celebrating steady living - settling down, 9 to 5’s, and sacrificed dreams
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This week’s video is about the idea of freedom, settling down, and familial responsibilities. My story is deeply influenced by norms in Hispanic culture, and I wanted to share my experiences with you, as well as my current lifestyle situation and goals.
I will share these words with you, told to me long ago by a good friend:
“People who chose to stay in one place, to be caregivers, to take less risks, to work steady jobs that can always put meals on the table… those people are not only strong but expressions of love and - I believe - should be celebrated no less than those who chose to live differently. Whatever yours is, each of us has a story worth sharing.” READ MORE BELOW ⬇️
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To be clear: I still love watching movies and reading books about extraordinary people who live their lives in unique ways apart from the masses. They inspire me, and in some ways, I like to try to live differently to some mainstream trends. Something that comes to mind is that I don’t like over consumption and am personally very concerned about the environment.
Many of these extraordinary people have unusual jobs, pursue their passions, are very self reliant, free of certain common commitments, world travelers, can fund their lifestyle, etc. These people are celebrated, as they should be! They are amazing and interesting and their story - like everyone’s story - is worth sharing.
But in light of this, I wanted to take a moment and highlight those who have never had those opportunities, people who chose or had to give up so much for others:
their children, parents, community. My mother pushed aside certain dreams for me, my incredible grandma/Abuela worked long crushing weeks to raise a family that was fed and clothed, committed to stopping the cycles of abuse that had existed in her family for generations. I grew up on military bases, sometimes in places that received foreign refugees: I know of many who have literally given their lives for their children, or worked as slaves for decades simply to allow them the opportunity for an education. On a less drastic note, there are so many people like me choosing to establish themselves in a place where they can best serve their loved ones and community.
Of course, I am not encouraging people not to pursue their dreams and instead adhere to a burdensome sense of obligation, or stay in a toxic situation. I hope that is obvious. I am working towards my dreams myself. But I am recognizing that even the ability to pursue those dreams is an incredible gift. And that people who chose to stay in one place, to be caregivers, to take less risks, to work steady jobs that can always put meals on the table, those people are equally strong and brave and - I believe - should be celebrated no less. That is why I wished to dedicate a video to it.
She really reminds me that I don’t need a grand life of luxury to feel fulfilled
😂😂😂 she is living a grand life! Owning stuff does not make you happy.. trust me on that one.
Namjoon-ing as lifestyle. 😂
Yes a simple life can be wonderful 😊
Same!!
true, nature has so much abundance to offer and that is more than enough 😫✨
I cared for my wife who was terminally ill with cancer, she sadly passed away last year. My home is special to me as this where my wife had happy years and so did I and our children. My roots are here and could never move.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope your coming days are bright with laughter and peace.
I am virgen
I completely understand how your home which you shared wife would give you the peace you need now…
So sorry for your loss, I cannot imagine parting from my husband of 45 years.❤️
I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope you have a wonderful life. I'm not religious but I bet she is now watching from Heaven
@@franz3810 Your so kind thank you
More words I couldn’t include, hopefully to clarify my intention ⬇️
I still love watching movies and reading books about extraordinary people who live their lives in unique ways apart from the masses. They inspire me, and in some ways, I like to try to live differently to some mainstream trends. Something that comes to mind is that I don’t like over consumption and am personally very concerned about the environment.
(I’m only trying to highlight lives that have sacrificed a lot to give stability to others, this isn’t about just being able to travel or not - many families like my own were nomadic due to my fathers work. I just wanted to value the many givers in our societies.)
Many of these extraordinary people have unusual jobs, pursue their passions, are very self reliant, free of certain common commitments, world travelers, can fund their lifestyle, etc. These people are celebrated, as they should be! They are amazing and interesting and their story - like everyone’s story - is worth sharing.
But in light of this, I wanted to take a moment and highlight those who have never had those opportunities, people who chose or had to give up so much for others: their children, parents, community. My mother pushed aside certain dreams for me, my incredible grandma/Abuela worked long crushing weeks to raise a family that was fed and clothed, committed to stopping the cycles of abuse that had existed in her family for generations. I grew up on military bases, sometimes in places that received foreign refugees: I know of many who have literally given their lives for their children, or worked as slaves for decades simply to allow them the opportunity for an education. On a less drastic note, there are so many people choosing to establish themselves in a place where they can best serve their loved ones and community.
Of course, I am not encouraging people not to pursue their dreams and instead adhere to a burdensome sense of obligation, or stay in a toxic situation. I hope that is obvious. I am working towards my dreams myself. But I am recognizing that even the ability to pursue those dreams is an incredible gift. And that people who chose to stay in one place, to be caregivers, to take less risks, to work steady jobs that can always put meals on the table, those people are equally strong and brave and - I believe - should be celebrated no less. That is why I wished to dedicate a video to it.
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I absolutely love this channel. It’s always brings a green space to the busy week that’s peaceful and liberating. It reminds me to seek out the beauty in everyday life and simple living. Thank you!
Change is the ONLY consistency in life-- even obligations change so do dreams etc so my motto? GO WITH THE FLOW -- aroha
Thank you. Just beautiful.
Notice how our society don't give recognition nor a higher pay for social workers, care takers and housewives. They sacrifice so much for others and it's a big task to raise children so they grow up to be healthy in mind, body and soul. That determines how the future generations will contribute to the society and to the environment. It is crucial to take it slow, have the time to explore ones' innerself and take the time to observe, not judge. After moving around all my life and have lived on 3 different continents, I can say, ones' home is truely within oneself. If you feel good about yourself and within yourself, you are home everywhere.
