As a pediatric occupational therapist, it warms my heart to see your instructions of how to include younger kids in independent living skills around the home! Thank you for sharing!
i wish i had a great mom like you... my mother never taught me anything & did everything for me because only she claimed onle she knew how to do it "right". cut my meals for me, clipped my nails for me, picked my clothes, cleaned my room... the result was that at 21 i couldn't cook or clean for myself. imagine being an adult that doesn't know how to do laundry - that was me - i know it sounds crazy but i swear this was my reality. i felt deeply ashamed and it took a lot of time to learn everything on my own. to this day there are moments when i realize i don't know how to do some simple thing and i get so embarrassed. i grew up to be self conscious, lazy, anxious and unmotivated. life is a daily battle. i have so much respect for you and i know your kids will grow up to be amazing people. if all parents were like you there wouldn't be unhappy children in this world. take care xx
My boyfriend's mom is the same way with his 15 yr old sister and she has such low self esteem because of it but refuses to believe its her fault and gives her antidepressants instead. She even got mad at my bf for letting her walk to the McDonald's with his 12 yr old son when its literally a 5 minute walk, she also got mad at him for letting her use our oven among other things. But yeah poor girl can't do anything on her own and is completely dependant on her mom
Dude I’m 30 and have just had a kid of my own. I don’t know how to do anything either my parents did everything for me. And Mums helping me with my newborn because I’m pretty shit at that too. Helicopter parents
I think you shouldn't blame your Mom for caring for you. You just had to watch her and imitate. You had time to focus on other things like your future goals. Move past blame and onto your future and be proud of what you've accomplished. Most kids don't remember these toddler years.
@@MyMonkeyMinions It's not so much about what you remember and what you don't. It's how you were SHAPED during those few years when your brain was developing and literally being "wired." Whether you were shaped to be be independent and self-confident or dependent and unsure of yourself, that becomes your "default" for the rest of your life. You can work past it, but it takes constant effort. It's so much better if you were simply "shaped" with positive intention from the start.
Inanna Lynn 👏👏👏👏 SPOT ON! What’s the point on “achieving future goals” when you don’t have self-confidence to complete them. The first 3 years of life follow you well into adulthood!
My partner and I really want to raise our future kids with a Montessori philosophy, I already knew about Montessori but your channel really shows me how great it can be in the home, not just in daycare
Toddlers are also capable of ripping lettuce for salads or even practicing knife skills by using a plastic lettuce knife to cut lettuce (bonus: it gives them the feeling of using a big knife). My parents made me throw my own diapers away. I even know a little girl who is being extra stubborn about the potty thing (though, she's going through a rough time with daddy being away for work), but she'll change her own pull-ups.
I watched your Montessori discipline video and this video today and I applied it all day today and I see a HUGE change in my daughter!!!!! She’s been sooo sweet and helpful. Thank you so much for sharing your videos. I am definitely adapting to this new way of teaching and discipling as I HATE the “traditional” way most of us were raised (including me) of yelling and screaming and stress. This has helped sooooo much! 💕💕💕💕💕
I don’t have a kid.. I’m not pregnant... and I don’t plan on it for 2-3 more years 🤷🏻♀️.... love this channel for some reason... I’m gonna know everything over the next few years 😂
I taught my kids at 4 years old to separate laundry into like colors for the laundry to be washed. They know lights, darks/brights, jeans, whites. They have been feeding our 4 dogs for a few years and we have them pump in the liquid glucosamine also. If they spill anything they clean it up. My son has been helping with cooking and dishes since he was 4. My daughter doesn't show interest in those things yet, but she focuses on larger tasks with her other older brother much better than her other brother that is only a year older. We have 2 5 year olds that live with us and one 5 year old that lives with his mom and visits, and a 13 year old. Our kids have to wash their hands and face after every meal or snack. All food stays at the table or bar top, they have to hang up their napkin (we use cloth and reuse), push in their chair, and they have to get the small step ladder and rinse their dishes and stack them... And put the ladder away. Our son that visits is always so amazed with what the other two can do and he works very hard to learn everything. We just pick up where we left off the last time he was over. Our kids bathe themselves in the shower and we just watch to see how well they are doing and go over areas we thinking they need to learn how to do a little better. All three of the young kids have three different learning levels and speeds and we hold them all accountable, but work with them at their individual rate. One can let our dogs in and out... Which isn't something the other two can do yet even though they are all the same age for a couple of months. We have two dogs that stay separated and he's paid very close attention. They bring all their laundry upstairs to the laundry room and they help collect the rest. They also wipe off the dining room table and help with the older boy's chores. They even help vacuum...I just check the floor beforehand. One of my sons kept coming home with sand in his boots from the playground so he has to dump them out in the yard and vacuum up any mess that may have been made before he did that. He gets the vacuum out, pushes it through the house on his own and I help plug it in although he has done it on his own.... We have serious safety lessons about the outlets and what can happen. He's actually excited to clean up these messes. Two of the kids have been refilling their cups with water out of the fridge all on their own for about a year. They help with removing the small trash bags and putting new bags in, and they help carry in groceries. We are challenging them a little more this summer with new tasks. My oldest son gets asked all of the time by other kids why he has chores. I've even had mom's tell me that they want their kids to be kids and not have to clean everything up like they did when they were kids. To each their own, but I don't believe it actually helps the kids to be responsible. One of those mom's just had her son discharged from bootcamp because he couldn't handle it mentally. I believe teaching children to clean up after themselves and help out with household responsibilities... Even teaching to change tires and oil will better prepare them for the world and make them better, stronger people. I remember teaching a 16 year old girl to sweep a floor because she had never picked up a broom. Thankfully I gave her some skills to procure her first job in a restaurant... Sweeping floors and cleaning up bathrooms.
These are such great ideas! It didn't occur to me that kids can help out so much at such a young age. I kept thinking "when they're older" but I can see how proud and accomplished your daughter feels in these clips. Thanks for sharing. BTW, baby girl is TOO cute
It's amazing how capable our little ones can be if we just provide the correct environment and guidance! We have already started Practical Life Activities at 12 months and she is in LOVE with them! 💛
Wow! You are AMAZING, my son is soon turning 2 and I want to be able to involve him in my chores instead of trying to distract him and have him play somewhere else and this definitely helped so much. Thank you!!
