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Комментарии • 10 тыс.

  • @SourStrawberrys
    @SourStrawberrys 3 года назад +1104

    Aba just has no imagination whatsoever. I knew exactly what I wanted to do as a career at 18.

    • @Butter_Warrior99
      @Butter_Warrior99 3 года назад +128

      Damn, glad I have an idea what I'm wanting to do.

    • @MLedZeppelinZoSoA
      @MLedZeppelinZoSoA 3 года назад +575

      Congratulations, you’ve got the pin of being absolutely correct.

    • @AMNOWFREETV
      @AMNOWFREETV 3 года назад +883

      AND you represent everyone right?

    • @SourStrawberrys
      @SourStrawberrys 3 года назад +118

      @@AMNOWFREETV Where did you see me say I represent everyone? I said he has "no imagination", not "my experience matches everyone", genius. Lol

    • @SourStrawberrys
      @SourStrawberrys 3 года назад +87

      @@AMNOWFREETV My brother is the exact same way actually. He is 18 and doesn't know what he wants to do either. He also has no imagination. Nothing wrong with it, it is just why it is harder for some to figure out what they want to do then others.

  • @BlahBuggity
    @BlahBuggity 3 года назад +5619

    I think there’s a huge misconception about finding your calling. Life isn’t a Disney movie where you just follow your heart. Your calling will not fall on your lap. You have to go out and try different things to find out what you enjoy or what you’re good at. One of the most important things that a mentor told me after I graduated high school is: “You don’t have to know what you’re meant to do, just don’t stop moving until you find it.”

    • @AMK544
      @AMK544 3 года назад +306

      Exactly. Your job doesn’t have to be your whole life. Find something that will pay the bills and fund your passions! I enjoyed chemistry so I became a chemist, but I’m not PASSIONATE about it, I simply enjoy playing with chemicals and working in a lab away from the public. I put in my solid 40 hour week and the rest of the time I check out to do what I actually love.

    • @yolomasta6940
      @yolomasta6940 3 года назад +15

      Facts

    • @SurrenderedByGraceMinistry
      @SurrenderedByGraceMinistry 3 года назад +16

      EXACTLY !!!! Thank you

    • @LeBronJames-vn8tg
      @LeBronJames-vn8tg 3 года назад +31

      @@AMK544 im at this point rn im jus tryin to find some hobbys because I put so much into working since I was 11 i literally dont what to do on my days off.

    • @marlom7882
      @marlom7882 3 года назад +21

      I have the exact opposite problem. I was a tv kid so growing up being told I can be “whatever I want” so I was interested in writing, drawing, comics, animation ya know all that shit. But I have to go through a whole lot of bullshit to make that happen. It’s the best time to be an independent artist but I need something to fall back on because it’s not that stable # 1 and # 2 you give your work to a studio and it’s just a whole bunch of bullshit (look what happened to Final Space) and now I’m grown being “oh wanna be a writer? Meeeeeh … maybe.” And a whole other shit of personal problems I have

  • @atlas874
    @atlas874 3 года назад +308

    I dropped out of a psych major with a 3.6 at Florida State university. I was DONE arguing with professors who felt the need to present the sick theories of Freud and other mental historic figures as if they were fact.
    Not to mention every female professor I had was preaching feminist theory. I now work on a tow truck flipping junk cars and make more than I would have made as a psychologist.

    • @PershingOfficial
      @PershingOfficial 3 года назад +17

      Good for you! I’m happy. Doesn’t mean it isn’t good for other people.

    • @reinaldomartinez13
      @reinaldomartinez13 3 года назад +27

      Wah wah feminism, nah nigga it's on you for choosing psych major in the first place

    • @achmeez
      @achmeez 3 года назад +6

      @@reinaldomartinez13 exactly, girl major guy.

    • @kaypathy
      @kaypathy 3 года назад +1

      Lmao nice

    • @mahek3017
      @mahek3017 3 года назад +4

      I am going to start college soon, I still feel a little confused about my decision to pursue psychology, whether will it help me in the future or not, I am glad that you do something that works for you, I don't live in the US but I am thinking about moving to Canada in the future, and where I live it is compulsory for you to get a college degree, it is all very confusing.

  • @brucebakir6218
    @brucebakir6218 3 года назад +105

    I often feel that paying that much for college is just a trap to keep the lower class of people here working in America tbh. Like who really has 100k-150k to drop on a degree right out of high school? Definitely not many. You get pressured to get a degree, go into debt, and then hope to find a job in your field in order to pay back the school. That’s if you’re lucky. Worst case you end up in a dead end job way outside your field and now you owe soo much for a degree you aren’t even using. Not to mention the stress that comes along with having that kind of burden.

    • @jt1559
      @jt1559 3 года назад

      It's only $150k in the US - it's much cheaper in the rest of the developed world. The student loans are much fairer too.

    • @jazminewaters2404
      @jazminewaters2404 3 года назад +1

      That is why I don't believe in taking loans. Every field has a way up, you can work a few years, or do part time schooling . The younger people in my family we encourage them to work first, or go to college ( I think it's called community college in the states ) taking less expensive courses. When they want more they can do so while paying them. The older folks teach them coding, amination, how to make apps, as another skill set to work. So there are many paths and and options without taking your soul into debt so you can be stuck in a rat race for the rest of your life

    • @tristanlacombe7839
      @tristanlacombe7839 3 года назад +1

      Trade school are a way better option .i did welding assembling for 1 and a half year and it cost me around 20k for everything. I didnt have to pay rent do. Looking to maybe follow a other class maybe electromechanic

    • @jout738
      @jout738 3 года назад

      Yes many just live sad life that way, when they have no extra money to use for themselves for their own happiness, when they are then going to be just miserable workers working all day in job they dont like, while having never extra money to use for themselves, so then they really go miserable and stop caring about other people.

    • @Vorzilla
      @Vorzilla 3 года назад

      Low class people go to school for free. College only cost if you have money ...so these stories are always not a true reflection of reality

  • @Bamfhammer
    @Bamfhammer 3 года назад +25

    I found out my now wife had about 20 grand in student debt after we got engaged. She thought her parents were paying it, but they were just deferring them with interest. Took our wedding fund to pay it off ASAP. Damn near canceled the wedding.
    *Edited to add*: The money came from what she had saved up from her job. I didn't pay any extra. She just thought her loans were being taken care of when they were not. Not a huge deal, but a stupid surprise, that's for sure. It wasn't 100k+ either, only $20,000, not a huge deal.

    • @shuureqium7376
      @shuureqium7376 3 года назад +4

      You helped her pay off her students debt? That ain't it chief

    • @bbbbbbb51
      @bbbbbbb51 3 года назад +4

      @@shuureqium7376 it is if you're married. When you're married she doesn't have debt, you (collectively) have debt. It's a union bro.

    • @starscream6629
      @starscream6629 3 года назад +3

      @@bbbbbbb51 If she hid that from him before the engagement that’s messed up

    • @kaimobley5324
      @kaimobley5324 3 года назад

      I don't blame you. But I most def would've called that wedding off bcus that's damn near robbery. She should've known for a fact if her debt was being paid and her parent's should've told her the truth

    • @Bamfhammer
      @Bamfhammer 3 года назад +1

      @@shuureqium7376 We paid it off from what she already had saved. I didn't spend any money I had on it. Probably should edit to clarify.
      Her parents said they would pay for her college, loan was in her name though, and they kept deferring. We were going to buy a house but instead paid it off. Bought a house a bit later though.

  • @douglasgonzalez6580
    @douglasgonzalez6580 3 года назад +32

    Preach says hes dumb and i was like: Tf no dude, you're smart asf dont think like that.

    • @jumpingsloth3963
      @jumpingsloth3963 3 года назад +4

      More knowledgeable people will always say they are dumb. It acknowledges that they can always learn more and dont know everything. It also shows humility. Saying your smart comes off smug.

  • @wespicedmemes
    @wespicedmemes 3 года назад +84

    Aba needs to give us a full breakdown of what he did and how he got here since dropping high school. This is 100% the advice we need.

    • @AhmedMohamed-en8cv
      @AhmedMohamed-en8cv 3 года назад

      I think he kinda did on the No Jumper Podcast

    • @tm0626
      @tm0626 3 года назад

      Exactly he never talks about it

    • @klassycountryk
      @klassycountryk 3 года назад +1

      Military was a piece of it. I know that part

    • @wes7949
      @wes7949 3 года назад +3

      Entitled much?? He's a youtuber / comedian, not a life coach. He has no obligation to explain his life whatsoever. Go watch a Ted talk, read a book or something. Even if he told you step by step what he did, you wouldn't do shit different with your life. Which is the exact reason why he shouldn't, and wont break it down for you.

    • @lemiphil2388
      @lemiphil2388 3 года назад +1

      I believe he joined the military for two years, left cos of an overbearing commanding officer. Dabbled in the world of dance, paid his mom's mortgage, decided to start a RUclips page, partnered with preach along the way. That's what I know. I'm sure there's A LOT he hasn't told us but that's what I can remember.

  • @darkstonedf
    @darkstonedf 2 года назад

    My brother is a financial planner And in insurance sales He told me thatFor the amount of money that somebody pays to become a doctorGeneral practitioner not specialist at the age of retirement they make as much as somebodyThat is a plumber electrician or carpenter With way less financial output in the beginning. That's why I am a carpenter...

  • @elijahreed7839
    @elijahreed7839 2 года назад

    Yeeeeep as an 18 yr old who is learning how to be a carpenter...for free...college is trash. No 30 cent raises out here. And the work is great because of exactly what u said I feel fulfilled at the end of the day. Hit the nail on the head 😂

  • @rockmcdwayne1710
    @rockmcdwayne1710 2 года назад

    There are many jobs that doesnt require university degrees that pay well. If you know what you are doing aka. being a true craftsman, you will find very highly paid jobs as these days theres a shortage of craftsmen and over abundance of ''underwater basket weavers''!

  • @Gothrein
    @Gothrein 3 года назад +12

    I'm already in a relationship like you spoke of. My girlfriend makes more than twice as much as I do. We both went to college but her career was more lucrative than mine so when forced to split up or quit my career I chose our relationship. As long as you handle finances as partners like you do for every other problem in your relationship it works fine.

    • @kinderbueno3295
      @kinderbueno3295 3 года назад +6

      @Deborah Hearne you mean he is a Beta male? If yes then get the hell out of here

    • @yvonnekilla3971
      @yvonnekilla3971 3 года назад

      @Deborah Hearne lol

    • @craneisthename
      @craneisthename 3 года назад +3

      @Deborah Hearne bruh this guy is a chad who has his priorities straight

    • @venture.brothers
      @venture.brothers 3 года назад +1

      Beta would be the opposite. Using his wallet to get girls. He did the opposite lol

    • @JamalW239
      @JamalW239 3 года назад

      Read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi

  • @Ar-rl8xz
    @Ar-rl8xz 2 года назад

    I live in Iran where you have to do military service for 2 years after you finish your studies and you’re over 18 years old that’s why a lot of duds go to a Sheti university so technically they can delay their military service (sorry for bad English btw)

  • @iagbedejobi
    @iagbedejobi 3 года назад +11

    As a Brit, anytime peach says you're moving mad I just burst into laughter XD

  • @obsidianogre2576
    @obsidianogre2576 3 года назад +66

    This explains why Elisabeth rejected Aba, educational differences, lol. Seriously though great topic, great insight, and definitely something to ponder.

    • @MFDoomguy21
      @MFDoomguy21 3 года назад +5

      Lmao he gon getcha 😭😭😭

    • @madeinresitasometimeago3970
      @madeinresitasometimeago3970 3 года назад +3

      Who the f is Elisabeth?

    • @corneliathefifthya7452
      @corneliathefifthya7452 3 года назад

      @@madeinresitasometimeago3970 that’s what I wanna know

    • @chizchima3121
      @chizchima3121 3 года назад +1

      @@madeinresitasometimeago3970 watch his last video , she is a host for some RUclips show he claiming XD

  • @raulgarmen8193
    @raulgarmen8193 3 года назад +4175

    Best part of the video, “He may not make as much as you, but best believe he'll have less debt than you.” Aba preaching out here.

    • @enhancedutility266
      @enhancedutility266 3 года назад +181

      Free cash flow wins over debt all the time.

    • @capitanawesome44
      @capitanawesome44 3 года назад +76

      @@enhancedutility266 depends on circumstances. Yes its best hut i got six figure job so have debt snd working through it to have a job i enjoy and i can do into my 70s without fear physical injury is a bet i took and will happily take again.

    • @zhonorebrown
      @zhonorebrown 3 года назад +23

      Yep. At the end of the day it all evens out financially

    • @lonzarellibellamy1904
      @lonzarellibellamy1904 3 года назад +172

      @@capitanawesome44 the real danger in the way our culture works is that most people "learn" to live paycheck to paycheck. Add 300K worth of student debt to that then tack on a 300K mortgage and then marry someone else with 300K worth of student loans and you have a recipe for corporate slavery. The habit of having debt costs a whole lot more than the actual amount ( interest included)

    • @dovc2films
      @dovc2films 3 года назад +8

      Man that's facts right there lol

  • @maineman5757
    @maineman5757 3 года назад +1881

    I literally just completed my degree today at 27 years old. lol

  • @Condeycon
    @Condeycon 2 года назад +594

    So I've done university twice now. First time I was 19 and was academically expelled because, like you guys said, I was young and a mess. I had severe social anxiety and depression and zero life skills. My room was consistently disgusting, I could hardly feed myself, I almost never had fresh clothes and I almost never left my dorm room. I was absolutely fucked. Luckily, because I was only in for a year the debt was negligible. However, my parents weren't so understanding. They basically said "heres the last thing we'll do for you as a child" handed me an application for the Navy and gave me a year to move out.
    10 years and a 7 year stint in the Navy later I'm now on my second go at Uni. I'm on the deans list with straight A's. My room is small (I live with 3 roomies to keep costs low) but immaculate and well kept. I eat well, exercise routinely and I've been through enough counseling to deal with my social anxiety. Although my social life is pretty non-existent right now due to school and working part time, I know I now have the tools to make connections when the time comes. I have no debt and because of my time in the military I will attain my degree with money to spare.
    I suppose in all I'm just trying to say for any of the young guys who might be reading this: you can change. You will fail in life and you will fail hard. But these failures don't need to define you and you have the ability to pick yourself up and overcome who you were. Stay strong young bros, I love you guys.

    • @lillystar4029
      @lillystar4029 2 года назад +13

      Amazing!! Your awe inspiring.

    • @frankiejones7858
      @frankiejones7858 2 года назад +14

      Bruh I went as a freshman at 20 in 2018 only first year was fun after that bruh I was running out of money plus a had to take out loans shii dropped out soon as this covid shii hit bruh idk if I'm going back I was almost homeless up there

    • @yingyang7448
      @yingyang7448 2 года назад +16

      Condeycon. I don't know if you will ever see this but I relate INCREDIBLY well to your first paragraph. It reminds me so much of myself. However, I'm still in the very slow process of getting my things together as a 25 year old after failing college in my first year when I was 19. I lack so much life skills, it's insane. I don't even know how to iron my clothes and I still live with my mom being unemployed...
      Your story genuinely gives me hope... thank you so much...

