Do we all have Insecurities? | Fridays with Tab and Chance

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  • Опубликовано: 25 ноя 2024

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  • @brendaadams9315
    @brendaadams9315 Год назад +141

    I love what Chance said that "I see what you see but I don't see the way you see it"! That's a profound statement! I love it!

  • @RockStar-ee3jb
    @RockStar-ee3jb Год назад +587

    I like how chance is so thoughtful before he responds. He doesn't respond quickly but ponders before he speaks.

  • @sunkist3304
    @sunkist3304 Год назад +130

    I went from 145lbs to 260lbs then down to 174lbs … working my way back down… my husband NEVER told me I was fat or body shamed me. He’s a keeper! I’m my own worst enemy.

  • @ginaloveslife8012
    @ginaloveslife8012 Год назад +413

    Don’t y’all just love them?!!!! we love y’all because you’re so authentic which is rare nowadays.❤

  • @Cam-kv5kx
    @Cam-kv5kx Год назад +166

    please don’t ever stop Fridays with Tab and Chance. I appreciate the honest and authentic conversations!! You all are doing a great work!!

  • @shawnjones08
    @shawnjones08 Год назад +208

    When Chance mentioned feeling like another woman was talking about Tab when she would speak negatively about herself I could relate. When my friends talk that way about themselves I’m quick to say “Don’t talk about my YOU like that!” Sometimes we need a reminder of the person we are from out loved one’s perspective. 18:12

  • @candicemessiah7106
    @candicemessiah7106 Год назад +95

    I love how Chance be looking at her while she's talking about insecurities like "And you can still GET IT."

  • @Reu1985
    @Reu1985 Год назад +100

    The way Unc takes care with what he says and how Auntie receives it ...sooo much love ❤️

  • @vmw12345
    @vmw12345 Год назад +54

    I wish my ex was like Chance. My ex was a full blown narcissist who got much worse the longer we were married. I always took care of my weight and appearance. Others thought I was good. However, not only did my ex make me feel horrible about my body, but colorism was an issue for him too. He liked them light skin, slim and long "good hair". I was dark skin, nice shape but curvy (after baby), with shoulder length permed hair. I could NEVER measure up in his eyes and he always let me know through his actions. My self-esteem took a huge blow. It has taken a lot post-divorce to feel better about myself. Seeing Tab and Chance gives me hope.

    • @tastenc42
      @tastenc42 Год назад +1

      I know exactly how you feel I was too was but now separated from a narcissist and I was just telling my friend this morning how he picked me apart and I can't wait to God since me somebody that will just love me for my dimples imperfections and all

    • @alwaysroni8110
      @alwaysroni8110 Год назад +2

      I’m so happy and proud for you that you were released from that man and that situation and took the steps to heal from that. 💅🏾 I had a narcissist parent and am in the process of healing myself as well.

  • @dahliavarghese6037
    @dahliavarghese6037 Год назад +104

    'You're perfect with your imperfections...to me' Chance to Tab 😍 This hit me right in the ❤

  • @tracycharnell
    @tracycharnell Год назад +246

    I met you guys last week at the Image awards. Thank you so much for being authentic and not afraid to engage with your fans.

    • @YolandaK
      @YolandaK Год назад +8

      How nice🙏🏾❤. I can’t wait for that opportunity. My 7 yr old twin girls want to meet Tab also. They just love Tab Time on YT❤. I explain how positive & uplifting this couple is. We use her hair products, Sunshine etc 😁

    • @KathyYvette
      @KathyYvette Год назад +5

      I can't wait to meet them too!❤️ my daughter would like to meet choyce too

    • @JoyceDoty
      @JoyceDoty Год назад +7

      They definitely are authentic. I met them and took pictures with them at the Kale My Name grand opening in LA.

    • @tammyhaynes6728
      @tammyhaynes6728 Год назад +2

      Same I can’t wait to meet Tab as well

    • @nobuhlegamede9818
      @nobuhlegamede9818 Год назад

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @rollins216
    @rollins216 Год назад +15

    These are some grown folks sharing a grown experience and I love it!

  • @champagnegold8614
    @champagnegold8614 Год назад +77

    I sense vulnerability from both of them. I really appreciate their transparency and their courage to open up. This is beautiful.