I keep wanting to do Montessori videos on my channel. I went to a Montessori school and loved it. My girls love all of the practical life skills. I always let them help out when they are curious. It frustrates me when I see parents telling “no” or “don’t do that” to their kids when they want to help. Parents just don’t want to take the extra time. They are in such a rush to get things done. They forget that their kids will learn from these experiences. My girls LOVE helping with the dishwasher and the animals. My oldest has a watering can obsession and will water everything lol. What’s great about teaching these skills is when you have your second little one she will learn from both you and your oldest and the process will be even quicker.
Hapa Family exactly! I have soooo many videos recorded for it I just never edited or uploaded anything. I’m going to start editing them now! Lol. Today already she helped with the dishes, cooked breakfast, sweeper the floor, got dressed, brushed her teeth, fed the dogs, made her bed, and so much more. She is always so proud and it’s way better than sitting around watching TV. It really is the best! I’m Glad to see other moms interested too!
Super helpful thank you! It's amazing how so many parents think that their child is either not capable of doing all this things, or that it's a chore that they should do for their child so he/she has more time for "playing". I grew uo doing all these things and I remember having so much fun doing them, not to mention how useful it is!
I'm going to binge watch your videos and learn to be like this! I am about to have baby number 2 next week and ive noticed me and my daughter stress eachother out with simple tasks. I absolutely love this
I watched my mom use knives for many, many years before I touched one. Even then, I can count the times I have minced garlic, for example, on one hand. I love learning about good parenting techniques, even if I don't have my own kids yet.
I’ve been watching RUclips videos for a long time. But this is my first comment. I read concepts about Montosorri. But till I watch your videos, I realize that we are applying the same concepts. I love your videos. And I learn so much more than what we’ve already been doing. Teaching them the practical life activities doesn’t mean that we don’t love them. This is a way to show them that they are treated equally. Their capabilities and wills are respected. It’s just amazing to see how much they can achieve sometimes. Thanks so much for sharing!
Yeah really toddlers can do it, but we as Mother's won't allow to do it. After ibsaw this video, I tried with my 2.5 years old baby and he is doing some of the practical life Activities.
Your channel was recommended to me because I have been binge-watching mom vloggers but wow I am so impressed with your parenting style and how independent and disciplined your kiddos are. I never knew what Montessori means and I learned so much from all your videos
Hello, I don’t know if you will ever read this but was hoping to find out where you got your clothing labels that you used? Great idea to stay organized. Did you make them yourself? Are they available for purchase?
Thank you so much for making this video, because I really have such impatience to go through books & blogs until I learn how to teach my kid something, that I feel like this video summed up the most important basics that I can already start doing by morning with my toddler and read the book for more depth and knowledge in peace. He is about 19 mo and I WISH I knew about montasorri SO much earlier, and I hope it’s not too late to change this and still be able to teach him these skills... tbh I feel like I have been a really bad mom by being mad at him for messing in the kitchen when all my little man wanted to do was to help me 😭💔
Thank you for this video series. I wish I had known about this ahead of time. My daughter is now 4 and I am just now learning about this. It makes me feel like a neglectful Mom. I going to get right on this.
Anna K there’s a very very big difference between neglect and simply not knowing something. You haven’t been neglectful you didn’t know and now you’re changing your approach! Good luck with your little one.
Your channel is such a gem and I enjoy watching any of your videos, old or new. Your daughters are adorable! I have not heard for montessori before I run into your channel but it is something that I always wanted to implement, I just didn't know that it's a thing with a name and entire philosophy behind it.
Thank you!! My 13mo is starting this on his own (emptying dishwasher, trying to put on shoes, etc) even though he’s not walking yet, but I want to encourage it and help him help me!! ❤️
I wasn't raised in a Montessori household but I remember helping with dinner a lot, sweeping, doing dishes, feeding the dogs, collecting the fruit from our trees, helping fold laundry, and self care when I was little. There were things I didn't do like vacuuming, dishes, setting the table, and using sharp knives for a while because I simply couldn't handle it or wasn't tall enough. I was using the stove and sharp knives by 5 with adult supervision. The only "chore" I remember not doing for a long time was doing my own hair, I didn't do my own hair until about 2nd grade because it's so thick and it was pretty long at the time so my little child arms weren't strong enough to deal with it all. If washed and conditioned my own hair I would end up with dried soap in it from not being able to scrub it and I could not brush through all my hair by myself.
This is FANTASTIC! I am so glad I stumbled upon this, will def start using more of this in our every day routine. Baby #2 is almost here and I’m going to watch your other videos! Thank you!!!!
Great video. I was feeling a little sad because my son is not doing the same activities as you. But then I went back and listened 22 months. I have a little bit more time to starting introducing them he is only 14 months. He loves to sweep and vacuum, wipe things down, water out side, put things In the garage. But he doesn't pick up and put away and most of the laundry help is pulling it out of the drawer. So I might need to change our set up and start modeling more.
I always find This so fascinating. When my mom had my older sister she was about 3 and she was showing interest in buckling her car seat(of course my mom made sure she did it right and tight) but my mom let her practice it one afternoon of buckling herself in her car seat my mom went to go get groceries and they came back from the store my mom put her groceries in and my sister said she was gonna buckle herself in my mom got in the car and looked back at her make sure she was all safe at that time a car scratches the car my mom and sister hits the mirror off the car and kept going ( the brakes had failed) if my mom was standing there helping my sister in she would have been most likely died .
Hi,great video...i love Montessori method and my now 8 year old did Montessori for from 2 to 6 and then joined school and my now 5 year old still doing pure Montessori ,will continue till 6 and they are following all Montessori principles at their class/ environment but not at home and you have given me great Montessori ideas to follow at home.Thanks for the video.Regarding what I would like to see is how you have planned and organized your home to adapt to Montessori style and also to follow the things you suggested .Awesome to see your toddler doing all this.God bless..wish you all the best.
