Perhaps the biggest value-related mistake guys make is not a particular trait or behavior, but their entire view of how value works. Your value is NOT FIXED. It is changing all the time. UPWARD as well as downward. This has profound implications which are missed in most models of game. See the video for more, and for much more, check out Value Masterclass at the link in the description.
Your just a fucking smart dude... you brake down this shit fantasticly... rational dude as fuck. Amazing job...BRAVO! Come to Serbia, and solve our relation to Kosovo?
This isn't at all relevant to this video but here goes: Girl: *gives a shit test* Option 1. You: That was a pretty weak shit test. Besides, I only find girls who can give me a decent shit test attractive. Option 2. You: That was a pretty weak shit test. I'll let you give it another shot. If she doesn't give you another shit test, you passed hers or at the very least, you didn't fail. If she gives you another shit test, she's trying to qualify to you. Could getting this meta about "pick up" work or is it just weird?
@@staywoke4196 Hey man, I'm not an expert or anything. But from my experience the best way to deal with shit tests is to just be nonreactive and unaffected emotional by it. This comes from having developed inner confidence through daily habits that build up your belief in yourself. Like if you do heavy weightlifting or just a hard run, a girl giving you a shit test really isn't as scary as squatting 225 lbs. Usually you can just smile and either exaggerate it as a joke and just move on. I feel like it's easier to just joke and agree with their shit tests. This comes from you feeling good in your own body. Feel so good that nothing can break you down. NOTE: You have to love your life so much that you don't care about the outcome of the interaction. Whether she likes you or not makes no difference to the happiness and fulfillment level of your life. Example: Woman: Was that your pickup line? You: (While smiling and joking) Yup that was my one shot and I screwed it up huh? I'm Steven, nice to meet you. :)
@@staywoke4196 i like those responses! but yeah it can be weird if she ain't really testing you. the question is how do i understand if she's actually testing me or not?
well remember womens values are completely different from mens values also. men and women both see value in for example elon musk but most likely in very different ways. women see money and fame. men see hard work, perserverance and technological know-how, out of the box-thinking etc.
That's assuming your wins & losses are equal in magnitude. Can have more losses than wins but net win size outweighs the losses - net positive expectancy value. (ProbWin * $Win) - (ProbLoss * $Loss) = Expected Value Either increase your sucess hit rate while keeping wins/losses magnitude same or increase win magnitude while keeping success/failure rate - either will result in net + expectancy
The video is about how women perceive value in men. The speaker, Todd, says that most guys have a fixed mentality about value, meaning they think that they either have value or they don't. But Todd says that value is actually a trajectory, meaning that it can go up or down depending on how you interact with a woman. Here are some of the key takeaways from the video: Be your best self. This means being confident, taking risks, and putting your best aspects of your personality on the line. It also means being willing to share your hopes, dreams, and opinions with a woman. The more time a woman spends with you, the more she will see your value. This is because she will start to see you as a person who is constantly growing and improving. Stop walking on eggshells and trying to avoid mistakes. Instead, take risks and put yourself out there. The people who are right for you will appreciate your willingness to take risks. And the situations that are right for you will allow you to be your best self. If you want to learn more about value, Todd suggests checking out his event called Value Masterclass.
“If you want to do something extraordinary, then you have to take risks” probably one of the top mantras you need to tell yourself in almost every aspect in life
"I don't want you to chase your dreams, I want you chase your reality. And I want you to understand that you choose your reality not at the expense of your dreams, but as the foundation of your dreams" - Christopher Nolan
Here's my recent experience on how value is gauged by women, and I don't mean just strangers. I've been in a relationship for almost 6 years, and for the first 18 months or so she was doing most if not all of the chasing. As my feelings for her developed, I began to do more and more chasing her, and within a few months our relationship went from 10/10 to almost non-existent. I had no idea what I'd done wrong, and why her interest had cooled to such a degree in such a short period. She even said to me at one point, "You know, you're actually quite needy". Which was a shock, but as soon as she said it, I knew that she was right.....and I knew what was going wrong. By a lucky coincidence, I was asked to join a band (I play the guitar & sing) around the same time, and before long I was on stage playing and singing in front of hundreds of people, and getting a whole ton of female attention. Pretty much overnight, my value in my girl's eyes went through the roof. Not only was I in demand from some pretty hot (and younger) women, but she seemed to like the competition. She comes to all our gigs to make sure I don't get too much attention, and afterwards she sucks the soul out of me to make sure I can't even think about other women. It made me realise some very important lessons; -I am well-dressed, very fit, and pretty decent looking; none of that counted for shit when I became needy -My value to my girl is inextricably linked to how highly my value is perceived by other women; if other women don't want me, then this lowers my value to her -Value has only a little to do with your actual appearance/education/bank balance -Your self perception is key; if you're not happy with yourself, that vibe is easily picked up by women, especially your partner Oh, and if you want to know which song always makes the girls hotter than July in the desert, it's "Chasing Cars" by Snow Patrol.
Patrice O'Neal: "Never edit yourself around women." I find this works. Even when they roll their eyes at crude jokes, they're going to secretly admire your balls for just being yourself around them.
@@PretentiousStuff What Patrice O’Neal was always about was not letting women run the game by giving them so much value. At the end of the day he saw that they’re just people and women like men for different reasons outside of what we traditionally believe. Obviously scratching your balls or farting or just being gross which in our defense is just being human doesn’t mean you can’t maintain the manners to not behave that way. What he means by “not editing yourself” is by not being fake for example if she likes sushi but you can’t stand sea food the genuine route is to tell her your opinion on sea food instead of faking it til you make it and end up in a situation where your true colors comes out.
