Everything about the mother is control-related: Control over Dawn's cutting, control over her husband, the household, the past....this woman needs Dr. Parella, along with Dawn.
she knows NOTHING about being a mother!!!! and her friend is the shit "one more word and you'll know how it feels, princess" best line in the movie so far
Now I understand why this movie is called "Painful Secrets". It's not just about Dawn and her secret cutting, but the whole family has "painful secrets" that end up being revealed. This movie shows that no matter how glamourous a family looks on the outside, there is hidden pain on the inside. The father is in pain with his relationship with the mother, the brother feels cut off from the family because of Dawn's cutting and fear of a divorce (his parents), and the mother hid her past child abuse
Same thing happened to me in 8th grade. A few kids told a few others, before I knew it this one "jock" asked me everyday "how's the depression going" "cut anymore?" and kids in my classes were laughing, whispering, and drawing pencil lines on their wrists. Talk bout fun
Remember movies like this are meant to educate. It shows parents what NOT to do. So yes, you want to strangle the mother, but she is so horrid, because she is everything you could do wrong as a parent, rolled into one. This movie helped me when I found out my kid was cutting. I actually saw this before I found out, so I didn't have to make any of those mistakes. I was just able to help, be supportive, and learned to listen differently.
I hated this movie at first, but it has gotten better. I like the psychological aspects. When her mom tells her about her sisters death it really shows that her mom has her own childhood scars. She is scared of being blamed for her daughters problems because she still feels like her sisters death was her fault. People are hating on her mom, but the truth is, she has her own hurts too. There is always two sides to a story.
I saw this movie before I even knew what cutting truly was. It stuck with me to this day, or I guess I should say the part where the mother told people and they treated her like a freak. That scene was exactly why I never told the people I knew about my problem.
As frustrating as it is to watch her family handle it like that, it was filmed in 2000. Back then it wasn't as present as self injury is today. You heard; only 1 in 200 girls were cutting then. It's much more than that now with one in four adolescents being depressed. Even the doctors reaction to we saying she doesn't mind if she has the scars for ever- quite inappropriate now that try know a lot more about it. The psychiatrists approach was impressive as the writers must've put done a lot of r
it sucks when people find out about your secret and isolate you for it, hate you, make fun of you, ignore you like the plague...poeple don't cut to get their jollies, they cut because they're hurting, and are driven to suicide because of how others react
I can't believe that instead of saying I can't imagine losing you she says I won't get blamed for another thing again. I can't believe how insensitive she is.
Teens, usually don't react like that when they find out, they find you maybe weird and look at you weirdly but the don't openly come up to you and make you suffer even more (for my own experience in anycase...)
@Bloombaby99 when a kids getting bullied at home or is having trouble what do they do....they bully someone else. Dawn is doing the same thing, she's getting it at all angles and has found someone she can vent to that's all :)
ARE YOU SHITTING ME?? This mother. O.M.G. Could she possibly make the situation ANY worse? I can't imagine. Poor Dawn. As if high school isn't enough of a shark tank.
@kaitykaitykaitykaity ... those 3 girls really are and yet everyone in this movie is so unbelievable. I went to IMDB and found this to be a "Lifetime" movie, which explains everything.
@Landrew120880 Actually, the movie originally aired on USA under a different title. The movie was called Secret Cutting but they changed it when they aired it on Lifetime.
What makes her mom think that alienated her daughter from EVERYONE at school is going to make her stop? If anything, I'd need more relief from cutting than ever...
I know people can be mean as kids, however, I never experienced anything like that when I was in high school and cutting. When people found out, they tended to be either sympathetic or just a little confused as to *why*, I was doing it. But maybe it's because cutting is just so much more commen now than earlier, don't thing people with eating disorders get bullied for it either, because everyone know it is a dissease.
@ThePurrmeow: I agree with you :D, but in this case, Jamie is a boy. Dawn's father, Russell Cottrell, even says so when he mentioned that Jamie was made first time point guard: "I didn't think he had it in him..." or something like that was the quote.
I like how they have the popular girl idolizing Princess Diana.. They are making fun of dawn and calling her weird because she does it when in fact Princess Diana was also a cutter.
I can understand that her mother feels scared shitless and helpless but that really isn't a way of solving things. How can she even think for a minute that it would help?
A guy I liked changed how he felt about me when he heard, my friends pinned me down and searched my arms and legs. My mum hated my guts for what I did and everyone started making jokes about it and whispering and spreading shit. This movie is like the past 5 years of my life.