    • @gustavgurke3389
      @gustavgurke3389 2 года назад +8

      Looks like your parents are the MVPs here

    • @zareeftashfique8168
      @zareeftashfique8168 2 года назад +6

      I can literally feel your authenticity from reading your words!! That was beautiful! Good on ya brotha!

  • @thegamingkitchen8429
    @thegamingkitchen8429 3 года назад +3594

    College isn't for everyone and not going isnt for everyone. It depends on what you do for yourself.

    • @PershingOfficial
      @PershingOfficial 3 года назад +47

      Exactly

    • @kJ922-h3j
      @kJ922-h3j 3 года назад +64

      Yep, that also applies to the gender differences in jobs too. Women choose different types of jobs and careers to men, because it’s what “you do for yourself” based on what you want to, But people love to pretend something else is going on when it comes to that, the people who believe equality of outcome and equal opportunity are the same thing. It’s all very convenient…

    • @Sinn3246
      @Sinn3246 3 года назад +61

      It is not just that anymore. I had a writing class more focused on teaching women's history.
      Two of my writing classes were like this. I learned less about the ideas behind writing than I did about what woman did what.
      I got one assignment wrong only because I provided the wrong opinion, nothing about punctuation, sentence structure, choice of words, etc.
      It is not right my GPA dropped from that.
      And nothing I could do change that.
      Even my speech class, the professor in some cases were more interested in "correcting" the topic than giving advice for talking aloud amongst a group.
      The irony of that class, it got worse when it went fully online and my "professor" struggled to communicate with me.

    • @thegamingkitchen8429
      @thegamingkitchen8429 3 года назад +41

      @@Sinn3246 but that's life. College is the first intro to business and real life people out here don't give a fuck about you.

    • @MSaleh-vy8rr
      @MSaleh-vy8rr 3 года назад +10

      @@s.k.5747
      I'm sorry to hear that man.
      What was your original major for college before you completed?

  • @helmetjack
    @helmetjack 3 года назад +904

    This will mean a lot to a lot of young men who were told they were disappointments from family members for leaving school and are still trying to find the place in life. Thank you so much guys.

    • @Delimon007
      @Delimon007 3 года назад +89

      Been there done that if your family members are toxic then stop talking to them and no I'm not joking. Good family members will support you, bad ones will not.

    • @sawedoffshottyshane9637
      @sawedoffshottyshane9637 3 года назад +8

      What I’m currently going through 😅

    • @neltins5308
      @neltins5308 3 года назад +38

      Its most bad for kids from immigrant families that came from poor countries. It's always been known its like this with asian parents but trust me when I say it's all immigrant parents.

    • @Cantetinza17
      @Cantetinza17 3 года назад +1

      I had a friend that went to college on a full ride for music and he quit because it didn't serve him. He's never looked back.

    • @JEvans-wy9ln
      @JEvans-wy9ln 3 года назад +5

      As soon as I made the decision to give up on college that's what I was called a disappointment by my family members. But when it comes to my cousin who quit college they're singing his praises

  • @rkgaustin9043
    @rkgaustin9043 3 года назад +1651

    My grandfather never graduated from high school. He became a radio operator in the Army during WWII when the previous operator was killed. He took that experience and taught himself radio repair after the war. He later learned television repair also. He built that into a very successful business which he sold in the 1970's to retire in his 50's. He then worked as a consultant to a large electronics company part time for a very large salary. With no formal education he was able to create wealth that is still funding our family to this day. His path cannot be replicated today and that is a problem.

    • @sueblack5794
      @sueblack5794 3 года назад +197

      Yeah...stories like your grandfathers was given to him partly because of the war. Opportunities were around every corner and there is a reason it was called the golden years of America. We don't have a great war. His story isn't 90% percent of peoples story now. You a e extremely lucky, very fortunate if you can be anywhere close to what your grandfather accomplished.

    • @leo-ub6nb
      @leo-ub6nb 3 года назад +78

      He got experience. Many employers WANT that experience over non-experience with a degree. The person with yrs under their belt is way more reliable.
      My wife ain't graduate HS! But she worked her ass off. She learned quick, was managing a bank around 18 yrs old, decided to go to the medical field and is getting positions where they state "must have X degree". She ain't got college. She has that experience and runs circles around these people with a degree and no experience, which employers prefer.
      I wish I could say the same for me, but just like your grandfather, I was in the Army too but I was medically retired. Now, I just do shit for my enjoyment, nothing too serious or career worthy.

    • @dbzownz12345
      @dbzownz12345 3 года назад +32

      Many of our predicessors path's cannot be replicated. Sorta like great things only happen once in a life time type of deal! Our generation sadly has to find other means to get by because most of the great inventions are already made & thus left many w/o any ideas to create a path of themselves in the New Age. Seems like we're really in the Shadow's of the people before us. With tech taking our jobs even, I'd say you lucked out my friend. Take advance of out, but don't abuse your grandfather's hard earned wealth!

    • @milton7763
      @milton7763 3 года назад +35

      @@sueblack5794 that 90% of people made it back then (at least that’s what your comment seems to imply) is also gravely mistaken. Lots and lots of people back then ended washed up. That just doesn’t get told.

    • @dbzownz12345
      @dbzownz12345 3 года назад +9

      @@leo-ub6nb You should def look into security at the very least or maybe become a physical training instructor for a police academy. I'm sure you can still bust a few moves! You can even become a shooting instructor @ a shooting range or a bouncer even. I was in JROTC in my HS, but never joined. Wished I did, but I decided college due to pressure from family

  • @jordanhurst4460
    @jordanhurst4460 2 года назад +191

    My teacher in high school said "If you don't know what you want to do with your life, don't go to college." Probably the best advice I've received.

  • @JohnHill
    @JohnHill 3 года назад +2257

    I was raised by parents who never gave a shit about college, and from that perspective, it was always hard to understand the appeal 🤷‍♀️

    • @dahleno2014
      @dahleno2014 3 года назад +89

      You can learn novel concepts and work on researching new ideas. Well, this is my experience, as a senior studying electrical engineering and physics, I love it. I’m hoping to obtain a doctorate in optical science (specially nano/quantum optics). However, I’m certainly in the vast minority lol

    • @traderjoes4694
      @traderjoes4694 3 года назад +56

      Im glad dude. Your contents a gift to the world. Just shows what can happen when u chase what yk u gotta do instead of what everyone else says u gotta do

    • @user7270
      @user7270 3 года назад +37

      The fact that John Hill watches Aba & Preach just throws me lol .. I also left college because i felt uncomfortable , was definitely a trash experience but i am debt free THANK GOD

    • @tumelo4526
      @tumelo4526 3 года назад +17

      Seeing John Hill in these parts of the woods makes my bearings very very very moist. Roll forever

    • @dogoodjonathan
      @dogoodjonathan 3 года назад

  • @maximusrex8689
    @maximusrex8689 3 года назад +453

    I’m in highschool but this summer I worked at a lumberyard with a guy that dropped out of community college after 1 year. He always hated school, and hated college too, but his parents pressured him into going in the first place. His parents had a sizeable college fund for him, and now he is using it for pilots lessons to get his pilots license, and it seems like he is really interested in it and enjoying it. Good to see someone make a good choice for themselves.

    • @509734
      @509734 3 года назад +25

      A pilots license is still a good investment on a marketable skill though

    • @MrCurbinator
      @MrCurbinator 3 года назад +7

      Man every body needs at least 2 flight school classes in my opinion. I learned alot more in an hour at 2000 feet than I did in four years of undergrad. You can’t bullshit and buzzword your way through a landing or recovery

    • @CircmcisionIsChi1dAbus3
      @CircmcisionIsChi1dAbus3 3 года назад +6

      should we be concerned that the less males in higher education would possibly result in more and more woman in those positions, not necessarily qualified because of the vacuum left behind and we'd have ideologies being enforced at top levels of authority as a result? Like...SJWs aren't uneducated and if there is a power vacuum left by less males in higher education companies are going to hire them, so are we okay with that...? is that actually a good thing? It seems like men are falling behind...and it should be concerning not embraced because how are men going to get into a better position if we have ideologies at the top discriminating against males? Replacing one form of alleged female discrimination with male discrimination.

    • @humblepharaoh5203
      @humblepharaoh5203 3 года назад +1

      I make more as a truck driver than my sister who went to TCU which is expensive af, more than my cousin who went to USC, and my Aunt who graduated from UofAustin. I can name more but you get it.

    • @thrrax
      @thrrax 3 года назад +1

      @@CircmcisionIsChi1dAbus3 Here's how: 90% of women won't go into blue collar jobs. Without those, everything collapses. If men are smart, they will make the jobs that matter really matter.

  • @roguewasbanned4746
    @roguewasbanned4746 3 года назад +992

    “Men giving up college, women most affected”
    But seriously, it’s hard to stay in college when the institution itself hates you and discriminates against you.

    • @haideralikhan5947
      @haideralikhan5947 3 года назад +29

      Wait, I'm not from America and I cannot understand it's just men, do women pay less fees or taxes for education?

    • @darkcloud9053
      @darkcloud9053 3 года назад +216

      @@haideralikhan5947 no its that colleges are heavily left leaning and are filled with feminist.

    • @johnquick9409
      @johnquick9409 3 года назад +235

      @@haideralikhan5947 they get more scholarships, preferential selection, preferential treatment, and ultimately can choose to just get married and be taken care of. They also go into an environment that demonizes men and worships women. It's pretty toxic overall.

    • @jessicareese5706
      @jessicareese5706 3 года назад +88

      Yep! That's what I was thinking, they are teaching hate.

    • @awddsa2923
      @awddsa2923 3 года назад +99

      @@johnquick9409 It's not just that they get more scolarships, but rather that they have women only scolarships while men have no men only scholarships because having scholarships for only one sex is actually highly illegal according to the constitution but nobody cares as long as its women discriminating against men.

  • @rodneyharrison6542
    @rodneyharrison6542 3 года назад +757

    Those guys that don't go to college aren't just sitting around doing nothing. A lot are going the trade route. They're finally realizing that having an actual skill is more viable. You have plenty of young millionaires that have come into their riches from a skill they possess.

    • @mosorireayewale2820
      @mosorireayewale2820 3 года назад +60

      In college's defense there are plenty of 'actual skills' that you can learn there too. Is civil engineering not an 'actual skill'? And on top of that, the vast majority of rich people own degrees / went to college. Granted, you could chalk to this up to the fact that most rich people had rich parents and could afford it.

    • @kevinmatta9262
      @kevinmatta9262 2 года назад +40

      That's kinda cap. A trade will only get you so much money a year depending on the area you live in. I've been a house painter for construction sites for almost 10 years now
      It's not as lucrative as people make it out to be unless your the supervisor. And after 10 years most people get exhausted physically by the job. Take that as you will.

    • @fourtwo5619
      @fourtwo5619 2 года назад +36

      @@kevinmatta9262 the average person with a college degree is only making 55k which is not much money at all. PLUS they have student loans which is even less money in there pockets. So that means on average people in the trades actually have more money in their pockets every month than a person that went to college. My trades job pays me 60k in florida and I don't really have much debt and I'm doing waaay better than my old classmates that got their degree that they are not even using. College only have a handful of majors that can make you very good money. If you are not in those majors, than you are wasting your time there.

    • @kevinmatta9262
      @kevinmatta9262 2 года назад +21

      @@fourtwo5619 dude ima be honestly. Everything you typed sounds like bullshit. What trade is paying you 60k a year unless your the supervisor...
      Plus just go to community college you don't get much debt from community College and it's basically the same degree. Ima get a paralegal degree and in California it pays wayyy more than my old trade. Depends where you live i guess.

    • @rodneyharrison6542
      @rodneyharrison6542 2 года назад +7

      @@mosorireayewale2820 it is a skill, but not many people are choosing those majors, thus the shortage. Hell, I went to college for computer science. I know how to program and I have networking skills, but I think I could've skipped all of the other things and just focus on those skills. It would've saved me more money and time.

  • @magmaapex3218
    @magmaapex3218 3 года назад +440

    When I was in high school I got lucky enough to be given a full scholarship to unc Charlotte if I played for there soccer team since I’m pretty good, my parents went crazy at the idea I could go to college for free. The thing is I always played soccer as a hobby and I hated the idea of making soccer my job so I turned down the scholarship and instead went to welding school. I now make 82k a year after 3 years of welding experience.

    • @destroyerinazuma96
      @destroyerinazuma96 3 года назад +24

      Dude, where I live there's a MONSTER demand for welders like you cannot believe. Nope, "me wanna be a reporter/lawyer/manager/whatever". All but lawyers have a harder time finding a job. Welders have a line forming in front of them to see who gets the welder (figure of speech).

    • @conductingintomfoolery9163
      @conductingintomfoolery9163 3 года назад

      Crazy I’m going to uncc

    • @NotAnotherKuromi
      @NotAnotherKuromi 3 года назад +4

      People pushed me to do art at college & as it was my favourite subject at school, I gave it ago but reached the same conclusion as you, I like it as a hobby but not my career. A lot of people say they end up not liking a subject when they make it their main focus.
      I am glad you struck on a job which is something you enjoy & are naturally good at, the pay is nice too.

    • @MaximusRacellius
      @MaximusRacellius 3 года назад +11

      Couldn't have you done both? I feel like you turned down an awesome fantastic opportunity that others would have jumped to have had. Could've gone to welding school after your free degree and smashed all that college tail.

    • @YaYa-ke1zr
      @YaYa-ke1zr 3 года назад

      @@MaximusRacellius Exactly! That’s what I did…. take the opportunity given, get the free education and run. Come out of college with a free degree then compare salary of work in that field vs welding. Yes it would take more time but it could result in more opportunities in addition to more money.

  • @thedirtyghost2457
    @thedirtyghost2457 3 года назад +1575

    I didn't know what I wanted to do straight out of high school and I knew I wasn't smart enough for STEM subjects, so I started an apprenticeship as a carpenter. After a few years I attained my Red Seal with no debt and I'm currently enrolled in community college for management courses. Life is good. Not everyone is cut out for college and not everyone knows what they want to do right away, and that's perfectly fine.

    • @TheSilentsymbol
      @TheSilentsymbol 3 года назад +128

      Congratulations on your accomplishments. People forget we still need people in your field and other “blue collar “ fields. I know electricians and welders that make more than nurses. So the money is there also.

    • @chelseae.6779
      @chelseae.6779 3 года назад +75

      Community college gets bad rep sometimes but it actually saves so much time and money because people can research which majors they want more and take the preq classes and then just transfer to an accredited university.

    • @sonofatlas1372
      @sonofatlas1372 3 года назад +7

      Awesome bro

    • @PershingOfficial
      @PershingOfficial 3 года назад +2

      Totally agree with your statement! I personally do not like how people just want to throw the whole system away like mentioned in this video

    • @thedirtyghost2457
      @thedirtyghost2457 3 года назад +22

      @@TheSilentsymbol Thanks. The pay is definitely there for the trades with the added benefit of money saved on repairs and renovations. The only downsides are the stigma and the potential toll it takes on your body.

