you and your daughter by creating a safe clean home and meals. Being a stay at home mom enough is valuable. They have done time studies on being a stay at home mom and it's like 70 hours of work a week. He clearly has never had to take care of his own domestic duties. And she is sharing all of her assets with him , and he has the audacity to complain? Your partner should be happy to work for you , if they love you they should feel fulfilled in providing for you in whatever reasonable avenue. He is such a bum! And the fact he wants her to sacrifice all of her wants out of what pettiness? Most men would love to be able to give the woman they truly love the world and vice versa this is so messed up!
If she had known how OP would act she probably would not have bought the car and house. It is a shame they already have a kid. Because OP is just a bad person.
Yeah OP seems like a lazy husband. He wants to be taken cared of like a baby, not take care of his family. Not that there’s anything wrong with being a stay at home dad, but it seems like he only wants to do that because he doesn’t want to work and he probably wouldn’t do the house chores. A good husband takes care of his wife and family and he clearly doesn’t want to meet that basic standard.
I think they should’ve just bought the house and the new car for the wife he likely already had a car and she should’ve just kept the money for other car if she wanted to have a gym membership and other things like I get you bought a house and cars for each other but that doesn’t mean he should have to keep paying for your stuff, like you just got a big inheritance and you still need someone else to pay for everything you wanna do, nah they should be paying for their clothes and hobbies separately, things they do together should be payed together and obvi sometimes you get each other gifts or just wanna buy something for the other, but they shouldn’t just live off his income then save inheritance for retirement, I don’t they have enough inheritance left for retirement so that means their gonna have to save from his monthly earnings and use his monthly earnings to pay for the gas of both cars any bills like electricity/water pay for her gym membership pay for their child and so much more, she should probably try to do an online business or something because that all just seems way too stressful
I mean 36 hours a week of work and he still complains? Come on
I'm lucky to be a SAHM and that my husband recognizes how much I contribute to our lives even if I don't contribute financially. He earns the money, but I do literally everything else. He never has to worry about laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning, or even taking care of the lawn and he is grateful for it. The guy in the story is an absolute POS and his wife should seriously leave him and take her inheritance with her.
Period: I've told a boss, "If there was no such thing as tampons, you would think I slaughtered a goat under this desk." Because I needed to get off work due to pain and anemia. Evidently the descripriptive visual was what they needed. I give this to the internet, feel free to use against your male bosses.
I had multiple people call me a slut and a "dumb teen mom". I was 21 and in a 5 year monogamous relationship when I was pregnant. I just have a baby face
Some people are just horribly.
I honestly think the "dosing" she gave that poor girl may have killed her baby. You can't take certain medication or supplements, drink, smoke, or even eat certain foods. Taking pills that make you pass out cannot be good for the baby and she knew it. She probably celebrated that babies death this woman deserved to lose her job it was dangerous for her to even have been given that position.
Seriously, my cousin has been married since high school and is currently pregnant with their 4th child, and because they look young, people always assume the worst🙄
My mom had a kid (with my stepdad) when I was already 15. I love my lil brother, and I would lug him around shopping and to get fast food and stuff.
Employees would always treat me like a pariah. Sometimes he would blurt out “she’s my sister” just because he was a toddler lol. They would instantly start acting all congenial and polite towards me. The difference was so shocking.
I never really cared, since he wasn’t actually my kid. However, I would sometimes feel horrified thinking about how teen moms must feel. If he were actually my kid, my self-esteem would have probably been obliterated! No wonder they have such a hard time. I have a very strong opinion that teens mothers should be emotionally supported, for this very reason.
The sister and the mom... they all need a special place in hell for different reasons. The fiancee can apologize and have it accepted but that's as far as it should go. He didn't trust her and worse he trusted someone OVER her. Forgive but then forget, including him.
I hope she heals, that was some evil shit... jealousy is a real monster, her sister proved that.
With the Nicky story, I would say goodbye to the Fiancé, the relationship would have a huge permanent scar after something like that, and it wouldn't be fair for either of them. As for the parents? They better have treated Nicky twice as bad as OP; slapped, beaten, and thrown to the curb, completely exiled from the family for drugging her sister, and framing her to ruin her life. If the parents didn't do anything close to that, then for all I care, they were complicit, and just as evil.
Story 2 update: OP's dad found her and after a lot of crying they are kind of mending fences. Apparently he had tried to convince mom to not do this, but she refused and he realised he was being a doormat when it came out and Mom was still defending nikky. so OP's dad is divorcing their mom. Fiance still wants to come back but both OP and her dad are keeping him a little distant. Best part- OP called up Nikky's husband and told him everything and it turns out that the sister was lying and manipulating people in her husband's family too. So it's possible that Nikky's marriage might be ending too.
All in all, it's a very difficult situation, and I cannot even imagine being in her shoes. Oh and OP's mom is making Nikky the victim and hasn't reached out.
The one major thing the fiancé did wrong was not hear her out. He ignored everything didn't give her a chance to give her side. I understand he was devastated having the woman he loved and wanted to be with "cheat" on him. He still should have listened to her at least once. If she forgives him, they need to go to therapy for them (mostly him) to learn to actually hear each other out. The family they should never have done that to her. The sister is the worst but the rest you can be mad at her "mistake" but you don't cut her out so badly. You at most let it be known you're disappointed in them not kick them out of the family. They made their choice.
Yes. The minute I hear someone does that to my daughter, I am calling the police.
I disagree here due to one simple fact. 1 photographically evidence that at least appears to show wrong doing, 2 she tells him to call the friend to verify the story and said friends says " yeah, we banged."
@leolordful The friend may have been lying. If he wasn't, he took advantage if an extremely drunk girl, or a girl, who was drugged
@Jesus Loves Us we know that the friend lied. My point is that the fiancee didn't know he was lying. From the fiancees perspective there photos, witnesses, and even a confession. Why would he believe OP if she said nothing happened?
