Same! I constantly find myself with the most confused faces and saying "What?!" I literally said it in unison with Josh at one point. If she doesn't make sense to us, how on earth does she expect her kids to understand any of it?! She's psycho.
Holding kids Accountable for an outburst???? Like her public emotional outburst on social media over her kids school singing a pop song ??? She’s so emotionally abusive it’s scary
Yes exactly! LOL As an adult she has tantrums and puts them on social media, where's the punishment for that? Or I mean, the accountability for her wake? :D Or was it a swoosh in a dam..
Yep. She got so angry that the school would not do exactly what she wanted that she had a full on temper tantrum right on social media. But God help her kids if they have a breakdown. They'll lose Christmas....or worse. Who knows what happens in that house.
It literally feels like she secretly resents her kids or something with the way she treats them. Every little thing needs to be punished, nothing they say or do is ever good enough. I feel awful for them
This! I am not sure she ever really wanted kids, and certainly not 6 of them. She didn’t seem to enjoy being a mother at all. There is no joy that I can see in her relationships with her children.
Ruby is the queen of trying to sound intelligent without really saying anything at all. She is exhausting to listen to. She acts like her nonsense "principles" are scriptural. Such a narcissist!
@@Sparklecatofdoom She is a walking contradiction, and she makes my head spin. I think that's why she has followers. She jabbers on so much that you never really know what she is saying. So, it's interpretive and suits an unintelligent listener's perspective....whatever it may be.
Both my parents were exactly the same with me, maybe even worse. I completely separated myself from them as soon as I could. Now I'm almost 24 and I still suffer from PTSD and anxiety and huge trust issues. These type of parents doesn't even deserve to be a parent in my opinion.
everyone says the kids will run from them as soon as they can but shari is turning into rubi 2.0. i think their brain washing worked. it doesn't help they live in utah where there's no diversity
Picture this. Ruby dooby doo sitting on her couch. Relaxing. Her kid walks into the room. Sees their mom and wants to go sit next to her and cuddle. Can you picture it? I sure as hell can't. She's cold. I feel so bad for those children.
I don’t need to picture it because I’ve seen it! That always happens in their videos, I’m not joking lol. Or Ruby will go up to the kids and put her arm around them, and they will just go wide eyed and look at her so awkwardly, you can also see them pull their heads away from hers when she’s in their face talking. So sad!
I remember when one year my dad canceled Christmas and donated all of our presents. The reason was so stupid too that I cannot even remember why. I think something about my brother and I arguing or complaining about something. I just remember how awful it was. The fact that I can't even remember the why speaks volumes. The punishment did not fit the "crime".
A lot of times, the children don’t seem to know why they are being punished/ what they are being punished for ( one of the older boys had to sleep on a beanbag in the lounge for 6 months instead of having a bed and a bedroom and he said he thought it was because he pranked his much younger brother by saying they were going to DisneyWorld/Land).
Exactly! My mom is almost 92. Dad has been gone for 20 years now. Three of us kids live nearby. We all interact with her on a weekly, even daily basis (she does a check in call every morning with my younger brother). I take her to lunch about twice a month and to do misc errands and just to get out (she doesn't drive). My younger sister visits with her often as well and handles her finances/questions about money. We call and text her all the time. She isn't needy, but she is weak and becoming more fragile. We always have a laugh or two when we're together. She knows I love her; I tell her all the time.
@@sophiewhite3140 definitely, some children will visit while others will stay away. I don’t think she will realize her mistake because people follow her and support the way she raises her children. Makes me wonder if this is how her parents were with her.
My son is 6 months. I will continue to love on him so he can thrive. He isn’t responsible for my feelings, I am responsible for his. I don’t expect anything from him but for him to grow up and be a happy, carefree child. Emotional abuse and neglect is real. I hope CPS finds its way into her home and removes those children.
Exactly. That is the only way a child can develop properly and form healthy attachments. The way Ruby is raising her kids is causing childhood trauma and will cause them to have major problems throughout their lives.
Keep going this route. This is how I’m raising mine. They are 21, 20, and 16 they come to me for everything. We’re very close and they always call or text me
Whenever Ruby doo talks, I feel like she’s trying to meet a word count for an essay so she just keeps rambling on and on without ever saying a single sentence with any substance.
The youngest boy Russell is such a sensitive soul and is a beautiful empathetic little boy, my heart breaks because I know Ruby is breaking him and will chew him up and spit him out as he gets older instead of nurturing his sensitive little personality and showing him it’s a good thing. You can already tell from their past videos that he wants to be loved by his mum and will do anything for her but Ruby doesn’t know how to parent such an emotionally sensation child and she is going to ruin what could have turned into an empathetic sensitive adult, now he is going to be a broken down adult that doesn’t know what it is like to be loved back because Ruby can’t love, she is a robot. My heart breaks for every one of her children tbh. They deserve so much fricken better the Ruby doo….
She literally took that child away from the only friends he really had too 😩 I felt like he was always a happier child around his same aged cousins. Now he’s surrounded by much older siblings, and Eve… God Bless him
Unless things have changed, this "sandbox" is like a volleyball court that Kevin wanted so he could play sports in it. The backyard reveal has a full view of the size. Hearing her talk about this and making it sound like a child's sandbox is mindblowing.
Knowing me as a rebellious child, had she been my mother, I’d be the “cat” in that sandbox and REFUSE to clean it just to have the satisfaction of her having to clean it up. I’d take all the punishments, miss all the Christmases in the world for that small satisfaction. She needs to remember, her children will eventually decide her later life care and which nursing home she’s going to be stuck into. I reminded my own narcissistic mother of this growing up. I meant it. Still do. She’s certainly not coming into my home.
Are you serious?! She made it sound like it was a little sand box for kids and they were the only ones that ever played in it so that's why it was their responsibility to clean it. She's insane.
@@melissaholman2605 and to clean it daily?? weekly id say is strict enough. why cant they buy a cover like you do with a swimming pool to stop leaves going in it when no one is playing
I absolutely love your commentary 🤣 my husband ends up giggling away to himself in the other room when he hears some of your reactions. Always makes me laugh 😁
she actually scares me. it’s like watching Lori Vallow-Daybell when she speaks. maybe i’m crazy but like i’m scared that she’s just going to keep escalating til her kids are in actual danger…. i’m not gonna speculate what/who they would be in danger from. but she is actually starting to freak me out.
Ruby’s audacity to tell her kids ‘I need to feed u everyday’ when they actually make their own lunches 😅 so her kids’ chores are theirs but Ruby’s parenting responsibilities also belong to her kids. Got you. Great lesson 👏
She doesn't allow her children to have their feelings. They are allowed to be annoyed about cleaning a sandbox. It's our job to okay those feelings while also explaining the importance of taking care of their things. No punishment necessary. Also get a cover for the sandbox. I cannot stand her. Her comparing it to having to feed her kids just shows how much she resents her kids. You have children, you take care of them. They are not a burden, they are a gift.
I’m still annoyed every single morning when I have to get up and go to work!! As humans we are allowed to be annoyed by our responsibilities. You are so right, it’s as simple as explaining that it’s okay to be annoyed by our chores, but we still have to do them. And yeah… get a dang cover!
