Too Many Men are Living in Fantasyland

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Комментарии • 104

  • @CopycatNinja875
    @CopycatNinja875 2 года назад +91

    The problem with the manosphere is that there is too much emphasis on abstract theories instead of teaching guys how to have a common sense approach and develop street smarts. Many guys in our society want to live in an abstract perfect world in their heads instead of accepting observable reality for what it is.

    • @RomWills
      @RomWills  2 года назад +27

      I have a video touching on that issue dropping next week.

    • @damonbullock3609
      @damonbullock3609 2 года назад +15

      Perfectly said!! That's one of the other reasons why I'm not and will never be part of the manosphere.

    • @jaws2003
      @jaws2003 2 года назад

      So true!!!

    • @torachan23
      @torachan23 2 года назад +18

      The ideas have to be abstract in order to keep the gravy train going. There are no definitive answers or actions when it comes to the abstract, so it can be talked about forever without sounding repetitive
      If you actually fix a man's problem, what incentive does he have to continue listening to you and being a member on your patreon?

    • @cellycell8970
      @cellycell8970 2 года назад

      Bdk rip jojo

  • @busyrand
    @busyrand 2 года назад +31

    Guys who want "Dimes" are lazy if they don't put in the effort to craft his complete look, and get himself into gym/modeling/entertainment environments where they are.

  • @lesdickson9765
    @lesdickson9765 2 года назад +42

    Guys who chase dimes and don’t do the work required to get them are the male equivalent of women who chase high earning men and don’t qualify for one. 2 sides of the same coin.
    I like these types of videos, it helps me stay grounded and realistic with expectations. As always, great drop Rom & keep up the good work!

    • @merinajalaya740
      @merinajalaya740 2 года назад +1

      And the sad thing is neither of them dont want eachother. 😔
      Both are extremely bitter. I will go on to say even dangerous. These people can cost you your livelihoods, ruin your reputation, try to disfigure you yes entitlement and jealousy has caused many to kill.
      If only they used that same hate that came from jealousy and entitlement and turned it into motivation and discipline to get in a different tax bracket and to build their physique in the gym.

  • @selfmade8884
    @selfmade8884 2 года назад +62

    If people were only real with themselves. The game is not that complicated. Deep down inside you know what your lane is. It’s time for men to stop lying to themselves. If you didn’t hit the genetic lottery, don’t work out, and don’t have that paper………Dimes aren’t for you. Truthfully, if you’re not good looking dimes are not for you. Even having money just makes you a trick. Dudes need to be real with themselves……Attraction trumps everything. Either step your body game up or deal with the women on YOUR level.

    • @x97s
      @x97s 2 года назад +13

      This is facts ! The fact that men think that simply having money will automatically get them dimes is delusional

    • @torachan23
      @torachan23 2 года назад +13

      You are 100% right.
      But guys who want dimes but will never get dimes are the same as women who want high earning men but will never get one: they refuse to humble themselves and accept someone who is truly on their level, so they end up with no one at best, or with someone on their level but treat them like crap at worst.

    • @torachan23
      @torachan23 2 года назад +5

      @@x97s Having money will temporarily get dimes, and think that's the same as getting a dime who genuinely wants you

    • @x97s
      @x97s 2 года назад +1

      @@torachan23 yup

    • @slimfit767
      @slimfit767 2 года назад +2

      This is true for the most part....always some exceptions.

  • @x97s
    @x97s 2 года назад +33

    The reason why I am not bitter abt dating is because I always knew what my lane was and never stepped out

  • @kareemlee3872
    @kareemlee3872 2 года назад +33

    My philosophy is that she doesn’t have to be supermodel of the world as long as she’s adjustable then I’m good tbh and a lot of supermodels aren’t even good looking in my opinion

  • @Larry-qz3es
    @Larry-qz3es 2 года назад +39

    We as men have to stay grounded, keep an open mind, and value. As always, Rom, another great video

  • @shawnhazel8208
    @shawnhazel8208 2 года назад +20

    The "Dime" is media manufactured. Once she take of those shoe with those "toe jam and crooked feet from wearing 6" heels and than take off those legging with cellulite - boi you in trouble. Very few are truly dimes. Just have a decent women will save you a lot of trouble.