The guy on the phone admitted she was very drunk, aka not able to consent. He sexually assaulted her but little boyfriend had his feelings hurt to care about her, not then or as the days went by and everything cooled off
“No” Is a complete sentence.
My husband walked through the room as you hit the, “conceive the natural way”, comment--he asked me why I had a certain look on my face. 😂 He asked me what was so gross that it would bring this disgusted look to my face. When I told him, he said, “never in a million years”. 😂 We’ve been married 42 years and have 3 children and 6 grandchildren.
This “religious” family is asking this very young woman to commit adultery and then carry the evidence for 9 months. And their parents believe it would be wonderful?! Every single one of them is crazy. Bonkers even. OP needs to pack her bags & leave the country.
Three of the best days of my life were the days I gave birth to my children. Those are days I would relive if I could.
Thanks for bringing interesting spins to the posts you read. You make my day. 😊
S2: I would sue my sister for pain and suffering. Her mother hit her. That would have been the end for me.
Please sleep with me! Please sleep with him! It’s only natural! He’s only your brother in law!
Where I saw the first red flag, he said "traditional surrogate" I guess I have seen too many reddit stories.
For the woman whose life was destroyed by her sister: declaring forgiveness in her life is very important, so she can move on without the burden weighting on her. With that said, that doesn't mean she could or even should go back to the way things were. I would think she is better off because I bet the relationships with her family and fiance were already toxic.
As a nurse the sister was completely out of line and for her to claim nursing school would teach that is wild. They literally teach you empathy and I’m glad she no longer has a job. She could be killing people with her lack of it.
I thought the sister was somehow going to donate an egg. I wouldn't be willing to give up my biological my child.
Since I watched my older sister give birth as a teen I was very against having children throughout my teens and 20s. Now in my late 30s despite medical phobia I've warmed up to the idea. In my 20s I didn't want kids but my BFF (same age) did. So I told her if I did get pregnant from one of the many men I was screwing at the time, I'd let her adopt the child. She has her own son she gave birth to, and now me and my partner ate trying for one. Time makes fools of us all.
To be clear, this man is the only one I've ever wanted to reproduce with.
Cosmic jolt I had the same medical phobias of hospitals and especially pregnancy and child birth. I was utterly TERRIFIED of the idea. But then I met my husband and I too changed my mind. I wasn’t afraid to have a kid it was a huge phobia issue of pregnancy and birth. Unfortunately my first pregnancy ended in a devastating 14 week missed miscarriage and this made the fears far worse. For awhile I did consider just giving up BUT I decided to keep trying. The miscarriage was absolutely devastating and is still upsetting to us. Aside from the lose of our child I think it’s also painful to wonder what that little baby would look like and be doing today. In May of 2020 I gave birth to our gorgeous rainbow 🌈 baby. ( a baby after miscarriage for those who may not know the term.)
I’m so blessed and glad that I decided to first try at all and second to keep trying after our lose.
I’m sending all of my well wishes and prayers that you and your partner are soon blessed with a healthy pregnancy, easy birth and healthy baby!
Ps I spent damn near my entire pregnancy a ball of anxiety. All kinds of hormones, emotions and fears I barely got a chance to soak things in and enjoy being pregnant. Now pregnancy is crappy for a lot of us and I’m jealous of women who look and feel amazing. I spent a lot of time dreading birth and the hospital. However when I was checked into the hospital a sea of calmness washed over me and it was very strange and surreal. It’s hard work and painful but not nearly in the ways that I thought. It hurts but they can help with that. Make sure you surround yourself with loving, helpful and compassionate people. I suggest checking out hospitals ahead of time. Unfortunately due to Covid I wasn’t able to do this in ways most pregnant family’s get too. However I picked a hospital based on them being newly remodeled with s nice big bath tub to sit in before labor and it was also the closest with barely any traffic. ALL of the staff were fucking remarkable and in everyway. I can’t speak highly enough about how great they all were. Due to friends horror story’s I was pretty scared of the epidural but honestly I barely felt it going in and the epidural was able to help me sleep. I apologize for my very long winded comment and I truly hope that I have been helpful. Conquering my fears was the best decision I ever made. My daughter is the best part of mine and my husbands life.
The bil wants to bang the sister and the wife is enabling him so she doesn't loose him
No, the fiancé should have known her and since he’s helped Nicky through drug problems he should have known she was lieing. The entire family threw her out. No screw them all!
Before I started dating my life partner I went on a date with a guy and he asked me what shows I usually watch. When I told him I watch mostly anime he started teasing me calling me a kid watching anime shows. Funny part is that a few people heard his comment and snap back at him saying they also watch anime shows. Best karma ever!
For story 2, that woman deserved to be fired. Just because you're a nurse doesn't mean you can say/do whatever you want to patients. Enough complaints made against you to the hospital, the more likely you'll be fired regardless of you "doing your job". Her attitude reflects the image of the hospital.
She's not just a surrogate, she would be the egg donor too. That would literally be her baby that she would be giving up. Plus, how could you ever look the brother-in-law in the face after that? Then, what happens when they want another one? No thanks.
And possibly it wouldn't work out just after one time. So gross to even ask about such thing
I cannot understand why the girl who was drugged didn't get tested for it. She could have proved her story to be true easily.
Maybe she only thought she was too drunk at the time. 🤷🏻♀️
Most who are assaulted don't even realize it in the beginning unfortunately
The story seems fake to me idk, the Way it romanticized the fiancee visited her was kinda cringe
Don’t some drugs not even show up in your system? And wouldn’t it be out of her system by the time she would’ve got to the hospital?
@@tealablu3759 Not the case on the second part. For the first part, it just depends on what tests they run what shows up
I had nightmare nurses on not just 1 but both of the births of my 2 children. One was telling me my daughter was going to b taken away from me forever cuz she was "withdrawaling" (wich was untrue, she was not being tested correctly in the nursery and was on the wrong formula) and while recovering in the hospital from the natural birth of my son (with no epidural at all) this different nurse refused to give me my medicine and then left me on the floor of the shower, because I couldn't stand up,for multiple hours while I was screaming and crying in pain. Ud b surprised how many horrible nurses n doctors there r out there.
