I do understand this. Parents go through their personal lot. But theirs be the struggles of not having enough compassion for each other and some do not allow women to be learned. Prayers for families.
All so call man made pastor with mind that is worst than that of demons itself. He turn his children against their mother because he can not control her . Lot of women is going through a lot karma will catch up with the man that called himself a pastor and can not fixed his problems. The stories is beyond what is presented on the air.
@@alfredsamson6428 she's a mother, in the course of administration of justice guess she's still giving room for forgiveness and reconciliation. Everyone needs forgiveness once in a while.🙏
Meanwhile, the mother did not cry. She has no connection with the children. That was what gave birth to and you grew up in my womb and was touching her womb. Serious entitlement spirit.
Madam Judge Funmi, You have wisdoms, I've been following you for a long time now, all your resolves gives me joy and I always appreciate you in every video how you manage Pple and their cases. Well-done Ma.
Poverty is a bastard, even at that he stood his ground to stay and love the children without running away like the mother did eleven years. Does anyone know this man, I want to be a blessing to him
i have seen him couple of times in my area as am also staying within that iba and igando axis.. immediately as i started watching this even before he stated where he resides i told my wife and children that i know this man some where around... no issues whenever i come across him i will relate it to him and find a way to link you guys..or better still if you can get his contact from the court it will be good if they can release it to you.... cheers
This judge sounds biased, she's so concerned about her bonding with the children not even considering if they will be safe with her....My woman abandoned 2 kids with me years back, a boy and girl and my daughter was the oldest at just 4 years old, last month March 2024 she came back to claim them and my daughter is 16 now while the boy is 13...she took me to the police and lied that i beat her up every time she come to see the children that is why she has not been visiting, this is someone i haven't set my eyes on for almost 12 years,she bribe the police lady that was in charge of the case to locked me up just so she could go with the children, thank goodness my son refuse to go but she went with my daughter till date I don't know where they are...fear women.
Broken home is a pandemic the outcome to the society cut across borders. Majority broken home is cos by the woman. At 25-35yrs a woman is humble & respectful after 35yrs with children she fights for equality & feminism, lack respect. I guess F-Gender are nation builders but now they are generation destroyer.
We forgot that there cant be real reconciliation between mother and children if we cant atleast condemn the wrongs of the motber who abandoned her children for many years in pursuit of filmsy jobs
Even the judge couldn't find a lasting solution to the matter yet, how much more we, the viewers, who supposed to watch & learn from Happenings. Non of us has ever lived with these couples;we are only seeing them in court to say their minds.
I actually shedded tears when the girl started crying..that girl needs counseling. Knowing ur mother don’t love u as a child and remember that this kids has to experience it from small and now she is 19. It has messed up with her mind already. And it will really take her time to really see her mother as her mother cos she has waged a wall and the woman needs to do a lot of job to gain trust from the kids that she will not abandon them again. U missed out on their upbringing. She had to learn to use pad from her dad when u r suppose to guide her. Mama, drop their military way and start now to walk ur way to winning this kids heart again to want to be free to relate with u. Am sure the kids saw what they saw that u we’re bringing men to ur Abuja house and all these put together, it will be hard for them to respect u. U get work to do from my own understanding.
The born of contention comes from the woman getting transfer to Abuja and the man believes his woman is out of reach and that she is no longer in control of the woman. What happened between them is disparity called compatibility in education which the man believes he is the facilitator. The war is based on the man's ego
When the daughter expressed her anger over the reaction of her mother after seeing her in years, the woman should have at least apologized to her knowing it hurts her. But no, "I am your mother I carried you for 9months". Show love madam, be soft, your daughter is not responsible for you and your husband's problem. Thank you my number one Judge, Judge Funmi. May the Almighty God continue to give you more wisdom, knowledge and understanding🙏❤️
which truths? Because he sponsored her in school and that the woman has good work? The ego conflict started with the man. He wants the woman to be under his perpetual control and love means gives and takes.
@@phillipsbakare1016it doesn't ring a bell to you that when different family members have issues with you you must check yourself? So because she has a job the husband can no longer talk and she listen, and there you are talking about ego or whatever, if he doesn't want her to be educated would he have sent her to school, you old but u no wise, na una type women dey use do yeye
True, children don't lie but they only say what they've been told. The marriage has been faulty before the transfer. Another observation is, I feel the man is not totally saying the truth
@@oluwafunmilabake8948but u heard the man said the children said that the mother brings another man in an they will be kissing, so the children refused to go with her. . And the woman did not deny it. . If u are the children, how will feel seeing ur mum bringing another man and kissing him when your father is still alive and not divorced. . One 18 year boy in USA, sh0t his mother and wounded the mother’s bf because of this
What touched me and brought tears to my eyes, was when the daughter described how cold her mum was to her when they saw each other after many years. Which means that the daughter was actually eager to see her mum and to feel the love of a mother after a long time, but she was left heart broken. Parents should know that the primary source of love for children is from them. Children cherish love they get from their parents and it remains engraved in their memories for the rest of their lives. And reverse is the case, if parents refuse to show love to their children. Parents should do better.
The judge can't say the man won't take care of the children because since eleven years the children have not die, sometimes people believe money can do all things but money can't buy you the love as you want it, since the man train the wife till she graduated the children will also go school ,the man also said that if worse come will sale its land that spoke volumes of the man, ❤
Learning a skill is the way to feed a nation, going to school open your mind to the world beyond your community and having both make you a confident person that can survive in our world today
I lost my parents at age 2 and I've always felt that a huge part of me was missing, seeing this woman I would prefer to be an Orphan all over again than to have a mother who lacks empathy, also the father is a sad and bitter man who has put his feelings and emotions above that of his kids. Marriages end and not all couples stay together but the parents should be diplomatic and resolve issues with humility and empathy because of the kids involved. All I see are selfish parents trying to be right and ruining their kids 11 years after the kids can see and understand things for themselves and they're messed up adults using drugs and going through a lot of trauma. Parents need to do better, every child deserves loving parents and if the marriage ends the love of the children should be the ultimate goal. Arrangements should be made diplomatically for both parents to be involved in helping the kids. Our Children are our future.