Exactly! They should know that there feelings are valid, and they can have outbursts, they can have emotions, and they need to know these things are okay. I saw something in one of her videos where she’s teaching her daughter Shari, her tactics about distortion, and is starting to think the same way
Every time she gives the “our boats create a wake” analogy, all I see is Ruby doing donuts on the water while her kids are tied to the back of the boat on a floater tube hanging on for dear life. 😅
I’ve had teachers like this before and they were the worst! Never learned from them! The ones who showed real love and care for me, I remember fondly. They were the ones who made an impact on me.
Why didn’t she just say “ when a child takes accountability they understand their actions have consequences- if they break their ipad it’s broken and they have to wait until Christmas or their birthday to get it fixed”
Why does having a ton of kids make her a parenting expert? I hate that we will in a world now where anyone can be an “expert” on anything and people actually listen to them
.... I would just like to let Ruby know they make sandboxes with covers. Your kid is right, scooping poop out of it daily is in fact a waste of time. Girl, I'll send you the link on Amazon, this seems to be a bigger issue than it needs to be in your life
Good one!!! I mentioned this earlier, but why didn't she help her children come up with ways to prevent it from getting dirty so quickly? You know, teach them how to problem solve? Instead she is a narcissist b word
You brought the children willing into the world. You do not get to be resentful about feeding them when they're hungry. That's a terrible analogy. Food is not entitlement. It's part of the contract you entered into by becoming a parent.
She taught her children to do laundry before they could even reach the buttons on the washer and dryer...she had a stool in the laundry room for them to be able to reach. She only does her own and Kevin's laundry. I remember the video when she was teaching eve when she was like 5 or 6. It was around the same time the lunch box think happened.
That is disturbing. I’m trying to picture my 4 almost 5 year old doing laundry. She simple can’t. She of course can pick up dirty laundry and put it in the hamper. But operate a machine?? Hell no. That’s not even something she should worry about at such a young age.
@@brittangeline exactly! There’s so much that could happen. I understand if she is supervising and helping but I have a feeling she wants them to do it independently so she probably makes them do it fully themselves. A 5 year old could want to try the detergent because it smells good and looks fun, or they could fall into the machine (maybe? Lol) either way it could be so dangerous. I can’t imagine being this woman’s family 🙄
When you said, "Would you take a class on joy from this one???" I literally laughed out loud in the store and everyone started staring at me. It just hit me different, the face you made and everything just hit right. And no, no I would not take that class.
Ruby is not living in truth she’s living in delusion. Every other word is moms of truth and distortion. It is right up there with Scientology level scary. The kids will grow up to leave and despise her and even the father for buying into all this psychotic crap.
I knew a girl in secondary school who had a mother similar to her but even more extreme (I’m not joking.) She wouldn’t let her walk to the shop, watch PG films at the age of 14/15. As small as some of these things may seem, i remember the impact it had on her. She never had a phone so would miss out on so many social gatherings. She locked her in her room to study and would control every single thing in life. In the last year of school she became depressed and started to self harm. Her mother wouldn’t let her go to therapy because she knew her daughter would expose her. This was the most disgusting thing to me, that even when her daughter was suffering, her mother didn’t want any blame to fall back on her. It was heartbreaking seeing her unable to blossom into a beautiful young woman. Music, friends, movies, makeup etc. are all the things that let me express myself and helped create who I am today. I remember everything, she wasn’t even allowed to wear makeup to her prom. The day she is meant to feel special and beautiful, she was again let down by her mother. Not able to express herself and enjoy the things the rest of us were. She loved dance but again her mother made her quit dance and go to maths clubs on weekends which led her to be isolated. I was never able to contact her as she wasn’t allowed Wi-Fi or a phone even at 16. I watched her crumble in front of me and I’m still so angry to this day. I wish I did more but everyone brushed it off as just strict parenting and my school didn’t care because she got good grades. Last thing I remember she said after exams was that “she only got all A’s because the only thing she could do was study and she would die if she couldn’t do anything”. No social interaction, just trapped in her room.
@@Jessica-rh5vx after watching this video and it reminding me of her, I was able to contact her on Facebook and she is now at university!. She definitely has more independence now :).
Yeah, that's what I thought, it's under a tree it should be covered. Otherwise yeah it's gonna need to be cleaned an ungodly amount. Should be covered anyways if there are stray cats using it, toxoplasmosis is still real.
I have a terrible feeling that whenever she has a bad day or is in a bad mood, she somehow manages to blame one or more of her kids and tell them that they’re responsible for how THEY made her feel, or that their “ball” hit her in the face and that’s why she’s in a bad mood. In other words, holding them responsible for HER issues, instead of taking responsibility for her own emotions and choices. I feel absolutely terrible for them. She is so condescending and cold in the way she speaks about them and seems to have no compassion for her precious children. It actually chills my blood to hear the way she talks to them. I think she probably actually resents them - she justifies taking out her anger and resentment on them by calling it “teaching” them and holding them accountable when really it sounds like her idea of “holding them accountable” is punishing them for existing and for being children. She uses words about them that indicates she sees her own children as her adversaries and that she has to outsmart them and fight them and beat them down so that her adversaries “don’t win”. Heartbreaking.
Ruby has walked away from her parents, and siblings as well. Her siblings have RUclips channels, and there is no mention of Ruby anymore. They have celebrated holidays, and Ruby is not there. It is very strange. I think she needs a mental evaluation.
There is big difference between punishing a child and disciplining a child. Punishing does not work and doesn’t teach the child anything. Discipline teaches the child to critically think and you guide them with compassion, love, and gentleness.
Can you imagine how the other kids felt as their siblings sat there with no gifts? How were the giftless kids expected to act during the present opening? Did they get punished for their reactions?
My stepmom parented like ruby and she reminds me of her a lot. It created a lot of trauma, and I no longer have any contact with her. I lived through the whole phone incident and she responded exactly the way ruby did.
My kids are 10, 11, and 13 and I still pack their lunch every day and cook dinner (sometimes they help) but I don’t feel like that’s spoiling them or setting them up for failure. I consider myself a very independent adult and my mom made my lunch for school my entire school life. My kids still have chores and responsibilities and will do just fine when they leave home. It’s okay to allow your kids to be kids.
👏🏽👏🏽 I agree. And on average, they will hit an age where a lightbulb goes off and you will hear a “mom, it’s ok, I can make it by myself now”, and that is much more rewarding realising your child become independent on their own time, rather than making them anxious and distant and putting too much on them during an already stressful confusing time in a pre-teens/teen’s life! Good work Mama 💕
It's so strange how they never even explain what that means exactly, or what living in distortion means. I don't even think they know. What I gather is if someone has a different opinion than them = distortion.
@@haleybit exactly! Anyone who doesn’t agree with them are the ones in distortion, but it’s nearly impossible to keep up with their ever changing definitions of distortion.
In her whole crap explanation regarding outbursts/tantrums. She never ONCE mentioned comforting the child or understanding the child…. What a cold cold heartless woman.
She is intense. I taught my son to do his own laundry at around 10. He is 15 now. He is responsible for doing his laundry, but he can choose the day, and if he is doing something and asks me to rotate it into the dryer or if I can bring it to his room, I have no problem doing that, cause he is a person. He also has a list of chores (no more than 90 minutes a day) but if he is feeling off, he is allowed to call in sick and ask for help. There is a big middle between doing everything for them and.... her.
