The Cordles on waiting til marriage, postpartum depression & getting hate online | Ep. 6
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- Опубликовано: 26 сен 2024
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I love Devin. Her goofiness and energy is just contagious.
This needs to be shown to all mommas as prep to what to expect. I got slapped with all the hormones. I relate to Devon so much. I fought for my life and no one ever noticed. Thank you for being so honest and raw with this topic that often gets overlooked and not discussed.
Totally agree!
Same here! The baby blues are SO REAL and its so disappointing that no one talks about it. I was a reck for two full weeks. And you dont realize how bad it was until its over
PLEASE PLEASE have the grandma and grandpa on a podcast. Both grandma’s too. Loved every time they were on RUclips with you guys.
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YESSS!!
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Genius idea!!!
@@UnplannedPodcast here’s the ultimate podcast idea. The Beeston bunch,Hunter and Devin,Bella and Dallin & Yall. The ultimate RUclips power couples line up😁😁😁😁
That laid back , not anxious attitude is so perfect for a firefighter . He’s the guy that you want in an emergency situation .
I am in the middle of a tough, tough battle with anxiety & it was so helpful & refreshing to hear from Devin & Matt on their struggles - I am not alone & there is hope! I literally paused the podcast to call & schedule an appt with a counselor.
What! That’s so awesome. I wish I would have done the same thing when my anxiety was so bad in high school. I definitely still need to go to counseling for it though
Good for you!! They say I came out having a panic attack, medication evaluation is very important. Especially for new moms.
Taking care of your mental health is being kind to yourself. Take care of yourself!! Sending hugs and good vibes your way.
Devins laugh is so contagious ❤
It’s really nice to see friends standing up for Dallin & Bella. It speaks volumes to the people they all are
I honestly struggle waiting for marriage cuz of peer pressure- it’s helpful to know people wait
You got this praying for you. I’m in the same boat
Keep going! You can do this.
It is SO worth it to wait! I promise!
are y'all waiting for religious reasons?
@@alexandralab5364 yes
I am one of your silent viewers for a long time. Always thumbs up but never comments. This podcast made me feel a certain way and lead me to comment. You guys give me so much hope for this world and the couples you have had on your podcast ( I follow them as well) My husband and I have been together since I was 15 and he was 18. We are now 56 and 59 and still together!!! We didn’t wait till marriage but have never been with anyone else 😊 How raw and honest you all are on this podcast warms my heart beyond belief. I love how you aren’t afraid to include God in the conversation. The social media platform and the world need more content creators like you guys!! May God bless all always 🙏 Keep up the great work as parents and content creators ❤
Baby blues are so real. My first 3 weeks were so tough. After those first 3 weeks, I felt more like myself. 5 months later and I'm so grateful to be a Mom to my son 💙
Same here!! I was just telling someone the other day how hard my baby blues were and they only lasted a few weeks. I can’t imagine feeling that way for months on end.
It’s because since the hormones are so crazy for us, !! When you get to the point where you realize your body skin is trying to get back to normal. It gets crazy crazy 😊❤
I appreciate the openness about depression and anxiety, especially post partum. I come from a Christian background and we were always taught that God will sustain us, and even with that being true I still think you can deal with hormone imbalances. I feel a little more confident to consider medication because I can’t do this
I need more Abby/Matt & Hunter/Devin content
Being 23 this is such a great podcast listening to young people just be honest about marriage and kids and giving the real truth love it!!
So I just got out of a psych ward a couple weeks ago and is now watched three episodes of this podcast and it definitely touches on subjects. I’ve been struggling with, and especially with where I am at right now in my life. It is such a huge help especially with people that I look up to and that I watch all the time and I think what you guys do is just absolutely amazing.
I hope you are doing better. Everyday is a new day. I hope you find the light to life again soon.
favorite time of the week is when matt and abby post 😆
same 🙂
Right!!!
Omg right!?