It's funny how girls, despite the fact they never communicate logically, can be so upfront about stuff. You just have to pay attention and a gal will tell you how to sleep with her
It’s like Todd is living in my mind, “trying not make mistakes” “walking on egg shells.” I can totally see it. Being provocative will help us stand out
As a woman I want to say this is a really good video, definitely has some great advice. I think most women really are willing to give guys a chance so they should feel okay about approaching a woman and showing who they are. No gimmicks or lines are necessary, people can tell a lot about one another from just a chill conversation, and whether or not you can have a nice relaxed conversation already says a lot. I'd say the key is to help her feel at ease while you're talking to her, and I'd say the best way is to be relaxed and at ease while you're talking to her, keeping a comfortable distance of no more than an arm's length. Like he said in the video it really shouldn't be any different than talking to one of your friends. If you feel like you approaching her is perfectly normal and friendly, you'll come across better as perfectly normal and friendly, and she'll feel more comfortable talking to you and hearing about who you are and sharing about herself. That's what they really mean by confidence, it's not that you need to have tons of material things to feel "worthy" of approaching someone, it's that you just need to feel like you're not doing anything weird by striking up a conversation with someone who looked interesting to you, so you don't come across as being weird for talking to them. I also think he's spot on with women's real idea of value being that a guy is pursuing goals rather than all the things he has. A person is not the things he owns. You can tell me you own this and that but that really doesn't tell me who you are. You telling me that you like to write music or stories, that you like acting or art, _that_ tells me about you as a person. If you like cooking and you tried a new recipe and accidentally burned it all up, that tells me about you, and that you're just a normal human who's flawed like any other human. I just want to know I'm talking to a human being, not a list of inanimate objects in an apartment. Anyway that's my 2 cents, I really liked this video and I say good luck to all the romantics out there.
The thing is ive you cant speak and never learned it no woman will give you a chance. after i started approcheing i got dumbed a lot i mean a lot. now i can speak to girls and date them and have fun with them, but before you cant speak no woman will ever ever ever give you a chance no matter how handsome you look or not and lets be honest which guy learns how to speak to girls except of bad boys or the guys with many friends and loved by all in school. As a man you decide how you live but dont forget ive you wanna date girls thats a fucking long hard way and nothing over just some few month. But when youll love it and will be worthy
"A person is not the things he owns. You can tell me you own this and that but that really doesn't tell me who you are."This was really good I'll take note.
Hey Todd. Good points. The point at 6:10 about women rather wanting a shared journey with success I disagree with. Generally speaking women hang out at the finish line and bang the winners. They want no part of the struggle.
Value doesn’t just mean in things or in interactions, for the long term your emotional value is so much more valuable important if you’re emotionally valuable to a girl she’ll never let you go. Great vid bro
Key: when dating (before marriage), things are getting better and better. When you’re free, you should be increasing your own value See as opportunity as excel than avoiding mistakes
I believe this to be the most intuitive advice I have very heard with actual practical application. We spend our entire lives learning this snip its at a time and it's all right here in one short video. You are a very wise man indeed.
He is taking from AMS style of coaching. He realizes that his con artist style of game doesn't work for guys if they are not confident which is what high value that women love. Men gotta love themselves first to get the girl. Or else Todd V is not thinking in that clients best interest just his own pockets
Value = if she intertwined her life with yours, she would A) experience unique, positive, rich emotional experiences B) She'll have ammunition to brag to her friends, either from what you do, or what you do together and C) You make her life easier. Money, success, etc. is just evidence you can get what you want, and from her perspective, it's just evidence you will make her life easier. Thought about this topic deeply, that's what I got so far.
I remember when FaceBook started people were posting old photos from high school. We didn't have cell phone cameras back then. The first thing I thought was how young, beautiful and fresh everyone looked. However, at the time you remember the one bad acne day you had or a bad hair day or not so cool clothes you wore. Point being, it's all in your mind.
It took me years (as an adult) to come to the realization that the best way to lead a girl to becoming crazy about you, is treating them with the mentality as though they’re your mom (stay with me on this). If you had a really good (or good) mom, as you get older you start to spend less and less time with her, and she starts to miss having you around as much. If you’re a good son, you try to help out with things to be considerate, set aside time to spend with her (even though you might rather be somewhere else), and do things for her out of the kindness of your heart to show you appreciate her. This probably relates more to once you’ve developed a relationship, but just thought it was something others might find insightful, once you’ve arrived at the stage of maintaining a relationship you’ve already passed the point of initiating. It also establishes your value in her life, as someone she appreciates having in their life.
"It took me years (as an adult) to come to the realization that the best way to lead a girl to becoming crazy about you, is treating them with the mentality as though they’re your mom (stay with me on this). " ROFLMAO XDDDDDDD
Tiny Hands Donald i understand the potential turn off by the initial setup, and in of itself, it can be humorous. But hopefully you read the entire analogy from an objective perspective, in the sense of its application in game. It switches the goal that is trying reached in game, to a mentality that’s less focused on potential loss, and more focused on recognizing you’re personally already in possession of high value.
