I love how so many things in this movie the mother has done my mom has done. Before we realized why I was losing so much weight, I passed out in school. The school called my mom and when I came home she yelled at me and said "You're losing weight for attention and making ME look like a bad parent." I couldn't help it..I was sick. I love this movie because it's so easy to relate to.
when i used to cut, it seemed as if my parents were more worried about their parental image than my well-being. sad as it is, thats the way most parents are.
She has the sort of parents that would never understand her, they dont have the love or knowledge/understanding until she dies ; they just tell her off. The Dr. understands a lot! I feel for her so much, its beyond the point of being a freak. She just needs someone to love her!
My family is just like hers, minus all of the mentioning of self harm, but the way she cuts and burn are so different. I don't understand how the makers of the movie could depict self harm so inacurately.
Not just you, dude. Me, too. I never showed anybody because I was so ashamed. I used to love my cuts, but I hated just thinking about other people seeing them. It's so weird.
You're right. I always think of it as a very serious problem, but I think you're right. Many people do it, whether they choose to show it or not. 1 in 3 is huge, but I think you're right...
wow, well im not surprised why dawn is doing this. I know how she feels, its her way of having control and her way of reliving her sadness and anger its kinda like her high. I used to cut a lot before, now i just talk it out and draw or color or read a book or something. My mom helped me a lot through it. If it weren't for her i'd be in a all girls mental institute.
the mom in this is kind of growing on me, her story was pretty sad... and it makes it a lot more understandable about why she just wants her daughter to get better as quick as possible.
6 years into self harm and my family still cant understand. I've heard "Look at me, I'm a mess" so many times in my life. Im sorry that I feel so empty on the inside. Im sorry I cry myself to sleep every night wishing there was a way for this pain to be destroyed. You're a mess? You don't even understand....
I agree. I started cutting when I was 12, and i'm 18 now. 6 years later... and I still get urges. I've only given in twice this past year, so it's nothing serious anymore. I find it interesting though how powerful the addiction to cutting is, it's a high that sometimes I miss.
True, I agree. I thought that after she said "Any day youre going to cut yourself in the wrong place or cut too deep I may lose you forever and I cant let that happen" Instead she said "Any day youre going to cut yourself in the wrong place or cut too deep and I'll get blamed, I cant let that happen". What a selfish person she is. I cant stand her.
it does hurt people around becuse the feeling of having a friend that you really care about... it hurts to know that the person feels so bad that they cut =/ but i also understand that the person that cut have a reason for why.... the only thing we can do is being there for them when there ready to talk
I would love to have my therapy sessions in that rooms. The views from there are brilliant and I could freely express myself whilst walking about the room. Instead I have to sit in this tiny box room with really low chairs a dumb view of a white roof with a lot of stupid Pigeons on it. How boring, but whatever it's certainly better than nothing.
I thought that too. I figured my mom would be the kind to back hand me and my dad would be the one to stay quiet. It ends up a lot calmer than you think, at least, if an officer has to deliver the news... -_-
UGH. When the mom was getting all weepy about her sister, I was expecting her to say, "I'm scared you'll cut too deep"... and "I'll lose my child, my only daughter, and I love you so much" or something sensitive like that. But about her getting blamed? What a horrid woman.
ok I felt bad for her mom, even when she said "you'll cut yourself in the wrong place, too deep" but then she lost any sympathy when she said "then i'll be blamed, again". No one who self-injures needs to hear that it's not about THEM, it's about someone else. I'm not saying an SI wants everything about them, far from, but hearing that just leads to guilt and more chance of finding a more discreet way of causing self harm.
I stinkin HATE the mother @4;35 when she's talking about herself and how she's a mess and how tired she's is. What about her daughter? her daughter is in a mess and needs help,cant she see that????
i completely understand. i don't know why, i think theres something about that trust in another person. it feels good to show. i did end up showing my teacher yesterday. she touched scars and looked at the fresh ones. it felt good to show her. you should show someone
what the...'you can have anything you want, you just need to ask', next second, 'im going to have leave you somewhere else', thats helpful of her mother
I cut and my mom found out and she wild strip me down. So I stopped for like a week and she began to not search me and now it's colder so I can wear long sleeves without being questioned and I cut as much as my heart desires. It really does help. :)
I could be totally off...but I think it's kinda a "I am in control of what I do to my body, here." sort of thing. She wants to show the therapist that she is the one in control. Many people who cut don't feel like they can control much in their life, but they feel that they can control physcial pain.