Thank you, for doing this! I'm late to the game, for this.. but IM FINALLY AVAILABLE to do this with our new home. 😍😎 So thank you for showing step by step. How! & Tips!
Thank you for this series 😀 My husband and I are watching you from Poland 😁 Your channel is a big help for us in implementing Montessori for our three sons that keep us busy... 😂😂😂 our oldest one is 3 years old, the middle one is 18 months old and we have a 4 week old newborn 😍
The one downside is that Kylie sometimes gets frustrated when she can't get something on properly, and then when I offer my help, she adamantly refuses and gets even more upset with me. So it's just this vicious cycle... lol... hopefully she gets the hang of it soon! >.
I’m so glad I came across your videos! I have a 7 mo (almost 8 mo) and I’ve been incorporating Montessori principals since she was born. It’s getting more and more fun as she’s getting older! I do have a question: it looks like you may have the IKEA children’s table? When did she start using it? I’m debating making a DIY weaning table or if i should wait and just buy a table and chairs when she’s old enough to use it..
Yes, that’s the one we have! I started her using it as a weaning table when she was about 8 or 9 months old, I think? I did have my hubby modify one of the chairs with arms so she wouldn’t fall out of it on accident, though, which proved to be very useful for a long time until she was steady enough in the chair as it is normally designed. I want to say that didn’t happen until sometime after she was 1.
I would love to see a video on how you filter any gifts from family and friends...what if they're big, not aesthetically pleasing, not in line with Montessori, etc?
Love this video!! It’s so encouraging. I’ve been afraid to have my LO do any of these things. Of course feeling it will make a mess was the main concern. But seeing your daughter doing so well changed my mind! Thank you for sharing this video!
I LOVED, LOVED THIS VIDEO, TKS. ...BUT CAN YOU MAKE ONE FOR OLDER KIDS? LIKE 4 YRS OLD PLEASE!!! We recently (5 months ago) change out daughter to a Montessori school and we are loving it. I get some really good ideas from this video, but would love one for kids a bit older. Recently found your channel btw and have been obsessing over it. Cheers!
Omg, you and your daughter are so cute. Thank you for sharing this with us. This is so great. She can do anything, like i couldnt believe. 👍 I have twins they are 2 years old now, do you have any montessori advice for kids that little? Have fun!
I love your ideas of how to get your child to involve all different kind of practical work at home. To follow strict Montessori, maybe you can get small trays for each activity on the shelf and a rug for floor toys but I love your setting environment, anyway. :)
love love love love love!! This is so awesome!! If I have children some day, I plan to teach them these things. Thank you so much for posting. I knew some of these things, but I also learned a lot about what toddlers can do.
They really are quite capable when provided with the right environment and the freedom to exercise their independence. 🥰 So glad I could inspire you for the future!
Again so much nice tips, thanks. My daughter is allready helping me with the laundry, dishwasher, wiping the dust. My mom taught her, how to wash her hands. She is interested in cooking, but I don't have a helping tower or a big working desk to let her sit on. Where did you get the watering can from?
My son does the same too!Sometimes he finished what he should do, and start to look for more. Like replacing the toilet roll when it still has half left😂😂😂so funny
This is great! I do some of these things already 🙌 but will definitely take on board doing more. Any tips for brushing teeth. My daughter is 22 months and she fights me off tying to brush her teeth, because I always let her have a go. But she just bites and sucks on it, I’m so worried that her teeth aren’t getting brushed enough but it’s so hard to do them without feeling like I’m ‘torturing’ her. Anyone else have this issue? X
..sorry my other comment was so brief but there's just so many things that you're including your toddler in that I can't possibly name them all here and now! I think it's great how you show clips of your examples with your daughter doing some of these things you're talking about involving them in rather than just listing them all. Have you heard of the Circle of Security? If you haven't, you would really like it, it is very much about alot of the emotional sorting | helping them with their emotions, that you've been referring to (I think mainly in some examples you made in the one other video of yours that I've seen- the one on positive discipline- pretty sure that was the title) Hey if you get time, do let me know(?) If you like the Circle of Security idea! Be great to hear back, I too am a mum of two (You're still pregnant in this particular vid though) my eldest son is 7yrs old and my other son, 7wk old newborn. Being a mummy of two is challenging yet SO rewarding! Thanks for taking the time to read this, take care Wonder Mumma! Haha 😉👍
Thank you so much! I have not heard of Circle of Security, but I will definitely look into it! 🥰 Thanks for the suggestion! And congrats to you on your precious new little one, mama! 💕
@@HapaFamily Great! I think you'll really like it - if you like what you're already doing which of course you do, and what you're doing is working for you which is what it's all about aswell as helping our bundles of wonder to develop into well adjusted and healthy minded individuals 😁 The Circle It's all about consistency with your child- them knowing at all times but mainly through play/while they're off 'learning'- that you're there for every moment that they need a little assurance with something in particular with the organising of their feelings and therefore helping them with understanding their own feelings but more importantly, then knowing what to do with those feelings! Alright I'm rambling here haha so I'll leave it there for now.. I'm thinking I should have left a link or something but off you just Google the Circle of Security, it shouldn't be hard to find 😉 I learnt all about it through an added course I did while my eldest was a toddler. Integrated Learning was a name used frequently during my studies.
So my 17month old seems to get frustrated with something she can't do like open something, or can't fit a block into the correct shape, just something typical. Then she screams and throws it and once i try to show her how to do it, i get down to her level, she still tries to grab it and throw it, or make frustrated sounds. Also, when i try to let her help in the kitchen, she ALWAYS makes a mess! Lol. once again, I try to show her, and she just seems over it. Any advice on this? Thank you. ur videos are always so useful and your baby girl is TOO cute :0) I want my baby to be that way too! Thank you 👍😍🌹
Sounds like the activities she’s getting frustrated with are just slightly too challenging for her right now. Something you can try first is to set her up for success by setting out less pieces (so if the shape sorter comes with 5, only put out 2 or 3), and choose the easier pieces she’s most likely to find success with starting out (like the circle). Once she starts getting the hang of it and develops her persistence, you can re-introduce the more difficult pieces. In the mean time, sit with her while she works on the activities that you’re aware frustrate her, and instead of waiting to step in and offer some help until she’s already upset and throwing it, step in during the moment just BEFORE you think she would typically become upset and ask if she would like you to show/help her. SOME level of frustration is healthy and normal, but you certainly don’t want her to develop an “I give up” sense of attitude constantly. In Montessori, there’s this idea that you step in to offer help, but ONLY as little possible help as they need to be successful, and then you step back again and let them try for themselves.
