When people behave like this, whether it is a man or woman, it means they don't respect you. Do the same thing they do to you, except make it permanent. If they don't return calls, or you can never find that person, remove yourself from the situation. When that person realizes you are no longer contacting him or her, ignore all texts and calls. Eventually, if they have any sense, they'll realize you are no longer interested in their nonsense. If you choose to talk them, simply say they disappeared and you have made the decision to cut them off. Further communication with them is not wanted or needed. Also, block their calls, emails, ignore text messages and don't let them in your home. When someone genuinely wants you, sending out a search party to find them will not be necessary...lol. People play games but wouldn't want someone to do the same thing to them...smh!!
Very informative...most of this stuff is common sense, but many women in denial choose to overlook it when they really like a guy.....good to hear it coming from a man....maybe it will sink in more. I never deal with dudes that pull this crap.
All I know is, there are plenty are dudes who are full of shit. I would say the majority. Even the ones who are in their 40's. It gets really discouraging.
Alvaro Alas Ooh get your misogynistic ass outta here. The video was about detecting when a man is full of shit. I don't know why you're lurking on a video that's not for you. (unless you're into men)
so i'm not allowed to invade videos like this,yet when someone talks about something that women do that is wrong,women are all "yeah but men do that too" you dont' even know the definition of that word do you? i don't hate women i just think it's bullshit women think that they know the majority of guys but you don't
Alvaro Alas If a video is about trifflin women, I'm not going to project and talk about trifflin men. I know there are sorry ass women out there. I'm not in denial. This man on this video has opened up my eyes to a lot of things. The majority of the men I've came across are full of shit..then I have relatives and friend who went through the same. My mother still stuck by my dad all those years he was full of shit. Facts are facts!
Oh you got an iPhone and loose it the cops coming to that house and I will get my damn phone back, come to find out it's at the ex house 😂😭 he left it there when he was over there a few days ago
Yep. I'm dealing with a player. He running me nothing but lies. Ladies Trust your gut. If a man truly Loves you he will show you in every way. Loves doesn't hurt. It feels good. Don't settle for months or years of BS and lies like I have Ladies. It's not worth it.
Breaking up is easy if you never want to go back but if you do then that's a different story. I say just make it clean and honest and stick to your guns. Let him know why you are breaking up with him and assure him that your decision is final. Make sure to relax for a while after a break up (no other guys) so that you can make sure that you have made the right choice and not be easy prey for a guy looking to get some rebound ass.
I just saw where you contacted me on Google+ unfortunately I am terrible with that system so I just answered you here. Yes, I could send the DVD of the series to Australia. When you make your donation just message me your address on kickstarter.
+askchazzellis. yes chazz zthis ms brown im in a 10 yr relationship but my male friend keep saying he locked up. now his friend say he down for murder. i dont know who to beleive
yes you SHOULD CALL before you go to anyone's house. Just because you are boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't mean that you have to be obligated to be around someone 24/7. Maybe they don't feel like having company that particular day. If they aren't home, that would be a wasted trip (gas money/ bus/ subway fare). I have a few gentlemen callers and they stay coming over unannounced and it works my last nerve!! Most of the time they will show up when either Im in a good sleep, EATING, or just don't feel like being bothered period. We all need time for ourselves and there is nothing wrong with that. So the considerate thing to do is CALL BEFORE YOU GO TO ANYONE'S HOUSE!
That's a good question and honestly its going to be a little of both in the beginning so you are just going to have to let time tell you. If they start finding things to do in their new city and call you less and less and answer fewer of your calls then they were probably just bored. If they stay about the same then they were probably a little more interested. But if they weren't interested at all why wouldn't they just call someone else?
