Great video!! Listen guys if you haven't already booked a session with these gals do it! Talk about getting clarity, wow. And guess what it worked flawlessly!!!
She doesn't want to see me on my her birthday the 18th of this month she wants to wait till next year I haven't talked to her I've been upset she keeps texting
Let her earn your time. She will value it more and you will see more of her intent early on. Never fall in love with imagination. Be real and let her choose. You can be tough early and then become nice, but you can't be nice early and then become tough (even when pushed).. Good luck, shoot the shot. Miss or make, it's life.
Hey so hopefully you see this message and can answer this in some way. I got in a relationship after being single for 3 years or so. I got in and immediately was too nice and looking back I see that now. She started saying she doesn’t know how she feels obviously cause we rushed it. So I’m trying to pull back a bit, but not be “too tough.” She’s already asked what’s been up, and why I’m being distant. Any advice? Thanks!
It's not the nice guy who needs to change its the woman. If woman leaves you because you treated her with respect and would rather be with someone who treats her like shit she did you a favor. She has low self esteem and that's not the type of energy you need to be around anyway
I hear what you're saying. However, know that you cannot force attraction. At best, you will find a woman who will tolerate you, and she will still be willing to accept all the cash and prizes you give her. However, when you become unwilling or unable to keep giving, she will leave you. The bottom line is - do not trash others, and put yourself first, always. If she wants to continue seeing you, she will. You will not have to bribe her. Many very attractive women have been taught they don't have to do anything to be attractive to guys. They just have to show up. Thus they have no impetus to improve themselves. This is one of many reasons guys should put themselves first. It's okay to say 'no' to a woman. Remember to be polite, honest, & direct. It's also okay to politely, honestly, & directly stand your ground. Do these things and you will be happier, and she will be happier. Become a proper man, and she will becone a proper woman. If you have become a proper man, and she does not become a proper woman, take the loss and move on.
Apollonia I'm only 23 and this video probably related to me the most. The 2 male/father figures that were in my life didn't teach me much or didn't do anything for me to look up to especially when dealing with women and all i had was my mom. She said don't be like neither of them growing up so i tried not to. My first real relationship was my freshman year of college i made her the center of my happiness and i was depressed for 6 months when we broke up. I have also expressed passive aggressive behavior as well. It's crazy how you just described me i will be booking a coaching session soon.
Yes, Gregory I completely understand. I would also suggest starting looking at your friendships as well and see if you can surround yourself around men you can also learn from that goes beyond dating. :-) xo talk soon!
I was the "nice guy" a couple years ago. That behavior scared the woman i was attracted to away. What Apollonia says is true, it was emotionally and physically draining.
So true, I grew up raised by my mom. I look up to my mindset coach now. My wife and says I don’t listen, she needs space, and I do to much for her. I get the nice guy thing
She hit the nail on the head with this one. She basically told my life story, that why am happy I sucribed and happy for this because she really does know what she is talking about
I've watched many of your videos, and this one is by far the most intense and impactful one. I now know why you're the best at this: you really care about Men. Thanks for all your work, and remember, you are always loved.
I was never taught how to date or treat a women I was attracted to. So by default I just tried to be a nice as possible and do things for her thinking that would make her like me. Then when it didn't work I just assumed I was ugly and gave up. I understand now from watching all the dating coachs. Now I got to get over the nervousness of talking to women with flirting and bantering. So many guys are just giving up completely, I don't want to do that. Thank you for your videos Apollonia.
Men, our validation has to come from within. Let this confident energy come within because you're achieving your own goals and expectations. This will in turn give you confidence which cause you to carry yourself with the capacity to act in strength and have actions that are done with no expectations. Nice guy syndrome comes from neediness and this neediness repels women like the plague as far as intimate attraction. A woman is drawn to your strength and your individuality, not your desire to appease her. If you're doing nice acts seeking positive validation from women, you will always come up short.
This is video is right on point. With our present gynocentric society, men being raised by single mothers, and every aspect of being a man is being bashed by society. Men no longer have anyone to look up to as an example. The world does need and will always need real men. Whether it's to do the hard jobs that must be done or to be an example to young men.