To that young lady, I sympathize and empathize with you, I cry with you, please remember you have your whole life ahead of you. Seek healing, focus on getting an education try to do better for your kids in the future try not to repeat the circle of pain and trauma and most importantly forgive your parents. Forgive them for your sake, so you can find healing yourself. I wish you happiness in this world filled with hope and endless possibilities.
I don't think the man is the problem here Rather the woman because if the man allow the children to stay with their mother, the children might end up behaving like their mother which is not good for a female child due to the men that visit their mother
A colleague of mine in our office had a similar experience. His wife sought transfer to Abuja behind his back while leaving him with 4 kids in Lagos. He only gets to see her twice in a year. There was this year he did not see her for one whole year, so he took part of his annual leave to go to Abuja. He was shocked at the sight of his wife who was already 7 months pregnant. He didn't ask her how it happened. He returned to Lagos and that was the end of the marriage till today. He has since remarried another woman and his most senior kid just finished NYSC while the younger ones are in the university now. No job or profession is bigger than the family bond and the family bond should not be sacrificed on the alter of developing a career selfishly. There must be a balance. The woman in this case is somewhat mean towards her first daughter. The woman should have used her educational exposure to find a role for herself in her husband's ministry to help him in burden sharing and running his ministry instead of picking a secular job and going away to Abuja to be messing around as alleged.
Old age is here, loneliness is knocking she realized she had kids. How proud she was to say she missed out during her entire secondary education. What a shame!
I just had to cry when the girl started talking because I really can’t hold it anymore, no remorseful thoughts in the tune of her mother, he has to learn in the hard way like VDM
As a mom this literally brought tears to my eyes hearing the daughter express her feelings and the mother who says she carried her in her womb didn’t even show any emotions as the daughter express her feelings. So SAD🙆🏾♀️
😪😥 I have never cried while watching a case before, but this one was so emotional as I watched their daughter sub in tears in the courtroom, and then tears ran down my chick. Let's pray for every home passing through one challenge or the other. May the grace of God abund IJN 😢😢..... it's well.
Prayers Request I need God's intervention in my life and family.... Protection from envious and toxic working environment. 2. I need divine breakthrough in Jesus mighty name Amen 🙏🏻. God bless this ministry 🙏🏻
This woman was pampered in this court session she doesnt even feel remorseful for her actions, after 7 years without setting her eyes on her children she could not even talk politely and lovingly to her daughter very bad
There was NO I Mean NO Connection emotionally from the Mother. I felt so sorry for the young Lady. The mother think is by giving Money that will bring the kids to her Lane.
Broken marriage is an evil and devastating influence on innocent children. I am really emotional about this case. May God heal the kids and resolve the case.
This is the first time I'm seeing judge Fumi not telling the raw truth like telling the woman her wrongs instead of petting her for her wrong behavior over the years. After 11years she now realizes she wants to be a part of their education and the judge is saying to the man that "you're even a pastor". So because he's a pastor, he should be happy that he has a disloyal woman as a wife who left him and the kids for over a decade. Abuja men don finish you remain shafts, now you remember your children. I'm disappointed judge Fumi and I hope she won't corrupt the 19years old daughter to become like her.
I agree with you. Judge Funmi did not address the woman truthfully, she is clearly taking sides. If it’s the other way round I know her she won’t be this mild. She is still kind of accusing the Pastor after all the woman has done. Thank God the children are there to corroborate the man’s story. I pray God will bless the man to take care of his kids.
@@dave75nowI don’t think she is taking sides. Like she said she wouldn’t go into their complaints, past and all. She is only interested in the children bonding with their mother. Every child needs their mother and father and two wrongs don’t make a right. They are both at fault including her family but the man should know better as a Pastor even more than the woman who is not.
I like it when men step up and defend their families. Some women don't understand that when you choose family, that is your primary assignment, NOT the job! Any job that separates you from your family has long-term consequences. It is not a popular reality, but it is a FACT.
I think African parents should learn how to be more compassionate. The era of i carried you for 9 months has passed. If u can't say i love you, at least say i am sorry...
It's a shame that a mother who is supposed to be loving is asking her daughter "what" why looking at her. She even has the guts to say " and you grow up in my womb" as though the child asked to be born by her. The nonsense attitude of SOME mothers is so sickening.
African mothers ehnnn.....that short scene at the end just speaks it all....African parents need to start looking at themselves....they are letting the offsprings down
All I see is that the father has poisoned the children's mind against their mother, the scene that happened in d court room now means things have gone wrong behind the scene, may b the girl looked at her mother somehow, we were not there don't take side, see the way the man was talking for the girl, mind u the father will have prepared the girl well knowing well that they were going to court.
@@bukolaajayi3381 oga abi madam, this ur theory no follow? U didn't hear the mum's response? Your mother didn't leave u for 11 years, so u wont understand.
This woman is good and will be blessed with love. She chose to get out of a bad relationship. A pastor should never bear false witness about others. This speaks volumes about what poor choices he has made in his home. 🙏💕🙏💕
She should have said so if that was the case, but the only case is for the woman to be accessed to her children which she has ruled on as a female judge, even if the woman want to continue prostitution is not her case. In court u don't advice adult on how to leave his or her life, court only judge your life not to advise you
My take on this: 1. Why will a responsible married woman separate from her husband and for 11 years you have not made frantic efforts to see your children? 2. If it is true the husband trained her to the university and she chose to treat him this way, i feel sorry for. 3. From the testimony of the two, i tend to believe the husband to a larger degree. Though he seem to dominerring toward the wife. 4. The woman truly in my view sought for thevtransfer to Abuja to leave her life to the fullest. I personally doubt her faithfulness/commitment to her marriage and the husband. 5. It appears the mother in-law contributed to this mess going bynthe confession of the husband. 6. With the emotional outbursts of the daughter, it seems the woman is not a real woman and mothet that she supposed to be. LESSON: 1.If you know you are not going to faithful and committed to any man or woman, please dont get married. 2. Before you take any carreer decision, consider your marriage/ home first. 3. Marriages comes with a lot of sacrifice. If you are not prepared to make those sacrifices, dont jump into it. May we be found worthy!