He did disappear for 4 days and that's enough for me to say PEACE Forever. So glad I did. He texted me once and I didn't answer and I haven't heard from the Dumbass since. Thanks Chazz. :)
Thanks for being honest.....love it. Especially the phone thing. "My phone died, that's why I didn't get back with you". It's sad how desperately a female will want to believe this yet in her gut she knows. Don't think we're that stupid, we're not....we just WANT it to be true. I love this guy. He is going to be the first one that "I subscribe too"
Thanks for letting us ladies know the real shit men do and think. You're insight is so helpful for girls like me stuck with a full of full of shit dude that lies so well it's damn near impossible to catch him up. I've thought most of the stuff he's said or done was game but never been able to prove it. Thank you.
Hi Chazz...You are so wonderful...You can take a woman who is in tears, and feeling hopeless, and turn it around with facts that are presented in such a great way, that she ends up laughing in hysterics...You're brilliant! Thank you so much!
this is the truth and some of the things you mentioned have happened to me - I won't say which ones but you made it funny and real - your voice is engaging and you have expressive hands. Smile
i agree on a lot of stuff. I can give similar advice to friends but when i'm the concerned party, it's nice for someone else to drill it to my mind and pull me back to reality when it's hard think for myself.
CD HM but you really knew before you seen this right? I mean he's right on cause I have known bunch of full of shit men. Of several colors. But every time I already knew
I'm glade you put this video out there. I thank God I don't have those issues to deal with. I think almost every women at one point in time has dealt with a FAS type a guy. The points you were making are common sense to me and I've always confronted a guy that was suspect... but like most dudes like to say to women who are on there shit when it comes to FAS guys "you trippin", "you crazy" you this & that blah blah blah! lol I always go with my intuition. lol But thanks foe the reminder !
I absolutely love all of your videos, especially the ones about players. Your outlook that an individual can't get another person off their mind because they have unfinished business is an interesting way to view it and it helps me to stop thinking about the other person. By the way, you look like you could be Sanaa Lathan's brother
OMG Chazz, I LOVE you!!!!!!!!! Thank you for breaking stuff down and really giving us women the real deal when it comes to these dudes. I've been binge watching your videos for the past few days! #Respect
It's like you were in my head when u spoke about the "still cool with it ex" #9. That's exactly how I feel, if they're so called still cool w/ their ex, still care about them or their well being, breaking their neck to still communicate/hang out w/ them etc, then I don't want to b bothered. Apparently u still have that desire to be involved w/ them even if Ur New partner doesn't approve. & That's some straight bullshit.
thank you for sharing your thoughts and opinions with us. I do however disagree with your last statement. I was dating this guy that was talking to two other females at the same time. He always left his phone around me as well as his wallet and didn't have a password on his phone either. This just showed how good he was. I am not the type of woman to go into a man's phone but when you and i are laying together watching a movie and your texting and I see the word love and questions like how do you feel about me...my red flags go up. It was at that point I realize that he was doing some ish so I dipped. To this day he doesn't know why and i found no reason to tell him.
Well, I know a guy who was 5'3 and played 10 years plus in the NBA but I still say that you have to be at least 6'0 to make it to the league. That's the rule and of course there will be a few exceptions.
I love this answer to the previous woman's comment, it just shows how smart you are, ppl take things too literal, "to every rule, there is an exception" dwl...cracks me up!
Well, people don't generally mean to hurt others but it's human nature to be selfish and that often does hurt others. I think that women just find themselves more vulnerable a lot sooner than men and that allows them to be hurt more often.
This is good stuff, it'll help a lot of people out. I wish I had known this stuff a few years back. smh. Oh well, we all learn in due time. Thanks for posting it
He got a point. Because If the guy out doing something he know he don't suppose to be doing ( like gettin it with another girl at a club or something) and he know that it will make his girl mad and there is none of her friends around to bust him, he just gonna keep doing it and not give a single f*ck. That is a real player move right there.
Thank you for sharing - - - I'm older, & I knew this - - - but I still wanted to listen to what you had to say - - - you are correct , and had me laughing, lol, all--- through the video. And - - - you SAY--- the way it should be and the way everyone will understand. Wishing you SUCCESS- - FOR YOUR. TIMES---making these videos.