Value also rise when you treat yourself with respect, create boundaries and dont put your attention and emotions on everyone on the same time and beeing selective with your focus, where you put your energy and attention. If you go for every girl and be excited of just she speaks to you or look at you it just gives you low value. Your attention and respect and eventually love should not be cheap. You are precious and have selfrespect and worth of self so they understand they must earn you and deserve your love.
Taking risk, being confident, put best aspect of your personality on the line like if you are with your best friend, just expressing the value you have, because every single experience you had in life is unique to her she never had that. all your hope and dream is new to her, every opinion you have is new bit of info for her. she need them to distinguish you out away from 'average' guy. Actively share, put yourself out there. It will be more high value than low value. If you want to do something extraordinary, you have to risk it. Don't hold yourself back
You have the right mindset that give guidance throughout the conversation. Most incel or nice guy not just have nothing to offer but start with wrong or bad intention as well. Men that overcome that will just do well naturally like you. Hence the idea of women like bad boy as they are honest about the intention and have the cheap kind of masculinity "doughbag".
this makes sense , i used to be much higher value , (im rising up again now ) but i can see how by getting caught up in setbacks or challenges , i had psyched myself down , where i still have that innate ability to display charisma charm and intellect , but i need to build myself back up again
Really resonated with me this video. And it's very encouraging to see you caring enough about the other guys in the world to help us to improve ourselves... Thanks 🙏 Todd
I have a friend who is chubby and not the best in looks but he's super comfortable with himself, used to be homeless, and very charismatic. He gets more women than guys who are good looking
Of all these dating coaches out there Tood brings it to another level for me - his content is a bit challenging but exactly what I need to grow - keep up the good work!
Value can be a big thing, or a collection of things. If you're just a gorgeous human....a celebrity....filthy rich....etc those can win the day. If you're established, and have a medley of the others that can be good enough. Unfortunately love, style, cleanliness, game, kindness, social intelligence etc DONT PAY THE BILLS. It is absolutely imperative to have your finances in order if you don't have the extreme end of "high value".
@@gadgets40 Some women don't know better, reasons best known to them. Hence why i always offer advice to anyond who come to me. Women like that needs a reminder that they are worth it.
Excellent I know you know this but also being naturally/obviously masculine, unapologetically. You may need to do this consciously if you've been raised without a Father present.
"consciously" trying to be masculine sounds extremely unmasculine. If you believe masculinity is biologically ingrained into a male, and not just a socially constructed set of behaviors that can/has to be "taught" or "learned" by anyone, then this notion makes no sense. What if your father himself never had a father present and never "learned" to be masculine? Otherwise, what Todd said about value being a dynamic attribute which you increase through facing challenges and messing up, then that certainly doesn't sound feminine to me. Opening yourself up to hardships and openly engaging with the world in the pursuit of ambition and skill, seems to be the way to let your biologically ingrained masculinity shine through and develop. I don't know what other definition of "masculinity" there is other than the fake masculinity of infantile machismo.
Women are able to read you without speaking to you which will determine if they perceive you as high valued. Men, you do have this ability, you have to develop it. I spent the last three years reading, improving my mental game not to get women but to understand beyond the exterior and understand human behavior. Trust me, when you develop this sense, your mind matures so much that women caught on it and they are intrigued by it.
Thank you Todd. My take away from the video is women are seeking a high Experience man, not a high "value" man. Value is the expression of that experience, but not the thing in and of itself. Men should be pursuing experience points, like this is a roleplaying video game. That's my impression, anyhow. Best wishes sir.
IDK if it's true but it's a really dumb way to choose a partner. There may be many men who are very successful their career, academics or whatever but don't focus too much on game. If women choose men based on what Todd describes here, it's their loss.
NO. Women are attracted to a variety of random emotions in the guise of male attention with a financial bend. In exchange, they will reward their overinflated, abused and piped down vagina to the pathetic beta males who where cultivated for them in the first place.
@@kishanchali8752 Perhaps, and much to these men's frustration I can imagine. But it seems to me that much of the attraction might be subconscious and could be explained in terms of evolutionary adaptation. And if that's just the way things are, why not accept it? At the end of the day, it is you that wants to be successful with women, so the onus is on you to figure out how. Also, think about it, success may be temporary and due to chance, like an inheritance. But if you are instead the type of man who can be successful in any number of circumstances and after any number of setbacks, then which is the better choice for a smart woman, exactly?
@@driesdebackker9405 I believe we can achieve anything with hardwork. Also, I think these methods not always work on every women. As I've seen, women in academia prefer a partner with similar educational level
Really illumating topic. Though i would like to know what male psychology is, if female like guys that go forward in life, what do we like, what do we need and what should we look for in a girl to become a soulmate
Read "The tactical guide to women" by Shawn T Smith it's a good start but you will need to make a lot of decisions about what is important to you, and that will change quite a bit with experience and age.
good video with one slight disagreement, in some situations all these shared experiences (ie. relationship equity) will be worthless, she can still jump ship at any time she pleases when the right guy comes along.
Most people have developed nowhere near the value they possess, and frankly, would not believe the value they possess because it's so far beyond our common experience.
Ive been thinking hard about this exact concept. And your word Trajectory is what I was looking for. Our ancestors obviously got laid a lot with out money, cars, yachts, etc, correct?. Your Grandmothers saw A Potential Value Trajectory in your Grandfathers over thousands of generations. So Simple. Thanks Todd. Been saving money for a bootcamp.
when he asked about what you think of when he says value i had value vs tempo in my head, but i play too much hearthstone lol. although the idea of building value so you can spend it on tempo plays may actually apply to game. i will have to think on it a bit.
