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Story 1: Let me tell you what happened. Friend and wife have a flirtation behind husband's back and they ask for a poly relationship. While dude was gone, the friend and the wife have a conversation where he says he just wants her and she says she's not leaving her husband and she thought they agreed to be poly. He says no, they get into it, and he leaves. Now that he's gone she's left with the husband. Since she doesn't want to lose him too, she gets all "change of heart" and says she loves him and doesn't wanna do poly cuz it's not worth possibly losing him and wants to do counseling. Cuz anytime someone blindsided their spouse with "let's be poly", then change their mind, it's always cuz things fell through with the other person.
Pls read the top comments on the stories
@@Raraking4796q
For the high school promposal: this happened to me! I was asked to prom by a high needs autistic classmate. I was dating someone at the time, so I politely turned him down. He was really bummed, as he’d mustered up a lot of courage to ask me. So, I found him the next day and invited him to be in our prom group. I couldn’t go with him, but I wanted to make sure he had a good time. We met with his parents beforehand to make sure he had everything he needed, and he ended up asking a close girl friend of his as his date. We rented a limo and everything, it was a blast!🖤
What a wonderful solution! 🩷
You are a wonderful human, you did such a kind thing for someone. Not a lot of people would have considered or even thought of doing that. I have an autistic cousin and hearing this made my heart happy. ❤️
Beautiful! This makes my heart smile! ❤
Awwww ❤❤❤ PERFECT ❤❤❤
You’re a thoughtful caring person! Perfect outcome for ALL! 👏🏻❤️👏🏻
As someone who's polyamorous I say leave her. OP and wife *clearly* had a monogamous relationship and for her to disrespect that is unforgivable. What happened here was no different than cheating even if friend *and* wife are polyamorous. Also, a *real* polyamorous relationship *always* has the consent of all people. It wouldn't be considered a poly famy anyway because OP is not ok with it!
Facts. They had an emotional affair. Wife only changed her mind cuz things fell through with the friend.
Isn't what they did literally asking for consent? You don't get to decide feelings, you DO decide what you do about them. She was not disrespectful in the slightest and no cheating occurred. Gate keeping polyam isn't the flex here.
@@kellevichywell first off you ask before u get serious in the relationship and if you didn’t know that’s something you would like and end up asking during the relationship, you don’t ask for it with your boyfriend/husbands BEST FRIEND
I think that’s the part that makes her the asshole in my mind because she definitely crossed a big line when she asked to be in a relationship WITH HER HUSBANDS BESTFRIEND
@@kellevichyYeah, because telling your husband and best friend that you at least emotionally cheated with each other (and very likely physically too, since I don't believe a ward those two scambags are saying) and now want to live as "big happy poly family" is so nice to do. I'm not poly but I believe you have this discussion at the beginning of a relationship when you both are establishing your expectations, not when you were living in established monogamous relationship for years, but somebody comes along that you want to f*ck and don't feel guilty that you cheated on your husband. Also if you think this is okay, better think again because from all stories I hard springing at someone poly relationship out of the blue, because you couldn't keep it in your pants is the easiest way to break up. One last thing, this is not "gatekeeping" it is being a decent human being, you should try it sometime.
Public proposals are manipulative, ESPECIALLY if you don't know what the answer is going to be. She doesn't get a pass for being manipulative by making a big public proposal to someone she wasn't in a relationship with just because she's disabled. She put him in a position where he either said yes, or got blasted online. I feel so bad for that kid. It is his prom too and he shouldn't sacrifice it for some girl just because she's disabled.
I agree that she was manipulative i would be so upset if that was me. Disabled people are generally handled with kid gloves and get extra nice treatment from everyone especially nowadays, people bend backwards to please them. The boy did the best he could toward a person that probably never heard no from anyone and the a-holes that enabled her to make that ridiculous proposal. The aide that shamed the kid was an A as well.
Some disabled people can be so entitled and self-centered sometimes, because many of them are used to having other people's lives revolving around them. That girl is a manipulative asshole. No debate about that.
The teachers and her aids should have stepped in and let that boy know what was gonna happen, and this is on the people around her for not feeling him in. It is not fair for him to sacrifice something that he is looking forward to a lot because somebody blindsided him and he doesn’t wanna get abused and me to look like an asshole. The adults are the asshole in the situation. He did everything 1000% right to save her embarrassment.
mhmh, i felt like calling him an asshole would be sexual harassment at this point. Like, forcing someone to go on a date? He literally chose the best possible way to reject her, so there can be no way that he's an asshole.