I remember feeling like I was behind in life for so long because of the push to be better than everyone else. It was when I let everything go and said "you're enough as you are" that I started to enjoy living again 🌸
Yes! Good for you xxx
To be happy and content in life is great wealth!
I always felt everyone was better than me but as I grew up I realised we are much the same and all just striving to do our best and I’m perfectly ok as I am 😊
It is your own journey that you're taking. Follow your own path.
I too felt the push to be better than everybody else and I often succeed. Alas, that did not make me happy. I felt I had to be competitive when really I‘d much rather cooperate.
I was talking about this with a friend recently. The reminder here is that there is still honor in the simple jobs, the jobs of the people trying to feed and clothe their families. There is still honor in raising families, or helping your family succeed, whether it's helping your mother or brother. There is honor and happiness in a content simple life.
"I have found that it is the small everyday deed of ordinary folks that keep the darkness at bay. Small acts of kindness and love." ~ Gandalf (J. R. R. Tolkien ~ The Hobbit) I think this quote sums it up very well.
In a culture that glorifies living for self, it is refreshing to hear someone so young speak of the honor and worth of a life lived in self sacrifice for others, which brings its own richness and reward.
I'm recovering from long months of anxiety attacks. I went through traumatizing situations and it froze me. Now I'm trying to move on, I want to get better every day and be able to live slowly. Hope I can have a family to love and take care, and live in a house full of love. You're an inspiration 💖
I'm so sorry for the trauma you experienced. I pray you will find healing over time and be able manage the anxiety attacks. I'm so sorry you're going through those - they're a terrible feeling! I'm praying for you right now in Jesus's name!
I am glad you are here, Samantha. We all benefit from this lovely channel, and I hope you (and I) heal, together. I’m so thankful for this community. Aloha
Anxiety hit me many years back and my own ppl thought I was.... though I forgive them but now they are going through all that and I can not leave. Responsibility is dangerous for longer period
Prayers to you 🙏💜. If you haven't watched all her videos go through many of them soothe. And might just be what you need she walks around Gods beautiful valley and mountain and lakes over on east side of mountain Washington state beautiful scenery to see. 💜 Again prayers sent you feel better and heal through your process of your traumatic time. Been there I can understand some of things. Blessings 💜🤟
I hope you find support and healing. Being in nature and also meditation has been a great help for me to calm and relax my nervous system. Just to be in the Now and connect to the trees, birds 🐦 and feel the breeze in the face gives joy if you can be open to it and feel safe. Bless you 🙏♥
I grew up in a crime ridden ghetto. At the first opportunity I left and never returned. My family, immediate and extended, was so dysfunctional they saw it as abandonment. I don’t regret it one bit. My sibling did the same thing. Now we have stable happy lives.
I love this message so much. So so much. Glorifying the mundane, finding what is profound in the ordinary is such a lost art. I think what is earthy, committed, grounded, and mundane can have so much spiritual weight. Sacrifices on the altar of the “normal life” is the story of most of us, and I wish more people see that as heroic and beautiful. Thank you, may the peace of Christ be with all of us.
Well said. Thank you.
Amen,
AMEN!!❤
Amen 🙏♥️
Beautifully put. Amen.
I'm 25 and feel like my life is already over before it's even begun. This video crystalized a lot of what I've been thinking about for a long time. I CAN'T live this kind of life. Where other people find settling down comforting, I realize I find it suffocating and unbearable. I CAN'T put off my own life and dreams to care for others. Maybe it's selfish, but I finally realize that being a martryr will make me eventually resent who I sacrificed for, which finally made it clear that I NEVER want to be a mother. Ever. Maybe other people find genuine happiness in it. But my own mom has sacrificed so much for us and got so little in return and I can never ever put myself in that situation because of a family of my OWN making. I want to get out. I have to get out. Maybe this wasn't your goal, but thanks to your videos (a few have been recommended), I realize that this is exactly the kind of life I NEVER want to have. So in an odd but truly sincere way, thank you.
It's okay. We're all different. Neither way is best...in my opinion...just different.
Each needs to know what will make their time on this earth the most beneficial. You seem to need to honor your wanderlust.
I can assure you, being age 60, your desires, tastes and needs change.
Generally, youth desires to sew wild oats, see the world, seek exciting things and challenges - all part of human development. As age increases your perspective changes and you realize…like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz…There is no place like home. And please know, and as this video touches on, an overwhelming percentage of humans look back with some regrets, even in the most perfectly lived life, again it’s part of human development, not a sign of failure.
Some try to outrun their devils by seeking constant excitement and adventure - leaving home in the rearview. Others hide from their devils and stunt their personal growth by surrounding themselves with spouses and children to hide in and they never stray far from home.
Living this mortal coil is a crapshoot where any plan can turn on a dime. The point it seems is to grow, at whatever speed your self needs the growing, share your growth with others and know that mistakes will be made along the way.
Love yourself, Love others and do believe in God, for many reasons, least of which is the guidance from a being with knowledge unmeasured and…well…it certainly can’t hurt. Again, I am 60 years old and sorta just realized…Doh, I have a guardian angel. I simply cannot navigate this world successfully without the guidance of wise people and a heavenly host.
Be you, be strong, be fair, be joyful and be at peace…with all your might.….and, oh, the patience you will need along the way with yourself and others. ❤️
@@Tinkerlooful Very nice...good insights.
