WHY HE WON'T MARRY YOU. (1 of 3) | Biblical Womanhood, Traditional Wife & Marriage, Homemaker
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The man I thought was my everything also did not marry me after I conceived our child out of wedlock at age 21. He was manipulative and finally found a reason to break up with me. This was the best thing that could have happened, though in that moment I felt shattered and lost. I met someone who learned about my situation, got me involved in their church, and before I knew it I was studying the word of God and watching RUclips videos related to my situation, and listening to podcasts to increase my insight and mindfulness about my own personal issues and participation in a toxic, sinful lifestyle. Within two months I was dating a God fearing man who demonstrated pure love to me and my young daughter. I’m 30 years old now and married to that wonderful man, who still guides our family ( of four now :) ) in the ways of the Lord. A man who wants to marry you, WILL!!! Make all the room for God, and he will lead your husband to you. You don’t have to earn that love and desire from a man!!!! Your husband will seek you out my love. God loves you so much that he thought you were to die for ❤ trust that.
Really need some good advise
Wow. What a beautiful story. Do you mind if I share your story? I want to inspire and show the young women out here your testimony. I am also married. My husband and I will be going on 4 years of marriage on August 31st. We have two children together. I have dealt with a pass of giving myself to men that was not God fearing people they were living sinful just like I was. But I got out of it and chose a good Man who loves God and wanted a women in his life who he could be equally yoked with and to get out of dating poeple that were not on the same page he was. And God put us together and we starting our journey to getting stronger in Christ.
Goodmorning one and all
I really appreciate your testimony and it's very encouraging to those who want to take the same step like you my sister in christ.thank you and be blessed
❤ I love this for you….and us!
Wow! What a powerful and encouraging story. I pray that many more are blessed by your testimony.
This was me for 5 yrs with my now husband. I cried, I prayed and my dad gave me the same advice to walk away from being used like that. I made the decision to walk away. Once he realized I was serious he apologized with leading me on for yrs on yrs of engagement and no follow through of marriage. We married and things are so much better now but that to lots of prayers 🙏 and talking through our hurts. Society has tricked us women to accept being used as a sex roommate ...to me that's much worse than a one night stand.
@@sarahjaynescott545 One thing is just walk away. That's bigger issue. Another is... just stop living in sin. Stop giving your body is thing you should start right now without even second guess. It's a God's law. So stop breaking it. Repent. Turn around from sin immediately and forever. I think that's disgusting thing. Any believer should be ashamed of himself while living in sin. This boy you have doesn't even deserve to be called men while treating any girl this way. Living in sin is just terrible in every way. Another issue is, defiling marriage bad as bible said. Even after marriage you can live in sin by doing things that are abomination in eyes of God.
a lady was shacking with a man for 14 yrs...one night she gave her life to christ, she told him i have to move , i love god more..he married her and 20yrs later they still together !!
@@peacefaith560 y'm not sure if that's happy end or not. it depends. but y guess it was okey
I chose to engage in sexual sin for a period of time with a guy that I was “dating.” I knew what the Scriptures said about fornication and yet I chose to be disobedient. He told me fairly quickly he just wanted to be friends aka no interest in marrying me. However, a week or two later he “spun the block” and I was back engaging in the same sin again. 🤦🏾♀️
Simultaneously, my church was going through 1 Peter. I knew clear as day that I wasn’t being holy as He is holy and that this unrepentant sin was waging war against my soul. So I could either a) continue in sin or b) repent and flee from it. And one day I chose b. I blocked him and didn’t look back. I know that God helped me and that I was unable to do it on my own strength. He can do the same for the lady in the letter. I’m praying for you, Asia!
Amen!!! Same here, wasted almost four years of my life sinning with a deceiver. I still struggle with feelings of guilt and shame but I was saved after meeting my husband. I’m still trying to deepen my faith and walk with the lord. Prayers to you and the author, may we all find healing together 🤍🤍
Thank you. 💜
Woooohooooo! You go girl!! God bless!
Woah girl! Preach it! Teach it! I used to be this girl settling for scraps!! 7 years celibacy now fully devoted to Jesus. Trusting that His plans for me are good and will come once I am fully prepared and it is His perfect timing! Strength and Courage to this woman who wrote in this! It’s not easy to deny flesh and take up the cross but eternally worth it!! Our rewards will be eternal! Thank you Bindi for your boldness! Hallelujah! My heart cries out to all women facing this situation! Rise up women and set a standard! Men don’t have to be a husband if we freely give ourselves. Give yourself to God and only let the Lord give you to the one he decides shall be your husband. ❤
6 years strong!