I know Apollonia is a businesswoman and she's obviously running a business and trying to make money, but I genuinely appreciate her mission to get men to understand and attract women better. Thank you, Apollonia.
One thing Appollonia never talks about is what men want. Maybe some of you want to follow a women anywhere she goes, but I don’t. The best advice I can give all the guys out there is to cross of your list any women that isn’t interested in following you. If she doesn’t want to follow you, neither of you will be happy and you are barking up the wrong tree.
If a woman leaves you because you treated her nice she did you a favor. She has the problem not the nice guy. You are supposed to want someone to treat nice not bad.
You are amazing Apollonia I am previously a nice guy who suppressed his emotions and doing wrong things finally I find you thanks for being here love you allot my name is Mati
was at the gym and wasn’t done using this machine.women walked right in front of me and sat down on my bench.walked up to her and told her I would be done in ten minutes.she was very young and beautiful.this was her test.only realized it later.you can’t fake it being a man.
I love you Apollonia!! You are SO Wise, youre helping me understand so much about relationships with women..I messed up Really bad with a woman I REALLY like and I'm trying to win her back..I'm going to therapy once a week for an hour and I watch your videos daily..I have learned so much..THANK YOU!!! ❤️🙏🔥✌️
This channel deserves 1+ million subscribers. I wish I could have found this channel 20 years ago, which could save me much suffering,energy and money.
@Apollonia, I just want to thank you for the work you do. Your passion for helping people become the best version of themselves is admirable. You truly have a huge positive impact for so many of us. Thank you.
Excellent video Apollonia, i really liked how you've created this video for your audience & clients. The only disagreement i have is that men should find their own validation within themselves and not rely to much on outside sources for validation. As a 33 year old man and still learning & growing, i'm at a point of my life where i'm comfortable in my own skin and don't take any mess from anyone, don't mind being alone and staying on my purpose. Men with healthy morals & values nowadays get treated with allot of disrespect from society, our peers, women we are attracted to and even from other men. I could be wrong about this & feel free for anyone to correct me if i am, but as a man & i will be totally wrong for speaking for all men, but we should strive to be our best masculine selves, speak our voice and be unapologetically authentic & sincere with ourselves. Hopefully you all are doing well & many blessings to you.
I heard one woman say that women don't want a guy they feel they can walk all over (a "weakling"). They lose some respect for them, then put them into the dreaded "friend" category.
Well put, thank you. If I can offer parents one piece of advice, is apart from teaching your kids to be well mannered and considerate, please also teach them to value themselves and to know that what they want is equally important. I believe the "mice guy" mindset stems from childhood, especially in kids that are naturally soft hearted and kind.
I love this when I first met my wife she couldn’t get enough of me. But then I made a mistake and lied about something stupid and lost her trust. So I quit drinking and smoking and started my own company and have made it successful. So I have been overly nice and done way to much to try to make up for what I did. But 9 months and I haven’t made a mistake and it hasn’t changed because I feel like she likes that she has power over me.
All your videos are really great 👍 just this week a girl asked me why am I so nice my answer was I'm nice to everyone was that good enough I'm still learning this stuff
Okay i have watched about 30 of your videos in a row 🤣 uhmm, what certain things you tell in the videos, like rejectings, to be "nice" andso andso i have mirrored myself and it's very good for me. What sould i say?! You're amazing
It does suck to abundantly give to a woman and through time after she don't reciprocate you start lashing out, & in fact it just recycles a toxic relationship pattern.