A girl that used to be a friend of mine got into this socalled 'emo' style when she was 12. She was so desperate to be hardcore, or whatever, that she would make tiny cuts that wasnt even a mm deep. They looked like tiny cat scratches. Because of people like her, it makes people look down on cutters as if they want to be a part of a fashion trend. It made me quite mad.
@IndiBoo002 I'm wondering if you were a bully in school or just have never been bullied? I'm nearly 30 and I still feel the effects of years of school-age bullying. I was spat at, had rocks thrown at me, was verbally abused every day, and one kid stomped on my foot every day, literally waiting for me a in a corridor so I went to school every day in fear. America is not making a big deal about it; we're actually not doing enough.
I agree with most of you people, her mom's not doing a great job. Then again, she obviously does care about her daughter, that's why she's so worried. All in all she means well, she just doesn't know what cutting's like, but that doesn't make her a bad mother.
i got taken away from my mother when they found my anorexia and cutting, but the doc said that my parents shouldn't go cut checking, it would only make things worse.
The mom searching for cuts would be horrible to go through, just that would trigger cutting. People just don't know how to handle these things, like even suicide. There are all these things they tell us to look for but if someone wanted to really kill themself they would learn what not to do to hide the fact better. They can teach till their blue in the face about suicide and self cutting but the people involed will just get better at hiding it, but people don't seem to realize that.
I know she's an adult and I know she's supposed to protect her child but like I said, she went through a traumatizing experience that inhibits her from being the mother she should be. And in order to fix things and make them right with her daughter and be the mother she should be she first needs to get help herself.
The mom obviously cares about herself a lot more than her daughter. "Look at me, I'm a mess" She just gets all dramatic with her daughter and walks off.
she's a mother who loves her doughter! have you a child who makes this? it's not easy for a mother to unterstanding this ans what's going on. only a few people can appreciate this. she only tries to do the best. she doesn't know it better. but of cause she loves her child.
i thought that mom was going to say she was afraid that dawn would cut herself to deep, and that she would lose her daughter, but noooo shes worried that dawn will cut too deep and she'll get blamed. the mom is only worried about herself.
@sraphael if you're hurting yourself they can send you to the hospital. they can also tell your parents. often times therapists don't though if it's minor cutting because they don't want to break the client's trust
I wish my therapist was like hers.I don't cut anymore, but I always want to.I press ice to my skin, but it's not the same.A lot of ppl leave me too. It's like every minute I get deeper into deppression&pain and then ppl think I need more medicine.I have ppl I talk to,but they listen to the words and not what they mean.I try not to feel this way,but I hate the way ppl in my life are ignoring me and then calling me crazy and stuff.
On the slice N dice side....I don't think I'll ever be able to explain why.......10 years later though.......Still battling, and I can understand my mother now......"what was so bad???????" I lived a very charmed life in my eyes. but the ever present hiccups of terror were present.....Who doesn't go through that?!
I used to cut, a lot. My mom would get mad when she found a new cut and blame it on me and say theyre gonna send me away, just made me want to cut more. i felt/feel horrible.
XD "And when you go...I want you to make it clear...I NEVER touched you." God, the mom's face when he said that. Dad doesn't give a damn unless it has somethen to do with him. LAWL.
Its not just her mom making it all about her. Every mom does. Before I got treatment my mom would go around saying how hard her life was and how it was making her crazy. I had to ask for the treatment and do it all myself. She didn't care. Most moms don't. They put it all on the kid.
I started to like the mother when she says, "One day, I fear you'll cut in the wrong place of cut too deep..." and I'm just like, finally, she cares about her daughter! Then she says, "and I'll get blamed again!" Really!? Not everything is about you!
@sykedsusie i agree, but if you pay close attention, from the mother's stories it sounds like she was abused by her mother. And after the mom's sister died it sounds like it got worse and that the mom was blamed for the sister's death. Yes her mother is stupid but if you look at her past it kinda makes sense.
"Cured" I absolutly hate that word when it comes to something like this. Ive been to so many docters that wanted to cure me and it just makes it worse. I do better trying to cope myself.
In my case, I wanted to tell them, not my therapist... She said she was doing it only if I wanted to, if I thougth it was going to help me. And it did.
i love that therapist
I love how so many things in this movie the mother has done my mom has done. Before we realized why I was losing so much weight, I passed out in school. The school called my mom and when I came home she yelled at me and said "You're losing weight for attention and making ME look like a bad parent." I couldn't help it..I was sick. I love this movie because it's so easy to relate to.
when i used to cut, it seemed as if my parents were more worried about their parental image than my well-being. sad as it is, thats the way most parents are.
