I can’t believe it’s taken me 24 years to realize that I have so much pain inside of me and I have to let it out. You explained everything I feel. I keep wondering why why why I have to be this way... why I keep thinking about my dad even thought I haven’t heard from him in 3 years, since I had my daughter. He doesn’t care to even meet her I suppose.. but Thank you so much for this video. All your videos. I’m truly grateful
My father died at age 5. My stepdad was an alcoholic. I have been abandoned continually. I am strong, I make great money, I have a home, I have great female relationships but I attract highly feminine men with there own issues. You have been breaking my heart wide open.
I overwork and over give...I do feel like I am never good enough. I have become like repunzel keeping everyone out. I give myself permission to love and validate myself.
Yes... had.emotionally unaivalable father here. I am still waiting for his stamp of validation. I was a beautifil, a smart and a curious girl, but he never told me this! So how could I ever believe this about myself? Today I understand why I searched so early for love, why I didn't know how to cope with boys in my youth, why I attracted narcisstic and weak partners, why I never had self-confidence, why I never thought I am intelligent, why I had never work succes, why I don't have a sense of self, why I can't set boundaries. Oh yes, and always repressing yourself cus you think it's normal, cause your father did the same! After I understood that I also have a right for an equal partner, I now have a confident and healthy partner but it all suffers from my symptoms of my father wound. But finally I know that there are emotionally available, responsible and caring men. I adore these fathers who bring out the best in their kids. It sounds crazy but I always wished I would find a nice family where they take me in and I get the approval of this father. I never had any male role model in my life and always wish one day there will be one. I have sworn myself I will not make the mistake my mother did. Only healthy people in my life!! It is good to know now about attachment theory, emotionally unaivalability etc. Because the sad thing is, if you don't know different you think it is "normal" that men behave like this! And as you said you will attract these things again. But knowing the red flags helps so much. Let's break these cycle of bad fathers!!
Every single second of the video resonates and has been my truth for way too long. I am 49 years and just discovered that these father and mother wounds are responsible for how I've shown up in the world. I made a tight sealed energetic box around me as you described to keep me safe and keep everyone and everything out. I had a reading once where I was told around me she saw a tightly woven basket. I couldn't get out and no one could get in. She saw a vision of snakes trying to get in to no avail. I've recently discovered you Jake and am so grateful for the wisdom you are sharing. I've lived the first half of my life I can only describe as a deer trying to relax and feed and consistently popping it's head up to scan it's environment in fear over and over. I have been in a relationship the past 6 years with a man I still have difficulty trusting and feeling safe with. I'm exhausted but I will keep working at this. I have learned to receive in this relationship. It has taken most of the these 6 years to feel able to receive. He is extremely giving and also fiercely stoic and emotionally unavailable. I'm learning as I go.....we all are it seems. XX
Endless deep love & connection In this little group of high vibrating, healing and empowering souls here together. Thanks from my heart to have found you Jake✨♥️ the first time in my life i‘m feeling so touched with that father issue
wow, that's a first video of yours I came across and so many things resonate. You have an amazing way to communicate and present information. much love!
Both of my parents were emotionally unavailable.... my recent ex used to say to me I’m a mirror I’m a mirror ..... when you just said about mirroring my heart nearly skipped a beat ... I never got validation from either of my parents my ex walked out over & over again .... saying I’m a mirror I’m a mirror ..... we were 5 years together .... this time 5 months apart .... his love was only convenient or conditional this time I have let him go .... time to fix myself and stop letting people use & abuse me leave when times are not so fun .... ( they are never that bad ) ... thank you for this video 😊 I have been wanting to be loved so much I forgot to love myself ....😶
This is so true...I get so attached and I don’t want them to leave and they always end up leaving anyway. The past few relationships have ended the exact same way. Down to the T.
