“HEALTHY COMMUNICATION IS UNCOMFORTABLE” (EP. 73)

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  • Опубликовано: 23 ноя 2024

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  • @heyerikan
    @heyerikan Год назад +340

    "when you don't communicate, the devil narrates" - Jalon

    • @veronicaatkins4417
      @veronicaatkins4417 Год назад +4

      I like that statement it’s so true

    • @justdevy02
      @justdevy02 Год назад +11

      Snaps in poetry fingers

    • @keishafam02
      @keishafam02 Год назад +1

      Heavy, right?

    • @heyerikan
      @heyerikan Год назад

      @@keishafam02 too good.

    • @MylezNevison
      @MylezNevison Год назад +13

      @@heyerikan Great quote but I would word it "the Ego Narrates" not "the Devil"... saying "the devil narrates" externalises and takes responsibility away from us (the one's thinking up those narratives based on OUR ego's insecurities/weakness).

  • @DivineSoulAngel
    @DivineSoulAngel Год назад +208

    To witness these Black men have this level of conversation is sooo healing and soo nourishing to my soul. I appreciate this conversation and I´m convinced healthy relationships can and will exist among Black women and men. I envision this level of emotional & spiritual intimacy for myself and my future partner. Amen, Ase & so it is.

  • @DoItAgainA
    @DoItAgainA Год назад +170

    This podcast is so powerful because y’all are actively modeling better behaviors

  • @autumhernandez2045
    @autumhernandez2045 Год назад +72

    The part of knowing y’all planning for a lifetime of figuring it out and not having to know it all right then and there but bringing awareness to it. That part 👌🏽

  • @Juiceman390
    @Juiceman390 Год назад +8

    I’m 24 and I’m getting married next month, I’ve never really had positive males in my life to each me how to be a healthy man for my wife but I just wanted to thank the fuck out of y’all for helping me be a better man for the woman I love

  • @Nitra813
    @Nitra813 Год назад +37

    That mind connection he spoke about is called INTIMACY ❤ I tell my husband the same thing after a deep healthy conversation. It’s very stimulating. I feel connected to him on a mind level, not just physical.

  • @la3380
    @la3380 Год назад +30

    I am starting a new relationship with a true man and we had a misunderstanding but were able to be vulnerable and talk and resolve things 🥲 I’m learning to listen as a women without being defensive. That comes from my parents too accusing me of being a bad child all the time but I was able to be aware of it and he was able to lead and today I feel amazing and boom this video comes out. So glad to be with a real man, I feel he is it ❤❤

    • @NiceAndNeatThePodcast
      @NiceAndNeatThePodcast  Год назад +6

      It’s important that you know where the root of your defensiveness comes from. Give yourself some credit for that! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @Jess2b_fit
    @Jess2b_fit Год назад +21

    Also I hear what you’re saying as far as creating a safe space for your partner to be vulnerable.
    But it’s also crucial to understand that sometimes.. no matter how safe the space you create, that person has trauma from their past that physically won’t allow them to open up and that requires work far beyond your scope as a partner. Jalon has clearly come to a place in his life where he has done the work to be able to correlate his present day feelings with childhood impact.
    The responsibility is on the individual to heal.

  • @Nnataliecastroo
    @Nnataliecastroo Год назад +52

    10 mins in & I have to rewatch the episode, to absorb all the information you guys put out there! The execution in this episode is unique & depth of real life scenarios. 20/10!!

  • @TheAmhyacinth
    @TheAmhyacinth Год назад +33

    If it’s one thing Jalon gunna do is drop a Gem!
    When you don’t communicate, the devil narrates 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @nobe41548
      @nobe41548 Год назад

      Wow... that's the EXACT THING MY WIFE TELLS ME ALL THE TIME!!! Hearing it come from somewhere else really made me realize how much truth is in it. Thank you for opening my eyes❤🙏

  • @christylexo4763
    @christylexo4763 Год назад +8

    When Omar started talking about the conversation between him and his girl while they were out to dinner and she equated the conversation to sex is the level of intimacy that I desire in my relationship!!! I love this podcast and the influence that you men are putting out especially for the men out here that have difficulty being vulnerable. I think that especially men they equate feeling and vulnerability to being soft and feminine which is not the case. Great job gentlemen with this one !!