You are teaching your child responsibility but you are also fair, you understand that they are also human. This is how parenting should be done… take note ruby you might learn something 😂😂
I’m visiting my sister right now and yesterday I sat down to play a game with her kids (7 and 9) right about then she said “hey your laundry is done, I need to to come fold it.” They nicely said “we just got out a board game with aunt Michelle can we do it after?” She said “sure no problem” when we were done I reminded them about their laundry and they went to do it but their mom had done it for them already as a treat and they were thankful. I can’t imagine a similar situation in Ruby’s house.
You know what Josh? My mom did all those nice things for me growing up, laundry, nice food for school, even in my uni years sometimes. I’ve appreciated it without her making me feel bad or that I have to be grateful in order for her to care for me. As soon as I was out of my uni, I have moved to a completely different country, all on my own and I took care of myself just fine. ( it was my own choice to move because of the situation in my country. Had nothing to do with my mum. I love her very much) It’ll be okay. It just makes me love my mum more. Also she let me help her when I was a kid, with everything. Cleaning, laundry, cooking. She’d explain why and how she did thing things without pressure for me to help. There are different ways to parent. I don’t think you can spoil your kids with caring for them. Because my mum didn’t shush me away or put me somewhere “safe” while she did the house works, I could see and learn how much she worked for us. Oh and she was also a single mum with a full time job as a teacher.
If I did something wrong my Dad used to say to go and think about how I could have done it differently or why another choice would have been better if I didn’t know he would explain it to me and that was it he never yelled, punished etc. She is a complete control freak if she was my Mother I’d never have a Christmas
I saw some quote that said "narcissists treat their young children like adults that have done wrong" and this seems very true for her like so much. I cant remember being a little kid and making logical decisions at all, I made decisions based on emotion and nothing else because I had nothing to base things off of and shes making them make decisions like theyre full adults instead of helping them learn.
All of this sounds like she doesn’t want to be a parent. Or have any responsibilities of being a parent. She’s literally saying in this video that she wants to make her childrens life a living hell because of the years she’s lost of actually being a caring loving parent which come with simple responsibilities of making food cleaning the dishes for her children before she joined this cult. Ruby us so pathetic.
I’m rewatching this and it’s like a month late but she’s literally a lunatic. Also, you should react to the connexions video about triggers, because all they do in that video is laugh about triggers and stuff like that and i wanted to scream through the screen 😭😭. & her face is in distortion.
she is just a prime example of someone who spouts utter bullshit, but does so with conviction and a complete confidence in themselves whether "based in truth" or not
I have so much to say but I don't even know where to start. My brain hurts, and my heart is breaking for those kids. Ruby, you need to wake up before its too late. Everything you profess parenting to be is a slap, a kick and a huge EFF YOU to your parents. You do know who they are right? They are the ones who are going away for 18 months, they are the ones that wanted to share (edit: $1,200.00 - thank you for the correction) with you, your siblings, nieces, nephews, and other family... everyone was there for the farewell except - well, you know. I just don't get how you say that kids will respect their parents, but then you go and ghost your family? You selfish selfish selfish woman (and Speedo Franke). I would give anything to see my parents for five minutes. Thank you Josh, for all that you do.
I think it was 12 hundred not k. It was sad not to see her children there. I'm sure her parents are so sad about not being able to be apart of their lives.
@@beadybugg thank you for correcting me ❤ Ruby and Kevin are doing a massive injustice to the kids for keeping them from their grandparents. I know we don't get to see everything, but that family farewell we saw definitely excluded the Frankenstein's, I mean Franke's 😱.
I can't wait until the kids grow up and hold Ruby accountable for HER actions. They all saw how she justified cutting off her parents and siblings... I really hope they do the same to her.
I also had very little & did everything from a youngish age because my mum was lazy. My house was disgusting & i was embarrassed to bring my friends home. I now do everything for my 5 children. I too give them everything i never had. They have a lot but i don't believe they are spoilt. They have a lot of gifts at Christmas & Birthdays but anything in between that they want or need they have to buy themselves with money they are gifted from relatives for birthdays & Christmas. My kids have never thrown a strop in a shop when they've seen a toy they want & are told they can't have until their birthday/Christmas. They understand the value of money & how they can't always have what they want & they are very appreciative of what they have because they know how hard we've worked to provide them with nice things. My daughter worked from the age of 13 (paper round), through choice because she wanted to earn her own money, got a job in retail at 16 whilst still studying at high school & through University, finished top of her class in Uni & was presented with an award for excellence in financial accounting. She was promoted to manager at only 20 & she has just bought her first home with her boyfriend at only 22 years of age. They started a business together 18 months ago that has been very successful. I was only 19 when myself & my husband bought our first house & we now have a very nice house because we've worked hard for it. So my kids have always seen that if you want something you have to work hard & earn it. We have never pushed them to do anything, only have been supportive & encouraging. When my daughter moved out she gave us a card saying that we had always been her biggest supports with help & guidance & that she wouldn't be where she's at in her life & career without that. My 17 year son is currently helping me redecorate the house, not because we've forced him to do it but because he wants to help. My kids are older now....22, 20, 17, 16 & 13 but from the moment they were born have been showered with love & affection & i still tell them daily that i love them & they still hug me. They know that bad behaviour has consequences (& I'm just talking about grounding them for a week which i've very rarely had to do or banning them from their xbox for a few days) & they get in less trouble for telling the truth than lying. None of them are afraid to tell me anything & always come to me if they have a problem. My kids are well mannered, respectable kids because of how i've chose to raise them. Ruby's style of parenting is nothing short of disgusting. If any of them chose to have a relationship with her when they are adults I'll be truly surprised. Making her 5 year old child pack her own school lunch is & then refusing to take her some in is disgraceful. I've lost count of the amount of times I've had to take in a forgotten lunch bag, PE kit etc... they are kids & forget things as do we adults. I can't fathom how anyone could send their child to a camp for months, I'm struggling now my daughters moved out & I don't see her everyday. She may not be physically abusive but the way she treats her children will have serious consequences for years to come.
It's almost like she learned about cognitive distortion from a psychologist and has now co-opted the term and, lacking self-awareness, uses it in this wholly distorted way.
Josh, I was the same as you when raising my boys. I waited on them hand and foot. They are now both grown men, wonderful dads, both are educators and I couldn’t be more proud of them. My daughter in law’s do give me grief ever so often for not teaching them how to do laundry though.
I’m struggling with that too Josh my mom did everything for me cooking cleaning etc. and because of that whenever I was off on my own as a result I knew nothing and had to try to teach myself it was a disaster. But we also didn’t have money so I did without many of the things that most kids had or did so now you could say I spoil the crap out of my kids for example my kid is a straight a honor student and he got offered a trip to Italy and although not a walk in the park I was able to afford it for him because if I could find a way to do it for him I wanted him to be able to have the opportunities that I missed out on it’s complicated you don’t wanna brat but you want your child to have everything you did not But as far as cooking cleaning and things like that I’ve had my kids doing bits and pieces of it since they were three and five years old because I didn’t want them to end up like me and we lost
I grew up fearing my mother. Pretty sure there was emotional abuse there looking back. And emotional neglect/absence from my father. I have zero relationship with my dad and my mom to this day still causes me anxiety when she texts or calls me. It’s no way to make your kids live. I’ll never allow my kids to be afraid of them. My oldest is 8 now and needs to start learning some chores that are appropriate. He loves asking to help more as he’s gotten older so I toe that line of making sure he doesn’t feel taken advantage of like I did as a built in parent/babysitter/housekeeper, etc. With Ruby, she shows there is indeed a wrong way to parent 🤦🏻♀️
The key thing she forgets is that your child's behaviour is a reflection of your parenting. Of course you're not responible for what your adult child does, or what maybe a 16-year-old does. But with small children, her youngest ones she is talking about, that is abso-f-ing-lutely a reflection of your parenting. So if your young kid does something outrageous, take away Christmas from YOURSELF, not from your kid. You failed as a parent, not your child failed as a child.