7 years abstinent as well. The Lord has restored me. I fully trust that I'll be married soon to a strong brother. Women, stop giving it away. I know it's not easy to be abstinent but it's doable. The joy you have is insurmountable. I would encourage the sisters in a courtship, no petting or making out with your man. It's called foreplay for a reason!
Bindi is the prettiest youtuber. Hands down!
@@conynunez1951 Woah! Praise God! I feel he has said similar to me and what I’ve awaited for will “suddenly” happen when He is ready! God is so so good! Thank you for sharing your testimony! God bless you! 🕊️🌈🥰
Thanks for the prayers 🙏. I really need them! N I pray for all the rest of us trying to wait for God's best 💘🙏✝️
19:20 "You don't get to control your mothers relationship choices. You have to let that go." Girl, it felt you spoke that straight to me. Thank you.
If the writer is reading this, I pray God blesses, strengthens and guides you!
Amen.🙏🏽
If the writer is reading this, I pray you take heed to the biblical advice that was given.
I’m a single mom had my son out of wedlock at 23. He is now 11. The Lord will provide, guide, strengthen and love you in a way that no human will ever be able to.
Please take the steps to heal and get into relationship with the Messiah for yourself.
It won’t be a cakewalk but our strength and hope comes from having faith in God.
Be blessed ❤️
There’s a husband for you…
@@myahill7475 Thank you for your comment. I hope this doesn't come off rude but everything isn't about having nor getting a husband. I can pick up a "husband" off the side of the road lol. I want what God has for me and my family at His appointed time. I pray all my sisters focus on being the bride of Christ first and let Him be Lord over everything in our lives. Be blessed
@@kingdom_journey1484 no… you can’t pick up “a husband” off of the side of the road. Picking unqualified men will lead to another situationship and possibly another baby out of wedlock. It may not be in the stars for you to marry in this life but if you’re at risk for fornicating again the Bible encourages us to wed with a believer. If you think you can go your entire life without fornicating then having a husband has little value. If you think otherwise, you know what to do. Having a husband isn’t “everything” but living a righteous life is. If you have an unforgiving heart ❤️ then a snappy response is expected. I pray 🙏🏿 that you walk into the right path without crippling temptation. I pray that you can forgive those who have hurt you and I pray you make the right decisions for your life. I hope the same for myself. Life is hard. You seem like a sweet person, that’s why I responded to your message. Thanks 😊 for the opportunity to share.
@@kingdom_journey1484thank you for sharing this with such obedience to the Lord patience and love! The truth is the truth praise God for your testimony!
I realized that so many women tend to speak about situations with their partners as to try and paint them in the best light even when they aren’t working in the eyes of the lord.
OH wow! You spoke so much truth there. Women tend to not wanna show public disrespect of their man and talk them up even when its undeserved.
He's not a man of God. He's a man of Jive. The Lord is about to whoop his butt. I should pray for him.
They start to believe the lies …. I believe your mind becomes depraved as we continue on the sin….
@@TwiFiveGirls101 My 19 yr old daughter does this with her unworthy boyfriend. We have expressed our displeasure at the situation that she is placing herself in. Wish she would wise up. Keep praying for her, but she seems blinded by this person. I am not saying women should publicly disrespect their men, but she will sugar coat things to the extreme. Well, you know what they say, "Love is Blind"
I heard red flags throughout this email. But one thing I wish I could tell her face to face is how precious she is to the Lord regardless of her “baggage”, we all have some! She deserves to be with a man of God who will love her unconditionally and not use her past as an excuse.
Jesus does not judge or use our past why does a mere man get to hold it against us?
This reminds me of the woman at the well. God sees us beyond our “baggage” 🤍
Her wisdom was amazing. I honestly didn't see everything she pulled out, but sadly it was there.
Love to you all, and take courage sisters
If he isn’t marrying you he is doing nothing for you. You are the mother of his child he should honor that and show his child how much they love them and you to marry you. She needs healing he needs it too. They may be tied by sex and unhealed traumas.
Wow! My husband was lucky to get a kiss before I married him. The world has really pulled people and Xtians into a spiral of sin. My friends say I spoil my husband; but they don’t know how he treats me when he’s happy. Just praying for these ppl to get back on track.🙏🙏🙏
That's the way it should be. No intimacy until marriage.
Years ago, women used to date, go to dances restaurants etc, with MANY without, what I call
Fornidating...
