Things To NEVER Say To Someone With Anxiety
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Things To NEVER Say To Someone With Anxiety
If you suffer from anxiety I’m sure you’ve been told these 2 things before
If you don’t suffer from anxiety but you know someone who suffers from anxiety make sure you don’t say these 2 things to them!
1. Just get over it
2. Calm down
You can’t just get over it, you can’t turn off emotions or how you feel
You can’t just calm down or just relax, if it was that easy or simple everyone would do it
Has anyone ever said these to you?
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Another bad thing is when people say oh my God you look anxious that makes you feel worse
What I suppose to say???
My mom and dad need to see this video . They don’t really know what it feels like having anxiety. My mom and dad say settle down when I am panicking. I get so angry I get to the point I try to hurt myself
I hate it when they say, "Oh I get nervous too, you're fine" when they obviously have no idea how I feel
Otherwise Known As Anime this comment is actually so relatable. My parents are like “everyone gets anxious at times” and I’m like “I👏🏻HAVE👏🏻ANXIETY👏🏻DAD👏🏻 FOR ME ITS ALL THE FRICKIN TIME!”
Otherwise Known As Anime same often when I panicking before a test
Otherwise Known As Anime happens to me all the time especially while I’m in university people just don’t get it
Otherwise Known As Anime ohhhhhh THATS MY FUDGING MOM RIGHT THERE. SO FREAKING DUMB. Sorry mom, just don’t say that.
Otherwise Known As Anime I hate that they don't understand what we go thought in our day to day live
I hate when people say to me that I'm overreacting, or overthinking, that's exactly what this illness looks like .-.
McFlyy yep.... like oh really? I’m overthinking? That’s literally my problem, I know I’m overthinking, that’s how anxiety works.
Yups, so I'm never going to be able to open up to someone because I'm scared of what they will say. This is going to be the 1st time and last time I'm going to open up :)
McFlyy I hate it
Exactly, people keep telling me to calm down and stop overthinking, I hate it when they say that
Yeah, my Dad says stop worrying, and I know that! He just doesn’t understand!
"Shut up, you're fine" "stop being a baby" "you're faking because your heart isn't racing" "you just want attention"
Caity Nicole ‘stop being a baby’ yes that is extremely hurtful😩😭
always people say that to people who are suffering but they don't know
Caity Nicole Omg yes. I hate it when ppl say that.
You’re faking because your heart isn’t racing is sooo hurtful😭😭 and you just want attention, when someone says that to me i want just to cry o yell, that sentence hurt me so much i can’t explain, and i hear that almost every day at school😭
Caity Nicole ya the last 2 suck
I hate it when people act all patronising when I'm feeling really anxious like "oh but why are you acting like this, whats wrong with you, i don't get why you're like this" and I'm just sat there like oh my god just stooppppp
“Have you had your meds”
“Everybody has anxiety”
“What’s wrong”
“Man up”
Just a few things people say to me on a regular basis.
I got man up 2day really don't help at all had fair few panic attacks 2day don't like confrantastion
Patrick Kane today someone asked if I had my meds and I said I don’t take any
Because I did have meds but I stopped taking them coz I felt like shit
I absolutely hate it when I’m in a panic and my friends say “it’s okay, everyone has anxiety, I have it sometimes too” but they don’t actually understand what it’s like to HAVE anxiety and SUFFER from anxiety. They haven’t experienced panic attacks or anything.
Emma Telepo there are different types of anxiety. You don’t necessarily have to have panic attacks to have anxiety, but I agree with everything that you’re saying. It’s so annoying.