Yes when he disappears 2 days and come back without words. Also other things when you ask him questions related to relationships topics he always says your questions is to hard n he said"im tired, headache i want to sleep." Like most of the time u asked him even the question is easy. He can't remember a thing from what you like, or what you told him he makes excuses that he has short memory. Yes that is from my experience.
You are the real deal. A lot of the things you said I already knew, but it's just good to hear it from a man's perspective. Most women know this stuff but will put up with a shitass just to have a man. Thank you
Oh I remembered I asked him "can you tell me when out best moment that we been had together?" He said "your question is to hard to answer" Since he said he wanted to marry me that why i ask him that question. I was so disappointed with his answer. I remember I asked him "Do you like me?" He said "yes i do". I said " but you didn't show me I can't see". He said "how? I don't know how to show love can you tell me? Can you teach me how?" I was like " I can't teach you how to love someone because im not a teacher love is coming from your heart if I teach you that just an act. So then he said " now I know what u want ok i will show u". ( that time I wanted to give him a chance to show me his love like if his does like me) Then later on like months he didn't show me anything to prove his did love me so I broke up with him.
My boyfriend never has time for me anymore. We're going on six months and ever since month two he's gotten steadily busier and busier. He goes to school and does have a job that hosts events all the time after hours, but lately he doesn't call me anymore. He lives and hour and a half away and never has time to see me anymore, even if I offer to come out that way. If I ever ask to see him more he gets all defensive and nasty that I'm not "patient" enough or that that's all he has to offer. Is he seeing another girl on the side? I am deeply in love with who he was when we started out, and when we hang out he's not an ass. only when we're apart. and I've never had the urge to check or even look at his phone before now. Next time he stays the night should I check it while he sleeps?... I hate to invade his privacy but something is just not adding up... and I want to give him the benefit of the doubt that he is not cheating.... opinions?
I say break up with him because people make time for who & what they want...no matter how busy they seem to be. Allow him to get his life together so he can come back to be a better boyfriend. :)
It ain't the much busyness in the world! Yeap he's either with another women or he's just either with another women. Cold turkey! Your be ok, take the time to improve your self, I'll be ok.
I ended up breaking up with him without looking at his phone. cheating or not I deserved a man who made time for me and didn't resent me if I asked for it. thanks for all the help! I'm much better off now.
FRIGGIN' PERFECT!!! Thank you, I, with your help, am finally releasing my guilt over bailing on someone that could use my help, but I can't deal with all the weird relationship stuff. And I counted six sins being done in what you've listed here. I'm never comfortable when asked, by anyone, to please phone before coming over..... THAT tells me I'm not automatically welcomed. And that ain't nothing I can live by. The clincher was him having anything more to do with her. That's just about part of rule one with me.... no fucking others and this includes spending any time with an ex. I come friggin' first in his life, after his own body. It isn't rocket science, but I won't settle for a dickhead who can't keep just this one part of our relationship SACRED. HunnyHunnyChaz, I only counted nine (9) things there, what did I miss??
LOL! You are so real!! I have learned some of these things the hard way and some of those things were just evident...that he is full of it! Thanks for posting this vid! Really enjoyed your input from a man's point of view! :)
I get excuses like that all the time "I lost my phone". The biggest sign. When you pay 800 bucks for iphone, you glue it with a super glue to your hand. Men can't afford to lose it.
same for me ))) I m in love with this guy...he is super cool..can't believe how LOGICAL AND ACCURATE he is...simple things yet difficult to figure out sometimes on our own ..thanks, Chazz
Also watch out for when every time the guy gets a call, he has to leave the room to talk. With my friend, I can be with him an entire day and his phone hardly rings, but when it does, he stays right there by my side to talk. And if he's at home, he always leaves his phone on the table in front of his couch where I am usually sitting. He might leave the room a dozen times, but the phone stays right there in front of me. I wonder if he realizes I am taking notice of these things.