Yes truly high value explained. THX a lot Todd. Love your content. Finally value explained in Detail. Gotta Start my hunt, Juli the first is the beginning of my own Apartment. Finally i can bring girls to my home and getting started with active game :) I have been working on value meanwhile
Todd, you talk about having a ''deeper connection'', isn't this something we should avoid? if the woman feels like she knows us, she'll stop chasing, what do you guys think?
Deeper connection in that they want to know YOU more deeply. You can be BOTH the lover and have a deep connection. The difference is when you start hinting that you will provide, be exclusive, etc.
No man, that's bs. What ppl generally mean when they say that you have to keep them guessing or keep the "mystery" is that she should never be sure that she has you. Just show your willingness to walk away if she demonstrates (WHEN she demonstrates) bratty behavior or she tries to test you. Show you have more women in your life. Show her THE POSSIBILITY of her losing you. That's it.
Women crave deeper connection. I agree: you must be able to break rapport with her at times, because she may try to fuse with you, make you stop doing the things--hobbies, friendahips, etc--that you did before you were together. Good boundaries & knowing yourself are key. She wants you to challenge her by sharing of yourself. But I think the best way to do that is to process your insights and emotions with male friends first. It's a paradox: women want deep men, but they don't want weak men.
Perhaps the biggest value-related mistake guys make is not a particular trait or behavior, but their entire view of how value works. Your value is NOT FIXED. It is changing all the time. UPWARD as well as downward. This has profound implications which are missed in most models of game. See the video for more, and for much more, check out Value Masterclass at the link in the description.
Your just a fucking smart dude... you brake down this shit fantasticly... rational dude as fuck. Amazing job...BRAVO! Come to Serbia, and solve our relation to Kosovo?
This isn't at all relevant to this video but here goes:
Girl: *gives a shit test*
Option 1. You: That was a pretty weak shit test. Besides, I only find girls who can give me a decent shit test attractive.
Option 2. You: That was a pretty weak shit test. I'll let you give it another shot.
If she doesn't give you another shit test, you passed hers or at the very least, you didn't fail.
If she gives you another shit test, she's trying to qualify to you.
Could getting this meta about "pick up" work or is it just weird?
@@staywoke4196 Hey man, I'm not an expert or anything. But from my experience the best way to deal with shit tests is to just be nonreactive and unaffected emotional by it. This comes from having developed inner confidence through daily habits that build up your belief in yourself.
Like if you do heavy weightlifting or just a hard run, a girl giving you a shit test really isn't as scary as squatting 225 lbs. Usually you can just smile and either exaggerate it as a joke and just move on. I feel like it's easier to just joke and agree with their shit tests. This comes from you feeling good in your own body. Feel so good that nothing can break you down.
NOTE: You have to love your life so much that you don't care about the outcome of the interaction. Whether she likes you or not makes no difference to the happiness and fulfillment level of your life.
Example:
Woman: Was that your pickup line?
You: (While smiling and joking) Yup that was my one shot and I screwed it up huh? I'm Steven, nice to meet you. :)
@@staywoke4196 i like those responses! but yeah it can be weird if she ain't really testing you. the question is how do i understand if she's actually testing me or not?
well remember womens values are completely different from mens values also. men and women both see value in for example elon musk but most likely in very different ways. women see money and fame. men see hard work, perserverance and technological know-how, out of the box-thinking etc.
Todd is like the older brother we all wish we had growing up
ya
Looks like my dad
Most genuine guy in the dating scene
This guy should a professor in a university
Don't be afraid to lose, just win more than you lose.
That's assuming your wins & losses are equal in magnitude. Can have more losses than wins but net win size outweighs the losses - net positive expectancy value.
(ProbWin * $Win) - (ProbLoss * $Loss) = Expected Value
Either increase your sucess hit rate while keeping wins/losses magnitude same or increase win magnitude while keeping success/failure rate - either will result in net + expectancy
The video is about how women perceive value in men. The speaker, Todd, says that most guys have a fixed mentality about value, meaning they think that they either have value or they don't. But Todd says that value is actually a trajectory, meaning that it can go up or down depending on how you interact with a woman.
Here are some of the key takeaways from the video:
Be your best self. This means being confident, taking risks, and putting your best aspects of your personality on the line. It also means being willing to share your hopes, dreams, and opinions with a woman.
The more time a woman spends with you, the more she will see your value. This is because she will start to see you as a person who is constantly growing and improving.
Stop walking on eggshells and trying to avoid mistakes. Instead, take risks and put yourself out there.
The people who are right for you will appreciate your willingness to take risks. And the situations that are right for you will allow you to be your best self.
If you want to learn more about value, Todd suggests checking out his event called Value Masterclass.
“If you want to do something extraordinary, then you have to take risks” probably one of the top mantras you need to tell yourself in almost every aspect in life
"I don't want you to chase your dreams, I want you chase your reality. And I want you to understand that you choose your reality not at the expense of your dreams, but as the foundation of your dreams"
- Christopher Nolan
I don't care what you want, Christopher.