The mother may not have had the money to go through the courts to gain visitation rights legally. Neither lawyers nor the courts are free. When my ex-husband abandoned me but would not sign divorce paperwork, I used tax refund money & I began selling my furniture to make some extra money to pay my lawyer. That took almost 2 years. He earned twice as much as I did, so money didn't matter to him. Plus I still had a minor child at home. Child support money went towards her education by order of the judge since she had been in private school since Pre-K.
What a lesson when he said: I send her to school because I thought we are one. That is a costly assumption that everyone that loved a wrong spouse always learnt at the end. As a man love yourself than you love any other person.
This judgement can never force this girl to bond with her mum considering how traumatised she sounded. The mother appeared less bordered by her daughter's outburst. Madam, that you bore her in your womb is no longer a reason for her to embrace you if you had abandoned them for 11yrs. The girl has come to an age where her feelings are defined & justified; and her age and decision backed by law (no longer a minor). There has to be sincere apologies, total change of attitude from the mother and a display of genuine love to her children to win their affection back. Court judgement can not enforce that, even if you rule for her to have access to them.
No child can forcefully bond with an unrepentant and loving mother or father. She need to first of all repent, apologize and amend her ways especially on how she treat her kids. True love birth positive feeling so does hate and maltreatment birth negative feelings and hate. If the woman need her kids trust me she knows what to do, the judge should not force bonding between the woman and her kids if it can't come through submissiveness and repentance from their mother. For me I will ask the woman what she really want because all I could gather from her is that she want to be part of her kids education like some kind of investor so that could have a say in their future. I expect true mother not able to hold it together when she saw a daughter she left 11 years ago in tears but also break down into tears too and run to her daughter
It just shows her true personality. She’s heartless and mean. Same way she abandoned the man to be carrying different men after training her in school is still the same way she abandoned her own children.
Well-done. You nailed it and the difference is clear. The African girl cannot confide in her mum next time. But for the other one, she will be happy anytime to learn more from the mum.
The girl is traumatized and the woman is very much unconcerned about the welfare of her children. All of them need some form of psycho-social attention.
Lol The way he started you'll know there has been trouble before the transfer happened. There was a systematic appeal for divorce from the woman without going to court. Any man will know that such woman is not interested in the marriage anymore. This is sad to watch! The mum deliberately left the kids with the husband. The whole ish now overlapped into the kids. The way the mum answered the crying daughter wasn't right!
the man should not allow her have access to the children because is like lawyer funmi don collect bribe... instead of her to ask the pastor for divorce she used a propaganda of getting work in Abuja as excuse the woman is simply a prostitude
She ran away from the man for prostitution purpose which is crystal clear but using the job transfer as evidence to back up her evil plan taking her husband for fool
Judge Judge Judge Funmi, thank you ma for your judgement. Kai, dady already poisoned their minds, they must be healed. God bless you ma, mother's role can never be ruled out. She's saying smile when the mom heart is bleeding. 😌
thay woman is not is not a mother , a mother won't be bringing in different men and be kissing them in front of her under age children. a mother can't address her daughter as this girl. that woman is evil
Don’t be surprised, every single thing that man said is true, She has been sleeping around and she’s tried and wants to children back. Bad mother even her own mother is even there laughing.
I think the court should be careful in granting this woman access to the children. She does not seem to have good intentions. She referred to the daughter as this girl. Is it that she has forgotten the daughter's name? With such attitude towards the girl, the court should ask her reasons for wanting access to the children now. I didn't see any affection from the mother, she rather appeared angry even towards the daughter. so why does she want access to the children?
She wants to be accessed to her children in case of tomorrow which people have advice her on, the truth of the matter is, if truly that those children saw her kissing another man bringing men home, no matter what she try to gain in future she has totally lost it,mostly when u have female children they hardly forgive
When the friendship ties cut between husband and wife, then the music you heard from them is that of war particularly from the one who felt offended. Thanks to our amiable judge who understands the music and is able to settle them all. Tell the girl that supports her Dad that very soon the board will turns to her own side.
The daughter made me cry. I'm sad they are not one family. The mother appears to have found love in Abuja but her eyes don de clear. Special thanks to you Judge Fynmi. Your home will enjoy peace forever . You are probably the only judge in Nigeria currently.
Marriage and starting a family will always come with sacrifices, once you decide to have it all that’s when you start losing your family. She wanted to live like a single lady while still having a family, and the one she couldn’t sacrifice killed the other.
The woman is not responsible. She left the marriage thinking she will get married to another man who has money and maybe have other kids but it did not workout as she planned and she than remembered she has kids. It does not work like that. Even her mother is not a good mother.
When men and women feel entitled to being fathers and mothers because they’re biologically responsible, they forget underlying responsibilities. For someone trying to get her children back after many years, she’s not ready…especially with the reply she gave her crying child. I doubt she’ll ever get there with the children. She needs to be more empathetic.
After she too may have been emotionally and physically abused by her own parents....Africa is a jungle, we are cruel even to our offspring. Parents are also people dealing with childhood trauma as well.
The problem between the mother and the children started wen they told their father about the mother's boyfriends. They must have disobeyed her instruction that they should never tell their father. Her anger towards them has made the children to be scared of her. They could also, be angry that she felt that their father is not good enough for her after he paid for her university education.
The origin of this whole matter is seems to be her dissatisfaction with the man's performance in the bedroom. Hear the man's comment on his wife's remark on the matter. It's quite sad!
