I agree. I’ve never been in a relationship, I’m 23, and I don’t think I will for a long while due to people wanting a toxic relationship because to them it’s fun. I don’t know where all of this toxic behavior is coming from but I know it’s not the right way.
@@positivevibe7684 If they behave like they own you and you owe them, run! 🚩 We don't really lose ourselves though, just all our naivety, betrayal blindness, ppl pleasing ways, lack of boundaries and self-neglect. In the aftermath we determine our worth and values, shore up our boundaries and pivot higher minded to give ourselves the care and love, life purpose and peace we really need. They teach us not to give ourselves away like that. When you look at it all in retrospect, the narc gets us to set those purposeless parts of ourselves on fire to burn off all we are not, so we empower ourselves to become all that we truly are. There's a certain beauty created from our ashes when lessons are learned, we can mature and become wiser and stronger, forgive but never forget. No repeats required. We can see it as a gift in that we get to know, albeit the hard way, who we are and what we really do want. 💝✌️
Or blame you for them continuing to talk to and planning to go see a “friend” who is really an ex still expressing romantic interest and making advances even after you have expressed your discomfort and disapproval MANY TIMES 🙃
letting go is the best thing that happened to me. Only thing I regret is wasting so much time with the WRONG PERSON. It's better to live by yourself then to live with MR TOXIC.
Yes! me too! Collecting me and my thoughts, deep cleansing and now being more aware of red flags if they come to be is the best thing that's happened from being in an abusive relationship with a monster. Good news, I love me! loves
I needed this I just got out of one the hardest thing I ever had to was tell her I don’t want to be in a relationship anymore I couldn’t take the pain anymore if y’all are experiencing a toxic relationship or got out of one I understand the pain I have nothing but love for anyone I hope anyone who reads this knows that they aren’t alone ❤️❤️❤️
Amen you better preach Steve Harvey but I had learn this lesson the hard way now thank God I'm free God had heal me and show me how much I mean to him that's exactly why I won't settle for less when I know that God has very best for me
That's so good to hear, I've just been consumed by someone who claimed they love me, I was only there to meet their goals and eventually got tired of their demands and their problems, I put myself on hold for a year, thank god I found the strength to walk away
The mind is sharp and quick like a motorcycle. The heart is slow and does not make quick changes like a semi truck. The heart will always want to stay on that path even though you logically know that it ain't worth the trouble. Be strong. U got this.
@@markluck2065 the hard part is that when you leave you see the whole picture then regrets and disgust kills you every second to the point where it became harder than staying inside the hell you were living in.. I stayed because it was hard to accept that I loved a monster, then I finally left after I've lost every part of me
The pain of being in the relationship is more familiar so we stick to it rather than facing the less familiar pain of leaving. That’s why it’s harder to leave.
THANK YOU! I literally thought if I could just get this person to happiness then he'd let me be happy. So what happened? He confessed that he didn't want me to be happy because he was still mad about something that happened eight years prior. In that one conversation he showed me what my future was going to be. For the rest of my life I'd be atoning for sins he would never forgive me for so that was the moment I knew divorce was the only option. Never try to make someone happy. Never expect that person to make you happy. You both should already be happy and then you can share your happiness with each other.
Yes, this is 100% . You end up missing yourself. You forget who you are, start dealing with BS your true self would Never tolerate. Stay true to yourself, loneliness is a fleeting emotion. You already have everything you need.
I use to live under my Abusive Fathers roof and his Guilt-Trips by blaming me for his financial hardships, and by the time I find an opportunity to move out, that’s where I cut all ties. It wasn’t the easiest decision on my part, but I’m willing to accept that it’s better to have NO ONE* ,than someone who doesn’t value me that much and going to cause me grief by ruining my future plans. I don’t feel bad for people who I’ve purged, because they wouldn’t feel the same way.
Unless you’re with someone who is emotionally unavailable, then unhappiness will come and they will be the reason why. Do not tolerate emotional unavailability and emotional withholding. Definitely don’t blame yourself for the unhappiness that comes because they are sabotaging it. Walk away, you deserve to be with someone who believes in contributing and reciprocating happiness
I lost myself in a relationship when I was with a narcissist it was horrible. I was stupid and weak. That wasn’t me at all I’m so glad that’s in the past now ! Glory be to GoD thank you !!!