I have minimal cerable palsy.. And have had learning disabilities my whole life. So finding confidence has been very difficult as I feel I don't know what to do in certain situations.. It's been so frustrating 😢
My family and friends keep telling me that I’ll find someone because I’m a nice guy. But if women don’t like nice guys, and if I have to truly modify my behavior to attract a woman, then I don’t want to be a nice guy anymore. I’m just mentally and psychologically exhausted from putting myself out there. Perhaps I’m better off just having a career and being a playboy. Maybe then, I can be happy 🤷🏽♂️
So, is it basically own the power to pursue what you want, instead of giving that power away - expecting women to empower me to decide what I want (passively asking the women to decide, instead of me owning, empowering and deciding for myself what I want)
My Dad is very confrontational. I'm not. He grew up in the ghetto I grew up middle class. I don't drink, do drugs or smoke. My thing is food. I have anxiety and depression. I had guy friends when I was younger. I don't have much in common with men that are agressive. It's extremely rare for men that are timid to change into his 30's or 40's. Not every guy has alpha in them. I just don't have much in common with men other than liking women, none of the men I know like the same women.
i want to say im a nice guy and im going through that i have never had a woman in my life my last woman was my prom date im very poor i don't like my personality i never know anyone i want some friends who can help me get better and be more serious about life it was a great video i loved i learned alot from it i need friends who care about me i need a better career and a better life my dad is not a nice guy i dream of becoming a performer and being great at it but i feel like laziness is holding me back please help me im too nice to people i need a chance in life and to find money they always tell me to smoke weed with them and steal in stores why don't you try weed is what i here i need a better life than my mom and my dad please help me im very lonely without someone special to be there for me.
I just met a girl, this is pur second date, she said she wants a third date, but i think i am getting into nice guy syndrome. Thank you for this, so i dont step on myself and mess it up.
Great video!! Listen guys if you haven't already booked a session with these gals do it! Talk about getting clarity, wow. And guess what it worked flawlessly!!!
Thank you so so much!
Wow! Needless to say, everything is true here! Thanks AP.
She doesn't want to see me on my her birthday the 18th of this month she wants to wait till next year I haven't talked to her I've been upset she keeps texting
@Apolloniaponti Mindblowing ! Very well explained 🙏🔥
Never ever be a nice guy . Be a good man !!!
NiceGuy described here is Needy. When a Woman wants a Nice Guy really she means a "Good Man". There's a difference.
LOVE!
No
Well said
Naw not even that. That gets u the same result
Let her earn your time. She will value it more and you will see more of her intent early on. Never fall in love with imagination. Be real and let her choose. You can be tough early and then become nice, but you can't be nice early and then become tough (even when pushed).. Good luck, shoot the shot. Miss or make, it's life.
Hey so hopefully you see this message and can answer this in some way. I got in a relationship after being single for 3 years or so. I got in and immediately was too nice and looking back I see that now. She started saying she doesn’t know how she feels obviously cause we rushed it. So I’m trying to pull back a bit, but not be “too tough.” She’s already asked what’s been up, and why I’m being distant. Any advice? Thanks!
It's not the nice guy who needs to change its the woman. If woman leaves you because you treated her with respect and would rather be with someone who treats her like shit she did you a favor. She has low self esteem and that's not the type of energy you need to be around anyway
Thank you someone. Said it if she likes you and you like her it wouldn't be hard to have a connection
Thank You friend. What you said is a fact
I hear what you're saying. However, know that you cannot force attraction. At best, you will find a woman who will tolerate you, and she will still be willing to accept all the cash and prizes you give her. However, when you become unwilling or unable to keep giving, she will leave you.
The bottom line is - do not trash others, and put yourself first, always. If she wants to continue seeing you, she will. You will not have to bribe her.
Many very attractive women have been taught they don't have to do anything to be attractive to guys. They just have to show up. Thus they have no impetus to improve themselves. This is one of many reasons guys should put themselves first. It's okay to say 'no' to a woman. Remember to be polite, honest, & direct. It's also okay to politely, honestly, & directly stand your ground. Do these things and you will be happier, and she will be happier.
Become a proper man, and she will becone a proper woman. If you have become a proper man, and she does not become a proper woman, take the loss and move on.