It's soo annoying - not so much about the cutting but the ed - my mum used to tell anyone who would listen- it was her way of coping I guess but it was damaging! Made me so paranoid about who knew and who didn't.
if she really cared and gave her best, she would inform herself better about cutting, and she would try to understand why her daughter is doing it and how she really feels. i think
What people don't understand.. with all the "she could die" comments... cutting isn't about death or wanting to die; its about control and releasing the pain if only for a second.. NOT about dying.. its a coping skill
I hate how they just grab her and start looking for the cuts. A woman at my job did that to me in front of everyone even the customers. She grabbed my arms and called me Crazy so everyone at my job talks about me when its none of their business about my scars
Dawn gets attention so the evil trio spreads the word? Oh wow, just shows how much character they have (although I give kudos to the actresses). Dawn, they are NOT worth cutting for. "Mother" might be, but not them.
The funny thing? My mom did all of this, made me strip.. Took away everything, made me feel ashamed of myself, want to do it more. Yelled at me for being idiotic, joked about it. You name it, told the whole family. My dad said NOTHING to me, and only cared about my school. Oh, and my name is Dawn.
alright...I highly doubt they'd make fun of her out in the open like that...maybe amongst themselves...but I have to believe that most people are kind of descent
I wish Dawn would check her attitude....Dr. Parella is only trying to help and is the only one who understands her. She should cop serious attitude with Rebecca and her popular girls, her mother (a definate!) and her snotty little brother.....
@13Bee1 You don't know me, I don't know you. I know how it feels to have a mother you feel you can't tell anything to. Fear of judgement, maybe fear of receiving even less affection that you already get. There's others out there who understand the pain, I'll be your friend.
@XxSharpieItBlackxX same, my friends did that to me and spread it around the whole school. So, it's been a year now...but my mom didn't thankfully. But she found out because of my friends, that I really hate them for
Awe, the moment when the chick asked her for skating lessons warmed my heart.
Everything about the mother is control-related: Control over Dawn's cutting, control over her husband, the household, the past....this woman needs Dr. Parella, along with Dawn.
she knows NOTHING about being a mother!!!!
and her friend is the shit "one more word and you'll know how it feels, princess" best line in the movie so far
Now I understand why this movie is called "Painful Secrets". It's not just about Dawn and her secret cutting, but the whole family has "painful secrets" that end up being revealed. This movie shows that no matter how glamourous a family looks on the outside, there is hidden pain on the inside. The father is in pain with his relationship with the mother, the brother feels cut off from the family because of Dawn's cutting and fear of a divorce (his parents), and the mother hid her past child abuse
Same thing happened to me in 8th grade. A few kids told a few others, before I knew it this one "jock" asked me everyday "how's the depression going" "cut anymore?" and kids in my classes were laughing, whispering, and drawing pencil lines on their wrists. Talk bout fun
Remember movies like this are meant to educate. It shows parents what NOT to do. So yes, you want to strangle the mother, but she is so horrid, because she is everything you could do wrong as a parent, rolled into one. This movie helped me when I found out my kid was cutting. I actually saw this before I found out, so I didn't have to make any of those mistakes. I was just able to help, be supportive, and learned to listen differently.
I hated this movie at first, but it has gotten better. I like the psychological aspects. When her mom tells her about her sisters death it really shows that her mom has her own childhood scars. She is scared of being blamed for her daughters problems because she still feels like her sisters death was her fault. People are hating on her mom, but the truth is, she has her own hurts too. There is always two sides to a story.
I'm happy when I see a painful person having fun with good things. :D
I saw this movie before I even knew what cutting truly was. It stuck with me to this day, or I guess I should say the part where the mother told people and they treated her like a freak. That scene was exactly why I never told the people I knew about my problem.
As frustrating as it is to watch her family handle it like that, it was filmed in 2000. Back then it wasn't as present as self injury is today. You heard; only 1 in 200 girls were cutting then. It's much more than that now with one in four adolescents being depressed. Even the doctors reaction to we saying she doesn't mind if she has the scars for ever- quite inappropriate now that try know a lot more about it. The psychiatrists approach was impressive as the writers must've put done a lot of r
This is actually how a parent would behave. Completely unaware of the damage they're causing.