Telling the truth
I've had anxiety attacks and then compared them to when I'm just nervous or crying and dear lord everyone needs to shut the hell up or I'll faint. For me I hyperventilate, cry, scream a bit if you talk to me and this can go on for hours. My longest has been 5 hours. Because mine were so long we got pills and now they're just a few minutes. Anyway they aren't something to assume you've gotten because having them every month and a week/weeks apart isn't nice. This is for me personally. My shortest has been a week apart. For me my pills (if you're looking to get some these are just mine) they make my cheeks itch a tiny bit, I get sleepy and need to lie down. Followed by a few hiccups and done. I suggest if you're getting them every month/few weeks like me and they last such a long time to go see a doctor and get pills. Before getting mine I'd be crying for hours and my eyes would hurt and it just wasn't nice.
it's not even about the panic attacks because you can have anxiety without having attacks, but anxiety is there every day, destroying you inside because you're worrying and overthinking way too much over irrelevant stuff. You're literally a prisoner of your anxiety, it is controlling your life. It's not something you "sometimes" have. So it sucks when people think they know what you're going through when in reality they're only stressed and can live well with their so called "anxiety".
I understand what you're saying. It can be a genuine gesture but come off as disrespectful without realizing it.
oh dear hot much i hate when, even the friends who know of my anxiety says that i should calm down!
Clau BlueMoonDRM yeah my friends are exactly the same, people who don’t suffer don’t really understand do they?
Authentic Mental Heath I become more anxious and freaked out when I hear words like that.
Authentic Mental Health no they understand the feeling
"Everybody has anxiety"
I usually tell my best friend when, for example before a class, I get anxious. I tell her that I feel cold but at the same time I’m sweating a lot especially from my hands, that I’m shaking and can’t control it and that I find a little difficult to breath and she’s like “well it happens to me too: I feel cold for no reason and that’s anxiety, but it’s not that big deal it just goes away”. Dear I don’t feel like you, and you’re not helping me underestimating the problem
I always get told them two things but the big thing I always get told is “what do you have to be anxious about” this really grinds my gears. I just want to say thank you for these videos they really help me. Thank you 😊
Emma Power thank you so much☺️ I really appreciate that❤️
"stop complaining there are more serious things in life"
Hiyorin Okazaki I feel for you and it's very hurtful
"You don't have the same responsibilities as I do! You have it easy! WHY ARE YOU SO UPSET?!?"
😖
IKR
Hiyorin Okazaki oh I absolutely hate that
WolfSyd Productions I feel guilty now because I snapped at someone, having had a bad day and a relative was in critical condition, and basically just said that, just sugar coated it a bit. I'm pretty sure that they had abandonment anxiety as well.
Damnit.
Has anyone ever said these to you? I have heard these 2 things PLENTY of times😩
Authentic Mental Health all the time 🙄
Alyssa Hernandez annoying isn’t it?
absolutely
Authentic Mental Health Yea they have...
Authentic Mental Health I ahve social anxiety and hear these a lot but your videos have really helped me.Thx xo much
I want to ask you a genuine, humbling question. Are you feeling okay? Because you don't look okay in the video.
Pumpkin0330 titi no I’m not feeling good at all, if you’ve noticed iv taken a break for a while as I’m not good at all..
Authentic Mental Health You can take as long of a break as you want, we want you to feel better.
Authentic Mental Health, hope you are beginning to feel better love
Pumpkin0330 titi we hope you feel better!😄
@@AuthenticMentalHealth we love you 💞 take your time. It's okay to take yourself out of the picture for your own well-being. Xxx
Please act normal... i hear that one a lot and it hurts so much
I truly "love" when my "closest" people around me like my mother//boyfriend tells me : others have much worse problems, you are selfish and dont care about anyone else + dont be a crybaby all time or at least solve this "lil" problem by yourself only...so i just stay up all night, and cry when no one else sees my tears.
my mom says to me all the time either
1. “Everyone has anxiety at some point”
or
2. “Stop making excuses”
WOW! What a horrible thing to say, I'm so sorry
" Calm down, it'll be fine."
Stop stressing out." My science teacher told me.
WOW so annoying when people say that isn't it? How are you? Do you follow us on Twitter or I.G? twitter.com/autmentalhealth instagram.com/authenticmentalhealth
I suffer from social anxiety but I do really well at work because I work by myself. I have not been able to go places by myself or large places with my family for almost a year now. My mom asked me earlier today if I would go to church for Christmas eve service and just the thought of that started making my chest tighten and my breath hard to catch. It just seems like no one understands that this is something that I can’t just turn off and on. Any advice?