  • @AbaNPreach
    @AbaNPreach  3 года назад +6281

    To young folks... Its ok to live in uncertainty! You dont have to make a decision when you havent gotten it figured out. You're not a failure. Go at your own pace.
    The High School to College pipeline scam should collapse. No way the world should be pressuring 17 & 18 year olds to make a choice that vast majority of them arent ready to make. The way a lot of highschool educators and counsellors are complicit & often get rewarded for encouraging that pressure. Also most parents dont get how much of a scam it is, especially those from immigrant backgrounds.
    Haram!

    • @ComposedSage75
      @ComposedSage75 3 года назад +129

      It’s definitely haram!!!

    • @Yellow.1844
      @Yellow.1844 3 года назад +60

      Hamdulilah brother

    • @moderatecanuck
      @moderatecanuck 3 года назад +138

      I am Haitian, btw, so the whole pressure from immigrant parents, I know too well. I was having an argument with my dad who is shackled to this idea, about wanting to film a short movies and he kept telling me that I needed to go to school to learn filmmaking. GEEZUS XRIST. Thankfully, my mom is more streetwise and agreed with me

    • @josephjohn907
      @josephjohn907 3 года назад +54

      Many men can't compete anymore. White CONSERVATIVE Racists initially thought that Black people had low IQ but as Black women now achieve more than white women that believe is changing.

    • @Yasharal110
      @Yasharal110 3 года назад +62

      Not necessarily. I'm am American and I got accepted into a college in Taiwan that costs $2,000 USD a year. It is just they charge you in USA your first born and half a million in debt for any grad degree. Go abroad. Also if you are in a specilazed field the Ministry of Education will pay you like $12,000 a year as a scholarship.

  • @nathanielbellmore
    @nathanielbellmore 2 года назад +1530

    4 types of people:
    No college and unsuccessful
    No college and successful
    College and unsuccessful
    College and successful
    As long as you're successful, you're on the right path. Set those goals and work every day towards them.

    • @fairuzsyahraisan7235
      @fairuzsyahraisan7235 2 года назад +60

      and with college you get highest odds to be successful tho as 90% millionaire are college graduated. aba and preach saying this as world is only at 1st world country, in 3rd world country college meant is the most important life choice if you don't go to college you're practically slave for the rest of your life with dead end job that's why indian studied hard, even sometimes only bachelor is not enough you need master degree to make it.

    • @l.denisemackey2619
      @l.denisemackey2619 2 года назад +6

      $100,00 in student loans for a Nursing job that starts at $17 per hour. College pushes people into poverty...WITH an education. It's Satanic

    • @starsky1012
      @starsky1012 2 года назад +27

      You're statistically more likely to be financially successful if you went to college.

    • @SandwichDoctorZ
      @SandwichDoctorZ 2 года назад +2

      @@fairuzsyahraisan7235 correct me if I'm wrong but didn't Bill Gates drop out of college?

    • @ghostbravo7127
      @ghostbravo7127 2 года назад +27

      @@SandwichDoctorZ Bill was the son of millionaires.

  • @StephenAbootman
    @StephenAbootman 3 года назад +557

    Spot on dudes. Easily 80% of my degree was fluff that I could have learned by myself online. Thankfully, it worked out for me by doing multiple internships and keeping my debt low by working all the way through, but it's a waste of time and money for a ton of people. Only go to college if you have a plan for how to make it happen, don't think it'll automatically make life better for you, because it can actually make things a lot worse..

    • @mememachine5244
      @mememachine5244 3 года назад +15

      You picked a dog degree then.
      Sorry but branding all uni degrees as pointless is so short sighted. Not all degrees are pointless, the ones YOU lot are taking are.
      But yeah, going to do a soft degree or not putting effort in is worse than not going to uni at all.

    • @StephenAbootman
      @StephenAbootman 3 года назад +41

      @@mememachine5244 My degree is in Criminal Justice, and I do actually work in that field, so I can't completely knock the utility of college. The thing is that almost all the value I got from college was through internships; the classes I took - even within my major - were rarely related to anything I wanted to do professionally. For the money I spent, that seems pretty unacceptable.

    • @mememachine5244
      @mememachine5244 3 года назад +4

      @@StephenAbootman "Criminal Justice" thats exactly the problem right there

    • @StephenAbootman
      @StephenAbootman 3 года назад +27

      @@mememachine5244 How so? Not mad, just curious to hear your opinion.

    • @FabianDialer-vw1zk
      @FabianDialer-vw1zk 3 года назад +6

      College seems to be a way to screw you over easily as the degrees are worth nothing and by the time you are done you could have gotten a job which gives you enough to have a comfortable life instead of debt. Only women fall for the college trap so easily and think any degree will give them money.

  • @kaymitchell6143
    @kaymitchell6143 3 года назад +338

    As a college student who actually needs college to do what I want to do in life, college is ridiculous. A lot of the professors make it hard for you to even enjoy the path you’re taken. I feel robbed on a daily basis. Like I’m paying to be stressed out and the professors are basically like “Welp get used to it, the real world is stressful.” Also, the fact that I still had to spend 4 years in college dispute coming into college with a little over a semester’s worth of credits. The Gen. Ed they tack on is CRAZY. I feel like the way colleges are ran will change because they won’t be able to get away with this crazy shit if less people are interested in going to college.

    • @brandonr.7262
      @brandonr.7262 3 года назад +9

      Wow. Sounds like indoctrination an thought control

    • @treroney4720
      @treroney4720 3 года назад +1

      What is your major?

    • @kaymitchell6143
      @kaymitchell6143 3 года назад +8

      @@treroney4720 biology pre-med

    • @royaltypebros.5915
      @royaltypebros.5915 3 года назад +26

      "Welp get used to it, the real world is stressful." Sister let me tell you, as a 3yr college drop out the real world is stressful with or without college. The extra stress college added made me go near bold at age 24... Yeah that Professor was trippin

    • @earthstar7534
      @earthstar7534 3 года назад +8

      Yup, I learned 100x more when I started working than in university. Was a total waste of my time. Most degrees should be targeted apprenticeships and 2 years max.
      I had to take dozens of classes that had nothing to do with my major. My husband has a trade and makes 5x as much as I do doing environmental contamination study and water safety monitoring. His trade degree cost 10k total.

  • @cactuspower6298
    @cactuspower6298 2 года назад +538

    I hate the way people generalize "Getting a college degree". As if majoring in psychology is even remotely comparable to becoming a computer engineer.

    • @charlesngeno
      @charlesngeno 2 года назад +60

      Don't need a college degree to be a computer engineer. RUclips university is enough. In this industry skills and willingness to work hard opens doors more than papers.

    • @charlesngeno
      @charlesngeno 2 года назад +59

      @@cactuspower6298 Am talking from experience. I have people with Masters, working under me. I don't have any degree. But I have more actual experience building systems, and leading teams. To an employer, ability to deliver is what matters.

    • @ghostbravo7127
      @ghostbravo7127 2 года назад +12

      @@charlesngeno Yes, that is true, but the stats say that generally the bachelors helps, and with scholarships and some hard work, you can pay under 10-15k in student debt out of college, which is less than the hiring bonuses that most of the students I have mentored end up getting. Now obviously I am a big supporter of working part-time in the industry while in school and spending summers scoring those good industry internships so that you can build a network.

    • @TheTsugnawmi2010
      @TheTsugnawmi2010 2 года назад +35

      It really depends on what you plan to do with the degree. If you’re doing Engineering out of curiosity or because you’re bored, your degree is worthless. If you’re doing Psychology because you actually want to be a clinical therapist, it’s much more valuable.

    • @johnhammond5467
      @johnhammond5467 2 года назад

      Or an accountant... I can only listen

  • @celesteqarias
    @celesteqarias 3 года назад +387

    Going straight to a University after high school is honestly an unrealistic expectation to push upon people that are so young. University is romanticized and I feel other options are never spoken of in a positive light when transitioning from high school (i.e trade school or community college.)

    • @carmencapa6945
      @carmencapa6945 3 года назад +26

      My parents think that getting your degree is the only way to make it

    • @BarAlexC
      @BarAlexC 3 года назад +5

      @@carmencapa6945 that's what i thought, too. then i started working during my 5th year in uni and realised how useless school is. not to mention that now that i got to know the market (as an architect), i'm planning to swap carrers. don't waste your life in uni theaters. figure where you'd be comfortable financially and what you needto do to get there.

    • @Cp12345737
      @Cp12345737 3 года назад +3

      As someone who did just that, I can confirm it's a tad unrealistic, I changed majors three times and spent more time and mo ey in Univeristy because of it, instead of maybe taking that wasted year and use it as a gap year traveling around the world, now I'm stuck "working for the man" with no real way of traveling anywhere near the way I would've after high school while still leaning on my parents. You literally have to be unemployed or some tycoon who wakes up and makes money to properly travel

    • @zacharyharwell351
      @zacharyharwell351 3 года назад +9

      I personally was going to go to law school or med school when I got out of high school but ended up working before that and, after getting some work experience, I decided to take a pay cut for the job security and set hours of a career as a tradesman. I'm going to school for Welding and the cost of school is SIGNIFICANTLY lower, and I get to leave my work AT work when I start working so I'm good in my decision

    • @killzone866
      @killzone866 3 года назад +1

      i should have worked first and then got a job at a company and got them to help pay for it.
      If i didnt have my parents supporting me i would have been fucked.

  • @ProfessionalMenPodcast
    @ProfessionalMenPodcast 3 года назад +2179

    As a university professor in the UK unless you are going to university for exceptional courses such as Lawyers, Doctors, STEM. University is a big business and a scam. Thanks for sharing this guys

    • @_Funniel
      @_Funniel 3 года назад +190

      On the flip side though the one major difference we have in the UK is barely anyone ever pays their tuition in full, and its hardly a fraction of typical costs in the US.
      That being said, seems a lot of people go to uni for the sake of going, but I think the job market is to blame for that since degrees are now expected in jobs where they aren't even necessary 🤷‍♂️

    • @MultiWeen
      @MultiWeen 3 года назад +15

      Lawyers though. The whole law system is a giant self licking ice cream cone extortion racket. The fact you have to pay a bunch of money so someone can speak in this law language with all these rules and caveats. Morals and justice are completely removed unless it serves a greater purpose for media propaganda purposes to keep the wealth and power consolidated at the very tippy top. Extort men, blame men, push men out of jobs they are good at for people who aren't because racism and sexism and all the isms. That way all the weak dummies are all the middle management and all the super rich club stay unchallenged. And all the men can be stuck doin all the work and paying for all the mistakes of the ever growing weak sheeple.

    • @eoinMB3949
      @eoinMB3949 3 года назад +9

      Thank you for your honesty bro

    • @User-pw3pu
      @User-pw3pu 3 года назад +58

      As a Veteran, I know it is a scam. But I get paid by Uncle Sam to stay in school. So I'm gonna scam him right back and get a free degree as slowly as possible.

    • @eoinMB3949
      @eoinMB3949 3 года назад +9

      @@User-pw3pu Absolutely brilliant.

  • @Duves
    @Duves 3 года назад +1637

    I uttered a loud “AMEN!” when you mentioned how the children of immigrants are hyper pressured into matriculating into higher learning, and refusing to do so, welcomes guilt and shame. Speaking from experience: tried appeasing my mom’s suggestions when deep down, I could never deny what I eventually dropped out for and pursued the happiness I always longed for: Music Production

    • @swatik2509
      @swatik2509 3 года назад +25

      Happy for you bro!

    • @Mikeab503
      @Mikeab503 3 года назад +46

      Great for you man! I graduated college but dealt empty and am considering music too! Hope your life becomes a huge success, man!

    • @pdamasco
      @pdamasco 3 года назад +18

      That was the only aspect of my undergraduate music degree that I truly enjoyed, apart from large ensembles, friends, and some of my world music studies. I'm glad you get work in a field you enjoy!

    • @thatonenigeriansformula
      @thatonenigeriansformula 3 года назад +7

      Congrats man

    • @MomoSimone22
      @MomoSimone22 3 года назад +28

      I didn't drop out. I got the stupid law degree, worked in law for six years and hated it, and then went through a career change. Feel like I lost a lot of years and wish they had let me figure out what I wanted to do instead.

  • @smellydot1233
    @smellydot1233 2 года назад +333

    Growing up, it’s never, “Do you want to go to college,” it’s always “What college do you want to go to?”

    • @trxxblx-wxs-hxrx
      @trxxblx-wxs-hxrx 2 года назад +15

      Facts

    • @mi3helle707
      @mi3helle707 2 года назад +4

      True

    • @lanticocean
      @lanticocean 2 года назад

      💯

    • @SJAutomotiveDesign
      @SJAutomotiveDesign 2 года назад

      Not in America. They're preparing to be the most idiotic people on the planet.

    • @marlom7882
      @marlom7882 2 года назад +12

      Not only that it’s “well if not everyone is meant for college what do you do?” “Well either git gud scrub or enjoy your employment at McDonald’s” the high school I went to hammered that in and gave me *no* other alternatives and at home … wasn’t much better either

  • @gloriajoseph9882
    @gloriajoseph9882 3 года назад +391

    I respect people who stand by their convictions at an early age. I drank the cool aid and regretted it. Got a whole double major degree and still renting under my parents house in my 40's. My uncle who never reached high school just finished paying for his third house for his son, work as a licenced AC repairman.

    • @tumelo4526
      @tumelo4526 3 года назад +19

      Amen, this is encouraging. More than I can express, love and light to you.

    • @LukaDonesnitch
      @LukaDonesnitch 3 года назад +12

      Yikes!!!

    • @federalmayhem
      @federalmayhem 3 года назад +7

      SHIEEET

    • @UndefeatableKing
      @UndefeatableKing 3 года назад +11

      What's your major?

    • @LoveOneSV
      @LoveOneSV 3 года назад +13

      Lmao. For every story like this, there are 5 that are successful. Either your major was gender studies and history of gender studies or you are not responsible with your money.

  • @SirYeetus
    @SirYeetus 3 года назад +444

    Unless it's a *STEM* degree, college is pointless.
    Trade skills have good pay anyway. 🤷‍♂️

    • @JAETOWN
      @JAETOWN 3 года назад +2

      Well I’m going to college for cooking but the class are fucking point

    • @ativaadzem566
      @ativaadzem566 3 года назад +3

      Men are also not getting those . It's been decreasing since like 10 years ago

    • @imanigordon6803
      @imanigordon6803 3 года назад +37

      As a half computer science major I will have to say stem doesn’t even guarantee success. There’s a lot more options but also a lot more requirements being raised since everyone is trying to go into it 😂

    • @vidzpk5144
      @vidzpk5144 3 года назад +13

      @@ativaadzem566 Because now people who aren't even in STEM like CS are using the internet to learn coding and getting STEM jobs.

    • @micperez819
      @micperez819 3 года назад +8

      Yep, but the problem is kids are being told to do something they love and most of the time that means doing something that doesn't pay well

  • @nickjames7365
    @nickjames7365 3 года назад +378

    Dropped out of college for trade school, trade school cost me 3500 and I’m on pace to make 85k this year.(aircraft mechanic) Also I have good benefits.

