Why women should not marry! Of course we know we have a choice but she says more!

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  • Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
  • Today's woman no longer needs to see herself as half of a relationship, waiting for Mr. Right to come along and put it together for her. This book is an inspiration for any woman on the brink of giving up her independence to seek the security that marriage has always promised but seldom provides.....according to Cynthia Smith

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  • @laneylaney9985
    @laneylaney9985 4 месяца назад +103

    She was ahead of her time

  • @notyet2345
    @notyet2345 8 месяцев назад +92

    Marriage has never benefited women. Single child free women are happier, healthier and wealthier than married women with kids, single child free women live longer than married women. Marriage benefits men only not women . The value of marriage is not worth the misery that women must go through to be married

    • @AutumnAprodithe
      @AutumnAprodithe 3 месяца назад +12

      Single mothers have more time for themselves than married women.
      The husband usually behaves like the more difficult to handle toddler.

    •  3 месяца назад +5

      Remember divorce was recently less 100 years ago legalized. You were a slave if you felt trapped!

    • @sandradavis4551
      @sandradavis4551 3 месяца назад +5

      I agree. Marriage does not benefit women. PERIOD!

  • @perfectionnotallowed6093
    @perfectionnotallowed6093 8 месяцев назад +57

    I can’t enjoy the interview because the interviewer won’t shut up.

  • @cartb3569
    @cartb3569 6 месяцев назад +33

    Shes on point ! As a widow I am happier than ever .not marrying again

  • @ghostbird92
    @ghostbird92 Год назад +79

    Why is this so hard for the interviewer to understand??? She's so dense
    Cynthia Smith: You don't have to marry if you don't want to. You can if you want but don't feel pressured to.
    Interviewer: SO YOU'RE SAYING DON'T GET MARRIED????

    • @Emptytopfloor
      @Emptytopfloor Год назад

      Interviewer is not right in the head/lives in fairy lands.

    • @softlife45
      @softlife45 3 месяца назад +1

      She's blonde lol

    • @amysocool7
      @amysocool7 2 месяца назад

      that was honestly how alot of women thought long time ago

    • @delicatemoves123
      @delicatemoves123 2 месяца назад +3

      The interview doesn't get that some women enjoy the company of men but they don't want marriage.

    • @delicatemoves123
      @delicatemoves123 2 месяца назад +2

      Emily Dickinson enjoyed lovers and didn't get married. If you want to get married then go for it. It is not something every woman wants though. If you want it then go for it but it should not be pushed on women.

  • @Lovedomi
    @Lovedomi 4 месяца назад +22

    This woman, Cynthia, was really ahead of her time

  • @jolanhowes3604
    @jolanhowes3604 3 месяца назад +12

    "We all miss something in life." How true. I'm 71 and never married. A few guys wanted to marry me, but I just couldn't do it. In looking back I realize that marriage to any of them wouldn't have lasted. There are times when I think I missed out on not having a husband or children, but I've had a full life and being independent has been wonderful. This interview was awhile back. More and more women are embracing the single life. Only 25% of couples are truly happy, so that leaves 75% that aren't. With odds like that, being single is actually a pretty darn good choice.

  • @camille3083
    @camille3083 Год назад +54

    She’s speaking facts!

  • @sherrietaylor372
    @sherrietaylor372 4 месяца назад +58

    Being single is heavenly!

    • @AutumnAprodithe
      @AutumnAprodithe 3 месяца назад +3

      I wished I had Cynthia as a my aunt.
      I'll never forgive my pickme grandma for trying to groom me into being liked by men by constantly repeating that if I don't learn to cook and clean then no Man would want me.
      I'm happy I never cooked and cleaned for a man and I will never move in.

    • @kameshiam1674
      @kameshiam1674 3 месяца назад +8

      ​@AutumnAprodithe I was taught never approach a man and wait til they approach you. So, I waited. My mother told me that I didn't have a man because I couldn't cook, screw, or watch ball games.
      Then I was approached by an "ok" man. Then my mom got mad when I didn't invite her to my wedding...then she laughed at me when my ex husband assaulted me. She gave me no emotional susport during my divorce. She was happy that I failed. She never asked me if I was ok or what I wanted....he never asked either.
      I'm free from both of them and I feel so much better.