Susan Erickson do you have Instagram? I can talk to you via DM?
"Who cares what they think"
"We all have issues"
"I have anxiety too"
"Atleast..."
you are so correct i get that alot " just came down" ect
I hate it when people say "stop over thinking it ,you're overreacting" or even worse "why do you have to make things more difficult for yourself"
I know right! It's horrible when people say those things to you! It makes you feel 10000000% worse doesn't it?
I dont suffer from it but its a thing that really fascinates me. Am i a weirdo?
Pedro Marinhi#Contente no your not a weirdo AT ALL!
Authentic Mental Health thank you.
Pedro Marinhi#Contente same my bro
Pedro Marinho This is so refreshing. Seeing someone who doesn't have these problems but has the common decency to understand it on some level.
No it's not weird
My friend told me that "there's no way I can be worries about nothong, there's a reason for everything" she doesn't understand, that there's no specific worry, I have anxiety about everything and nothing. I know, I sound crazy...
You can't be anxious over nothing, dimwit. There's always a reason for why you fear a certain thing. Maybe you mean a "good reason". Anyway, if that's what you meant, no shit, Sherlock. Anxiety is the result of fearing something more than you should, it's not a normal response to many problems that appear in our lives. Get educated on this specific topic
@@kronodeus2022 I think you should be educated you sound like a complete fool of course you can be anxious about nothing whether she means anxious about nothing as in the physical form of no existence in which nothing shows to exist then I can back her up and say I have anxiety about that sort of stuff and especially death and being dead. I have panic attacks about that stuff. Or if she just gets anxious about nothing and just throughout the day that also makes sense. That's the whole point of anxiety I mean in school my heart is always racing and I can never concentrate and for you to say all this stuff is totally just stupid and you need to go learn a couple of stuff before you talk to people like this you scum
You are a wonderful human being, who is so strong to be going through anxiety. It's hard sharing with the world that you have anxiety, but you did it. I support you 100%. Remember that, no matter how much negative comments you get
In the beginning when I started having panicattacks and we didnt know what it was my mum said calm down but she learned quick it was not appriciated. Lol.
No one has ever calmed down by being asked to calm down.
It's not much of a help, is it?
Yeah. I also told my dad that saying relaxe isn't really helpful when it comes to someone with anxiety... I know that he wants the best for me but it might make things worse
"Oh I completely understand you, I had a panic last night about work, it was like a panic attack".
"Stop being so fake"
I've had people roll their eyes at me, call me fake and say that they understand it and go through the same thing that I am going through. They take advantage of my situation and make it all about themselves, they use my anxiety for attention and likes. It sucks.
"Stop worrying, everything is going to be fine." "You don't have anything to worry about so just chill." "Everything will work it's self out, don't worry."
SO ANNOYING ISN'T IT!? If you need help with your anxiety I would highly recommend you speak to someone here who can help you - betterhelp.com/authenticmentalhealth
"Just breathe!" No shit sherlock I'd almost forgotten about that! Thanks mate!
thank you for this video. you are soooooo right about these statements. it's hurtful to someone who suffers from anxiety but the ones who don't have it... don't get it at all. luckily there are compassionate people in this world who do get it.
This is so fitting...today I had a panic attack and was told to “get a grip” and it was so hurtful
I'm so sorry to hear that! I would highly recommend you speak to someone here who can help you - betterhelp.com/authenticmentalhealth
"I'm having so much anxiety right now omg!" 🤦🏽♀️
Things are hard with an anxiety disorder for me. Nobody knows about my disorder so that makes it even harder.. my sister Katie tells me “ugh don’t be lame” “why are you acting likeee thisssss ugh” it hurts me so much. She doesn’t get it. It hurts. So. Much. It’s just when I get fatigue or the little bit of depression I get from mine. I shake and have my head CRAMMED with thoughts EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Along with my heart racing and with me feeling like I’m choking. I need to just be alone sometimes but now I’m just “the one who stays in my room” in my house according to my family. No one in my house gets me or what I’m going through.