  • @jacquelineervin457
    @jacquelineervin457 Год назад +26

    Tab and Chance both have the most beautiful smiles. They demonstrate true FRIENDSHIP with each other.

  • @martij3220
    @martij3220 Год назад +83

    This also speaks to the type of friends that Chance have. They love and respect their women, and see their true value. Love and Respect!! Thank you for this conversation.

    • @lynntodd2845
      @lynntodd2845 Год назад +1

      Exactly... Most men are so superficial. We think we have to have a perfect body

    • @oneof7billion627
      @oneof7billion627 Год назад +2

      I wish he had some single friends in Houston with that mentality.

    • @lynntodd2845
      @lynntodd2845 Год назад +1

      @@oneof7billion627 Memphis Tennessee also 😂😂

    • @alwaysroni8110
      @alwaysroni8110 Год назад

      This comment is what I was looking for. Chance and the men he calls friends are what’s the difference here.

  • @discoveringwildflowers
    @discoveringwildflowers Год назад +68

    I needed to hear this tonight. I've always been "curvy". My whole life! But I lost over 120 pounds and kept it off for 7 years. The last year, I gained back 50 pounds. I've been struggling with the whole image situation. I believe God loves me for me and knows my heart but it's still a struggle! You all are a blessing! Thank you! 🙏

  • @elizabethderico6558
    @elizabethderico6558 Год назад +41

    I wish this episode was longer!! I love how Chance said “it was like a another woman talking about his girl” my husband said something like this and it made me realize I had to get out of my head! Tab showing her stomach was everything! I love this couple! Prayers for God to remain a solid foundation for them. ❤

  • @reneah9199
    @reneah9199 Год назад +42

    Now Tab don’t do caffeine 😂! But I got say , Chance broke this Friday all the down . When I felt confident so did my spouse being with me. Honey this our favorite couple right here ! 🤎🤎

  • @amberlockhart789
    @amberlockhart789 3 месяца назад +1

    I love the example that y’all set (whether you know it or not), for how a marriage is supposed to be. Or at least an important aspect, which is giving each other the freedom to be their authentic selves, and cherishing them exactly as they are in the moment.

  • @cheche5589
    @cheche5589 Год назад +27

    Chance thanks for the male perspective. We as women stay in the trenches trying to be perfect when healthy and happy is the real goal.

  • @thisismylife2222
    @thisismylife2222 Год назад +2

    I love how they look at each other

  • @redefininggrowth7192
    @redefininggrowth7192 Год назад +63

    I love Chance's responses to EVERYTHING! Tab, I truly hope that you realize the gem that you are & that you have ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️!!! And, vice versa

  • @nessjobel9442
    @nessjobel9442 Год назад +26

    If I could give this episode 10 thumbs up I would! It was just perfect. Everything Chance said was on point. I love how he loves her, and she him. And Tabitha is just so honest and brave. To show her old insecurities and still shine beautifully as she does it 😍 y’all beautiful just the way y’all are. Keep up with the positive content please. We need more of that in todays world

  • @sherrillbutler6095
    @sherrillbutler6095 11 месяцев назад +2

    I love when he said watch how you talk to my girlfriend and the way she smiled❤

  • @gwendolynreilly7979
    @gwendolynreilly7979 Год назад +42

    Yes some men are like Chance. Unfortunately my ex wasn't that way. He would always say you look great except...well saying except just negated that I look great! I took a blow to my self esteem for a while. He always complained about my weight. Meanwhile he was overweight and it never bothered me. Anyway, thanks for all the Fridays!!! Love y'all ❤️

    • @reneah9199
      @reneah9199 Год назад +4

      Well said ! My narcissist ex made me low so he felt better and higher of himself . My spouse now is my motivation and benefits 😂 we look great honey ! 🤎

  • @kimdean9085
    @kimdean9085 Год назад +11

    Tabitha I love you for being free. I have a 'Chance' who loves me. You two are called to this....thank you!