Coming from someone with a disability. Idk her level of disability and wonder she was encouraged to do it. But op is definitely NTA.
Bullies seem to forget that it messed up that person for life, nobody forgets the tournament someone did to them. Just because it’s in their past doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be punished. Also she was only going to apologize to get the job, not because she felt bad. She did not care, deserved her life to crash down not only because of her past but you can just tell she is STILL a terrible person.
She just wanted to throw herself a pity party; she took no culpability and hasn't changed. It's pretty obvious that she hasn't grown as a person, and I think "Rockstar" knew that and didn't want to work with her. Because why would you want to work with someone who doesn't take responsibility for their behavior? It might not even be about revenge necessarily. It's a nightmare to work with people like OP.
It may be in the bully’s past but that doesn’t mean the victim has moved on.
Not to mention it’s only been three years, she bullied at 17 and is now 20 what character change could you possibly have in that little time. Like if it was 25 years later I could at least understand giving them a chance but 3??? She can’t call herself a “stupid kid back then” it was practically no time ago
Homeboy chose to go to the homeless shelter. OP told him to move to a different bedroom. That’s it
Heartbreak and depression. Theres very limited times where the logic completely checks out
I agree. Plus, OP had just lost his mom. That's not the time to push boundaries. Stepdad was TAH all along, IMHO
The guy who raised a kid for *18 years* and then dropped him in an instant because of a DNA test is an AH. WTF.
The brother that gave the gaming system to his child after his nephew broke his son's without a care - plus his sister responded as if it were nothing - YOU WERE RIGHT to do what you did. I wish I could have done that. My son had a friend in preschool until second grade. I ended the relationship because my son's friend broke things on purpose (always important items like a metal tricycle for little girl that was handed down; my son's absolute favorite toy; and my younger's son small guitar that my sister gave him mere moments before. These were the last straws.) Apparently "he liked to test the limits of things" and mom didn't care. I couldn't replace any of these items and the mom didn't because she couldn't see he did anything wrong. Your nephew needs to learn that destruction is not okay. Anyone willing to call or text you should be hit full force with the complete story.
The bullying story: At 17 you know better. Bullying causes so much pain to people and at 17, it definitely should be common sense that bullying is wrong. 17 year olds bully because they think it won't affect them. Sucks to suck for the OP.
I will say the other parts of the story were totally not deserved tho. Like, the boyfriend was a complete scumbag. Which did affect her ability to work her previous job. (Tho after a day or mayyyybe two, I woulda forced myself out of bed to go to work.)
@@awheckitsgoldie maybe she should apologize just for the bullying, without begging for work. She sounds like she would do it just to get the job which seems really dishonest.
I think it would make her world easier.
The brain isn't even fully developed at 17. Yes, OP was a bitch, but this is way too far, even for cosmic karma. Rock Star became a thriving adult, so it isn't like her life was in shambles.
If it turns out OP un-alived herself, ngl, gonna blame the Rock Star a little.
@@redfish3858 OP wasn't even really bothered by her past. She just wanted to apologize to get the job. She never really changed in my opinion. In the end she blamed Rock Star for her problems anyways. Abuse never ended.
Just because someone was successful doesn't mean the abuse wasn't true or bad. OP needs help but it is sure her fault for putting herself in the situation with job. The rest is unfortunate.
@@redfish3858 Brain isn't developed till 25 btw. It doesn't mean people can't see right from wrong before that.
Eh the high school promposal: Feeling embarrassed is a big deal to kids. HS is the worst. OP is NTA. But no one is the ahole here. It wasn’t wrong for the girl to arrange a promposal bc it’s a normal thing kids do. It wasn’t wrong for op to feel embarrassed or to not handle the situation perfectly in the moment. It was okay for him to be honest with her and admit his mistake. It is okay for the girl to be disappointed and feel embarrassed and hurt. Crying isn’t unreasonable. She’s still a kid. Yeah they are about to graduate, but they have zero real world experience. This was a lesson in resilience, respect, integrity, rejection, and putting yourself out there.
Well said tbh
Agreed. It’s just an unfortunate situation and part of growing up. Honestly it was handled as good as it could and he treated her with respect and had her feelings into consideration each step of the way. There was no intent to harm her and thus he can’t be looked at poorly in my opinion either.
Yep, only ah here was that aide
The fact that he had to mention her disability so many times to me says he doesn't wanna go with her because of her disability.
