Characteristics of a Sociopath
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- Опубликовано: 28 авг 2024
- Darren Magee outlines the characteristics and traits of a sociopath. One of the anti-social personality disorders, and part of the Cluster B group of personalities. Common traits include, narcissism, superficial charm, manipulation, impulsive behaviour and being irresponsible. Also looking at the sociopathic stare, sometimes referred to as the psychopathic stare, an intense and fixated look which often appears just prior to an act of domination, sensation seeking or ego gratification.
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I’m try trying to find a video you said you were going to make regarding the differences between a narcissist and a sociopath. Can you help me find it?
I get a lot of requests and can’t get them all done at once. I am working on that topic and thank you for your patience
No thank you Darren, your videos have been a breath of fresh air. The way you articulate these various psychological disorders is amazing. There are so many people out there doing videos but I find your probably the most interesting and informative because you give real life examples of behaviour that make it so much easier to understand. So once again thank you for making these videos because they have helped me reach a greater understanding and helped me get to a better place in my own life after suffering abuse.
The sociopathic stare, sometimes also known as "shark eyes" or "dead eyes". It's a soulless, cold glare or blank look totally at odds with whatever emotion they're currently feigning or the situation at hand. It's as if their face is a mask and the eyes just painted-on.
Omg!!!!! Exactly....
Guys look at this guy: "A Narcissist interviews a SOCIOPATH".
That's how my former friend used to look at me. He was a creepy dude and I didn't know what he was about.
He behaves and acts exactly like him.
Holy crap-yes!
They don’t always appear “dead”. In fact I’ve been told that mine light up, but you’re right about it being at otherwise seemingly inappropriate times.
@@Holdonjustoneminutewhen you torture animals?
I am currently divorcing a Narcissist/Sociopath, an experience I would not wish on anyone.
I have watched almost everyone on this subject, and by and large this channel has been one of the most helpful.
Agreed!! Do samples are very helpful too instead of all that high tech technological terminology that don’t say anything to us!!! All I can explain things he’s one of the number one in my book on RUclips that I’ve seen explain these disorders
I’m sorry - they have no souls - so they suck your
Soul and manipulate and play mind games . It took me years to recover from one
Good Luck 👍 to You. Be Strong 🙏 Efrat.
I thought I'd do a quick update on my situation.
I filed for divorce in January of 2021, the divorce was granted on January 27th 2023.
Because my X caused so much chaos and mayhem with our finances, family, my attorney and the Courts, it took 2 years to finally get to court/with the granting of divorce.
It cost me $24, 400.00 in legal fees. I could go on and on. One thing I will mention, over the course of the 2 years he sent me over 700 emails.
It's going to take a loooong time to sift through all the craziness of 24 years of marriage.
Sometimes it feels so surreal. Anyway, blessings to you all. ✝
@@lauraJa777where there any warning signs in the beginning?
What I like about your channel is you explain there are other things going on, narcissism is only part of the picture.
Thank you I'm glad you like it
I think it's fair to say that the victim can sometimes have a similar look, but's more about being blindsided
They are like a bunny in the headlights. That creepy stare as if they just disengage for a few moments. Sometimes, it looks very fixated, when they are looking at a person or a thing. Great insight Darren. Thank you.
I’m 19 but I think I have a lot of traits of a sociopath. When I look back on things I’ve done and how I behave, all the pieces click of a textbook sociopath. I’m confused and don’t really know what to do. I want to get professional help but I’m scared. Do you have any advice to steer me in the right direction? I’d like to have a family of my own one day, but I don’t want my sociopathic tendencies to get in the way and hurt my new family.
@@Mster_J if you really consider it and awere of it, i give advice to do own you, you know yourself more then everyone so i belive you know clearly how to handle yourself when you out of control, but if you behaviour made you cant really have a goo relationship with people or you live suddenly become difficult by it and cant control it very much, go to psycholog to get help more! go to psychology not meant you bad or crazy, is meant you a good person for awere of you ownself and other! *^^*
The best part of this video is how it is delivered in tone like your Nan reading a bedtime story.