Jake... I have always been put in a situation of helping my alcoholic father financially.. I have always seen him as a man who needed to be helped... Therefore, in my journey I have always encountered man who needed me in a way or another... I wish I could meet a wealthy man, just because I am so curious to see how does it feel to connect with an high quality masculine man...., and because I wish I can hear him say :" I can handle this for you,you don't have to figure all out by yourself" So what is that I have to heal ? I am enough aware to comprehend that he did his best, I see him as a soul I have chosen for the lessons I need to learn for my inner growth, but oh, gosh, I really wish a wealthy awakened man that doesn't need me.... Blessings 🙏 🕉️
I just really must say, how amazing it feels to watch you talk and help other people heal, someone that has healed and grown sooo strong it is unbelievable! I am so proud of you! My whole heart flows over! Thank you! Much love 🌷
Hi Jake, probably you don't need to hear this but I feel you. I admire your strength, your courage and your compassion. It's so rare in a man to me. I struggled with my father wound so many times, trusting male energy it's a big one. You spoke to my heart. Thank you for your work.
A true brother Jake, what a man you are!! Blessed to resonate with someone like yourself. Inspiration for many, many people to take part of. Only Love.
i dont mean to be off topic but does someone know of a method to get back into an instagram account..? I was stupid forgot my password. I would appreciate any assistance you can give me.
Yes Jake..not physicly abused...but Emotionally Distant...Feminine Heart Here... as a gay man it is difficult...My dad passed in 2018...we were on good terms .. ...but I still am looking for his approval Jake....I am watching this on replay today....As always Jake, thank you for your insight .
Omg! Amazing! Thank you for this video. Please keep healing the masculine in this world! I see your channel being so successful, please keep doing the good work. The world needs you.
Jake (talk about synchronicity, that’s my dad’s name) - thank you 🙏 for this video. I’m currently on a tear (not quite a journey, it’s a lil more visceral) of self-healing. I’ve been learning about equanimity (Tara Brach has some grrreat content on this) - just sitting down in all the emotion, in the present moment - no judgement, just curiosity - and receiving the beauty and showing compassion for the pain. The last couple years, I’ve been dating this guy, and we started out great (compatible, having fun, spending a lot of time together, honeymooning etc). Recently, we’re butting heads. Like a lot. His family just bought him a house (fixer upper), he’s taken on a 2nd job (contracting), and he’s stressed tf out. Growing up, my dad was an alcoholic, aggressive, repressive, abusive, emotionally unavailable, aNd had high expectations for me. Naturally, I carry a deep father wound. My partner’s father was an alcoholic, abusive, and abandoned the family when my partner was 6. Another father wound. I have learned so much from this video alone (I can’t wait to dive into more of your content); I think we both don’t trust masculine energy and so are headstrong, dominant, and self-protective. With this new awareness of the root of some of our less loving, compassionate, receptive behaviors, I’m hoping I can bring this to him and bring to light how we can help each other heal. I’m thinking this is a unique opportunity for us to understand each other more deeply. As long as he’s ready to do his own healing work. Wish me luck 🤞 and thank you again, for your wisdom and for sharing what you’ve experienced and learned. Namaste ❤️
I have inherited the wounds of my lineage, I am blessed to heal it. Blessed to be born in this era . Blessed to have people like you ❤️. God bless you 💖
Hi Jake, thank you so much for doing this. My father passed away six years ago so a lot of the things (how the father could be emotionally unavailable, how the child craves for the father's approval, and how the father represses feelings and emotions) that you went through in this video/podcast were what I went through and digested alone. While I'm glad how I've made through this painful process of grieving, forgiving, and healing, I sometimes still try to understand some of my most original wounds. It's amazing how you've managed to articulate it and make sense of it through the form of language, and it helped me understand better on the whole healing process. Thank you so much again
Mother wound: not enough hugs, kisses, comfort, nurturing, caring or peace. Lack Father wound: not enough money, things, resources, concern or security. Violence
Wow what if I had to say yes to all of the 6 instances holy crap no wonder why this keeps coming up no matter how much I do in this area it’s just never finished I swear
The really shitty part for me is that my Father wounds go very very deep. I’m also gay so it’s tied into my sexual attraction 😭. My mom separated from my dad when I was 2-3yrs old. He was dealing drugs and was an addict & a drunk. The few memories I have of him are awful. I am an adult now and I don’t need a father but I have this craving for an older mans approval, love, and respect. I’ve noticed my sexuality manifest as an unhealthy attraction to narcissistic older man.