I'm a black female and I agree with everything you said in this video. I've watched a few of your videos, they're interesting and honest, new subscriber here. Hello
Chazz Ellis please could you do a video on what to do, or how to deal with him leaving you for your friend. That's double pain. And a reality for a lot of women, but yet I don't see a video helping women on the topic anywhere.
I love you're honesty!!! Truthfully it doesn't take long AT ALL to catch on to a man who is full of shit. Ladies pay attention, save your time for someone who is really interested in you!
thank you, this has opened my eyes a lot. but i have one question. when i told this guy i was done because i felt like a dirty secret because no one knew about me. he told me from the beginning that he didnt have any friends but aprox a year into the relatonship i told him i was done and hung up on him. the next morning he calls but i wasnt going to answer it but i did and he said for me to get up and get ready. i said ready for what? he said he was taking me to his parents house for there sunday get together. i wasnt going to go but i did end up going, but why would he have done this?? I remember going out side where most of his family was and heard him say that he called his brother and he knows what is going on but i didnt say anything. so what was he doing this for??? this man kept me so confused. we are no longer together. but our relationship or what ever you would want to call it was one that i dont think anyone has ever had before. but this video did explain a lot. just wish i knew all of these signs before i fell in love with him. i knew him keeping his phone on him all the time and on vibrate was very odd and i believed he was hiding something. but introducing me to his family after i told him i was done still boggles my brain.....
I need to add to the list; any dude that always delete all his messages. When you look on his phone all inbox and outbox empty. Dude is full of shit
When people behave like this, whether it is a man or woman, it means they don't respect you. Do the same thing they do to you, except make it permanent. If they don't return calls, or you can never find that person, remove yourself from the situation. When that person realizes you are no longer contacting him or her, ignore all texts and calls. Eventually, if they have any sense, they'll realize you are no longer interested in their nonsense. If you choose to talk them, simply say they disappeared and you have made the decision to cut them off. Further communication with them is not wanted or needed. Also, block their calls, emails, ignore text messages and don't let them in your home. When someone genuinely wants you, sending out a search party to find them will not be necessary...lol. People play games but wouldn't want someone to do the same thing to them...smh!!
so true
Very informative...most of this stuff is common sense, but many women in denial choose to overlook it when they really like a guy.....good to hear it coming from a man....maybe it will sink in more. I never deal with dudes that pull this crap.
All I know is, there are plenty are dudes who are full of shit. I would say the majority. Even the ones who are in their 40's. It gets really discouraging.
sad but true😕 far too many!!!
women are full of shit for always using the majority bullshit
Alvaro Alas Ooh get your misogynistic ass outta here. The video was about detecting when a man is full of shit. I don't know why you're lurking on a video that's not for you. (unless you're into men)
so i'm not allowed to invade videos like this,yet when someone talks about something that women do that is wrong,women are all "yeah but men do that too" you dont' even know the definition of that word do you? i don't hate women i just think it's bullshit women think that they know the majority of guys but you don't
Alvaro Alas If a video is about trifflin women, I'm not going to project and talk about trifflin men. I know there are sorry ass women out there. I'm not in denial. This man on this video has opened up my eyes to a lot of things. The majority of the men I've came across are full of shit..then I have relatives and friend who went through the same. My mother still stuck by my dad all those years he was full of shit. Facts are facts!
"WHO is returning phones?!" LMFAO. This whole video is on point
Oh you got an iPhone and loose it the cops coming to that house and I will get my damn phone back, come to find out it's at the ex house 😂😭 he left it there when he was over there a few days ago
Lol lol 😂
Yep. I'm dealing with a player. He running me nothing but lies. Ladies Trust your gut. If a man truly Loves you he will show you in every way. Loves doesn't hurt. It feels good. Don't settle for months or years of BS and lies like I have Ladies. It's not worth it.
Had to cut ties with him today. Glad I did.
True
How'd you do it? I might be doing this today with this guy im talking to
You definitely called it. I had a guy tell me he was going to take me out. But never would tell me when or where. We never did go anywhere...