Absolutely excellent, concise explanation - especially the very important distinction that not all narcissists are sociopaths, but all sociopaths are narcissists. Learned that one the hard way myself. Thank you for your videos. They bring a little light into a very shadowed part of human interaction.
Another great explanation thank you. And damn, that stare, I've seen it so many times and never saw the connection
Thank you I’m glad you liked the video
Thank you so much for this. The last sociopath I was around had everyone fooled thinking she was an angel and she was so evil. She knew what she was doing most of the time.
Thank you for a very accurate description of sociopathic behaviour. It rings a bell!
Another good explanation of something that can be difficult to explain
Thank you 🙏
@@DarrenFMagee Hi, Darren! you emojied prayer hands! I haven't seen you do this before, but I'm happy to see it. I always send you a blessing from God's heart. I'm very thankful for your help. You have a gift, and I'm not the only one who has noticed this and commented.
Now I understand better. Thank you. I am currently in burn-out , trying to recover after working full time for a sociopath for over 10 years. I knew she was a narcissist , that was obvious but now I agree with my therapist who said her behavior is that of a sociopath. I made excuses for her anti social behavior to our customars and collegues and myself for years. "she is under a lot of stress" "she doesn t realise how she comes across" "she had a hard childhood" and when I finally couldn t take the financial, emotional abuse anymore she immediatly turned around and attacked me, bullied me, intimidated me. Only then I saw It she really had zero respect for me. Eventhough I gave my all for her business for many years and tried my all to have healthy communication. (Wich never worked as she leaves no room for other parties to speak) It was truely horrible. She drives on conflict and adrenaline so I had no choice but to completely block her. I still pity her, she has no real relations. Must be so lonely.
Going through this myself with ex boss at work. Your comment is 1 year old I hope you have found peace in your heart and can heal from that situation
This was very well delivered and explained, thank you. I believe I was tormented as a child repeatedly by my sociopathic uncle's stare, he would use it to corner and intimidate me, when I least expected it. I was always on high alert, and I hated with all of my heart how he would so casually turn on that flip switch...he always favored me, he was incredibly obsessive and parasitic in his behavior towards me, acted like I was his one and only resource of love on earth. He treated me nicer than anyone, when he had an intense history of violence and emotional abuse. It was always treated like this thing that was okay, but it wasn't, I suffered inside, in silence, for many years...He really messed up my ability to attach to people, to myself, even...and made it easier for me to attach to people who aren't safe, without recognizing red flags and creating distance. I'd attach to them, instead, like I learned to attach to my uncle....I resent those memories, on some days, and how they disrupt my nervous system, still, and make me feel unsafe inside my own body, but, I'm glad there are qualified and educated people out there who can touch on the subject honestly, and give it a name, so I can work through those emotions with professional help, and heal. Thank you. ❤
I've seen that stare.
yep, completely vacant and detached from the present moment
so sociopaths are like the rank-and-file gang members of the pack, and psychopaths are the planners and schemers ?
Interesting question and perspective. You could well be right. It could be the other way of course, remember they are manipulative and ambitious
Sociopaths are schemers ,psychopaths are Predators.
A very balanced and educational piece of work, thank you and keep up the good work
Thank you for your encouragement
Yes! I got involved with someone who sounds like this. I don't think she's aware of the consequences but she knows what she wants. I was vulnerable to her because I was more reliant on external validation at the time and let me tell you, that stare when you believe there's a genuine attraction.... but ye, she knows there's something not right with her, but hasn't got a clue what because she's focused on devaluing others. I kind of feel for her and have to maintain contact at work but I'm learning to be much more boundaried and not rely on her as a reliable mirror!