So true, because I had this experience a few weeks ago. My Ex Girlfriend told me, that she wants to talk to me. Suddenly she came with "reasons" why she wants to break up. She told me things, which were changeable (moving in together, seeing us more often) and I immediately agreed to that and was ready to change, and she reacted really overburdened. Then after a few days I found out, that she is already cheating on me for a month and she just wanted to make me feel "guilty". Thank god I found it out!
Just got out of a 3 year relationship with someone like this. Major red flag that I refused to see. I was supposed to propose to her this year as well but good thing I saw the toxicity and broke it off, I love her and I still do but she needs to be happy with herself first.
Steve hits another home run! So true these words are that you speak. This hits hime with me! I lost myself due to an abuse relationship. He abused me so severly that I am DISABLED. Good news is, I stay as positive as I can and I keep going. I'm in a much better place as far as I am over this abuser. Yes, what a beautiful world even when it's a double edged sword. Thank you Steve for spreading these words that many people will learn and use in the present and future... loves
I was just in tears this morning, coming to the realization that I miss myself and the joy I used to have. Not anymore, I'm changing that starting today.
How do you know if you are expecting them to be responsible for your happiness or not? Because isn't it normal to want to experience happiness in relationships?
Matthew 18:20 In the name Of Lord Jesus Christ Best words Let Go, Let God Daily. Lesson learn have to love yourself to be able to love others. #HugSelf know Who you are with God. No relationship can be 1 sided. Love yall way. Know God loves you More! God Bless
And here i am, no boyfriend since birth, thinking "one day, i'll find i guy who can make me happy" knowing well that i should start it with myself and not depend my happiness on that someone in the future, who could possibly not come. But sometimes, i can't help but think of it that way. It's like my escapism from reality, like how i cope. I do admit it, I like staying inside my mind most of the time. Because in there, i got exactly what i want, how i want it, and choose to end it. Its scary, how can i get out of it?
Give to others in need when you can selflessly. Don't give to those who expect or demand it from you in order to receive their attention. Those who can not give themselves what they need can never be happy with another. Build yourself with solitude to find YOUR happiness and love yourself FIRST with Jesus. ❤ Treat yourself the way you yearn to be treated❤ I hope this helps you, remember that you are never alone when you understand and recieve the holy spirit that has been within you since birth.❤
this is so true. I’m going through that right now right now I have no more tears to cry. I’ve raised so much. I’ve been with him 19 years and I’ve helped him the whole 19 years and in those 19 years he haven’t helped me none I stayed for five kids, homeschool them all I was a private chef Beautiful bitter stay at home mom but I made a vow to myself in 2024. I’m getting out of this house and I’m putting me first I’m a give myself a lifetime of support and I pray on it to be strong enough to do it. It’s gonna be hard, but I’m determined to do it because I deserve happiness and uncle Steve you just spoke to my heart and I mean a light in my eyes in my head through my ears through my mouth and tingling in my toes like you’ve been feeling this and look at somebody come and just say it just say it you just say the words in my heart and my mind if that ain’t a sign, I don’t know what the hell look like I wasn’t even looking for this, but it came to me because this is what was in my heart in my head. Nobody’s perfect and I want to say thank you uncle Steve, for your wisdom, your ability to admit your faults, that you not perfect and move on from, and that’s with anybody should want, be willing to say you’re not perfect and you fucked up and that you need to do better before you sit there and blame someone else because you didn’t give them everything that you promised that you was gonna give them don’t play victim when you are the villain.
I wanna congratulate u girl that u understood your worth and decided to choose yourself over everything, I wish u all the best for everything coming up for u, face everything with courage and always prioritize your happiness and self respect in the future, more power to u, keep moving forward and remember to love yourself ❤
This resonates actually; people will use you're energy, etc. Taking time for yourself..means your listening to God, the Divine and the universe.Amen!😇🙏🦋🦋
I lost myself in a relationship I was groomed from Young by someone who I later learned had narcissistic personality disorder I did not know they were slowly chipping away at me trying to break me because they knew one day I would find out who they were so they were setting up everything for their self and trying to make me look like the one who's not right when someone is gas-lighting you emotionally abusing you trying to isolate and control you and you stay in that because you believe their lies games there crying and pleading when you want to leave and you accept and stay you better believe you will lose yourself even now through the co-parenting I'm still praying and working on my mental and physical health there was a lot of trauma and we were also in a trauma Bond so still carrying it in my body from 25 years of it I have finally been able to pick up the pieces after leaving and heal myself and work on myself this had so many Dynamics to it the childhood wounds also from both sides just praying for forgiveness healing in strength and moving forward
Steve I love your wisdom. I did loose myself in a relationship. I did everything to love him. It's only know I understand the toxic environment. But I want to show God.i didn't give up so I didn't listen to God. Thank you God for your mercy and grace and blessings. God bless all those who have come and gone from my life in Jesus name Amen
I believe this goes for all types of relationships, not just romantic ones. Friendships, professional relationships and relationships with your parents or siblings should not take away your own individualuality or make you feel lesser than a person all the time.