No sex before marriage
He’s keeping her away from her husband! Tying her up with engagement. She’s not the woman he wants & all of his excuses are a reflection of that! Whew you gave great advice!
Well by Biblical standard she cannot marry anyone else. She is already bound by their child.
That's how I view long engagements or commitment rings.I don't support either.even long relationships especially with sex.
Homeboy is playing her.
@@itszbebabaybeecan you please elaborate?
He is using her past against her, so he comes out clean. She is the scapegoat for him to keep doing what he's doing WITH her permission. Been there! She needs to leave buddy alone.
Fo REAL. She needs to leave.
"Leave buddy alone. ' Amen 😊
Great advice.
I want to add this: if you decide to leave the relationship and turn to God, it won't be easy. Many days, weeks and probably months, you'll want to go back, especially as you have a child. Hang in there, pray more and talk to your support system. You'll come out victorious, and it will be worth it.
Wish you all the best sis.❤
You are so right.
@adao2103: I would say talk to God before talking to anyone else even a ‘support system’ … allow the Holy Spirit to guide you. People are flawed even those who seemingly mean the best for us. This is not a time to be vulnerable to outsiders. She needs to really lean into God, IMO.
@@xoxo-vp7wwYou havent grasped the fact that God speaks to us in various ways including people!
@@xoxo-vp7ww Bindi already stressed what you have said. My comment is 'in addition to what has been said'.
Bindi who is also human, is probably an answer to her silent prayers. When you pray, God will answer in whatever way pleases him, that could mean through the people around you.
@josephinenamata5413: Of course God can use whatever to speak to us that’s why I said allow the Holy Spirit to lead you. Read to comprehend instead of attempting to be confrontational, maybe that’s something you should grasp. 🌷
Dear Bindi, God has blessed me in finding your channel. I am a married man and in addition to my own studies and learning, you will help me to strengthen my relationship with my wife. Like Lalah Hathaway, you may not have the most popular channel on Utube but the quality of your material is invaluable. I am surfing your previous posts. Thank you so much. May Jehovah bless you!
MEN also need a MARRRIED MAN, for guidence who is a believer
Your wisdom is remarkable. Thank you for pointing me toward fasting and prayer for my own traumas. I am not the wife I should be, or could be.
God bless you Bindi.
I cried because I understand what she is going through. I am going thru this too. Same type of past too. Christ made me whole. No man can take that away from me.
John 10:29
My Father, which gave them me, is greater than all; and no man is able to pluck them out of my Father's hand.
I am protected under God forever and Ever!
God’s favour remain on you sister! AMEN FOR THIS VERSE! God bless you
No sex before marrage. If a man does not have the spiritual self control to keep his hands off of you until marriage, he will not have the spiritual self control to keep his hands off of other women after you are married.
Sex within marriage is the cheat code of weeding out sinful men 💯
Bindi, this was so well balanced. It was said with respect to her and in love. You also spoke some hard truths, but when if you truly love someone, you will tell them the truth even if it means they get offended. Also, this video reminded me how gracious God has been. I'm still single, but I almost settled. This is a reminder that I am not cheap. I am a daughter of God. God has shown me so much grace in that He blocked men from me. I've seen friends continue to rebel, but God has closed doors. Looking back and watching this video, I am so so grateful for the Lord's protection. I am also grateful that I have a mentor thet reminds me of you, Bindi, in my life.
I have a relative doing this now.... settling. Back before this guy came into her life.. I remember at one point telling her, "is God enough?". If you NEVER get the man, have children, and the house on the hill.... can you say "your will not my will", "it is well with my soul"? These are HARD realities to ponder over. And we find ourselves always compromising and settling because we tell ourselves that God isn't enough. We don't need all the things society says we need in order to be a woman living a happy, fulfilling and purpose filled life. You don't NEED the husband to be made whole.....You need God. You don't NEED children to have purpose... God can give you purpose. I just wanted to prepare her for the hard reality that many women face...... it's not God's will for every woman to marry and have children. And could she still serve God and be okay with that.
@@markita.hardenhomethis comment brought me to tears. The truth is the truth and God’s will is what we should be seeking. I’ve been living in sin and afraid to ask of the Lord out right if it is His will that I have a husband & have children, as that has been my deepest desire for a while. But God is, was and will be enough. He created this marvelous universe that I don’t understand as well as my loved ones and even my enemies. How can I not love Him more than life itself? He gave me life. It’s just so hard as we are carnal beings and satan is a liar. Thank you for your comment. May God continue to bless you 🤍
I am so glad I came across this channel
@markita.hardenhome, VERY well said. I grow tired of hearing well-meaning Christian women (usually already married) preach that God will send someone.
