what no one tells you about erasmus | is it really the best time of your life?

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  • Опубликовано: 6 окт 2024
  • This video is different than any other of my videos. I open up about something that has been weighting on me for a long time.
    Is erasmus really the best time of your life? Most interesting part about erasmus is that each experience is so so so different and yet we always talk about it as something that is same for everyone. I don't know if that made sense but accepting the fact that erasmus in Madrid will be much different than my erasmus in Zagreb was very hard for me. Even if it seems silly I was spending time in my head and thoughts too much and it lead me to many sad days.
    Now I am totally over it, I am happy and grateful! I promise my next video will be more optimistic and get you excited for your exchange!
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    Tags - madrid, spain, moving during pademic, covid traveling, i moved to a different country, moving to madrid, moving to spain, moving to europe, erasmus in spain, erasmus in madrid, studying abroad in madrid, studying abroad in spain, spain vlog, moving vlog, uc3m, international student in Madrid, international student in Spain, madrid vlog, erasmus vlog, what no one tells you about erasmus, is erasmus the best time of your life, dealing with expectations

Комментарии • 75

  • @veerose2063
    @veerose2063 3 года назад +95

    Thanks for sharing such a beautiful video and genuine feelings. I find myself wanting and searching for those deep connections with new people but can never seem to find any. Social media definitely made me think I was unsocial, but I’ve realized it’s also normal to have 3-4 friends (and I’ve lived in one country my whole life haha). I still want connections but like you said, no expectations ☺️

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  3 года назад +2

      Thank you for sharing! Yeah, I feel like it's so natural for people to always want more and more when in reality those 3-4 genuine connections are so important ❤️

  • @KateFeng
    @KateFeng 3 года назад +17

    ooo i love how transparent you are!! the comparison to other people and friend groups is so relatableee

  • @0325hjs
    @0325hjs 2 года назад +46

    I'm in Barcelona right now and I just want to come back home. It is my first time abroad and I've wanted this for so long, I've worked for this and I expected it to be perfect. Now all I see is the people around me not inviting me to stuff, I meet new people but it seems to never go past small talk, guys just try to talk to me because they want to hook up with me, and I miss my friends at home so much.

    • @hyhy7478
      @hyhy7478 Год назад +1

      I hope you are doing good

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  Год назад +4

      I hope it has gotten better, I completely understand you

    • @tofunmiopaleye2872
      @tofunmiopaleye2872 Год назад +2

      🥺 this is literally me right now, I feel so lonely, everyone is travelling with one another, no one invites me to do stuffs.
      I just decided that I will do my solo trip to Paris alone

  • @KateFeng
    @KateFeng 3 года назад +58

    i always put my expectations wayyy too high and get unnecessarily sad when things don’t turn out, so this spoke to me a lot!! loved your points and gratitude💗 new suBbbIeE

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  3 года назад +1

      It's always nice to hear that someone can relate❤️ Thank you for subscribing!!

  • @CorinneThians
    @CorinneThians 3 года назад +23

    i know what it’s like to not be chosen 💔 you’re amazing 💖

  • @PitiBoyChill
    @PitiBoyChill 3 года назад +20

    Kudos for being so real, most of the time it's so easy to compare things to the better version of them but we rarely compare it to how worst could it be, gratitude goes a long way in keeping you grounded and grateful! Happy times Lasma :)

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  3 года назад

      Exactly! Gratitude is one of the most important things to carry with you every day 🤍

  • @Nil-ns9oz
    @Nil-ns9oz 3 года назад +17

    Thank you for always being so real! everybody here on youtube seems to only talk about the best parts of their experiences but you are doing the right thing. I’m about apply to Erasmus in Madrid for the next semester so your videos have been a huge help to me. I hope you have even better days and remember that the people who don’t want you don’t deserve your time or your care. Finding a small group of friends that truly care about you is much better than a large group that cares little about you. Looking forward to your next videos :)

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  3 года назад +3

      Thank you so much for the support and love! This warmed my heart 🥰

  • @user-bl7uc1dx6p
    @user-bl7uc1dx6p 2 года назад +27

    thank you so so much. this is so reassuring ❤️ i’m only in my first year of uni but i’m already worrying about my erasmus experience and it’s so reassuring to know that i have to lower my expectations because otherwise i will be a mess mentally on erasmus hahaha. once again thank you for this!!