Thank you for this ❤️ it made me cry because I, too, put my dreams on hold to give my four kids a better life. Sometimes it’s depressing as I’m getting too old now, and I feel it’s too late, but my first son is heading to college and he has his whole future ahead of him, and there’s excitement in that, and I’m sure your parents felt the same about you carving your path. I think people like me often get forgotten because we just worked to pay the bills . It meant something that you gave us those few moments of honor.
I don't think it's ever "too late" if there is that spark of joy in your heart, if your dream still calls to you despite all the adversities! There's so much to be proud of in raising another human and giving yourself to work, even if it wasn't your passion. I hope you manage to follow your dreams even if slowly - every little step counts.
Yes, I have the greatest respect and reverence for them - they’re my heroes. I’m sure your son knows that as well, and may come to realize it more and more as I did. Thank you so much ❤️
I am like you. Worked, worked, worked to raise my four children, and didn’t get to fulfill almost any of my childhood dreams...but one dream was to be a mother, and that just took precedence over all the other dreams. Now my youngest will be turning 25 in a couple more weeks...snd I’ll be turning 65 two months after that, so even though I probably will not realize many of my dreams, I can look back with pride on what I have accomplished, and look forward with hope to at least maybe having grandchildren some day.
It is never too late to live the life you choose. Age is not a barrier it is a catalyst to explore new possibilities and adventures. If you are lucky enough to be aging well, embrace all that life has to offer you. Follow your passions and go for it, at any age! Mrn@!:)
IT'S NEVER TOO LATE!! I'm 60 and at 59 I sold my home in coastal Alabama and moved to a cabin in the woods in Maine. I needed the solitude for healing a broken heart and spirit. I've learned a lot about myself and grown so much spiritually and I realize that it's a one day at a time thing as each day is different and presents its own challenges and victories. I wish you the best in your life adventure. Peace be with you.
Age and maturity is teaching me that living a slower and simper life isn't living less of a life, and is actually far more beneficial for you in mind, body and spirit.
I used to feel guilty for not wanting the 'normal' life people are expected to have, the massive house, flashy jobs etc but watching videos like yours make me feel better about my choice of just wanting a simple and comfortable, but most importantly a happy life
2:20 Due respect, it *is* feasible for anybody! You can do anything you want, but not everything you want. Everything in life is a trade off. I have given up a life of roots and stability because I have chosen a nomadic life. I sometimes dream of living in one place, having a garden and a dog, and a network of friends that live nearby. But I’ve chosen to forgo those things, which is my choice. Everyone has that choice, but most people are not willing to pay the cost of living the life I do. I completely respect your decision to live in that lovely valley, but you or anyone else could live my life on the road. They’re both beautiful adventures, just very different. But, yes, it’s a choice.
We are all capable of so many things we often do not even dream of, we have so many choices in life 🤍 I’m simply celebrating the people who feel unable to do certain things for themselves due to other commitments. For example, I have a family member with a child with many severe health complications. The only way they can provide for them is by working in close vicinity of a hospital, where they need to visit often. I think they would not be able to live nomadic with a child who needs so much support and equipment to help them survive. I know they have given up many things for her, so it would not be feasible for them to live certain ways if they want to keep their child safe. By being a military child I have lived in places where I have witnessed people working as slaves in order to pay for their children’s education. They don’t have the options or human rights many of us enjoy. It is heartbreaking, and I wanted to share some of the stories that inspire me. Hope that helps clarify my intention. Regards
A home, a friend, a dog, a rabbit, a garden, a full tummy... You have arrived.
People who sacrifice their dreams for others to flourish are superheroes. My mom is one of them.❤️
I really needed to hear this, firstly because it's been a difficult week but as it turns out, also because of your beautiful message. As a mum of three boys who 'chose' to stay home for both practical economic reasons and reasons of caregiving, I sometimes fall into feeling that my unpaid work is invisible and unvalued and therefor so am I. 'Stay at home mom' should really be called 'live at work mom'.😉 Thank you for this lovely moment of recognition, it makes me feel seen. Sending my love and thanks to you and your own Mom for choosing to make a beautiful life a possibilty, for your family and all of us here.❤
I'm a mom to two boys, I've always been home with them. I very much understand what you are saying 💞
I see you and support you, nurturing the next generation. Thank you xx
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I can totally relate. We are valuable, strong and have helped others around us. I'm sure you'll continue to live a great life with your family
Ever since I was young I never saw the appeal of having the typical study, get a job, find a partner , make a house, get married and have kids..etc life. Now I finished college with great expectations but I still did it because it was expect. I still dont want to be integrated into society, I still dont want to work or be in a relationship or have kids or go out with friends, though it might me due to my mental health but I honestly believe I was meant to live in nature where I grow my own food and and just exist simply and peacefully. Every time I see so much as a picture with a field or a river my heart aches and I feel like that's a place to heal. I live in a country where I dont get a lot of options but I do have a way to get where I need to go though I have to go through a whole lot of "typical living" to get there. I'm always drawn to channels like yours because it's in fact what I want so it's very inspiring to see people achieving that. Thank you.
The initial discussion of the gardener not worried about the plants that have lost the shelter of a tree reminded me of words ultimately from the Master Gardener: "We rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts..."
Thanks for that good reminder Carl!