And as far as messes in the kitchen go, that’s totally par for the course! 🥰Maybe perhaps try an activity that could be less messy to begin with, like letting her wash some lettuce, or scrub some potatoes. Or you can simply just let her mix with a spoon in a mixing bowl if you’re baking something together. Perhaps you can hold the bowl while she mixes until she gets a better hang of it? In the mean time, remember accidents are okay - try not to get upset with her about messes. And have her help you wipe up as fun part of the learning process, without making it feel like a punishment for making the mess. :) Keep at it! She’ll get there in her own time!
@@HapaFamily thank you so much for all the advice. I will sure use this today since it is a new day 😃. And you know what I DO tend to wait a little too long and that's when she does give up and doesn't even want to try and succeed at a simple task. She'll just want to go do something else. And maybe I do get frustrated when she does because I don't want to see her like that. But I definitely do want her to succeed!! Omgosh.. She is my first baby ever and I am a single mom and I have little help from her grandparents because they are always busy too. But I am considering daycare for her as well because I do think that she tends to cause havoc and act out only because she has nobody to play with. I am also in school too so... It's just a little crazy around here lol. Again, thank you very much for taking the time to respond so nicely and inspirational. I love your videos so much. Have a beautiful day!
Nicole Marion You are making a great step forward by giving her more independence at home using Montessori principles. A lot of time, toddlers can seem frustrating to adults because they are struggling for some measure of control and a feeling of self-sufficiency, while they are usually just looked down upon as inferior little people who can’t do much for themselves. The opposite couldn’t be more true! The more opportunities you give her to be independent, the less she’ll act out or battle with you - try to work together, not against one another. It’s a hard mindset transition to make at first, but with practice, it eventually becomes second nature. A famous refrain in Montessori education is “Teach me do it myself”. The more you can set up her environment to enable her to do things for herself, and coach her on how to do those things (like handwashing, cooking with you, getting dressed, etc), the better off you’ll both feel! 😊 Wishing you all the best!
@@HapaFamily aww thank you so much Ashley. Thank you For the positive feedback and advice. A 28 yr old single mom couldn't ask for more 🙏 thanks for understanding! It is a work in process but it's not like we need to call Super Nanny or anything either lol, it's just that I need to get down to her level more and more. Lord knows I love her so much and I give her all the attention and affection there is to give! And thanks to your videos for preference when we are having a rough day/time/moment. Bless you and your family ❤ 🙌
Hi there! My son is 15 months old. He helps me start the washing machine, wipes his tray and hands/mouth after eating, slides the laundry basket to his room and puts clothes in the drawer, closes cabinets/fridge/dishwasher when i say to. However, i have no idea how to get him into cooking, and im always cooking. He still puts EVERYTHING in his mouth, or he likes to dump it on the floor, not another container or stir it. Do you have any ideas!? Thank you!
Hi Ashley, I have a question that happens to me a lot when babysitting What happens when you demonstrate the activity and then try to get the toddler to do it but they just want you to do it/ keep doing it and back away
As a pediatric occupational therapist, it warms my heart to see your instructions of how to include younger kids in independent living skills around the home! Thank you for sharing!
Fellow Occupational Therapist! Love it! Kids can do so much.
i wish i had a great mom like you... my mother never taught me anything & did everything for me because only she claimed onle she knew how to do it "right". cut my meals for me, clipped my nails for me, picked my clothes, cleaned my room... the result was that at 21 i couldn't cook or clean for myself. imagine being an adult that doesn't know how to do laundry - that was me - i know it sounds crazy but i swear this was my reality. i felt deeply ashamed and it took a lot of time to learn everything on my own. to this day there are moments when i realize i don't know how to do some simple thing and i get so embarrassed. i grew up to be self conscious, lazy, anxious and unmotivated. life is a daily battle. i have so much respect for you and i know your kids will grow up to be amazing people. if all parents were like you there wouldn't be unhappy children in this world. take care xx
My boyfriend's mom is the same way with his 15 yr old sister and she has such low self esteem because of it but refuses to believe its her fault and gives her antidepressants instead. She even got mad at my bf for letting her walk to the McDonald's with his 12 yr old son when its literally a 5 minute walk, she also got mad at him for letting her use our oven among other things. But yeah poor girl can't do anything on her own and is completely dependant on her mom
Dude I’m 30 and have just had a kid of my own. I don’t know how to do anything either my parents did everything for me. And Mums helping me with my newborn because I’m pretty shit at that too. Helicopter parents
I think you shouldn't blame your Mom for caring for you. You just had to watch her and imitate. You had time to focus on other things like your future goals. Move past blame and onto your future and be proud of what you've accomplished. Most kids don't remember these toddler years.
@@MyMonkeyMinions It's not so much about what you remember and what you don't. It's how you were SHAPED during those few years when your brain was developing and literally being "wired." Whether you were shaped to be be independent and self-confident or dependent and unsure of yourself, that becomes your "default" for the rest of your life. You can work past it, but it takes constant effort. It's so much better if you were simply "shaped" with positive intention from the start.
Inanna Lynn 👏👏👏👏 SPOT ON! What’s the point on “achieving future goals” when you don’t have self-confidence to complete them. The first 3 years of life follow you well into adulthood!
One of my favorite memories is following my dad around the house with a measuring cup. He would pour water in the cup and I got to water the plants!
My partner and I really want to raise our future kids with a Montessori philosophy, I already knew about Montessori but your channel really shows me how great it can be in the home, not just in daycare
Toddlers are also capable of ripping lettuce for salads or even practicing knife skills by using a plastic lettuce knife to cut lettuce (bonus: it gives them the feeling of using a big knife).