This episode made me emtotional... But which mother abandons her children for this long and expect a hug from them? Children dont forget these things. She now wants a hug from them claiming carrying them for 9 months when you refused to show them love? This is sad
Listening to the mother's request carefully would tell you that the woman just want to secure a place and say in the daughters education she was part of it. See what money and not been contented can cause. I literally sheared tears Listening to the daughter and the mothers response.
Why do I feel this woman is too cold and numb to be a mother? No empathy of any sort! Wow The man might as well have his own deficiencies but then, mother's are known to be much more empathic than this. She's so cold!
Your feelings are in order. The woman is very cold and seems hard hearted. When the girl started crying I was expecting her to even calm her down and pet her rather she was saying she grew in her womb.
Because she has no bond with her kids. If a 19yr old is this disconnected from her, imagine how far away the younger ones would be. She have got a lot work to do.
The difference is clear.... Not carrying them in your womb for 9-10 months that matters.... U have not done well at all..... If u are not a victim of what the man is saying....why then will you compare your husband's prick (penis) been a smaller one? That is an error.. the children should give her a million apart because she will definitely involves them in the show of her business...... I wept seeing her cried bitterly😭😭.... As a mother with a broken ❤️, u would have run close to her , wipe off her tears ...... U have failed as a mother.
Kudos to the man !!!!, he is a true father figure. We are proud of u. May God give u more strength and success in all u do. Fatherhood is proud of u
We have to pray for pastors they go through a lot! God bless them may the true preachers have a portion in heaven and a great reward
I do understand this. Parents go through their personal lot. But theirs be the struggles of not having enough compassion for each other and some do not allow women to be learned. Prayers for families.
All so call man made pastor with mind that is worst than that of demons itself. He turn his children against their mother because he can not control her . Lot of women is going through a lot karma will catch up with the man that called himself a pastor and can not fixed his problems. The stories is beyond what is presented on the air.
This man has poison the children's mind already
When the daughter broke down in tears my eyes were wet. May God help them work out this issue
same here. i am still in tears
me immediately I was soaked also with tears lawyer funmi play a bit partial with that evil woman
@@alfredsamson6428 she's a mother, in the course of administration of justice guess she's still giving room for forgiveness and reconciliation. Everyone needs forgiveness once in a while.🙏
So true I was tearing, as a mother can’t imagine not seeing my kids for one day
Meanwhile, the mother did not cry. She has no connection with the children.
That was what gave birth to and you grew up in my womb and was touching her womb. Serious entitlement spirit.
Madam Judge Funmi, You have wisdoms, I've been following you for a long time now, all your resolves gives me joy and I always appreciate you in every video how you manage Pple and their cases.
Well-done Ma.
I too love her I swear
Poverty is a bastard, even at that he stood his ground to stay and love the children without running away like the mother did eleven years. Does anyone know this man, I want to be a blessing to him
You can contact the court for his information 🙂
He is a pastor and should do better
i have seen him couple of times in my area as am also staying within that iba and igando axis.. immediately as i started watching this even before he stated where he resides i told my wife and children that i know this man some where around... no issues whenever i come across him i will relate it to him and find a way to link you guys..or better still if you can get his contact from the court it will be good if they can release it to you.... cheers
God bless
This judge sounds biased, she's so concerned about her bonding with the children not even considering if they will be safe with her....My woman abandoned 2 kids with me years back, a boy and girl and my daughter was the oldest at just 4 years old, last month March 2024 she came back to claim them and my daughter is 16 now while the boy is 13...she took me to the police and lied that i beat her up every time she come to see the children that is why she has not been visiting, this is someone i haven't set my eyes on for almost 12 years,she bribe the police lady that was in charge of the case to locked me up just so she could go with the children, thank goodness my son refuse to go but she went with my daughter till date I don't know where they are...fear women.
Omg I hate broken marriages💔💔💔, its always the children that will be the victims of their parent mistakes.
You can't hate broken marriages. It's like saying you wish this useless marriage continued with a deceptive woman.
Broken home is a pandemic the outcome to the society cut across borders. Majority broken home is cos by the woman. At 25-35yrs a woman is humble & respectful after 35yrs with children she fights for equality & feminism, lack respect. I guess F-Gender are nation builders but now they are generation destroyer.
The judge is not saying the truth
This woman obviously doesn't care about this girl emotions
The girl expression says it all.
Kudos to you sir ,is not easy the Lord will help you
"You left me first". That spoke volumes! This mom should do better.
That broke me 😢.cried away my fancy eye cream
i love this program & the way judge handles/manages the proceesings. i always watch this...
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We forgot that there cant be real reconciliation between mother and children if we cant atleast condemn the wrongs of the motber who abandoned her children for many years in pursuit of filmsy jobs
Even the judge couldn't find a lasting solution to the matter yet, how much more we, the viewers, who supposed to watch & learn from Happenings.
Non of us has ever lived with these couples;we are only seeing them in court to say their minds.
I actually shedded tears when the girl started crying..that girl needs counseling. Knowing ur mother don’t love u as a child and remember that this kids has to experience it from small and now she is 19. It has messed up with her mind already. And it will really take her time to really see her mother as her mother cos she has waged a wall and the woman needs to do a lot of job to gain trust from the kids that she will not abandon them again. U missed out on their upbringing. She had to learn to use pad from her dad when u r suppose to guide her. Mama, drop their military way and start now to walk ur way to winning this kids heart again to want to be free to relate with u. Am sure the kids saw what they saw that u we’re bringing men to ur Abuja house and all these put together, it will be hard for them to respect u. U get work to do from my own understanding.
Infact I thought I was only one who shed tears. You are very correct.
Sincerely, i shed tears too 😢 😭.
Hmmm! Marriage na wa o.
Once money don start to finish for man hand BOOM! Wife don change 😢😢😢 wahala don start for house!
Do all you can to invest in your future else she will walk away just like that
I swear
Wen money is in a man's hand,how did he treat d wife ?
You no hear say he send her to school ?