"Sometimes, your dreams need to change depending on circumstance, AND THAT'S OK." whooo... needed to hear this one. I've been putting so much pressure on myself lately for not sticking to my childhood dreams. I love your videos so much... your art es tan hermosa. Thank you for sharing 🌾🌺💐🙏
Just yesterday a traveler, with the most exciting experiences you can think of, traveling around the world for more than 4 decades, told me he is jealous of people with roots that are content with their lives, as he is never truly, happy - at home, he is restless, and while traveling, he often longs for a home... it´s a wonderful thing to find home and purpose
When you were talking about plants that don’t like their environment it reminded me of something I learned this week about olive trees that grow in morocco. They are actually more rich in nutrients because of the desert environment and its counterparts that are grown in more moderate climates like Italy or Greece. Nature can be such a great metaphor for life. Sometimes I think when life is hard for some of us it builds character if we let it and we become more “nutritious”
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At age 67 I'm reminded with your videos that there was a whole bunch of us starting in the early seventies that had your same outlooks and lifestyle. I lived in. Moscow, Idaho at the time. Probably less then 100 miles from your home now. I always felt I was born before my time and you are living testimony to that. It's sad that so many of the folks I knew at your age kinda sold out to max materialism. I still live the same. I spend time gardening and in the woods, living simply. I think you have tapped into something that will benefit many in the future. Thanks!!
I moved to Grangeville, Idaho in the 70's. We raised our family there. We still live a simple life.
at the moment i’m living at home after graduating last summer. because of the pandemic and having sick family members and other unfortunate circumstances, i’ve had to help out a lot at home with looking after my siblings, doing all the grocery shopping, keeping the house clean etc. if it wasn’t for the pandemic i’d be travelling or living in australia or i’d have more time to focus on my dreams but i’ve had to put that on hold for the greater good and to make sure my family are ok. really appreciate what you said in this video, i feel like people in my situation who have to sacrifice and put their dreams on hold aren’t celebrated enough ❤️
You're a hero in your way taja❤
Your family will never forget that and you won’t regret it. I moved away from my family after college, and I can’t tell you how much I cried and cried when I couldn’t be with them during the pandemic. I can’t wait to move back.
Pls understand nothing is lost.every unselfish or selfish act will return to us in some form at sometime or other.either sooner or later.
Sometimes much much later.
U don't need validation from others for anything positive.theres a being who will validate u
It's perfectly ok to have "weeds" as the honest definition of this word is simply something we don't want in our yard. When you look at the plants most people call a "weed" it is quite the opposite for Mother Nature. Everything that inhabits this planet, as a whole, equates to balance and by default benefits us. Every plant on this planet, including ALL weeds, provide medicine, homes, stability, protection, fragrance, color, compassion, love, balance, insight, etc to all species of life...if we listen; if we take the time to observe and are humble enough to learn from them. Here are some "weeds" that are indescribably beautiful if you can hear them: dent de lion (tooth of lion) or dandelion - so brilliant in it's yellow form it is truly a beacon to the bees. It is one of the first flowers of spring and often the saving grace for bees and other insects giving much needed nourishment following long cold winters. Common mallow - most of us are familiar with the marshmallow candy. Want to guess where it came from? Long ago, before candy was even in most children's vocabularies, the seeds of common mallow were boiled down to a syrup, then mixed with honey or other natural flavorings like mint leaves. After several more processes it was eventually baked at a very low temperature and given to children when they had coughs. The children liked them so much they would often fake a cough to get the delicious candied herb. From here it was procured by industry and turned into the pure sugar snack we roast over campfires today. But the true mallow cough drop was said to have cured many a cough. Yet many people spray it with weed killer. Mullein is another beauty that is considered invasive by the experts and is a cough and mucilaginous-lining healer. These plants also tell us what is in the soil and whether or not we can grow food where they are growing. Many weeds have very deep tap roots. Like the dandelion, they help us to replenish and revitalize depleted soils. They can reach minerals that are no longer in our top soils. Once the plant has run its course the minerals compost into the top soil via leaves and flowers making growing easier for us. But we chop them, mow them, burn them, and curse them until we a have an herbaceous mono-culture; one hairs width away from nothing at all. Weeds are beautiful and just as necessary and deserving of a place here.
Beautifully said.
I once heard a seasoned gardener say that the weeds that grow in our yards or gardens need to be there. But alot of the time what we want clashes with what happens in nature.
@@returnoftheromans6726 So true. Manicured gardens are beautiful!! And so is a wild meadow or forest or country side. I often wonder who"defined" weeds and who was the first to follow such a rule. Maybe for those off us who like more order or neatness in our yards we could contribute to wild areas in our community.
Dear Paola, you are very wise. Through this life I've learned a simple thing the hard way : don't hope for another place where the grass is greener but make the grass grow green wherever you are :)
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As someone who relishes change it was really beautiful to hear your perspective on stability. Wonderfully spoken and a joy to hear about the comfort of steady living and sacrificing for those we love ❤
I truly love your videos.
I am 60 years young. Every one of your videos teaches me something important about myself and life. Plus the calm and peace I feel when experiencing each of your videos helps me a great deal with the stress I am going through.
Thank you Paola. I am grateful to you, what you share with us, and I love your fur babies! 😍❤️🙏
This video really spoke to me, you know like when you are in church and it seems like the minister's message is all about you? :) I am a retired and spending my later years in life not at all the way I have always imagined I need to adjust and go on with life and choose to be happy. No one can make me happy but me. Thank you so very much. Looking forward to your next video. You inspire me so...
Yes, my retirement is not ideal and I pray to find some worthwhile endeavor each day, one simple act of accomplishment. I believe there are many women of a certain age finding ourselves isolated, with major health issues watching the passing days on the calendar. Any tips on how to go on and express gratitude?