    • @AutumnAprodithe
      @AutumnAprodithe 3 месяца назад +3

      @@kameshiam1674 Good. After healing from the narc crap I had to endure I started to like cooking. I set clear boundaries, I'm not going to cook for a man, I cook what I would like to have and he can grab a plate. If he doesn't want what I'm having then that's too bad.
      I'm not making sacrifices because it doesn't matter what you do or don't do, if a man wants to leave he will.

  • @ayyylien7066
    @ayyylien7066 11 месяцев назад +29

    This woman is spittin. The saddest part about all this tho is that societal discourse really hasn't evolved much past this point.

  • @IAMHERE486
    @IAMHERE486 3 месяца назад +18

    The author is excellent and the interviewer is argumentative.

  • @user-iu6bv8vu8o
    @user-iu6bv8vu8o 9 месяцев назад +59

    Yes! She is right on! I was married 20 years - it’s definitely not all it’s cracked up to be! Men are celebrated for being single & woman are tortured mentally for being single- the interviewer sounds like she just got married & is blindly in love - with some cheater that has her under the foolish spell - she is so combative & refuses to agree!

  • @phoenixtoash2396
    @phoenixtoash2396 2 месяца назад +8

    I agree with this woman. My mother without my knowledge tried time and time again to match me with people I never would have been with initially let alone be miserable in a marriage with them. To be owned is lame and a nightmare.

  • @keyhimself3542
    @keyhimself3542 Месяц назад +6

    Im a guy and I approve this message.

  • @veganbutterfly3652
    @veganbutterfly3652 Год назад +65

    Women should have the option not to marry.

  • @pageturningpriestess2859
    @pageturningpriestess2859 3 месяца назад +10

    "Whose mother doesn't have a mother of the bride dress hanging in the damn closet" LOL I love her straightforward honesty

  • @jessicaauguste3260
    @jessicaauguste3260 6 месяцев назад +29

    This lady in the yellow sound like these aggravating misogynistic podcasts 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @xxxlegend6810
      @xxxlegend6810 2 месяца назад +3

      Ikr, she didn’t let the women talk, like she swallowed a radio or sth 🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @missmissy5170
    @missmissy5170 2 месяца назад +7

    That interviewer was struggling lol

  • @latashascott3503
    @latashascott3503 Год назад +60

    The interviewer has comprehensive issues

  • @AutumnAprodithe
    @AutumnAprodithe 3 месяца назад +10

    I have been leaning towards asexuality my whole life. As a kid I only had crushes on fictional men you see on tv.
    I tried to get into romance books but that didn't make the human male more appealing.
    Sure I love me some romance like Gomez and Morticia but that's fiction.
    Real men are nothing like that.
    Careers are better anyway.

  • @MichaelaH2059
    @MichaelaH2059 4 месяца назад +25

    I'm 64 yo. If i knew then what i know now, I would never married. I divorced my 1st husband and got remarried 4 yrs later. I will never do this again. My parents were part of the WW2 generation and all daughters were too get married... that was crammed down my throat for years. Listen, you can have a child without being a wife. I agree with Cynthia 100%.

    • @truthseeker3967
      @truthseeker3967 3 месяца назад

      Remarriage after divorce if a previous spouse is still living is /-\dultery according to the Bible. You cannot remain a Christian in that state. ==> He [Jesus] answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits /-\dultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits /-\dultery.” (Mark 10:12) ==> By law, a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive; but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an /-\dulteress (Romans 7:2-3). ==> A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. (1 Corinthians 7:39) You can live alone, but cannot remarry BTW, I was in that position - in an /-\dulterous remarriage, when I discovered this truth, and I vacated the relationship. Now I am alone but not sad about it,

    • @AutumnAprodithe
      @AutumnAprodithe 3 месяца назад

      I'm asexual and I have been pressured to get marry as easy as possible since I was 7, I was told around that age by my grandmother that if I don't cook and clean no man would want me while the dumb donkey only got abusive husband's.
      I took it to the heart with uno reverse card and I refused to cook and clean.
      I refuse to be groomed into being liked by men.
      Everything I do I do it for me.

  • @chocchick5890
    @chocchick5890 3 месяца назад +8

    The interviewer got on my nerves!! She is not objective at all. She doesn't get it.😒 It's as if she is trying to get Cynthia to change her mind.