Na so
When the man said then i taught we were one, i felt my heart shatter of pain, i vould literally feel his pains, he really loved that woman
The born of contention comes from the woman getting transfer to Abuja and the man believes his woman is out of reach and that she is no longer in control of the woman. What happened between them is disparity called compatibility in education which the man believes he is the facilitator. The war is based on the man's ego
When the daughter expressed her anger over the reaction of her mother after seeing her in years, the woman should have at least apologized to her knowing it hurts her. But no, "I am your mother I carried you for 9months". Show love madam, be soft, your daughter is not responsible for you and your husband's problem. Thank you my number one Judge, Judge Funmi. May the Almighty God continue to give you more wisdom, knowledge and understanding🙏❤️
This judge spared the woman. She needed to be told some truths
which truths? Because he sponsored her in school and that the woman has good work? The ego conflict started with the man. He wants the woman to be under his perpetual control and love means gives and takes.
@@phillipsbakare1016You are evil and may such the witch of a woman meted out to that pastor befall you forever. Amen
@@phillipsbakare1016did you see the reaction of the daughter? You must be very foolish and dumb to say so, ode
@@phillipsbakare1016it doesn't ring a bell to you that when different family members have issues with you you must check yourself? So because she has a job the husband can no longer talk and she listen, and there you are talking about ego or whatever, if he doesn't want her to be educated would he have sent her to school, you old but u no wise, na una type women dey use do yeye
Mostly children don’t lie. The girl must have been an adult, but her few words speaks volumes and says a lot about the mother. JMO
True, children don't lie but they only say what they've been told.
The marriage has been faulty before the transfer.
Another observation is, I feel the man is not totally saying the truth
@@oluwafunmilabake8948but u heard the man said the children said that the mother brings another man in an they will be kissing, so the children refused to go with her.
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And the woman did not deny it.
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If u are the children, how will feel seeing ur mum bringing another man and kissing him when your father is still alive and not divorced.
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One 18 year boy in USA, sh0t his mother and wounded the mother’s bf because of this
It's obvious that the children have been detached from this woman for years and it's going to take a lot of her effort to win them back to herself
U are a great woman ur honour. Keep your good work moving forward.
Justice, thank you. May God bless you with more wisdom AND PATIENCE with these litigants who are usually stubborn. That woman didn't do well.
I like the judge.....She very motherly and wise. Respect! Sending love from Kenya.
The Father really tried and he's even determined to sell his land to train her
I was raised by my dad and this man is the real deal.
What touched me and brought tears to my eyes, was when the daughter described how cold her mum was to her when they saw each other after many years. Which means that the daughter was actually eager to see her mum and to feel the love of a mother after a long time, but she was left heart broken. Parents should know that the primary source of love for children is from them. Children cherish love they get from their parents and it remains engraved in their memories for the rest of their lives. And reverse is the case, if parents refuse to show love to their children. Parents should do better.
The judge can't say the man won't take care of the children because since eleven years the children have not die, sometimes people believe money can do all things but money can't buy you the love as you want it, since the man train the wife till she graduated the children will also go school ,the man also said that if worse come will sale its land that spoke volumes of the man, ❤
I LOVE the Judge way of handling cases 😊😊😊. It's beautiful ❤❤
Very observant and intelligent
Exactly
When the daughter was crying, i was also in tears, broken home is bad
Advice was clear from the judge, don't take sides
I love this judge. Always bonding families 🥰🥰🥰
There’s nothing wrong with learning a skill. I am a fashion designer and also a graduate.
Congratulations!!!! U are blessed ❤❤❤❤
Tell them o.learning a skill is not only for the uneducated
Blessings my dear❤sis😊
@@BriaLoveElias 🤗❤️
Learning a skill is the way to feed a nation, going to school open your mind to the world beyond your community and having both make you a confident person that can survive in our world today
I lost my parents at age 2 and I've always felt that a huge part of me was missing, seeing this woman I would prefer to be an Orphan all over again than to have a mother who lacks empathy, also the father is a sad and bitter man who has put his feelings and emotions above that of his kids. Marriages end and not all couples stay together but the parents should be diplomatic and resolve issues with humility and empathy because of the kids involved. All I see are selfish parents trying to be right and ruining their kids 11 years after the kids can see and understand things for themselves and they're messed up adults using drugs and going through a lot of trauma. Parents need to do better, every child deserves loving parents and if the marriage ends the love of the children should be the ultimate goal. Arrangements should be made diplomatically for both parents to be involved in helping the kids. Our Children are our future.
To that young lady, I sympathize and empathize with you, I cry with you, please remember you have your whole life ahead of you. Seek healing, focus on getting an education try to do better for your kids in the future try not to repeat the circle of pain and trauma and most importantly forgive your parents. Forgive them for your sake, so you can find healing yourself. I wish you happiness in this world filled with hope and endless possibilities.
I don't think the man is the problem here Rather the woman because if the man allow the children to stay with their mother, the children might end up behaving like their mother which is not good for a female child due to the men that visit their mother
This is my first time watching this. I admire Judge Funmi ‘s very calm and dispassionate demeanour. More grace Ma
I cried seeing this video.
Children are always the ones suffering from the issues. 😢😢
I cried to this woman is at fault😊
Not only children in this case that man suffered a lot and the woman sufferings is warming up
I just couldn't hold mine when their daughter busted into tears.
Me too
A colleague of mine in our office had a similar experience. His wife sought transfer to Abuja behind his back while leaving him with 4 kids in Lagos. He only gets to see her twice in a year. There was this year he did not see her for one whole year, so he took part of his annual leave to go to Abuja. He was shocked at the sight of his wife who was already 7 months pregnant. He didn't ask her how it happened. He returned to Lagos and that was the end of the marriage till today. He has since remarried another woman and his most senior kid just finished NYSC while the younger ones are in the university now.
No job or profession is bigger than the family bond and the family bond should not be sacrificed on the alter of developing a career selfishly. There must be a balance. The woman in this case is somewhat mean towards her first daughter.