First responders/ military: if you do it for any extended period of time, you will always be apart of it, it will always be a part of you. Thank you for your service. You will always be a firefighter in your heart, you put your life on the line for your community.❤
Watching your podcast every wednesday is the only thing that gets me through the work week!
I live for their vlogs every mid week!
This was so easy to listen to. I’m a single woman with no children, and I can’t believe how much I enjoyed watching this episode and you 4 talking about being parents.
I need to comment. I’m 6 minutes in and I genuinely love all four of these content creators more than any other couples online really. Seem so genuine and share so much, just beyond extactic to finish this episode. I wana thank all four of you for being kind, loving, humble individuals. ❤️ You all shine a bright light on this world.
Devon, thank you for speaking so freely about anxiety and being on meds. And them helping you! Same here! And Hunter, you being honest about a spouse’s perspective was great. My favorite podcast! With my fav couples! Keep ‘em coming!❤
My parents got married and had me during their senior year of high school! Just celebrated 25 years ! Everyone definitely expected them not to make it. 25 years, and on their 9th pregnancy now and still going strong! ❤
My husband and I can relate to Hunter and Devin. We started dating at 13 as well. 2005 to 2011. We waited until marriage too, 2011. We are still married and now have two kids. We had our first kid after 5 years of marriage.
I’m so glad you talked about PPD! So many women are ashamed to admit to feeling down because having a baby is supposed to be such a happy time in your life (and for the most part it is)…but it’s also a MAJOR life change and hormones are not a joke! Depression after baby doesn’t mean it wasn’t amazing, and doesn’t mean you’re a bad mama ❤
Hunter is the king of comedy 😂😂😂 we love his dry humor
Honestly getting married young with full commitment to WORKing on a marriage is the wisest decision! Better to get married than to burn with passion and lust.
Thank you so much for having this podcast. Abby talking about baby blues made me feel so much more normal. I am 8 weeks postpartum and struggled with this sooo bad the first month and it’s so isolating. Devin talking about her anxiety has inspired me so much to not be ashamed.
My mom passed away 3 months before our baby boy was born. I stayed so busy up until his arrival, once he got here my whole world stopped. I had not had time to process the loss of my mom and all I wanted was her. Thank goodness it gets better!!! God knew I needed my baby boy more than anything!
I’m so sorry about your mom. I’m glad you had a healthy baby boy!❤
I loved Devin’s story on her postpartum journey. Felt so relatable and helped shed a light on how hard postpartum can be on our mental health! I loved this episode ❤️❤️❤️
Did anybody else notice how Matt and Abby would touch each other's knee when one would talk about something difficult? How precious 😭 That simple act shows how supportive they are of each other ❤ I love these 2 wholesome couples!!
I noticed that when Abby talked about how difficult her labor was. So sweet 😭
I literally came to the comments to see if anyone else noticed this; what great partners they are to each other!! ❤❤
I love your podcast!
I noticed that. They are so sweet and supportive. My husband and I do that as well.
IT WAS SO CUTE😩
How'd this get over so soon? I mean, definitely you guys gotta have them again. These two are such gems💙
Every and I mean... EVERY new mommy needs to hear this conversation! It's so real, honest and raw... and SO normal for people to go through! Thank you for ALWAYS being so authentic and open with us! It's soooo rare these days!
I am blown away to how similar of a story my fiancé and I share with Hunter and Devin. My fiancé and I also started dating at 13, went all through high school with each other, got engaged in August (2-3 months after high school graduation) and will be getting married this August. We’re both 19 and also saving ourselves till marriage. It made me so happy to hear about both of y’all’s stories🥰 I feel so seen listening to this amazing podcast and from all the couples that share the experience of finding love at such a young age.
Much love to all of you! And thank you Matt & Abby for your channel and podcast. I truly love your content and look up to you guys❤️ Hands down my favorite RUclipsrs🤗
I feel like a podcast with an “older” couple like The Dashleys and talking about parenting and the expectations with it and what to expect would be really interesting, now seeing two couples so young talking about their relationships is super insightful.