At first I didn't like the main girl, but now I really think she is PERFECT for this part.
i love the way her friend sticks up for her
it sucks when people find out about your secret and isolate you for it, hate you, make fun of you, ignore you like the plague...poeple don't cut to get their jollies, they cut because they're hurting, and are driven to suicide because of how others react
I'm glad she's having fun with her friend. (I mean the skating)
i love dawn's friend
that was really kewl of her to stand up like that
I love her best friend trying to help her.
her friend's really cool. I like people who are blunt but nice at the same time
Kids at school would never care that much as to tell everyone, much less to think up how to irritate her
"Let me see, I really wanna see."
Freak. And those 3 girls think Dawn is a freak.
Why would you want to see the scars? Like wtf.
OH MY GOD AGREED 100%. She's only concerned about herself!
I can't believe that instead of saying I can't imagine losing you she says I won't get blamed for another thing again. I can't believe how insensitive she is.
Teens, usually don't react like that when they find out, they find you maybe weird and look at you weirdly but the don't openly come up to you and make you suffer even more (for my own experience in anycase...)
Man, I love those awkward Dinner scenes..Lol
@Bloombaby99 when a kids getting bullied at home or is having trouble what do they do....they bully someone else. Dawn is doing the same thing, she's getting it at all angles and has found someone she can vent to that's all :)
ARE YOU SHITTING ME?? This mother. O.M.G.
Could she possibly make the situation ANY worse?
I can't imagine. Poor Dawn. As if high school isn't enough of a shark tank.
Aww I'm so sorry that happened to you. So few people understand... I wish I could help you.
It makes me lul when movies over exaggerate how mean high school girls are
not sure how much more i can take from the mother or "the popular girl "
@kaitykaitykaitykaity ... those 3 girls really are and yet everyone in this movie is so unbelievable. I went to IMDB and found this to be a "Lifetime" movie, which explains everything.
Wow. Some people from my old class do the same and they drew scars on their arms and things like this. It's so terrible.
This scene made me cry. -.-
@Landrew120880
Actually, the movie originally aired on USA under a different title. The movie was called Secret Cutting but they changed it when they aired it on Lifetime.
God that mom made me so pissed..ugh, can't people just, I don't know...
What makes her mom think that alienated her daughter from EVERYONE at school is going to make her stop? If anything, I'd need more relief from cutting than ever...
I love Dawn's friend, oh my.
That mom knows nothing. Thinking that getting people to make fun of her is going to make her stop.
I know people can be mean as kids, however, I never experienced anything like that when I was in high school and cutting. When people found out, they tended to be either sympathetic or just a little confused as to *why*, I was doing it. But maybe it's because cutting is just so much more commen now than earlier, don't thing people with eating disorders get bullied for it either, because everyone know it is a dissease.
@ThePurrmeow: I agree with you :D, but in this case, Jamie is a boy. Dawn's father, Russell Cottrell, even says so when he mentioned that Jamie was made first time point guard: "I didn't think he had it in him..." or something like that was the quote.
Umm I love the blond chick. Che is so awesome coming to her defense. I didn't realize it before but I remember seeing some of this on Lifetime.
OMG the mom acts like if its her problem like "i had it all bottled up what was i supposed to do" hello your daughters the one with the problem
Im happy she at least now has one truee friend. Oh gosh, her family dont help at all.
My mom and dad are EXACTLY like this!! Exact personalities I say! This is so wierd omg
so nice to see her smile :)
I like how they have the popular girl idolizing Princess Diana.. They are making fun of dawn and calling her weird because she does it when in fact Princess Diana was also a cutter.
ARGH! I hate it when people draw cuts with markers just to bother you!
It's crazy, but that's what people do. They make fun of things that they don't understand...
I hate that mom. She is only worried about herself getting blamed.
I can understand that her mother feels scared shitless and helpless but that really isn't a way of solving things. How can she even think for a minute that it would help?
A guy I liked changed how he felt about me when he heard, my friends pinned me down and searched my arms and legs. My mum hated my guts for what I did and everyone started making jokes about it and whispering and spreading shit. This movie is like the past 5 years of my life.
I know her mom thinks she's trying to help, but she's doing the exact opposite.
okay....now I have no more sympathy for that mom....what she did with telling others was unforgivable
Lorraine is sutch a good friend.
I am horrified with the mothers behavior she has done everything to make her daughter feel even worse
i love her friend! you go girl!
@13Bee1 I'm sorry this happened to you, I hope things get better for you soon, with or without your family's help. No need to apologise x
Yeah, how will peer pressure help her stop? It would only make it worse! I just wish that her mother would understand.
that mother is such a pain in the A**. how could she do this.