It doesn't matter if she was disabled or not, but he shouldn't have said yes. He should have asked to speak to her in private then and there.
The op was really not the tah. Who ever convinced the girl that this was a ok way to ask him to prom were. There were so many there who could have stopped her and did not. His responce were not to embarrass her infront of a big group of people. He tried to be the gentleman here. Her reaction was understandable but over the top, her handler were really over the top. They are bothe kids, even without cp.
“With friends like that, who needs enemies?”
Very good point, but I’d like to offer: With friends like that, I’d hate to see your enemies.
For the bully story, how does OP not have any perspective?
She bullied this girl, so badly that the girl considered suicide. When she left highschool she was able to break away and build herself back up while killing it in the career path she wanted to do. Over those years she was able to put all that pain and trauma behind her and move on. Then, years later she's notified the person who'd been the root cause of such a dark spot in her life is applying for the company she works at. Obviously she wouldn't want op around considering all the bad memories she's associated with and did what she could to remove her from her life. Instead of apologising and trying to make amends op instead keeps applying to the job as if nothing is wrong.
Later, when the girl is celebrating the anniversary of her wedding, op comes out of nowhere and starts verbally abusing her, probably awakening some trauma from the girl's high school days. Another painful reminder, so she makes that post in hopes of helping anyone who's in the situation she once had to suffer through.
It's unfortunate op's boyfriend cheated on her and that she couldn't get her old job back, but the girl didn't ruin op's life.
Yea bully was 100% responsible for her ruined life when it comes to job. Some people clearly dont know what accountability means
It wasn’t a high school bully but she was a bully when I was a student worker for my dream job. When I got hired, she started being really mean and rude to me. Always giving me stuff to do that seemed like punishment, organizing the car in the heat, leaving me in the back to organize the mess that she refused to work on (mind you she was also a student worker). One day, she responded rudely to me in front of our supervisor and the supervisor noticed this and confronted me about it after we walked to get Starbucks. She said she’s sorry I was dealing with this bullying but the girl was never reprimanded. Mind you, I worked my ass off and got a full time position with another department and was doing well. She decided to interview and apply for a position similar to mine, but karma kicked in. One senior of mine who knew of this toxic person asked me about my experience with this chick and she basically made it so that girl would not get hired. She ended up having to find a position somewhere I wasn’t lol. If you’re a bully…ur rep will stay with you.
High School Promposal was kinda out of pocket. The people who were helping organize this should have talked with OP beforehand. Like what if he already had a date and embarrassed her further?
I agree, the kid is so not the asshole and he was put on the spot really badly now the disabled girl was probably really protected all her life and did not know better but the aide that made the kid feel bad and the people that let her do all that huge a** proposal were assholes.
Look I'll say this as a practicing polyam. That is like the worst way to bring up the interest of wanting a poly relationship. First and foremost, if you don’t know how you love. Probably don’t get married before that. Secondly, if you’ve never talked with your partner prior about the idea. Don’t break in the news of being in love with their best friend. Poly relationships are supposed to be about communication and bringing people together. Not driving a wedge between existing social relationships. I feel the matter could’ve been avoided if they had simply talked it out before anything else.
Yes! Perfectly stated. Should have had the poly conversation BEFORE the "friend". Or better yet, before MARRIAGE.
the fact that she bullied that girl and never apologized because she felt sorry but is now willing to beg only to try and weasel her way into the company where she would no doubt rekindle her bully activities says a lot
With the flight it depends on how comfortable you are imo. I had once a flight and was sitting near a very tall man, his knees were cramped against the seat upfront while i had quite some leg room over since im very petite. I offered him some of my leg room and he really appreciated it. In the end we were both comfy
I don’t think the mom left the money to her son. He just happened to inherit her money because she never married his “stepfather”. I feel he probably wasn’t hurting for money so he decided to give him the remaining money.
The “oops you lose” music from The Price is Right always makes me laugh. Congrats on the new subs.
Keep up the great work guys! Congratulations increasing new subscribers by thousands!! I see the sub going up! Your hard work is paying off. Listening to you guys is like hanging out with friends reading crazy Reddit stories!
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As far as the plane story goes, if I had to sit that close to anyone for more than a minute or two, I'd have a huge panic attack and have to get off. The guy would end up getting my seat too.