The situation she finds herself in is more common than a lot of us like to think or admit. You've given all the right advice. Taking action will be scary for her, but if she focuses on one day at a time, pleasing God first and foremost, and praying for God's strength she'll be able to action your advice successfully and come out the other end a better woman. I really hope she takes action- that's the missing step after receiving advice for a lot of our christian sisters.
Exactly.
I am new to this channel. I love the vibe. It is awesome to see a true woman of God speak God's truth He is not a man of God. He is not a son of a son. That is not Love. He is manipulating and controlling her. She needs to remove herself from this relationship. This is unhealthy. He sees you as a woman with insecurities and low self-esteem and he knows about your childhood trauma. He is not helping her, he is keeping her in a trauma bond. I pray that she gets some inner healing and deliverance to move on with her life. She has so much unaddressed demons inside her and men like this guy is taking advantage of her. God loves you, young lady. Go to your Father and let Him love you before you can love.
Wow! What a excellent breakdown of the situation. That being said, I pray the Lord puts his hand over the author, her wounds and trauma to offer grace and forgiveness.
Amen.
Amen
Many of us grew up in a home/society where church is on the weekends and real life was Monday-Friday. SADLY
I love that God has empowered you to speak the truth over lies. The root heart of so many women is an idolization of relationships.
I wanted to speak a little bit about trauma. A lot of the nuerelogical effects of trauma make it much more difficult, if not impossible, to regulate emotions. People who deal with trauma and unregulated emotions have to intentionally practice relying on the Lord for truth since their perceptions are often damaged. To this woman, the thought of being abandoned by this man probably feels like death and has her too scared to think straight.
She will have to really trust that the Lord is her Shepherd to get through it.
She should end living together. See what happens after that.
I don't even see why she should make up an excuse
After that long he has no plans to marry and she is not changing. She should stand for what she believes, find a place to live, and start fresh with God. Make a Christian home for her child as best she can with the support of her church family.
WOW!!! This was a couple of months worth of deep therapy sessions!! Praying for the author and other people in similar situations; and hope they really watch this until it sinks in or until they have an encounter with the Holy Spirit and be guided/led to the freedom that is in Christ the Lord. I love how she clearly broke down everything with the truth that might be hard to swallow for many but she did it with sooo much love! Definitely spirit led!!
Bindi, that was pretty amazing - truthful, honest, loving, and thoughtful! It is apparent that you really took time to prepare to give an answer to this situation. Many of us have set our sites on the things that are temporal and not the things that are eternal, and you challenged her to think eternally. There are preachers in pulpits around the world that could not have broken that down the way you did! God bless you sis ❤ May God empower you even the more to speak His truth 🙏🏽
Bishop R.C Blakes talks about a real Godly man stepping in to protect you from what you went through and being committed to your healing. That your pain endears you to that man brings out the protector in him. Not the one that will repeat the pain and put you in a difficult place raising that child all by yourself because he wouldn't step up to the plate and Father his child and cover you.😢
My heart is pricked for her and I’m married 😮💨
Wow…. Watching the first few minutes. I have chills. Wow. Wow wowww. Such a blessing sister.
You are so wise, Bindi👑
I appreciate the fact that you didn’t have an example of what it means to be a Biblical wife/homemaker, but now you have so much knowledge and you actually live it out. I’m not comfortable yet to listen to more marriage ‘coaches’ and advisors that are out there, because I’m protecting my spiritual life and marriage, but I trust you and listen to you and I know God lead me to your channel right before I got married and told me that you’re trustworthy ❤️ I already learned so much from you. I needed that, because I come from a non-Christian family. I take my marriage seriously, so I don’t just listen to anyone who claims to be a Christian, but I listen to your videos and take in as much information as possible. The glory of God shines through you
❤Agreed.
Lovely!
I was in a relationship with a man for 8 years. My Spiritual Life was not strong but I knew I didn’t want to continue with fornication.
He did not want marriage but he wanted me to move in with him. I was not at peace with moving in with him.
I cried out to The Lord because I knew I was too weak to the temptation of fornication, so The Lord did something miraculous!
That guy broke up with me and I was at peace with the breakup.
Then a new man entered my life who I believe was sent by The Lord because he was a man who was after Gods heart. We dated for over a year and he proposed to me with my family’s blessings!!
We are married and happy especially since we honor The Lord and live by the word of God. We have a Church of worship together too!
