The 8th update was the clincher for me. Like father, like son. It makes me wonder, how the h3ll did OP put up with a marriage to this man for over a decade? All of her anxiety came from Ben. No wonder she got diagnosed with GAD and depression. I'm freaking out just listening to this, she had to LIVE WITH HIM. I really hope she can continue to improve.
my guess is that he upped up the verbal abuse at one point (maybe he reconnected with daddy or some of his buddies influenced him) or he just thought op would be like a puppy and come back not matter how often he kicked her
Classic case of "I don't want you, but i don't want anyone else to want you either" and he was still trying to control her and put her down again after she started seeing Nate. This guy is so trash
I had an ex like this in high school. He totally destroyed my emotional innocence. I was so confused by his behaviour because the break up was all his idea and I was sad but accepted it and decided not to get emotional about it and he acted like he was offended by that. And then when I was just trying to move on from it he decided to start flirting again and string me along for a few months making me feel like he wanted to get back together but I think the truth was he just didn’t want me to move on before he did. I finally decided I was tired of him when he started yelling at me when I was upfront and told him I was confused by his behaviour. I finally decided we couldn’t even be friends anymore. I was sort of hoping for an amicable break up since we only dated for a couple of weeks.
I dont get how OP mentions THOSE as examples of parent alienation (scolding her infront of the kids) and then while rambling more down the line, gives ACTUAL examples of parent alienation. (Saying she can't take them cause of her anxiety)
I think it's because her gaslighted her so much about her mental health that she was starting to think she was crazy. She must think that, maybe, he has a point, so "it's not THAT bad".
Holy crap he is terrible. I hope she can get herself and her kids away from him asap. He is a total POS and at least part of her issues are from him, and he is going to ruin the kids too. His own MOM knows he's wrong.
Holy FUCK this is almost exactly my last breakup save the having kids. And thank God we didn't have kids because my god that man is traumatizing those children
The 8th update was the clincher for me. Like father, like son. It makes me wonder, how the h3ll did OP put up with a marriage to this man for over a decade? All of her anxiety came from Ben. No wonder she got diagnosed with GAD and depression. I'm freaking out just listening to this, she had to LIVE WITH HIM. I really hope she can continue to improve.
my guess is that he upped up the verbal abuse at one point (maybe he reconnected with daddy or some of his buddies influenced him) or he just thought op would be like a puppy and come back not matter how often he kicked her
Wow, the guy sounds like a psycho. Curious how many of OP's psychological problems were caused by him.
1. Gather evidence 2. Full custody. Op should not let her kids become the kind of person the husband is
Classic case of "I don't want you, but i don't want anyone else to want you either" and he was still trying to control her and put her down again after she started seeing Nate. This guy is so trash
I had an ex like this in high school. He totally destroyed my emotional innocence. I was so confused by his behaviour because the break up was all his idea and I was sad but accepted it and decided not to get emotional about it and he acted like he was offended by that. And then when I was just trying to move on from it he decided to start flirting again and string me along for a few months making me feel like he wanted to get back together but I think the truth was he just didn’t want me to move on before he did. I finally decided I was tired of him when he started yelling at me when I was upfront and told him I was confused by his behaviour. I finally decided we couldn’t even be friends anymore. I was sort of hoping for an amicable break up since we only dated for a couple of weeks.
I dont get how OP mentions THOSE as examples of parent alienation (scolding her infront of the kids) and then while rambling more down the line, gives ACTUAL examples of parent alienation. (Saying she can't take them cause of her anxiety)
I think it's because her gaslighted her so much about her mental health that she was starting to think she was crazy. She must think that, maybe, he has a point, so "it's not THAT bad".
First 60 seconds,when shes struggling he tells her to talk to other people for comfort?? What else do you have a husband for??
This guy sounds a lot like my ex. My ex is only nice to me when he is single.
Dayum 8 updates, that’s probably a new record!
r/AmItheDoormat When you're forced to deal with an abusive gas lighting AH, record everything that is legally allowed.
Holy crap he is terrible. I hope she can get herself and her kids away from him asap. He is a total POS and at least part of her issues are from him, and he is going to ruin the kids too.
His own MOM knows he's wrong.
Wait I heard this one on this other channel. He told her he didn't love her and then acted surprised Pikachu that she wanted to leave.
1: not the trigger, but the cause by the sound of things
OP's husband is a narcissist. Thats before Ive even gotten into the first update lol
Holy FUCK this is almost exactly my last breakup save the having kids. And thank God we didn't have kids because my god that man is traumatizing those children
Nate feels off to me for some reason...
Starting a relationship so soon after leaving an abusive one is definitely a bad idea.
First pin pls ❤