- old Chinese proverb
Here's my recent experience on how value is gauged by women, and I don't mean just strangers. I've been in a relationship for almost 6 years, and for the first 18 months or so she was doing most if not all of the chasing. As my feelings for her developed, I began to do more and more chasing her, and within a few months our relationship went from 10/10 to almost non-existent. I had no idea what I'd done wrong, and why her interest had cooled to such a degree in such a short period. She even said to me at one point, "You know, you're actually quite needy". Which was a shock, but as soon as she said it, I knew that she was right.....and I knew what was going wrong.
By a lucky coincidence, I was asked to join a band (I play the guitar & sing) around the same time, and before long I was on stage playing and singing in front of hundreds of people, and getting a whole ton of female attention. Pretty much overnight, my value in my girl's eyes went through the roof. Not only was I in demand from some pretty hot (and younger) women, but she seemed to like the competition. She comes to all our gigs to make sure I don't get too much attention, and afterwards she sucks the soul out of me to make sure I can't even think about other women. It made me realise some very important lessons;
-I am well-dressed, very fit, and pretty decent looking; none of that counted for shit when I became needy
-My value to my girl is inextricably linked to how highly my value is perceived by other women; if other women don't want me, then this lowers my value to her
-Value has only a little to do with your actual appearance/education/bank balance
-Your self perception is key; if you're not happy with yourself, that vibe is easily picked up by women, especially your partner
Oh, and if you want to know which song always makes the girls hotter than July in the desert, it's "Chasing Cars" by Snow Patrol.
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Hypergamy rules all women. I learned this too and it’s mind blowing.
Patrice O'Neal: "Never edit yourself around women." I find this works. Even when they roll their eyes at crude jokes, they're going to secretly admire your balls for just being yourself around them.
It also keeps the hard core feminist types away from you.
Keeping away hard core feminists is worth its weight in gold
yeah he says what we want to hear not whats reality
@Brian Jones didn't he die for being fat
@@PretentiousStuff What Patrice O’Neal was always about was not letting women run the game by giving them so much value. At the end of the day he saw that they’re just people and women like men for different reasons outside of what we traditionally believe. Obviously scratching your balls or farting or just being gross which in our defense is just being human doesn’t mean you can’t maintain the manners to not behave that way. What he means by “not editing yourself” is by not being fake for example if she likes sushi but you can’t stand sea food the genuine route is to tell her your opinion on sea food instead of faking it til you make it and end up in a situation where your true colors comes out.
One year ago: I was told by a girl who actually liked me that I was walking on eggshells! - funnily enough when I think of it now, she wasn't wrong.
It's funny how girls, despite the fact they never communicate logically, can be so upfront about stuff. You just have to pay attention and a gal will tell you how to sleep with her
@@Sealwithwificonnection Work on your sexism (for your own good).
@@exnihilonihilfit6316 lol muh sexism. I'm just speaking truth, brother
@@Sealwithwificonnection can you give examples bro ?
That's when you pull away and date other women. Don't let them dictate to you
It’s like Todd is living in my mind, “trying not make mistakes” “walking on egg shells.” I can totally see it. Being provocative will help us stand out
This is like discovering the fourth dimension.
Wait, what is 2nd and 3rd? :Dd
So, time? xD
try dmt, you will discover 25 of them!
LOL@@eyesburning
As a woman I want to say this is a really good video, definitely has some great advice. I think most women really are willing to give guys a chance so they should feel okay about approaching a woman and showing who they are. No gimmicks or lines are necessary, people can tell a lot about one another from just a chill conversation, and whether or not you can have a nice relaxed conversation already says a lot. I'd say the key is to help her feel at ease while you're talking to her, and I'd say the best way is to be relaxed and at ease while you're talking to her, keeping a comfortable distance of no more than an arm's length. Like he said in the video it really shouldn't be any different than talking to one of your friends. If you feel like you approaching her is perfectly normal and friendly, you'll come across better as perfectly normal and friendly, and she'll feel more comfortable talking to you and hearing about who you are and sharing about herself. That's what they really mean by confidence, it's not that you need to have tons of material things to feel "worthy" of approaching someone, it's that you just need to feel like you're not doing anything weird by striking up a conversation with someone who looked interesting to you, so you don't come across as being weird for talking to them.
I also think he's spot on with women's real idea of value being that a guy is pursuing goals rather than all the things he has. A person is not the things he owns. You can tell me you own this and that but that really doesn't tell me who you are. You telling me that you like to write music or stories, that you like acting or art, _that_ tells me about you as a person. If you like cooking and you tried a new recipe and accidentally burned it all up, that tells me about you, and that you're just a normal human who's flawed like any other human. I just want to know I'm talking to a human being, not a list of inanimate objects in an apartment.
Anyway that's my 2 cents, I really liked this video and I say good luck to all the romantics out there.
Ok let me ask you a question. If what you say is true, why do women look for handsome guys? They definitely give attention to looks and wealth.
The thing is ive you cant speak and never learned it no woman will give you a chance. after i started approcheing i got dumbed a lot i mean a lot. now i can speak to girls and date them and have fun with them, but before you cant speak no woman will ever ever ever give you a chance no matter how handsome you look or not and lets be honest which guy learns how to speak to girls except of bad boys or the guys with many friends and loved by all in school. As a man you decide how you live but dont forget ive you wanna date girls thats a fucking long hard way and nothing over just some few month. But when youll love it and will be worthy
Thanks for adding value to this conversation!
"A person is not the things he owns. You can tell me you own this and that but that really doesn't tell me who you are."This was really good I'll take note.
Hey Todd. Good points. The point at 6:10 about women rather wanting a shared journey with success I disagree with. Generally speaking women hang out at the finish line and bang the winners. They want no part of the struggle.