    • @GonzalezAGeorge
      @GonzalezAGeorge Год назад

      Cool song who is the artist and what’s it called?

  • @dashseck7595
    @dashseck7595 Год назад +2

    I had a MENTAL ORGASM watching these MEN sharpen each other's swords !!! I know men TWICE their age that could NEVER engage in such conversations. Shout out to them, their parents , their women, and whomever else is responsible for this level of maturity and delicious intellect!!! I'm definitely a fan now ! Keep up the great content !!! I keep telling my friends, there are some still left LOL😂

  • @jayg619
    @jayg619 Год назад +10

    Very similar to the book The Five Love Languages there is one called The Five Apology Languages. It’s a good read to further build that communication bond with your partner.

  • @kdlewis7355
    @kdlewis7355 Год назад +29

    I really appreciate the vulnerability and openness that you Kings demonstrate. A great example for other Black Males to see, keep up the good work.

  • @AikiraBeats
    @AikiraBeats Год назад +4

    Learning how to apologize is one of my biggest struggles. This is a conversation that needs a part two.

  • @instrinsiclove
    @instrinsiclove Год назад +17

    This conversation really makes me do some internal reflection as to how emotional availability properly displays for a woman. I definitely battle with attracting emotional available men, and I recognize that it’s based upon my internal struggles with vulnerability. I really wonder what that SHOULD look like, especially in consideration of healthy communication. Anyway, great episode Kings! Adore y’all 🥰🥃

  • @valentinewairimu3351
    @valentinewairimu3351 Год назад +9

    The spiritual and emotional maturity here is real. Love from GA❤

  • @marybutidk
    @marybutidk Год назад +4

    I’m not a Scorpio but I’m with Jalon on getting to the bottom of things. I LOVE to ask why and ask questions to get a better understanding of my partner and other people I care about.
    When he broke down the clam thing!!! Man!! I was THERE WITH YOU!!! Like! Yes!! I love to communicate and j love to get deep with my person, that helps me love them better, to feed into them differently, alladat good shit.
    I really enjoy listening to y’all ♥️

  • @AngelaElikya
    @AngelaElikya Год назад +15

    Jalon always delivers I appreciate him so much❤

  • @LofiforLife
    @LofiforLife 7 месяцев назад +1

    Love this !!! I hope it is a life saver in my soon to be marriage . 😩 Pray for me y’all! I am taking notes 📝 and will apply these ASAP. Love this !!!

  • @kettyirakoze4635
    @kettyirakoze4635 Год назад +7

    Where do men like these be at??👀 coz damn y’all are just going straight to the point!!!

  • @vontressacounts6153
    @vontressacounts6153 Год назад +14

    I LOOOVE this podcast! So good to see healthy communication modeled! Another thing to be careful of is facial expressions...that can definitely shut a person down when communicating!

  • @tundeoshikoya131
    @tundeoshikoya131 Год назад +24

    Mannnnnn. Y’all were in your bag this episode! So many gems. Heartfelt thank you for this one.

  • @Somuchtotalkabout
    @Somuchtotalkabout Год назад +1

    When someone you love tells you about yourself it is the most uncomfortable feeling ever. In some ways it feels embarrassing to that person especially if you strive to be the best person you can be. But in the long run it makes you better as a person and partner.

  • @KeyshasCorner
    @KeyshasCorner Год назад +12

    This was an amazing conversation I never leave a comment but I had to give you your props today not to say that your other episodes aren't fire as well but this is really amazing it was very needed and I just love how you guys did and articulate the things that sometimes we don't know how to say but we know we're feeling it thank you so much and keep up the good work and you gentlemen are really helping a lot of individuals and couples that are really active and wanting to better themselves in every area of their lives.