    • @nessi4521
      @nessi4521 2 года назад +5

      Lol Shawn you know it well ha ha.

  • @targetegrat
    @targetegrat 2 года назад +22

    The thing that I noticed about the game is men will say body game does not work. But its funny because these men are fat or super skinny. How can you say something does not work when you don't put yourself in position to try it.

  • @domthagreat4065
    @domthagreat4065 2 года назад +19

    Honestly those good looks are easy to maintain. Yes it won't be as easy at 41 as it was at 21 but nothing will ever beat working out eating healthy

  • @Lhoyte1
    @Lhoyte1 2 года назад +18

    Know your tribe, do your best to improve what you got but stick with your tribe

  • @domthagreat4065
    @domthagreat4065 2 года назад +13

    Too much scrolling through IG, all that time they spend looking at women they'll never meet

  • @mr.tonality940
    @mr.tonality940 2 года назад +27

    Dudes out here keep chasing those fantasy women are going to find themselves in their 40s,50s,60s beyond alone with no hopes of finding anyone.

  • @Aluvsloans
    @Aluvsloans 2 года назад +39

    This dude is speaking facts - find a woman that will work with you and works for you - period.

  • @ThaDocta_Evans97
    @ThaDocta_Evans97 2 года назад +21

    You right about this part for sure “ dimes “ may not exist where you are and my brotha let me tell you here in Louisiana where I am they aren’t too prevalent atleast the city I live in they aren’t , the best you’ll usually get around here is a 7-8 most are 5-6’s and guys needs to understand that isn’t that bad or bad at all especially if she’s a decent individual

  • @scottmccrudden4187
    @scottmccrudden4187 2 года назад +18

    A part of the problem could be as Rom mentioned in the dealing with extremely attractive women in "sexual chemistry" is that it is natural for men to be drawn to extremely attractive women and they will be drawn to them anyway (whether the can actually get them or not).

  • @bharris0619
    @bharris0619 2 года назад +13

    Hey Uncle Rom, don't forget that some of these fine women have the mentality of a 14 year old. My ex was a 28 year old who really wanted to much.

  • @Millz5231
    @Millz5231 2 года назад +6

    Most people are average.

  • @torachan23
    @torachan23 2 года назад +34

    I think a lot of the mindset men have that you're criticizing here comes from optimization and fear/risk assessment.
    In my opinion, I think men feel that there are incredible risks and investment needed in the dating game today, so they think "if I'm going to take all these risks, the woman better be perfect". If you're going to risk heartbreak, being cheated on, being used or abused, or dragged through the family court, you would want the best of the best to make all of that risk worth it. I think that's why men see women as either "dimes" or "land whales" as you mentioned. And when you mention guys who can't get 10s considering themselves to be "incels", I think that's the male version of "I can do bad all by myself". They want to optimize their outcomes before any interaction is being made, based on incomplete information (simply going by a woman's looks) and the concern of taking a loss.
    Throw in social media making it seem like there are a lot more 10s than there actually are, and just pulling people away from reality in general, you have everything you're talking about. Living in Fantasyland is a lot better than living in reality for a lot of people. I honestly think to a lot of guys, fantasizing about being with a 10 is more enjoyable than building a life with a 6 in reality. In the former, there are no risks, heartbreak, being cheated on, used for your money, etc. The only negative is that it isn't real. The fantasy doesn't require work or fixing themselves like you said.
    Onlyfans is the perfect example of how deep we are into Fantasyland. The money that used to be used on dates or even going towards a family household is being used to continue the fantasy of a OF girl actually giving a damn about you. Things men used to have in reality are now going towards furthering their engagement in a Fantasyland of false intimacy.

  • @baileyedward774
    @baileyedward774 2 года назад +19

    The perfect woman is a myth.

  • @henryewald9327
    @henryewald9327 2 года назад +13

    Rom is telling the truth, but for me I love guy’s living in the fantasy land it makes my playing field that much easier. Tinder lol 😂 I got girls who use that as the new Craigslist. I never been more disappointed until I met some of the actresses I thought were gorgeous not to mention what they did to make it to fame.