Charlie I do know I have always suffered from a multitude of things like anxiety. The things you’re saying for people with anxiety that one shouldn’t say would be very invalidating. Thanks for your videos I love them 😍
It's just pure evil.
I wouldn't wish anxiety to my worst enemy.
I have depression, anxiety, and PTSD.
I know😩😩
" Your making excuses"
" it's all on your head"
" chill out"
" you do this to yourself"
" people have it worse"
" appreciate the wonderful things and be grateful don't "focus" on the negative "
“Get over it”
I’ve heard this from my brother too many times. He’s nice but just doesn’t understand. I have anxiety, it’s not a disorder but I still get anxious a lot and it makes me cry. Usually the only people who make me feel better are my mom and my close friends. They know what to say, unlike some people. I hope in the future people learn more about anxiety and how to comfort people.
That's the problem my friend, people who don't suffer don't understand do they? How are you my friend? You are NOT alone here at Authentic Mental Health
Authentic Mental Health Thanks, I’m okay right now.
I suffer from 4 different anxiety disorders, and I f**king hate it when people say "calm down" I WILL PUNCH YOU IN THE FACE IN A SECOND IF YOU TELL ME THAT ONE MORE TIME
And another thing, I hate it when my friends try and act like they have anxiety too. No you don't, you do not know how I feel. It's very insulting to those who actually have mental illnesses...like me. And I'm only 13 .
I’m sorry to hear that! Are you getting help for your anxiety?
Authentic Mental Health yes I take medicine and go to a counselor once every month at my doctors 😊
Hi Charlie, i just wanted to say that your videos help me a lot and you inspire me so much, i'd love to have such a great person like you in my life, someone who really understands you. i've noticed that you haven't been so okay and i hope you'll feel better soon and please take a break from making videos of you feel like you need to. you're so strong and you really are an inspiration.
I have anxiety where I dont remember a single day of my life for the past like 4½ years (idk I wasn't really counting) where I didnt think I was going to get murdered or something bad was going to happen when I go out it public. It can be really difficult to the point where I dont want to leave my house or....anywhere, sometimes I don't want to exist because I'm so stressed out any where I am. Even at home, even tho I live in a quiet place in the country with a neighbor that lives about half a mile away and is very friendly. I can be having a good day and then, boom. There is the distinct heavy blanket of irrational panic that goes over me. And even the smallest things can set it off, like someone in a store I'm in is walking kinda fast behind me, or the store has alot of people, or no people at all. Really anything. Or I can be sitting at home and hear a airplane and think "omg, that's a bomb I'm going to die right in this moment". Or hear subtle noises in my house, like ya know ..... house noises, and freak out like "there is a murderer in my house that is going to kill me rn omg omg". I know I'm being irrational but cant help but fear everything, even when I know its probably not that I still think it is that, that doesn't make very much sense wording it, but in my mind it is very real. So it's like a endless cycle of thinking I'm going to die. I dont know how to ask for help, but I'm still starting counseling, soon. I hope....so yeah, I dont know what triggered this whole thing to happen, but it did. So that's my experience, just wanted to say that for a long time. Okay buy :)
I don't know if it's just me but "calm down" when spoken by my partner actually calms me down. I've had a series of what I assume to be panic attacks in public recently and he often says "it's okay" or "I've got you" or "calm down, you're safe" and that actually helps me. Then helps me with breathing and helps me out of that situation. When in a shop, got me to help push the trolley so I could steady myself or offered his arm like I was a little old lady who needed help crossing the road. He really is an angel to me and I hope that everyone can find someone like him as he means everything to me.
“I get nervous too”
“Relax! It will pass”
“Just don’t stress about it”
“Calm down and chill! “
“There’s nothing to worry about”
“Why are you worrying alot, someone/other have worse problems than you”
These words mostly came from my family and close friends.
Sometimes i just hide my emotions because i feel like i’m being blamed and selfish..
I wish i knew what is happening to me.. i wish i knew how could i stop this..
i wish i could control it “anytime” it’s hard when it hits you at any time.