My parents made me throw my own diapers away. I even know a little girl who is being extra stubborn about the potty thing (though, she's going through a rough time with daddy being away for work), but she'll change her own pull-ups.
I had a little girl throw her diapers away as well
Love the idea of putting pictures of different types of clothing on her drawers !
I watched your Montessori discipline video and this video today and I applied it all day today and I see a HUGE change in my daughter!!!!! She’s been sooo sweet and helpful. Thank you so much for sharing your videos. I am definitely adapting to this new way of teaching and discipling as I HATE the “traditional” way most of us were raised (including me) of yelling and screaming and stress. This has helped sooooo much! 💕💕💕💕💕
I don’t have a kid.. I’m not pregnant... and I don’t plan on it for 2-3 more years 🤷🏻♀️.... love this channel for some reason... I’m gonna know everything over the next few years 😂
Same 😅
I taught my kids at 4 years old to separate laundry into like colors for the laundry to be washed. They know lights, darks/brights, jeans, whites. They have been feeding our 4 dogs for a few years and we have them pump in the liquid glucosamine also. If they spill anything they clean it up. My son has been helping with cooking and dishes since he was 4. My daughter doesn't show interest in those things yet, but she focuses on larger tasks with her other older brother much better than her other brother that is only a year older. We have 2 5 year olds that live with us and one 5 year old that lives with his mom and visits, and a 13 year old. Our kids have to wash their hands and face after every meal or snack. All food stays at the table or bar top, they have to hang up their napkin (we use cloth and reuse), push in their chair, and they have to get the small step ladder and rinse their dishes and stack them... And put the ladder away. Our son that visits is always so amazed with what the other two can do and he works very hard to learn everything. We just pick up where we left off the last time he was over. Our kids bathe themselves in the shower and we just watch to see how well they are doing and go over areas we thinking they need to learn how to do a little better. All three of the young kids have three different learning levels and speeds and we hold them all accountable, but work with them at their individual rate. One can let our dogs in and out... Which isn't something the other two can do yet even though they are all the same age for a couple of months. We have two dogs that stay separated and he's paid very close attention. They bring all their laundry upstairs to the laundry room and they help collect the rest. They also wipe off the dining room table and help with the older boy's chores. They even help vacuum...I just check the floor beforehand. One of my sons kept coming home with sand in his boots from the playground so he has to dump them out in the yard and vacuum up any mess that may have been made before he did that. He gets the vacuum out, pushes it through the house on his own and I help plug it in although he has done it on his own.... We have serious safety lessons about the outlets and what can happen. He's actually excited to clean up these messes. Two of the kids have been refilling their cups with water out of the fridge all on their own for about a year. They help with removing the small trash bags and putting new bags in, and they help carry in groceries. We are challenging them a little more this summer with new tasks.
My oldest son gets asked all of the time by other kids why he has chores. I've even had mom's tell me that they want their kids to be kids and not have to clean everything up like they did when they were kids. To each their own, but I don't believe it actually helps the kids to be responsible. One of those mom's just had her son discharged from bootcamp because he couldn't handle it mentally. I believe teaching children to clean up after themselves and help out with household responsibilities... Even teaching to change tires and oil will better prepare them for the world and make them better, stronger people. I remember teaching a 16 year old girl to sweep a floor because she had never picked up a broom. Thankfully I gave her some skills to procure her first job in a restaurant... Sweeping floors and cleaning up bathrooms.
Wow, you are an incredible mama!
I’m obsessed with your channel!! I won’t have kids for at least a couple more years, but all of this is so eyeopening!
These are such great ideas! It didn't occur to me that kids can help out so much at such a young age. I kept thinking "when they're older" but I can see how proud and accomplished your daughter feels in these clips. Thanks for sharing. BTW, baby girl is TOO cute
It's amazing how capable our little ones can be if we just provide the correct environment and guidance! We have already started Practical Life Activities at 12 months and she is in LOVE with them! 💛
Wow! You are AMAZING, my son is soon turning 2 and I want to be able to involve him in my chores instead of trying to distract him and have him play somewhere else and this definitely helped so much.
Thank you!!
OMG she is too cute love her little hands helping you
I keep wanting to do Montessori videos on my channel. I went to a Montessori school and loved it. My girls love all of the practical life skills. I always let them help out when they are curious. It frustrates me when I see parents telling “no” or “don’t do that” to their kids when they want to help. Parents just don’t want to take the extra time. They are in such a rush to get things done. They forget that their kids will learn from these experiences. My girls LOVE helping with the dishwasher and the animals. My oldest has a watering can obsession and will water everything lol. What’s great about teaching these skills is when you have your second little one she will learn from both you and your oldest and the process will be even quicker.
YES to everything you just said! That's why I started the series, because I feel like if more parents were aware, they'd fall in love with it, too. :)
Hapa Family exactly! I have soooo many videos recorded for it I just never edited or uploaded anything. I’m going to start editing them now! Lol. Today already she helped with the dishes, cooked breakfast, sweeper the floor, got dressed, brushed her teeth, fed the dogs, made her bed, and so much more. She is always so proud and it’s way better than sitting around watching TV. It really is the best! I’m
Glad to see other moms interested too!
Super helpful thank you! It's amazing how so many parents think that their child is either not capable of doing all this things, or that it's a chore that they should do for their child so he/she has more time for "playing". I grew uo doing all these things and I remember having so much fun doing them, not to mention how useful it is!
I haven't thought about any of these things, and my son will LOVE doing these things!
I'm going to binge watch your videos and learn to be like this! I am about to have baby number 2 next week and ive noticed me and my daughter stress eachother out with simple tasks. I absolutely love this
I watched my mom use knives for many, many years before I touched one. Even then, I can count the times I have minced garlic, for example, on one hand. I love learning about good parenting techniques, even if I don't have my own kids yet.
love this!!! so helpful and yes my boy loves helping mommy and I needed to just hear this to keep it simple for me to get him involved.
I’ve been watching RUclips videos for a long time. But this is my first comment. I read concepts about Montosorri. But till I watch your videos, I realize that we are applying the same concepts. I love your videos. And I learn so much more than what we’ve already been doing. Teaching them the practical life activities doesn’t mean that we don’t love them. This is a way to show them that they are treated equally. Their capabilities and wills are respected. It’s just amazing to see how much they can achieve sometimes. Thanks so much for sharing!