Please increase the volume, Thank you! 🎀
Excellent video. OMG ! I had commented on another of your videos the other day regarding Narcissist and I had mentioned an 'odd' behavior I had witnessed in the narcissist that I had the unfortunate luck of being sucked into a relationship with (long past) .....at the end of this video you mention a 'vacant stare' trait. Whoah......I had witnessed what I referred to as a 'light switch' behavior - as though a light switch had been flipped and he would be oblivious to any and all around him.
Another fantastic video. A lot of familiar points to what I’ve seen. Can this ‘stare’ be when they’re putting a point across to you. Kind of like talking at you, rather than to you?
I’d say yes it can be
that's what my former bosses kids do.
one is now spending his life in prison for murder.
This knowledge was one the healing balms for me during my time of therapy. My therapist explained my then romantic interest's behavior, I did further research as well, and the light came on 😉
You may laugh, but I allowed on print out on the disorder, read the characteristics to someone who knew that person, that someone said that what I read sounded like the former romantic interest, I showed them the print out (Sociopath at the top of it), and they said, Damnnnn!
No kidding.
Great description!
I’m very happy to find your channel. You are very easy to listen too and you explain very clearly.
I’m a victim of an abusive relation ship and I’ve learned from you about his narcissism and sociopathic actions. I also learned why I was a likely victim. It was like I’d told you my own story.
I’d recommend your channel to people for information and understanding. Thank you so much for sharing. You’ve filled in some missing pieces for me. ❤️
Excellent Informative and detailed I was married to a psychopath for 25 years . Eventually I realised this charming man with great work ethic and career who seemed responsible was actually a calculating sneak who lived a double life . Five years on some days I still can’t believe that was my life as it was MY life too trying to get on and make a marriage work not realising what or who I was dealing with .
Great documentary, love all the detailed breakdowns with the traits and all, helps me pigeonhole the sufferers !
What can someone do when sociopath gives this sociopathic stare. It’s meant to be threatening, my ex-spouse used to do it during marriage and continues to do it whenever I have to be around him, like for my son’s medical appointments. He is very clever to do it when others are not looking! 😨
My dad does it all the time, but it doesn’t work. I usually say “can I help you” or “what are you waiting on? Christmas???” Lol
I’ve never understood what’s threatening about it. Just stare back.
Perfectly explained...😍
What distinguishes a narcissist from a sociopath?
Thank you for your question. I’m making a video about that soon to explain the difference
Lack of Self awareness..
@@honoryourself2098 do you mean the narcissist is less self aware or the sociopath?
@@bigdawg6308 I mean that the narcissist is less self aware.
I think both lack self awareness@@honoryourself2098
I just broke up with a sociopath it has damaged me alot mentally 😅Although I have realized I couldn't fix or help her in any way shape or form.
It sounds like you are confusing type 1 and type 2 psychopathy types. Type 1 (primary psychopathy) lacks empathy. Type 2 (sociopaths, ASPD personality construct) do not lack empathy (they have impaired empathy). Type 1 are charming and manipulative. Type 2 (sociopaths/ASPD) show criminal versatility and impulsiveness. Also, people who have truly dealt with psychopaths in their practice would not characterize their stare as "blank".
Totally disagree. Both can be criminals but not necessarily. Sociopaths can only feel empathy for maybe animals, and maybe their immediate family because they are part of their ego. The major difference I’ve seen is this: psychos are calmer, they internalize their evilness and are usually OCD level of organized and put together. They’re the kind that you may piss off and they’ll appear emotionless, no reaction, but then will murder you in your sleep a few days later. A sociopath is usually very disorganized and erratic, sloppy, disheveled, and prone to sudden extremes of expressed rage, like throwing an explosive tantrum over the smallest inconvenience or showing no hesitation to scream and berate someone in public. The term “Karen” is a decent example. Sociopaths are also able to control themselves when they’re around someone who has leverage over them, like their boss or client: think Dr Jekyll and Hyde. Rebecca Glashow at BBC Studios is a great example.
