WHY HE SUDDENLY STOPPED PURSUING YOU!

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  • Опубликовано: 26 дек 2024

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  • @JaxnVideos
    @JaxnVideos  Год назад +20

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  • @nakamabutler4530
    @nakamabutler4530 Год назад +118

    Being single avoiding bread crumbing relationships lesson learned.

  • @fidelome
    @fidelome Год назад +156

    "You might see the good in him, but you also have to see the not so good enough for you. " - LOVE that

  • @Hilary945
    @Hilary945 Год назад +23

    If you don't chase your peace, these men will leave you in pieces.

  • @domt4588
    @domt4588 Год назад +89

    Definitely!!!!!
    I will not chase but I will match your energy. You disappear to test me…I’m gone. Self love!❤

  • @nicolesmith1914
    @nicolesmith1914 Год назад +212

    Please do a video and tell the married men to stay in their married lanes .Thanks in advance

    • @marciakozel4272
      @marciakozel4272 Год назад +9

      Amen!!!

    • @lauragrace4388
      @lauragrace4388 Год назад +8

      Amen

    • @af235
      @af235 Год назад +17

      they are not happy in their marriages. thats why they change lanes. its just that simple.

    • @taggmein8
      @taggmein8 Год назад +5

      Exactly 💯

    • @9erschick536
      @9erschick536 Год назад +13

      Well that would be a contradiction…

  • @sayless1445
    @sayless1445 Год назад +55

    I have in the past, but not ever again!!!! I will go silent in a new york minute! My peace of mind & goals is all I chase!!!!

  • @paulalewis6452
    @paulalewis6452 Год назад +50

    I have observed this these days. Guys want the woman to pursue them. They Soft.

    • @BashaerB-h2c
      @BashaerB-h2c 9 месяцев назад +1

      It’s such a turn off. Makes me question their sexuality too..

  • @reginatabb4068
    @reginatabb4068 Год назад +110

    YEP Been there he started heat and backed off no contact. I walked away I matched his energy.❤

    • @hazell1593
      @hazell1593 Год назад +3

      Same!👍🏼

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 Год назад +11

      Same here. He ghosted me on Valentine's Day, AND his birthday was just a few days after that. I'm done.

    • @shreeshiva9421
      @shreeshiva9421 Год назад +1

      If he always purused then u didn't match his energy nd walked away, u never took a step forward in first place nd he got tired of ur games. Good for him, he dodged a bullet

  • @arankagionetti2098
    @arankagionetti2098 Год назад +23

    When he don't choose you you loose you! 100% correct!

  • @kamwilliams4083
    @kamwilliams4083 Год назад +46

    "I" I was always the initiator. I would even travel 3 hours to see him on weekends and one day it just stopped. No warning no sign to warn me. Straight up told me I was his woman and told me we met for a reason and he was so into me. One day it was switch of a light switch he just stopped. So I went no contact. Know your worth! ❤

  • @Jade-River
    @Jade-River Год назад +76

    I CHOOSE PEACE ☮️, LOVE💖 and GOD ✨.

  • @maryrainwater6533
    @maryrainwater6533 Год назад +9

    You are correct about everything. Some men are low down and dishonest.

  • @kimberlymay9497
    @kimberlymay9497 Год назад +20

    I” and I got tired! Was doing so much and felt unappreciated I refused to go thru 2023 drained ✌🏽💯

  • @ladycancer9330
    @ladycancer9330 Год назад +3

    Spot on Derrick. Mine kept asking when we are going for a drink. Once i agreed, afterwards, it all went down hill. I was the one always initiating the conversations. It finally came to the time to let him go.

  • @lorraineolivera24
    @lorraineolivera24 Год назад +12

    Yep I was doing all the girlfriend/wifey things without a TITLE. He didn't want a committed relationship but wanted me to do all these things for him SMH WOW! YES IT WAS ALL ON ME. THEN HE WOULD TELL PEOLE I WAS HIS FRIEND EVEN THOUGH WE WERE HOOKING UP. 🤨😡

    • @driedautumnleaf
      @driedautumnleaf Год назад +7

      Worst kind of men! 😢

    • @InnovationTree
      @InnovationTree 7 месяцев назад

      Now you know not to give those things without a title. Men will do less as possible for maximum results

  • @deborah9420
    @deborah9420 Год назад +8

    I I I Everything you said so true. I had to let him go, the relationship felt like a job. I needed my peace back!