Speaking of promposals 👀 so me and this guy had been best friends since we were 14, and it was our senior year. Neither of us had gone to prom in previous years so we’re like “fuck it we have to do senior year”. Well, at one point we’re walking around and I end up being the first person he comes out to as gay. So a week or so after I get to school, we meet up to head to my locker, and I open it. On the inside there’s a notecard that says “you’re not my type but…” and he spelled out “prom?” In Rollos and Hershey kisses 😂 and then took the rest of the bag of candy and put it on top of my notebooks. I loved it, I was laughing so hard. It was the sweetest inside joke promposal 🤣 I still have the pictures somewhere
That sounds like the most platonic "you're not my type" ever.
@@user92248 it was 🤣 he had come to my locker and I started laughing and I turned around, he was grinning, we hugged, and I told him “duh” 😂 we had a blast
@@mandymagnolia1966 that sounds so wholesome. I hope you guys are still friends or at the very least in touch
@@user92248 we are 🥰 unfortunately we live in different states now so we don’t see each other as often as we’d like, but its just like old times when we see each other in person
I think you have the right perspective! Honesty is the only way so I could work with any type of situation as long as people are honest. Lying is what ruins everything!
emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating she said she fell in love with him thats worse than just being physically attracted to someone
It feels terrible both ways. She is a horrible person.
Agreed
Yeah, she obviously said that thinking it would paint her in a less bad light😅 They(she and the friend) just wanted to have IT, and no doubt they did. It was purely physical. One second they are all over eachother and "in love"- the next, he moves out while husband is at work and he(friend) and the wife go no contact. They did it 😂
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The dad's Christmas gift swap was fkng MASTERFUL! Not the ahoIe. Do NOT replace that system!
Welll done, I say!
To be fair, the step-dad could have prevented being homeless just by accepting a smaller bedroom. Op was more generous than he needed to be.
*Ah...step-dad did it on purpose... makes sense, I guess
The "weird loser" vibes are endearing, you've grown on me 😂
hahaha thanks?
Wauw
That’s a back handed compliment, they just seems like normal dudes idk why u would say they give loser vibes lol 😂 maybe that’s ur normal
@OKOPShow OH no! I just heard you read this comment in one of your episodes. I was joking in response to your comment re the haters Sam (TS 5:36). You're not weird losers, How can I redeem myself? *facepalm* - love from Australia
I think it's great she talked about it before the physical happened. Love does pop in unannounced. She was willing to do counselling. He said no she dropped it
give the nephew the broken system
Olympic level leapers of logic!! I’m going to have to start using that!! 😂😂😂
1st story - When they say they havent done anything yet, thats always a lie. They definitely did something. Emotional cheating is still cheating. And pretty sure she sexted or cuddled with the guy.
Cuddling is not cheating tho
I was in the same situation as OP for the flight story. I had to book the flight ticket from where I lived at the time to the state I moved into. The only problem was the layover so they would switch plane from international airport to local one. So me, siting in a small jet, maybe 20+ passengers where it was already crowded. I ended up sitting with someone who is quite larger than me. He was sitting in his seat + 1/3 of my seat as I was sitting by the pathway. The whole time I sat next to him uncomfortably but he started watching some movies he had on his laptop and crying nonstop while blowing his nose and smeared snots on the armrest between us. I didn’t say anything as I thought it would be rude to say it. I should have done like OP. If you’re going to suffer, make it worth it
I love your guys' channel! I never really comment on other videos but all the stories you guys read give me good laughs. Keep up the good work everyone!
Bully’s getting their justice is PERFECT.
For the promposal story, I feel like he didn’t specify the girl’s disability to say “of course I don’t want to date the disabled girl”, and more to stress the fact that he might have felt more pressure to be nice to her because of her disability - like, you don’t want to be known as the asshole who crushed a disabled girl’s wish.
❤ JUSTICE FOR SAM! I agree with you 💯! I stand with you my bro
Niche industry girl. It really sounds like she's doing this to herself. It sounds like she's emotionally unstable and is emotionally chaotic and draining to everybody around her. It also sounds like she isn't ambitious or hardworking. The fact that she cried to her boyfriend everyday. She couldn't even move, not even call her employer. Her go to seems to be drinking. It took her 5 year to be ready to start her career when it doesn't seem to be necessary because Rockstar is already well established. She needs therapy yesterday.
You two are hilarious. I have been watching your videos all day!
I am sorry, bullying story made me so happy. This is karma at its finest. Bullying at 17? This is no excuse
Leaving someone with no option to decline your offer is an incredibly shytty thing to do.