  • @AutumnAprodithe
    @AutumnAprodithe Месяц назад +3

    I wished I had her as my grandmother. She's amazing.

  • @doris2793
    @doris2793 2 месяца назад +6

    Hey if something is amazing to have it doesn't have to be sold, it sells itself... there has to be societal pressure because the marriage deal is generally set up for a mans benefit not a womans

  • @mylyfe4382
    @mylyfe4382 3 месяца назад +8

    That younger woman is so brainwashed.

  • @truthseeker3967
    @truthseeker3967 3 месяца назад +13

    This woman in the yellow is a terrible interviewer. She should just do a monologue.

  • @sherrietaylor372
    @sherrietaylor372 4 месяца назад +10

    I’m getting her book…😂

  • @19katsandcounting
    @19katsandcounting 6 месяцев назад +11

    I’d like to know more about this woman.

  • @TajMahalFire
    @TajMahalFire Месяц назад +4

    Marriage is absolutely garbage. Single and financially independent is awesomeness ❤❤❤

  • @TH-xe6jp
    @TH-xe6jp 2 месяца назад +2

    8:09 The way she zipped past the book, seems like she had an attitude 😂.

  • @Naturallyinmywoman
    @Naturallyinmywoman Год назад +13

    This is how I feel

    • @cartb3569
      @cartb3569 5 месяцев назад

      Take if from me ,you are not missing fck ..the wedding is your last touch with happiness don't care how nice the man is .

  • @cinnamongirl5410
    @cinnamongirl5410 Год назад +12

    Right on!

  • @EllieMandyArt
    @EllieMandyArt 4 месяца назад +12

    3:12 did you here that? It’s not 50/50.

  • @cebile1493
    @cebile1493 2 месяца назад +12

    Marriage benefits men and divorce benefits the women....thats why we hardly see men whom are married complain but they only complain when he goes through divorce that's because divorce actually takes away from him it's not pouring into him

    • @Slow-Rolling
      @Slow-Rolling 21 день назад

      If marriage benefits men.. why are men not wanting to get married??? 🤦🏾‍♂️ marriage and divorce benefits women… marriage is a trap for men.

  • @PHILLIPSTEFFON-rv6eo
    @PHILLIPSTEFFON-rv6eo 6 месяцев назад +29

    IM NEVER GETTING MARRIED

    • @cartb3569
      @cartb3569 6 месяцев назад +16

      As a widow with 5 kids ..you ain't missing fck !! Live you life and date forever i am .serious too

    • @mjohnson1741
      @mjohnson1741 2 месяца назад +3

      Right with you! I got crazy looks when I was younger. Now the same people agree with me and expressed regret.

  • @jazzygirl4140
    @jazzygirl4140 5 дней назад

    I made the mistake of marrying my childhood sweetheart at 18. He then decided he owned me and started putting his hands on me. Took me less than a year to rid myself of him. Even had he not been abusive, I quickly realized that I was not cut out to be anyone's wife. I want to be left alone !

  • @raisa_cherry33
    @raisa_cherry33 8 дней назад +1

    I am perfectly fine in my own space,in my own company.Relationship never crossed my mind,i am having to succumb as i have no other choice but to start looking for the one.Why do i have to make the move if men are not interested in committed relationship.This is what my nosy relatives don’t try to get! the whole of society is so screwed up 😢
    I might change my mind but i need prove if there’s really genuinely good guy out there who wants a woman like me. No one like that has been found so why the rush to marry.If i don’t get any proposals at all i have decided to remain virgin for life.
    Thankfully,my parents respect my decision and they never pressure me into anything.Even they have to think twice before handing me over to the one(only if it happens).Sad we don’t value platonic relations that much.

  • @vanessac1965
    @vanessac1965 Год назад +14

    I liked her!

  • @anacatarinam4167
    @anacatarinam4167 4 месяца назад +14

    Terrible interviewer

  • @ChaiTogether
    @ChaiTogether 3 месяца назад +5

    Got damn Eileen, why are you going against the grain? All of this resistance.