Dated one, diagnosed, yes their stare is blank
I often take umbrage with the idea of lacking emotional depth, or the inability to read and understand emotions displayed by others. In fact, I find it no more difficult than reading a book, or checking the temperature in the room.
My ex, a true sociopath, got this exact "stare" when I finally confronted him. This was many years after I had divorced him, and during a family function that invilved our grown sons, although in private. I had never witnessed that stare before that day, mainly because the occasion never presented itself for me to have to put him in his place. I wasn't scared, in the least, instead it was such an attention-getting reaction that had me feeling like "Wow, I must have really struck a nerve with this monster". After that, his retaliation, the smear campaign from Hell, had me questioning my existence, as he alienated two of our three sons from me.
The deceit that this monster was capable of had no limits, and the fabrications and twisted truths that he concocted trumped all truths. His ability to play victim was award-winning, however his pedestal is now crumbling, as his coherts/flying monkeys are seeing the demise of his protective cover.
Props to Dr(?) Magee for reminding people not to diagnose someone themselves / someone else because of the information from a single RUclips video instead of studying Psychology for years to be able to properly diagnose.
Diagnosed AsPD since 2007 at age 19. Im nearIy 34yo now. TONS of experiences.
Im a IovabIe one (:
Fun thing is when you become honest about what you are yet peopIe stiII fIock to you.
Im interested in mentaI heaIth; human mind and managed to heIp quite a few ppI with their issues. I dont feeI affective empathy yet I deveIoped and mastered cognitive one. Doesnt matter because endgame is same - reaction according to situation.
It's interesting.
Yep my ex wasn’t so nice and he was a sociopath
@@mariahconklin4150 sociopathy is not a clinical term, its pretty much a buzzword. If he isnt diagnosed with AsPD he could be pretty much just an asshole. Your ex being an ass doesnt make him AsPD or 'sociopath' nor a narcissist, another boogeyman nowadays.
@@fridgeanon ah okay thank you! I honestly think all of this is due to trauma. I’ve been diagnosed with BPD but I’ve noticed the more I follow God and God alone the more I do better. If I try to control a situation to then of course I’m bound to fail. So I know what my issues are also and now I’m looking to finally take action to change them. I can’t be stuck like this forever. Slow growth but I’m working on it
@@mariahconklin4150 Most of issues are due to genetics and environment, often traumatic. I'm an atheist. I follow only my own vision.
Good luck in your growth. I will focus on mine, being AsPD.
Almost every human has experienced a traumatic event but are not ASPD. Cluster Bs are born that way. Only the most depraved of their kind makes the headlines.
The "stare" is a manifestation of their fearless dominance.
I asked if they thought about what their actions would do to me and our relationship? Their response, "I just put it to the back of my mind."
I’m not a sociopath nor a psychopath, possibly a dark empath …
I’m just trying to understand myself…
You are viewed as asset, audience, collateral damage or inconsequential. Asset and audience become collateral damage when they are no longer viable as asset or audience.
Once the charade fails they feel comfortable to drop the pretense of emotion without audience.
I will never again carry life insurance, only a burial policy.
Yes, my ex sociopathic wife often gave me that sociopathic stare when upset.
Cheers mate, spot on really! Is there such a thing as a hybrid between a sociopath and a psychopath by the way? In other words is it possible to become a psycho without being born as one..?
After the discovery of the sociopathy how to back off from, and limit at arm's length a social relationship with a sociopath that is not physically convenient to entirely divorce? It seems that a sociopath rejected with their sociopathic manifestations called out could likely be dangerous.
my mom told me, that a coworker lost two of his fingers because she wanted to see how he lost his finger the first time. Apparently everybody blamed her for it but what she said to me: "I mean he knew what he was doing, he lost one before. Not my fault if he is so stupid" No remorse nothing. Now I see her.
The first sign of a sociopath is that they record youtube videos with the audio level too low.
No empathy. I had one say, "I did what I had to do." Here is an example of the mother who created this person so read closely:
This individual is son #1. Son #2 lives in another state while son # 1 lives in close vicinity to their mother.
