Pat Ogden, PhD’s Go-To Strategies for Working with Clients who Please & Appease

In the aftermath of trauma, getting to the heart of your client’s pain can be complex - especially when that client is caught in a defense response pattern that trauma researchers often identify as please and appease.
For many clients, chronic people-pleasing bleeds into every relationship. . .
. . . and when that includes the therapeutic relationship, it can block your client’s ability to open up (and ultimately stymie healing).
So how can you tell whether your client might be stuck in this type of pattern? And beyond that, what can you do to address it?
In the video, Pat Ogden, PhD shares one telltale sign of a please and appease response, as well as two strategies to help ease clients out of it.
You can read the full blog and more from NICABM here: www.nicabm.com/pleaseandappease/

[@echase416]

Dr Ogden is one of the OGs of somatic trauma therapy & recovery. Her books and videos are fantastic resources. Highly recommended.

[@shahilagh]

This is your best video … why some ppl have been so hurt that they have lost their sense of boundaries…..

[@tuxedoneko9837]

What a wonderful approach! It works on building a valuable, practical skill and it does not re-traumatize the client.

[@SovereignQueen345]

This is helpful. Thanks!

[@karenrawden2657]

Really helpful. So simple and yet I can already see how these two interactions could be incredibly powerful. Thank you Pat.

[@ledacedar6253]

I love pats work Got a one day training with her and a 3 hr. It’s very cool, very effective & so safe

[@sammylove14]

This is so helpful. Thank you. I have this problem with boundaries. It’s that severe.

[@echase416]

Remember that sometimes earlier in life, some people (including children) weren’t allowed to have boundaries. As adults now, we are always learning and resourcing.