  • @mannygonzales1985
    @mannygonzales1985 2 года назад +7

    You’re telling nothing but truth. A lot of people want that fantasy, and don’t want to snap out of it. But reality is reality. I know I can’t get dimes because I’m not making six figures and I’m in southern Cali. I stay in my lane tho, and I’m 6 foot, ripped with abs and sharp jawline/nice hair. But I’m a working man, and I know the 9’s and 10’s are for the highest bidders, they’re monetized and make money off their looks. Why do you think they’re always on yachts and at fancy restaurants. So you find a woman’s who’s pretty attractive but has a decent head on her shoulders. Can’t wait to hear your black pill perspective, should be good!

    • @malonetravis5785
      @malonetravis5785 2 года назад +5

      Shit man you are in California there are so many women. Even the average women in Cali are better looking than most women other places

    • @mannygonzales1985
      @mannygonzales1985 2 года назад +1

      @@malonetravis5785 Oh for sure. There’s so many attractive women here in San Diego, it’s crazy. As long as you know where you stand, and aren’t in a fantasy trying to get a 10, you’ll be good lol. A lot of gold diggers here, but there’s also some pretty cool women so it depends.

  • @SHEEPSTAYSLEEPTV
    @SHEEPSTAYSLEEPTV 2 года назад +11

    Lift the veil on 'em unk! Salute 💪🏿

  • @muziq99
    @muziq99 2 года назад +7

    8’s 9’s and tens belong to the game.

  • @bamnjphoto
    @bamnjphoto 2 года назад +6

    Facts. I respect practicality and utility in terms of relationship, I work out she should workout, I take care of my finances she should be doing the same, I'm realistic about being equally yoked more than seeking a unicorn. My equally yoked might be a 7, 8, 9 or even a dime from another dude perspective.

  • @Lhoyte1
    @Lhoyte1 2 года назад +13

    This man dont miss. Pure facts

  • @unavailablerightnow6792
    @unavailablerightnow6792 2 года назад +6

    I have been called realistic a lot.
    The only people that ever got mad at me for being that way was manipulative people I have noticed...

    • @RomWills
      @RomWills  2 года назад +5

      You see through their games.

    • @x97s
      @x97s 2 года назад +3

      Im practice what is called realistic optimism and it makes life easier

  • @malonetravis5785
    @malonetravis5785 2 года назад +6

    That’s very true. There was this time I wanted this chick and it was obvious she was out of my league at the time. To make matters worse she was another race. I somehow convinced myself I had a shot 😂. Rom, I’m a guy that gets women on the regular but that’s when I’m operating within my niche.

    • @j-roc3339
      @j-roc3339 2 года назад

      Love the honesty Malone

    • @WhathehadasSole
      @WhathehadasSole 2 года назад

      When you said she's was out of my league and of a different race. Got me remembering this off The Dirty dancing song 🤣 ruclips.net/video/QrLnH8k70LI/видео.html

  • @wordplay8733
    @wordplay8733 2 года назад +3

    The fine women are the worst ones ,whether she's hot or not some man is tired if putting up with her crap and tired of smashing, also I agree about the thick women stuff men need to understand those are just escorts let's be real most of them don't have a heart of gold

  • @kingk.2547
    @kingk.2547 2 года назад +4

    I would love a roll out the bed fine woman. It’s basically unrealistic most are average. I also like average pretty girls. I need some good to look at. I need a woman with character and integrity. Her mind is important too

  • @benjaminsnyder5878
    @benjaminsnyder5878 2 года назад +7

    I am a 36 year old single Jewish man, I am looking for Jewish women in their 20s. Very difficult to find but I can't lose hope

    • @adampena6141
      @adampena6141 2 года назад +2

      You seem like good dude but your either too nice like wimp or have been with lots of hoes which I don’t get that vibe. It’s them bro not you trust me. Just my opinion homie.

    • @adampena6141
      @adampena6141 2 года назад

      Like simp my bad not wimp

    • @benjaminsnyder5878
      @benjaminsnyder5878 2 года назад +2

      @@adampena6141 One of my goals in 2022 is to not simp for any women , or less than previous years , utilize my my time for my business and charge any possible stress factors

    • @x97s
      @x97s 2 года назад +1

      You'll be fine !

