how to not take things personally as a sensitive person
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
- figuring out how to not take things personally as someone who is sensitive can feel almost impossible, but slowly with these few mindset changes we can really take a step back and see things for what they are:)
Hope this can help a few of you out!
hello my loves
It’s good to have emotions. It’s also healthy to cry. The problem isn’t emotions,it’s the fact that some people “don’t have them”. Therefore they think it’s weird when others do.
Yes I agree with you 100%🥺
This comment, 💯👌
Damn…we’re really just a big spirit family🥰❤️✨
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Thank you so much for making this video. Recently I quit a job bc I take things personally so much 🤭Now I realized about that.I will use these tips you mentioned in this video.Thank you so much 🤍
So happy it was helpful🥰!! Wishing you all the best
I've ALWAYS struggled with this 🥲 thank you for this, your energy is very calming and it was very well and sinply explained 🙏 it really takes a lot to be the bigger person and not fall into the defensive trap but instead take a step back and observe. Most days i lose that battle 🥲 Thank you❤️❤️
The downside on having a good heart is we think everyone else around us has a good heart and when we see thats not the case, it backfires :(
This 😔
Lmao tell me about it. 😒
That's exactly our problem
1. Not everyone is like you... :(
2. Not everything is about you :)
3. Be companionate to someone that made you feel this.
4. Know yourself to not really take everything serious.
5. You can choose what to take close to yourself. Everyone have very different points.
6. We all have things to improve and problems with us.
personally for me , i would admit that i am a highly emotional and sensitive person . i cry very easily and it is hard for me to control my emotions in front of others , but what hurts more is that other people say stuff like "WHY ARE U SO WEAK" , "JUST STOP CRYING" as this makes me feel that i am just irritating and my emotions are useless to pour yk. i am a cancerian and honestly i hate this trait of mine being "emotional" or "sensitive" as this just makes me look pathetic in front of others
That’s so interesting I’m a cancer ♋️ and I hardly ever cry.. I feel like cancers get a bad rap for being cry babies but that’s not true not all cancers cry. But I do take things personally lol
Oh, yes. Working in customer service will really toughen you up. Also, something that I’m learning is not to hold on so much to either my strengths and weaknesses. Our best will look different every day and accepting this fact will help us move on from various situations easily.
Yess exactly!! I love that perspective, I don’t think I ever looked at it that way but it’s so true❤️ thank you so much for sharing:)
I did a year and a half and I can only say as time went bay I didn’t get tougher (I probably should have tho), I got more anxious and nervous and afraid, I had to go and try to be promoted to get out of that hell because I couldn’t take it anymore (and then I was exploited on that promotion and got severe burnout for months until I couldn’t take it anymore and had to quit even though I needed the job)
As a young adult making the transition from school to the work world, a video addressing this was NEEDED, ignoring those bad thoughts is EVERYTHING. Thanks for the upload
its a pleasure, im glad it was helpful
@@MichelleGia thank you ♾️
it's the way i am feeling more understood by a stranger on the internet than people irl haha
Haha felt that😭
OMG ME me me ME. Ive never met someone more sensitive than me. After some therapy, reading books on letting go of the ego, and lots of exposure, I dont care that much anymore haha. I know now that the situation itself is not as serious as i make it out to be in my head and that it truly is NOT personal. Nothing is ever really personal. Peoples behaviors are a reflection of their perspective and past experiences. One of the most important things ive learned is that everyone is doing the best that they can
that’s amazing, what books did you read if u don’t mind?
@@_lynnloo9988 i started with books by brene brown. she speaks about shame, vulnerability, connection, and belonging. although when i read "a new earth" by eckhart tolle... absolute gamechanger. nothing spoke to me like the words in his book did before that point in my life. it made me feel like everything is ultimately gonna be alright and to surrender to what is happening in the present moment.
You don't care that much now wow, I am impressed, hope I will reach that level one day !! What do you mean by lots of exposure? Also please please please recommend as many books as you can, I desperately need help with this. Thank you sooo much !!!