My kids started doing their own laundry at the ages of 8 and 13 mainly because I never knew what was clean in their room. Now. In saying that if they had clothes in their hamper and I was doing laundry I would grab it but if not they did their own laundry. It builds character and life skills. But they always had clothes and food and things they wanted. We let them be kids but gave them jobs appropriate to their age and for themselves I never made one child responsible for the other one.
Did you ever see the video that 8 passingers made where the dad was talking about wanting sex and Ruby didn't want it so the dad cleaned the kitchen and did the dishes so he could have sex. Ruby sat there with a big smile on her face. She uses her husband also. Sick
When you said that she does not have a bond with her children, and that there is love but not wholesome love, my first thought was ‘she doesn’t love them unconditionally - her ‘love’ is CONDITIONAL. My heart breaks for these babies and all of their babies to come. I only hope that the trauma that follows these children into adulthood, leads to an abundance of TRUE unconditional love for their own babies. This family is literally a tragedy that the world has watched unfold right in front of us. Shame on the people that have allowed her and so many others to live so abhorrently.
It's troubling that Ruby mentions children withholding affection as part of "trying to cancel you in your own home." In what world is affection something that is owed? Those kids have so many demands placed on them and affection is one of them. Sounds to me like Ruby is the one living in distortion. 🙄
Her children will either follow her example into adulthood or they will decide that their own children will be loved and nurtured and NOT preached at by a mother who expects perfection. Taking Christmas away from the young ones not only hurts those 2 children, but it hurts the older ones too who no doubt saw their siblings emotionally suffering. I wonder if the extended family were told not to give them gifts or was it just 'Santa' ? It's all sorts of wrong.
I've seen some amazing hair pieces where they glue it to your head and I'm guessing you go in like once a month or something to get it redone. But it looks so good and real lol but going with what you got is great too! You do you, love the videos 🙃
How are your kids that badly behaved that you have to take away Christmas? Oh that’s right they probably are not… this is all about control. Her kids will grow up and hate her when they get older.
I feel like cleaning a sand box daily is a bit excessive…I would never play in it again if I had to clean it every day. Maybe once a week would be more reasonable.
My step mom abused me and she got everyone a christmas gift but me because i decided to move out they were taking my whole disability check it was horrible i still have nightmares to this day i have not talked to her in years the damage she caused is horrible her kids will grow up to hate her and its sad!
She’s in distortion.
And here I was thinking that “distortion” was a guitar peddle 😂🤣
@@dominiquemmaurice 🤣🤣
She IS distortion.
I am at work and this comment made me laugh out loud like hard lol
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As a college educated adult I literally can not comprehend what the hell she is talking about. Imagine the confusion her kids must feel…
Exactly what I thought, she blabbers on and on and has no point
Same! I constantly find myself with the most confused faces and saying "What?!" I literally said it in unison with Josh at one point. If she doesn't make sense to us, how on earth does she expect her kids to understand any of it?! She's psycho.
Same i dont get it with her shits
I think she likes the cadence of her own voice at this point because same
it’s cult word salad
Holding kids Accountable for an outburst???? Like her public emotional outburst on social media over her kids school singing a pop song ???
She’s so emotionally abusive it’s scary
Those kids are going to need therapy. How the hell does she still have them? I will kindly adopt them and make sure they are in a loving home.
Yes exactly! LOL As an adult she has tantrums and puts them on social media, where's the punishment for that? Or I mean, the accountability for her wake? :D Or was it a swoosh in a dam..
Yep. She got so angry that the school would not do exactly what she wanted that she had a full on temper tantrum right on social media. But God help her kids if they have a breakdown. They'll lose Christmas....or worse. Who knows what happens in that house.
It literally feels like she secretly resents her kids or something with the way she treats them. Every little thing needs to be punished, nothing they say or do is ever good enough. I feel awful for them
I feel like she doesn't like her kids and is a cruel, heartless mother.
I agree with you
It’s very triggering and not only that, but have their own emotions, thoughts and feelings about anything
This! I am not sure she ever really wanted kids, and certainly not 6 of them. She didn’t seem to enjoy being a mother at all. There is no joy that I can see in her relationships with her children.
She learned it from someone, and feels she needs to perpetuate this.
Ruby is the queen of trying to sound intelligent without really saying anything at all. She is exhausting to listen to. She acts like her nonsense "principles" are scriptural. Such a narcissist!
The arrogant way she talks about the importance of being humble never gets old
@@Sparklecatofdoom She is a walking contradiction, and she makes my head spin. I think that's why she has followers. She jabbers on so much that you never really know what she is saying. So, it's interpretive and suits an unintelligent listener's perspective....whatever it may be.
Both my parents were exactly the same with me, maybe even worse. I completely separated myself from them as soon as I could. Now I'm almost 24 and I still suffer from PTSD and anxiety and huge trust issues. These type of parents doesn't even deserve to be a parent in my opinion.
I am so sorry.
Wow so sorry
I am so sorry and I hope you get the help and love you deserve
❤️❤️
everyone says the kids will run from them as soon as they can but shari is turning into rubi 2.0. i think their brain washing worked. it doesn't help they live in utah where there's no diversity
Picture this. Ruby dooby doo sitting on her couch. Relaxing. Her kid walks into the room. Sees their mom and wants to go sit next to her and cuddle. Can you picture it? I sure as hell can't. She's cold. I feel so bad for those children.
Exactly. She is very cold. Not a nurturing mother..
I don’t need to picture it because I’ve seen it! That always happens in their videos, I’m not joking lol. Or Ruby will go up to the kids and put her arm around them, and they will just go wide eyed and look at her so awkwardly, you can also see them pull their heads away from hers when she’s in their face talking. So sad!
Unfortunately you’re right…how sad
She'd accuse them of distortion still
You must be living in distortion if you think cuddling is acceptable! 😂
I remember when one year my dad canceled Christmas and donated all of our presents. The reason was so stupid too that I cannot even remember why. I think something about my brother and I arguing or complaining about something. I just remember how awful it was. The fact that I can't even remember the why speaks volumes. The punishment did not fit the "crime".
I'm sorry this happened to you. It just doesn't make sense to me how a parent can be so cruel to their children.
A lot of times, the children don’t seem to know why they are being punished/ what they are being punished for ( one of the older boys had to sleep on a beanbag in the lounge for 6 months instead of having a bed and a bedroom and he said he thought it was because he pranked his much younger brother by saying they were going to DisneyWorld/Land).
The chances of her children visiting her at a hospital when she is 80 years old and sick are little or maybe no chance.