Ugh, inspecting someone's body like that is SUCH a violation. It only drives someone further into the disorder, too. It doesn't help in any way.
Someone finding out and forcing themself into your world is alot scarier than any scars
She has the sort of parents that would never understand her, they dont have the love or knowledge/understanding until she dies ; they just tell her off. The Dr. understands a lot!
I feel for her so much, its beyond the point of being a freak. She just needs someone to love her!
It seems to me like her therapist is the only one who can understand what she's going through and is trying to help.
My family is just like hers, minus all of the mentioning of self harm, but the way she cuts and burn are so different. I don't understand how the makers of the movie could depict self harm so inacurately.
"Because I may get blamed, and I can't let that happen. Not again."
Wow, mother.
Not just you, dude. Me, too. I never showed anybody because I was so ashamed. I used to love my cuts, but I hated just thinking about other people seeing them. It's so weird.
"Cured" No no! It is a CHOICE! An urge!
This movie is so unrealistic and doesn't depict how cutting works......why am I still watching this?
You're right. I always think of it as a very serious problem, but I think you're right. Many people do it, whether they choose to show it or not. 1 in 3 is huge, but I think you're right...
Basically what lil said. It brings back the feelings you do to yourself. The relief, etc. so it makes you want to do it.
wow, well im not surprised why dawn is doing this. I know how she feels, its her way of having control and her way of reliving her sadness and anger its kinda like her high. I used to cut a lot before, now i just talk it out and draw or color or read a book or something. My mom helped me a lot through it. If it weren't for her i'd be in a all girls mental institute.
That mum is so annoying and rude and disrespectful, I can't stand her
the mom in this is kind of growing on me, her story was pretty sad... and it makes it a lot more understandable about why she just wants her daughter to get better as quick as possible.
6 years into self harm and my family still cant understand. I've heard "Look at me, I'm a mess" so many times in my life. Im sorry that I feel so empty on the inside. Im sorry I cry myself to sleep every night wishing there was a way for this pain to be destroyed. You're a mess? You don't even understand....
I agree. I started cutting when I was 12, and i'm 18 now. 6 years later... and I still get urges. I've only given in twice this past year, so it's nothing serious anymore.
I find it interesting though how powerful the addiction to cutting is, it's a high that sometimes I miss.
THE DOCTORS FROM MATILDAAAAA!!
the evil mother in it
LOL
Her mom only thinks about herself it's so frustrating!
"I can't sleep, I can't eat, look at me I'm a mess." This mom doesn't know what being a mess is. Especially when you're a self harmer
The mother was very selfish.
Narc mother lol
Honestly that girl NEEDS to be checked in and not in the bad way, in the right way
She is being very brave and caragous for getting help and talking to doctor Prella.
True, I agree. I thought that after she said "Any day youre going to cut yourself in the wrong place or cut too deep I may lose you forever and I cant let that happen" Instead she said "Any day youre going to cut yourself in the wrong place or cut too deep and I'll get blamed, I cant let that happen". What a selfish person she is. I cant stand her.
no, i know how you feel.
i "quit" last christmas, but i still get relapses occasionally, and the urge is still really strong.
the therapist is adorable.
i cant believe she shows her therapist her cuts. In such intimate places aswell
That is one huge therapist office...My therapist's office is like a little closet!
And yet to most people who cut themselves it seems like there's no one like them, that they're all alone, that nobody cares or understands them..
That is one of the worst things you could possibly say to anyone who seriously has a problem with self injury. Fucking trust me.
that was too sad when her mom lookedat her scars and the look at Dawn's face.. Like, "look at the scars, this is the pain I feel inside"
Yeah it's insulting to people who actually do have problems with self-harm.
it does hurt people around becuse the feeling of having a friend that you really care about... it hurts to know that the person feels so bad that they cut =/
but i also understand that the person that cut have a reason for why.... the only thing we can do is being there for them when there ready to talk
I knew I had seen her before! I LOVE Matilda! XD
"I never laid a finger on that kid" that kid? w0w what a duece!
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My dad says he smokes because he is worrying "about me and what I do to myself".
Thankyou dad for that encouragement to getting better.
I would love to have my therapy sessions in that rooms. The views from there are brilliant and I could freely express myself whilst walking about the room.