My divorce just devastated me beyond belief. I have never been the same and i do miss me...i miss who i was...the happy in my heart. I listen to steve daily to help me
That’s what I’m saying to my spouse all the time. If someone is dependent on you for their happiness your relationship will fail. I’m in constant stress because of things and it’s start to take the toll.
This happened to me when I was married. I have taken the time & work into finding me again. I know the signs and will not get into that kind of relationship again
WASTED 8 YEARS OF MY LIFE BUT IN 2017 I FELT I WAS BORN AGAIN FINALLY FELT FREE AND AN ENORMOUS PEACE I WAS FINALLY ME AGAIN I FINALLY FELT ABLE TO GIVE MY ALL TO MY SON 😢 GETTING TO KNOW AND LOVE YOURSELF IS A FEELING I CANT EXPLAIN MAKES ME CRY OF HAPPINESS JUST WRITING THIS IT'S POSSIBLE LADIES AND GENTLEMEN KNOW YOUR WORTH ❤ HAPPILY MARRIED WITH SOMEONE WHO LOVES ME FOR ME AND KNOWS MY WORTH AND UNDERSTANDS IM A QUEEN AND HE'S MY KING THIS IS OUR CASTLE WE ARE A TEAM THANK YOU JESUS AMMEENNNN ❤❤❤😢
I have no idea where he is getting it!!!! But it's such a huge truth!!! Which one realizes when he hears it and says to himself: "wow, that's my case!"
I needed this and now I am uncontrollably sobbing on my floor my boyfriends being so fucking toxic out of nowhere and I don’t know what to do. Like yeah I love him so so damn much, but he hurt me so much and it’s like he doesn’t care. Even though 3 days ago we were so so damn happy. I don’t know what happened
I was in a very toxic relationship and the way Steve explained it with these few words it's the truth thank God and bless you a very good man with wise words..
I think it's about contributing to their happiness.. being a partner..and staying along side someone while they filter through their feelings.. but not ever take full responsibility over it..
They key phrase is “when the other person MAKES you RESPONSIBLE for their happiness.” Sometimes you can do everything trying to make that person happy, but it’s never enough! He’s not saying you should not do things that make the other person happy, but we should not lose who we are and our purpose in the process. We should not neglect ourselves in the process of going through life either. But, if that makes you happy, go for it, but don’t expect the other person to feel the exact same way in their expression of love towards you to the same degree! I personally know what it is to lose yourself in the process of life trying to make others happy, even in friendships. Such individuals are looking for their happiness from others. They can only be happy when someone else is doing for them. For whatever reason, they can’t be happy doing things that make them happy. Maybe this is part of being codependent!! Some people have created this fantasy, and they already have decided how individuals should make them happy.
Amen! Be careful if partner is masking there “needs” as happiness. Of course you can’t meet there needs. You need two whole, happy people to make a successful relationship work.
Steve makes me laugh all the time but this one made me choke up. This world needs Steve Harvey it is a blessing just to hear his words but his character his soul puts so much power to his words🙏💜
Always remember your needs and who you are. Talk and let your partner know how you feel and always voice who you are in a nice way ❤ I love Steve Harveys understanding of faith and life 💖👍
Heres some advice for anyone who seeks it. Do not put all of your self-worth into the opinions of people around you. Face truth head on, be yourself or you will never truly be happy in life. Cut fake people off, stop being fake. It's better to have 1-2 friends that are real than 100 fake friends. It's loney to cut people off, but it's worth it. Keep your head up.
Never divorce yourself to be with someone.