    • @joshstanton267
      @joshstanton267 3 года назад +34

      Nailed it bro! Trades can take you anywhere 😁

    • @nickjames7365
      @nickjames7365 3 года назад +13

      @@joshstanton267 thank you! Yea I'd recommend trades to anyone! Hopefully your work takes care of you too!

    • @JaxMerrick
      @JaxMerrick 3 года назад +18

      I dropped out of university 5 years ago. Got a military work grant to go get my CDL (a 6k, four week course). Now I'm making six figures a year traveling the nation.

    • @nickjames7365
      @nickjames7365 3 года назад +4

      @@JaxMerrick Nice! Hope you enjoy your work/time off. Yea I travel a lot as well and with time the pay gets a lot better.

    • @JaxMerrick
      @JaxMerrick 3 года назад +8

      @@nickjames7365 well, I'm going to be transitioning to a local semi job in the next few months. Money is good, but I'm missing the simplicity of a 9-5. And OTR tends to kill one's social life. My house is paid for, and now I can relax more.

  • @Mickeybandz
    @Mickeybandz 3 года назад +256

    Im so glad this video came out when it did. My parents are immigrants, and you absolutely hit the head on the nail of the coffin with what I’ve had to deal with. I accumulated 30k of debt, being forced to pursue something that I didn’t want for myself and I finally decided to just leave school. I even got kicked out of the house for making the decision i made, but I’m so glad I’m not alone in having to experience this or feel this way. I currently have all of my stuff in my car and I’m moving down south with a friend. It’s definitely going to be the hardest life has ever been, but I’m glad it’ll be on my terms.

    • @RealJayNice
      @RealJayNice 3 года назад +42

      Damn 30k in debt and they kicked you out the crib? Moral of the story do what you want to do and not what others tell you to because when it all comes down to it you only got yourself.

    • @Duke93720
      @Duke93720 3 года назад +21

      Don't get lost. You're not alone. Seek a mentor to help you.

    • @abrown6214
      @abrown6214 3 года назад +15

      Keep your head up bro. Things will get better.

    • @pablochavez9087
      @pablochavez9087 3 года назад +6

      Good luck to you. Do what you want to do at your own pace. Wishing you the best and keep grinding.

    • @crysmichelle9573
      @crysmichelle9573 3 года назад +5

      Wish you best success 🙌🙏
      Btw Ima out myself, Im 20k in debt, only got a bachelors in social work and I feel played too. You're not alone! We gonna get through this. YOU ARE NOT YOUR DEBT 🥲

  • @CharlemagneMarc
    @CharlemagneMarc 3 года назад +111

    I lost my hair keeping up with my parents expectations, fast forward a couple years I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.

    • @Yellow.1844
      @Yellow.1844 3 года назад +8

      i got grey hair at 22 cuz of college

  • @FoxCeeEXE
    @FoxCeeEXE 3 года назад +230

    I think there is a bigger fish to fry with this, the fact that this modern world pushes college so hard as the only way to make good money is maddening. They don’t push trades too much in a lot public schools anymore, especially when alot of these types of jobs needs experience and such too. We need to give those choices of consideration to our next generation for sure. Nothing wrong with wanting to learn a tradable skill.

    • @JanJan4Infinity
      @JanJan4Infinity 2 года назад +1

      I second this statement. We need more people in trades and now there are advertisements for trade school since the older generations are retiring from the trade fields.

    • @sterlingsilver5937
      @sterlingsilver5937 2 года назад +2

      I don't have a college degree but make decent money as a heavy equipment operator in the construction industry. Though I may go back and get an associates degree I think people fail to understand the difference between entry level pay and potential earnings after you've been in an industry for 3 or 4 years. There can be a significant difference between the two. I also think people need to take time to consider how much the lifestyle they desire to live this going to cost. The lifestyle I want to live doesn't necessarily require me to ever make $100,000 a year so I don't really have to make a killing. Lifestyle choice and the location someone decides to live in are usually major factor that should be considered when it comes to what kind of earnings they pursue.

    • @christineshah7330
      @christineshah7330 2 года назад +1

      Most of the successful people I know are in a trade and/or own a business. Many of them either have no degree or aren't using their degree at all.

    • @unnecessaryapostrophe4047
      @unnecessaryapostrophe4047 2 года назад

      Your last sentence is an example of how these messages are being communicated badly. By saying "nothing wrong," there's an implied stigma, like it's a professional choice that needs to be justified or defended. The message needs to be more aggressively positive, like "the country needs more people in these good jobs, if you've got what it takes."

    • @FoxCeeEXE
      @FoxCeeEXE 2 года назад +1

      @@unnecessaryapostrophe4047 that’s what people like you are for. Getting to the mind of people who need more convincing. That isn’t my job. However if you think doing a blue collared doesn’t need to be “justified or defended” to some of the youth I promise you’re mistaken.

  • @YK-be8rx
    @YK-be8rx 3 года назад +405

    The success/happiness rate of college graduates would be much higher if college wasn't pushed at 18. I think you should enter college at like 23-25. I started at 18 and: 1. I should have went to a community college for the first two years (general ed is basically the same no matter where you go but the cost at a community college is like 20% of the cost of a big University), 2. I had no idea what I wanted to do/be and 3. Didn't have the maturity/life lessons to even start trying to figure out my career at that age. It's a joke that a 17 year old is seen as a kid that doesn't know anything but when you turn 18 you're an adult that has to plan/figure out the career you want for the rest of your life to be successful? I got a Communications degree after switching from a Finance major cause I didn't like it and thought I'll have more "creative" jobs with this Comms major. Fast forward 12 years I work in the Finance sector (surprise, surprise) and love it while other Comms majors I know are sales driven careers and I HATE sales (worked as a sales banker for 3-4 years before I got the job I have now). I wish I could start college later in life cause I think I would have been more successful in obtaining that finance degree for a much higher paying 9-5 job. Now I'm not saying I didn't learn anything with this degree and didn't gain value, but I think I wouldn't have had to play the catch up game if starting later in school to gain some life experience. But then again, I consider myself one of the lucky ones. Others not so much.

    • @tj4507
      @tj4507 3 года назад +18

      Best advice i ever got from college was from my Math Professor from Gremany "Take some time off. Figure out what you want to do. Stop trying to race through college, you americans keep stressing yourselves out too much." Took the entire following semester off. Needed it to just get out of that massive ditch that was just being burnt out. Was exactly what I needed for my mental health, and was able to finish it out from there from just a bit of time to think and refocus.

    • @somedandy7694
      @somedandy7694 3 года назад +3

      I too got a Comms degree. What do you do in finance? I always thought you had to have a degree in that field to work it. I'm curious to look for a job in that field, now.

    • @tim8228
      @tim8228 3 года назад +11

      I started college at 23 after serving in army and two years working before I joined. Best decision of my life and I didn’t even have to pay for college.

    • @Remianen
      @Remianen 3 года назад +5

      Yeah, I see where you're coming from but that wouldn't work for American society. If you start college at 23-25, you're almost 30 when you graduate (more if you need grad school or an advanced degree like for doctor, lawyer, etc). That would mean you don't become established in your career until you're almost 40. As I mentioned in a separate post, I realized early on that the first two years of university are a huge scam because you're not learning what you want to learn which is why I had my niece circumvent the whole thing (GED to community college to university). A bigger problem is that a large number of degrees are worthless when you consider how limited the market is for the skillset they teach. If you're graduating with 200k in debt, an Art History degree is not likely to pay for itself like a Finance or Accounting degree will. And yet people still pursue these dead end degrees and wind up drowning in debt they can't pay off.

    • @ShanteRoxxane
      @ShanteRoxxane 3 года назад +4

      Well back in the day people _did_ have it figured out at 18. Many already had their careers in mind. Remember people were married in their early 20s/late teens. Now everyone doesn’t think they are ready to be adults until 30.

  • @dianashepherd6062
    @dianashepherd6062 3 года назад +1296

    Kids definitely shouldn’t be going to college if they don’t have an end goal in mind with a specific career. A lot of kids are told it’s the only way to succeed so just go and get a degree. But there are SOOO many paths to success , especially now. I’m glad people are waking up.

    • @dxp96
      @dxp96 3 года назад +40

      exactly, even those in the field who speak at colleges tell people that they dont care about degrees, its about experience.

    • @sucksessless
      @sucksessless 3 года назад +6

      LoL... this shit's gunna crash & crumble

    • @wyattmoore3961
      @wyattmoore3961 3 года назад +17

      i know exactly what i want to do in life as a career, and college still feels useless to me.

    • @optionvice8926
      @optionvice8926 3 года назад

      @Dillinger Zanmato :*(

    • @ItsRyan265
      @ItsRyan265 3 года назад

      I went to school for accounting because I did not know what I wanted to do. When I was failing, I switched over to operations, which only kind of interested me. Now I am working with a company that hardly invests in me. At this point, I realize that I may never actualize my potential in what I do if my heart is not in it.

  • @KevinHenryWYB
    @KevinHenryWYB 3 года назад +412

    This is why my sister and one of my brothers went to the military to become field medics. They did 20 years and came out with military pensions, one is a certified government CRN Nurse(Sister), one is a podiatrist work for a major practice. NO DEBT, and 20 years of medical experience. They travel and WORK in many hospitals and medical facilities around the world. They said the biggest thing their employer always asks them is "Do have some hands-on experience in this field. College is not for everyone

    • @dc1397
      @dc1397 3 года назад +4

      You said your sister and one of your brothers...does your other brother crush people as a Tennessee Titan?

    • @QarthCEO
      @QarthCEO 3 года назад +11

      Dude, you can't be a field medic in the military and then go be an MD (Podiatrist) or CRNA (Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist) in the civilian world without earning the college degrees required. Your sister requires a Masters to be a CRNA and we all know what it takes to be an MD.

    • @XD-ty2xw
      @XD-ty2xw 3 года назад +4

      @@QarthCEO he probably means that because the military, his siblings got free (G.I. bill) education which transferred to civi life.

    • @QarthCEO
      @QarthCEO 3 года назад +11

      @@XD-ty2xw The GI Bill helps pay for college, but you still have to GO to college to earn the professional degrees you want afterward. No one becomes a Doctor or Certified Registered Nurse without college. It takes 10 damn years of University to become an MD and 7 years minimum to become a CRNA. It's either a bullshit story or he doesn't really know what his siblings do for a living and is confusing being a Certified Nursing Assistant and Podiatry Tech with being an actual RN and actual Podiatrist.

    • @SolomonsPorchMinistries
      @SolomonsPorchMinistries 3 года назад +7

      @@QarthCEO there’s allot of bullshit stories going on in these comments.. I just read someone say you can get an engineering degree from a trade school..

  • @cedric5323
    @cedric5323 3 года назад +240

    Having a degree doesn't make you more intelligent, it makes you more qualified/educated in a certain field, just like manual labor jobs. People who brag about their degree are always the dumbest, these people are chasing prestige, not education.

    • @bigtombowski
      @bigtombowski 2 года назад +26

      I endorse this message.
      Dr Jeremiah Goldberg PhD

    • @ThePijarro
      @ThePijarro 2 года назад +9

      @@bigtombowski I agree with you guys.... but...sorry this cracked me up xD

    • @bigtombowski
      @bigtombowski 2 года назад

      @@ThePijarro
      👍

    • @kyv2431
      @kyv2431 2 года назад

      Tell me you didn't go to college without telling me you didn't go to college lol mad you're uneducated? looooooooser

    • @AwkwardWhispers
      @AwkwardWhispers 2 года назад +4

      The Ivy League profits off of this ideology. If people liked themselves more, they wouldn't feel the need to spend so much money on a title.

  • @sibusiso2841
    @sibusiso2841 3 года назад +348

    I'm 3 years into college studying IT. My college is an overpriced Internet cafe. Its focusing more on theory than practical and those 3 years would've been better spent just using Internet resources to teach myself...but I was 17 when I made the decision and now 21 year old me has to live with it. It is what it is but I would definitely recommend waiting a year or two before applying for college, put yourself out into the world and get the mental growth that the school system could never instil in you.

    • @VonGoldfinger
      @VonGoldfinger 3 года назад +8

      You don’t have to study IT. You can build skills online for free.

    • @mondemngadi8236
      @mondemngadi8236 3 года назад +6

      Wow bro, you just told my story

    • @moufou4life
      @moufou4life 3 года назад +10

      @@VonGoldfinger have to kinda disagree with you here, did IT too and while it’s true that you can learn from internet you gotta find a good and complete free class. There’s a lot of of free class but a lot of them are not complete or lack structure. What I would do to people who learn by themselves was to tell them what to learn in order because some free class literally put you in the middle of computer science.
      There’s also, this false confidence when you learn from “4hours to learn C++” video, just because you’re able to “copy” from a video doesn’t mean you can code on your own well for example.
      Not to say it’s impossible to learn on free class, I could have easily substitute my Uni time for free classes (went to college and University) but pretty sure I would have lack skill if I didn’t went to college. Not from the states so college for me was 400~ a year so at that price its “almost free” and yea free classes beat Uni if you have dedication.

    • @sibusiso2841
      @sibusiso2841 3 года назад +4

      @@moufou4life When researching about self study in terms of IT, people recommend also doing small projects to consolidate your knowledge and know how to to apply what you've learnt in a real life scenario.

    • @moufou4life
      @moufou4life 3 года назад +1

      @@sibusiso2841 yes it’s a good thing!

  • @franciscoreyes7370
    @franciscoreyes7370 3 года назад +650

    I dropped out of high school and got my GED. Then I joined the army, went to college, grad school, and now I am a math professor at a large university. Everyone has their own path. You probably won't "find yourself" until you are at least in your 30s.

    • @neansath
      @neansath 3 года назад +48

      It's not really about finding yourself, it's about building oneself. And that can only happen with time and experience, not by forcing a college degree by taking out an insane student loan.

    • @TranceCore3
      @TranceCore3 3 года назад +10

      I dropped out of high school got my ged and ultimately joined the army too. I'm only in college because I'm not paying for it.

    • @tedpogue6531
      @tedpogue6531 3 года назад +2

      Bitch that too damn long😂. I got like 10 years to go. What the hell🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @dsealy9124
      @dsealy9124 3 года назад +4

      Nuff respect to you sir!

    • @anneb889
      @anneb889 3 года назад +3

      Also people can get a job right after high school that offers to cover tuition (or at least partially). I’ve seen secretaries at my job earn their bachelors while working. Even if it takes a couple more years, not being in debt is worth it.

  • @Drew039
    @Drew039 3 года назад +190

    I really appreciate Preach delving into his university experience. I can tell it still affects him a great deal.
    I'm 36 and am in college for the third time. I wasn't ready when I was 18. Tried again when I was 29 and life got in the way. It's tough and our K-12 education system is woefully inadequate. Thus why most of college is trying to get you up to speed.

    • @gantzuka
      @gantzuka 3 года назад +1

      K-12's isn't to prepare you for college. It's not even there to prepare us for adulthood. It's mostly there for training purposes. It's not for educating. More like a prison to make money off you filling a seat and train you on how to conduct yourself in work society.