Wow! That is so impressive! I had no idea toddlers could do that stuff.
Most people do everything for their kids because they just never give them an opportunity to try for themselves. They are in fact quite capable! 😊
Yeah really toddlers can do it, but we as Mother's won't allow to do it. After ibsaw this video, I tried with my 2.5 years old baby and he is doing some of the practical life Activities.
Montessori is all about being independent don't give help unless they ask of course but modeling is better so they can feel accomplished 💯
Your channel was recommended to me because I have been binge-watching mom vloggers but wow I am so impressed with your parenting style and how independent and disciplined your kiddos are. I never knew what Montessori means and I learned so much from all your videos
This is exactly what we do with our 2 year old! It’s such fun bonding together and watching him grow so much from it.
Hello, I don’t know if you will ever read this but was hoping to find out where you got your clothing labels that you used? Great idea to stay organized. Did you make them yourself? Are they available for purchase?
You have the cutest daughter, you are doing well, momma!
Thank you so much! 🥰
Thank you so much for making this video, because I really have such impatience to go through books & blogs until I learn how to teach my kid something, that I feel like this video summed up the most important basics that I can already start doing by morning with my toddler and read the book for more depth and knowledge in peace. He is about 19 mo and I WISH I knew about montasorri SO much earlier, and I hope it’s not too late to change this and still be able to teach him these skills... tbh I feel like I have been a really bad mom by being mad at him for messing in the kitchen when all my little man wanted to do was to help me 😭💔
Thank you for this video series. I wish I had known about this ahead of time. My daughter is now 4 and I am just now learning about this. It makes me feel like a neglectful Mom. I going to get right on this.
Anna K there’s a very very big difference between neglect and simply not knowing something.
You haven’t been neglectful you didn’t know and now you’re changing your approach!
Good luck with your little one.
Your channel is such a gem and I enjoy watching any of your videos, old or new. Your daughters are adorable! I have not heard for montessori before I run into your channel but it is something that I always wanted to implement, I just didn't know that it's a thing with a name and entire philosophy behind it.
Thank you!! My 13mo is starting this on his own (emptying dishwasher, trying to put on shoes, etc) even though he’s not walking yet, but I want to encourage it and help him help me!! ❤️
I wasn't raised in a Montessori household but I remember helping with dinner a lot, sweeping, doing dishes, feeding the dogs, collecting the fruit from our trees, helping fold laundry, and self care when I was little. There were things I didn't do like vacuuming, dishes, setting the table, and using sharp knives for a while because I simply couldn't handle it or wasn't tall enough. I was using the stove and sharp knives by 5 with adult supervision. The only "chore" I remember not doing for a long time was doing my own hair, I didn't do my own hair until about 2nd grade because it's so thick and it was pretty long at the time so my little child arms weren't strong enough to deal with it all. If washed and conditioned my own hair I would end up with dried soap in it from not being able to scrub it and I could not brush through all my hair by myself.
Awww you are such a good Mommy. So sweet. This was great info for me. Thank you.
This is FANTASTIC! I am so glad I stumbled upon this, will def start using more of this in our every day routine. Baby #2 is almost here and I’m going to watch your other videos! Thank you!!!!
How adorable she is 😍😍😍😍
God bless her
Great video. I was feeling a little sad because my son is not doing the same activities as you. But then I went back and listened 22 months. I have a little bit more time to starting introducing them he is only 14 months. He loves to sweep and vacuum, wipe things down, water out side, put things In the garage. But he doesn't pick up and put away and most of the laundry help is pulling it out of the drawer. So I might need to change our set up and start modeling more.
I always find This so fascinating. When my mom had my older sister she was about 3 and she was showing interest in buckling her car seat(of course my mom made sure she did it right and tight) but my mom let her practice it one afternoon of buckling herself in her car seat my mom went to go get groceries and they came back from the store my mom put her groceries in and my sister said she was gonna buckle herself in my mom got in the car and looked back at her make sure she was all safe at that time a car scratches the car my mom and sister hits the mirror off the car and kept going ( the brakes had failed) if my mom was standing there helping my sister in she would have been most likely died .
I just discovered your videos and loving them and very realistic and humble with your advice love it From Australia
You’re welcome!
I love your channel SOOOOO MUCH!!!! Thank you so much for your videos
Hi,great video...i love Montessori method and my now 8 year old did Montessori for from 2 to 6 and then joined school and my now 5 year old still doing pure Montessori ,will continue till 6 and they are following all Montessori principles at their class/ environment but not at home and you have given me great Montessori ideas to follow at home.Thanks for the video.Regarding what I would like to see is how you have planned and organized your home to adapt to Montessori style and also to follow the things you suggested .Awesome to see your toddler doing all this.God bless..wish you all the best.
I have a whole series playlist with some already and I’m working on more details on the different areas of my house, if you’re interested in that! 🥰
Your daughter is precious! Great job. I love that she loves replacing the toilet paper!!!! It made me chuckle!
Thank you for being such an amazing example of a good mum - really happy I discovered your channel :)
Thank you, for doing this! I'm late to the game, for this.. but IM FINALLY AVAILABLE to do this with our new home. 😍😎 So thank you for showing step by step. How! & Tips!
It’s never too late to start! 😊👏🏻 Glad I could be of help, that is always my goal!
Thank you for this series 😀 My husband and I are watching you from Poland 😁 Your channel is a big help for us in implementing Montessori for our three sons that keep us busy... 😂😂😂 our oldest one is 3 years old, the middle one is 18 months old and we have a 4 week old newborn 😍
Yes 🙌🏼🙌🏼 Gemma is currently LOVING “folding” clothes and picking out what to wear and dressing herself.
The one downside is that Kylie sometimes gets frustrated when she can't get something on properly, and then when I offer my help, she adamantly refuses and gets even more upset with me. So it's just this vicious cycle... lol... hopefully she gets the hang of it soon! >.
I’m so glad I came across your videos! I have a 7 mo (almost 8 mo) and I’ve been incorporating Montessori principals since she was born. It’s getting more and more fun as she’s getting older!