Breaking up is easy if you never want to go back but if you do then that's a different story. I say just make it clean and honest and stick to your guns. Let him know why you are breaking up with him and assure him that your decision is final. Make sure to relax for a while after a break up (no other guys) so that you can make sure that you have made the right choice and not be easy prey for a guy looking to get some rebound ass.
You are FANTASTIC! You are providing a great service to women who grew up without male role models or the wisdom of an older brother or father.
I need a "full of shit" app
Thank you! Stumbled upon your videos and I absolutely love them, some things are falling into place, thanks for opening my eyes.
I just saw where you contacted me on Google+ unfortunately I am terrible with that system so I just answered you here. Yes, I could send the DVD of the series to Australia. When you make your donation just message me your address on kickstarter.
Hi Chazz, thank you so much, I've just sent a PM through RUclips. Cheers and best of luck!
Thank you and I got your message and donation. I really appreciate your support.
We ALL APPRECIATE YOU!
+askchazzellis. yes chazz zthis ms brown im in a 10 yr relationship but my male friend keep saying he locked up. now his friend say he down for murder. i dont know who to beleive
I probably watched 10 of your videos in the past couple hours,THIS one caused me to subscribe. . so dead on..
yes you SHOULD CALL before you go to anyone's house. Just because you are boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't mean that you have to be obligated to be around someone 24/7. Maybe they don't feel like having company that particular day. If they aren't home, that would be a wasted trip (gas money/ bus/ subway fare). I have a few gentlemen callers and they stay coming over unannounced and it works my last nerve!! Most of the time they will show up when either Im in a good sleep, EATING, or just don't feel like being bothered period. We all need time for ourselves and there is nothing wrong with that. So the considerate thing to do is CALL BEFORE YOU GO TO ANYONE'S HOUSE!
That's a good question and honestly its going to be a little of both in the beginning so you are just going to have to let time tell you. If they start finding things to do in their new city and call you less and less and answer fewer of your calls then they were probably just bored. If they stay about the same then they were probably a little more interested. But if they weren't interested at all why wouldn't they just call someone else?
I don't open my door for anyone unless they have called in advance. I don't care if it's my own Mama!! Call first!!!
Exactly! I don't like surprise visitors!
exactly. ..hell i don't even let people know where i live so i definitely don't accept pop up vistors
Felicia Thomas same lol maybe I'm full of shit 😜
Felicia Thomas Same here lol
These are things that men should be telling their daughters, sisters, granddaughters and any female relative he cares about.
I'm glad I came across your channel. You be putting me on game! 😩😂💯
This, by far, is one of my FAVORITE videos!
He did disappear for 4 days and that's enough for me to say PEACE Forever. So glad I did. He texted me once and I didn't answer and I haven't heard from the Dumbass since. Thanks Chazz. :)
#11 if you have to ask, "does he like me?" He is full of shit. Men who like women make it very clear. Period.
Thanks for being honest.....love it. Especially the phone thing. "My phone died, that's why I didn't get back with you". It's sad how desperately a female will want to believe this yet in her gut she knows. Don't think we're that stupid, we're not....we just WANT it to be true. I love this guy. He is going to be the first one that "I subscribe too"
You won me over with this talk. I subscribed! I like you! You have great perspective! Thank you!
Yep or "I left my phone in the car charging" for hours at a time...
A man like this is just keeping you in reserve!
Thank you and thanks for sharing your experience.
I figured all out on my own long time ago ;) but was good to hear it from you
I'm not worried but thanks for the advice.
Thanks for letting us ladies know the real shit men do and think. You're insight is so helpful for girls like me stuck with a full of full of shit dude that lies so well it's damn near impossible to catch him up. I've thought most of the stuff he's said or done was game but never been able to prove it. Thank you.