  • @tiredgardener
    @tiredgardener 2 года назад +91

    Also, university isn't the only place where people can get an education. Get an apprenticeship, etc.
    Not everyone is academically inclined, some people do better with practical skills... doesn't mean they are dumb. Just a different form of intelligence.

  • @cutsbyelvis
    @cutsbyelvis 3 года назад +1023

    I really think college is basically a scam outside of STEM degrees. Also, as a person who has dropped out of college twice (so far) I would not recommend anyone to go to school for a degree that they’re are only “kinda interested” in.

    • @cduleck1
      @cduleck1 3 года назад +141

      My biggest issue is the "required" subjects. I tried college for IT. Why do I have to pay for a humanities class for a degree in IT? Why do I have to study English literature for a degree in IT? While I believe that knowledge is great and I have always encouraged my children to learn all they can, there is an abundance of free information and I see no need to have to pay thousands of dollars for it.

    • @LegendaryErebus
      @LegendaryErebus 3 года назад +71

      @@cduleck1 exactly I am in college for game art/development. I have learned criminal justice, political science, marketing, psychology ect. None of those help me in my future field. I should have 4 years of modeling, drawing, environmental design ect. No they want me to be a well rounded student.

    • @yvy6269
      @yvy6269 3 года назад +20

      @@cduleck1 because that's where they get to indoctrinate you.

    • @mr.caca6917
      @mr.caca6917 3 года назад +1

      @@cduleck1 I had the same question it’s a simple answer. They just want you to be educated.

    • @kalel33
      @kalel33 3 года назад +6

      @@cduleck1 I get it. They want to make you well rounded individual, who is educated in a broad spectrum instead of just a narrow education in a specific area.

  • @sciencefan001
    @sciencefan001 3 года назад +726

    I imagine that men are realizing that college isn’t worth it if it isn’t STEM. And from what I hear, a lot of people are just going to trade schools instead.

    • @astorionsmith6377
      @astorionsmith6377 3 года назад +2

      rate Lisa mancini from 1 to 10 based on her beauty ,lets see your opinion guys

    • @YourLocalRussianNegro
      @YourLocalRussianNegro 3 года назад +20

      Or law

    • @philliptruong9130
      @philliptruong9130 3 года назад +5

      That's what I am doing.

    • @wind5264
      @wind5264 3 года назад +54

      If you degree doesn’t lead directly to a job which without it you can’t get chances are it ain’t that useful

    • @yourfavourite8787
      @yourfavourite8787 3 года назад +8

      Or finance/ accounting

  • @eyevincast5440
    @eyevincast5440 3 года назад +381

    Giving up on “education” or men are realizing a skill is waaaay better then getting an overpriced college “education” only to be in debt for years to come.

    • @thebedroomshow9010
      @thebedroomshow9010 3 года назад +9

      I have heard much about skills and how they are invariably more valuable than anything else throughout your lifetime. But I have no idea what those exact skills are and where to get them. Are they people skills? Physical skills, like carpentry or knowledge of machinery? Can you tell me more about these skills in general?

    • @TheDrunkenCelt
      @TheDrunkenCelt 3 года назад +21

      @@thebedroomshow9010 He's talking about trade school. Skilled labor.

    • @sweetkandy2606
      @sweetkandy2606 3 года назад +23

      @@thebedroomshow9010 People are talking about trade skills. The jobs that build infrastructure. Construction, plumbing, electrician, mechanics, metal workers, etc…. These are trade skills. They are valuable because you are always going to need people to fix and build. Many make a great living. Most require on the job training or a training at a trade school. The trade schools in my community are connected to the high school. My daughter graduated high school this year with a trade job making $24 per hour and full benefits and no student loan debt.

    • @abri448
      @abri448 3 года назад +5

      @@thebedroomshow9010 most definitely skills involving the work place in general. So yeah any of the skills you mentioned are viable.
      I know your going to say that some of these can be done in college, but realistically for these young men, you can learn these things in the work place, WITHOUT being in a mess of student debt. Unless your aiming to be in a specific career choice, college is most definitely not for you. And if your not even sure on what kind of job you want, or your life is filled with uncertainty, the last thing you want is to be overpriced college to receive education that won’t even benefit you.

    • @jared4902
      @jared4902 3 года назад +3

      @@thebedroomshow9010 learn a trade (skill). I did a 6month technical school program and got a 6figure job within 3 months of getting out of the class.

  • @elizeespring
    @elizeespring 3 года назад +74

    There should be more professional Certifications for “hands on” jobs. I think that could benefit people and the debt wouldn’t be too much?… I feel like a lot degrees/programs are made for office type jobs, and that’s not for everyone.

    • @MsTomas086
      @MsTomas086 3 года назад +5

      Trades do this.

    • @kwamd.1461
      @kwamd.1461 2 года назад +1

      I agree💯

    • @elizeespring
      @elizeespring 2 года назад +1

      @@j3s333 you right. It’s not as much as before tho, non? Not even promoted as much too.

    • @mi3helle707
      @mi3helle707 2 года назад +1

      This one

  • @Novabunny_
    @Novabunny_ 3 года назад +539

    Graduated in 2019 and took some time off and enlisted as a Marine Reservist so I could go to school and hopefully become a Doctor. I was recently diagnosed with B cell ALL leukemia and it’s been a motivation ever since and I think I really found my calling. As a 1st gen Mexican-American, it’s okay to take some time off post high school and decide what you want to do ! Whatever y’all do I support y’all Kings and Queens ! 💙

  • @bsmi1361
    @bsmi1361 3 года назад +856

    College isn't for everyone. The way they set up these institutions cater to a way only certain people learn. As long as you develop a skill you're fine. There are certifications and hands on training that you can go through that will get you a job making more than someone who went to college.

    • @ingridc0ld
      @ingridc0ld 3 года назад +40

      Definitely! Especially if you have developmental disabilities like Autism or ADHD school can be a very difficult place to be. I'm surprised I managed to even get through college with undiagnosed autism.

    • @AxxLAfriku
      @AxxLAfriku 3 года назад

      WARNING I am the unprettiest human YTer worldwide. Take the hint, dear bsm

    • @HEADASSLOOKINGAHHH
      @HEADASSLOOKINGAHHH 3 года назад +23

      frfr biggest waste of my time, going to uni didn't give me anything else besides headaches and sleepless nights lol

    • @whiskybooze
      @whiskybooze 3 года назад +16

      Yup, it's called Trade school and joining a union.

    • @chelseae.6779
      @chelseae.6779 3 года назад +14

      Yup! Honestly, I mentioned this in another comment, after high school I could’ve just went to community college and did prerequisites for almost nothing and then transferred to a university later. I’m grateful that I haven’t racked up debt at all but just time and stress right now is a lot.

  • @desertwoman
    @desertwoman 3 года назад +290

    If you don’t want to be a doctor, a lawyer, engineer, or professor, there is no need for a college degree. Trade classes should return to middle and high school.

    • @Ramoreira86
      @Ramoreira86 3 года назад +7

      100%

    • @Kevin-ls2gt
      @Kevin-ls2gt 3 года назад +19

      If I have a son I'm encouraging him to try trades. Trade schools make hardworking, hands-on men powerful

    • @thegamingkitchen8429
      @thegamingkitchen8429 3 года назад

      That's your truth.

    • @desertwoman
      @desertwoman 3 года назад +1

      @Ko Jin Indeed! Them too!

    • @bbbbbbb51
      @bbbbbbb51 3 года назад +7

      @@Kevin-ls2gt do it! As a man in his young 20s who surfed around office jobs since I was 18, I wish I would've just gone to trade school off the bat! Turns out anything you do with your hands is more fulfilling & more transplantable of a career.

  • @matthewjoyce1620
    @matthewjoyce1620 3 года назад +134

    Honestly in this day and age it’s better to learn a trade. It’s an immediate return investment. I’ve worked beside people that had two master degrees and I’ve worked with felons in the same field.

    • @kachi2000
      @kachi2000 3 года назад

      Lol

    • @chenanigans
      @chenanigans 3 года назад +6

      I second this. Find a something you can make a career out of that preferably you get on the job training. No debt to speak of. I just so happened to fall into my job as a flight attendant. Sounds menial. However, the benefits are amazing. And the pay and schedule only gets greater and greater as you go. So much room for growth in other departments with my company as well. It was only 8 weeks of paid training to make it. No degree required. It's it's own brand of stressful not gonna lie but I feel so thankful to do what I do and not have to had went into crippling debt to do it. Abba is so right about picking careers so young too; even at 29 the career I thought I wanted at 21 isn't something I could even see myself being interested in now. And I had no clue id ever be a stew and here I am. And I love it.

    • @elitetilesetting1909
      @elitetilesetting1909 3 года назад +6

      Hell yeah!! You literally get paid to learn instead of paying some one to teach you. Skilled trades right now are in high demand I know companies that are hiring guys that are willing to learn starting at $25hr,and the hours you can work are pretty unlimited lol there’s so much dam work right now. I have clients that are telling me they will pay me triple everything upfront just to take on their job and this only tile work!!!! Just imagine plumbers, electricians, HVAC guys it’s insane right now. It’s a pain in the ass cause it’s all high end very detailed work but shit man making 20-30k a month when you see that check after a job is done seeing everything you built, smile on the customers face makes it all worth it 10 times over.

    • @kachi2000
      @kachi2000 3 года назад

      @@elitetilesetting1909 mehn and in my 3rd world country men are more in school because you can't be anything without it. Finding women would be easier

    • @josephsilva9403
      @josephsilva9403 3 года назад

      hard to do that when even the trade schools asks for work experience and, none of the companies here are willing to train young guys, seems both sides have pros and cons

  • @athenawolf4467
    @athenawolf4467 3 года назад +181

    The fact that it isn't free and that colleges were still charging full prices for online classes would be a major issue as well. University isn't affordable and unattainable.

    • @dochudson7284
      @dochudson7284 3 года назад +10

      This is exactly why I dropped out. Paying full tuition to get sent home and sit on my laptop for a quarter of the day.

    • @Theviewerdude
      @Theviewerdude 3 года назад +16

      Making the government pay for it doesn't solve the corrupt structure that has more administrators than actual teachers, or solve the fact that most people don't even enter a profession in their degree's field.
      High tuition prices are a DIRECT result of student loans from the government. Artificially low interest rates and they give em out to anyone. Meaning, universities can charge whatever the fuck they want, because they know anyone can go 100k in debt to pay for it if you convince them they "need" to.
      With private loans, where the ones giving you money have a vested interest in making a return, don't give out massive loans to anyone and everyone.
      Tuition inflation to this degree wouldn't be possible without government loans. Government paying for it is exactly the issue.
      Supply and demand. Typically cost is a prohibitive to endless demand as not everyone can afford any price. This sort of thing causes what's called downward pressure on prices. Gotta try and keep your product affordable if you want customers.
      Introduce government loans and now anyone can go 100k in debt regardless of their likelihood to pay it back. Guess now what the university charges for their degree?
      Ironically I spent an entire semester working on a report about the above before I decided to drop out. Persuaded myself it was a waste of money.
      2x drop out. High school and college

    • @TheDragonageorigins
      @TheDragonageorigins 3 года назад +7

      @@Theviewerdude Seriously though people dont understand this. You cant just throw more government at a government controlled problem.

    • @Theviewerdude
      @Theviewerdude 3 года назад +1

      @@TheDragonageorigins why do you think that is though? These universities are getting filthy rich. It's highly unlikely it's a coincidence that children are indoctrinated into believing they need a degree to make anything of themselves.
      The people making money from the system now would also be thrilled at the idea of directly receiving even more guaranteed funding.
      Someone, somewhere, knows they are profiting off of crushing naive and impressionable teenagers with debt.

    • @jensboettiger5286
      @jensboettiger5286 3 года назад +2

      youtube videos are free and better quality than online college classes

  • @alotofmore
    @alotofmore 2 года назад +15

    “Kids that were supposed be doctors but had mental breakdowns and just gave up on everything.”
    Literally me. today is finals and I’m not doing them or probably returning back to school because I’m just done. I give up.

  • @mairamanwaring9419
    @mairamanwaring9419 3 года назад +78

    I think young men are realizing they can make more earlier in life if they either pick a trade or just start working. My son is 19, he makes $20/hr, is fully insured, has a 401k. His friends are either at University or moved to "the city" and are working retail for $13/hr (min wage here). My kid will own a house and retire before his friends if he just keeps his head down and works hard.

    • @ngarumurray
      @ngarumurray 3 года назад

      Except they also are not getting involved in trades too lol

    • @hemanths2230
      @hemanths2230 3 года назад +1

      What does he do?

    • @whitelasagna6786
      @whitelasagna6786 3 года назад

      Jesus Christ. I struggled to find someone willing to hire me at 19.

    • @mairamanwaring9419
      @mairamanwaring9419 3 года назад

      @@hemanths2230 he is working as general labor in a vegetable and fruit processing plant, mostly driving forklift and helping fill drums with puree. No where for him to go but up. His supervisor even told him to apply for an operator position.

  • @Chunky2234
    @Chunky2234 3 года назад +328

    I am 21 and now a senior in college in the US. Like many others, I didn’t know what I wanted to do at 18 but basically went in to college because everyone in my family looked at me to do so. However, while I was there I constantly thought this. I didn’t know what I wanted but I made the steps to get into a nice program for something I do enjoy and take pride in. I got an internship from this too and love the job and the people I work with. It doesn’t pay very well, but for right now, it works. If any of you were like me and went to college not knowing what you want to do or where your interests are, work towards figuring it out now. Don’t waste your time and money if college is not right for you. If you find out there is something a college can provide that you are passionate about then I say pursue it. But you really have to dig deep and find what inspires, and interests you, and that might mean leaving college, and that’s ok.

    • @micahpaul806
      @micahpaul806 3 года назад +1

      I can relate I didn't know what to do and my family suggested university and I said sure why not, still don't know why I came here but I'm still young I can always make changes
      Dont have student loans tho so it's not really a problem in that department

    • @nikibronson133
      @nikibronson133 3 года назад

      Hmm

    • @Klobanob
      @Klobanob 3 года назад

      I would agree with that, but also make sure you pick a career that is employable. Many people will get a degree in some sort of fine arts and end up jobless, unless they somehow manage to make art that sells substantial enough that you can make a living. That’s pretty uncommon and risky to hope on tho.

    • @nikibronson133
      @nikibronson133 3 года назад

      @@Klobanob I think you don't really have a full understanding of what a degree in Fine Arts is. Those jobs just a general pelo unless you hit it big and sometimes people choose their passion over marketability which is fine. We treat education as if it's some sort of capitalistic exploit when it isn't and it doesn't have to be. People go into Fine Arts because some people's goal is to be a fine arts teacher or to be an academic or historian of Fine Arts or to work in the Fine Arts industry for entertainment industry. It's not just them selling art so I think you don't have a full understanding of what the jobs are in that field in the first place

    • @MrsNicolas
      @MrsNicolas 3 года назад

      @@Klobanob That was me. I've been drawing since I was 5, and not the type of drawing the the average 5 year old draws. I was told what do I want to be when I grow up or you can be anything you want to be. That's a big load of hogwash!!!!! I ended up changing majors a couple of times after realizing the MATHEMATICAL PROBABILITY of me being hired under an art major. Wasted years of my youth and time. My advice to the youth....
      #1. don't just pick something your passionate about
      #2. Don't pick something that's high demand but overly saturated
      #3. Make sure it's something you are passionate about, it's high demand, and everyone and they mama aren't apply to do ( I would pick something that requires a high level of math skills personally).