  • @catherinefrye7269
    @catherinefrye7269 Год назад +3

    Tabitha I can relate to everything that you are saying. My husband is like Chance, he didn't relate to how I was looking like I did. My husband said that he loved me just the way I was fat, skinny, whatever. I just didn't like the way that I looked after I had my last two children. I had 5 in all. But today at 75 years old, I love the way I look! Most people think that I am 45 or 50 years old and I just smile.🤗 This was definitely a great topic to talk about because a lot of people are very insecure about themselves! My husband still calls me his girlfriend and I still call him my boyfriend after being married for 51 years! Peace and Blessings to You and Chance and I truly enjoyed watching this video! God Bless. ❤🙏❤

  • @tiffanywalker3539
    @tiffanywalker3539 Год назад +8

    Chance sees you through the eyes of love!! That’s a big difference.

  • @babygrl2878
    @babygrl2878 Год назад +14

    Before even listening to the intro, I just want Tab and Chance to know how amazing I believe they are. The transparency and love you have for each other shines brighter than my phone screen. It gives me hope that we all will receive this type of love. I love you both from the east coast (North Carolina). You both are amazing.

  • @Franny1980H
    @Franny1980H Год назад +15

    Words cannot express how happy I am watching this so true ! I’m 42 and the older I get the more I’ve enjoyed embracing who I am. Thank you for being your authentic self ! ❤

  • @KathyYvette
    @KathyYvette Год назад +20

    Nobody can beat us up like we beat ourselves up. Sad and we must stop it! Thick is nice just be healthy. You look good Tab...awww Chance that's nice. You a good man.

  • @Ajelagba
    @Ajelagba Год назад +4

    Facts Chance. My husband has the exact same sentiments when it comes to my body. Big up & bless up to all the real men, the Kings out here.

  • @angelas3883
    @angelas3883 Год назад +3

    Women see ourselves as a flower but men are looking more so at the necter of the flower in addition to the flower... the necter being the unseen treasure...

  • @crescentmoon4405
    @crescentmoon4405 Год назад +14

    My son is thin like Thundercat. I always told him he is built for speed . He complains that people don’t mind telling you your skinny or making jokes but it’s not ok to tell someone they are fat. Respect goes both ways . Loved this subject and y’all communicate in such a real way ❤ #sipppp

  • @michellegreen5242
    @michellegreen5242 Год назад +12

    Tab you bring it all out of hubby,Chance. 25 years in for me I’m finally learning to shut up and let him express himself…pray for a Sista, love y’all!!!

  • @emekaemmanuel5258
    @emekaemmanuel5258 Год назад +19

    My Friday isn't complete without Tab and Chance. ❤

  • @pamelabillingsley249
    @pamelabillingsley249 Год назад +14

    Chance thank you, you said, “I haven’t had that type of trauma on my body” amen
    thank you for the shout out to all women!❤❤❤

  • @jojop0312
    @jojop0312 Год назад +18

    I love how comfortable chance has become on your channel. When you just started he was a little shy. Love you guys. Congrats to you tab for all your achievements

  • @ambermccoy4922
    @ambermccoy4922 Год назад +3

    When she said " I almost jumped on you, I felt that!" She's a pretty good actress fr!

  • @sabrinadessources1275
    @sabrinadessources1275 Год назад +5

    I had to chime in when Chance was speaking about us people with high metabolism. I use to be called anorexia or be accused of starving myself...smh. For me, my mood changes when I can't fit into my clothes because of weight loss. Thank you for speaking about this.

  • @keondawashington
    @keondawashington Год назад +16

    Uncle Chance was ready for this one! Thanks y’all! 🌻

  • @Drfeelinu
    @Drfeelinu Год назад +5

    You’re absolutely right about how our men can love on our bodies and compliment our flaws, but if we don’t believe it ourselves then it can’t fill the void

  • @fit2bjustme
    @fit2bjustme Год назад +6

    Tab you have a good one in Chance. The way he communicates his thoughts and feelings towards subjects that can either harm or heal a woman's inner psyche is wonderful. He is so supportive of you not just as a woman but a human and that's amazing. I wish you both continued blessings in all you do. 🙏

  • @lisagoldsmith7435
    @lisagoldsmith7435 Год назад +11

    I regret doing that to my girls about the weight thing!!! There was nothing wrong with me back then or now. Letting people get in my head and myself!!