Oh and which book by Brene Brown do you recommend I start with ? I'm going to buy "a new earth"and a book by Brown إن شاء الله
@@E.Cerulean exposure to social situations, experiences, people. you really do wise up as you age. start with the gifts of imperfection!
Working in retail was one of the best things I ever did in terms of stopping being overly sensitive! As much as it is good to have emotions, it is not good to want to cry every time you receive the slightest criticism!!
Yess same😭 it was rough at first but so worth it! I agree with you 100%🤭
For me retail is easy but coworkers are not especially bosses who are jealous
The customer service part was easy, it’s the coworkers who I had to keep an eye out. 👀
Whew!! Your life significantly improves once you get better at not taking things personal. It takes works, but the work is worth it!
Yes I agree with you 1000%😇!!
Trying to understand people by thinking that they are just projecting their bad moods or insecurities on me is calming, but then I’ll just go back with the idea that I will never project my bad moods nor insecurities on others; so maybe they are just really mean.
haha so relatable😭 there are moments where it can get tough to handle, but then again thats still on them and has nothing to do with you:)
I would describe myself as a very emotional/passionate person so I tend to take things to heart a lot. Because of this I often REACT to things emotionally instead of LISTENING and accurately RESPONDING. I'm trying tho :)
No, I get this exactly🥺I’m the same way, at least we’re aware now and trying:) that’s the first step!
I’ve been so stressed this month and this is just one of her videos that have helped me to finally feel peace today while sitting in my car❤
I’m so happy to hear🥰hope the rest of the month goes a lot better for you!
You talk really nicely 😊 I really like your gesture and smile while talking
Awe thank you so much🥹🫶🏼
@@MichelleGia your welcome ☺️
You're really really wise at a young age. It took me 40 years to gain this understanding. Thanks for sharing!
ME. EFFING. TOO. I hate work environments so much because of this. I just finished school for real estate and am going in that direction, but I still work in the service industry now and between customers and my coworkers it's so draining. I'm constantly so aware of other peoples micro-expressions and tones etc. And I get so anxious and don't know what to do. I don't want to under react or overreact if someone is genuinely rude or disrespectful to me. I don't know how other people handle that shit so well.
Great video! I am impressed and almost a bit jealous of you as I had to turn 55 years old before I stumbled about the term 'highly sensitive '.😉
I understand myself so much better since I know it.
All the best to you!
WHY AM I LITRRALLY RECCOMENDED THIS AT THE PERF TIME
SO GLAD IT COULD HELP❤️❤️❤️
I thought I’m the only one and it’s not normal to be like this but I realise it’s just normal emotion after watching the video and reading the comments ❤
Social and general anxiety here 🙋🏽♀️
*Me: It is OK to be sensitive and profound; it is part of me.* Growing up in a strict household affected me. And everyone isn't the same, but we have similarities on some level. I'll take today (1st April) a hiatus from online for 2 months which is a good thing. Taking care of yourself and your time is essential.
Hope you have been well, Michelle. Take care of yourself! What you said is true. Logically and do it right with "don't react" to things that are bad to you. Your videos inspired me.
Thank you so much❤️ Hope youve been doing great as well:) I relate so much to this
And I agree😭 time is flyyying!! Wishing all the best to you:)
Thank you so much for this video! It's exactly what i needed.
When someone got angry with i always thought Id done something wrong even when i thought i hadnt
I proud of myself that I'm watching this at age of 16
Me too, I'm too sensitive and over thinker
i needed this so bad
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I hate my fam they always get mad at me just for not taking something from them and if i do they get mad still
It's okay! Be yourself who cares what others think.
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I love how your actually being sweet about it because when I try to ask my family for advice they always say it in a mean way so I’m glad u understand
On a positive note, yesterday at work my coworker reacted really abrasively to me over a simple question, and even my other coworker made a face at me (signaling 'wow that was rude of him'), and I just said "oh ok", and as the shift went on he made comments about how anxious he was that day and how he had a really rough night etc. I definitely understood that he was trying to explain why he reacted the way he did earlier, without talking about it explicitly. That helped remind me to not take these things personally, I don't know what they're dealing with. I'm a very bubbly, friendly person who leaves their emotions at home. For better and for worse, I don't think my emotions are other people's responsibility. So I don't understand people who do, but that's okay, I don't need to. I just need to move on and stay in that happy mindset.