  • @itsyoure9802
    @itsyoure9802 3 года назад +559

    Whether you’re part of the Manosphere or not, you can’t deny the culture shift that is happening. Women are getting more education, working for longer years, investing more into their jobs, and things are gonna get real different. Idk if it’ll be a good thing overall or a bad thing, but I’m curious to see what happens next-when women, who traditionally don’t date down, will have no choice to because 60%+ of them are more “educated” than their male counterparts. Very interesting

    • @itsyoure9802
      @itsyoure9802 3 года назад +52

      @@EspressDelivery lol true, but nobody said that this one tiny shift, the fact that women are attending college more than men, is going to single handedly flip society. Overall, the more this 60-40 gap increases, odds are that women’s wages are also going to increase eventually. This is just one tiny symptom of society pushing women into the working field. One tiny symptom telling us that big change is coming. And my guess, is that women will become more miserable than ever. But we’ll see. All I’m saying is that there’s a reason why women choose more hospitality jobs, and “retire” earlier to have a family. But we’ll see

    • @itsyoure9802
      @itsyoure9802 3 года назад +28

      @@EspressDelivery future generations will landmark this time period as the beginning of very different times and like I said, I’m very interested in seeing what’s going to happen

    • @Muaythaifighter1000
      @Muaythaifighter1000 3 года назад +70

      Spinster epidemic. I've been thinking about this for about 2 years now. We Millenials are going to be in our 40s entering an era of single moms and overeducated spinsters regretting they didn't have children and a family.

    • @deathzero0212
      @deathzero0212 3 года назад +88

      We already know what the end result will be. Just look at Japan. Men and Women make about the same amount there, and unemployment is more common among young men in japan. Their birth rates are extremely low, not even replacing themselves. Women will NEVER date down, it doesn't matter if it's their only option, because it's not, they would rather share a high value man, or be alone for their entire lives. This is the present and the future. This bubble will burst and I have no idea what comes after that, but likely a return to a more traditional culture, mainly because the only people having kids are more traditionally minded individuals, the modern lifestyle will go extinct because they aren't having children. This is just me speculating of course, who knows, it'll be interesting to watch though.

    • @itsyoure9802
      @itsyoure9802 3 года назад +19

      @@deathzero0212 I 100% agree. I’m gonna find myself one of the few women that appreciate a traditional man and we’ll just watch what happens, and try to raise our kids right. Just make sure you don’t put your life savings into investing in diaper companies lol.

  • @GH88ST_Original
    @GH88ST_Original 2 года назад +49

    went to art school...dropped out first 3 months, went to school for audio engineering, dropped out in 6 months, decided that I wanted no more debt, and just found a decent 9 to 5, I still have goals on fulfilling my dreams, just realized that college wasn't going to make that happen for me personally.

    • @Lili-ey1nd
      @Lili-ey1nd Год назад

      Cause your choosing stupid shit… go to a Community and get a trade job in a couple years you’ll make more than most people and not be forced to work some random 9-5 instead

    • @MercyBlackstarr-ko5yu
      @MercyBlackstarr-ko5yu Месяц назад

      Interesting things I see commented in the comments section

  • @sarah1484
    @sarah1484 3 года назад +102

    I went into the military and got into IT. Best decision of my life. I’m now a software tester working on a development team. I’m learning Python programming at the moment so I can become a test engineer. You don’t need to join the military to get into IT. Start off as a help desk technician and work your way from there. Or if you can problem solve and critical think learn a programming language. Information security jobs are abundant. Companies are having a hard time filling those jobs.

    • @sarah1484
      @sarah1484 3 года назад +5

      @DixieNormous I’ve met a lot of “not smart” people in this field...lol. You don’t need math unless you go to college and get a computer science or computer engineering degree. You can get a certification and some experience in IT and be good. CompTIA is a good a starting point.

    • @halcyon6098
      @halcyon6098 3 года назад +1

      @@sarah1484 thank you. Gonna check out comptia. 🙌🏽

    • @altaccount8749
      @altaccount8749 3 года назад

      I have disability and can’t do military. I have CompTIA A+, Network+, Security+, Server+, and Linux+ I know Python, Java, and C, I got my education completely free by proving my IT skills for a program. No one, not even help desk wants to hire me without 5 years experience. Yet I am being offered way more high paying office work jobs that I hate. I just wanna give up but I love computers more anything. It’s been 6 years of schooling for nothing though. Maybe it’s just sunk cost fallacy.

    • @sarah1484
      @sarah1484 3 года назад

      @@altaccount8749 You ever thought about becoming a consultant? IT is too broad for you to stop. You might be one of those folks who can work for themselves. Only thing is you’d have to be able to market and sell whatever services you provide.

    • @pheonixreviews8309
      @pheonixreviews8309 3 года назад

      @@sarah1484 thank you 🙏🏾

  • @HeWhoComments
    @HeWhoComments 3 года назад +584

    I feel this 100%. As a college senior who regrets my degree choice, it hasn’t been fun. I’ve been lucky enough because I haven’t had to take out loans but it’s still a long investment of time. I’m hoping I find my true passion soon.

    • @grownsimba8120
      @grownsimba8120 3 года назад +4

      What's you degree?

    • @NealBones
      @NealBones 3 года назад +11

      That profile picture is amazing 👏

    • @QMS9224
      @QMS9224 3 года назад +32

      Those loans can equal decades of pain. Be thankful you only lost 4 years, as long as you are starting from square 1 and not square negative -10 you can always make a new future 👍

    • @HeWhoComments
      @HeWhoComments 3 года назад +36

      @@grownsimba8120 Economics. I find it to be so boring. I also suck at math

    • @then35t18
      @then35t18 3 года назад +4

      Find hobbies, start with that.

  • @WadeRaef
    @WadeRaef 3 года назад +68

    Imagine going to trade school and making 6-figures, but people in the media are wilding out because it’s not University.

    • @anajilewis8978
      @anajilewis8978 3 года назад +7

      THANK YOU!!!...TRUEST COMMENT EVER!!! FACTS!!

    • @juggernot92
      @juggernot92 3 года назад +5

      Some ppl care more about Prestige than a paycheck.

  • @TheAntWest
    @TheAntWest 3 года назад +31

    11:38 “Everytime I tried to go back to school.. it’s funny because something always pulled me out. And I’ve always been able to find more outside than in school.”
    I’ve felt that way for years. And finally.. now at 28.. I can move on.

  • @franklaiga5616
    @franklaiga5616 3 года назад +133

    I'm 19 and was "supposed" to join college last year but I didn't really know what I wanted to do, I took a break and I have developed a passion for web development and I don't even need college for that, I hope my decision will be worth it in the end.

    • @adamajs3836
      @adamajs3836 3 года назад +17

      Bro u made right choice, u can always learn skill with Udemy and at your own pace.

    • @Aaron-ce2bk
      @Aaron-ce2bk 3 года назад +17

      Build a portfolio; reach out to small startups/local businesses and do a few sites for free. Then ask for referrals for paid work

    • @MrMurked10
      @MrMurked10 3 года назад +5

      You made the right choice man plenty of companies just need certificates for web dev jobs

    • @arnezargarian4583
      @arnezargarian4583 3 года назад +4

      Web developer here. You have made the right choice. It may not feel like it now, but omg is it worth it.

    • @rak6437
      @rak6437 3 года назад +1

      All teachers in all schools keep yelling "College! College! College!"

  • @mojomercury
    @mojomercury 3 года назад +233

    I lost it at “he may not make as much as you, but best believe he has less debt” 1of the best quotes of the year for me

    • @NikosM112
      @NikosM112 3 года назад +8

      He might as well have said "no debt"

    • @nicholascortez728
      @nicholascortez728 3 года назад +15

      All of a sudden that Electrician making 80K a year with no debt when you make 120k with 200K in debt looks a hell of a lot nicer to you...to bad it's not gonna look that way to him.

    • @ThatGuy-vi8ch
      @ThatGuy-vi8ch 3 года назад +12

      Debt to income ratio is a hurtful thing in today's age. I love hearing how people making $80k can't pay back $60k after a decade. How can people go to college and still be bad at math? I'll have paid off a $25,000 car on a $45k job in 3 years instead of 7. Simple math and not living above my means.

    • @jth_printed_designs
      @jth_printed_designs 3 года назад +9

      @@ThatGuy-vi8ch It's because people are idiots. They love living paycheck to paycheck because they get the instant gratification of having everything they want. They have no concept of only spending money that you HAVE to spend, and saving the rest.

    • @aauwhatitdo1582
      @aauwhatitdo1582 3 года назад

      @@nicholascortez728 listen, yeah the electrician is going to do better, but only for 4-5 years.

  • @isaiasanchez1987
    @isaiasanchez1987 3 года назад +109

    My nephew doesn't even know what he wants to eat and he's expected to pick what he will make his whole life about.

    • @kxfromga5359
      @kxfromga5359 3 года назад +3

      Sooner or later reality is going to hit him hard like fret train 🚂

  • @michaelroy6630
    @michaelroy6630 2 года назад +51

    You guys are such a valuable voice for young men (and people in general). Seriously, thank you.

  • @KoEnder
    @KoEnder 3 года назад +312

    *Honestly College is now just seems like an indoctrination faculty instead of teaching you the skills that are needed for what ever career your looking into.*

    • @totalro5049
      @totalro5049 3 года назад

      rate asmr simply kel from 1 to 10 based on her aspect

    • @toxicwaltz0863
      @toxicwaltz0863 3 года назад +2

      I always thought it odd you have to take and pay for other courses in addition to what you want to study

    • @MrApontjos
      @MrApontjos 3 года назад +1

      Based

    • @Kai...999
      @Kai...999 3 года назад +3

      I can't cosign that but I get where you coming from. The college system is hella scammy but for doctors, engineers, lawyers, etc college is necessary. Again it has scams scattered throughout, like the newest field of math was made in the 1700s why the fuck am I dropping a half grand on a calculus textbook? But the bullshit aside the education is pretty legit.

    • @twixt999
      @twixt999 3 года назад +1

      also networking

  • @mikeoxmaul1996
    @mikeoxmaul1996 3 года назад +830

    As a Marine veteran who now goes to an Ivy League school, I can tell you that if I wasn’t getting free college AND getting paid to be here (tax free), I would not have gone to this school. I am also in my last year here. I have friends here who are freaking out about being 250k+ in debt just after four years for an undergrad program. I’m glad that I’m graduating with the same paper but with zero debt. If I had to pay, I’d rather be in a community college for 2 years, get my associate’s degree, and then transfer to a small uni or state school. This is the most cost efficient method IMO.

    • @zoesolanki961
      @zoesolanki961 2 года назад +6

      Did you get a scholarship to go?

    • @mikeoxmaul1996
      @mikeoxmaul1996 2 года назад +67

      @@zoesolanki961 I have a combination of scholarships and the G.I Bill, an educational opportunity program for military veterans.

    • @dericmederos1514
      @dericmederos1514 2 года назад +14

      im happy you went this route but i absolutely hate how some veterans portray it as "Lol i was smart getting the GI bill you are all stupid for taking out loans!" like most young people were told not to go to the military because they would die and encouraged to take out loans. Again, I encourage people to try what you did but hate how some vets act as if this knowledge is common sense when it is never talked about by the majority

    • @TranceCore3
      @TranceCore3 2 года назад +17

      I got the G. I bill too, and the only thing stopping me from dropping out is that damn mha. It's worse because the degree I'm shooting for is music.
      The way I see it, a piece of paper isn't going to make my music better.

    • @TranceCore3
      @TranceCore3 2 года назад +13

      @@dericmederos1514 funny story is that even if you don't join the military, you're gonna die. But if you go to college, you might not get a job. Still gonna die though. Pick your poison

  • @killzone866
    @killzone866 3 года назад +219

    My cousin did this recently. He was as set to go to college and last second he was like nawwww this aint for me yet and decided to work a year while he figured out what he wanted to do. I commended him for that.

    • @Grimloxz
      @Grimloxz 3 года назад +2

      Yeah, we call it a “gap year” here. I recommend it for most High School graduates before deciding on University.

    • @hammypie
      @hammypie 3 года назад +1

      👏👏👏

    • @sonyaburton649
      @sonyaburton649 3 года назад +1

      Take a trade.

    • @killzone866
      @killzone866 3 года назад

      @@sonyaburton649 the trades arent for everyone, but its still good to try it before you lock yourself into a path. 18 was far too early for me to pick a career and now i kinda regret it but i dont want to go back to school again.

  • @prodcorreikamir
    @prodcorreikamir 11 месяцев назад +5

    Made the decision this year not to continue with uni. Not quite sure where my life is going but we’ll manage💀

  • @Unfortunateaccident
    @Unfortunateaccident 3 года назад +103

    I went to college straight out of hs, had no idea what I wanted to do. Took a bunch of random classes and majored in the field I was getting As in. Ended up staying an extra semester to get a second degree because I only needed a few more classes anyways. Graduated and couldn't find a job in either field that paid more than minimum wage. I literally got paid more at my retail job 🙃 Now I'm back in school, paying full tuition because I maxed out my financial aid. Going into healthcare and picked a field of study that's going to triple my investment within a year of working. Just took 7 years after high school to figure it all out smh

    • @PershingOfficial
      @PershingOfficial 3 года назад +5

      Is that college’s fault or a personal decision? No offense but universities have many resources to get you on a career path. I started my first year and had a goal which has led to a successful education. Do I think it costs too much? Yes but doesn’t mean that it’s worthless

    • @chadretention8024
      @chadretention8024 3 года назад +1

      What were the degrees in?

    • @Alecexo
      @Alecexo 3 года назад +8

      Unfortunately this happens way too often. It almost happened to me. I’m just 18 but I started a major I didn’t like (last year). I dropped school. I’m taking a gap year to research majors and figure out what I want to do and go back next year. And I only owe $2,500. I caught myself; not everyone does and it’s okay. I wish you the best in your studies I believe in you! Prosper ❤️

    • @chadretention8024
      @chadretention8024 3 года назад +1

      @@PershingOfficial it’s personal decision that’s at fault, you should not go to college just to take random classes, you should know what you want to do and make sure that having a college degree is either absolutely necessary like a lawyer or doctor, or at least will boost your chances at getting a job if you have one.

    • @chelseae.6779
      @chelseae.6779 3 года назад +5

      @@PershingOfficial I think she sees it as a personal decision one, I don’t think she blamed the school. Just timing and not figuring out what you want to do until a certain age and making the bad decision to take random classes.

  • @jerrynice1666
    @jerrynice1666 3 года назад +438

    If you're not interested in college/ university, join a trade ladies and gentlemen. Join preferably right after you graduate high school. Go to a technical or trade school and commit yourself to continuous learning, including obtaining multiple certifications (NATE, etc.) Do this, and after a few years (depending on your drive) you will acheive six-figure status and obtain a skill set that is needed around the world. Even if your dream may not be relative to a trade, dreams need to come with economic plans.