  • @Kimrice2112
    @Kimrice2112 Год назад +7

    Yes 👍🏾

  • @renatangaiza7775
    @renatangaiza7775 Год назад +11

    🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @WildAntics13
    @WildAntics13 Месяц назад +1

    This woman must be a Queen, In other lifetime! A Goddess’s 😂😂😂 I read about book about What Men Dont Want Women To Know - The Secrets, The Lies, The Unspoken Truth - Smith and Doe !!! She is not lying all our relationship with men especially marriages benefits men more than woman! Read it for yourself and be awaken! You will gag! 😅

  • @raisa_cherry33
    @raisa_cherry33 8 дней назад +1

    Marriage is not so romantic adventure,you are literally handcuffed and expected to be lady like following patriarchal rules.
    Sadly the society i live in doesn’t view single people from a positive angle.I am indirectly facing backlash for not rushing to do what other women are doing-getting hitched.Well,why on earth i have to follow what others want.It’s my choice,my decision.Just because my parents are aging and i am getting old doesn’t mean marriage will solve all my life’s problems,should never be the end goal.
    Not against marriage but i feel it’s not meant for all.
    I feel less alone now,Cynthia is a progressive thinker and i loved how she’s being unapologetically HER in the interview.

  • @carmeld45
    @carmeld45 10 месяцев назад +2

    YESSSS.

  • @ChaiTogether
    @ChaiTogether 3 месяца назад +4

    God this was horrible to listen to due to the host.

  • @oxoxoxoxo1155
    @oxoxoxoxo1155 5 дней назад

    What year was this??

  • @PandaHead602
    @PandaHead602 3 месяца назад +1

    What year was this wow

  • @Bobby_S.S.
    @Bobby_S.S. 2 месяца назад +5

    This host is a die-hard pick-me.

    • @dollhouseq1530
      @dollhouseq1530 Месяц назад

      Yes!!!! Wonder how long it took for her to get a divorce lol

    • @CherokeeCabinetmaker
      @CherokeeCabinetmaker Месяц назад

      Pick me are dangerous same ones who traffic kids too. I've been thru it luckily they husbands snuff em and we don't got deal w it no more

  • @musiclover865
    @musiclover865 2 месяца назад

    Exactly!

  • @oscarvazquez6620
    @oscarvazquez6620 7 месяцев назад +10

    Most women marry for resources and security.

    • @cartb3569
      @cartb3569 5 месяцев назад +11

      And if she's lucky,he'll die, and she can really get it that .

    • @hotties3v3n
      @hotties3v3n 3 месяца назад

      And what about you men? Do tell...

    • @phoenixtoash2396
      @phoenixtoash2396 2 месяца назад

      That was what my mother assumed. Even if I had married , I would never accept a single dollar from the guy. I don't see that as fair. I see that as a price paid for a hooker.

    • @mjohnson1741
      @mjohnson1741 2 месяца назад +3

      Societies that are more egalitarian/matriarchal and give women power have very low marriage rates among women.

    • @CherokeeCabinetmaker
      @CherokeeCabinetmaker Месяц назад +1

      ​@@mjohnson1741 women need food water shelter. NONE of these include male presense! Segregation of resources make the male seem appealing over starving...

  • @DavesArtRoom
    @DavesArtRoom 8 месяцев назад +2

    I totally agree with this. This is a true choice. I choice to abort a baby by men or women is a not so good choice, and that seems to be up to individuals. Marriage however is not necessarily for everybody. Ignore societal pressure when it comes to marriage.

  • @moniquem1873
    @moniquem1873 3 месяца назад

    ❤❤❤

  • @aphillyate1
    @aphillyate1 3 месяца назад +4

    I think women marry to have a wedding.

    • @truthseeker3967
      @truthseeker3967 3 месяца назад

      Many offer their 'boyfriends' the option of going to the courthouse.

    • @hotties3v3n
      @hotties3v3n 3 месяца назад

      And men don't want to marry because they like to put it about and couldn'tbe loyal if their life depended on it. Your type in particular like polygamy. No thanks.

    • @rockyayce6485
      @rockyayce6485 3 месяца назад

      😂😂😂

    • @phoenixtoash2396
      @phoenixtoash2396 2 месяца назад +1

      My mother was the push person for a wedding. I never wanted to marry and I never did.

    • @mjohnson1741
      @mjohnson1741 2 месяца назад +2

      ​@@phoenixtoash2396This is why I love ❤️ my mother and father. I told them I never wanted to get married. They both didn't care at all even though they were married. It's a beautiful thing to come from tradition and not indoctrination.