It’s horrible when people say that isn’t it? Especially when it comes from your family and friends😩💔
good work buddy
keep it up
@authenticmentalhealth can you please do a video on grieving with depression, when you're feeling a bit better.
I've heard all of these, the ones that engraved in my mind are:
"Everything will be okay", "everyone has problems", "be strong", "I'm there for you" and they say they understand and they'll listen to me but proceed to cut me off while talking. People are merely curious, not concerned. I completely stopped sharing how I feel with anyone. Everyone turned out to be the same. They suddenly turn into Philosophers or something and start giving lectures, I could tell they feel powerful in that position. They enjoy it.
i hate it when my friends say stupid shit like “omg tie your shoelaces that’s giving me anxiety” like no hun, that’s not gonna give you anxiety. that just makes you slightly irritated. people nowadays normalise these mental illnesses and make it seem as if it’s “cool” they all claim they have these illnesses yet if they actually had it then they wouldn’t be able to handle it. they cry once and say “it’s my anxiety” or they get nervous for a test and say “my anxiety goes through the roof whenever i walk in and see an exam paper” that makes me so mad. i get they may not understand what anxiety truly is but people need to stop normalising it and recognise that people are truly suffering and still have a smile on their faces, it’s not for attention, it’s not because they think it’s cool, it’s because they are screaming within and are hurting everyday. thanks to you, and this channel, i am going to finally tell my mum, tomorrow, that i have anxiety. i’m really scared and idek how to start the conversation but all i know is i’m going to do it because it’s been a long time coming, so thank you xx
I know I hate it when people say things like that too! Did you tell your mom!? What did she say☺️?
Authentic Mental Health honestly, i backed out but that’s only because we had people over all day and i didn’t feel comfortable doing it, but currently it’s 4:03 am (i’m in australia) and i’m gonna wait til she wakes up and tell her then cos she’ll be the only one awake. but i know what i’m gonna say and hopefully things go well!
i told her and it went well. a lot of crying was involved and the only thing she was a little mad about was the fact that i had kept it from her for so long but i already feel a lot better and wanted to say thank you so much :))
So true ! I have Anxiety with depression and hate when people say to me I can Climb a mountain with tons of rocks ! I have the word IF a lot in my Mind a lot ! Thanks for the video and I know more people have worse anxiety than me .
My parents have said "you're a big kid now" and "just get over it", "you can do it, but you aren't trying". But little do they know that I am trying my absolute hardest. Its just not that easy. I cant just 'get over it'. If i could get over it, it would save me a world of problems. Its like nobody believes me when i say i have social anxiety. One time when i was younger, i was at a skating rink with my friends. I wanted an Icee so I asked a friend to get me one. I tried but i couldn't do it. She was like "why can't you do it yourself?" I told her i have social anxiety. She didn't believe me, started saying I was a faker and I am perfectly capable of doing it myself and to get over it. I wish people that don't have anxiety would understand how hard it is for the people that do.
charlie, you're so precious, i'm glad i've found you
I used to hear "You're addicted to that phone!" quite a lot. It's not that simple - I'm using the games on my phone to distract myself so that I don't go into full freak out mode.
My friends know that I am anxious, but they always are like "Just calm down everything will be OK" and I hate when pople say to me "Just get over it" it makes me so angry.
After I had a massive panic attack my mum told me to calm down. When telling her that doesn’t help she says that I’m being aggressive. My patent don’t understand and make me feel bad about my anxiety. Also I get your making others anxious because I am anxious, which makes me feel shitty. Also it’s all in the mind or mind over matter.
Thanks for posting this video and it’s not just me being over sensitive
I am so sorry you're feeling this way! You are not alone, especially here at Authentic Mental Health!
“Everyone has anxiety” that triggers me soo much because it makes me feel like my suffering is normal to everyone when deep down I know that I shouldn’t feel this way.
It's like how I was told that everyone is constantly in pain and you just have to push through it. Turns out most people aren't in pain 24/7 and don't hurt so bad they literally have to crawl to the bathroom just across the hall after work and can hardly pull themselves off the ground. I still don't know what's wrong with me because the doctor thinks I'm too young to have joint isuues, and sometimes I feel like maybe it IS normal and I'm just being a crybaby and everyone else in the world really does just push through it.