My boyfriend and I are 21 and have been together for over 5 years since high school and are waiting to get married and engaged and this was really interesting to me. Thank you all for being you 💕
So glad you talked about anxiety after a baby. I’m 8 months PP with baby 4 and have been trying to find the right meds cause I can’t go anywhere in fear of what could happen etc. Thanks for making me feel like I’m not alone. It’s a hard mental cycle to break
Love all these younger people! You are so mature and know what you want and go for it! The commitment to family and community is so strong and beautiful! Love you all blessings on you
Im 73 and we waited for marriage and its so good to know there are still young moral couples in this day and age that are still honoring marriage.
It literally makes my day to see a new episode of the Unplanned Podcast come out! ❤️ Love you guys! It isn’t very common in the UK for people to get married younger, so it’s so nice to hear a completely different perspective! I would’ve loved to have got married younger, but for us it’s hella expensive as we would be paying for it ourselves - but we’re working on it! Hoping to get married next year 🥰 Sending so much love to all four of you! You’re both such sweet couples! Xx
I have an 8 month old baby girl and am currently 18 weeks pregnant with my second baby girl. When the new addition arrives they will be only 13 months apart. Congratulations on the new baby! I know if y’all feel anything like us you’re nervous but even more excited! New to the podcast, but can’t wait for more. Makes me feel less alone in my journey of 2 babies so close in age.
I’ve never been able to relate so much to a RUclips video! My husband and I waited too and it was TOTALLY WORTH it!!! Love all of y’all!
I love hearing the real, raw, honesty in this. Having supportive spouses is such a blessing. I didn't realize I was having post-partum in the midst of dealing with all the hormonal changes that our bodies go through, and my daughters dad left when she was 7 months old and now we co-parent. It's so difficult.
Y'all are too cute!
Met and married my husband in 2 weeks. I was 19, he was 23. The #1 question we had was "are you pregnant?" 🤔 🤦♀️ First kid was 3 years later, second was 5.5. Fast forward 22 years and I still wake up next to him ❤ When you know, you know!
In two weeks ? Ma'am could you comment how you guys met and how you got married your story sound like a movie. I love, love stories like this.
@Sunflower 🌻 oh man. So I had just moved back to my parent's house after living away for a year with a boyfriend. I wanted to just come and be safe and refocus my life to God and myself, no men. About 3 weeks later, I was out doing laundry in the garage when I saw him for the first time. Apparently my brother had befriended him a few months previous, and he was visiting after returning home from a work trip (he was working for a cross-country mover between jobs as a soux chef). Tall, dark and handsome...wearing a black leather driver's cap backwards, tattoo on his arm, earrings in both ears (it was 2001) having a smoke at the end of the driveway talking with my brothers. When I asked my mom who he was, and she told me his name, that he was a friend of my brother's, and ended her sentence with "he's a sweetie". 😲 Had I brought him home a year before she would've taken one look at him and hard noped the whole thing.
Fast forward a day or two and I come home from work to him in the living room having a deep biblical conversation with my dad (he's a minister). 😲 Dad formally introduced us. He stood up to his full 6'7 height, shook my hand, his Pacific Ocean on a stormy day eyes half smiling, and I was sunk. There were curse words in my head, and a full on argument with my gut. I'm a 5'11 stubborn ginger, I was not having no man do that, no matter if I could wear heels and still be shorter than him. Nope. I was welcoming and cordial, cause my daddy taught me manners, and I went straight to my room and listened to them talk, because my manners only go so far sometimes.
Over the next couple days my brothers and their friends got me going out with them, and I warmed up to a bit of a friendship with him. We talked about work, but primarily about Scripture. But I struggled with the whole falling for this guy when I didn't want to fall for anyone. So, I up and visited my godparents for a weekend to get away and clear my head. Which helped. Until my godbrother overheard my dad and his dad talking on the speakerphone, as they did, about this guy Dad was ministering to. I walk into the kitchen where my godbrother was playing on his Gameboy (he was 22 at the time, but it was lasagna night and he wasn't missing that!), he glances up at me and says "so when you and that guy your dad was talking about get married, you'll have like 7' tall kids". 😲 I didn't say a word about him to anyone, and here's my godbrother walking me down the aisle.