The niche industry story , OP is simply getting back her Karma . Karma always bites in the ass . 😂
I’m a weird person, but I would’ve said “no” in front of the whole class. I had a weird stage at HS, I wasn’t really getting embarrassed as I felt like I’m superior to my classmates LOL
The young guy that found out that his bio dad wasn't the same person as the man that he called dad. Obviously mom was gambling on her child not telling her husband, not bio dad, that he wasn't his genetic dad. She lost. As an adopted child, I am insulted by the man that raised the young man as his son and suddenly acts as if he is not longer his child. I am going to say with confidence that the non-bio dad wasn't much of a dad to begin with. He sucked as a dad. All the other family members that dropped the son like a hot potato deserve being treated the same way at some point in their miserable lives. Adopted dads and step-dads are sometimes the better dad, so that makes this non-bio dad suck.
I also was shocked about this. The real parent is the parent that raises the child. Poor child havnt done anything wrong. Must suck to have such bad parents. If i would ever find out that one or both of my parents wouldn't be biological, that wouldnt change anything for me at all
Exactly like I get it when the kid is really young like either unborn or under 3 but he raised this kid his entire life that’s crazy I get feeling hurt but being able to just turn off those feelings?
The mother believing the ex:
I’d need to be convinced that she
1) took full responsibility for the rift between us. No blaming the circumstances, no shifting the blame, she should have taken me seriously, she chose not to, she is ashamed of herself.
2) is actively doing something about it. Like checking herself into regular therapy to deal with whatever caused her to act the way she did. “I’ve learned my lesson” simply won’t cut it.
I’d tell her that until I was convinced of both of those things, there was zero possibility of us having a relationship. And even if I was, it would happen when and if I felt like it. I’d do the same to anyone who followed her lead.
Given that the mother only reached out after the ex fessed up, and the level of scorched earth she took before hand, I really doubt she has fulfilled these requirements.
With the first story I think the wife should have talked about the possibility of a polygamy relationship before the friend came into the house, but I agree also emotional cheating is still cheating. Differently the wife is A-hole in the first part and honest and not a total A-hole in the end. However, it sounds like the life of OP was in trouble before this all happened.
She should've asked his consent for a polyamorous relationship when they started dating
@@flannelsone1159 That's not how that works but okay. There is literally nothing wrong being open and asking your partner if the relationship can be opened because, crazy concept, needs change over time.
@@flannelsone1159ideally sure, but most people who are more poly oriented don’t figure that out right away when they are raised in a culture that pushes monogamy as the only acceptable option. She can’t turn back time and change that now. Is it messy? Yeah definitely, but she was trying to be honest and communicate so I’m not sure what else could have been done.
@@kellevichythe problem is she should have proposed it on its own not with the person she wanted to open with. Because by saying she loves another person and wanted to open the relationship because of it shows she was emotionally cheating by choosing to nurture a relationship without talking to her husband. The second she started to catch feelings she needed to back off and talk to her husband first.
How can you completely raise a child and turn your back on them because the wife lied. It’s not the kids fault. I just don’t understand
Seriously, that guy and his family were heartless. 20 years of bonding, nope doesn’t matter.
Men are just generally not wired that way, it seems
Agreed. Even if you're mad about the situation - you still made a bond with a whole person. Real child or not, that's just cruel to physically/emotionally cut them off. I get that you probably don't want to be forced to be financially burdened by that anymore or want to put your life on hold for child care, but the least you can do is still f*cking love the kid you raised and respect the crappy situation the mom put BOTH of them in.
I'd say good riddance to that guy. If your 'dad' could drop you so easily, he probably was never really a good guy all along. This is just the first time OP probably saw him for what he really was.
The bullying one, I think everyone sucks. I was bullied plenty in school, literally from 1st to 11th grade. I've been a manager in a position where I had control of them getting hired or not. And I hired them and treated them like all the other employees. I figured out my worth after high school and realized they were just assholes and if that made them feel better, then alright, it's over now anyway.
With the highschool proposal op is NTA but who ever convinced the disabled girl and the people recording were the assholes. Since he did mention that people were recording and the fact that she did cry at his rejection did prove to me atleast that saying yes when she propose was the best option.
The plane story: I am a heavier person but I’m not that “girthy”. All my fat spills forward, not on the sides. Meaning I’m not horrible to sit next to. I’ve had morbidly obese people sit next to me and crush me with their weight because they won’t buy a second seat to accommodate their advanced size. I try to be empathetic because I suffer from binge eating as well and I know trauma often fuels it. But even I get really annoyed and distressed. Sometimes it is hard to overlook my distress and to avoid some level of judgement.