I was hoping you’d give some examples of what should be said instead. I have loved ones very close to me with severe anxiety disorder and I don’t know how to connect with them without going insane.
I'm sorry mate this video was just things never to say to someone with anxiety! I will make a video on how to connect with people who suffer from anxiety for you, if you want me too?
I have anxiety disorder and in my country people are not really aware of it and we get to hear these thing you've mentioned over and over again. I am a mom of two and hanging on to a thin rope because I have no other option because I love my kids so much I have to survive for them...
My friend has anxiety. I feel bad for her and I really try to help. This video helped a lot, thank you
“Just get over it” my parents and grandmother to me when I tried to confess my worries about how I seriously think I have anxiety and need help but them not caring enough to listen to me or try to understand.
I suffer from social anxiety and a couple of times people have told me that I shouldn't be worrying what other people think of me or that it's just a waste of time. One of the most annoying things I've experienced is when people start telling me about one time where they felt a bit uncomfortable while being in a public place. And I'm like "thanks, Try multiplying it by 10 and try going though it pretty much everyday... That's how I feel, so please stop" and then they accuse me for exaggerating.
Finally somebody gets me!
Thank you for this video
We all get you here at authentic mental health❤️ how are you? Do you follow us on Twitter or I.G? twitter.com/autmentalhealth instagram.com/authenticmentalhealth
I get so many of these
"Get over it"
"I have had it worse"
"Grow up"
"Just calm down"
"Relax you'll be right"
"Toughen up"
"You dont want to get better you just want attention"
I have these things said to me by parents, family and friends. It's hurtful and cruel and this is why I feel so many people do try to harm themself because people don't listen or want to care unfortunately and these same people will then post about how mental illness is real on social media and it is very frustrating.
"Just calm down", "Relax"... tbh, it makes me even more anxious
"There's nothing wrong with you, you just think there's something wrong with you."
I HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE SAY THAT!!!!!
Authentic Mental Health I told my boyfriend that and now I feel guilty about it.. idk what I am supposed to say!!!!
Thank you finally! Someone actually gets me!
Everyone here at authentic mental health gets you! You are not alone here!
'Oh don't start a performance', 'you're an embarrassment'! ', man up! ', 'it will be gone soon'!!!!
WOW
I use to hate it when my teacher use to say "just get over it" when i was bypolar it really pisses me off...
Your teacher said that to you wtf!?
“Just calm down”......quickest way to grind my gears. I would if I could!!!
A few days ago i had a panic attack at school and everyone kept asking me if i have asthma and i hate it when people say 'everyone gets nervous like all the time so stop pretending you get it worse then everyone else'
Do you think you can make one of these for people who suffer bipolar? My friends tend to say things about my condition and it really hurts. I would love if you could make a video that I could show them and maybe open their eyes to how much pain they put me in. I know I'm saying this very late but I'd love if you could, cheers mate! ☺️
When I was in 5th grade we had a kickball game, and me with anxiety had an anxiety attack (because I was scared that people would make fun of me.) . So my teacher said “You are distracting people from the game, you are being so over dramatic go to the bathroom.” I felt this on a personal level. I know how it feels, And when I get food I am always so nervous to order. I hope that someone finally understands me because I don’t personally know anyone who has anxiety too.
yes..my wife. she also said i am anxious because i am grumpy. not like how i was before,the very helpful and loving person.
telling someone to "be happy" after all the pain the they put us through is also inconsiderate.
This is why I never told them about what I'm suffering and they just describe me with hurt full things,like "your crazy" "your over reacting" "your paranoid" "stop being stupid" "stop talking about that" "stop pretending" "what are you doing!?" "Act!" And what the pinned comment/video said (ALL THE TIME)
It’s maddening because my mum would tell me stuff that’s not as clearly as ridiculous. She’d tell me to start talking with people (relatives on the phone, going outside and talking to cashiers and waiters for her, talking to people at school, etc) and I’ll “slowly” start to improve. The thing is, she isn’t a patient person and expects me to do this and only this and that when I refuse, it’s because I’m not willing to push myself A BIT to get better. She expects the whole process to take like 2 weeks before I’m perfectly relaxed every time I talk to anyone. Would be nice if that was the case. I don’t know how to explain that things aren’t as simple as that.