Monday I'm at work and I hear That Guy's car pull into the lot ('88 Formula Firebird with a rumble you could feel in your toes from a block away). I went out to greet him and he asked if he could talk. So, I took a lunch and went and sat in the car and listened. He was having a difficult morning dealing with life stuff. Stuff I had no idea why he was telling me about, but I was glad to be a safe place for him. After a bit, he reached over and held my hand, thanking me. He says "you know that saying when you take away someone's joy, you take their life? I've felt dead since Thursday." 😲 All my dams broke all at once and it felt like God smacked me upside the head with a bag of bricks saying "you dummy, this guy is THE GUY and I've been trying to tell you but your stubborn ass just keeps running. STOP IT."
That Guy continues "so, I want to ask you something...are you thinking what I'm thinking? I know it's crazy, but I can't help but think it's from God." I laughed, told him that I had no other answer than yes, because I felt the same.
We were married that Friday night by my goddad in my parent's living room, inviting only our families. It's been a wild ride, but I would not change it for anything. ❤️
@@angelaw4543 this story is so frickin adorable. thank you for sharing. i pray God does the same for me. and God bless you and your family🤍🤍🤍
@@angelaw4543 Love your story! Thanks for sharing! ❤
@@angelaw4543 I just now got this notification. And I love the story. And you write so well!
You should write a short story about your love story and publish it.
It felt like I was reading a book.
I hope something similar happens to me in such a romantic way.
Have a great day !
My wife and I waited until we got married. We could focus on our friendship, did not have to worry about getting pregnant. I was 28 when we got married.
Waited for my wife and I can tell her she is the only I have ever been with...she is 100% confident I am committed to her for the rest of my life.
Married for over 32 years now...had 2 kids after getting married and we scrapped and clawed to support them TOGETHER.
This episode is so relatable. We got married at 21 & 26. Currently have been married for 18months and plan to start trying to have a family in a year. I wouldn’t change it for anything.
This is the best podcast episode I have seen from you guys. The way you four flow in conversation is unmatched!! Such a lovely bunch thank you for sharing your stories with us. I appreciate your vulnerability and wonderful sense of humor hehee. I hope to see more of the four of you together❤
12weeks pregnant and watching this video feeling very encouraged about growing into parenthood. There are moments where I'm very emotional about becoming a parent and wanting to be the best mom I can.
TWO OF MY FAVORITE COUPLES I CANNOT WAIT FOR THIS
Literally my favorite two.. I talk to my husband about them all the time.. 🤣🤣 I would love to meet them honestly lol
same
When Devin mentioned that she knew she was a mom, but felt nothing…I was the same way! Nothing is wrong with getting help, and for all the mamas out there…your feelings/emotions don’t have debilitate you.
Devin got help, and so did I and am so thankful for the extra aids out there for postpartum depression and anxiety! God has gifted you a precious being(s) enjoy these moments they grow so fast🥰💕
HUNTER there is no Devin without you! I love black cats! Ya'll compliment each other so well. It's nice to see you 4 together - I'm glad ya'll have each other. ❤️
I'm pregnant right now with my first. I already have some crazy anxiety, so I cannot tell you how much I appreciate this. It makes me feel so much better!
This is definitely my new favourite podcast! I definitely feel you see Matt & Abby in their most true, stripped back & genuine form! I literally binge watched all your previous episodes! Both of you are true inspirations for other young couples to look up to (and other couples in general!) Personally, I've learnt so much about how to communicate and navigate life and obstacles with my other half. So, thank you SO much for creating this podcast!