    • @imperfectstranger8807
      @imperfectstranger8807 3 года назад +27

      Facts, also move somewhere cheap instead of slaving away just to live. You can literally monetize almost any skill you have or learn any skill. I know English lol, and I'm working on my TEFL certification to teach English online. There are other options too, and I plan to explore different skills & work different jobs

    • @haileyreign971
      @haileyreign971 3 года назад +13

      FACTS
      A lot of people sleep on trade schools/ training. A lot of the men I know did it or went into the military and decided to get degrees along the way.
      People also sleep on gap years. I got to travel, explore other interests, & am even working on a Masters to expand my skill sets.

    • @metta2432
      @metta2432 3 года назад +7

      Yup like I said under another comment, big difference between being part of a UNION trade compared to non-union. Where I am depending on your trade, the unions pay $40-$60+ an hour as a journeyman. Packages include vaca fund, annuity fund, pension, insurance, scholarship and more. In my union there are guys getting $12,000+ for vaca alone each year. I notice some women are quick to turn their nose at me because of my construction attire not knowing that I'm debt free and making more than their desk job. Lol fellas like Preach said best start asking these women how much debt they have!

    • @juggernot92
      @juggernot92 3 года назад +12

      My brother and I both went to college. We both dropped out, he became a mechanic and I became an over the road truck driver. Now we are both debt free and making more money then we would have if we finished getting our degrees.

    • @chaw1472
      @chaw1472 3 года назад +12

      started an apprenticeship in hvac right outta high school. definitely wouldnt say I (or anyone) have a passion for heating and cooling systems but i love working wiht my hands and it makes good money. best decision i ever made

  • @sssilky3317
    @sssilky3317 3 года назад +40

    something important to know is that YOU DO NOT HAVE TO GO TO COLLEGE RIGHT AFTER HIGH SCHOOL. I waited til I was 20 to start, because at 18 I was completely unmotivated and didn't know what I wanted to do, I was burned out from high school and had horrible mental health. I waited until I was ready and made the choice to go to college myself, and now I'm double majoring in math and physics. You can start college at any age: 30, 40, 50, it does not fucking matter whenever you're mentally and economically ready. if you don't want to go to college that's fine too.

    • @DelicateDecay
      @DelicateDecay Год назад +3

      This was my story at 17. I screwed up terribly by going straight to college after HS and failed. I decided to work and it helped my anxiety/confidence. In my late 20s to early 30s I was more devoted to earning my degree.

    • @moisesjimenez4391
      @moisesjimenez4391 Год назад +1

      I've had the same exact experience as you tbh.

    • @dreamkitty
      @dreamkitty 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@DelicateDecaysame. graduated a year early at 17 and i dropped out my first semester. i’m 20 now, went back last year at 19 still not knowing what to do so i took random courses but i’m on track to get my associates by the end of august 2024. my general ed will be taken care of.

  • @omightylegend2521
    @omightylegend2521 3 года назад +97

    It’s not that we don’t want to go to school. It’s that we’ve learn that we’re basically getting scammed into the system where else we could find cheaper education online.

    • @khalidyusuf5187
      @khalidyusuf5187 3 года назад +3

      Very logical statement💯

    • @Illlium
      @Illlium 3 года назад +3

      *free education

    • @Macheako
      @Macheako 3 года назад +3

      It absolutely amazes how the same people who claim to be "Very Intellectually Proficient" (College Professors and Administrators)......
      are unable to see why men don't wanna pay for their over-priced degrees 😂😂😂😂😂😂
      kinda just makes it that much easier not to go these days LOL

    • @chaost4544
      @chaost4544 3 года назад +2

      Exactly. Traditional four year colleges are almost pointless now unless you're going for a very specific field.

    • @Illlium
      @Illlium 3 года назад +1

      @@chaost4544 IMO if you're not going into law or a medicine field with a high skill ceiling college structure is actively detrimental.

  • @Shiroyashasama
    @Shiroyashasama 3 года назад +67

    as a male college student in his last year right now I can't help but relate to the idea of not knowing what your future goals are. the good thing is that I don't have much student loans and I will be fine after college but I always wonder if going to college was even something I wanted.

    • @kellyinCT09
      @kellyinCT09 3 года назад +2

      No knowledge is wasted, and being that you are in your last year, (congratulations, that's a huge accomplishment!) you don't have to know what you want to do, per se. hell, you could never use your degree, but you will always have the knowledge and the life experience that others won't, so there's that!

    • @Shiroyashasama
      @Shiroyashasama 3 года назад +1

      @@kellyinCT09 yeah that’s what I been telling myself too. But thank you 🙏🏾 I’ll be back at this comment section around may hopefully as a college grad

    • @kellyinCT09
      @kellyinCT09 3 года назад

      @@Shiroyashasama Definitely as a college grad! May will be here before you know it. Listen, you graduate, you better come back here and get your props!🤘

    • @Shiroyashasama
      @Shiroyashasama 3 года назад

      @@kellyinCT09 thank you 🙏🏾

  • @Complication84
    @Complication84 3 года назад +54

    What you're telling me that my degree in gender studies and art isn't going to make me rich?! Ah shit.

    • @Cleofis23
      @Cleofis23 3 года назад +5

      I thought about taking underwater basket weaving..but ...meh 🤷🏿‍♂️

    • @masonpallanes7258
      @masonpallanes7258 3 года назад +10

      That diploma isn't even worthy to be used as toilet paper.

    • @Cleofis23
      @Cleofis23 3 года назад +4

      @@masonpallanes7258 🤣

    • @sebfox2194
      @sebfox2194 3 года назад +1

      Maybe just get a degree in something like Economics or Engineering like Musk or Bezos instead?

    • @haydenryder2134
      @haydenryder2134 3 года назад

      @@masonpallanes7258 💀💀

  • @AwkwardWhispers
    @AwkwardWhispers 2 года назад +17

    I took a 7 year gap and went back to study neuroscience. I wasn't interested in school straight out of high school and now I'm way more interested than all of my younger classmates. When I went back, I took it very seriously, got into an honor society, and received a full ride. It is absolutely because I went to school when I wanted to and not when people pressured me to. In those seven years, I worked at coffee shops and traveled the country in a punk band ^_^. It's YOUR life, folks! You know what's best for you.

  • @Cyber-Rain
    @Cyber-Rain 3 года назад +56

    While in college I had multiple professors tell the class how fucked up the textbook industry is. Change a few words or rearrange some words and that's a new edition that they force the colleges to use. That'll be $500.

    • @chelseae.6779
      @chelseae.6779 3 года назад +7

      My friend who’s a nursing major went through just now. New semester and she had to buy this specific edition of her anatomy and physiology class textbook which was about $300.🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @imanigordon6803
      @imanigordon6803 3 года назад +3

      Bro the text book prices be insane!!! I be trying used or e books online prices before I even hit the school store

    • @_Smile_Today
      @_Smile_Today 3 года назад +4

      That’s similar to a teacher I had that broke down student loans to us freshman and sophomore year of high school . He went as far to help find grants for students and applying. Some listened to him some didn’t. Wish other people would do that for younger students.

    • @adamajs3836
      @adamajs3836 3 года назад

      Torrent the book or something, older edition are not that different from new ones.

  • @theoverunderthinker
    @theoverunderthinker 3 года назад +114

    I really respect Preach's thoughts about at least finishing HS because they said that he wouldn't accomplish anything.
    I really respect him doing that. A lot of people would quit, but he took it as a challenge and overcame their expectations.

    • @berrymckockiner5883
      @berrymckockiner5883 3 года назад +1

      i actually disagreed with him there, he should have dropped out of highschool and gotten as much work experience as possible

  • @jimuelfaylona
    @jimuelfaylona 2 года назад +48

    Was forced to go to nursing school after highschool by fam standards (they didn’t even graduate highschool themselves🤦🏽‍♂️). Keep in mind I was also working full time as a salesman so whatever I’m making is going to something I don’t want🤦🏽‍♂️
    After 2 years I Quit the job and dropped out of nursing school. Studied software dev alone for 6 months and I got over a 6 fig income a couple weeks after that lol life is good. This happened 9 months ago.
    Covid played a part tho cause lots of people were quitting their jobs so I had more opportunities

    • @sihlemanana862
      @sihlemanana862 2 года назад +7

      How can I get into software development. It’s a skill I want to learn while doing my law degree, especially learning how to code in Python

    • @theFORZA66
      @theFORZA66 Год назад

      ​@sihlemanana862 best way imo is to find a project you are interested in and then use that to learn on the go. That way you are learning but also working on your portfolio at the same time

  • @masterrace4005
    @masterrace4005 3 года назад +55

    “ Its ok to live in uncertainty. “
    -Aba
    I don’t know if this man is ever going to know how much that line means to me. Me overthinking shiit and feeling like I should have everything figured out at 22. Not going to front. That line made me cry. Maybe everything is going to be alright.

    • @prtdiva
      @prtdiva 3 года назад +2

      You have A LOT of time to figure things out. I wish I would’ve taken time for myself and just traveled the world. I quit my psych job at 28 to travel and realized I should’ve been doing that all along. I wish I would’ve started at 22. Live your life. You have plenty of time!

    • @jennycooper3529
      @jennycooper3529 3 года назад +3

      Same. Not to mention when are pressured to make life changing decisions and grow mature fast

    • @jameslaing3291
      @jameslaing3291 3 года назад +4

      @@prtdiva on god I’m 20 I’m in no rush, ima about to do a trading school to do plumbing or construction same thing my brother doing but he’s doing security

    • @tedgabriel412
      @tedgabriel412 3 года назад

      Guys... ^(TnT)^ My eyes...

  • @bmc5142
    @bmc5142 3 года назад +330

    I LOVE this.
    My son is 17 and just graduated highschool.
    I have been explaining for a few years now that I DID NOT want him jumping in to school because I believe this is how a "mid-life crisis" is formed.
    Kids need time to figure themselves out.

    • @darnellbutler5867
      @darnellbutler5867 3 года назад +14

      Thats so cool, i wish I was encouraged to find what my interests and hobbies are at that age instead of 30. Smh

    • @crzxm
      @crzxm 3 года назад +1

      How are you teaching him to be a man?

    • @toladep
      @toladep 3 года назад +1

      It used to be totally normal for young people to go on a “grand tour” which was a time for them to explore the world and figure themselves out.

    • @myselfandeye3884
      @myselfandeye3884 3 года назад +1

      You're a moron. And what? When he fails in life it's the fault of politicians? How are they going to figure things out when they spent their days behind their playstation or iphone? Are they going to follow Facebook college and RUclips universtity to figure things out? Stop it with the bs.

    • @XoloYT
      @XoloYT 3 года назад +6

      I wish I had a parent like you. My parents are currently forcing me to go to college and if I don't they've treatend to kick me out and we get into heated arguments whenever I try to talk to them. Its ironic because both of my parents never went to college yet they have it pretty decently for themselves. I know for a fact that I don't want to be a biomedical engineer for the rest of my life even if it pays extremely well. I realize they are doing it because they want whats good for me, but I feel like if I were to take a lot more time into taking the opportunities the internet has in terms of marketing and start a business then I could potentially get a way bigger head start in life instead of waiting until I'm 23 and finished with a bachelors to start.

  • @InactiveAccount996
    @InactiveAccount996 3 года назад +163

    I'm a college professor and I tell my students that if everyone in America got a college degree, then the people working at Burger King would have college degrees. You getting a degree does not change the structure of the economy. Some jobs are plentiful and others are scarce. Employers pay for jobs that need to get done, not your fantasy of a perfect life. Before you pick a major check out the placement rate. Are there jobs in the field you like? Who is hiring? What skills do they need? Then decide. Trades can pay very well. No shame in that.

    • @RohiNkwama
      @RohiNkwama 3 года назад +2

      Profound comments have never been written

    • @weaboodoo2346
      @weaboodoo2346 3 года назад

      Wait what is wrong with trades.

    • @Kohiku
      @Kohiku 3 года назад +1

      Real slick explanation that more youths need to know. Thanks prof

    • @davidtrojanowski1861
      @davidtrojanowski1861 3 года назад +2

      I tell people it doesn't matter whether they have a degree or not and most places, even offices, will still likely treat you as expendable. It's not easy for everyone to figure out who they are and what they want in life but I think happiness is more important than some temporary feeling of prestige you get from graduating uni.

  • @taiguy53
    @taiguy53 Год назад +11

    My brother and girlfriend kind of opened my eyes about college. For a while after I graduated, I always wanted to persue college because I wanted to make my parents proud. I knew college debt was an issue with a lot of people and I come from a family of low income and I would be a first generation college student in my entire family. So for a while, I had a lot of pressure on me. There's one side of me that's saying "Finish your school, finish college and get that degree and make your entire family proud!" Then there's the other side of me saying "No, don't do it, you're fresh out of high school with no idea of what you want to do in life or even major in when in college. So don't give yourself unnecessary debt!"
    My girlfriend got her degree recently, but she's almost $40k in debt and still isn't sure of what she wants to do in life and she regrets going to college and being in debt for a degree she probably won't use.
    My brother is a senior in high school and one time he told me, "When they showed us all these amazing colleges and all the positives of going to college and getting a degree, I wondered, what about the negatives? I'm hearing only good things, but where are the bad things? Nothing is only ever good. Besides, I don't want to put myself in debt. I'll go when I'm ready and know what I want to do."

  • @evanfrancis6000
    @evanfrancis6000 3 года назад +134

    Taking the semester off after studying STEM for 3 years and reconsidering a different path of life. Needed this video more than y’all will ever know

    • @Delimon007
      @Delimon007 3 года назад +3

      Do it bro, I did the same thing last year, haven't regretted it at all. You can also self teach anything you have left to learn at that point and get certified in any programs you need if you want to continue forward with that field too. College teaches you jack shit of what you actually need to know for a lot of STEM fields. Vocational schools and being self taught are 100% the ways to go now.

    • @ep8182
      @ep8182 3 года назад +4

      I would say it depends on your major and your interest, if you are a year out from getting a Engineering degree then go for it, its easy to get a decent paying job with one and you can always fall back on it. You can even be self employed after getting a few years experience and work at your own pace. On the other hand if its something you know you are going to hate and not much pay, then way dump more money and time into it.

    • @mememachine5244
      @mememachine5244 3 года назад +4

      @@Delimon007 "College teaches you jack shit of what you actually need to know for a lot of STEM fields" what the fuck are you talking about, id say it teaching you laplace is a damn big step.
      "vocational schools and being self taught are 100% the ways to go now." How the fuck is a electrical even on the same plying field as an electrical engineer?
      How can I tell you've never set foot in a university in your entire life.

    • @ajalanbrown2200
      @ajalanbrown2200 3 года назад +3

      I have a Career in STEM , Software Engineer, I have no degree. Save yourself man don’t go into debt

    • @sejuanisupportonly7385
      @sejuanisupportonly7385 3 года назад +3

      @@Delimon007 > College teaches you jack shit of what you actually need to know for a lot of STEM fields
      I'd bet you *good money* that you cannot teach yourself about advanced biology, mathematics, physics and chemistry, unless you are a REAL genius.
      I'd bet you good money *noone* would hire a self-tought engineer for any serious projects.
      The only thing that you can learn by studying on your own and find a job if you have a talent for it is programming, not because it is easier, but because there are thousands of tutorials and there are thousands of small niches that you can study and learn and, at the end of the day, you *can* have your own project, code it and go in an interview and say "here I can do this job. I MADE THIS" ... try making anything on biology/chemistry/physics without a lab or discover a new theorem in math or build something with your engineering "skillz" and see what you can make.