  • @tressamorgan1128
    @tressamorgan1128 Год назад +7

    I hope you are going to continue doing Tab & Chance. In the short time I’ve been watching I’ve learned so much & other people need to hear this stuff & calm down & worry about the most important things. Like where you’re going to spend eternity

  • @hazelboyce7230
    @hazelboyce7230 Год назад +9

    Tab and Chance give me a good, healthy laugh every week. Yall playfulness is so organic and sweet. *The quest for all of this perfection is causing women to lose their lives and at very early ages. Thank God I’ve never had an issue with thinking I needed to please anybody, with the look of my body but I have always taken care of myself and have been in the gym for years and eating pretty clean. At the end of the day health is the number one priority.*

  • @cherylwallace849
    @cherylwallace849 Год назад +1

    The perspective of “Grown Ass Woman” puts this in the right context. Love that point. Loving me better.❤️

  • @womanofacertainage5892
    @womanofacertainage5892 Год назад +9

    Chance: "watch how you talk about my girlfriend." I love that.

  • @Treneethomasiz
    @Treneethomasiz Год назад +12

    Thank you so much Chance! That male perspective as it relates to what my husband may see in regards to what I deem as imperfections on my body (stretch marks, weight gain, cellulite, etc.). He has hinted at this perspective but never broke it down like you did.

  • @SUPERSKIRTS
    @SUPERSKIRTS Год назад +8

    I was so inspired by this. My last relationship was riddled with my own insecurities and hearing Chance speak to you about how he saw you, it reminded me that there are people in this world who are being loved I spite of their insecurities. I know you both have loved each other this way. Thank you for allowing us into your world in this way 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

  • @IsraelTorrellas
    @IsraelTorrellas Год назад +3

    It’s the needle scratching the record, and the sound it makes before the record actually starts playing music

  • @Ladybvs
    @Ladybvs Год назад +8

    I like how Chance is given his perspective. This is a great topic and I experience body shaming as well. But i'm learning to love my curves but each day is a struggle

  • @contentat45able
    @contentat45able Год назад +21

    I love this couple here. You all seem so authentic. This is a great topic for couples because I also think men need to know women like to hear they are still attracted to us, that we still got it, that our imperfections are perfect to you. The bottom line is men need to see what he can get but imagine what he can have.

  • @kg7032
    @kg7032 Год назад

    All women need to hear this convo. I am not married but I've dated men who didn't care about my stretch marks.
    Even when I pointed them out, the response was "ain't nothing wrong with your stomache" "you had kids" "you still look good" and my favorite "I love your body, you so soft"
    Men who genuinely love and care for you, ladies, will see that area of weakness (poor body image, low self esteem, & etc...) and encourage you and help to strengthen you.

  • @amberlockhart789
    @amberlockhart789 3 месяца назад +1

    Chance said he got shit to do in the morning, he ain’t doing no young boy workout! I’m crying 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @lanitavance8209
    @lanitavance8209 Год назад +19

    You can really see all your beauty with Donna pulled back and rapped. Simple stunning

  • @aninduvialwithagoodheart
    @aninduvialwithagoodheart Год назад +6

    Really appreciated this episode and love the transparency both of you shared. They do say we are our worst critique but to know that you have a person cheering you on and loving you regardless of how you don't see yourself in the best light at times is a true treasure.

  • @antoineerikascott5022
    @antoineerikascott5022 Год назад

    This transparency is SO healing! The images and expectations for a woman's body have never been portrayed accurately! Thank you Tab! Show everyone what most of us are working with FOR REAL!

  • @shelbyspellman3046
    @shelbyspellman3046 Год назад +14

    I needed this . I laughed through this and felt so much lighter on a topic that can be heavy for me .

  • @ChinaDoll305
    @ChinaDoll305 Год назад +16

    This was so needed Thank you Tab for speaking about how the ladies feel. Growing up my father always talked about weight and men being visual. It made very insecure as a child and even now as a married woman.

  • @arvelynlewis
    @arvelynlewis Год назад +3

    I agree with Chance. The coke bottle reference makes me think of a Black Woman. Marilyn Monroe was a curvy, thick woman. The bidy image, size changes as the celebrities change. It was Twiggy in the 70's. Now, we have KK and several female rap artists who have altered the body to the illusion of thickness. The Black, female body is in style now. Doe eyes and thick lips are the style now. In about 10 years, some new twig celebrity will come along and alter the standard again. We have to be proud of the skin we are in. One more thought, moisturize your stomach and thighs all the time, before getting pregnant to help with stretch marks.