Interesting point. Are you more referring to meeting someone new or a girl in a relational with you?
Value doesn’t just mean in things or in interactions, for the long term your emotional value is so much more valuable important if you’re emotionally valuable to a girl she’ll never let you go. Great vid bro
Key: when dating (before marriage), things are getting better and better.
When you’re free, you should be increasing your own value
See as opportunity as excel than avoiding mistakes
i've watched a lot of your videos and for me personally this was the most important, keep up the good shit my man.
I agree.
Incredible, one of the best videos on self improvement/pickup I've seen. And I've seen hundreds of hours.
I believe this to be the most intuitive advice I have very heard with actual practical application. We spend our entire lives learning this snip its at a time and it's all right here in one short video. You are a very wise man indeed.
This video was even better than I thought it would be Todd, and that's saying a lot because your content is ALWAYS gold. God damn!!
He is taking from AMS style of coaching. He realizes that his con artist style of game doesn't work for guys if they are not confident which is what high value that women love. Men gotta love themselves first to get the girl. Or else Todd V is not thinking in that clients best interest just his own pockets
Value = if she intertwined her life with yours, she would A) experience unique, positive, rich emotional experiences B) She'll have ammunition to brag to her friends, either from what you do, or what you do together and C) You make her life easier. Money, success, etc. is just evidence you can get what you want, and from her perspective, it's just evidence you will make her life easier. Thought about this topic deeply, that's what I got so far.
I remember when FaceBook started people were posting old photos from high school. We didn't have cell phone cameras back then. The first thing I thought was how young, beautiful and fresh everyone looked. However, at the time you remember the one bad acne day you had or a bad hair day or not so cool clothes you wore. Point being, it's all in your mind.
It took me years (as an adult) to come to the realization that the best way to lead a girl to becoming crazy about you, is treating them with the mentality as though they’re your mom (stay with me on this).
If you had a really good (or good) mom, as you get older you start to spend less and less time with her, and she starts to miss having you around as much. If you’re a good son, you try to help out with things to be considerate, set aside time to spend with her (even though you might rather be somewhere else), and do things for her out of the kindness of your heart to show you appreciate her.
This probably relates more to once you’ve developed a relationship, but just thought it was something others might find insightful, once you’ve arrived at the stage of maintaining a relationship you’ve already passed the point of initiating.
It also establishes your value in her life, as someone she appreciates having in their life.
"It took me years (as an adult) to come to the realization that the best way to lead a girl to becoming crazy about you, is treating them with the mentality as though they’re your mom (stay with me on this). "
ROFLMAO XDDDDDDD
Tiny Hands Donald i understand the potential turn off by the initial setup, and in of itself, it can be humorous. But hopefully you read the entire analogy from an objective perspective, in the sense of its application in game.
It switches the goal that is trying reached in game, to a mentality that’s less focused on potential loss, and more focused on recognizing you’re personally already in possession of high value.
Variety of emotions...
Value also rise when you treat yourself with respect, create boundaries and dont put your attention and emotions on everyone on the same time and beeing selective with your focus, where you put your energy and attention. If you go for every girl and be excited of just she speaks to you or look at you it just gives you low value. Your attention and respect and eventually love should not be cheap. You are precious and have selfrespect and worth of self so they understand they must earn you and deserve your love.
guy is not giving out dating advice, guy is giving out life advice, take it, is good for everything
Taking risk, being confident, put best aspect of your personality on the line like if you are with your best friend, just expressing the value you have, because every single experience you had in life is unique to her she never had that. all your hope and dream is new to her, every opinion you have is new bit of info for her. she need them to distinguish you out away from 'average' guy.
Actively share, put yourself out there. It will be more high value than low value.
If you want to do something extraordinary, you have to risk it. Don't hold yourself back
Watching this a second time hit me on a different level. Thanks Todd, you always deliver !!!
turns out i did a lot of things right, but by accident. neat.
@Akshay Kumar true. i decided to practice making women giggle, and it all flowed from there. just simple trial and error i suppose.
You have the right mindset that give guidance throughout the conversation. Most incel or nice guy not just have nothing to offer but start with wrong or bad intention as well. Men that overcome that will just do well naturally like you. Hence the idea of women like bad boy as they are honest about the intention and have the cheap kind of masculinity "doughbag".
@@hosmerhomeboy What were the stuff you told to make them laugh?
@@johnmaris1582 What do you mean by that? What is the right mindset that you talk about?