When I had our last daughter, there were two nurses that would check to see how dilated I was as I had a history of fast labors, this was done a lot because my last baby was delivered by the nurse without my OB getting there fast enough…was overdue, stuck at a 2, walking the hospital to get things going, went from a 3 to an 8 in under a half an hour, then here comes baby. When one nurse would check me there was no major discomfort but when the other nurse checked me, she was so rough, forceful, not one word spoken but hurting me badly in spite of me telling her so, not so much as a I’m sorry, it was like she was taking out her anger on my vagina.
I have a great tolerance to pain, had two babies plus miscarried twice, I knew the way the nurse was treating me wasn’t necessary. I asked the Nurse A, the one not just not hurting me but whose demeanor was so kind versus the anger of the other, if I could request that only she check me from now on. She wasn’t surprised and brought me a form to write my request and why I was making it. She didn’t say one negative thing about Nurse B but I just knew I wasn’t the first to feel that woman was abusing the lady bits.
I don’t know and frankly don’t care what Nurse B’s issue was but I didn’t see her again. After having a beautiful healthy baby naturally-fast again-I got a visit from a woman who asked if I would mind telling her about what happened with Nurse B, I don’t remember what department she was from but she had my written request. I told her what had happened and answered several questions she had. She was very respectful through out and apologized for what had happened. Nurses make such a difference to a patient’s experience. I’m so sorry you went through that.
I’m so sorry your went through this, I hope you complained about the nurses, I feel like this is some way to make a change for the nurses to get a scare and start doing their job properly!
I had an older midwife throw a cardboard sick bucket at my head! Me and my partner were so stunned, we didn't challenge her. If it was by mistake she should have apologised but she carried on being old fashioned, abrupt and taking to us like we were kids. We were in our 30s 🙄 it's never surprises me the horror stories about medical staff. I love to hear stories of health staff being amazing though and guess it kind of balances out the horror stories 😊
When my mum was pregnant with our youngest sibling. There was a young nurse that didn’t know my mum speaks English. Since we were talking in our native language. She talked with another nurse laughing about how my mum was too old to have a baby and how she’ll be considered a grandma instead of mother…my mum smiled and acted like she doesn’t understand English and asked in broken English what she was saying. The nurse smiled like it was nothing and said she was just saying how blessed my mum was. My mum then said oh I thought you were saying I was too old to have a baby and how I’d die before my son would graduate secondary. In perfect English, nurse was filed a complaint and my mum said people without compassion or at least know to not talk shit about people infront of them and racist. Should not be a nurse she’s in the wrong profession. Later when my mum had hemorrhage and was in the icu . I saw her twice, she wasn’t her nurse or anywhere near her but she wasn’t fired…😩😒
My mom told the family I stole money from her. No one bothered to look at the bank statements. I was on bed rest with workers comp and it was around the start of COVID and the first stimulus check was sent out. I NEVER stole shit. I was left hungry and homeless. My mom refused to help me because she assumed a male friend and I were romantically inclined (we weren't. He felt bad for me and was helping with car issues and trying to get me something to eat).
4 years later and my aunt is the only one who said something didn't seem right and invited me to her house. I told her what I've been through (with proof). At the time I got injured, I was working 3 jobs and totaled 20 hour DAYS, WORKING A MINIMUM of 6 days a week.
It's disgusting seeing what your family truly thinks of you when you need them the most. I was left hungry and homeless because of a lie.
With the second story. So not only did Nikki do this horrible thing, she only came clean 2 years later once thinking "Oh shit, what if someone did this to me?"
That level of only thinking of yourself if disgusting.
honestly i wouldnt blame op for doing the same shit to nikki (sans the drugging ofc)
My first question to the mom would be "did you slap the sh*t out of Nicky too?"
Period story: the mother let her daughter suffer for almost 2 decades and not only never took her to see a doctor, but also said she was overreactiong to miss school??? this must have been so traumatizing!
I wouldn’t go back to the fiancée because he believed the lie so easily. He broke her trust. Trust is the biggest thing in Marriage. So I wouldn’t date him at all. He is not trustworthy.
On the period story, the pain from having periods are soooo severe!! I also started at 9 and up until recently, my cramps were sooo painful! I couldn’t move or do anything for the first 3 days but sleep and my cycle would last for a full week. Op mom should’ve done her due diligence and took her daughter to get checked
Same! Thought it was endometriosis but I later learned I have two uteruses, hence the heavy painful periods.
@@dharmawannab omg 2 of them?! How is that possible?
So true, I was the same with my cramps until I found a birth control that worked for me. Which it turns out is the IUD and haven't had a period in almost 10 years because every other one I tried only made my cramps worse. Turns out it is because I'm allergic to them.
I started at 10. By the time I got my hysterectomy I was having 2 periods a month and they sometimes lasted as much as two weeks, with only a day or two in between periods. The endo was so bad they just shook their heads.
Yeah I had the same when I was a teen, extreme pain and I went to my doctor and she was like yeah that’s normal and I was asking for some pain relief and she said take three Panadols. She wouldn’t listen to my symptoms, I was having very irregular periods, 2 a month or one for 2 weeks or not having one for 3 months. I finally found a doctor who listened to me and I got diagnosed with PCOS and endometriosis. Atm I haven’t had a period for almost a year, after my last surgery. I tried all the contraceptives to help the pain but the marina and the one put in the arm made me bleed every day till it got taken out and then even when I was taking the pill I would get a period during my active pills and no period on the sugar pills where I was supposed to get my period and then no period at all at times. I was told that it doesn’t matter if I don’t get a period that it’s not necessary and it’s been great hahaha I get a bit of spotting sometimes but that’s all 😅
The woman inherited more money than she could earn working so leaving work is a no brainier the husband is just jealous 😂
The abusive nurse made me so mad!