I love the way you say : he's full of shit! :')
Hi Chazz...You are so wonderful...You can take a woman who is in tears, and feeling hopeless, and turn it around with facts that are presented in such a great way, that she ends up laughing in hysterics...You're brilliant! Thank you so much!
at the end of the day...just stay single..the end.
omg girl im learning thats best😧
Andri Ramirez omg too much lol
Right
LOL!! Loved the "Whose returning phones?" #BS
Thanks man I appreciate the sort.
Thank You, for your honesty.. Wish you great success. Stay real for us women. love ya.
this is the truth and some of the things you mentioned have happened to me - I won't say which ones but you made it funny and real - your voice is engaging and you have expressive hands. Smile
best list ever.
Wish I knew this before I started dating
Just be polite but real. When you try not to hurt someone's feeling you can often end up stringing them along and making it worse.
i agree on a lot of stuff. I can give similar advice to friends but when i'm the concerned party, it's nice for someone else to drill it to my mind and pull me back to reality when it's hard think for myself.
Chazz u and Steve Harvey are saints....
I'm glad that I could help you.
damn that's all I needed to hear ...
I'm done
CD HM but you really knew before you seen this right? I mean he's right on cause I have known bunch of full of shit men. Of several colors. But every time I already knew
lmaoo
Yeah, that always sucks but at least you know and I think that makes it easier to get over it.
I'm glade you put this video out there. I thank God I don't have those issues to deal with. I think almost every women at one point in time has dealt with a FAS type a guy. The points you were making are common sense to me and I've always confronted a guy that was suspect... but like most dudes like to say to women who are on there shit when it comes to FAS guys "you trippin", "you crazy" you this & that blah blah blah! lol I always go with my intuition. lol But thanks foe the reminder !
wow, this was so refreshing! this is so so true!! thanks chaz :-)
Women need to subscribe to this, it's all true.
Child chazz is full o shyt himself.Probably CONNING 3 women right now.
mrkeepitreal5436 That would make him a real expert then...even better! :D
I absolutely love all of your videos, especially the ones about players. Your outlook that an individual can't get another person off their mind because they have unfinished business is an interesting way to view it and it helps me to stop thinking about the other person. By the way, you look like you could be Sanaa Lathan's brother
Disappearing for weeks at a time and not answering messages. But when they get around you they keep they're phone around them. Protected.
Love your advice! lots of love from Syd Australia x
OMG Chazz, I LOVE you!!!!!!!!! Thank you for breaking stuff down and really giving us women the real deal when it comes to these dudes. I've been binge watching your videos for the past few days! #Respect
goddamn man.. you brought some good points straight out the playa's handbook. this had me laughing with nostalgia.
Thank you.
LMAO @ a grown ass man losing his phone!!!😁 shocked any woman would believe that mess😁😁😁 very informative video👍
It's like you were in my head when u spoke about the "still cool with it ex" #9. That's exactly how I feel, if they're so called still cool w/ their ex, still care about them or their well being, breaking their neck to still communicate/hang out w/ them etc, then I don't want to b bothered. Apparently u still have that desire to be involved w/ them even if Ur New partner doesn't approve. & That's some straight bullshit.
New subscriber and I appreciate your straight talk...very helpful! This video is my fav...you are FUNNY!
thank you for sharing your thoughts and opinions with us. I do however disagree with your last statement. I was dating this guy that was talking to two other females at the same time. He always left his phone around me as well as his wallet and didn't have a password on his phone either. This just showed how good he was. I am not the type of woman to go into a man's phone but when you and i are laying together watching a movie and your texting and I see the word love and questions like how do you feel about me...my red flags go up. It was at that point I realize that he was doing some ish so I dipped. To this day he doesn't know why and i found no reason to tell him.
Well, I know a guy who was 5'3 and played 10 years plus in the NBA but I still say that you have to be at least 6'0 to make it to the league. That's the rule and of course there will be a few exceptions.
I love this answer to the previous woman's comment, it just shows how smart you are, ppl take things too literal, "to every rule, there is an exception" dwl...cracks me up!