The mother has an extremely expensive energy bill and ask son #1 for assistance. He gives the total amount, approximately $300.
Mom then calls son #2 and ask for assistance for the same bill. Son #2 sends the money, but Son #2 calls his brother, son #1, and admonished him for being in close vicinity to their mother, able, but unwilling to help her.
Son#1, more or less, became upset, and as they dialogued, they learned that their mother, their mother had manipulated both of them.
True story.
I reckon the crazy stare happens when thay are lost for words
A very likely correction: its not a matter of they cant understand other people's feelings. Sociopaths actually have the ability to understand other people's feelings, but they choose to not understand them in order to keep themselves at the center of their own attention. Even when having a conscious thought of themselves should have empathy for others, they reject it and go back to keeping themselves at the center of their own attention.
I’m 19 but I think I have a lot of traits of a sociopath. When I look back on things I’ve done and how I behave, all the pieces click of a textbook sociopath. I’m confused and don’t really know what to do. I want to get professional help but I’m scared. Do you have any advice to steer me in the right direction? I’d like to have a family of my own one day, but I don’t want my sociopathic tendencies to get in the way and hurt my new family.
@@Mster_JWow! That is very good you have a conscience about it.
Call out to Jesus! He can remove it - you want it gone and that is so important
Prayer for you
Also, Jesus saves!
Receive Him as your Lord and Savior today!
Our Heavenly Father (God)
is not the author of confusion but of peace.
Bible scripture
1st Corinthians 14:33
King James Version ❤
Primetila sam da ti ljudi zovu samo kad njima nešto treba, a nisu tu kad zatrebaju nama, takodje i traze usluge...
Repaid ten-fold, yes! I can attest to that.
Explanation or an excuse, yup!
Using, yes!
Dated one he was diagnosed.. should have stayed away but nope have to feel sorry and help .
Someone I was seeing in the past described herself as "I use to be a sociopath but I'm not anymore". Is this true? Can someone move away from being a sociopath? Or is that merely yet another delusional lie in their arsenal to manipulate and control someone's view of them?
She still to this day displays narcissitic, manipulative and charismatic behaviours that gets people wanting to do things for her or give her things. It drives me up the wall how charming she is and how she has both men and women absolutely drinking out of her hands.
Most psychiatrists and psychologists agree that sociopathy/psychopathy is an inborn character trait and as such, is not likely to ever change. Most likely is that this person is saying that they've changed in order to further manipulate their victim(s).
I’m 19 but I think I have a lot of traits of a sociopath. When I look back on things I’ve done and how I behave, all the pieces click of a textbook sociopath. I’m confused and don’t really know what to do. I want to get professional help but I’m scared. Do you have any advice to steer me in the right direction? I’d like to have a family of my own one day, but I don’t want my sociopathic tendencies to get in the way and hurt my new family.
@@Mster_Jtalk to a psychiatrist, it won’t go away but it can help. And don’t have a family.
In my observation of sociopaths it had come to my attention that they may have their own language? Or at least Grammer is different in their speech.
For instance the popular phrase "death to fascists" would really mean "death is in the hands of the fascists" or "the fascists are now responsible for death, we are not in this particular situation, but we are participating indirectly"
a type of sociopathic dyslexia if you will
This is an observation I have come by because I noticed quite a few people with narcissistic tendencies I know are Grammar Nazis. To the point that it seriously disturbs them. Probably as it deeply confused them.
We know very little about the sociopathic mind and how differently their perception is.
Just a thought
I haven't completed the video so far i see some traits about sociopathy on me I can't understand why you are so sure that someone that can be sociopath will never take the blame of his actions....can someone have those traits but the blame of his actions????And if it takes the blame that exclude that person from been sociopath?what does it makes them then????
Darren F. Magee 👍
Road trip w/a sociopath, they have zero care if you're cold, hot, hungry, tired, agitated, comfortable, quiet..on n on..robot with human flesh...