Hey i just wanted to say thank u........ur videos really help me
I remember when I was untreated & had atracks for yrs. I abhorred when some one said, " Just breathe, just relax".
That itself exacerbated the situation.
I found it hurtful when my partner, who is generally an incredible help, told me, "I didn't sign up for this." I know he was just overwhelmed and at a loss for what to do, but it hurt nonetheless.
Totally understand.
Thank you for this video.
"Whats the worst that will happen"
"ok, and you survived"
"You'll be fine"
"You need to stop over analyzing"
"You're overthinking it"
"You need to chill out"
"Why are you so worried about it, nothing is gonna happen."
Social situations terrify me, especially ordering food, asking someone something, and I constantly think every person hates me at any misjudgment I make on any small detail. I get constant nightmare of people leaving me and judging me and hating me. I lose words and don't know what to say in situations and then I feel stuck. I feel stuck infront of someone stuttering and not knowing how to speak, only furthering my embarrassment and fears.
I don't know why I feel this way. Yes I survived but I know i'll have to get STUCK in those same situations again and again and again. I won't be fine...I'll feel awful. I cannot simply stop over-analyzing, sometimes I don't even know what i'm analyzing im just scared of the situation itself for what seems like no reason at all. I want to chill out, I wish I could chill out, but I get scared knowing soon I will have to be in those situations again. Nothing is gonna happen, I'm worried because I don't want to feel so scared of a social situation, but I do anyway. I want it to stop I want to stop thinking people are constantly judging me and hating me over one small thing I do like "Oh i typed something a certain way they must think im so weird" "they stopped replying because they weren't interested" "Oh they didn't say hi back this morning...they must have been annoyed by me..."
I hate this mentality and I don't know how to escape it. Being told constantly exactly what I'm doing as if it'll fix it... Please stop telling me I'll be ok, I won't. I'll be terrified. And I don't know how to NOT be terrified.
I know it isn’t really related but I guess it could be:
I HATE it when people are like “oh I’m a little ______ sometimes” it drives me mad!! Yes you might feel nervous for anxiety or not eat one meal but omg
I understand totally what you mean!
I rarely hear the usual things - it's all in your head, just get over it, etc. The most hurtful two things I've heard was from my best friend. "I don't understand. You're taking meds and have had therapy. Shouldn't you be better?" and the worst "I used to look up to you . . . "
i've had people make fun of me for having a panic attack before. they wouldn't be making fun if they actually knew what it felt like and how awful it is. i wish people who don't suffer from severe anxiety like me could have a good understanding of what it's like to not be able to stop thinking and worrying about everything
I suffer from anxiety and depression and I could relate so hard to this video
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@@AuthenticMentalHealth Thank you so much! It's hard when you feel lonely so it's good to be reinforced that there are helpful people out there
I had a salty teacher and I couldn’t stop crying and worrying so she kicked me out of the classroom. She then proceeded to to tell the entire class ‘She just wants attention, ignore her’ She then told me that I needed to stop. I only found out she said this a week ago and I was so mad and then I had an anxiety attack! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Bravo my old teacher.
You’re using your anxiety as a Crutch. With Gods help you can overcome this! Now I feel even worse because I let a person I thought was my friend know that I have severe anxiety and they think they can fix me.......Thanks for your video
I’ve had a member of staff tell me to calm down, it kinda went like this~
‘ Keera, just calm down already. No need to get so nervous. ‘
‘ Mrs.. Do you suffer from anxiety? ‘
‘ No. ‘
‘ Exactly so fuck off. ‘
Now, cussing at 12 is not good, but honestly I’ve been suffering with depression and anxiety since I was 3, heck maybe younger. So if I could calm down I think I bloody will. I got sent to the head teachers office for doing so I got a warning ( after a lot of explaining), while walking out I passed by the teacher and flicked her off, I don’t have her anymore, heck she left and went somewhere else after a week.