Babyyyyyy the INTROOOOO… wewwwww 😩😩😩
Righttttt
“He looks like a son of something” 😅
I’ve been through enough to know that trauma attracts trauma; it may come masked as ‘help’ or in a way that is seemingly acceptable, but that’s the deception. ‘Birds of feather flock together’ and ‘unequally yoked’ and ‘you are who you hang around’ etc. I promise you trauma has a frequency and energetically you will tap in to those with that same energy. The worse thing to do is get into a relationship (especially a sexual one) before you are healed!!! The trauma bond strengthens and you will be confused and will make irrational decisions and attempt to justify almost everything because of the slightest bit of hope or belief that things are different. This is a way to steal or delay your rightful destiny. HEAL FIRST!!
A man mentioned years ago a message to the single women in our work environment, all it means when a man won't marry us cause he's waiting for the right woman to come along
Thank you Bindi, you are an amazing woman of God, I love your channel. I pray God continues to equip you with his grace and wisdom. I am a 21 year old single woman, I am learning a lot from you as I wait on the Lord and trust his plans for me . Sending lot of Love ❤
This video is right on time. I left my “situationship” almost a month ago and I felt you were speaking to me! When involved in those kind of relationships, we ignore the BIG red flags and I truly believe God brought me that relationship, but I was a fool! Thank God almighty that He protected me thru it and provided me with The Holy Spirit, the strength enough to finally leave and pursue God fully. I’m in my healing season reading the His Word daily, seeking Him first, fasting and praying, and repentance of my past sins. You speaking hard truth in love is what is needed in this generation. Great video.
We don't do 'situationships' anymore. We are daughters of the Most High. Ladies, know who you are!
Thank you, Bindi, for being so forthright. This is truth that has been all but lost in today's society. And young women are falling into these lies and being hurt so badly.
I was in an abusive relationship for over a decade, and one of the things that kept me there was this thinking that at some point we would get married. I had given my virginity to this person and at one time had been very in love with him. More than anything I didn't want my years of pain and hard work to come to nothing. I was afraid I would never have anyone love me, so I couldn't leave. I knew I was in sin but i had turned away from church and any talk of God. I pray that whoever wrote in realizes that God loves us no matter what is done to us or what we do to ourselves. He is able and willing to forgive if we are sincere in changing. It's not going to be easy, in fact it'll probably be very hard as it was for me, but through everything God was there as long as I reached out for Him.
That was exactly my situation (minus the virginity part, but together since very young). Sad part is I have back slid after a year of no contact 3 years ago and being recently baptized. I am so ashamed and disgusted with myself. I know well what the Word says and gave in to temptation anyway. Now I feel like the misery from my actions have been 10 times worse. I feel I’ve let many loved ones down and im ashamed to say anything. Now im asking the Lord to remove this person from my life as they’ve been a thorn to my side. I pray for the author and for all of my sisters in the same struggle. God is with us if we only turn to Him.
@@itszbebabaybee There's nothing to be ashamed of. There is always a reason why we find ourselves with people and men who treat us badly, and why it's so hard for us to let go. Shame and regret will only eat you up inside. Forgive yourself for allowing someone to hurt you and forgive you for hurting you. I didn't truly get better until I went to Christian therapy and worked through my childhood issues. After that I remained celibate and stayed that way. But God is good and he brought me my now husband and we were married just last month. There is hope and happiness waiting, the wonderful thing about God is that if we earnestly seek him, he is faithful and just to forgive us and help us. Keep praying, don't live in shame. Tell people what's happened to you amd most of all keep yourself accountable. This Christian walk is a journey, not a sprint.
I was in this position. The hardest part was leaving but when I did, God restored my soul, brought back my peace, and healed my depression completely. I held on my entire pregnancy, trying everything to make our relationship better, because I thought the worst possible situation was having my son grow up in a separated home. But really it was way worse for him to grow up in a sinful home. Everything you said was spot on!
Gods word is clear on sexual sin and being unequally yoked! Like you said, this man is not your husband. Having a child together is not an exception that God makes for this.
Thank you for sharing
I love the delivery … it’s hard to hear but it’s unfiltered. And if you love someone tell them the truth. Period
Bindi bringing the WISDOM! EXCELLENT response to this dear Sister.
I think his voice is what she is mirroring. He seems to be the fake saviour. Because he knows her history, and he knows that she has become codependent on him, he is using it against her.
Any man trying to tell you, that you have to change or be something different to love you or marry you is trying to create a person different from you for himself.
Thanks for speaking the truth in love to this young lady. Praying that The Holy Spirit convicts her ❤. Jesus is Enough!