Dear Adrian. Appreciate yourself. Love yourself. Your a great person. Wait and see how your story changes. Where you are today wont be where you will be tomorrow. Hang in there. Someone who has learnt life isnt how others define you.
I can’t believe it’s taken me 24 years to realize that I have so much pain inside of me and I have to let it out. You explained everything I feel. I keep wondering why why why I have to be this way... why I keep thinking about my dad even thought I haven’t heard from him in 3 years, since I had my daughter. He doesn’t care to even meet her I suppose.. but Thank you so much for this video. All your videos. I’m truly grateful
I have lived thru the same father stuff.... ❤ so resonate with this video. Healing vibes to you 🙏
I'm twenty four right now finally realizing this
My father died at age 5. My stepdad was an alcoholic. I have been abandoned continually. I am strong, I make great money, I have a home, I have great female relationships but I attract highly feminine men with there own issues. You have been breaking my heart wide open.
I overwork and over give...I do feel like I am never good enough. I have become like repunzel keeping everyone out. I give myself permission to love and validate myself.
Yes... had.emotionally unaivalable father here. I am still waiting for his stamp of validation. I was a beautifil, a smart and a curious girl, but he never told me this! So how could I ever believe this about myself? Today I understand why I searched so early for love, why I didn't know how to cope with boys in my youth, why I attracted narcisstic and weak partners, why I never had self-confidence, why I never thought I am intelligent, why I had never work succes, why I don't have a sense of self, why I can't set boundaries. Oh yes, and always repressing yourself cus you think it's normal, cause your father did the same! After I understood that I also have a right for an equal partner, I now have a confident and healthy partner but it all suffers from my symptoms of my father wound. But finally I know that there are emotionally available, responsible and caring men. I adore these fathers who bring out the best in their kids. It sounds crazy but I always wished I would find a nice family where they take me in and I get the approval of this father. I never had any male role model in my life and always wish one day there will be one. I have sworn myself I will not make the mistake my mother did. Only healthy people in my life!! It is good to know now about attachment theory, emotionally unaivalability etc. Because the sad thing is, if you don't know different you think it is "normal" that men behave like this! And as you said you will attract these things again. But knowing the red flags helps so much. Let's break these cycle of bad fathers!!
That's what you call a real man ^
someone's who's emotionally open 👏
I love how your so real as a Man yet knowing your feminine energy as well. Every morning I find a show to listen too.
Every single second of the video resonates and has been my truth for way too long. I am 49 years and just discovered that these father and mother wounds are responsible for how I've shown up in the world. I made a tight sealed energetic box around me as you described to keep me safe and keep everyone and everything out. I had a reading once where I was told around me she saw a tightly woven basket. I couldn't get out and no one could get in. She saw a vision of snakes trying to get in to no avail. I've recently discovered you Jake and am so grateful for the wisdom you are sharing. I've lived the first half of my life I can only describe as a deer trying to relax and feed and consistently popping it's head up to scan it's environment in fear over and over. I have been in a relationship the past 6 years with a man I still have difficulty trusting and feeling safe with. I'm exhausted but I will keep working at this. I have learned to receive in this relationship. It has taken most of the these 6 years to feel able to receive. He is extremely giving and also fiercely stoic and emotionally unavailable. I'm learning as I go.....we all are it seems. XX
Endless deep love & connection In this little group of high vibrating, healing and empowering souls here together. Thanks from my heart to have found you Jake✨♥️ the first time in my life i‘m feeling so touched with that father issue
wow, that's a first video of yours I came across and so many things resonate. You have an amazing way to communicate and present information. much love!