Exactly! My mom is almost 92. Dad has been gone for 20 years now. Three of us kids live nearby. We all interact with her on a weekly, even daily basis (she does a check in call every morning with my younger brother). I take her to lunch about twice a month and to do misc errands and just to get out (she doesn't drive). My younger sister visits with her often as well and handles her finances/questions about money. We call and text her all the time. She isn't needy, but she is weak and becoming more fragile. We always have a laugh or two when we're together. She knows I love her; I tell her all the time.
Unfortunately if she has kids who can't overcome and heal from the trauma bond, they will still visit her.
@@sophiewhite3140 One of her kids will leave once they're out in the real world...
@@Miss_M93 I hope all of them will leave and heal! My point is there is a chance some of them can't leave because of trauma bonding.
@@sophiewhite3140 definitely, some children will visit while others will stay away. I don’t think she will realize her mistake because people follow her and support the way she raises her children. Makes me wonder if this is how her parents were with her.
My son is 6 months. I will continue to love on him so he can thrive. He isn’t responsible for my feelings, I am responsible for his. I don’t expect anything from him but for him to grow up and be a happy, carefree child. Emotional abuse and neglect is real. I hope CPS finds its way into her home and removes those children.
Love this! Totally agree... I have a 9 year old son who I'm raising the way you describe and he's turning out just fine :-)
Exactly. That is the only way a child can develop properly and form healthy attachments. The way Ruby is raising her kids is causing childhood trauma and will cause them to have major problems throughout their lives.
Keep going this route. This is how I’m raising mine. They are 21, 20, and 16 they come to me for everything. We’re very close and they always call or text me
Whenever Ruby doo talks, I feel like she’s trying to meet a word count for an essay so she just keeps rambling on and on without ever saying a single sentence with any substance.
The youngest boy Russell is such a sensitive soul and is a beautiful empathetic little boy, my heart breaks because I know Ruby is breaking him and will chew him up and spit him out as he gets older instead of nurturing his sensitive little personality and showing him it’s a good thing. You can already tell from their past videos that he wants to be loved by his mum and will do anything for her but Ruby doesn’t know how to parent such an emotionally sensation child and she is going to ruin what could have turned into an empathetic sensitive adult, now he is going to be a broken down adult that doesn’t know what it is like to be loved back because Ruby can’t love, she is a robot. My heart breaks for every one of her children tbh. They deserve so much fricken better the Ruby doo….
She literally took that child away from the only friends he really had too 😩 I felt like he was always a happier child around his same aged cousins. Now he’s surrounded by much older siblings, and Eve… God Bless him
Unless things have changed, this "sandbox" is like a volleyball court that Kevin wanted so he could play sports in it. The backyard reveal has a full view of the size. Hearing her talk about this and making it sound like a child's sandbox is mindblowing.
I see their sandbox, you can play volleyball with 4 people there
That sounds like slave labour
Knowing me as a rebellious child, had she been my mother, I’d be the “cat” in that sandbox and REFUSE to clean it just to have the satisfaction of her having to clean it up. I’d take all the punishments, miss all the Christmases in the world for that small satisfaction.
She needs to remember, her children will eventually decide her later life care and which nursing home she’s going to be stuck into. I reminded my own narcissistic mother of this growing up. I meant it. Still do. She’s certainly not coming into my home.
Are you serious?! She made it sound like it was a little sand box for kids and they were the only ones that ever played in it so that's why it was their responsibility to clean it. She's insane.
@@melissaholman2605 and to clean it daily?? weekly id say is strict enough. why cant they buy a cover like you do with a swimming pool to stop leaves going in it when no one is playing
I absolutely love your commentary 🤣 my husband ends up giggling away to himself in the other room when he hears some of your reactions. Always makes me laugh 😁
Mine does too 😂
Her kids were so close to their aunts and uncles and she’s ripped them away from their loving relationships.
I question how Ruby’s parents parented or disciplined. I think her sisters do similar discipline techniques.
she actually scares me. it’s like watching Lori Vallow-Daybell when she speaks. maybe i’m crazy but like i’m scared that she’s just going to keep escalating til her kids are in actual danger…. i’m not gonna speculate what/who they would be in danger from. but she is actually starting to freak me out.
YES it’s horrifying
I agree. She sounds delusional and it's getting worse
"people in distortion" is her code for lori's "zombies" lol
@CaveraDeMonte so basically it’ll be getting way worse before it gets better. that’s comforting 🙃
@@mayag8469 omg that's terrifyingly accurate
Ruby’s audacity to tell her kids ‘I need to feed u everyday’ when they actually make their own lunches 😅 so her kids’ chores are theirs but Ruby’s parenting responsibilities also belong to her kids. Got you. Great lesson 👏
yeah feeding them is a legal responsibility you have...
I would look her straight in the eyeball and say, “I didn’t ask to be born”.
Exactly 100%
My mom said that more than once. I however said back that that was her job and responsibility! Same with the "roof over my head" BS.
She doesn't allow her children to have their feelings. They are allowed to be annoyed about cleaning a sandbox. It's our job to okay those feelings while also explaining the importance of taking care of their things. No punishment necessary. Also get a cover for the sandbox. I cannot stand her. Her comparing it to having to feed her kids just shows how much she resents her kids. You have children, you take care of them. They are not a burden, they are a gift.
I’m still annoyed every single morning when I have to get up and go to work!! As humans we are allowed to be annoyed by our responsibilities. You are so right, it’s as simple as explaining that it’s okay to be annoyed by our chores, but we still have to do them. And yeah… get a dang cover!
Exactly! They should know that there feelings are valid, and they can have outbursts, they can have emotions, and they need to know these things are okay. I saw something in one of her videos where she’s teaching her daughter Shari, her tactics about distortion, and is starting to think the same way
Every time she gives the “our boats create a wake” analogy, all I see is Ruby doing donuts on the water while her kids are tied to the back of the boat on a floater tube hanging on for dear life. 😅
I feel like she heard that some where but has clue what it really means.
"They were responsible for acquiring their own life vests, drowning will hold them accountable!!"
can we start a gofundme for a lid for this damn sandbox lmao
Right! 🤣 frickin cats pooping in it, and it's right under a tree, I wonder why it gets dirty so fast lol
It's nice to see Josh contemplate his own parenting. None of us are perfect!
I’ve had teachers like this before and they were the worst! Never learned from them! The ones who showed real love and care for me, I remember fondly. They were the ones who made an impact on me.
Why didn’t she just say “ when a child takes accountability they understand their actions have consequences- if they break their ipad it’s broken and they have to wait until Christmas or their birthday to get it fixed”
Exactly! Word salad. Her analogy sucked
Because that makes sense and she....doesn't
Unless that kid with the broken iPad did the same thing that Ruby's youngest two did. Then no Christmas for them.
Why does having a ton of kids make her a parenting expert? I hate that we will in a world now where anyone can be an “expert” on anything and people actually listen to them
.... I would just like to let Ruby know they make sandboxes with covers. Your kid is right, scooping poop out of it daily is in fact a waste of time. Girl, I'll send you the link on Amazon, this seems to be a bigger issue than it needs to be in your life
Ikr That’s what I was thinking the whole time
Shoot, they sold them at Walmart when I was a kid. Remember those turtle shaped ones from little tykes?