  • @antolinzulay105
    @antolinzulay105 Год назад +10

    Love you guys....alll the way from Cameroon 🇨🇲🇨🇲🇨🇲🇨🇲

  • @KathyYvette
    @KathyYvette Год назад +8

    That's right Tab!! Black women were never the standard in body, lips or hair. Now others pay to get what we have naturally!

  • @staceysharp7401
    @staceysharp7401 Год назад +6

    Yaw thank you! Thank you ! Yaw were so raw with this one! From the man’s and woman’s perspective. It’s beautiful to hear someone be transparent and real in this world full of fakeness! We all needed this one. I was Tab hiding them stretch marks after my kids.

  • @clarachris9242
    @clarachris9242 Год назад

    I was told that, a man can feel proud, cause he gets to have and see something nobody else gets to see or experience, “it’s his!”!!

  • @sofia...a1148
    @sofia...a1148 Год назад

    It is so refreshing to hear Chance speak on the grown a** woman. Love the love in this room

  • @reneewashington1029
    @reneewashington1029 Год назад +7

    I LOVE YALL......and these REAL conversations❤️❤️❤️ You all don't realize how this blessed me....

  • @LynnLKing
    @LynnLKing Год назад +1

    This conversation was very refreshing. It was eye-opening to hear Chance's perspective of how he sees the changes in your body but his 'view', as your husband , is that of appreciation AND protection. Thanks for real topics and real conversations

  • @speaklove2643
    @speaklove2643 Год назад +7

    I loved the convo! The authenticity & vulnerability is absolutely appreciated!

  • @cossetteo7386
    @cossetteo7386 Год назад +10

    Love y’all!… 😂 “it’s a sip” 😂 Fridays with Tab and Chance keeps getting better and better…👏🏼👏🏼 Thank y’all for being authentic❤

  • @carolynlong8701
    @carolynlong8701 Год назад +3

    I love black couples giving encouragement to each other and to all the couples who watch their videos ❤🙏🏾👏🏾👍🏾.Thank you so much and God blessings to your marriage and family.

  • @sisterofthepen1714
    @sisterofthepen1714 Год назад +3

    Tabitha and Chance, you are definitely helping us with our body images..grown men love grown women..bodies

  • @janicepierce3293
    @janicepierce3293 Год назад +9

    I really enjoy Fridays with Tab and Chance, what a great topic!!

  • @kellymulherron7819
    @kellymulherron7819 Год назад +6

    Crying on Fridays, watching you two do this show, has become the rule not the exception. Thanks for the real.

  • @AllTheBeautyThings
    @AllTheBeautyThings Год назад +3

    This was a beautiful episode. I love how Chance said “watch how you talk about my girlfriend” or something like that. Because my husband be the same way. We’ve been married going on 7 years and my weight has always fluctuated. No matter my size, I haven’t been kind to myself. He gets offended when I say anything negative about myself. He tells me I’m beautiful many times a day. Deep down I know it too, I just gotta do what makes me feel good and confident. This really spoke to me❤

  • @rennieshawellington5411
    @rennieshawellington5411 Год назад +2

    What Chance said about association; who we follow whether intentionally or unintended is very valuable because alot of time that's how we end up in trouble. Acknowledge where you're at in live is leveling up! Thanks for this guys

  • @Li-Anderson
    @Li-Anderson Год назад +6

    This right here, was everything we needed. Thank you, all for being open and raw on this one. 🤗❤️

  • @candigirl83
    @candigirl83 Год назад +6

    This conversation was a breath of fresh air😊

  • @melissamyers9441
    @melissamyers9441 Год назад +11

    Honestly Tab you said it! I feel that way sometimes. With I feel awful. So if he see what I see he must think I am gross. Thank you for these conversations!

  • @mpatreece2726
    @mpatreece2726 Год назад +9

    I really appreciate this candid and authentic conversation. Thank you both.

  • @Biscuitplease
    @Biscuitplease Год назад +1

    Chance is so right. It's the confidence level that affects your outlook. A positive attitude, tlc, and confidence is all the things men find most attractive. Most women like the confidence sturdiness and resilience to get things done.