    • @NiceAndNeatThePodcast
      @NiceAndNeatThePodcast  Год назад +5

      That is our mission! Bridging the gap between men and women through healthy conversations like this one. 🥃🥃🥃

  • @tracysimon7972
    @tracysimon7972 Год назад

    It is soo refreshing to see black men being open and vulnerable in these kinds of spaces. The walls being torn down and men are willing to have these conversations that are IMPERATIVE for relationships to thrive. You have a new subscriber

  • @tierrasardine562
    @tierrasardine562 Год назад +5

    The most difficult thing about communicating has to be understanding each others strengths when communicating. For example, I like most women can communicate to we blue in the face …I mean we will start spelling out words, synonyms,antonyms,etc.While I have came into contact in relationships that after “he” can’t explain any deeper it’s like …”just never mind , it’s cool” . 😂 so half of my marriage is me over communicating and him like “😳 ooo well what should I do so we not back in this space” ❤

  • @ajprescod09
    @ajprescod09 Год назад +3

    Idk where I been on this podcast but I found it today & im 4 episodes in ❤ it’s so breath taking to hear young men be so open honest vulnerable about real life issues

  • @Chasing_Destiny
    @Chasing_Destiny Год назад +3

    This is my first time watching you guys and I am blown away. This is so great, to see black men use their voice and hear you guys talk about your relationship, I will be listening to more episodes!

  • @DHenny
    @DHenny Год назад +5

    I’ve never seen men be so vulnerable honest and smart . That’s sad at my big age I’ve been surrounded by clowns thinking it’s normal . Maybe I should move to another state

  • @kalidedan
    @kalidedan Год назад

    So so happy I found this podcast with intelligent black men . Continue making the world a better place

  • @chiefafam
    @chiefafam Год назад +1

    Man certain people have a defense mechanism to not even want to comprehend. No matter how well you explain something…

  • @CourtneyWilkerson-qp9zt
    @CourtneyWilkerson-qp9zt Год назад

    Environmental influence plays an imperative role in the disconnect of relationships... so I feel that checking in and reassuring the key elements for the foundation are very important to ensure that their is no room for misunderstanding or assumptions to manifest the destruction of communication

  • @watchmelinerose
    @watchmelinerose Год назад +4

    Whew, this was a really GOOD one! I love how each of you take the time out to reflect and add your personal experiences to the topic. I also love how Omar talks about him vs. the the ego because the ego is truly what hinders us from operating out of love. The ego wants us to believe everything is an attack, but with those constant self check-ins and reflections, we get better at being in control of our reactions and allow ourselves to be more vulnerable. It's also us vs. our ego.

  • @reginaiyahhodge1704
    @reginaiyahhodge1704 Год назад +3

    that emotional drawer analogy!!!

  • @MarissaontheMAP
    @MarissaontheMAP Год назад

    Listened to this episode at the perfect time. Some things they said were literally things my therapist and I talked about TUH-DAY! lol I had a recent breakthrough when talking to a good friend and in therapy where I realized that I'm avoidant when it comes to conflict. But I'm working on it 🙌🏽 Until about a year ago I would completely avoiding conflict/tough conversations. Over this past year I would avoid things in the heat of the moment and tell myself "I just need time to get my emotions regulated and my thoughts together", and sometimes it led to complete avoidance, other times it led to initiating the hard conversation. I'm looking forward to getting better at this and handling conflict when it happens, versus the opposite. Emotional regulation is KEY!
    I also realized (because of a post I saw) that it's hard for me to communicate my needs/my thoughts/my emotions because of past traumas where I was gaslit, betrayed, not taken seriously, or flat out ignored. I would always turn inward and think that I was the problem, and sometimes I was, but other times it was the other person and I just couldn't see it or didn't want to place blame on them because I'm used to people not taking accountability. I was overly self-accountable 🤦🏽‍♀ lol We getting better though!!
    Lowkey new to this podcast but I love everything I've heard so far. Yall hear it all the time i'm sure, but this is needed! And its so refreshing to see Black men having these convos and doing the work 🫶🏽

  • @kwanelechilixo
    @kwanelechilixo Год назад +5

    My favourite episode hands down.

  • @mindfullnessmindset8746
    @mindfullnessmindset8746 Год назад +1

    One of the best podcast episodes on relationships I’ve ever listened to!!!! Its so refreshing to hear that others struggle in their relationship but also that there are others who have the tools to properly navigate it in a healthy way.