YOU. CANT. MAKE. PEOPLE. HAPPY. YOU. HAVE. TO. Make. You. Happy.
IT. OK. TO. BE. BY. YOUR. SELF. IT. OK. TO. BE. BY. YOUR. SELF. AT. TIMES. IN. LIFE.
Amen I'm in tears
I did
Life got so much better when single
Amen queen
Toxic relationships kills you slowly you deserve healthy love
Yup and time is precious sometimes leaving that relationship is might be the only way to love that person we all deserve love, peace and happiness
@@lessgetitmydailything9889 nice thoughts
I agree. I’ve never been in a relationship, I’m 23, and I don’t think I will for a long while due to people wanting a toxic relationship because to them it’s fun. I don’t know where all of this toxic behavior is coming from but I know it’s not the right way.
@@gracianoortizjr.4949 The right people will follow you stay focus on yourself and in your goals
@@gracianoortizjr.4949 you are right
Don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm.
Louise Yessszzzz.. On Point 💯
@@positivevibe7684 If they behave like they own you and you owe them, run! 🚩
We don't really lose ourselves though, just all our naivety, betrayal blindness, ppl pleasing ways, lack of boundaries and self-neglect.
In the aftermath we determine our worth and values, shore up our boundaries and pivot higher minded to give ourselves the care and love, life purpose and peace we really need. They teach us not to give ourselves away like that.
When you look at it all in retrospect, the narc gets us to set those purposeless parts of ourselves on fire to burn off all we are not, so we empower ourselves to become all that we truly are. There's a certain beauty created from our ashes when lessons are learned, we can mature and become wiser and stronger, forgive but never forget. No repeats required. We can see it as a gift in that we get to know, albeit the hard way, who we are and what we really do want. 💝✌️
You mind if I quote you?
@@Baelfyre Go for it! 💕😊✌️
Say it again !!
Yes...don't let your Partner blame you for their unhappiness.
Perfectly said❤
Good morning my pretty how are you doing today?
Or blame you for them continuing to talk to and planning to go see a “friend” who is really an ex still expressing romantic interest and making advances even after you have expressed your discomfort and disapproval MANY TIMES 🙃
Fuck that I end my life it's what I feel
That part 💯
letting go is the best thing that happened to me. Only thing I regret is wasting so much time with the WRONG PERSON. It's better to live by yourself then to live with MR TOXIC.
AMEN. Better late than never!
Thanks 🙏🏽 great wisdom !
Or Ms
The most important thing is that you left! I spent 36 years with the wrong person but it doesn’t matter I’m living my life to the fullest now.
I, AGREE TIME THAT U CAN NOT GET BACK. PERIOD!!!
Toxic relationship when they say you dont make them happy, they not happy with you…
Year right nobody never told me this stuff growing up whatever fuck everybody
Love Yourself enough to leave a toxic relationship.It’s either you or me & I Choose ME.😌
I lost myself in EVERY relationship I've ever been in. I promised myself to be alone before i ever lose myself again. #iamShontae
Same here. I'm getting to know who I am and realizing what I deserve. I will never settle again
Yes! me too!
Collecting me and my thoughts, deep cleansing and now being more aware of red flags if they come to be is the best thing that's happened from being in an abusive relationship with a monster.
Good news, I love me!
loves
Co dependency
You and me both..
Yes me too.. I've been going true a lot lately.. I'm learning my listen so I'm not going to lose myself again
Relatable when Steve says , when the other person makes you feel responsible for their happiness..mannn no truer words than that.
YUP!
NN that got me too! 🙉
Hello how are you doing ❤
I needed this I just got out of one the hardest thing I ever had to was tell her I don’t want to be in a relationship anymore I couldn’t take the pain anymore if y’all are experiencing a toxic relationship or got out of one I understand the pain I have nothing but love for anyone I hope anyone who reads this knows that they aren’t alone ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you. 💔😭
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Hello how are you doing ❤
Hello
Amen you better preach Steve Harvey but I had learn this lesson the hard way now thank God I'm free God had heal me and show me how much I mean to him that's exactly why I won't settle for less when I know that God has very best for me
Amen 🙏 I did lose me I was lost and now I'm found.
That happened to me. So happy I’m slowly finding myself.
Same thing happened to me too but now i m out of it☺
HALLELUJAH!