Good one!!! I mentioned this earlier, but why didn't she help her children come up with ways to prevent it from getting dirty so quickly? You know, teach them how to problem solve? Instead she is a narcissist b word
@@MrsMrMoney that's a good point!
@@rebeccawright5987 they still have those we just got one!!
You brought the children willing into the world. You do not get to be resentful about feeding them when they're hungry. That's a terrible analogy. Food is not entitlement. It's part of the contract you entered into by becoming a parent.
She taught her children to do laundry before they could even reach the buttons on the washer and dryer...she had a stool in the laundry room for them to be able to reach. She only does her own and Kevin's laundry. I remember the video when she was teaching eve when she was like 5 or 6. It was around the same time the lunch box think happened.
That is disturbing. I’m trying to picture my 4 almost 5 year old doing laundry. She simple can’t. She of course can pick up dirty laundry and put it in the hamper. But operate a machine?? Hell no. That’s not even something she should worry about at such a young age.
@@brittangeline exactly! There’s so much that could happen. I understand if she is supervising and helping but I have a feeling she wants them to do it independently so she probably makes them do it fully themselves. A 5 year old could want to try the detergent because it smells good and looks fun, or they could fall into the machine (maybe? Lol) either way it could be so dangerous. I can’t imagine being this woman’s family 🙄
When you said, "Would you take a class on joy from this one???" I literally laughed out loud in the store and everyone started staring at me. It just hit me different, the face you made and everything just hit right. And no, no I would not take that class.
Ruby is not living in truth she’s living in delusion. Every other word is moms of truth and distortion. It is right up there with Scientology level scary. The kids will grow up to leave and despise her and even the father for buying into all this psychotic crap.
Her “answer” to the the question made me forget what the question even was.. 🤦🏽♀️
I truly hope that her children can leave her toxicity and live happy and loving lives as soon as they are able.
14:13 every day Ruby has to do the daily work of feeding her kids. Oh boy. Did this not age well for her…
“Anytime an object is moved upon, an object is moved in that direction” - Sir Ruby Doo Newton
also my parents were like ruby and ur spot on. thx for validating my experience
I knew a girl in secondary school who had a mother similar to her but even more extreme (I’m not joking.) She wouldn’t let her walk to the shop, watch PG films at the age of 14/15. As small as some of these things may seem, i remember the impact it had on her. She never had a phone so would miss out on so many social gatherings. She locked her in her room to study and would control every single thing in life. In the last year of school she became depressed and started to self harm. Her mother wouldn’t let her go to therapy because she knew her daughter would expose her. This was the most disgusting thing to me, that even when her daughter was suffering, her mother didn’t want any blame to fall back on her. It was heartbreaking seeing her unable to blossom into a beautiful young woman. Music, friends, movies, makeup etc. are all the things that let me express myself and helped create who I am today. I remember everything, she wasn’t even allowed to wear makeup to her prom. The day she is meant to feel special and beautiful, she was again let down by her mother. Not able to express herself and enjoy the things the rest of us were. She loved dance but again her mother made her quit dance and go to maths clubs on weekends which led her to be isolated. I was never able to contact her as she wasn’t allowed Wi-Fi or a phone even at 16. I watched her crumble in front of me and I’m still so angry to this day. I wish I did more but everyone brushed it off as just strict parenting and my school didn’t care because she got good grades. Last thing I remember she said after exams was that “she only got all A’s because the only thing she could do was study and she would die if she couldn’t do anything”. No social interaction, just trapped in her room.
I hope that young lady is doing ok
@@Jessica-rh5vx after watching this video and it reminding me of her, I was able to contact her on Facebook and she is now at university!. She definitely has more independence now :).
@@ellagrace3375 that’s amazing! I hope you both enjoy life, I bet your both amazing!
Cleaning it everyday is extreme. I can see maybe once a month sifting junk out but maybe they need to cover the box when they are not playing in it.
Exactly..how about help your child come up with some solutions? Teach them problem solving.
Yeah, that's what I thought, it's under a tree it should be covered. Otherwise yeah it's gonna need to be cleaned an ungodly amount. Should be covered anyways if there are stray cats using it, toxoplasmosis is still real.
I have a terrible feeling that whenever she has a bad day or is in a bad mood, she somehow manages to blame one or more of her kids and tell them that they’re responsible for how THEY made her feel, or that their “ball” hit her in the face and that’s why she’s in a bad mood. In other words, holding them responsible for HER issues, instead of taking responsibility for her own emotions and choices. I feel absolutely terrible for them. She is so condescending and cold in the way she speaks about them and seems to have no compassion for her precious children. It actually chills my blood to hear the way she talks to them. I think she probably actually resents them - she justifies taking out her anger and resentment on them by calling it “teaching” them and holding them accountable when really it sounds like her idea of “holding them accountable” is punishing them for existing and for being children. She uses words about them that indicates she sees her own children as her adversaries and that she has to outsmart them and fight them and beat them down so that her adversaries “don’t win”. Heartbreaking.
Ruby has walked away from her parents, and siblings as well. Her siblings have RUclips channels, and there is no mention of Ruby anymore. They have celebrated holidays, and Ruby is not there. It is very strange. I think she needs a mental evaluation.
Ruby punishes her children for being intuitive and questioning her own line of thinking. They question her “morality”.
There is big difference between punishing a child and disciplining a child. Punishing does not work and doesn’t teach the child anything. Discipline teaches the child to critically think and you guide them with compassion, love, and gentleness.
Can you imagine how the other kids felt as their siblings sat there with no gifts? How were the giftless kids expected to act during the present opening? Did they get punished for their reactions?
My stepmom parented like ruby and she reminds me of her a lot. It created a lot of trauma, and I no longer have any contact with her. I lived through the whole phone incident and she responded exactly the way ruby did.
@15:00 ish- I actually appreciate your honesty here. As a parent it helps to see your POV challenges in parenting. Because we all have it!
My kids are 10, 11, and 13 and I still pack their lunch every day and cook dinner (sometimes they help) but I don’t feel like that’s spoiling them or setting them up for failure. I consider myself a very independent adult and my mom made my lunch for school my entire school life. My kids still have chores and responsibilities and will do just fine when they leave home. It’s okay to allow your kids to be kids.
👏🏽👏🏽 I agree. And on average, they will hit an age where a lightbulb goes off and you will hear a “mom, it’s ok, I can make it by myself now”, and that is much more rewarding realising your child become independent on their own time, rather than making them anxious and distant and putting too much on them during an already stressful confusing time in a pre-teens/teen’s life! Good work Mama 💕
It should be our pleasure to feed our children. We gave them life and it's our god damn pleasure to feed him.
Only Ruby and Jodi know what ‘ living in truth “ it changes daily .
It's so strange how they never even explain what that means exactly, or what living in distortion means. I don't even think they know. What I gather is if someone has a different opinion than them = distortion.
@@haleybit exactly! Anyone who doesn’t agree with them are the ones in distortion, but it’s nearly impossible to keep up with their ever changing definitions of distortion.
I just want to know what on earth she and Jodi are on, it's always nonsensical world salad from them.
I AM SUCH AN INTELLECTUAL, HEAR ME INTELLECT! - Ruby Doo.
This woman truly thinks her word salad means something and it’s mind boggling.