Ephesians 5 vs 3
"Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people."
This answer was handled exceptionally well with the right amount of grace and sensitivity.
This is excellent advice. One thing I didn't hear (that I may have missed) is that if she gets her life and heart right before the Lord, she CANNOT marry him if he does not genuinely do the same. They would be unequally yoked.
Right! This man is a sizzling, scorching, hot like fire mess.
Yeah I'd break it off and give it a LOT of time to see if he truly repents and let God change his heart, but that would be a very long and difficult road, as in it probably won't happen. Very sad they had a kid together.
She definitely needs prayer. I hope she takes in all of your advice. This was a great video, tough love is definitely needed.
We were checked by another member of the church for living together. We already were convicted for living together so being checked was just another layer of that conviction. Conviction is not condemnation. Condemnation leads to shame and shame becomes an impasse or obstruction in your relationship to God. Conviction leads to repentance. Repentance yields a change. We have been married going on 8 years and I often look back at that time with sadness knowing that I grieved God the most. I also look back on other ungodly relationships with disdain Giving up my body and soul to men who were not godly or worthy. Stop now and let God redeem into the women you're supposed to be for Him first.
Willing to sin to have the SCRAPS this man is offering- WOOOOOO. Conviction! Wow! I needed to hear this!
She is not yet ready for a relationship. She needs to work on herself first. It sounds like there is also what is called a trauma bond occuring with the fiance. She needs to process trauma and identify what her core beliefs are and what led to the development of her core beliefs, then the Therapist will assist her to positively change the maladptive thoughts she thinks about herself and tells herself due to trauma. A core belief is the main message that someone believes about themself. People will either behave in ways that confirm or goes against their core beliefs. She clearly feels broken but remember, God makes even more beautiful the things that are broken. I would like for her to google kintsugi Pottery: an artform in which gold is used to mend broken pottery and put it back together such that the pottery ,after being mended with the gold, looks even more beautiful than before: Jesus Christ will do the same for her if she allows him to do so.
Amen this is one of the best channels on youtube a channel that every one single or married needs to hear
This is amazing advice. I was in a 2.5 year relationship where my ex partner didn’t want to have sex for biblical reasons and I agreed. However, he kept changing his mind. One moment he wants to remain abstinent then a couple of months later, he wants to have a slip up and then guilt trips me into not wanting to go back and forth. Make up your mind. I hated how I felt during that relationship. I felt completely taken advantage of because he kept using the Bible, but when he had a weak moment, it was out of the window.
"taken advantage"? Did he rape you? If not, then you are equally guilty of sin. No putting blame on one side.
Such a great video! Full of tough love and much needed advice for all unmarried women. I love what you said about how you’re either married or single. I’ve always noticed on paperwork that there’s never been a box to say that you’re “in a relationship.” It’s only married, single, widowed, separated, or divorce.
This woman who contacted Bindi needs agape love that does no harm, healing, and support from believers who will love her and walk the path to wellness with her. Good job, Bindi, all of your tough love and wise words were correct and delivered with love. ❤
Tell him if he like it, then he should have put a ring on it.✌️
You say he's a godly man, then he will put a ring on it.
He doesn't trust you, but he trusted you enough to have his CHILD good grief. Praying for you. 💕
I have been through this (not exactly, I haven't been in a sexual relationship, but mentally I've been where this woman is). From one unhealthy man to another. It looked different, and they might have helped me in some ways, sure, but it was the same thing just differently wrapped. This woman should know this is really hard and my heart goes to her :(. This cycle doesn't get resolved differently than letting God show you his love for you little by little. This takes time. Let God show you what a good father and man he is for you and you will stop craving the unhealthy in men. But this isn't instant and please k'be kind to yourself in the process. The healing is possible, just try to remain close to God and he will show himself to you. hugs.
Brilliant advice daughter of God!
Had to share this! I know it is and will be a blessing for so many!
The situation sounds like she met a manipulator who convinced her that he somehow helped her. Maybe he did somewhat but he also used that as a way to make her believe he treats her better than any other man who’s been in her life. Women who haven’t felt safe/loved before typically will be infatuated and delusional (I don’t mean this in a demeaning way) about the man they perceive as having helped them. Every thing in the letter points to HER being the issue which again leads me to believe the man has manipulated her to think that she somehow has to fix things but the truth is he DOES NOT want to be with her and will never marry her because he knows that’s what she wants and he needs to keep her jumping through hoops. I pray she seeks God more, read his word and praise God so that she can discern the truth about this man. God always reveals all and she’ll have to believe in herself in order to walk away. God bless everyone in this situation. There is so much peace and true love on the other side!!!!!