Apollonia I'm only 23 and this video probably related to me the most. The 2 male/father figures that were in my life didn't teach me much or didn't do anything for me to look up to especially when dealing with women and all i had was my mom. She said don't be like neither of them growing up so i tried not to. My first real relationship was my freshman year of college i made her the center of my happiness and i was depressed for 6 months when we broke up. I have also expressed passive aggressive behavior as well. It's crazy how you just described me i will be booking a coaching session soon.
be glad that you had a girlfriend in your teens or beginning of your 20s
Yes, Gregory I completely understand. I would also suggest starting looking at your friendships as well and see if you can surround yourself around men you can also learn from that goes beyond dating. :-) xo talk soon!
Read no more mr. nice guy
I was the "nice guy" a couple years ago. That behavior scared the woman i was attracted to away. What Apollonia says is true, it was emotionally and physically draining.
xo
So true, I grew up raised by my mom. I look up to my mindset coach now. My wife and says I don’t listen, she needs space, and I do to much for her. I get the nice guy thing
HI Matt- it starts with awareness. You can adjust this to create more comfort for you. :-) Good luck you got this !
She hit the nail on the head with this one. She basically told my life story, that why am happy I sucribed and happy for this because she really does know what she is talking about
I've watched many of your videos, and this one is by far the most intense and impactful one. I now know why you're the best at this: you really care about Men.
Thanks for all your work, and remember, you are always loved.
Thank you so much! I felt this comment. I appreciate you so much for taking the time out of your day to write me this.
I was never taught how to date or treat a women I was attracted to. So by default I just tried to be a nice as possible and do things for her thinking that would make her like me. Then when it didn't work I just assumed I was ugly and gave up. I understand now from watching all the dating coachs. Now I got to get over the nervousness of talking to women with flirting and bantering. So many guys are just giving up completely, I don't want to do that. Thank you for your videos Apollonia.
Men, our validation has to come from within. Let this confident energy come within because you're achieving your own goals and expectations. This will in turn give you confidence which cause you to carry yourself with the capacity to act in strength and have actions that are done with no expectations. Nice guy syndrome comes from neediness and this neediness repels women like the plague as far as intimate attraction. A woman is drawn to your strength and your individuality, not your desire to appease her. If you're doing nice acts seeking positive validation from women, you will always come up short.
This is video is right on point. With our present gynocentric society, men being raised by single mothers, and every aspect of being a man is being bashed by society. Men no longer have anyone to look up to as an example. The world does need and will always need real men. Whether it's to do the hard jobs that must be done or to be an example to young men.
I know Apollonia is a businesswoman and she's obviously running a business and trying to make money, but I genuinely appreciate her mission to get men to understand and attract women better. Thank you, Apollonia.
One thing Appollonia never talks about is what men want. Maybe some of you want to follow a women anywhere she goes, but I don’t. The best advice I can give all the guys out there is to cross of your list any women that isn’t interested in following you. If she doesn’t want to follow you, neither of you will be happy and you are barking up the wrong tree.
Never EVER tell a woman how you feel. It will never end good.
Don’t be the first in say “I love you”. She has to say it first.
Grammar police: never end well.
Straight out of the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover. Good read, highly recommend.
Such a timely helpful message, thanks!
Guys, don't bite your tongue too often...you won't be able to speak up for yourself when you really need to
If a woman leaves you because you treated her nice she did you a favor. She has the problem not the nice guy. You are supposed to want someone to treat nice not bad.
Love ur speech the pace u set to express ur self when words complete a sentence there’s never no confusion.
I try. I get so passionate sometimes I can keep going in circles lol
its crazy how much the words said, hit home for me. great vid, thnx
You are amazing Apollonia I am previously a nice guy who suppressed his emotions and doing wrong things finally I find you thanks for being here love you allot my name is Mati
xoxoxo
This is exactly what I needed to hear
This is good stuff, this topic is never discussed enough in society. A lack of masculine figure can really alter the course of a mans upbringing
was at the gym and wasn’t done using this machine.women walked right in front of me and sat down on my bench.walked up to her and told her I would be done in ten minutes.she was very young and beautiful.this was her test.only realized it later.you can’t fake it being a man.