I thought maybe one person had contacts in which made their eyes look extra intense.
Do the sociopaths/psychopaths hoover former Ex just so we know what we are dealing with?
My ex does (whom I left in 2009, but share now adult children with.)
Same as my narcissist ex, been divorced 5 years, have one child together and he has a girlfriend that thinks he “loves her” yet he’s always worried about who I’m dating as if I still belong to him 👀.
These people are sick in the head! Run as far as you can, if I didn’t have a child with him, I would have done everything in my power to never receive contact!
They don’t know boundaries, like I’m not your “wife” anymore… Get out of my life. They have no sense of shame.
Feel sorry for any man or woman that encounters them, it’s pure hell!
Feel sorry for those that date them after us, they haven’t a clue that the demon they’re with STILL hoovers their ex! Possessive and obsessed, so tiring.
Holy shit. Literally described my wife to the letter...
Thank you!
Stare... yes
Great info.thx...however you may want to work on the quality of your audio...lots of room noise causes loss of articulation...justa suggestion!!!
Beautiful stuff
Excellent content but worth a new recording, sounds cotton like.
SNAKE EYES
I'd love to watch your video but the audio is just too terrible and tinny and impossible to hear.
Is it true that Psychopaths and Sociopaths are not the same are they different from each other
Everything also applies to a narcissist and psychopath.
Dear Sir- You need a microphone that is much closer
Are there strongly differing degrees of Sociopathy? Someone related once about a case of someone who, seemingly, didn't really believe that anyone else existed besides himself, that everyone else in the world was just part of his imagination. Is there any basis to this story?
Yes. I have aspd and I’m a fairly normal person. I just don’t feel much empathy and I’m really impulsive. On the other side of the spectrum you have someone like Jeffrey Dahmer. We’re both sociopaths, but I would never hurt someone the way he did
Your sound is too low and muffled
I wouldn't have been hurt if I didn't catch her. I kid you not.
Some people are becoming autism well they could be villain.
Is crying when you expect an apology also a form of manipulation?
And what is the fundamental difference between anti social and narcissism? Which aspect behaviour cleary definces the difference between these 2 personality disorders?
I’ve made videos on the diagnostic criteria as set out in DSM 5 on both those personality disorders if they maybe answer your question?
@@DarrenFMagee I watched several channels on this topic and the best one so far is dr. Ramani who that stated that a narcissist does feel shame. I ask this because they really overlap and therefore its difficult to understand the fundamental difference between these 2 personality disorders.
Happy anniversary for 12 years with my narcissist sociopath. Obviously I didn't get anything he didn't do anything special with me, he went out and had some fun for himself behind my back. He thinks this is normal. The other day he gave me the stare.... For something he was accusing me of doing that I didn't do. It's a long story but that was the last straw I can't take anymore. He's taking so much from me but he thinks he's good he thinks he's been a wonderful husband. But I'm dying inside. I am still with him because he pays for my health insurance, but I pay for all of my needs I paid for the house I pay for everything he never has to buy anything for me. I feel very alone being married to this man. But yet he thinks he's doing good. 😵💫
Time to get out
volume!
We are not all narcissists
Look up Anthony "Gaspipe" Casso, Roy DeMeo, "Two Gun Tommy" DeSimone for some great examples of extreme antisocial personality disorder case studies.
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Like anybody they will do what's nessesary to further their adjenda
Watch your cat
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Im staring right now.......
Lol
Sir please speak louder in your other videos
This is my brother. He's in the military in Europe now, hopefully to stay.
omg, all the best to you
“NPDemon”???
They love those grandiose positions. Military, contractor, secretary. They’re chock full of those dark personalities.
What kind of chaos can they create?
You sound like your discribing a small child
Excellent as usual! @DebsCornerCanada
The volume is too low and this guy has no charisma.
Are you proud of yourself for humiliate him? The context suits you well 😳😒🙄