I like what you have found in your retirement, when I was younger, I went through a time when I became Depressed, not really knowing how I got there, But climbing Out of it, made me Realize, EVERY DAY, I had to make a Concerted Effort to Choose to be HAPPY, and I hadn't realized that Before, I guess that's part of why God gave us Free Will, when we Choose Happiness, We choose Life, when we choose, anxieties, or fear, or anger, etc. WE are choosing, Unhappiness, decay of our cells, Dis--ease, and Depression, and Death, Literally, our bodies respond to vibrations and sound, and light, happiness, love, laughter, ALL are Higher vibrations, the negative are all Lower Vibrations, causing Dis-ease
Just being retired is a blessing! It is truly a gift just to have time to do what I want and not have to be on a job site or doing work that pads someone else's bank account! No, I am not traveling the world or living the high life, but I am enjoying just peacefully living, reading, sewing lingerie and trying out new foods at Walmart! When I need to go to the beach, but have no money, I can pull on my jumbo sized bikini and sit in a lawn chair with the water hose streaming down my dark brown, glowing body! Life is what you make of it! I don't have time to be sad.
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It took me a very long time to realize that I need to include myself, my health, my joy, my well-being in my commitments-I do a pretty good job honoring my commitments to others but have done a poor job committing to being compassionate with myself. Thank you for the lovely reminder.
Well said, Kaitlyn! It is a constant learning and realization of priorities over here.
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I'm 14 and I absolutely love your channel. You're always inspiring and you are the one who changed my life. I was holding my breath until your new video comes out, and now I'm sooo happy, thank you so much Paola for making thousands of people happy.
Lots of love from, Gayansa
Thank you so much, that is so lovely and encouraging ❤️ much love to you
A place of refreshing, relaxation, reminder that there’s more to life than chasing material things. That’s what this channel is. ❤️
A wonderful reminder that nearly all good things are a result of patient process. Just like the flowers in the garden, there is much care and sacrifice - even for those who have the means to up and adventure away from their daily routine, it almost always is preceded by the hard work of themselves or others. Thank you for the encouragement!
Beautifully said, thank you ❤️
For anyone who’s young, if you feel you need to push your self to be better, work harder, have the best of everything, wait till you hit your 30s. I can promise, those feelings will fade away and you will become more your self and the things you thought were important just aren’t. Just wait, it gets so much better.
I just needed to hear that, thank you
Agree. I spent all of my young years working so hard to buy more material things. Now I’m in my old years I can’t get rid of all the stuff quick enough. I realised too late that needs are very few. The more things we have the more complicated life gets. ❤
Any way you choose to live your life is valid. Do what makes you happy & fulfilled ❣️
Ah, Wednesday is here and another video from the most pleasant, relaxing, thoughtful, and enjoyable RUclips channel I have had the pleasure to enjoy. This young lady is a true artist who possesses a wisdom and insight far beyond her young age. What a delight it would be to be her friend, neighbor, or even casual acquaintance. Every video she creates is an opportunity to relax, put away daily cares for a few minutes, and try to absorb a little of her profoundly beautiful attitude and lifestyle.
I think it's wonderful that your videos are in the middle of the week as if to urge people on towards the end of the week when many become weary...
God is a gardener - and he’s watching over us all. You are loved my dear
First, can we give a BIG shout-out to your camera man aka brother?!? Such detailed, gorgeous filmography!! Enjoyed every single minute of it!! This video really spoke to my heart because I was born, raised, & still live in my hometown & I love it!! My family from my great grandparents down are from here. There is something beautiful about having roots & people know you by name or know your family. Thank you fairy for your insight & sweet soul ❤️❤️❤️
I am grateful for my parents everyday, that they gave up everything they ever knew and moved to a different country so that their children can have a better future. I don't want their efforts and hardships to be wasted so I try my best to live a life that makes me happy and is meaningful
When you talked about care giving for your parents, I was so sad as thats what I do, and I lost my dear mother in '09, I still cry when I think of her.
What a beautiful heart you have
Sending a hug, even if we're so far 💖
I lost my Mom in 2009, too. She was 87. We were very close. She always helped me and I tried my best to always help her. I miss her every day. I loved my Mom so much. She was my one constant in life, she was my hero. I was lucky to have her as long as I did...still wish she could have been with me longer. 💕
I am virgen
Adventure, wonder, and discovery, begin at your doorstep! Never having traveled far, and headed back to the barn ( so to speak ), a life committed to family, and animals, I find contentment. I stopped notching my walking stick long ago, at 3,000 miles, but the path still calls. Thank you Paola for your sharing, and your willingness to imagine and believe! It's becoming a new world, your wisdom will be needed🙏
Stay cool...still hot in Eastern WA. Here in King Country it only got up to 73 today. Monday it was 110. What a RELIEF!!!
Just wanted to say how truly appreciative for you to celebrate the life of people who do not have the opportunity to live the dream or travel the world. Personally, as someone from the third world country, dreams of living simple and quiet life in cottage is almost impossible. I do not have the luxury to travel abroad as many do. Just by watching videos like this is my source of happiness to see how beautiful other countries can be. It sounds sad, but in reality we just have to live and accept and grateful with all else that we have now.
For most of human history, people have spent their entire lives in the region they were born in - nomadic cultures were not the norm. We live in a strange age now where people move houses regularly, travel internationally, and (I know for a lot of young people) never really plant themselves anywhere long enough to develop roots within a community.