That's so good to hear, I've just been consumed by someone who claimed they love me, I was only there to meet their goals and eventually got tired of their demands and their problems, I put myself on hold for a year, thank god I found the strength to walk away
I care for my 96 yr old mother but the doctor said "Take time for YOU". Thank GOD I did.
Yes and don't feel GUILTY! You can't make someone happy if your Miserable!!
GOOD ADVICE, NOT THAT U DON' T LOVE YOUR LOVE ONES, BUT IT'S SO IMPORTANT SO U DON'T LOSE U, NOT TO FOR GET ABOUT U!!!😊😁
@@CrystalDatingCoach Thank you, I now do things that bring me joy and happiness regardless to what others say. 😃
@@darneittajones8338 MY Compliments!! Your happiness comes first!
Good advice I love that 💜
I'm responsible for my own happiness and I have a life before & after them.
In the end we live alone in our heart and mind
💯❤
Hello how are you doing ❤
Hello dear
@@NseSamuel 👀😊 hello.
YES! ITS MANIPULATION WHEN SOMEONE MAKES YOU FEEL RESPONSIBLE FOR SOMEONE ELSE HAPPINESS! YOU WILL LOSE WHO YOU ARE, IT IS SEVERELY DETRIMENTAL!
You become resentful. You can't make someone else's happiness your priority. It will drain you.
It’s so hard sometimes but letting go is harder
The mind is sharp and quick like a motorcycle. The heart is slow and does not make quick changes like a semi truck. The heart will always want to stay on that path even though you logically know that it ain't worth the trouble. Be strong. U got this.
Letting go is actually easier than staying. Would you rather be broken once from a breakup Or feeling broken everyday with them?
@@markluck2065 the hard part is that when you leave you see the whole picture then regrets and disgust kills you every second to the point where it became harder than staying inside the hell you were living in.. I stayed because it was hard to accept that I loved a monster, then I finally left after I've lost every part of me
Actually staying in a BAD relationship is harder.
You feel 😫 sick of pretending
The pain of being in the relationship is more familiar so we stick to it rather than facing the less familiar pain of leaving. That’s why it’s harder to leave.
Praise God in Jesus name amen 🙏😇 thank you brother for this message amen
Steve you are so true. I asked my self so often why they can't tell me they love me. That's why alone a lot and I pray to God .Bless you.
THANK YOU! I literally thought if I could just get this person to happiness then he'd let me be happy. So what happened?
He confessed that he didn't want me to be happy because he was still mad about something that happened eight years prior. In that one conversation he showed me what my future was going to be. For the rest of my life I'd be atoning for sins he would never forgive me for so that was the moment I knew divorce was the only option. Never try to make someone happy. Never expect that person to make you happy. You both should already be happy and then you can share your happiness with each other.
Yes, this is 100% . You end up missing yourself. You forget who you are, start dealing with BS your true self would Never tolerate.
Stay true to yourself, loneliness is a fleeting emotion. You already have everything you need.
ABSOLUTELY RIGHT STEVE 🌹❤️
I use to live under my Abusive Fathers roof and his Guilt-Trips by blaming me for his financial hardships, and by the time I find an opportunity to move out, that’s where I cut all ties. It wasn’t the easiest decision on my part, but I’m willing to accept that it’s better to have NO ONE* ,than someone who doesn’t value me that much and going to cause me grief by ruining my future plans. I don’t feel bad for people who I’ve purged, because they wouldn’t feel the same way.
Unless you’re with someone who is emotionally unavailable, then unhappiness will come and they will be the reason why. Do not tolerate emotional unavailability and emotional withholding. Definitely don’t blame yourself for the unhappiness that comes because they are sabotaging it. Walk away, you deserve to be with someone who believes in contributing and reciprocating happiness
I agree! ❤️
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Preach sis !
hello,how are you doing?
hi beautiful lady I just love your comment ❤❤
I lost myself in a relationship when I was with a narcissist it was horrible. I was stupid and weak. That wasn’t me at all I’m so glad that’s in the past now ! Glory be to GoD thank you !!!
That is true I lost my self and it hurt so bad.And she move on.But one day I will be ok 🙏🏿
ALWAYS BE YOURSELF
So true, because I had this experience a few weeks ago. My Ex Girlfriend told me, that she wants to talk to me. Suddenly she came with "reasons" why she wants to break up. She told me things, which were changeable (moving in together, seeing us more often) and I immediately agreed to that and was ready to change, and she reacted really overburdened. Then after a few days I found out, that she is already cheating on me for a month and she just wanted to make me feel "guilty". Thank god I found it out!