Run. That’s the best option runnnn
Try what I DID say, I ran into my childhood bully after 20 years (I had seen him a number of times, but he always avoided me), one day I saw him but he didn't see me so I tapped him on the shoulder and asked why he avoided me. His response was that he felt bad about the way he acted toward me ( he broke my leg). I kind of laughed and told him to forgive himself because I had already forgiven him years earlier.
Nah a leg for a leg
Nah an eye for an eye
I agree with you. 😂 Everyone's always going on about communication and being open And honest about things. That is literally what she did. She didn't cross any physical boundaries the emotional thing may hurt a bit but this is best you can ask for when it comes to communication.
I don't think him splitting up with her is the answer at all.
He needs to get to the root of why she wanted that.
Is it emotional ? Is it physical ? Do you need more attention in certain areas etc. Maybe there's something he can do or they can do together that may actulkybe want she wants just doesn't know how to ask for it, etcc....
The bullying story: OP definitely should've apologized. I'm of the opinion that even in high school you are aware when you're being an asshole to someone or bullying them but honestly it doesn't sound like OP feels bad about her past actions. It seems more like she only cares because it's now impacting her career. That being said, if my bully tried to get a job at my company and I genuinely thought that they could do the job I would treat them like any other candidate PROVIDED they seem to have remorse for their actions. If OP was trying to get a job at my company I'd probably have a conversation with them about the past before doing anything to jeopardize what could be a great opportunity for them but especially after what happened in the restaurant I would probably be like "nope". Letting someone, who is so willing to blame you for their life falling apart when it all started because of their actions, into your place of work could create a hostile work environment for not only you but your colleagues. Genuinely concerned with how it doesn't sound like OP has changed much from when she was 17...
Right? Looks like she proved "Rockstar" right.
Especially since she was 17 when she bullied and 20 now it’s not like years and years later she hasn’t even really had time to grow. The rockstar had every right to not want her there because she knew OP was a bad person who probably wouldn’t be good for the company
As a fat person, not the asshole. There really should be rules for weight limit of seats before needing to purchase another seat. Its not fat phobic to not want to be pressed up against another persons body no matter what they weigh.
I agree. You know if you fit in the seat. If you don't, you buy two.
About PS5 situation. OP´s reaction was on the spot. But on the top of what he did I would scramble broken parts from to ground into the box, put christmas bow on the top and forward it to his nephew. Just a simple swap of "stupid and little toy".
My ex was highly abusive and my mom sided with him… as you can imagine, I talk about this often in therapy. Lol
As a fat person, I get it. It's not comfortable for either person. But the amount of shame that guy must have felt is really upsetting. People are so horrible towards fat people as if we choose to be fat. Many times it is a symptom of an underlying medical condition. Media has perpetuated the idea that being fat must mean you eat too much when that is simply not the case. I have a friend that if this happened to them, it would be emotionally devastating. So I get it, but holy crap, it's upsetting to see how eager that guy was to pay him.
57:15 I made peace with ALL of my bullies. One of them, I met at a coffeeshop where she was working. She made time to talk to me and told me she was genuinely horrified for how she treated me, and proceeded to ask me about my life and my boyfriend at the time (we were school friends, so she heard of him). She's now dating my boyfriend's colleague, and they have a kid together. She's quite nice. No hard feelings. I never had any attempts at any revenge plans for any of them. We were kids.
Don’t forget she bullied her at 17 and applied at 20 it’s not like it happened years and years ago. She also didn’t care about doing anything do her because she clearly only cared that it affected her career and wasn’t interested in actually trying to fix what she had done. And I think it’s very telling how OP never mentions how she bullied her. If she had actually changed and actually felt bad she would have been clear about what she’d done and own up to it.
As far as the flight story: Homie and i would be cuddling. I wont fuss, i wont embarrass you, but i WILL be comfortable LOL
The nephew does not deserve to be rewarded with bad behavior. And the sister should not be allowed back in ops house as she will not hold herself or her son accountable for anything that they do in ops home.
I think she went about it the wrong way. I think she should have proposed to her husband the idea of trying a poly relationship before, very clearly and obviously, crossing that line and falling in love with his best friend.
I had a similar issue on a plane and had an infant in my arms. By the end of the flight I was in so much pain. No one volunteered to help me and I had to make a connecting flight so couldn’t wait for another flight.