  • @anitrarice7259
    @anitrarice7259 Год назад +2

    TAB!!! GIRL! Thank you for this. My whole midsection is stretched out from carrying my babies. I am just now learning to love my body as is.🥰

  • @lovemymuzic1
    @lovemymuzic1 Год назад +1

    So much goes into what we find attracts us, but I think the healthiest ones include the joy you bring to others, the way your smile lights up the room, the compassion you have for others, the way you up build others (and believes everyone should feel that), that you are brave in the face of adversity, the essence of you, in short.
    How wonderful to be treasured in this way.
    Thank you for a loving discussion 🥰

  • @aprilallen8578
    @aprilallen8578 Год назад

    We see and love them for who they are now. However, it's also amazing how Tab talks about these insecurities and Chance loves her the same through it all. He doesn't get enough credit nor does he care to have it. He just wants her to be happy! ❤💙

  • @JLeeurbancouture
    @JLeeurbancouture Год назад +3

    Chance said “watch how you talk about my girlfriend “❤️❤️❤️

  • @ashleywhite309
    @ashleywhite309 Год назад +6

    You both are awesome. This was such a in my house moment. Thanks for bringing this conversation to the table.

  • @JoyceDoty
    @JoyceDoty Год назад +20

    Tab invented Donna's Recipe and now Chance won't ever have to worry about going bald! 😂

  • @mith5271
    @mith5271 Год назад +6

    It's the true love ❤ in your heart for one another. The same attraction you saw way back then.Every grown azz woman wants that kind of love.Hey now

    • @mith5271
      @mith5271 Год назад +2

      Awesome thank you

  • @deloresp3696
    @deloresp3696 Год назад +4

    Now that I’m listening to you two, that I think or negative thoughts about our body comes from what we as women say about ourselves, not so much what men think of us. This is healing and I am still trying to peacefully and happily except what my body looks like. We also associate these bodies as being sexually attractive. Who we trying to attract? Who are we trying to have sex with? I’m a grown woman 2 times 😂😂😂 and married almost 40 years. I’m still healing. Thanks Tab & Chance for Fridays

  • @mosue3200
    @mosue3200 Год назад +5

    A very enlightening conversation! 👏👏 Thank you Tab and Chance!

  • @desiredsolutionz3536
    @desiredsolutionz3536 Год назад +13

    I love yall so much. This topic is definitely needed. I have no one to help me in this transition. With having 4 kids but being pregnant 9 times, my body has taken a toll on me. I always wonder if my husband really loves me, and he says the same thing Chance said. I thought he was lying, but apparently not. Thanks you guys for this. Love yall

  • @traceyc410
    @traceyc410 Год назад +7

    I really enjoyed this episode because you guys keep it real and it’s ok to be normal. God Bless you both❤❤

  • @onjeinika
    @onjeinika Год назад +7

    Great conversation from both perspectives! Especially good to hear some of men's insecurities and also how they see us.❤

  • @shebapowers7235
    @shebapowers7235 Год назад +4

    Yes Tab! That part of the arm on a man is my Good Lord have mercy too!..LOL. Love y'all and the love y'all display for one another and the willingness to share ALL the stuff that comes along with relationships.

  • @annsimmons1326
    @annsimmons1326 Год назад +11

    Tab, I love your honesty!😂😂

  • @joannabean829
    @joannabean829 Год назад +4

    Tabitha and Chance thank you so much for sharing, I miss having these conversations, my best friend passed away unexpectedly 5 months ago after being apart of each other's lives for fourteen years. This has been good thanks. You're a beautiful couple.

  • @christynheroux1989
    @christynheroux1989 Год назад +4

    This is one I needed to hear. Thank you Tab & Chance! You both are relationship goals. 💕💕💕

  • @chefmarianrene5251
    @chefmarianrene5251 Год назад +1

    Uncle Chance is breaking it down...A real woman body and .mindset invites A real man into A secret privileged intimate place...Thx for the insight!!!!

  • @shegood7004
    @shegood7004 Год назад

    “Perfect in your perfections “is a beautiful way for Chance to express and describe his feelings towards Tab.

  • @cynthiahatley6315
    @cynthiahatley6315 Год назад +6

    Thank you so much for allowing me to laugh with you2!!!!!