That's right Steve.
Just got out of a 3 year relationship with someone like this. Major red flag that I refused to see. I was supposed to propose to her this year as well but good thing I saw the toxicity and broke it off, I love her and I still do but she needs to be happy with herself first.
Steve hits another home run!
So true these words are that you speak.
This hits hime with me!
I lost myself due to an abuse relationship. He abused me so severly that I am DISABLED.
Good news is, I stay as positive as I can and I keep going.
I'm in a much better place as far as I am over this abuser. Yes, what a beautiful world even when it's a double edged sword.
Thank you Steve for spreading these words that many people will learn and use in the present and future...
loves
Hello how are you doing baby ❤
Hi beautiful❤❤
Good morning my pretty how are you doing today?
hi beautiful lady I just love your comment ❤❤
Hello 🌹 how you doing hope you're doing great
So very true‼️I promised myself that it would NEVER happen again and, it hasn’t 🙏🏻
" SOMETIMES YOU JUST NEED TO BE BY YOURSELF TO COLLECT YOUR THOUGHTS" IVE HAD YEARS OF ALONE TIME
Which is why I am not claw digging men at the gym
I've been throug a toxic relationship. This was the feeling, I lost myself, I didn't recognize me, it tooks me to the edge of death several times.
Hello...you need to move on with someone special
I was just in tears this morning, coming to the realization that I miss myself and the joy I used to have. Not anymore, I'm changing that starting today.
Can’t believe we're now back together and it's amazing with the help of dr iseghehi RUclips channel
Hello beautiful 💐 how are you doing
the part about the other person making you responsible for their happiness...facts! 💯
Hello how are you doing baby ❤
How do you know if you are expecting them to be responsible for your happiness or not? Because isn't it normal to want to experience happiness in relationships?
Good morning my pretty how are you doing today?
It's when the other is responsible for your unhappiness is when you HAVE to GET OUT.
i miss me .....pray for me guyzzz
Matthew 18:20
In the name Of Lord Jesus Christ Best words Let Go, Let God Daily.
Lesson learn have to love yourself to be able to love others.
#HugSelf
know Who you are with God.
No relationship can be 1 sided.
Love yall way. Know God loves you More!
God Bless
Find yourself again, hun. ⚘️
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@paaru...🙏(south Africa)
Leave him, doll. You are not on earth a long time so don't waste your precious time
“ never feel responsible for someone else’s happiness “ just hit me like a ton of bricks
Men he is right being there for everything and getting nothing in return will get old.
That relationship crumbles over time anyway.
Although a lot of damage along the way.
And here i am, no boyfriend since birth, thinking "one day, i'll find i guy who can make me happy" knowing well that i should start it with myself and not depend my happiness on that someone in the future, who could possibly not come. But sometimes, i can't help but think of it that way. It's like my escapism from reality, like how i cope. I do admit it, I like staying inside my mind most of the time. Because in there, i got exactly what i want, how i want it, and choose to end it. Its scary, how can i get out of it?
Give to others in need when you can selflessly. Don't give to those who expect or demand it from you in order to receive their attention. Those who can not give themselves what they need can never be happy with another. Build yourself with solitude to find YOUR happiness and love yourself FIRST with Jesus. ❤ Treat yourself the way you yearn to be treated❤ I hope this helps you, remember that you are never alone when you understand and recieve the holy spirit that has been within you since birth.❤
@jennym4597 thank you so much, i will remember this
this is so true. I’m going through that right now right now I have no more tears to cry. I’ve raised so much. I’ve been with him 19 years and I’ve helped him the whole 19 years and in those 19 years he haven’t helped me none I stayed for five kids, homeschool them all I was a private chef Beautiful bitter stay at home mom but I made a vow to myself in 2024. I’m getting out of this house and I’m putting me first I’m a give myself a lifetime of support and I pray on it to be strong enough to do it. It’s gonna be hard, but I’m determined to do it because I deserve happiness and uncle Steve you just spoke to my heart and I mean a light in my eyes in my head through my ears through my mouth and tingling in my toes like you’ve been feeling this and look at somebody come and just say it just say it you just say the words in my heart and my mind if that ain’t a sign, I don’t know what the hell look like I wasn’t even looking for this, but it came to me because this is what was in my heart in my head. Nobody’s perfect and I want to say thank you uncle Steve, for your wisdom, your ability to admit your faults, that you not perfect and move on from, and that’s with anybody should want, be willing to say you’re not perfect and you fucked up and that you need to do better before you sit there and blame someone else because you didn’t give them everything that you promised that you was gonna give them don’t play victim when you are the villain.