Steady living is a forgotten art 💞 Im really drawn to the stability of it. Thanks for sharing your beautiful thoughts and videos
My folks were constantly moving, and I'm sure this led to my depression and anxiety challenges. I still dont have a parental home - where I feel safe.
I totally agree! Love my hometown ❤
@@joanhenschel3511 I'm sorry Joan. But I'm glad you're here! 😊
well said
@@joanhenschel3511 i am 65 but until my parents finally sold their own retirement home, i sort of telt "home" was where they lived. They have long since passed away.
Dad was a banker and we did move a lot, but it never bothered me.
However depression runs in my family, so i get where u r coming from
if you feel it is serious (e.g. cannot go to work, feel suicidal ever, have irrational fears (by others' standards)), it is fine to seek professional advice. it took my wife to point out how to handle my depression.
Fortunately mental health challenges do not hold QUITE the same stigma as before... but of course we don't run around saying "i am screwed up in my head".
Best wishes,
peter in canada
This makes me think of one of my favorite Peter Pan quotes, "There are many different kinds of bravery. There’s the bravery of thinking of others before oneself. Now, your father has never brandished a sword nor fired a pistol, thank heavens. But he has made many sacrifices for his family, and put away many dreams… .He put them in a drawer. And sometimes, late at night, we take them out and admire them. But it gets harder and harder to close the drawer… He always does. And that is why he is brave.” Appreciate your meditations!
What a great lesson in symbiotic relationships. I love weeds in a garden. Even weeds deserve a chance to grow.
Thank you again for your video messages. Each one encourages to examine something about my own life and how I fit into the world around me. My life from about 35-now (I just turned 70 2 days ago) has been difficult to day the least. Failed relationships, serious health problems, challenging financial problems, etc. Now I happily welcome the end of my days not being sure how many are left. However, I try to help wherever I can in the days I have left.
I have a feeling that even though you aren’t comfortable in the limelight or comfortable with your own greatness, the rest of us will seek you out because you are like a beautiful light we need.
My husband has been a surveyor going on 24 years now. His knowledge of the land, water and everything in between truly amazes me as well. We are from south Louisiana and the land is much different than where you are from. I love watching your videos. I also live a very simple slow life. I feel like it is “food for the soul”. I have raised 4 children this way and I think they have really flourished because of it.
I am full time caregiver to my 82 yr. old mother, wife to my 74 yr. old husband, as well as home-schooling mom to my 15 yr. old son. I am 64 yrs. old, frequently tired, but wouldn't change it. Thank you for the videos you make. They give me a little beauty in my life...
I notice that everything you talk about is synonymous with the teachings of buddhism! He too realised that the ideal path in life is the middle path :)
Your lifestyle is very close to me. It's great when a person can feel the magic of nature and use its gifts.
I'm so happy I ran into this video. In the last few years, in all the spiritual groups I was a part of, pages that I followed, all of them talk about "leaving your 9-5 job". As if the job itself was the problem. I had a hectic schedule, worked nights and had no stability, and I finally have a 9-5 job now, which honestly makes me so happy. I agree with everything you said and it was very soothing to hear someone else say it for the first time in years. Thank you.
You are a beautiful person. I wish all the humans could defend the same values as yours. Our planet would be better. I was glad to see Mr. Darcy, he is so lovely!
I honestly imagined you closer to 30. The entire time i’ve watched your videos, I never once thought you were under 27/28 years old. You have such a wise, mature nature about you. The way you carry yourself is beyond your years. ❤️
Your mum actually represents both types of people you describe. She packed up and left everything she knew to start a new life in a new country then she settled down and made that new life work. Just like you have. Human beings constantly migrate then settle and establish communities. I think that’s the normal cycle of life and it’s beautiful at whichever stage you find yourself.
I'm almost 40 unemployed due to the pandemic and living with my parents. You are literally living the live I've always wanted to live. I'm really happy for you and hope you have a wonderful and full filling life bring art and joy to the world.
Stay strong💪 I hope you have now a job🌼🌻🌷⚘🏵
I love this. After immigrating 26 yrs ago, I was never content with where I ended up. Spent so much time wishing I was either back in my homeland or elsewhere. Yet over these past few yrs I have found myself increasingly content. I have taken the time to appreciate the seasons of this country, certain elements of the culture, my lovely little town and the familiar faces that have become friends... and now when my husband suggests moving elsewhere I really struggle with the whole idea.
Wise words. Hope the recent heat wasn't too hard on your garden, especially the lobelia. Thank you as always.
I am virgen
Makes me think of my dad and all he sacrificed.. he was a very good football player and got offered a pro contract, but honored his commitment to go into the navy after college… he was quietly sacrificial to us all our lives…he was fun, caring and made our life wonderful…he passed away 3 years ago and I miss him so very much..
I have done qutie the same. I moved back to my hometown to care for my aging parents, and now that they are gone, I still find myself firmly planted here, to give my daughter a stable life foundation. If she chooses to live her life differently i would support her in all that she wants, but for me being a root to a tree that is prospering is my life path.