The woman should have used her educational exposure to find a role for herself in her husband's ministry to help him in burden sharing and running his ministry instead of picking a secular job and going away to Abuja to be messing around as alleged.
U haven't finished ur story, so what happen to the ex-wife?
@@henryjide1329 I want to know too
@uzoamakafredrick9763 hope it's not motivational story he is telling. Well still waiting for the ending part
You made a very good point
Well said
Mama has hit the wall.. no suitor..no husband … now she wants her kids. No ma’am it doesn’t work like that.
Old age is here, loneliness is knocking she realized she had kids. How proud she was to say she missed out during her entire secondary education. What a shame!
@@RealmzDee😂😂😂😂😂 you baaaaad
U dey there...I too know
You too much
My only one Mentor. Judge, I love how you present your judgement. You are toooo much, please keep it up.
I just had to cry when the girl started talking because I really can’t hold it anymore, no remorseful thoughts in the tune of her mother, he has to learn in the hard way like VDM
WOW!
The harm some parents do to their own offspring: heartbreaking 💔 💔💔
True😢😢
I tell you..
May we no choose wrongly in life. The woman just used the man and dumped him. Men dey suffer o..hmmm..
How did she use the man pls?
As a mom this literally brought tears to my eyes hearing the daughter express her feelings and the mother who says she carried her in her womb didn’t even show any emotions as the daughter express her feelings.
So SAD🙆🏾♀️
Yep sad but true. I have seen people who lack emotions.
Yeah, this part broke my heart.
😪😥 I have never cried while watching a case before, but this one was so emotional as I watched their daughter sub in tears in the courtroom, and then tears ran down my chick. Let's pray for every home passing through one challenge or the other. May the grace of God abund IJN 😢😢..... it's well.
Love you so much ma. for this judgement and advice to the girl to stay away from adult fight. thank you ma
It is always better to hear both sides of the story.
God bless this man!!❤❤
God bless you too, it's difficult to find a sensible woman like you
The daughter cry broke my heart to tell you the pains she is going through
She is scared to go to university and needs love and encouragement.🙏💕🙏💕
Prayers Request
I need God's intervention in my life and family....
Protection from envious and toxic working environment.
2. I need divine breakthrough in Jesus mighty name Amen 🙏🏻.
God bless this ministry 🙏🏻
This woman was pampered in this court session she doesnt even feel remorseful for her actions, after 7 years without setting her eyes on her children she could not even talk politely and lovingly to her daughter very bad
Her transfer to Abuja was her own making for freedom to promiscuous
Character is like smoke; it cannot be hidden. Her reaction towards her daughter during her outburst says it all.
not everyone is emotional..lol african woman... my mum is not emotional but i know she loves us alll
There was NO I Mean NO Connection emotionally from the Mother. I felt so sorry for the young Lady. The mother think is by giving Money that will bring the kids to her Lane.
Broken marriage is an evil and devastating influence on innocent children. I am really emotional about this case. May God heal the kids and resolve the case.
This is the first time I'm seeing judge Fumi not telling the raw truth like telling the woman her wrongs instead of petting her for her wrong behavior over the years. After 11years she now realizes she wants to be a part of their education and the judge is saying to the man that "you're even a pastor". So because he's a pastor, he should be happy that he has a disloyal woman as a wife who left him and the kids for over a decade. Abuja men don finish you remain shafts, now you remember your children. I'm disappointed judge Fumi and I hope she won't corrupt the 19years old daughter to become like her.
I agree with you. Judge Funmi did not address the woman truthfully, she is clearly taking sides. If it’s the other way round I know her she won’t be this mild. She is still kind of accusing the Pastor after all the woman has done. Thank God the children are there to corroborate the man’s story. I pray God will bless the man to take care of his kids.
@@dave75now Biggest Amen! God really needs to bless him with speed.
@@dave75nowI don’t think she is taking sides. Like she said she wouldn’t go into their complaints, past and all. She is only interested in the children bonding with their mother. Every child needs their mother and father and two wrongs don’t make a right. They are both at fault including her family but the man should know better as a Pastor even more than the woman who is not.
I like it when men step up and defend their families. Some women don't understand that when you choose family, that is your primary assignment, NOT the job! Any job that separates you from your family has long-term consequences. It is not a popular reality, but it is a FACT.
@@MenaUKIf it were to be the other way round, would you have said this??
I think African parents should learn how to be more compassionate. The era of i carried you for 9 months has passed. If u can't say i love you, at least say i am sorry...
It's a shame that a mother who is supposed to be loving is asking her daughter "what" why looking at her.
She even has the guts to say " and you grow up in my womb" as though the child asked to be born by her.
The nonsense attitude of SOME mothers is so sickening.
African mothers ehnnn.....that short scene at the end just speaks it all....African parents need to start looking at themselves....they are letting the offsprings down
All I see is that the father has poisoned the children's mind against their mother, the scene that happened in d court room now means things have gone wrong behind the scene, may b the girl looked at her mother somehow, we were not there don't take side, see the way the man was talking for the girl, mind u the father will have prepared the girl well knowing well that they were going to court.
@@bukolaajayi3381 mother's love conquers All children's misbehaviours and hatred...
@@bukolaajayi3381 oga abi madam, this ur theory no follow? U didn't hear the mum's response? Your mother didn't leave u for 11 years, so u wont understand.
After her eye has now cleared, perhaps no man coming in and loneliness is now at her doorstep, she's looking for her children after 11yrs.
Best comment!
Exactly my thoughts!
In realwarripikin's voice: na now day break?!!!
After 11years!
BETTER DAYBREAK 😆
This woman is good and will be blessed with love. She chose to get out of a bad relationship. A pastor should never bear false witness about others. This speaks volumes about what poor choices he has made in his home. 🙏💕🙏💕
@@christienelson1437 please, what do you mean by false witness? Do you know the couple before?
The mother needs someone to councel her, she's also hurting but ready to reconcile with her child
Marrriage is 2 Forgivers living together ❤
omg this woman in the best judge
God bless you Ma'am
Marriage is a serious business, most of these people started happily and thought their decision to get married was the best...