Instead I have to sit in this tiny box room with really low chairs a dumb view of a white roof with a lot of stupid Pigeons on it. How boring, but whatever it's certainly better than nothing.
I thought that too. I figured my mom would be the kind to back hand me and my dad would be the one to stay quiet. It ends up a lot calmer than you think, at least, if an officer has to deliver the news... -_-
AT LEAST THEIR IS AT LEAST ONE PERSON THAT IS NORMAL IN THIS MOVIE
UGH. When the mom was getting all weepy about her sister, I was expecting her to say, "I'm scared you'll cut too deep"...
and "I'll lose my child, my only daughter, and I love you so much" or something sensitive like that. But about her getting blamed? What a horrid woman.
ok I felt bad for her mom, even when she said "you'll cut yourself in the wrong place, too deep" but then she lost any sympathy when she said "then i'll be blamed, again". No one who self-injures needs to hear that it's not about THEM, it's about someone else. I'm not saying an SI wants everything about them, far from, but hearing that just leads to guilt and more chance of finding a more discreet way of causing self harm.
I stinkin HATE the mother @4;35 when she's talking about herself and how she's a mess and how tired she's is. What about her daughter? her daughter is in a mess and needs help,cant she see that????
yeah that part really pissed me off too. my mom tried to pull that on me once when i was younger and i wouldnt let her.
i completely understand. i don't know why, i think theres something about that trust in another person.
it feels good to show.
i did end up showing my teacher yesterday. she touched scars and looked at the fresh ones. it felt good to show her.
you should show someone
The mother is absolutely ridiculous. She's too caught up in worry about getting blamed if her daughter dies than what her daughter is going through.
i hate how the daughter has to tell her mom that she's sorry. and i hate how the mom acts like it's all about her that she has gone through so much.
Damn, I wish I had a therapist like that.
i see myself so much in her & my mother in her mother. i just hope that when i finallytell some1 she won't be the same.....
the mum talking about how much it affects her is making it hell for the girl! why cant these people realise what theyre doing?!
what the...'you can have anything you want, you just need to ask', next second, 'im going to have leave you somewhere else', thats helpful of her mother
LOL The friend brings her ice skating BLADES.
this family is out of control. and surprisingly common
I cut and my mom found out and she wild strip me down. So I stopped for like a week and she began to not search me and now it's colder so I can wear long sleeves without being questioned and I cut as much as my heart desires. It really does help. :)
Her mother always makes it about herself. Its most aggravating.
I could be totally off...but I think it's kinda a "I am in control of what I do to my body, here." sort of thing. She wants to show the therapist that she is the one in control. Many people who cut don't feel like they can control much in their life, but they feel that they can control physcial pain.
"I cant sleep.I cant eat.Look at me..Im a mess." Shes looking at her daughters deep scars, and its still about her.
Ngl this is really emotional...
A girl that used to be a friend of mine got into this socalled 'emo' style when she was 12.
She was so desperate to be hardcore, or whatever, that she would make tiny cuts that wasnt even a mm deep. They looked like tiny cat scratches. Because of people like her, it makes people look down on cutters as if they want to be a part of a fashion trend. It made me quite mad.
I wish my psychiatrist told me same as this.She is trying to convince me that cutting is a disease.
her mother isn't horrible she just doesnt understand but i do agree that its not about her its about her daughter getting the help she needs.
@IndiBoo002 I'm wondering if you were a bully in school or just have never been bullied? I'm nearly 30 and I still feel the effects of years of school-age bullying. I was spat at, had rocks thrown at me, was verbally abused every day, and one kid stomped on my foot every day, literally waiting for me a in a corridor so I went to school every day in fear. America is not making a big deal about it; we're actually not doing enough.
I agree with most of you people, her mom's not doing a great job. Then again, she obviously does care about her daughter, that's why she's so worried. All in all she means well, she just doesn't know what cutting's like, but that doesn't make her a bad mother.
i got taken away from my mother when they found my anorexia and cutting, but the doc said that my parents shouldn't go cut checking, it would only make things worse.
hahha lmao good point it really is sometimes I say things in the most sarcastic way ever and ppl take it the wrong way
"and i'll get balmed.." my god the mom doesn't care that her daughter would die but that she would get blamed? my god
The mom searching for cuts would be horrible to go through, just that would trigger cutting. People just don't know how to handle these things, like even suicide. There are all these things they tell us to look for but if someone wanted to really kill themself they would learn what not to do to hide the fact better. They can teach till their blue in the face about suicide and self cutting but the people involed will just get better at hiding it, but people don't seem to realize that.