  • @shadaehaniff9952
    @shadaehaniff9952 Год назад +40

    I was in this very situation end of last year so glad it ended in January. The sincerity in their words is so misleading and the persistence is hard to ignore. It's almost like he liked the chase more than me, he enjoyed the idea of me the way he painted it in his head but when he started to get to know me and what I wanted in a relationship all of sudden he is ghosting me and running for the hills.

  • @maureenjere8369
    @maureenjere8369 Год назад +23

    I've experienced this twice and now I just feel so numb and emotionally drained 😢

    • @prettyloubey8411
      @prettyloubey8411 Год назад +1

      It’s to much to keep going through this with men

  • @chantelles5841
    @chantelles5841 Год назад +12

    Yes! This is me!!! I’m dying inside but had to walk away

  • @veronicabernal2370
    @veronicabernal2370 Год назад +27

    Absolutely right!!! I am going through this and I let go! Toxic!!!

  • @VCD512
    @VCD512 Год назад +10

    Just had this situation. He is going through a divorce. He still loves her. I said go and fight for her. He says she needs to come to me. SMH! So I know he has women that he uses and I didn’t want to be one of them. He told on himself. I encouraged him to fix his marriage and I removed myself.

    • @jesuschristisking2877
      @jesuschristisking2877 Год назад +1

      Well done!!!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻. And then those who are not divorcing but dissatisfied in their marriage and start chasing other women pursuing hard with emotional intimacy etc but in the end holding on to the moral high ground they are married etc...but still chasing you...at the end of the day it's still a one sided relationship / situationship and you still end up getting hurt ... so important to walk away!

  • @talkswitht523
    @talkswitht523 Год назад +41

    I AM GOING THRU THIS RIGHT NOW!! I AM LOUD AM SPEAKING MY TRUTH!! MY PEACE IS EVERYTHING !! I DO LOVE HIM VERY MUCH, BUT I LOOVE ME MORE❤❤❤❤... YES, IT HURTS, BUT I AM DOING THIS FOR ME !!

  • @LittleMissHoop
    @LittleMissHoop Год назад +26

    I can't love this video enough. I needed to stop at around 8 mintues just to digest all the wisdom. I am legit writing all this down so I don't forget. THANK YOU.

  • @AnnaSmith-n6g
    @AnnaSmith-n6g Месяц назад +1

    These videos have kept me from going crazy during one of the hardest times of my life! Thank you for sharing and helping from your own experiences and studies🤗💜

  • @sandrajohnson8967
    @sandrajohnson8967 Год назад +7

    Real talk bro
    Don't have time
    Moving
    Not chasing
    Anything

  • @kassiawarsawski1033
    @kassiawarsawski1033 Год назад +3

    Yes. True facts.. stepped away from all that. Let it go. Restoring and focused on my life ..
    Yes he wasted my time..

  • @denaleslie9344
    @denaleslie9344 Год назад +39

    Absolutely! That's exactly how I feel.. that's why I am just avoiding a relationship. I'm happy with myself.

  • @ddupree9484
    @ddupree9484 Год назад +10

    👁
    He played the pull away game on me and I told him I was breaking up with him. He was upset, but he screwed the pooch and lost a GOOD woman here. He must not have needed one because he did not try to keep me.

  • @Wittybets
    @Wittybets Год назад +23

    Lately this is a weekly occurrence. I’ve worked so hard to embrace the feminine nature and be less masculine and less “in control” etc. and now it’s ghost and fizzle constantly. I’m telling myself they just aren’t the right one, they’re not healthy masculine energy or I’m not for them so release it and follow my peace. But it’s wearing for sure.

    • @Wittybets
      @Wittybets Год назад +8

      Also…. Finding my own closure instead of needing it from them. That’s a big help lately

  • @paulalewis6452
    @paulalewis6452 Год назад +11

    Derrick you are absolutely correct. Ladies listen Up

  • @jasminedelee2286
    @jasminedelee2286 Год назад +18

    🙌🏿I have chased, no more!