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  2 года назад +1

      I'm happy you liked my video ❤️ I'm sure you'll have a wonderful erasmus :))

  • @BeaBiancaLao
    @BeaBiancaLao 3 года назад +10

    I love how real you are!! Thank you for sharing 🥺😍

  • @Nauuu2
    @Nauuu2 3 года назад +12

    Oh i know what being disappointed when the reality does not match the expectations and being fixated on it. But what it really does is ruining what you have and a lot of times you only recognize it afterwards. So thank you for sharing this. Love from Germany❤️

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  3 года назад

      Exactly! I agree with you totally, thank you for watching! ❤️

  • @ortilio
    @ortilio 8 месяцев назад +1

    Respect for sharing your true story!!! It was a warning reaction from your soul that you are on wrong way. I was an "erasmus mentor" and I saw that its not the "time of their lives" --- euphoria and reckless partying in the first weeks and homsickness and depressive moods later. Superficial friendships, some meaningless lectures in a semester, too much freetime, culture shock.... I didnt have a chance to take part in Erasmus but thinking back it was better this way. I think the "Erasmus Experience" wont inprove ones personality - its just a big illusion that something great is happening , you dont have to prove aníthing, no real responsibility just spending your parents money.

  • @OmeroBello_
    @OmeroBello_ 3 года назад +7

    Wow... for the first half of the video I was thinking "After the video has ended, the first thing I'll be writing into the comments is to delete Instagram", but then I've reached the end of the video and I was so glad for the action you've taken. Thank you very much for this video, it really helps: in a few months I'll be in Erasmus too (hopefully) and I'm continuously watching videos about wonderful past Erasmus experiences in the city where I'll be (because I'm so excited), obviously increasing my expectations, but you helped me to remember that my experience will not be theirs and I mustn't compare my journey to others, so mucias gracias 🤗

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  3 года назад +1

      Thank you!! I'm happy it helps ❤️ yeah, nothing wrong with getting excited, but sometimes we all just need to live in the moment. I wish you an amazing erasmus experience! ☺️

  • @magdaxsto
    @magdaxsto 3 года назад +19

    The social media ruin everything... anyways amazing video! I really enjoyed it and I understand you for soooo many reasons.
    I'm here in Madrid too and I feel lucky too, but somehow we always think there is someone who is 'enjoying more' just because he or she post more stories on Instagram for example.
    I hope someday we will meet in a random group in Madrid and talk! Have a nice day ;)

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  3 года назад +2

      So nice to hear that!! I've actually talked with many people about this and a lot of them could relate which is crazy... But yes, would definitely be nice to meet ❤️

  • @loredananegash2300
    @loredananegash2300 2 года назад +13

    This helped me so much, I feel the exact same as I am currently on Erasmus as well and just have the exact same feelings. Will probably delete my insta too, it’s just not good for your mental health
    So thank you !

  • @adult1sh
    @adult1sh 3 года назад +19

    I‘m actually so sad we didn‘t hang out more together in Zagreb because you are such a great person! Love from Berlin 🤎

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  3 года назад +2

      Aww, Jacky, I appreciate it so much, miss you!! 🥺🤍

  • @chowmong5121
    @chowmong5121 6 месяцев назад

    Oh my god Lasma, you are speaking my heart out loud. Sending you a good energy.

  • @sophietekliuk9864
    @sophietekliuk9864 2 года назад +2

    thank you so much! totally can relate& no matter where I go or with whom I make relationships - it's never enough

  • @VlogAwi
    @VlogAwi 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for being honest with us, i hope you feelings will get better!

  • @VianncawithaV
    @VianncawithaV 3 года назад +3

    awh thanks for sharing and being so real!

  • @chantalgro6137
    @chantalgro6137 3 года назад +2

    This was so genuine to Listen to! I hope you will find for what you are seraching!

  • @CyntiaNovriana
    @CyntiaNovriana 3 года назад +3

    Loved this!! 😍

  • @brianwhite1189
    @brianwhite1189 2 года назад +1

    I really appreciate you sharing this part of your experience because as a retiree in the US I'm planning a month-long exploratory trip to Valencia next month and need to keep in mind, during this trip and during a possible future relocation, that what you see on RUclips and IG are other people's experiences and that mine may be quite different and that I should keep my expectations in check. Thanks and I hope all is going well for you .

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  2 года назад +1

      Thank you for kind words! Hope you’ll have an amazing time in Valencia❤️

  • @ColourLane
    @ColourLane Год назад

    Thank you for this video. I can totally relate! I am doing an Erasmus semester right now in Belfast in Northerin Ireland.

  • @zouaouifedi678
    @zouaouifedi678 3 года назад +1

    Congratulations ! you just level up 💪🏻❤
    keep pushing you never know who you inspiring !

  • @HasibulHaqueImon
    @HasibulHaqueImon 5 месяцев назад

    Hi, you helped me. Love and happiness for you.