P.s. Happy International Women's day Abby! (3rd March) 🥰
You are a TRUE warrior! Lots of love from the UK! 🇬🇧❤
EDIT: 8th March... Not the 3rd! 🙈
I just absolutely love both couples and watch you both religiously! I so wish that I had friends like the two of you ladies! 😢 you are so sweet and genuine! ANNDDDD........ you love Jesus!!!! ❤ God bless you all and thanks so much for being a light in this crazy dark world! Keep shinning 🙏💕
With myself having depression and anxiety, having my masters in counseling and understanding that it’s a true chemical imbalance I can relate so well. My husband being faith driven and never understanding depression after 30 years has started getting symptoms of anxiety and it completely shocked him to finally understand the huge pressure on your chest difficulty breathing, always having to get up and move, run around to “escape “. I said welcome to my world and it just hit him like a ton of bricks and thought it would never be him. I also watched my husband bury his grandparents and not shed a tear because it was ingrained in him to be the strong one, be supportive for others and not show weakness. I had a long talk early on how wrong it was to keep it bottled up.
This episode really hit home for me, and I can relate so much to Devin. I struggled with postpartum depression for a while after having my son in July, and it took me longer than it should have to get help. I think it is amazing what you guys are doing, talking about the hard stuff because not a lot of people do that. I for one, felt alone in this, and listening to this made me feel understood.
This is the best podcast yet! I just recently discovered Hunter & Devin …they are so funny. Love you Matt & Abby. Congrats on being the #4 podcast in the USA. THAT’S HUGE!! Happy for ALL Y’ALL and looking forward to Part 2!🎉🎉
“The super happy people struggle with anxiety.” YES. Could NOT agree more.
Devin and Hunter are SO genuine and probably my favorite couple on YT. Honest, kind, and Christ focused, God bless them🙏🏼✝️🤍
i love that you guys are talking about post-partum! i had it BAD when i was a first-time mom. it scared my husband because it was that bad and it's not talked about enough. i wish people would talk about it more. it's not all sunshine and rainbows and most people expect it to be.
This podcast was so helpful. I’m the only one in my friend group with a baby, so it’s a breath of fresh air to hear other moms talk about their experiences. I’m struggling through postpartum depression and anxiety, and I feel really encouraged. Going to try to get out of the house more. Thank you for sharing!
WE’VE BEEN WAITING ALL WEEK FOR THIS! ❤
When you guys talked about guys and emotions and mental health was soooooo good! For Christians, If you read the bible, especially the psalms, David was really emotional and in touch with his feelings. I get so much inspiration when writing worship songs and talking to God from the Psalms.
Devin is literally my spirit animal…love her sm
My husband and I got married young too. 3 months after I graduated and less than three months after we turned 19. The backlash was awful! Everyone tried to talk us out of it and thought we were doing it because I was pregnant. No we just knew we were soulmates! Just celebrated our 10 year anniversary ❤️
Love that you 2 couples can wholly support each other in sincerity and true friendship. Stay genuine... I love it!
I’ve been waiting all morning for this!!
I LOOOOOVE the Cordles!!! Such a good pod episode, please have them back!
I love Hunter & Devins humor together so much. And Abby's laugh, Haha. You guys are thee cream of the crop 🙌🏻💕 sending all the love
There podcast deserve to be ranked #4! Don't thank us, we need to thank you for all the work you put in! #1 is where this belongs! LOVE THESE!
I didn’t know I had so many held up feelings from having my son until I watched this and I got emotional when talking about after birth. My son is almost a year and a half and I still get choked up about it
I pray for the happiness and spirit of joy to stay in both these families❤
You guys are a big part of my day! You make my day 100 times better!!
Devin and Hunter put out the most pure and humble content. I love their videos. I’m glad they were honest about feeling a loss of pride when leaving the service profession and moving into a TikTok career. That’s the kind of honesty that the social media world needs more of. ❤
I want to see pictures of the trip because y’all are crackin’ up about it! Your joy, and the joy of the Beestons and Conner and Liana just makes everything feel joyful
this was such a comfort episode. Devins voice is so soothing.
i love devin and hunter's personality sm!!! definitely should do part 2. i can listen to you guys my whole life. y'all are the nicest people😭 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
So much golden retriever energy in one room! So cute
Love their Podcasts! Have enjoyed following them the past few years (via Facebook) but had never listened to Podcasts before. I enjoy this sweet young couple so much that I gave Podcasts a try. Now I’m binge listening from episode one as I go about my daily household stuff the past few days! Each episode has been interesting - and often refreshing - for this 55 yr old woman! It’s wonderful to hear you stand for your values and set good role models for young couples.
