It's crazy because the men I encountered are always obsessed with wanting to know my past dating history & when I never want to share it always a problem. Then I seen a post on twitter where guys were saying a woman not sharing her past is a red flag.
Manipulators do that to do all the opposite during the love-bombing stage and then flip on you once they have you. If there is a reason to mention your ex, then it should come from you bringing it up and not them.
When a Woman talk about Her Ex some times is means She don’t want you to hurt Her like Her Ex did, But the older I get the wiser I become because u can talk about all the bad things Your Ex did to you to your current partner and They will still turn around and hurt even more! Nice Video Handsome.
Well, if you have only ever been in an abusive relationship and gone to therapy to heal, there is one part of the trauma that can only be resolved by your next partner, which is the betrayal trauma. A new partner needs to show you what "trust" looks like. Unfortunately, that burden is on them. So I told the next person whom I met 6.5 years after my abusive and only relationship to understand where I come from. It's also a way to gauge their reaction whether they are emotionally ready or unavailable to respond to it. Not that I make them responsible for "healing" me, but I would like them to know to understand that sometimes, things can become a little difficult and I can get scared, at least in the beginning. As long as there is healthy and empathetic communication between two new partners, I think it's good. Just don't make it a constant in your new relationship to talk about your ex. Absolutely not. And don't compare the new person to the ex either. I also wouldn't mind if my new partner asked me about this particular experience to make me feel safe, but I understand that it can be very uncomfortable also.
I find it acceptable to talk about past relationships. It would be delusional to think past relationships won't have any affect on the current relationship. People don't just start relationships and magically forget other people, it's all about relativity in my eyes. For instance, maybe she likes the way I treat her compared to an ex-, there's nothing inherently wrong with sharing such information. Or maybe she wants to warn me about something I did that caused a break up with her previous ex-, that's important too. I'd much rather prefer the verbal communication compared to playing mind games. Now if she's talking about an ex- every other day for the sake of it, that could be a different story.
This is bad advice. You need to know what type of guys she dealt with in the past to know if you're her type. Can you imagine a bitter ex that see's her happy now and wants to end you because he can't be with her? What if she just deals with bad boys. This is just one example but this is a hard truth.
Man just assume they all bitter cause they all are just assume she’s been physically abused a lot of the times these women talk about there past relationships just to test you.
It's crazy because the men I encountered are always obsessed with wanting to know my past dating history & when I never want to share it always a problem. Then I seen a post on twitter where guys were saying a woman not sharing her past is a red flag.
If they ask it’s ok not sharing is somewhat of a red flag but each their own
Manipulators do that to do all the opposite during the love-bombing stage and then flip on you once they have you. If there is a reason to mention your ex, then it should come from you bringing it up and not them.
When a Woman talk about Her Ex some times is means She don’t want you to hurt Her like Her Ex did, But the older I get the wiser I become because u can talk about all the bad things Your Ex did to you to your current partner and They will still turn around and hurt even more! Nice Video Handsome.
I would say talk about it but at a surface level
Well, if you have only ever been in an abusive relationship and gone to therapy to heal, there is one part of the trauma that can only be resolved by your next partner, which is the betrayal trauma. A new partner needs to show you what "trust" looks like. Unfortunately, that burden is on them. So I told the next person whom I met 6.5 years after my abusive and only relationship to understand where I come from. It's also a way to gauge their reaction whether they are emotionally ready or unavailable to respond to it. Not that I make them responsible for "healing" me, but I would like them to know to understand that sometimes, things can become a little difficult and I can get scared, at least in the beginning. As long as there is healthy and empathetic communication between two new partners, I think it's good. Just don't make it a constant in your new relationship to talk about your ex. Absolutely not. And don't compare the new person to the ex either. I also wouldn't mind if my new partner asked me about this particular experience to make me feel safe, but I understand that it can be very uncomfortable also.
I find it acceptable to talk about past relationships. It would be delusional to think past relationships won't have any affect on the current relationship. People don't just start relationships and magically forget other people, it's all about relativity in my eyes. For instance, maybe she likes the way I treat her compared to an ex-, there's nothing inherently wrong with sharing such information. Or maybe she wants to warn me about something I did that caused a break up with her previous ex-, that's important too.
I'd much rather prefer the verbal communication compared to playing mind games. Now if she's talking about an ex- every other day for the sake of it, that could be a different story.
I recently asked about a girls ex to her friend which she immediately shut down lmao
This is bad advice. You need to know what type of guys she dealt with in the past to know if you're her type. Can you imagine a bitter ex that see's her happy now and wants to end you because he can't be with her? What if she just deals with bad boys. This is just one example but this is a hard truth.
Man just assume they all bitter cause they all are just assume she’s been physically abused a lot of the times these women talk about there past relationships just to test you.
I disagree you should be able to talk about your exes but do it respectfully. You should not allow them to compare you to her exes tho.