Big lesson to learn, thanks to the Judge full of wisdom in her decision
Melt down all .
This judge was partial honestly for not telling the woman her wrongs. So much for women supporting women
She should have said so if that was the case, but the only case is for the woman to be accessed to her children which she has ruled on as a female judge, even if the woman want to continue prostitution is not her case. In court u don't advice adult on how to leave his or her life, court only judge your life not to advise you
You are right
There is no sentiment in court
You are a wonderful Judge 👨⚖️
I so love to listen to this judge. She is so wise and fair. She doesnt just deal with the law but with morals.watching from the Caribbean
she didn't try at all but being fair to the harlot woman
This woman is looking suspicious at all the man is saying, because she thought that the man has forgotten all about the issue.
Hmm....this is very heartbreaking. This is so unfortunate. nice one, Judge Funmi
My take on this:
1. Why will a responsible married woman separate from her husband and for 11 years you have not made frantic efforts to see your children?
2. If it is true the husband trained her to the university and she chose to treat him this way, i feel sorry for.
3. From the testimony of the two, i tend to believe the husband to a larger degree. Though he seem to dominerring toward the wife.
4. The woman truly in my view sought for thevtransfer to Abuja to leave her life to the fullest. I personally doubt her faithfulness/commitment to her marriage and the husband.
5. It appears the mother in-law contributed to this mess going bynthe confession of the husband.
6. With the emotional outbursts of the daughter, it seems the woman is not a real woman and mothet that she supposed to be.
LESSON:
1.If you know you are not going to faithful and committed to any man or woman, please dont get married.
2. Before you take any carreer decision, consider your marriage/ home first.
3. Marriages comes with a lot of sacrifice. If you are not prepared to make those sacrifices, dont jump into it.
May we be found worthy!
The mother may not have had the money to go through the courts to gain visitation rights legally. Neither lawyers nor the courts are free. When my ex-husband abandoned me but would not sign divorce paperwork, I used tax refund money & I began selling my furniture to make some extra money to pay my lawyer. That took almost 2 years. He earned twice as much as I did, so money didn't matter to him. Plus I still had a minor child at home. Child support money went towards her education by order of the judge since she had been in private school since Pre-K.
Nice write up. You should be a counselor or something
well accessed and well said.. i align with you on your submission...God bless you...
@@happybutterfly7124her case is different, a senior staff in what ever that could work her transfer to Abuja?
Feels like a lesson plan from a senior teacher/university lecturer. 😊😊😊
Ilove this judge she is cool and understandining she split the difference Ame to that
I love Judge Funmi. I wish to bring my own case before her too. What a Wisdom
What a lesson when he said: I send her to school because I thought we are one. That is a costly assumption that everyone that loved a wrong spouse always learnt at the end. As a man love yourself than you love any other person.
Bros that statement is lesson
The father is wicked he turn the children against their mother
And he says he is a pastor will you sit down and listen to that man and first thing they are Christian liers
@@josephmonlouis1073what are you even saying?
True Christian should not drag there affairs in church it should be sorted out reasonable solutions just an advice 🙏🙌
This judgement can never force this girl to bond with her mum considering how traumatised she sounded. The mother appeared less bordered by her daughter's outburst. Madam, that you bore her in your womb is no longer a reason for her to embrace you if you had abandoned them for 11yrs.
The girl has come to an age where her feelings are defined & justified; and her age and decision backed by law (no longer a minor).
There has to be sincere apologies, total change of attitude from the mother and a display of genuine love to her children to win their affection back.
Court judgement can not enforce that, even if you rule for her to have access to them.
No child can forcefully bond with an unrepentant and loving mother or father. She need to first of all repent, apologize and amend her ways especially on how she treat her kids. True love birth positive feeling so does hate and maltreatment birth negative feelings and hate.
If the woman need her kids trust me she knows what to do, the judge should not force bonding between the woman and her kids if it can't come through submissiveness and repentance from their mother.
For me I will ask the woman what she really want because all I could gather from her is that she want to be part of her kids education like some kind of investor so that could have a say in their future. I expect true mother not able to hold it together when she saw a daughter she left 11 years ago in tears but also break down into tears too and run to her daughter
Omoh dis woman if she get opportunity,she go turn d heart of d child to hers ,some women ehh, wen dey tear eye ,dey scatter tins , forgetting GOD
@@RhemaWorld-sq3reyesssoooo ,dat js true repentance oooo
The pastor ought to show example.
So sad it's never easy for couples to stay apart, the problems are enormous
This woman is somehow heartless,you left your children for years all she could say is that "You Grow In My Womb" No Feelings No Love 😢
Imagine! As if she rented the children the womb and they owe her payment for it. So unfortunate
That was the most stupid statement of all time!!!!
It shocked me !!!
Imagine. I can't believe her
It just shows her true personality. She’s heartless and mean. Same way she abandoned the man to be carrying different men after training her in school is still the same way she abandoned her own children.
this judge is very intelligent. she knows how to focus on the ISSUES FOR DETERMINATION... despite all other preliminary issues that may come up.
The judge is doing a great work in the court hearing 🙏❤️
The woman need to apologize to her daughter with passion just am sorry please forgive me my daughter
D facial expression of this man mother inlaw says alot.. D girl cry tear me up.. May God restore peace in this family Amen
I always love how Judge Funmi handles & reconciles disputes.
Well-done. You nailed it and the difference is clear. The African girl cannot confide in her mum next time. But for the other one, she will be happy anytime to learn more from the mum.
The girl is traumatized and the woman is very much unconcerned about the welfare of her children. All of them need some form of psycho-social attention.
Not all women are to be mothers .
I felt sorry for the daughter brought tears to my eyes .
Lol
The way he started you'll know there has been trouble before the transfer happened.
There was a systematic appeal for divorce from the woman without going to court. Any man will know that such woman is not interested in the marriage anymore.