  • @stellathh5541
    @stellathh5541 2 года назад

    yeah, they all love u~ just because you are you❤

  • @jennyk4918
    @jennyk4918 3 года назад +1

    thank you for sharing this ❤️

  • @elisekazadi6892
    @elisekazadi6892 3 года назад +1

    Super sweet video ! Hope you have fun for the rest of your stay :)

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  3 года назад

      I'm sure I will, thank you! ❤️

  • @evaeva2567
    @evaeva2567 2 года назад +1

    Everything in this video is so relatable it hurts 😂

  • @tiagomarques1053
    @tiagomarques1053 2 года назад

    Great video thank you so much

  • @DmitrijsFedcenko
    @DmitrijsFedcenko Год назад

    The saaame. From 30 second. I have absolutely the same problem.
    Aaaaa.... it is so awful. I now in Japan as exchange student, for 6 month. When I only arrive first 3 month I was like "why I don't travel enought?", "I should be there, but not just sit in my apartment", "I have such chance, I cannot lose a second of beening here!". And all leads to vary bad feelings.
    I understand you and it is so terribly.
    But I, may be, found a solution for, so if smb is interested, please free to ask

  • @harrypotter_petronus
    @harrypotter_petronus Год назад +2

    People wanna make friend like this unfortuantely friends arent made this way over few days lol. It takes much more than that. Usually the most trusted friends are the ones that is built when we are kids and they survived through the waves of life..

  • @apichayathongrat108
    @apichayathongrat108 3 года назад +1

    I really like this video

  • @susannadescalzo5250
    @susannadescalzo5250 Год назад +1

    It's exactly the same for me now in Erasmus:)

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  Год назад

      Hope it will get better for you🤍

    • @Bours93
      @Bours93 Год назад

      Me too

  • @Bours93
    @Bours93 Год назад

    Thanks you to say the reality !

  • @arpitjangid9027
    @arpitjangid9027 Год назад

    Subscribed❤

  • @gisamateur9739
    @gisamateur9739 2 года назад +2

    I have been selected to an Erasmus program in Austria and Czech republic and expected to start October 2022. I will defenitely lower my expectations now on.

  • @mariaffpc3026
    @mariaffpc3026 5 месяцев назад

    im currently doing my erasmus and im hating my experience... i feel so lonely and i really want to go back to my country... im sharing an apartment with two friends that i met in my first year of school and i think the friendship is ending and im really hating living with them and travelling with them, but i also have no one... im hating everything and now i dont know if i should schedule my flight for earlier than i already scheduled or just accept that first schedule and try to travel, but travel with who??? i have no one... and idk if i should (or even if i could) travel alone...

  • @Erik-uj9zt
    @Erik-uj9zt 2 года назад

    Daamn, you are saying my erasmus 😮

  • @arthurswith611
    @arthurswith611 2 года назад +2

    I am so undecisive to go Erasmus because my erasmus school will be online and ı am no really sure what ı hsve to do.Is it logical to go for online class?😔

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  2 года назад

      In my first erasmus in Croatia all classes were online and I had the best time of my life! So I think you should still go and see - I'm sure it can still be an amazing experience

  • @lolololol98
    @lolololol98 6 месяцев назад

    Beautiful, It applies to all of life.
    Not just limited to Erasmus. Poetic some of the lines were.

  • @eastcowboy263
    @eastcowboy263 Год назад

    Nice

  • @okayokay12
    @okayokay12 3 года назад +1

    Yo im from syria, and I am very confused I am an elite student and my college says that we can't send u cuz it's covid time and erasmus doesn't make people travels nowadays... anyways love ur video and wish u luck

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  3 года назад

      Hey, well, some universities cancelled erasmus this year so maybe it's the case :(

  • @KakaoxChan
    @KakaoxChan Год назад

    I am a bit confused...do i understand it right that you didnt like this experience because of too little social interaction?
    Was is covid?

  • @sunailkhan3346
    @sunailkhan3346 2 года назад

    Can anyone please let me know can i apply for textile engineering thorough Erasmus?

  • @OnlyFood-i5l
    @OnlyFood-i5l 2 года назад

    Hiiii from Sri Lanka

  • @inganazarova3350
    @inganazarova3350 3 года назад +2

    Gaidu atpakaļ Latvijā

    • @lasmam1999
      @lasmam1999  3 года назад +1

      Vairs nav tālu 🥺❤️

  • @Danielcik
    @Danielcik 3 года назад

    You are just a depresive personality, I understand what you mean and how you feel, it is hard, You are beautiful don't let them say you aren't

  • @coldbloodkiller7127
    @coldbloodkiller7127 2 года назад

    instagram??
    You are so beautifull ı love you baby.

  • @elenarusso6314
    @elenarusso6314 Год назад

    That's all I needed to hear rn, thank you