I wanna congratulate u girl that u understood your worth and decided to choose yourself over everything, I wish u all the best for everything coming up for u, face everything with courage and always prioritize your happiness and self respect in the future, more power to u, keep moving forward and remember to love yourself ❤
Just described my failed marriage. I don't know how many times she said "I'm not happy".
How true, I really needed to hear this. I'm in a toxic relationship right now.
This hits hard... I've been divorced from myself probably the past 20 years now
Tell. It. Like. It. Is. Steve.
This resonates actually; people will use you're energy, etc. Taking time for yourself..means your listening to God, the Divine and the universe.Amen!😇🙏🦋🦋
Yes sir !
I lost myself in a relationship I was groomed from Young by someone who I later learned had narcissistic personality disorder I did not know they were slowly chipping away at me trying to break me because they knew one day I would find out who they were so they were setting up everything for their self and trying to make me look like the one who's not right when someone is gas-lighting you emotionally abusing you trying to isolate and control you and you stay in that because you believe their lies games there crying and pleading when you want to leave and you accept and stay you better believe you will lose yourself even now through the co-parenting I'm still praying and working on my mental and physical health there was a lot of trauma and we were also in a trauma Bond so still carrying it in my body from 25 years of it I have finally been able to pick up the pieces after leaving and heal myself and work on myself this had so many Dynamics to it the childhood wounds also from both sides just praying for forgiveness healing in strength and moving forward
People only miss themselves when they believe there is something worth missing. Otherwise, no one cares about losing themselves in a relationship.
Say this time and time again and each one never hears me. I cannot be responsible for your happiness.
Hello how are you doing baby ❤
Happiness needs to come from inside yourself!!!
Indeed Truth 💯
No one can make u happy only u
We must take responsibility for our life.
Good word 👏
Yes, and sometimes that means ending the relationship!
SPEAK STEVE!!! I love that! “you are going to miss you”!
Steve I love your wisdom.
I did loose myself in a relationship. I did everything to love him.
It's only know I understand the toxic environment. But I want to show God.i didn't give up so I didn't listen to God.
Thank you God for your mercy and grace and blessings.
God bless all those who have come and gone from my life in Jesus name Amen
Hello beautiful 💐 how are you doing today
Amen 🙏 and for the record you’re amazingly beautiful just the way you’re ❤
Amen 🙏 and for the record you’re amazingly beautiful just the way you’re ❤
You just no what you are doing
What a piece of godly wisdom!!
I believe this goes for all types of relationships, not just romantic ones. Friendships, professional relationships and relationships with your parents or siblings should not take away your own individualuality or make you feel lesser than a person all the time.
I never understood this until now. It makes a lot of sense now.
it really makes a lot of sense
Good morning my pretty how are you doing today?
Talk about this popping up in feed even though it’s old right when I needed to hear it most
My divorce just devastated me beyond belief. I have never been the same and i do miss me...i miss who i was...the happy in my heart. I listen to steve daily to help me
That’s what I’m saying to my spouse all the time. If someone is dependent on you for their happiness your relationship will fail. I’m in constant stress because of things and it’s start to take the toll.
Never change who you are for a relationship all you are just keep pushing in life and never give up
Amen, preach brother preach, that's exactly how I was feeling that's why I had to get out of my relationship.
I never thought I’d look to Steve Harvey as I do today. His wisdom is pure gold.
This happened to me when I was married.
I have taken the time & work into finding me again. I know the signs and will not get into that kind of relationship again
Wow!! I needed to hear this. The timing couldn’t have been better
I needed those words….