I remember when I was about 18 I went to Gyno for a checkup with my mom, we had scheduled our appointments at the same time just to make it easier. While giving blood for a routine std check, I told the nurse which arm was best and where, which i know from donating blood 10+ times. The nurse had the audacity to laugh and then insinuate that I don’t give blood, but I inject drugs. I was FURIOUS. When she finally poked me where I told her to (because she wasn’t listening to me so she had to try a couple different times) my blood pressure was so high the blood was squirting like nuts into the vile.
After she was done I broke down into tears and told my mom what happened. I was just bawling in the waiting room which drew the attention of the office manager and she asked what happened, so I told her too.
I remember on the way home in the car with my mom she told me that while she was in her own exam, the doctor had made a comment about her “boney chest” which had hurt her feelings as well. And she’s so stoic, I was thinking “what the fuck?”
We obviously NEVER went back to this place. Healthcare providers need to be careful about what they say, it can really traumatize a person.
Heard the 2nd story on another channel, spoilers.
The sister admitted to OP that she offed a baby. This story makes my fears of pregnancy and birth and medical staff and procedures even worse. Last year I had a miscarriage and bc of the hospitals lingering covid restrictions my partner couldn't be in the room with me. The nurses (one older nurse in particular) were so cruel to me. I was already going through so much and then they seemed to torture me. The ultrasound nurse was super nice and gentle so it was all bad. But to think having a nurse like OPs sister I'd horrifying for anyone let alone someone like me that already had anxiety about all of it. If you're a nurse, please be kind, please don't judge and please be gentle. Also if you don't like people and can't handle them in their most vulnerable and scared, PLEASE don't become a nurse.
I’m so sorry you had to go through all that! I hope you have a better future experience with medical staff!!!
I'm so sorry you had to go through this.
I'm so sorry for your loss, I had a miscarriage a few years ago but I had kind nurses. Thank god, I can't imagine that and am so sorry!!
Did the OP call the police ? How is the sister not in jail??????
She needs to be in jail!!!
@@bbopamnnnoymous thank you and I'm sorry for your loss as well.
Idk how the sister isn't in jail. Maybe it's a matter of not enough evidence to convict.
I’m so sorry you lost you baby and went through this, you should make a complaint against the nurses you had during your miscarriage because that’s horrible. You need to be comforted during this and you got the opposite treatment 😢
Hi, healthcare, that sister deserved to be fired, its very much against ethics to treat patients like that regardless of her stress. F that b
As an almost 30 year old who still watches cartoons, Op's boyfriend, his friends and her cousin can go sit on a cactus. Op can do so much better than that AH. My fiancé watches them with me, he'd never mock me for watching them.
Definitely not. Big chance fiancée started catching feelings for OP’s sister with all the time he spent ‘helping her’ with her probs. Also same goes for OP’s sister. She most likely liked OP’s fiancé so she did all that to try and get with him.
The roommate cutting the hair technically assaulted the girl first by cutting her hair. You can not do that to someone just cause your mad they asked you to pay your part of rent. Not only that she lied and said she was going to braid her hair and then cuts this girls hair and I’m sure the girl had no idea what was going on when she slapped her hand and that she slapped her hand because the sound of the scissors scared her and she just reacted. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. OP hopefully didn’t get in trouble for this because she didn’t do anything wrong legally.
Edit to add: just listened to the rest of the updates for that story and wow. At least she did get in trouble.
I have a drug addicted sibling and everyone knows what a liar she is. Not one of them let her explain herself! What happened to her was criminal if the guy actually had sex with her
They never tell what the disability is…except for that one time the guy was diagnosed as anemic and claimed it as a disability 🤦🏾♀️😭🤣
I started gaining weight with my first child of course. I needed to wear maturity clothes. My boss wasn’t happy. He asked if I really needed to wear maternity clothes.
🤦
With the “traditional surrogate” story, I’m confused how the WIFE is getting her egg in the sister in order for it to be her biological baby too, since that seems so important to them 😅 You need a doctor in order to get the egg from the mother from what I understand and they aren’t doing that. After going through so much and wanting her own baby, she would feel absolutely horrible having a baby that still isn’t actually hers biologically, but instead it’s her sister’s and husband’s baby (which would also constantly remind her that her husband had sex with her sister). That’s such an absurdly crazy story 😅
Also confused since they clearly have the money for an actual surrogate - why are they so desperate for the sister to do it?? Seems like something’s wrong in that relationship 😅
Yeahh I vaguely remember this story from reddit reading channels and I'm pretty sure it's more an excuse for the husband to f*ck his young sister in law
Exactly
Because the husband just really wants to f the sister.
The OP mentioned at the begining that the sister had histerectomy due to endometriosis.
The sister also had multiple miscarrieges prior to her surgery.
So basically she doesn't have anymore equipement.
It's a good way to hide the fact BIL wants to bang her sister and she will let him so he and his money stays
The story about the 7 year old "cheater" really grosses me out. The purpose of dating is to find a potential sexual/life partner. No 7 year old is mature enough to understand that. For the adults to project that sense of sexual maturity onto these kids and perceive it as normal is terrifying.
Though, I will admit that I may be letting my own messed up childhood color this story.
I have a sister just like Nicky. She has completely destroyed my relationships with everyone in my family because for some crazy reason, they all believe her insane lies. And when I say insane lies, I mean REALLY insane lies - things that any rational human being wouldn't believe (for example, she's told them that I am a devil worshipper and that one time I screamed at her and threw a satanic bible onto the hood of her car. 1) Anyone who knows me knows that I don't scream and 2) I don't even know what a satanic bible looks like, let alone ever held one.
So for my entire life, I had to struggle without ANY help or even emotional support from anyone (including my parents) and as a result, I was diagnosed with PTSD 2 years ago. You don't realize how awful and scary life is when you have absolutely NO ONE standing by you as a support system. She used to do the same thing when I was a kid - every time I made a friend, she'd make up some crazy lies about me so that they'd stop being my friend, so that I'd be totally alone and I was. She's 5 years older than me, so we're talking about her doing this when I was 6 years old until I moved away from my mother's and went to live with my father. I had NO friends because she would always tell them lies. And if they wouldn't stop being my friend when she told them lies, she'd threaten to beat them up and that did the trick (she was kicked out of 2 high schools for beating up kids).