  • @Mr.man712
    @Mr.man712 3 года назад +73

    YOO LETS GO LOL, LADIES START PAYING UP AND BUYING US 5 STAR DINNERS AND LUNCHS 💯🙏🙏😆

    • @1god2savem37
      @1god2savem37 3 года назад +4

      Just no.

    • @Alecexo
      @Alecexo 3 года назад +2

      Not a city boy fall lmao

    • @abominationfromhellitself7225
      @abominationfromhellitself7225 3 года назад +10

      @@1god2savem37
      You're just mad no one will buy you dinner

    • @Yellow.1844
      @Yellow.1844 3 года назад +8

      Im becoming a househusband, peak neet dream :)

    • @sunkillsmoon
      @sunkillsmoon 3 года назад +10

      @@1god2savem37 but I thought women were all about equality???

  • @RileyRunsWithScissors
    @RileyRunsWithScissors 3 года назад +267

    I have a 17 year old son who knew that college wasn’t his jam; he just doesn’t enjoy school that much. Instead, he has decided he wants to go to a trade school to learn blacksmithing. I’m beyond proud of him for avoiding the same trap that I fell into. I spent years and years in college, I have $60K in student debt, and for the past 20 years I’ve worked in a job that doesn’t use my degree at all. Funny, I recall my professors in college telling us how in-demand we were going to be and how we would be able to name our price and pick and choose our jobs - it was all lies. Learn a trade, kids. And avoid student loans!

    • @Just_Hu
      @Just_Hu 3 года назад +26

      It will be harder for men in the dating world since most women with degrees want a man with a degree and salary too. I just hope women start to understand this.

    • @abowla7187
      @abowla7187 3 года назад +3

      Smart kid.

    • @coconutoil1614
      @coconutoil1614 3 года назад +2

      just a question since we're both the same age as your son. I plan on learning Welding too and I got looked down upon my peers because of that plan. Should I reconsider my choices or should I follow it? We're all in STEM but I really am not proud of my skills in Math.

    • @missd411
      @missd411 3 года назад +1

      They should add for 10-20% of you...that's the part no one says. But alas they need people to keep enrolling since it's kinda their job and all. I might be one of those people soon myself 🙈

    • @brandonstowe5849
      @brandonstowe5849 3 года назад +3

      @@Just_Hu They are going to have to or they are going to die alone. Not trying to be negative. You either in it for Love, or you going to be alone. That's what I got say to those ladies. It ain't about the Paycheck no more. Hypergamy is going to have to Thrown out.

  • @JjayNC8L
    @JjayNC8L 3 года назад +46

    Bro all these activitists pushing so many "issues", and yet while they are fidgeting about bathrooms and the choice to write something different on a slip of paper, I'm transgender and bisexual, you know what stresses me rn?- I'm busy stressing about the fact that I can't and probably never will be able to afford college, I'm stressing about rising prices and not adequately rising wages, I'm stressing about the fact im 24 and living with my parents because if I want a studio apartment, that's at it's cheapest and arguably almost dangerous 700 of my 1000-1100 35-40+ hour work week checks lol. At most? For a studio? I can't afford it, or it's my entire check. That's not counting all of the other possible expenses, from phone, to internet, to eating, to bathing and taking care of myself.
    I have no choice but to live with my parents until I can find sustainable roommates, and even then one medical bill and I'm back with my parents.
    I have a million things wrong stressing me out right now. I don't give a flying fuck about bathrooms, the gender spot on paperwork, I don't give a fuck about a pat on the shoulder telling me "your not straight? Good" that shit don't mean anything and the last one is actually insulting. Can we get some college education? Can we get some enforcement on these greedy ass corporations living off our backs rather than easily providing for their workers? Nah. Nah. I guess I'll take a parade. Fuckers.
    I wish we'd fix some actual issues instead of putting bandaids on social issues that could be far more easily resolved with a satisfied and happily striving populace than everyone suffering and hating eachother to boot. Bro, I'm about to get me a college education then skip out, fuck.

    • @bluesky-bp1bp
      @bluesky-bp1bp 3 года назад +1

      Damn that pretty deep.
      Although im kinda confused about what the "activists" have to do with these type of economic issues. Like i get what ur saying but alot of these activists r u just talkin abt what they want to say, they arent required to talk about certain issues whether they are important or not

    • @JjayNC8L
      @JjayNC8L 3 года назад +3

      @@bluesky-bp1bp I was on a aba and preach binge and that kinda exploded out, just happened to be on the wrong video yeah, there were a few statements related even if not to the video itself within the video that finally set me off

    • @bluesky-bp1bp
      @bluesky-bp1bp 3 года назад +6

      @@JjayNC8L lmao aba and preach binges to be doin that tho

    • @JjayNC8L
      @JjayNC8L 3 года назад +2

      @@bluesky-bp1bp they really do. Facts on facts

    • @bluesky-bp1bp
      @bluesky-bp1bp 3 года назад +2

      @@JjayNC8L they can be really funny sometimes, other times i feel that they add a bit to much fire to some situations lol

  • @fortunecanteven7898
    @fortunecanteven7898 3 года назад +147

    As someone in their last semester of university, this hits WAY TOO CLOSE

    • @kaycarter9024
      @kaycarter9024 3 года назад +17

      Same here. On my last year right now and my last semester starts in 3-4 months. Idk what to do anymore. Money is all I think about and what gets you the most money. I’m just sick of it. My original plan was army then college and then become a monk. I know it sounds ridiculous but all I want in my life is stability and peace. I’m sick of it.

    • @windghost2
      @windghost2 3 года назад +6

      I'm in my second to last semester, I had to push my Fall graduation to Spring because I haven't completed all the classes I needed.
      Right now, I'm burnt out. A year and 6 months before the lockdown started, I was going to school in person and since then I've been doing online school.
      Before the lockdown I had a goal to accomplish in terms of a degree and getting a job, now I'm feeling like I'm in limbo of what I want in life because of the Pandemic. At the moment, I'm just trying to get out of school and then take a year off to figure out whats next for me. Fingers crossed because I'm honestly struggling with keeping up with my classes because of the added Responsibility of taking care of my baby cousin.
      Crazy how life changes within moments.

    • @lightskinanticsjiggin8129
      @lightskinanticsjiggin8129 3 года назад

      @@windghost2 Dang that sucks whoever had the a baby needs to find a sitter.

    • @windghost2
      @windghost2 3 года назад +3

      @@lightskinanticsjiggin8129 My baby cousin is my Uncle's son and currently he doesn't have it together so Me and my family along with his maternal aunt are taking care of him.
      He's been staying with us and her back and forth for awhile now since July, recently though, his maternal aunt just had a newborn so he's been staying over longer so she can recover. It was a successful birth and we're just happy their both ok.
      We're looking into daycare for him at the moment, it's just taking time because me and my sisters are busy with Uni (Online work) and my mom is working as well.
      It's a struggle but I'll get through it.

    • @greenleaph5145
      @greenleaph5145 3 года назад +1

      @@windghost2 I have a 2 year old son and a 7 year old step daughter. My wife works full time and so do I. We practically alternate back and forth to look after, feed, teach, and interact with them. I am the only full time college student, so it's very hard. The guilt is there too when you're not putting enough time for them. Also, I am pursuing computer science.

  • @sharinganMRDBZ
    @sharinganMRDBZ 3 года назад +321

    The issue of why men are dropping out isn’t because people noticed certain majors are scams, it’s because of the atmosphere in college now

    • @asparrow9876
      @asparrow9876 3 года назад +94

      Nah bro its not just one thing. It's an accumulation of so many things that it became too much. So much so that even young men who have no wisdom can see the obviously evident choice that not going to college is better. Even a blind mentally challenged guy could see it. That's the thing. It's become so blaringly observable how detrimental college is that very few guys can deny it's not worth it. College is a death trap.

    • @commonsensecraziness7595
      @commonsensecraziness7595 3 года назад +66

      Although I agree with@@asparrow9876 that it's not one thing, you're right. This is not the rational decision making of young men avoiding debt - these institutions are hostile towards men. Why are the white men leading the way? Consider the extreme left political beliefs of these institutions and think about it. They're hostile towards men, but especially white men. All you need to do is compare the male-female ratio of enrolment to the male-female ratio of students that drop out and the issue should be crystal clear what's really driving this.

    • @sharinganMRDBZ
      @sharinganMRDBZ 3 года назад +48

      @@asparrow9876 ​ Not disagreeing with whether it is just one thing, but the main focus point of why men are dropping out are mainly due to the point Common Sense Craziness stated. If I was a white man, why would I enter an institution that views me and actually tells me to my face that I'm a terrible person. I have heard and seen comments regarding white men in majors that is appalling.

    • @GFTCNJ
      @GFTCNJ 3 года назад +33

      That’s exactly what is. Who wants to put up with being demonized constantly? At this point, lots of white dudes wouldn’t even go if it was free.

    • @gbrooks9509
      @gbrooks9509 3 года назад +5

      People did alot of drugs in the 80s and 90s so what we're seeing with the current rise in dropouts, overdoses, and vehicular fatalities amongst their children is the result of all that reckless behavior. For example, many of the popular rock musicians from the 1990s died prematurely from drugs: Kurt Cobain, Chris Cornell, Lance Staley, Dolores O'Riordan , Richard Hoon(Blind Melon), Scott Weiland, Chester Bennington,etc .......

  • @doomduck9073
    @doomduck9073 3 года назад +196

    I relate to that phrase so much... "I just feel so lost" Throughout my four years in high school, and the next four years in university, it always felt like what I was learning didn't matter, but my family would continually tell me that that was the way. Now I actually know what I want (I always wanted to write a story, so I started writing a web novel series at the start of the lockdowns and have gotten nice results and enjoyed my time with this hobby), and if I had started years ago before any of this instead of being told that was a wrong path and a stupid one, I think id be much less depressed than I am now.

    • @iilxlath9164
      @iilxlath9164 3 года назад +8

      Don’t be shy, what’s your webcomic called. 😏

    • @ixibenkenixi7451
      @ixibenkenixi7451 3 года назад +6

      This hit me hard man :( we’re in the same situation

    • @blooddemon1702
      @blooddemon1702 3 года назад +3

      This was one of my #1 complaints that went unheard now I don't even complain that they don't hear me anymore. I don't bother complaining at all anymore. School was killing me draining me but I did a work internship that paid me nothing but taught me so damn much and it was the absolute most fun I've ever had in my entire life then I started getting paid and it was even better. But now after everything the emptiness just eats up all the energy and happiness the little bit we can get our hands on. The worst part for people who have to live this kind of life is you will never be living just surviving till you finally get to die and not deal with it anymore. I'm not trying to be pessimistic or downtrodden just brutally honest. People like us don't want to be happy or successful anymore we just want to die in peace where the issues we had resolved or not, simply don't affect us because we've removed the problem itself or ourself from them. This is the world we live in and it's a sad one. But at the very least at least there are those of us that can understand each other and strive to survive. Stay strong and go out on your terms!

    • @raymondotoole2600
      @raymondotoole2600 3 года назад +6

      Fuck all that “ if I started years ago” look at your life so far. You’ve endured a lot of suffering which is the story… you’re a human. There’s no need to be depressed because you can either look at your past and be depressed about it which is the loser mentality or you can accept that this is what happened, what did I learn from it and how can I articulate myself so many understand, relate and take action. You have a gift and that’s life’s experience. We humans find it very hard to stop feeling depressed but realise you are depressed then draw a line on your time with depression then start to express on paper about your time being depressed and in that piece of writing you’ve written a story. That story will reach millionnsssss. we’re all the same, just different in many ways. All 7.5 billion humans apart from the a small minority of people that can feel have experienced every single emotion.

    • @raymondotoole2600
      @raymondotoole2600 3 года назад +2

      I’m kinda jealous in a way mate. You’ve gained such a valuable experience and you have to use that! use it don’t just let it die off because it’s stupid to do that and an absolute waste. There’s just so many out there that you can connect with your personal experiences. You’ve got this brother !

  • @retrowave69
    @retrowave69 2 года назад +18

    I'm currently in a university debt free. Though I failed my first semester because it was almost all online. I made enough money to pay for both semesters, It's a cheap college but hey, it's something.
    Though I'm currently wondering if I should just stop going after this semester, work on patenting something I made for a class project, making a working prototype, all that. The professor even told me I should patent the idea.

    • @jesseskd04
      @jesseskd04 2 года назад

      That could bring you a lot of success long-term, even if it doesn't work out first time. Definitely have a deeper talk with that professor about it, if they're willing to have that chat with you.

  • @sweettea3879
    @sweettea3879 3 года назад +89

    I remember one afternoon, I happily went to my Mom telling her I'm interested in becoming a music therapist (I've since changed my mind about that). And before I could even elaborate on my interest, my mom began screaming and yelling at me for changing my mind and belittling the occupation. She ended her rant stating how she doesn't like people who don't know what they want/want to do. I was 16 at the time. My parents are immigrants, but I feel that becomes an excuse to pardon shitty parenting. Now I don't disclose many changes in me to my mom.

    • @LostInForums
      @LostInForums 3 года назад +1

      "I've since changed my mind about that"
      No offense but that kinda says it all

    • @anactualguy8257
      @anactualguy8257 3 года назад +16

      @@LostInForums That's why she said she was 16, the point was idk...the YELLING AND SCREAMING instead of gentle inquiry into if that's the right decision, hell my dad is a therapist, and the market is only on the rise.

    • @dirkhandke7444
      @dirkhandke7444 3 года назад +7

      Sometimes patents want to live through their children. Maybe that mum had a dream she could not fulfill for herself, maybe studying to become a lawyer, whatever, with the prestige and money that comes with it, because of ability or opportunity or discipline, etc. Then, when the child has a different dream, the mom loses it and yells and belittles, to manipulate the kid back into what the mum wants in the first place! It's possible, isn't it? Also, and this is maybe not a nice thing to say publicly, but it is the truth, sometimes there are patents, who DO NOT have the best intentions on their minds for their children! They are thinking of, if the child does this or gets into this, that would benefit them! Not everyone's life is a Disney movie...

    • @mandu6665
      @mandu6665 3 года назад +4

      Goes the same for non-immigrant parents. Told mine at 17 that I wanted to go to a two year art school to improve my skills so I could get a tattoo apprenticeship after. They basically said they'd disown me if I did and regretably I listened to them.

    • @obo2999
      @obo2999 3 года назад +1

      @@mandu6665 seems like your parents did you a favor

  • @thebackchannel1641
    @thebackchannel1641 3 года назад +68

    "If you can't pay, then you don't play. " was one of the wisest things MY single mother gave me growing up.
    Of all of the trouble I did get into, financial trouble wasn't one of them.