This advice is so sound. Even people who are not in a relationship can receive these words of wisdom. I definitely reflected on how I have done the very things you mentioned in my past relationships.
35.22 !!!! JESUS!! Sooo much conviction and truth was shared throughout this entire video. Bindi, thank you for your tact, grace, and truth in love. To the author, we have all been here sis. It's not too late! Trust me. God has more for you!
Lemme tell you! I almost didn't click. Lord, I am thankful I did. We need this Bindi... I SAID NEED.
The villiage of women speak life to this young woman. You have worth, you are loved! You are fearfully and wonderfully made! We wrap our arms of love and strength around you, we sit and cry with you! We comfort you with the comfort we have received!
A strong villiage of Godly women, surrounded me, loved me, spoke hard truth to me, mega doses of time with God and His word, therapy, prayer etc. is what transformed my mind, healed and restored me.
In one voice we say, Oh Lord, bring healing and transformation to our Sista! Do not fear wholeness, be courageous and take your steps to healing that Bindi has offered in her words of wisdom. And know Jesus is with you. When He says, I AM with you, (all of who God is, is with you!) Jehovah Rapha your Healer, Jehovah Jireh your Provider, Jehovah Shalom your Peace, His care and Kindness is with you, Lover of your soul is with you. God is more than enough for your healing, transformation and restoration! We love you our Sista!❤❤❤
Thank you for speaking truth to the author of this email. It saddens me to see so many women (let alone children) in these terribly debasing situations.
This is great advice, tough love. I would like to add to this; its very hard for someone to love you when you do not love yourself.
As you stated, the author should strongly consider counsel from trusted, wise church elders. She should also seek therapy to correct cognitive distortions formed by the trauma she endured; that in and of itself is really affecting her negative perceptions about herself and the grandiose perceptions about her fiancée. Taking accountability and asserting agency over one’s life is critical to the author’s success, her soul and her bloodline. I wish her the best.
I love your channel. This way we can learn about womanhood more♡
I am not in her situation (sometimes I feel like I am living a life more like the man she described) so this message spoke to me in a completely unexpected way. Wow. Powerful.
Wow Amen! Thank you God for recommending me this video. The lady’s situation is similar to mine but not at the same time. And yet I still received wisdom from your response.
I literally just thought of something like this and you kinda confirmed this is exactly what’s happening… the man that I am with now says he won’t marry me bc I have trauma and it’s funny bc most of my new trauma is from him.
He helped me escape a very abusive relationship 6years ago only to be lead to him who he then became my abuser.. so wow yea that part his deep. He is a deceiver and like u said looking like the son of Satan. I have been contemplating on leaving bc some days he is nice…. But overall if he doesn’t want to marry me then he is clearly just using me for whatever he wants. Wife duties, sex, my energy. I’m good enough for those things but apparently not good enough to be his wife. So this cannot possibly be a godly relationship no matter how much I preach the gospel and the Bible to him.
You can't preach the Bible to him while not living it. 🤷 He won't respect you or God.
@ Kimberley exactly
@@kimberlyturner820❤ facts.
Jesus says that He is the light of the world and it can be a shock on how the Word of God can shine a light on what we've been doing wrong yet accepted thru complacency, or even deceit. But God wants something better for you! - You are too precious!
@kimberlyturner820 hmmm makes sense actually. Never thought about that. Just thought I’d bring up Bible verses to him
Thank you to the woman who wrote this letter because so many women are in the same position. And thank you Bindi for sharing this wisdom!! So many women have this way of thinking. I did at once too, although we didn’t have a child. I felt convicted and shared that with my fiancé, we ended up getting married and it’s been work but marriage is also a blessings and we have both matured in the Lord. This is the message this generation needs to hear. Don’t make a man your Lord, we have 1 savior and he should be the Lord of our lives. Great message.
Hi writer! Sending you so much love and recognition for the courage it took to share your dilemma. May my words and the meditations of my heart be acceptable to the Lord. I just want to say that I have similar baggage to you and my husband married me being 100% aware of that. I, too, recognized ways that I related to my husband that were not how I truly desired to interact with him. I brought it to the Lord and asked him to help me heal, help me forgive, and help me to honor my husband. Of course, he answered and delivered! And the Lord, hand-in-hand with my husband, has helped us to craft a strong marriage and household full of love and faith. I say this to say your trauma won't stop your husband from marrying you. Growth can also come in marriage where both of you are faithful to the Lord. I hope this helps! Keeping you in prayer ❤
I appreciate the care with which you spoke: it reveals how serious you are about sharing a view based in love and God’s Word.