As someone who's gone through it, I think the OP of that story needs to let them all go. I've forgiven my family several times, despite them never apologizing (they all tell me that I should let it go, even though my sister continues to say horrible things), and they all just do it again over and over. Finally, at 52 years old, I've let them go and I have no contact with any of them; I couldn't be more relieved. OP will never feel safe with any of them again, including her fiancee - she will always feel deep inside like his allegiance is with Nicky and like she can't trust him. I know it hurts, but she needs to cut her losses and move on.
I'm so sorry that you had to go through all of that. It sounds terribly isolating. Best of luck to you in your future endeavors.
Massage therapist here. The MT is not the a-hole here. Many massage positions/types require a horizontal/relaxed posture and aren't possible/safe for the therapist to do from a standing position for the necessary length of time. Also even with a waiver many insurance companies will refuse to cover lawsuits if the client is injured when you are operating outside of either standard safety practices, or beyond safety limits.
This i came to say.
When I was pregnant with our second, I was almost 30, married for 6 years, and looked surprisingly young at the time. When I was at work, one of my customers walked in, she saw my very pregnant belly and demanded to know if I “knew how that happened” and I was so stunned it took me a moment. I laughed it off and told her that this was mine and my husbands second kid. She said that didn’t answer her question and again asked if I knew how it happened. The owner just happened to be standing there and heard the whole thing and asked me if I wanted to ban the lady after her lecture and she left.
I'm so glad the evil nurse/sister lost her job.
I gave birth recently and all the nurses were absolutely lovely (including the one i randomly lied to about being left handed)
I can't imagine how traumatizing it would have been to have this evil woman in the delivery room.
With the last story it was perfectly reasonable to deny service. During the massage op would have had to put their weight into the massage which could have put the total weight over the limit. The op probably wasn’t allowed to put the lady on the floor to do the massage because of sanitary and liability reasons. The last thing they’d want in that situation is to have her review them saying “they said I was to heavy for the table so they had me lay on the uncomfortable floor” or something.
I totally agree about the additional weight/pressure OP needing to apply being the issue for using the table. It sounds like OP does swedish massage... It's too bad she wasn't trained in Shiatsu (acupressure massage, focusing on applying pressure perpendicular to the body), as that's normally done on a mat on the floor. The client's size would admittedly have made it difficult for OP to assume some of the usual positions, though, such as with one knee on the floor, and the other foot on the other side of the client, to allow the practitioner to sink his/her body weight into their hands, then into the client's body.
Well, since you asked--
I've had crazy periods since I was 11yrs old. My first period lasted a year long, stopped for a week then lasted 3 years. I was anemic, constantly dizzy and was in incredible pain for most of those years. When I was 17 my mom FINALLY let me go to a gyno where I was diagnosed with PCOS. They put me on birth control, but the pills made me vomit and I was still dealing with the dizziness. Years later and I'm still dealing with it since my doctor refused to remove my uterus because I have had TWO CHILDREN YET. Tell me doc, how the hell do I have children if my uterine lining keeps shedding without pause.
Since you asked. You're welcome.
I have adenomyosis and I also had to fight for a diagnosis and fight even harder to finally be offered surgery. Don’t lose hope 💕
They really hate us women in this world. Hell our own bodies hate us.
Her decision of forgiveness to family and x-fiance depends on when the NASTYASS sister divulged her LIE to them and how long in between they took to find and speak with her. I would consider the fiance MAYBE but as far as her family members go😬yikes! I would not forgive her family because they disowned her literally they didn't stop talking for 6 months they DISOWNED HER!! You have serial killers and murderers out there that parents still talk to them and she was disowned for "cheating"! Thats a hard NO as a matter of fact her parents need to disown that a-hole kid that started all of this!
There was a final update where the dad went to visit OP in her apartment. Turns out the family was thinking of letting her move in and mom lied about throwing out OP’s stuff. She also said she would let OP back after the family holiday but when no one found her, she said “if she doesn’t want to be found she doesn’t have to be in the family”. The dad however was genuinely guilty and regrets not trying to find OP. It’s the mom that is constantly defending Nicky and acting like she’s a victim because she has drug abuse problems. OP also was able to get in contact with Nicky’s husband and told her about how she ruined her life and her husband wasn’t surprised. Turns out Nicky was spreading lies about her husband’s sister to distance her away from her husband, and it was causing problems in their marriage. I sounded like husband was going to confront Nicky for being a lying now that OP basically confirmed his suspicions by telling him her experience with Nicky. Looks like Nicky is going to experience having her marriage destroyed by her sister and for the right reasons.
I'm pretty sure dad also ended up divorcing mom and OP is trying to fix her relationship with her dad. But she's gone NC with her mom and Nicky. Good riddance to bad rubbage.
Te inheritance husband OP really riled me up when he referred to any disability as "minor". Like dude. Who are you to decide if her condition is minor.
#3 EVERYONE gets disowned, the Mom, the fiance, the grandparents, Everyone. Allegedly cheating on a fiance does not warrant abandoning that family member! Being pissed and disappointed, sure. But nobody spoke to her for TWO YEARS! It sounds like Nikki (or possibly someone else at the club) drugged OP. Then Nikki probably bribed her friend to take OP back to his place while Nikki took a photo of them leaving together. OP could have been raped or sexually assaulted by that guy and nobody gave a shit!! I'm so mad at this family and I pray OP is in therapy, has some really good friends around her, and moves on from all those POS people. Oh and Nikki belongs in hell, what she did should be a crime punishable by jail time. So beyond fucked up, and watch I bet they didn't disown Nikki the way they disowned OP -_-
I wouldn't look back, they disowned her on the words of others. Which means the word of others will always be more valued than her's. That's a life of mental limbo no one should be expected to endure.