We the same person 🤦🏾♂️ I’m really cautious about things that can happen so I overthink
You get it😔it’s rough for us
This hits home. I've always been a sensitive person. But I can always manage it when other people does or says something which made me angry or hurt me but when it comes to people whom i love and care about it's a different story. Like i get hurt so easily, and I'm someone who doesn't like to hide it when I'm displeased. I always end up telling people how what they did hurt me. They get defensive. I don't blame them. It's not like they're doing it intentionally but still I'd have loved it if they were little considerate. Anyway. Because of all this, everyone's becoming little distant because they don't know how to behave around me, neither do I. Again I don't blame anyone but myself.
I have decided to change it, want to take baby steps and not let everything evryone says get into my heart.
Hai! I also have the same problem. I always end up tell my family that they HURT me, and offcourse bcs of that, they got hurt. :( any updates on your steps?
This is such lovely, warm, compassionate advice. And super helpful too! Thank you :)
saving this video for when I feel like im overthinking a situation, this was very helpful 👍👍
Thank you. I've never heard "have the space to learn to regulate those emotions well is a privilege not everyone gets to have". As an oversensitive and highly emotional 52 yo male, this really helped me. Over empathy is exhausting.
I'm also very sensitive and take things too personaly. Thank you for this video, it is really helpfull ❤️
I needed to hear this. Thanks. Men don’t really make content of this kind, so I’m glad I found this video.
Of course:) all genders are welcome here🫶🏼
i love you goddess!😭💗
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holy crap you look so much like the girl from twenty four twenty one (na hee do)
haha i haven't watched the show, but i've gotten that a lot
Honestly, I take things personally when people are unfriendly. I get so frustrated that I want to punch walls and use profanity and get upset
Oh this video is for me
Twin💅🏻
this was an extremely helpful video Michelle, thank you!
especially coming to terms with "not everyone is like you" because like you said, people have different behaviours, values, morals etc. eg. one person might only ever yell at someone for doing an absolutely terrible thing and even then might feel bad and wonder if they were too harsh, but someone else might view yelling at others as a normal behaviour for venting their everyday life frustrations/anxieties and not give it a second thought, they may feel better after doing it
But we have to accept that's just them and we can't control it!
Make a video of stop trying to prove your point everyone and let it be how it is
Why are you literally the best at giving vid suggestions?🫶🏼
Depend if you have a mysogynist, racist or homophobic person in front of you, you should responded to it
Other then that i get what you mean
True😭😭😭I second this
I was a special education teacher and I am now a social worker and being a highly sensitive person made me realllllllly be mindful of my emotions and my own mindset. It took a lot of working on myself.
You really made my day with this video to help me not take things personally in life
Tbh I also tend to take things personally and it's something that I've been really wanting to change. Maybe it's due to some insecurities or little 'traumas' that I have but I tend to get offended or really mad over anything. I really liked when u said 'not everyone is like you' because I think u got a point. Not everyone knows how their actions can affect you, and I actually think I'm gonna be keeping that on mind from now
Than u for posting this vid 💌
this will help me alot. love youuuu
Of course🥹🫶🏼love youuuu
I’m also a sensitive person, always have been, but I’m nowhere near your personal growth haha, I’m such an overthinker, I overthink the slightest thing out of believing someone will think badly of me if they took it the wrong way because I failed to explain myself clear enough, so I gotta get tangled up in my explanation like I usually would, just to make sure they understand my intentions.
Working in customer service has honestly been the worst experience ever (not the money, the actual yelling and abuse). It got to a point I got very anxious every time the phone ringed (it was a call center for a huge American company) I would sweat and my heart would rush, it was horrible, I was so afraid they would yell at me and gift them money in advance so that they’d be happy, but even before that, I would think to myself that it would be the last customer service job I’d do out of how horrible it was. For sure I’m always on the brink of crying every time someone raises their voice at me tho, whoever that may be.