    • @benjaminsnyder5878
      @benjaminsnyder5878 2 года назад

      @@Akronkangaroo I have visited Israel multiple times and my sister lives there. No Israeli women desire me or want me

  • @baileyedward774
    @baileyedward774 2 года назад +7

    The quality of your vibe determines your tribe.

  • @taylorxiii6272
    @taylorxiii6272 2 года назад +2

    Yo.... Unc Rom is going off mane!! And he wasn't playin around when he said "the gloves are coming off" and boy these advises has been a banger lately, respectfully.

  • @gjeewadeii
    @gjeewadeii 2 года назад +3

    Uncle Rom is The G.O.A.T.!!The Game that he provides can be followed from decade-to-decade.

    • @henryewald9327
      @henryewald9327 2 года назад +2

      I can agree with that and even longer tbh. The game doesn’t change only the players.

    • @gjeewadeii
      @gjeewadeii 2 года назад

      @@henryewald9327 Indeed Brother !

  • @redgemini9851
    @redgemini9851 2 года назад +2

    Certified game. Uncle Rom. An ugly guy with game can get a "beauty" to fall for him. So "leagues" are not actually real.

    • @x97s
      @x97s 2 года назад +2

      Leagues arent real but tribes are

  • @jaws2003
    @jaws2003 2 года назад +14

    I saw someone mention that location doesn't matter. It does. Where I live locally I get a lot of "transplants", whole foods and big women that like me the most. When I go to other areas these things change. I get what I really want.

    • @x97s
      @x97s 2 года назад +7

      Location matters a lot ppl

    • @jaws2003
      @jaws2003 2 года назад +2

      @@x97s exactly!!!

  • @DevinObi
    @DevinObi 2 года назад +1

    PREACH Uncle Rom! Tell them again!

  • @playaashell
    @playaashell 2 года назад +1

    thank u for this video. i can admit that ive had the habit of ignoring whats on my level for something out of reach. from now on ill either improve or settle for whats on my level

    • @RomWills
      @RomWills  2 года назад

      I would rather see you improve yourself. Not simply for women but for life itself.

  • @jabbaweezy
    @jabbaweezy 2 года назад +1

    I'm dead about that "Prison bae"😂

  • @metclassroomforform4and541
    @metclassroomforform4and541 2 года назад +1

    True talk

  • @swemariner
    @swemariner 2 года назад +1

    On point! I just ordered Nice Guys And Players: Becoming The Man Women Want,

    • @RomWills
      @RomWills  2 года назад +2

      Thanks for your support.

    • @swemariner
      @swemariner 2 года назад +1

      @@RomWills No worries Bro, keep it up! this video is one the best!, I lived like that for way too long leaving a good average looking chicks behind to chase really good looking chicks that anti shit.

  • @muziq99
    @muziq99 2 года назад +1

    Great video

  • @RealJayNice
    @RealJayNice 2 года назад +1

    Facts

  • @the_rightshade7811
    @the_rightshade7811 2 года назад +1

    Facts💯

  • @paigeward27
    @paigeward27 2 года назад

    One of your Best. Thanks.

  • @anthonyshaw8698
    @anthonyshaw8698 2 года назад

    Right on bro!!!
    Good stuff

  • @gbholo1806
    @gbholo1806 2 года назад +1

    🐐

  • @creedvision6177
    @creedvision6177 2 года назад

    Great message brother 🔥💯🙏🏾

  • @dadasaints121
    @dadasaints121 2 года назад

    Good stuff

  • @Otis-BigO
    @Otis-BigO 2 года назад +3

    I think this is a very fair statement you made. I’ve seen this happen in real time. Usually they start simp in for that extra pretty girl. That delusion starts with how that dime actually feels about them and they get played now they mad at the world. Great wisdom as always

  • @deannabarnes3771
    @deannabarnes3771 2 года назад

    Preach, Rom.......

  • @valerie_d
    @valerie_d 2 года назад

    "Men's Disney" genius 😆

    • @RomWills
      @RomWills  2 года назад

      Unfortunately it's the reality.

  • @Onlyswish1
    @Onlyswish1 2 года назад

    Preciate u OG 💪🏾

  • @jjtaylor1073
    @jjtaylor1073 2 года назад

    Body game video right here ruclips.net/video/WfRYrmw4G4o/видео.html