Fun fact the crazy injecting nurse thing actually happened multiple different times I remember one being a serial killer
When I was single and at uni I shared my house with my best friend's sister who was pregnant without a committed partner and wanted to be near her sister who lived around the corner from my house. All good. We enjoyed a few great months together however a few months later my boyfriend proposed to me and I eventually plucked up courage that she would need to move out when we got married but had several months to find somewhere else. A few weeks later my fiance and I went to London for the weekend. When we got back we discovered she had moved out, taking most of my possessions with her! I had no idea what to do so I called her sister and told her what had happened. An hour later there was a knock at the door and both sister were there carrying big boxes of my stuff. I was embarrassed and hurt and started to say that I was disappointed in her when she put the box down on the floor, stepped forward and PUNCHED ME IN THE FACE! she ran out of the house, her sister went after her, and I never saw her again. Her sister stayed friends with me and was horrified at her behaviour. Much later I remembered how a bespoke gold ring my mother had made for me before she died had disappeared when she first moved in....but too late to do anything. Needless to say, I've never shared since.
Ok, about periods, yes, they can be that bad. Mine are so heavy that my lips will turn a pale blue. Every movement will cause a feeling of gushing as blood pours out. My pain isn't as horrible as some experience but coupled with the other symptoms and weakness I have I'm pretty much bed ridden. I can't leave my apartment as I bleed through my period products too quickly that I have leaks on my clothing. I just curl up at home. When I worked in an office I would have to just take sick time or vacation or as inevitably happened take the pay loss when I ran out of days. Now I work from home so I legit work with puppy pads under my butt so I don't ruin my furniture when I have to work. Periods SUCK and I hate them.
My auntie is the head midwife at the hospital near where I live and she would never speak about patients like this. This is disgusting and I have no idea how she ended up in a job like this. I’ve always said that when you want to do a degree in a care job I think you should be vetting in some way to see if you are even the type of person for this job.
It’s sounds like endometriosis
That nurse must be the one that helped my baby cousin deliver 🤦🏻♀️ (my baby cousin got taken advantage of by a 21 yr old when she was 14) poor baby was scared to death to give birth because she is extremely petite and they made her do natural birth and we were on the phone with her through it all and one nurse was absolutely hateful and rude with her and all I can remember her clearly saying was "they don't call it labor for no reason you should have thought about that" 😡🤦🏻♀️
Please tell me y’all got that 21 y:o pervert predator put in prison?!
21 y/o and a 14 y/o is RAPE/SA not taken advantage of
i just watched the video with the L&D nurse sister last night and was gonna comment, but even if it may seem gross, most people will poop when giving birth. what do you think they’re doing when the doctor says to push? that’s usually why you can’t eat anything before/during labour, but yeah giving birth is gross. that said, i will never ever fucking give birth if i can have any say in it.
I wouldn't say most, but it is common. It wouldn't be "on the table," though. The bottom of the bed is removable for the pushing stage. They lay out plastic on the floor and have a plastic bag to put all the used gauze and various other items. If she poops while pushing, it goes in the bag. The doctors have seen it all, and they don't care. They won't even mention it. You're not going to end up with your baby landing in poop.
Yes for most of that, but not the eating/ drinking part. Most places now encourage labouring mothers to eat if they feel like it, as the old advice to avoid food/ drink was in case you need an emergency caeser, you will require some form of anaesthesia. When you're having a surgery and going under general anaesthesia, they will cancel the surgery if you've eaten, so you don't risk aspirating on the table. Emergency caesers, however, are often done with a spinal tap (blocks the pain and hot/cold nerves, but not the pressure sensing nerves) and are rarely done under general anaesthesia. Even then, the risk of aspiration is 7/1000000. Given that labour can take days in some cases (or just minutes in others), the advice now is just to eat as much/ often as you need.
The story of the young woman with heavy periods reminds me of the situation I was in several years ago.
My periods had always been heavy and painful, I just thought that was normal and learned to cope with it. As time went on they got heavier and more painful. I gritted my teeth through it all. Then I woke up in the middle of the night with pain so bad I was almost puking and I was having severe bleeding. A very painful trip to the ER later discovered several fibroid tumors. Fibroids are benign, but they will cause my symptoms. I had to wait a month to see a doctor and I was on pain meds the entire time and could not work. Between the meds, the pain, and the anemia the situation was causing. I was having near constant, heavy periods.
I was given the same surgery options and also wanted to live so I opted for the hysterectomy.
During the surgery the doctor found I had endometriosis on top of the fibroids (largest one was the size of a golf ball).
Mother is TA. No question.
So like since she's a nurse then she should know defication is one of the most common things to happen when pushing a baby out
I’m sorry but I’d sell his car and make him pay rent to sleep in my house!!!!!
The 7 year old “cheater” story is insane. Kids at that age are still learning how to empathize with others. IMO they need to have conversations, not punishments. Not only are this dad’s expectations developmentally inappropriate, but he’s missing the chance to develop a closer relationship with his daughter by showing her that he is a kind, caring person who believes that she is also kind and caring, that he wants to help her be her best. He could be showing her that their relationship is a “safe space” for her as she grows up and needs or wants more guidance in higher stakes situations. Oh well. 😣
Unfortunately, the tearing is more than true... I did exactly that, but luckily, I had a great doctor! You can't even tell it happened or that I ever had stitches! Crazy part though is that it is just the tip of the ice burg. There is so much more that does/could happen.. but not gonna lie. This dude sounds like a freaking creep! The sister is just as bad as she wants it to happen!! Wtf!? I couldn't go through with that. Giving birth to my neice?? Lord have mercy...
Yep!! Third degree tearing sucked, especially if you happen to catch a bad cold and cough all your stitches out a week later 😭 then you gotta wait for it to heal completely and get reconstruction surgery later.
No one really warns you about those kinds of possibilities, they gloss over it with the warm fuzzies of motherhood.