Well, people don't generally mean to hurt others but it's human nature to be selfish and that often does hurt others. I think that women just find themselves more vulnerable a lot sooner than men and that allows them to be hurt more often.
That's why I'm single, sad but REAL!!
This is good stuff, it'll help a lot of people out.
I wish I had known this stuff a few years back. smh.
Oh well, we all learn in due time. Thanks for posting it
He got a point. Because If the guy out doing something he know he don't suppose to be doing ( like gettin it with another girl at a club or something) and he know that it will make his girl mad and there is none of her friends around to bust him, he just gonna keep doing it and not give a single f*ck. That is a real player move right there.
I appreciate all the info you give out, it's very help full.
your videos have helped me so much thank you
Thank you for sharing - - - I'm older, & I knew this - - - but I still wanted to listen to what you had to say - - - you are correct , and had me laughing, lol, all--- through the video.
And - - - you SAY--- the way it should be and the way everyone will understand.
Wishing you SUCCESS- - FOR YOUR. TIMES---making these videos.
OMG! I needed this!This was an eye-opener
I'm glad you moved on good for you.
your videos woke me the hell up about my old realitionship
I like your Videos. Speechless .. regards from Ireland :)
Aw, thank you.
Lmaooo @ look bitch I didn't give you no time frame
Yes when he disappears 2 days and come back without words. Also other things when you ask him questions related to relationships topics he always says your questions is to hard n he said"im tired, headache i want to sleep." Like most of the time u asked him even the question is easy. He can't remember a thing from what you like, or what you told him he makes excuses that he has short memory. Yes that is from my experience.
You are the real deal. A lot of the things you said I already knew, but it's just good to hear it from a man's perspective. Most women know this stuff but will put up with a shitass just to have a man. Thank you
In addition to losing his phone is closely related to his cell phone was dead and he couldn't find a charger and/or needed to charge his phone.
good one
Oh I remembered I asked him "can you tell me when out best moment that we been had together?" He said "your question is to hard to answer" Since he said he wanted to marry me that why i ask him that question. I was so disappointed with his answer. I remember I asked him "Do you like me?" He said "yes i do". I said " but you didn't show me I can't see". He said "how? I don't know how to show love can you tell me? Can you teach me how?" I was like " I can't teach you how to love someone because im not a teacher love is coming from your heart if I teach you that just an act. So then he said " now I know what u want ok i will show u". ( that time I wanted to give him a chance to show me his love like if his does like me)
Then later on like months he didn't show me anything to prove his did love me so I broke up with him.
Spot on!!! Just what I already knew but just needed to hear. Thank you!!!!
LOVE THESE VIDEOS Chazz, really make me laugh. Straight to the point and straight forward.
Love it! Love it! Love it! Had me busting out laughing and mad (in a good way)! Thank you for this!
I love your videos. You always keep it real. Everything you mentioned is so true. Thanks for sharing !
wow! better advise then ive heard from anyone !!
It would be nice if you made a video on what makes a man make you one of his top priorities. I think all the ladies would like to know!
Do you snoop? That may cause him to lock his phone or he could be doing something wrong.
I love this brother so much:)
My boyfriend never has time for me anymore. We're going on six months and ever since month two he's gotten steadily busier and busier. He goes to school and does have a job that hosts events all the time after hours, but lately he doesn't call me anymore. He lives and hour and a half away and never has time to see me anymore, even if I offer to come out that way. If I ever ask to see him more he gets all defensive and nasty that I'm not "patient" enough or that that's all he has to offer. Is he seeing another girl on the side? I am deeply in love with who he was when we started out, and when we hang out he's not an ass. only when we're apart. and I've never had the urge to check or even look at his phone before now. Next time he stays the night should I check it while he sleeps?... I hate to invade his privacy but something is just not adding up... and I want to give him the benefit of the doubt that he is not cheating.... opinions?