I do have a question: it looks like you may have the IKEA children’s table? When did she start using it? I’m debating making a DIY weaning table or if i should wait and just buy a table and chairs when she’s old enough to use it..
Yes, that’s the one we have! I started her using it as a weaning table when she was about 8 or 9 months old, I think? I did have my hubby modify one of the chairs with arms so she wouldn’t fall out of it on accident, though, which proved to be very useful for a long time until she was steady enough in the chair as it is normally designed. I want to say that didn’t happen until sometime after she was 1.
This was a great video!!! I have a 2 month old, so I'm not there yet. But I will be keeping this in mind!!!
I’m only 26 weeks pregnant but I absolutely can’t wait to implement these tips once it’s time! I love this video!
Thanks I can't wait to start Montessori parenting 😄
I would love to see a video on how you filter any gifts from family and friends...what if they're big, not aesthetically pleasing, not in line with Montessori, etc?
Love this video!! It’s so encouraging. I’ve been afraid to have my LO do any of these things. Of course feeling it will make a mess was the main concern. But seeing your daughter doing so well changed my mind! Thank you for sharing this video!
I LOVED, LOVED THIS VIDEO, TKS. ...BUT CAN YOU MAKE ONE FOR OLDER KIDS? LIKE 4 YRS OLD PLEASE!!! We recently (5 months ago) change out daughter to a Montessori school and we are loving it. I get some really good ideas from this video, but would love one for kids a bit older. Recently found your channel btw and have been obsessing over it. Cheers!
Thanks a lot for this series of videos on Montessori techniques. They are super helpful!
Wow that's a very smart 22 month old!
Thank you!! 🥰
Loved this, thank you for the ideas and sharing your mindset while doing this!
You’re welcome! 😊
Omg, you and your daughter are so cute.
Thank you for sharing this with us. This is so great. She can do anything, like i couldnt believe. 👍
I have twins they are 2 years old now, do you have any montessori advice for kids that little?
Have fun!
My daughter was not even 2 yet in this video, so your twins could definitely do the examples you saw here! 😊👍🏻
Just found your channel, absolutely love your videos, they are very helpful!
THANK YOUUUUUU!🤍
This made me even more excited to have my child 😁😁
I love your ideas of how to get your child to involve all different kind of practical work at home. To follow strict Montessori, maybe you can get small trays for each activity on the shelf and a rug for floor toys but I love your setting environment, anyway. :)
Thank you for watching! Great tips! You’ll see in our newest playroom tour video that we’ve done exactly that. 🥰
love love love love love!! This is so awesome!! If I have children some day, I plan to teach them these things. Thank you so much for posting. I knew some of these things, but I also learned a lot about what toddlers can do.
They really are quite capable when provided with the right environment and the freedom to exercise their independence. 🥰 So glad I could inspire you for the future!
This is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. That's what I want to do ! 😢🥺❤️😭
I just found your channel today everything is so practical..
You're awesome! I love this video! Kids are sooo resilient and love independent! She's adorable 💕
Thank you so much. 🥰🙏🏻
Love that bathroom sink stool! Where is it from?
I love this. Thank you!
Love this video and think it's great advice for any parent!
These ideas are great! Thank you!
Awsome video. I love Montessori ideas. They are great for children. Thank you for sharing ❣️😊
My pleasure! 🥰
Loved your video, thank you so much for sharing. 💖👍👏🏵🌹🌸💐
Totally agree
Very smart
Could you please share what stool you use for hand washing? Thanks!
thank you for sharing
Again so much nice tips, thanks. My daughter is allready helping me with the laundry, dishwasher, wiping the dust. My mom taught her, how to wash her hands. She is interested in cooking, but I don't have a helping tower or a big working desk to let her sit on.
Where did you get the watering can from?
Amazon, it’s by Green Toys. :)
@@HapaFamily lets hope, that they ship to Germany 😂
Your daughter is so sweet!
She is so cute and proud to be helpful :-D
Just ordered my 14 mo a learner tower 🤗
Mam ur from which country.... M from India n i really like the way u teach ur child practical activities.... Want to learn more from u
I live in the US, but this is an international approach originally founded in Italy. 😊 Glad you’re enjoying!
First time seeing your videos, already love it ❤️❤️❤️
My son does the same too!Sometimes he finished what he should do, and start to look for more. Like replacing the toilet roll when it still has half left😂😂😂so funny
I remember when Kylie would want to change the roll always!! 😂 Even if there was plenty left! Lol
This is very informative. Thanks för the heads up~
Thanks for the ideas!
You’re welcome!
Love it. Thank you for sharing!!
Great video! When did you start potty training?
17 months 👍🏻
Amei!!
❤❤
- From Brasil
Thank you for sharing. I have this book too. It is very good book. I love to see more Montessori videos.
You're very welcome, I'm glad you enjoyed watching! I upload a new Montessori at Home video every Thursday, so subscribe and stay tuned! :)
This is great! I do some of these things already 🙌 but will definitely take on board doing more.
Any tips for brushing teeth. My daughter is 22 months and she fights me off tying to brush her teeth, because I always let her have a go. But she just bites and sucks on it, I’m so worried that her teeth aren’t getting brushed enough but it’s so hard to do them without feeling like I’m ‘torturing’ her. Anyone else have this issue? X
Brush your teeth with her! She might try to mimic you! I have noticed my 1 year old little girl doing that:)
After watching a few of your videos I wish I could go back in time and raise my boys differently
McCrea Family Homestead aw :( im sure u did just fine and don’t dwell to much on the past
Love this! Thank you!