Also, people saying ‘ cheer up ‘ or ‘ get over it ‘ ‘ it’s in all in you’re head ‘ ‘ you’re making me feel bad ‘,
I’m sorry, shall I just disappear like I have been for the last 9 years? ‘ Oh what’s that? ‘ ‘ Don’t worry it’s just Keera. Don’t get too close she’ll drag you down into the pot of sadness. ‘
I mean fuck me. Sorry language, but honestly I’m surprised I haven’t turned to self harming or you know.. It’s hard and for a 12 yr old, being told all of that just makes me wanna scream. I’m not happy with myself, so telling me that isn’t going to help. ( Being any age and being told that makes me wanna murder the person who said that to anyone. )
Keera you are not alone! Especially here at authentic mental health!
I have severe GAD, and I really do despise it when people tell me to calm down, relax. yeah, that really pisses me off. and it truly does make my anxiety much worse.
I personally think that "well there's nothing you can do about it" to be the most annoying thing that someone can say. Because Im not stupid, I know I cant change it. That is part of the reason why I'm so anxious in the first place! Its that that feeling of helplessness that can put me in a really bad headspace, and if I don't already have a full blown panic attack, I will now.
I hate it when people say face your fears to me when I am panicking and shaking. They say it is only a person but that is what scares me.
I know right!
I hate when someone tells me to just get over it, because I have trouble coping and whatever made it tip over no matter how small or big it is it replays in my mind over and over again making me upset each time.
I get really high anxity to the point were i pass out my brother always tells me i just want attention from there i go to my room and cry for 1 to 2 hours thanks man you really helped me
I have been told “ is all in your head, calm down!”
I’ve been accused of faking anxiety for attention and one-upped by someone else with anxiety. It sucks. It’s not for attention and it’s not a game of who has it worse. We’re all suffering and it doesn’t help to play ‘I have it worse’.
Could not agree with you anymore with the phrases you mentioned. I've heard them so many times. It makes my blood boil. Especially when people say " Just go out and get on with it. If i can so can you. Don't be so stupid"
When I'm really freaking out and someone tells me to just calm down I'm still freaking out and now I'm also mad
To be fair, I also the same things to myself every time. And I sometimes felt the need to say it to people just to spite them, lol.
One time I was in the middle of a anxiety attack and my dad told me to calm down and I couldn’t just be quiet so I started screaming saying that I can’t all while crying and he kept trying to calm me down until I went to my room and my mom who also suffers with anxiety came in and calmed me down
People who don't suffer themselves just don't understand do they?
Yeah
I remember getting really anxious (I suffer from social anxiety) and my teacher let me work outside alone for the last 2 hours. I thank her.
Thank you. Just, thank you.
I suffer from anxiety and I actually don’t mind being told to calm down, depending on the tone of the person and I know that the person is genuinely trying to help. Some of my friends also suffer from anxiety and I sometimes use the phrase, “calm down” or “let’s calm down”.
A lot of people don't like it, including myself, it's patronizing and insulting because you can't just calm down! However I am glad that it helps you! Thank you for sharing, how are you today my friend?
Authentic Mental Health I am feeling better than most days, thank you for asking. How are you?
“You’re just trying to be everyone else on the Internet, aren’t you??” I have these things said to me all the time
I've heard "whats wrong with you?" "stop freaking out" "stop worrying" "dont worry" "stop thinking about it" "just stop". thats just from family.
I told my friend that I have social anxiety and he said "But you're like the most talkative person I know, how?" I DONT KNOW HOW THATS JUST HOW THE WORLD WORKS
A good thing to say to someone with anxiety ( I suffer from anxiety ) and what helps me is someone that I'm close to thru say don't worry everything is gonna be ok and they give me a hug or something and that helps calm me down a bit
Calling a loved one is a good thing it helps you alot!
Yeah! same here sometimes some comforting from loved ones is all what someone with anxiety really needs!