Thank you for sharing your content. You are doing amazing work!
You look fantastic with glasses.
Excellent advice Bindi. I hope she will listen and act on it.
You are beyond your years. Love how you tell it like it is!! ❤
I needed to hear this!! I’m in a similar situation thank you for your directness. I don’t need sugar coating I needed someone to help me get out of my situation.
if you want to get out...god can do it
I wish I had had an older sister like you growing up, to help keep me from straying from God and abusing myself in the ways that I did in my early years, but all Glory to God I'm saved now, we are headed for marriage, committed to repenting of our previous sexual sins by a period of celibacy before the wedding. Thank you Bindi, for teaching and speaking to young women, right where they are today, it was your videos that convicted me, held my hand and told me to seek Christ, and thusly set me back on the righteous path. Praying for the woman who wrote that letter 🙏🏽🌷
First off, I would just like to encourage every woman who the enemy has made you feel less than. Understand that our Heavenly Father has given you the power and authority to speak to your situation. You are a daughter of the King. You deserve to be treated as such. Do not feel like you have to ignore what He has said about you to please any mere vessel that dwells on this earth. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. And you should be regarded as such. Speak life to yourself if you feel lifeless inside. Read the words of our Heavenly Father so you never forget His promises to you. I love you all! ❤
Secondly, this was so well worded that it really helped me realize what to say to fellow women who worship men at the expense of their own worth. I’ve battled with the words to express the ramifications of fornication for awhile, but this was right on time.
This is such good solid advice. I too feel for this woman and her situation. I hope and pray that she listens to this and asks God for His help. She and her child deserve so much better.
24:43 sister i used to cry in front of the mirror saying these exact words! God is my witness, that he began to fill me with his love for myself. God is so good and his love is so powerful to make us realise our true worth and not accept less than what he has demonstrated to us as true and perfect love.
If I were that woman I would thank you with my life for those advises and the amount of pure and loving honesty. Christ heals His children with tools like you.
God bless you Bindi for this video ! Trusting God during my waiting season 🥹
SPOT on. I hope this lady is able to figure out her situation and value herself as the beautiful daughter of God that she is!
💕 This message hits home for me in so many ways. I wish I could've heard these truths in my younger days, but I am profoundly grateful that the Lord's grace turned my oblivious heart (whew chile! Looking back at the antics) into a repentant one. Your words remind me that His timing and purpose are perfect. I can testify that He can transform lives and relationships when we surrender to His plan. Thank you for your inspiring courage in sharing this. 🙏✨ May more women find strength to rise up, set standards, and embrace the incredible journey of faith and love. 🌟 #GodsTiming #TransformingGrace
To the person who wrote this in, I'm available to speak- I had the same situation and have been a single mom for 2 years now. God is good and I'd love to personally share how He helped me in this
you are a VERY intelligent and wise woman.❤love your perspective on different topics and can’t wait to learn more about myself, the Lord and you through your postings! thank you so much!
I used to watch your channel years ago for my loc journey and interest. Glad to you see and I walk with the lord :)
This is great advice! God bless you Bindi! 🤗
Sis Bindi you’re so real for this 😂❤️
Bindi dropping the hard truth right from the get-go!!!! 🤣💓 That was awesome!!
Cheers! God Bless.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom!!
That’s raw truth that needs to be heard! So many women are in similar situations
I really like how she calls out things as they are and its very important to hear that in todays world.💯
Too many pple are calling themselves men/ women of God, but living deep in sinful lives and making justifications for it. And i think this is why the results of our actions are full of pain and regret, bc we are NOT doing things the right way.
Woooooo! Thank you for being so honest and a truly loving sister. This had many similarities in my own life and experiences. Everything you said and the advice is amazing. A lot of times we ignore the TRUTH thats staring at us and beating us on the head. Jesus has openend my eyes to the truth and MY sin above all. Despite the wrong of others to me i needed to repent of my iniquities and in Him gain strength to forgive and follow Him 🙏🏾
Lets all please share this video with our sister's. Im sure we all know somwone that needs to hear this.
Thank you Lord for using Bindi in this video ❤
God is using you to help many people. He has given you wisdom beyond your years. Bless you.
Whew I needed this
This is powerful and so well said!!
I felt extreme conviction from this I relate to a majority of what you have spoken about 😭
Wow. So calm and truthful and bold and loving... Praise God!
An amazing, truthful, and, informative video. Thank you.