If I hear the words truth and distortion ONE more time I’m going to scream! I cannot imagine being one of her children and hearing that 24/7
My father was like this. We no longer speak & he does not know his grandchildren.
In her whole crap explanation regarding outbursts/tantrums. She never ONCE mentioned comforting the child or understanding the child…. What a cold cold heartless woman.
Watching Ruby try to explain inertia when it's blatantly obvious she's never taken a basic physics class is the funniest thing I've seen all day
She is intense. I taught my son to do his own laundry at around 10. He is 15 now. He is responsible for doing his laundry, but he can choose the day, and if he is doing something and asks me to rotate it into the dryer or if I can bring it to his room, I have no problem doing that, cause he is a person. He also has a list of chores (no more than 90 minutes a day) but if he is feeling off, he is allowed to call in sick and ask for help. There is a big middle between doing everything for them and.... her.
Exactly Whitney! I did the same thing with my son. Gotta be flexible.
Wow I love your system sooo much
You are teaching your child responsibility but you are also fair, you understand that they are also human. This is how parenting should be done… take note ruby you might learn something 😂😂
I’m visiting my sister right now and yesterday I sat down to play a game with her kids (7 and 9) right about then she said “hey your laundry is done, I need to to come fold it.” They nicely said “we just got out a board game with aunt Michelle can we do it after?” She said “sure no problem” when we were done I reminded them about their laundry and they went to do it but their mom had done it for them already as a treat and they were thankful. I can’t imagine a similar situation in Ruby’s house.
She doesn't allow her children to be "human". If they make a mistake its the end of the world.
Your face expression on "would u take a class from her".. Would you.. 🤣
10:25 the sandbox is the size of a small pool. She INSISTED on having the sandbox and now she’s making them clean it 💀
You know what Josh? My mom did all those nice things for me growing up, laundry, nice food for school, even in my uni years sometimes. I’ve appreciated it without her making me feel bad or that I have to be grateful in order for her to care for me. As soon as I was out of my uni, I have moved to a completely different country, all on my own and I took care of myself just fine. ( it was my own choice to move because of the situation in my country. Had nothing to do with my mum. I love her very much)
It’ll be okay. It just makes me love my mum more.
Also she let me help her when I was a kid, with everything. Cleaning, laundry, cooking. She’d explain why and how she did thing things without pressure for me to help. There are different ways to parent. I don’t think you can spoil your kids with caring for them. Because my mum didn’t shush me away or put me somewhere “safe” while she did the house works, I could see and learn how much she worked for us. Oh and she was also a single mum with a full time job as a teacher.
If I did something wrong my Dad used to say to go and think about how I could have done it differently or why another choice would have been better if I didn’t know he would explain it to me and that was it he never yelled, punished etc. She is a complete control freak if she was my Mother I’d never have a Christmas
It is so unbelievable to think that her and Ellie from Ellie and Jared are sisters. They are so different. Ruby is 100% expressing cult behaviour
I saw some quote that said "narcissists treat their young children like adults that have done wrong" and this seems very true for her like so much. I cant remember being a little kid and making logical decisions at all, I made decisions based on emotion and nothing else because I had nothing to base things off of and shes making them make decisions like theyre full adults instead of helping them learn.
All of this sounds like she doesn’t want to be a parent. Or have any responsibilities of being a parent. She’s literally saying in this video that she wants to make her childrens life a living hell because of the years she’s lost of actually being a caring loving parent which come with simple responsibilities of making food cleaning the dishes for her children before she joined this cult. Ruby us so pathetic.
She literally explained her own selfish narcissistic behaviour.
I’m rewatching this and it’s like a month late but she’s literally a lunatic. Also, you should react to the connexions video about triggers, because all they do in that video is laugh about triggers and stuff like that and i wanted to scream through the screen 😭😭.
& her face is in distortion.
Hopefully I’ll be awake at “ungodly” o’clock 😂 I keep missing the start. 🙄 G’day from Sydney Australia 🇦🇺
@@lsun5322 I didn’t wake up on time 😂🙄 how’s this bloody rain? Are you safe?
she is just a prime example of someone who spouts utter bullshit, but does so with conviction and a complete confidence in themselves whether "based in truth" or not
Your facial movements while listening is what makes me LOL!!😂😂
I have so much to say but I don't even know where to start. My brain hurts, and my heart is breaking for those kids. Ruby, you need to wake up before its too late. Everything you profess parenting to be is a slap, a kick and a huge EFF YOU to your parents. You do know who they are right? They are the ones who are going away for 18 months, they are the ones that wanted to share (edit: $1,200.00 - thank you for the correction) with you, your siblings, nieces, nephews, and other family... everyone was there for the farewell except - well, you know.
I just don't get how you say that kids will respect their parents, but then you go and ghost your family? You selfish selfish selfish woman (and Speedo Franke). I would give anything to see my parents for five minutes.
Thank you Josh, for all that you do.
I think it was 12 hundred not k. It was sad not to see her children there. I'm sure her parents are so sad about not being able to be apart of their lives.
@@beadybugg thank you for correcting me ❤
Ruby and Kevin are doing a massive injustice to the kids for keeping them from their grandparents.
I know we don't get to see everything, but that family farewell we saw definitely excluded the Frankenstein's, I mean Franke's 😱.
I can't wait until the kids grow up and hold Ruby accountable for HER actions. They all saw how she justified cutting off her parents and siblings... I really hope they do the same to her.
Love ya Josh! Hope you & the family are having an amazing summer!
I agree with absolutely everything u said in this today and I am proud to say I have parented my awesome kids the right way
I also had very little & did everything from a youngish age because my mum was lazy. My house was disgusting & i was embarrassed to bring my friends home. I now do everything for my 5 children. I too give them everything i never had. They have a lot but i don't believe they are spoilt. They have a lot of gifts at Christmas & Birthdays but anything in between that they want or need they have to buy themselves with money they are gifted from relatives for birthdays & Christmas. My kids have never thrown a strop in a shop when they've seen a toy they want & are told they can't have until their birthday/Christmas. They understand the value of money & how they can't always have what they want & they are very appreciative of what they have because they know how hard we've worked to provide them with nice things. My daughter worked from the age of 13 (paper round), through choice because she wanted to earn her own money, got a job in retail at 16 whilst still studying at high school & through University, finished top of her class in Uni & was presented with an award for excellence in financial accounting. She was promoted to manager at only 20 & she has just bought her first home with her boyfriend at only 22 years of age. They started a business together 18 months ago that has been very successful. I was only 19 when myself & my husband bought our first house & we now have a very nice house because we've worked hard for it. So my kids have always seen that if you want something you have to work hard & earn it. We have never pushed them to do anything, only have been supportive & encouraging. When my daughter moved out she gave us a card saying that we had always been her biggest supports with help & guidance & that she wouldn't be where she's at in her life & career without that. My 17 year son is currently helping me redecorate the house, not because we've forced him to do it but because he wants to help. My kids are older now....22, 20, 17, 16 & 13 but from the moment they were born have been showered with love & affection & i still tell them daily that i love them & they still hug me. They know that bad behaviour has consequences (& I'm just talking about grounding them for a week which i've very rarely had to do or banning them from their xbox for a few days) & they get in less trouble for telling the truth than lying. None of them are afraid to tell me anything & always come to me if they have a problem. My kids are well mannered, respectable kids because of how i've chose to raise them. Ruby's style of parenting is nothing short of disgusting. If any of them chose to have a relationship with her when they are adults I'll be truly surprised. Making her 5 year old child pack her own school lunch is & then refusing to take her some in is disgraceful. I've lost count of the amount of times I've had to take in a forgotten lunch bag, PE kit etc... they are kids & forget things as do we adults. I can't fathom how anyone could send their child to a camp for months, I'm struggling now my daughters moved out & I don't see her everyday. She may not be physically abusive but the way she treats her children will have serious consequences for years to come.