  • @naturallyshaq3679
    @naturallyshaq3679 Год назад +8

    The podcast does not get enough love. Yall are so dope❤

  • @MylezNevison
    @MylezNevison Год назад +2

    Lack of self awareness, maturity and the Ego's need to be right are what cause communication break downs... Some aren't self aware enough to know or understand the feelings they are experiencing so their Ego ends up taking over in a knee jerk reaction of self protection; thus the fight begins.
    Effective communication starts INTERNALLY within one's self; unfortunately most fail the assignment internally and that internal failure is then mirrored externally with others inbthe form of an argument... Relationships are merely mirrors of the relationship one has internally with themselves. Miscommunication is a #SYMPTOM of an internal breakdown; problem is we focus on external ego fights as opposed to the internal #ROOT issue.
    "Understanding others is Wisdom but understanding the self is Enlightenment." It all comes back to the self.

  • @WhenSaraiSpeaksUListen
    @WhenSaraiSpeaksUListen Год назад +4

    Y’all are just SPOT on. I truly love this podcast.

  • @venomx77
    @venomx77 Год назад

    I'm going through it with my lady and this video popped up. y'all are saying good stuff. I appreciate it.
    I feel like it gets so hard when you feel like the other needs to improve and they feel like you need to improve... But I am the man. I need to be able to take the emotional, ego, and "being wrong" hits. Show that I can take all that and listen to truly understand. And hope that she sees me being vulnerable and follows suit eventually.

  • @spiritjourneys7707
    @spiritjourneys7707 Год назад +1

    My brothas, you make me so proud to hear how specifically emotionally intelligent your conversations are.
    How mature and brave!! Thank you!!

  • @LaKae444
    @LaKae444 Год назад +6

    I luv that you guys provided practical and easily implementable tips. More of that please 🖤

  • @Jess2b_fit
    @Jess2b_fit Год назад +2

    The first test of in/compatibility will show in a couple’s communication skills (or lack of)
    .. it goes beyond communication - big or small. You must listen to understand, not to simply respond.
    Are you able to put your ego to the side and comprehend what the other person needs to convey? Good, bad or both?
    Communication = Comprehension + execution

  • @londynjamiaa5981
    @londynjamiaa5981 Год назад +3

    Never watched a male podcast. Y’all made me like them!! The points y’all made has me amazed

  • @CourtneyWilkerson-qp9zt
    @CourtneyWilkerson-qp9zt Год назад

    Trust and respect 💯 for the partner is the only way to successfully ensure the relationship because without the protection of boundaries from and to your partner are responsibilities of us and the way we either make or break bonds with others

  • @pskaylz
    @pskaylz Год назад +1

    Really enjoyed this convo! Tbh, this is the first time I have heard a male led podcast touch basis on such an essential topic and with such maturity. Definitely gives me hope as a woman to know this this caliber of guys exist in this generation. You guys are dope! Definitely about to subscribe!

  • @CourtneyWilkerson-qp9zt
    @CourtneyWilkerson-qp9zt Год назад +1

    Inability to be receptive or change is already a losing battle

  • @CourtneyWilkerson-qp9zt
    @CourtneyWilkerson-qp9zt Год назад

    I believe accountability and transparency in addition to active listening 🎧...
    In support of the ego has ABSOLUTELY NO PLACE IN THE CONVERSATION 🎉

  • @Christimony222
    @Christimony222 Год назад

    Very important episode for other Black Kings to listen to. And, even us Queens.

  • @ashleecox9806
    @ashleecox9806 Год назад +1

    Its inspiring to see y'all evolve in real time. I appreciate the vulnerability and accountability. Keep going! ✨

  • @Jude-clips
    @Jude-clips Год назад

    This was so refreshing. Great podcast. It was informative & helpful for me. Communication is definitely not easy & your tips are appreciated. Y’all seem like good men who are level headed, respectful, articulate, logical & compassionate. Glad I came across your channel. God bless!

  • @musuyengbeh755
    @musuyengbeh755 Год назад +3

    Honestly this was insightful on many levels but for me as a parent.