I say break up with him because people make time for who & what they want...no matter how busy they seem to be. Allow him to get his life together so he can come back to be a better boyfriend. :)
+EbonyAmazon I agree. Might not want him back though. Really think about it.
It ain't the much busyness in the world! Yeap he's either with another women or he's just either with another women. Cold turkey! Your be ok, take the time to improve your self, I'll be ok.
I ended up breaking up with him without looking at his phone. cheating or not I deserved a man who made time for me and didn't resent me if I asked for it. thanks for all the help! I'm much better off now.
@Elizabeth good for you hunny! I wish the best
This has opened my eyes and I so need this right now.
FRIGGIN' PERFECT!!! Thank you, I, with your help, am finally releasing my guilt over bailing on someone that could use my help, but I can't deal with all the weird relationship stuff. And I counted six sins being done in what you've listed here.
I'm never comfortable when asked, by anyone, to please phone before coming over..... THAT tells me I'm not automatically welcomed. And that ain't nothing I can live by.
The clincher was him having anything more to do with her. That's just about part of rule one with me.... no fucking others and this includes spending any time with an ex. I come friggin' first in his life, after his own body. It isn't rocket science, but I won't settle for a dickhead who can't keep just this one part of our relationship SACRED.
HunnyHunnyChaz, I only counted nine (9) things there, what did I miss??
LOL! You are so real!! I have learned some of these things the hard way and some of those things were just evident...that he is full of it! Thanks for posting this vid! Really enjoyed your input from a man's point of view! :)
I get excuses like that all the time "I lost my phone". The biggest sign. When you pay 800 bucks for iphone, you glue it with a super glue to your hand. Men can't afford to lose it.
Hilariously true. You just delivered a Merrrry Christmas. Thank you.
same for me ))) I m in love with this guy...he is super cool..can't believe how LOGICAL AND ACCURATE he is...simple things yet difficult to figure out sometimes on our own ..thanks, Chazz
I love your videos and advice. Thank you for being real and telling it like it is.
Real good info, thank you
I'm glad I could help, thanks for the feedback.
No problem, Ill be sharing these
I like how u keep it real, real questions real answers i like ur answers.
Love this video :D So true...
Also watch out for when every time the guy gets a call, he has to leave the room to talk. With my friend, I can be with him an entire day and his phone hardly rings, but when it does, he stays right there by my side to talk.
And if he's at home, he always leaves his phone on the table in front of his couch where I am usually sitting. He might leave the room a dozen times, but the phone stays right there in front of me. I wonder if he realizes I am taking notice of these things.
You are a genius😍
Thank you
I'm a black female and I agree with everything you said in this video. I've watched a few of your videos, they're interesting and honest, new subscriber here. Hello
Chazz Ellis please could you do a video on what to do, or how to deal with him leaving you for your friend. That's double pain. And a reality for a lot of women, but yet I don't see a video helping women on the topic anywhere.
I love you're honesty!!! Truthfully it doesn't take long AT ALL to catch on to a man who is full of shit. Ladies pay attention, save your time for someone who is really interested in you!
thank you, this has opened my eyes a lot. but i have one question. when i told this guy i was done because i felt like a dirty secret because no one knew about me. he told me from the beginning that he didnt have any friends but aprox a year into the relatonship i told him i was done and hung up on him. the next morning he calls but i wasnt going to answer it but i did and he said for me to get up and get ready. i said ready for what? he said he was taking me to his parents house for there sunday get together. i wasnt going to go but i did end up going, but why would he have done this?? I remember going out side where most of his family was and heard him say that he called his brother and he knows what is going on but i didnt say anything. so what was he doing this for??? this man kept me so confused. we are no longer together. but our relationship or what ever you would want to call it was one that i dont think anyone has ever had before. but this video did explain a lot. just wish i knew all of these signs before i fell in love with him. i knew him keeping his phone on him all the time and on vibrate was very odd and i believed he was hiding something. but introducing me to his family after i told him i was done still boggles my brain.....
Excellent commentary so true