I know she's an adult and I know she's supposed to protect her child but like I said, she went through a traumatizing experience that inhibits her from being the mother she should be.
And in order to fix things and make them right with her daughter and be the mother she should be she first needs to get help herself.
saying its aweful and making her feel guilty and bad ain't gonna help her. thats the reason i wont tell my rents, they would never understand...
The mom obviously cares about herself a lot more than her daughter. "Look at me, I'm a mess"
She just gets all dramatic with her daughter and walks off.
at first i was like oh she really cares than comes the her getting blamed part.. omfg.
I excepted her to say something like 1 out of 20. 1 out of 200... now I feel even more like a freak...
"did she say how long it will take before you're cured ?" I HATE that. how awful. "cured."
she's a mother who loves her doughter! have you a child who makes this? it's not easy for a mother to unterstanding this ans what's going on. only a few people can appreciate this. she only tries to do the best. she doesn't know it better. but of cause she loves her child.
i wish my mom was this loving when she searched me. she was so angry and looked at me like i was a disease. it made me want to do it even more
i thought that mom was going to say she was afraid that dawn would cut herself to deep, and that she would lose her daughter, but noooo shes worried that dawn will cut too deep and she'll get blamed. the mom is only worried about herself.
@sraphael if you're hurting yourself they can send you to the hospital. they can also tell your parents. often times therapists don't though if it's minor cutting because they don't want to break the client's trust
I wish my therapist was like hers.I don't cut anymore, but I always want to.I press ice to my skin, but it's not the same.A lot of ppl leave me too. It's like every minute I get deeper into deppression&pain and then ppl think I need more medicine.I have ppl I talk to,but they listen to the words and not what they mean.I try not to feel this way,but I hate the way ppl in my life are ignoring me and then calling me crazy and stuff.
1 out of 200, now it's about 1 in 3...
On the slice N dice side....I don't think I'll ever be able to explain why.......10 years later though.......Still battling, and I can understand my mother now......"what was so bad???????" I lived a very charmed life in my eyes. but the ever present hiccups of terror were present.....Who doesn't go through that?!
"did she say how long it would take until your cured?" wtf, you cant just fucking be 'cured'.... god her mother is crazy
her mom is seriously pissing me off. "did she say how long it will take til your cured" seriously.
I used to cut, a lot. My mom would get mad when she found a new cut and blame it on me and say theyre gonna send me away, just made me want to cut more. i felt/feel horrible.
Wow I would never hang out with Lorraine after she said that.
XD "And when you go...I want you to make it clear...I NEVER touched you."
God, the mom's face when he said that. Dad doesn't give a damn unless it has somethen to do with him. LAWL.
Instead of 'and I'm afraid I'll get blamed' and good mom would say 'and I'm afraid I'll lose you too'
Its not just her mom making it all about her. Every mom does. Before I got treatment my mom would go around saying how hard her life was and how it was making her crazy. I had to ask for the treatment and do it all myself. She didn't care. Most moms don't. They put it all on the kid.
I started to like the mother when she says, "One day, I fear you'll cut in the wrong place of cut too deep..." and I'm just like, finally, she cares about her daughter! Then she says, "and I'll get blamed again!" Really!? Not everything is about you!
Thank god for Dr Parella
Glad my parents are a bit more understanding than her mum.
thank god more ppl are noticing it!
grr its like she never puts it down
Ever since that eyebrow comment, every time I see her, I can't take her seriously anymore.
@sykedsusie i agree, but if you pay close attention, from the mother's stories it sounds like she was abused by her mother. And after the mom's sister died it sounds like it got worse and that the mom was blamed for the sister's death. Yes her mother is stupid but if you look at her past it kinda makes sense.
I'm ashamed to admit it, but, I actually like Dawn's scars. Then again, I'm kind of entranced by them...
"Cured" I absolutly hate that word when it comes to something like this. Ive been to so many docters that wanted to cure me and it just makes it worse. I do better trying to cope myself.
Her mom really doesn't understand she's making stuff worse.
there's one I really like about mia. It's called Sharing the secret.
I self harm as well and I totally understand that feeling.
this movie is making me cry!!
In my case, I wanted to tell them, not my therapist... She said she was doing it only if I wanted to, if I thougth it was going to help me. And it did.