  • @shkenaw7626
    @shkenaw7626 Год назад +5

    I just went through this. I had to cut him off for good this time.

  • @gabrielar2971
    @gabrielar2971 Год назад +4

    I am crossing a period like this now. Makes me feel insecure, asking myself a lot of questions...I'll take distance cause it's draining my energy, also to be tested again and again and again...
    Thank you for your clear and on point advices in all videos!🤗

  • @donzellaharris709
    @donzellaharris709 Год назад +19

    I HAVE NO OPINION ON THIS MAN'S PERSONAL LIFE ONE WAY OR ANOTHER BUT HE TRULY BLESS ME EVERTIME HE OPEN HIS MOUTH,FOR THAT I SAY THANK YOU.

  • @lanapalij4014
    @lanapalij4014 Год назад +2

    Thank you for this, sincerely. The Red Flags have been there from the beginning…!

  • @Sunshinegirrll
    @Sunshinegirrll Год назад +48

    If both just behaved honestly, everything would come organically. ❤

  • @denisep2868
    @denisep2868 Год назад +5

    After he put the engagement ring on my finger, then he pull back his energy,I had to do all the calling planning dates,and sex nights, he acted very cold towards me, and he keeps bringing up his ex, he wasted my time,but I'm keeping my ring, now I'm happy again because I have my peace❤

  • @basshunter9018
    @basshunter9018 Год назад +2

    DJ so true haha i was minding my own biz. Then started being all interested, texting, asking me out, long chats, gifts. after he had me 3/4 times that was it! Crickets!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! completely pulled back

  • @LaLaFox251
    @LaLaFox251 Год назад +8

    Listening to all this gives me anxiety, what happened to respect for one another, that's to much energy being wasted.

  • @brendacather5648
    @brendacather5648 Год назад +11

    Every bit of what you said is so true. It took me a very long time to break it all down on my own. What you said is so true.

  • @Regina-mu6fj
    @Regina-mu6fj Год назад +3

    Wow. So true. I agree. Truth sets me free. Thank you again for sharing truth.

  • @workinprogress3085
    @workinprogress3085 Год назад +3

    Mr Jaxn 🙏🏽... Another powerful message but two things were said briefly but my ears perked up when you said them. 1. In breadcrumbing... He's set a tone he's not willing to sustain and 2. You've won the battle with keeping him around physically but lost the war with loving self...Woooo! We as lovers tend to push aside, forgive others quickly and have a higher level of tolerance for what may look subtle at first. I love how you have EVOLVED from your life experiences from beginnings to now. I'm listening and learning ❤️ so I thank you. Keep them coming!!!

  • @Harry-o6g
    @Harry-o6g 7 месяцев назад

    So true, chasing sounds childish almost !
    Lot of wisdom in this one ... thank you ... Needless to say ... yeah I've been through this.

  • @kassiawarsawski1033
    @kassiawarsawski1033 Год назад +1

    Yes heard it all. Red flag. I poured encouragement and all the above. I cut it off.. I’m not wasting my precious time we don’t get back.

  • @victamakiesse5165
    @victamakiesse5165 Год назад +1

    My brother My God bless you always for encouraging all the woman 👩 its so true everything you saying 🙏🏽

  • @serenasapphire8883
    @serenasapphire8883 Год назад +1

    I thought he was my TF and so I had no idea, I am so happy for this information, thank you

  • @Anvilpad
    @Anvilpad Год назад +5

    On point🎯. I am convicted. Doing what is right and moving on 🙏🏽

  • @leckynotlucky5972
    @leckynotlucky5972 Год назад +9

    Genius, pure genius!

  • @CoCo-eu1hg
    @CoCo-eu1hg Год назад +10

    I just went through this. Except it's worse, I am carrying his kid now. Plus, he is dating more women on top of it. So, he has feelings for his ex, got me pregnant and now is dating other women.

  • @Nacissisticcode101
    @Nacissisticcode101 Год назад +3

    You were hitting all the key points I’ve been suffering from. Thank you. I’m now a subscriber!