Both of my parents were emotionally unavailable.... my recent ex used to say to me I’m a mirror I’m a mirror ..... when you just said about mirroring my heart nearly skipped a beat ... I never got validation from either of my parents my ex walked out over & over again .... saying I’m a mirror I’m a mirror ..... we were 5 years together .... this time 5 months apart .... his love was only convenient or conditional this time I have let him go .... time to fix myself and stop letting people use & abuse me leave when times are not so fun .... ( they are never that bad ) ... thank you for this video 😊 I have been wanting to be loved so much I forgot to love myself ....😶
This is so true...I get so attached and I don’t want them to leave and they always end up leaving anyway. The past few relationships have ended the exact same way. Down to the T.
Jake... I have always been put in a situation of helping my alcoholic father financially.. I have always seen him as a man who needed to be helped... Therefore, in my journey I have always encountered man who needed me in a way or another... I wish I could meet a wealthy man, just because I am so curious to see how does it feel to connect with an high quality masculine man...., and because I wish I can hear him say :" I can handle this for you,you don't have to figure all out by yourself"
So what is that I have to heal ? I am enough aware to comprehend that he did his best, I see him as a soul I have chosen for the lessons I need to learn for my inner growth, but oh, gosh, I really wish a wealthy awakened man that doesn't need me....
Blessings 🙏 🕉️
Thank you for this video. I got this from a friend . We support each other. My repression is lockjaw and teeth grinding at night.
This is a very brave and beautiful video. Thank you for sharing. ❤️
I just really must say, how amazing it feels to watch you talk and help other people heal, someone that has healed and grown sooo strong it is unbelievable! I am so proud of you! My whole heart flows over! Thank you! Much love 🌷
Thank you!
Hi Jake, probably you don't need to hear this but I feel you. I admire your strength, your courage and your compassion. It's so rare in a man to me. I struggled with my father wound so many times, trusting male energy it's a big one. You spoke to my heart. Thank you for your work.
Thank you for your kind words, sending you love!
A true brother Jake, what a man you are!! Blessed to resonate with someone like yourself. Inspiration for many, many people to take part of. Only Love.
Much love to you!
i dont mean to be off topic but does someone know of a method to get back into an instagram account..?
I was stupid forgot my password. I would appreciate any assistance you can give me.
@Philip Taylor instablaster ;)
Yes Jake..not physicly abused...but Emotionally Distant...Feminine Heart Here... as a gay man it is difficult...My dad passed in 2018...we were on good terms ..
...but I still am looking for his approval Jake....I am watching this on replay today....As always Jake, thank you for your insight .
Omg! Amazing! Thank you for this video. Please keep healing the masculine in this world! I see your channel being so successful, please keep doing the good work. The world needs you.
Jake (talk about synchronicity, that’s my dad’s name) - thank you 🙏 for this video. I’m currently on a tear (not quite a journey, it’s a lil more visceral) of self-healing. I’ve been learning about equanimity (Tara Brach has some grrreat content on this) - just sitting down in all the emotion, in the present moment - no judgement, just curiosity - and receiving the beauty and showing compassion for the pain. The last couple years, I’ve been dating this guy, and we started out great (compatible, having fun, spending a lot of time together, honeymooning etc). Recently, we’re butting heads. Like a lot. His family just bought him a house (fixer upper), he’s taken on a 2nd job (contracting), and he’s stressed tf out. Growing up, my dad was an alcoholic, aggressive, repressive, abusive, emotionally unavailable, aNd had high expectations for me. Naturally, I carry a deep father wound. My partner’s father was an alcoholic, abusive, and abandoned the family when my partner was 6. Another father wound. I have learned so much from this video alone (I can’t wait to dive into more of your content); I think we both don’t trust masculine energy and so are headstrong, dominant, and self-protective. With this new awareness of the root of some of our less loving, compassionate, receptive behaviors, I’m hoping I can bring this to him and bring to light how we can help each other heal. I’m thinking this is a unique opportunity for us to understand each other more deeply. As long as he’s ready to do his own healing work. Wish me luck 🤞 and thank you again, for your wisdom and for sharing what you’ve experienced and learned. Namaste ❤️
I have inherited the wounds of my lineage, I am blessed to heal it. Blessed to be born in this era . Blessed to have people like you ❤️.