This is sad to watch! The mum deliberately left the kids with the husband. The whole ish now overlapped into the kids.
The way the mum answered the crying daughter wasn't right!
Correct the woman never loved him, she only loved his money and has to leave when the money wasn't forth coming
She is a witch to be a mother
the man should not allow her have access to the children because is like lawyer funmi don collect bribe... instead of her to ask the pastor for divorce she used a propaganda of getting work in Abuja as excuse the woman is simply a prostitude
She ran away from the man for prostitution purpose which is crystal clear but using the job transfer as evidence to back up her evil plan taking her husband for fool
pastor uche be consoled God will sanctify you abundantly with unmerited grace and favor
Judge Judge Judge Funmi, thank you ma for your judgement. Kai, dady already poisoned their minds, they must be healed. God bless you ma, mother's role can never be ruled out. She's saying smile when the mom heart is bleeding. 😌
thay woman is not is not a mother , a mother won't be bringing in different men and be kissing them in front of her under age children. a mother can't address her daughter as this girl. that woman is evil
You are even more wicked than the woman
Don’t be surprised, every single thing that man said is true, She has been sleeping around and she’s tried and wants to children back. Bad mother even her own mother is even there laughing.
I think the court should be careful in granting this woman access to the children. She does not seem to have good intentions. She referred to the daughter as this girl. Is it that she has forgotten the daughter's name? With such attitude towards the girl, the court should ask her reasons for wanting access to the children now. I didn't see any affection from the mother, she rather appeared angry even towards the daughter. so why does she want access to the children?
Very right...
Thanks for that observation. The woman is not showing any signs of remorse
The only reason she wants the kids back is “old age”.
She wants to be accessed to her children in case of tomorrow which people have advice her on, the truth of the matter is, if truly that those children saw her kissing another man bringing men home, no matter what she try to gain in future she has totally lost it,mostly when u have female children they hardly forgive
The man Nd his pple has poisoned the children mind. Only if u have an idea of what that means
Your honor, please do well to bring the children and their mother together. Keep the good work.
When the friendship ties cut between husband and wife, then the music you heard from them is that of war particularly from the one who felt offended. Thanks to our amiable judge who understands the music and is able to settle them all. Tell the girl that supports her Dad that very soon the board will turns to her own side.
Love this judge she is so lovely
Broken marriage is like urban war children always the victim. not even a sweet words from mom after eleven years. So sad
The daughter made me cry.
I'm sad they are not one family.
The mother appears to have found love in Abuja but her eyes don de clear.
Special thanks to you Judge Fynmi. Your home will enjoy peace forever . You are probably the only judge in Nigeria currently.
Na ur papa born u, exactly what happened to her
Marriage and starting a family will always come with sacrifices, once you decide to have it all that’s when you start losing your family. She wanted to live like a single lady while still having a family, and the one she couldn’t sacrifice killed the other.
How? She took the children but the man went after her.
TWO STORIES HERE, "the woman's & the man',s + children's, umm
Tears just Dropped......youth please let learn to stop
I love d Judge,❤🎉God will bless you more
The woman is not responsible. She left the marriage thinking she will get married to another man who has money and maybe have other kids but it did not workout as she planned and she than remembered she has kids. It does not work like that. Even her mother is not a good mother.
Thank you and well said
Just look at the face of her mother from behind... she doesn't care 🙁
Please I need contact, can someone help me
When men and women feel entitled to being fathers and mothers because they’re biologically responsible, they forget underlying responsibilities. For someone trying to get her children back after many years, she’s not ready…especially with the reply she gave her crying child. I doubt she’ll ever get there with the children. She needs to be more empathetic.
After she too may have been emotionally and physically abused by her own parents....Africa is a jungle, we are cruel even to our offspring.
Parents are also people dealing with childhood trauma as well.
Thank you
you can see that she is heartless (mother) but I don't just like the way lawyer funmi pampered the evil woman because she is not ready to change
The problem between the mother and the children started wen they told their father about the mother's boyfriends. They must have disobeyed her instruction that they should never tell their father. Her anger towards them has made the children to be scared of her. They could also, be angry that she felt that their father is not good enough for her after he paid for her university education.
You are very right
you are 100 percent right
Sending women to school works two side.
God bless you.
The origin of this whole matter is seems to be her dissatisfaction with the man's performance in the bedroom. Hear the man's comment on his wife's remark on the matter. It's quite sad!
Watching from Jamaica 🇯🇲
I like this judge, she takes her time with the caae, try and look for a resolution. She is a wonderful judge
This episode made me emtotional... But which mother abandons her children for this long and expect a hug from them? Children dont forget these things. She now wants a hug from them claiming carrying them for 9 months when you refused to show them love? This is sad
God help us men
This woman get mind ooo, she didn't struggled to meet her children after 11 years😮😮. Madam please fear God small nah.
I pray to God to restore the home Amen
which home?
@@omoayi😮
Listening to the mother's request carefully would tell you that the woman just want to secure a place and say in the daughters education she was part of it.
See what money and not been contented can cause.
I literally sheared tears Listening to the daughter and the mothers response.
Well done my sister God bless uou
Why do I feel this woman is too cold and numb to be a mother? No empathy of any sort! Wow
The man might as well have his own deficiencies but then, mother's are known to be much more empathic than this. She's so cold!
Your feelings are in order. The woman is very cold and seems hard hearted. When the girl started crying I was expecting her to even calm her down and pet her rather she was saying she grew in her womb.
Because she has no bond with her kids. If a 19yr old is this disconnected from her, imagine how far away the younger ones would be. She have got a lot work to do.
The difference is clear.... Not carrying them in your womb for 9-10 months that matters.... U have not done well at all..... If u are not a victim of what the man is saying....why then will you compare your husband's prick (penis) been a smaller one? That is an error.. the children should give her a million apart because she will definitely involves them in the show of her business...... I wept seeing her cried bitterly😭😭.... As a mother with a broken ❤️, u would have run close to her , wipe off her tears ...... U have failed as a mother.