@Kitty Hill you aren't kidding! Omg I didn't have it that bad, but mine caught on everything... and don't get me started on the hemroids 💀 (and men think they could do it/ we play it up🤣). I wouldn't trade my babies for anything, but Lord have mercy! I've heard in Europe that they don't get the joke about peeing a little when you laugh because they actually have physical therapy for that area after birth that is included with child birth care!
I had a roommate that threatened my life because a guy she liked, liked me. It was one of those young adult residential therapy places and they didn’t care about her threats. So I was supposed to sleep in the same room as her. I managed to be stubborn enough to sleep in the living room of our apartment instead of our bedroom. Pissed me off.
The horror of working 36 hours a week hes just so over worked
Wife inheritance story - one thing that you didn't consider - once she spent the money purchasing their home and what I assume are joint investments - marital property - if they divorced he would be entitled to take half -- he wins she loses (correct me if I am wrong anybody but I do believe that is how it works in my area). She would not be able to recoup any of those funds and may in fact be forced to "purchase" half the house to buy him out. That's why... be cautious with what you do with an inheritance - as long as it is kept separate it remains yours once it becomes joint property say bye bye. He is a jerk. I get he doesn't want to work - be nice if you didn't have to.. but let's not forget she is a stay-at-home mom.. that is work by the way.. she isn't laying by the pool sipping drinks for god's sake. She is contributing by providing superior care for their child - avoiding the costs of daycare and strangers raising said child. Man up hubby - you come off like a toddler who wants to take his ball home cause his friends don't want to play his game. Enjoy the fact that you have a lot less stress having been saved from paying for MAJOR life expenses. If you are too cheap to fund the family's daily expenses after she has shelled out 10s of thousands of dollars ... pie is in your face not hers.
Yep, co-mingling generally makes the funds joint property. In my state, there are instances where you can claim those funds, but only if it's very obvious where the funds went. If she got 50k and immediately used it to buy a car outright and only her name was on the title, she might be able to get the car assigned to her without paying him half the value, but the longer the money is in a joint account the less likely that would work because he could make the claim that since some of his paychecks were also in the account, there's no way to know whether the funds for the car were hers or theirs. If his name is on the deed to the house, it's absolutely joint property.
I would've called CPS on those screaming kids, especially since the dad had such a strong reaction to OP I can't imagine how he'd treat his kids that annoy him
If they can afford to pay the sister,they can afford the medical intervention. Makes me wonder if they'll pay everything they promised.
I refreshed at 4 56 3 times you guys got me 😂
ALSO ITS SUPER NORMAL TO POOP WHILE GIVING BIRTH. Most nurses don’t even tell you, and just clean it up very quickly. It even helps the baby get more immunity. It’s super normal ladies and gentlemen!!
OP on the surrogacy post updated after a while. Unfortunately, Ben SA'd OP. Luckily she has been able to escape that situation and relocate but seems to have lost her family.
By any chance do you know what the update is called/where to find it. I’ve been curious about what happened
With the sister nicky story i would be tempted to go to the family house slap tje mom in the face, tell them theyre all dead to me, then walk out. If they want to salvage oir relationship they gotta put in all the work. Since wasnt allowed to explain what happened in 2 years
Make the mom a surogate for the child if she wants to preserve the bloodline 😂
That's so crazy cause I think that Layla's dad is cheating too! He's TOTALLY projecting on his wife and daughter! Such a weird reaction.
None of them deserve the girl with the sister Nikki
(47:13) NOT the asshole. The fact that the mother immediately started telling every member of the family that would listen, an OBVIOUSLY one-sided version of the situation that made her own daughter look like a b-word to their family……gossiping is gross, but a mother gossiping about her child….just…it’s so…nope, I’m too angry for words.
2nd story has so many layers. 1st the fiance needed to listen to her and discusss what happened, that relationship was doomed from the start if there is not even a tiny bit of trust. If something like that happened to me i cant imagine my husband just leaving me in an instant he would trust me enough to atleast let me explain.
2. If the other guy is saying they slept together multiple times and she said she was intoxicated i would have told the guy cool, mate i didnt consent to this, i was clearly beyond my senses. I am reporting you for rape and going to the hospital to get a rape kit done... everything should have come right pretty quick.
Fuck that sister, fuck that family and NEVER fuck that fiance you are better off without them!!
I've had a really bad period before. One time I have it for 2 months straight. It was horrible. I had to take a lot of iron supplements during that time. It only stopped due to birth control. Periods suck. And they can be super painful
I’m posting late so you may not see this; Evil Nurse Story; I’m a chronically ill woman. I have two children. Throughout my life I’ve had to seek medical attention more than most people because I was born with malformed kidneys, undersized ureters (tubes from kidneys to bladder) and that caused kidney infections and stones which are very painful. The first time I had stones I was 15, at the E.R. I was accused of premarital sex, and misdiagnosed with chlamydia or an “unspecified pelvic infection “, and sent home to pass kidney stones alone and unaided. You see, when I was 13 I ran away from home after my mother almost killed me, and the police did nothing. It was 1982 and the police told me “This is a family issue. We don’t interfere. Just try to avoid your mom.” My parents were one of two wealthy families in a small Oregon town. Anyway…over the years I’ve had sooo many wonderful, kind, patient, smart, funny, dedicated nurses. However, any long-term patient has an “evil nurse” story, and the chronically ill have DOZENS. There are always bad people out there. Mostly good people in the world, and even higher concentrations in service careers like nursing, but a few bad apples exist in every group. In medical settings, however, those bad apples are in a position to do so much more harm than say, an evil janitor, an evil librarian or an evil IT tech support guy. When a person is in the hospital, they are in a helpless, terrified state. They are vulnerable, and the people they come into contact with have a greater impact than more mundane kinds of interactions. This person in touching you, injecting you, seeing you naked and sick and in pain. It is also important to note that in some cases the nurse is literally in the position to make a mistake that could kill you. I have suffered medical trauma at the hands of a few really bad nurses. Funny, I only ever reported two of them. The result of trauma at the hands of medical professionals for me has been a dread of seeking medical care. You may see why this is dangerous.