That mom JUST DOESN'T GET IT!!!!
Her mother's insensitivity...and the horrible mocking from the other kids at school. :(
horrid. horrid. I hate it so bad.
I think peer pressure would make her want to do it more.
Wow that mother .... un believeable :| no words can explain how bad of a mother she is im just speechless ....
It's soo annoying - not so much about the cutting but the ed - my mum used to tell anyone who would listen- it was her way of coping I guess but it was damaging! Made me so paranoid about who knew and who didn't.
if she really cared and gave her best, she would inform herself better about cutting, and she would try to understand why her daughter is doing it and how she really feels. i think
Nowadays people would be so much more helpful to her... if anyone at my school found out they'd just help me and give me advice...
Everyone just needs love.
What people don't understand.. with all the "she could die" comments... cutting isn't about death or wanting to die; its about control and releasing the pain if only for a second.. NOT about dying.. its a coping skill
that probably would bring her the same satisfaction, maybe even more lol
the mother is so clueless!! she thinks peer pressure will stop her cutting?? it was all that pressure that STARTED her cutting
But thats the way most Parents react on it. You can't compare someone who doesn't cut with someone who does. If it would be that easy...
I hate how they just grab her and start looking for the cuts. A woman at my job did that to me in front of everyone even the customers. She grabbed my arms and called me Crazy so everyone at my job talks about me when its none of their business about my scars
loraine is lying on her legs ( @ 0.26 )...that must hurt with all that wounds
yeah my mom doesnt talk about it either,and im glad she doesnt. i would be so mad if she went up and told anyone!!!
I would of just ran away if that happened to me and the mom told everyone. I wouldnt of been able to handle being in that house anymore or the school.
Dawn gets attention so the evil trio spreads the word? Oh wow, just shows how much character they have (although I give kudos to the actresses). Dawn, they are NOT worth cutting for. "Mother" might be, but not them.
I hate how guys change how they feel about u because they find out u have issues
@MsGelisa same, they're tingling. It's trippy.
Dag. Yall are serious about this mom business.
The popular girls aren't really like this...they feed off of attention, they'd suddenly be her best friends, suffering for her.
I knew a girl just like that popular girl in the pink. She works for ME now !
everybody eventually found out about me.. it doesn't make it better, they just start being more cruel
Mkay, I have an idea. How about we talk a sharp instrument to the mother. How about that? That'd fix things up right quick!
The funny thing? My mom did all of this, made me strip.. Took away everything, made me feel ashamed of myself, want to do it more. Yelled at me for being idiotic, joked about it. You name it, told the whole family. My dad said NOTHING to me, and only cared about my school. Oh, and my name is Dawn.
alright...I highly doubt they'd make fun of her out in the open like that...maybe amongst themselves...but I have to believe that most people are kind of descent
Lorraine was a great friend to Dawn.
how could her mum tell everyone?! OMG. That's just...........no words.;/
that woman infuriates me.
i had a friend who did that but we never judged her we supported her..but some people are cruel i think that could reallly happen
"maybe peer pressure will stop you" uh no try again. peer pressure is whats causing her to cut. DUH!!!!
that guy who likes her is WAAAY hotter than that grimy musician
I wish Dawn would check her attitude....Dr. Parella is only trying to help and is the only one who understands her. She should cop serious attitude with Rebecca and her popular girls, her mother (a definate!) and her snotty little brother.....
What, do her parents think she's going to cut at the table?! good grief
@Limorexia yeah, i experienced the same. but i can imagine how she feels. ´specially cause of her mum...
her mom just doesn't understand her
@13Bee1 i know exactly how you feel. sometimes, i have to just get out of myself, otherwise it becomes really intense, and i cant not. :S HUGS
@13Bee1 You don't know me, I don't know you. I know how it feels to have a mother you feel you can't tell anything to. Fear of judgement, maybe fear of receiving even less affection that you already get. There's others out there who understand the pain, I'll be your friend.
Kinda reminds me of my mom. Always wants to be mother of the fucking year.
@XxSharpieItBlackxX same, my friends did that to me and spread it around the whole school. So, it's been a year now...but my mom didn't thankfully. But she found out because of my friends, that I really hate them for
I think the mom is the one that needs to be in therapy
This is 100% my mom and maybe 90% my dad since I talk a little more to him than she does, but otherwise it's exactly my parents!! Seriously
Obviously the mom has her own issues she is ignoring and its causing everyone else in that family to have issues.