Hi Abby. During my postpartum, especially in the first two months - i also felt triggered by the sun setting. I spoke to my counselor & this often happens postpartum bc it usually is the start of the “long night” with a crying baby & sleepless nights. Thanks for making it known that you also experienced this.
Love that you are friends with the Cordles! You two are my favorite couples. I admire both your relationships so much! Great episode!
I love all four of you! Love how genuine you are. When people say mean things to you just ignore them because your all precious.
I look forward to this every week! I also love how transparent and open you guys are. You guys are awesome!! ❤
i love you guys. i hope to have a relationship like yall have when i grow up. gonna support yall till the very end.
This was so good. Devin and Abby are such amazing moms!! The guys are great dad's too!!!!! Best couples ever!
I really appreciate your vidoes guys, they always make my day! Shoutout for being so brave :)
OMG YES. Like I love being a mom. Fulfills my soul. But some days, I miss just being a married couple and regret not taking advantage of it so much.
I love watching two couples and young parent-friends talking about life together. It made me happy to see, so thanks for letting us watch you. 😂 I'm glad you have each other. My husband and I also got married super young (21). ❤️
People with depression and anxiety are often super happy and outgoing because they know what it feels like to feel isolated. And then when they get home, they feel so mentally and emotionally exhausted because they gave all of the energy they had to keep the people around them happy. The only time I can override the anxiety is if I have to go into mom mode. If I need to protect anybody or if something serious is going on, you will never know that I'm anxious about it. And then I'll break down and lose it once everything has calmed down. I never knew until college that I had anxiety. I thought everybody felt like that.
We got married when we were 20, and we are celebrating our 23rd anniversary. this weekend. We also waited for marriage, and it was tough but so worth it. Thanks for being open about relationships and sharing your thoughts.
I love their Alabama accents! You can definitely tell they’re from Alabama! I love it! Keep doing what y’all are doing !❤️❤️❤️
devin and hunter are just the best!!!!!! they are so wholesome people, I love y'alls friendship ❤
I never realised but I've watched all your episodes including the one with bella and dallin and all of your episodes got me smiling cheek to cheek
I can relate so much to Devon’s PP story! I got pregnant right before the pandemic and my daughter was born in May 2020. Between the restrictions and the fact that we live far from family, I felt so isolated and it really affected my mindset. I did not fill out that questionnaire honestly, afraid of the stigma. It’s so nice to hear someone else talk about a similar experience ❤
I absolutely love both of these couple's! They are so down to earth
I love all of you guys! ❤ such a great group to watch! So sweet and caring for anything. And genuine people
Also, love hearing all of y’all’s stories and life! My husband is also a firefighter EMT. He has similar mindset as Hunter. I have a lot of respect for EMS workers.
Two of the most inspiring couples! ❤️ Loved this colab!
Love both you guys!!
We just had a baby as well 4 months ago and the postpartum hormones are no joke! I cried every day for several weeks for seemingly no reason! 😅 thankfully things have settled down and we're good now!
Abby loves her. I’ve never seen Abby talk and laugh so much on other episodes 😂
I did not know hunter & devin started on RUclips! All we watch is RUclips! I am SO EXCITED! All 4 of you are just the best ppl ever. Great podcast/vlog!
I have enjoyed listening to this video. As your kids grow be sure to emphasize their kind &. loving hearts, happy disposition, intelligence, your pride of them and much more ... not only their physical appearance. All four of you seem like wonderful loving parents, so keep it up!
Favorite episode so far looking forward to part 2. !! I wish I had a good friend like this.!