  • @sharonb519
    @sharonb519 Год назад +14

    I stopped chasing 88 days ago. I’m *ucking exhausted. 😢

    • @ElleBrOw
      @ElleBrOw Год назад +3

      dang you counting the days 🥱

  • @olgaolivares1622
    @olgaolivares1622 Год назад +3

    WOW Thank you for the message, handsome. Arrived at the time that it needed to be heard.

  • @daianaradulescu
    @daianaradulescu Год назад +1

    Best video on how true women really are lovers and not savages I ever heard. Thank you, D.! You are a blessing and a hope for all the women out there who need to remind themselves who they truly are: The Divine Feminine. ❤

  • @RobertaForde
    @RobertaForde Год назад +2

    I love this brother continue your good works may God Almighty heal relationships... the plan of the Devil is to destroy family... So I applaud your work continue teaching ...mentoring especially our women... I appreciate this it is helping me as a woman to improve on self love ...to grow healthy mind set ...to make better decisions... And most of all don't loose my dignity ....I support this because you see the good for someone who don't see the good in their self and you give yourself extra unnecessary work and stresses....just saying ....this Gemini Queen is a realist so yeah I love ppl who keeps it real 100 % and more though we are not all perfect in some ways .

  • @hilaryfalkenberg9348
    @hilaryfalkenberg9348 Год назад +1

    Beautiful, just beautiful! Thank you!!!

  • @LadyIrrigator
    @LadyIrrigator Год назад +2

    I was leading a protest at his place of work. He came out to ask about the protest as a way to make conversation. Got all up in my face wanting to spend time with me. After bout 2mo. Some intimacy but no relations. He was open some and started opening up more then disappeared. Tried to gas light me about my asking why he pulled away. So I pulled away. He did admit to him messing up in his past relationship. He doesn't speak negatively about his ex. Either way he brought her up to much for me. Especially to have grown kids and being divorced so long.

  • @sandramullen7804
    @sandramullen7804 6 месяцев назад

    Yep ! Been in that , and it was the eyopener i needed. Sick of middle school applicants , applying for the executive role of taking care of my heart ❤️

  • @christinephilcox3872
    @christinephilcox3872 Год назад +6

    AMENNNN! I thought it was my imagination!!

  • @anetnel-fk7vu
    @anetnel-fk7vu Год назад +1

    Yes, happened to me, talked bad about his ex but still fooling around with her.

  • @4378200
    @4378200 Год назад +6

    Yep has happened several times. It’s also those that I really was not interested in initially. I exited stage right.

  • @nikkirodriguez4590
    @nikkirodriguez4590 Год назад +1

    This is so Real! Thank you Derrick!

  • @CS-lm7lg
    @CS-lm7lg Год назад

    Speak it brother!!!! You are on point! I don’t know what’s their problem! Just leave us alone!
    I

  • @carolynsells5157
    @carolynsells5157 Год назад +4

    Just went through this. I walked away

  • @kassiawarsawski1033
    @kassiawarsawski1033 Год назад +1

    Yes to all the above. All lauded on me to initiate

  • @summerstarr82
    @summerstarr82 Год назад +4

    😨🤯🤯💔💔💔 this was eye opening. "I" TRULY THANK YOU 🙏🏼😭🙏🏼

  • @gloriavaughns2345
    @gloriavaughns2345 Год назад +4

    Yes my brother I have been in that situation but I have overcome and loving myself more and the lord have favour me

  • @sandrajohnson8967
    @sandrajohnson8967 Год назад +11

    Real talk bro
    You on 🎯
    Real message
    You are just so inspiring

  • @sandrajohnson8967
    @sandrajohnson8967 Год назад +3

    I'm not wasting my
    Time on nothing
    Nothing from nothing
    Leave nothing

  • @charissemeans-ub9ks
    @charissemeans-ub9ks Год назад +1

    Truth been there, done that!!

  • @karenlim7135
    @karenlim7135 Год назад +1

    Your enthusiasm is adorable

  • @NLaw-uo5uk
    @NLaw-uo5uk 11 месяцев назад

    You are so good with your insight and manner of relaying what you know so right & exactly.

  • @ndnalley
    @ndnalley Год назад +2

    I’ve been in that position and it makes no sense to me with the dating world today. Pursuing me then falling off it’s strange 😅

  • @Intothelight94
    @Intothelight94 Год назад +6

    So true! I think there are a lot of lazy daters out there. I’d rather stay single to be honest….the rest of this video is so brilliant. Many are definitely one sided. That should be a red flag not a signal to try harder.