  • @KiaraParkr
    @KiaraParkr Год назад +1

    This was so good! So helpful. Communication is big to me and I’m always working on it but you guys made good points. Definitely had some take aways and perspective from men my age. I agree that it’s not a thing for women or men to be better communicators. Personally my childhood does effect how I communicate and receive information. Definitely subscribing

  • @Svosean
    @Svosean 3 месяца назад

    Wish I came across this episode earlier this week Jalon literally explained my entire weekend if you don't communicate narrates WOW!

  • @WynesiaShaniecerylee
    @WynesiaShaniecerylee Год назад +12

    As someone whose trying to work on being better at communicating this was very informative for me. I’m saving this to my archives to listen to again. @ Jalon are you a Scorpio? lol bc you sound like me I always ask questions to get deeper. Why is my favorite question. 😂

  • @Charlenespov
    @Charlenespov Год назад

    This podcast is so therapeutic for people like me who struggle with self expression. Thank you for the enlightenment!

  • @MsNikki-kd6tv
    @MsNikki-kd6tv Год назад

    Absolutely love this level of communication and transparency. 👏🏽👏🏽

  • @Nitra813
    @Nitra813 Год назад +1

    This is what it looks like when people are in relationships and allow themselves to mature and grow in it. You learn about each other And about yourself and become better. That’s what’s supposed to happen and I love to see it.

  • @Wholisticbohoo
    @Wholisticbohoo Год назад +4

    I literally watched this 3 times already, you guys are doing remarkable job with these important conversations🥃🥃🥃thank you!!!

  • @User08882
    @User08882 Год назад

    I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear this conversation. Thank you guys🙏🏽. Learning and unlearning.

  • @angelhoughton777
    @angelhoughton777 5 месяцев назад

    Looking at the comments to decide whether or not this is the podcast i am looking for at this time and its looking pretty positive so far.

  • @LadyLuxstar
    @LadyLuxstar Год назад +3

    Loved this Episode

  • @charliahstarks1071
    @charliahstarks1071 Год назад +2

    This is the only podcast that I have to devote my full attention to without having it played in the background while I’m cooking, cleaning, or running errands. After going out and dealing with the world and all the pressures that come with life, it’s always refreshing to come and be a fly on the wall and intake positive content. I get it, we get it 🍷🧊

  • @gbaby5o
    @gbaby5o Год назад +1

    Loved loved LOVED this podcast. I took a lot away from this and will be applying to my personal life . Thank you guys for your transparency!

  • @kaiakamau9032
    @kaiakamau9032 Год назад

    Oh my, this episode makes me look in the mirror and b better. Be better for us, me and my man. I absolutely love this topic and ur conversation. Thank you big time boys!

  • @Isis-Nashe
    @Isis-Nashe Год назад +1

    I love how Omar gets hype about the intro. It really is 🔥 I have this song on my Apple Music because of this podcast. I say by the end of summer Omar will have the lyrics down and be rapping it like it’s his song 😂. Oan: this episode is IT just like all the others. I feel like I’m watching my dope a** brothers at this point. Love it here and shoutout to the guys for being stand up men and constantly growing ❤

  • @traciesplace
    @traciesplace Год назад

    Amaaaazing… this is the best conversation about communication and the effective way to communicate that I’ve heard. (Although, and no disrespect to you and said with much love- I’m 53 and old school, it would be great to be able to get through the conversation without cursing because that is a certain kind of communication too, I just see that today’s society has desensitized the vulgarity of it, just an ole gurl’s 2 cents but loved the message in the conversation) 🙌🏽💗

  • @francisw3456
    @francisw3456 11 месяцев назад

    "Action items" love this! We both need to work on this.
    Love these convos! Great job fellas 👑

  • @nicholasmcdowell2026
    @nicholasmcdowell2026 Год назад

    Phenomenal and Powerful conversation

  • @Msbabbby
    @Msbabbby Год назад +1

    Such a great episode, with real valid points . To summarize it all in .. vulnerability is such a big aspect of being able to communicate bc it’s coming straight from an conscious deep rooted place 🔑

  • @antwoniqueknowles7899
    @antwoniqueknowles7899 Год назад +1

    This was dope!!! Gratitude to you all! 🥰

  • @lilitaseo625
    @lilitaseo625 Год назад

    Love this episode! Nice to hear topics I often contemplate, but from the male perspective. Took mental note of a lot of game + will rewatch when I need reminding and strength through healthy communication.