Edit: You can see that I was ‘triggered’ by a few of these stories.
Cartoon hating ex-boyfriend; I’m a 54 yr old woman. I’m a cool old lady too, I have tattooed sleeves. I was a punk rocker in the early 80’s, a bat caver in the late 80’s (now called ‘goth’) a dreaded hippy in the early 90’s and then just a cool mother of two. I WATCH CARTOONS. Life is hard, get your joy where you find it. I loved Heavy Metal. It came out when I was just getting into music on my own, leaving my mother’s Cat Stevens, Joni Mitchell and America. (My cousin gave me Iron Maiden’s Run For The Hills for my 13th birthday in 1982.) I fell in love with all the animated fun from The Simpsons and South Park, to Family Guy, American Dad, et al…and on another front, all the amazing Japanese animation Howl’s Moving Castle, Princess Mononoke, My Neighbor Totoro and everything else Ghibli Studios produced. Beautiful classics like Grave of the Fireflies or Iron Giant, the list goes on and on…SO all I can say to the jerk who embarrassed the woman he was dating just because she enjoys classic animation, Grow the fuck up, chump. Adults have diverse interests, and we often have nostalgia for our childhoods. You’re the child in that situation.
Can confirm, periods get THAT BAD. I would have to be off school for days and would be in the worst pain for 3 days straight. Couldn’t wear tampons and had to change my pads (which were the most absorbent ones I could find) literally every hour. This all changed after I had my son and even more when I went on birth control (I have the implant in my arm). I didn’t have a period for 2 years and then it slowly started coming back. Now, I get it every month, where as before I would only get it randomly. No cramping, but I still do bleed A LOT in the first few days. Not as much as before but I do have to change the highest absorbent tampons like every 2 hours.
Forget the hospital, nurses, and doctors, and get a midwife. Both of my nieces and my baby cousin who was born yesterday were delivered by midwives and all 3 times they had a wonderful experience in their own homes. Not to mention the amount of money you save and not being exposed to things like Staff disease, which my grandfather contracted at the hospital is completely worth it.
Story 2. Cut them all out. They weren't willing to hear her side because of her sisters manipulation and disgusting behaviour, they showed their true colours that they were willing to disown her over it, same goes both ways. How dare they.
Don't forgive anyone, keep your new life. I would have pressed charges on the sister and friend.
Hey guys, as mentioned in the one story, periods can b absolutely killers. I’ve been on birth control for about 3 years now to help regulate mine and I wouldn’t go back. I used to not be able to function when I’d have mine, and it would often leave me unable to move most days from the pain. Not to mention as well, I’d go through at least 2 packs of tampons per cycle which is rather expensive. And yes, my periods were like the shining scene u mentioned.
Hi hunny, i am sorry to hear you have pains.
I have them too,also,unable to move or stuff (hubby calls me old lady when i dare go to the toilet-takes me about 3 mins one way,for a 5 meters walk 🙄).
As for the tampons...i started using a period cup,and it has changed my life.
I dunno if is true what they say,that there are chemicals in the tampons and can unbalance your hormones,but i can tell you that my period regulated almost to the day,in the 5 years since i have started using my cup,plus i think the pain is less severe...ohh,there is still pain,mind you,but i really think is less severe. Or maybe is a mind trick.
I think there is also less bleeding,or is more concentrated on the first 3 days (7 days period 🤚),or again,maybe is a mind trick,since you know...cup,instead of a wastebasket full of tampons glaring back at you 😂
Anyways,give it a try.
I watched lots of youtube videos before deciding which one would be the right one for me,so i would advise you to do the same,since there are multiple models 😊
Also,have your gyn check you for endometriosys.
@@dianamihai2817 thank you so much for the tips! Sending love! ❤️
Knowing what can happen to the body during pregnancy makes me want to avoid pregnancy xD
"Do periods get that bad?" My last period nearly killed me :D !
Did anyone else think of The Handmaids Tale when natural conception was mentioned!!
I relate to the lady with the terrible periods. Except, my parents always believed me because i’d also throw up from the pain. I’ve taken meds for years
Disabled wife story. Husband sounds like my fiance. Soon to be ex fiance. Lol 😅
If her disability isn't a serious one which sounds like it wasn't since she made more money than him, then she's the asshole. He's thinking long term with not just spending money just because she inherited alot, if anything she's wrong because if she still had a job but just got less hours I guarantee there would be no issue. She'd have more time at home while still providing little income. Inheritance don't last forever, money will run out
43:23 Yes, I can definitely confirm periods can get that bad. I remember I had a hormonal issue where my period stopped for a while and I needed to be put on the pill to hopefully help jumpstart my system again. Well, it worked, but after months and months of not having a period? Well let’s just say I did a lot of curling up in a ball and whining with a heat pad wrapped around my core and ice on my head. It was a nightmare, and only barely got better the next month.
19:20 OP could have gotten a drug test ffor Rape drugs the day after.. It would've still been in her system, and she would've been able to proove her innocence. and after that she should have scolded everyone around her!
For the periods thing, there have been multiple times where I have had cramps so bad I have just fallen over like I’m in a cartoon and can’t get up😂
And that sisters behavior honestly made me wonder if she let her neglectful behavior with her patients contributed to the baby passing. Thank god they fired her when they did!
The first story happened to me, but it was my mom and her boyfriend...
I was a teen at the time so this was someone that was supposed to be my "step-dad".
My mom and her bf of 2 years wanted a "fix the relationship" kid. My mom offered me "a couple hundred dollars" to get pregnant and let them adopt the kid. When I told her I wouldn't and me and my high-school bf were intimate in that way, she tried to tell me to just "do it" anyway and sabotage any birth control so he'd be none the wiser about me trying to conceive.
When I said no again she agreed.... because it would be better if it were her bfs biological child so he couldn't leave her without financial compensation.