I love how you see beauty and reward in lifstyles or life situations that are often looked down upon as being boring or the consequence of having failed at sth in your life. RUclips is full of people travelling the world in a van or people doing other exciting things, and who celebrate themselves and their lifestyles on youtube. While it is interesting and inspiring to watch their videos, they also make you feel inadequate, or even a failure for "not living your life to the fullest". It is so refreshing to finally see someone who celebrates the ordinary, and the non-exciting, and you show us that instead they ARE special and exciting and beautiful in their own way, if we learn to change our attitude and the way we perceive these things. There is so much healing in this. ❤
Thank you so much ❤️ I appreciate it, I feel the same way at times and really wanted to take a moment celebrate those sometimes perceived “un-exciting” lives so full of love and sacrifice and richness. It’s been healing for me, and I’m glad I can share the sentiment - I hope you have a lovely day
The loveliest channel. It means so much to me to receive your words of wisdom. I lived most of my life on the move, travelling, craving the next experience (starting when I moved to Africa as a child), which is why I didn't have a child until I was 37. I carried on travelling as much as I could with him, but had to put down roots when he became a young teen. It took about 4 years for me to settle, but I have and I now feel that I belong. I am coaxing along my basil and greens to grow as strongly as yours! Your garden is beautiful. Wishing you a wonderful day 🌿🌼
'the weight of expectations put on you by other people...' Is that ever a positive burden to bear? Asking for a friend. In my case, the result was quad bypass heart surgery at the ripe old age of 47. More importantly, thank you for your enchanting and soothing videos. Each one soothes, comforts, teaches, and hugs. Thank you from deep in my quad-bypassed heart.
You’re the same age as my daughter, and I always share your videos with her. She loves them as much as I do, and hopefully she will follow her passion as much as you have!❤️
This is beautiful.
My dreams were to create art. I had interests in many different media but mostly dance. Then I married a man who had three kids and all of the sudden my dreams had to shift. I am now a first grade teacher and while it is not the glamorous free spirited life I always imagined there is fulfillment, a stable paycheck, and I can make art as an outlet. I have a great responsibility to raise these kids and teach others. I used to feel suffocated by it but God has given me the strength to find joy in those responsibilities. It has been a winding path of dying to my selfishness.
Thank you for your sweet words to celebrate the sacrifice of your parents and encourage others.
no doubt many many of your subscribers share my PLATONIC love for you... such an amazing lady
You are right
As a stay at home mom of 4, I sat down to have a little quiet time and escape the chaos surrounding me. I remembered a video of yours that came across my feed last year. It was of you quoting the velveteen rabbit and making the wool bunny. It was such a beautiful video, I wanted to see it again. I was so glad I found it. I was interrupted three times while trying to watch it, but it still quieted my mind. I wish I could come visit you and try your lilac tea when I need a quiet moment, but at least I can watch your videos and marvel at the beauty of nature around you. The peace and quiet you live in makes me want to cry. Thank you for sharing it.
If most ppl could have the heart and empathy of this beautiful woman inside and out, what a beautiful world we could live in.... js 🥰💖👑🌙🙏
the story told by the care taker fits the theme perfectly. your boyfriend's work, being a passion and not just a job underlines everything about the subject matter. there's no need to elaborate here...the weeds growing around your property seem to meld well with the garden. And unless the weeds are a detriment to the crops, they add to the tapestry. Your husband...i mean your boyfriend... is rooted and grounded in every possible way, while you're like the wild flower that springs unexpectedly. isn't that what nature teaches us? ; each of us has a role to play, along with dependence and responsibility to each others' freedom.
Favorite time of
My week 🌸
This is such a lovely message. I’m quite a bit older than you are and I have lived and still live this life. I followed my husband to rural Japan. We left our children and grandchildren behind so we could care for my husband’s parents. I’m not unhappy here but if I’m honest I’d rather live near our children. You are right… it’s not always possible to live our dreams BUT we can make the choice to make each moment Joyful. It is quite possible to live happily and peacefully in a situation that you didn’t exactly choose. You have a lovely channel. I’m very slow in producing videos because of the commitments we have here with caregiving and such. … you are an inspiration to this grandma 🌻
Good evening Paola!!!!! You’re video is so true and hits home for me... My father worked three different jobs a day and gave up much to allow 13 kids to attend Catholic school!!!! I feel i owe him so much and I’m trying every day to give back!!!!! Nice to see you 😊😊
I have a cottage with gardens surrounding my home. I have to be close with the Earth. My neighbors believe I am a witch...let them believe whatever they like. I eat my tomatoes straight from the vine......still warm from the sun. I love living this way. I compost and garden during the golden hour. My mother is British and a Depression baby. Nothing gets wasted in my life. There is a peace that only God can give.....while on this planet, I stay as close to Earth as I can get. My hair is quite long as well, which in some way: fits......it is to my thighs. I intend to be returned to the Earth when God calls me home. Thankyou for this lovely post Cottage Fairy.~~~~~~~~~*
I don’t think it’s settling,I think at some beautiful point it just becomes enough.❤️
What a beautiful way to put it 🥰
I am virgen
This message resonated with me because I live one block away from my childhood home and have worked as a ICU nurse for 39 years in the hospital in my community. I married a man who I actually have known and went to school with since junior high and he lived very near by me. Although we knew of each other and even shared some classes, we did not connect till after I graduated from nursing school. I took care of my parents as they aged and then passed away and now my mother-in-law who will be 106 is our responsibility as well. I cannot lie and say there haven't been times when I wished to venture out into the world and have "freedom", but I realized it just wasn't in my nature to do so and I have long ago stopped being "disappointed" in myself for not doing so. I now feel proud that I have stayed close to home and was able to care for my parents and had a wonderful career as a nurse in my community. My children went to the same schools and went on to start their own lives and live nearby as well. The roots are set deep! Thank you for reminding us that we all have adventures and dreams which may change but we can adapt and still be happy.
You are growing in Wisdom-and the understanding that “self” is not the highest good. It is a gift, treasure it.