  • @hers_bodysoulmind
    @hers_bodysoulmind Год назад +5

    Definitely blessed this 48 y/o woman. ❤

  • @candacemarie6059
    @candacemarie6059 Год назад +13

    It's happened to me unfortunately 😕

  • @rebeccalynn1160
    @rebeccalynn1160 Год назад +3

    What I have just experienced this....eager to hear what you got to say....

  • @colettemarotta1859
    @colettemarotta1859 Год назад +13

    Games,games,games,games!!!!

    • @BrendaBaBoom
      @BrendaBaBoom Год назад

      They play because they got NO real consistency.

    • @shreeshiva9421
      @shreeshiva9421 Год назад +1

      ​@@BrendaBaBoom : yet u girls chose them. Seems like if I wanna get girls nd sex I have to be like the guys u complain about

  • @joellemartin4466
    @joellemartin4466 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you!! I so needed this!! Preciate u so so much!!

  • @liveitup_GJ
    @liveitup_GJ 8 месяцев назад

    It happened to me! And since he’s a colleague I have to see him at work! It sucks! Lesson learned never mix business with pleasure!

  • @evelyngittens8874
    @evelyngittens8874 Год назад +3

    On point ❤talk to me lady's know your values and worth Dimond queens 👸 be u

  • @hemiltongrace6699
    @hemiltongrace6699 Год назад +1

    YOU ARE BRILLIANT 👏

  • @lindachew3929
    @lindachew3929 Год назад +6

    You are so on point!

  • @wandafernandez6224
    @wandafernandez6224 Год назад +1

    Thank you, your message is Spot on. We need to hear this.

  • @ZONDRAHARPER-i1q
    @ZONDRAHARPER-i1q 10 месяцев назад

    YES.... EVERYTHING WAS PUT OFF ON ME!

  • @latashahumphrey769
    @latashahumphrey769 Год назад +8

    I like your topic. I never chase I get chased 😊

  • @theroyalrobless
    @theroyalrobless Год назад

    You've hit the nail on the head

  • @lakesiatrotterlaw1582
    @lakesiatrotterlaw1582 Год назад +7

    This is soooo true

  • @annyespinal8077
    @annyespinal8077 Год назад +2

    After being with my boyfriend for 2 years, we had amazing relationships he was fully invested, until he started to pull way I broke up then he came back giving me bread crumbs, I called him out tell on him I don’t want friendship with him , he asked to meet him in the middle, it hurts me but I said NO I want relationship or No 😢

  • @Nana-1952
    @Nana-1952 Год назад +2

    You are really helping me

  • @JosieLaBord
    @JosieLaBord Год назад

    Great message!

  • @jonic.kirkwood9000
    @jonic.kirkwood9000 Год назад +3

    I
    Holy smokes He showed up at my work said he was falling in love with me then ghosted me 🤷‍♀️

  • @chrystalcalrow5459
    @chrystalcalrow5459 Год назад +2

    So right on point.

  • @alynntrendowski3229
    @alynntrendowski3229 Год назад +2

    I maintained the one sided relationship.
    No more.

  • @80sHeavymetalchick9
    @80sHeavymetalchick9 Год назад +4

    Yea got my attention... Then went hot and cold.. Tired of the bs

    • @lashondawatson7986
      @lashondawatson7986 Год назад +1

      Same here sis like tf....what's wrong with these dudes....expected a chase but I ain't chased

  • @angelasamuels9037
    @angelasamuels9037 Год назад +4

    Wat I think I think Ur spot on 💯because I been there I walked away best thing I did for me thank u ❤an✨⭐☀️🌟

  • @laurawright1342
    @laurawright1342 Год назад

    You speak to my soul!!!!! ❤

  • @mariamjobe88
    @mariamjobe88 Год назад

    Honestly thank you so much for this message!!

  • @amyleebell6598
    @amyleebell6598 Год назад +4

    I' needed to hear this , thank you 🙏

  • @robinrobertson8690
    @robinrobertson8690 Год назад +1

    So true💯💯💯👍🏼Thank you for great info👼🏽