  • @johnsondurosier9963
    @johnsondurosier9963 Год назад

    This podcast had nothing but gems. Thank y’all for sharing 🙏🏾

  • @belledelemos9615
    @belledelemos9615 Год назад +1

    Speechless so needed and the real truth…

  • @Diana-cq1yp
    @Diana-cq1yp 4 месяца назад

    Wow! Powerful message.

  • @destaniwashington2216
    @destaniwashington2216 Год назад +2

    This is gooddddddd 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @Angee82111
    @Angee82111 Год назад +1

    Duke always gets it! 👏🏽

  • @teetst9523
    @teetst9523 Год назад +2

    Wow! This episode is very important in all aspects of relationship.

  • @SaipherWells
    @SaipherWells Год назад +3

    Jalon gone drop a word in there every time 😂

  • @cicihenry2471
    @cicihenry2471 Год назад

    this was great. alot of gems and very healthy. yess black men!

  • @sheenashepherd71
    @sheenashepherd71 Год назад

    Thank you this is awesome feedback

  • @patientv
    @patientv Год назад +1

    Everyone thinks they can communicate BUT speaking isnt communicating... The ability to explain your perspective AND hear & digest someone elses is difficult. Ego can take over if you arent willing to speak first... Anger can affect tone... Insecurities can creep in & prevent you from sharing yourself or cause you to accept BS. You really need to set up guidelines ahead of time, so both partners know how to communicate... AND do internal work to say, I'm willing to be the person to put ego, anger & fear aside for the sake of the both of us.... and you want a partner whose willing to do that as well

  • @rodehs688
    @rodehs688 Год назад +8

    Dawg y’all were dropping bars on this one. Thank y’all for sharing knowledge 🙏🏽

  • @TDaBody
    @TDaBody Год назад +2

    I don’t think a particular gender is more mature than one another. I believe it’s based on the person maturity level and emotional intelligence. Some time women get overly emotional and start yelling and can’t have a simple conversation and I’ve also witnessed men be overly aggressive when a conversation is getting too heated. So it’s all based on the person emotional intelligence.

  • @DHenny
    @DHenny Год назад +2

    I love this podcast omg

  • @vickynganga
    @vickynganga Год назад +4

    Y’all have been working hard on these intro lyrics ever since they ate y’all up in the comments about not knowing them 🤣🤣

  • @dannijay84
    @dannijay84 5 месяцев назад

    Absolutely loved this episode ❤❤

  • @Claudia-yc8xk
    @Claudia-yc8xk Год назад

    I absolutely loved this podcast so much, so refreshing.

  • @SharmonJarmon
    @SharmonJarmon Год назад +2

    love you guys podcast

  • @IamNicoleJ
    @IamNicoleJ Год назад

    This podcast was really truly enlightening and informative. Thank you for allowing us into your perspectives!

  • @databace
    @databace Год назад +2

    "who am I to be saying this." -Jalon

  • @msjmid6819
    @msjmid6819 27 дней назад

    Valuable conversation

  • @raquel8298
    @raquel8298 Год назад +1

    Appreciate the sophisticated conversation 👌🏾

  • @burd9028
    @burd9028 Год назад

    Thank you fellas!!! Y’all definitely dropped some gems and provided some tools so that I could improve my communication skills

  • @jeremywilliams3931
    @jeremywilliams3931 Год назад

    Crazy episode!!! I learned a lot about myself this episode 💯 keep em coming

  • @daughteroftheking01
    @daughteroftheking01 Год назад

    🔥 got me binge watching this podcast.

  • @ms.angiesworld8696
    @ms.angiesworld8696 Год назад +1

    GREAT episode 🥃 🥃🥃

  • @leah3795
    @leah3795 Год назад +2

    So good ❤