I love you Apollonia!! You are SO Wise, youre helping me understand so much about relationships with women..I messed up Really bad with a woman I REALLY like and I'm trying to win her back..I'm going to therapy once a week for an hour and I watch your videos daily..I have learned so much..THANK YOU!!! ❤️🙏🔥✌️
I start off being like that showing who I am so they can get to know & trust the real me. Then I start watching to see if they start reciprocating
This channel deserves 1+ million subscribers. I wish I could have found this channel 20 years ago, which could save me much suffering,energy and money.
I'm glad you are here now! Thank you for your support.
it is a big difference between nice and kindness...
Hard to spot for a women
@Apollonia, I just want to thank you for the work you do. Your passion for helping people become the best version of themselves is admirable. You truly have a huge positive impact for so many of us. Thank you.
Excellent video Apollonia, i really liked how you've created this video for your audience & clients. The only disagreement i have is that men should find their own validation within themselves and not rely to much on outside sources for validation. As a 33 year old man and still learning & growing, i'm at a point of my life where i'm comfortable in my own skin and don't take any mess from anyone, don't mind being alone and staying on my purpose. Men with healthy morals & values nowadays get treated with allot of disrespect from society, our peers, women we are attracted to and even from other men. I could be wrong about this & feel free for anyone to correct me if i am, but as a man & i will be totally wrong for speaking for all men, but we should strive to be our best masculine selves, speak our voice and be unapologetically authentic & sincere with ourselves. Hopefully you all are doing well & many blessings to you.
i like the the way you talk and your easy on the eye at the same time...x
Awesome video!! Speaks volumes!! Is definitely something I want to watch more than once!! Ty!!
Nice topic to share with us 👌👌. I loved the video and it shows us how to love ourselves 👌👌👏👏👏👏
I heard one woman say that women don't want a guy they feel they can walk all over (a "weakling"). They lose some respect for them, then put them into the dreaded "friend" category.
😂🤣... I love how direct you are ...PREACH *!!!
Seriously, YOU are my crush!!! 💜
Well put, thank you. If I can offer parents one piece of advice, is apart from teaching your kids to be well mannered and considerate, please also teach them to value themselves and to know that what they want is equally important. I believe the "mice guy" mindset stems from childhood, especially in kids that are naturally soft hearted and kind.
Help me understand myself so much
I love this when I first met my wife she couldn’t get enough of me. But then I made a mistake and lied about something stupid and lost her trust. So I quit drinking and smoking and started my own company and have made it successful. So I have been overly nice and done way to much to try to make up for what I did. But 9 months and I haven’t made a mistake and it hasn’t changed because I feel like she likes that she has power over me.
First comment 😁😁 your videos always helps me so much...keep it up and thanks again for everything you do for us
Thank you for A very informative and helpful video Apollonia.
Conflict avoidance causes a lot of pressure in relationships)))
Great video again)))!
Very informative very good message and very 2021 well done well said
This woman is a genius 👌
This is good stuff right here. Thanks, Apollonia.
Good stuff Mrs.Ponti. Keep ‘em coming, thanks. Definitely too much of anything can be bad for you in the long run 💪🏾.
Big facts. 💯 This was the most real, raw, honest convo I’ve seen on this channel. Thank you, Apollonia. Another gem. 💎
Av been waiting to hear your point of view on this "nice guy thing"
Awesome video. Really needed to here this.
All your videos are really great 👍 just this week a girl asked me why am I so nice my answer was I'm nice to everyone was that good enough I'm still learning this stuff
Great video and thank you for explaining this issue.
She is 100 percent correct stay off the bottle dont do blow to make it disappear, dont do what I did and loose your dream girl
Nice, I like this topic and your approach to addressing it, good job sister!
Thank you
@@ApolloniaPonti all I did was watch, it’s you who is the power behind the message-thank you!
That's right 👌 injoy your day..
You are amazing you explained me to a tee i just don't know how to get out of it and I've been trying for year's
Okay i have watched about 30 of your videos in a row 🤣 uhmm, what certain things you tell in the videos, like rejectings, to be "nice" andso andso i have mirrored myself and it's very good for me.