I really don’t know how I’m going to get to the point you’re at, maybe I’ll read some book that’ll enlighten me in a way no one did before, or I’ll grow out of it to the point of catching and ignoring ppls bs, but I sure hope it happens soon because I need to get a job and I don’t have a degree, so it will have to be customer service again 😥 (I’m just 23 tho)
Are you an INFJ tho? I recently found out I am and also found out what this personality type is characterized by and I’m shook at how accurate it is, and based on your videos and the fact you like thinking and reflecting and growing (like, a lot), and me recently finding out my fav activity IS thinking and reflecting (always gotta throw a random fact I learned about anything to ppl 🤣) I’m thinking you may be! But that is the coolest thing, finding someone with the same interest as me, I’ve always felt misunderstood bc no one’s ever shared my interests and point of view
Amazing this made me feel 2000000 better
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This is exactly what I wanted am an extrovert who is extremely sensitive and emotional.my college started a few weeks ago and I made a lot of friends.but suddenly almost half of them started icing me out stating that I was clingy and defensive.a few of them even blocked me lmao.having a good heart doesn't mean everybody has it too and people hv their own shit to deal with too.if someone doesn't reciprocate your energy ignore them and have fun
Your voice is so calming 🥺❤️
Thank you❤️
Seriously were you me? Im still struggling, do you also crying easily like can not CONTROL your tears? Its just fall out without my own concern, and I can not stop IT. how to deal with thiss anyone please help me
Hey Michelle! Just wanted to say I discovered your channel a few days ago and really like your content! I've dealt with depression and anxiety pretty much since the start of college but somehow I'm about to graduate in a month lol. I've worked in door and window sales so I know all about not taking things personally aha. It's good to see you're open to change which is definitely something needed in any sort of customer service :)
Omg welcome:) thank you so much, I’m really glad you enjoy it! Congratulations 🥳I’m so proud of you for graduating despite everything! And I wish you all the best:) haha tell me about, it was rough at first but def worth the growth
@@MichelleGia thank you so much! Didn't think I'd make it but somehow I did lol, i would definitely recommend if you're really looking to handle rejection and your social skills I would definitely work in sales! I've heard some guys in the states make a lot of money in car sales much more so in comparison to the UK. Not sure if that sounds appealing to you but maybe worth exploring?
Thank you for this! I could relate to it❤
Of course❤️
It's hard for me to separate my actions from myself. It doesn't make sense to me.
For example, what if someone committed a heinous crime and showed no remorse for their actions. How can you possibly separate those? What would you say to some of the most monstrous, evil people in history?
I’ll admit I am sensitive and my emotions explode when I am compared to someone in a negative form
Or when people wont accept my POV and still put me in the wrong
(It’s why I left my apprenticeship, and it’s why I am left with not knowing where I want to be)
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Not Reciprocating
- Examples of situations that make you think it is personal (i.e. Them yelling and you not being a yeller, Them telling a false promise and you not doing this)
Solulu#1 Not Everybody is like you
Solulu#2 Not Everything is about you
Thank you. This was quite helpful. I’m highly sensitive and I am going to a new job. I’m going to try to use this information because I can cry at the drop of a hat if anyone says anything in a sharp tone. A lot of times they are projecting and maybe they just need something or to be validated that they are upset. It’s often not about you- a stranger, but they are overwhelmed by their emotions and taking it out on whom they can do so without too much repercussion. However, I think you do have to be careful not to accept uncivil actions from others in the workplace. This leads to them thinking they can get away with it and continue to be rude. Listen, pause and reflect, but stand up for yourself and speak your truth with kindness and respect.
U r my comfort youtuber who somehow knows the things I am dealing w and makes a video abt it that I need luv u ❤
Ahhh that makes me so happy🥺❤️love you sm!!
I got fucked full-blown by harassment and bullying throughout my school years, and honestly, it really caused me to respond defensively and get offended easily whenever someone cracks a joke or stuff like that.
This helped a’lot man, appreciate this video.