It's almost like she learned about cognitive distortion from a psychologist and has now co-opted the term and, lacking self-awareness, uses it in this wholly distorted way.
The fact that y’all call her Rudy doo is sending me… i’am screaming 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😆 a 'Joy Class' oh my gosh.
My 2 cents for the Hair Poll: You're so handsome just the way you are! You can't go wrong, whatever you decide.
Josh, I was the same as you when raising my boys. I waited on them hand and foot. They are now both grown men, wonderful dads, both are educators and I couldn’t be more proud of them. My daughter in law’s do give me grief ever so often for not teaching them how to do laundry though.
I’m struggling with that too Josh my mom did everything for me cooking cleaning etc. and because of that whenever I was off on my own as a result I knew nothing and had to try to teach myself it was a disaster. But we also didn’t have money so I did without many of the things that most kids had or did so now you could say I spoil the crap out of my kids for example my kid is a straight a honor student and he got offered a trip to Italy and although not a walk in the park I was able to afford it for him because if I could find a way to do it for him I wanted him to be able to have the opportunities that I missed out on it’s complicated you don’t wanna brat but you want your child to have everything you did not
But as far as cooking cleaning and things like that I’ve had my kids doing bits and pieces of it since they were three and five years old because I didn’t want them to end up like me and we lost
Ruby reminds me of how my mom acted during her BPD spurts
I grew up fearing my mother. Pretty sure there was emotional abuse there looking back. And emotional neglect/absence from my father. I have zero relationship with my dad and my mom to this day still causes me anxiety when she texts or calls me. It’s no way to make your kids live. I’ll never allow my kids to be afraid of them. My oldest is 8 now and needs to start learning some chores that are appropriate. He loves asking to help more as he’s gotten older so I toe that line of making sure he doesn’t feel taken advantage of like I did as a built in parent/babysitter/housekeeper, etc.
With Ruby, she shows there is indeed a wrong way to parent 🤦🏻♀️
Funny Ruby used a ball analogy considering she is an actual ball and chain.
The key thing she forgets is that your child's behaviour is a reflection of your parenting. Of course you're not responible for what your adult child does, or what maybe a 16-year-old does. But with small children, her youngest ones she is talking about, that is abso-f-ing-lutely a reflection of your parenting. So if your young kid does something outrageous, take away Christmas from YOURSELF, not from your kid. You failed as a parent, not your child failed as a child.
Yes! Especially when they’re acting the opposite of what you preach and expect. Take a step back and ask yourself, “What is it that I am doing wrong”…
Hundred percent!
And now her kids won’t talk to her ever again
Did you notice that in the week since she allowed Jodi to hijack her ig page, she has lost about 10k followers? That should be a red flag for her.
and i am one of them who unfollow her lol🤣
Me too! Just made my job of spring cleaning that much easier 🤣
YES! Ruby turned her 8passengers instagram into a “Jodi & Ruby” instagram. Not even “Ruby & Jodi”….jodi took over! WOW 😱😱😱
I don’t watch Ruby or insta. Who’s Jodi?
I unfollowed the second I realized what had happened.
She’s a control freak. She enjoys it too much.
Wait, didn't we already cover this? Or is Xmas cancelled for this year already too? lol
this is her new take on why she did it.. which includes bonus parenting advice like, raise your kids like fully grown adults.
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@@thedcp so extra 💩
@@thedcp Ruby turned her 8passengers instagram into a “Jodi & Ruby” instagram. Not even “Ruby & Jodi”….jodi took over! Isnt that crazy?!?! ✋🏻
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My kids started doing their own laundry at the ages of 8 and 13 mainly because I never knew what was clean in their room. Now. In saying that if they had clothes in their hamper and I was doing laundry I would grab it but if not they did their own laundry. It builds character and life skills. But they always had clothes and food and things they wanted. We let them be kids but gave them jobs appropriate to their age and for themselves I never made one child responsible for the other one.
I feel like I have to clarify that my kids are my bonus kids. My only kids.
Josh: Would you take a joy class from this one?
Everyone: Hell no!
Did you ever see the video that 8 passingers made where the dad was talking about wanting sex and Ruby didn't want it so the dad cleaned the kitchen and did the dishes so he could have sex. Ruby sat there with a big smile on her face. She uses her husband also. Sick
Omg. That demonstrates a nice, healthy marriage for her kids. Just when you think she can't get worse.
She even said she love being controlled by her husband so she can controlling as well
When you said that she does not have a bond with her children, and that there is love but not wholesome love, my first thought was ‘she doesn’t love them unconditionally - her ‘love’ is CONDITIONAL. My heart breaks for these babies and all of their babies to come. I only hope that the trauma that follows these children into adulthood, leads to an abundance of TRUE unconditional love for their own babies. This family is literally a tragedy that the world has watched unfold right in front of us. Shame on the people that have allowed her and so many others to live so abhorrently.
It's troubling that Ruby mentions children withholding affection as part of "trying to cancel you in your own home." In what world is affection something that is owed? Those kids have so many demands placed on them and affection is one of them. Sounds to me like Ruby is the one living in distortion. 🙄
It feels like she secretly (not so secretly) hates her kids, and wants them to grow up and have no relationship with her. Those poor kids
This person is exhausting. IMAGINE being her husband or children 😬🫣
Her children will either follow her example into adulthood or they will decide that their own children will be loved and nurtured and NOT preached at by a mother who expects perfection.
Taking Christmas away from the young ones not only hurts those 2 children, but it hurts the older ones too who no doubt saw their siblings emotionally suffering. I wonder if the extended family were told not to give them gifts or was it just 'Santa' ? It's all sorts of wrong.
Did she ever home school? If I was her home-schooled child, I'd be confused AF...
We teach generosity to our kids be being generous to them and others.
Can I just give her kids a hug 😩😭 So sad!!!
An easy solution would be a lid to the sandbox. It’s not sanitary to play in cat pee/poo sand🥴🤢
Yep screams ringworm to me 🤮
I've seen some amazing hair pieces where they glue it to your head and I'm guessing you go in like once a month or something to get it redone. But it looks so good and real lol but going with what you got is great too! You do you, love the videos 🙃
I did notice that the kids barely eat, and there's never a tablecloth on the table when they eat...
How are your kids that badly behaved that you have to take away Christmas? Oh that’s right they probably are not… this is all about control. Her kids will grow up and hate her when they get older.
I feel like cleaning a sand box daily is a bit excessive…I would never play in it again if I had to clean it every day. Maybe once a week would be more reasonable.
My step mom abused me and she got everyone a christmas gift but me because i decided to move out they were taking my whole disability check it was horrible i still have nightmares to this day i have not talked to her in years the damage she caused is horrible her kids will grow up to hate her and its sad!
Your channel is restorative