What sould i say?! You're amazing
Thank you for this video it really made me to realized it like big time
Thank you so much for watching!
Thank you thank you thank you. I have made this mistake too many times. Great advice and awesome teaching.
Amazing sharing and advise :)
You are always welcome Daniel!
This was all game. Super solid
It does suck to abundantly give to a woman and through time after she don't reciprocate you start lashing out, & in fact it just recycles a toxic relationship pattern.
Grew up without a dad. I can relate this to video on so many levels.
This spoke so much to me.
Thank you, Apollonia
You're welcome!
You are speaking facts I needed to hear this thank you 🙏!!!!
great insights, thanks, keep it up!
This is some great info. 👏🏾 Thank you!
You're so welcome!
Really good one today. I needed to hear this.
Thank you Chuck!
This is AMAZING advice.
Thank you, Scott. xo
A Scott .. You do know why she is AMAZING RIGHT! 😎
This is GOLD!!!!
AP your amazing!
That's me all the way thank you I needed to hear that
AMEN Gracias. Reciprocity. Let her work for it too. I learned my lessons twice. Yes I said it twice.
" I don't anyone to lead me or to stand behind me just match my pase and stay right by my side "
Couldnt be said better 🏌🏾🔥.. Thnks Apollonia
First time supporting female
Look at this! A woman giving due Props!!! 👋😎
I always LOVE to hear your wonderful English of charming acents .
:-)
Great video
Amazing lesson!
Great advice
I have minimal cerable palsy.. And have had learning disabilities my whole life. So finding confidence has been very difficult as I feel I don't know what to do in certain situations.. It's been so frustrating 😢
If being a good man isn't enough, move on.
Love your advice.. so many awesome tip's..
Wooooww, best video so far
I understand now good video I sort of realise that thank you
My family and friends keep telling me that I’ll find someone because I’m a nice guy. But if women don’t like nice guys, and if I have to truly modify my behavior to attract a woman, then I don’t want to be a nice guy anymore. I’m just mentally and psychologically exhausted from putting myself out there. Perhaps I’m better off just having a career and being a playboy.
Maybe then, I can be happy 🤷🏽♂️
That was beautiful I understand ❤
Great info thnx.
You are an incredible professional:)
Thank you.
You're an excellent human.
Wow, thank you. xoxo
So, is it basically own the power to pursue what you want, instead of giving that power away - expecting women to empower me to decide what I want (passively asking the women to decide, instead of me owning, empowering and deciding for myself what I want)
So deep and accurate!
Hi Apollonia. ❤️
Thank you so much
Scary how much this describes me.
Thank you Apolloina .
My pleasure!
Waoooo... amazing point... minute 8:50 .. thank you apollonia
My Dad is very confrontational. I'm not. He grew up in the ghetto I grew up middle class. I don't drink, do drugs or smoke. My thing is food. I have anxiety and depression. I had guy friends when I was younger. I don't have much in common with men that are agressive. It's extremely rare for men that are timid to change into his 30's or 40's. Not every guy has alpha in them. I just don't have much in common with men other than liking women, none of the men I know like the same women.
Giiirl this is me 😭😭 I used check in on myself after checking in on Every one esle or put every one first then me last .
i want to say im a nice guy and im going through that i have never had a woman in my life my last woman was my prom date im very poor i don't like my personality i never know anyone i want some friends who can help me get better and be more serious about life it was a great video i loved i learned alot from it i need friends who care about me i need a better career and a better life my dad is not a nice guy i dream of becoming a performer and being great at it but i feel like laziness is holding me back please help me im too nice to people i need a chance in life and to find money they always tell me to smoke weed with them and steal in stores why don't you try weed is what i here i need a better life than my mom and my dad please help me im very lonely without someone special to be there for me.
Real talk
I just met a girl, this is pur second date, she said she wants a third date, but i think i am getting into nice guy syndrome. Thank you for this, so i dont step on myself and mess it up.