Paola, i need thank you! Because of you I've create courage to start my own channel and show my bad days and my strugles to not just survive, but live, happily. I live in a industrial City and i have no idea what to do with my life, so i decided follow my heart, even feeling a lot insecurity, i have good feelings that something good will come soon. Thank you for be that calm voice in the middle of a storm to us. ♡
Committing to stay put has been a struggle for me, after coming back from living and traveling abroad before covid. I Love your perspective on this, ultimately it’s my family that anchors me here, and my aging dogs and too … uncertain times. There is a comfort in being grounded while the world swirls in crazy ways.
Thank you for acknowledging not just parents who care for children but also adult children who care for older parents. It is a worthwhile service provided by those of us who do it but it rarely seems to be valued or respected. Thank you!
It is so deeply satisfying and magical to focus on doing things for others. Watching them grow and “become”, is a creative act, and one of great love. We have 3 wonderful, intelligent and kind grown children. Our life’s work, and joy.
Thank you for sharing this. I "gave up" my dreams of being a hot shot lawyer and the top judge in my country to raise my son. I resented this sacrifice for a long time, but now I am questioning whether my dreams were actually MY dreams, or whether they were just me trying to fulfil societal expectations.Looking after a child is such hard work, but I am more fulfilled and content than I've ever been. There is so much beauty in sacrifice and growing roots, and our millennial culture sees sacrifice as a negative thing (you're supposed to have your cake and eat it too, and definitely not share it). Thank you for being a voice of difference and truth.
Thank you so, so much for this. I have spent much of my life dealing with depression and feeling like a failure. I constantly have put pressure on myself to do better, work harder, and then become miserable when I fall short of the vision I had in my mind of how my life should go. Being a mom to a 5 year old, sometimes I can feel sad when I see other people my age traveling the world, going on adventures, chasing after their dreams with nothing holding them back. Watching this video has reminded me that there is nothing wrong with settling down, spending time focused on my family, and just taking each day as it comes. Finding the joy in each day, slowing down and appreciating each moment with my son. This was where I was meant to be. Thank you again for helping remind me of that.
I applaud you, I commend you, for living the wonderful life the way you want to. At 59, a Tex- Mex woman from Texas, I live many dreams through you. God's blessings over you.
Just wonderful! Indeed, if we "celebrate the sacrifices" our ancestors had to make, we brake the circle of karma and free all of them, us included. The line is free.
Your videos are so important and you have a beautiful gift of articulating important and true messages. Keep up the good work - you are a lightworker. Thank you Paola. Blessings from Germany.
Thank you so much ❤️ you expressed that beautifully
I am a single mom to 3 beautiful children. Because they have special needs sometimes people pity me, because I am absorbed in their lives with not so much downtime. However they will be young only for a short time, and my life is so very full and I am so happy, even through the rough patches. We all have those. I do a mental and emotional exfoliation and move on to realize how awesome each moment is. As always, a beautiful video Paola, and I send love and hugs to you and everyone here💕✨
Thank so much. You are quite eloquent. I am now old and have had opportunities to both settle down and to wander. It’s a good life
When I’ll grow up I want to be like you Paola! I love everything about you! The way you write your scripts, the words you use, the tone of your voice, the casual smiles I hear, the footage, the pace of the video, the vibes you are sending! Perfect clips! Well done and don’t forget to be proud of yourself for all you do and the way you are and for what you managed to do with you channel! Much love 💖
if Mother Nature were looking for an understudy she would choose you.
Beautiful said 👍
@@larsstougaard7097 thanks!
Gracias por tus vídeos,transmiten belleza de lo natural y tu calma y dulzura hacen más amables los días.Un abrazo,desde Santiago,Chile
The way you live is like a depiction of how I wanna live too 💖
So true! I used to feel almost panicked (knot in the stomach, couldn't sleep at night) at the thought that I wasn't traveling the world and (as our current culture puts it) "doing something" with my life. I'm also a creative person with a tendency to find schedules/calendars to be scary confining things. So for a long time I listened to those opinions. But lately I have found an increasing sense of relief, peace and accomplishment from learning to stay put and WORK on my interests and goals. I don't worry about trying to be interesting any more. I focus on growing, being healthy and being a positive influence on the people in my life. Thank you for sharing this very important perspective!
And I was sure I was going to get through todays moments with the Cottage Fairy without shedding a tear and, I was right ... until she said, "Sending my love."
You are a blessing. Living simply to experience the joy of putting down roots. Not fancy , not glamorous, but adding so much desperately need beauty to the world! God bless you and all your endeavors!
I so look forward to your videos. I want to live such a peaceful and blissful life! May it happen soon! Best wishes 👍
You are right, it is good to celebrate those who have committed themselves to looking after the needs of their families and possibly giving up dreams to do so. To be able to life the life of your dreams is amazing, but no life is perfect , and life changes- frequently ! To be able to change/ adapt your dreams is possibly the way to find fulfillment....I'm rambling - but want to sat thank you for your beautiful videos , and for taking a moment to make us think. 🥰
So relaxing watching you garden. I lost mine. Yes, beautifully said. To appreciate that some are tied to a life where dreams aren't lived. ❤
It's such a privilege to share these videos with my 16 year old granddaughter.
I deeply wish I'd had access to your wisdom and philosophy when I was her age, your age, as it's taken many years to figure it out.
You really do remind me of Miss Honey from Matilda and I'm loving it. I absolutely love watching your videos and I enjoy it so much.I learn so many things from your videos and I love that I'm benefitting from your videos! xx.