Let’s applaud the wife for not cheating like what and that friend is a massive ah for “having to be true to himself” like no you can go be your true self outta my life
Honestly with the flight situation it seems like a win win lose lose, obviously both people are uncomfortable in this situation but they found a way to make it more comfortable for the both of them🤷🏻♀️
Thanks for covering stories I haven't seen covered before.
For the plane one id probably sit there debating on whether or not to do something for five hours
Bringing up a child *IS* parenthood. This idea that someone isn't a "real" parent because they aren't the genetic parent is completely wrong. It is not surprising that a person might say awful things in that moment of pain and betrayal, but to carry on with this line that there's no relationship between a parent and a child because there's no genetics in common is stone cold heartless.
That said, I don't think I would have told my father about my biological father because I can't see it having any good outcome. I'm usually not in favor of secrets, but it's worth measuring how much pain will be caused by telling that secret at that time.
omg the bully is so self absorbed she cannot even realize that it's just karma catching up with her and the way she is reacting, blaming everything onto this woman who's just living her life after years of trauma she inflicted shows she hasn't grown and still is the same terrible person who bullies others and has no concept of moral, self awareness or good and bad. that was some finger licking good karma baby!!!!!
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How tf is there like a literal highschool sweetheart love story between a kind girl who happens to be in a wheelchair and her good guy friend with an ACTUAL ANTAGONIST?! Woman leave these children ALONE
I don't mind the personal bubble invasion on flights because I get super gassy. Fair trade IMO 😅🤷💃
Niche Industry OP sounds like they haven't matured since their high school days and still actively blames the person they bullied of ruining their life, instead of taking ownership of their decisions and actions. An apology email would have been the least they could have done. Especially if the person they bullied has this sort of influence in the industry they want to work in. I'm pretty sure if OP decided to just apologise in person, at the restaurant, rather then blame their shitty choices on their victim and continue to try to gaslight them. They probably would have had a consideration from their application at Rock Star's company.
Niche Industry OP is still very much the AH and will continue to be until they understand and accept responsibility for their own actions..
Just had to point out that the unintentional pun of Sam say that Louise stood up for herself lol
5:04 the “friend” is the AH bc he seemed to have planned this
Sam, no roasting here. I've been ethically polyamorous for 10 years now. I appreciate you understanding that if done ethically, poly relationships can be healthy. (If anyone has any questions, I'm happy to answer.)
She didn't go about this ethically though. Not horrible, but still gave me the ick. Falling in love with a second person and then discussing opening the relationship isn't a fantastic way to go about it. As soon as she realized she might want an additional partner someday, she should have started the discussion. There's a lot more manipulation involved to go to someone who loves you and say "I love this person, they make me happy, let me be with them too?"
Polyamory doesn't work without OVERcommunication. And a kitchen-table-poly (lives together, hangs out regularly, have family meals style relationship) is poly on hard mode.
Now... The update has my mind spinning. So much random chaos out of nowhere. Still need time to process before forming an opinion 😂
First story: I am not against poly relationships, but I am monogamous. Will never stand for cheating.
The op in high school promposal is not the not the a**hole, honestly yeah it’s a lose lose situation. Back in high school on Valentine’s Day, someone pulled me aside and asked me to be his valentine and girlfriend at the same time. I told him I’m sorry I don’t have feelings for you that way but I could be your valentine. He was sad and walked away, he told everyone and since then everyone kept calling me a b*tch for rejecting him. Even if it was in front of a crowd or off to the side, in my opinion, it’s a lose lose situation.
I agree with Sam on 1st one
On the PS5 story; the NEPHEW was the asshole! Hell no he shouldn't get his own game system after what he did!
For the guidance counselor telling him he can’t b with a disable girl, that a thing some ppl think ppl with disabilities can’t love,q shouldn’t fall in love, should be allowed to get married or godforbid a sex life. It’s insane, I heard about these 2 who lived in a small housing for ppl with disabilities and they had to sign a form to allow these ppl to help them with everything (money, medical, job finding) and these two were first reprimanded for loving each other then forbidden from sleeping together, they threatened them that if they did they will be kicked out (evicted and fired, and with medical help) eventually they argued for the right to get married, and they finally said they could get married but that they would have to still live separately and absolutely couldn’t sleep together. I don’t know what happened after that, it was heartbreaking , and they were monster, acting as if ppl with disabilities are not capable of love
I’ve seen three or four poly relationships, and usually the financial person that gets screwed. I’ve only seen it once with the judge ruled in their favor. After the break up, I’ve seen other couples walk away with the third person who is the big earner the big purchaser the reason they have mortgages credit cards and holidays the loser, they’re always just there for the financial and I’ve seen it multiple times. The dynamics in that relationship are not so either you would like to think they are but it’s usually two or depended on one it may work for some people I believe everything is possible, but just from what I’ve seen, someone will get hurt
The one about the girl in the wheelchair is so adorable 😭
Story 1. Both can go be happy together. I’m outski
@3:35 I agree with you at least she's honest and didn't cheat
I think what everybody is forgetting is that op didn't tell them to get out that minute. He did that on his own. He would legally have 30 days to find somewhere else to live. It's also pretty f-ed up that he chose to move into a homeless shelter with two teenage girls instead of just sucking it up and finding a new place like a normal person.