This was right on time, and Steve is so right about this. Amen. 🥺
WASTED 8 YEARS OF MY LIFE BUT IN 2017 I FELT I WAS BORN AGAIN FINALLY FELT FREE AND AN ENORMOUS PEACE I WAS FINALLY ME AGAIN I FINALLY FELT ABLE TO GIVE MY ALL TO MY SON 😢 GETTING TO KNOW AND LOVE YOURSELF IS A FEELING I CANT EXPLAIN MAKES ME CRY OF HAPPINESS JUST WRITING THIS IT'S POSSIBLE LADIES AND GENTLEMEN KNOW YOUR WORTH ❤
HAPPILY MARRIED WITH SOMEONE WHO LOVES ME FOR ME AND KNOWS MY WORTH AND UNDERSTANDS IM A QUEEN AND HE'S MY KING THIS IS OUR CASTLE WE ARE A TEAM THANK YOU JESUS AMMEENNNN ❤❤❤😢
I have no idea where he is getting it!!!! But it's such a huge truth!!! Which one realizes when he hears it and says to himself: "wow, that's my case!"
Hello 👋
Never love somebody more than you love yourself
Hello how are you doing baby ❤
I needed this and now I am uncontrollably sobbing on my floor my boyfriends being so fucking toxic out of nowhere and I don’t know what to do. Like yeah I love him so so damn much, but he hurt me so much and it’s like he doesn’t care. Even though 3 days ago we were so so damn happy. I don’t know what happened
I was in a very toxic relationship and the way Steve explained it with these few words it's the truth thank God and bless you a very good man with wise words..
I think it's about contributing to their happiness.. being a partner..and staying along side someone while they filter through their feelings.. but not ever take full responsibility over it..
100 percent agreed
There are no relationships we are alone
Yes 💯 truth amen
They key phrase is “when the other person MAKES you RESPONSIBLE for their happiness.” Sometimes you can do everything trying to make that person happy, but it’s never enough! He’s not saying you should not do things that make the other person happy, but we should not lose who we are and our purpose in the process. We should not neglect ourselves in the process of going through life either. But, if that makes you happy, go for it, but don’t expect the other person to feel the exact same way in their expression of love towards you to the same degree! I personally know what it is to lose yourself in the process of life trying to make others happy, even in friendships. Such individuals are looking for their happiness from others. They can only be happy when someone else is doing for them. For whatever reason, they can’t be happy doing things that make them happy. Maybe this is part of being codependent!! Some people have created this fantasy, and they already have decided how individuals should make them happy.
Amen! Be careful if partner is masking there “needs” as happiness. Of course you can’t meet there needs. You need two whole, happy people to make a successful relationship work.
Thank you for waking me up Steve !!!!!!!
Steve makes me laugh all the time but this one made me choke up. This world needs Steve Harvey it is a blessing just to hear his words but his character his soul puts so much power to his words🙏💜
I'm 59 years old and I'm just now finding myself
17 year toxic marriage is finally over
I'm happy for you
You have to love yourself FIRST before you can love someone else!
Mannnnnn… my marriage was like that but GOD got me up out of it
And he is about to get me out of mine ! God is good all the time !
AMEN 🙏 ❤
One of the most honest things and rewarding lessons I have learned in my life. Ty
Well said
AMEN 🙏 Thank You Father Almighty 👑 True is That 💯
Man that is powerful
That's what happened to me in my last relationship I lost my spark and my friends told me.
Men dont ever look for love, let love find you and youll be happy....you look for love and love will fail you
That's exactly wat I did and didn't see it coming I was sleeping with the devil with a smile
Huh
@@peakcockk well the woman I married hid things for 15 years didn't see it
Really
Hello how are you doing baby ❤
Facts. Amen.
Always remember your needs and who you are. Talk and let your partner know how you feel and always voice who you are in a nice way ❤
I love Steve Harveys understanding of faith and life 💖👍
This is so TRUE!
Word on point.🎯 Like always, Steve.
Heres some advice for anyone who seeks it. Do not put all of your self-worth into the opinions of people around you. Face truth head on, be yourself or you will never truly be happy in life. Cut fake people off, stop being fake. It's better to have 1-2 friends that are real than 100 fake friends. It's loney to cut people off, but it's worth it. Keep your head up.
Can’t believe we're now back together and it's amazing with the help of dr iseghehi RUclips channel
I can't make anyone happy. They miss me. I love making myself happy I'm so grateful, blessed and appreciative for my life and my choices.
As for me if I'm losing myself in my relationship, is from the girl it's not from anybody. because all man deserve a respect.