God bless you 💖
Love it! Thank you Jake!
Thankyou so much you are true inspiration thankyou for your truth and your time I appreciate it 🙏❤
So much if what you said made sense to me. I have always had that feeling of "not good enough" I really need to explore that more. Wow!
Hi Jake, thank you so much for doing this. My father passed away six years ago so a lot of the things (how the father could be emotionally unavailable, how the child craves for the father's approval, and how the father represses feelings and emotions) that you went through in this video/podcast were what I went through and digested alone. While I'm glad how I've made through this painful process of grieving, forgiving, and healing, I sometimes still try to understand some of my most original wounds. It's amazing how you've managed to articulate it and make sense of it through the form of language, and it helped me understand better on the whole healing process. Thank you so much again
Thank you so much Jake. This helped me so much. Finally I understand whats going wrong in my relationship.
I can relate. Such deep work. Thank you 🙏❤️
Thank you for showing up!
Mother wound: not enough hugs, kisses,
comfort, nurturing, caring or peace. Lack
Father wound: not enough money, things,
resources, concern or security. Violence
Just found your channel! Amazing ❤️
realizing i’m scared to let go of the dense pain energy because it is like the last line of defense so the motivation never hits zero
Wow what if I had to say yes to all of the 6 instances holy crap no wonder why this keeps coming up no matter how much I do in this area it’s just never finished I swear
Thank you thank you thank you
Great video ❤ thank you
Omg, waw.. You are amazing soul..
Thanx a Lot Jake and he'll yes how many people have child wounds without knowing.I am a GAY and its the same emotionally unavailable persons!!!
I felt like you where talking right at me this is what I needed to hear right now thank you Jake! ❤️🙏
Thank you so much for this!! This explains a lot and I definitely needed to hear it! ✨💖🙏🏼
Loving the himalayan salt lamp in the background 😍
Thank you Jake for this message
Thank you for this brother 🙏 Definitely moving through this now
You are amazing! Thank you for bringing this to me
Thank you Jake!!These were the answers i’ve been looking for, thank you so much for your clear story. 🙏🏽💛
Thank you Jake 🙌🙌🙌
Sending you love!
Thank you
Very insightful 💫 Thank you Jake... However, I’m the one who walks away in relationships. I’m going to start working on this 🐣
me too..
love this
these are very helpful, thank you :)
The really shitty part for me is that my Father wounds go very very deep. I’m also gay so it’s tied into my sexual attraction 😭. My mom separated from my dad when I was 2-3yrs old. He was dealing drugs and was an addict & a drunk. The few memories I have of him are awful. I am an adult now and I don’t need a father but I have this craving for an older mans approval, love, and respect. I’ve noticed my sexuality manifest as an unhealthy attraction to narcissistic older man.
❤️ thank you Jake
Jake, You are awesome.
Thank you 🌟
this video is for me thanks
Oh Jake..Stuttered here as well...always hiding too
No more hiding brother.
Thank you xoxo
I'm ready to do the work, but could u guide me on how?!
❤️
When are you doing one on mother wound?
My abusive dad majorly screwed me up. Now I'm gay. Life sucks.
Dear Adrian. Appreciate yourself. Love yourself. Your a great person. Wait and see how your story changes. Where you are today wont be where you will be tomorrow. Hang in there. Someone who has learnt life isnt how others define you.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
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What is that accent? Where are you from Jake?
Thank you so much for sharing so much, this was divine and really helpful. Blessed be 🥰
Thank you