"I am moving in in a month. I want the big bedroom, since it's my house. ... If you're just gonna make drama you can leave!" __comes home to the guy having gone, waay before the month, and before more talking could be had__ "Wut?" OP probably has some issues, being that indifferent to his grandparents, his step-siblings and his step-dad, but it was definitely the step-dad being TAH by falsely telling his kids that it was a proper eviction and that big bro was a meanie who forced them to go to the shelter. Those shelters are hardly more humane than just living on the streets! I can understand being so distraught that you want any excuse to remove yourself from the uncomfortable situation though, grief hurts! But, well, that wasn't a healthy way to go about it.
@@PanthereaLeonis I thought it was weird that he didn't reach out to him at all to even ask where they went. He said he heard through the grapevine.
I was bullied from the age of 7 until I graduated high school. I spent years dealing with the trauma. But. I was on a panel for the final hiring process for a job. The ring leader of my group of bullies was one of the applicants. I had recognized her name and when she saw me when she walked in the room she paled several shades. I was 24 at the time but as a grown adult I recognized that just as I would not as an adult do things that I did as a teenager she may have grown up. I told my team lead and said that if she is the best person for the job hire her on a trial basis. She approached me about a week into her time with us. She didn’t apologize but asked why I didn’t tank her chances. I explained what i said above and said that i felt it was best for us to keep our interactions purely professional. She was a great worker. Being the bigger person is always an option.
Dude, I'm a practicing Poly in an OR for years; wife and BF are the low-key assholes. Not because they _did_ anything, thankfully, and not even for being honest about wanting to open the relationship.... but essentially, they straight _blindsided_ OP and it seems to me they tried to "emotionally strong arm him" a little bit to get what _they_ want. That's not the right way to go about it, especially for someone who has been lifelong Mono. Good they didn't cheat (hopefully); bad on their tactics.
And no, John, you aren't getting "Attacked" here; you guys may often come across as a little too permissive sometimes and judgmental in others, but you're overall usually pretty reasonable in your thinking.
To me to biggest issue is the wife shouldn’t have proposed it with the friend she should have brought it up first because she did essentially emotionally cheat by thinking it was okay to come to her husband as in love with his best friend without ever talking about being poly you have to lay that out before anything happens. I’d be willing to bet the reason is because she isn’t actually poly and just wants both men (I mean as in probably wouldn’t go for it both ways)
Dude almost was late and had to buy an extra ticket, but instead landed on time and only had to pay and extra 50%. 🎉
As far as the bullying story, I think OP is NTA. You reap what you sow. Also, the moment she saw Rockstar at the restaurant, she should’ve taken her aside and apologized. Instead she showed her true colors and started yelling and berating her. She sounds entitled and clearly still a bully.
You mean OP is the AH? OP was the old bully?
Bro, the wife and friend did it 😂
It happened to a friend of mine. They got their wages attached for being a deadbeat dad. HER name was Tracy. Even though it was immediately apparent that it was a mistake they would not remove it and she had to fight it legally.
Sam looks even more like Sophia when he has longer hair lol
Bully OP: Oh no, the consequences of my own actions
The sister and nephew are AHoles, they are entitled ppl n hopefully someone will break that generational curse. We need more good people in this world
I'm surprised I recognized all of the Persona 5 music xD
I don't think the OP is nessesaraly TA, he reacted hot-headed/irrational yeah but he did just lose his mom in an accident that she caused and that crippled another person, people are usually at their worst when grieving and he did attempt to rectify the situation later (and succeded i think) and he realized he handled the situation poorly.
I was bullied by one girl in middle school and a few years ago she was in line during a busy time to check out and I had just finished a customer and she was next. Even though the line was sooo long, I pretended to be doing something at the back counter to avoid ringing her up and as soon as she was called to the next register I resumed my position.
The bio-dad is a wrecking ball.