this makes sense , i used to be much higher value , (im rising up again now ) but i can see how by getting caught up in setbacks or challenges , i had psyched myself down , where i still have that innate ability to display charisma charm and intellect , but i need to build myself back up again
👉對女人來說，
男人的價值不是固定的、像是非有即無 那樣二分法 ，而是會呈現一種線性式的成長
👉女孩碰到你，只會把你當成一個一般的男人，然後可能你外表好看點、看起來有自信，會幫你加一點分數，但你的分數很難被加的太高，因為他們跟你相處的時間還不長，還不了解你
👉價值不是指侷限在，你有很多錢 你有很多朋友 你有好身材
，價值更多取決於你能帶給她們的正面經驗，你們所擁有的共同的回憶、還有在想法上的成長
👉很多男生無法勇敢和女生互動，她們怕自己會犯錯，所以要到號碼也不敢傳訊息給女生 所有你要做的 就是去和女生互動 添入價值
👉大部分女孩 還是比較喜歡上進心的男生 而不是那些所謂的有錢男人
，她會在和你相處之中 ，去看到是否生活有持續成長進步
👉持續做最好的自己 不是避免對女生犯錯
，是勇於承擔責任 有自信 讓自己性格更好，持續提供你所擁有的價值 分享你每個獨特的經驗 ，才能跟女生有更深入的連結
👉當你目前沒有女友，沒有妹子時，你要努力去增強自己價值
，去成為你想成為的人，這樣你會成為能提供更多價值的人
We need more female psychology videos. Make this into a series backed by science or research
Really resonated with me this video. And it's very encouraging to see you caring enough about the other guys in the world to help us to improve ourselves... Thanks 🙏 Todd
I have a friend who is chubby and not the best in looks but he's super comfortable with himself, used to be homeless, and very charismatic. He gets more women than guys who are good looking
Best explanation of Value i have ever heard!!!! Exspecially that Value is NOT fixed.
Of all these dating coaches out there Tood brings it to another level for me - his content is a bit challenging but exactly what I need to grow - keep up the good work!
Value can be a big thing, or a collection of things. If you're just a gorgeous human....a celebrity....filthy rich....etc those can win the day. If you're established, and have a medley of the others that can be good enough. Unfortunately love, style, cleanliness, game, kindness, social intelligence etc DONT PAY THE BILLS. It is absolutely imperative to have your finances in order if you don't have the extreme end of "high value".
damn man, you're so wise. Keeping us on the right path, can't express enough how much i think we all owe you. changing lives
Ever since Reddit closed The Red Pill, I had struggled with women. Thanks for this Todd
Useful...when a girl starts to pull back a bit, I get offended and stop putting in effort
Yo me too... shocked at my stupidity stemming from low self esteem and self-protecting/-sabotaging behaviours
So that’s the correct move ?
Girls also want to see how you handle fuck ups when something didn't went as planned.
Great value once again Todd!!
High value has more to offer. Every woman deserve high value man and every man deserves high value woman.
@osar I agree..
So everyone deserves everyone 🥱
@@kehbab Treat people how you want to be treated.. So if you treat someone with high value, you deserve thesame courtesy. That's my opinion
@@gadgets40 Some women don't know better, reasons best known to them. Hence why i always offer advice to anyond who come to me. Women like that needs a reminder that they are worth it.
Very true. Checked out your channel btw vivian and your doing a good job.
I watch all the ads for Todd 🐐
Excellent I know you know this but also being naturally/obviously masculine, unapologetically. You may need to do this consciously if you've been raised without a Father present.
alswords true words bro
this guy.
"consciously" trying to be masculine sounds extremely unmasculine.
If you believe masculinity is biologically ingrained into a male, and not just a socially constructed set of behaviors that can/has to be "taught" or "learned" by anyone, then this notion makes no sense. What if your father himself never had a father present and never "learned" to be masculine?
Otherwise, what Todd said about value being a dynamic attribute which you increase through facing challenges and messing up, then that certainly doesn't sound feminine to me. Opening yourself up to hardships and openly engaging with the world in the pursuit of ambition and skill, seems to be the way to let your biologically ingrained masculinity shine through and develop. I don't know what other definition of "masculinity" there is other than the fake masculinity of infantile machismo.
Or just raised by a weak Father, in my case
What do you mean by that? Can you give some examples?
80% percent of the words coming out of Todd's mouth - "High value, High value, offered, value, a lot of guys, value, women"
I respect you keeping these video going even thow your views are lowering..... thank you.
Women are able to read you without speaking to you which will determine if they perceive you as high valued. Men, you do have this ability, you have to develop it. I spent the last three years reading, improving my mental game not to get women but to understand beyond the exterior and understand human behavior. Trust me, when you develop this sense, your mind matures so much that women caught on it and they are intrigued by it.
So so so deep and useful information in your vids Todd thank you
So concise and to the point. I learned A LOT in 10 minutes.
"You have to play to win. You can't play to not lose."
Ambitious,good sense of humour ,confidence ,
Why over the last 7 years does Todd literally look exactly the same and Tyler has turned into a god damn hobbit.
Tyler who
This is definitely that video you warmup with before your date.
Yet another example of why social circle game is the only thing that works for me
frame & abundance mentality is all u need
If you have a good social circle then yeah, you're right. But if it comes to cold approach you kinda need more than just that
Leon O he probably has done less than 100 approaches, he will understand what you mean later.
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Ok
@@Arouli yeah jus assume everything about me why not. as YOU do more appraoches hopefully maybe one day you'll learn what I mean
Thats it, I am saving this video permanently.
Men play to win. Women play not to lose.
Amazing video Todd. Definitely resonate with it
Excellent episode Todd! I really enjoyed your in-depth situational analysis and how women psychology works here. Thank you
Thank you Todd. My take away from the video is women are seeking a high Experience man, not a high "value" man. Value is the expression of that experience, but not the thing in and of itself. Men should be pursuing experience points, like this is a roleplaying video game. That's my impression, anyhow. Best wishes sir.
More value than on RSD ever was. You are a cool dude Todd I should book a coaching.
Always start tods videos in the middle.
every video of this guy is pure value!
Continuously Give Value. Know what value you can give.
So basically, women are attracted to male personality traits leading to success, far more so than success itself.