YES omg I needed this I feel EXACTLY like this especially in my new retail job I was so scared of disappointing people and upset when they got slightly annoyed or anything
Omg congrats on the job🥳 you’re just like me😭 don’t let it get to you:) you’re going to do amazing!
What cripples me is not being able to put people who talk shit in their place - I ain't built for this kinda environment.
You got your first job in retail, same here
you're growing up into a beautiful girl in and out...
i have been a consumer of your video since quite long..
i hope you post more frequently or should make an ig so that more people can connect with you
Thank you so much for your kind words and support it really means a lot😇😄!!
I feel like this is the most SPOT ON video/piece of advice I've seen when it comes to this topic. All of these tips are the same ones I tell myself when I feel hurt by what others say and this helps me feel validated. As you said for yourself, I used to dwell on an unpleasant social interaction for days after it happened. I still do that sometimes but not for as long as I used to. Thank you for this 💜
This is sooo timely. Thanks, Michelle!💕
Awe no worries🤭🥰
I have this issue too...
my mom drives me crazy 24/7. it's hard not to crack and give in to her arguing and pestering, and I often start crying when she gets to yelling at me.
thank you.
Okay first of all I got to say that I love your dark hair, Michelle! I liked the bleached version too ofc 🧡 and yeah, I’m the case of being sensitive I’m just like you for real xD but somehow the older I get, the more thick skinned I become (also my boxing exercises have done miracles to my self confidence!) Although the worst type of criticism that would immediately set me up is criticizing my writing and all that, I’m always like I TRUSTED YOU, YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO HAVE FUN NOT CRITICIZE ME XD buuut maybe I’ll get it fixed in the future. Thanks for your insight, Michelle! And happy spring holidays to you 🧡 (we have Easter this weekend here and somehow my house has never been more disorganized before, our fridge is literally running on empty xD)
OMG, sorry i missed this, but thank you so much Jules😭😭❤️ yes you always get me, it definitely makes sense though, and its valid to feel that way especially considering how much you care about your writing, I still have my moments as well. But we're all still learning and trying and I hope you are able to find peace in any comments that come your way! Hope your spring had been treating you well:) wishing you all the best this season🥰
Your introduction clip was me in a different body 😅. Thank you for this video!
If you are the queen . I am the king of taking this personally
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I am the jesus christ of taking things personally
As an HSP, this video means a lot. Thank you for doing it.
Thank you! I have the same qualities and your video was very helpful. 🙏
It’s a pleasure🥹
May I speak Michelle about the (I) in Spiritual Literature the( I) is attached to our Egotistical personality rather than our Soul personality. When we say i, as you know comparing our ( i) to there’s. I’ve learned as you stated at the end of the video we begin to think in alignment with a more understanding perception. What have they been through, why are they upset today.
We should be more constructive in our criticism. CG Jung is pretty famous for this. He has a Theory that condemning people causes oppression in most cases.
But enough of my advice you have yet again expressed your uniqueness.
I have never seen any video have many likes than views😅😅
I love your channel so much! Also you’re so pretty omg😭❤️
Awe thank you so much🥰❤️
@@MichelleGia omg you replied 😭❤️❤️
I take things personally too much because certain things upset me
Thank you. I can relate to many things that you said.
You’re so beautiful!!😍
Thank you🥺❤️
❤️ I hope you’re doing well stay blessed 🙏🏿
Thank you so much for this video
This is exactly what I needed
Hey, thank you for this video
Thank you 😘
Super good vid, keep doing what you do
I really needed this video, thank you💛
Of course❤️
literally the video I needed hehe
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sending love
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Thank you! This is a good video
That was amazing 🥰 thank you
I swear I relate to every single video you release! 💀I think I have found my ex-people pleaser community 😅
welcome to the family
Woww such a unique video idea!! Love listening to u pls make more of thesee🥰🥰 love u
Thank you! And yes of course I will🥰🫶🏼Love youuu!!
Thank you
Love this so much. Really needed it. Thanks Michelle😊
Of course🥰❤️
i really would love to see how you do your make up 🥺
🥰🥰I can def do an updated makeup routine one day!!