Love your house! Thank you for sharing great tips. :)
..sorry my other comment was so brief but there's just so many things that you're including your toddler in that I can't possibly name them all here and now! I think it's great how you show clips of your examples with your daughter doing some of these things you're talking about involving them in rather than just listing them all. Have you heard of the Circle of Security? If you haven't, you would really like it, it is very much about alot of the emotional sorting | helping them with their emotions, that you've been referring to (I think mainly in some examples you made in the one other video of yours that I've seen- the one on positive discipline- pretty sure that was the title) Hey if you get time, do let me know(?) If you like the Circle of Security idea! Be great to hear back, I too am a mum of two (You're still pregnant in this particular vid though) my eldest son is 7yrs old and my other son, 7wk old newborn. Being a mummy of two is challenging yet SO rewarding! Thanks for taking the time to read this, take care Wonder Mumma! Haha 😉👍
Thank you so much! I have not heard of Circle of Security, but I will definitely look into it! 🥰 Thanks for the suggestion! And congrats to you on your precious new little one, mama! 💕
@@HapaFamily Great! I think you'll really like it - if you like what you're already doing which of course you do, and what you're doing is working for you which is what it's all about aswell as helping our bundles of wonder to develop into well adjusted and healthy minded individuals 😁 The Circle It's all about consistency with your child- them knowing at all times but mainly through play/while they're off 'learning'- that you're there for every moment that they need a little assurance with something in particular with the organising of their feelings and therefore helping them with understanding their own feelings but more importantly, then knowing what to do with those feelings!
Alright I'm rambling here haha so I'll leave it there for now.. I'm thinking I should have left a link or something but off you just Google the Circle of Security, it shouldn't be hard to find 😉
I learnt all about it through an added course I did while my eldest was a toddler.
Integrated Learning was a name used frequently during my studies.
..Sorry to cut it off like that but my newborn is stirring I can hear him . Take care hun xo
Wow I like your style mama 😉
Very useful information ..👍👍
Isee your video 6time I’m sad for my kids I do every thing I’m tired you gives me shocked 😳 🤕🤒 I wake up thank you 🙏
thanks for sharing. great videos. I like your daughter so much who is an angle.
Thank you for your kind words. 🥰
So my 17month old seems to get frustrated with something she can't do like open something, or can't fit a block into the correct shape, just something typical. Then she screams and throws it and once i try to show her how to do it, i get down to her level, she still tries to grab it and throw it, or make frustrated sounds. Also, when i try to let her help in the kitchen, she ALWAYS makes a mess! Lol. once again, I try to show her, and she just seems over it. Any advice on this? Thank you. ur videos are always so useful and your baby girl is TOO cute :0) I want my baby to be that way too! Thank you 👍😍🌹
Sounds like the activities she’s getting frustrated with are just slightly too challenging for her right now. Something you can try first is to set her up for success by setting out less pieces (so if the shape sorter comes with 5, only put out 2 or 3), and choose the easier pieces she’s most likely to find success with starting out (like the circle). Once she starts getting the hang of it and develops her persistence, you can re-introduce the more difficult pieces. In the mean time, sit with her while she works on the activities that you’re aware frustrate her, and instead of waiting to step in and offer some help until she’s already upset and throwing it, step in during the moment just BEFORE you think she would typically become upset and ask if she would like you to show/help her. SOME level of frustration is healthy and normal, but you certainly don’t want her to develop an “I give up” sense of attitude constantly. In Montessori, there’s this idea that you step in to offer help, but ONLY as little possible help as they need to be successful, and then you step back again and let them try for themselves.
And as far as messes in the kitchen go, that’s totally par for the course! 🥰Maybe perhaps try an activity that could be less messy to begin with, like letting her wash some lettuce, or scrub some potatoes. Or you can simply just let her mix with a spoon in a mixing bowl if you’re baking something together. Perhaps you can hold the bowl while she mixes until she gets a better hang of it? In the mean time, remember accidents are okay - try not to get upset with her about messes. And have her help you wipe up as fun part of the learning process, without making it feel like a punishment for making the mess. :) Keep at it! She’ll get there in her own time!
@@HapaFamily thank you so much for all the advice. I will sure use this today since it is a new day 😃. And you know what I DO tend to wait a little too long and that's when she does give up and doesn't even want to try and succeed at a simple task. She'll just want to go do something else. And maybe I do get frustrated when she does because I don't want to see her like that. But I definitely do want her to succeed!! Omgosh.. She is my first baby ever and I am a single mom and I have little help from her grandparents because they are always busy too. But I am considering daycare for her as well because I do think that she tends to cause havoc and act out only because she has nobody to play with. I am also in school too so... It's just a little crazy around here lol. Again, thank you very much for taking the time to respond so nicely and inspirational. I love your videos so much. Have a beautiful day!
Nicole Marion You are making a great step forward by giving her more independence at home using Montessori principles. A lot of time, toddlers can seem frustrating to adults because they are struggling for some measure of control and a feeling of self-sufficiency, while they are usually just looked down upon as inferior little people who can’t do much for themselves. The opposite couldn’t be more true! The more opportunities you give her to be independent, the less she’ll act out or battle with you - try to work together, not against one another. It’s a hard mindset transition to make at first, but with practice, it eventually becomes second nature. A famous refrain in Montessori education is “Teach me do it myself”. The more you can set up her environment to enable her to do things for herself, and coach her on how to do those things (like handwashing, cooking with you, getting dressed, etc), the better off you’ll both feel! 😊 Wishing you all the best!
@@HapaFamily aww thank you so much Ashley. Thank you
For the positive feedback and advice. A 28 yr old single mom couldn't ask for more 🙏 thanks for understanding! It is a work in process but it's not like we need to call Super Nanny or anything either lol, it's just that I need to get down to her level more and more. Lord knows I love her so much and I give her all the attention and affection there is to give! And thanks to your videos for preference when we are having a rough day/time/moment. Bless you and your family ❤ 🙌
Hi there! My son is 15 months old. He helps me start the washing machine, wipes his tray and hands/mouth after eating, slides the laundry basket to his room and puts clothes in the drawer, closes cabinets/fridge/dishwasher when i say to. However, i have no idea how to get him into cooking, and im always cooking. He still puts EVERYTHING in his mouth, or he likes to dump it on the floor, not another container or stir it. Do you have any ideas!? Thank you!
Hi Ashley,
I have a question that happens to me a lot when babysitting
What happens when you demonstrate the activity and then try to get the toddler to do it but they just want you to do it/ keep doing it and back away
Love u for such helpful n effective tips
You’re welcome! 🥰
Where did you get the bookshelf that is behind you please?