IDK if it's true but it's a really dumb way to choose a partner. There may be many men who are very successful their career, academics or whatever but don't focus too much on game. If women choose men based on what Todd describes here, it's their loss.
NO. Women are attracted to a variety of random emotions in the guise of male attention with a financial bend. In exchange, they will reward their overinflated, abused and piped down vagina to the pathetic beta males who where cultivated for them in the first place.
@@kishanchali8752 Perhaps, and much to these men's frustration I can imagine. But it seems to me that much of the attraction might be subconscious and could be explained in terms of evolutionary adaptation. And if that's just the way things are, why not accept it? At the end of the day, it is you that wants to be successful with women, so the onus is on you to figure out how. Also, think about it, success may be temporary and due to chance, like an inheritance. But if you are instead the type of man who can be successful in any number of circumstances and after any number of setbacks, then which is the better choice for a smart woman, exactly?
@@driesdebackker9405 I believe we can achieve anything with hardwork. Also, I think these methods not always work on every women. As I've seen, women in academia prefer a partner with similar educational level
Finally someone understood it 😮😅😎👌
The reason? Well, many men inherit lots of money, does this make them truly badass?
07:30 Actively share while with her, Work on yourself while you are alone. You might not get along with some, but you might get along with others.
1:50 correct and should not be judged without knowing the problem.
I needed to hear this. Thank you!
i'm greatfull for people like you, todd. thank you 🙏
Genius, short and deep. Nice content lately bro :)
Best bro out there. Don't know if I owe u anything for all the good shit I get done thanks to you !
being the person you are when you're comfortable with your friends
Really illumating topic. Though i would like to know what male psychology is, if female like guys that go forward in life, what do we like, what do we need and what should we look for in a girl to become a soulmate
Ask yourself it’s different for everyone sometimes you might want a thot other times you might want a more sophisticated girl or a relationship
Read "The tactical guide to women" by Shawn T Smith it's a good start but you will need to make a lot of decisions about what is important to you, and that will change quite a bit with experience and age.
@@jasondecker8971 thx
Nurturing feminine young fertile ect
Progressing
good video with one slight disagreement, in some situations all these shared experiences (ie. relationship equity) will be worthless, she can still jump ship at any time she pleases when the right guy comes along.
We want more such Videos Todd V 🙏🏼
Most people have developed nowhere near the value they possess, and frankly, would not believe the value they possess because it's so far beyond our common experience.
That was deep. Well explained.
Theory on value in a woman's mind set was impressive.
Ive been thinking hard about this exact concept. And your word Trajectory is what I was looking for. Our ancestors obviously got laid a lot with out money, cars, yachts, etc, correct?. Your Grandmothers saw A Potential Value Trajectory in your Grandfathers over thousands of generations. So Simple. Thanks Todd. Been saving money for a bootcamp.
Fuck. Todd's advice is legit! Some real original stuff. Thanks!
Very comprehensive in a condensed manner
Are you telling me guys DON'T also check to see if the girl they're going out with has goals and ambitions and is likely headed towards success?
6:54 I hope everyone takes this in
Nice talk - makes much sense - tyvm
Damn video ended too quick. Appreciate your knowledge Todd!
great value and advice. thanks man
This vid is awesome truly such a master at self improvement and woman
TODD IS THE BEST
when he asked about what you think of when he says value i had value vs tempo in my head, but i play too much hearthstone lol. although the idea of building value so you can spend it on tempo plays may actually apply to game. i will have to think on it a bit.
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2:07 and 2 pages of notes... Todd V videos man...👍
Yes truly high value explained.
THX a lot Todd.
Love your content. Finally value explained in Detail.
Gotta Start my hunt, Juli the first is the beginning of my own Apartment.
Finally i can bring girls to my home and getting started with active game :)
I have been working on value meanwhile
Todd, you talk about having a ''deeper connection'', isn't this something we should avoid? if the woman feels like she knows us, she'll stop chasing, what do you guys think?
Deeper connection in that they want to know YOU more deeply. You can be BOTH the lover and have a deep connection. The difference is when you start hinting that you will provide, be exclusive, etc.
No man, that's bs.
What ppl generally mean when they say that you have to keep them guessing or keep the "mystery" is that she should never be sure that she has you.
Just show your willingness to walk away if she demonstrates (WHEN she demonstrates) bratty behavior or she tries to test you.
Show you have more women in your life.
Show her THE POSSIBILITY of her losing you.
That's it.
Women crave deeper connection. I agree: you must be able to break rapport with her at times, because she may try to fuse with you, make you stop doing the things--hobbies, friendahips, etc--that you did before you were together. Good boundaries & knowing yourself are key.
She wants you to challenge her by sharing of yourself. But I think the best way to do that is to process your insights and emotions with male friends first. It's a paradox: women want deep men, but they don't want weak men.
You rule, Todd!
this is pure gold
Release a book sir
Hi Todd I admire your choice of clothing :) . Can you give me by any chance state where you bought it.
Lmao
@thespiritbomb lolololol i was gonna say the same roflmao
@thespiritbomb I know.it looks high quality
Is every man really going in at average? Surely looks will influence that initial starting point massively.
Fucking awesome, my dude. This is why I followed you since the beginning 🔥
Also, the way the vid cut off at the end made me laugh
Hey todd, do you have tips on how to start seriously learning game as a student in a small village with however a city with some clubs close?
Come for the PUA. Stay for the mature and nuanced relationship insights...
Thank you Todd!